The worst mothers are the ones that never teach you about life so they can control it themselves. Unfortunately for me, our area was so far behind in education and opportunity, it seemed there was no place to go.
I agree. There are more mothers than fathers that are like this. Unfortunately so many people have been let down by their parents, I’m all for psychological testing on people before they can conceive, after all it’s a privilege to be a parent not a right, a child has a right to both parents being psychologically sound and stable.
I've worked for my parents for two years. They bought a crap ton of land and wanted to build an Air B&B. I don't get paid, work sunup to sun down six days a week when the weather permits building fences, clearing land, and erecting cabins. Yesterday my mom picked a fight for no reason and invalidated everything I've worked on. She called me delusional and told me to move on "because I can't deal with you." Chews you up and spits you out. I'm just sorry I held on for so long knowing that this might happen.
10 years of my life thats been wasted , 8 years of my life on a business that me and my dad started , i ended up leaving with 0$ to my name . I feel so dumb 😂
This is my mother as well I need to get away from her it is insane how much she calls texts and brakes my boundaries constantly I’m really wanting to move to another state!
It really suprises me how much these words of Dr. Peterson are resonating with people. I hope you can find a resolution that works for you. All the best.
I’m in this situation now. I’m 27 years old. I kicked my dad out of my life because he was physically abusive and a complete male Karen in public. He’d always make a scene any time we went out. My mom used this common “enemy” to manipulate me for years into living with her and helping support her agenda. Lately she’s been talking a lot about buying a home because “abuelita va a necesitar una casa para sus nietos”-Translates to grandma is gonna need a home for when the nieces and nephews come into existence. I don’t know about that. I feel kinda bad that she doesn’t have her own home but it also feels like she’s only using me and my other less successful brothers to help her get a home. I don’t feel too bad about her situation. She was the adult when my dad was abusing us and didn’t do anything about it for over a decade. She says it screwed her up but it REALLY screwed me and my brothers up. She downplays my social phobias and trust issues. Doesn’t at all try to understand my alcohol use. Chalks it up to me just being lazy when it’s actually fear. Any time I tell her about my accomplishments, she immediately tries to one-up me. Any time I tell her my plans for the future, she tells me they’re stupid and impossible. I’ll play along for now but I’ll be gone once I get my finances right which will be in just 1 year or less. Me and my siblings don’t owe her anything. She had a good childhood and then acts like the victim when she could’ve left my father at any point through all those years. If she felt scared, imagine how we felt.
It sounds like you've got your head on straight and have a clear idea of your strengths and weaknesses. No parent should look the other way to their children being abused, or be the cause of the abuse. Thank you for sharing your story and I hope everything works out for you and your siblings.
YOU HAVE KNO IDEA HOW RELATABLE THIS IS AND HOW MUCH THIS JUST BLESSED TO READ & FINALLY KNOW IM NOT THE ONLY ONE. WOW JUST WOW. IM 28, I TOO PLAN ON PLAYING ALONG AND RISING ABOVE ALL OF THIS AS THE VERY BEST VERSION OF MYSELF ONCE MY FINANCES GET RIGHT. HAVING A NARCISSISTIC PARENT(s) IS A CURSE.. BUT SURELY WE WILL HAVE COMPLETE VICTORY IN OUR OWN LIVES AS WE CONTINUE TO PRESS FORWARD... INSPITE OF THEIR DISGRACEFUL AND WICKED ATTEMPTs TO END US. ITS ONLY THE BEGINNING OF OUR BEAUTIFUL LIFE STORY. GOD BLESS YOU!
Al hamdoulilah , i’m an intj , who just got out of the devouring narcissistic mother . I can’t explain how liberating it is , btw my dad is also narcissistic but he doesn’t play mind games and isn’t a hypocrite like her .
Ive come to be sexually aroused from the implicit Idea of caring for the mother and its sick, its coddling self pity that warped my sexual identity and has killed my ability to sexually interact with women.
This is my mother. I haven't been in her life for a few years now. It's the best thing that ever happened to me. I can think
'i can think' - I'm so happy for you
Happy for you brotha! 🙏
The worst mothers are the ones that never teach you about life so they can control it themselves. Unfortunately for me, our area was so far behind in education and opportunity, it seemed there was no place to go.
I agree. There are more mothers than fathers that are like this. Unfortunately so many people have been let down by their parents, I’m all for psychological testing on people before they can conceive, after all it’s a privilege to be a parent not a right, a child has a right to both parents being psychologically sound and stable.
I've worked for my parents for two years. They bought a crap ton of land and wanted to build an Air B&B. I don't get paid, work sunup to sun down six days a week when the weather permits building fences, clearing land, and erecting cabins. Yesterday my mom picked a fight for no reason and invalidated everything I've worked on. She called me delusional and told me to move on "because I can't deal with you."
Chews you up and spits you out. I'm just sorry I held on for so long knowing that this might happen.
10 years of my life thats been wasted ,
8 years of my life on a business that me and my dad started , i ended up leaving with 0$ to my name . I feel so dumb 😂
This made my throat get all knotty
This is my mother as well I need to get away from her it is insane how much she calls texts and brakes my boundaries constantly I’m really wanting to move to another state!
It really suprises me how much these words of Dr. Peterson are resonating with people. I hope you can find a resolution that works for you. All the best.
THE POWER HE PUT BEING THE WORD "FATTEN" HAD ME DIEING.
I’m in this situation now. I’m 27 years old. I kicked my dad out of my life because he was physically abusive and a complete male Karen in public. He’d always make a scene any time we went out.
My mom used this common “enemy” to manipulate me for years into living with her and helping support her agenda.
Lately she’s been talking a lot about buying a home because “abuelita va a necesitar una casa para sus nietos”-Translates to grandma is gonna need a home for when the nieces and nephews come into existence.
I don’t know about that. I feel kinda bad that she doesn’t have her own home but it also feels like she’s only using me and my other less successful brothers to help her get a home.
I don’t feel too bad about her situation. She was the adult when my dad was abusing us and didn’t do anything about it for over a decade. She says it screwed her up but it REALLY screwed me and my brothers up.
She downplays my social phobias and trust issues. Doesn’t at all try to understand my alcohol use. Chalks it up to me just being lazy when it’s actually fear.
Any time I tell her about my accomplishments, she immediately tries to one-up me.
Any time I tell her my plans for the future, she tells me they’re stupid and impossible.
I’ll play along for now but I’ll be gone once I get my finances right which will be in just 1 year or less.
Me and my siblings don’t owe her anything. She had a good childhood and then acts like the victim when she could’ve left my father at any point through all those years. If she felt scared, imagine how we felt.
It sounds like you've got your head on straight and have a clear idea of your strengths and weaknesses. No parent should look the other way to their children being abused, or be the cause of the abuse.
Thank you for sharing your story and I hope everything works out for you and your siblings.
YOU HAVE KNO IDEA HOW RELATABLE THIS IS AND HOW MUCH THIS JUST BLESSED TO READ & FINALLY KNOW IM NOT THE ONLY ONE. WOW JUST WOW.
IM 28, I TOO PLAN ON PLAYING ALONG AND RISING ABOVE ALL OF THIS AS THE VERY BEST VERSION OF MYSELF ONCE MY FINANCES GET RIGHT.
HAVING A NARCISSISTIC PARENT(s) IS A CURSE..
BUT SURELY WE WILL HAVE COMPLETE VICTORY IN OUR OWN LIVES AS WE CONTINUE TO PRESS FORWARD... INSPITE OF THEIR DISGRACEFUL AND WICKED ATTEMPTs TO END US.
ITS ONLY THE BEGINNING OF OUR BEAUTIFUL LIFE STORY.
GOD BLESS YOU!
Al hamdoulilah , i’m an intj , who just got out of the devouring narcissistic mother . I can’t explain how liberating it is , btw my dad is also narcissistic but he doesn’t play mind games and isn’t a hypocrite like her .
Looking like a batman villain
Where do I watch the whole of it?
Amen 🙏
Ive come to be sexually aroused from the implicit Idea of caring for the mother and its sick, its coddling self pity that warped my sexual identity and has killed my ability to sexually interact with women.
I Hope Someone reads this, thers a DARK incestuous Secret running inmy Family and i dont Knoe its origins
Sexually aroused by the thought of caring for an older woman or what is the fantasy exactly ?
This man's brain sees everything! Would love to meet him one day. Or sit at his lectures for hours taking notes ❤
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@@SoulshineWavy?
Mother in law.. *shudder*
How else are we supposed to spawn simpery, mgtow, girl dinner, main character syndrome etc