Programming , projected onto you as a child , from your parents/caregivers who themselves were programmed and projected on to. De-program yourself by coming out of the ego mind......any beliefs let go off (not yours), become aware of the thoughts in your mind .......memory of a trauma imposed is being replayed over and over. False self (ego), true-self (higher) bring together intergrate so both are in balance the human and the spirit.
1. Grace and forgiveness of self 2. Compassion and acceptance of self (instead of judgement) 3. Respect and protect yourself 4. Supportive self talk 5. Self care (tending to your own needs, interdependence)
Pure wisdom! This was so Perfect! Even just after hearing it for the first time, I could self talk much better and I feel some relief and forgiveness already. Bless you 😇🙏🏼
Dear Kristen, thank you very much for the above video! I wish to reciprocate your insights by sharing my perspective on self-love. Years of delving into spirituality have led me to a crucial insight; which might just explain exactly why self-love/esteem seems almost impossible to realise & demonstrate. I rather suspect that the real foundation of all self-disgust/hatred is the hard-core disbelief in & intense hostility towards the (spiritual) truth that everyone is worthy of respect simply because they exist. Existence itself alone is the basis & proof of worthiness. Unfortunately, the vast majority of humanity (including myself) find it easy to praise a saint but extremely difficult to respect a sinner or a criminal, because most human beings believe that actions/performances are the (sole) determinant of worth. Moreover, mainstream culture in the modern world does NOT encourage judging ONLY the wrong or evil conduct at issue but not the accused/convicted person(s).
"people pleasers and narcissists are on the same vibration". As a people pleaser, and someone whos wondered about my own levels of narcissism, I've often come to a "conclusion" that they are more similar / have more overlap, then i had thought.
Dear Kristen, thank you so very much for this discussion today! It made so much sense! And funnily enough, I actually knew all this, but ( lol) I apparently needed someone else to say the words!!! We are crazy beings, aren’t we? ( not serious!) Thanks again,love from Brigid, from Victoria, Australia 🙏🌹💚
Thank you so much for this! I pretty much knew all of the key points before, but the way you out it in words really made a difference and something clicked in my mind. ❤️
Thank you so much, being self-doubting after just ended a relationship, felt unworthy for days, thank you for cheering me up and know that I didn't do wrong, the only thing is that I didn't respect myself enough.
Such an informative message in layman’s terms. I am grateful you did all the hard work to find you and then take your energy to share you with us. Thank you. This message helps me in a number of different ways. ❤
thanks a lot for provide such a valuable content 1. I connect my worth how others treat me 2. I feel unworthy as i belong from poor family and i feel embarrassed for that 3. I feel unworthy as i don't have lots of friends 4. I feel shame when i am wrong sometimes 5. I feel shame when i don't perform as expectation of mine and others how to detach myself from externals to feel worthy ,as every time i face such situations i feel unworthy . How can i change this core beliefs
I'm so pleased to hear that. Thank you for sharing that with me.
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I've been working self love for a few months now. Meditation, affirmations. I fall asleep with self hypnosis. I start to feel better and then I get a trigger and right back to I'm just not worthy and deserving. I keep going in circles self sabotaging myself. I don't know how to get enough self inner help. I don't know how to help myself.
Thank you for reaching out. A great start would be my book The Recovering People Pleaser - a spiritual guide to reclaim your true worth and attract the love you deserve. Link: Go.ht/book The ENTIRE book is about “how to”. ❤
Thank you for this! At 37, I've only just realised that I've felt unworthy all my life... I could never quite put my finger on "it" , but now I have... It's only been 2months since having this realisation, but it's certainly helping me in my daily life to do what is best for me, not only for today, but for tmrw and next week, month, quarter, year etc. This will be quite the journey , likely with no real end, but I know it's 1 of the main things that have mentally held me back, seemingly my entire life..
Yay! I’m so happy for you! And there absolutely can be an end to feeling unworthy. 🫶🏽 I invite you to subscribe to my newsletter because I’m creating a brand new self-healing group program to take individuals through the work that works to break unworthiness for good. Choose a free download from the link below and you’ll be added. This program is coming very soon btw! It’s going to be amazing! Https://www.kristenbrown.org/resources
The short answer is by learning to unequivocally and unconditionally loving yourself. When true self-love is in place, the other things like vulnerability and healthy self-protection come naturally.
Thank you for posting this video. I wanted to ask - how does one practice interdependence? What is the balance of honoring my needs and those of others? Thank you in advance.
Interdependence is the bi-product of healing our self-worth. We naturally become more interdependent through our healing work. I recommend reading my book, "The Recovering People Pleaser." It's a self-healing guide where I share all the tools and techniques I practiced to help me shift from dependence to interdependence. I'd also recommend perusing my channel for topics that interest you. There's tons of wisdom and knowledge there. 🤗
??? I dont feel good enough only because OTHER people made me feel like I am not good enough. So what you are saying, doesnt fit with this my experience.
Hi Kristen, thanks so much for the vid. Here is my question. So I work a lot. In my mind I have a problem accepting and recognizing my other needs to be happy, like my hobbies outside of work. These were pushed aside because I liked them, I had to be in line with what other people wanted as I grew up because I was told "all people that go into art are poor" and "you don't have what it takes to succeed." And like the elephant that accepts his life in a circus, I accepted everything and I'm very unhappy about that. What part of the self-love aspects am I missing? I'm having trouble making something better of this situation and I feel stuck.
Programming , projected onto you as a child , from your parents/caregivers who themselves were programmed and projected on to. De-program yourself by coming out of the ego mind......any beliefs let go off (not yours), become aware of the thoughts in your mind .......memory of a trauma imposed is being replayed over and over. False self (ego), true-self (higher) bring together intergrate so both are in balance the human and the spirit.
Yes! Well stated.
1. Grace and forgiveness of self 2. Compassion and acceptance of self (instead of judgement) 3. Respect and protect yourself 4. Supportive self talk 5. Self care (tending to your own needs, interdependence)
You got it, Lynda! ❤
Pure wisdom! This was so Perfect! Even just after hearing it for the first time, I could self talk much better and I feel some relief and forgiveness already. Bless you 😇🙏🏼
I'm so happy to hear that!
Dear Kristen, thank you very much for the above video! I wish to reciprocate your insights by sharing my perspective on self-love.
Years of delving into spirituality have led me to a crucial insight; which might just explain exactly why self-love/esteem seems almost impossible to realise & demonstrate. I rather suspect that the real foundation of all self-disgust/hatred is the hard-core disbelief in & intense hostility towards the (spiritual) truth that everyone is worthy of respect simply because they exist. Existence itself alone is the basis & proof of worthiness.
Unfortunately, the vast majority of humanity (including myself) find it easy to praise a saint but extremely difficult to respect a sinner or a criminal, because most human beings believe that actions/performances are the (sole) determinant of worth. Moreover, mainstream culture in the modern world does NOT encourage judging ONLY the wrong or evil conduct at issue but not the accused/convicted person(s).
Yes, by mere existence alone we are worthy.
"people pleasers and narcissists are on the same vibration".
As a people pleaser, and someone whos wondered about my own levels of narcissism, I've often come to a "conclusion" that they are more similar / have more overlap, then i had thought.
Thank you 🙏 I needed this so much right now ❤️
I'm so glad it helped. 💖
Dear Kristen, thank you so very much for this discussion today! It made so much sense! And funnily enough, I actually knew all this, but ( lol) I apparently needed someone else to say the words!!! We are crazy beings, aren’t we? ( not serious!) Thanks again,love from Brigid, from Victoria, Australia 🙏🌹💚
As is often the case. Because our higher self and often our brain already does know. Thank you for your lovely comment. 💝
Thank you so much for this! I pretty much knew all of the key points before, but the way you out it in words really made a difference and something clicked in my mind. ❤️
@@Litlyall thats wonderful. Thank you for sharing 💗✨💗
Thank you so much, being self-doubting after just ended a relationship, felt unworthy for days, thank you for cheering me up and know that I didn't do wrong, the only thing is that I didn't respect myself enough.
You got this girl! I believe in you 1000%! 🌸
Such an informative message in layman’s terms. I am grateful you did all the hard work to find you and then take your energy to share you with us. Thank you. This message helps me in a number of different ways. ❤
That’s wonderful, thank you! 💕
You have Om mirror behind 👌
Loved your video 😍
Thank you 🫶🏽
Great video. Forgiveness is a factor. I’m enough. ❤
Thank you, Kelly 🫶🏽
So good for me.. even though I know these things I struggle doing them! Thank you!
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Thank you for this 🙏🏽
You're welcome 💓
Thankyou, may god bless you !
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thanks a lot for provide such a valuable content
1. I connect my worth how others treat me
2. I feel unworthy as i belong from poor family and i feel embarrassed for that
3. I feel unworthy as i don't have lots of friends
4. I feel shame when i am wrong sometimes
5. I feel shame when i don't perform as expectation of mine and others
how to detach myself from externals to feel worthy ,as every time i face such situations i feel unworthy .
How can i change this core beliefs
What an amazing message! Thank you it has really helped me! 😊🙏
I'm so pleased to hear that. Thank you for sharing that with me.
I've been working self love for a few months now. Meditation, affirmations. I fall asleep with self hypnosis. I start to feel better and then I get a trigger and right back to I'm just not worthy and deserving. I keep going in circles self sabotaging myself. I don't know how to get enough self inner help. I don't know how to help myself.
Thank you for reaching out. A great start would be my book The Recovering People Pleaser - a spiritual guide to reclaim your true worth and attract the love you deserve. Link: Go.ht/book
The ENTIRE book is about “how to”. ❤
@@KristenBrown thank you
Thank you so much! Super helpful video! ❤🙏🏼
I’m so pleased to hear that. 🙏🏽♥️
Nice!! I like it!
Good deal! 🙌🏽
Thank you for this! At 37, I've only just realised that I've felt unworthy all my life... I could never quite put my finger on "it" , but now I have...
It's only been 2months since having this realisation, but it's certainly helping me in my daily life to do what is best for me, not only for today, but for tmrw and next week, month, quarter, year etc.
This will be quite the journey , likely with no real end, but I know it's 1 of the main things that have mentally held me back, seemingly my entire life..
Yay! I’m so happy for you! And there absolutely can be an end to feeling unworthy. 🫶🏽
I invite you to subscribe to my newsletter because I’m creating a brand new self-healing group program to take individuals through the work that works to break unworthiness for good.
Choose a free download from the link below and you’ll be added. This program is coming very soon btw! It’s going to be amazing!
Https://www.kristenbrown.org/resources
How do I learn to be vulnerable whilst learning to protect myself. I've rejected the world and my needs - I'm not sure how to go back out there.
The short answer is by learning to unequivocally and unconditionally loving yourself. When true self-love is in place, the other things like vulnerability and healthy self-protection come naturally.
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Thank you for posting this video. I wanted to ask - how does one practice interdependence? What is the balance of honoring my needs and those of others? Thank you in advance.
Interdependence is the bi-product of healing our self-worth. We naturally become more interdependent through our healing work. I recommend reading my book, "The Recovering People Pleaser." It's a self-healing guide where I share all the tools and techniques I practiced to help me shift from dependence to interdependence. I'd also recommend perusing my channel for topics that interest you. There's tons of wisdom and knowledge there. 🤗
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??? I dont feel good enough only because OTHER people made me feel like I am not good enough. So what you are saying, doesnt fit with this my experience.
Hi Kristen, thanks so much for the vid. Here is my question. So I work a lot. In my mind I have a problem accepting and recognizing my other needs to be happy, like my hobbies outside of work. These were pushed aside because I liked them, I had to be in line with what other people wanted as I grew up because I was told "all people that go into art are poor" and "you don't have what it takes to succeed." And like the elephant that accepts his life in a circus, I accepted everything and I'm very unhappy about that. What part of the self-love aspects am I missing? I'm having trouble making something better of this situation and I feel stuck.
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