NOT INVITED TO MY MOMS FUNERAL. LIVING LIFE AS A LONE WOLF “ SAD STORY”
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Hey Chrome, please remember that memorials are not for the dead. They are for the living. You will honour you mom in your living heart by being true to yourself.
true words chrome
Well said, a reminder for me also. 💕
Absolutely. Hugs to you kiddo.
Yep
Yes! It IS WRITTEN: Let The Dead, Bury The Dead! 🦁🐏,..... 🐴
Have your own memorial for your Mom..she will hear your heartfelt words .. it's never to late
Wow... they don't invite you to your mom's funeral and then expect you to pitch in to pay for it? They've got some nerve!
I know, right? 😳 How dare they not invite him to HIS OWN mother's funeral in which they had to organize, pay out of their own pocket! How dare they! Such ingrates! 🥱
Do you know both sides of this. No, you don't.
I’m happy that you’re able to talk to your son now!
A son is the legal next of kin and should be the one to arrange burials, funerals etc. why didn’t he do that? Maybe that’s why the sisters took care of it initially. And if he gpt a payout from the moms estate, usually that’s where burial expenses and funerals are paid from, so….
What honestly matters is that you were there for your mom at the end. My mom died in front of me from a heart attack when I was 17 years old, and as scary and life changing as that was for me, I was glad that I was there and she didn't die alone. Honor your mother by living with an adventurous heart, as you do. Let go of grievances with family, it weighs the soul and heart down.
This. 🎯💯
@@cmacdonald1197 Are you both sure of that?
Amen.
When you get together with your son
Try and not bash on his mother
No matter how much bad blood there was
Between you two try and not bring it up with him,
If he asks about it then try and be polite how your
Relationship ended,
Agreed. Your relationship with his mother is with his mother, not him.
He is a different individual.
He already said he told his son straight up how it went and ended. His son didn’t like it and they didn’t talk for years. I’m sure they don’t talk about the mother. Why would they?? Y’all are saying stuff that Chrome already knows. He’s sharing his honest opinions here. I know a few women who are c….! He didn’t flash a picture of her or share her name. So what’s the problem???
@@nancyschad2969 😝😝 you’re really butt hurt over this!! Are you the ex?
Families can cause devastation and heartbreak. Please know that many of us are right now experiencing the very same thing. You are not alone.
Preach! 💯💯💯
Yep , mine is alive and hasn’t ever reached out to me or my son , her grandson , very tragic
Just going to say the very same thing. So many folks out there that just do not know how to love.
Yep, we all got families or family members like this. You are not alone.
Sadly it takes a death od a Loved one (usually Matriarch or Patriarch of the family) for you to see the real people. Thank you Joni!
You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. One of my dad's favorite sayings ! Oh, so true ! From the first time I saw your channel, I knew who and what you were about. You have my total respect. You relatives will all answer to a higher power for what they did. Glad you have contacted your son and he is back with you. You lived life in the fast lane when you were young ! No harm. You are what you are - no judgement here ! The way you deal with your dog tells me all I need to know about you !
Being kind to Seth’s mom when you speak of her is being kind to Seth.
No matter how terrible she may have been she still his mom even if she was terrible to him he does not want to hear it!
BE KIND!!!
I admire your life's journey. Someone gave me some words of wisdom once. "You can't change what happened 5yrs ago or even 5 min ago, but you can do better today forward ". He was 100% correct.
Beautifully said
I remember watching those videos with your Mom and as she passed (I started watching you about 2-3 months into your journey!). In case anyone hasn't already said it, what i saw in those videos is just how much you loved your Mom and your Mom loved you.
It's great that you are talking with your son. It's sad what your family did in not inviting you to your mums funeral and then have the cheek to ask to pay them back for it.
I dont know Chrome. I been watching since day one. Your mom. When your MOM dies you plan the funeral. You Dont get invited to your moms funeral. You plan it and pay for it. Im confused!!!!
I lost my mom a few months ago. You brought me to tears. I don't understand how your family make arrangements and doesn't invite the WHOLE family, none the less her son....wow...that stings bad...
You brought me to tears. I have been so alone at times. I've had to learn how NOT to lean on family...still working on it at 73. I appreciate you.
Funerals bring out the worst in family's. Stay to your path and believe in your dream Chrome!
I remember when my Grandmother passed away, my Aunts seemed to have a competition at the casket to see who could cry and scream the loudest, apparently to show how one loved their mother more. Weird....
@@shellywelsh2316 I went through the same thing & it wasn’t that they really cared since they were never there for her. People need to learn to honor their family in life.
@@JoeZyzyx Nope, the day that she died they all ransacked her house looking for anything of worth and a will. Didn't find a will so they thought that if they assumed that the most distraught would get the house.
@@JoeZyzyx This was years ago, 1976, they weren't the smartest Aunts as the house was on the nice Aunt's property (beef cattle farm) so turns out the house was hers. LOL
Stop talking you don't know the fact !!!!!
Maybe they were expecting you to have the funeral and memorial arranged for your mom.
Maybe they thought you did not care?
Just a thought…
I have learned that not all family is blood related. Most of your real family you can count on you will be living other places. The phase" My Brother From Another Mother" has a greater meaning now. Stay Strong Chrome✊🏽
Can’t trust no one even your own families can do you dirty..very sad
My friends were family not my family
Dear Chrome: Thank you for sharing this gut wrenching family story; and, that your family (aunts) did not honor you and your Mom's relationship enough to include you in her funeral & memorial services. Your Mom knew you loved her ... and, that does not change - she rides on your shoulder now; enjoying this amazing nomadic life you have created! 🕊️
1st off - WE, as your online family, send Virtual HUGS ✨♥️✨
What a huge dose of reality & it makes sense why your body responded needing more rest.
Chrome, you work extremely hard to include us in your life by filming, editing & sharing your videos daily. Thank you for that 🌟
Difficult when kids get caught up in the adult drama as Seth did. Awesome to hear you’re reconnecting, healing & beginning a new chapter! Right on!!
Sending Aloha 🏝⛵️🐬
The reason you weren’t invited is because of the exact reason your speaking about…. Only focusing on yourself…. To have friends is to be a friend. I love your content Chrome… Proverbs 18:24.
Chrome I've been watching you since you moved out of your condo and I remember the visit you had with your mom you could tell she loved you very much and we could tell that you loved her very much and that's all that should matter .
Well said❤
That isn't all that matters.
I been watching u from DAY 1. N I don't want to be that guy. But after ur mom passed away. How did u think her burial gonna go down. Did u think the hospital gonna take care of it for u? Ur the only son. That should be ur responsibility...
Peace and love for your reconnection with your son. You're right to let the old stuff rest until the time is right.😊
I know families/relationships can be very hard. Please remember Seth’s mom is HIS mother and you do have a son together. What you say about her says more about you and less about her. While I agree with your feelings remember….ultimately you have a son to protect. What you say about her is a direct reflection on Seth.
Amen well said 🙏🏻
Why is it a direct reflection on Seth? He’s an adult now. Stating his opinion about an old relationship and how he feels about his ex has nothing to do with his son. He told his son years ago what he thinks of his mother. This isn’t a surprise. I’m sure they don’t talk about her.
Do none of you have two friends who both like you but can’t stand each other?? Seriously this isn’t that big of a deal.
I am in shock over what your family did!! That truly sais a lot, so glad your son came in to your life at the same time, I bet your mom may had a hand in that from above 😊❤️🌈
Come on, which son doesn't organise a mother's funeral or at least enquire as to who is. Did you think she did not need to be buried? I am sorry to say you are right. You have lived concerned for yourself only.
Huge respect for keeping it real Chrome. Enjoy re connecting with your son. Hope your mind finds calm soon 👊
Amen ❤
Chrome! The greatest thing you can do for yourself is to forgive. It will free you, calm you, release you. Please do this…for you.
Bless your son with your normal joy and positivity….and do not walk in bitterness and unforgiveness.
Chrome, Thanks for having the courage to be real with us. Having grown up in a loving family I can't relate to your experiences but I can say I'm sorry you had to go through it. Hopefully your aunt will cooperate so you can close out your mother's affairs. And congratulations on reconnecting with your son, Seth.
Awesome that you can start a relationship with your son. No matter what happened with you and his mom don’t talk down about her on here and infront of him.
Agree 💯
To late
Much respect for your honesty! So happy for your mended relationship with Seth. Can't wait to "meet" him! As far as your Mom's funeral........no words can describe that.
It must have hurt your son very badly when you left his life. Glad you're back together ❤️
Your message today has really got me emotional, I am so glad for you and Seff
I’ve been watching a
long time and I consider myself a fan. However, I wish you wouldn’t have put your son’s mother down in the way you did. You could have gotten the message across in a better way.
Love your honesty and plain talk on this channel. I don't agree with all of your choices but I respect your openness to discuss your past and your opinion.
This 68yr old grandma thinks you’re an amazing young man. We all have a past, I certainly do. I’m so happy for you and Seth reconnecting! I’m so sorry what happened concerning your mom. You’re right, we have no time for bitterness and resentment because we’re busy building a life and a future. BTW I’d adopt you in a heartbeat.😉💙😘
I remember when your mom passed away. I saw all the videos where You cleaned her apartment and got rid of stuff ,closed accounts did everything that needed to be done. No they didn't treat you fairly. That's the way some family members are. They can't all be trusted. Best wishes to you.
I’m not understanding, what did he think happened to his Mom’s remains. Just asking😊
You may have a lot of experience with deceased family members, but a lot of people do not. It’s not like they teach this sh*t in school. Many, many people are completely lost when it comes to this stuff.
@@vwarren7833 If you guys pay attention he explains it. He thought he did everything to honor her. It doesn't sound like people were hanging around asking him to have a memorial. It wasn't like he was close with any of them or that they cared about him or encouraged him. They just went and did it after he left. This is the sneaky stuff that people do to scapegoats. To keep them in that same place. Shame on them. They don't have the kind of life Chrome has. He spends every day encouraging people.
@@tiltawhorled hi& thank you for your comment. I am still not understanding that when he left town after his mothers death what was the status of her remains? He was her next of kin.
@@vwarren7833 did you consider that not everyone wants a funeral and that it’s entirely possible for your remains to be buried or if cremated returned to family without ever having a funeral or a memorial?
This is a very complicated situation. We are hearing only your side of it. Clearly you have made mistakes. Calling your sons mother such an awful thing will not help your relationship with him. I questioned who you were way back when your dog and mother died around the same time. You cried for your dog, but not your mother. Though I can't see where you are at in your quiet hours, how can you have peace? It doesn't matter what their side was. It matters what you did. In AA and NA you take a fearless moral inventory. Then you confess it to a stranger. Then you go and make ammends. Not their faults, but yours. It's painful. But it cleans and clears the very soul. ❤
I was notified of my mom's death via an email from the funeral parlor. Yup, I was always the loner because my family never had my back or cared. I did my duty and took care of all the things necessary after her death. That was my job and my way of showing care and respect...she was my mom. I acted in a way I believe was right even though my family never did. I can sleep better at night because I took the high road. You keep doing that Chrome. It keeps the heart true and kind. Thanks for your video.
Yep, haven't been back to my folks house since 2015. Friend of mine from the 5th grade is family.
Sorry about your Mom. I’m glad you are able to talk about it. Talking about things that bother us help a lot .
Families suck sometimes. Family doesn't always mean by blood. Family can be by chose. Hang in there Chrome, we got your back.
Chrome, we got your back. Bless🌮🍺
So very true!!!
Truth
After your mom died, and you went there to look for her will didn’t you even try to ask about if you were going to have a funeral or are you going to cremate her or have a memorial service? Yeah I’m glad that you’re looking in yourself but it’s kind of self-serving oh I got out of this message chrome is me me,me me me but I like your nature videos
Much Love Bro... You're not alone... stay strong & stay positive!
You have chosen be a lone wolf. So you push family aside. Sad life is short. You don't seem to see that you will end up on your own. Accept your family as they are as they have to accept you. Why weren't you arranging your mom's funeral you her only son. Chrome people are important and pay attention don't get self absorbed we meant to have connection who we are.
I had my own memorial for my mom in Nature 🌲. So sorry you , and anyone , has to experience this 🙏💜
Same. I just spent last night watching the sunset with my Mom at her gravesite for 7 years being gone. ❤
Thank You, Debra, yes it’s hard, but folks like you make me feel better.
That's beautiful! 👍 Our loved ones are still with us in Spirit and they live through us in our DNA! ❤️
I don’t get it. Did you keep in touch with your extended family after your moms death? To see if they had planned a funeral?
Ohhh Chrome!!!! Big hugs…NO REGRETS!!!! People only judge you because they are so much worse….head up! Heart on fire! You got this ❤
I find all this so confusing - where did Chrome think his mother’s body was for the past two years? Should it not have been him who organised a funeral for his mother after she died? Two whole years - can’t understand any of this.
I’m wondering if her will said she didn’t want a funeral or memorial?!? Or maybe she told Chrome she didn’t want one? There must be a little more to the story.
I was about to say the same thing. Like what did he think happened to her body? I'm so confused about this. I hope he explains.
My guess would be she was cremated after passing and services were never held until later.
2 years?!? 🤔
Why 2 years?!? 🤔
@@shamrockgirl6595 , it happens. My mother passed in 2021, she was cremated we have not had a funeral for her yet. But, in my case, I also lost my brother, my stepfather and my dog in the two week period of the loss of my mother.
Chrome I know your feelings are hurt, but it’s called family. Sometimes these things happen and it sucks. Trust me I’m one of these people just like you don’t sweat the small stuff just go on. Enjoy life. Enjoy your family. Enjoy your girlfriend. Enjoy your life that’s what your mom would want you to do.
My mom and I were very close, but I was not at her funeral. I totally understand. People don’t know unless they know. ❤️
Chrome, thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable. Your story brought me both happy and sad tears. I'm happy you're able to reconnect with your son, and am sorry and very sad to hear you were excluded from your mom's funeral. Take care my friend. ❤
Hi Chrome loved hearing this part of your story. My mum passed away 27 years ago and I wasn't told about it until way after the fact. However I did get to go to her funeral. SETH if you're reading these messages I'm pretty sure all of us that follow your dads (Chrome and Cruise) channel, we're looking forward to meeting you. Just like we were when we met Anika (hope I spelt that correctly). Take care Chrome, you got love coming at you from all over the world. Hugz from Australia
Crome no matter what it is Seth’s mother be respectful of just that regardless. Yeah be tactful here too.
Maybe the family was disappointed Chrome didn’t have a funeral or memorial for his Mom. So they did it themselves and figured it didn’t pay to invite him. I don’t know. 2 sides to every story
I love how confident you are about sharing your personal life with us. This is why your chanel is so real and wonderful to watch. THANK YOU for trusting in us to tell your story its not easy. Happy for you that you are re-united.
Just want to say that your choices is what kept you out of your children's life. When you call your ex names. You are only hurting your son why would you Do that.??
Sorry about your mom 😢
And I sure would not pay for something I wasn't invited to.!!!
I am so proud of you for telling your story no matter how painful. I’m sorry for the dishonorable way you were treated over your moms funeral . Try to find peace for yourself and put it behind you. So glad that you are connecting with your son. We can’t wait to meet him. Thanks for all the honesty ❤️❤️❤️
Traditionalists would suggest it's the son's obligation to organize the funeral/memorial arrangements. It wasn't the relatives responsibility to invite you, it was your responsibility to invite them. Look, you've brought this on yourself.
Sorry to hear about the family issues. We definitely all have them. Some more prevalent than others. I hope things 🙏 work out with your Mom's wishes/will.
Also, I'm super happy to hear about your reconciling with Seth. Nothing worthwhile comes easy in life. Including our relationships. All the best, buddy
Crome you are not alone at all. We all have terrible family stories that we can share. I know how bad it feels as I found out on Facebook that my mother died and haven’t seen or heard from my two brothers since her funeral back in 2020 may. Hugs too you.❤️💔
The problem with be brutally honest is your talking bad about his mom it's best to just say it just didn't work out and leave it at that.
Yes, exactly. I took it as he needed to let us know why he wasn't in his son's life, and it wasn't his fault. It's the mother's fault. Really? smh
The c word?
100,000 thumbs up.
@@nancyschad2969really?.... lighten up, Karen
My heart goes out to you. Thanks so much for being so open and honest
Sad for those family members that can be cold like that. I'm happy you reconnected with your son. Look forward to your future and sunny days ahead!❤
So if his mom died & he was doing all the banking stuff, etc, who was making the burial arrangements? Wouldn't he know stuff like that? I'm confused. You still have to make arrangements for that stuff whether you have a funeral or not & usually funeral / memorial stuff would happen within that same time frame.
You read my mind.
Thanks for sharing Chrome, been watching for 5/6 years and never comment but felt the need to say, let the truth run free. Wise words for everyone, take care mate, we all get you.
Why do you call him “that kid” ??? He should be called “ my son “
I have to ask: at the time of her passing, did you wonder about her funeral, in terms of who was doing it (in the event that would have to be you), or call your Aunt(s) and ask about it? We love you, but find it odd that a funeral and proper goodbyes wouldn’t be first on your mind at that time. 🤷♀️
That was exactly what I thought.
I was wondering
you said what others were really thinking .
I think he made a video about he didn’t want to be at the funeral when she passed away.
I was thinking the exact same. What did he think happened to her? You would have thought that he would have planned or helped plan the funeral.
I appreciate your willingness to be so honest about what’s going on with your family. Sharing your story helps others to relate and heal. I hope you find peace in the days to come. 🌻
I lost my mom last year, that alone is hard enough with out people taking out their grief on you, , you know your mom, you know your relationship with her, you know she loved you!! if your aunts wanted help with expenses they really should have told you. Funerals are for the living. Your mom was and will always be in your heart.❤❤❤
I know how you feel. My family assumed that because I lived in CA and they live in FL... that I wouldn't come to my grandpa's funeral. The part that upset me the most was that no one told me for 2 years that he had even past, let alone any celebration of life for him.
I'm missing something here.... Your mum died two years ago... but you didn't know there was a funeral and a memorial?.... You find this out two years later?
What did he think happened to his mother’s body? Why didn’t he ensure she was laid to rest or held a service. Somebody did it obviously. It probably should have been Chrome who organized a service for her if that’s what he wanted. Very confusing.
There's more to the story, no doubt. In two years where did he think his mother was? The dead don't bury themselves. 🤔
Many of us have a past too. Sometimes life is like a roller coaster, you just have to hang on and go for the ride! Weeee! So glad you’re getting a chance to meet up with your son again. May your reunion be Blessed...
You can’t pick your family as easy as it is to pick your nose. Family is all you got.
You can go forward knowing you did your best for you. Be safe brother.
It doesn’t make sense. She passed away 2 years ago. Usually a funeral and memorial service happens shortly afterwards. Where did chrome think they were keeping her body all this time???? And chrome never bothered asking where his mom was gonna be buried? And two years passed?
Think this may be on everybody’s minds! Doesn’t make sense that he didn’t know any of this. Who would wait two years and be upset. If he’s never questioned it before. Baffled. 18:30
Chrome, what did you think happened with your mum after she died? Did you think there would not be a funeral? I sympathize with you about feeling left out but someone had to bury her somewhere.
she didn't want to be buried just ashes spread. and didn't want a funeral. her wishes.
Oh Chrome. So happy you have contact with your son. Absolutely wonderful.
Hey Chrome, this video just came up on my feed. I want to commend you on your honesty and transparent self-reflection. The thing about family, you don't get to choose who you're related to... but you do get to choose who you keep in your life.
I am currently building my van and preparing to enter vanlife. I've been inspired by several YT folk, but truly appreciate your energy and videos. Thank you for your positivity - it is awesome.
That's great you and Seth are communicating. My siblings & I weren't invited to my nephew funeral. So I can relate. Sometimes family can just be mean & not act like family. So I can relate. I will keep you in my prayers! 🙏 ❤️
Man it don't matter whether you are invited or not! You got the right to go, or choose not to go. That's your mom! My condolences brother. I can imagine how tough that is!!
I can hear the hurt in your voice Chrome....and I am sorry you are going through this. Keep taking the high road, your mom knows you love her. We all make mistakes in life, but you learn from them, they make you who you are today. It's a choice to make the best decisions with love. Your aunts will see their actions either on this side of life or on the other side.... Hugs sent your way.
Just a question. When your Mom passed away, did you know what happened to your Mom's remains, no one took the time to tell you what and were she was sent to, to be kept?
I wish I couldn't say I know exactly how you feel, but I do. Turned out, frankly, the funeral was a horror show in our case and years later I heard all and I'm glad I wasn't there. Peace out Chrome and keep doing you. I look forward to meeting your son. Long time viewer here.
Did you try to take care of the funeral and memorial after mom died?
Why didn't you plan a funeral or memorial service for your mother? That seems odd to me.
Hmm...my thinking as well. 🤔
That is very odd. Something ain’t adding up with his story.
You can clean up your life but you still will reap what you sowed. What! Your mom died and you just left her body in the hands of others? Your story sound suspicious.
Exactly! I’m a subscriber and I’m having a hard time with this story . And that 4 letter c word he called his sons mother that raised him . 😮
The joy on your face while talking about seeing your son again....priceless!! Best of everything going forward!!!!
thats so freaking exciting! That you got your son in your life again! Family can be a struggle, but never give up on being around for the kiddos and showing them family matters.
Please remember that family may not be the group you were born into but those people who love and support you. Those that love with no strings attached, those that don’t expect you to bend to their will but those who understand you love you for who you are. Family can sometimes be nothing more than a group of bullies… Sadly I know this first hand. I have made my own way in life my family now is my two sons and a group of people who I know have my back!
So glad that Social Media has led to this for you !!!
I have driven OTR for over 30 years now and while this career has left me see and experience thing few other ever will; it sadly that has led to the loss of connection between me and most of my family, since I don't live in Florida full time or anywhere else for that matter, making and keeping personal connections is a hard thing to do, which for me is ok because I have always been a loner type of person.
Goodbye. Joan
Speedy recovery on your ankle Chrome, mine took a year to fully heal. Great stories like usual.
Sorry you are going through a rough patch trying to honor your mom. You’re amazing Chrome! Cruzie too! Thanks for being real!!
As strong as you are, Chrome, that's gotta hurt. Hugs.
If you didn't plan the funeral yourself did you ever wonder what happened to your mom after she passed?
Was wondering too
That’s exactly what I’m thinking - you know she’s passed so what do you think would happen to her earthly remains?
As her only son and closest relative, it would seem that as an adult he would have planned or at least ensured that his Mom had a service of some kind and invited them. I am pretty sure that if it was about the $$ that his subscribers would have gladly helped.
Yes, I agree
Chrome was there when his mom passed away. He cleaned out her apartment and did all of it. He went to see her very often.
Congratulations on meeting your son that’s awesome news
I dont understand. When someone dies there is usually always a funeral. Did you not wonder about a funeral at the time?
So happy that you are reconnecting with your son.❤❤🎉
Chrome, I have been watching your channel for 3 or 4 years. It has helped me get thru my own personal experiences Look forward to meeting your son and healing. And thank you for letting me be a part of you and Cruzies life too.
Sorry about your family issue, and glad that you are reconnecting with your son, but if you knew when your mom passed away 2 years ago, what did you assume happened to her remains if there was no funeral?
Forgive me if I may have missed something, maybe you can clarify.