47 years of my life I have dealt with Narcissists. Since I was a child I was shown early on to take people back no matter how insidious their actions. Not to mention I AM a full out empathic clairvoyant, intuitive Lightworker. My last Narc relationship finally prompted me to start researching what I was dealing with…and yes…I too have become the Queen of swords 🗡…and I have done extreme shadow work to heal for many many years…and I have finally reached a very good level of healing. Blessings to all who have traversed this unfathomably wicked path 🙏🏼
Umm you just spoke as if you were telling my story. Only difference. 52 year's for me. I had to truly understand that boundaries are for myself and a way to show myself love. I realized I will always be this kind, empathic, forgiving and a long loyal love is who I will always be and I refuse to change that because that's their desire. To rip away everything we are. Because everything we are they wish they were like us too and because they can't they set out to destroy all that we are. So I refuse to ever be any different. They will never take that from me again. My own identity is what is important. Your relationship with yourself is what will ways be the focus. The self worth? Was my issue. As an old soul I came here unaware of my self worth. I know now too that this was suppose to happen this way for me to get to this understanding. My daughters father and my mother. Two people I should never be hurt by or even have to set boundaries with or even cut out of my life because of my empathetic ways and to continue to know my worth and have my own identity I had to stay far away from them until I was strong enough. I've learned recently, I still need boundaries. By the way are you a Scorpio too? 😀❤️
I'm sorry you've had all those lessons and years to learn your worth. Mine was only 8 years. Scarred enough. That's a perfect thing to do to learn your shadow self and love every part of yourself. Love & Light to you. 💜😇🤗
I was married to a sociopathic narcissist. When that relationship ended, I met my twin flame. There were very similar behaviours between the two guys BUT there were some very marked differences. Needless to say they both left me feeling breadcrumbed and unfulfilled. I have recently learnt about dismissive avoidant attachment and THAT describes my twin flame. Having said that, I have detached from both because I have realised that it's just not loving for myself to continue waiting for people to heal enough to wake up to my value and treat me accordingly.
I was married to a narcissist for the last twenty years before I even knew what a narcissist was. I learned after the fact. I was on all kinds of psych meds to help me cope with my marriage. I was gaslighted so much that I was unable to make a simple decision. It was when I got off the meds and started saying no is when I suffered a very painful discard by him. I’m now on my own, we have divorced and I’m on the journey to find myself and love myself.
This is exactly what I have gone through as well. My twin showed up at my darkest, lowest time to show me real love and compassion. I really wasn’t so crazy!!
@@RS-ww8jo I am 61 years old and this is by far the biggest painful experience I’ve ever had in my life!! I’m not giving up but I feel like I’m dying a slow agonizing death at times and the regret is too much to bare at times ☠️
@@Scoobydoo370 I’m sorry I know exactly how you feel. I watched tons of utube videos and prayed and learned. I’ve bern healing ❤️🩹 the past two years I thought I’d never get there. Sometimes it still hurts but know it does get better it takes learning, understanding, hurting, crying, praying and working on making you whole again and happy. Prayers and big hugs 🤗 to you. You will make it to the finish line
Ok here is another way to see the narcissist.... Generally this test works with family members or someone who has been around for a moment in life. Watch the treatment you receive if hurt physically, or emotionally, or even sick . You will find the narcissist becomes irritated or even angry by the inconvenience of your problem. & when the narcissist has anyone of those problems you best have extra pity for there issue that usually becomes 10 to a 100 times worse than problems you have experienced.
This works great! Unfortunately, I didnt realize my mother was a narcissist until late in life. If they are irritated or even angry with your injury, it is NOT up to you to "make it better". Good luck, my fellow empaths!
Yes! My Mom had a mastectomy and Dad fixed dinner, but only comfort food that he wanted and that was really bad for her at the time. Always it was "enough about you, lets get back on track now and focus on ME, the main event"
YES….. I had a TWIN FLAME LOVE 💥💪🏼😘 who was a EXTREME Narcissist, what a disappointment but a GREAT LESSON for me in SELF LOVE! I choose me over his nonsense, so GRATEFUL for the tough lesson!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻✨💖✨🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Holy cow!! My friend sent me this and I'm so thankful! 21 years of this!! I'm working on getting divorced but the bullying had gotten so bad! I've not wanted to wake up the past few days but I have so I still have a purpose! I helped so many people as a paramedic for 23 years and felt like I've always been an empath. Definitely see where I went wrong early but was committed by and being a stubborn CAPRICORN ♑️ but lunar Scorpio ♏️, apparently that detrimental loyalty is a trait of mine! 😁 I've been not only blamed for the abuse I have received from her, but for her reactions to me, my current living situation, and everything she wants to try to load me with! I dealt for 21 years and just always pushed it down and dealt with it for and from everyone in my life. I am currently working on a divorce because I was diagnosed with CPTSD from my career but was given a piece of understanding about CPTSD that relieved me of a lot of negative self-talk. From there back in October, I have been on a very intense healing path and have been feeling amazing. I've lost a total of almost 40# since last September so I also feel great physically as well! I'm very proud to say that I'm not and never have been addicted to anything thankfully despite so much shit being figuratively strapped to my shoulders. Just doing the best I can everyday to be thr best for my kids and grandkids. I' ve come too far to die from stress because someone else cant manage their feelings or take accountability for anything they have screamed at you for trying to share!Thank you for all of this information! I guess I'm not as crazy as I thought.. 😁
OF COURSE Twin Flames can be narcissists. The twin flame journey will bring out the best and worst in everyone. That is a big reason the twin flame experience exists. In order to be our best selves we have to face our worst selves. I wouldn't say my twin or myself are full on narcissists; however we have both been narcissistic at times. All so we can learn lessons and break toxic patterns and cycles.
After a while there is so much resentment towards the narcissist. I’ve spent eight years with one so I know. You are so right you actually get out of the relationship once you start feeling that you as an empath needs healing, self love and compassion towards yourself.
This really explains why some parts of the journey are spent so alone...and also the sudden "radio silence" from past people in your life. They're repelled by the healing energy you put out. Nice.
Sam Vaknin saved my self worth back in 1999. I was married to one and his whole family who I called “The Cult.” I can smell Narcissists now. I experienced Mr.Toad’s Wild Ride.
You described my abusive xhusband so well. He always wanted me to wear a white shirt no matter where we went. If I wore make-up he'd accuse me of wearing it for someone else or ask me why I was wearing it. When I stopped dying my hair blonde and cut it short he'd tell me that it made me look old. I left over 15 yrs ago. 😊
Thank you for sharing this. At my age, my story is too long to share here. The good news is I've made it to my new beginning, I still care about myself and others, and I'm no longer afraid to let others see my "shine" ... It's an exciting and challenging time for me, with lots of changes, but I'm ready (at least most of the time 😉) and willing to take my chances. I'm betting on me. Thanks again for these tips. I own them now.
As an empath who has copped my lumps plenty of times, I am now of the opinion that it's better to retain your love of people and provide any aid you can, without romantic entanglement. I find it so much better for my own sense of peace, to get out and enjoy the people around you, and then withdraw to my castle and raise the drawbridge. Pulling the plug in this way, means I pick and choose who I interact with, and where, when and how much I interact. It minimises any false sense of expectation or entitlement which is rife in the 3D, and on the rare occasion that you meet someone who is "woke", it's like the sense of pleasure that one gets pulling into a green and pleasant oasis after a lengthy desert passage. You know that you will leave again in a day or two and they will wave to you as you do, secure in the knowledge that they have their own journey to complete.
Thank you MJ! Such an important video & the timing was perfect as March is such a powerful month for change, growth & looking ahead confidently. Here are some observations that have clued me in to narcassist behaviour: What characteristics do they admire in others? What is their relationship with their parents like? Ask them what they learnt from their previous relationships? Ask them how their previous relationships ended & why? How do they handle conflict with others? What is their behaviour when they are stressed? Are there any signs of OCD? If you decide to change anything about your appearance, get a cosmetic procedure or decide to change your look without letting them know ahead of time, how do they react? Ask them to sit & meditate with you for a few minutes? See their reaction.
Married almost 14 years to one. We are now separated 2 years cause I couldn't take it anymore. He controlled everything! I couldn't hang out with certain people. Still to this day if I say no to any of his plans he gets mad and gives me so much crap. He put me down constantly and he definitely throws things I've told him about my past in my face. Very informative, thank u!!
Great information MJ! The test questions for a narcissist are perfect. I thought a guy was my soulmate, and was hoping he was, but after I recognized that he was a narcissist, it was all over. Controlling, possessive, making mean comments, not happy for my successes and trying to knock me down, no empathy for other people. Thought he and his wife (she passed away 2yrs ago) had a perfect life, but now I feel sorry for her.
I’m sure my recent last ex was a narcissist period. I’ve studied this a lot to avoid it. He rushed in like what you said.?His wife had ghost him & he was divorcing her mind you. After we had been together for over 2 years. He couldn’t be affectionate physically as far as hand holding or arm around me etc. couldn’t open up to me fully . Constantly talked about his ex. 1 time I was balling my eyes out over the lack of love/care etc, I told him I was leaving all he said was what are you leaving here? That was my lightbulb moment period I moved while he was at work to avoid the emotional manipulation. It’s taken a year to heal from that I figured it all out. What I was being told from him was not what I actually was seeing. After I stayed to help him w prostate cancer surgery recovery. He rewarded me w stabbing me in the back in many ways. So glad I got out. I’m an empress empath. I know my worth I love myself more than I ever have 💖 Thanks Mary Jo
Watching this an hour late time is 1.11pm and yes I thought the narcissist in my life was my twin flame. Took 5 years of my life. Made me question my reality ( gaslighting) now I can smell one a mile away. Thank you MJ
Tell them something extremely personal that no longer bothers you….wait….they will begin shoving it down your throat every chance they get…..They accuse you of doing all the things that they actually do. If you aren’t doing them…. Know this --they are. Cheating is the #1 thing that they will start accusing you of….
Very very helpful MJ! Thank you so much! I once dated a man who would not say “why” he loved me or “what” he loved about me. It flustered him and he totally shut down stating he does not do “feelings”. I could name so many things and reasons why and what I loved about him, but he could not come up with one single thing about me! That made me go…hmmmm “who is this person?” He would not let me in that way and always got upset when I asked him to share his feelings…about anything!
Hi MJ, unfortunately most of my life, I have been attracting narcissists, platonic and romantic. As of recent and thanks to you and some of your colleagues, I see through them, family, friends and new people showing up in my life… not necessarily “diagnosed narcissists” rather lured in (by invitation) so I can fix them, or help them see …today, they are dropped in a blink! their games are too draining and worth my time for only a couple sessions, which is really an opportunity to learn and be entertained. Family acting narcissistically, this one is much harder to handle! They preach no one should dare to mistreat you … yet “in the name of love”, they walk all over you!as an empath, setting boundaries has been the hardest lesson of all to learn and practice. I too have been wondering about my life path, in fact as a beginner I purchased your self paced class ‘ understanding your birth chart” (it was a few months back and I don’t find the link anymore , would greatly appreciate it if you advise on how to find it). I like to learn about my houses, Chiron and my wounds. I feel like, my life has been all toxic productivity, and having a moon in Pisces, getting lost into dream world - I am counting on this new moon to consciously focus on the 3D happiness.🤞 On a separate note, I have great admiration for you and others like you who have beautifully stepped into their power by embracing the unknown and even changing careers later in life to be truly happy, it takes a lot of courage! Yet, it would be the only way to share your time and gifts, but effortlessly and joyfully. Thanks for all you do for us 🌹😘
Most of my life as an adult woman , an October 31st Scorpio, I have had to leave relationships because I knew they were narcissists. They wanted to control me and when they couldn’t, they would say I was “too independent “ or I was “ ungrateful “.
During our last blow-out arguement, my ex-husband said that I was "too close" to my family. I looked him dead in the eye and said, softly, "I'm Italian. What did you expect?" At that moment, he realized my safety net (my dad and sister, primarily) wasn't going away. I could see it instantly: he was no longer interested, I was too much work. He needed to find a new "victim". The divorce was a breeze and so liberating.
Love you MJ Trying to figure out more of my life now at 59. Things changed. My mom n brother are in a ALF my younger brother died 2 days after Thanksgiving I miss my friend of 9 years who recently had a head injury. Thanks for the wisdom of this read the music n logo a fantastic intro..
This information hit dead on for me and past relationships I’ve been in. Wow!! Thanks for sharing your knowledge about narcissistic people/behaviors💕. I’m truly grateful for your advice 💫🦋
The comments below have been both heartbreaking and inspiring. How wonderful you all are to have gone through such utter horrors and still find yourself and come to this channel with love. People can be wonderful and you all prove that. Be strong, know your worth and smile at the universe. All I can do to survive is to forgive. I move on without fear, in love, kindness but with radar on full alert! Don’t let them stop you finding the Joy And the power of NO and meaning it is magnificent!! You are so lovely, thanks so much sweetie. You really are a keeper xx
Sag Sun, Gemini Moon and Rising... 😂 I swear I ask that "What would you change about yourself?" on dating sites ALL the time... Cuts the process down TREMENDOUSLY🙌🏾💖🙌🏾
I knew these people who were in my life were narcs but there's so much here you've talked about that I didn't know showed they were. Such as picking your clothes out. Mary Jo, this is the kind of post that will save lives. He almost killed me. I was with him 11 years. If I had known then what I know now, if I had someone teach me what you've said today back then, I wouldn't have almost died - I would have lived without coming so close to death. Someone somewhere is going to see this video and it is going to save their life and then they will impact that knowledge to others and they will then save lives too. The ripple in the pond has begun. So mote it be. Blessings to you.
Thank you Mary Jo!! Very helpful!! Too bad I didn’t have these pieces of gold when I met my ex-husband! He was diagnosed by 2 therapists- not just on the spectrum - narcissistic psychopath! Ya! According to him there’s nothing wrong with him, but I need therapy! Damn right- after putting up with you! Divorced after 27 yrs… I’m so much better!! Love and light to you!! Thank you for making this channel! 💗💗💗
One of the things I've noticed with narcissists is that they cannot stand to not be put first in your life and have first dibs on your time. I'm a solo parent so I have responsibilities that I will not put off or expect someone else to fulfill for me and it'll show me the narcissists quickly. If they have a temper tantrum because I choose to stay home with a sick child rather than bend to what they want me to do, they get put in the narcissist category and removed from my life.
I've been married to my wife for over twenty years and I always thought that it was love but it was narcissistic behavior. I made my mistakes in infidelity and she never let's me forget about my mistakes making me feel like I'm a horrible person for my poor choices in my past. I want to leave but I don't want to disappoint my children more than anyone else and want the best for everyone so we can move forward in peace.
I asked my twin flame what he considered a healthy relationship and he said he didn't know because he'd never seen one. So I asked what it would look like for him. He said PEACEFUL. I watched his behaviour over time and noticed that he's very much a people pleaser and he avoids conflict at all cost. He downplays his own achievements and status in life so as not to attract attention to himself.
My twin flame, or do I think of him displays these behaviors too. Did you think he was your twin flame? Or did you realize it to be something else? Trying to clarify my situation here… 😞
Being part of the LGBTQ community, it was amazing to hear the patterns you spoke of and I’ve experienced. Was a definite confirmation for a few of people I’ve known. Thank you MJ for this video. Sincerely T.
I'm a new subscriber and could have used you years ago! :) Wow, the office I worked in had narcissists! When you said to say 'No', my thoughts went to the time I told a narcissist co-worker 'No' when she said she wanted to talk to me in a stern, mean tone. I was still trying to calm my nerves from her being angry at me for purchasing $5 in plasticware for the kitchen. She didn't like me saying 'No' and grabbed my arms and yelled "I WANT TO TALK TO YOU!" Thankfully, I was able to pull my arms away from her grasp after I loudly told her to let go of me and don't touch me. She lied to HR about this happening and got away with it. Thank you for your videos. I look forward to watching many more!
Gosh. The “twin” displayed these tendencies this weekend. They have been in my life for 17 years, and to be honest, I’ve watched the personality disorder get worse over time and/or have only recently been made aware to the fact it was happening. Since we were never really romantic and trying to have a friendship, those traits weren’t as apparent. The past year I have been having more romantic feelings and decided to share those feelings. The tendency to find something to get angry about occurred, followed by an explosion (this is the 4th or 5th time now so picking up on it quickly!) followed by being talked down to, followed by the silent treatment I am currently experiencing now. It’s very sad and this is very hard. But your work is helping me understand it so much. So thank you. You are a blessing🙏🏻👼🏼
I was married to a COVERT narcissist. Even harder to detect. His mother is also one. Sadly I didn't even know it until 12 years in when I had my spiritual awakening. Oh the red flags in hinds sight!!! His mother is also one. Nicest people ever on the outside. Slowly beat me down over YEARS and no one even believed me about who he actually was, not even my family. Covert narcissist hide it so well. 😪
It is possible that some people are dealing with a twin flame or karmic who represents as a Narcissistic person (which according to the experts this personality is developed or created in early child hood) and really this person could be born in a specific set of planetary placements in their birth chart which displays personality similarities to that of a narcissistic person. Like my ex. He seemed like a narcissist through and through. But in fact it was just his planet placements in his birth chart. He has a fierce attention to details. He seems to be a bit obsessed with finding his opponent's emotional weaknesses, by using friendly (or not so friendly) banter and paying attention to their facial expressions and body language. Once he cracks the code of what changes their moods or triggers them, he uses it to manipulate them and win. He told me early on that he tries to get into his opponent's head. I thought this tactic was a bit like cheating and deceitful. I had always thought people were in touch with their emotions (like me), he had always believed that everyone can do what he does. So, he doesn't think he's cheating at all. He believes this to be fair. He doesn't mind people to find him deceitful because it keeps him a bit mysterious and he finds this advantageous. Based on his planet placements in his birth chart, he is comfortable in the uncomfortable.
So crazy everything resonates. I believe my ex to be a narcissist/socio path. He was also very strategic he took the things I mentioned while we where together for 6 years and literally did whatever he could to hurt me when we broke up. Even down to trying to destroy my relationships with loved ones🥴
There were so many red flags when I look back. He had a stare.. off but apparently common He didn't talk about how important his family kids were to him He drove the conversation and when I recall I assumed a lot and he said very little He set up where we met. He was cold once he got what he wanted... He talked about his money ha ha What I found out later he moved a lot He tried to get me into a competition with an ex He headed a charity which is one of the most common narc traits. He said some rude body comments to me. He had a doctor/jeckel persona. He flipped into a not nice person. He said things twice first I thought was Alzheimer's but apparently another trait as they can not keep up with their lies. He tried to mess with my brain. Make a date then cancel. He was a charming asshole He studied me. I thought he was shy. I gave him my email and now receiving third party disturbing junk. I believe it's from his searches. God saved me. I knew something wasn't right. I have my own home and stuff I don't need a codependent /toxic person. Does the person make you joyful? No joy there.
Mj my experience is similar to Lori. 30 yr marriage. had no idea what a narcissist was. I was on many anti-depressants, anti-anxiety meds just trying to cope with the stress, lack of understanding, everything made out to be my problem. In fact I made up problems just to be angry?? Never any resolution with our issues. Complete dismissal of my thoughts. I had lost myself. No self-esteem. I realized that his self-esteem was lower than mine and he had to bring me down to his level to feel better. I remember asking myself what was I going to do the next 30 yrs of my life when I got a random message from an ex-boyfriend from 30 yrs ago, who has now turned out to be my twin. He never stopped thinking about me in all of the time apart. Our connection has never left. The love and compassion for each other has grown and we support each other completely. Tremendous feeling. The mirror exists between us in many ways. He has also been in a narcisissitic marriage and is learning self-love after many years of being gaslighted. i know we have come together as each others teachers. We are both separated now and looking to physically come together soon . We are long distance and have taken the past 3 yrs to clear our paths. Thank you for all that you do. I want to send you our birth charts but he doesn't know his time of birth.. grr lol
Laurie….. HANG IN THERE! I was married to a extreme narcissist and because I wanted a divorce he dragged on our divorce for 8 yrs!!! You are STRONGER than you know!!! Work on you, SELF LOVE will get you thru!!! You got this!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻✨💪🏼💪🏼✨💖✨🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Oh my gosh, he said backhanded, mean words to me daily. Just like you said .... "you'd be so much prettier if you lost 10 pounds." Or, the best, most random one was, "in this light you're actually pretty, and I'm attracted to you now." Needless to say, I'm 4 months out and still remembering and climbing out of all the shame...mostly for having stayed with him too long.
My Narc was the devil 👿 himself 😔to embarrass to even speak abt it 🥺hes not even worth bring him up I’ll probably replay my whole life again na am good 😊
It's been probably three years since I met a very nice person and it turned out to be a Narassist.I had to be the Queen of Swords, and fight him off. Thank god i was not married to one. Even now he is suppose to leave me alone, his energy is still around me. My Twin Flame, went through the same thing with a Narq. He is just coming out of the relationsip. He stole his House and money.They are very divious people. Thank you MJ for informing us about the nasty things they do, especially if you don't like them.
I definitely agree with the whole ‘say no’ test. In a similar vain, A great test is setting any kind of boundary and seeing how a person responds . Are they capable of respecting a boundary in a responsible way? (ie not being destructive, or self destructive). This also exposes empathy/lack thereof and also general maturity… The first test I don’t really resonate with because I think context matters. Like, i personally am not going to go all into my flaws/vulnerabilities on having just met someone. It's like Brene Brown says, people have to show you they are worthy of your vulnerability, you don't just go splashing it around to anyone. So based on this, you (mj) might classify *me* as an N. Butttt - I think essentially you’re testing to see if they have self awareness yes? AWARENESS of their own 'areas for improvement' and also ability to self reflect**! Which from my understanding N’s can uh… grossly lack :(
My Dad was a hard core narcissist. I was 14 and had made some friends who had more healthy situations at home, when I started to realize how abusive and messed up ours was. I don't have good radar for narcissists because it seems too normal? I instead have profound attachment problems and commitment phobia. Mental and emotional blocks. Been trying to heal but it's a big job
Thank you!!! Exactly how to spot them👌 I've been feeling and acting like a Queen of swords for the last 3 months... I'm sooo happy and relieved I finally 'got it'!! 💎 And being more careful in the future.. I've been surrounded with them from my early childhood. Finally realizing the bigger picture/lesson. They are soo egoistical, no empathy.. It can look like they are empathetic on the surface, but after time and experience u realize they were just acting it out to use and manipulate u for their own benefit/looking them good/taking care of them when they need u... Exactly as you have said it. Thanks again, this video is such a good reminder 👏👏 I'm sure I'll listen to it again and I will definitelly share it with my closest friends 💎
Thinking over the last couple or three years that you’ve become at least a little familiar with my story to the point that it would be not only a bit redundant but feels like crossing into “whining” at this juncture. I don’t even wanna hear it myself🤠 Rather pointless unless someone I cross paths with asks(they would probably rue the day if they did🤣). Not that I’m ungrateful for all the help you have been in my journey. You’re a tremendous help to me and rest assured that I’m feeling certain that there are many others that have experienced metamorphosis seasoned with the guidance channeling through you😊 Thank you for sharing your gifts, Ma Chérie♐️/⛎ 🔥☯️🔥
This is awesome…. Thank you!!! Saves a lot of time !! Last guy I dated ( last summer) only lasted a couple of months because I paid attention. It’s all about learning. Been single since (worked on self) and it’s great.
Can you explore children of generational narcissism and how that is more of an imprint than a personality trait? I feel this describes the journey my husband and I have been on, but we both try and grow and change and we support each other in that process. But we also both come from at least two generations of narcissists that comes out in our own relationship.
I was with a guy for 27 years and he was a total narcissist. He would compliment me when he was looking for something and the minute he didn't get it, he would say nasty things like you are crazy, nuts, you need medication. And things like you got too much weight on, you need a haircut, I dont like that etc. The lists could go on. I have learned alot the last few years about personalities. Thank you for the information. ❤
I love the insight and very important to talk about this. I'm going to be honest, if someone asks me that question i would say i wish i was less nice to others and put myself first. Is that victim mentally? Or i would say nothing everything had to go that way to learn my lessons.
Thank you, MJ!! You're wonderful for illustrating this for all of us!! And yes, unfortunately I've had the misfortune of dealing with a karmic who is shall we say both a narcissist and a sociopathic chameleon. Working at extricating myself now, just been so heavy dealing with the fallout of other things which are basically spiritual warfare in the meantime... I guess it would be kinda like narcissists willfully gaslight to tear down whereas if a Twin flame exposes a vulnerability or weakness, the purpose is to let you face it and build you up or at least just let you sit with it?
Well I’m not gonna tell MY story and I’m so glad to see this video and my only concern is the “enemy” or the narcissist will also benefit from it 😩…… I’m only half way through though…
MJ I have loved reading the comments Best fun I've had with homework in a while I think another fun experiment would be after we have said our peace on first view let it sit for a day or week then go back and see how it feels as a collective and so many more thoughts like birth placement in family dynamics oldest child baby of the family or what affected your upbringing and how that affected our adulting myself having been through recent tough experiences and really beginning to question possibly for the first time in my life has my curiosity peaking on this subject and I love this and all parts of your channel your child like curiosity is amazing
Tell someone using the TF narrative on you that you are aware & certain you are NOT a TF & gauge their rxn. Once they see this idea has no power over you, they should lose interest pretty quickly...problem solved!😁💪👊🙌
My ex was diagnosed by 2 therapist we spoke to as a person with split personality and i believe one of the personalities is a covert narcissist. I seemed to be triggering the narcissist in him a lot coz i would always tell it as it is and i had a strong personality until he made it his mission to destroy that by playing me into state of sever depression. My question is is there a hope with a person with split narcissistic personality? I always had high hope for his kind side.
I was in a narcissistic relationship with a man who ruined my life for 5 years,, drained me and completely discarded me when i stepped up, gained my power back,, but i wont lie but he has emotionally damaged and ruined me mentally, physically and emotiinally,, i kept pushing forward despite the pain.. and he simply moved on with another cause i dared to call him a narcissist and showed him the mirror by telling him hes a liar and a cheat,, and had him figured out which they cant tolerate..! he in return really ghosted/ blocked and tortured me… but i kept fighting back despite him Coming back to only drain me more and leave me empty.. i always wonder ,, do they ever change with another woman? He was realy sorry for al he did to me but kept lying about it all and his behavior was still same and he was still involved with another and making same Shitty excuses and was again lying as to how his life is so busy and peaceful ,, while he knows vwell he has fucked mine… i am a huge empath,, vloving but i have become so cold, bitter and fearful…he took my smile And laughter away,,, and left me totaly empty..show them you have them figured out and you will be shown their real true side … cold, heartless and indifference to a level you havent seen before
Twin flames are narcissists with their on and off, and I stopped watching the Tarot because it justifies these disturbing behaviours and romanticizes them. Nobody is allowed to treat you like garbage. and no one is worth waiting for years! life is too short to devote for sick-minded people.
Im a Cappy married at 18 a Taurus he was 21 for 37 years wedded ornery bliss two of the most stubborn hard headed devoted kids you would ever know after the first 7 or 8honeymoon years I began noticing things I did that drove him crazy most of it I learned from just watching his reaction to different approaches like the way he loved it when I would really have a heated debate and if he could out debate me it just tickled him to no end but it f I just said ok you have your opinion and I'll have my opinion or the agree to disagree even a covert narcissist can not accept that they must prove there point and the refusing to listen to your point I would say if your not going to listen to my point I refuse to listen to your point the no I won't listen is critical can you picture 2 adults and me saying lalalala talking over him the way he would try to talk over me then realizing how that definetly pushes buttons lol you are so on point it's the covert that takes time and experience to see the bonus was priceless on video as you my darling MJ
47 years of my life I have dealt with Narcissists. Since I was a child I was shown early on to take people back no matter how insidious their actions. Not to mention I AM a full out empathic clairvoyant, intuitive Lightworker. My last Narc relationship finally prompted me to start researching what I was dealing with…and yes…I too have become the Queen of swords 🗡…and I have done extreme shadow work to heal for many many years…and I have finally reached a very good level of healing. Blessings to all who have traversed this unfathomably wicked path 🙏🏼
Relate entirely - human magnet syndrome is interesting to investigate ... let's leave those in the past :)
Umm you just spoke as if you were telling my story. Only difference. 52 year's for me. I had to truly understand that boundaries are for myself and a way to show myself love. I realized I will always be this kind, empathic, forgiving and a long loyal love is who I will always be and I refuse to change that because that's their desire. To rip away everything we are. Because everything we are they wish they were like us too and because they can't they set out to destroy all that we are. So I refuse to ever be any different. They will never take that from me again. My own identity is what is important. Your relationship with yourself is what will ways be the focus. The self worth? Was my issue. As an old soul I came here unaware of my self worth. I know now too that this was suppose to happen this way for me to get to this understanding. My daughters father and my mother. Two people I should never be hurt by or even have to set boundaries with or even cut out of my life because of my empathetic ways and to continue to know my worth and have my own identity I had to stay far away from them until I was strong enough. I've learned recently, I still need boundaries.
By the way are you a Scorpio too? 😀❤️
The Queen of Swords,beautiful 💕
I'm sorry you've had all those lessons and years to learn your worth. Mine was only 8 years. Scarred enough. That's a perfect thing to do to learn your shadow self and love every part of yourself. Love & Light to you. 💜😇🤗
@@TracyevolutionofselfMoore Thank you for your lovely compassion ❤️💎🌹 Blessed be 🙏🏼
I was married to a sociopathic narcissist. When that relationship ended, I met my twin flame. There were very similar behaviours between the two guys BUT there were some very marked differences. Needless to say they both left me feeling breadcrumbed and unfulfilled. I have recently learnt about dismissive avoidant attachment and THAT describes my twin flame. Having said that, I have detached from both because I have realised that it's just not loving for myself to continue waiting for people to heal enough to wake up to my value and treat me accordingly.
I was married to a narcissist for the last twenty years before I even knew what a narcissist was. I learned after the fact. I was on all kinds of psych meds to help me cope with my marriage. I was gaslighted so much that I was unable to make a simple decision. It was when I got off the meds and started saying no is when I suffered a very painful discard by him. I’m now on my own, we have divorced and I’m on the journey to find myself and love myself.
This is exactly what I have gone through as well. My twin showed up at my darkest, lowest time to show me real love and compassion. I really wasn’t so crazy!!
Me too after 33 years and healing ❤️🩹 2 years. Keep going never give up
@@RS-ww8jo I am 61 years old and this is by far the biggest painful experience I’ve ever had in my life!! I’m not giving up but I feel like I’m dying a slow agonizing death at times and the regret is too much to bare at times ☠️
@@Scoobydoo370 I’m sorry I know exactly how you feel. I watched tons of utube videos and prayed and learned. I’ve bern healing ❤️🩹 the past two years I thought I’d never get there. Sometimes it still hurts but know it does get better it takes learning, understanding, hurting, crying, praying and working on making you whole again and happy. Prayers and big hugs 🤗 to you. You will make it to the finish line
Ok here is another way to see the narcissist.... Generally this test works with family members or someone who has been around for a moment in life. Watch the treatment you receive if hurt physically, or emotionally, or even sick . You will find the narcissist becomes irritated or even angry by the inconvenience of your problem. & when the narcissist has anyone of those problems you best have extra pity for there issue that usually becomes 10 to a 100 times worse than problems you have experienced.
This works great! Unfortunately, I didnt realize my mother was a narcissist until late in life. If they are irritated or even angry with your injury, it is NOT up to you to "make it better". Good luck, my fellow empaths!
Good one….thank you!
Exactly!
Yes! My Mom had a mastectomy and Dad fixed dinner, but only comfort food that he wanted and that was really bad for her at the time.
Always it was "enough about you, lets get back on track now and focus on ME, the main event"
YES….. I had a TWIN FLAME LOVE 💥💪🏼😘 who was a EXTREME Narcissist, what a disappointment but a GREAT LESSON for me in SELF LOVE!
I choose me over his nonsense, so GRATEFUL for the tough lesson!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻✨💖✨🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Sounds like I wrote this same post. I never thought he was faking it to seem he was my TF. That's wild
Sounds like me exactly and what I went through
Same
Didn't MJ say that a true twin flame can NOT be a narcissist?
@@deannaspringer5340 going to watch now
Holy cow!! My friend sent me this and I'm so thankful! 21 years of this!! I'm working on getting divorced but the bullying had gotten so bad! I've not wanted to wake up the past few days but I have so I still have a purpose! I helped so many people as a paramedic for 23 years and felt like I've always been an empath. Definitely see where I went wrong early but was committed by and being a stubborn CAPRICORN ♑️ but lunar Scorpio ♏️, apparently that detrimental loyalty is a trait of mine! 😁 I've been not only blamed for the abuse I have received from her, but for her reactions to me, my current living situation, and everything she wants to try to load me with! I dealt for 21 years and just always pushed it down and dealt with it for and from everyone in my life. I am currently working on a divorce because I was diagnosed with CPTSD from my career but was given a piece of understanding about CPTSD that relieved me of a lot of negative self-talk. From there back in October, I have been on a very intense healing path and have been feeling amazing. I've lost a total of almost 40# since last September so I also feel great physically as well! I'm very proud to say that I'm not and never have been addicted to anything thankfully despite so much shit being figuratively strapped to my shoulders. Just doing the best I can everyday to be thr best for my kids and grandkids. I' ve come too far to die from stress because someone else cant manage their feelings or take accountability for anything they have screamed at you for trying to share!Thank you for all of this information! I guess I'm not as crazy as I thought.. 😁
OF COURSE Twin Flames can be narcissists. The twin flame journey will bring out the best and worst in everyone. That is a big reason the twin flame experience exists. In order to be our best selves we have to face our worst selves. I wouldn't say my twin or myself are full on narcissists; however we have both been narcissistic at times. All so we can learn lessons and break toxic patterns and cycles.
After a while there is so much resentment towards the narcissist. I’ve spent eight years with one so I know. You are so right you actually get out of the relationship once you start feeling that you as an empath needs healing, self love and compassion towards yourself.
This really explains why some parts of the journey are spent so alone...and also the sudden "radio silence" from past people in your life. They're repelled by the healing energy you put out. Nice.
Twins/empaths will stay with narcissistic partners trying to heal them, the path then teaches them to love themselves ❤❤❤
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Sam Vaknin saved my self worth back in 1999. I was married to one and his whole family who I called “The Cult.” I can smell Narcissists now. I experienced Mr.Toad’s Wild Ride.
You described my abusive xhusband so well. He always wanted me to wear a white shirt no matter where we went. If I wore make-up he'd accuse me of wearing it for someone else or ask me why I was wearing it. When I stopped dying my hair blonde and cut it short he'd tell me that it made me look old. I left over 15 yrs ago. 😊
Thank you for sharing this. At my age, my story is too long to share here. The good news is I've made it to my new beginning, I still care about myself and others, and I'm no longer afraid to let others see my "shine" ...
It's an exciting and challenging time for me, with lots of changes, but I'm ready (at least most of the time 😉) and willing to take my chances. I'm betting on me. Thanks again for these tips. I own them now.
As an empath who has copped my lumps plenty of times, I am now of the opinion that it's better to retain your love of people and provide any aid you can, without romantic entanglement. I find it so much better for my own sense of peace, to get out and enjoy the people around you, and then withdraw to my castle and raise the drawbridge. Pulling the plug in this way, means I pick and choose who I interact with, and where, when and how much I interact. It minimises any false sense of expectation or entitlement which is rife in the 3D, and on the rare occasion that you meet someone who is "woke", it's like the sense of pleasure that one gets pulling into a green and pleasant oasis after a lengthy desert passage. You know that you will leave again in a day or two and they will wave to you as you do, secure in the knowledge that they have their own journey to complete.
Thank you MJ! Such an important video & the timing was perfect as March is such a powerful month for change, growth & looking ahead confidently. Here are some observations that have clued me in to narcassist behaviour: What characteristics do they admire in others? What is their relationship with their parents like? Ask them what they learnt from their previous relationships? Ask them how their previous relationships ended & why? How do they handle conflict with others? What is their behaviour when they are stressed? Are there any signs of OCD? If you decide to change anything about your appearance, get a cosmetic procedure or decide to change your look without letting them know ahead of time, how do they react? Ask them to sit & meditate with you for a few minutes? See their reaction.
Married almost 14 years to one. We are now separated 2 years cause I couldn't take it anymore. He controlled everything! I couldn't hang out with certain people. Still to this day if I say no to any of his plans he gets mad and gives me so much crap. He put me down constantly and he definitely throws things I've told him about my past in my face. Very informative, thank u!!
Great information MJ! The test questions for a narcissist are perfect. I thought a guy was my soulmate, and was hoping he was, but after I recognized that he was a narcissist, it was all over. Controlling, possessive, making mean comments, not happy for my successes and trying to knock me down, no empathy for other people. Thought he and his wife (she passed away 2yrs ago) had a perfect life, but now I feel sorry for her.
I’m sure my recent last ex was a narcissist period. I’ve studied this a lot to avoid it. He rushed in like what you said.?His wife had ghost him & he was divorcing her mind you.
After we had been together for over 2 years. He couldn’t be affectionate physically as far as hand holding or arm around me etc. couldn’t open up to me fully . Constantly talked about his ex. 1 time I was balling my eyes out over the lack of love/care etc, I told him I was leaving all he said was what are you leaving here?
That was my lightbulb moment period I moved while he was at work to avoid the emotional manipulation.
It’s taken a year to heal from that I figured it all out. What I was being told from him was not what I actually was seeing. After I stayed to help him w prostate cancer surgery recovery. He rewarded me w stabbing me in the back in many ways. So glad I got out. I’m an empress empath. I know my worth I love myself more than I ever have 💖
Thanks Mary Jo
Watching this an hour late time is 1.11pm and yes I thought the narcissist in my life was my twin flame. Took 5 years of my life. Made me question my reality ( gaslighting) now I can smell one a mile away. Thank you MJ
Tell them something extremely personal that no longer bothers you….wait….they will begin shoving it down your throat every chance they get…..They accuse you of doing all the things that they actually do. If you aren’t doing them…. Know this --they are. Cheating is the #1 thing that they will start accusing you of….
Very very helpful MJ!
Thank you so much! I once dated a man who would not say “why” he loved me or “what” he loved about me. It flustered him and he totally shut down stating he does not do “feelings”. I could name so many things and reasons why and what I loved about him, but he could not come up with one single thing about me! That made me go…hmmmm “who is this person?” He would not let me in that way and always got upset when I asked him to share his feelings…about anything!
Telling them no like you said, or setting boundaries usually does the trick they will freak out and cannot handle it.
Haha they just cannot handle it. Don't know why this made me laugh but yes sadly it's so true. Bizarre...
Hi MJ, unfortunately most of my life, I have been attracting narcissists, platonic and romantic. As of recent and thanks to you and some of your colleagues, I see through them, family, friends and new people showing up in my life… not necessarily “diagnosed narcissists” rather lured in (by invitation) so I can fix them, or help them see …today, they are dropped in a blink! their games are too draining and worth my time for only a couple sessions, which is really an opportunity to learn and be entertained. Family acting narcissistically, this one is much harder to handle! They preach no one should dare to mistreat you … yet “in the name of love”, they walk all over you!as an empath, setting boundaries has been the hardest lesson of all to learn and practice. I too have been wondering about my life path, in fact as a beginner I purchased your self paced class ‘ understanding your birth chart” (it was a few months back and I don’t find the link anymore , would greatly appreciate it if you advise on how to find it). I like to learn about my houses, Chiron and my wounds. I feel like, my life has been all toxic productivity, and having a moon in Pisces, getting lost into dream world - I am counting on this new moon to consciously focus on the 3D happiness.🤞
On a separate note, I have great admiration for you and others like you who have beautifully stepped into their power by embracing the unknown and even changing careers later in life to be truly happy, it takes a lot of courage! Yet, it would be the only way to share your time and gifts, but effortlessly and joyfully. Thanks for all you do for us 🌹😘
Most of my life as an adult woman , an October 31st Scorpio, I have had to leave relationships because I knew they were narcissists.
They wanted to control me and when they couldn’t, they would say I was “too independent “ or I was “ ungrateful “.
Yep, got the same thing, I was ungrateful and too independent
During our last blow-out arguement, my ex-husband said that I was "too close" to my family. I looked him dead in the eye and said, softly, "I'm Italian. What did you expect?"
At that moment, he realized my safety net (my dad and sister, primarily) wasn't going away. I could see it instantly: he was no longer interested, I was too much work. He needed to find a new "victim". The divorce was a breeze and so liberating.
Glad to hear you RAN!
Love you MJ
Trying to figure out more of my life now at 59. Things changed. My mom n brother are in a ALF my younger brother died 2 days after Thanksgiving I miss my friend of 9 years who recently had a head injury. Thanks for the wisdom of this read
the music n logo a fantastic intro..
This information hit dead on for me and past relationships I’ve been in. Wow!! Thanks for sharing your knowledge about narcissistic people/behaviors💕. I’m truly grateful for your advice 💫🦋
The comments below have been both heartbreaking and inspiring.
How wonderful you all are to have gone through such utter horrors and still find yourself and come to this channel with love. People can be wonderful and you all prove that. Be strong, know your worth and smile at the universe.
All I can do to survive is to forgive.
I move on without fear, in love, kindness but with radar on full alert!
Don’t let them stop you finding the Joy
And the power of NO and meaning it is magnificent!!
You are so lovely, thanks so much sweetie. You really are a keeper xx
Sag Sun, Gemini Moon and Rising... 😂 I swear I ask that "What would you change about yourself?" on dating sites ALL the time... Cuts the process down TREMENDOUSLY🙌🏾💖🙌🏾
I knew these people who were in my life were narcs but there's so much here you've talked about that I didn't know showed they were. Such as picking your clothes out. Mary Jo, this is the kind of post that will save lives. He almost killed me. I was with him 11 years. If I had known then what I know now, if I had someone teach me what you've said today back then, I wouldn't have almost died - I would have lived without coming so close to death. Someone somewhere is going to see this video and it is going to save their life and then they will impact that knowledge to others and they will then save lives too. The ripple in the pond has begun. So mote it be. Blessings to you.
Thank you Mary Jo!! Very helpful!! Too bad I didn’t have these pieces of gold when I met my ex-husband! He was diagnosed by 2 therapists- not just on the spectrum - narcissistic psychopath! Ya! According to him there’s nothing wrong with him, but I need therapy! Damn right- after putting up with you! Divorced after 27 yrs… I’m so much better!! Love and light to you!! Thank you for making this channel! 💗💗💗
One of the things I've noticed with narcissists is that they cannot stand to not be put first in your life and have first dibs on your time. I'm a solo parent so I have responsibilities that I will not put off or expect someone else to fulfill for me and it'll show me the narcissists quickly. If they have a temper tantrum because I choose to stay home with a sick child rather than bend to what they want me to do, they get put in the narcissist category and removed from my life.
I've been married to my wife for over twenty years and I always thought that it was love but it was narcissistic behavior. I made my mistakes in infidelity and she never let's me forget about my mistakes making me feel like I'm a horrible person for my poor choices in my past. I want to leave but I don't want to disappoint my children more than anyone else and want the best for everyone so we can move forward in peace.
Recovery takes time
LIFETIMES
I'm pretty sure my husband is one. I'm just learning what this is. 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤
I asked my twin flame what he considered a healthy relationship and he said he didn't know because he'd never seen one. So I asked what it would look like for him. He said PEACEFUL. I watched his behaviour over time and noticed that he's very much a people pleaser and he avoids conflict at all cost. He downplays his own achievements and status in life so as not to attract attention to himself.
My twin flame, or do I think of him displays these behaviors too. Did you think he was your twin flame? Or did you realize it to be something else? Trying to clarify my situation here… 😞
@@elevate23 I know he is
Being part of the LGBTQ community, it was amazing to hear the patterns you spoke of and I’ve experienced. Was a definite confirmation for a few of people I’ve known. Thank you MJ for this video. Sincerely T.
I'm a new subscriber and could have used you years ago! :) Wow, the office I worked in had narcissists! When you said to say 'No', my thoughts went to the time I told a narcissist co-worker 'No' when she said she wanted to talk to me in a stern, mean tone. I was still trying to calm my nerves from her being angry at me for purchasing $5 in plasticware for the kitchen. She didn't like me saying 'No' and grabbed my arms and yelled "I WANT TO TALK TO YOU!" Thankfully, I was able to pull my arms away from her grasp after I loudly told her to let go of me and don't touch me. She lied to HR about this happening and got away with it. Thank you for your videos. I look forward to watching many more!
Gosh. The “twin” displayed these tendencies this weekend. They have been in my life for 17 years, and to be honest, I’ve watched the personality disorder get worse over time and/or have only recently been made aware to the fact it was happening. Since we were never really romantic and trying to have a friendship, those traits weren’t as apparent. The past year I have been having more romantic feelings and decided to share those feelings. The tendency to find something to get angry about occurred, followed by an explosion (this is the 4th or 5th time now so picking up on it quickly!) followed by being talked down to, followed by the silent treatment I am currently experiencing now. It’s very sad and this is very hard. But your work is helping me understand it so much. So thank you. You are a blessing🙏🏻👼🏼
55 years here! Great info MJ. I agree and I’m so grateful you shared this.
This is an interesting topic especially when you look at it through the lens of the myth of Narcissus (and Echo)
I was married to a COVERT narcissist. Even harder to detect. His mother is also one. Sadly I didn't even know it until 12 years in when I had my spiritual awakening. Oh the red flags in hinds sight!!! His mother is also one. Nicest people ever on the outside. Slowly beat me down over YEARS and no one even believed me about who he actually was, not even my family. Covert narcissist hide it so well. 😪
It is possible that some people are dealing with a twin flame or karmic who represents as a Narcissistic person (which according to the experts this personality is developed or created in early child hood) and really this person could be born in a specific set of planetary placements in their birth chart which displays personality similarities to that of a narcissistic person. Like my ex. He seemed like a narcissist through and through. But in fact it was just his planet placements in his birth chart. He has a fierce attention to details. He seems to be a bit obsessed with finding his opponent's emotional weaknesses, by using friendly (or not so friendly) banter and paying attention to their facial expressions and body language. Once he cracks the code of what changes their moods or triggers them, he uses it to manipulate them and win. He told me early on that he tries to get into his opponent's head. I thought this tactic was a bit like cheating and deceitful. I had always thought people were in touch with their emotions (like me), he had always believed that everyone can do what he does. So, he doesn't think he's cheating at all. He believes this to be fair. He doesn't mind people to find him deceitful because it keeps him a bit mysterious and he finds this advantageous. Based on his planet placements in his birth chart, he is comfortable in the uncomfortable.
So crazy everything resonates. I believe my ex to be a narcissist/socio path. He was also very strategic he took the things I mentioned while we where together for 6 years and literally did whatever he could to hurt me when we broke up. Even down to trying to destroy my relationships with loved ones🥴
There were so many red flags when I look back.
He had a stare.. off but apparently common
He didn't talk about how important his family kids were to him
He drove the conversation and when I recall I assumed a lot and he said very little
He set up where we met.
He was cold once he got what he wanted...
He talked about his money ha ha
What I found out later he moved a lot
He tried to get me into a competition with an ex
He headed a charity which is one of the most common narc traits.
He said some rude body comments to me.
He had a doctor/jeckel persona. He flipped into a not nice person.
He said things twice first I thought was Alzheimer's but apparently another trait as they can not keep up with their lies.
He tried to mess with my brain. Make a date then cancel.
He was a charming asshole
He studied me. I thought he was shy.
I gave him my email and now receiving third party disturbing junk. I believe it's from his searches.
God saved me. I knew something wasn't right. I have my own home and stuff I don't need a codependent /toxic person. Does the person make you joyful? No joy there.
Mj my experience is similar to Lori. 30 yr marriage. had no idea what a narcissist was. I was on many anti-depressants, anti-anxiety meds just trying to cope with the stress, lack of understanding, everything made out to be my problem. In fact I made up problems just to be angry?? Never any resolution with our issues. Complete dismissal of my thoughts. I had lost myself. No self-esteem. I realized that his self-esteem was lower than mine and he had to bring me down to his level to feel better. I remember asking myself what was I going to do the next 30 yrs of my life when I got a random message from an ex-boyfriend from 30 yrs ago, who has now turned out to be my twin. He never stopped thinking about me in all of the time apart. Our connection has never left. The love and compassion for each other has grown and we support each other completely. Tremendous feeling. The mirror exists between us in many ways. He has also been in a narcisissitic marriage and is learning self-love after many years of being gaslighted. i know we have come together as each others teachers. We are both separated now and looking to physically come together soon . We are long distance and have taken the past 3 yrs to clear our paths. Thank you for all that you do. I want to send you our birth charts but he doesn't know his time of birth.. grr lol
30 yrs married to one.going through a very bad divorce.trying to stay strong,but some days are hard.thank you🙏
Laurie….. HANG IN THERE! I was married to a extreme narcissist and because I wanted a divorce he dragged on our divorce for 8 yrs!!!
You are STRONGER than you know!!! Work on you, SELF LOVE will get you thru!!!
You got this!!!
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I wish I could ‘thumbs up’ this amazing video 1,000,000 times, so that it could appear in every person’s YT feed. 🤗💜💚❤️🙏
Oh my gosh, he said backhanded, mean words to me daily. Just like you said .... "you'd be so much prettier if you lost 10 pounds." Or, the best, most random one was, "in this light you're actually pretty, and I'm attracted to you now." Needless to say, I'm 4 months out and still remembering and climbing out of all the shame...mostly for having stayed with him too long.
Thank you MJ, so so helpful!
Blessings from a multiple survivor!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻✨💓✨🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
My Narc was the devil 👿 himself 😔to embarrass to even speak abt it 🥺hes not even worth bring him up I’ll probably replay my whole life again na am good 😊
It's been probably three years since I met a very nice person and it turned out to be a Narassist.I had to be the Queen of Swords, and fight him off. Thank god i was not married to one. Even now he is suppose to leave me alone, his energy is still around me. My Twin Flame, went through the same thing with a Narq. He is just coming out of the relationsip. He stole his House and money.They are very divious people. Thank you MJ for informing us about the nasty things they do, especially if you don't like them.
I definitely agree with the whole ‘say no’ test. In a similar vain, A great test is setting any kind of boundary and seeing how a person responds . Are they capable of respecting a boundary in a responsible way? (ie not being destructive, or self destructive). This also exposes empathy/lack thereof and also general maturity…
The first test I don’t really resonate with because I think context matters. Like, i personally am not going to go all into my flaws/vulnerabilities on having just met someone. It's like Brene Brown says, people have to show you they are worthy of your vulnerability, you don't just go splashing it around to anyone. So based on this, you (mj) might classify *me* as an N.
Butttt - I think essentially you’re testing to see if they have self awareness yes? AWARENESS of their own 'areas for improvement' and also ability to self reflect**! Which from my understanding N’s can uh… grossly lack :(
My Dad was a hard core narcissist. I was 14 and had made some friends who had more healthy situations at home, when I started to realize how abusive and messed up ours was. I don't have good radar for narcissists because it seems too normal? I instead have profound attachment problems and commitment phobia.
Mental and emotional blocks. Been trying to heal but it's a big job
Absolutely Yes. Because I've dealt with one. And she's extreme.
Thank you!!! Exactly how to spot them👌 I've been feeling and acting like a Queen of swords for the last 3 months... I'm sooo happy and relieved I finally 'got it'!! 💎 And being more careful in the future.. I've been surrounded with them from my early childhood. Finally realizing the bigger picture/lesson. They are soo egoistical, no empathy.. It can look like they are empathetic on the surface, but after time and experience u realize they were just acting it out to use and manipulate u for their own benefit/looking them good/taking care of them when they need u... Exactly as you have said it. Thanks again, this video is such a good reminder 👏👏 I'm sure I'll listen to it again and I will definitelly share it with my closest friends 💎
I always question my self if my TF are narcissistic then I found you Video about.. Thank God 🙏🙏 now I know that his my Real TF 😃🙏
Thank you so much for confirming!! I’m so grateful and I hope all victims benefit from this
Thinking over the last couple or three years that you’ve become at least a little familiar with my story to the point that it would be not only a bit redundant but feels like crossing into “whining” at this juncture.
I don’t even wanna hear it myself🤠
Rather pointless unless someone I cross paths with asks(they would probably rue the day if they did🤣).
Not that I’m ungrateful for all the help you have been in my journey.
You’re a tremendous help to me and rest assured that I’m feeling certain that there are many others that have experienced metamorphosis seasoned with the guidance channeling through you😊
Thank you for sharing your gifts,
Ma Chérie♐️/⛎
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You all deserve the best don't settle for 🐍
So spot on (narcissistic relationship survivor 😂)
Wow. Like you read the stars or something and know exactly what I need!! 😳🥰💖 Thank you.
This is awesome…. Thank you!!! Saves a lot of time !! Last guy I dated ( last summer) only lasted a couple of months because I paid attention. It’s all about learning. Been single since (worked on self) and it’s great.
Thank You!! Much needed!!
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I asked myself a similar question today and I found the answer here! How amazing! :o
Can you explore children of generational narcissism and how that is more of an imprint than a personality trait? I feel this describes the journey my husband and I have been on, but we both try and grow and change and we support each other in that process. But we also both come from at least two generations of narcissists that comes out in our own relationship.
I was with a guy for 27 years and he was a total narcissist. He would compliment me when he was looking for something and the minute he didn't get it, he would say nasty things like you are crazy, nuts, you need medication. And things like you got too much weight on, you need a haircut, I dont like that etc. The lists could go on. I have learned alot the last few years about personalities. Thank you for the information. ❤
I love the insight and very important to talk about this. I'm going to be honest, if someone asks me that question i would say i wish i was less nice to others and put myself first. Is that victim mentally? Or i would say nothing everything had to go that way to learn my lessons.
Fantastic information & super helpful. 💙🙏💙
Thank you, MJ!! You're wonderful for illustrating this for all of us!! And yes, unfortunately I've had the misfortune of dealing with a karmic who is shall we say both a narcissist and a sociopathic chameleon. Working at extricating myself now, just been so heavy dealing with the fallout of other things which are basically spiritual warfare in the meantime...
I guess it would be kinda like narcissists willfully gaslight to tear down whereas if a Twin flame exposes a vulnerability or weakness, the purpose is to let you face it and build you up or at least just let you sit with it?
I loved this, thank you 💓
love this … u gave me confirmation that i am around this types
You are all so awesome sharing and caring 💕😘💕
Thank you Mary Jane
Thank u for this.☺️
I had people that always wanted to have it there way and when you suggest something they don't want to do it or they will bs and lie.
Is the reaction or response to the question the same with a covert or overt narcissist?
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Well I’m not gonna tell MY story and I’m so glad to see this video and my only concern is the “enemy” or the narcissist will also benefit from it 😩…… I’m only half way through though…
Thank you ✨
MJ I have loved reading the comments Best fun I've had with homework in a while I think another fun experiment would be after we have said our peace on first view let it sit for a day or week then go back and see how it feels as a collective and so many more thoughts like birth placement in family dynamics oldest child baby of the family or what affected your upbringing and how that affected our adulting myself having been through recent tough experiences and really beginning to question possibly for the first time in my life has my curiosity peaking on this subject and I love this and all parts of your channel your child like curiosity is amazing
Thanks, I guess I've been fortunate ⚘
Thanks Mary Jo ❤️
Haha I saw the same royal interview and thought the same thing 🤣 wow 🚩
MJ..cracked me up with he's dead..
Tell someone using the TF narrative on you that you are aware & certain you are NOT a TF & gauge their rxn. Once they see this idea has no power over you, they should lose interest pretty quickly...problem solved!😁💪👊🙌
To drop … walk away … don’t answer messages … never go back …
Mine is a sociopath not a narcissist that's why I'm running pray for me God bless you all 😂
Love your "tests"
My ex was diagnosed by 2 therapist we spoke to as a person with split personality and i believe one of the personalities is a covert narcissist. I seemed to be triggering the narcissist in him a lot coz i would always tell it as it is and i had a strong personality until he made it his mission to destroy that by playing me into state of sever depression. My question is is there a hope with a person with split narcissistic personality? I always had high hope for his kind side.
I was in a narcissistic relationship with a man who ruined my life for 5 years,, drained me and completely discarded me when i stepped up, gained my power back,, but i wont lie but he has emotionally damaged and ruined me mentally, physically and emotiinally,, i kept pushing forward despite the pain.. and he simply moved on with another cause i dared to call him a narcissist and showed him the mirror by telling him hes a liar and a cheat,, and had him figured out which they cant tolerate..! he in return really ghosted/ blocked and tortured me… but i kept fighting back despite him
Coming back to only drain me more and leave me empty.. i always wonder ,, do they ever change with another woman? He was realy sorry for al he did to me but kept lying about it all and his behavior was still same and he was still involved with another and making same
Shitty excuses and was again lying as to how his life is so busy and peaceful ,, while he knows vwell he has fucked mine… i am a huge empath,, vloving but i have become so cold, bitter and fearful…he took my smile
And laughter away,,, and left me totaly empty..show them you have them figured out and you will be shown their real true side … cold, heartless and indifference to a level you havent seen before
Hi Mary Jane
Twin flames are narcissists with their on and off, and I stopped watching the Tarot because it justifies these disturbing behaviours and romanticizes them. Nobody is allowed to treat you like garbage. and no one is worth waiting for years! life is too short to devote for sick-minded people.
Yes indeed!
How do you get emails directly I don't really want to post my information that you're asking for people to send you.
bravo well said
What happens to my twin flame journey when i discover he is not my DM (because he is a narcissist)?
Dr phil has lots on his pod cast or instagram profile. Extra help.
If I had only listened to my gut instinct 😫
Im a Cappy married at 18 a Taurus he was 21 for 37 years wedded ornery bliss two of the most stubborn hard headed devoted kids you would ever know after the first 7 or 8honeymoon years I began noticing things I did that drove him crazy most of it I learned from just watching his reaction to different approaches like the way he loved it when I would really have a heated debate and if he could out debate me it just tickled him to no end but it f I just said ok you have your opinion and I'll have my opinion or the agree to disagree even a covert narcissist can not accept that they must prove there point and the refusing to listen to your point I would say if your not going to listen to my point I refuse to listen to your point the no I won't listen is critical can you picture 2 adults and me saying lalalala talking over him the way he would try to talk over me then realizing how that definetly pushes buttons lol you are so on point it's the covert that takes time and experience to see the bonus was priceless on video as you my darling MJ
Thank you so much