Good episode i dont normally watch stuff on this channel but it highlights the importance of therapy in the black community - alot of people need therapy for their relationships and to have open convos about how they feel which the black community normally neglect
As a therapist myself, Paul would definitely benefit from individual therapy. He shows egocentric/narcissistic qualities and minimized the counselor and his girlfriend the entire time.
Exactly, he's so defensive he lashes out, manipulate the conversation, make it so his partner and the therapist have to answer his questions and doesn't give in at all. he separates himself from any topic he's not master in and needs to be on top
She has to, she’s a professional. Unfortunately, this is what a lot of talking therapy professionals go through with certain clients. Just mad attitude that makes you wanna box them 😂
🤣🤣🤣shout out Paul. Just break up lol bro needs a house wife, she needs a stable dude. You both lack what the other is needing at this point. Men get a younger woman. Lady’s get an older man. Usually solves the money and time equation in life.
Chioma’s issue with Paul isn’t him securing the bag or really his job, her issue is the NEGLECT. Paul needs to balance his time better and stop treating his relationship like another business opportunity. Paul wants a traditional woman when Chioma is a modern woman, which should have been discussed in the beginning and throughout because things change. There must be things that Chioma likes about Paul to have stayed with him for 3 whole years but maybe those things she used to like are becoming annoying to her especially because she’s not feeling LOVED. When a woman doesn’t feel loved cracks will appear, similarly Paul doesn’t feel respected and Chioma shouldn’t have put Paul’s financial business on blast like that, Ladies never ever disrespect your partner like that publicly. It’s equivalent to him putting your weight or looks on blast. Paul was disrespectful to the therapist because he felt attacked or ganged up on, Ladies, watch how your man speaks to other women; it’ll tell you everything you need to know. Paul clearly has no emotional intelligence if he couldn’t see how uncomfortable he was making the therapist, nasty. Bless Deborah it’s her first real relationship and she’s making the rookie mistake of comparing her man to other men, men HATE that ish and Jamel is right to respond like that. Deborah thinks comparing him will make him jealous and then make him change but it does the total opposite. The problem with comparing what you have with what others have is you’re ALWAYS going to feel like what you have is less, meanwhile your bffs man ain’t perfect either, he’s only perfect in the areas your boyfriend is lacking, making him seem like a god when your BFF is secretly comparing his weaknesses to some other mans strength too, it’s an endless cycle and women do this a lot. Don’t compare just communicate what you want and keep it moving, if he cares he will pattern up if he doesn’t then leave. Jemel’s body language seems like he checked out long ago, they don’t talk to eachother they talk AT eachother. Wishing these couples all the best because relationships ain’t easy. Shout out to Blue Therapy, this kind of content is necessary.
Nah that was so uncalled for, he fully didn’t even answer the question. Did you notice how he fully overlooked the question when she was asking about when he last showed some type of love towards her. The audacity, guys like him shouldn’t be in a rs if they’re gonna be stuck up and rude like him. Ew
@@tahaarif6782 do you not understand what she meant by “when was the last time you fucked me” it’s clear enough that she means when was the last time they had an intimate moment of affection and pleasure. Please don’t make excuses🤮
Therapist: Paul what color is the sky? Paul: What are you trying to say? Are you saying I don’t see in color? Are you a astrophysicist? 😂😂😂😂 This guys is dropping the ball and misrepresenting us gents. Ladies I apologise on his behalf. If your lady communicates a problem we should take that to heart and try by all means to fix it. 😊
Stef JustKilledU ehh he is very manipulative in the way he talks to her. The way he gaslights her. The way he was so baffled and dumbfounded by her saying she isn’t happy in the relationship. Knowing damn well they have been having these issues for awhile. It’s hard when your partner is like that cause it makes you assume your just tripping and shit ain’t that bad. Hopefully they watch these videos and she sees how fucking weird and insecure he is.... like dawg he is mad cause she was dancing in a club. Bitch what in the fuck is you supposed to do in a club? I also hope he watches these videos and it gives him some perspective on how flawed his outlook on himself is.
6 months in the dunyah & she’s not even comfortable yet...big alarm bells. Time to dip while you have age on your side. She will find someone who values her worth & time more.
Paul is so rude. He must actually be mad. This is a pure example of what gaslighting is, always making chioma question whether she is right or her perception of reality! Girl you betta run!
EXACTLY!! Tell me why the first 5 min when they’re in therapy... I said to myself “he’s such a gaslighter!” She expressed her concerns to a therapist, which is what that they’re for! And he outed her for doing just that. Gas lighters will flip you doing the right and just thing to a chaotic point just so they can look good. He is a self conscious gas lighter. All he cares about is looks looks and who he’s around RATHER then what he’s doing. Stay far away from those tupes
Chioma got what she asked for, if we're going to be honest with ourselves. She fell for the lifestyle and gifts and quickly realized after moving in together that the lifestyle she thought isn't actually what it is! I have no sympathy, sorry.
Paul’s problem is, he believes he is “smarter” than everybody in the room. He is concealing the fact that he is insecured about his intelligence. Poor man, he constantly has to have his ego stroked.
He’s a poor man trying to act rich, he thinks a few muscles, a leased car and a suit means he’s made it. Red flag if you see someone dressed like him and working with “high end clients”
Paul is a perfect example of a manipulative person. The way he asks questions like “do you trust me” you can tell that he is the biggest mindfuck. Those people are dangerous.
0Chioma got what she asked for, if we're going to be honest with ourselves. She fell for the lifestyle and gifts and quickly realized after moving in together that the lifestyle she thought isn't actually what it is! I have no sympathy, sorry.
Paul sounds like an off the payroll Assistant who is only in those rooms because he has to follow behind the “high profile clients”. It’s like “be seen & not heard” and then when he goes to hang with the bros, he fluffs up ALL OF THE STORIES 🤣. Piss poor!
Chioma’s man is so cringe. He has such an annoying, contrived and pretentious character. Don’t know how a smart girl like her didn’t read that from the beginning and actually got into a relationship with him.
In the corporate world that’s the kind of character you need to have to get ahead. And to answer your question shes perfectly aware of problems but the money is just too good😌
@@KaluArt No that's the kind of character that does fraud. In the real world, no one is going to trust someone who is that pretentious with their money.
@@theoneandonly0099 im a guy who’s best friend’s father worked in investment banking here. you will not last very long in major corporate roles if you arent prepared to give the kind of attitude chioma’s man has towards both your clients or your collegues. it sounds counterintuitive but in reality, people who run things arent supposed to be nice people. its bad but it’s how it is
Paul’s rudeness to Denise is so uncalled for. How can she get to know the ins and out of ur relationship, if ur questioning everything, and so reluctant to open up. I dont even think that Chioma needs better, I just don’t think they’re compatible at all.
He has insecurities and it probs comes from him being bald at a young age and his financial insecurities cause he is always around people more successful than him - im saying that as a man
@@chrissy1383 nah cause she needs to take some accountability too cause she met him a certain way and expects him to change - this is what life is like with a man who is building if she doesnt want a man building she should go date an average 9-5 man or a man towards the end of his life span
@@MobEra89 no that’s stupid because a lot of men know how to manage and balance their time. I could flip and say that if he doesn’t think he has the time needed to spend with or care for a girlfriend he shouldn’t have one. They both clearly care about each other but they’re not will to compromise on their idea of what they think a relationship should like. May be they just aren’t compatible rn🤷🏽♀️
For real! You are and I know l am going to get in trouble..waste men come in different guises!..! Get rid..! So disrespect ful...he wants to look like the goody..and has no probs with putting his so called woman down....Dutty Johncow!!...Yes I said it!!
Paul’s attitude towards the therapist is disrespectful and rude asf. he is literally trying to put her down by asking her those questions about success. this man is not mature enough to know how to act, be respectful and know what not to ask smh. IM SO MAD at these guys.
She needs to leave him he is a man child because she will lose herself in this relationship, he has the typical African man attitude I provide what else do I need to do forgetting women need attention even two seconds of your day just check on me ... Beyonce said people get comfortable in relationships
It’s been 2 years already 😂😂😂😂 They need to bring back a new version of Blue Therapy honestly I keep enjoying this, I’ve watched all episodes over and over and over and over again
Yes I’m learning a lot from her bc I’m literally dealing with this type of man. I don’t respond well when my husband disregards me like this. Y’all pray for me. I just talk too loud when he hurts me 🥺 j but I do just walk away bc of the child like behavior is so unattractive
How the hell is that manipulative?? Is it wrong to ask a stranger who is meant to give you advice on your relationship what their success rate is?? He is rude but everyone is acting like they would be open up to a stranger especially when your partner is attacking you. Like Chioma is dismissive as well. You guys need to be objective. Fuck!
Chioma got what she asked for, if we're going to be honest with ourselves. She fell for the lifestyle and gifts and quickly realized after moving in together that the lifestyle she thought isn't actually what it is! I have no sympathy, sorry.
I actually think if the therapist was a black woman paul would have acted differently. He’s got such a huge ego, can’t stand ignorant/ controlling men like that
He will definitely control her if they ever decide to marry. And it won’t be pretty, she better run while she still has time. Talking about making her the house wife 🙄 u found her working when u met and now u want her to be a housewife 🙄 it’s very shocking to still find young men with this kind of mentality in the 21st century
No because it really showed clearly there that he only saw her as a commodity, a thing, which he bought, put into a box and put on a shelf to be admired and not speak to, interact with or more importantly 'it' should not CHANGE OR GROW!!! Oh, but by some miracle this inanimate object should somehow still be capable of cooking and cleaning for him! 😂
I think clearly the "Wizkid and Burnaboy" argument was meant to be a small, easy to understand example to illustrate the larger issue, but it turned into an actual argument and it was hilarious
@@z4kri405 am a girl and I don’t support according to gender I support whats right. I understand the man seems to be “alpha “ cool. He wants her to be house wife but he has forgotten that wasnt the plan at the beginning. He says shes not keeping the same energy which is true BUT there is a reason to that which is he has changed HIS energy of 1. accepting she doesnt want to be a house wife.2 . LOVING HER ( going on dates, massage 💆♀️ , suprising her) . She says she does that to him LOVES ON HIM. And that he did that at the beginning but STOPPED. Why did he stop?( as she said she feels they r business partners which means he isn’t affectionate like he USED TO. Thats how HE has changed his energy. She isn’t complaining his hardworking bcos she likes that in him however its not all abt money. sHow affection aswell AND DONT FORCE HER into being a house wife if that wasnt the plan.. keep the same energy
@@precirose742 from what I’ve watched so far... it sounds like she’s not comfortable with his job & that’s gonna be a problem. They both need a strong foundation with a vision that they can refer back to
I would never date a man that talks to people like that. The way he talked to Denise was disrespectful. That means he does it to other women too. Just because he has not done it to you...yet, doesn't mean he will not do it sooner or later.
It’s A LOT embarrassing 🤮 Like when he tries to ‘own’ the therapist pretending he doesn’t remember nor care to remember her name... like bro.... soooooo lame
Chioma absolutely needs to *leave* him. He’s defensive, manipulates the conversation, doesn’t listen, is rude, laughs at her.... he is not marriage material, and comes across with very narcissistic traits. Don’t walk, RUN.
All the things u listed are exactly how the guy I’m seeing behaves.. very dismissive of anything I say, he’s never in the wrong, always trying to switch the blame on me (when obviously he’s the one in the wrong), refuses to change or to even give me the basic things people require in the relationship (communication, attention etc).. I’ll be moving away to another city within the next few week and he said we should stay together... I’m like no, how can we survive long distance when u can’t even do the right things when I’m just living 20 min away from him... that’s why I’ll be breaking things off tomorrow 🤞🏾 I hope it goes well
Paul thinks he’s classy and rich, but really and truly the guy has no manners!!! He spends 10k for a night out and works his ass off for the next month just to cover the damage?! Rich people don’t do that! Smart and intelligent people don’t do that!!! Chioma is NOT the problem in this ‘relationship’ and I hope she’ll realise this asap!
He is new money, like Kanye West said in Clique'people get money and don't spend it.I am friends with 2 millionaires and if you saw them in the street you wouldn't know.
@Michael Hendricks This man has no manners!!! I’ll say it one more time if needed!!! He wasn’t forced to be there and this is what therapy is for- VOICING the issue!!! How are they supposed to go through the process without SPEAKING LOUD about the problems?! He is the type of men that care what his environment thinks about his FINANCIAL STATUS and nothing else. And because he knows he isn’t on the same level as the environment he tries to fit in HE tries to put Chioma down!!! He isnt ready to commit and honestly Chioma is too much of a woman for him!!! End of!!!
Chioma’s patience is on another level, I couldn’t last a week with Paul. Gosh he is sooooooo rude! I can’t and Debra is just silly, she seems to be in love with her friends relationship and baby your friend could be lying, you’re probably in a better relationship than your friend.
Why would Chioma be a housewife when Paul can’t even have self control on how he manage his money. They are going to be in debt and Chioma wouldn’t even know and he won’t tell her either because he’s too proud and arrogant
Chioma has A LOT of patience. There's is no way I would have tolerated him talking to Denise so disrespectfully. Not only is it embarrassing, it shows how he treats and speak to women. Disgusting behavior.
I can't even imagine my partner talking to me that way let alone turning to another women that's trying to help us and raising his voice at her. How dare he. That's a definite deal breaker and says a lot about his character. Disrespect is disrespect period. You had a choice to come here so if you're going to be difficult and not even try to cooperate just go home
Chioma, honey, you don't deserve anyone who is this toxic! This man has no regard for you at all! Speaks down to you, degrades every word coming out of your mouth. You have soo much to offer to someone who truly values you and treasures you. 6 minutes in and I was wondering how you can allow a man to speak down to you as he was doing. It's never too late, walk away. Your best is yet to come. You r the prize. Never allow anyone to show you otherwise.....all the best to you.
Like she isn’t spoiled and expecting the whole world and she only willing to give a smile for it. And she makes it out that smile would be as hard for her as doing any kind of job for 16 hours, For example.
Chioma is kinda cool i must admit, if she really just wants more attention and affection she deserves it, but she ain't without faults tho, as a guy, i think Paul may be a bit negligent of his woman's emotional needs, but if chioma got with him because because of his money and not for himself, then she deserves the headache she has now, when will women realize how easy it is to get money and have your pick of the finest women but how hard it is to genuinely commit to one person and really love them for who they are, they seem to always pick players and a hole's, always going for the rich devil that just wants to use them abs ignoring the not so rich angel that wants to love them, broke niggaz shouldn't be focusing on relationships tho, get u r priorities in order. But most broke women have the nerve to even be seen and point fingers at who broke or who's rich. Broke ppl period don't deserve no goodies
The only reason Paul wants Chiamo to leave her job is so she can't support herself and he can control her. Hold on to that job tight, if his mistreatment of you gets too much, at least you have a lifeline.
It’s not to control her, Paul is trying to make it a traditional relationship, he wants to go out and make money so she takes charge of house and children hopefully. It’s not to control her, he actually wants to relief her of working stress and financial burdens. That’s how traditional relationships has been till today. But me personally I’ll help my woman go into something to keep her busy.
Paul is a narcissist,he deflects the question off of him and pushes it onto the therapist to distract everyone in the room from what she is asked. He is giving scammer vibes and is only with this woman because she is very beautiful and adds to his portfolio he only cares about what people thinks and not really about her feelings she is just a trophy i’m not a human being to him.
You can tell Paul doesn’t respect women. He’s so condescending. It’s actually laughable how un self aware he is. He truly believes he sounds intelligent when everyone just thinks he sounds like a knob 😂
Paul is trying to control the damn therapy. He doesn’t cooperate at all he literally tries to flip everything on her . I’m sick oh how he is talking to the therapist
I'm unable to watch the entire video because of this. Parts of what he says are understandable but his ego & need to dominate the situation are just too close to what I dealt with for 20 years. Can't even stand to watch any more of it. LOL
Not just his talking but his literal physical appearance is scary. When he doesn't like what's being said (the entire episode tbh) he turns, shifts his shoulders, his gaze...I'm SO GLAD this is on the internet for everyone to see, because it's hard to explain. And you know IRL he's deflecting and denying any fault!
@@thugmob798 you are a literal idiot. Wearing weave & makeup doesn’t equate to having identity issues. You’re quite ignorant so I’ll just leave that there
@@thugmob798 that’s 🤮, if he dosnt like her that way he should use the door and get his type, this is not about her appearance now thou, he has a very nasty character.
The bald guy with the beautiful lady in a pink dress is a whole narcissist. His feedback to the conversation doesn't even match up at all. He's always off topic. Leave him
He’s stupid, he finances a merc he can’t afford, wears a suit and thinks he’s bill gates. This is how broke boys behave. Too busy trying to prove himself as wealthy
@Michael Hendricks no onr has time to be reading that chapter you wrote. Rude is rude and a rude person is a turn off. The therapist didn't do anything to him
@Michael Hendricks I read what you had to say and I’m truly appalled. I hear your point. And although I agree with many of them. it doesn’t entitle the way this man speaks to or interacts with the therapist and the people around him. Yes Paul hasn’t changed and C is forever growing and changing. But that’s what humans are supposed to do. Paul clearly emphasises what he feels he should be valued and is entitled. He is very stubborn about never changing or adjusting to the needs of others. He deflects questions and always shouts back. Idk about you but those are clear signs of narcissism. Such quality NEVER change and I fear for his girl in the long term. I hope she leaves him.
I’ve dated a man like this. For 3 years. He’s a narcissist. He’s always right. She’s always wrong in his eyes. Run sis! He will make you feel like you’re asking for too much. He’s irritating.
Paul thinks he’s smart by dodging that question “what was the last loving thing that you’ve done” he knows he ain’t done much and he don’t want to face the embarrassment looool
@@gracemat9474 I’m not incredibly hard headed and I saw a LOT of myself in Paul… I do try my best to be a good partner in a relationship… I don’t have the jealousy aspect of Paul more the “I’m financially successful so you should be grateful we are in a relationship”
bless deborah, she is still a kid in this relationship thing. how are comparing your boyfriend to your friend’s man. why are chatting your business, she clearly hasn’t experienced friends ruining relationships for you
Yeah and it’s always one rule for him & not for her. How is it calm for her to reply to him hours late because she’s busy but he’s not allowed to be late , because he’s balancing 3 different things at once.
@@penielilechie9158 he comes home and he still grinding the life of a hustler pushing for bigger and better and not settling, he's the poorest man in the room he's got no time for distractions as far as he's concerned he's behind i feel for him he's in the process of elevation nobody should be around you unless they are elevating you elevation requires separation
Paul is very rude and the way he treated the therapist is emblematic of how he treats people in general and especially women. Absolutely embarassing, I hope this was scripted. If not, Chioma needs to end this A.S.A.P because he will continue to embarass her.
People get a Merc on finance and believe they’re above everyone else. Tools like this guy, think driving a merc and wearing a suit means you’ve made it and thus look down on anyone else who hasn’t. What an absolute loser
Paul is literally not listening to a thing she’s saying. His response is always completely off topic and doesn’t address her issue?!! Make it make sense
Yes! I used to envy my friend’s in a relationship when I was single. Now that I’m in one I see how no relationship is perfect. And when I complain about anything my bf does they can always relate! That’s when I realized no relationship is ever perfect.
Chioma’s partner is so dismissive and rude not open to change. How can he speak to the lady like that did his mum not teach him better manners than that. Loads of red flags with this guy too controlling smh 🤦🏾♀️
"Let's not be toxic..." From Paul oh🤣. He's one of those men that thinks he makes enough money to wipe away all his personality problems. Arrogant, rude human being.
Deborah is so extremely childish, does she not realise that her 'best friend' could be twisting her relationship to make it seem like everything is perfect when it isn't. Like Debroah honey you don't know what is going down behind ur best friend's closed doors . Don't be comparing now
Ppl who compare their relationships with that of others will always be disappointed. There is no perfect relationship. Her friend's man is not her man. Her man is a whole different individual who she fell in love with despite his flaws. If the guy starts comparing her with someone else, she wouldn't like it. Relationship A and Relationship B are never the same. Her best friend's man could be doing all that and still be an arsehole in other aspects. Lol. If her man is not doing what she wants him to do, Deborah can start it off and make it a tradition he can buy into. Too much stress over nothing if you ask me.
I don’t even understand how these people can tolerate being in relationships where the communication is always so aggressive ? It doesn’t have to be like this. Emotional intelligence and your own energy, tap into them please!
Exactly! Like this paul dude is constantly trying to sound smarter than everyone and has to always be sarcastic rather than just direct. Urgh🤢🤮How do you even ask him to take the bins out let alone have a grown discussion about your relationship? And OMFG if he “says I work with high net worth individuals” one more time....!!!!
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What is wrong with this guy named Paul. Chioma RUUUUUUNNN. 🙆🏾♀️
Good episode i dont normally watch stuff on this channel but it highlights the importance of therapy in the black community - alot of people need therapy for their relationships and to have open convos about how they feel which the black community normally neglect
Another oversight, respectfully the sound. Didn’t realise how important this was.
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Deborah looks like JT low-key
I don't know how Chioma didn't slap that shiny head
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As a therapist myself, Paul would definitely benefit from individual therapy. He shows egocentric/narcissistic qualities and minimized the counselor and his girlfriend the entire time.
People like Paul rarely elect to you to therapy, and are a group very resistent to treatmemt.
Rubbish. You're too sensitive.
That’s definitely why narcissists rarely get diagnosed. In their minds they’re never the problem.
Indeed. He is so defensive as if they dig deeper he will be exposed.
Exactly, he's so defensive he lashes out, manipulate the conversation, make it so his partner and the therapist have to answer his questions and doesn't give in at all. he separates himself from any topic he's not master in and needs to be on top
Denise handled herself well can’t lie, I would have swung for Paul respectfully
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She has to, she’s a professional. Unfortunately, this is what a lot of talking therapy professionals go through with certain clients. Just mad attitude that makes you wanna box them 😂
Maza L she’s better than me lool
Facts😭
3 mins in and it baffles me that she's been with this man for more than 3 months, let alone 3 whole years??????!!!!!
If this is how Paul behaves with a therapist on national television imagine how he is behind closed doors. Girl count your losses and run
Facts!
its all fake
@@kifleyohannes344 yeah ur right
The therapist is played by an actress named Denise Waterman
Like the above comments say.... the therapist is an actor... u know not a licensed counselor/therapist... this is a scripted reality show
Like literally she deserves so much more then this
Paul is rude. Pretending he doesn’t remember the therapist’s name. He is so condescending and being deflective.
Thank you for saying this
He thinks his high up there. Humility is a blessing
I actually feel physically sick watching him. It's actually horrible. The clicking, the rude questions. The dismissive behaviour.
🤣🤣🤣shout out Paul. Just break up lol bro needs a house wife, she needs a stable dude. You both lack what the other is needing at this point. Men get a younger woman. Lady’s get an older man. Usually solves the money and time equation in life.
How can you not find him entertaining 😭
Chioma is single and she doesn’t know it. He’s a narcissist. Nothing is his fault. Ma’am runnnn. You’re too pretty for this
You said it all mama. ✌💯 Derrick Jackson the 2nd. Mtcheww. These type of men can't seem to change their ways. It's very hard. She should just move on.
Paul loves Paul
Agree 💯
So fucking true and I’m only 6min in 😭
Faaaaaacts!! 💯 hopefully, it’ll click with her eventually
Paul is giving a PHD level course in manipulation and deflecting! 😂
No he’s not
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@@jameliakingstom1190yeah he is lol
And Jamal too, we see that in the later episodes
I was thinking the same thingggg
Chioma’s issue with Paul isn’t him securing the bag or really his job, her issue is the NEGLECT. Paul needs to balance his time better and stop treating his relationship like another business opportunity. Paul wants a traditional woman when Chioma is a modern woman, which should have been discussed in the beginning and throughout because things change. There must be things that Chioma likes about Paul to have stayed with him for 3 whole years but maybe those things she used to like are becoming annoying to her especially because she’s not feeling LOVED. When a woman doesn’t feel loved cracks will appear, similarly Paul doesn’t feel respected and Chioma shouldn’t have put Paul’s financial business on blast like that, Ladies never ever disrespect your partner like that publicly. It’s equivalent to him putting your weight or looks on blast. Paul was disrespectful to the therapist because he felt attacked or ganged up on, Ladies, watch how your man speaks to other women; it’ll tell you everything you need to know. Paul clearly has no emotional intelligence if he couldn’t see how uncomfortable he was making the therapist, nasty.
Bless Deborah it’s her first real relationship and she’s making the rookie mistake of comparing her man to other men, men HATE that ish and Jamel is right to respond like that.
Deborah thinks comparing him will make him jealous and then make him change but it does the total opposite. The problem with comparing what you have with what others have is you’re ALWAYS going to feel like what you have is less, meanwhile your bffs man ain’t perfect either, he’s only perfect in the areas your boyfriend is lacking, making him seem like a god when your BFF is secretly comparing his weaknesses to some other mans strength too, it’s an endless cycle and women do this a lot.
Don’t compare just communicate what you want and keep it moving, if he cares he will pattern up if he doesn’t then leave.
Jemel’s body language seems like he checked out long ago, they don’t talk to eachother they talk AT eachother.
Wishing these couples all the best because relationships ain’t easy.
Shout out to Blue Therapy, this kind of content is necessary.
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We need a video dissecting each episode pls
Gwarn Breeny, facts upon facts love your channel soo much 💗💗
Definitely agree
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Chiomas level of maturity throughout this whole session is 10/10 ....then there’s paul
Who is scared of commitment
I just love her!
a complete douche bag if you ask me
Then there's paul I tell you.
Narcissism 101.
He’s teaching women what type of guys they need to steer CLEAR from!
The therapist did a great job with managing and ignoring Paul's rudeness. She is a professional
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Nah that was so uncalled for, he fully didn’t even answer the question. Did you notice how he fully overlooked the question when she was asking about when he last showed some type of love towards her. The audacity, guys like him shouldn’t be in a rs if they’re gonna be stuck up and rude like him. Ew
@@Noor-bd2gh but if it was the other way round and the guy wanted sex the guy would’ve been the villain. No?
@@tahaarif6782 do you not understand what she meant by “when was the last time you fucked me” it’s clear enough that she means when was the last time they had an intimate moment of affection and pleasure. Please don’t make excuses🤮
The therapist is a actress.
Therapist: Paul what color is the sky?
Paul: What are you trying to say? Are you saying I don’t see in color? Are you a astrophysicist?
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This guys is dropping the ball and misrepresenting us gents. Ladies I apologise on his behalf. If your lady communicates a problem we should take that to heart and try by all means to fix it. 😊
Paul : gaslighting , being defensive etc.
Chioma : speaks the truth
Paul : "let's not get toxic babe"
Even the way he postures himself when she is speaking is fucking weird. Doof needs to work on finding some self love.
Clear signs of a narcissist lol this is so entertaining but I'm also kind of sad that she's been putting up with this. He seems so condescending
@@loveableprecious7982 she can leave him she not a prisoner she chooses to deal with duke
Stef JustKilledU ehh he is very manipulative in the way he talks to her. The way he gaslights her. The way he was so baffled and dumbfounded by her saying she isn’t happy in the relationship. Knowing damn well they have been having these issues for awhile. It’s hard when your partner is like that cause it makes you assume your just tripping and shit ain’t that bad. Hopefully they watch these videos and she sees how fucking weird and insecure he is.... like dawg he is mad cause she was dancing in a club. Bitch what in the fuck is you supposed to do in a club? I also hope he watches these videos and it gives him some perspective on how flawed his outlook on himself is.
I have never hated a man I've never met. He must fall
“Im afraid I don’t work in figures, I work in people”. Yes Denise!
I loved this response
Denise is THE most professional person I know! 🙌🏾
@@blythem5364 she’s an actress, google her. Show is scripted
Dennis is a professional
@@polawin1 Either way, she seems very professional
If there is one thing Paul knows, it's how to dodge a question.
He's not even good at that because you can tell he's deliberately not wanting to answer 🤣💀
Politician in the making
Yeah 🤔😒
No.1 deflector
The his annoying
bro got asked a simple, "what was the last thing you did that was loving" and it awokened a demon LOL.
Paul is soo disrespectful, I felt soo bad for Denise. Chioma, don't stay because of the money.
6 months in the dunyah & she’s not even comfortable yet...big alarm bells. Time to dip while you have age on your side. She will find someone who values her worth & time more.
She's dating a bald man fine babe like her but it's clear she is materialistic so will choose materialism over true love
Lool dats weirs most of u bw always spk like its money over everything
@@sosinati3358 LOOOOOOOOOL 🤣😂😂😂😂
Look at this advice “don’t stay cuz of the money”- yall love to wreak homes wtf
the thing about bald men with reflecting scalps is that they also reflect sense and reasoning, nothing is absorbed or taken into their brains lmaoo
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Sense, reasoning and comprehension skills bounced straight off his skull fr 😂
😩🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😂 even the invisible light in the electromagnetic spectrum will bounce off his head🤣
If a man fat shame or stereotype fat women please don't join the internet justice warrior and try cancel the guy thank you
😂😂
Paul is so rude. He must actually be mad. This is a pure example of what gaslighting is, always making chioma question whether she is right or her perception of reality! Girl you betta run!
EXACTLY!! Tell me why the first 5 min when they’re in therapy... I said to myself “he’s such a gaslighter!” She expressed her concerns to a therapist, which is what that they’re for! And he outed her for doing just that. Gas lighters will flip you doing the right and just thing to a chaotic point just so they can look good. He is a self conscious gas lighter. All he cares about is looks looks and who he’s around RATHER then what he’s doing. Stay far away from those tupes
Chioma got what she asked for, if we're going to be honest with ourselves. She fell for the lifestyle and gifts and quickly realized after moving in together that the lifestyle she thought isn't actually what it is! I have no sympathy, sorry.
@@vduigdtgfffhhjufd2042 are you a man?
@@rachelsarbeng6476 transgender
Absolute nonsense stop victimising chioma
He wanted to go to a church to sit with a pastor and coroner because he knows they’ll favor the man
I thought the SAME EXACT THING!!! Cause thats exactly what would have happened
I had this exact thought!!!
Most Pastors, if they have true relationship with Christ, would not favor this situation.
Paul’s problem is, he believes he is “smarter” than everybody in the room. He is concealing the fact that he is insecured about his intelligence. Poor man, he constantly has to have his ego stroked.
You mean “poor boy”. That’s a boy right there, not a man.
He’s a poor man trying to act rich, he thinks a few muscles, a leased car and a suit means he’s made it. Red flag if you see someone dressed like him and working with “high end clients”
I can’t take watching him 😭
It's called Narcissistic Personality Disorder
🎯
paul is a walking red flag. the way he speaks to denise ALONE is absolutely horrific, let alone everything he said to chioma. shocking.
I.
Paul is a perfect example of a manipulative person. The way he asks questions like “do you trust me” you can tell that he is the biggest mindfuck. Those people are dangerous.
Yes, this is a word
0Chioma got what she asked for, if we're going to be honest with ourselves. She fell for the lifestyle and gifts and quickly realized after moving in together that the lifestyle she thought isn't actually what it is! I have no sympathy, sorry.
He was always deflecting
Louder
The man is extremely abusive, I would go so far as to say he’s a Sociopath. That woman needs to RUN!
Paul sounds like an off the payroll Assistant who is only in those rooms because he has to follow behind the “high profile clients”. It’s like “be seen & not heard” and then when he goes to hang with the bros, he fluffs up ALL OF THE STORIES 🤣. Piss poor!
C 23:40
"I'm afraid I don't work in figures, I work in people" Goooo awfff Denise. You better throw a little subtle sass to his self-righteous way.
!!!
Loll you think that’s sass?
@@NnamdiNw 100000000% put him back in his place and made him readjust himself.
@@Crue11ala only need 100%
I just wanted her to throw deeper shade😂 that wasn’t good enough, she needed to bring him down way stronger than that🤣
I’m 6 mins in and really struggling with Paul’s attitude towards the therapist. Why come if you’re going to be rude about it?
I have a feeling they tried to add an entertainment factor to it like most reality shows.
it's the 'intrusive questions' for me, what did he think he was coming to talk about?
I am just speechless 😶
He thinks his better than people that’s his problem
Yes...he gives off this threatened vibe that I don't understand
Chioma’s man is so cringe. He has such an annoying, contrived and pretentious character. Don’t know how a smart girl like her didn’t read that from the beginning and actually got into a relationship with him.
In the corporate world that’s the kind of character you need to have to get ahead. And to answer your question shes perfectly aware of problems but the money is just too good😌
@@KaluArt No that's the kind of character that does fraud. In the real world, no one is going to trust someone who is that pretentious with their money.
@@theoneandonly0099 what do you think people in wall street are? Good honest citizens? lmao i hope you are joking
Lol the Smart girl that doesn't understand the basic concepts of investment 101
@@theoneandonly0099 im a guy who’s best friend’s father worked in investment banking here. you will not last very long in major corporate roles if you arent prepared to give the kind of attitude chioma’s man has towards both your clients or your collegues. it sounds counterintuitive but in reality, people who run things arent supposed to be nice people. its bad but it’s how it is
Chioma is very eloquently spoken and honest. I like her a lot actually, she didn’t let him gaslight and manipulate her with his off-tune comments.
If this is Paul's genuine personality, then he needs to remain single forever. What an absolute energy vampire!
Paul’s rudeness to Denise is so uncalled for. How can she get to know the ins and out of ur relationship, if ur questioning everything, and so reluctant to open up. I dont even think that Chioma needs better, I just don’t think they’re compatible at all.
True. That relationship will not work out in the long run
He has insecurities and it probs comes from him being bald at a young age and his financial insecurities cause he is always around people more successful than him - im saying that as a man
Chioma needs to leave. This is so sad.
@@chrissy1383 nah cause she needs to take some accountability too cause she met him a certain way and expects him to change - this is what life is like with a man who is building if she doesnt want a man building she should go date an average 9-5 man or a man towards the end of his life span
@@MobEra89 no that’s stupid because a lot of men know how to manage and balance their time. I could flip and say that if he doesn’t think he has the time needed to spend with or care for a girlfriend he shouldn’t have one. They both clearly care about each other but they’re not will to compromise on their idea of what they think a relationship should like. May be they just aren’t compatible rn🤷🏽♀️
the therapist is gonna need therapy after this🤣🤣
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For real! You are and I know l am going to get in trouble..waste men come in different guises!..! Get rid..! So disrespect ful...he wants to look like the goody..and has no probs with putting his so called woman down....Dutty Johncow!!...Yes I said it!!
😂😂😂😂😂
Rewatching blue therapy a year later and it’s still so good 😂 timeless series
Paul is so ignorant. Has no respect for women. Wouldn't let the therapist talk. Chioma can find and do much better! I hope she didnt settle
She left his ass😹
this guy is a joke
@@radiqishtah she ain't went no where you liar
@@radiqishtah they were never together 😂
Chioma all I can say is..
DO NOT marry Paul, it will end in premium tears.
Hahaha
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Honestly, the signs are there for her to see yet dont be surprised she will still go ahead and marry him
Are they still together ?
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Paul’s attitude towards the therapist is disrespectful and rude asf. he is literally trying to put her down by asking her those questions about success. this man is not mature enough to know how to act, be respectful and know what not to ask smh. IM SO MAD at these guys.
You can tell that’s how he talks to Chioma
She needs to leave him he is a man child because she will lose herself in this relationship, he has the typical African man attitude I provide what else do I need to do forgetting women need attention even two seconds of your day just check on me ... Beyonce said people get comfortable in relationships
He’s an absolute idiot, he’s got the mind set of a 16 year old. His suit and leased car is getting to his fat head.
he man never wanted to be there he said it from the start
Very childish of him
It’s been 2 years already 😂😂😂😂
They need to bring back a new version of Blue Therapy honestly
I keep enjoying this, I’ve watched all episodes over and over and over and over again
they have! it’s on channel 4’s YT. blue therapy 2
Love & toxic blue therapy is on the BET channel
There's a new season on BET+
First watched this show yesterday and binged watched all episodes. Very good show!
Chioma is so calm and collected I admire her level of maturity, girl deserves better.
Or because there's cameras. We all explode here and there.
I thinks she's an idiot. How can you not be embarrassed enough to leave this fool? Like she really claim this thing? YIKES
Yes I’m learning a lot from her bc I’m literally dealing with this type of man. I don’t respond well when my husband disregards me like this. Y’all pray for me. I just talk too loud when he hurts me 🥺 j but I do just walk away bc of the child like behavior is so unattractive
I hope she leaves his rude arrogant ass!!!!
I love her composure as well
"I DON'T WORK IN FIGURES, I WORK IN PEOPLE." DENISE I STAN.
She shut him up with that statement
I was looking for this reply!
Gathered him all the way together, respectfully
Paul is so manipulative. How’s he asking the therapist “what’s your success rate , i need figures” 🤢 she needs to get rid
thats not manipulatuve, it was defo uncalled for
And clicking his fingers 🤮
with the clicks as well? are you dumb???
How the hell is that manipulative?? Is it wrong to ask a stranger who is meant to give you advice on your relationship what their success rate is?? He is rude but everyone is acting like they would be open up to a stranger especially when your partner is attacking you. Like Chioma is dismissive as well. You guys need to be objective. Fuck!
Chioma got what she asked for, if we're going to be honest with ourselves. She fell for the lifestyle and gifts and quickly realized after moving in together that the lifestyle she thought isn't actually what it is! I have no sympathy, sorry.
I had a boyfriend like Paul… rude… dismissive…gaslighting…my soul was stressed. Glad I dropped that one.
Babe that must have been rough
Being single is a blessing in this era🤦♀️
I agree
Not if you find the right one that's the blessing
Not every man is a complete tool like Paul
No lie 😅
I swear !!!
I actually think if the therapist was a black woman paul would have acted differently. He’s got such a huge ego, can’t stand ignorant/ controlling men like that
A black man, possibly.
Elaborate? because a black woman would put him in his place ?
@@lx9414 and he seems to be the type who wouldn’t allow that
Bigoted 👌🏾
pure nonsense, like that changes anything
Denise is so patient. Chioma, RUNNN GIRLLLL!! Paul thinks he's a jedi, probably got the 48 Laws of Power memorized.
Lol😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He will definitely control her if they ever decide to marry. And it won’t be pretty, she better run while she still has time. Talking about making her the house wife 🙄 u found her working when u met and now u want her to be a housewife 🙄 it’s very shocking to still find young men with this kind of mentality in the 21st century
@@gracemat9474 yes. there’s nowhere to go but down in this relationship. It won’t get better. Just red flags everywhere.
Lol
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Chioma is ABSOLUTELY STUNNING
GORGEOUS intact!!!!!
He doesn't deserve her!!!!😤
Paul is sooo rude, childish and really immature.. “ I need percentages “ WTF 🤷🏽♀️
And snapping his fingers like WTF
True
Oh my!! Where is history?? Pls come for this Paul man of his.
Paul has no knowledge of how to handle a strong and powerful woman.
He reminds me of a few people.. 💀
Anyone else started laughing when chioma and Paul started arguing about wizkid and burna boy.. Because me i was screaming 😂😂😂😭
of all the things to bring to therapy. LOOOOOL it was poor that should never be a point of argument I have both on my playlist
No because it really showed clearly there that he only saw her as a commodity, a thing, which he bought, put into a box and put on a shelf to be admired and not speak to, interact with or more importantly 'it' should not CHANGE OR GROW!!!
Oh, but by some miracle this inanimate object should somehow still be capable of cooking and cleaning for him! 😂
I died! i cannot! is too mushhhh
I think clearly the "Wizkid and Burnaboy" argument was meant to be a small, easy to understand example to illustrate the larger issue, but it turned into an actual argument and it was hilarious
TOO MUCH😂😂😂😂
I can tell Chioma is suffering at home, this man is unbelievable
how
Give me a break, u see a short video and you make a sweeping statement as if you live with them.
@@johnpeters4100 ahlie. girls support girls blindly i swear
@@z4kri405 am a girl and I don’t support according to gender I support whats right. I understand the man seems to be “alpha “ cool. He wants her to be house wife but he has forgotten that wasnt the plan at the beginning. He says shes not keeping the same energy which is true BUT there is a reason to that which is he has changed HIS energy of 1. accepting she doesnt want to be a house wife.2 . LOVING HER ( going on dates, massage 💆♀️ , suprising her) . She says she does that to him LOVES ON HIM. And that he did that at the beginning but STOPPED. Why did he stop?( as she said she feels they r business partners which means he isn’t affectionate like he USED TO. Thats how HE has changed his energy. She isn’t complaining his hardworking bcos she likes that in him however its not all abt money. sHow affection aswell AND DONT FORCE HER into being a house wife if that wasnt the plan.. keep the same energy
@@precirose742 from what I’ve watched so far... it sounds like she’s not comfortable with his job & that’s gonna be a problem. They both need a strong foundation with a vision that they can refer back to
I would never date a man that talks to people like that. The way he talked to Denise was disrespectful. That means he does it to other women too. Just because he has not done it to you...yet, doesn't mean he will not do it sooner or later.
And it will escalate for real
Paul thinks hes so smart just because hes wearing a suit
Innit though
😂
Lol, and him comparing listening to Nigerian music to being in a village, so lame pfffff. He wants to be bougie soo bad but it feels just arrogant 🙄
Be kind😂
loool
THIS IS ALL SCARY TBH! My single ass just gon be appreciating myself more.
Facts
Please do 😂😂😂. I enjoy my own company. Relationship are a lot of work
I was literally about to post the same thing. I tremble at the thought of even having these guys as neighbours.
That’s what I said to myself whilst watching. Lol.. let me be single watching others relationship drama with a mojito and Cody blanket in bed
Ikr
As chioma said Paul is trying to fit in.. His whole demeanour shows he is trying to be someone he is not and it's a bit embarrassing 🤦🏿♂️
A bit??
Wholly embarrassing tbh
its VERY embarrassing
It’s A LOT embarrassing 🤮 Like when he tries to ‘own’ the therapist pretending he doesn’t remember nor care to remember her name... like bro.... soooooo lame
“ARE YOU NOT EMBARRAZZEDDDD?”
My word Paul is soo rude ..gosh I love the calmness of the therapist.She’s very professional.
She totally is professionally..Paul is beyond rude I don't know how chioma stands him at all
Chioma absolutely needs to *leave* him. He’s defensive, manipulates the conversation, doesn’t listen, is rude, laughs at her.... he is not marriage material, and comes across with very narcissistic traits. Don’t walk, RUN.
All the things u listed are exactly how the guy I’m seeing behaves.. very dismissive of anything I say, he’s never in the wrong, always trying to switch the blame on me (when obviously he’s the one in the wrong), refuses to change or to even give me the basic things people require in the relationship (communication, attention etc).. I’ll be moving away to another city within the next few week and he said we should stay together... I’m like no, how can we survive long distance when u can’t even do the right things when I’m just living 20 min away from him... that’s why I’ll be breaking things off tomorrow 🤞🏾 I hope it goes well
@@gracemat9474 good luck! Moving on up and out 😄
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If you're dating someone and need counseling, move on!
@@gracemat9474 if he's really toxic, you can break up over the phone tbh lol sometimes they try and manipulate you to stay with them
If the therapist was a man, Paul would’ve never spoken to him that way.
Never! Paul doesn't respect women and he has very low self esteem. Guys like that always condescend and dominate to feel better.
Yes!! The way he kept asking the therapist questions…like what? His dominating nature and insecurities bleed through. But he thinks he is so tough
Cringed throughout their session
😅
another female who calls everthing sexist when the whole show is fake
Paul thinks he’s classy and rich, but really and truly the guy has no manners!!!
He spends 10k for a night out and works his ass off for the next month just to cover the damage?! Rich people don’t do that! Smart and intelligent people don’t do that!!!
Chioma is NOT the problem in this ‘relationship’ and I hope she’ll realise this asap!
Lol he acts like a **narcissistic personality** but I am not licensed to diagnose
@Michael Hendricks ndiwe chofunta. Wendoshi
@Michael Hendricks nyo
He is new money, like Kanye West said in Clique'people get money and don't spend it.I am friends with 2 millionaires and if you saw them in the street you wouldn't know.
@Michael Hendricks This man has no manners!!! I’ll say it one more time if needed!!! He wasn’t forced to be there and this is what therapy is for- VOICING the issue!!! How are they supposed to go through the process without SPEAKING LOUD about the problems?! He is the type of men that care what his environment thinks about his FINANCIAL STATUS and nothing else. And because he knows he isn’t on the same level as the environment he tries to fit in HE tries to put Chioma down!!! He isnt ready to commit and honestly Chioma is too much of a woman for him!!! End of!!!
This girl is too beautiful to be stressed. This guy doesn't know how blessed he is
Paul is 100% rude and the reason he deflected on to Denise is because he knows he's lacking.
Exactly, he's not ready to make the simplest change
Lacking in these streets
I don’t understand why Paul is being so rude to the therapist. He’s actually so embarrassing like who does he actually think he is?
He’s an actor
@@worwor1721 he is?
He doesn’t know who he is. People may say he is an actor but you better believe there are MANY men act like this. I live it daily
@@worwor1721 actors have issues too. Actor or not he is really playing the role of an insecure man.
He's being rude to the therapist because the therapist is telling him the truth about himself.
Chioma’s patience is on another level, I couldn’t last a week with Paul. Gosh he is sooooooo rude! I can’t and Debra is just silly, she seems to be in love with her friends relationship and baby your friend could be lying, you’re probably in a better relationship than your friend.
Paul is a typical traditional igbo man period. Bully
You deserve wayyy better Chioma!
Why would Chioma be a housewife when Paul can’t even have self control on how he manage his money. They are going to be in debt and Chioma wouldn’t even know and he won’t tell her either because he’s too proud and arrogant
I believe that he is already in debt
@@jerilyngillenwater8 same
It's the fact that she's not even a wife 🤔
@@jumokeonifade85 right. Why are they living together like they’re husband and wife?
@@jerilyngillenwater8 1000% facts, u see these guys time and time over. Real people don’t advertise how he tries to make out. Insecure.
Chioma has A LOT of patience. There's is no way I would have tolerated him talking to Denise so disrespectfully. Not only is it embarrassing, it shows how he treats and speak to women. Disgusting behavior.
I totally agree
When he snapped his hands, om Ggoooood I lost MY SHIT.🙂
Paul is a major DOUCHE
I can't even imagine my partner talking to me that way let alone turning to another women that's trying to help us and raising his voice at her. How dare he. That's a definite deal breaker and says a lot about his character. Disrespect is disrespect period. You had a choice to come here so if you're going to be difficult and not even try to cooperate just go home
Nailed it. I would be done right then and there.
How can you be with such a man like Paul. I would literally be sick if my man ever spoke to someone in such a manner....
It’s clearly acting . You guys cannot be serious
@@rockersisland6646 they are 😂😂😂😂 It's so obvious it's acting chioma gives it away her acting is so transparent 😂😂😂😂
Money is a universal language
@@rockersisland6646 they really are believing this and commenting with all their own trauma and emotions lmao
So you won't check chioma's rudeness for throwing shallow digs too.
I RAN SO FAST in the comment section 😂😂😂😂😂🏃🏿♀️
Chioma, honey, you don't deserve anyone who is this toxic! This man has no regard for you at all! Speaks down to you, degrades every word coming out of your mouth. You have soo much to offer to someone who truly values you and treasures you. 6 minutes in and I was wondering how you can allow a man to speak down to you as he was doing. It's never too late, walk away. Your best is yet to come. You r the prize. Never allow anyone to show you otherwise.....all the best to you.
your maddd lmao shes a mad annoying bitch comparing him to other guys only based on matarialism
@@Rio-pw6fs that's the other ting
Like she isn’t spoiled and expecting the whole world and she only willing to give a smile for it. And she makes it out that smile would be as hard for her as doing any kind of job for 16 hours, For example.
Chioma is kinda cool i must admit, if she really just wants more attention and affection she deserves it, but she ain't without faults tho, as a guy, i think Paul may be a bit negligent of his woman's emotional needs, but if chioma got with him because because of his money and not for himself, then she deserves the headache she has now, when will women realize how easy it is to get money and have your pick of the finest women but how hard it is to genuinely commit to one person and really love them for who they are, they seem to always pick players and a hole's, always going for the rich devil that just wants to use them abs ignoring the not so rich angel that wants to love them, broke niggaz shouldn't be focusing on relationships tho, get u r priorities in order. But most broke women have the nerve to even be seen and point fingers at who broke or who's rich. Broke ppl period don't deserve no goodies
Paul doesn't need a relationship expert or counsellor. He needs a Psychiatrist! 🤣
You're right!
Spot on..
😂😂😂 ikr
@@UniceTv 🤣🤣🤣
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The only reason Paul wants Chiamo to leave her job is so she can't support herself and he can control her. Hold on to that job tight, if his mistreatment of you gets too much, at least you have a lifeline.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 disarming her making her vulnerable co dependent.
This!!!!
It’s scripteddd 🤣🤣
It’s not to control her, Paul is trying to make it a traditional relationship, he wants to go out and make money so she takes charge of house and children hopefully. It’s not to control her, he actually wants to relief her of working stress and financial burdens. That’s how traditional relationships has been till today. But me personally I’ll help my woman go into something to keep her busy.
@@cameronavon1337are you the scrip writer?
I come back to this once in awhile to get a little laugh at how funny Paul is like a whole joke
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Paul is a narcissist,he deflects the question off of him and pushes it onto the therapist to distract everyone in the room from what she is asked. He is giving scammer vibes and is only with this woman because she is very beautiful and adds to his portfolio he only cares about what people thinks and not really about her feelings she is just a trophy i’m not a human being to him.
Yesssss so true 🧐🧐🧐
You can tell Paul doesn’t respect women. He’s so condescending. It’s actually laughable how un self aware he is. He truly believes he sounds intelligent when everyone just thinks he sounds like a knob 😂
does she respect men? respect is mutual buddy
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big facts
He’s stuck in his own head 😂
Exactly
Paul is trying to control the damn therapy. He doesn’t cooperate at all he literally tries to flip everything on her . I’m sick oh how he is talking to the therapist
He gaslights and is very ignorant...
I'm unable to watch the entire video because of this. Parts of what he says are understandable but his ego & need to dominate the situation are just too close to what I dealt with for 20 years. Can't even stand to watch any more of it. LOL
He's gaslighting because he's jumping on the defence
Not just his talking but his literal physical appearance is scary. When he doesn't like what's being said (the entire episode tbh) he turns, shifts his shoulders, his gaze...I'm SO GLAD this is on the internet for everyone to see, because it's hard to explain. And you know IRL he's deflecting and denying any fault!
They are actors, its not real😂
Are you serious?! Omg that's a relief
I need Denise's patience in my life, I would have thrown my shoe at Paul.
Easy easy babe😂😂
For real tho
Lmao 😂
Same 😂😂
I'm crying 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The only thing holding Chioma and Paul together is the word “Babe”...
Paul is narcissistic 😒
thank you i thought i was the only one to see him as a narcissist 😒
@@thugmob798 huh?
@@thugmob798 you are a literal idiot. Wearing weave & makeup doesn’t equate to having identity issues. You’re quite ignorant so I’ll just leave that there
@@hannahbanana3524 it’s does though and as an African guy based abroad I don’t go near black girls with fake hair.... natural does it for me 😀😀😀
@@thugmob798 that’s 🤮, if he dosnt like her that way he should use the door and get his type, this is not about her appearance now thou, he has a very nasty character.
The bald guy with the beautiful lady in a pink dress is a whole narcissist. His feedback to the conversation doesn't even match up at all. He's always off topic. Leave him
Wow I didn’t even think about that. He truly is a narcissist.
Paul didn’t think about anyone but himself for even a second oh my
Chioma needs to leave this rude, narcissistic being alone to date himself!!!!!
I agree with you
she can do WAYYYYY BETTER. he wants to be important so bad. Its actually sad
Erm it's fake . It's just scenrios . You lot are too easy
Calm down…
I agree I was just saying the same
Notice how Paul escaped answering the question of if he shows love, by attacking the therapist instead.
Exactly.. his attitude just irritating
Err I live with her! 😂😂
He’s stupid, he finances a merc he can’t afford, wears a suit and thinks he’s bill gates. This is how broke boys behave. Too busy trying to prove himself as wealthy
Coz he’s trash 🗑
I’m already having a headache listening to him.
I’m actually finding this hard to watch. The way Paul is acting is giving me second hand embarrassment
This is exactly how I’m feeling right now. He’s so cringey to watch!! 😩😩😩
Cringe-worthy
🤦🏽♀️ dis dude called Paul sha
Swears😂
😂😂😂 sameeee
he is the worssssstttttt!! not him snapping at her
If this is how Paul is behaving publicly and in front of a camera, I can only imagine how he would behave in private
This is the one 🤦🏾♀️
He’s fully dangerous
@Michael Hendricks did you not hear the way he spoke to the therapist? It’s truly disrespectful... no one likes a man like that
@Michael Hendricks no onr has time to be reading that chapter you wrote. Rude is rude and a rude person is a turn off. The therapist didn't do anything to him
@Michael Hendricks I read what you had to say and I’m truly appalled. I hear your point. And although I agree with many of them. it doesn’t entitle the way this man speaks to or interacts with the therapist and the people around him. Yes Paul hasn’t changed and C is forever growing and changing. But that’s what humans are supposed to do. Paul clearly emphasises what he feels he should be valued and is entitled. He is very stubborn about never changing or adjusting to the needs of others. He deflects questions and always shouts back. Idk about you but those are clear signs of narcissism. Such quality NEVER change and I fear for his girl in the long term. I hope she leaves him.
I’ve dated a man like this. For 3 years. He’s a narcissist. He’s always right. She’s always wrong in his eyes. Run sis! He will make you feel like you’re asking for too much. He’s irritating.
So irritating!!!! I can relate 100%
sameeee i figured it out right from the jump
I can totally relate to Chioma 200%
Yet she stays and still thinks she can change him.....classic mistake
The first or second?
Paul thinks he’s smart by dodging that question “what was the last loving thing that you’ve done” he knows he ain’t done much and he don’t want to face the embarrassment looool
@Michael Hendricks just copy and pasting critiques. Omo, ko le to ye.
""Let's not be toxic babe"..he says whilst wagging his finger and rolling his eyes
Paul acting like he is the smartest in the room BUT he ain’t even the brightest bulb in the room🤡🤡🤣 CHIOMA RUN!
Sis , o ti pami o 😂😂😂😂
I CAN’T STAND HIM 😩
I dislike Paul's attitude! Gosh guy is so annoying!
That Paul man has to be an actor because aint no way people really behave that way lmfaooooo
This is awkward… I sent this video to my mum and older brother because I act a LOT like Paul lol
I read this comment before watching the video, and after watching, i mean, He's gotta be an actor because wtf...
If this is not staged then He made himself look stupid
@@SuperJutah I hope u change... many people will find it difficult to live with u with that kind of attitude
@@gracemat9474 I’m not incredibly hard headed and I saw a LOT of myself in Paul… I do try my best to be a good partner in a relationship… I don’t have the jealousy aspect of Paul more the “I’m financially successful so you should be grateful we are in a relationship”
bless deborah, she is still a kid in this relationship thing. how are comparing your boyfriend to your friend’s man. why are chatting your business, she clearly hasn’t experienced friends ruining relationships for you
She's no naive! They haven't dealt with her yet. "Best friend" my foot 🙄
Yeah and it’s always one rule for him & not for her. How is it calm for her to reply to him hours late because she’s busy but he’s not allowed to be late , because he’s balancing 3 different things at once.
Freal idk why she was talking to her friend about her man issue with his mother which is foul
Thats a basic rule in relationships. She doesn't just understand life.
@@penielilechie9158 he comes home and he still grinding the life of a hustler pushing for bigger and better and not settling, he's the poorest man in the room he's got no time for distractions as far as he's concerned he's behind
i feel for him he's in the process of elevation
nobody should be around you unless they are elevating you
elevation requires separation
Who here frm TikTok 😂
Me 😂😂😂
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Me 😂😂😂
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I wasn’t about to search for all those parts
Paul is very rude and the way he treated the therapist is emblematic of how he treats people in general and especially women. Absolutely embarassing, I hope this was scripted. If not, Chioma needs to end this A.S.A.P because he will continue to embarass her.
So true! He couldn't even show the therapist any sort of respect. What an idiot.
People get a Merc on finance and believe they’re above everyone else. Tools like this guy, think driving a merc and wearing a suit means you’ve made it and thus look down on anyone else who hasn’t. What an absolute loser
He’s absolute trash 🗑
Emblematic???? Soulja boy voice. Runs to dictionary. Love learning new words thanks 😃
Paul is literally not listening to a thing she’s saying. His response is always completely off topic and doesn’t address her issue?!! Make it make sense
Literally
FRRR HE DEFLECTS TOO MUCHHH
Because paul is too full of himself and to me I see him living above his means
@@diannethomas1182 he should be living alone!
He don’t care! That’s the sense🤷🏽♀️
The TOXICITY of Paul is on a higher level..... Debra needs to chill out 💜💜💜
Paul is a wild red flag 🚩 on his own
The fact that Paul is a whole trainer and he had to explain it like a whole autobiography no one asked for is insane 😂😂😂😂
girllls DO NOT COMPARE YOUR BFS TO YOUR FRIENDS BFSSSS: THEY ALWAYS SUGAR COAT WHAT THE GUY DOES FOR THEM AND PROBABLY HIDE SOME OF THEIR ISSUES
True
Yes! I used to envy my friend’s in a relationship when I was single. Now that I’m in one I see how no relationship is perfect. And when I complain about anything my bf does they can always relate! That’s when I realized no relationship is ever perfect.
T for Thanks
Paul moving like he’s selling crack. Why is that question so triggering for him 😂😭😂😭
Facts
💯😂
Lmao for real! Like boy you are not moving weight. Relax
fraud boy
😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Chioma’s partner is so dismissive and rude not open to change. How can he speak to the lady like that did his mum not teach him better manners than that. Loads of red flags with this guy too controlling smh 🤦🏾♀️
For real! He’s very rude and has no manners to Denise who is trying to help and understand him
Chioma is literally perfect,she is so patient and understanding,paul is highly disrespectful! RUN
"Let's not be toxic..."
From Paul oh🤣. He's one of those men that thinks he makes enough money to wipe away all his personality problems. Arrogant, rude human being.
Which is nothing but totally ignorance
I was constantly screaming at the TV while watching! Wow!!!
Calling him a human being is a compliment which he doesn't deserve because he's toxic, chauvinistic trash.
Deborah is so extremely childish, does she not realise that her 'best friend' could be twisting her relationship to make it seem like everything is perfect when it isn't. Like Debroah honey you don't know what is going down behind ur best friend's closed doors . Don't be comparing now
Ppl who compare their relationships with that of others will always be disappointed. There is no perfect relationship. Her friend's man is not her man. Her man is a whole different individual who she fell in love with despite his flaws. If the guy starts comparing her with someone else, she wouldn't like it. Relationship A and Relationship B are never the same. Her best friend's man could be doing all that and still be an arsehole in other aspects. Lol. If her man is not doing what she wants him to do, Deborah can start it off and make it a tradition he can buy into. Too much stress over nothing if you ask me.
nothing, but facts. Its difficult for people to see their own toxicty when pointing out others.
I even find her comparing childish 🤣
Deborah has those entitlement mentality, love is expressio of who you are not what you do/buy.
She talks too much
I don’t even understand how these people can tolerate being in relationships where the communication is always so aggressive ? It doesn’t have to be like this. Emotional intelligence and your own energy, tap into them please!
Exactly! Like this paul dude is constantly trying to sound smarter than everyone and has to always be sarcastic rather than just direct. Urgh🤢🤮How do you even ask him to take the bins out let alone have a grown discussion about your relationship? And OMFG if he “says I work with high net worth individuals” one more time....!!!!
100% agree he has a lot of emotional growing up to do, especially in communication and the way he spoke to the therapist was extremely embarrassing.