nice video, Uyen! Whatever you do, don't let anyone pressure you and German boyfriend to have a kid- it should be between the two of you when you are ready, OR never if you don't.
I've been in Germany for 17 years and I just started a C1 German course. It is BRUTAL. 17 years, you'd think I'd know things. No, I don't. I spend 3 hours in class and then I spend 2 hours doing homework every day and I feel like I'm barely hanging on. C1 is a level of German that foreigners have to really ponder over. I'm humiliated every class day. I had no idea about "Kreisformig 'um'." So, "Ich umschreibe...." oder "Ich schreibe um." Kill me now. "Ich umrunde" und "Ich umfahre" .....End my suffering.
@@LythaWausW I bet you are doing great! Even though you don't know every single word or grammatical structure, people probably understand you perfectly. And that's what matters ☺️
@@LythaWausW As a German I obviously don't really think about how confusing those words are. Depending on the context and how you stress the words "umfahren" (to drive around something) can mean the exact opposite of "umfahren" (to run sth./ s.o. over) :'D So, I feel your pain!
@@LythaWausW learning a language in real life (by using it) is not like learning it class, with structured lectures, definitions, and simulations. Even if you take a C1 or C2 in your native language you'd be surprised to know how many things you "don't know". I am sure you're doing great, don't be too hard on yourself, the learning process is always individual.
I really appreciate how sensible and down-to-earth you and German Boyfriend are. You have real goals, ideals and struggles. You're kind and smart and you really put thought into your channel and your life, and that's all so approachable. Honestly, if you DID turn into one of those glamorous influencer types it would be the end of my subscription: they're unreachable and cold, where even when things are tough you and GB are lovely and warm. You're actual PEOPLE and I just enjoy peeking into this window into your life that you've been kind enough to show us.
the part about missing ur family and seeing them but also missing ur partner is so relatable, i'm from the uk and living in germany with my partner too and it's hard to split time or not feel jealous that i'm missing family milestones while his are nearby (new kids, moving, partners etc). i had to cancel 3 flights home this year due to injury and i missed 3!! babies!!
@@mysunthemoonhope you get a refund soon, you having a torn ligament and having to cancel 3 flights (flights are so expensive oh my freaking god) but not getting any refund is my nightmare!!
I understand you so much. I moved to live with the love of my life and I am truly happy. 7 years of happiness I’m grateful. But I have about 5 nieces/nephews whose births I’ve missed, and one is even starting school soon… I’ve never met them.. 😢 and I always thought my cousins and I would be parents together. It does break my heart too. I truly understand you so much but we will visit our family every chance we get and just adore the moments.
Hi Uyen :) please don't give up on learning german. My mum came 31 years ago from Vietnam to Germany and speaks like a pretty good B1 level now. I think it helped that she immediately worked as a waitress in our family restaurant. Now as a almost 60 year old lady she works in retail and there are still some german words she doesn't know but the customers can always explain in to her and she understands it.
Have you thought about volunteering at a pet shelter? The animal rescue centre in my area has a lot of volunteers to take dogs for walks. Could be some great content :)
I agree. This is a great idea, not only for content, but she can be around animals, if she enjoys that and give her the experience to “kind of” have a dog/cat, and of course helping them at the same time.
Fostering a cat could also be a good option. Some fosters are longer term, but if you say you can only foster for a few months (or even a few weeks), most rescues can work around that
It is NOT unreasonable to be jealous or feel lonely in a country that is not your own. He has family and friends around him, even when you are gone, but you don't have that when you are "home", so missing your own family and friends is reasonable and if you can afford to travel home once in a while that's just cool! Its okay to miss your family and friends, you are after all, in a country that is not your native, and i can only imagine how hard that is. So cut yourself some slack, and if you are worried about German boyfriend feeling lonely when you travel, maybe make sure he set up some board game nights with his friends or go out to see his family, then he will feel a little less alone
I relate so much in every aspect to you...I am German, but have been living in Quebec, Canada with my French-Canadian husband for 3 years now. The French language is a pain to learn, I miss my friends and family all the time, feeling lonely, not having much to do (unable to work/study due to ongoing immigration process). Also, your feelings of jealousy are not irrational, but totally valid. I feel the exact same way. Finding a balance between your old home and new home is an impossible job, but I hope you can find it. In 2 weeks I will see my friends & family for the first time since I moved to Canada with my husband. It's crazy. I am just happy that me and you now have the financial possibility to see them regularly. I have come to accept the pain (the contrast) that comes with being an international couple and living abroad. We will always miss something or someone, no matter where we are (like the birth and growth of our nephews and nieces...). Also the sadness when I think of how rarely my family will be able to see my future kids is awful. Glad that you speak of these negatives. But I am here today and the happiest I've ever been choosing these negatives, because of the positives
One thing that helped me out a lot in a decision to have kids or not was asking myself: What would I really want if I put aside all the outside/societal opinions or pressure. If my mom was fine with either decision. If no one ever questioned it, not relatives, not neighbors not friends. If the people around me would be happy and encouraging whatever I decided. It removed a lot of weight from my shoulders and made me realize how much I was actually pressuring myself to be "normal" and to not make someone else sad. When in fact that huge decision should only ever be made from deep inside my heart and soul, by myself and my partner only.
you are my most favorite content creator. i grew up in a household that was half asian and half western, but my parents did not have a great relationship - lots of cultural misunderstanding and poor communication. seeing how well and healthily you are with german boyfriend somehow helps me heal some wounds of my childhood. thank you for sharing about your life. ❤️ i love it and i wish you all the best.
I’m in the same boat as you about whether I want kids or not. With Vietnamese parents, they really want grandkids and also the culture just doesn’t understand why you wouldn’t have kids if you can. I see a lot of women judged for not having kids. It’s refreshing to hear that you don’t know if you want kids because everyone always seem so sure of wanting to be a mom or having kids. Rn being a dog mom is enough for me. I hope you will be able to get a pet in the future Uyen
I feel like you would be a fantastic science communicator and educator, bringing together your creativity, humor, strong awareness of the learning experience, and love of science. Whatever you choose to do, I hope it is fascinating and enjoyable for you. I believe in you.
My little cousin started college for aerospace engineering recently! He seems to love his classes and the potential work he'll get. You might, too. Good luck!! ❤
The vast, vast majority of aerospace companies are making tech for militaries so they can more easily control, monitor, and kill people. So I’d hope she doesn’t get involved in that.
Aaaah I feel you, my mother lives in Thailand, my brother in New Zealand, my father in France, and I live in Italy (but I'm not Italian). My partner is Italian and he gets to see his relatives almost every day, I get to see mine twice a year at most! It's definitely something a mixed couple has to talk about. Sending love ❤
As a fellow South East Asian (Cambodian to be exact), I am so happy to not only see another South East Asian thrive but also someone who is born and raised in South East Asia (because I was ultimately born and raised in Australia) be simply you. Even though we are from different, well probably more similar than different cultures, I am just happy to see you be yourself and captures nuances that fellow South East Asians understand. There’s so few representation for South East Asians still in this world, and even less representation for South East Asians who are born and raised there. Please don’t ever feel pressured. You make us so happy and proud. We love you!
your voice and the vibe you carry is so beautiful and seeing you is so refreshing and immediately makes me so happy you are amazing uyen keep going ❤️✨🦋
Hi Uyen, thank you for sharing some private thoughts and feelings with us! I come from Croatia and been living in Germany for 6 years now, and also have a German boyfriend😂:) the struggle and feeling of being torn between your home and family and a new life in another country with people that also mean a lot to you is hard to explain to others, or even to understand or deal with it yourself. I am thinking about it every day. And everytime I hear someone sharing a similar story I feel for them! Also I am happy to hear that you have cool plans for the future. Take care and sunny greetings from Berlin :)
@meggiemm, I fully understand you. My whole family is in France and I live in England. People say it is just next door, but the family is in the South of France, too far to drive, but quite expensive to fly on a regular basis. Plus when you work, holiday is limited. I was terribly homesick the first few years and miss the big events and gatherings.
I think sometimes it can be easier as a mixed couple to move to a third "independent" country. This way you you can built a social network and life together. Then it is also not always one person that has to make sacrifices. To me, it sounds like you have made a lot of compromises while german boyfriend stays in his comfort zone.
Good call on waiting for a pet--- you have plenty of time. ;-) I love my beagle so much, and he was mine and mom's boy, but he is the reason my mom and I never made it back to Germany. We could not put him in a kennel, he's never been away from us. We couldn't imagine him thinking we'd abandoned him. He won't even eat if we are not home! And as soon as we'd get home, he'd scarf down his food. So he has separation anxiety. Now, Mutti died last Christmas....and I still have Napoleon, and wouldn't trade him for the world, but PETS DO tie you down! And also, wait for kids. Have your fun NOW--- and have kids later. There is plenty of time, Uyen and GB!! I'm 56F, so I have a little bit of life experience behind me. I am so glad I had fun when I was younger and get it out of my system. Now, I am retired, and sadly, I was not able to have children. I was a premature baby, born at 23 weeks in 1968. I was 2.2lbs. That is why I'm legally blind. And apparently, some of my other parts didn't develop enough also. I'm ok with that! Get that engineering degree, Uyen! I know you can do it!!! Where do you take free online courses, if I may ask?
Hey Uyen, I hope you're doing well in your life. Genuinely wanted to thank you for being a positive person or even just the way you are. I'm saying so bcz in this ocean of pretentious influencers, you're a ray of simplicity. Hope you continue to do well in your life!
Hallöchen, I discovered your channel shortly after I moved to Germany from the USA one year ago. I really resonated with your channel because I'm also am a foreigner in Germany, struggling to learn the language and integrate into the culture while also finding a way to hold onto my own. Thanks so much for just doing what you do. I wish all the best for you and German Boyfriend! 😊
your jealousy is not unreasonable at all, it's normal to miss friends and family and to want to be around the people you love. If you can afford it and do have the ability to work from anywhere in the world take advantage of it as much as you can, because time stops for no one and one day your loved ones won't be there anymore. The time you can spend with people you love is a luxury so much bigger than money!
Speaking as someone in a similar situation (Asian immigrant to a Western Country): don't feel like you HAVE To oblige anyone / society/ "it's the thing to do at my age" with having a baby. With family nearby to help and a super supportive and involved spouse, it is already difficult.... much less being alone with no support network! And no, despite what you think you know, becoming a parent is a WHOLE DIFFERENT LEVEL of hard work that you never imagined. And it is a life long commitment! No time off, no clocking out at 6pm, no worklife balance, no "let's circle back to this later/ do this baby thing tomorrow"..... I love your content! Keep trucking on!
I don't know where in Germany you live, but some parts of Germany have pretty big vietnamese communities. Maybe that could be a way for you to find vietnamese friends in Germany. A little bit of a "home away from home" - type situation.
Uyen, I cry every day too, since my Mom died last Christmas. It's ok and very cathartic (healthy and healing) for oneself. No shame in it. Nothing to be embarrassed about. I know you miss your family a lot. I miss my Mom. The only day I did not cry was Oct 20, just a few days ago, her birthday. It felt so unreal all day that I didn't even cry. It was like it was not happening. I think I was in some kind of shock still. I don't know how I'll make it through the holidays.
Uyen my dear, we are all so happy to hear your life updates. Hope everything is well with you! Take all the time in the world to figure out everything in life. Kids, career, pets etc. It's okay not knowing what you want in life🎉 that is the beauty of it! We are sure that everything you chose to do, you will succeed ❤
I’m still in awe of your dedication and creativity. I hope you can keep this job going for a long time because you’re fantastic at it! And we appreciate it ❤
Uyen! All of these are tough discussions. As everyone says, you don't owe us life updates but it's always fun to follow along and support you. I want to encourage you to continue visiting your family, at least once a year. Before covid it's what I tried to do, because like you, I didn't like to see my parents age and not be there.
If you don’t have a strong desire for kids, just enjoy your life! It almost always falls more on the mom and it changes everything. Enjoy yourself with German bf and maybe pets one day ❤
Yes Uyên and anyone who still have parents, love cherish every moment with them. I lost both of my parents in a car accident , last trip I took them was Europe. My children didn’t get to know their grandparents 🥲 I started a channel about 5 months so I can document my travels & life so we can go back to see it & it’s hard because I keep wishing my parents still here for me to travel with and give back to all the sacrifices they gave us ( I am also vn) don’t want to show my face for now due to work. Congrats to over 2m subs that is awesome!! I hope one day I will reach thousands🙏
My husband and I waited for 12 years after we were married to have a child (our daughter). I was almost 40 years old. It has worked out well. Everyone kept asking, but we waited until we felt we were ready to embrace parenthood. Our daughter really benefitted by having more mature parents. We got a dog about a year before we decided to have a child, so we could figure out if we could keep another mammal alive! It's ok to wait.
Dear Uyen, I really want to thank you for sharing about the kids. It's really comforting to hear something like this for some reason.😊 I'm not technically thinking about it, but sometimes, recently I started to think that I think I will want a child one day. I am 27. It's really very great to think about it very very deeply and have discussions with your partner, I love it. I'm very glad that your partner appreciates and respects your body first and foremost. That is the only way I believe it should be.
Hi Uyen! Thank you so much for sharing this! It's very relatable to me. I live abroad, in Zürich (we met! I am the girl with the chocolates, haha) and I constantly commute back home, to be part of my family's life. I'm curious what solution we will figure out. 😊
Do what is best for the two of you. What other people say means little in the end. Personally I never wanted children and I didn't want to be an uninterested parent. I'm 63 and never regretted the decision and I've had a fulfilling life.
There are a lot of really great things about having children, and there are a lot of really great things about being childless. There's no wrong answer! It's so great to hear you're doing whatever feels right for you.
Uyen, go for aerospace engineering! I'm happy that you are interested in science and i'm sure the more you study it, the more you appreciate its beauty! From a fellow Vietnamese who's doing an engineering degree abroad 😊
Hi Uyen. Regarding learning German: have you tried joining a German-speaking club or class where you can put your knowledge to good use? Like a crochet group or a yoga class, for example. I personally enjoy learning languages and I find that some people don't understand that languages are instruments. So it's like learning to use power tools - most people wouldn't find a drill exciting, but when you can DIY your whole home you get a feeling of acomplishment. I hope you find a way to motivate yourself and keep learning. You're obviously extremely talented and can achieve anything you set up your mind to!
It was so nice of you to talk about some personal things you didnt have to. I had many pets growing up, dogs, cats, gerbils, frogs, fish, ,small birds, a pigeon, chinchillas, degus. They require a lot of time and work. They cost money too such as food and vet. Some require more time than others. If we couldn't take our pets, on vacation i believe family took care of them. Maybe once or twice the dog was at a kennel. Having kids is not for everyone. I know people that wanted kids but married later. Their career was too demanding and they decided no kids. They liked their job and liked to travel.
I agree with other commenters. Of course, you do not owe us your life updates or private life (I've seen many online creators start to feel pressure ... And I hope you know that you shouldn't). But I appreciated and enjoyed the video. If I could travel back home to see my parents more I would so I hope you enjoy trips home as much as possible. Great vid 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Thanks for bringing us into your lives - - as others have said, if there are things you want to keep personal to yourself, I know you will do that. I hate when people try to pressure other people to do the thing that they themselves or drawing, or would do. Y’all are both young, having fun, being in love is such a wonderful thing. I do remember when I was younger, I am 72!, I so wanted to travel and maybe live in a different place but in the 70s in the state that I live in the salaries in the job that I did working as a secretary, did not allow me the extra money to do any of those things, I’ve never traveled at all until I had a boyfriend, who would bring me on vacation with him and his children. Everybody just have to do what they think is best for themselves! Thanks for sharing yawls lives with us--y’all are so funny I’m having such a good time, I’m kind of envious, because I’m at the end of my life practically, and I miss being young and alive!
Envying your boyfriend, when he is with friends and family, is a good thing. This means that you are still close with your family. It is also good that you do not repress those feelings, but go back to Vietnam and visit them. Maybe the two of you can arrange it, to go together sometimes. Family is important. Try to find ways to go together to your family, then he does not have to feel lonely, and you can have it both ways.
Thanks for this video! Your answers about getting a pet and motherhood really resonated with me, it felt like your words were coming out of my own mouth! ^^
I also live away from family in another country and so does my wife (her family is in a third country). It's a very tough situation emotionally and the tricky thing is you also build a network of friends where you live which you will leave behind if you move. It's so hard not to feel anxiety with aging parents, because every time there's a health scare it reminds you that something serious could happen at any time and I imagine the guilt I will feel that I didn't maximize my time with them. I've realized and mostly come to accept over the years that it will never be possible to perfectly balance the time between different family members and friends. I do feel very fortunate I can talk to them and see them relatively easily over the Internet, although it isn't close to being able to hug them when I want to. I'm also sometimes very envious of people who live in the same place they grew up their whole lives. They have a support system that we lack. But I'm also grateful I got to experience everything I have in life this far.
Next update I hope we can hear about wedding plans. But you already spoil us with all this information that is really not our business so just share what you want to. We enjoy feeling a part of your life.
Eeeps I love this video so much! For some reason I teared Uyen when you were describing how noticed your parents having more wrinkles when you call them. As an international student I feel this struggle so,so much too. My solution is also to go back every few months, to meet family and also to stock up on the good food for my belly. 😂😂😂Thanks for being so open in sharing with that with us Uyen, it made me feel seen. ❤
Aaaw Uyen! Thank you for sharing your story! I can relate to your story so much. My boyfriend is dutch and I am dutch Australian. My family lives in aus and we met in Holland 4 half years ago. I try to fly back every 6 months. But it's so hard being away from and from my family. We are also trying to make it work this way but it is tough. I love your videos and it really makes me less alone ❤
Jealousy is a negative emotion. From my experience I would say seeing your loved ones being loved on by family and friends… is wonderful when we love someone we want the absolute best and for as much love for them as possible! I think when you are far from home it creates a wishful longing to connect with your loved ones too. If this goes on too long home sickness kicks into our hearts, memories and holistically one’s overall wellbeing. Be kind to yourself. When I was away for several years…. You truly see your loved ones moving in without you. You also notice how your parents are truly aging and it is more so emotionally alarming than if you saw them in person regularly. I say when needs must allow your instincts to guide you towards time with all your loved ones, fiancé and family and friends from home. You will always have two homes! This needs dignified respect and love to understand, that each Vietnam and Germany home’s are the most beautiful, precious, valuable and significantly sacred part of your life. You have incredible love for both and yet you cannot compare one from another. Blessed Be ✨⭐️💫
7:37 indeed pls visit your family as often as you could and take your parents out as much as u can...make them visit places they wish they could go to... when they are no longer around... regrets will never go. Enjoy my dear❤
You must try space engineering! I am very rooting for you! I am doing physics ❤you go girl I truly believe in you, I'm doing my doctor but every new stage is like you start completely new. So age and what you've done before should not really stop you. You need to relearn all the time anyway. I'm so impressed by this idea of yours, I and the world would be very happy to to see advance this field. We need, Uyen🌌🌠 maybe we can work in ESA together one day. I need to learn a lot too at that moment😢... But with support we can Have you tried coding?
Thank you so much for your honest answers to some difficult questions. I have no doubt that you will do well in life. You're smart, open to new things, personable and a lot of fun to watch. Acting, public speaking, TV personality (I'm showing my age, 72), social media, independent films, etc. The sky's the limit! Keep up the great work and give German boyfriend a hug from me. 😃
Uyen love, from my perspective I can see the fire and passion u have for studying aerospace engineering! Now consider this. Do you get the same feelings when considering having children? Follow what excites you!! It really is that easy, hon. You can always freeze ur eggs. Or maybe adopt later in life. Wish you the best xo
Uyen, have you tried to get to know your local dogs? I have moved countries a few times in my life, so I don't allow myself to have pets, but it is easy to find dogs who need regular walks and cuddle sessions while their parents are at work or travelling. Currently, I have 2 on my street and one 15 mins walk away, who I have been taking care of for over 6 years. You can just strike a conversation when you see them walking on the street or post in local Facebook groups. It is like having niece and nephew, enjoy their company for a bit and then give them back 😅
the homesickness i so understand. my hubby is so wonderful about it. i live in Australia and my family is in Germany. so, next year i get to visit the family and friends in Germany again. i'm a lucky girl !!
i had a Danish boyfriend once when we both lived in Houston. He spoke English since childhood but still said it was tiring speaking English all the time. He enjoyed his Danish friends in Houston and felt he could express himself better. he used to get “wary verried” (very worried-w and v different in Danish)
I sub to a channel by a woman in her 70s. She is so wise and interesting. Her channel is growing even though she’s not been on YT that long. You’d have enough people that love what you do, to do it for as long as you choose ❤
Uyen, may I give you some advice as an older person who has both lived away from “home” and been in a longterm inter-cultural relationship? It is easy to romanticize being back home, but sometimes you are treated better there ONLY because you are now a visitor. AND because of the potential of grandkids. I had to move home once during a marital separation, when my son was no longer a baby, and everyone went back to ignoring me (and him) and being kind of mean. As soon as I reconciled with my husband and moved away again, my “family” immediately started being nice to me again and acting excited to see me when I visited. I know you once mentioned your mom immediately put you to work helping with the meal and doing the dishes, so I felt like maybe you’d be open to such a consideration. I’d also like to say that you and German Boyfriend are such a responsible young couple and I’m rooting for you both! You guys are already avoiding a lot of the mistakes we made 😊.
Goodness, girl, going back home so often is perfectly fine! You're on the other side of the world, if I could, I would visit my family in Scotland (from Australia) as much as possible!
I get it what you said about being jealous sometimes of the german family and friends time. There is this weird feeling - you do have your family too! And you love this one as well! But at the same time we all need time within the different social circles in order to be happy :)
Take the opportunities whenever you can to go home, distance makes the heart grow fonder and your German Boyfriend has to accept your sacrifices and realise that we auslanders need these trips home. I am an English man who has lived here in Germany for 16yrs now, so I understand your feelings.
❤Great video to get us all informed! Thank you! 😊 I love your culture shock differences, but also your trips (even local). My husband and I are finally at a point in life where we can travel and our adult children watch our pets so please keep inspiring us to look beyond our country.
My husband and I live about 7 minutes drive from his folks, and about 30 minutes from each of his 3 siblings. It’s great, but I miss seeing my family as much. To be fair though, my folks are only an hours drive away and that seems a great distance sometimes when juggling time, traffic and a kids schedule. So long as you can afford to do so you should see your family as often as you can - German boyfriend gets you 90% of the time and I’m sure it’s no surprise to him that you miss your family seeing as that’s part of who you are ❤❤❤
Yay! Hi Uyen! Female engineer here :) I fully support you pursuing engineering (or any of the STEM fields)! Also, you and German fiancé are the most down-to-earth couple on YT. I always find myself smiling while watching your videos
You ever thought about making and selling merch Uyen? Because I’m sure that tons of people (including myself) would love to buy them from you! You can crochet things or make funny T-shirts!
I love your videos!! They are so funny and make me laugh! There is nothing more precious then making someone smile and lift their mood, you are very good in doing that with your videos. Keep making them ❤
People just ask for updates because they're interested in you. I always feel pressured (as an introvert ) but it's just conversation around the person they like. In olden days, we knew more about people but we shared information about more details, like what we are making for dinner or where we are hunting food.
I am a Brazilian doctor married to a wonderful German. We have our own houses here and there. The best word that I know in German is GENAU just changing my face expressions 🤣. What about you do your channel ,your mother language for your own Country? You would be a star there!! Good luck!! Our 😘from🇧🇷🇩🇪
I love that you are putting so much thought into having a pet. It is a lifelong commitment, yet so rewarding and lovely as well. I really think you should get a cat. There are many to adopt at pet rescues. Maybe an older cat, so you know their personality. You could get a pet sitter to come to your house a few times to check on the cat rather than a boarding place (cats like to be at home) when traveling. Having two cats and they would have a playmate. Also think about fostering a cat for a rescue group! They need help fostering pets before they find a home. Would make a fun video too!
Thank you for the update. I'm always so impressed with your adventurous spirit and willingness to try new experiences. I hope you find joy in whatever you choose to do with your life.
About babies....a lot of older women have babies. Up until around 50 years. Less chance of carrying to full term, or of getting pregnant, but generally, pregnancy, or chances, go from 12 years to 50 years. The ages they tell you, are optimal ages. For various reasons. 32 is NOT "elderly" age. I very much resent that classification. Also, and doctors never tell this, but men also have optimal ages. You are a very smart lady. Im so happy you make up your own mind. 🥰
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We are not owed life updates, but we appreciate them
Well said!
Agreed!!!!
as the woman already said: It's business 😂 whenever there's an idea block, Q&A and life updates are the answer.
I agrees i thought something was like terrible wrong because she vary private about some aspects of capton uyen life with I respect and cherish 🙏
I agree!
nice video, Uyen! Whatever you do, don't let anyone pressure you and German boyfriend to have a kid- it should be between the two of you when you are ready, OR never if you don't.
Completely agree!
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It’s so rude when people ask couples about children.
Have a child early and the last third of your life has great rewards.
@@sails3538 you don’t need kids for that actually.
I'm very impressed with your and German Boyfriend's attitude and maturity concerning responsibility and life.
I bet she's over 25, it's normal I think she's that mature. She clearly has a great education and lives in a very good country with good morals
Maturity? She complains about looking for a job she studied for lol
@@pompommania where did she complain about getting a job?
@@pompommania everyone does this realistically. If you say you don't I genuinely think you are lying.
German boyfriend is a real mangina ! He will always do what she wants ! A typical "SITZPISSER" like we call guys like him here in germany !
“Learn German and cry everyday. It’s been going well.” Girl, that spoke to my soul.
I've been in Germany for 17 years and I just started a C1 German course. It is BRUTAL. 17 years, you'd think I'd know things. No, I don't. I spend 3 hours in class and then I spend 2 hours doing homework every day and I feel like I'm barely hanging on. C1 is a level of German that foreigners have to really ponder over. I'm humiliated every class day. I had no idea about "Kreisformig 'um'." So, "Ich umschreibe...." oder "Ich schreibe um." Kill me now. "Ich umrunde" und "Ich umfahre" .....End my suffering.
I am not learning german at any level but i feel your anguish@@LythaWausW
@@LythaWausW I bet you are doing great! Even though you don't know every single word or grammatical structure, people probably understand you perfectly. And that's what matters ☺️
@@LythaWausW As a German I obviously don't really think about how confusing those words are. Depending on the context and how you stress the words "umfahren" (to drive around something) can mean the exact opposite of "umfahren" (to run sth./ s.o. over) :'D So, I feel your pain!
@@LythaWausW learning a language in real life (by using it) is not like learning it class, with structured lectures, definitions, and simulations. Even if you take a C1 or C2 in your native language you'd be surprised to know how many things you "don't know". I am sure you're doing great, don't be too hard on yourself, the learning process is always individual.
I really appreciate how sensible and down-to-earth you and German Boyfriend are. You have real goals, ideals and struggles. You're kind and smart and you really put thought into your channel and your life, and that's all so approachable. Honestly, if you DID turn into one of those glamorous influencer types it would be the end of my subscription: they're unreachable and cold, where even when things are tough you and GB are lovely and warm. You're actual PEOPLE and I just enjoy peeking into this window into your life that you've been kind enough to show us.
WoW!! Uyen is blowing up with already 2.64 million subscribers, it wasn't long ago that she was at 1 million subscribers. You GO girl!!
Oh! Whoa!
Already 2.65
They’re mostly chronic shorts viewers tho, most people don’t watch the long form content unfortunately, and you make hardly any money from shorts.
2.66 now!
Million?
the part about missing ur family and seeing them but also missing ur partner is so relatable, i'm from the uk and living in germany with my partner too and it's hard to split time or not feel jealous that i'm missing family milestones while his are nearby (new kids, moving, partners etc). i had to cancel 3 flights home this year due to injury and i missed 3!! babies!!
That's unlucky, especially being injured everytime and have to cancel it 3 times.
@@sowhat1674 haha yeah i booked the flights in advance and had a torn ligament so i couldnt walk for a few months. didnt get any refunds either
@@mysunthemoon that's rough
@@mysunthemoonhope you get a refund soon, you having a torn ligament and having to cancel 3 flights (flights are so expensive oh my freaking god) but not getting any refund is my nightmare!!
I understand you so much. I moved to live with the love of my life and I am truly happy. 7 years of happiness I’m grateful. But I have about 5 nieces/nephews whose births I’ve missed, and one is even starting school soon… I’ve never met them.. 😢 and I always thought my cousins and I would be parents together. It does break my heart too. I truly understand you so much but we will visit our family every chance we get and just adore the moments.
Hi Uyen :)
please don't give up on learning german. My mum came 31 years ago from Vietnam to Germany and speaks like a pretty good B1 level now. I think it helped that she immediately worked as a waitress in our family restaurant. Now as a almost 60 year old lady she works in retail and there are still some german words she doesn't know but the customers can always explain in to her and she understands it.
Have you thought about volunteering at a pet shelter? The animal rescue centre in my area has a lot of volunteers to take dogs for walks. Could be some great content :)
I agree. This is a great idea, not only for content, but she can be around animals, if she enjoys that and give her the experience to “kind of” have a dog/cat, and of course helping them at the same time.
@@csailer2353 I love dog walking. My pet is a bird who is terrified of dogs. So I borrow my 80 yr old neighbour's dogs for my dog-walking "fix" :)
Fostering a cat could also be a good option. Some fosters are longer term, but if you say you can only foster for a few months (or even a few weeks), most rescues can work around that
Such a good idea, she could even help with social media for the pets to help them get adopted😊
@cupcakejg1 like Rocky Kanaka :)
You are very honest, open and funny (in a good way). That is why you are so successful in this cynical world. All the best to you both ❤
It is NOT unreasonable to be jealous or feel lonely in a country that is not your own.
He has family and friends around him, even when you are gone, but you don't have that when you are "home", so missing your own family and friends is reasonable and if you can afford to travel home once in a while that's just cool! Its okay to miss your family and friends, you are after all, in a country that is not your native, and i can only imagine how hard that is. So cut yourself some slack, and if you are worried about German boyfriend feeling lonely when you travel, maybe make sure he set up some board game nights with his friends or go out to see his family, then he will feel a little less alone
"When I have a pet, I would want to give the pet the best life possible" - I love you so much for this!
💙💛💚
Indeed.
I agree. I have a border collie and I feel so guilty even if I leave her for an hour.
I relate so much in every aspect to you...I am German, but have been living in Quebec, Canada with my French-Canadian husband for 3 years now. The French language is a pain to learn, I miss my friends and family all the time, feeling lonely, not having much to do (unable to work/study due to ongoing immigration process). Also, your feelings of jealousy are not irrational, but totally valid. I feel the exact same way. Finding a balance between your old home and new home is an impossible job, but I hope you can find it. In 2 weeks I will see my friends & family for the first time since I moved to Canada with my husband. It's crazy. I am just happy that me and you now have the financial possibility to see them regularly.
I have come to accept the pain (the contrast) that comes with being an international couple and living abroad. We will always miss something or someone, no matter where we are (like the birth and growth of our nephews and nieces...). Also the sadness when I think of how rarely my family will be able to see my future kids is awful. Glad that you speak of these negatives. But I am here today and the happiest I've ever been choosing these negatives, because of the positives
One thing that helped me out a lot in a decision to have kids or not was asking myself: What would I really want if I put aside all the outside/societal opinions or pressure. If my mom was fine with either decision. If no one ever questioned it, not relatives, not neighbors not friends. If the people around me would be happy and encouraging whatever I decided. It removed a lot of weight from my shoulders and made me realize how much I was actually pressuring myself to be "normal" and to not make someone else sad. When in fact that huge decision should only ever be made from deep inside my heart and soul, by myself and my partner only.
you are my most favorite content creator. i grew up in a household that was half asian and half western, but my parents did not have a great relationship - lots of cultural misunderstanding and poor communication. seeing how well and healthily you are with german boyfriend somehow helps me heal some wounds of my childhood. thank you for sharing about your life. ❤️ i love it and i wish you all the best.
Uyen, you’re like this good hearted, childhood friend ❤it’s so good to hear from you!
I’m in the same boat as you about whether I want kids or not. With Vietnamese parents, they really want grandkids and also the culture just doesn’t understand why you wouldn’t have kids if you can. I see a lot of women judged for not having kids. It’s refreshing to hear that you don’t know if you want kids because everyone always seem so sure of wanting to be a mom or having kids. Rn being a dog mom is enough for me. I hope you will be able to get a pet in the future Uyen
I feel like you would be a fantastic science communicator and educator, bringing together your creativity, humor, strong awareness of the learning experience, and love of science. Whatever you choose to do, I hope it is fascinating and enjoyable for you. I believe in you.
Yeah!
I would love it if Uyen got sponsored by a science museum, planetarium, or by NASA to do some promo work for them!
Fellow expat living in Germany here: I have also done the “trip-home-3-weeks-after-the-last-trip-home” and have never regretted it.
I think joining a club (especially in Germany) is a great idea- it will give you structure and the chance to meet new people 😊
i havent watched this video yet but are there knitting/crocheting clubs where she lives? they are awesome ways to make friends
Deciding not having a child is also being responsible. So don’t be pressured if you are not ready . ❤❤❤
Your community is really one of the nicest i have ever seen on a social media platform!!
My little cousin started college for aerospace engineering recently! He seems to love his classes and the potential work he'll get. You might, too. Good luck!! ❤
The vast, vast majority of aerospace companies are making tech for militaries so they can more easily control, monitor, and kill people. So I’d hope she doesn’t get involved in that.
Aaaah I feel you, my mother lives in Thailand, my brother in New Zealand, my father in France, and I live in Italy (but I'm not Italian). My partner is Italian and he gets to see his relatives almost every day, I get to see mine twice a year at most! It's definitely something a mixed couple has to talk about. Sending love ❤
Always maintain close physical contact with your loved ones, and also find friends that are YOUR friends in Germany as well
As a fellow South East Asian (Cambodian to be exact), I am so happy to not only see another South East Asian thrive but also someone who is born and raised in South East Asia (because I was ultimately born and raised in Australia) be simply you. Even though we are from different, well probably more similar than different cultures, I am just happy to see you be yourself and captures nuances that fellow South East Asians understand. There’s so few representation for South East Asians still in this world, and even less representation for South East Asians who are born and raised there. Please don’t ever feel pressured. You make us so happy and proud. We love you!
Du bist die bestene. Danke für so viel von sich selbst zu teilen und wir lieben dich!
your voice and the vibe you carry is so beautiful and
seeing you is so refreshing and immediately makes me so happy
you are amazing uyen keep going ❤️✨🦋
Hi Uyen, thank you for sharing some private thoughts and feelings with us! I come from Croatia and been living in Germany for 6 years now, and also have a German boyfriend😂:) the struggle and feeling of being torn between your home and family and a new life in another country with people that also mean a lot to you is hard to explain to others, or even to understand or deal with it yourself. I am thinking about it every day. And everytime I hear someone sharing a similar story I feel for them! Also I am happy to hear that you have cool plans for the future. Take care and sunny greetings from Berlin :)
@meggiemm, I fully understand you. My whole family is in France and I live in England. People say it is just next door, but the family is in the South of France, too far to drive, but quite expensive to fly on a regular basis. Plus when you work, holiday is limited. I was terribly homesick the first few years and miss the big events and gatherings.
I think sometimes it can be easier as a mixed couple to move to a third "independent" country. This way you you can built a social network and life together. Then it is also not always one person that has to make sacrifices. To me, it sounds like you have made a lot of compromises while german boyfriend stays in his comfort zone.
Good call on waiting for a pet--- you have plenty of time. ;-) I love my beagle so much, and he was mine and mom's boy, but he is the reason my mom and I never made it back to Germany. We could not put him in a kennel, he's never been away from us. We couldn't imagine him thinking we'd abandoned him. He won't even eat if we are not home! And as soon as we'd get home, he'd scarf down his food. So he has separation anxiety. Now, Mutti died last Christmas....and I still have Napoleon, and wouldn't trade him for the world, but PETS DO tie you down!
And also, wait for kids. Have your fun NOW--- and have kids later. There is plenty of time, Uyen and GB!! I'm 56F, so I have a little bit of life experience behind me. I am so glad I had fun when I was younger and get it out of my system. Now, I am retired, and sadly, I was not able to have children. I was a premature baby, born at 23 weeks in 1968. I was 2.2lbs. That is why I'm legally blind. And apparently, some of my other parts didn't develop enough also. I'm ok with that!
Get that engineering degree, Uyen! I know you can do it!!! Where do you take free online courses, if I may ask?
Hey Uyen, I hope you're doing well in your life. Genuinely wanted to thank you for being a positive person or even just the way you are. I'm saying so bcz in this ocean of pretentious influencers, you're a ray of simplicity. Hope you continue to do well in your life!
Hallöchen,
I discovered your channel shortly after I moved to Germany from the USA one year ago. I really resonated with your channel because I'm also am a foreigner in Germany, struggling to learn the language and integrate into the culture while also finding a way to hold onto my own. Thanks so much for just doing what you do. I wish all the best for you and German Boyfriend! 😊
your jealousy is not unreasonable at all, it's normal to miss friends and family and to want to be around the people you love. If you can afford it and do have the ability to work from anywhere in the world take advantage of it as much as you can, because time stops for no one and one day your loved ones won't be there anymore. The time you can spend with people you love is a luxury so much bigger than money!
Speaking as someone in a similar situation (Asian immigrant to a Western Country): don't feel like you HAVE To oblige anyone / society/ "it's the thing to do at my age" with having a baby. With family nearby to help and a super supportive and involved spouse, it is already difficult.... much less being alone with no support network!
And no, despite what you think you know, becoming a parent is a WHOLE DIFFERENT LEVEL of hard work that you never imagined. And it is a life long commitment! No time off, no clocking out at 6pm, no worklife balance, no "let's circle back to this later/ do this baby thing tomorrow".....
I love your content! Keep trucking on!
I don't know where in Germany you live, but some parts of Germany have pretty big vietnamese communities. Maybe that could be a way for you to find vietnamese friends in Germany. A little bit of a "home away from home" - type situation.
Uyen, I cry every day too, since my Mom died last Christmas. It's ok and very cathartic (healthy and healing) for oneself. No shame in it. Nothing to be embarrassed about. I know you miss your family a lot. I miss my Mom. The only day I did not cry was Oct 20, just a few days ago, her birthday. It felt so unreal all day that I didn't even cry. It was like it was not happening. I think I was in some kind of shock still. I don't know how I'll make it through the holidays.
Dear internet stranger, I'm sending you digital hugs 🫂 I hope you manage to find some light in the holiday season ✨
Sending hugs and good wishes to you 🤗❤
aw I'm sorry sending comment hugs 😢⚘️
She is not gone, just not here with you. Smile in remembrance of her, and when you miss her just talk to her. Don't be sad, she is not gone.
Cherish the moments you had with her and be grateful for all the things you could do together. I feel with you.
Uyen my dear, we are all so happy to hear your life updates.
Hope everything is well with you! Take all the time in the world to figure out everything in life. Kids, career, pets etc.
It's okay not knowing what you want in life🎉 that is the beauty of it!
We are sure that everything you chose to do, you will succeed ❤
I’m still in awe of your dedication and creativity. I hope you can keep this job going for a long time because you’re fantastic at it! And we appreciate it ❤
Uyen! All of these are tough discussions. As everyone says, you don't owe us life updates but it's always fun to follow along and support you. I want to encourage you to continue visiting your family, at least once a year. Before covid it's what I tried to do, because like you, I didn't like to see my parents age and not be there.
If you don’t have a strong desire for kids, just enjoy your life! It almost always falls more on the mom and it changes everything. Enjoy yourself with German bf and maybe pets one day ❤
Travelling with your parents is so cool. I was able to bring them over to Europe a couple of times and it is truly one of my favourite experiences.
Yes Uyên and anyone who still have parents, love cherish every moment with them. I lost both of my parents in a car accident , last trip I took them was Europe. My children didn’t get to know their grandparents 🥲
I started a channel about 5 months so I can document my travels & life so we can go back to see it & it’s hard because I keep wishing my parents still here for me to travel with and give back to all the sacrifices they gave us ( I am also vn) don’t want to show my face for now due to work. Congrats to over 2m subs that is awesome!! I hope one day I will reach thousands🙏
My husband and I waited for 12 years after we were married to have a child (our daughter). I was almost 40 years old. It has worked out well. Everyone kept asking, but we waited until we felt we were ready to embrace parenthood. Our daughter really benefitted by having more mature parents. We got a dog about a year before we decided to have a child, so we could figure out if we could keep another mammal alive! It's ok to wait.
That's so practical but very sweet ❤
Dear Uyen, I really want to thank you for sharing about the kids. It's really comforting to hear something like this for some reason.😊 I'm not technically thinking about it, but sometimes, recently I started to think that I think I will want a child one day. I am 27.
It's really very great to think about it very very deeply and have discussions with your partner, I love it. I'm very glad that your partner appreciates and respects your body first and foremost. That is the only way I believe it should be.
Hi Uyen! Thank you so much for sharing this!
It's very relatable to me. I live abroad, in Zürich (we met! I am the girl with the chocolates, haha) and I constantly commute back home, to be part of my family's life.
I'm curious what solution we will figure out. 😊
I'm also seriously postponing big decisions (such as having a family on my own, or a pet... Or even a more high maintenance plant 😂) because of that.
Do what is best for the two of you. What other people say means little in the end. Personally I never wanted children and I didn't want to be an uninterested parent. I'm 63 and never regretted the decision and I've had a fulfilling life.
There are a lot of really great things about having children, and there are a lot of really great things about being childless. There's no wrong answer! It's so great to hear you're doing whatever feels right for you.
I am 66, and i have never wanted a child. No shame in wanting to not being a parent
Having a pet is indeed a huge responsibility, I think you're making the right decision for the time being 😊.
Uyen, go for aerospace engineering! I'm happy that you are interested in science and i'm sure the more you study it, the more you appreciate its beauty!
From a fellow Vietnamese who's doing an engineering degree abroad 😊
Hi Uyen. Regarding learning German: have you tried joining a German-speaking club or class where you can put your knowledge to good use? Like a crochet group or a yoga class, for example. I personally enjoy learning languages and I find that some people don't understand that languages are instruments. So it's like learning to use power tools - most people wouldn't find a drill exciting, but when you can DIY your whole home you get a feeling of acomplishment.
I hope you find a way to motivate yourself and keep learning. You're obviously extremely talented and can achieve anything you set up your mind to!
It was so nice of you to talk about some personal things you didnt have to.
I had many pets growing up, dogs, cats, gerbils, frogs, fish, ,small birds, a pigeon, chinchillas, degus. They require a lot of time and work. They cost money too such as food and vet. Some require more time than others. If we couldn't take our pets, on vacation i believe family took care of them. Maybe once or twice the dog was at a kennel.
Having kids is not for everyone. I know people that wanted kids but married later. Their career was too demanding and they decided no kids. They liked their job and liked to travel.
I agree with other commenters. Of course, you do not owe us your life updates or private life (I've seen many online creators start to feel pressure ... And I hope you know that you shouldn't). But I appreciated and enjoyed the video. If I could travel back home to see my parents more I would so I hope you enjoy trips home as much as possible. Great vid 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Love that you're thinking seriously about whether to have children or not. Not just assuming that you just have kids once you get married.
Thanks for bringing us into your lives - - as others have said, if there are things you want to keep personal to yourself, I know you will do that. I hate when people try to pressure other people to do the thing that they themselves or drawing, or would do. Y’all are both young, having fun, being in love is such a wonderful thing. I do remember when I was younger, I am 72!, I so wanted to travel and maybe live in a different place but in the 70s in the state that I live in the salaries in the job that I did working as a secretary, did not allow me the extra money to do any of those things, I’ve never traveled at all until I had a boyfriend, who would bring me on vacation with him and his children. Everybody just have to do what they think is best for themselves! Thanks for sharing yawls lives with us--y’all are so funny I’m having such a good time, I’m kind of envious, because I’m at the end of my life practically, and I miss being young and alive!
Envying your boyfriend, when he is with friends and family, is a good thing. This means that you are still close with your family. It is also good that you do not repress those feelings, but go back to Vietnam and visit them. Maybe the two of you can arrange it, to go together sometimes. Family is important. Try to find ways to go together to your family, then he does not have to feel lonely, and you can have it both ways.
Thanks Uyen for updating us on your future plans in Germany.
Thanks for this video! Your answers about getting a pet and motherhood really resonated with me, it felt like your words were coming out of my own mouth! ^^
I also live away from family in another country and so does my wife (her family is in a third country).
It's a very tough situation emotionally and the tricky thing is you also build a network of friends where you live which you will leave behind if you move. It's so hard not to feel anxiety with aging parents, because every time there's a health scare it reminds you that something serious could happen at any time and I imagine the guilt I will feel that I didn't maximize my time with them.
I've realized and mostly come to accept over the years that it will never be possible to perfectly balance the time between different family members and friends. I do feel very fortunate I can talk to them and see them relatively easily over the Internet, although it isn't close to being able to hug them when I want to.
I'm also sometimes very envious of people who live in the same place they grew up their whole lives. They have a support system that we lack. But I'm also grateful I got to experience everything I have in life this far.
Next update I hope we can hear about wedding plans. But you already spoil us with all this information that is really not our business so just share what you want to. We enjoy feeling a part of your life.
You deserve to go home often! Its good for your mental health! You deserve it! ❤
Eeeps I love this video so much! For some reason I teared Uyen when you were describing how noticed your parents having more wrinkles when you call them. As an international student I feel this struggle so,so much too. My solution is also to go back every few months, to meet family and also to stock up on the good food for my belly. 😂😂😂Thanks for being so open in sharing with that with us Uyen, it made me feel seen. ❤
I'm glad you can have fun and profit by bringing us joy! ❤😆
Aaaw Uyen! Thank you for sharing your story! I can relate to your story so much. My boyfriend is dutch and I am dutch Australian. My family lives in aus and we met in Holland 4 half years ago. I try to fly back every 6 months. But it's so hard being away from and from my family. We are also trying to make it work this way but it is tough.
I love your videos and it really makes me less alone ❤
Jealousy is a negative emotion. From my experience I would say seeing your loved ones being loved on by family and friends… is wonderful when we love someone we want the absolute best and for as much love for them as possible! I think when you are far from home it creates a wishful longing to connect with your loved ones too. If this goes on too long home sickness kicks into our hearts, memories and holistically one’s overall wellbeing. Be kind to yourself. When I was away for several years…. You truly see your loved ones moving in without you. You also notice how your parents are truly aging and it is more so emotionally alarming than if you saw them in person regularly. I say when needs must allow your instincts to guide you towards time with all your loved ones, fiancé and family and friends from home. You will always have two homes! This needs dignified respect and love to understand, that each Vietnam and Germany home’s are the most beautiful, precious, valuable and significantly sacred part of your life. You have incredible love for both and yet you cannot compare one from another.
Blessed Be ✨⭐️💫
7:37 indeed pls visit your family as often as you could and take your parents out as much as u can...make them visit places they wish they could go to... when they are no longer around... regrets will never go. Enjoy my dear❤
I love that most of my knowledge of German culture is through a Vietnamese woman. You are an international spokesperson.
You are so sweet Uyen, I love your energy! Watching your videos are very calming for me and I’m sure for many others too! Keep doing you girl!❤
You must try space engineering! I am very rooting for you! I am doing physics ❤you go girl
I truly believe in you, I'm doing my doctor but every new stage is like you start completely new. So age and what you've done before should not really stop you. You need to relearn all the time anyway. I'm so impressed by this idea of yours, I and the world would be very happy to to see advance this field. We need, Uyen🌌🌠 maybe we can work in ESA together one day.
I need to learn a lot too at that moment😢... But with support we can
Have you tried coding?
Thank you so much for your honest answers to some difficult questions. I have no doubt that you will do well in life. You're smart, open to new things, personable and a lot of fun to watch. Acting, public speaking, TV personality (I'm showing my age, 72), social media, independent films, etc. The sky's the limit!
Keep up the great work and give German boyfriend a hug from me. 😃
Uyen love, from my perspective I can see the fire and passion u have for studying aerospace engineering! Now consider this. Do you get the same feelings when considering having children? Follow what excites you!! It really is that easy, hon. You can always freeze ur eggs. Or maybe adopt later in life.
Wish you the best xo
Uyen, have you tried to get to know your local dogs? I have moved countries a few times in my life, so I don't allow myself to have pets, but it is easy to find dogs who need regular walks and cuddle sessions while their parents are at work or travelling. Currently, I have 2 on my street and one 15 mins walk away, who I have been taking care of for over 6 years. You can just strike a conversation when you see them walking on the street or post in local Facebook groups. It is like having niece and nephew, enjoy their company for a bit and then give them back 😅
the homesickness i so understand. my hubby is so wonderful about it. i live in Australia and my family is in Germany. so, next year i get to visit the family and friends in Germany again. i'm a lucky girl !!
You make terrific vlogs. Any German company would be privileged to have you.
I wish you the best for your future!
i had a Danish boyfriend once when we both lived in Houston. He spoke English since childhood but still said it was tiring speaking English all the time. He enjoyed his Danish friends in Houston and felt he could express himself better. he used to get “wary verried” (very worried-w and v different in Danish)
Dont let anyone pressure you about kids. Either you want them or you don't - it's not their choice. 👍
I sub to a channel by a woman in her 70s. She is so wise and interesting. Her channel is growing even though she’s not been on YT that long. You’d have enough people that love what you do, to do it for as long as you choose ❤
I would love to see you go to NYC one day. I want to see New York through your eyes!! Would be such fun videos
You are awesome!! And so sweet and beautiful!! So
Relatable and down to earth! I love your videos and your style!!
Living life on your terms is a win, enjoy the adventure!!!
Uyen, may I give you some advice as an older person who has both lived away from “home” and been in a longterm inter-cultural relationship?
It is easy to romanticize being back home, but sometimes you are treated better there ONLY because you are now a visitor. AND because of the potential of grandkids.
I had to move home once during a marital separation, when my son was no longer a baby, and everyone went back to ignoring me (and him) and being kind of mean. As soon as I reconciled with my husband and moved away again, my “family” immediately started being nice to me again and acting excited to see me when I visited.
I know you once mentioned your mom immediately put you to work helping with the meal and doing the dishes, so I felt like maybe you’d be open to such a consideration.
I’d also like to say that you and German Boyfriend are such a responsible young couple and I’m rooting for you both! You guys are already avoiding a lot of the mistakes we made 😊.
truly one of the most down to earth influencers. really appreciate it
Goodness, girl, going back home so often is perfectly fine! You're on the other side of the world, if I could, I would visit my family in Scotland (from Australia) as much as possible!
I get it what you said about being jealous sometimes of the german family and friends time. There is this weird feeling - you do have your family too! And you love this one as well! But at the same time we all need time within the different social circles in order to be happy :)
Take the opportunities whenever you can to go home, distance makes the heart grow fonder and your German Boyfriend has to accept your sacrifices and realise that we auslanders need these trips home. I am an English man who has lived here in Germany for 16yrs now, so I understand your feelings.
❤Great video to get us all informed! Thank you! 😊 I love your culture shock differences, but also your trips (even local). My husband and I are finally at a point in life where we can travel and our adult children watch our pets so please keep inspiring us to look beyond our country.
You and German Fiancé and your channel have really grown on me. I love watching your videos :)
Your views on pet ownership are very responsible 😊
My husband and I live about 7 minutes drive from his folks, and about 30 minutes from each of his 3 siblings. It’s great, but I miss seeing my family as much. To be fair though, my folks are only an hours drive away and that seems a great distance sometimes when juggling time, traffic and a kids schedule. So long as you can afford to do so you should see your family as often as you can - German boyfriend gets you 90% of the time and I’m sure it’s no surprise to him that you miss your family seeing as that’s part of who you are ❤❤❤
Yay! Hi Uyen! Female engineer here :) I fully support you pursuing engineering (or any of the STEM fields)! Also, you and German fiancé are the most down-to-earth couple on YT. I always find myself smiling while watching your videos
You ever thought about making and selling merch Uyen? Because I’m sure that tons of people (including myself) would love to buy them from you! You can crochet things or make funny T-shirts!
I love your videos!! They are so funny and make me laugh! There is nothing more precious then making someone smile and lift their mood, you are very good in doing that with your videos. Keep making them ❤
People just ask for updates because they're interested in you. I always feel pressured (as an introvert ) but it's just conversation around the person they like. In olden days, we knew more about people but we shared information about more details, like what we are making for dinner or where we are hunting food.
I am a Brazilian doctor married to a wonderful German. We have our own houses here and there. The best word that I know in German is GENAU just changing my face expressions 🤣. What about you do your channel ,your mother language for your own Country? You would be a star there!! Good luck!! Our 😘from🇧🇷🇩🇪
I love that you are putting so much thought into having a pet. It is a lifelong commitment, yet so rewarding and lovely as well. I really think you should get a cat. There are many to adopt at pet rescues. Maybe an older cat, so you know their personality. You could get a pet sitter to come to your house a few times to check on the cat rather than a boarding place (cats like to be at home) when traveling. Having two cats and they would have a playmate. Also think about fostering a cat for a rescue group! They need help fostering pets before they find a home. Would make a fun video too!
Thank you for the update. I'm always so impressed with your adventurous spirit and willingness to try new experiences. I hope you find joy in whatever you choose to do with your life.
About babies....a lot of older women have babies. Up until around 50 years. Less chance of carrying to full term, or of getting pregnant, but generally, pregnancy, or chances, go from 12 years to 50 years. The ages they tell you, are optimal ages. For various reasons. 32 is NOT "elderly" age. I very much resent that classification. Also, and doctors never tell this, but men also have optimal ages. You are a very smart lady. Im so happy you make up your own mind. 🥰
Yes girl enjoy being your own boss for as long as you can.
You and your partner put so much thought into everything, it's really nice to hear. You will be alright.