getting over my fear of driving and FINALLY getting my license at 22 years old
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Honestly what a journey it has been. I still can't believe that I did it. This was one of those things that I truly just never thought I would do my whole life and I am so proud of myself. I am so glad that I got to share it with all of you and thank you for everyone that has been cheering me on along the way. I love you guys so much and I'll see you in the next one🤍🚗
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I am 24 years old and I'm still working on getting my license. I am a pretty decent driver but I just can't pass the dang driving test. I get too nervous and have anxiety attacks. At this point it's not even about the driving I just pysch myself out hard. I feel like people don't talk about this because it's embarrasing so I'm so glad you posted this. I started driving again and taking lessons again recently. All my fellow non-drivers we can do this.
girl I am 25 and I feel this so hard I failed my first drive test which ppl around me tell its pretty normal but still I just wish I gotten this over with ages ago, but yes good luck to everyone 💪🏻
It's never too late! It's so frustrating but totally achievable. ❤
Im 21 and I have my test tommorow and ughhh im so nervous
@@kimberlyshanel3943 girl you got this!! I know you’re gonna do great❤ Confidence is key!
Tysm for saying this. I’m 22 and don’t even have my permit yet. Like you said it’s not the actual driving part that scares me bc I’m actually really good. It’s just going to the DMV and being in public that I can’t get over. I have severe anxiety also. I hope to get it before this year is over though 🥺
I got my license last year at 25 and this comment section is making me feel so less alone! Driving anxiety is soso real and those don’t who experience it never get it! I have confidence we will all get better at it!
I have my road test in less than 3 hours and the anxiety is taking over, I literally just want to break down and cry until then because I’m so nervous and stressed out even though I do know how to drive. My anxiety takes over like 😭. Thanks for giving me hope🫶🏼
How'd u do girl mines tmr im scared ive alr failed it once this is my second try and I just really wanna get it😭😭😭😭😭
As a german this process feels crazy to me! In Germany you can only get your license with a driving enstructor, every lesson costs around 150$, most people learn to drive by stick and the whole process is crazy expensive. Even as a fast learner you have to pay a few thousand dollars for the license. If you fail your test (most germans do at their first time bc the rules are crazy) you need to wait weeks until you are allowed to take the next one… the process was a lot for a person like me with adhd and driving anxiety 😅! Congratulations on your license 🥳
Here in Spain is the same :(
Here in Brazil is the same thing, but we have a theory exam before you can do the practical lessons, which has 33 questions and you have to get at least 27 correct to be able to pass it. And then the freaking practical exam where you have like two driving examiners telling you what to do because the list of errors that can fails your exam is enormous, obviously, after all the practical lessons with a driving instructor. I even had to do some lessons in a driving simulator before going to a real car lol Here is mandatory to learn how to drive manual, you don't have an option. If I was in the States I would've had my license a lot earlier, easier and way more affordable, because oh my, I spent every single penny I had with my driving license 😢 and I forgot to mention that underage driving is absolutely illegal here, you have to be 18 year old or older to be able to get your permit.
Same in the Netherlands! I got my license at 21 years old after 2-ish years of studying and driving lessons. Spent more than 2000 euros including lessons, books, exams and tests.
In Bulgarian is also the same. Like the whole thing is crazy expansive. Its like 1,000lv (around 600 usd) and you have a theory test and then you drive with a driving instructor for a month straight and then an examiner, your instructor and a person from the group youre driveing with (witness) get in the car and a sort of GPS system tells you where to go. And spoiler im a very anxious person and i didn’t pass my theory test but on well.
Sam in the Netherlands I failed 4 times because of my driving anxiety, social anxiety and fear of failure. Also knowing the amount of money it would cost me extra if I failed didn't help
I’m 27 and still no driving license, I’m proud of you and you inspired me to go get my driving license as well! Congrats!! 😊
I am 27 and still no driving license as well
Is it normal to be 22 and not being able to drive?
@@tayluvofficialyea its normal, but i would advise getting ur drivers license soon, or trying to get it
I’m 25 and trying to get my lisence. I feel like nobody in my family wants me to get my lisence and it’s part of the reason I get so nervous
Go get it! You can do it💯
I’m 23 and just got my permit and have been trying my best to get my license by practicing I just hate the anxiety and nervousness of driving, turning, merging, and switching lanes. I hope I can get my license soon. We all just need to believe in ourselves and we can do anything :)
I’m 19 and today passed my road test after failing the first. Even though I passed I’m still nervous to drive on my own. I was super duper scared just like you. I remember when I was practicing I broke down crying and had to pull over and let my dad take over. but I conquered my fear!! I’m literally so proud of you
I don’t know who you are but CONGRATS, SERIOUSLY. I turn 19 in a couple months and in high school it’s always intimidated me how everyone else had their license. Crying while practicing is so real, I cried infront of my DMV instructor after taking drivers ed because the pressure is no joke. Your comment makes me feel not so alone in my fear of driving, thanks for sharing your story
babes, i don't know what it is with the dmv staff but i swear some of them GET OFF on failing people. i failed my first test, no shame, and i had a similar situation. the woman who gave me my first test struggled to get into my car. it was an old minivan and she couldn't get the seat to move back when she got in because it was old. she was giving me nasty looks the whole time and i was incredibly anxious. and i remember i was one point beyond passing and i was so embarrassed. a few weeks later, i took the test again and passed just fine--different staff too.... he was great and congratulated me when we got back!
I passed my first time but the lady made me cry for some reason? Like berated me for a few minutes for the two mistakes I made and then ended by telling me I passed. I was very confused.
I'll be 35 in January. I have driven twice in my life. In parking lots. You did good girl. Proud of you. 🖤
i’m so proud kayli! i have my permit and struggle with driving anxiety, and you’ve helped me gain confidence over my nerves.
I’m 23 and I’m terrified of driving. Everyone in my family & boyfriends family is constantly telling me I need to do it, but just like you I’m not going to do it unless I want to. Thank you for this, I’ve been so embarrassed about it for years but it’s okay!! I’ll do it when I’m ready. Congratulations! Anxiety sucks lol
You’re are 110% not alone ! I’m in my 30s and still cannot over come it .i was in 3 car crashes and the aniexty and fear is damm real . People shame me over it that need drive and what will I do if my son is sick and can’t drive .total fear . It’s not always as easy as people say ! I live in Ireland in city so we have buses darts etc
The best way i got over my anxiety is the fact that with every hour you drive, you improve (even if you cant notice it) and it gets easier and less scary
Omg yes girl I’m exactly the same way it sucks
i reallly wish i had seen this video on my license journey lol. i'm 21 years old and just got my license 2 days ago. the anxiety feels soo crippling and the judgement for others did NOT make it any easier but my advice for those is to do it WHEN YOU ARE READY, not the pressure of others. Each time you drive it gets easier and once its done it feels like such a huge weight lifted off of your shoulders. Good luck everybody!! and be gentle with yourself :)
your boyfriend is SOOO SWEET to you omg!!!! :) i get the anxiety i still get anxious sometimes driving so i get it!
As someone in their mid twenties who is also gradually getting over their fear of driving and just generally having to cope with anxiety, this video means so much to me. The amount of judgment I receive for not having my licensee has been so disheartening
Girl 😂. Never would I have thought that there were this many others who were scared of driving like me. I didn’t get my license until last year. I’m 24 😂. I have had driving anxiety since forever. I would literally have nightmares about it. I’ve just spent the last year getting used to driving. Building confidence and all of that haha
i’m 19 and don’t have my license yet and i thought i was alone😭 i didn’t think there was so many people that had the same fear and anxiety about driving like me.
Same age,same problem 😭
Just got my license 3 days ago. Same age!
Same age same issue 😅
same age same issue as well
Omg me too
I didn't get my license until I was 21-22 years old. Driving is terrifying! I am so freaking proud of you girl!!!!!!!!
Thank goodness I'm not alone. I'm almost 21 and have haven't gotten my license. I live in Florida and driving out here is scary, so many accidents and reckless drivers. Thank you for this video, I feel a lot better now. I'm working on getting mine as well.
I had my permit for 10 years before getting my license. I felt alone and ashamed for many years :/ I’m sooo happy for you for getting yours! And posting this vid so that way no one else will feel alone and ashamed like I did. Congrats 🎉
Massive congratulations on getting your license. I understand exactly how you feel about anxiety over driving.
The more you do what scares you, the more confident you get.
Best wishes! So proud of you.
it’s like a pretty known thing that dmv people aren’t very nice and most will try to fail you the first time just because. good job on passing!!
Kayli the same thing happened to my sister when she got her license. I guess DMVs tend to have that one bitter lady who wants to make other people miserable like her. Hurt people hurt people, so glad there's also really nice and understanding people working at the DMV too
GOOD JOB!! I remember the day I stopped getting extreme anxiety half a year after passing my test. I never even went to training. I bought an app, studied for 2 years, one permit expired after I moved states, I got a new permit, studied my app again, passed the drivers test. All throughout that I had panic attacks at the wheel, so I forced myself to go out and drive, exposed myself to crazy traffic, and now I hardly get freaked out. I'm so proud of you! We may be 22 and doing things a little later than most, but we still did it!!!!
Girl i am so proud of you❤
Im 26 and just got my license. Youre not late, others around you are not early, you are in fact right on time. Take your time. Idc how many times you gotta go and take the test until you get it right, YOU GOT THIS. Alot of fears come from “what if” what if this goes wrong , what if i mess up . Something that settled me , is EVEN IF i mess up, im okay. Come back and try again . And as many times as needed.
You go girl! I’m 21 and I’m also planning to conquer my fear of driving and get my license this year 😊
Did u get it
@@HeyYou-zl3dt Yes I did! 😁
have never seen you this excited in a video before, i was genuinely clapping and cheering out loud. so proud of you!!!
28 yrs old here and I still CANT get my license bcz i get scared ! Congratulations kaylie , its the first step out of your confort zone and a whole new world just opened for you ! 🎉🎉🎉
I’m 21, turning 22 this year and still haven’t gotten my g2 (not sure if that’s what it’s called in the US too, but the g1 is the written test. Once you finish that, you get a physical ID and you can drive w a full G holder in the car. G2 is the next test where if you pass you can drive by yourself but not on the highway. Full G you can drive anywhere anytime on your own). I’m so afraid of driving, mostly bc of OTHER reckless drivers. I have so much anxiety about crashing and all that other fun stuff hahahahaha so thank you for this video. It helped me a bit
11:42 This part is so relatable. I'm 24 and i barely leave my house, it definitely feels lonely but seeing that i'm not the only one who's like that does make me feel better.
My parents forced me to get my license. i had a HUGE fear of driving but once i got comfortable behind the wheel i was ok. eventually the anxiety will fade. had my permit for 2 years before i was ready for my test. you got this girly ❤
I struggle with social anxiety and driving has become a place of solace for me ❤ so proud of you!!!!!
Girl I smiled the whole time! I remember the feeling. I was 29 when I passed as I had such anxiety. 2 years later I love driving! It gets better. Well done 🎉❤
Congratulations!! I'm so sorry anyone ever made you feel like you should have been embarrassed about this. I wish more people would stop and consider if they're really ready to drive before doing so, for their own mental state and the safety of everyone else. I got mine at 16 because at the time I really needed it but I do remember shortly before I took my test I had the biggest wave of anxiety that everyone was going to hit me, I know now it was irritational but I remember that moment of how real it felt so I completely sympathize and understand how debilitating that fear can be. I'm so glad you had the courage to take it again too. Congratulations!🎉
i'm 16 and i'm gonna have to learn how to drive, sounds so scary. got the first part of my license 3 days ago (i live in canada so it's a bit different). good job to you for overcoming your fear!
I am from Canada too and your in a great position for learning about driving. 😊
I was the same, I drove a handful of times at 16 then never drove again until I was 19/20 when I got my license. So proud of you Kayli 💕
congrats!! i know the feeling, i got my license at 28. it's really freeing to be able to go wherever you want, whenever you want, and not have to rely on/inconvenience others.
I had driving anxiety as well and I didn't get my license until I was 21. I failed my drivers test 2 times before I passed. I also didn't go on the freeway until a year after getting my license so be proud of the fact that you did it while you had your permit.
I am 25 and have the same anxiety so nice to see I'm not alone. I have my own car and everything sometimes getting myself to drive it is the hard part
I remember the day that i got my license and drove by my own for the first time, it felt amazing 🌟
😭😭 I started crying when you told your mom I’m literally so happy for you 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼 you should be so so proud!!!!
I'm 26 and have not even taken the test to get my learner's permit. I took the online drug and alcohol test years ago. I started studying for the test more in depth in May of this year (2024) but just keep forgetting things so am afraid to even try, because it feels like a fact that I will fail and people will look down on me (especially me, because I've built that habit). I see that you have made it this far, which does give me hope that maybe someday I will be able to as well. I will just have to go for it and keep trying, because you kept trying and now you're doing so much better.
I resonated with literally all the feelings you describe and being such a home body/introvert. It’s so cool and important to hear someone have the same feelings as you. Always love your videos !
You are just exuding happiness and confidence after getting your license! So good to see.
Congrats! I got my license in 2019 and the instructor I got was a sweet old man who talked to me about our favorite cake flavors lol. But my older brother had a mean woman too 🙄 Unfortunately it just happens to some people and the mean people will fail you
Honestly I was pretty much pressured in getting my driver's license at 17 and in the Netherlands we drive manual and dont have permits so you have to learn with an instructor next to you. I am very introverted and have social anxiety, driving anxiety and fear of failure. So I failed my driver's test 4 times and 3 of those was because I had a mental breakdown during the test and had to stop halfway or after just starting.
I'm right now 22 and I still drive with someone close to me next to me and rarely drive alone somewhere.
SO HAPPY FOR U KAYLI!
THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEEL
this gives me hope
thank you for being so open about this. i struggle with this and some individuals aren’t as understanding about this topic. i am so thankful that i’m not alone in this.
I’m proud of you kayli, you did an awesome job ❤
we’re proud of you! love u ❤
I've been driving for 10 years now. I've always had a panic related to driving, having numerous nightmares. But in CA and now that I live in NC I couldn't get away with not driving so I reluctantly learned. Nowadays I even enjoy it at times! and still feel dissociated half the time I'm driving lol. Very proud of you for the confidence to be able to have independence to go anywhere whenever!
Ahhh I’m so proud of you! Congrats 🎉I got my license at 22 as well, I completely understand the anxiety and fear about driving, it crippled me for so long but exposing myself to drive even small distances helped a lot❤
I felt her happiness so warm in my heart, omg! Congratss✨
I have watched your youtube for 5 months. Thanks for Bringing these comfortable videos. My days light up when watching yours❤❤
Yay I'm excited for you. I'm 29 and I've only been driving for a few years. I was TERRIFIED at the thought of driving. But idk one day something came over me and I just started studying, got my permit. Started practicing driving and then got my license not too long after. Now I drive EVERYWHERE! You can do it girl! Baby steps, the fact that you even want to try is huge!
I got my license at 18 (Im from Spain and the minimum age to drive is 18 here!), drove for 2 months then completely stopped because I got scared and I simply couldnt get the hang of driving shift. Fast foward to now, I jsut started driving this year at 28 years old! I booked 4 lessons in total with a driving instructor and it was with an automatic car. The lessons gave me so much confidence and now I drive everywhere!! (I still dont want to drive a manual but is it that important anyway!?) So for everyone reading this that's struggling I promise you'll drive when you're ready!!
proud of you Kayli!! i got my license at 20 y.o and i honestly can’t even imagine myself driving earlier than this age, it’s scary on the roads!
Thank you for this video! I havent been able to drive for 5 years due to my anxiety and other issues. This was like therapy for me it was sucha cute video and congrats to you!
Kayli I cannot believe your new posting consistency, it went from every month to every 3 or 4 days?! If you keep it like this my love for you will only grow i love u so much!
I had anxiety about taking my driver's test all the way up until I was 30!!!!!! Yes, 30. I knew how to drive but it was just the actual test where there's a person in the car with you that freaked me out. Turns out it was the easiest test I've ever done in my life and I built it up to be this monster in my head for so many years FOR NO REASON!😩
Seeing this video is a blessing for me, I want to be able to drive so badly, but i get so scared driving so not being in the same boat has helped my mind set so much. thank you for sharing this
AHHHHHH!!! I’m so excited for you!! Don’t think about it as a fear of driving but your just learning still. You have learn more the more you drive and get more comfortable. Your doing amazing. I developed this same mindset about driving since moving overseas and having to relearn everything. It’s subsided for the most part now that I have forced myself to do it more. Still absolutely screaming cause I’m so excited for you!!
As a 20 year old with a very similar experience to yours I’m so happy for you!! Taking my test tomorrow and this made me feel sm better ❤
Hi Kayla, I've been watching your videos for a little while and I have listened to you open up about your struggles with anxiety and I feel for you. You made me realize I may have struggled with anxiety myself as a little kid and not even known it because I would always ask myself why I felt like that, and growing up in a household where anxiety and depression was frowned upon was not making it any easier for little me. I am coming to the age where I will have to learn how to drive because of school transportation and stuff and I do have anxiety because I know I will be driving by myself immediately and feel like this anxiety is slowing me down. I pray that this growth we see in your will better your relationship with mental health and ease your anxieties and we all hope that we will hear less and less about anxiety struggles because it is getting better for you!
Hi Kayli I’ve always had the fear of driving, especially in LA because of traffic, there’s always car accidents and people who don’t know how to drive properly. I managed to get my license on the 2nd try. My advice is a little goes a long way. First, I started practicing in the metro and a park learning how to turn properly and making sure I was going the speed limit, checking for any cars/pedestrians and learn how to park. After a week or so, I started learning how to drive through the streets and or do errands. After a few weeks to a month of practice, I decided to book my appointment for my behind the wheel of exam. To my non-driving people, you got this
seeing you get your license makes me think it's time I should start practicing again since I'll be 23. Idk if I will get it before the year ends but I definitely want to get over my fear soon and seeing this def helped !!
Thank you for the video, I genuinely have a fear of driving & I always feel ashamed because of my age but I wanna get rid of it & practice driving for myself
Oh my gosh I am so proud of you!!! I know how long and hard you've been working on this and it is so amazing to see you accomplish your goals!! It inspires me to do the same with my own anxiety!! Congrats!
Watching this gave me so much confidence! I’m 18 and I’m taking my test in a few days!
I'm 18 and I got mine 2 days ago 18 isn't late getting a license
I have my license. I got it over a year ago. Your driver's license is your key to adulthood. Good luck with your driving honey!
I’m so proud of you Kayli!!!❤❤
I literally have been putting off getting my license because my anxiety about all the things I could do wrong has been out of control. but I’m happy that I’m not the only one who’s scared, especially at my big age.
I live in Switzerland and the whole process of getting the driver‘s license is very expensive. I wanted to do it at 18, I potponed it, life happend aaaand…i‘ve finally gotten it at 37 years old last October. It is NEVER too late for anything in life, please believe in yourself. The confidence gets then built over time, the freeway was an issue for me the first few months, keep practicing ❤ Please have faith in yourself, be careful and the rest will come with time. Hope this helps somebody who‘s doubting themselves right now.
23:02 YES DR MENDLER!! YOU BETTER SING KAYLI AND CONGRATS
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update! i have officially gone on the fwy in traffic and it was a 40 minute trip there and an hour back(BY MYSELF). I just had a burst of adrenaline and it was a good anxiety day so i went for it. I am A MILLLIONNNN times more comfortable and can confidently say i can drive anywhere yayayayyayayya
Are we just not going to talk about how much happier kayli has been in general lately??? Like she’s definitely been taking over her anxiety!!❤
Congrats 🎉Been a longtime coming IK. I was the exact same with waiting since 15 to get my license. Exposure therapy is so real once I started driving consistently, my driving and anxiety got better. Your whole story affirms the way I got my license, been a year now and its great. Also people commenting on your “crazy” driving then doing the exact same things while their driving is so annoying 🙄😅
You’re not the only one I’m 31. I still don’t have my license. I got into a car accident a long time ago and I’m still scared. It’s really hard to get over it.
I just got my license a few days ago and I’m 20 . I completely understand the fear but even though I’m still nervous I’m happy I got over the fear
I’m so happy and proud of you 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🩷
I got my license when I was 20 (I’m 22 now) and watching this was like watching myself go through the process of getting my license. From one anxious person to another I’m so proud of you dude!!!! People don’t understand how hard these milestones are but you did it !!! Happy and safe travels !! 🤍
Gosh I’m 19 and still don’t have mine- terrified as well. So proud of u and excited to see where you adventure off to in your car 💞
Way to go hon! I just got mine too I'm 21 I was so scared but I knew I had to! And now we did it!💓
Congrats Kayliii!! I'm so proud of u!!! I also had the fear of driving, but I got my license a few days ago, and as u, I didn't told anything to anyone. I felt so much relaxed when doing it, I felt like nobody was expecting nothing from me, so I didn't feel that preassure of my family and friends. 💗💗✨️
I literally started crying for you when you told ur mom! I've been watching u for a good while and I'm just so proud of u!!!
Dude sometimes the instructors are just so rude and anything small, they'll immediately fail u😭 I have my drivers test in 2 weeks I'm absolutely shitting myself LOL I hope my instructor will be nice😔
Did u get it
@@HeyYou-zl3dt yes lolol
Congratulations! I got mine at 21. When you're ready is fine. What others say shouldn't be a factor. Proud of you for standing up for what you felt.
well done girl! we are all so proud of you 🥰💖
Congratulations Kayli!
I first went to driving school 9 years ago, but failed the exam because of driving anxiety and gave up. I went to the driving school again 3 years later and failed again. I was so scared to even try one more time. Literally everyone I know has a license, and I’m the only one using public transport.
I’m 27 and I just got my license today on 5th try, couldn’t be happier!
I’m so proud you queen! I’m nearly 20 and I’m so close to getting my license but it still feels so far and overwhelming. It’s been a huge insecurity of mine and I’ve let control my life and self esteem. Thank you for this video, it’s the motivation I needed ❤
Im so proud of you! I loved how real this video was. Love your vids! Keep it up girl 💛
I'm so happy for you! I understand the fear and anxiety of driving. I got my license a month ago, I still didn't drive alone and it hurts because I always dream of driving, since I was little. I'm already 20 years old and I was very angry at myself for not getting my license yet, many people my age and younger did and that to me is devastating (I know the comparison is not good, I'm working on it but I can't control it) cause when I was younger driving was super easy for me, I had a lot of confidence in it and now I don't. But this video makes me feel like I can, so thank you. I'm going to try driving this week❤
Girl I an WITH YOU! I’ve never had an accident, never been pulled over, never been in an accident and I have been TERRIFIED to drive my entire life. I can’t leave my house usually unless it’s to work or an appointment that no one else can take me to. I’ve just started getting back into driving. It’s so hard girl, I feel you! We’re in this together! ❤️
So so proud of you Kayli!!!
SO PROUD OF YOU KAYLI!!!!!!!!
SO PROUD OF YOU KAYLI 😍❤️
I'm proud of you Kayli!!!
I'm 18 and working hard to learn, my parents are teaching me but it's stressful with them in the car. I'm nervous for my drivers test but hopefully I can take it after some more practice
Hi Kayli 🎉 Congratulations this such a big accomplishment! I also have a fear of driving. I got my license at 25 and it’s almost been 5 years now. I’ll never not have anxiety while driving, I’m right there with you.