Best friends or Lovers?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ต.ค. 2024
- Explore the dynamic interplay between romantic partners as we delve into the question: are they truly best friends? In this episode, we unravel the complexities of relationships where couples either share an unbreakable bond of friendship or grapple with the absence of it. Join us as we uncover how we navigated this aspect of our connection, revealing insights into the diverse strategies and coping mechanisms employed to bridge the gap between partners' roles as lovers and friends.
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I think when people say they married their best friend, they mean they became best friends when they were dating, not like they dated their best friends. So they married someone they've built solid friendship with while they were courting and are now taking it to marriage.
Exactly!
Very true
Yes, though some do mean it literally.
Yeah, but it's not always like that some people do marry their bestfriend and it wasn't like they were dating or anything they were genuinely their bestfriend. So it's not always like that.
Same difference.. The main pointer being the state of the friendship at time of marriage.
The fact that as I was admiring claire's beauty, Akah said "you're looking beautiful by the way". She's literally so pretty 😍
Nice one guys..... Those best friends who call at 9pm should learn to be respectful. They cause a lot of harm to relationships.
Claire is so bright
I love the way she talks, the way she approach the topic, I love her aura
Akah is such a lucky man
I just wonna say, this audio is so sooothinggggg. It’s giving radio voice >>>
lol Claire just acknowledged same right after 😂
😂😂😂😂😂 you’re on our frequency!!
I love that Akah said a people should know when to switch roles for their partners. Best friend, mother, priest and so on.
This topic is actually really interesting and I love the way you both tackled it!
I'm happy that you got yourselves to a very comfortable place over the years, as that has absolutely made it easier for you to handle it so well.
I must say I'm loving this your redefined relationship and your very beautiful growth in marriage. You've really evolved from where you started, and it makes your analysis of this topic perfectly relatable!
I'm super proud of the amazing and loving husband Akah has become (don't get me wrong, darling Claire), because it takes a very brave and courageous man to throw away his "ego" and "pride" in order to mend his relationship with his wife, without the fear of being called a "weakling"!
On the other hand, Claire is the most patient and understanding young wife I've known. I say this because, it takes a lot of maturity, tolerance and perseverance for a lady to watch her man unlearn the things that cause her so much hurt, as is evident in the plethora of divorce cases we have in our contemporary world!
Overall, it's been an amazing discussion and I absolutely enjoyed listening to you!
Sending you best wishes for a most blissful journey ahead!
A minute into the movie and I've laughed so much.😂😂 I really love this couple.❤
Loll. Love you too
Just the view of someone almost 60, those roles of partner and bestie evolve and change with life stages. In early years of marriage, boundaries need to exist between new partner and bestie to allow the marriage grow.. Later , 5-10 years on, besties can be for both of you e.g a bestie couple good for outings and sharing kid's palaver or major life issues
Yes, that's what I think, too. The bestie even becomes everyone's bestie and family friend. Second mummies and daddies.
Claire, love how you speak, you speak so calmly, and you are full of wisdom!🌹🤭
I agree with Akah, my husband wasn’t my best friend right away after marriage. He was my guy and I could tell him anything. But I feel like as our marriage grew, our relationship got deeper that without any doubt now I can convincingly say that he is my best friend. But we developed a good friendship before marriage and even after
Succinctly put 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
I think I agree with akah when he said that you can build friendships with your partner overtime
Definitely
...because what are they sha bestfriending that the spouse cannot kuku bestfriend?!😂😂😂
Claire is such a sound, intelligent woman. You guys are amazing ❤.
I wish there was a love button ❤️. I absolutely loved this podcast!
Yay, thank you!
Claire, whatever foundation & powder you used, please go and buy 10 cartons ! You look soo heavenly beautiful😇♥️… Chocolate goddess!!
Thank you! Will do! 😂😂
I'm a teen. I've been thinking about these questions. Thanks for bringing light to it.
I love this conversation. I believe, your spouse should be one of your great friends prior to marriage and then it grows from there. Then we have to discuss people's expectation and definition of best friend because it varies. Claire is intelligent, gorgeous, she has a calm aura and very confident in herself. Akah, is cool. I saw how he was checking his wife out, and smiled so big.
First time Ive seen Akkar shine all his teeth. He is very comfortable with his bestfriend haha
The first clap and laugh at the beginning, I love 😊, you're really best friends
I love how claire is patient and calmly expresses her opinions to her husband ❤
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Claire is so wise. Love you girl ❤.
i love how you both listen deeply to each other when you both talk
Hmmmmmm
This was such a refreshing conversation!
Iam a new Subscriber.
Claire is so calm and beautiful.
Your best friend is your spouse.
Welcome!
I think when people say "marry your best friend", they mean you should build a friendship with your significant other before you get to marriage.
Can we take a minute to celebrate this lovely couple? Claire is intelligent 💯 and anytime I watch these two, I pray for God's grace to marry right. These two are young but mature and their depth of wisdom is commendable
I lean more towards what Akah said though you are both right. However, like already established, there are different best friends we share different things with. It won't suddenly stop in a relationship or marriage. Maybe I want to rant about makeup, I have a best friend I do that with. At times, I might have to rant about my husband, na my best friend go hear am. They aren't demoted to close friends. They are still best friends too. There might be boundaries and reduction in interactions (they are also busy and living their lives, so this will happen naturally), but they aren't "demoted" to close friends. There's still a difference between them and the previous close friends. Unless I want to demote previous close friends to acquaintances and those in turn to strangers.
Let's not also forget that we can naturally stop being close to some people just because. I think it's something we would know and do instinctively. If not, both parties need to have an honest conversation, like you've said.
Nobody called😂😂 Claire is unintentionally funny
Righttt😂
Akah be dropping quotes and rhema! I sha dey jot sinceee😂
The chemistry between you two is beautiful
This podcast voice is podcasting 😅
wholesome ❤podcast
Love you both 💝
This video was funny but engaging to watch. Thank you for sharing!!
Absolutely loved this conversation. Open and honest! Very insightful
Claire's humor>>>>>>>>
Your Partner should be one of your bestfriends he might not be your only bestfriend but he cannot not be your bestfriend.
Akah is reminding me of his character in the movie “she must be obeyed”
Please keep doing podcasts like this, I'm not married but wow, your marriage is blessed and inspiring to me. You look absolutely stunning mrs claire🤎
You guys are soooo cute ❤️❤️and I really enjoyed this podcast, can't wait to see more of you guys honestly
More to come!
Claire gives her opinion in the most friendly and respectful way. Her voice is so calm
Absolutely! Shows she was very well raised!
My little obsession is listening to this podcast ❤❤
When I watch your video, it feels more like I'm having a real life conversation with you guys and learning in the process. So natural. So real.
Y’all just took this out of my mind. Everything you said?! Spot on! Well done guys
Awesome! Thank you!
You guys are so funny...jeez😂😭
I love the vibe between you two🎉🎉❤❤
I just love the way Akah and Claire made everything fun and real🎉❤
“you were best friend material” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 whatttt
I really enjoyed this podcast because it really explains what im currently facing and I've learnt one or two from here. God bless you my faves❤❤
Our pleasure!
lol I noticed Akah's podcast voice too
You two are so real 😊God bless you.. I love your dress Claire
What platform is the pod available on?
So I can listen even when I’m not able to settle and watch a TH-cam video
Coask please
That clap and laughter at the beginning❤
When Akah said the Holy spirit should be your 1st best friend, I liked and subscribed.
Thanks for subbing!
Bless you for this realistic and wonderful insights/discussion 💙
Pleasure
It's the in between banters for me. 😂😂❤
Loved listening in on this conversation❤
I doubt Akah will be cool with a male bf😂😂😂
I really love this conversation. Allowed me see things in new perspective 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
So glad!
I love this😂. I enjoyed the conversation.
Claire is so beautiful!! I love your personality.
Thank you Akah we will keep learning sir
My favourite internet friends ❤
Claire said I’m sorry for you.😭🤣🤣
I laughed from the first minute till the very end😂😂😂😂.
It’s the best friend argument for me😂😂😂😂😂😂. You two are just so funny and interesting. Thank you for this convo🥰
Really enjoyed watching this ❤
Glad you enjoyed
Love this couple so much❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Claire. I don't know you , but I just love you are one of the best wife
If sweetness was a podcast??😩💕
Aaawwww
This reminded me of ‘Aka Bants’. We miss the bants
I understand where Akah is coming from though and i agree with him. I can not be sexually attracted to my bestfriend though
Yup. Loll
Enjoyed this really. Got a question though, does this best friend boundary apply only when the person is the opposite sex?
For example, if my best friend were to be a lady like myself, would it really matter?
You cannot be married and have best friend other than your spouse. Having a best friend with someone other thsn your spouse can lead to a breakup of the marriage.
Abeg which one is bestfriend material😂😂😂i don learn another Language. This conversation is such a breathe of fresh air. I have good friends around me and i appreciate them whether bestfriend or not just pray for genuine friends around you and work on building good relationship.
How can I like this twice????
Your combination is a match made in heaven.. I love how the conversation went, how Akah would disagree at first (and Claire would be stressed trying to explain without evidence 😂😂) only for Akah to agree later.
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If yall would ever do a physical meet and greet or something, I'd leave anywhere I am to be there honestly..
So much love...
BTW, it's the consistency for me.. this one you people didn't say see you next week, hope we won't have to wait for another year for the next episode?? My heart just dey fear 😢😢😢
These two are so cutee❤
I love this couple ❤️🥰
Beautiful conversation ❤
Claire is so dramatic 😭😂
Y’all are so cute 🤎
Thank yeewwww
This two ehhh😂😂😂 God abeg
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Av always wished to have a husband who i can call my best friend..l love u akah n claire av been following u up sonce childhood
A woman who speaks as is inspired by the Holy Spirit
I’m jealous
Holy Spirit groom me there
16:15 this is so on point.
Claire voice 🥹
Claire pleaseeee🤣
Very interesting and insightful topic.
Looking forward to other insightful topics to be discussed.
Just a thought;
1. Is it okay if your partner has no friends or their own community because they are not really a people kind of person?
2. Your partner relocated to be with you happens to be people person and it’s important to him or her to build a community apart from you; what’s your take on that?
Although I'm not Akah and Claire, I'm a psychologist. Your partner has told you what they need and it's important to heed it for the health of your marriage. For example, there's nothing wrong with them joining a hiking group or recreational sports team. Being with you 24/7 might get boring to them. And you said they relocated to be with you. That means you have a community while they know only you. Imagine how you felt when you first got there alone in case you also moved there a while back.
Now question 2. Not everyone will have so many friends or will need it. There are different personalities. However, you could be concerned if it seems they were cutting people off or hiding. Why are they cutting people off or hiding? Have they done something in the past to change them or make you suspicious? Aside from that, it's perfectly normal to want little to no friends. You could encourage them to make just a friend or so if they are up to it.
I play this ppdcast with MP3 because I love my girls listening to Claire and hoe she tackles issues. Her voice, charisma and demeanour.
I think its a great model for how wives should be with their husbands.❤
My faves!😍❤🥰
Podcast where?
Men don't set boundaries, they still keep female friends, just outgrow it or make your own male friends too 😅
Loooolll
@Adaobi: men do set boundaries .. in fact, 95% of them set boundaries. The only type of human who misses it are “*married women*” who still believes a man - who is not her husband should be her best friend.
From experience, it has been proven beyond reasonable doubt that such “male best friend” are secretly in love with the woman! And can easily clap her cheeks if she want to, the married woman on the other hand is digging the hole for the demise of her marriage..
This scenario has contributed to the reason why married men filed for divorce and it takes 40% of reasons why married men file - using 36 states in USA as a case study
@@done5060I feel this is you looking at it like only people of the opposite gender could be best friends. What of friends of the same gender? Also, if my male best friend didn't clap my cheeks when I was single to stupor, it won't start after I'm in a relationship or marriage.
Facts 👌👌
My fave ❤❤❤❤
Akah😂😂😂😂😂
Claire!!! 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣this episode is so funny
My favs ❤❤❤❤❤
❤❤❤❤love you guys
Love you right back
Yay 💃💃💃
So excited
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Akah 😂
I love this!❤
powerful