Let's hope you will find a gf who likes you and not your cash..... And kids... Man they cost a lot (time and $$$) but at the end they are a blessing. Keep it up and check the red flags.... 😆
Who knows, maybe you'll run into someone there who also made the decision to eat cans of beans in the woods -- and voila! might find someone who shares the same values and lifestyle and y'all could hit it off 🤔🤭
Been married almost 10 years. And the best advice I heard about relationships came from a kid in college that was high 90% of the time. We were sitting at a table and one of our friends was complaining about his current girlfriend. And they were all petty complaints. Our high friend said in his relaxed tone, “man… I hear you. But you know, it will always be like that and I find myself always looking for the next relationship, or I could just enjoy the current relationship to its fullest.” The table was very quiet after that.
People say that, just like new years resolutions.. and never stick to it, very few.. ladies get offered a lot often, especially if they are fit for one day a week..so you can be rich and atill good looking alsp, and she will want an experience with a different kind of person.. is what it is, even models cheat
yeah i remind my self all the time I know exactly what I have with my wife, and I do not want to trade it in for anything else. the devil you know is better then the devil your dont.
I clicked on this video half expecting Humphrey to show how strategically staying single has increased his net worth 😂 Jokes aside, I'm lucky enough to be married but I have to ponder a lot how much luck played a factor. I'm all about self-improvement, introspection, etc. However, I met my wife before starting the work I do today. Had that not happened, I wonder how likely it would be for me to date today. I also commonly say "If it weren't for the existence of one person, I'd probably be single right now." and also think that's true. Sometimes we just haven't met the right person, I think. If I could give advice to my single self, I'd try to give him the confidence to recognize that. In some ways, it's quite hard! Still watching the video as I'm typing this, but I think a lot of people can find the video relatable. Very interesting topic!
As one of the women that is subscribed to your channel (and a tad older than you lol), we just want someone we can trust, that isn't going to gaslight us, be supportive and have a great sense of humor. There are always these superficial people who only care about money and things. I'm sure she is out there and you will meet her when its time 💗
I agree! I’m in my 20s so I don’t expect a guy to have a lot of money because I don’t either and have just started my career. It would be nice to build with someone but it’s hard these days because many people don’t want to commit and want to stay in their own lane so it feels like easier to just stay single.
Exactly. I'm turning 38 soon. I would date someone compatible earning ok money. I think wise people understand that money can't be the glue. However, I run into the same problems: where to meet decent men. I don't want to use apps. I don't even use social media. On the other hand, I'm very fulfilled with my life. I have pretty much everything, except a romantic partner.
Happily married woman here 🙂 You brought up good points! Just give it time and the right lady will come into your life. I do think one factor that is important in a relationship is making sure that your partner has a similar mindset when it comes to money and handling finances. My husband and I openly talk about spending habits, financial goals and everything in between. I think it’s a huge factor in building trust, confidence, and openness in our relationship.
Been single since I was 28. I'm 35 now and accomplished more goals than I've ever had been. Zero debt, bought a house in 2019, and working on my well-being. If the right person comes, I'll think about it.
100%. I think that's the healtheir approach. Especially now. It's harder to take care of and learn "us" let alone, with two. As a guy, I think it's best to wait, women..um.....not sure...lol
Wow some really spot-on commentary on the challenges of modern dating. Have felt these things too and it's become so clear to me how much better IRL interactions are (usually). And couldn't agree more that the right person will come along when you least expect it if you're doing all the things to improve YOURSELF as a person first (and putting yourself out there, also important). You got this Big H
I'm better off single... Dating over the span of 15 yrs (20-35) was a drain on my physical, mental and emotional health, not to mention all the money I wasted on dates... I gave up dating and now I'm wealthier than I've ever been with zero stress and at peace!! I have embraced my single lifestyle.
Totally agree. We should be a separate category on its own. I’m done with marriage and relationships, I have a son, a house, a good tech career, life has been so much better and easier just being single, not having to service another person feels great lol
free to travel to wonderful vacation destinations too! go to South America, Asia, Europe, Australia, Hawaii, Vietnam, Thailand, Spain, Korea, and go meet girls there.
@@mikezerker6925 the second half of your comment is coming off quite douchey mate. I mean if your feel the need to self proclaim you ain't a douche... chances are
Props to you for not forcing a relationship or feeling the pressure to get in one if you didn’t feel the timing in your life wasn’t right and you wanted to feel more established.
On Okcupid these days, I could send a message to any number of women currently living in Kenya, the Philipines, or Singapore. Everyone in the UK has apparently just given up, or is on their their marriage, fourth kid, and has an entire menagerie of cats and dogs.
My 2 cents for a happy relationship. * be honest with each other * be intentional with the time you spend with each other * be considered of each others struggles * discuss your finances with each other * want to help your partner develop, succeed and grow personally and or their career. * have similar interest when it comes to intimacy * be kind to yourself and your partner. You are going to f things up at some stage, but if you have done the above it will merely be a stumble in the relationship and will make you stronger. *
As someone married for almost fifteen years, sometimes when we talk with other married people about what dating is like now for our single friends, we agree that it's like we caught the last helicopter out of 'Nam.
Although I agree with you, I still had to date in this current environment. It is the worst 😬. Thank goodness for my current boyfriend. He's such a a great dude and I feel like I found a unicorn in the wild (I met him at work).
As a women, I agree with all that you said of what women like and less about how much money a man makes and where he is in life. Growth mindset, personality, and potential matters. I think that goes with the whole "growing old together" because the goal is to grow together and you need ambitions and commitment to each other to make that happen. Even during rough times.
Woman here. While there are women that want someone that makes money, i was one that wanted to find someone that believed in personal growth and has realistic expectations about money and the amount of work it takes. I was also, and still am, someone that was going to compete in salary and my significant other would be a partner and be ok if i made more sometimes. An equal partner with an open and growth mindset who was kind was the most important thing and i found him pretty quickly through online dating. Weve been together for 10 years, each making nice tech salaries and still argue over whos paying when we have shared accounts. Find someone who's kind and who wants to be an equal partner, then check their ambition. Youll be good approaching it like that.
the word partner is a big problem in business you search for a partner in a relationship you search for a girlfriend wife ... men dont care about women careeer or degrees i want a wife a good mom for my kids a plesant and fun person
@@pentrubarbatiThe word partner literally means two people engaging in the same activity. So nope not at all a problem to say partner for an intimate relationship. Both should be supported, loved, and both give and take from each other. The way you say it makes it seem like she’s a slave to take care of everything and what she wants doesn’t matter.
@@BeeTimesTwo and your response and use of the word slave îs why dating in the west this days îs not worth it no point in any explanation You know better ...
Female here, I agree completely with what you said. I’ve been single for about 6-7 years as well. Ive tried dating apps but it’s not for me so I’ve basically given up 😂. Good luck finding your partner and wishing you all the best ❤
If it happens, it happens. Things always work out for a reason. Been married for 43 years. She’s has the most beautiful heart & soul in the world. I’m lucky & blessed to have her in my life.
You get it!! The growth/positive mindset is so real and desired. We could lose everything, but your mindset needs to be positive about where you and we are going. This was such a good video.
I did my own version of speed dating in 2012, quick coffee shop dates after meeting on apps that gave me good insight to see if I wanted to go on a second date. Then I found my soon to be husband and we talked and texted for two days straight. I actually went to his house for our date (on a military base so it was safe-ish lol) and we started talking about marriage after two weeks and got married after six months. This coming May will be our 11th anniversary. Sometimes you can over analyze a potential relationship to death before it even gets started and you forget to just be in the moment and feel if someone is right for you. There is no perfect person, there’s just two people that are committed to loving each other first. Trust me, after a decade, you will be different people no matter what you do. You need someone to that will change with you, support you, and always be your biggest fan. ❤
Humphrey, what a great video. I have been watching your videos for a while now and didn't realize you were single. I think you are adorable! I am far too old for you and probably live too far away, in Chicago, but I think this was a great testament to a "good" guy who is willing to put himself out there and actually meditates and journals about becoming a better person. You are more than good enough as you are Humphrey. Good luck on your journey to love :)
Met my now wife on Tinder and I feel so blessed everyday to have miraculously found someone with the exact same outlook on life and values as me. My previous relationships all started with common interests, and with my wife we had very few to begin with (read: none). Those things can build and grow over time, but it’s much more difficult to adjust views on money, family planning, and career. Once you have that compatible foundation I feel that the rest of those relationship “pieces” can be obtained with a little elbow grease. Thanks for sharing Humphrey, and good luck out there!
Same here! Met my wife on Tinder in 2020. She had no "slutty" pics and that was probably how I found a good one. Kindest girl I ever met. We now have identical twin boys...and two rental properties too haha. Bless Tinder.
Thanks for being so honest. I love your balanced opinions. I found SF / Bay Area a bit like Neverland where nobody wanted to grow up... at least socially or romantically. Probably as a result of people being more mature career-wise earlier. That's why I moved back to Ireland... and just so happened to meet my wife within a few months.
I'm an outlier, but I've been with my husband since high school. Timeline: met in 2007, started dating in 2009, married in 2021. When we started dating, both of us were broke as a joke and his family was facing the threat of foreclosure, but I had faith in him. I used to ask my dad to help pay for his SATs or AP exams since my dad always believed in education. My husband has always been intelligent and prinicipled, and even when he was unemployed or making little money, it was true that he had direction. Same for me. I wasn't always making much financially, but I kept studying and pushing forward with my MSN. Now, our household income is $200k, and this is from a couple who spent their first date sharing a combo at Carl's Jr.
You stood by him when he was building himself, that says a lot about your character. He's got one of the good ones lmao. I wish you a long happy life together ! God bless you !
I met my wife in San Francisco when I was 23. We were both broke and decided to move out together. We were fortunate to be able to find good jobs and purchase a home. We have been together for 30 years and have two kids in college. We were also able to save enough in a 529 plan to cover each of their college costs. Now we are on track to retire early. I am not sure if I necessarily want to. retire in the Bay Area though. The homelessness, crime, traffic, high taxes, cost of living and rude people all make me want to relocate.
Female viewer here who had some bad relationship experiences; pretty much gave up dating for pursuing FIRE instead. So far it's going well. 🙂 Maybe I'll meet someone, maybe I won't, but I'm enjoying time and travel with family and friends in the meantime. I look for morals, integrity, honesty, and responsibility above everything. I don't need to use anyone for money bc I'm working on earning and investing my own. Great video -- it's reassuring to hear from others who think the same way. Thank you! 👍🏼
The unusual way I found my now 13 year relationship was through writing a screenplay together. I’m sure this isn’t common. But what I learned was, finding a common interest and common project can really cut through the insecurities which dating brings out. Good luck to you on your journey!
Woman here - confirm regarding we want someone who is kind and supportive. Having a relatively stable man with a good head on their shoulders and sense of humor is really all we need. Dating apps have pros and cons but I agree with it creating a “grass is possibly greener” mindset which prevents both party’s from giving it a real shot.
Humphrey, you definitely have your priorities right. You are a good looking young man. The lady that you choose to be by your side is a lucky lady. Wishing you the best
Money isn’t everything. You worked hard for it and now you’re at the point that you need to be with someone that brings value to you. Look for someone that brings you up and not down.
You.Are.Wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am part of your 14.1% female subscribers. I hope you find someone DESERVING of you!! Keep up the great work. you are amazing (as we all know). Please, don't change, you are a rare one!
How old are you? I’m in a similar position as you just 26. Finally found someone that has the same feelings I do on dating. This was a refreshing watch.
Hi Humphrey! I am Hui Ming from Malaysia. As your female watcher, I truly admire your authenticity and boldness in sharing something so dear to your heart! Keep doing what you are doing 😊
Female here. This made me happy I’m married now because dating/finding someone sucks for everyone. That said - stop overthinking it. Go approach anyone you want, be nice and smile and say you’d like to buy them a coffee sometime and ask for their number. If they say no, say you understand and move on. Don’t be afraid of rejection. Some will say yes. Go get that coffee and talk. With one of them, sooner or later, the rest will be history. ❤
That advice would have worked 5 years ago. But for a lot of guys nowadays, it's the fear of being labeled a creep and either getting chastised in public or online. Guys like him also have a public figure to uphold and some woman overreacting like that could be very bad for him. So in general guys are taking a huge character risk in just making eye contact with the wrong woman. Plus we've heard y'all don't wanna be bothered when you're out just chilling. Really it makes more sense for women to approach or make the first move now.
@@RedSky8 I don’t think this worst case scenario is very likely, especially if you’re polite and accept rejection with grace. In any case, at some point you have to take some risks in life. It’s very rare someone is crazy enough to label you a creep and then stalk you in order to ruin your life just because you asked them out. You can definitely wait for women to approach you if that’s the strategy you want to take, you do you. I don’t think that’s going to be as successful. In that case I think the risk of nothing ever happening is a lot higher than you running across someone crazy.
Couldn't agree more..."You miss 100% of the shots you don't take!" - Wayne Gretsky I have never been afraid to approach the prettiest girl at the event, no one ever does she told me later on, and we have been happily together for 25 years now!
Thank you for sharing Humphrey. I know what it's like, dating is hard. I'm single myself. You're a smart handsome guy. She's just around the corner. Good luck with everything and can't wait for your next video.
Amazing video! Female here and you are correct. Women want what you suggested and money alone won’t keep them unless that was all they were after. You seem like a great person and will find someone easily.
I'm a woman, introvert and single. I really resonated with everything you said. Dating Apps are overwhelming to me, and quite unpleasant (though for different reasons than men, I get that). I've quit, after giving it a good try. My friends insisted I "go straight for the meet", that is was a quantitative game, and that was a very, very miserable 6 months. Going back to my initial plan of hoping to meet someone in the library, or because they have a cute pet.
Hi. Admittedly, this was an unexpected video for me but I'm glad you made it. I'm a 35 year old female and I've always been single. I didn't have good relationships modeled to me when I was a kid and I basically just dived into education and making a career, putting personal life on a back burner. Now I feel like I don't even know what I'm doing as I'm just starting online dating and so far, the results are not encouraging. And a huge part of the equation is my own lack of self confidence in the dating world. We've sadly all got our own demons to deal with ☺️ Good luck on your search to all those still searching for your other half!
You provide a good talking point with this video! I got together with my partner when we were still young, he was still in undergrad, I had just graduated and so we never expected that the other would financially take care of the other for trips or dates or whatever it is, but we went through it anyway. There will be people out there who wants their partner to be financially stable when they first start dating, but there is something about growing together when you’re young (and financially unstable lmao) to when you finally can be financially stable together. Absolutely agree with finding a partner that has the good characteristics that you described! Also, I wouldn’t completely knock dating online lol! I’m biased since that’s how I found my partner, but we would never have crossed paths otherwise (even if we were in the same area hah!).
Woman here, I think what you said about what women want is correct and shows your high EQ. Surprised you're single since you're a good catch with a good head on your shoulders, so thanks for this video and "normalising" us single ones! Hope you find your solid equal partner in life 😊 Personally, I'm single since forever but for mainly a different reason. It's the thing that no-one talks about: battling with depression. It has been and is far easier to prioritise my career, not date, and spend all my time with my family and solid friends, hobbies, travel, pets, etc.
As a women, I really appreciate your perspectives. I think one of your best qualities going into dating is that you acknowledge the emotional work in yourself to be a better partner and how that matters more than your income. I think you're spot on that women want to be with someone who has a positive mindset that they can grow in life with.
Effort is very attractive. Money is important, sure, but it’s not everything. I date them for as they are now, not what they say they’ll become. I’d say focus on cultivating friendships and growing yourself, the rest are side quests, and the relationship will come when you least expect it. Best of luck
Your journey of dating is pretty relatable and sounds real. I am retired single no kids. A good marriage a lot has to do with luck, meeting a person with mutual attraction, similar values, long term goals, and matching life style. Even then, illness and accident can break up the union. Don’t be too picky and enjoy each day together. Wish you luck.
love the different content humphrey! as a woman, i agree w your take that ambition, growth mindset, and generally being a kind, thoughtful, caring, and funny person are the things that matter to me the most. just do your best to be honest and brave in love and you will be happy in the end no matter the result.
I met my husband at a party. I was quick to recognize he is kind (to me at least), has my back, and we have the same vision when it comes to our future. Back then we did not have very much. I am so glad we had the chance to grow up together, find our footing, and look forward to our next adventure!
That was a brave video to put out there, but I think you hit the nail on the head. I am so grateful that I met my wife in high school, just before the era of MySpace, as modern social media makes the dating scene a wreck. Good luck on your search. Best advice I could offer is to seek social groups within activities, such as cycling, hiking, academics, art, etc.
It’s downright dangerous to approach women in public anymore. Myself I enjoy not being in jail too much to risk interacting with the average modern woman. I don’t interact with them unless necessary at work and I definitely don’t mentor female interns anymore. There is nothing but risk there
You're a real gem! I found you trying to research ideas on investing, etc, and saw this video. I wish more men had it as together as you do. Youre 100% correct on your opinions and beliefs. Keep up the meditating and the high vibes. It will all fall into place. I subscribed, so I'd love to see an update when you connect with someone worthy of you! ❤ Now, back to learning all I can about investing these days. It has changed so much since the 80's and 90's. I'm not willing to take such risks as before. Keep up the great work!😊
I'm single as well and I'm well to do as well.... I just wanna encourage you that you should hold onto your values and beliefs. Don't let the world define you... the way you look at relationship/dating is exactly how a good man and a high valued man would look at dating 😂❤
we were in the same class in middle school and I found your videos last year. I was so surprised at first to see you TH-cam famous but it was so delightful too! I am so pleased to see your success and I gain a lot of value from your content. I have been wondering why you are single! you have become the whole package as a man and I you will inevitably attract a woman of equal value.
You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in a meme coin from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaires.❤️
I relate this this so much. I’m in my 30’s and have been single most of my adult life minus my early 20’s. Things have changed so much with dating over the past 10 years and it’s tough out there. At this point I enjoy being single but that is looked down on by most of society.
We were forced into it...Can't believe how long it took (decades) for men to realize the dating/marriage system is broken and to change their behaviour. Think the internet allowed men to exchange notes, and free/shameless porn.
Speaking as someone happily married for 5 years with 2 awesome kiddos, I think you pretty much nailed it. I don’t think income matters all that much as long as you’re aligned in your values (e.g., FIRE asap, enjoy life to the fullest right now, have a large family with lots of kids, one partner being the financial breadwinner so the other can prioritize child rearing, etc.) and your partner makes enough to take care of themselves and isn’t looking to be a drain in any way. I also love what you said about having a growth mindset and passion/ direction being more important than having everything figured out right now. That is definitely true! I hope you find what you’re looking for! Having the right partner in life is so important, a tremendous gift.
Honestly, thank you for being open and personal. I definitely sense that confidence from you and even your vulnerability (imagine the next person you date snoops on this video 👀). But I completely relate to the online dating perspective. I feel like its uploading a dating resume only for it to be paired against others to determine which is the best dating candidate, with maybe one or two "dating interviews" 😒 and I'm similar to you, where I want to truly get to know one person vs spreading that effort across multiple people. Sad that it could be considered "too invested" or "creepy". Thankfully, I'm living happily single for about 7 years and filling a lot of my time with discovering more about myself and what the world has to offer. I'm going to try your idea on meditating! Thanks for sharing and I hope you continue to share more about yourself!
I agree. I don’t believe a person can be an equal contributor to a healthy relationship until they are happy with who they are and where they are in life. Once those issues are resolved or resolved satisfactorily, the couple can move on and achieve life goals as a team. 😊
Thanks for this video. This is a sincere and relatable content indeed - makes dating feels more hopeful too hearing that guys look for similar things we do. Yes, confirming on what you say near the end of the video that you’re right on what we ladies [generally] look for. Don’t worry about not understanding what we think ever, just be there to support us and shower us with care. The support and care each woman wants will be different, so just have the conversation with your future girlfriend then - hope this perspective helps. Good luck !
I never thought that you are a single man. My impression is that you have a family and prefer to take it privately. I'm turning 30 this year and still single, I can relate to you on that.
I can’t believe I’d learn something from your channel about dating.😆 It’s good to learn things from a man’s perspective. I’ve always thought that meeting people face-to-face is better than online dating, but I think that’s just close to impossible nowadays. Love this video and I completely agree with what you said. Attitude and values > money. ❤
😂😂😂😂 definitely nosy, I agree with your perspective on drives and potential rather than the figures. Have gone through the online dating phase, and now content and accepted that the new model just does not work for me and that’s ok 😊 but definitely appreciate the freedom to make self-aware decision that is granted to us in this era. Best of luck to you!
the advice on the money & dating section is great! it's def about values alignment, self awareness, communication, and confidence. imo often your financial situation matching can be a proxy to shared background and values that led you both to making similar career and financial decisions (especially when you are dating laterish in life, 20s/30s/40s/etc). which is why i think in the dating app-led world, a lot of people use career and money as an initial filter.
I can relate. When I was 26, I thought I found “the one” but broke my heart when I discovered she cheated. I moved on to focus on my career and get my life back together for the next ten years. Eventually found “the one” and got married two years ago at 38
Excellent! Thank you for this. All points valid. Too bad society is so into social apps... Currently 8 months into being single and mostly happy, focusing on career.
Wow! Great video. :) Thak you for sharing your personal life with much honesty. Best of luck to you in the future. I'm sure she is out there looking for you. :)
After numerous attempts at an online/in person relationship, I was fortunate to meet my now fiance and we share the same goals. I’ve been watching you for several months and I’ve started to mature financially thanks to your wisdom. There’s someone out there for you, sometimes you gotta sift through the sands a bit.
Hey Humphrey, I'm part of the 14% group. I'm sad more women don't look into all this helpful info you post, but I try and share your videos with many of my friends hoping they'll subscribe and watch more. As with all your videos, I really appreciate your honesty and now you've really dug yourself in a hole because many of us are going to want relationship updates! 😂 I agree with a lot of your perspective. At least in my circle of people it's not all about money but its still important to be dating someone who sets realistic goals and works towards them. I also, really dislike what online dating has done because I personally love to hear the "how we met" stories and not the ones where people met on Tinder. Unless, by some chance there's some crazy plot twist of course 😅 I wish you luck on finding someone special, it will happen when you least expect it so don't go looking too hard. Thank you for all the great content. The knowledge you have shared is empowering! 😎
Humphrey, you are spot on! I was not expecting this video but loved it. So genuine. The dating pool is a zoo nowadays especially with online dating where no one seems real. If I wasn’t a bit older than you, oh well. Best of luck to you!😍
Thank you for sharing. Dating is a struggle, for sure. I’m in the same boat. But you seem to be on the right path by keeping to your values. I wish you all the best. Also, I’m kind of surprised that you only have a 14% female audience??
Great video! I think you've got it figured out, you'll get there :) I'm grateful that I got married young and in college because I didn't feel like I had to "prove" anything. All I cared about was a) do I like this person/ like spending time together b) do we have common values c) can we communicate and work through problems and d) can I love this person and build a life together.
I agree. I find dating multiple people at a time emotionally exhausting. It's old school, but focusing on one person at a time and genuinely getting to know that person is far more interesting compared to spreading yourself thin trying to get know several representatives 😅.
sure we're here for the financial videos but i thought this topic and conversation was great and entertaining! sharing insight on other topics is stimulating for some of us :)
This was a FANTASTIC video and I appreciate you making it. Videos that explore the correlation between your financial life and your personal life are great for perspective. I have made dating a priority and it has negatively impacted my goals just because there’s only so much bandwidth in a day and new relationships require A LOT of bandwidth. I have a lot of experience in this area and it has been interesting and challenging marrying the desire for love alongside my financial and personal goals (pun super intended)
Women with traditional values will actually give him the mental, physical and spiritual support to help him meet his goals, not take from him. The 304s are identifiable pretty quickly because they view men as a resource, not a man and an be disqualified very quickly.
I'm on the same boat: immigrant, working on my career and building a better me. I think it's better to have relationship in your 30's when you're already mature enough to know about yourself clearly. Great thing takes time. Best of luck Humphrey!
Yes, I will confirm. Hope to find a good guy, with a good head on his shoulders who has a general idea of what he wants. Sometimes it seems like a tall order, but I believe it's not too much to ask. Glad I found your channel and that I can learn from you. I love your content but I love that you chose to diversify with this video.
I’m new to your channel and absolutely learning new financial concepts from your videos (easy to understand). Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge! Well, as far as your this video concerns, everyone has their “own” time, there’s nothing called slow or fast. You’re on-time (per your time-zone 😊) in your dating phase. 😊 We all have “right time” to bloom - our own definition of “success”. In general, money will buy material things, but not happiness. Happiness is within us! Good luck! 😊
Well said 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻I am females but I am learning a lot from you😊 oh, you are right about how women don’t care too much about financial status more that you are a support partner Believe me, I am Asian so I had the ‘you must find someone who’s financially stable’ talk…however, that thought has caused a lot of heartaches and depression among all the family members ( my aunts, uncle, grandparents etc) so much that I broke down and doing a lot of self-reflection
One of your women followers here!! Everything you said made total sense to me. Yes, social media has made things awful & I actually met my BF of three years now online. I think deep down we just want someone kind & supportive. Money is important but mostly my concern is you’re responsible & not in a ton of debt & have ambition. You don’t need to be filthy rich.
Good on you for being honest and vulnerable. It may be different for a man, but I think I’ve waited too long. I thought exactly the same way you did when I was younger thinking I needed to accomplish X, Y and Z in order to be “worthy” of a mate. Well… I’ve accomplished them all. But now in my early 50s, I don’t feel the need to attract a mate anymore. I don’t regret my lifestyle choice but let it be a cautionary tale if you don’t want to remain single all your life.
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Plz subscribe so I can get a girlfriend and live my double income no kids dream for a few years 🙏
before i have a kid i mean, not because of divorce. lol
😂. ❤
Let's hope you will find a gf who likes you and not your cash..... And kids... Man they cost a lot (time and $$$) but at the end they are a blessing. Keep it up and check the red flags.... 😆
thats the dream
You hit the nail on the head with this video, everything you feel like women want you mentioned! Hope you meet someone soon!
Dating is exhausting. I'm just going to move into the woods and eat cans of beans for the rest of my life
bruh really said he the ted kaczynski of the finance youtube game 💀💀💀
Who knows, maybe you'll run into someone there who also made the decision to eat cans of beans in the woods -- and voila! might find someone who shares the same values and lifestyle and y'all could hit it off 🤔🤭
Fresh vegetables are important too.😂
Look, the guy who doesn't read his emails
@@thebookofbrendaAnd her name would be Brenda.
Been married almost 10 years. And the best advice I heard about relationships came from a kid in college that was high 90% of the time. We were sitting at a table and one of our friends was complaining about his current girlfriend. And they were all petty complaints. Our high friend said in his relaxed tone, “man… I hear you. But you know, it will always be like that and I find myself always looking for the next relationship, or I could just enjoy the current relationship to its fullest.” The table was very quiet after that.
Crazy right? Focus ur mind and energy on enjoying it to the fullest wull work out better yet many don't
Facts!
People say that, just like new years resolutions.. and never stick to it, very few.. ladies get offered a lot often, especially if they are fit for one day a week..so you can be rich and atill good looking alsp, and she will want an experience with a different kind of person.. is what it is, even models cheat
yeah i remind my self all the time I know exactly what I have with my wife, and I do not want to trade it in for anything else.
the devil you know is better then the devil your dont.
@@EdA-bz3buthat’s pretty sad…
You do know that we're going to need updates on your relationships now!
I'm invested.
hahaha yes
Weird way to propose but “yes” 😊
hahaha :blush:
Congrats 🎉
I spit out my food when I read this
😂😂😂
Hahaha
I clicked on this video half expecting Humphrey to show how strategically staying single has increased his net worth 😂
Jokes aside, I'm lucky enough to be married but I have to ponder a lot how much luck played a factor. I'm all about self-improvement, introspection, etc. However, I met my wife before starting the work I do today. Had that not happened, I wonder how likely it would be for me to date today.
I also commonly say "If it weren't for the existence of one person, I'd probably be single right now." and also think that's true. Sometimes we just haven't met the right person, I think. If I could give advice to my single self, I'd try to give him the confidence to recognize that. In some ways, it's quite hard!
Still watching the video as I'm typing this, but I think a lot of people can find the video relatable. Very interesting topic!
That's why I stopped listening 3 minutes in.
Lol I was think the exact same thing. "More Single = More Net Worth". Is that a thing? ha
As one of the women that is subscribed to your channel (and a tad older than you lol), we just want someone we can trust, that isn't going to gaslight us, be supportive and have a great sense of humor. There are always these superficial people who only care about money and things. I'm sure she is out there and you will meet her when its time 💗
or better stay single. lol
I agree! I’m in my 20s so I don’t expect a guy to have a lot of money because I don’t either and have just started my career. It would be nice to build with someone but it’s hard these days because many people don’t want to commit and want to stay in their own lane so it feels like easier to just stay single.
Exactly. I'm turning 38 soon. I would date someone compatible earning ok money. I think wise people understand that money can't be the glue. However, I run into the same problems: where to meet decent men. I don't want to use apps. I don't even use social media. On the other hand, I'm very fulfilled with my life. I have pretty much everything, except a romantic partner.
Happily married woman here 🙂 You brought up good points! Just give it time and the right lady will come into your life. I do think one factor that is important in a relationship is making sure that your partner has a similar mindset when it comes to money and handling finances. My husband and I openly talk about spending habits, financial goals and everything in between. I think it’s a huge factor in building trust, confidence, and openness in our relationship.
Been single since I was 28. I'm 35 now and accomplished more goals than I've ever had been. Zero debt, bought a house in 2019, and working on my well-being. If the right person comes, I'll think about it.
100%. I think that's the healtheir approach. Especially now. It's harder to take care of and learn "us" let alone, with two. As a guy, I think it's best to wait, women..um.....not sure...lol
Wow some really spot-on commentary on the challenges of modern dating. Have felt these things too and it's become so clear to me how much better IRL interactions are (usually). And couldn't agree more that the right person will come along when you least expect it if you're doing all the things to improve YOURSELF as a person first (and putting yourself out there, also important). You got this Big H
what a thoughtful comment! thank you Taylor
I'm better off single... Dating over the span of 15 yrs (20-35) was a drain on my physical, mental and emotional health, not to mention all the money I wasted on dates... I gave up dating and now I'm wealthier than I've ever been with zero stress and at peace!! I have embraced my single lifestyle.
Totally agree. We should be a separate category on its own. I’m done with marriage and relationships, I have a son, a house, a good tech career, life has been so much better and easier just being single, not having to service another person feels great lol
Mike Z, you sound like a really good guy with a big heart.
free to travel to wonderful vacation destinations too! go to South America, Asia, Europe, Australia, Hawaii, Vietnam, Thailand, Spain, Korea, and go meet girls there.
Hell yeah 👍
I feel exactly the same. I have been single for 10 years now and I have become richer than ever.
Wow didn't think you were single. You a good looking guy and don't seem like a douche
this comment 🤣 appreciate it, im workin on it
I'm a good looking guy and not a douche, yet I'm single... Women these days want all the "sixes" even average girls!
@@mikezerker6925 the second half of your comment is coming off quite douchey mate. I mean if your feel the need to self proclaim you ain't a douche... chances are
@@admiralgoodboy ??? I'm a douche cuz I said I'm not a douche?
I’m a douche and I own that shiz
Props to you for not forcing a relationship or feeling the pressure to get in one if you didn’t feel the timing in your life wasn’t right and you wanted to feel more established.
Indeed, it is true about online dating. So many choices and options, people really think they have “options” when they actually don’t.
Right!?
@@humphreyAlso, I don’t think gold digger girls really watching financial advice TH-cam channels, but who knows 😄
Options only apply to ladies and 5% men
@@elenaderevyanko8272 Right? Lol. That's about as common as seeing a school bus stop for gas.
On Okcupid these days, I could send a message to any number of women currently living in Kenya, the Philipines, or Singapore. Everyone in the UK has apparently just given up, or is on their their marriage, fourth kid, and has an entire menagerie of cats and dogs.
My 2 cents for a happy relationship.
* be honest with each other
* be intentional with the time you spend with each other
* be considered of each others struggles
* discuss your finances with each other
* want to help your partner develop, succeed and grow personally and or their career.
* have similar interest when it comes to intimacy
* be kind to yourself and your partner.
You are going to f things up at some stage, but if you have done the above it will merely be a stumble in the relationship and will make you stronger.
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Relationship is not about you it’s about we. It’s like I am a safe driver, till you’re blindsided.
Damn I know this mans feeling the single pain post valentines… we feel ya brother!!
you are... spot on brotha haha
lol mid
As someone married for almost fifteen years, sometimes when we talk with other married people about what dating is like now for our single friends, we agree that it's like we caught the last helicopter out of 'Nam.
Fr lol
get to da choppppppaaaaa
@@humphrey😂
Although I agree with you, I still had to date in this current environment. It is the worst 😬. Thank goodness for my current boyfriend. He's such a a great dude and I feel like I found a unicorn in the wild (I met him at work).
I met my husband at 16 and we been together 14 years. I completely agree. It sounds like the dating scene out there is a mess, for everyone.
As a women, I agree with all that you said of what women like and less about how much money a man makes and where he is in life. Growth mindset, personality, and potential matters. I think that goes with the whole "growing old together" because the goal is to grow together and you need ambitions and commitment to each other to make that happen. Even during rough times.
Man how you gonna call me out on being nosey lmfao you got me
hahahah
I thought the same thing......🤣
Woman here. While there are women that want someone that makes money, i was one that wanted to find someone that believed in personal growth and has realistic expectations about money and the amount of work it takes. I was also, and still am, someone that was going to compete in salary and my significant other would be a partner and be ok if i made more sometimes. An equal partner with an open and growth mindset who was kind was the most important thing and i found him pretty quickly through online dating. Weve been together for 10 years, each making nice tech salaries and still argue over whos paying when we have shared accounts. Find someone who's kind and who wants to be an equal partner, then check their ambition. Youll be good approaching it like that.
Beautifully said!
the word partner is a big problem in business you search for a partner in a relationship you search for a girlfriend wife ... men dont care about women careeer or degrees i want a wife a good mom for my kids a plesant and fun person
@@pentrubarbatiThe word partner literally means two people engaging in the same activity. So nope not at all a problem to say partner for an intimate relationship. Both should be supported, loved, and both give and take from each other. The way you say it makes it seem like she’s a slave to take care of everything and what she wants doesn’t matter.
@@BeeTimesTwo and your response and use of the word slave îs why dating in the west this days îs not worth it no point in any explanation You know better ...
Female here, I agree completely with what you said. I’ve been single for about 6-7 years as well. Ive tried dating apps but it’s not for me so I’ve basically given up 😂. Good luck finding your partner and wishing you all the best ❤
How you doin Leanne? I dig your smile 😊
It's your chance Humphrey, don't be shy
If it happens, it happens. Things always work out for a reason. Been married for 43 years. She’s has the most beautiful heart & soul in the world. I’m lucky & blessed to have her in my life.
Hey Humphrey... make your move playa 😉😅
@@deej628 Solely based on her profile photo and the comment, I will make an assumption that she is bipolar.
“It is now the most difficult time to live in to feel like you are enough.” Amen 🙏🏻
Great perspective on the social media part! FYI you still have my heart Humphrey! 😂❤
ahhh man thank you man, I love you and my satoshis
You get it!! The growth/positive mindset is so real and desired. We could lose everything, but your mindset needs to be positive about where you and we are going. This was such a good video.
I did my own version of speed dating in 2012, quick coffee shop dates after meeting on apps that gave me good insight to see if I wanted to go on a second date. Then I found my soon to be husband and we talked and texted for two days straight. I actually went to his house for our date (on a military base so it was safe-ish lol) and we started talking about marriage after two weeks and got married after six months. This coming May will be our 11th anniversary. Sometimes you can over analyze a potential relationship to death before it even gets started and you forget to just be in the moment and feel if someone is right for you. There is no perfect person, there’s just two people that are committed to loving each other first. Trust me, after a decade, you will be different people no matter what you do. You need someone to that will change with you, support you, and always be your biggest fan. ❤
I love that. "Your biggest fan" there's really a lot of truth to that in a relationship.
I wish you both a long and happy life together ! God bless you !
Humphrey, what a great video. I have been watching your videos for a while now and didn't realize you were single. I think you are adorable! I am far too old for you and probably live too far away, in Chicago, but I think this was a great testament to a "good" guy who is willing to put himself out there and actually meditates and journals about becoming a better person. You are more than good enough as you are Humphrey. Good luck on your journey to love :)
thank you
Met my now wife on Tinder and I feel so blessed everyday to have miraculously found someone with the exact same outlook on life and values as me.
My previous relationships all started with common interests, and with my wife we had very few to begin with (read: none). Those things can build and grow over time, but it’s much more difficult to adjust views on money, family planning, and career. Once you have that compatible foundation I feel that the rest of those relationship “pieces” can be obtained with a little elbow grease.
Thanks for sharing Humphrey, and good luck out there!
Same here! Met my wife on Tinder in 2020. She had no "slutty" pics and that was probably how I found a good one. Kindest girl I ever met. We now have identical twin boys...and two rental properties too haha. Bless Tinder.
Thanks for being so honest. I love your balanced opinions. I found SF / Bay Area a bit like Neverland where nobody wanted to grow up... at least socially or romantically. Probably as a result of people being more mature career-wise earlier. That's why I moved back to Ireland... and just so happened to meet my wife within a few months.
I'm an outlier, but I've been with my husband since high school. Timeline: met in 2007, started dating in 2009, married in 2021. When we started dating, both of us were broke as a joke and his family was facing the threat of foreclosure, but I had faith in him. I used to ask my dad to help pay for his SATs or AP exams since my dad always believed in education. My husband has always been intelligent and prinicipled, and even when he was unemployed or making little money, it was true that he had direction. Same for me. I wasn't always making much financially, but I kept studying and pushing forward with my MSN.
Now, our household income is $200k, and this is from a couple who spent their first date sharing a combo at Carl's Jr.
You stood by him when he was building himself, that says a lot about your character. He's got one of the good ones lmao. I wish you a long happy life together ! God bless you !
I met my wife in San Francisco when I was 23. We were both broke and decided to move out together. We were fortunate to be able to find good jobs and purchase a home. We have been together for 30 years and have two kids in college. We were also able to save enough in a 529 plan to cover each of their college costs. Now we are on track to retire early. I am not sure if I necessarily want to. retire in the Bay Area though. The homelessness, crime, traffic, high taxes, cost of living and rude people all make me want to relocate.
@@mocheen4837I hear Sacramento is nice, but that's from a nursing perspective for pay and COL.
Female viewer here who had some bad relationship experiences; pretty much gave up dating for pursuing FIRE instead. So far it's going well. 🙂
Maybe I'll meet someone, maybe I won't, but I'm enjoying time and travel with family and friends in the meantime. I look for morals, integrity, honesty, and responsibility above everything.
I don't need to use anyone for money bc I'm working on earning and investing my own.
Great video -- it's reassuring to hear from others who think the same way. Thank you! 👍🏼
Girl same ❤
The unusual way I found my now 13 year relationship was through writing a screenplay together. I’m sure this isn’t common. But what I learned was, finding a common interest and common project can really cut through the insecurities which dating brings out. Good luck to you on your journey!
Woman here - confirm regarding we want someone who is kind and supportive. Having a relatively stable man with a good head on their shoulders and sense of humor is really all we need. Dating apps have pros and cons but I agree with it creating a “grass is possibly greener” mindset which prevents both party’s from giving it a real shot.
Humphrey, you definitely have your priorities right. You are a good looking young man. The lady that you choose to be by your side is a lucky lady. Wishing you the best
I appreciate that
❤️
Money isn’t everything. You worked hard for it and now you’re at the point that you need to be with someone that brings value to you. Look for someone that brings you up and not down.
appreciate that. yes looking exactly for that.
The odds of finding someone like that for someone so successful like him is really hard
You.Are.Wonderful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am part of your 14.1% female subscribers. I hope you find someone DESERVING of you!! Keep up the great work. you are amazing (as we all know). Please, don't change, you are a rare one!
How old are you? I’m in a similar position as you just 26. Finally found someone that has the same feelings I do on dating. This was a refreshing watch.
26 here too, I agree this was refreshing to watch!
Hi Humphrey! I am Hui Ming from Malaysia. As your female watcher, I truly admire your authenticity and boldness in sharing something so dear to your heart! Keep doing what you are doing 😊
Female here. This made me happy I’m married now because dating/finding someone sucks for everyone. That said - stop overthinking it. Go approach anyone you want, be nice and smile and say you’d like to buy them a coffee sometime and ask for their number. If they say no, say you understand and move on. Don’t be afraid of rejection. Some will say yes. Go get that coffee and talk. With one of them, sooner or later, the rest will be history. ❤
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I agree with this post. Definitely let the fear of rejection fall to the way side. Every "no" gets you to "the one" faster.
That advice would have worked 5 years ago. But for a lot of guys nowadays, it's the fear of being labeled a creep and either getting chastised in public or online. Guys like him also have a public figure to uphold and some woman overreacting like that could be very bad for him.
So in general guys are taking a huge character risk in just making eye contact with the wrong woman. Plus we've heard y'all don't wanna be bothered when you're out just chilling. Really it makes more sense for women to approach or make the first move now.
@@RedSky8 I don’t think this worst case scenario is very likely, especially if you’re polite and accept rejection with grace. In any case, at some point you have to take some risks in life. It’s very rare someone is crazy enough to label you a creep and then stalk you in order to ruin your life just because you asked them out. You can definitely wait for women to approach you if that’s the strategy you want to take, you do you. I don’t think that’s going to be as successful.
In that case I think the risk of nothing ever happening is a lot higher than you running across someone crazy.
Couldn't agree more..."You miss 100% of the shots you don't take!" - Wayne Gretsky I have never been afraid to approach the prettiest girl at the event, no one ever does she told me later on, and we have been happily together for 25 years now!
Thank you for sharing Humphrey. I know what it's like, dating is hard. I'm single myself. You're a smart handsome guy. She's just around the corner. Good luck with everything and can't wait for your next video.
Amazing video! Female here and you are correct. Women want what you suggested and money alone won’t keep them unless that was all they were after. You seem like a great person and will find someone easily.
thank you ashley!!
I'm a woman, introvert and single. I really resonated with everything you said. Dating Apps are overwhelming to me, and quite unpleasant (though for different reasons than men, I get that). I've quit, after giving it a good try. My friends insisted I "go straight for the meet", that is was a quantitative game, and that was a very, very miserable 6 months. Going back to my initial plan of hoping to meet someone in the library, or because they have a cute pet.
You just nailed all of the talking points on "men going their own way". Not sure if that's intentional or not but I hope you find someone!
Hi. Admittedly, this was an unexpected video for me but I'm glad you made it.
I'm a 35 year old female and I've always been single. I didn't have good relationships modeled to me when I was a kid and I basically just dived into education and making a career, putting personal life on a back burner. Now I feel like I don't even know what I'm doing as I'm just starting online dating and so far, the results are not encouraging. And a huge part of the equation is my own lack of self confidence in the dating world.
We've sadly all got our own demons to deal with ☺️
Good luck on your search to all those still searching for your other half!
Not the video I expected but I’m glad you made it and hope to see more content like this going forward
You provide a good talking point with this video! I got together with my partner when we were still young, he was still in undergrad, I had just graduated and so we never expected that the other would financially take care of the other for trips or dates or whatever it is, but we went through it anyway. There will be people out there who wants their partner to be financially stable when they first start dating, but there is something about growing together when you’re young (and financially unstable lmao) to when you finally can be financially stable together. Absolutely agree with finding a partner that has the good characteristics that you described!
Also, I wouldn’t completely knock dating online lol! I’m biased since that’s how I found my partner, but we would never have crossed paths otherwise (even if we were in the same area hah!).
Woman here, I think what you said about what women want is correct and shows your high EQ. Surprised you're single since you're a good catch with a good head on your shoulders, so thanks for this video and "normalising" us single ones! Hope you find your solid equal partner in life 😊
Personally, I'm single since forever but for mainly a different reason. It's the thing that no-one talks about: battling with depression. It has been and is far easier to prioritise my career, not date, and spend all my time with my family and solid friends, hobbies, travel, pets, etc.
Thank yoy for being real on social media, this is very rare! Best of luck, and I'm pretty sure the right person will come along soon!
Love this video man. Relatable as hell. Everything u said i agree with it.
As a women, I really appreciate your perspectives. I think one of your best qualities going into dating is that you acknowledge the emotional work in yourself to be a better partner and how that matters more than your income. I think you're spot on that women want to be with someone who has a positive mindset that they can grow in life with.
Effort is very attractive. Money is important, sure, but it’s not everything. I date them for as they are now, not what they say they’ll become. I’d say focus on cultivating friendships and growing yourself, the rest are side quests, and the relationship will come when you least expect it. Best of luck
thank you for your comment! :)
Great advice, I agree!
Your journey of dating is pretty relatable and sounds real. I am retired single no kids. A good marriage a lot has to do with luck, meeting a person with mutual attraction, similar values, long term goals, and matching life style. Even then, illness and accident can break up the union. Don’t be too picky and enjoy each day together. Wish you luck.
When I saw this notification I was like yo why yall asking him this wuestion
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love the different content humphrey! as a woman, i agree w your take that ambition, growth mindset, and generally being a kind, thoughtful, caring, and funny person are the things that matter to me the most. just do your best to be honest and brave in love and you will be happy in the end no matter the result.
Did not expect this video
arent unexpected things great? :)
I met my husband at a party. I was quick to recognize he is kind (to me at least), has my back, and we have the same vision when it comes to our future. Back then we did not have very much. I am so glad we had the chance to grow up together, find our footing, and look forward to our next adventure!
Good luck Humphrey, keep us posted!
That was a brave video to put out there, but I think you hit the nail on the head. I am so grateful that I met my wife in high school, just before the era of MySpace, as modern social media makes the dating scene a wreck. Good luck on your search. Best advice I could offer is to seek social groups within activities, such as cycling, hiking, academics, art, etc.
It’s downright dangerous to approach women in public anymore. Myself I enjoy not being in jail too much to risk interacting with the average modern woman. I don’t interact with them unless necessary at work and I definitely don’t mentor female interns anymore. There is nothing but risk there
You're a real gem! I found you trying to research ideas on investing, etc, and saw this video. I wish more men had it as together as you do. Youre 100% correct on your opinions and beliefs. Keep up the meditating and the high vibes. It will all fall into place. I subscribed, so I'd love to see an update when you connect with someone worthy of you! ❤
Now, back to learning all I can about investing these days. It has changed so much since the 80's and 90's. I'm not willing to take such risks as before. Keep up the great work!😊
My GOODNESS Humphrey! A slew of excuses, and behind every one if them is fear. THAT is the root.
You’re not just calling him out 🥺
I'm single as well and I'm well to do as well....
I just wanna encourage you that you should hold onto your values and beliefs.
Don't let the world define you... the way you look at relationship/dating is exactly how a good man and a high valued man would look at dating 😂❤
bro your not half bad you could probably pull on of them insta baddies
wow thank you my brotha
😂😂 this comment made me laugh. What exactly is an insta baddie? 😅
@@Bella_0303he said “insta baddie” which are girls who have thousands of followers and are very pretty/hot/cute
we were in the same class in middle school and I found your videos last year. I was so surprised at first to see you TH-cam famous but it was so delightful too! I am so pleased to see your success and I gain a lot of value from your content. I have been wondering why you are single! you have become the whole package as a man and I you will inevitably attract a woman of equal value.
You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in a meme coin from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaires.❤️
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I relate this this so much. I’m in my 30’s and have been single most of my adult life minus my early 20’s. Things have changed so much with dating over the past 10 years and it’s tough out there. At this point I enjoy being single but that is looked down on by most of society.
MGTOW is a growing trend. 😢
We were forced into it...Can't believe how long it took (decades) for men to realize the dating/marriage system is broken and to change their behaviour. Think the internet allowed men to exchange notes, and free/shameless porn.
Speaking as someone happily married for 5 years with 2 awesome kiddos, I think you pretty much nailed it. I don’t think income matters all that much as long as you’re aligned in your values (e.g., FIRE asap, enjoy life to the fullest right now, have a large family with lots of kids, one partner being the financial breadwinner so the other can prioritize child rearing, etc.) and your partner makes enough to take care of themselves and isn’t looking to be a drain in any way. I also love what you said about having a growth mindset and passion/ direction being more important than having everything figured out right now. That is definitely true! I hope you find what you’re looking for! Having the right partner in life is so important, a tremendous gift.
The blue pill is still strong in this one... 🤣
Honestly, thank you for being open and personal. I definitely sense that confidence from you and even your vulnerability (imagine the next person you date snoops on this video 👀). But I completely relate to the online dating perspective. I feel like its uploading a dating resume only for it to be paired against others to determine which is the best dating candidate, with maybe one or two "dating interviews" 😒 and I'm similar to you, where I want to truly get to know one person vs spreading that effort across multiple people. Sad that it could be considered "too invested" or "creepy".
Thankfully, I'm living happily single for about 7 years and filling a lot of my time with discovering more about myself and what the world has to offer. I'm going to try your idea on meditating! Thanks for sharing and I hope you continue to share more about yourself!
I agree. I don’t believe a person can be an equal contributor to a healthy relationship until they are happy with who they are and where they are in life. Once those issues are resolved or resolved satisfactorily, the couple can move on and achieve life goals as a team. 😊
Thank you for making this video! It’s always a breath of fresh air to see people who I feel have the same views about life as I do.
Thanks for this video. This is a sincere and relatable content indeed - makes dating feels more hopeful too hearing that guys look for similar things we do.
Yes, confirming on what you say near the end of the video that you’re right on what we ladies [generally] look for. Don’t worry about not understanding what we think ever, just be there to support us and shower us with care. The support and care each woman wants will be different, so just have the conversation with your future girlfriend then - hope this perspective helps. Good luck !
I never thought that you are a single man. My impression is that you have a family and prefer to take it privately. I'm turning 30 this year and still single, I can relate to you on that.
I can’t believe I’d learn something from your channel about dating.😆 It’s good to learn things from a man’s perspective. I’ve always thought that meeting people face-to-face is better than online dating, but I think that’s just close to impossible nowadays.
Love this video and I completely agree with what you said. Attitude and values > money. ❤
😂😂😂😂 definitely nosy, I agree with your perspective on drives and potential rather than the figures. Have gone through the online dating phase, and now content and accepted that the new model just does not work for me and that’s ok 😊 but definitely appreciate the freedom to make self-aware decision that is granted to us in this era. Best of luck to you!
Love this kind of video, you should do more relationship videos! Keep being unbiased 🔥
the advice on the money & dating section is great! it's def about values alignment, self awareness, communication, and confidence.
imo often your financial situation matching can be a proxy to shared background and values that led you both to making similar career and financial decisions (especially when you are dating laterish in life, 20s/30s/40s/etc). which is why i think in the dating app-led world, a lot of people use career and money as an initial filter.
I can relate. When I was 26, I thought I found “the one” but broke my heart when I discovered she cheated. I moved on to focus on my career and get my life back together for the next ten years. Eventually found “the one” and got married two years ago at 38
Excellent! Thank you for this. All points valid. Too bad society is so into social apps... Currently 8 months into being single and mostly happy, focusing on career.
Well said. I'm resonated with you. The fact that you are passionate and have a growth mindset is more important than what you earn today.
Wow! Great video. :) Thak you for sharing your personal life with much honesty. Best of luck to you in the future. I'm sure she is out there looking for you. :)
After numerous attempts at an online/in person relationship, I was fortunate to meet my now fiance and we share the same goals. I’ve been watching you for several months and I’ve started to mature financially thanks to your wisdom. There’s someone out there for you, sometimes you gotta sift through the sands a bit.
Hey Humphrey, I'm part of the 14% group. I'm sad more women don't look into all this helpful info you post, but I try and share your videos with many of my friends hoping they'll subscribe and watch more. As with all your videos, I really appreciate your honesty and now you've really dug yourself in a hole because many of us are going to want relationship updates! 😂 I agree with a lot of your perspective. At least in my circle of people it's not all about money but its still important to be dating someone who sets realistic goals and works towards them. I also, really dislike what online dating has done because I personally love to hear the "how we met" stories and not the ones where people met on Tinder. Unless, by some chance there's some crazy plot twist of course 😅 I wish you luck on finding someone special, it will happen when you least expect it so don't go looking too hard. Thank you for all the great content. The knowledge you have shared is empowering! 😎
Humphrey, you are spot on! I was not expecting this video but loved it. So genuine. The dating pool is a zoo nowadays especially with online dating where no one seems real. If I wasn’t a bit older than you, oh well. Best of luck to you!😍
Thanks for being so honest about your feelings. This makes you more relatable than just some successful investor on TH-cam 🥰
I appreciate that!
I totally agree with you. It's so much harder to date. Good luck.
Thank you for sharing. Dating is a struggle, for sure. I’m in the same boat. But you seem to be on the right path by keeping to your values. I wish you all the best. Also, I’m kind of surprised that you only have a 14% female audience??
Great video! I think you've got it figured out, you'll get there :) I'm grateful that I got married young and in college because I didn't feel like I had to "prove" anything. All I cared about was a) do I like this person/ like spending time together b) do we have common values c) can we communicate and work through problems and d) can I love this person and build a life together.
I agree. I find dating multiple people at a time emotionally exhausting. It's old school, but focusing on one person at a time and genuinely getting to know that person is far more interesting compared to spreading yourself thin trying to get know several representatives 😅.
sure we're here for the financial videos but i thought this topic and conversation was great and entertaining! sharing insight on other topics is stimulating for some of us :)
This was a FANTASTIC video and I appreciate you making it. Videos that explore the correlation between your financial life and your personal life are great for perspective.
I have made dating a priority and it has negatively impacted my goals just because there’s only so much bandwidth in a day and new relationships require A LOT of bandwidth.
I have a lot of experience in this area and it has been interesting and challenging marrying the desire for love alongside my financial and personal goals (pun super intended)
Female here and agree with your statement. It is a balance on both people in the relationship on wants and needs.
Apparently I like the way you analyze and break any topic down even if it’s not finance 😂
She will take your entire portfolio, get the prenup, protect your assets, protect yourself.
Women with traditional values will actually give him the mental, physical and spiritual support to help him meet his goals, not take from him.
The 304s are identifiable pretty quickly because they view men as a resource, not a man and an be disqualified very quickly.
I'm on the same boat: immigrant, working on my career and building a better me. I think it's better to have relationship in your 30's when you're already mature enough to know about yourself clearly. Great thing takes time. Best of luck Humphrey!
What do you think about the concept of Sheng Nu then
Yes, I will confirm. Hope to find a good guy, with a good head on his shoulders who has a general idea of what he wants. Sometimes it seems like a tall order, but I believe it's not too much to ask. Glad I found your channel and that I can learn from you. I love your content but I love that you chose to diversify with this video.
I’m new to your channel and absolutely learning new financial concepts from your videos (easy to understand). Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge! Well, as far as your this video concerns, everyone has their “own” time, there’s nothing called slow or fast. You’re on-time (per your time-zone 😊) in your dating phase. 😊 We all have “right time” to bloom - our own definition of “success”. In general, money will buy material things, but not happiness. Happiness is within us! Good luck! 😊
Well said 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻I am females but I am learning a lot from you😊 oh, you are right about how women don’t care too much about financial status more that you are a support partner
Believe me, I am Asian so I had the ‘you must find someone who’s financially stable’ talk…however, that thought has caused a lot of heartaches and depression among all the family members ( my aunts, uncle, grandparents etc) so much that I broke down and doing a lot of self-reflection
One of your women followers here!! Everything you said made total sense to me. Yes, social media has made things awful & I actually met my BF of three years now online. I think deep down we just want someone kind & supportive. Money is important but mostly my concern is you’re responsible & not in a ton of debt & have ambition. You don’t need to be filthy rich.
thanks Emma
Good on you for being honest and vulnerable. It may be different for a man, but I think I’ve waited too long. I thought exactly the same way you did when I was younger thinking I needed to accomplish X, Y and Z in order to be “worthy” of a mate. Well… I’ve accomplished them all. But now in my early 50s, I don’t feel the need to attract a mate anymore. I don’t regret my lifestyle choice but let it be a cautionary tale if you don’t want to remain single all your life.