when my mom died people told me to just "get over it" even a few months after her sudden death. I have bi polar too sooo it takes more time to grieve. Now I feel like I am doing well accepting the grief. The most frustraiting part of it was that people wanted me to grieve or not grieve according to their expectations. It takes time. The biggest piece of advice is to say that it is SO tough what you are going through. Treat yourself well. Relax...distract (watch a movie or netflix)...lower you expectations on what you "should feel." like I used to think "I should have enjoyed that movie more." Instead, I patted myself on the back for watching a movie at all...you held the dolls...pat yourself on the back...erase the expectation that you "should feel" a more kindship torwards your dolls. For everything you do, pat yourself on the back. I am so sorry things went badly today with the pt guy. That was terrible. Him talking about how many sessions you have left feels so...empty. He didn't need to go there when you feel this way. It sounds like he was having a terrible day himself. I wish he could be straight with you and let you know he was having an off day.
Sorry for all your pain. You are not alone. There is more than one of us rooting for you trying to send you good thoughts. Wishing that there was a way to reach out and make things better. Keep us posted. Your heart may not know that we are here but your brain does. Let your brain talk to your heart on this matter. I do hear you saying all the physical things that you are doing. I bet your muscles are sore. That could be where a lot, a lot, of your pain is coming from. Take care of yourself. We care about you. Yes I started watching you because of the dolls but right now there are no dolls and I am still here, so are some others. Keep reaching out.
You are going through the biggest struggle of your life. Losing a loved one and dealing with the grief of Dennis being gone is going to take a really long long time. It has taken me 10 years to finally get to a point where I don't tear up every single day. My advice is this....take one day, 1 hour, 1 minute at a time if that's what it takes. Remember that in the midst of grief it is hard to see things clearly. Remember that these moments are temporary and will not last forever even though they feel like they will. The first year of a loss and until you go through each holiday is going to hurt like hell. I am going to reach out to you on facebook.
ok thank you for letting me know... i just wrote two ,i am so sorry you had a crappy day and hope tomorrow gets better ,and grief has no time frame and hope you find a counselor or therapist you feel comfortable with. just remember one day at a time.
JC you keep making your talk video'ß if that helpß you feel better and get's you through the day 's and nights were hear for you good times and bad one's to
People shouldn't be telling you to get over it because you never will. I believe it's more learning how to keep going and live a successful life w.o that in your life. Which can be done
omg this is the first I have listened to your channel . I am raising my grandchildren . My daughter age 34 died in march of cancer. Someone told my granddaughter the same thing the other day .It was anonymous online. But it was someone she knew . the person said your mom died months ago it is time to get over it. That makes me so very angry . You never get over the loss of a loved one. I have been around a lot of grief. You need to find someone you can talk to there is someone out there for you. I am talking as a mother and a friend not a retired nurse . My daughter lost her fiance after living together for 17 years 2 years ago he was killed when an 80 yr. old woman pulled out in front of his motorcycle. My daughter lives 2000 miles away I went home for a month. we kept in contact by phone. you need to get some books for self help When my youngest daughter died she sent me those books . she would call me crying.. she didnt date for a year.Then she started seeing an old classmate they will be getting married in June . Honey take one day at a time. She did go to counseling but not group . you sound just like my daughter. all you can do is dont think how hard the future is going to be . Think of good memories . get some self help books and only read a daily page. but you need to find someone else . Do you have a friend that has lost someone . those are the ones that helped my daughter. I am sending you a big hug.. I am having a very hard time dealing with the death of my daughter this holiday. I am 66 and raising a 13 yr. old granddaughter and 4 yr old grandson so I have to get my spirits up. Stress will cause pain it will destroy your body with pain.. stress will make it worse .. I know that from my nursing and know it from experience. I am so sorry for your pain emotional and physical
Your very welcome . I wanted to say I dont know if it is the holidays or if being without my daughter for so long but I am worse now then in the beginning. I cry at anything that reminds me of her. I have tons of her things that I cant touch our house is small and we are now very crunched in . Stuff everywhere . I wanted to give her shoes to a good friend and my granddaughter said what if I can eventually wear them. I feel like I am being pulled apart. I do feel exactly like you I dont want company I want to be left along I dont want to talk on the phone . I have a friend who doesnt understand this she keeps asking to come for coffee. This is depression when you dont want to do anything go anywhere and be left alone. My dr. once told me if depression lasts over a year then you need to seek help. I cant see my depression ever going away . Taking her to chemo everyday . I watched your entire video today and was so angry with your first experience with hospice. It is nurses like her that give the good ones a bad name. I was lucky my daughters best friend while we were picking my daughter up at the hospital she was calling hospice my daughter was so weak she had to be carried into the house I had to run and get something when I got home they were at the house they were there as much and whenever we wanted they instructed me on her meds and got them all for her with no problem I gave her the meds they didnt want her in any pain. she was in hospice the same time your Denis was. when she passed away they told me if they were not there to call them I did and they answered the phone and I didnt have to say a word they said we will be right there and they were. That is the way it should be . I really hope she lost her job you had enough to worry about. One of the big qualifications is you have to have a Dr. state that you are terminal (it doesnt matter if you dont pass )he just has to state that you only have about 6 months. So without reading the chart or dr.s notes she couldnt have made the judgement truthfully . If you ever need to email me sambetta21@gmail.com please feel free sometime it helps just to spill it out on paper. . I have broad shoulders and am here for you. I know how you are feeling the love for a hubby is different then a daughter but it is still love and I want you to know feeling grief still is normal and it is easy for me to tell you that you need someone to help you get through this when I myself want everyone just to leave me alone but if you can release how you are doing to me it might help A friend.. Hugs to you. Penny
Hello Jc I am so sorry you r having such a hard time right now I know how your feeling my friend I wish there was something I could do to help you feel better you have a lot going on you know I have been to group therapy it's not that bad you will be around people that are feeling the same way you are you need to be around people that can relate to you it will be uncomfortable at first then it will get better the more you go I worry about you being alone so much right now. especially because your feeling so lonely and suicidal you know it takes a lot of time to heal from a loss and Everyone is different nobody should be telling you to get over it that's not how it works there r stages you go through when grieving do you have a po box or address I would like to send you something if u dont mind please hang in there my friend everything will get better in time 🇭
when my mom died people told me to just "get over it" even a few months after her sudden death. I have bi polar too sooo it takes more time to grieve. Now I feel like I am doing well accepting the grief. The most frustraiting part of it was that people wanted me to grieve or not grieve according to their expectations. It takes time. The biggest piece of advice is to say that it is SO tough what you are going through. Treat yourself well. Relax...distract (watch a movie or netflix)...lower you expectations on what you "should feel." like I used to think "I should have enjoyed that movie more." Instead, I patted myself on the back for watching a movie at all...you held the dolls...pat yourself on the back...erase the expectation that you "should feel" a more kindship torwards your dolls. For everything you do, pat yourself on the back. I am so sorry things went badly today with the pt guy. That was terrible. Him talking about how many sessions you have left feels so...empty. He didn't need to go there when you feel this way. It sounds like he was having a terrible day himself. I wish he could be straight with you and let you know he was having an off day.
You have an inner light. A god. Reach out. It will help you through
Sorry for all your pain. You are not alone. There is more than one of us rooting for you trying to send you good thoughts. Wishing that there was a way to reach out and make things better. Keep us posted. Your heart may not know that we are here but your brain does. Let your brain talk to your heart on this matter. I do hear you saying all the physical things that you are doing. I bet your muscles are sore. That could be where a lot, a lot, of your pain is coming from. Take care of yourself. We care about you. Yes I started watching you because of the dolls but right now there are no dolls and I am still here, so are some others. Keep reaching out.
You are going through the biggest struggle of your life. Losing a loved one and dealing with the grief of Dennis being gone is going to take a really long long time. It has taken me 10 years to finally get to a point where I don't tear up every single day. My advice is this....take one day, 1 hour, 1 minute at a time if that's what it takes. Remember that in the midst of grief it is hard to see things clearly. Remember that these moments are temporary and will not last forever even though they feel like they will. The first year of a loss and until you go through each holiday is going to hurt like hell. I am going to reach out to you on facebook.
I wish I could help you.your right,you don't really ever get over it.your life changes forever,xxhugs
ok thank you for letting me know... i just wrote two ,i am so sorry you had a crappy day and hope tomorrow gets better ,and grief has no time frame and hope you find a counselor or therapist you feel comfortable with. just remember one day at a time.
You got this!! just do you no one can till you time limits for grief, do what yo think you cant do.
thank you
JC you keep making your talk video'ß if that helpß you feel better and get's you through the day 's and nights were hear for you good times and bad one's to
I struggle with depression and anxiety I was addicted to self harm because of bullying and losing my cat i had when I was 3 years old
People shouldn't be telling you to get over it because you never will. I believe it's more learning how to keep going and live a successful life w.o that in your life. Which can be done
omg this is the first I have listened to your channel . I am raising my grandchildren . My daughter age 34 died in march of cancer. Someone told my granddaughter the same thing the other day .It was anonymous online. But it was someone she knew . the person said your mom died months ago it is time to get over it. That makes me so very angry . You never get over the loss of a loved one. I have been around a lot of grief. You need to find someone you can talk to there is someone out there for you. I am talking as a mother and a friend not a retired nurse . My daughter lost her fiance after living together for 17 years 2 years ago he was killed when an 80 yr. old woman pulled out in front of his motorcycle. My daughter lives 2000 miles away I went home for a month. we kept in contact by phone. you need to get some books for self help When my youngest daughter died she sent me those books . she would call me crying.. she didnt date for a year.Then she started seeing an old classmate they will be getting married in June . Honey take one day at a time. She did go to counseling but not group . you sound just like my daughter. all you can do is dont think how hard the future is going to be . Think of good memories . get some self help books and only read a daily page. but you need to find someone else . Do you have a friend that has lost someone . those are the ones that helped my daughter. I am sending you a big hug.. I am having a very hard time dealing with the death of my daughter this holiday. I am 66 and raising a 13 yr. old granddaughter and 4 yr old grandson so I have to get my spirits up. Stress will cause pain it will destroy your body with pain.. stress will make it worse .. I know that from my nursing and know it from experience. I am so sorry for your pain emotional and physical
Penny Howell thank you
Your very welcome . I wanted to say I dont know if it is the holidays or if being without my daughter for so long but I am worse now then in the beginning. I cry at anything that reminds me of her. I have tons of her things that I cant touch our house is small and we are now very crunched in . Stuff everywhere . I wanted to give her shoes to a good friend and my granddaughter said what if I can eventually wear them. I feel like I am being pulled apart. I do feel exactly like you I dont want company I want to be left along I dont want to talk on the phone . I have a friend who doesnt understand this she keeps asking to come for coffee. This is depression when you dont want to do anything go anywhere and be left alone. My dr. once told me if depression lasts over a year then you need to seek help. I cant see my depression ever going away . Taking her to chemo everyday . I watched your entire video today and was so angry with your first experience with hospice. It is nurses like her that give the good ones a bad name. I was lucky my daughters best friend while we were picking my daughter up at the hospital she was calling hospice my daughter was so weak she had to be carried into the house I had to run and get something when I got home they were at the house they were there as much and whenever we wanted they instructed me on her meds and got them all for her with no problem I gave her the meds they didnt want her in any pain. she was in hospice the same time your Denis was. when she passed away they told me if they were not there to call them I did and they answered the phone and I didnt have to say a word they said we will be right there and they were. That is the way it should be . I really hope she lost her job you had enough to worry about. One of the big qualifications is you have to have a Dr. state that you are terminal (it doesnt matter if you dont pass )he just has to state that you only have about 6 months. So without reading the chart or dr.s notes she couldnt have made the judgement truthfully . If you ever need to email me sambetta21@gmail.com please feel free sometime it helps just to spill it out on paper. . I have broad shoulders and am here for you. I know how you are feeling the love for a hubby is different then a daughter but it is still love and I want you to know feeling grief still is normal and it is easy for me to tell you that you need someone to help you get through this when I myself want everyone just to leave me alone but if you can release how you are doing to me it might help A friend.. Hugs to you. Penny
Penny Howell I'm so sorry you lost your daughter,how does anyone get over that?
jcsreborn journey I was told that I was faking my depression and anxiety and it made me angry
Hello Jc I am so sorry you r having such a hard time right now I know how your feeling my friend I wish there was something I could do to help you feel better you have a lot going on you know I have been to group therapy it's not that bad you will be around people that are feeling the same way you are you need to be around people that can relate to you it will be uncomfortable at first then it will get better the more you go I worry about you being alone so much right now. especially because your feeling so lonely and suicidal you know it takes a lot of time to heal from a loss and
Everyone is different nobody should be telling you to get over it that's not how it works there r stages you go through when grieving do you have a po box or address I would like to send you something if u dont mind please hang in there my friend everything will get better in time
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Buffy Spivey my po box Is in the descriptions of every video
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