Hey everyone! Thanks for watching! The comment I made about women being smarter was kind of a joke and apparently not delivered well - my bad - but since making this video I have received a lot of comments on the topic and I have done a lot more research on the topic. It is actually very intetesting and I made a whole video on it ! Check it out. Thanks for your input and let me know if there are any future topics you would like for me to cover! !th-cam.com/video/93ScTruv_No/w-d-xo.html
Crysta Cat Women Are Faster Learners And Mature Faster, Men For The Most Part Explore Faster Then Women. When In Grade School The Girls Always Had The Best Grades And Were Better Readers, Boys Like To Play And Crack Jokes, I Was An Observer, And Still I Observe Human Behavior To This Day! That’s Why I Know, And Women Are Very Competitive, Even Though They Try Not To Be!
Well ... I would personaly like to know why feminists are not on the barricades, demanding laws, that ensure equality in the garbage-collecting industry, in the sewer-cleaning industry and in the dying-for-your-country industry. I would like to see a video on how the patriarchy is DESTROYING womens careers in these fields
I loved what you said all together but especially about being a stay at home mom. I am still a teen and would love to be a stay at home mom some day and most of the time I find myself too embarrassed to say it or when I do they assume it is because I am stupid. This is so frustrating!!! Can you a video on advice for people sticking up for themselves when it comes to those types of things(especially teens still in high school on all subjects politics wise)
humandxp it's called a starting point you nihilistic dipshit either work towards the solution and try to educate or stay home and keep your mouth shut.
humandxp clearly making a video and starting to try and change things and talk to people isn't an action my mistake I guess im just not as woke as you are.
humandxp my fucking dude if you think I'm an sjw you clearly need to seek some serious mental health cause that delusional world you have going on is top notch.
you shouldnt be a feminist because feminism is cancer, men and women aren't equal we have different roles in life and thats okay. If you are white you really need to look into getting red pilled, we need more people to be awake
mrhoffame are girls in the East who are obliged to marry old man treated equally? Are girls on the East and Africa who don’t have an opportunity to learn are treated equally? Are girls which involved in prostitution without their will (average age of getting in prostitution is 14 y.o., when mothers sell their children to a pimp) and get raped hundreds of times are treated equally?
Keine Ewigkeit She means Western Feminism, which completely ignores the issues you brought up. You need a certain level of cultural understanding of the rights of the individual for equality to be possible. The areas you mentioned have low or no idea of individual rights.
When I see a person make a heart felt video like this and take an important step in life, I like to offer them some words of encouragement. So here goes. encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement encouragement :)
I grew up in the 80's and 90's and everything was fine back then. I thought we were equal back then. Then all of the sudden within the past few years there has been this wave of feminism that has swept the country. I don't understand where it has come from and I think it is pushing men away. I agree with everything you've said. And by the way, I wouldn't look down on you at all if you were to be a stay at home mom.
+Barbara Elle Actually, we weren't equal back then. Women had more legal rights than men did, then as now. You are correct though in that the modern climate is far more toxic for men than it was back then.
Barbara Elle ... Feminist didn't make me MGTOW. Just women's attitude and I was always broke when I dated. I'll never ever be in a relationship again. I do not hate women. Women believe MGTOW men hate women. Not true. I miss the touch of a woman and the closeness. But I can't be broke again. I'm in my 50's now and won't be able to start over again. I have saved a lot of money for retirement. Maybe I've been with the wrong women. It's to late now. Take care. One more thing: I am not rude to women like when I'm out at a store. U don't see MGTOW men protesting with signs saying they hate women.
Welcome to the centre. The extreme far left and far right are unhealthy choices as they lead to nihilism/destruction of civil society. We need a better / wiser path on life issues that is centred, level-headed and not easily swayed into the extremeties, while keeping humanistic virtues that are currently categorized into left or right wing. There is only one category: what is humane, and the values that allow us to conduct ourselves justly and constructively.
Alexa thanks for watching and responding to my video! You are totally right about the fact that Obama is not the one who personally "legalized" gay marriage! I actually knew that but apparently I was just having a moment .... haha thank you for the correction! 😜❤
I have been oppressed by men, I've lived with sexist people and so on and even though I know that's awful, becoming a feminist would not help the situation. Men aren't the problem and neither are women. It's just certain people in general and all I hope for the future is for the world to be a safer and kinder place. Let's put all this feminist bs away and work on becoming better people. Great video by the way x
Yeah I agree. Men are targeted by sexism too, often by people who call themselves feminist. I was raised by a sexist abusive mum who called herself feminist. I don't blame women for it though. These people are usually just awful toxic people in general.
Wrong morgengabe1. Image is incredibly important to me. Say I was single, I would never waste my time even talking to this girl because of what she could possibly be due to her image. So even if we share the same ideals and is probably very like minded, I would never have known because of her image. Which is shame because shes not bad looking. My opinion is you should outwardly portray yourself on your personality. I simply don't have the time in life to talk to every attractive woman I see in order to find ones soulmate.
Danny Moe I don't know why you don't see that as being near pathetically shallow and ignorant. You don't know a person by looking at them alone. You're probably going to waste a lot of time in life pursuing women who aren't good for you and trying to save relationships that shouldn't exist because of your attachment to superficial judgements. All I'm saying is dig a little deeper before you validate a person or choose to write them off.
Like I said, life is too short to be able to evaluate and talk to each and every attractive woman I see. "You don't know a person by looking at them alone." Wrong again, you can tell a lot by just looking at someone. Body language, interests in clothing, branding, piercings, tattoos, hair dye/cut, political messages on t shirts or bags etc. Bet then again, even a normal looking attractive woman can share SJW/feminist ideals such as the great Emma Watson. She and this woman are quite deceptive that way, but that's part of fishing I guess.
One by one people like Crystal are taking the Red Pill and waking up to a new reality. Like many before her Crystal watched the word regress into chaos and sensed something was amiss. She was smart enough to find a link, brave enough to watch and honest enough to accept change. Great to see you document your journey and share truth to the world.
Enigmatic Spirit lol every women on the Internet is all of sudden red pill once Trump is out of office they will go back to the way they where this is new fada.
Mad 76: Yep many women are chameleons changing to suit their agenda. The red pill is taken voluntarily and must be swallowed and digested. It is not enough to hold it in the mouth then spit it back out. It affects the way you view the world. Crystal's vision is still rose coloured However the things she has seen, cannot be unseen.
Enigmatic Spirit This how view one day i will get married. But these women on the Internet saying how wrong feminist is and how right we man they telling what you want to hear. Red pill is just a fada like mgtow.
Mad78: OMG!... are you suggesting women are liars? That men should not trust women? Then conclude that mistrusting woman is a fad? Do you see the paradox here?
Enigmatic Spirit I never said women where lair you did so let me clear it up people on the Internet will tell you what you want to hear because there opportunist.i told you one day i will get married you just ignore that part.
As someone who has prioritized getting married and having a family, I'm with you on this. I don't care if a woman wants to chase a career, but when I tell people that I want to be a stay-at-home mother and homeschool, I got so much crap. From weird looks to being referred to as a gold digger. It's a strange world where a woman doing what we have always done to continue the human race is, at best astounding and, at worst a character flaw...
I find it funny that when women talk about equal rights, they never mention responsabilite as well. take the right to vote men have to register for the draft, each right also has a responsabilite that goes with it and many women reject responsabilite altogether. it's unfortunate and counter productive.
I'm not defending hitler,but he was human and since were all human all of us can't virtue signal or as Jesus said he who is without sin,cast the first stone.
Hmm.. just throwing it out there that it was actually Congress (and at the time, majority men) that determined that the reintroduction of the selective service in 1980 would apply to men only. It was also only in 2015 that the Department of Defense decided to lift gender based restrictions in military. Also, no American has been pressed into involuntary service since the last draft during the Vietnam War. I only make this comment to point out that women as a whole did not make the decision not to be required to sign up for draft, it was male politicians who voted against it.
Jeff M I totally agree, and I a women for goodness sakes. Women nowadays don’t wanna play fair, but asks for this and that. I’m a women that believes that men and women cannot be same or equal.
I feel exactly the same! Thank you for posting this. I feel like so many people don't understand me when I make this argument yet I don't understand how they don't understand me.
Well said. Balanced. I have three daughters and I believe that women and men should have mutual respect. They all cringe at the new feminist weaknesses. Maybe it’s because they’re all strong: they are in sports, tae kwon do, and thrive at school and the arts. Subscribed.
I'm married and a father of 4 daughters, 3 college aged, and find myself in the same situation. I would have expected to call myself a feminist today but I can't, for many of the reasons you cite. My wife finds feminists insulting because they criticize her life choices (she stayed home with the kids) and they insist woman are helpless victims and unable to think for themselves. Feminists lost their way somewhere. It's a sad way for things to have gone IMHO.
I would love to be a stay at home Mom too and I feel pressured to not do that. I’m 19, in first year of university and I desire to have a family way more than I care about career. I’m not career oriented but feel shamed for that. I even feel embarrassed to tell people that one of my main aspirations is to get married and have kids
Hetro-normative is why we exist! I.e. normal heterosexual instinctive drive results in the continuation of the species. So F-yeah! Children are labor and resource intensive. They are also taxing on one's sanity ;-) This is why two parents are necessary. It simply takes two so when one isn't feeling fully up to the task the other can cover for them. Raising children is a collaborative effort. The payout is the joy of children and family for the length of one's life. That is if you do it right.
You're missing one thing. You're talking about biological instincts. To a feminist, biology is irrelevant. To a feminist it's all about the patriarchy.
I remember the Equal Rights Amendment in the 1970's as the beginning of a well intentioned movement to gain EQUAL RIGHTS for All. The goal was equal rights, privileges, immunities and opportunities, not superiority.
the whole wage gap thing is just a buzz-term for them, like i'm going to school to become an educator because i discovered i loved the profession after being kind of like a teacher's assistant for a class in high school, and i am very aware i'm going to make like $40K a year to $50k a year and i'm okay with that because the job will also allow me to have the family i want without prioritizing my career over them like you mentioned in the video when you said you were going in to be an Aesthetician
You are amazing!!! Thank you for this video, you have really sat down and critically thought about your points. You have sought out rational thoughts, ideas and made them into a great video.
we totally had an assembly in my high school about the Sudan rebel war and child soldiers too, we had a kid who spoke about how he escaped all that. that was back in like 2007 or somethin, and its been happening before that and still since then, crazy
Great video and I agree with everything you said! I've been an assistant manager, and a manager, but the most rewarding "job" I've ever had was raising my son! I've been looked down upon by other WOMAN for this to, but I don't care what they say... when I leave this world, I'll have no regrets. I have the love of a good man and me raising my child, not me paying someone else to raise my child for me and missing his life.... I'm very blessed. Best wishes to you and yours!
Problems I see within feminism: 1. Putting a job, a work a certein position as the most important goal in the life. Diminishing the importance of motherhood, diminishing the importance of thaking care for the family, your house, caring of others etc. It is just the result of changing the core values of the society, where sacrificing your time for a certein job is more important than doing the same for the people you love. 2. And this is the outcome of the first one: everything that can be a problem in the way of accessing the labor market should be demonized : marriage, having kids, staying home...Labor is the ultimate goal, work is the ultimate goal. 3. War on femininity: feminine woman is seen as a week, uncapable creature. According to feminism woman should think, look, behave like a man to be validated. Womens choices, behavioral pathways, ways of thinking are considered wrong and socially acquired because those cualities are seen as something bad. This is, in my opinion , the real sexism. We should acknowledge and celebrate the differences between men and women. 4. Feminism is one of the branches of social marxism, that divide people according to the ¨oppressor¨ and ¨oppressed¨ ideology. People are divided by their race, gender, sexual preferences, religion etc. Then they are put in the ¨boxes¨ and assigned certein opinions and behaivors, and God forbid, a black muslim gay woman to vote conservative. Sorry for the long comment.
One thing about the Suffragettes, they weren't very honorable in fighting for the vote because they were actually only fighting for the vote for women of status, ranking and wealth. Not for all women.
I know why you're not a feminist...it's because you're a strong, beautiful woman who doesn't need to be validated. You're secure in your feminity...you KNOW you're a woman and you know that's a way-cool thing to be. But most of all...it's because you're SMART ! You give us older folks hope for the future. Good Luck !!!
Mikey, Mikey, Mikey...no I am not easily duped (huh buddy ?) I am, however, easily amused by no-brainers like "hell's simpleton-angel mike." MAGA baby.
Hello Crysta, I like small youtubers like u, who actually make sense and this is coming from a man who studied literature in a third world country(Bangladesh, developing country). I admit that there are many prejudices among people(by feminists,men). I myself faced sexism, if I want address the actual event, it would go actually something like this. I used to work in a private bank. I wanted to change by job as it was too far away from my home. I applied for a job in the American Embassy for the post of Information officer. I scored the highest in the exam,97 out of 100. The examiner, who also was a lady, told us all our scores after we were finished. I was called in for a viva. They were supposed to take two people in for the position. The 2nd number was 87 and the third one was 71 who btw was a girl. So, i went in for viva. The whole board was were women, which i didn't particularly care. But a weird/funny thing, I saw, before I went into the viva room, the third woman, who scored 71, coming out of the viva room laughing with her "mother". The viva board was all women including the HR head (which didn't bother me at all).At that time, I thought, it must be nepotism and I should get the second position as the circular stated two person and I was the highest scorer on the written test. I went in, my wasn't very good, I admit that but at that time I was already working for a bank and I kind of forgot most of literature. So, a month later, a letter came from the American Embassy that I wasn't picked for the position but encouraged me to try for the next time. The American Ambassador in Bangladesh is a lady btw "Marcia Stephens Bloom Bernicate". I looked up in their Facebook page, only that girl who scored 71, 26 number less than myself, got the job and no one else. At first, I thought, well the Ambassador is a woman, she must need a woman information officer, that makes sense and also nepotism but why only one? There were supposed to be two people. Then I remembered, rest of the people qualified for the post were men. That event broke me so hard, specially at that time, i was desperately seeking for a new job and I am a 3.7 out of 4 scorer in my masters degree, from Jahangirnagar University, which is one of top most public universities of our country. This event was back in the end of 2014 and at the commencement of the new year 2015. This 2018 now. I stopped applying for those kind of jobs. I am afraid of women now because of "all the craziness". I am hateful towards my mother and big sister and also myself because of social expectations. I want to hear your thoughts on where this "crazy" feminism is heading towards and specially, on social platforms, it is usually American Feminism which is absolutely nonsense because they only argue about Donald Trump but not address any issues regarding women who actually need it. Also crazy, loudmouth, Feminazi, radical/intersectional feminists and Antifa (extremist ignorant militia group) are just hateful and violence mongering groups. What are your thoughts on the next possible/positive turn cause as a man I think myself as a mistake cause I can not uphold to the social expectations thrust upon me and I am afraid and angry! Hope I was able to state my situation a little bit. Thanks.
Its 4:12 AM, I can't sleep so I'm roaming around the net... I didn't know you before. And I agree with all you're talking about especially the equality part. . You just won a subscriber. :)
Bless your soul ❤️ I agree with everything so far (I’m up to 2/3 if the way through the video) and this explains me perfectly. I love this video and thank you for being so calm about the issue as well.
yes! thank you! exactly how i feel. i get so much hate for it though. even some of my family ember won't talk to me or talk down to me now because they think I'm stupid.
A lot of great points! One thing I'd like to point out about the women being forced into marriage in Middle Eastern and Eastern culture, no one ever talks about the young males that are also put into arranged marriages. These girls aren't being married off to inanimate objects and not always to older men, its men their own age that likewise do not have a choice in the matter.
I'm really impressed with your courage. I know how scary it can be breaking off from such a volatile ideology. I've lost a lot of friends by telling them my opinion.
A feminist once told me "house wives don't want to vote". No, we are NOT 2nd class citizens, we would rather take care of our families and focus on what is important to us. That's why women have Freedom of Choice now... sometimes they can be so dense.
April Street That is such an incredibly aggrivating statement! Eff that person! You can stay at home and raise your children and still be a contributing member of society. Jeeze.
I really appreciated you views and it was well thought out. I agree with everything you said. I represented women at the university level , however, there's a differnce between right and being allowed to claim other WANTS as a Priviledge or right if it happens to secure your end goal by using your gender... the same things men did and still do today! Thank
Can i say i love your 10 points and it makes me so happy to find that their are women actually using their heads and thinking for them selves instead of being driven by anger which brings along with it blindness. We maybe in two different countries but you will always have my respect keep making videos and please continue to think for your self.
A well-thought and reasoned conclusion indicative of a lot of reflection, I think. I definitely appreciated watching this because even if I would have disagreed heavily with who I can only assume you must have been before this, that were ultimately willing to take pause, consider the other side, and make a new decision about your previous one using the new information. Unfortunately, I think far too many feminists actually stop themselves from thinking outside the party-box, becoming exactly what they claim women were like when they were in their husbands' shadow; which is so ironic, I have a hard time laughing at it.
Going into my favorites playlist! You are so calm and collected and rational! I love your points and you can honestly teach so many people. I liked watching this a lot!
Hi! I just wanted to say I agree with absolutely everything you said in this video. I have felt so scared to say or admit that I'm not a feminist to female friends and people at my university. Thank you for making this video... you are so articulate and I'm almost considering memorizing your reasons so that next time someone asks me if I'm a feminist I can tell the truth and explain myself reasonably. This was so great!!
Welcome to the real world , where no one person or ideology , has all the answers , no matter how much they insist they do. All we can do , is the best we can and try not to mess up.
I know it's a long journey Crysta. But, and this is not a neg on you, but you might consider starting with men and women should AND DO already have equal rights under the law. That's the point where the modern feminists went off the rails; they continue to try and convince themselves that we're still living in 1950 or 1885 with all this oppression and all that other made up nonsense. We don't. Feminism has done a hell of a job breaking down barriers and getting equal rights. Those battles have been fought and won. Thus, why our current crop of feminists piss and moan about manspreading and sexist air conditioning; there are no more battles to fight respecting equal rights in the Western world. Still plenty do to in other countries where this is actually oppression against women...and men for that matter. Alexander wept when he realized there were no more worlds to conquer. And, pregnancy from rape is no more or less than regular consensual intercourse. I ran the numbers, and it is single digits of women who are raped get pregnant. A couple of thousand per year at the most.
I'm a new/random person here, but I appreciate strong women like yourself speaking out about this issue, especially the misrepresentations being put forth on a daily basis. Hitting that subscribe button now.
There is an extreme center, Skippy. Better to stay an individual because sometimes you'll agree with one, the other, or both, but when you think for yourself you'll sometimes agree with neither. It's best for us all to drop the collectivist mindset.
You should be proud of yourself for walking away. It's hard to walk away. Please don't get offended if you don't believe, but my prayers are behind you.
Good video. The hardest thing in life is to find ones self and stay true to your beliefs. Seems like you found your path. Stay strong, be true, semper fi.
this is actually fourth wave sadly. suffragette movement was 1st wave, prior to 1960's 2nd wave, 1980's-ish was 3rd with women being more prominent in the workforce than before and now this is the 4th
Ex-feminist here too. Videos like this give me hope. I agree with almost everything you said (we differ just a little with regards to abortion, but I think that's ok), and I think you have pretty much summed up why I'm no longer a feminist myself. You are absolutely right. Men can struggle too, but you can support them alongside women. Why are so many feminists so insistant that only one gender's struggle matters?
Awesome. Women need to hear more women saying stuff like this. We need more women stepping up to take responsability in change for actual equality. This is what a women empowering herself looks like. Men, support and encourage this behavior coming from women.
Amen sister ! You said it right ! Most of us woman feel the same as you do ,I am a stay at home mother of four and it's a hard job! You don't have to apologize for anything !
I also like how you say "i don't think" a lot in this video and I don't think you've said "I don't feel." Using your noggin and not being entirely owned by your heart (which does have its place at times) is a great thing.
thank you for actually looking into the topics you talk about very few people do this on the left and right as someone who is a conservative and knows I won't agree with people on everything people need to chill out and really look into what they are talking about just as you have. again this goes for conservatives like my self and liberals we really just need to be more open minded and logical
The greatest advice I can give you is for you to be you. Do what makes you happy. Like what you want to like. Take each day as it comes and be yourself at all times no matter what other people think.
Thank You for being honest and taking the time to figuring out what feminism really was about. To many people are rationalising their beliefs to make them fit their own narrative. It's like.. "My mind is made up, don't confuse me with facts!"
If you don't think (blank) then I can't help you. This. This sums it all up pretty much. I do not and never have labeled myself as a feminist and I agree with almost all of the things you've said. Awesome to see more people stepping up to denounce feminism and waking up to the facts. Love that you don't want to play the victim card. Love that you don't feel societal gender roles (stay at home mom) is a fault. Love that you won't get behind the hypocrisy. Please keep doing what you're doing. I hope your video has helped at least one person today.
Hey everyone! Thanks for watching! The comment I made about women being smarter was kind of a joke and apparently not delivered well - my bad - but since making this video I have received a lot of comments on the topic and I have done a lot more research on the topic. It is actually very intetesting and I made a whole video on it ! Check it out. Thanks for your input and let me know if there are any future topics you would like for me to cover!
!th-cam.com/video/93ScTruv_No/w-d-xo.html
Crysta Cat Women Are Faster Learners And Mature Faster, Men For The Most Part Explore Faster Then Women. When In Grade School The Girls Always Had The Best Grades And Were Better Readers, Boys Like To Play And Crack Jokes, I Was An Observer, And Still I Observe Human Behavior To This Day! That’s Why I Know, And Women Are Very Competitive, Even Though They Try Not To Be!
I dunno why anyone would take the meme seriously but just keep at it.Take the purple pill.
Well ... I would personaly like to know why feminists are not on the barricades, demanding laws, that ensure equality in the garbage-collecting industry, in the sewer-cleaning industry and in the dying-for-your-country industry. I would like to see a video on how the patriarchy is DESTROYING womens careers in these fields
Thomas Jensen 3Pointer!
I loved what you said all together but especially about being a stay at home mom. I am still a teen and would love to be a stay at home mom some day and most of the time I find myself too embarrassed to say it or when I do they assume it is because I am stupid. This is so frustrating!!! Can you a video on advice for people sticking up for themselves when it comes to those types of things(especially teens still in high school on all subjects politics wise)
every time i see one of these videos pop up on TH-cam i get a little bit more hope for western society
Marc Alcatraz you and me both my dude
humandxp it's called a starting point you nihilistic dipshit either work towards the solution and try to educate or stay home and keep your mouth shut.
humandxp clearly making a video and starting to try and change things and talk to people isn't an action my mistake I guess im just not as woke as you are.
humandxp good thing your done with women I deffinetly do not want you in the gene pool.
humandxp my fucking dude if you think I'm an sjw you clearly need to seek some serious mental health cause that delusional world you have going on is top notch.
This video should be titled why you shouldn't judge a book by its cover.
"I just hear yelling, people needing attention"
Thank you for calling them out 😂
Keep up the good work
You're not a feminist because you are to busy being a Rational Human Being who actual does want to treat every other human being equally.
"realist"
you shouldnt be a feminist because feminism is cancer, men and women aren't equal we have different roles in life and thats okay. If you are white you really need to look into getting red pilled, we need more people to be awake
mrhoffame are girls in the East who are obliged to marry old man treated equally? Are girls on the East and Africa who don’t have an opportunity to learn are treated equally? Are girls which involved in prostitution without their will (average age of getting in prostitution is 14 y.o., when mothers sell their children to a pimp) and get raped hundreds of times are treated equally?
But you also being busy being cared for and supported by a man = hubby.
Keine Ewigkeit
She means Western Feminism, which completely ignores the issues you brought up. You need a certain level of cultural understanding of the rights of the individual for equality to be possible. The areas you mentioned have low or no idea of individual rights.
When I see a person make a heart felt video like this and take an important step in life, I like to offer them some words of encouragement. So here goes.
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shawnski001 I admit, I laughed
Awesome ! :-)
I grew up in the 80's and 90's and everything was fine back then. I thought we were equal back then. Then all of the sudden within the past few years there has been this wave of feminism that has swept the country. I don't understand where it has come from and I think it is pushing men away. I agree with everything you've said. And by the way, I wouldn't look down on you at all if you were to be a stay at home mom.
+Barbara Elle
Actually, we weren't equal back then. Women had more legal rights than men did, then as now. You are correct though in that the modern climate is far more toxic for men than it was back then.
Barbara Elle ... Feminist didn't make me MGTOW. Just women's attitude and I was always broke when I dated. I'll never ever be in a relationship again. I do not hate women. Women believe MGTOW men hate women. Not true. I miss the touch of a woman and the closeness. But I can't be broke again. I'm in my 50's now and won't be able to start over again. I have saved a lot of money for retirement. Maybe I've been with the wrong women. It's to late now. Take care. One more thing: I am not rude to women like when I'm out at a store. U don't see MGTOW men protesting with signs saying they hate women.
Barbie Ellie: I grew up in the 70s for all practical purposes, saw this crap coming, hence decided to live my life as a bachelor.
Welcome to the centre. The extreme far left and far right are unhealthy choices as they lead to nihilism/destruction of civil society. We need a better / wiser path on life issues that is centred, level-headed and not easily swayed into the extremeties, while keeping humanistic virtues that are currently categorized into left or right wing. There is only one category: what is humane, and the values that allow us to conduct ourselves justly and constructively.
Sho Fumimura agree
I agree with everything you said! Just FYI, Obama didn't "legalize" gay marriage, the Supreme Court did, completely different branch.
Alexa thanks for watching and responding to my video! You are totally right about the fact that Obama is not the one who personally "legalized" gay marriage! I actually knew that but apparently I was just having a moment .... haha thank you for the correction! 😜❤
I agree with her... IF all women thought like this.. the world would be sooo much better.
I have been oppressed by men, I've lived with sexist people and so on and even though I know that's awful, becoming a feminist would not help the situation. Men aren't the problem and neither are women. It's just certain people in general and all I hope for the future is for the world to be a safer and kinder place. Let's put all this feminist bs away and work on becoming better people.
Great video by the way x
Poison Pumpkin Can you write a book just based on this comment
You go girls, put it away.
Awesome
Finally someone who unerstands you dont need to be in either cult to fix this problem
Yeah I agree. Men are targeted by sexism too, often by people who call themselves feminist. I was raised by a sexist abusive mum who called herself feminist. I don't blame women for it though. These people are usually just awful toxic people in general.
Funny how you look like the most stereotypical SJW feminist. Thanks for sharing :)
I was thinking the same.
Pretty obnoxious comment don't you think?
Think beyond the box, as Crysta is.
Wrong morgengabe1. Image is incredibly important to me. Say I was single, I would never waste my time even talking to this girl because of what she could possibly be due to her image. So even if we share the same ideals and is probably very like minded, I would never have known because of her image. Which is shame because shes not bad looking. My opinion is you should outwardly portray yourself on your personality.
I simply don't have the time in life to talk to every attractive woman I see in order to find ones soulmate.
Danny Moe I don't know why you don't see that as being near pathetically shallow and ignorant. You don't know a person by looking at them alone.
You're probably going to waste a lot of time in life pursuing women who aren't good for you and trying to save relationships that shouldn't exist because of your attachment to superficial judgements. All I'm saying is dig a little deeper before you validate a person or choose to write them off.
Like I said, life is too short to be able to evaluate and talk to each and every attractive woman I see. "You don't know a person by looking at them alone."
Wrong again, you can tell a lot by just looking at someone. Body language, interests in clothing, branding, piercings, tattoos, hair dye/cut, political messages on t shirts or bags etc.
Bet then again, even a normal looking attractive woman can share SJW/feminist ideals such as the great Emma Watson. She and this woman are quite deceptive that way, but that's part of fishing I guess.
One by one people like Crystal are taking the Red Pill and waking up to a new reality.
Like many before her Crystal watched the word regress into chaos and sensed something was amiss.
She was smart enough to find a link, brave enough to watch and honest enough to accept change.
Great to see you document your journey and share truth to the world.
Enigmatic Spirit lol every women on the Internet is all of sudden red pill once Trump is out of office they will go back to the way they where this is new fada.
Mad 76: Yep many women are chameleons changing to suit their agenda.
The red pill is taken voluntarily and must be swallowed and digested.
It is not enough to hold it in the mouth then spit it back out.
It affects the way you view the world.
Crystal's vision is still rose coloured
However the things she has seen, cannot be unseen.
Enigmatic Spirit This how view one day i will get married. But these women on the Internet saying how wrong feminist is and how right we man they telling what you want to hear. Red pill is just a fada like mgtow.
Mad78: OMG!... are you suggesting women are liars?
That men should not trust women?
Then conclude that mistrusting woman is a fad?
Do you see the paradox here?
Enigmatic Spirit I never said women where lair you did so let me clear it up people on the Internet will tell you what you want to hear because there opportunist.i told you one day i will get married you just ignore that part.
people assume that all women are angels, but since we're all equal here, some women can be just as evil as men
As someone who has prioritized getting married and having a family, I'm with you on this. I don't care if a woman wants to chase a career, but when I tell people that I want to be a stay-at-home mother and homeschool, I got so much crap. From weird looks to being referred to as a gold digger.
It's a strange world where a woman doing what we have always done to continue the human race is, at best astounding and, at worst a character flaw...
Milo would have been proud...Well done
Poison Pumpkin
Why don't you like Milo? I am curious, I found no reason....
I find it funny that when women talk about equal rights, they never mention responsabilite as well. take the right to vote men have to register for the draft, each right also has a responsabilite that goes with it and many women reject responsabilite altogether. it's unfortunate and counter productive.
I think that her talking about sacrifice to obtain an outcome is the same as talking about the responsibilities needed to have the right to get there.
I'm not defending hitler,but he was human and since were all human all of us can't virtue signal or as Jesus said he who is without sin,cast the first stone.
Hmm.. just throwing it out there that it was actually Congress (and at the time, majority men) that determined that the reintroduction of the selective service in 1980 would apply to men only. It was also only in 2015 that the Department of Defense decided to lift gender based restrictions in military. Also, no American has been pressed into involuntary service since the last draft during the Vietnam War. I only make this comment to point out that women as a whole did not make the decision not to be required to sign up for draft, it was male politicians who voted against it.
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I totally agree, and I a women for goodness sakes. Women nowadays don’t wanna play fair, but asks for this and that. I’m a women that believes that men and women cannot be same or equal.
THANK YOU. Your 10th reason really hit me hard. No one should have to justify not being a feminist to their friends.
Friends don't Kafkatrap their friends.
I feel exactly the same! Thank you for posting this. I feel like so many people don't understand me when I make this argument yet I don't understand how they don't understand me.
Well said. Balanced. I have three daughters and I believe that women and men should have mutual respect. They all cringe at the new feminist weaknesses. Maybe it’s because they’re all strong: they are in sports, tae kwon do, and thrive at school and the arts. Subscribed.
I COMPLETELY agree. I am totally for female empowerment, but I’m not a feminist! People don’t understand that there’s a difference
I'm married and a father of 4 daughters, 3 college aged, and find myself in the same situation. I would have expected to call myself a feminist today but I can't, for many of the reasons you cite. My wife finds feminists insulting because they criticize her life choices (she stayed home with the kids) and they insist woman are helpless victims and unable to think for themselves. Feminists lost their way somewhere. It's a sad way for things to have gone IMHO.
I would love to be a stay at home Mom too and I feel pressured to not do that. I’m 19, in first year of university and I desire to have a family way more than I care about career. I’m not career oriented but feel shamed for that. I even feel embarrassed to tell people that one of my main aspirations is to get married and have kids
Hetro-normative is why we exist! I.e. normal heterosexual instinctive drive results in the continuation of the species. So F-yeah!
Children are labor and resource intensive. They are also taxing on one's sanity ;-) This is why two parents are necessary. It simply takes two so when one isn't feeling fully up to the task the other can cover for them. Raising children is a collaborative effort. The payout is the joy of children and family for the length of one's life. That is if you do it right.
You're missing one thing. You're talking about biological instincts. To a feminist, biology is irrelevant. To a feminist it's all about the patriarchy.
Agreed. It's why men and society needs to say no to their demands. It's time to hold them accountable for their life choices.
I remember the Equal Rights Amendment in the 1970's as the beginning of a well intentioned movement to gain EQUAL RIGHTS for All. The goal was equal rights, privileges, immunities and opportunities, not superiority.
Wow, we could sit down and have a really good conversation. I agreed on a lot of things you said. Thank you for posting this.
a woman who's mind is maturing...
took a while
Lol
Apart from the "women are smarter" stuff, heh..
rare species lol
+Harry Lagman that comment she made was a pot shot, common woman tactic. women are not more intelligent. They're constantly fucking up.
the whole wage gap thing is just a buzz-term for them, like i'm going to school to become an educator because i discovered i loved the profession after being kind of like a teacher's assistant for a class in high school, and i am very aware i'm going to make like $40K a year to $50k a year and i'm okay with that because the job will also allow me to have the family i want without prioritizing my career over them like you mentioned in the video when you said you were going in to be an Aesthetician
You are amazing!!! Thank you for this video, you have really sat down and critically thought about your points. You have sought out rational thoughts, ideas and made them into a great video.
So refreshing. So honest. So real. Subscribed
You are awake, aware and smart. I can only hope that more people will wake up with us. Thank you for making this video.
we totally had an assembly in my high school about the Sudan rebel war and child soldiers too, we had a kid who spoke about how he escaped all that. that was back in like 2007 or somethin, and its been happening before that and still since then, crazy
You're intelligent, thoughtful and beautiful. You articulated many of the reasons I no longer identify as a feminist! You're awesome
Great video and I agree with everything you said! I've been an assistant manager, and a manager, but the most rewarding "job" I've ever had was raising my son! I've been looked down upon by other WOMAN for this to, but I don't care what they say... when I leave this world, I'll have no regrets. I have the love of a good man and me raising my child, not me paying someone else to raise my child for me and missing his life.... I'm very blessed. Best wishes to you and yours!
Good for you, ignore the negative people!
Problems I see within feminism:
1. Putting a job, a work a certein position as the most important goal in the life. Diminishing the importance of motherhood, diminishing the importance of thaking care for the family, your house, caring of others etc. It is just the result of changing the core values of the society, where sacrificing your time for a certein job is more important than doing the same for the people you love.
2. And this is the outcome of the first one: everything that can be a problem in the way of accessing the labor market should be demonized : marriage, having kids, staying home...Labor is the ultimate goal, work is the ultimate goal.
3. War on femininity: feminine woman is seen as a week, uncapable creature. According to feminism woman should think, look, behave like a man to be validated. Womens choices, behavioral pathways, ways of thinking are considered wrong and socially acquired because those cualities are seen as something bad. This is, in my opinion , the real sexism. We should acknowledge and celebrate the differences between men and women.
4. Feminism is one of the branches of social marxism, that divide people according to the ¨oppressor¨ and ¨oppressed¨ ideology. People are divided by their race, gender, sexual preferences, religion etc. Then they are put in the ¨boxes¨ and assigned certein opinions and behaivors, and God forbid, a black muslim gay woman to vote conservative.
Sorry for the long comment.
Aways be very wary of ppl who use the word "heteronormative".
Crysta Cat, as a man, I am your ally! You are equal to me and my son's and we support all women trying to live their lives.
You know that sounds so creepy, ally? as in comparison to other men which are what? Enemies?
I see some people's mom's should have swallowed them.
Eddie Coats feelings mutual we assure you...
As long as we are all in agreement Courtney harris
One thing about the Suffragettes, they weren't very honorable in fighting for the vote because they were actually only fighting for the vote for women of status, ranking and wealth. Not for all women.
I know why you're not a feminist...it's because you're a strong, beautiful woman who doesn't need to be validated. You're secure in your feminity...you KNOW you're a woman and you know that's a way-cool thing to be. But most of all...it's because you're SMART ! You give us older folks hope for the future. Good Luck !!!
Mikey, Mikey, Mikey...no I am not easily duped (huh buddy ?) I am, however, easily amused by no-brainers like "hell's simpleton-angel mike." MAGA baby.
Juliana Silva What is she saying that's BS? Give me some examples.
Hello Crysta, I like small youtubers like u, who actually make sense and this is coming from a man who studied literature in a third world country(Bangladesh, developing country). I admit that there are many prejudices among people(by feminists,men). I myself faced sexism, if I want address the actual event, it would go actually something like this. I used to work in a private bank. I wanted to change by job as it was too far away from my home. I applied for a job in the American Embassy for the post of Information officer. I scored the highest in the exam,97 out of 100. The examiner, who also was a lady, told us all our scores after we were finished. I was called in for a viva. They were supposed to take two people in for the position. The 2nd number was 87 and the third one was 71 who btw was a girl. So, i went in for viva. The whole board was were women, which i didn't particularly care. But a weird/funny thing, I saw, before I went into the viva room, the third woman, who scored 71, coming out of the viva room laughing with her "mother". The viva board was all women including the HR head (which didn't bother me at all).At that time, I thought, it must be nepotism and I should get the second position as the circular stated two person and I was the highest scorer on the written test. I went in, my wasn't very good, I admit that but at that time I was already working for a bank and I kind of forgot most of literature. So, a month later, a letter came from the American Embassy that I wasn't picked for the position but encouraged me to try for the next time. The American Ambassador in Bangladesh is a lady btw "Marcia Stephens Bloom Bernicate". I looked up in their Facebook page, only that girl who scored 71, 26 number less than myself, got the job and no one else. At first, I thought, well the Ambassador is a woman, she must need a woman information officer, that makes sense and also nepotism but why only one? There were supposed to be two people. Then I remembered, rest of the people qualified for the post were men. That event broke me so hard, specially at that time, i was desperately seeking for a new job and I am a 3.7 out of 4 scorer in my masters degree, from Jahangirnagar University, which is one of top most public universities of our country. This event was back in the end of 2014 and at the commencement of the new year 2015. This 2018 now. I stopped applying for those kind of jobs. I am afraid of women now because of "all the craziness". I am hateful towards my mother and big sister and also myself because of social expectations. I want to hear your thoughts on where this "crazy" feminism is heading towards and specially, on social platforms, it is usually American Feminism which is absolutely nonsense because they only argue about Donald Trump but not address any issues regarding women who actually need it. Also crazy, loudmouth, Feminazi, radical/intersectional feminists and Antifa (extremist ignorant militia group) are just hateful and violence mongering groups. What are your thoughts on the next possible/positive turn cause as a man I think myself as a mistake cause I can not uphold to the social expectations thrust upon me and I am afraid and angry!
Hope I was able to state my situation a little bit. Thanks.
Amen, sister. Ex-feminist here for many of the same reasons.
Its 4:12 AM, I can't sleep so I'm roaming around the net... I didn't know you before. And I agree with all you're talking about especially the equality part. . You just won a subscriber. :)
Thanks for articulating this. I'm happy to join you on the middle path
You are absolutely brilliant!! and thank you!!!
This is a great video! Thank you for speaking out!
Bless your soul ❤️
I agree with everything so far (I’m up to 2/3 if the way through the video) and this explains me perfectly. I love this video and thank you for being so calm about the issue as well.
yes! thank you! exactly how i feel. i get so much hate for it though. even some of my family ember won't talk to me or talk down to me now because they think I'm stupid.
A lot of great points! One thing I'd like to point out about the women being forced into marriage in Middle Eastern and Eastern culture, no one ever talks about the young males that are also put into arranged marriages. These girls aren't being married off to inanimate objects and not always to older men, its men their own age that likewise do not have a choice in the matter.
I literally applauded during this video! Best of fortune to you!
Nice one sister. We need more women speaking out against this divisive feminism. It's no good for anyone.
Yay!!......hope! Yay!!..... practicality and Common Sense! Keep it up.. spread the word.
In any case of life being too extream one way or other is damaging. All of the left, right mess is horrible. The middle is the safest place to be.
I agree with you 100% . Americans need more sane people like you.
THANK YOU for this video. I feel less alone after watching it.
I'm really impressed with your courage. I know how scary it can be breaking off from such a volatile ideology. I've lost a lot of friends by telling them my opinion.
A feminist once told me "house wives don't want to vote".
No, we are NOT 2nd class citizens, we would rather take care of our families and focus on what is important to us. That's why women have Freedom of Choice now... sometimes they can be so dense.
April Street That is such an incredibly aggrivating statement! Eff that person! You can stay at home and raise your children and still be a contributing member of society. Jeeze.
"Women at home contribute nothing to society."
Except raising a well rounded child? I think that is vital to society.
They always have something to say lol
I really appreciated you views and it was well thought out. I agree with everything you said. I represented women at the university level , however, there's a differnce between right and being allowed to claim other WANTS as a Priviledge or right if it happens to secure your end goal by using your gender... the same things men did and still do today! Thank
Can i say i love your 10 points and it makes me so happy to find that their are women actually using their heads and thinking for them selves instead of being driven by anger which brings along with it blindness. We maybe in two different countries but you will always have my respect keep making videos and please continue to think for your self.
A well-thought and reasoned conclusion indicative of a lot of reflection, I think. I definitely appreciated watching this because even if I would have disagreed heavily with who I can only assume you must have been before this, that were ultimately willing to take pause, consider the other side, and make a new decision about your previous one using the new information. Unfortunately, I think far too many feminists actually stop themselves from thinking outside the party-box, becoming exactly what they claim women were like when they were in their husbands' shadow; which is so ironic, I have a hard time laughing at it.
Going into my favorites playlist! You are so calm and collected and rational! I love your points and you can honestly teach so many people. I liked watching this a lot!
FUCKING SUBSCRIBED!
Looking forward to your new videos :)
Hi! I just wanted to say I agree with absolutely everything you said in this video. I have felt so scared to say or admit that I'm not a feminist to female friends and people at my university. Thank you for making this video... you are so articulate and I'm almost considering memorizing your reasons so that next time someone asks me if I'm a feminist I can tell the truth and explain myself reasonably. This was so great!!
Ariel Nissan Aww thanks for watching and please never be afraid to speak your mind!♥️
Welcome to the real world , where no one person or ideology , has all the answers , no matter how much they insist they do. All we can do , is the best we can and try not to mess up.
I know it's a long journey Crysta. But, and this is not a neg on you, but you might consider starting with men and women should AND DO already have equal rights under the law. That's the point where the modern feminists went off the rails; they continue to try and convince themselves that we're still living in 1950 or 1885 with all this oppression and all that other made up nonsense. We don't. Feminism has done a hell of a job breaking down barriers and getting equal rights. Those battles have been fought and won. Thus, why our current crop of feminists piss and moan about manspreading and sexist air conditioning; there are no more battles to fight respecting equal rights in the Western world. Still plenty do to in other countries where this is actually oppression against women...and men for that matter. Alexander wept when he realized there were no more worlds to conquer. And, pregnancy from rape is no more or less than regular consensual intercourse. I ran the numbers, and it is single digits of women who are raped get pregnant. A couple of thousand per year at the most.
I would argue that feminists have gone well beyond equal rights.
The femtards have gone waaay beyond equality under the law. Those morons have been agitating for equality of outcome for years.
This hamster gets around.
You have a very balanced and thought out point of view which you support with good arguments. I agree with all that you say!
I'm a new/random person here, but I appreciate strong women like yourself speaking out about this issue, especially the misrepresentations being put forth on a daily basis. Hitting that subscribe button now.
Do yourself a favour and stay in the middle. Nothing good comes from extremes.
Who’s to say where the real middle is?
There is an extreme center, Skippy. Better to stay an individual because sometimes you'll agree with one, the other, or both, but when you think for yourself you'll sometimes agree with neither. It's best for us all to drop the collectivist mindset.
TheEarthCreature dude that's it. Stop all of the fuken sides dude. That's key.
Using common sense seems to be a good way to keep your life in balance.
You should be proud of yourself for walking away. It's hard to walk away. Please don't get offended if you don't believe, but my prayers are behind you.
Good video.
The hardest thing in life is to find ones self and stay true to your beliefs.
Seems like you found your path.
Stay strong, be true, semper fi.
I agree with you, everyone on all sides are just bitching. Quit bitching and just DO!
Nicely reasoned, from a woman who is old enough to know you're right about the true definition of feminism. Liked, shared and tweeted.
Good video. 3rd wave feminism seems to be mainly about virtue signalling
It's a sad mockery of the real civil Rights movement.
this is actually fourth wave sadly. suffragette movement was 1st wave, prior to 1960's 2nd wave, 1980's-ish was 3rd with women being more prominent in the workforce than before and now this is the 4th
Ex-feminist here too. Videos like this give me hope. I agree with almost everything you said (we differ just a little with regards to abortion, but I think that's ok), and I think you have pretty much summed up why I'm no longer a feminist myself. You are absolutely right. Men can struggle too, but you can support them alongside women. Why are so many feminists so insistant that only one gender's struggle matters?
I agree with everything you said in this video. Thank you for posting this :)
Awesome. Women need to hear more women saying stuff like this. We need more women stepping up to take responsability in change for actual equality. This is what a women empowering herself looks like. Men, support and encourage this behavior coming from women.
You’re just making too much sense. Keep it up! Loved it.
I'm so proud of you. Good fortune to you and yours.
Amen sister ! You said it right ! Most of us woman feel the same as you do ,I am a stay at home mother of four and it's a hard job! You don't have to apologize for anything !
I also like how you say "i don't think" a lot in this video and I don't think you've said "I don't feel." Using your noggin and not being entirely owned by your heart (which does have its place at times) is a great thing.
I don't judge you at all for making your own decisions!! I am very grateful to my mum, who stayed at home with me and my sis.
Ty th ty! I agreed with all your points!
Fellow ex-feminist here. You hit the nail on the head with this video. Instant sub!
What's the intro song? Reminds me of the music the Grand Californian plays in their lobby bathrooms over at Disney
Shay Dizzle haha I'm not sure... it was just one of the free ones in my video editor to be honest ... lol
thank you for actually looking into the topics you talk about very few people do this on the left and right as someone who is a conservative and knows I won't agree with people on everything people need to chill out and really look into what they are talking about just as you have. again this goes for conservatives like my self and liberals we really just need to be more open minded and logical
omg. i completely agree with everything youve said.
Awesome video. We need more people like you.
common sense is always refreshing.
we aren't where we need to be, but we are way ahead of where we were.
Smart lady! Thanks for sharing. I hope your video spreads
I'm glad that you have come to this conclusion. Please try to convince other women. We need more women to stop the destruction of western civlisation.
Good job bringing this up. This is important.
as a human rights supporter i give this a like
The greatest advice I can give you is for you to be you. Do what makes you happy. Like what you want to like. Take each day as it comes and be yourself at all times no matter what other people think.
Thank you so much for sharing :]
You should learn about women's liberation. Would be interesting to read Germaine Greer who is not a equality feminist but a liberation feminist .
Salvo Smith I'll have to check it out! Thanks!
You are very informed and know the establishment narrative & how to combat it. refreshing to hear! Thanks!
Such a smart and well spoke young woman.... nice video.
Thank You for being honest and taking the time to figuring out what feminism really was about. To many people are rationalising their beliefs to make them fit their own narrative. It's like.. "My mind is made up, don't confuse me with facts!"
If you don't think (blank) then I can't help you.
This.
This sums it all up pretty much. I do not and never have labeled myself as a feminist and I agree with almost all of the things you've said. Awesome to see more people stepping up to denounce feminism and waking up to the facts. Love that you don't want to play the victim card. Love that you don't feel societal gender roles (stay at home mom) is a fault. Love that you won't get behind the hypocrisy. Please keep doing what you're doing. I hope your video has helped at least one person today.
Ironically, this made me realize I need to be aware of my prejudice. I am presuming/paranoid that women with shorter haircuts hate men. Wow, not good.