Why am I so afraid?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ต.ค. 2024
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Episode Breakdown:
-00:09 I designed my life in a rush
-00:36 What’s your relationship like with your mom?
-01:11 A Lot of kids in one house
-02:15 My dad has dementia
-03:11 Incredible to connect with Family
-03:36 I wrestle with aging
-03:56 Los angeles where people hate aging
-05:36 Injecting snake venom on my face
-06:36 Aging is privilege
-07:01 Men and women fear aging
-07:26 My sisters embraced aging
-09:10 I’m the youngest, I must stay young
-09:44 What are your thoughts about aging
-11:02 Just peel my skin off
-11:50 You follow me because I’m a clown
-14:53 My dad seems really at peace
-16:44 I’m proud of my sisters
-17:32 My mom turned 72
-20:20 My dad forget my moms birthday
-22:03 Stomach bug
-22:50 My dad think we are starving him to death
-24:58 I need my moms help with my divorce
-25: 55 I’m the worst daughter
-26:28 Make sure to follow and leave a comment with your questions
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I used to laugh at your old videos but honestly you are more interesting as a person speaking authentically about your life.
I personally don't even follow you *just* because you're absolutely hilarious (and you don't have to be all of the time), but because of how raw and honest you are with yourself and your fanbase. You talk about tough topics that spark such amazing conversations, thoughts, and change in ourselves and others. Thank you for all your videos and talk with us; I can assure you we love them! I always look forward to a new video from you and instantly click on it. Love from NY Laura& family!!! ❤❤
Wow thank you so much!
Girl I follow you because you're funny and real and honest about your life and who you are the good and the bad and you're just a person like everybody else trying to figure out life. I love that about you!
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I disagree with the funny part. She has much better options in life. It seems infantile and rather obnoxious. She is way above all this, but she just hasn't figured it out yet.
@@susie_q1 "infantile and obnoxious" you definitely sound like an expert on that!
Happy late birthday to Laura’s amazing mother!! 🎉❤ Honestly, I love the solo episodes just as much as the guest ones, if not more. You talk about the real and the raw and it’s refreshing.
Laura I highly encourage you to analyze what you really want and or don't want in you life and allow yourself freedom from guilt around "being mean" in advocating for those things for yourself.
I didn't know about your dad so sorry to hear that 😢 enjoy every moment with him is a truly gift ❤️
Laura my heart goes out to you and your family with your father. I am the soul caretaker for my father with dementia and it's so hard and funny and heartbreaking and everything all at once and tell your mom sending lots of love and light... been hard staying sober through this as well also going through menopause
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My mom passed away a few years ago. She really struggled with alcoholism so we never really had a chance to get close. Give your mom a big hug for me. Wishing I could give mine one more hug. 😔
I feel you there, if I ever bring up the insecurity with other woman a lot of them say they dont experience all the insecurities that life brings right now. Its genuinely frustrating because I cant relate with anyone.. so thank you for being honest 😭🥹 makes me feel a bit more sane. Idk how other woman dont care. It makes me very fearful for my kids future and if im being honest my marriage ( im 30) with temptations out there like crazy
One of the reasons I started following you years ago was because of your attitude on life. I loved the positivity and gratefulness. In recent years, it's felt more fake with all the filters and botox and I stopped following. Happy to see this one, I hope you find peace in yourself and accept aging as a blessing.
I follow you because I can relate more often than not. So keep processing out loud with us as long it serves you - it helps everyone 💞
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Im grateful for my sobriety going on 8 freaking years! My beautiful grandchildren that soften my heart daily. So grateful for my home and relationship
I’m good with aging! I stay physically active & sweat, detox in baths & essential oils, all cleaning products are plant based, aromatherapy lotions & hair care, happy connected to my inner child, healthy choices, plenty of rest, self-care, good friends, family, good energy🤗💛🌟
I follow you because you're brilliant blunt authentic completely real and relatable... being frickin hilarious is just a bonus ❤🎉
Girl do what makes YOU happy. If you like to dye your hair and use botox F what everyone else thinks. I follow you because of the REAL thoughts and the intelligent things that come out of your mouth. I have a 2 year old girl and seeing that I'm not alone with some struggles as well. TBH the first thing I ever saw you in was the Hellen stuff (which I LOVED btw) but seeing the real laura is what has kept me watching. You inspire me girl. ❤❤❤
Thank you girl!! ❤️❤️❤️
My mom died when I was 13 she was only 42,my 6 siblings and I have never been the same,hold on to every minute with your mom
You could be the one to change the trend of "perfect" faces !
It's also a question of health. You dont want to eat meat but have no problem putring snake poison or whatever it is.
Aging is a priviledge not everybody will have.
Do it gracefully 😊💖
Prettiest face ever, only reason I watch this🙈🙈🙈
But Stephen wouldn’t be so interested in her if she stopped putting toxins in her body.
This!!!
This is exactly what I said! She has a platform that can change and inspire women to embrace aging naturally.
I follow you because you're hilarious,but also because you're so relatable ❤
Relationship with my mother - practicality,toxicity,sadness
I follow you specifically because you give me more smile lines and I love it!! gimme more!
I've been scared of aging since I was 25 and now just turned 35. I still struggle but I try to remember how much I've been torturing myself for no reason since I was 25 over aging and now I look back and see how stupid I was and the same will happen when I turn 45. I don't want to make the same mistake again. So the only thing I can do is try to maintain the proper perspective.
I’m repeating other comments, and I loved your comedy skits with your ex, but I always click because I’m a recovering alcoholic and I love your rawness about what’s happening in your life. I would love to be in your home group through AA, and I could hear your shares, and you could hear mine, and we support each other as women. I’ve read Idiot, and I read it when I was getting more serious about my sobriety and your humor and authenticity REALLY helped me when things were kinda dark. Been in the program for almost 8 years, and just got my 2 year chip in May. I adore you. Thank you for being you! If you ever come to Flagstaff, there’s some awesome women’s meetings you might enjoy! Bless you, Laura! 💕✨🙏🤙🥹
Loving, safe, laughter. I miss her so so much.
Laura. when i was your age i would have felt the same same same way about missing my moms birthday. please know that when she is 86, she won’t care and neither will you- you’ll just be glad to be alive.
i am grateful for the beautiful weather here in montreal .
I'm grateful for life, my parents, my daughter, my husband, my grandkids & my sons.
Having my kids is how I came to terms with aging out loud . I enjoy looking like them
My dad passed of brain cancer (GBM) recently but it was like Alzheimer’s and cancer. He didn’t remember us at the end. I’m glad your dad still is and is doing well but I understand the anger/mean part of it and it’s very hard. Many prayers.
You are so lucky and blessed to still have ur mom.
My relationship with my mom in 3 words: Best friends forever
friendship, love , honesty
I am 38 and aging has been heavy on my mind too. A lot of my friends get it but I try to like a non-toxic lifestyle so injecting a toxin in my face doesn’t fit that lifestyle. However, it’s still been tempted! And I hate these influences and companies who promote health and wellness but all their models and acquaintances have clearly had interventions to look the way they do, meanwhile they’re shaming people for eating potato chips. It’s all f’d and hypocritical. Thanks for your honestly around the issue!
My thoughts 💭 on aging I just wanna love what I see period .🌿 Beauty is in eye of beholder...
My relationship with mom is crap . Grew up neglected took care of my siblings .
I'm the youngest of 3 girls. I have 2 kids. My son is oldest. Then my daughter. My Dad had Dementia before passing 2/2/22. As I've aged, i see that many people I've known thru the years haven't been afforded that privilege. I've also realized that people's opinions don't matter- that came in my late 40s. I learned i could do everything on my own (divorced). Now at 57, my motto is "I don't give a shit ". Its a fabulous freedom from that scared, shy, people pleasing 24 year old. Keep on keeping on! ❤
My relationship with my mom: Sensory Over Load
I'm a 34 year old woman and couldn't care less about aging. I've opted out of that playing field. It's too expensive 😅 part of it is being content on your own though and not needing to please others anymore. I also have the privilege of living a private life. I don't mind if men don't want me lol. It's a huge relief to not care anymore. I do understand though that there is an exchange when it comes to beauty, even though it's superficial. But I've let go ❤
Your mom is such a great role model for aging beautifully. And it is rather backwards to inject venom into your face BUT only eat vegan foods. That’s going into your body as well ….and you’re correct. I follow you because you are a smart, talented, gifted, loving human being. ☮️
Turning 50 this fall and I'm thrilled! I am happy to have lines and wrinkles!! Aging IS a privilege. No such thing as "perfect"!!! (I am the oldest of 3.) I don't fear death. It's going to happen. I'm more concerned with LIVING.
Happy birthday Laura’s mum!! ❤❤❤❤
I've been grappling with aging, too. It's interesting once we start to really look at why we've bought into the expectations and conditioning that our society puts on women. The idea that our youth and looks is one of our commodities is extremely real and losing that is scary. ❤
3 words; Awkward, Sad, Silent
Same
Five things I’m grateful for:
1. Alice (my cat)
2. Cyrus (my cat)
3. Having the opportunity to work on my masters degree
4. The life experiences that got me where I am today
5. I’ve worked on my health and my blood results came back great. Only thing I need to work on is drinking more water.
Happy belated 40th to your sister! Happy belated 72nd to your mom!!
Relationship with my mom in three words: loving, healing, sacred.
5 things I'm grateful for:
1: my two cats
2: my mama
3: books
4: coffee
5: my strength
As someone who thought I would never live past 38, and tried a few times to make sure that didn't happen, I am no longer afraid to grow older (I'm 44 now). I embrace it. Between all the times that life tried to prevent me from growing older to what I mentioned before, every single one of my days is a gift. I try to treat them as such.
I get so excited when I see your videos pop up!!! 🎉 You are my therapy haha! (My mom died in 2016 😢)
I've decided to live in radical honesty, to a point. Like I wouldn't hurt someone's feelings just because but with my family, my sons.
My youngest is 14, has Autism/Adhd. He's a great kid but very nieve. So we talked about how he feels uncomftable because his legs are hairy now. I explained, you know what pretty much most people have hairy legs. Women would have hairy legs if they weren't conditioned from a early age to shave.
So comfort is very different than shame. I wanted to make sure he knew that.
That's just one example and you know what giving our kids a realistic view of A) what being a woman really is, ageing, social norms and what feels norm for you B) Teaching they don't have to do what society/friends tell you, do what's safe and good for you.
You know what it is so freeing !
I still shame myself due to my Adhd but I feel I'm getting more in balance.
So Laura, do you babes! ❤ because your emotional/sensory/nervous system & physical health comes before LA type casting and you are the best.
Happy birthday momma !!
I talked to a friend today about shame, we both habe ad(h)d and shame is such a big topic in our life. Its so healing to realize that and allowing ourselves to let it go where no shame is needed.
@jaa12344 exactly, we hold so.much and there is only.so much.we can carry. I'm so happy you have a Neurospicey friend to talk too. It makes all the difference x
@@MsCogan555 thats true. Reminder to be gentle to ourselves 🙏🏻
5 things I’m grateful for:
My daughters
My job(I own an in-home daycare)
My house and all the beautiful trees and flowers and nature that surround it
My friends and family
My health
I always wanted to b a mom and now looking at my 40’s and having older kids esp a sophomore, leaves me wondering where n what to do next. I’m scared bc I have no idea wtf is next. Everyone has their insecurities.
I'm 69 and yes...LA will contribute...lived their 5 years from 25-30
I just had my second daughter a couple days ago and it triggered my fear of mortality so much... this happened with my first daughter too. :( nice to know I'm not alone.
Happy belated birthday to Mom! ❤
3 words about how I feel about my mother....
SHE'S THE BEST!
Wrinkles r the story of my life n I earned them
Relationship with my mom: in and out 😅 but definitely can say it’s a LOT better than it was when I was younger. I just had to move away 11hrs.
Nothing but love😊
11:58 i follow you for all what you said. How your open about real life stuff. The whole food you find.
I continue to follow you because I like you!! And yes you are funny ❤❤❤
Omg. Even grown up kids fear the parent. Im happy for you.
I am in my late 30s and I have a lot of white hair on top of my head. I am just going to let them come in. To be honest, I have never dyed my hair. One time I put highlights in, but I am just going to let them come. I am hoping I turn all white like my dad and my great grandma. Wishful thinking but I hope.
You know what’s awesome about aging is?? That you really don’t give a flying fig what anyone thinks!! Even if you are super self conscious about all things egotistical, you just don’t care, because you finally learned to regard your own thoughts on any given thing the opinion that matters most. It’s effin awesome! BTW, Laura, your are a beautiful woman! 17, 27, 37. You are stunning and you will be at 47, 57, 67 & 77. By then you won’t care anyway, you just love yourself for who you ARE!
I love how honest and open you are ❤❤❤
My mother and I tend to be at each other's throats if we live together but we get along great when we don't LOL
I think your fan base appreciates you for more than just a laugh. It's like chatting with a friend about real stuff. It's good. Sorry you're feeling so stressed, but you do seem to be handling it as well as the best of us. 🤍
Before you even said move to the farm it's exactly what I was thinking. We'll I was thinking a vosot at least. Farm animals are soo healing fir kids with autism and basically everyone. When you come let us know and I'll come meet you in person. OG follower.
My grandkids all wished me a happy birthday & they wished me & my husband happy anniversary & so did our daughter, but none of our 3 sons did. My dad did as well, but my mom never called me. lol
Moving could be a good thing. I grew up jn Southern California and have been a refugee to Tennessee for the last almost 20 years and would never go back
I don’t follow people that are plastic because I want to surround myself with people that authentic!
Because I’m tired of seeing people who obsessed with following the trends to fit in.
I’m sick of over sexual behaviour
You’re so beautiful Laura I look up to you as a 22 year old and I don’t think you need any of that you naturally look young
I gave up my whole life to move and take care of my Mom for my sister to still be her favorite...
It’s weird, but I’ve felt more free and happier as I grow older. I still make an effort to look after myself, but I do it just for me, not anyone else. I just turned 60 a few months ago and I tell everyone! Lol 😂
So happy you are being so honest about the crazy anti- ageing culture in LA
As far as how i feel about aging...it sucks. I look younger than i am but im broke AF so no botox for me.
I’m also the youngest of five kids. Three older sisters and two older brothers. I am 60 and look 40. I’m so glad because I fear getting old. I color my hair mostly the roots. I don’t want to walk around with grey hair. I have few wrinkles and lines. No Botox. Yet…. lol I can relate about not wanting to get older.
Hey Laura just wanted to reach out and say I love your videos watched you since the stephen filter days on Facebook 😂 feel like we would get along so well all the things you talk about I really resonate with and you always make me laugh ❤ also just wanted to say I love what you mentioned about aging and i think if a man truly is the one for you he will love every change that comes with life every wrinkle and imperfection and if he doesn’t he’s not the one but it definitely is scary with social media and p*rn pushing unatural standards on us constantly 😢 hopefully we can try and set an example to not pass it to the next generations to come but it’s something i worry abt as young peoples brains haven’t even developed yet and im sure they feel the pressures also happy birthday to your Mum!! 🎉 by far my fav videos when she’s on the pod ❤
I had the video sound off and just captions on and I could tell your voice change by your facial expressions 😂
I understand the chaos & the love of family. I have 3 adult sons (2 of them have kids) & an 8 year old daughter. I also have 8 grandkids. 10, 10, 8, 6, 5, 4, 2 & an infant (5 girls & 3 boys). My dad is 99% blind & my mom has M.S plus a bunch of other health issues. I love my mom, but we do have a relationship that I can't put into words. I just turned 48 on June 23rd & on the same day celebrated my 30th wedding anniversary. I just want to lose 80 pounds!
Relationship w my mother--frustrating, infuriating, disappointing, hurtful
I can describe it in two words when it comes to my relationship with my mother. She's dead. Alcoholism is what took her. We have come to terms with it before she passed. That's the only mother I had known was an alcoholic. I loved her very much. My aunt got custody of us triplets by 11 and she is wonderful. If I could describe my aunt in 3 words: best effing friend.
I hope you see this Laura, I'm so curious for personal reasons, how long ago did he get diagnosed? Did they say when they think it started? I have concerns about the STM from diabetes
Haven’t spoken to my mom in 12 years.
We use to be super close I didn’t do anything without her.. but as she’s gotten older idk it’s changed I think we both have changed..
Turned 60 last week! 🎉 I used to have all the worries you do around looking my age. So freaking happy to tell you they are gone! Vanished! Vanquished by the real, true, hard-won understanding of what's real. LOVE. If your face shows laughter and your eyes show love ... that's gorgeous babe ! I recently consulted about a boob lift. Not for looks, for comfort. It's time to comfort and love myself, and bras just don't do it. Decided against it, and the $13,000 exchange it would require, what?! So, my saggy boobed self 9s now burning bras over here, and I've never been happier!! As for my relationship with my mom ... work in progress!! I follow you because you make me laugh. A lot! 🤣
And sometimes cry. I INITIALLY followed you for your zany, but I also love the real. The serious, vulnerable, kind, zany you! 🥰
I repeated "it's not good" three times 😅
Honestly, I didn't even know I had wrinkles, till my girlfriends group started buying these crazy creams with retinol, baccuciol, talking about fillers. Then one day I looked myself in the mirror and I realized I had those deep wrinkles on my face. And then I started comparing myself with other women. I started comparing myself with you. How come Laura looks so pretty, when she is even older than me, why did I aged so badly? Have I missed to drink enough water, my mother has good genes, it should be my mistake. Then I bought creams, started taking care of my face, started hating my face, which reflected on my self esteem. And then just one day I said to myself: "You have two options: botox or loving yourself". I decided to love my self, to embrace myself. And how happy am I now with that. I can see the fact that I have huge pretty green eyes, thick hair, long lashes, and somewhere among all of that I have wrinkles too.
3 words: She's my mountain
Oh wow! You’re absolutely amazing! And inspiring! Thank you ❤️
You are so beautiful! ❤
The aging thing has to be hard because Stephen was dating those younger beautiful women. Everyone knows that’s why you got jealous and got back together too. He worked your insecurities like a pro.
I look 50ISH I'm told. Turn 67 this August One of the best things about aging too me is I DON'T CARE ABOUT THE BULL OTHER DISH OUT OR OUT TO EAT AND SOMTHING DRIPS ON MY SHIRT NO PROBLAM. AGING FOR ME HAS BEED FREEING
My mom is Insane, capricious and dastardly!
White cheese - cheese is apparently made to be very addictive!!
My best friend. She just went to heaven last weekend. She had brain cancer 😢
Wow... I suspect a lot of your worry about getting older definitely stems from where you live. That's incredibly stressful! 🙈
I'm 52 and of course sometimes I'm annoyed that I'm no longer 30, slim, sporty and super sexy. Or that I also have more physical problems, like back pain or something similar.
But that's not all that defines me. I also see many advantages in getting older. I'm more relaxed. I no longer identify myself by my appearance, but by who I am, what I can do, what I know.
But above all, in my culture it is not common to manipulate one's appearance so blatantly in order to look young. That means everyone else is getting older too. And it's okay! Here it is more the case that the plastic appearance of some American women is totally frightening and more repulsive than they find it pleasant. And that makes it much easier for us women to come to terms with life after menopause.
By the way, I personally don't follow you because you're such a clown, but because you're so phenomenally open, reflective and self-critical. You are so real, honest and sincere in all the fake news madness out there. And that's why I really cling to you and accompany you in your life from far away. 😉
And last but not least: My personal opinion is that women also become more mature and beautiful with age. The smile lines bring a much more special beauty and depth to the face that I simply miss in the smooth skin of twenty-year-olds.
I hope you get to the point where you can accept yourself as you are and still feel comfortable in your own skin! 🙏😘
Wow this was wonderful to read. Thank you for sharing! ❤️
❤@@LauraMarieClery
I have the exact same feelings about aging as you do Laura 😂
My mum n I can't be in same state, without abuse. There's too many years of damage and unaccountability.
My relationship with my mom dysfunctional
I feel exactly the same way Laura. Im going between should i live alone, have pets and never care about how i look ever again because whats the point in trying when men can just watch 19yo in porn. Or do i try and compete and get married and have a kid and most likely divorce because my husband hides a porn addiction from me. It doesnt matter where you live either. All men have porn addictions now unless they actively work on it. Smh i dont want to have a kid with a man who watches porn. Sad world we live in..
I also forgot my mums bday last year after a Hell year lol so glad im not alone. Were all strugglinb ❤
Well, my mom's in Heaven 😢
Same 😞
Big hugs to you both ❤😢
That's a Lotta kids😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm relieved to know you use botox because I keep looking at your skin wondering how do you have no wrinkles. I understand being in the public eye how the pressure gets to you. I'm 46 and have some lines and honestly its hard to accept because I see women online with no wrinkles all the time so I struggle. Thankfully I don't have the money for botox😂
Is Botox vegan? If it's snake venom
Love /hate with me and my mom
Is botox not the toxin from the bacteria that causes botulism? If not I have misunderstood something along the way 😅
Laura. I have ADHD. I did a gene test on genesight and found out that I have the mthrfkr gene 😂 no really it's called MTFR gene which puts me in a high adrenaline mode. It's a mouth swab and super easy this may be part of the ADHD. Just wanted to share because I also found out this gene doesn't let me digest enzymes in my liver and something such as Zoloft made me manic or worsened depression and was making me very ill. I know you like all natural but the genesight gave me a printout of every medication I can and cannot take including ADHD meds. ❤ Luv ya when your in chi town hit me up if love to meet you. I was in your sister colleens class
My relationship with my mom is inconsistent, hopeful but horrible
Not to be a Debbie Downer, but Botox isn't snake venom 😂❤ love to your family. Dementia and aging can be so trying and hard at times.