Thanks for sharing this video. I hear your frustration about the process and IFS being seen as this miracle modality for therapy. It is an amazing modality in many regards yet for some people with lots of trauma it may take along time to do the work in IFS. I’ve been in IFS therapy for three years myself.
Astute analysis with an analogy to the grief process. Entirely relate to that. It's that which has been waiting to be felt and explored being given the opportunity to do so.
I am using IFS in my therapy modalities for three years. I use it with reiki/hypnosis and I can not understand how every single person is hearing the answers to asking your inner child/parts-bit I don’t. I feel so much better with inner child healing, polyvagl., Somatics, NLP, Timeline Therapy, Using breath work and uncoordinated into the hypnosis for CPSTD. I can’t visualize. How does one respond to their parts? I understand how to feel my emotions, using compassion and letting them know I’m here and thankful they’ll letting me know that they need attention. I released so much and yes 🙌 EXACTLY ❤Thank you for sharing this with us. Healing isn’t linear but some modalities are just excellent for someone and not another. I don’t get it and that’s because it’s, unless used with EDMR-which is tricky because of Complex Trauma-Usually used for a one time event unless that psychologist understands how to adjust it for. I can only use ball in front of me and lying down. I need to relax to feel inside myself. I don’t feel that when talking. I don’t think we need to relive our trauma. Anyone needing support there’s CPSTD foundation-sign the petition to get it in the DSM and they have tons of support and now lots of help online.
Thank you for this, it's helpful to hear that IFS is not a quickfix solution, but a long and not always linear process. Watching the various IFS demonstrations on You Tuube can also give the impresion that people are almost miraculously healed of their burdens. The need to consolidate the healing and the possibility of relapse is rarely mentioned, which I think can create unrealistic expectations. I sometimes think of how recovery from a terrible accident to the body would be slow and on-going for years, so why would deep wounding to the psyche during one's formative years not take just as long, and be prone to similar set-backs? Seeing IFS as a life-long practice rather than a short-term therapy seems much more hlpful and realistic to me. That said, the results can indeed be incredible at times!
Thank you for sharing this. I am deep-dive learning about IFS (it overlaps with work I already do) and while I see it can help those who are very guarded/protected, I can also see from what you share that slow and gentle, especially to make space for all that grieving and processing, is still the wisest approach. It takes time for the parts to build "Self-"trust. Sounds like time and practice at listening/embodiment are still what facilitates healing.
You’re the best! I really needed this. I’ve been making HUGE leaps forward in IFS this past year and then starting a new job just triggered a few older parts. It’s a process and I thank you for this reminder!
That was so helpful and reassuring as I get into this space where my parts are so disturbed by all the stirring up and change. I thought some unblending would help, which I suppose it did. But one of my parts expressed what you have said that he didn't like all that he had hidden, he didn't like what they had experienced then and doesn't like any of it now either,especially the things and parts he didn't know about. He wants it to go back to how it was before. He used the words "parts swirl" He doesn't trust me or therapists or any adult. He is just one of many struggling to get my attention. Therapist called it a log jam! But the word shame is so crucial, all my parts are holding a ton of shame and I have some that I could work as a psychologist with all this dissociation and unmet need in myself. And the transference shame, thanks for naming that.
Trust is so fraught and difficult for these parts. So much pain came from those moments of vulnerability when they were small so of course it makes sense they are scared to trust now. It's a big journey Jennifer and I totally get the parts who want to unknow what is here now 💝
Thank you so much! I seriously started to think that there was something wrong with me (again) because my IFS process differs so much from what I'm reading and seeing on TH-cam. I seem to have hardly any protectors and every time I go in, I see an exile waiting for me. And they are not very keen to leave their situation, so I have to spend days and days gently trying to change their beliefs. I don't mind because I love parenting them, but it's not at all what Dick Schwarz is showing in his sessions.
I can relate: I have many exiles, who want to tell their stories over and over again. I usually just witness their stories. But they are def stuck in their traumas. (I have to mention that I have some protectors, too. But some of them don’t talk to me at all.) I’ve been in IFS theraphy for 6 months, but somehow I’m so fragile because of my traumas that I could’t handle theraphy with a therapist. Now I’m continuing (veery slowly) doing IFS on my own. Good luck to you on your healing journey! ❤
@@kseesk Thank you so much for your comment. The fact that you can relate is very comforting to me. I'm doing IFS on my own as well. Because of my past, it's too difficult for me to trust anyone. You are right about doing it slowly. Even though our managers love to 'get-it-done', it's a healing process that takes time. I also wish you all the best on your healing journey! 🦸
Thanks for sharing this video. I hear your frustration about the process and IFS being seen as this miracle modality for therapy. It is an amazing modality in many regards yet for some people with lots of trauma it may take along time to do the work in IFS. I’ve been in IFS therapy for three years myself.
Astute analysis with an analogy to the grief process. Entirely relate to that. It's that which has been waiting to be felt and explored being given the opportunity to do so.
Really appreciate this description of the process.
Im so glad it was helpful to you
I am using IFS in my therapy modalities for three years. I use it with reiki/hypnosis and I can not understand how every single person is hearing the answers to asking your inner child/parts-bit I don’t. I feel so much better with inner child healing, polyvagl., Somatics, NLP, Timeline Therapy, Using breath work and uncoordinated into the hypnosis for CPSTD. I can’t visualize. How does one respond to their parts? I understand how to feel my emotions, using compassion and letting them know I’m here and thankful they’ll letting me know that they need attention. I released so much and yes 🙌 EXACTLY ❤Thank you for sharing this with us. Healing isn’t linear but some modalities are just excellent for someone and not another. I don’t get it and that’s because it’s, unless used with EDMR-which is tricky because of Complex Trauma-Usually used for a one time event unless that psychologist understands how to adjust it for. I can only use ball in front of me and lying down. I need to relax to feel inside myself. I don’t feel that when talking. I don’t think we need to relive our trauma. Anyone needing support there’s CPSTD foundation-sign the petition to get it in the DSM and they have tons of support and now lots of help online.
'The muddy middle is a grieving process.' Whew! That explains alot!
Thank you for this, it's helpful to hear that IFS is not a quickfix solution, but a long and not always linear process. Watching the various IFS demonstrations on You Tuube can also give the impresion that people are almost miraculously healed of their burdens. The need to consolidate the healing and the possibility of relapse is rarely mentioned, which I think can create unrealistic expectations. I sometimes think of how recovery from a terrible accident to the body would be slow and on-going for years, so why would deep wounding to the psyche during one's formative years not take just as long, and be prone to similar set-backs? Seeing IFS as a life-long practice rather than a short-term therapy seems much more hlpful and realistic to me. That said, the results can indeed be incredible at times!
Thank you for sharing this. I am deep-dive learning about IFS (it overlaps with work I already do) and while I see it can help those who are very guarded/protected, I can also see from what you share that slow and gentle, especially to make space for all that grieving and processing, is still the wisest approach. It takes time for the parts to build "Self-"trust. Sounds like time and practice at listening/embodiment are still what facilitates healing.
Beautiful share. Thank you 💗
Holding tenderly those parts that................thank you. Relatable and encouraging.
Im so glad that you found this helpful Linda
So helpful, thank you, good to know that I am not alone and that the process can be long and is so delicate.
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks for this!
I wish I had come across this information earlier when I started reading about IFS.
This is a gem, thank you
Wow! Helps me to hear you say, I couldnt do it cuz my protectors wouldn't let me.
You’re the best! I really needed this. I’ve been making HUGE leaps forward in IFS this past year and then starting a new job just triggered a few older parts. It’s a process and I thank you for this reminder!
Thank you for making this video 🙏
That was so helpful and reassuring as I get into this space where my parts are so disturbed by all the stirring up and change. I thought some unblending would help, which I suppose it did. But one of my parts expressed what you have said that he didn't like all that he had hidden, he didn't like what they had experienced then and doesn't like any of it now either,especially the things and parts he didn't know about. He wants it to go back to how it was before. He used the words "parts swirl" He doesn't trust me or therapists or any adult. He is just one of many struggling to get my attention. Therapist called it a log jam! But the word shame is so crucial, all my parts are holding a ton of shame and I have some that I could work as a psychologist with all this dissociation and unmet need in myself. And the transference shame, thanks for naming that.
Trust is so fraught and difficult for these parts. So much pain came from those moments of vulnerability when they were small so of course it makes sense they are scared to trust now.
It's a big journey Jennifer and I totally get the parts who want to unknow what is here now 💝
Thank you so much! I seriously started to think that there was something wrong with me (again) because my IFS process differs so much from what I'm reading and seeing on TH-cam. I seem to have hardly any protectors and every time I go in, I see an exile waiting for me. And they are not very keen to leave their situation, so I have to spend days and days gently trying to change their beliefs. I don't mind because I love parenting them, but it's not at all what Dick Schwarz is showing in his sessions.
I can relate: I have many exiles, who want to tell their stories over and over again. I usually just witness their stories. But they are def stuck in their traumas. (I have to mention that I have some protectors, too. But some of them don’t talk to me at all.)
I’ve been in IFS theraphy for 6 months, but somehow I’m so fragile because of my traumas that I could’t handle theraphy with a therapist. Now I’m continuing (veery slowly) doing IFS on my own.
Good luck to you on your healing journey! ❤
@@kseesk Thank you so much for your comment. The fact that you can relate is very comforting to me. I'm doing IFS on my own as well. Because of my past, it's too difficult for me to trust anyone. You are right about doing it slowly. Even though our managers love to 'get-it-done', it's a healing process that takes time.
I also wish you all the best on your healing journey! 🦸
Love what you have to say about this. Thank-you!
Thank you. 💖
This really resonated--thank you!
Im glad this video was resonant with your experience 💜
The Muddy Middle!!!
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