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- A growing number of married couples are holding off on growing their families, or deciding not to have kids at all. NBC News' Zinhle Essamuah speaks with one couple about their lifestyle choice and the online reaction.
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#MarriedLife #NoKids #Explained
People should also understand that just because you have kids doesn't guarantee that those kids will take care of you when you're older. You might also end up having a disabled child that you end up having to care for your whole life. The risk and expense of having a kid just isn't worth it.
Truth.
👍 exactly
🎯
Not only disabled children. How many old parents are out there with grown children, and no one wants to even take them for a simple dinner regardless of how well/bad these parents raised them. Parents should have children if they want them and can afford them without the expectation they will get something in return.
Or with the addiction problem in this country, the parents are still sending people their age to rehab.
Homer Simpson explains it well enough.
“Aw. I have three kids and no money. Why can’t I have no kids and three money?”
😂😂😂😂
Love that!
He's got a point.
It’s like when Forrest Gump occasionally says something that’s very deep and meaningful
😂
decided from a young age that I never wanted kids, despite older family members saying i would eventually change my mind, im in my mid 30s now and still kid free. It would be wrong of me to bring a kid into this world when I know from an early age that I would not be able to give it all that it needs while still feeling like i can live my life. having kids is a personal choice NOT a moral imperative.
AMEN!
Yes! We are more than a uterus! Zero desire here at 43.😊
Are we twins? Lol
@@shaunaleessnackidies same at 42
I'm 52 and happy as a clam with no kids! Never a second of regret. I see friends my age with grandkids and all I think is "no thank you."
Not everyone should have children.
Nor want to raise them. Can't blame them.
And then there's the other side who should have kids because they're well-educated and well-mannered, but don't because of the economy
Exactly
Especially people who do not want to. A child can tell when they are unwanted.
Especially selfish people!
I was judged when I wasn’t married by 25, I was judged when i was married with no kids, judged when I only had one kid, and now I’m judged for having three kids. Live your life and do what you want! I love having kids but it’s not for everyone and that’s ok!
You can't satisfy everyone, mehhhnn its literally mentally draining 😮💨 friends, family who ever it is you just can't! I came to that conclusion a few years ago and learned it the hard way.
You gonna be judged regardless of what you do in your life. Live your life the way you see fit. With the money in your bank account.
Good advice 👍🏽
They call you selfish because they are JEALOUS. Jealous people are so toxic. Avoid them. They will do nothing but try to drag you down to their level.
Exactly. What's selfish is bringing someone into this terrible world just so you can be their burden when you're old. I will never understand that.
@@charmedlilsis1well you will be a burden to someone when your old, just not your kid 😂
@@JonnyiceyLike many parents in nursing homes with barely any visitor.
@@gazagxrlx2974 at least most of them have had kids and added to the work force. Childless people will just be a drain.
Found the jealous one ☝🏽. They bite so quickly!
My wife retired at 40. I'll be done by 50. Life is awesome. If you dont want kids, don't have them!
My wife and I retired in our early 30s and have kids. Lol what’s your point? We do whatever we want. With our kids.
@@Mapledubz
Likely that it’s typically easier to retire early if you don’t have kids. 😎
@@Mapledubz ya doctors don't retire that early.. How old r u now?
I understand and agree with their lifestyle. My wife and I had two daughters shortly after we finished college. The cost of childcare is enormous! The fact that they can focus on their marriage, become stable and enjoy their life is great! After all, that's a great plan, in my opinion.
Why do I feel like starting line for these two was much further ahead than it is for most?
Well, they did bother to work for a college degree, for a start. I say, more power to them!
And that’s important because?
@@annastasiadobbins5585 We all have the same starting line Madame. We all have the same 24hrs in the same day to turn that time into whatever we want. Make no mistake every Bill Gates every Jeff Bezos EVERY older billionaire on the planet would trade every dollar to be young again bc we are not disadvantaged & we all have time that is of greater value than money.
leave them alone. they have the right to enjoy life as they feel fit
So happy to see someone who gets it
I agree! There is nothing in life that says that we are obligated to get married and have children.
I just wish it was a different couple they used an example.
This lifestyle is not always a choice. My husband and I would love to have children. 🙏🏾
Exactly
Having kids was the single best decision for me and my husband. That being said, my life is not YOUR life. Make your own decisions and be happy! ❤
Being a parent isn't for everyone!
Having kids is great, glad to see a positive comment on parenthood for a change rather than all the reasons not to have kids, most of which are materialistic.
@@Jonnyicey Are you a communist?
Nothing wrong with not wanting children.
Im a SINK...Single Income NO KIDS
Love it! Hello, fellow SINK!!! 😅
Same !!
I am NINK...No Income NO KIDS :D
@@Patrick.Bateman666For some reason I misread that a Nine Inch Nails Kid 😅
Hi fellow 👋 Sink 😊
My friend never had kids or got married and retired before his parents did. His parents marriage ended in a divorce last year too. He claimed his reason was to lower his overall carbon footprint. When we were younger I would make fun of him, now in retrospect I think he was the wise one.
My wife & me have no kids. And our sister & husband do not want kids either.
Wait, "our sister"?
Surely an error
She is my sister in law. But I call her my sister.
i'm a SINK making 140K and I won't say I am ahead of the curve, I couldn't imagine doing it with a child.
Ahhhh finally a comment of someone just living their life with no “Johnnyicey” present
Is this a thing that actually still needs explaining? Some people would rather be financially responsible and stable. Like it or not, these
are the people that are making society run. They are paying for schools that they don't use. They are paying for the free lunch programs they don't use.
They are paying for the welfare state that they don't use. People with kids should thank them for giving away their money for society's use.
You’re welcome! 😂
Yes, and also like it or not, this trend is going to cause a population crash that will have consequences that will not be completely positive, as Japan is discovering.
@@twlowe19oh well 🤷🏻♀️
@@twlowe19consequences like what?
@@theintrovertedaspie9095 seriously? Ask me that when you are 70 and there isn't adequate health care staffing to help care for you, and you wont be relying on family. You might also not have any of the social services that exist today because the working generation that provides the tax base for that is simply inadequate.
Not everyone deserves kids, or should have any. Trust me, my ex was a social worker, horrible stories, how children are treated by some adults.
I bet…so sad 😢
What they’re doing is actually smart! And be perfectly honest that’s kind of how it should be! Enjoy your life with your partner and then if you want to add an extra member to the family, then you can go in that route! Because when you have kids, it gets more complicated and it gets a lot more expensive!
My wife and I have no kids. We enjoy our Cabin Cruser and vacation home. That is just our choice on how we live our lives.
Stop asking people when they are going to have children, do they want to have children! Mind your own business!
Smart people
Good protest dont give the govt anymore of your babies for alavery
This is ideal. Two people living for each other. It's beautiful. Very symbiotic
Until you get old, one of you passes away and your left on your own with no family support
@@Jonnyicey
Family support is never guaranteed.
@@LucareonVee at least you have a chance if you had kids. If not you will be completely on your own once your partner passes.
@@Jonnyicey
That’s not guaranteed either. I could still have friends around who are also CF. 😋
@@LucareonVee well hopefully you will have someone
Omg is that why the neighbors in fairly odd parents are Dinklebergs!
I am a SINK (Single Income No Kids) and I am keeping it that for all my eternity.
I was raised in poverty. Why would I have kids just to put them through that?
if you have an economy that makes it impossible to have kids, what did you think would happen? Both parents are working, paying the bills and neither have time to raise a child. This country reaps what it sows.
This is NOT a new term. This term and concept have been in existence at least as long as my husband and I have been married, and that’s 30 years. Stop claiming this as something this generation came up with. And as far people choosing not to have kids, that’s a personal choice and no one’s business. Quit judging.
Smart couple, grow, mature, travel , and have lots of fun then decide if you want or not family. Wise mentality ❤
At the end she says - Mind your business, on a news story where you literally got all up in that couples’ business.
That’s the point. Ever heard of the “moral of a story?” Some ppl need to see how ppl who make those choices feel when being pressured by others and that their assumptions that ppl are selfish or whatever they assume, aren’t true. Also that ppl are genuinely happy with their choices. I believe the story captured all of that beautifully.
though I have 3 kids, but not everyone should have children. Enjoy your life.
Life is short.
I would love to have kids but life has been hard in the past years and financial stability is challenging to achieve nowadays. When people have kids they should be for the right reasons and not only just so there is someone to take care of you when you are old.
Kids are over rated
I think the title of this video and the thumbnail already explains it all....
Lost me at "self employed influencer".. barf
Smart couple.
well in the grand scheme of things kids grow fast. so waiting isnt a big deal BUT that said, once you have kids consider your relationship to have dropped an anchor slowing you down and dragging you to a halt, because having kids means obtaining stability as they grow and inevitably take on things like schooling. and that means your extended plans are now tied to their needs. and you got at least about 25 years of that. Lastly is the bond between the two. are you truly in it for the longhaul cause if your not then having kids will only mess up their lives as they grow up in a broken marital situation. And lets face it. most people couldnt live with a clone of themselves let alone someone they claim to love. because the biggest error in all relationships is not understanding what love is. Its commitment not a feeling. feelings come and go. so if your relationship is based on feeling then far and few have gone the duration based on feelings alone. Love is duty and obligation and sacrifice. soooo if you dont have those factors in your relationship then, dont.. just dont ruin the life of kids that youd bring into the world.
That would make me a SINK: Single Income No Kids.
Nice Stressless Lifestyle
It just depends on on maybe the career field you’re in too. I work in hospitality and it’s quite common to have coworkers married with no kids or unmarried and no kids
Having kids is risky because divorce laws are bad
I think having one or two is worth it but not too many. However, to each their own ❤
Honestly good some people really shouldn’t be parents
I am just wondering… The average age of people is still increasing,but most of the people get retired at around 65. If today’s generation can live to 80 ,that means they just consume the resources for fifteen years ,with having no contribution to the society. At that time , will there be enough people to work to ensure the economic?
How can we solve the problem of the aging population？
The old...you're never going tonhave someone to take care of you when your old. Thats trash 🗑 bringing a little baby in this world is not supposed to himder on them being servitude towards you in your old age. Ive done it for all my family members, i was the youngest. Its alot to do to a someone.
The term is from the 80s. It’s related to Yuppies. It’s all good. They have the right to live as they like.
NBC clickbait game is showing signs of improvement
Even Some celebs that been had money just having first child in mid-30s. Live your life n do what makes u happy in your own time.
I’m a SINK.
me too! 😂
As a single bachelor I see no point in being married or cohabitating if you’re not going to have kids. You might have a double household income but your expenses probably exploded my guy. You’d have less income but way less spending and stress also if its just you by yourself
If you get married, make sure you are getting married for the right reasons. I was married from 2004-2010 my divorce was finalized in 2011. If my failed marriage taught me anything, it was this; having children and buying home is a part of being married, but that's not the only reason why one should get married. I beleive that marriage is ultimately about finding a life long partner that can enhance the quality of your life.
What do you call single six figures and no kids 😂
OINK - One Income No Kids
@@bellamyking1217 SINK
Materialistic? 🤣
You call it awesome. 😎
@@Jonnyicey And we called some people "Baby making machines"
The people who's only purpose in life is to struggle and pass on the struggles to the next generations and keep working until their last breath to keep their relationship bonds strong.
Well raising a kid is a huge responsiblity, emotionally and financially so kinda understand where these couples are coming from, however if this trend continues eventually the economy will suffer because of lack of working age population to support older generations
that's right, do you! ask those that tell you when are you having kids how is there life going or why are they trying to live vicariously thru someone else. In m y younger days i new i didn't want kids had a couple of gf's with kids and i said no thanks to those close calls.
denk > mike > ik > d eye nk
Love this
Woot for DinkLife!
YES!!!❤❤❤
Nothing wrong with co-dependency.
How is this news?
Because there is still the push from society to have children if they see you don't have them.
Imagine living a life where you cut out the most important part which is having a family and just stick to the hollow materialistic parts and then try to justify... Pretty sad.
Empty.
Sounds like he is the bread winner there.
"Sits In father's office, proceeds to take out father's boat"😂
Dinklebergs !!!!
Not necessarily, bigot.
We need MONEY, HELLO
Im NINK (no income no kids
DONKS, why bother getting married? LOL It's easier to travel solo, no arguments, no waiting, half the price, no drama.
Girlfriends with benefits, no kids, no pets, no cigarettes.
Love em and leave em.
Married for companionship. Believe it or not, a woman is more than a birthing object.
@leroy, get a dog
@@leroy44 I have single female neighbors, widows and divorcees. It's better when they have their own house/income.
@@punapeter better how? Nonetheless, good for your neighbors etc, but it does not represent the total population and it is certainly not supported by statistics.
Statistics show that marriage at the very least, makes financial sense. With the current average incomes and expensive homes, two incomes is better than 1.
@@leroy44 LOL that depends on your income. There were 8 kids in my family and only my dad worked.
Stats show 65% of marriages fail. Spouses cheat. Humans are not manogomous it's a BELIEF not a reality.
It makes no financial sense.. to pay double.
You will struggle to stay together over time as you have choices to move on with no children involved, not that having children keeps you together weath has no meaning after travel and nice times, just oblivion without children for you all my friends so enjoy it and live to 100 knowing that dust awaits, when a Chad or Tyrone may have 10 kids who is the winner in life!
👏👏👏👏
The amount of utilitarianism in the comments.
Is this news or publicity?
Wives uncle and aunt are in this boat. Now at 65, unable to raise a child or with no grandkids…they are lonely and wish at times they would have started when they had the time. biologically we primitively and instinctually want an offspring, food, love and shelter. Some can fake it but it always loops back around.
To each their own.
Exactly, people will realise at some point but hopefully before it's too late. My sister massively regrets not having kids and she's too old now
Never wanted kids and could never picture myself with them. I don't regret this.
@@angelcrowder9857 my sister was of that mindset even into her late 40s but as she got older she lost her closest friend, another moved to Australia and then she did a 180 flip. I guess as you age and lose people close to you it makes you realise how important a family is.
I think I am 37, I don't keep track anymore. Child free is my choice, I have enough to fulfill my life. I don't need or want a child for that.
@@angelcrowder9857 I guess its good you don't want them then as at 37 its pretty much too late, at 40 its a only 3% chance to get pregnant.
hi guys, i'm an influencer.
🤮
See my big fat dumb bow? 🎀
He better not lose that job or she’s gone with the wind 😂
Theyre having fun now...good for them.....but they'll regret in 20 to 30 years....mark my words.....
Wonder how long it’ll really take. I’m over 40 and feel like, if possible, I want kids even less than I did 30 years ago when I declared myself as never wanting them. 😋
Ah no. They'll be enjoying a 20yr early retirement & financial independence by then. While you're working at someone else's business helping build someone else's dream until age 67 when it's almost time to die.....mark my words.
Narcissists, but it's a free country.
You are the narcissist for thinking everyone should do what you think is best for them 😀👆
You are definitely the narcissist for wanting people to conform to what you deem acceptable practice.
This is pathetic
How so?
@@_Fractaal they are young have done some smart things but they will definitely get kids
@@mistycloud4455
Based on what?
ah yes lets not do the most fulfilling thing in the world so we can indulge in our pleasure that last 30 minute
A lot of people don’t find having children to be fulfilling at all. 😋
They are rich. Kids wouldn’t effect them in any way other then maybe make them better people. Maybe.
They focused on obtaining wealth first. So as to afford kids who will have a better start in life. They didn't say they weren't EVER going to be parents. Just holding off. They're only 30 years old. And kids don't determine the bettering of a person. That's a myth.
@@janetkriegl6720yeah that’s great if that’s the case but that’s not what I got from the piece. Where did they say any of that?
@@forgivemylaughter At the start, re: where they met.
@@janetkriegl6720no.
And the award for the most annoying group of people goes tooooooo
Goes toooooo….. pronatalists!!!! 😋
Dinkleberries 😂
DINKWAD
What's more tragic than being a broke supporting kids and a family? Being broke without supporting kids and a family.
Then you’d only be letting yourself down instead of children who you forced life upon.
Selfish people, only concerned for them and their dogs. Artificial happiness
Selfish towards whom?
Most boring Darwin's award ever
Well maybe we as humans are starting to wait until they are ready and financially ready for children. But a woman is limited by age. Just a fact
If they don’t want kids anyway, the limit means nothing. 😉
@@LucareonVee well of course if you don’t want any, but it’s funny how people will change their minds sometimes, sometimes we don’t know what the older us is going to do.
@@carrie8751
And a lot of people take those things into account.
@@LucareonVee and a lot don’t
Double Income
No Kids...visiting or taking care of you in a few years 😂😂
Same thing happens with parents. 😋
I'd be bitter if I was paying $2k a month in daycare costs too.
If the guy changes his mind, he still can divorce her and find a younger woman to have kids. Not so for the woman…good luck to her!
Nonsense
Having kids is a test to a relationship. Having money or dogs is not.
Worst sales pitch ever😅
Is that a joke? If you need to "test" your relationship, you shouldn't be in one.
A symptom of a dying civilization that abandoned it's faith.
Faith has no value. 😘
According to what ? Carnal pleasures?
Good luck putting your hope in that
@@Gzirsczk
According to logic and reasoning. If you value truth, then faith is not the way to figure out what is true. 😋
Yes, you are happier for being childfree. But you are miserable. For some people it will take full decades to realize this.
Childfree, not childless. 😋
Has a bunch of dogs instead. Pure cope.
Dogs are better than children. 😋
Maybe that makes them happy???
Pathetic.
Stop looking in the mirror if you’re tired of looking at pathetic things. 😋
@@LucareonVee stop looking at your mom then.
@@daniely.2466
Honey, I don’t think about family members the way your mom and uncle/dad do. 😘
@@LucareonVee Found the childless feminist that will get her body eaten by her cats when she expires
@@BrimstoneSociety-js6po
What makes you think I’m a woman? 😘