Pretty much the entire time I was talking my cat was throwing around a cat toy 😅 I am so sorry about all the random sounds. Sending much love and light ❤
No need to apologise! It wasn't loud. You're a starseed and you shine very bright! ❤ You're so much more than a human. You're a multi-dimensional being and there's great power in that.
I just watched your video and would like to offer a kind bit of advice. I’m a 70 year old artist, mother of 4, grandmother to 5. You must not bother addressing other people’s concerns on your choices in life. Live intuitively, don’t overthink, don’t try to explain who you are. Live by faith, it works out, it really does. My husband and I have been married coming up on 46 years and most of our extended family don’t understand why we choose to live so simply but happy to say, the proof is in the pudding, we have a beautiful life that now they envy. Be true to yourself with no need to explain. Your child will appreciate the freedom that brings to you as a mother
Explaining is just what people need because the world does push us to be someone we are not. So, the message has a powerful effect because it means living simple is allowed.
Yes! She is right, beautiful cottage fairy. It's distressing to me to know you didn't realize what an amazing person and artist you are- in so many areas. Just always be you, and life will be grand. ❤❤❤
Co workers think I’m boring, one told me I live the life of an “old lady!” I’m 35, single mom of two. I love reading, journaling, watching horror movies, drawing and walking through the woods. I keep getting told I need to go out to the bars and meet a man, none of that sounds appealing to me! I really value my quiet time, I’m still heading from what my ex put me through. I’m finally just being me, doing what makes me happy. At least for the most part, I’m still working through a lot. But I’m finally doing it! Just be you, do what you need to do for you! ❤️
Watching horror movies? If it's ghost stories and hauntings, I love those too (i.e. the show "A Haunting") but if you're talking slasher horror movies with the gore, how does that fit in with reading, journaling, drawing, walks through the woods and other peaceful activities?🤔
@@zariballard I’ve always loved horror movies, of any kind. For me that’s comfort. It’s not for everyone but it’s definitely for me! I can go from watching a slasher to watching Ever After or Pride and Prejudice! It makes me happy! 🖤😊
This is so precious. I am 74 now and have done exactly what you speak of. Now I grow my own food and create most of the things I need. I can no longer be pressured to do anything that isn't in alignment with myself. I live very frugally but my life of full of beauty and love and satisfaction. I am more content each day. ❤
As a disabled person on a tiny disability check (less than 1k a month), I can attest to the fact that it truly is the simple things that give us peace. I know I will never have much materially, but I am so grateful that I do have the time to read lots of books in the company of my cats. Yes, it's a quiet and boring life, but it's mine and I plan to enjoy it to the best of my ability ❤ Edit: Thank you all so much for the kind and encouraging words, they mean a lot - love this amazing community ❤️
OMG!!! You are SO not living a boring life at all!!! Book. Cats. sounds wonderful!! and...... one can go to more places through books than can travel on this planet!!! Enjoy!
We were all so brainwashed as young children to work hard, go to school, get a job etc. You are living life the way it should be lived. Success does not mean money. You are very successful at doing what you love and that is priceless. 🌻🌼
Agree, agree! I’ve been a “professional” artist/crafter for 25 years. Went to prestigious art schools, had a business with a few employees after school, licensing and publishing deals with large companies, blah blah blah, did all the things you’re “supposed” to do, got really sick. After a decade of that disaster, I left everything and everyone behind, bought a van to live and travel in to reconnect with my true self. Now I live on a small island building my own home as time/budget allows, work odd jobs and make art and crafts primarily for myself that I sell when I can/want. Never been happier, even though I’m “doing it all wrong”😂!
this is a little bit too much but would you consider doing a channel about your life/artwork there on the island? no pressure tho i just feel it's so brave and fantastic of you leaving behind all and living your best life...
@@danthanh98 I do… sort of! I value my privacy, so I don’t get on camera, but I recently began making short (mostly nature) videos on my TH-cam channel
As a small business owner I can totally relate. I'm sick of people telling me what I could and should do to grow my business. I don't want to grow, I just want to do a good job with what I'm doing now.
Indeed. One thing is ideas and suggestions that people think would tickle your creativity, one thing is people trying to make you do more/be more/accomplish more, take your hobby/business as a constant fight. I find that completely kills it for me. I just go blank.
I know my friends meant well when they told me I should grow my social media, make more content, hire staff and so much more. Last year and earlier this year I was experiencing burnout, I'm a homebaker. I used to love baking so much, and it got to the point where I don't even want to see any more cookie dough. I was so sick of people giving me unwanted suggestions without even asking me what I wanted to do with my business. They don't even bother asking me about my main concepts or how I want to grow my business, it was just so nauseating. I'm so glad so many people are experiencing the same thing.. I thought I was weird for wanting to keep my business the way it is.
I am an 81 year old man in a time of much change, as I seek to live more the truth of myself. This video sharing of yours, is much a gift to me. Thank you.
Your comment touched my heart. I wish you the best as you navigate the changes you speak of. Be kind to yourself as you find soft places to land. Love and light to you. Namaste.
I can relate so much here. I started my channel as a hobby and never though it would become my ""job"" one day, but so far I'm happy I've never had a single video sponsored, and I don't sell merch because that's not my vision either. I think this is the secret to some kind of longevity of any art form: do what makes you happy, and you'll do it for a long time. After a few years watching every video you release, I think it's safe to say that you're staying true to your vision, and this is why so many people are still here supporting you. You may have made "mistakes", like everybody does, but in the end, we're still here to spend a timeless moment with the beautiful Cottage Fairy 😊 As you're saying: you're enough. Take care dear Paola!
Hello Diane! I absolutely agree with your statement. I've also been watching your channel for a few years now. As I contemplate starting my own channel, for educational and entertainment purposes, can we really make a sustainable, full time living with just the ad sense from YT and not having to get sponsored videos and other merch?
I love your channel Diane. Watch your videos multiple times each. You recently took some time for yourself and all your followers were very supportive. The TH-cam community is not all toxic ;)
Paola - I never comment. But this requires one. You have tapped into immense wisdom. Never apologize for it. If anything, keep embracing it. I’ve been an entrepreneur for 20 years and I have worked with a lot of these “build bigger, more more more” business owners. Not a single one. Let me repeat. Not a single one is actually happy. They never feel like what they are doing is enough. Almost all of them have health issues. More is not the answer. Enough is. Health is everything. Family is everything. Being aligned and living a peaceful happy life with the time to actually live it is *everything*. Find your balance. Find your enough. And truly, let that be enough. Don’t hold yourself hostage to anyone else’s definition of what that is. You are absolutely on the right path. Thank you for doing what you do and for being the cottage fairy 🧚♂️ You have enriched all of our lives with your presence and art!!
👏 👏 👏 THIS! You speak the truth. As a previous small business (coaching) I've seen it too. Our culture doesn't like people to be content and happy, they want stressed out people. Why? They consume more in every way.
People say we're boring but honestly, what greater privilege than being confortable with yourself and satisfied with your life? No need for much, just pure happiness out of little things
Someone told me I was boring and I needed to do more. I finally got frustrated with him and told him I like my life just the way it is. I know what it is to live in chaos. I don’t want that. I live the life I live because of that chaos I’ve been through. I am finally comfortable with who I am. People always tried to make me feel like something was wrong with me because I’m quiet & shy. I finally fully came into myself last year (and the process began long before that but he made me realize how happy I am with me & who I am). I told him that he has an issue with my life because he is walking chaos. Well, let’s just say we no longer speak for various reasons but that’s a major factor…for me at least..he may say something different directed at me 😂…and I’m okay with some of that too 🤷🏾♀️…even my brother tries to get me to do more…I think I might need to have that talk with him too. 😂
I was beginning to think that I was the only one who didn't care about making tons of money. I was always satisfied with having "enough" and God always provided it.
@kathyann9643 no, you're not alone there. Many years ago, there were a range of magazines such as Grassroots and Simply Living, I guess they were the precursors to a movement *back to basics* that we see today. Simplicity doesn't automatically equal deprivation, you and I know it (but many have been brainwashed to beleive a consumerist, materialist dream). The dream easily becomes nightmarish if life goes out of balance, for sure
Dearest Paola, Don't write off what you have accomplished so far. You've done amazing things in a short time, during a pandemic, on the Internet. Your photography, heart-felt storytelling, and philosophy are compelling. If you feel you missed the first wave of possible success, never fear, you will rise again. People out in the whole wide world are watching you, curious about what you will do next. And cheering you on. Your channels and artwork have been one of the brightest spots in these last few years for me. Keep following your heart. I've run a singing studio for 40 years, and it has taken directions I never expected, and if I died tomorrow - I'd be satisfied with what I've accomplished. One is not always in the driver's seat - but You are on the right track! - with love and light
Yes! I felt like shes writing herself off too! She is absolutely successful. Shes not successfully running a corporation, but thats obviously not her goal.... its not most peoples goal. She has well over 1m followers, a book, people all over whose hearts shes touched and look at her life with longing.... that seems like an incredible amount of success to me!
I've always thought to be an entrepreneur takes a lot of courage. It's very feast or famine and extremely hard work. You my dear are a courageous person. A lovely person that has her feet set on solid ground. You do what you need to in order too have balance in your life. Numbers 6: 24-26
I have a friend who always says “may you have enough “ I owned a child care center for 10 yrs. Never made any money. And I felt like a failure , in retrospect I feel comforted to realize I built a community of support that lasts long after the center closed. It was valuable. You are moving in the right direction.❤
You are perfect just the way you are. After 25 years of business, my favorite place now at 50 years old is at home, reading my Bible, journaling cooking a good meal and making an herbal tea. You just arrived quicker than me.
I'm literally crying after watching this video..as a highly sensitive person I can relate to so many things you said. Just remember we will never leave you no matter what, we love our cottage fairy Paola ❤
Paola. Gracias. Mi nombre es Clara. Casi a mis cuarenta y tantos años me identifiqué cómo un highly sensitive person y sorpresivamente un poco dentro del espectro autista, que se expresa de manera diferente en las mujeres que en los hombres. No me gustan las etiquetas, pero encontré una razón y muchas respuestas a muchas cosas que por no ser entendidas causaron sufrimiento y trauma durante mi niñez y las arrastré por el resto de mi vida. Estos traumas generaron severas migrañas con las que he vivido desde mis siete años. El proceso de sanidad ha tomado tiempo pero ahora estoy viviendo muchos resultados positivos. Gracias por tu valentía para ser fiel a ti primero. Una de mis mayores heridas ha sido sanar y perdonarme mi negligencia conmigo misma. Reconocernos y hacer paz con quién realmente somos. Aceptarlo y amarnos es la verdadera sanidad. Gracias por ser una voz respetuosa que trae luz con amor a muchos 💖 Amo tu canal tal cómo es! Sigue adelante!!! 😊
@@joeswift9605I'm very proud of you Clara.. always remember your high sensitivity is not your weakness but your greatest strength.. ❤ you are loved and valued just the way you are 😊.. btw I also think that I might be autistic but I am not sure 😅..
I'm a painter, and I've been repeatedly told by friends and acquaintances that I could easily sell my work and that people would love prints of my pieces. But I've always gravitated toward making them gifts, whether for friends and family or for myself. I'm starting to consider what it might look like to start selling, but there's a big part of me that's wary of the push to make everything you enjoy doing profitable. It doesn't have to be. It can just be life-giving.
Beautiful message! Enough is enough. I'm 70 years old and I've learned that having health and peace of mind, make my life worth living. In the past, I lost both, but luckily figured out what my priorities were and fought hard to regain what I lost. Take care of yourself! ❤
For 40+ years I worked hard as a teacher pushing myself and my body and my mind. Then an injury forced me to retire a couple of years early and my life came crashing down. People told me I should be volunteering and I should be doing more interesting things and one family member even said " live or die"... And I'm glad I instead listened to my own heart and I found the simple things that bring me joy...an they are enough. I never wanted more than just enough. So now I work to help save feral cats, and I pick up trash every day for the environment, and I teach my Mexican neighbor English, and I love my simple simple life. I don't need much to be happy so everything you said I resonate with. Oh my! Paola, you are so wise at such a young age! You're little boy is going to be so lucky to have such wonderful parents who understand the beauty of simplicity and frugality. Thank you for being so open and honest! Who you are and what you share with the world is such a purposeful gift to the universe!
As a fellow cat lady….thank you for what you do to help the feral cats. I’ve been feeding and caring for a feral for over three years. Finally last summer he started getting closer and closer to me, eventually purring and rubbing up against my legs. Since I can’t bring him in my home I took him to my local shelter, where I do some work with, and now he’s a lover boy (orange cat), and ready for adoption! I’m so proud of him! Bless you for what you do! ❤❤❤
This is amazing, I love your story. As someone who almost ended up in academia but chose differently in the end due to not wanting to sell my soul, this is exactly the type of slow paced way of life that I'm after.
I chose education, too, and I find myself continually exhausted. I think I could have handled it had I not contracted Lyme disease. Now I just barely get through each day. Sometimes I wonder if I’d be able to work any job without pain and exhaustion.
I'm currently struggling big time. I was living my life with the usual struggles but I had a good job, a home and what I thought was a happy marriage. It wasn't perfect but there was a lot of good. Then I was blindsided by my husband taking off with someone else, losing my "secure" government job, then I got sick and became clinically depressed. I don't have kids because the X didn't want them (but had them with someone else) so that didn't happen for me. It's been brutal to be honest so I am grateful for this channel as Paola you have shown me that we can be true to ourselves; that there are kind, sensitive people who are unique and true to themselves. Sometimes I wish we all lived in the same area so we could be surrounded by a like-minded community. I wish I could meet you all.
I always loved this certain short story of a fisherman: one day a hard working man in a suit finds this fisherman next to his small fishing boat sitting in the sun in the afternoon. They start talking and the buisy man asks him why he isn't fishing anymore. The fisherman tells him he already went fishing in the morning and catched a few fish that he brought home to his wife. The man in the suit tells him how if he would just go fishing again in the afternoon he would catch more fish that he could sell, make more money, buy a larger fishing boat to catch more fish, to make more money, than he could hire people to help him and earn more money that he could use to expand his business,... And then when he would be retiring he could sit down in the sun and relax and enjoy his life. Then the fisherman responses: "but that's what I am already doing right now"
My brother shared this story on his fb page a few years back. He died in his sleep last Sept, before he reached 62. He was enjoying himself before this happened, but he needed to take better care of his body.
When I got pregnant I knew I didn’t want to miss raising our child and being the one to give him his life foundation. We didn’t know how we would afford to live as my husband was a student. But 5 years later here we are, and my job is still being a mother ❤, wouldn’t trade it for any thing.
Bravo Paola, bravo. So much wisdom in your words. You have probably run into the story of the Brazilian fisherman and the American businessman. It is appropriate here. If not, here it is: There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village. As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish. The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?” The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.” “Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished. “This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said. The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?” The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink - we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.” The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman. “I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.” The fisherman continues, “And after that?” The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.” The fisherman asks, “And after that?” The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!” The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”
I've heard this story before and always liked it, but never knew it was a Brazilian fisherman. As a brazilian myself, I find this reference quite interesting, in spite of life not been really easy here (making ends meets is a real stuggle for many, just to survive), there is so much joy going on too.
I made the mistake of thinking success and happiness were associated with my job and how much I earned . A hard lesson to learn . Now I am very content being me . I love being boring and quiet . ❤❤❤❤❤
I respect you so much for living according to your values! I think people appreciate your authenticity, your candor and the wisdom that shines through you. It is truly a gift on the internet when so many other creators lose touch of that. Your channel has been my favorite for years and I'll continue watching your beautiful videos.
I nearly cried when you talked about how too much pressure/too many responsibilities brought illness and panic attacks; I related to that so strongly. We "sensitives" do have to make choices that will preserve our health, even if it means we aren't living up to the level of "success" that others, or we ourselves, think we should be able to achieve.
Can you explain what you mean but “sensitives”? I am going through much stress and my body is going through digestive issues, with panic as well. Would love to learn how to heal and have the courage to walk away from a toxic job.
Paola, you are a gorgeous HSP soul shining incredible light. I totally "get" you and I'm just a little further along the path~I had our 2 boys back to back 7+8 years ago. I recognize everything you speak to here and while I have experienced a great deal of heartbreak due to devastating and totally unexpected medical diagnoses for us in that era (and even heard some of the terribly rude sentiments I see in just maybe 2 of these thousands of comments), I seek to stay true. Stay magical. Love reigns. You are going to be a phenomenal mama for always~
I'm single and self employed. I just gave up my biggest client and half my salary!I'd been so unhappy and stressed for a long time and was suffering physically. I have a bit of financial back up and have no doubt I will find more work. The sheer relief I felt was amazing. It was worth it even though it was a big scary step. You're much younger than me and have learned these lessons already. You should be proud of yourself. Thanks for sharing your wisdom 🙏
Paola, you are such a precious gift to this earth & humanity! The wisdom you posess in yor 20's, takes most folks 65-70 years of living by what 'others' say is the right way, until they are so worn down and exhausted, they are forced to stop & reaccess their lives. Only then, do they begin to realize they listened to everyone and everything except their own heart...and that is where their truth lies. You are so young in body, but so old in wisdom! Never close your beautiful heart down & stop second guessing your wise choices. That wisdom is coming from your heart center and you can trust it...always! Keep being your authentic self and trust your inate 'knowing'. You are teaching truths we all need to remember, by how you live your life. You are a gift and a blessing to this earth Paola...and you can trust that as truth! Blessings to you and your family.
I am in the same exact boat. But with two different clients. I find that now that I am no longer dealing with those client, I feel hopeful and inspired again. I redesigned and ordered new business cards and other marketing items. I am falling in love with my business and line of work again. And I feel proud of my job and myself. We got this!! 😉 💪
I am the same, leaving my cleaning business after nearly 38 years because of the stress & being diagnosed with osteoarthritis. Luckily I also have a reselling business & some funds behind me & I can work from home. The effect was immediate, relief & happiness flooding through my body. My simple life is more than enough for me, but somewhere along the way I got lost. “ The moment we become ill or dying is the moment we start living “ 😊
Dear Paola, I often think that you're wise beyond your years! Most people come to this very realization too late in life or when a serious illness strikes. From my experience as a nearly sixty year old small business owner and more importantly mother/grandmother, I can assure you that you're on the right path... for you. Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom so beautifully and artfully. All best wishes to you and your little family.
Your son will be so blessed to have you for his mother. A woman so gentle, thoughtful, careful, present, and wise. And those of us who follow your channel are blessed by your honesty, and generosity in sharing yourself and your growth as you move so gracefully through the stages of your life. This is such a precious and personal time for you, thank you for sharing so much with us.
I am SO proud of you. I've followed your journey since your first few videos, watching you grow from an unsure young lady into a more confident woman, then a wife, and now a mother. As your "fame" (if I can call it that) grew, I was worried that the unique simplicity that makes you YOU would be gobbled up by these things you've mentioned: pushing harder, sponsorships, expansion, etc. To know that you've had the wisdom to chose authenticity over commercialism is such a joyful relief. You may not know it, but the very thing that has allowed you to touch so many lives around the world IS that pure simplicity that is at the core of you. In the long run, that kind of clarity and authenticity is the greatest success. I wish you the best in life and I hope you'll be around for a while to come, just being you, perfectly imperfect.
What a beautiful response to Paola! I totally agree with you and most certainly, she has been a breath of fresh air, causing me to slow down and to begin to take notice of the world right around me! It is the simple joys of life that make my mind stop racing and help me to reconsider what I give my time, money and efforts to. Bless your for your wisdom!
Paola, thanks so much for this video. I recently left an intense job in D.C. and my current job has me scaling back my spending and counting pennies, but I feel so much more grounded and joyful. Thanks for not only staying true to yourself, but sharing it so fully with all of us. I look forward to following your continued journey. One of my values is living close to the Earth and building my positive impact on the natural world. I think one of the most vital ways we can all do that is by slowing down and embracing the contentment of enough.
Your emotional intelligence and self awareness is off-the-charts amazing! The message you are sending out into this busy, noisy, smelly, chaotic world to slow down and seek balance is exactly what the world needs to hear and do. I am also an HSP. It's not our job to fit into this world. When you find yourself in a world you don't fit in, it's time to make a new one. That's why we're here. To show the others a better way. You are a lighthouse, my dear. You are fulfilling your purpose.💖💖💖
Completely agree. ❤ So much wisdom in your video, Paolo. I'm also a hsp and developed fibromyalgia in my forties due to, I believe in part, trying to fit in with the world and a speed that just didn't suit my sensitive nature. It's not been pleasant getting ill but it has taught me to slow waaaaay down and I feel fortunate that now I live in a completely different way, now in line with my nature. I love that I'm sensitive now but like you, there was a time when I thought there was something wrong with me. I realise now how untrue that is! These videos have been a wonderful lifeline to further understand myself - thank you.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I have been running a small art business for 6 years and I found that it absolutely burned the passion to create out of me. I found that I was more concerned with what I could sell, rather than creating art for the reasons I got into it in the first place. I realized I lost my joy and relaxation. Now I make art, just to make it. If I want to sell it I can, but it's not my motivation. This video reminded me that doing what is best for me and not my business is okay
I had a conversation the other day with a fellow co worker. We discussed jobs and income. I said "my husband and I live simply, make enough to survive". And he thought it was so strange how people always say "survive: and not "thrive". Your video reminded me that thriving is different for all of us. I love my simple life, books, crafts a small wonderful house a husband who loves me and our quiet life. I am thriving! And so are you. You have a wonderful life that enriches your soul. 💕
Sorry, but the opportunity to live a good life in a small house is more than most people have. Nowadays, quite a few people have to work in order to be able to survive with their families in cramped conditions.
Thank you for this. I work a day-job that is SO hard on me mentally (I work with k-12 American kids lol) and am a small business owner/ content creator. I used to push SO hard to be competitive in my industry and try to make as much money as possible and squeeze as much out of each day as possible... but then I developed Ulcerative Colitis. It has turned my world upside down, and it has also forced me to slow down and question what's really important (and, sadly, possible) in life. I have felt so guilty about not having the energy or capacity to do more or be creative on demand. Hearing you talk about this is honestly really comforting, so thank you. 🖤 Wishing you and your family well on your new chapter. ✨️ And I don't know who needs to hear it, but please take care of yourself. "A healthy man wants a thousand things. A sick man only wants one." Your health matters. 🖤
@alisonhoyte7608 I've been at it for a few months now. Sadly, I don't think this disease has a cure. And if it does, I think it would involve an extremely strict diet, controlled microbiome, zero environmental allergens in the system and a stress free environment. Hypnosis has helped with relaxation and a more positive outlook, but, to my knowledge, the studies don't back it as a cure, only prolonged remission in some cases. 😕
Thank you Paola. I almost lost my husband of 26yrs last year. We now see life differently. We will definitely continue to live frugally but have decided that saving and accumulating money for that one day we might have an emergency is not what we will focus on anymore. I ask myself if I would’ve lost him....we never took a vacation, we never splurged because we focused so much in the future. A future without my husband is something I just can’t fathom. We are blessed and pray for many more years together. Blessing to you! 🙏♥️
Well said Paola! As a new small business owner of a plant based health and nutrition business this resonates with my soul. I have turned down partnerships, radio interviews etc. Slow, simple, intentional, sustainable growth is what speaks to me.
It’s so refreshing and comforting knowing that there is someone like you Paola, people in my life also tell me I’m strange, boring, weird, that I should get a job so I can help my husband save money. But deep down in my heart I feel satisfied with what I have. I don’t dream of living in a mansion, I don’t need a nice car. I yearn for simplicity in my life, quietness and slowness. My dreams may be laughable to some but to me that is MY dream. People seem to have an opinion about how you decide to live your life, I never tell anyone that they’re boring or weird for choosing how to live their life.
I’m 62 and just began to really learn this lesson two years ago when my body, mind, and spirit couldn’t take any more pressure. I became sick. I understand what you’re talking about. You’re so smart to realize that fact now as young as you are! Thanks for a beautiful video once again!
I don't think you even realize how much value you bring through your videos. It's so valuable to see a simple, humble lifestyle while everyone only pushes you to make a lot of money and travel around the world. Lately, I have been questioning myself a lot. I also feel that I don't need much; sun, relationships, and nature give me everything I need. I don't want to conquer the world anymore. I let go of my ambitions. And seeing your videos is like a confirmation that it's actually alright to live a 'boring' life, and you don't need to become anyone. Your existence is more than enough already. Thank you 🙏💛
I love this! I wish i had a friend like you. People call me boring too. No one really wants to hang out with me. 😔 i say there has to be people like me out there.
Boring is subjective. In the day of social media where everyone posts their very best, contentment can look boring when I reality, we are all the same.
As a Self -employed artist for 20 years- I feel this on so many levels. I refuse to outsource and hire assistants- I cannot meet demand for the product I create- and I’m okay with that 🤷♀️im an empath -- i cannot create good art when stressed so yeah I’m serving less and charging them alot! The American business model- “make more money this quarter than you did last quarter” is broken.
Paola, in my opinion, I enjoy every video you bring to us . If you used a drone and filmed the landscape and just spoke your stories, caring advice, you would STILL have my attention. Your content is so calming and your like listening to a good true friend. Keep pursuing what makes you, you. You are authentic and appreciated!
My husband is a business owner. The BIGGEST lesson is learning to expect highs & lows. When things slow down, you did EXACTLY the correct thing. You cut your expenses WAY back. This is not failure. This is keeping your business going even if it’s going slow. At some point, if you have time to push forward, then you can pick up the pace. For now. Grow the body that your child’s soul will soon inhabit. That’s your present Truth! Mom Mode is Real. Enjoy it & let the “outside world” take a back seat. I’m sure you’re an Empath. You must protect that gentle flame within💖💖
Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability Paola. I'm a 64 year old, retired, happily married woman (and one of your patreon's) with 3 adult children and 2 grandhildren and 1 grandchild on the way. Without my faith, I would've been a big ball of stress all these years. When I would find myself getting sick, I knew it was because I was trying to control the things I had no control over. Having faith has nothing to do with my competency and strength, but everything to do with being present and setting an example for the people in my life...that I am real, have needs and need to wholistically care and love myself so that I can love and care for others. There's a huge price to pay for supposed bigger and better. I'm so happy for you that you recognize this. God bless you and your family my dear.
This is how I feel about being childfree. It’s scary to be a married woman who chooses to be different simply because I would like to retain my nurturing energies for the people already in my life and to preserve my own health. I have cared for and taught hundreds of children in my life. I currently have nine toddlers in my care at work. In that regard, that’s my “enough.”
I totally understand this... I had people telling me I should sell, have a business with my att.. However I don't want to turn what I enjoy at a slow space into a "business". I like life to feel light.... Even if it means not having tons of material things. G-d bless you! Listen to your heart ...
This video came at the perfect time in my life, so I thank you. When I first discovered your channel over a year ago, I was suffering terrible anxiety & depression. Starting my day watching a few of your videos really helped me get my head in a better place and I truly credit your channel with helping me climb out of the darkness. I’m in a much better place right now, so much so that I’m working on a business. I’m currently at a crossroads where I’m questioning whether to take on more, even though I’m starting to feel stressed. Thank you for this very timely video for me. Going to go walk in the woods and think about who I really am and what I want/need.
You look happier! Your eyes are bright, and there is such a sense of relief coming from you. You made the right decision! I wish you all the best! It’s the simple things that make life worthwhile. When I see a raindrop on a leaf, I’m overwhelmed with joy. Many see that as weird. I see it as being present with all that surrounds me and understanding that everything around me is a gift, if I choose to notice it. Abundance comes in many forms!😊🌸🧚🧚🧚🧚
You are a TRUE ANGEL ! When I stumbled upon your channel by accident a couple of years ago, your words, and your lifestyle made a BIG IMPACT on me… I was a workaholic who did everything to please OTHERS…much as you feel now. I wasn’t happy until I had …”the most… the best…the money”. But, it was YOUR words and lifestyle (when you were out living in your simple cottage) that struck a nerve with me. You showed me that it is possible to be happy, really happy with less “things”. Your videos of your walks in solitude, taking in and enjoy Nature, showed me the way. They changed my life! BLESS YOU for being the person you are… Maybe taking the time to go back and watch your earliest videos will do wonders for you? Listen to your words… Live life for YOU, and not for others…BE YOURSELF… The Cottage Fairy who has touched so many people’s lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for showing me the path to true happiness. May God watch over you and your family, and provide you with the inner peace and serene wellbeing that you certainly deserve…
Thank you for this video! No one else seems to realize that 'more' comes with more everything - stress, worry, work etc. I value downtime during my day a lot. I'm a homeschooling mom of 4, nr 5 growing within me and due in October. I can only do so much. I've chosen to 'do' my kids, schooling and doing my part with running our Airbnb unit. The rest I'm letting go of. My house will now be clean 'enough', social media only when my kids are happily playing on their own and not needing me. Less. I want less. I want to finally create my home, embrace my slow life. Well done for choosing peace over the world.
i’ll be 80 next month (can hardly believe it) and I’m finally feeling comfortable and happy with myself. You are very wise. thank you. I’m sharing your video.
I was told I am behaving as an old lady since I remember myself. My inner peace may irritate less introvert people, but this is who I am and I am very happy being myself
Thank you so much for taking the time to verbalize this reminder. Believe it or not but at 76 years old I needed to hear this. I truly needed to hear this. God bless all your efforts. Sending much love from Canada.
My story is long. 68 years long. But I can relate to what you said. I always had to do more. Be more just till my daughter is grown. Just till I retire. Just till... I did damage my body, and my mental health. So you do what you are happy doing. Hold tight to your family and your loved ones. Keep your shop small. And your videos as sweet as they are. We all love and care about you. So we will wait a few extra days till your videos are made. Or till you restock your shop. Or till you give your baby extra cuddles. And always hold your faith close. It will help to guide you through your life. ❤🙂
I saw my sister struggle with her pottery business too, versus doing what she wanted to do and becoming more and more unhappy. She ditched it in the end, in favour of making pottery for herself, her friends and family now, and not relying on it as a source of income. Peace of mind in a relaxed body are far more important for many people, in conjunction with wanting to be creative. Commerce and true creativity are seldom good bedfellows. So it's the best decision to cut right back in any direction you can and examine where you are going and what you hope to achieve. Excellent video!
That's why I decided I would never launch a hand crafting business. Bc I know that what I love as my hobby and joy would turn into my nightmare, my every day labor. Ppl will always tell me, "oh you should sell this!" Even this morning as I watch this, someone texted me about selling my art, but I know it's not right for me. And I could never truly put a price on each piece. So I give them as gifts knowing each one is one-of-a-kind, priceless, and was made with love.
I think we forget that businesses can grow slowly over a long period of time. As current tasks become more familiar, we can add a small task next year if we want to. Quick growth can be disastrous. Slow growth can be solid and sustainable. I've recently made this decision for myself, and I am experiencing a lot of peace and authenticity.
I can't put into words how MIUCH I needed to hear your words today. Ive always struggled with not being enough for someone or something ,be it a job, relationship,etc. Im turning 65 in a few months and the world will have to accept me for who I am and what I can accomplish in my own time. Thank you so much,youve made me very happy
Same here, I'm also in my 60s. I woke up thinking that I was too sensitive for this world and working so hard for so little reward is no life at all. I also needed to hear this as a reminder.
the other day a friend left me hanging for a lunch date (she's done this before) I inevitably get a long, breathy explanation of what happened, the husband this the kids that etc etc. Because I'm single and childless I'm expected to understand that lunch with a friend can't be a priority. I never expected to be a priority, but that I don't rate a phone call or quick text ahead of time is what really bothers me Ive ignored her last message with the "oh sooo sorry!"@@mortalandwild
What you say here resonates with many of us. I quit trying to fit in. I realize that I am a highly sensitive person whose health is affected by stress. I love my cats, bunnies, birds and aquarium fish. Learning to balance my enjoyment of them along with my Etsy shop business is a daily effort. Getting enough rest so as take a break from this world we are all in is so important. It is the little things that bring so much joy. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts here. I can totally relate!!!❤
Oh my word, those soaps are stunning, Paola! You are so very talented. My late best friend used to make goat's milk soaps-she dyed them and named them after the favorite chickens in our flocks, depending on their color. I so miss her two years after she left us unexpectedly. My older son makes hand crafted leather products and he pays special attention to detail in his packaging presentation as you do. Life can be a roller coaster for most of us at your age and the expectations of others seem to intrude on our lives far too often. Things that matter to others simply do not matter to me and I know you've felt that as well. At 67, I have found that I just like to exist as well. Daily pleasures in nature always make my heart sing, like the spring peepers at dusk that have made their appearances already. God bless and best wishes for your newly expanding family. ~Cynthia, N. GA mountains
This really spoke to me and my physical abilities. I have a chronic illness and don't think we need to be tough. The world should soften ❤ I love your ethos and admire you so much . Big hugs from Ireland 🇨🇮
Awe, thanks for opening up. We would be great friends😂😂😂 I have a small home town business from home. I bake and make skin oils and salves. The first year was so successful it shocked me. But I was baking every moment of every single day and then packaging until midnight. Like you said it turned into 24/7 work. In return I was exhausted, I didn't enjoy it like I used to as it used to relax me and didn't anymore, my mind was foggy, my body hurt, and the quality of my goods I felt went down. So the next year (which was 2023) I pulled back 95% and got a part time cozy job taking care of 1 year olds in a daycare. I feel so much better physically and mentally now even though I don't have a lot of business sales anymore and I lost a lot of people. Because now I can leave work at work, spend all my time with my family when we're together, have spiritual and mental time for myself, and I LOVE those babies and my coworkers really aren't even terrible😂 my quality of goods in my business went back up, I enjoy it again when i do create, and I can go back to be just intentional, slow paced, and boring. Thanks for this video. It's so comforting to see others out there who are content with just enough 😊
Wow I get you, after school was struggling to find a job and I started baking to pay for long distance learning at a University. In the beginning it was the perfect job because I loved baking but as time passed I lost the joy of being able to bake, decorate and do my own marketing and make sales. I ended up being stressed, overworked, sleep deprived and physically sore because I had to stand all day.. I now do an office job which I totally love since I am working from home mostly but the best part is being able to see my pets during the day, water my plants during breaks and just take stand outside soaking up the sunlight and taking in the way birds talk to each other while trees are swaying in the breeze. Blessings to you 🤗
Oh Paola, I totally get you. I've had friends think I'm not taking serious life decisions because I'm not setting glamorous life goals as them. What they forget is, I prioritize my mental wellbeing more than those big goals and making plenty money to travel the world. I love slow living and it's even more difficult to have this kind of mindset as an African living in Africa but I have done the inner work enough to be strong and confident with my life choices. Peace of mind is what I value and I don't hesitate to give myself that. Thank you for always sharing with us.❤
Where are you in Africa? I'd love to connect. I also left America to live the slow life in Ghana and Nigeria. I became friends with Carl, founder of "The Slow Movement" a few years ago, and never looked back. Isn't it funny how "you're slow" is an insult in America 😢😀
@holisticlivingwiththatdada9732 OH WOW! We live in Lagos as well (Apapa). We're currently in Ghana, though, until the end of April. Where are you in Lagos? We should connect when we return.
I for got to add that I made an organic soap and moisturizer product as well called Natural Beautiful Skin, for a local organic market with a small base of regular customers. I always sold out each month and had to restock but there was no stress. Everyone urged me to expand, but the thought horrified me 😅…it was enough to restock my small grocery store. I believe that each town has its own butcher, baker, and candlestick maker so to speak and local satisfied customers is more than enough for me. Then Covid happened and my town’s little organic grocery store, Harvest Market, had to close its doors. That ended my season of soap and moisturizer making for the public. Now, I just make it for myself (and family often asks for it too:) I make big batches when I make it and can afford to share:)
I just wanted to say that this video appeared on my page during a time when I needed it. I am also at a cross roads in my life and I have been sacrificing my health and what I want for a longtime, because I didn't see any other way. I have been offered a management position in a corporate office, and while I know I can do it, I feel like I would be sacrificing my health and my happiness, and for what? All I crave is a simple life, and everything that you shared has resonated with me so deeply. Thank you for being brave enough to be vulnerable, you have truly inspired me. You are a beautiful human :)
This was a really lovely offering, your candor and willingness to share these lessons and transitions in life is deeply moving. As someone who also prefers to keep things simple, manageable and personal I would honestly make the same choices you have. You're already a mother, but you will be a truly marvellous parent.
Paola, I always love your videos but I must say that this video is my favourite. You are almost like my soul sister, we are so similar. I am a highly sensitive person and I have also struggled with perfectionism and being a workaholic. As an elementary school teacher, I love my children so much and I have always put their needs above my own. After 7 years of slaving away as a teacher, my body finally reached its breaking point. I am currently on sick leave and I am enjoying time off away from work. It's crazy how being a teacher was such a huge part of my identity that when I finally stepped away from it, I could find time to explore who I truly was. I know that I am a daughter of Christ and that God loves me, regardless of my achievements or hard work. You talked about feeling unworthy in your video and I can definitely relate. I think the moment when I realized that God still loves me even in my brokenness and despite my imperfections, that is when I felt true peace in my heart. Thank you for baring your soul out in this video. I think it isn't easy being able to be so vulnerable to strangers on the Internet. It takes a lot of courage and inner strength. I pray that you would find peace and happiness as you live a life that is more frugal, more slow-paced and ultimately more satisfying to you. Sending you love and hugs ❤
You are wonderful. As a doctor and young mother of a 5 month old located in Germany I face now the same questions you do and you talked more truth than douzens of hours of TH-cam-content I listened to for the last few years. I wish I knew you personally, you are a great inspiration for me. Thank you for your precious work 🤍
Beautifully and wisely said Paola. I myself am a highly sensitve person and worked way beyond my boundaries for decades. Now I am very aware of my own regenerative process and prioretise and appreciate it deeply. Thank you and go on fully being you 🌷
I worked in traditional, corporate jobs for 30 years. Corporate employers don’t care about your physical, mental or emotional health. They just push for more sacrifice on your part. If you are lucky enough to be self employed, enjoy that freedom and listen to your mind, body and heart. It’s just not worth it to put those things second to a job. You pay for constant stress later in your life. Live within your limits and financial means. You’ll be happier in the long run. ❤
Longtime viewer, first time commenter here. Thank you so much for this beautiful video and important message, Paola. I feel that your video art has reached a new level with this video. You are usually so calm, but here your tone is so... urgent (intentionally or not). The lessons you're learning and sharing really are urgent. People can lose themselves to overwork far too easily (myself included!!) that I think we sometimes need to be a little shaken to realize it and start caring for ourselves. I am a PhD student, working on my dissertation at the moment, and it's such a struggle. When I'm fixated on writing a chapter, I neglect important things (like exercise, eating well, and even spending time with my husband). When I finish a chapter and get a little time to rest, I dread the next work cycle. I am determined to complete this degree, but the whole process has harmed my psyche. I need to always remember the message you share here.
I feel you, I was living a high stressed life owning my own business for 28 yrs with a staff of 10-16 ppl and always have so much anxiety and never have enough time for myself or my family. I started to get physically sick and my mental health was suffering badly. I just sold my business and now I’m beginning to see the light. I meditate twice a day and that helps so much and keeping me grounded. I am going to focus on my health and living intentionally. I am grateful and had no regrets, I’m on a different path now and I’m so happy. I wish you all the very best, enjoy your channel.
You are a natural at film artistry - the timing, the moments you choose to show, the sequence you choose in which to show those moments, the soft piano, the natural sounds mixed in with the piano, your authentically transparent voice ... what you choose to film ... what you choose to say ... the way in which you say it ... the beauty of how your words fall together ... are all so healing. Your medium is the message and the message is the medium.
This beautiful video touched me to the core. I cannot do all that it takes to be highly successful financially, but I feel success in a happy life. You are an inspiration to me, a woman in her late 60s. Thank you and continue being who you are meant to be. ❤
I’m the same. After career momhood and late divorce I’m finding a peace alone I’ve never had. I have a nature based part time job and finding new friends who live similarly. Best to you. Lisa age 65.
You’ve got it totally right. The world’s definition of “success” is not true success at all. Money and “things” only end up getting in the way of true happiness. You are an inspiration!
You may have made mistakes - but you learned things many people twice your age have not learned yet. Consider yourself ahead. I raised a family, retired from 3 careers, became a grand mother of 7 - and am finally learning what you already learned. Take care of you, your son, your husband, and of course your lovely animals the rest will fall into place. Take care and enjoy.
Beautifully said! This video made me recall the wonderful message from Winnie Pooh, “you are Braver than you realize, Smarter than you think, and Loved more than you know”….. You’re an inspiration to many of us!😘 Blessings to you and yours 💙 Nana Nita in Indiana Dunes
I'm a hsp and totally relate to what you're saying. I read something about pushing our mental health and physical health too far , it said , if you don't listen to your bodies whispers you will be forced to listen to its screams !!! Very true ❤
I usually don't comment on your videos, but this one really resonated with me. We are enough! We've just been indoctrinated to believe we're not enough. We just have to find our own centers and determine what is enough for each of us and be okay with it. We were meant to enjoy our lives to the fullest, not to slave away at a job we don't like just to make more money. We are meant to create the life we want and live the life we love, and that should be enough.
You have an amazing path ahead of you. It's newness deserves your attention, care, and confidence. You will be a huge blessing to your little one. Be blessed and may you find an abundance of inner peace in your soul.❤
I am watching a close friend come to this realization and I see how difficult it is. More and bigger is what people want to hear when they ask about your business and it's hard to pull back from that expectation alone. I'm going to send them this video, I know they'll appreciate it.
Thanks for your explaining! I started a small business this year and it was growing too fast. I stepped backwards, people don't understand, but my husband does! Your video expresses exact my feelings. God bless you
Your story of cutting back on your channel to be yourself resonated with me. In the 80's I left a very good and rewarding part time job to become a full time mom. The way I thought about it was that I could hire someone to take care of my children or I could take care of them. I wanted to be me for them! I was very lucky that my husband could support us in only a slightly less expensive manner. And he was willing to. It was a terrible decision for my career but a wonderful one for my life! As I am sure your decisions are for you. ❤❤❤
I love that you said "it was a terrible decision for my career but a wonderful decision for my life." Since when did career outweigh life? We need to stop and reevaluate the goals by which we are governing our lives ❤
I love your video and your channel. I always feel so calm and relaxed when I watch your videos❤ I live a very quiet life. Reading books, doing creative hobbies like knitting, painting, drawing and similar things. I have a chronic migraine and in order to keep it as stable as possible, I can't work. I live in a country where I get a bit of income every month from the government because I am disabled. I'll never be rich, but I manage myself financially. Something I am very grateful for. Thank you for your beautiful channel. You always make my day a little better 🥰
Contentment is a rarity these days but is a gift. A neighbor's huge house now sits empty, the husband passed away from high blood pressure and the wife passed away from cancer of the breast. I thought of the life of paying the monthly equity for their house, and the hard work that was put into it only to be left behind hence, I can totally relate and appreciate your outlook in life.
Vanessa Lau recently shared her experience of why she quit a 7 figure business ... now promoting a lifestyle of "feel good, have fun, do less and make enough". You are both tremendous truth-tellers and inspirations.
When you respond to the call of simplicity, your life changes in amazing ways. The rat race out there is killing people. I did the corporate thing for years and I retired a little earlier than I had planned. I was exhausted and suffered from nerve pain. Two surgeries later, I'm feeling much better. I adopted a slow living life style and at 71, I am more happy and content than I ever had been. This is truly the happiest time of my life. God bless you. Don't be afraid of what you are facing. It will be wonderful.
I have been getting sick regularly for past three years ...finally understanding its to do with being exhausted and stressed . Having to lay it all down do things very differently ...or finally learning not to do ! I have no idea what the future holds ..yes aligning with what my truth is and trusting all will be well . I'm so grateful for your true honest gentle story .❤
Pretty much the entire time I was talking my cat was throwing around a cat toy 😅 I am so sorry about all the random sounds. Sending much love and light ❤
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Thank you for your honesty
I've learned so much about self care lately . It's so important.
Well done for listening to yourself ❤
No need to apologise! It wasn't loud.
You're a starseed and you shine very bright! ❤
You're so much more than a human. You're a multi-dimensional being and there's great power in that.
You are so truly a special soul and ❤ always love 🙏🕊
I understand I am with you - love the simple life
I just watched your video and would like to offer a kind bit of advice. I’m a 70 year old artist, mother of 4, grandmother to 5. You must not bother addressing other people’s concerns on your choices in life. Live intuitively, don’t overthink, don’t try to explain who you are. Live by faith, it works out, it really does. My husband and I have been married coming up on 46 years and most of our extended family don’t understand why we choose to live so simply but happy to say, the proof is in the pudding, we have a beautiful life that now they envy. Be true to yourself with no need to explain. Your child will appreciate the freedom that brings to you as a mother
Explaining is just what people need because the world does push us to be someone we are not. So, the message has a powerful effect because it means living simple is allowed.
This is sage advice. Thank you!!
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Yes! She is right, beautiful cottage fairy. It's distressing to me to know you didn't realize what an amazing person and artist you are- in so many areas. Just always be you, and life will be grand. ❤❤❤
Co workers think I’m boring, one told me I live the life of an “old lady!” I’m 35, single mom of two. I love reading, journaling, watching horror movies, drawing and walking through the woods. I keep getting told I need to go out to the bars and meet a man, none of that sounds appealing to me! I really value my quiet time, I’m still heading from what my ex put me through. I’m finally just being me, doing what makes me happy. At least for the most part, I’m still working through a lot. But I’m finally doing it! Just be you, do what you need to do for you! ❤️
I think your life stunds awesome❤
@@monalarsson5586 thank you! ❤️
Watching horror movies? If it's ghost stories and hauntings, I love those too (i.e. the show "A Haunting") but if you're talking slasher horror movies with the gore, how does that fit in with reading, journaling, drawing, walks through the woods and other peaceful activities?🤔
@@zariballard I’ve always loved horror movies, of any kind. For me that’s comfort. It’s not for everyone but it’s definitely for me! I can go from watching a slasher to watching Ever After or Pride and Prejudice! It makes me happy! 🖤😊
@@zariballardWhy not? Balance in all things! :)
This is so precious. I am 74 now and have done exactly what you speak of. Now I grow my own food and create most of the things I need. I can no longer be pressured to do anything that isn't in alignment with myself. I live very frugally but my life of full of beauty and love and satisfaction. I am more content each day. ❤
As a disabled person on a tiny disability check (less than 1k a month), I can attest to the fact that it truly is the simple things that give us peace. I know I will never have much materially, but I am so grateful that I do have the time to read lots of books in the company of my cats. Yes, it's a quiet and boring life, but it's mine and I plan to enjoy it to the best of my ability ❤
Edit: Thank you all so much for the kind and encouraging words, they mean a lot - love this amazing community ❤️
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I love this! Blessings to you.
You are not living a quiet and boring life- but a beautiful, real and true life, God speed!
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OMG!!! You are SO not living a boring life at all!!! Book. Cats. sounds wonderful!! and...... one can go to more places through books than can travel on this planet!!! Enjoy!
We were all so brainwashed as young children to work hard, go to school, get a job etc. You are living life the way it should be lived. Success does not mean money. You are very successful at doing what you love and that is priceless. 🌻🌼
I agree ❤️
Really living life!!
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She is making thousands every month on these videos.
Agree, agree! I’ve been a “professional” artist/crafter for 25 years. Went to prestigious art schools, had a business with a few employees after school, licensing and publishing deals with large companies, blah blah blah, did all the things you’re “supposed” to do, got really sick. After a decade of that disaster, I left everything and everyone behind, bought a van to live and travel in to reconnect with my true self. Now I live on a small island building my own home as time/budget allows, work odd jobs and make art and crafts primarily for myself that I sell when I can/want. Never been happier, even though I’m “doing it all wrong”😂!
I love it! 👍
this is a little bit too much but would you consider doing a channel about your life/artwork there on the island? no pressure tho i just feel it's so brave and fantastic of you leaving behind all and living your best life...
@@danthanh98 I do… sort of! I value my privacy, so I don’t get on camera, but I recently began making short (mostly nature) videos on my TH-cam channel
This sounds like a dream tbh
@@islanding-salishsea Oooh, I'm checking out your channel. It's awesome you're doing that. 🌼
As a small business owner I can totally relate. I'm sick of people telling me what I could and should do to grow my business. I don't want to grow, I just want to do a good job with what I'm doing now.
Indeed.
One thing is ideas and suggestions that people think would tickle your creativity, one thing is people trying to make you do more/be more/accomplish more, take your hobby/business as a constant fight.
I find that completely kills it for me.
I just go blank.
I know my friends meant well when they told me I should grow my social media, make more content, hire staff and so much more. Last year and earlier this year I was experiencing burnout, I'm a homebaker. I used to love baking so much, and it got to the point where I don't even want to see any more cookie dough. I was so sick of people giving me unwanted suggestions without even asking me what I wanted to do with my business. They don't even bother asking me about my main concepts or how I want to grow my business, it was just so nauseating.
I'm so glad so many people are experiencing the same thing.. I thought I was weird for wanting to keep my business the way it is.
If I could give you more than one thumbs up for your comment I would. Thanks so much for sharing! ❤
I am an 81 year old man in a time of much change, as I seek to live more the truth of myself. This video sharing of yours, is much a gift to me. Thank you.
Your comment touched my heart. I wish you the best as you navigate the changes you speak of. Be kind to yourself as you find soft places to land. Love and light to you. Namaste.
This is so beautiful. I am 45 and if I am allowed to live and experience another 40 years, I pray my mindset is like yours.
Lovely comment. Thank you.
Thank you for the kindness of your blessing.
Thank you for sharing, thank you for your years and wisdom. Peace and blessings to you.❤
I can relate so much here. I started my channel as a hobby and never though it would become my ""job"" one day, but so far I'm happy I've never had a single video sponsored, and I don't sell merch because that's not my vision either. I think this is the secret to some kind of longevity of any art form: do what makes you happy, and you'll do it for a long time. After a few years watching every video you release, I think it's safe to say that you're staying true to your vision, and this is why so many people are still here supporting you. You may have made "mistakes", like everybody does, but in the end, we're still here to spend a timeless moment with the beautiful Cottage Fairy 😊 As you're saying: you're enough. Take care dear Paola!
Hello Diane! I absolutely agree with your statement. I've also been watching your channel for a few years now. As I contemplate starting my own channel, for educational and entertainment purposes, can we really make a sustainable, full time living with just the ad sense from YT and not having to get sponsored videos and other merch?
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I love your channel Diane. Watch your videos multiple times each. You recently took some time for yourself and all your followers were very supportive. The TH-cam community is not all toxic ;)
Coucou Diane. Entièrement d’accord avec toi. Profitons de la vie et continuons à faire ce que l’on aime. 😊😊😊😊
Absolutely agreed.
Paola - I never comment. But this requires one. You have tapped into immense wisdom. Never apologize for it. If anything, keep embracing it. I’ve been an entrepreneur for 20 years and I have worked with a lot of these “build bigger, more more more” business owners. Not a single one. Let me repeat. Not a single one is actually happy. They never feel like what they are doing is enough. Almost all of them have health issues. More is not the answer. Enough is. Health is everything. Family is everything. Being aligned and living a peaceful happy life with the time to actually live it is *everything*. Find your balance. Find your enough. And truly, let that be enough. Don’t hold yourself hostage to anyone else’s definition of what that is. You are absolutely on the right path. Thank you for doing what you do and for being the cottage fairy 🧚♂️ You have enriched all of our lives with your presence and art!!
Well said. Don’t apologize. Live and learn. ❤❤
👏 👏 👏 THIS! You speak the truth. As a previous small business (coaching) I've seen it too. Our culture doesn't like people to be content and happy, they want stressed out people. Why? They consume more in every way.
Amen.
Hey sorry it's out of the context but your pfp radiates so much positivity and joy.
You are a lovely lady 🤍
So wise ! Thank you !
People say we're boring but honestly, what greater privilege than being confortable with yourself and satisfied with your life? No need for much, just pure happiness out of little things
You said it 🤗
That was a lovely video thankyou! ❤😊 all the very best to you ❤
I just wish I realised years ago that it is OK not to want to go out, travel etc. Like you say, it's a true gift to enjoy your own company.
Someone told me I was boring and I needed to do more. I finally got frustrated with him and told him I like my life just the way it is. I know what it is to live in chaos. I don’t want that. I live the life I live because of that chaos I’ve been through. I am finally comfortable with who I am. People always tried to make me feel like something was wrong with me because I’m quiet & shy. I finally fully came into myself last year (and the process began long before that but he made me realize how happy I am with me & who I am). I told him that he has an issue with my life because he is walking chaos. Well, let’s just say we no longer speak for various reasons but that’s a major factor…for me at least..he may say something different directed at me 😂…and I’m okay with some of that too 🤷🏾♀️…even my brother tries to get me to do more…I think I might need to have that talk with him too. 😂
@@ChaptersAndScreens I endorse your attitude 100% 😁 👋✌
I was beginning to think that I was the only one who didn't care about making tons of money. I was always satisfied with having "enough" and God always provided it.
@kathyann9643 no, you're not alone there. Many years ago, there were a range of magazines such as Grassroots and Simply Living, I guess they were the precursors to a movement *back to basics* that we see today. Simplicity doesn't automatically equal deprivation, you and I know it (but many have been brainwashed to beleive a consumerist, materialist dream). The dream easily becomes nightmarish if life goes out of balance, for sure
Same here!
Hallelujah. ♡
same here. you’re not alone ☺️
And can I ask, where do you work, I mean in what profession?
My daughter just looked over my shoulder and said “She’s so beautiful!” I couldn’t agree more. Thanks for being so naturally you. Great message too!
Dearest Paola, Don't write off what you have accomplished so far. You've done amazing things in a short time, during a pandemic, on the Internet. Your photography, heart-felt storytelling, and philosophy are compelling. If you feel you missed the first wave of possible success, never fear, you will rise again. People out in the whole wide world are watching you, curious about what you will do next. And cheering you on. Your channels and artwork have been one of the brightest spots in these last few years for me. Keep following your heart. I've run a singing studio for 40 years, and it has taken directions I never expected, and if I died tomorrow - I'd be satisfied with what I've accomplished. One is not always in the driver's seat - but You are on the right track! - with love and light
Yes! I felt like shes writing herself off too! She is absolutely successful. Shes not successfully running a corporation, but thats obviously not her goal.... its not most peoples goal. She has well over 1m followers, a book, people all over whose hearts shes touched and look at her life with longing.... that seems like an incredible amount of success to me!
Truth!
I've always thought to be an entrepreneur takes a lot of courage. It's very feast or famine and extremely hard work. You my dear are a courageous person. A lovely person that has her feet set on solid ground. You do what you need to in order too have balance in your life. Numbers 6: 24-26
I have a friend who always says “may you have enough “ I owned a child care center for 10 yrs. Never made any money. And I felt like a failure , in retrospect I feel comforted to realize I built a community of support that lasts long after the center closed. It was valuable. You are moving in the right direction.❤
Beautiful encouragement. I agree.
You are perfect just the way you are. After 25 years of business, my favorite place now at 50 years old is at home, reading my Bible, journaling cooking a good meal and making an herbal tea. You just arrived quicker than me.
I'm literally crying after watching this video..as a highly sensitive person I can relate to so many things you said. Just remember we will never leave you no matter what, we love our cottage fairy Paola ❤
Paola. Gracias. Mi nombre es Clara. Casi a mis cuarenta y tantos años me identifiqué cómo un highly sensitive person y sorpresivamente un poco dentro del espectro autista, que se expresa de manera diferente en las mujeres que en los hombres. No me gustan las etiquetas, pero encontré una razón y muchas respuestas a muchas cosas que por no ser entendidas causaron sufrimiento y trauma durante mi niñez y las arrastré por el resto de mi vida. Estos traumas generaron severas migrañas con las que he vivido desde mis siete años. El proceso de sanidad ha tomado tiempo pero ahora estoy viviendo muchos resultados positivos. Gracias por tu valentía para ser fiel a ti primero. Una de mis mayores heridas ha sido sanar y perdonarme mi negligencia conmigo misma. Reconocernos y hacer paz con quién realmente somos. Aceptarlo y amarnos es la verdadera sanidad.
Gracias por ser una voz respetuosa que trae luz con amor a muchos 💖
Amo tu canal tal cómo es!
Sigue adelante!!! 😊
Yes and yes!!
@@joeswift9605I'm very proud of you Clara.. always remember your high sensitivity is not your weakness but your greatest strength.. ❤ you are loved and valued just the way you are 😊.. btw I also think that I might be autistic but I am not sure 😅..
You're the best. At 58 I still needed this reminder-enough IS enough. Thank You~
I'm a painter, and I've been repeatedly told by friends and acquaintances that I could easily sell my work and that people would love prints of my pieces. But I've always gravitated toward making them gifts, whether for friends and family or for myself. I'm starting to consider what it might look like to start selling, but there's a big part of me that's wary of the push to make everything you enjoy doing profitable. It doesn't have to be. It can just be life-giving.
Beautiful message! Enough is enough. I'm 70 years old and I've learned that having health and peace of mind, make my life worth living. In the past, I lost both, but luckily figured out what my priorities were and fought hard to regain what I lost. Take care of yourself! ❤
For 40+ years I worked hard as a teacher pushing myself and my body and my mind. Then an injury forced me to retire a couple of years early and my life came crashing down. People told me I should be volunteering and I should be doing more interesting things and one family member even said " live or die"... And I'm glad I instead listened to my own heart and I found the simple things that bring me joy...an they are enough. I never wanted more than just enough. So now I work to help save feral cats, and I pick up trash every day for the environment, and I teach my Mexican neighbor English, and I love my simple simple life. I don't need much to be happy so everything you said I resonate with. Oh my! Paola, you are so wise at such a young age! You're little boy is going to be so lucky to have such wonderful parents who understand the beauty of simplicity and frugality. Thank you for being so open and honest! Who you are and what you share with the world is such a purposeful gift to the universe!
As a fellow cat lady….thank you for what you do to help the feral cats. I’ve been feeding and caring for a feral for over three years. Finally last summer he started getting closer and closer to me, eventually purring and rubbing up against my legs. Since I can’t bring him in my home I took him to my local shelter, where I do some work with, and now he’s a lover boy (orange cat), and ready for adoption! I’m so proud of him! Bless you for what you do! ❤❤❤
This is amazing, I love your story. As someone who almost ended up in academia but chose differently in the end due to not wanting to sell my soul, this is exactly the type of slow paced way of life that I'm after.
"I never wanted more than just enough" ❤ thats exactly me. Thank you for these words!!
You sound lovely and living a purpose driven life,,,, love❤️
I chose education, too, and I find myself continually exhausted. I think I could have handled it had I not contracted Lyme disease. Now I just barely get through each day. Sometimes I wonder if I’d be able to work any job without pain and exhaustion.
I'm currently struggling big time. I was living my life with the usual struggles but I had a good job, a home and what I thought was a happy marriage. It wasn't perfect but there was a lot of good. Then I was blindsided by my husband taking off with someone else, losing my "secure" government job, then I got sick and became clinically depressed. I don't have kids because the X didn't want them (but had them with someone else) so that didn't happen for me. It's been brutal to be honest so I am grateful for this channel as Paola you have shown me that we can be true to ourselves; that there are kind, sensitive people who are unique and true to themselves. Sometimes I wish we all lived in the same area so we could be surrounded by a like-minded community. I wish I could meet you all.
I’m 71 , and I’ve felt exactly as yourself, all my life ❤
I always loved this certain short story of a fisherman: one day a hard working man in a suit finds this fisherman next to his small fishing boat sitting in the sun in the afternoon. They start talking and the buisy man asks him why he isn't fishing anymore. The fisherman tells him he already went fishing in the morning and catched a few fish that he brought home to his wife. The man in the suit tells him how if he would just go fishing again in the afternoon he would catch more fish that he could sell, make more money, buy a larger fishing boat to catch more fish, to make more money, than he could hire people to help him and earn more money that he could use to expand his business,... And then when he would be retiring he could sit down in the sun and relax and enjoy his life. Then the fisherman responses: "but that's what I am already doing right now"
Lovely! Thank you!
I have read it as a child, too
I love this story, thank you for sharing 🤗
My brother shared this story on his fb page a few years back. He died in his sleep last Sept, before he reached 62. He was enjoying himself before this happened, but he needed to take better care of his body.
Wow, that struck a cord
When I got pregnant I knew I didn’t want to miss raising our child and being the one to give him his life foundation. We didn’t know how we would afford to live as my husband was a student. But 5 years later here we are, and my job is still being a mother ❤, wouldn’t trade it for any thing.
Your beautiful cat takes his responsibilities very seriously as he "supervises" your creative activities.
Yes indeed, self appointed overseer and quality control expert 😂
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Bravo Paola, bravo. So much wisdom in your words. You have probably run into the story of the Brazilian fisherman and the American businessman. It is appropriate here. If not, here it is:
There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village.
As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish.
The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?”
The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.”
“Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished.
“This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said.
The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?”
The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink - we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.”
The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman.
“I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”
The fisherman continues, “And after that?”
The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.”
The fisherman asks, “And after that?”
The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”
The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”
Brilliant story !!
So beautiful and deep story 💝
Brilliant story
Lovely story. And so true of life, we sacrifice to be better, but lose that that makes us feel better. I like the Brazilian Fisherman's philosophy.
I've heard this story before and always liked it, but never knew it was a Brazilian fisherman. As a brazilian myself, I find this reference quite interesting, in spite of life not been really easy here (making ends meets is a real stuggle for many, just to survive), there is so much joy going on too.
I made the mistake of thinking success and happiness were associated with my job and how much I earned . A hard lesson to learn . Now I am very content being me . I love being boring and quiet . ❤❤❤❤❤
I respect you so much for living according to your values! I think people appreciate your authenticity, your candor and the wisdom that shines through you. It is truly a gift on the internet when so many other creators lose touch of that. Your channel has been my favorite for years and I'll continue watching your beautiful videos.
Exactly my thoughts too! Love you you ❤️
Success is the ability to go from one failure to another without any lack of enthusiasm.
Well-said, @PeaceGirl922!
I nearly cried when you talked about how too much pressure/too many responsibilities brought illness and panic attacks; I related to that so strongly. We "sensitives" do have to make choices that will preserve our health, even if it means we aren't living up to the level of "success" that others, or we ourselves, think we should be able to achieve.
we sensitives were not made for the matrix work systems....and shall no more feel pressured to do so. We are successes in another sense
Yes yes and yes
Can you explain what you mean but “sensitives”? I am going through much stress and my body is going through digestive issues, with panic as well. Would love to learn how to heal and have the courage to walk away from a toxic job.
Paola, you are a gorgeous HSP soul shining incredible light. I totally "get" you and I'm just a little further along the path~I had our 2 boys back to back 7+8 years ago. I recognize everything you speak to here and while I have experienced a great deal of heartbreak due to devastating and totally unexpected medical diagnoses for us in that era (and even heard some of the terribly rude sentiments I see in just maybe 2 of these thousands of comments), I seek to stay true. Stay magical. Love reigns. You are going to be a phenomenal mama for always~
May many many blessings come your way. You are a caring and kind human.
I'm single and self employed. I just gave up my biggest client and half my salary!I'd been so unhappy and stressed for a long time and was suffering physically. I have a bit of financial back up and have no doubt I will find more work. The sheer relief I felt was amazing. It was worth it even though it was a big scary step. You're much younger than me and have learned these lessons already. You should be proud of yourself. Thanks for sharing your wisdom 🙏
Paola, you are such a precious gift to this earth & humanity! The wisdom you posess in yor 20's, takes most folks 65-70 years of living by what 'others' say is the right way, until they are so worn down and exhausted, they are forced to stop & reaccess their lives. Only then, do they begin to realize they listened to everyone and everything except their own heart...and that is where their truth lies.
You are so young in body, but so old in wisdom! Never close your beautiful heart down & stop second guessing your wise choices. That wisdom is coming from your heart center and you can trust it...always!
Keep being your authentic self and trust your inate 'knowing'. You are teaching truths we all need to remember, by how you live your life. You are a gift and a blessing to this earth Paola...and you can trust that as truth! Blessings to you and your family.
I am in the same exact boat. But with two different clients. I find that now that I am no longer dealing with those client, I feel hopeful and inspired again. I redesigned and ordered new business cards and other marketing items. I am falling in love with my business and line of work again. And I feel proud of my job and myself. We got this!! 😉 💪
I am the same, leaving my cleaning business after nearly 38 years because of the stress & being diagnosed with osteoarthritis. Luckily I also have a reselling business & some funds behind me & I can work from home. The effect was immediate, relief & happiness flooding through my body. My simple life is more than enough for me, but somewhere along the way I got lost. “ The moment we become ill or dying is the moment we start living “ 😊
Dear Paola, I often think that you're wise beyond your years! Most people come to this very realization too late in life or when a serious illness strikes. From my experience as a nearly sixty year old small business owner and more importantly mother/grandmother, I can assure you that you're on the right path... for you. Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom so beautifully and artfully. All best wishes to you and your little family.
Your son will be so blessed to have you for his mother. A woman so gentle, thoughtful, careful, present, and wise.
And those of us who follow your channel are blessed by your honesty, and generosity in sharing yourself and your growth as you move so gracefully through the stages of your life.
This is such a precious and personal time for you, thank you for sharing so much with us.
I am SO proud of you. I've followed your journey since your first few videos, watching you grow from an unsure young lady into a more confident woman, then a wife, and now a mother. As your "fame" (if I can call it that) grew, I was worried that the unique simplicity that makes you YOU would be gobbled up by these things you've mentioned: pushing harder, sponsorships, expansion, etc. To know that you've had the wisdom to chose authenticity over commercialism is such a joyful relief. You may not know it, but the very thing that has allowed you to touch so many lives around the world IS that pure simplicity that is at the core of you. In the long run, that kind of clarity and authenticity is the greatest success. I wish you the best in life and I hope you'll be around for a while to come, just being you, perfectly imperfect.
Love that!! 🌹
What a beautiful response to Paola! I totally agree with you and most certainly, she has been a breath of fresh air, causing me to slow down and to begin to take notice of the world right around me! It is the simple joys of life that make my mind stop racing and help me to reconsider what I give my time, money and efforts to. Bless your for your wisdom!
Paola, thanks so much for this video. I recently left an intense job in D.C. and my current job has me scaling back my spending and counting pennies, but I feel so much more grounded and joyful. Thanks for not only staying true to yourself, but sharing it so fully with all of us. I look forward to following your continued journey.
One of my values is living close to the Earth and building my positive impact on the natural world. I think one of the most vital ways we can all do that is by slowing down and embracing the contentment of enough.
Madeline I agree 👍🤗
Your emotional intelligence and self awareness is off-the-charts amazing! The message you are sending out into this busy, noisy, smelly, chaotic world to slow down and seek balance is exactly what the world needs to hear and do. I am also an HSP. It's not our job to fit into this world. When you find yourself in a world you don't fit in, it's time to make a new one. That's why we're here. To show the others a better way. You are a lighthouse, my dear. You are fulfilling your purpose.💖💖💖
Yes!! ❤
Beautiful response. Totally agree and gives me peace too actually (I’m also a HSP)
Completely agree. ❤ So much wisdom in your video, Paolo. I'm also a hsp and developed fibromyalgia in my forties due to, I believe in part, trying to fit in with the world and a speed that just didn't suit my sensitive nature.
It's not been pleasant getting ill but it has taught me to slow waaaaay down and I feel fortunate that now I live in a completely different way, now in line with my nature. I love that I'm sensitive now but like you, there was a time when I thought there was something wrong with me. I realise now how untrue that is! These videos have been a wonderful lifeline to further understand myself - thank you.
Thank you so much for posting this video. I have been running a small art business for 6 years and I found that it absolutely burned the passion to create out of me.
I found that I was more concerned with what I could sell, rather than creating art for the reasons I got into it in the first place.
I realized I lost my joy and relaxation.
Now I make art, just to make it. If I want to sell it I can, but it's not my motivation.
This video reminded me that doing what is best for me and not my business is okay
How did you get to that point? I'm trying to get there!
I had a conversation the other day with a fellow co worker. We discussed jobs and income. I said "my husband and I live simply, make enough to survive". And he thought it was so strange how people always say "survive: and not "thrive". Your video reminded me that thriving is different for all of us. I love my simple life, books, crafts a small wonderful house a husband who loves me and our quiet life. I am thriving! And so are you. You have a wonderful life that enriches your soul. 💕
Sorry, but the opportunity to live a good life in a small house is more than most people have.
Nowadays, quite a few people have to work in order to be able to survive with their families in cramped conditions.
@@eliseadler9480 gracemccoy was expressing her gratitude for her life. Why would you want to make her feel bad about it?
@@eliseadler9480….I think that is why she realized she is thriving….
I love this! Is it okay if I screenshot your comment? I would like to share this kind of mindset to others ☺
Thank you for this. I work a day-job that is SO hard on me mentally (I work with k-12 American kids lol) and am a small business owner/ content creator. I used to push SO hard to be competitive in my industry and try to make as much money as possible and squeeze as much out of each day as possible... but then I developed Ulcerative Colitis.
It has turned my world upside down, and it has also forced me to slow down and question what's really important (and, sadly, possible) in life. I have felt so guilty about not having the energy or capacity to do more or be creative on demand. Hearing you talk about this is honestly really comforting, so thank you. 🖤
Wishing you and your family well on your new chapter. ✨️
And I don't know who needs to hear it, but please take care of yourself. "A healthy man wants a thousand things. A sick man only wants one." Your health matters. 🖤
Look at hypnotherapy to discover the root cause and the meaning it is really helpful
@@alisonhoyte7608 I already do this. Sadly, it has been unhelpful in preventing flares 😕
@@TheMagicCrafter keep doing the detective work it can take a few sessions to peel off the layers of the bodies pain
@alisonhoyte7608 I've been at it for a few months now. Sadly, I don't think this disease has a cure. And if it does, I think it would involve an extremely strict diet, controlled microbiome, zero environmental allergens in the system and a stress free environment. Hypnosis has helped with relaxation and a more positive outlook, but, to my knowledge, the studies don't back it as a cure, only prolonged remission in some cases. 😕
Your comment really resonates with me 💓 thanks for sharing
Thank you Paola. I almost lost my husband of 26yrs last year. We now see life differently. We will definitely continue to live frugally but have decided that saving and accumulating money for that one day we might have an emergency is not what we will focus on anymore. I ask myself if I would’ve lost him....we never took a vacation, we never splurged because we focused so much in the future. A future without my husband is something I just can’t fathom. We are blessed and pray for many more years together. Blessing to you! 🙏♥️
Blessings to you both! May God bless you with many more good years together. ❤️
@@jacquicherry1721 Thank you so much. Blessings to you as well. 🙏
Blessing to both of you ♥️♥️-30 years for us ♥️♥️
Patricia (Daniel)
Blessings to you ❤ there is only the moment. Live fully and enjoy and love. Let the rest go 🙏
My sincere condolences, I just lost my dear dad on Feb 1st, I am so sad.
Well said Paola! As a new small business owner of a plant based health and nutrition business this resonates with my soul. I have turned down partnerships, radio interviews etc. Slow, simple, intentional, sustainable growth is what speaks to me.
It’s so refreshing and comforting knowing that there is someone like you Paola, people in my life also tell me I’m strange, boring, weird, that I should get a job so I can help my husband save money. But deep down in my heart I feel satisfied with what I have. I don’t dream of living in a mansion, I don’t need a nice car. I yearn for simplicity in my life, quietness and slowness. My dreams may be laughable to some but to me that is MY dream. People seem to have an opinion about how you decide to live your life, I never tell anyone that they’re boring or weird for choosing how to live their life.
I’m 62 and just began to really learn this lesson two years ago when my body, mind, and spirit couldn’t take any more pressure. I became sick. I understand what you’re talking about. You’re so smart to realize that fact now as young as you are! Thanks for a beautiful video once again!
When baby comes and you take a break from work, I will rewatch and listen to all the beautiful and insightful videos that you have blessed us with ❤💐
Me too! Haha ❤
I don't think you even realize how much value you bring through your videos. It's so valuable to see a simple, humble lifestyle while everyone only pushes you to make a lot of money and travel around the world. Lately, I have been questioning myself a lot. I also feel that I don't need much; sun, relationships, and nature give me everything I need. I don't want to conquer the world anymore. I let go of my ambitions. And seeing your videos is like a confirmation that it's actually alright to live a 'boring' life, and you don't need to become anyone. Your existence is more than enough already. Thank you 🙏💛
I love this! I wish i had a friend like you. People call me boring too. No one really wants to hang out with me. 😔 i say there has to be people like me out there.
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I’m boring too - and proud of it. 🎉
There are!❤
Boring is subjective. In the day of social media where everyone posts their very best, contentment can look boring when I reality, we are all the same.
I will be your friend!!!
As a Self -employed artist for 20 years- I feel this on so many levels. I refuse to outsource and hire assistants- I cannot meet demand for the product I create- and I’m okay with that 🤷♀️im an empath -- i cannot create good art when stressed so yeah I’m serving less and charging them alot! The American business model- “make more money this quarter than you did last quarter” is broken.
I like how you crossed out the words after Self. Deeeeeeeeep!!!!!❤❤❤❤
Right on!! ❤
Paola, in my opinion, I enjoy every video you bring to us . If you used a drone and filmed the landscape and just spoke your stories, caring advice, you would STILL have my attention. Your content is so calming and your like listening to a good true friend.
Keep pursuing what makes you, you. You are authentic and appreciated!
Another fellow being here who also agrees to this post 🥰
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My husband is a business owner. The BIGGEST lesson is learning to expect highs & lows. When things slow down, you did EXACTLY the correct thing. You cut your expenses WAY back. This is not failure. This is keeping your business going even if it’s going slow. At some point, if you have time to push forward, then you can pick up the pace. For now. Grow the body that your child’s soul will soon inhabit.
That’s your present Truth!
Mom Mode is Real. Enjoy it & let the “outside world” take a back seat. I’m sure you’re an Empath. You must protect that gentle flame within💖💖
VERY good points!
how on earth could anyone think you're boring? you're extraordinary! we love you!
What is boring to one person is interesting to another.
I am a boring person also....because I am a very highly sensitive person. I am incredibly happy with my boring.
Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability Paola. I'm a 64 year old, retired, happily married woman (and one of your patreon's) with 3 adult children and 2 grandhildren and 1 grandchild on the way. Without my faith, I would've been a big ball of stress all these years. When I would find myself getting sick, I knew it was because I was trying to control the things I had no control over. Having faith has nothing to do with my competency and strength, but everything to do with being present and setting an example for the people in my life...that I am real, have needs and need to wholistically care and love myself so that I can love and care for others. There's a huge price to pay for supposed bigger and better. I'm so happy for you that you recognize this. God bless you and your family my dear.
This is how I feel about being childfree. It’s scary to be a married woman who chooses to be different simply because I would like to retain my nurturing energies for the people already in my life and to preserve my own health. I have cared for and taught hundreds of children in my life. I currently have nine toddlers in my care at work. In that regard, that’s my “enough.”
People who don’t want kids definitely shouldn’t have them…it is a job of a lifetime ❤️
@@j.d.7569 Yes I agree, people shouldn’t have kids just because it’s “what’s done.”
I totally understand this... I had people telling me I should sell, have a business with my att.. However I don't want to turn what I enjoy at a slow space into a "business". I like life to feel light.... Even if it means not having tons of material things. G-d bless you! Listen to your heart ...
This video came at the perfect time in my life, so I thank you. When I first discovered your channel over a year ago, I was suffering terrible anxiety & depression. Starting my day watching a few of your videos really helped me get my head in a better place and I truly credit your channel with helping me climb out of the darkness. I’m in a much better place right now, so much so that I’m working on a business. I’m currently at a crossroads where I’m questioning whether to take on more, even though I’m starting to feel stressed. Thank you for this very timely video for me. Going to go walk in the woods and think about who I really am and what I want/need.
You look happier! Your eyes are bright, and there is such a sense of relief coming from you. You made the right decision! I wish you all the best! It’s the simple things that make life worthwhile. When I see a raindrop on a leaf, I’m overwhelmed with joy. Many see that as weird. I see it as being present with all that surrounds me and understanding that everything around me is a gift, if I choose to notice it. Abundance comes in many forms!😊🌸🧚🧚🧚🧚
You are a TRUE ANGEL !
When I stumbled upon your channel by accident a couple of years ago, your words, and your lifestyle made a BIG IMPACT on me…
I was a workaholic who did everything to please OTHERS…much as you feel now.
I wasn’t happy until I had …”the most… the best…the money”. But, it was YOUR words and lifestyle (when you were out living in your simple cottage) that struck a nerve with me.
You showed me that it is possible to be happy, really happy with less “things”. Your videos of your walks in solitude, taking in and enjoy Nature, showed me the way. They changed my life! BLESS YOU for being the person you are…
Maybe taking the time to go back and watch your earliest videos will do wonders for you?
Listen to your words… Live life for YOU, and not for others…BE YOURSELF… The Cottage Fairy who has touched so many people’s lives. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for showing me the path to true happiness.
May God watch over you and your family, and provide you with the inner peace and serene wellbeing that you certainly deserve…
Thank you for this video! No one else seems to realize that 'more' comes with more everything - stress, worry, work etc. I value downtime during my day a lot. I'm a homeschooling mom of 4, nr 5 growing within me and due in October. I can only do so much. I've chosen to 'do' my kids, schooling and doing my part with running our Airbnb unit. The rest I'm letting go of. My house will now be clean 'enough', social media only when my kids are happily playing on their own and not needing me. Less. I want less. I want to finally create my home, embrace my slow life. Well done for choosing peace over the world.
i’ll be 80 next month (can hardly believe it) and I’m finally feeling comfortable and happy with myself. You are very wise. thank you. I’m sharing your video.
Happy early birthday!🎂 🥳
I was told I am behaving as an old lady since I remember myself. My inner peace may irritate less introvert people, but this is who I am and I am very happy being myself
Thank you so much for taking the time to verbalize this reminder. Believe it or not but at 76 years old I needed to hear this. I truly needed to hear this. God bless all your efforts. Sending much love from Canada.
My story is long. 68 years long. But I can relate to what you said. I always had to do more. Be more just till my daughter is grown. Just till I retire. Just till... I did damage my body, and my mental health. So you do what you are happy doing. Hold tight to your family and your loved ones. Keep your shop small. And your videos as sweet as they are.
We all love and care about you. So we will wait a few extra days till your videos are made. Or till you restock your shop. Or till you give your baby extra cuddles. And always hold your faith close. It will help to guide you through your life. ❤🙂
Amen 🙏🙏🙏
I saw my sister struggle with her pottery business too, versus doing what she wanted to do and becoming more and more unhappy. She ditched it in the end, in favour of making pottery for herself, her friends and family now, and not relying on it as a source of income. Peace of mind in a relaxed body are far more important for many people, in conjunction with wanting to be creative. Commerce and true creativity are seldom good bedfellows. So it's the best decision to cut right back in any direction you can and examine where you are going and what you hope to achieve. Excellent video!
That's why I decided I would never launch a hand crafting business. Bc I know that what I love as my hobby and joy would turn into my nightmare, my every day labor. Ppl will always tell me, "oh you should sell this!" Even this morning as I watch this, someone texted me about selling my art, but I know it's not right for me. And I could never truly put a price on each piece. So I give them as gifts knowing each one is one-of-a-kind, priceless, and was made with love.
I think we forget that businesses can grow slowly over a long period of time. As current tasks become more familiar, we can add a small task next year if we want to. Quick growth can be disastrous. Slow growth can be solid and sustainable. I've recently made this decision for myself, and I am experiencing a lot of peace and authenticity.
Very smart!
I love this comment. Thank you
I can't put into words how MIUCH I needed to hear your words today. Ive always struggled with not being enough for someone or something ,be it a job, relationship,etc. Im turning 65 in a few months and the world will have to accept me for who I am and what I can accomplish in my own time. Thank you so much,youve made me very happy
Same here, I'm also in my 60s. I woke up thinking that I was too sensitive for this world and working so hard for so little reward is no life at all. I also needed to hear this as a reminder.
Me too at 73
“the world will have to accept me for who I am and what I can accomplish in my own time”
and if it chooses not to,I can't be bothered@@thehoehub
the other day a friend left me hanging for a lunch date (she's done this before) I inevitably get a long, breathy explanation of what happened, the husband this the kids that etc etc. Because I'm single and childless I'm expected to understand that lunch with a friend can't be a priority. I never expected to be a priority, but that I don't rate a phone call or quick text ahead of time is what really bothers me Ive ignored her last message with the "oh sooo sorry!"@@mortalandwild
What you say here resonates with many of us. I quit trying to fit in. I realize that I am a highly sensitive person whose health is affected by stress. I love my cats, bunnies, birds and aquarium fish. Learning to balance my enjoyment of them along with my Etsy shop business is a daily effort. Getting enough rest so as take a break from this world we are all in is so important. It is the little things that bring so much joy. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts here. I can totally relate!!!❤
Oh my word, those soaps are stunning, Paola! You are so very talented. My late best friend used to make goat's milk soaps-she dyed them and named them after the favorite chickens in our flocks, depending on their color. I so miss her two years after she left us unexpectedly. My older son makes hand crafted leather products and he pays special attention to detail in his packaging presentation as you do. Life can be a roller coaster for most of us at your age and the expectations of others seem to intrude on our lives far too often. Things that matter to others simply do not matter to me and I know you've felt that as well. At 67, I have found that I just like to exist as well. Daily pleasures in nature always make my heart sing, like the spring peepers at dusk that have made their appearances already. God bless and best wishes for your newly expanding family. ~Cynthia, N. GA mountains
This really spoke to me and my physical abilities. I have a chronic illness and don't think we need to be tough. The world should soften ❤ I love your ethos and admire you so much . Big hugs from Ireland 🇨🇮
Awe, thanks for opening up. We would be great friends😂😂😂 I have a small home town business from home. I bake and make skin oils and salves. The first year was so successful it shocked me. But I was baking every moment of every single day and then packaging until midnight. Like you said it turned into 24/7 work. In return I was exhausted, I didn't enjoy it like I used to as it used to relax me and didn't anymore, my mind was foggy, my body hurt, and the quality of my goods I felt went down. So the next year (which was 2023) I pulled back 95% and got a part time cozy job taking care of 1 year olds in a daycare. I feel so much better physically and mentally now even though I don't have a lot of business sales anymore and I lost a lot of people. Because now I can leave work at work, spend all my time with my family when we're together, have spiritual and mental time for myself, and I LOVE those babies and my coworkers really aren't even terrible😂 my quality of goods in my business went back up, I enjoy it again when i do create, and I can go back to be just intentional, slow paced, and boring. Thanks for this video. It's so comforting to see others out there who are content with just enough 😊
Wow I get you, after school was struggling to find a job and I started baking to pay for long distance learning at a University. In the beginning it was the perfect job because I loved baking but as time passed I lost the joy of being able to bake, decorate and do my own marketing and make sales.
I ended up being stressed, overworked, sleep deprived and physically sore because I had to stand all day..
I now do an office job which I totally love since I am working from home mostly but the best part is being able to see my pets during the day, water my plants during breaks and just take stand outside soaking up the sunlight and taking in the way birds talk to each other while trees are swaying in the breeze.
Blessings to you 🤗
Oh Paola, I totally get you. I've had friends think I'm not taking serious life decisions because I'm not setting glamorous life goals as them. What they forget is, I prioritize my mental wellbeing more than those big goals and making plenty money to travel the world. I love slow living and it's even more difficult to have this kind of mindset as an African living in Africa but I have done the inner work enough to be strong and confident with my life choices. Peace of mind is what I value and I don't hesitate to give myself that. Thank you for always sharing with us.❤
Wow! You follow Paola too. She’s a GEM!! Great seeing you here. Much love 👍😊
@@NickFinanceNaija Oh wow😂. Yes, she is🥰. Good to see you here too. Was binging watching your videos 2weeks ago😂
Where are you in Africa? I'd love to connect. I also left America to live the slow life in Ghana and Nigeria.
I became friends with Carl, founder of "The Slow Movement" a few years ago, and never looked back.
Isn't it funny how "you're slow" is an insult in America 😢😀
@@nauticdixons I live in Lagos, Nigeria. Oh nice. I trust you're enjoying your time here. Yeah sure, let's connect!
@holisticlivingwiththatdada9732 OH WOW! We live in Lagos as well (Apapa). We're currently in Ghana, though, until the end of April.
Where are you in Lagos? We should connect when we return.
I for got to add that I made an organic soap and moisturizer product as well called Natural Beautiful Skin, for a local organic market with a small base of regular customers.
I always sold out each month and had to restock but there was no stress. Everyone urged me to expand, but the thought horrified me 😅…it was enough to restock my small grocery store. I believe that each town has its own butcher, baker, and candlestick maker so to speak and local satisfied customers is more than enough for me. Then Covid happened and my town’s little organic grocery store, Harvest Market, had to close its doors. That ended my season of soap and moisturizer making for the public. Now, I just make it for myself (and family often asks for it too:) I make big batches when I make it and can afford to share:)
I just wanted to say that this video appeared on my page during a time when I needed it. I am also at a cross roads in my life and I have been sacrificing my health and what I want for a longtime, because I didn't see any other way. I have been offered a management position in a corporate office, and while I know I can do it, I feel like I would be sacrificing my health and my happiness, and for what? All I crave is a simple life, and everything that you shared has resonated with me so deeply. Thank you for being brave enough to be vulnerable, you have truly inspired me. You are a beautiful human :)
This was a really lovely offering, your candor and willingness to share these lessons and transitions in life is deeply moving. As someone who also prefers to keep things simple, manageable and personal I would honestly make the same choices you have. You're already a mother, but you will be a truly marvellous parent.
Well said. 🤍
Paola, I cannot begin to tell you just how encouraging this was. Thank you so much.❤❤❤
Paola, I always love your videos but I must say that this video is my favourite. You are almost like my soul sister, we are so similar. I am a highly sensitive person and I have also struggled with perfectionism and being a workaholic. As an elementary school teacher, I love my children so much and I have always put their needs above my own. After 7 years of slaving away as a teacher, my body finally reached its breaking point. I am currently on sick leave and I am enjoying time off away from work. It's crazy how being a teacher was such a huge part of my identity that when I finally stepped away from it, I could find time to explore who I truly was. I know that I am a daughter of Christ and that God loves me, regardless of my achievements or hard work. You talked about feeling unworthy in your video and I can definitely relate. I think the moment when I realized that God still loves me even in my brokenness and despite my imperfections, that is when I felt true peace in my heart. Thank you for baring your soul out in this video. I think it isn't easy being able to be so vulnerable to strangers on the Internet. It takes a lot of courage and inner strength. I pray that you would find peace and happiness as you live a life that is more frugal, more slow-paced and ultimately more satisfying to you. Sending you love and hugs ❤
You are wonderful. As a doctor and young mother of a 5 month old located in Germany I face now the same questions you do and you talked more truth than douzens of hours of TH-cam-content I listened to for the last few years. I wish I knew you personally, you are a great inspiration for me. Thank you for your precious work 🤍
Beautifully and wisely said Paola. I myself am a highly sensitve person and worked way beyond my boundaries for decades. Now I am very aware of my own regenerative process and prioretise and appreciate it deeply.
Thank you and go on fully being you 🌷
I worked in traditional, corporate jobs for 30 years. Corporate employers don’t care about your physical, mental or emotional health. They just push for more sacrifice on your part. If you are lucky enough to be self employed, enjoy that freedom and listen to your mind, body and heart. It’s just not worth it to put those things second to a job. You pay for constant stress later in your life. Live within your limits and financial means. You’ll be happier in the long run. ❤
Since you render to us such beautiful non judgement, it is good to see you give that same non judgement to yourself. As always, love your content.❤
Longtime viewer, first time commenter here. Thank you so much for this beautiful video and important message, Paola. I feel that your video art has reached a new level with this video. You are usually so calm, but here your tone is so... urgent (intentionally or not). The lessons you're learning and sharing really are urgent. People can lose themselves to overwork far too easily (myself included!!) that I think we sometimes need to be a little shaken to realize it and start caring for ourselves.
I am a PhD student, working on my dissertation at the moment, and it's such a struggle. When I'm fixated on writing a chapter, I neglect important things (like exercise, eating well, and even spending time with my husband). When I finish a chapter and get a little time to rest, I dread the next work cycle. I am determined to complete this degree, but the whole process has harmed my psyche. I need to always remember the message you share here.
I feel you, I was living a high stressed life owning my own business for 28 yrs with a staff of 10-16 ppl and always have so much anxiety and never have enough time for myself or my family. I started to get physically sick and my mental health was suffering badly. I just sold my business and now I’m beginning to see the light. I meditate twice a day and that helps so much and keeping me grounded. I am going to focus on my health and living intentionally. I am grateful and had no regrets, I’m on a different path now and I’m so happy. I wish you all the very best, enjoy your channel.
You are a natural at film artistry - the timing, the moments you choose to show, the sequence you choose in which to show those moments, the soft piano, the natural sounds mixed in with the piano, your authentically transparent voice ... what you choose to film ... what you choose to say ... the way in which you say it ... the beauty of how your words fall together ... are all so healing. Your medium is the message and the message is the medium.
This beautiful video touched me to the core. I cannot do all that it takes to be highly successful financially, but I feel success in a happy life. You are an inspiration to me, a woman in her late 60s. Thank you and continue being who you are meant to be. ❤
I’m the same. After career momhood and late divorce I’m finding a peace alone I’ve never had. I have a nature based part time job and finding new friends who live similarly. Best to you. Lisa age 65.
Faith, health, family, and good friends. That's enough for me!
You’ve got it totally right. The world’s definition of “success” is not true success at all. Money and “things” only end up getting in the way of true happiness. You are an inspiration!
You may have made mistakes - but you learned things many people twice your age have not learned yet. Consider yourself ahead. I raised a family, retired from 3 careers, became a grand mother of 7 - and am finally learning what you already learned. Take care of you, your son, your husband, and of course your lovely animals the rest will fall into place. Take care and enjoy.
Beautifully said! This video made me recall the wonderful message from Winnie Pooh, “you are Braver than you realize, Smarter than you think, and Loved more than you know”….. You’re an inspiration to many of us!😘
Blessings to you and yours 💙 Nana Nita in Indiana Dunes
I'm a hsp and totally relate to what you're saying. I read something about pushing our mental health and physical health too far , it said , if you don't listen to your bodies whispers you will be forced to listen to its screams !!! Very true ❤
I usually don't comment on your videos, but this one really resonated with me. We are enough! We've just been indoctrinated to believe we're not enough. We just have to find our own centers and determine what is enough for each of us and be okay with it. We were meant to enjoy our lives to the fullest, not to slave away at a job we don't like just to make more money. We are meant to create the life we want and live the life we love, and that should be enough.
You have an amazing path ahead of you. It's newness deserves your attention, care, and confidence. You will be a huge blessing to your little one. Be blessed and may you find an abundance of inner peace in your soul.❤
I am watching a close friend come to this realization and I see how difficult it is. More and bigger is what people want to hear when they ask about your business and it's hard to pull back from that expectation alone. I'm going to send them this video, I know they'll appreciate it.
Thanks for your explaining! I started a small business this year and it was growing too fast. I stepped backwards, people don't understand, but my husband does! Your video expresses exact my feelings. God bless you
I’m so happy your husband supported you. That’s wonderful to hear. 🧡🥲
Your story of cutting back on your channel to be yourself resonated with me. In the 80's I left a very good and rewarding part time job to become a full time mom. The way I thought about it was that I could hire someone to take care of my children or I could take care of them. I wanted to be me for them! I was very lucky that my husband could support us in only a slightly less expensive manner. And he was willing to.
It was a terrible decision for my career but a wonderful one for my life!
As I am sure your decisions are for you.
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I love that you said "it was a terrible decision for my career but a wonderful decision for my life." Since when did career outweigh life? We need to stop and reevaluate the goals by which we are governing our lives ❤
I love your video and your channel. I always feel so calm and relaxed when I watch your videos❤ I live a very quiet life. Reading books, doing creative hobbies like knitting, painting, drawing and similar things. I have a chronic migraine and in order to keep it as stable as possible, I can't work. I live in a country where I get a bit of income every month from the government because I am disabled. I'll never be rich, but I manage myself financially. Something I am very grateful for. Thank you for your beautiful channel. You always make my day a little better 🥰
Contentment is a rarity these days but is a gift. A neighbor's huge house now sits empty, the husband passed away from high blood pressure and the wife passed away from cancer of the breast. I thought of the life of paying the monthly equity for their house, and the hard work that was put into it only to be left behind hence, I can totally relate and appreciate your outlook in life.
Vanessa Lau recently shared her experience of why she quit a 7 figure business ... now promoting a lifestyle of "feel good, have fun, do less and make enough". You are both tremendous truth-tellers and inspirations.
When you respond to the call of simplicity, your life changes in amazing ways. The rat race out there is killing people. I did the corporate thing for years and I retired a little earlier than I had planned. I was exhausted and suffered from nerve pain. Two surgeries later, I'm feeling much better. I adopted a slow living life style and at 71, I am more happy and content than I ever had been. This is truly the happiest time of my life. God bless you. Don't be afraid of what you are facing. It will be wonderful.
How do you adore someone so much, you don’t even know? I’m so proud of and inspired by you always.
I have been getting sick regularly for past three years ...finally understanding its to do with being exhausted and stressed . Having to lay it all down do things very differently ...or finally learning not to do ! I have no idea what the future holds ..yes aligning with what my truth is and trusting all will be well . I'm so grateful for your true honest gentle story .❤
Learning not to work so hard is the hardest work I've ever had to do, at 62.
I love how curious your cat is about your soap making! I absolutely love the soap molds and your beautiful attention to detail in packaging.
Good for you. It took me 30 years of being a self employed artist to figure this out, so pat yourself on the back, and enjoy your life.