I'm 22 and I plan on moving out within two to three months from now. The house is toxic and they put all the problems on me. It's definitely time to move on. Thanks for the video.
Damn its nice to hear someone else in the same place, my parents place is unbelievably toxic and it wears on me, I KNOW i need to move out, but damn the money is the only thing holding me back.
@@punjab1ify There IS someone that went through the same thing and that guy is ME! I could not stand dealing with my bitter mother and lazy brother anymore. I just finally decided I'm done with this shit and saved up about 7,000 dollars and moved to a different county. Literally one of the best things I want to do done in my life.
I studied hard to find a job and moved out at 21, now 22 and feel much happier and manlier than when I was at home with my parents. Great video as always!
Im 26 and still live with my parents. Everything you’re saying is true. Its not good for the relationship with them, makes me resentful and tense, and difficult to have thoughts and aspirations about my future. Keep telling myself that moving out wouldnt make sense because my parents already live 10 minutes from my work, but am about ready to just say fuck that convenience factor, its not worth the crippling effect its having on my development. Thanks for this vid.
You're absolutely right. I'm 27/28 and have the exact grief Elisha talks about. I'm going to move out this month or the next, as soon as I cam afford to. Good luck to you too.
Same at 27. I don't pay for anything but my health insurance and whatever i want. It's convenient its safe, but honestly it's taken it's toll. I want to live in my own, but making 11$ hourly isn't going to get me there.
I moved out one month ago and now I want to start my own company...Being alone makes you have an organized mind and new motivations, especially if you leave your old friends and harmful lifestyle back in the past
Get new friends quick tho, being alone is good for self developement but what you don’t use you lose, If you don’t make time to socialize and make friends then you might forget how do have relationships, and that sucks man.
Luckily I had parents that pushed me out so to speak. When I was 17 and dropped out and unemployed. Parents flipped out over me playing video games all day. Said no more games till I get a job. I got a job and they charged me rent. $200 a month. I went to job corps and when I got back they charged me $400 a month. I moved out for a year with a roommate for a year and came back. Now they finally charged me $800 a month. I was like screw this I can find an apartment for cheaper than the rent my parents charged. And I think that was the point. They didnt want me t ok stagnate and get too comfy living with them.
@Blackpilled Saint shut up. Your not entitled. Ever think that your parents have already provided for you need to in order to survive. They put you in this world and they can kick you out!
Going to move out this year at 24. Wanted to live at home to try to knock down some student loans but I really need to gtfo. My dating life has been nonexistent but I’ve seen major gains in every other aspect of my life.
@@dewikingdon4367 true, sometimes you can't do anything but leave. However, you can't deny the confidence one gains when they integrate themselves as a useful part of the family. In the wild, we evolved to live with our families our whole life. That's why it's so common to get anxious in large crowds when you're alone.
I’m 21 still living with my mom who’s a single mother with 5 kids and I am not planning on moving out anytime soon because we had lived in cramped shit places and I managed to find a house for us where we’re all happy and I’m of course helping her with bills and rent and buying my own stuff like shampoo detergent etc. I feel MORE of a man knowing that my mom who has struggled pretty much all her life financially can now take a breather since I’m helping.. moving out will actually make it harder for me to help her and my siblings. Now I totally agree with what you’re saying but it honestly depends on the situations.. and I of course have big dreams of moving into a big house and you know who I’m bringing with? my mom.. I don’t care what anyone says or thinks this lady has manage to put food on the table and clothes on our backs and a roof on our head she deserves it.
Israel Davis I appreciate the kind words thank you! And ain’t nothing wrong man help her out as much as you can it’s what we’re here for.. now it’s our turn! best of luck in everything you do my friend.
How was your experience moving out? I want to move out, im 21 as well and i think it will be good for your development but i also think it could be unwise to not wait until i have a stable job
@@theroots7813 how did it go? Did you move out and get a job? I'm 21 also and am planning to move out these days I don't have a job but I have enough money for a few months rent.
I just moved into my own place this week after living with my parents for several months. I can already tell that I have such a confidence boost from it. I've even noticed more women looking directly at me when walking by on the street that I wasn't noticing/getting when I was still with my parents. I think I am just carrying myself a different way and people are noticing. There is just something about living life on your own terms that we need as men. We need to leave the nest and build our own kingdom.
You do know that historically nobody left there parents home until we reach the American era. Roman men got married and added on the parents house and lived with the sons parents. I think that the problem is that we are a leech on our parents and don't take responsibl9ty for our actions. We don't have jobs b7t just rely on our parents. Even men that leave their parents home can still be iresponsible. It's all about your own responsibility, where ever you live.
The Rome thing is very much how south Asians & may be Chinese & south east asians live today too. What you say is true. But moving helps break stagnantion & gives new perspective. I have seen families who have lived for generations in the same city & thrive. I also seen once thriving large families loose everything with absolutely no catastrophy but they end a downward spiral in life, there is some of the psychological blocks they hit which acts as bad luck basically they get sucked into bad ways of thinking which actually becomes hard wired habits because you must have heard neuroplasticity works both ways.
Henry Pellinger Italian culture is still like that today. I was in Rome recently and someone said that the men typically stay with their parents into their late twenties, and are all generally laid back and not too worried about the future. Obviously you need a balance between future and now but I thought it was interesting
Lets be honest here , , no one gives a shit about their what their parents think if you stay with them forever even if your relationship with your parents is mostly neutral . The only value of living alone is that women today are materialistic to the point where they expect expensive dates + a home as a norm. And living alone would give you access to more sex. But then you think .... why doesn't she want to go on public dates with me (expensive ones) and this isn't enough to get keep her as my girlfriend .... mmmm . I'm not saying MGTOW , i'm saying fuck unnecessary expenses. Everything is a want, nothing is a need.
Yo, man! Just feel like leaving this comment. I watched this same video 1.5 years ago. At that time, I was living with my mom in a small town, and I felt the same as you described: resentment, anger, depression, addictions. I dreamt each day to move out! Now I just found this video again, and re-watched it. And I'm looking around now: I'm renting a very nice flat in the center of the capital city; I got my first full-time job; I moved to another country; learned a new language of this new country; met dozens of new friends at this new place; bought myself nice stuff I've always dreamt about with the new earned money; met a nice girl and so on. I'm much calmer now, my anger towards parents has completely gone and I feel myself a much stronger and better man! I'm 20 now, and this decision to quit parents' house 11 months ago was so far the best decision of my life! And your videos were one of the drivers, that helped me make this decision. So thank you a lot! And for those of you who are wondering should they quit the parents' nest or not - definitely do so! It will pay out so much, you can't even imagine! Thanks again Elisha!
this is exactly what I want to do. 19 years old, i have a great relationship with my parents but I gotta leave to focus on myself. Thinking of moving to colombia but you gotta be vaccinated so hopefully that’ll change soon. Good luck brother!
Here I am, 2 years later. I’ve accomplished everything I wanted in my previous city: promoted at high paying job; saved up a lot of money, lost a lot in crypto, saved up even more; a relationship for 1 year with a beautiful girl that loved me so much; great friends circle; even better apartment at the center of that capital city - lived alone there for 7 month and took care of everything; quit social media and partying; started exercising daily and put on 10kg of muscles; learned so much about women and became confident af; travel to 10+ countries in Europe; built great connections with people. Now I decided to sacrifice it all, and move to the US completely. And I’m right at square 1: living with my sister’s family this time. Surrounded by kids; no freedom; resentment creeps in. I feel angry time to time and misunderstood. I was working on a business idea this past month. And that could work out sure. But I can’t be sacrificing any more freedom. It sucks like nothing else. Thanks Elisha. I watched your video once again. And I think freedom is worth paying any price for it. It’s time I get back to living alone and having life on my own terms. Fuck convenience of home. Give me challenges, because they make me better, and most importantly, they make me smile. See you in the comment section in 2 years.
I moved from my parents house at the age of 22. The final 3-4 years at my parents was extremely frustrating and I have to say I still feel a lot of anger and bitterness towards my mother. My mother basically forced me to stay living at their house. She constantly warned me about incoming financial difficulties and all the chores I had to do at my own apartment. Every time I told her I was looking for an apartment she cussed at me and told me that it wasn't the right time for that. My father was indifferent and didn't care wether I moved out or not. I already had my own job. A stressfull one too. I worked long hours (sometimes even 16h days) so I needed my own routines. I couldn't follow the schedule of the rest of the family. A simple thing like meal time caused friction with my mother. I didn't want to force myself to eat when I wasn't hungry. So we developed huge fights over these simple issues because I was extremely tired from work and because she was overprotective. I began looking for apartments without my mom's knowledge and when I found one, I just signed the rental contract and moved out. My mom was furious for a time but I think even she knows that that was the only good choice. Moving out lifted a huge boulder off my shoulders and I now feel like an independent human being. While I was living at my parents house I felt ashamed for living there when all my colleaques had moved on like adults should. I recommend everyone to take this step before I do. If you are over 18 and daily have to fight with your mother, just move. I'm still angry and bitter and that's why I havent visited my mother any more that I have to.
23 now, I've been travelling and mostly living alone for the past 5 years. I'm back in my hometown and currently living with my grandparents while finishing my studies. Honestly, I am really appreciative and grateful of the whole process. I feel like I've gotten to know myself in the past years, but It's nice being back and spending time with them, as I know they don't have as much time left as I do. I understand moving out is important, but as someone whose recently moved back in, I find your opinion, while valid, situational. I also can't relate to the anger you've mentioned multiple times in this video, perhaps it is your emotional response of being in a toxic/negative environment. As for me, travelling was life changing, leaving with nothing but a backpack. I've been on many adventures and I've seen how different this subject is culturally (especially in Asia). You are no less of a man if you still live with your family. Personal experience and mindset are essential to your development as a human being and so I believe that your advice should be to broaden your horizons, confront your problems, and learn how to overcome them and use what you've learned to mature as a person.
Hey man it's inspiring to hear you traveled by yourself for so long :) Could you tell us a bit about where you went and for how long? I would also like to do something similar
@@mazapanputrefacto3299 Sure. I've went to Thailand around 5 times, the Philippines 2 times, Myanmar 2 times, and I've road tripped most of Canada (Quebec to British Columbia) 3 times, one time by hitchhiking with a backpack and a hammock. My trips ranged from 1 months to 6 months. Coming back to my hometown to work, see family and friends and enjoying the beauty of my region of the world. I was younger and working minimum wage, and practically saving all of my earnings to finance my next trips. Now I finished my studies and earning a lot more, but I still intend on travelling around 6 months per year if possible (covid19 is kind of a bummer right now) I'm planning on leaving to Thailand as soon as the borders open as my girlfriend lives there currently, and I've made a lot of friends over there, I really like the culture and I'm learning the language right now. As advice for a fellow traveller it really depends on your intentions/current situation. I have a Canadian passport and can travel to many countries with no visa/little effort, while its a lot harder for my girlfriend to come to visit here. So first I would look up which countries are easy to go to with your current passport. Then I guess I would personally save up and determine a date I would like to go, but you could also look for a work visa if you're looking to stay longer in another country while still earning money. You'll make a ton of friends along the way, especially if you have a passion (I rock climb). I would avoid hotels/resorts if possible, I've slept in my hammock and my car, I've slept at friends houses, at decent hostels, couchsurf. But yeah, I'm not quite sure what else to recommend, it really depends on your intentions, where you want to go and what you want to do. I'm definetly forgetting a bunch of things so just ask any questions and I'll try my best to answer them. Have a good night, or a good day. All the Love, all the Power. Nick
@@nickjason4480 Wow! My heart kinda raced when I read all the places you've traveled to haha. I've always been irrationally scared of traveling, leaving home... But lately I've been getting super excited about visiting new places :) (in particular south america and south east asia Could I ask you some questions about your traveling? 1. I'm quite shy and speaking to strangers is a challenge for me haha, do you find that traveling would help with that? I would love to meet new people while I travel but I'm scared that fear will just hold me back. 2. How did you plan your trips? Let's say you had a month to travel to Thailand, would you reserve hostels, train tickets, plan a route... Or would you improvise? Thanks a lot for answering! I hope to travel sometime next year (if corona allows it) :)
@@mazapanputrefacto3299 Ouch, I've totally missed your reply for a whole year... I hope you got to get some travelling done since then! Little update on my situation: I've been living with my wife in Thailand for the last 7 months! 1. I'm definitely not a people's person either, but travelling leaves you no other option but to interact with others and get out of your comfort bubble. Plus no one will ever see you again (except the really cool people that you meet!) So it's an opportunity of self discovery and a chance to reinvent yourself in a way. 2. As for my trips, I generally had no solid plans. I would wake up one morning and decide I've had enough of my monotonous routine and I would start a deadline. For example I would tell everyone around me that I was going to travel next month. It left me enough time to mentally prepare myself, but let me no option to back down. It always felt unreal as the last few days past by, "Am I really doing this?" However scary or anxious it made me feel at times, I've never regretted any of my travels, and I've always learned valuable life lessons along the way. The bottom line is that everyone is different and you simply have to find what works for yourself. It's a self discovering journey and you will learn a lot about yourself as you go on these different adventures. I definitely recommend going to travel and discover the world to whoever musters the courage to take the first steps to changing their lives. It can be done even in these wretched plagued times, albeit a lot more planning is required. As for money, I know it can be a huge problem for some, but if there's a will, there is always a way. Best of health, Nick
I'm turning 27 in 2 weeks time and I still live at home. I have a full time job, have a side hustle and never ask for money from either of my parents. My parents are separated so my dad does not live with us. I have 2 siblings as well. I look after myself - wash my own clothes, sometimes cook my own food, although my mum loves cooking as she's a dedicated housewife. Our relationship in the household is very healthy. Everyone has such a happy and positive attitude and we hardly argue. When my dad was living with us, there would be a lot of negative energy which is why we had to make him leave. I contribute to the household financially and everything works for us as a family. If you have a healthy home and everyone has set healthy boundaries, then it's not necessary for you to move out but if my house was chaotic and negative, then I would have left a long time ago. However, I have to make this point, if you live at home and you have a healthy relationship with your family, you still have to do stuff for yourself and be self sufficient. I'm very blessed to have a healthy, loving family. I know that is not the case for a lot of people. Only move if you are suffering and not growing in your current home, otherwise it's unnecessary in my humble opinion. Keep doing your thing Elisha, love this channel!
The whole moving thing is ENTIRELY situational. Taking care of your family no matter how you do it is the manliest thing you could do. The video made it seem like there was no worth being at home past 18.
Been watching your videos for the past month and it's given me the courage to start feeling better. I moved out on my own when I was 20 and now going on 22. Although life is still a pain the ass, I'm learning to let go of the anger and resentment I had all along. These past few months have been spent by adjusting to this lifestyle and becoming "responsible". It's hard guys. But with enough patience & dedication within yourself, you'll soon start to see yourself progressing into the person YOU WANT TO BECOME. Your words and advice have helped out so far whenever I doubt myself and I start to feel like shit. thanks man, I really appreciate it.
I have a different perspective on this topic my friend, i am so grateful & blessed to have such wonderful parents. I’m willing to spend as much time as possible with them knowing that im growing up fast and they are growing old. Only one life has been offered to me to know then after that we all are just gone to nothingness. Also would like to add i do pay for most of my expenses and get my own food to make, I do watch all your videos and you they have added alot of value to my life. Thanks brother cheers
Theres never a perfect time to move out, you got to make the leap. I moved out when I was 20. Only reason is I went on vacation over the summer, and ended up getting a job and living in that city. I didn't have any of my material things and still made it. You will see how do-able it is once your on your own. Good luck brothers.
I'm a 16 Filipino Teenager, and honestly "leaving home" is the only thing I can really imagine now. I really hate the fact that I am dependent on someone
Very right about this! I’ve witnessed this myself, and I like the talk about the hero’s journey, because it is about moving out of the comfort zone and what is known. Adaptability and maturity.
This is one of your most insightful videos and I really connected to the points made. However, I don't view "living at home" as the critical issue, if you spend most of your day outside and use the family home simply as a place to sleep then you'll develop just fine.
There’s definitely more nuance to the issue of living at home. I think there are subconscious “triggers” living at home with your parents that affect the individual. Like for myself I’ve noticed when my parents aren’t home, I’m able to get done everything i had planned for that day. If one of my parents is home I noticed my plan deteriorates. I’m not blaming them, because of my action/inaction but after noticing it I understand what I have to do. On the contrary i know a dude who bought a house and is working from home while living with his parents. So it comes down to how you function in that environment.
@@punjab1ify I strongly agree with your "subconscious triggers" point of being a little more suppressed by the energy of parents. But when you have kids you have to be attentive to them and put yourself second. So the liberating empowering feeling of clarity you get when living away isn't necessarily fulfilling over a long time period.
I love you did this. I lost a relationship to a man who had an adult 25 year old son who stayed and never left home. When I suggested helping him move I was told off. He was so weakened by the enabling. It was so toxic and not going to be a part of my life. My adult children are functioning. It was ridiculous the excuses and sad
I've had people try to guilt trip me for moving out of my mom's house because I'm supposed to be taking care of her. Seems like no matter what you do, you're wrong.
17 and just moved out like 9 months ago and I don’t think I’ve ever seen so much self growth and awareness from myself and your vids are nothing but truth and well said
Ouch. That's steep. I pay 1100 for my 1br but there are studios in the ghetto for 5-600 a month here in S, Florida. Then again there are 4BR houses for rent in the swamps in central FL for 600. All depends where you live. But 2k a month I'd want to move unless work was really good there. Like 80k+ good. Only way I'd see paying 2k for an entry level apartment.
Much easier said than done. You spend a lot of time putting people down for bad habits and lifestyle choices rather than truly breaking down how to move out, becoming financially stable, etc. I’d reckon that type of advice is a lot more valuable rather than rambling on about how bad people who live at home are doing. I agree, moving out is the best way to learn responsibility and become an independent man but this could have been communicated much more effectively. Easy to say “just figure it out”. Let’s consider people who were born in cities with rent costing 1.5k-2k alone. Most people are in college until they’re 22- already having debt on your plate and introducing more costs into your life might not be the brightest idea. Props to you for moving out but there are various circumstances that simply make it unreasonably difficult- almost impossible without a high paying income
PAUL ALLEN this video is not for financial education. He’s just encouraging men to be aware of the consequences of being comfortable with living with your parents for more than necessary. Well as a man you can figure it out on your own how youre gonna go about leaving home, but what we’re saying is that be aware, and dont be comfortable.
Moved out of our home last year August at 23, it put me on deathground - best thing ever. I've learnt more in 6 months than I have for six years, So the hero's journey continues. You'll never be ready if you keep postponing 'inorder to accumulate enough money to move out'.
Best decision I made was moving out. Started cooking and working out and feel so comfortable within my own SPACE. Don’t know how to explain it but living alone is so necessary. Dont bother with a roommate cuz you need to build your own fortress. Love my family but it’s so important to be out by at most 23-25
Female here. I have a neighbor that lives across the street. He is 36 years old and still lives at home wlth his mother. She cooks all of his meals and most likely does his laundry. This guy does not look like a mama's boy at all, yet he obviously is. He is handsome and masculine looking and yet, not only does he still live at home, but he and his mother do EVERYTHING together. Almost like a married couple. It is quite baffling to see. I don't understand how any man that age would still want to live at home with his mother, as if it is normal. It's not. As you say, it's crippling. Men who stay at home too long become mama's boys and then it makes it impossible for them to get into a healthy relationship with a woman, because when us women see this dynamic, we run for the hills.
@@oscarperez5539 His mother had him very late in life and now she is a widow. Yes, he probably stays out of obligation to "take care" of his mother. You see, it's a sad situation, because a man can have everything going for him. If he still lives at home with his parents, he might have a great job. He might even be taking over the mortgage payments. He might be paying for all the food. He could have every great quality that a man can have. Yet, it's hard for them to establish a serious relationship with a woman that leads all the way to marriage. The reason why is because the women these guys meet already know that if they marry this guy, they are also marrying his mother. She is always going to be involved in the marriage. She will always be around. A wife does not want this. She wants to have independence and privacy in her marriage and in her home. She does not want to live in her mother in law's "domain" and she does not want her mother in law coming to live in her domain and take it over with full authority of the "mother". That is why these guys remain single, regardless of how many great qualities they may have. Their mothers are literally blocking their blessings and standing in the way of of them having a healthy autonomous life and romance of their own.
Bro… so many words of wisdom in one video!! Truly inspiring! I am working on my Master right now living at home and am 22. After I finish my masters next august I will be moving out at 23 moving to Lousiville with a major job opportunity already lined up. Super pumped and excited. Your awesome, thank you so much for these words of wisdom brother!!!
I left home for school, to pursue a degree which none of the colleges in my city offers. Of course my parents still pay for my school, rent and food but living on my own has taught me that life isnt as i was taught when i was under my parents guidance. Our parents dont expose us to the truth of what life really is, and what it really means to become a real man of value, but its almost like we’re taught and brought up to become and act in a way that makes us acceptable to the world. Im happy I made the decision to leave.
You’ve hit so many points. I truly relate to what you said. Truely i want to be happy, and find myself as a individual. To finally know what to do with my life. Know who I am without certain people. I have a good feeling about this. Thank you 🙏🏼
Im 20 and my parents are extremely religious and it puts a ton of stress on me having to fake having “faith” to please them. I live in an extremely expensive area but i am very motivated to leave this situation as soon as I financially can.
I'm 19 I've been workin on getting moved out myself. Worked out all my expenses two weeks ago and I'm gonna be 7 dollars short every month lol. But I'm makeing it happen.
bro im 19 aswell, i understand that its gonna be a struggle. are you a college student? if yes check if your uni/college/school offers student apartments anywhere, they're bare cheap. Personally, I decided to get a job and save up for 2 months and then get a sick place to myself after being stuck in a really toxic household and a small room.
@@boolin8405Same deal here bro. I ain't a college student so I've been saving up for my own place, got two jobs and a new side hustle goin on too. Hopefully that will help with the last few dollars hahaha
@Thot Slayer those aren't risks those were bad decisions lol he shouldn't have borrowed money from the gov. i'm also sober so it's a different experience for me cause i have no distractions. but if u stay in one place you stay in one place for the rest of your life. gotta take the next step
I’m 17 and I can’t wait to move out my parents won’t let me go anywhere they literally keep me at home all day I just want to be with my friends I’ve been saving money to move out when I’m 18 and I’m going to move with a friend in another state we are going to split the bills (he lives in Texas)
Wow! I'm 34 I live with my parents which is normal here. But what's not normal is I'm housebound, socially Isolated, never been in a relationship, no friends. I am dependent on my parents for my bills and extravangence. In all of my I've only been away from them for 9 months. I have had hard time holding onto jobs because bascially I have problem with my relationships with women. I have gone from extremely shy to creepy. I avoid life and hide at home just so that my creepiness stays with me. I'm miserable and literally losing it but I'm unable to change even though I know it's killing me. I have these wild thoughts, I wanted to leave the house to wander off into the oblivion because I was so living in my head. I thought nobody would get my problem and it was painful to explain. I wanted to become a monk, a Sadhu in the Himalayas because I wanted to get in touch with myself when I was unable to communicate with others. These days I'm just just taking care of my body and I've seen many therapists but they don't help me much as much as My running, Swimming & martial arts classes does. Often times I get depressed watching my peers well settled and younger people succeed in life like it's a walk in park thing. While I struggle to even have a conversation. My mind takes me to this vision of me wandering mad in the Himalayas. Perhaps someday sitting under a tree. That's all I can see. But getting out, to a new town and getting job where I will be asked questions by colleauges and peers freaks me out!
You gotta change your life and if you still have problems u HAVE to get on medication for at least temporary. I'm now working again a travel job with room cut off losers finding good people feel happy n calm a lot and while skills helped getting medicine for pain n mental issues is the main thing that let me reach my goals. I didn't realize how depressed n shitty felt for nothin until I got help it also sounds like u have severe trauma like me n I'm a mental health advocate n tbh sounds like u have ADHD and either autism or a hypo manic episode that severe stress n laziness can cause ive had hypomanis before n other problems that made me non functional ik what it's like to be crazy
I am 18, and I already feel like moving out, I know that it's currently hard for me as an 18 year old with no plan, but I know how important it is to separate yourself from your parents at some point in your life to develop as a man. Struggling is the best way to change and become better.
Thanks for this inspirational video dude! It helps a lot knowing I'm not the only one going through (or who went through) this phase. Everything you said about putting this off is spot on, I can't wait to move out and learn to be self-sufficient!
My only advice is if you have the support system, then use it to your advantage. Use your resources to better yourself and prepare for your next step. One of the worst things you can do is rush yourself into a position where you’re struggling more than “becoming a man.” There’s a difference between growing up into maturity while being smart about it VS just doing stuff to prove something to another person.
Glad you mentioned weed and video games. Most women find that behavior repulsive in grown men. We want a man who goes out in the world and makes things happen. Not some porn-sick, weed smoking gaming addict who won't clean his own place or do his own laundry.
It's just nice to have found this channel, just to know that I'm not alone in the choices I'm facing, and thoughts I'm having. Make's me feel less crazy.
@@ElishaLong We all live a different life man we are already in the real world if you dont have kids theres no problem living with your parents as long as you help out. As for the anger ppl are always gong to be angry in life man even. If we leave or not some ppl can make a income from home cause most places are expensive to stay at anyways. Since when does getting out of the house mean your a man c'mon dude if your already making the money your already set in life for survival man.
I left home at 19 traveled all around SE Asia. Now I'm 20 living in Vietnam teaching English. I've learned so much in a year it's unbelievable, the biggest thing is realizing you can do literally anything if you put in some effort
Moved out at 18 and never looked back! Sometimes I'm a little jealous of the family bonding my friends who live at home get, but ultimately was able to grow and be more of my own man.
I’m planning on moving after college is done. I’m living in an apartment that is paid by my parents. I just want to live completely independently. I want to get out of the small town I’m from to the big city. I know I can do it.
My dad died when I was 18, I still live with my mom, I’m turning 22 soon. I feel like I don’t care to move out tbh. I value her and the time with her way too much after losing my dad to just move out and be on my own and not be around her frequently. I respectfully disagree with some of the stuff you’re saying. You can develop properly and face life even if you live with your parents, it’s just a choice. They’re not the ones making you play video games or smoke pot as you mentioned.
The reason you became a man was because your father died. Sometimes a fathers death doesn’t need to be physically, it can represent symbolically also. You can disagree but don’t forget it’s from his experience. He’s sharing it and if anyone can relate to him it’ll help them get their act together. So you kinda can’t disagree, doesn’t make sense. But hope is all going well stay strong !
I'm 19, about to move out in a month, staying at my dads for now and even now, doing those independent tasks of grocery shopping, laundry, clean, work. been doing a few of those things before this but to be on my own, I'm excited for this next part of my life.
@@oscarperez5539 Hello, I'm still living in my basement apartment, took me a few months to actually get the proper things for my , bed frame, garbage can. I say that because I just got those two things recently. Money is good, always been good with money. I saved a ton but that also means I sacrificed a lot of my time to work and well being. You can't ever have something and lose something at the same time. I took time this week off, I never do that. but I'm learning a lot since I moved and started learning work/life balance. It showed in my apartment (messy) but I'm learning balance is the key to everything and you lose something sometimes and that's how it works. This living alone as a young teen/aduit did make me feel like I was living like the character from good hill hunting for awhile. I'm in good shape mentally and physically now though. Ask me any questions.
Your so right bro ! I’m 27 still live at home I’m in school for Hvac trade. And I work full time as a janitor I hate my job the people there. I want to move out and be a man . And feel like a man that can do what he wants to do.
it's not easy moving out, I am 29 and still living with my parents. After high school I got a job and started to help out my parents because they were having financial problems, while I was helping them out I was also saving up money for an education... I didnt know what it was going to be but I know I wanted one. I just got my degree on computer science last month and I am applying for I.T. Jobs left and right. The plan for me right now is to get a job, pay off my the little student loans I have to pay (about 10k) save some money (enough for a down payment) and move out. I will also need money to buy furniture and such for the place but I don't think I will need more than 5-6k for a single guy. I also know how to drive and have a license but I do not own a vehicle, I like public transit and it's available everywhere where I live... I will however purchase a tesla in the next 2~3 years after they become more affordable. if you are in a similar situation as me I don't judge you guys, I do pay my own bills and so on... I know many people that have gone homeless after a couple of months of moving out, and some people barely dodging it. If you have a stable job or a job and an education go ahead and move out... if you don't think you are ready moving out will just add more anxiety to you. PS... I am also want to point out I am from a Hispanic family and cultural wise they are MUCH different than here in north america. I remember back home around 2001 I had uncles and aunts still living with my grandparents. Some of them lived with them in their 30s 40s until they think its time. I know it's weird but it is what it is...
I moved two weeks ago and it’s partially because of this video. I feel really good and I notice that I do love my parents more than I did when I stayed with them. I get happy when my mom or dad calls me. Plus I don’t feel as lazy I’m eating super clean and working out 💪 lol Good luck to all of you!
i moved out at age 25 to sd california. great experiences and tons of life channging benefits...i moved back home and got comfortable again...never go back. trust me. its easy living with parents.. (I am27 Now) I pay nothing living under their roof.. they pay for my food i eat(fruits and veggies etc. the goods) and i am grateful for them doing that but there is absolute no growth(currently practicing semen retention: on day 130-crazy i know!) but i have awaken to go back out again either to calif or florida.. i love my personal space and new opptortunity, new experiences and challenges..SEEK TO MOVE OUT, SEEK NEWNESS, ALWAYS HOLD ONTO YOUR CURIOUSITY...Trust me.
I understand messages like this but I've seen it all the time with others who are in college. They end up getting very bad grades and dont reach their full potential cause they are always working and are tired from it(to pay for their housing). I think this way of life is for those who want to make a living in trade jobs as you can easily make money fast and as the years go by you will be making bank. But for college goers I think it's best to not risk anything that will affect the grades and mental state as worrying about classes is already dreadful. In the end people become juggernauts in their own way. Best of luck to anyone doing this.
I have moved from parents home when I was 19. Moved from Lithuania to UK, completely on my own. Later brother moved in with me, felt like I was back home. Now just moved away after 8 years, time to grow again.
You don't grow as a person staying home with your parents, especially if your parents are old school, overbearing, abusive and controlling, sooner or later you are going to want to have your own place. I moved back home after college after living on my own and i do feel like i became depressed, anger, and started developing bad habits again. I've been trying to look for work, but it has been hard, once all of the craziness ends, i hopefully can get a job, and move out of my parents house again and resume my journey and growth.
I’m 25. I’ve lived with my grandmother for 6 years now. I’ve finally gotten my priorities straight and am on track to have $10,000 savings emergency fund by August. That’s when I’m moving out :D
Having a stepmom helped me to get out and live alone at 20 i couldn't take it no more and i remember a lot of my dad's friends was all telling me to stay because it was too risky thank God i didn't listen to them,it wasn't easy because i did it by my own not even a dollar from someone things was really difficult on the financial plus stress but with time i was getting use to and i really feel that i made it in the big way im so comfortable with my self now living alone for almost 7 years
Im 17 and I stayed at a hotel for a while with my mom while our home was being changed. Shit was wicked I felt so free,I went outside and got myself lost EVERYDAY,whereas I usually just stay inside. C
I get your message! although think about it: 3/4500 (650 dollars) = 1500 (225 dollars), 1/2500 = 2500 (375 dollars, for one room apartment) , my mom pays the rent and I pay for the food (unspoken rule) , but it accidently happen that way , as the bills drain ALL of my moms income while I got disposable income , bills ALWAYS should be shared especially considering the prices aren't going down, quite on the contrary! fyi I found your channel through Captain Sinbad, which I also found recently. Kudos to one of the most thought-provoking channels seen in a while (Captain Sinbad channel is also really good , yours is just more thought-provoking imo)
Im a week from moving out. Its going to be so dope. You also become your own person more when you travel, thats only temporary though when you get back you eventually get pushed back into the box.
Left the nest at 21, and couldn't agree more. You become more responsible, and all rounded. You're better able to take care of your self and home. Also, gets you to realize how much you shouldn't waste your money on women who don't bring any substance into your life cuz now you can do the domestic stuff; cook and clean, and go out and work hard. Leave the nest fellas, take the leap and learn how to fly.
i still live with my parents. I'm taking care of myself doing dishes.. I have full time job working 10years. save almost 30k. sometimes I said that I wanna leave home. But they don't want me to leave! btw..great talk.
Thank you so much, As a woman this even helped. I’ve been feeling wrong for resenting my Mom in these ways but I’m relieved to know that it will go away once I do.
it's also up to parents to train kids for the real world and to mentor them to be there best self which is our school system completely does not do. Train kids to become responsible providers and train them in things like social skills, relationships, finances so that they can stand up on there own two feet and tackle the world by themselves for themselves. As life goes on there are going to be a number of challenges people face and they need to be best prepared to tackle every situation that is put in front of them.
I can’t believe I am just now seeing your video. Everything your saying is hitting a sore spot. Shit I am literally siting in the greyhound bus station and type in the search box, leaving home for good. Wow
Elisha Long idk, all Ik is that I’m heading back to Rochester, Ny, where i am from and Ik it will be hard times, with living on the streets and all, basically like starting all over again with nothing. No car no job at 26 years old I find myself alone agin.
I'm 22 and I plan on moving out within two to three months from now. The house is toxic and they put all the problems on me. It's definitely time to move on. Thanks for the video.
Nick Johnson crazy that I’m in the same situation. If it helps, know there’s someone else going thru the same thing.
@@punjab1ify Thanks. We will get through this bro💯💯
Same bro
Damn its nice to hear someone else in the same place, my parents place is unbelievably toxic and it wears on me, I KNOW i need to move out, but damn the money is the only thing holding me back.
@@punjab1ify There IS someone that went through the same thing and that guy is ME! I could not stand dealing with my bitter mother and lazy brother anymore. I just finally decided I'm done with this shit and saved up about 7,000 dollars and moved to a different county. Literally one of the best things I want to do done in my life.
im tired of constant anxiety, no friends, no girls, depression, etc. IM GONNA DO SOMETHING WITH MY LIFE BOIS
How's it going so far?
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yeah hows it been>?
Full send 😎
What’s good
I studied hard to find a job and moved out at 21, now 22 and feel much happier and manlier than when I was at home with my parents.
Great video as always!
Right behind yah.
Im 26 and still live with my parents. Everything you’re saying is true. Its not good for the relationship with them, makes me resentful and tense, and difficult to have thoughts and aspirations about my future. Keep telling myself that moving out wouldnt make sense because my parents already live 10 minutes from my work, but am about ready to just say fuck that convenience factor, its not worth the crippling effect its having on my development. Thanks for this vid.
You're absolutely right. I'm 27/28 and have the exact grief Elisha talks about. I'm going to move out this month or the next, as soon as I cam afford to. Good luck to you too.
@@hacktivator812 good luck mate
Why would you avoid your parents?
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Same at 27. I don't pay for anything but my health insurance and whatever i want. It's convenient its safe, but honestly it's taken it's toll. I want to live in my own, but making 11$ hourly isn't going to get me there.
I moved out one month ago and now I want to start my own company...Being alone makes you have an organized mind and new motivations, especially if you leave your old friends and harmful lifestyle back in the past
Get new friends quick tho, being alone is good for self developement but what you don’t use you lose, If you don’t make time to socialize and make friends then you might forget how do have relationships, and that sucks man.
Hire me and i will move from my parents house
@@Kruton3 that's really good advice 👍
How’s it goin man?
How it going my man? Love to hear an update!
Luckily I had parents that pushed me out so to speak. When I was 17 and dropped out and unemployed. Parents flipped out over me playing video games all day. Said no more games till I get a job. I got a job and they charged me rent. $200 a month. I went to job corps and when I got back they charged me $400 a month. I moved out for a year with a roommate for a year and came back. Now they finally charged me $800 a month. I was like screw this I can find an apartment for cheaper than the rent my parents charged. And I think that was the point. They didnt want me t ok stagnate and get too comfy living with them.
You're parents did you a favor
They should give that rent back by now if they just wanted you to move out
Joshua Webb I don’t wanna be that guy but your parents were doing the right thing
YKSGelato yeah bro you helped them out with the money you could rent is not cheap.
@Blackpilled Saint shut up. Your not entitled. Ever think that your parents have already provided for you need to in order to survive. They put you in this world and they can kick you out!
Going to move out this year at 24. Wanted to live at home to try to knock down some student loans but I really need to gtfo. My dating life has been nonexistent but I’ve seen major gains in every other aspect of my life.
Any updates?
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You and me both, I’m 24 and I need to get out of here. I don’t get to do what I want.
Well said Elisha, we have to "break up with our parents" and leave the nest.
Dan Blizerian fuck yeah dude agreed. I feel the same.
It seems kinda unnatural to live alone doesn’t it?
Chase Matthews not if ur parents are a negative impact in your life
@@dewikingdon4367 true, sometimes you can't do anything but leave. However, you can't deny the confidence one gains when they integrate themselves as a useful part of the family. In the wild, we evolved to live with our families our whole life. That's why it's so common to get anxious in large crowds when you're alone.
@Dan Blizerian yes move out for good
I’m 21 still living with my mom who’s a single mother with 5 kids and I am not planning on moving out anytime soon because we had lived in cramped shit places and I managed to find a house for us where we’re all happy and I’m of course helping her with bills and rent and buying my own stuff like shampoo detergent etc. I feel MORE of a man knowing that my mom who has struggled pretty much all her life financially can now take a breather since I’m helping.. moving out will actually make it harder for me to help her and my siblings. Now I totally agree with what you’re saying but it honestly depends on the situations.. and I of course have big dreams of moving into a big house and you know who I’m bringing with? my mom.. I don’t care what anyone says or thinks this lady has manage to put food on the table and clothes on our backs and a roof on our head she deserves it.
julio lopez your a strong man and your doing the right thing hang in there brother :D
Keep griding brother ! I pay bills at my mom's crib to
slayer gabe thank you for the support means a lot! Sending blessings your way.
Israel Davis I appreciate the kind words thank you! And ain’t nothing wrong man help her out as much as you can it’s what we’re here for.. now it’s our turn! best of luck in everything you do my friend.
@@juliolopez-py3fd thanks big dawg that's true that's what we are here for ! Blessing to you and in everything you do my friend !
Well said elisha . I moved out when i was 21 . It's been 1 year already ; time flew .
How was your experience moving out? I want to move out, im 21 as well and i think it will be good for your development but i also think it could be unwise to not wait until i have a stable job
@@theroots7813 how did it go? Did you move out and get a job? I'm 21 also and am planning to move out these days I don't have a job but I have enough money for a few months rent.
@@viktorkovac3936 Find a long lasting job first with a good pay before you move out. Word to the wise
I just moved into my own place this week after living with my parents for several months. I can already tell that I have such a confidence boost from it. I've even noticed more women looking directly at me when walking by on the street that I wasn't noticing/getting when I was still with my parents. I think I am just carrying myself a different way and people are noticing. There is just something about living life on your own terms that we need as men. We need to leave the nest and build our own kingdom.
You do know that historically nobody left there parents home until we reach the American era. Roman men got married and added on the parents house and lived with the sons parents. I think that the problem is that we are a leech on our parents and don't take responsibl9ty for our actions. We don't have jobs b7t just rely on our parents. Even men that leave their parents home can still be iresponsible. It's all about your own responsibility, where ever you live.
The Rome thing is very much how south Asians & may be Chinese & south east asians live today too. What you say is true. But moving helps break stagnantion & gives new perspective. I have seen families who have lived for generations in the same city & thrive. I also seen once thriving large families loose everything with absolutely no catastrophy but they end a downward spiral in life, there is some of the psychological blocks they hit which acts as bad luck basically they get sucked into bad ways of thinking which actually becomes hard wired habits because you must have heard neuroplasticity works both ways.
Then you don't have to leave forever if you love your parents like that. BUt I do agree a man needs time on his own to fully grow.
Henry Pellinger Italian culture is still like that today. I was in Rome recently and someone said that the men typically stay with their parents into their late twenties, and are all generally laid back and not too worried about the future. Obviously you need a balance between future and now but I thought it was interesting
Lets be honest here , , no one gives a shit about their what their parents think if you stay with them forever even if your relationship with your parents is mostly neutral .
The only value of living alone is that women today are materialistic to the point where they expect expensive dates + a home as a norm. And living alone would give you access to more sex.
But then you think .... why doesn't she want to go on public dates with me (expensive ones) and this isn't enough to get keep her as my girlfriend .... mmmm .
I'm not saying MGTOW , i'm saying fuck unnecessary expenses. Everything is a want, nothing is a need.
@@noobiewatcherz9938 I see where you've gone with this. It's a good idea. But man has his needs.
Yo, man! Just feel like leaving this comment.
I watched this same video 1.5 years ago. At that time, I was living with my mom in a small town, and I felt the same as you described: resentment, anger, depression, addictions. I dreamt each day to move out!
Now I just found this video again, and re-watched it. And I'm looking around now: I'm renting a very nice flat in the center of the capital city; I got my first full-time job; I moved to another country; learned a new language of this new country; met dozens of new friends at this new place; bought myself nice stuff I've always dreamt about with the new earned money; met a nice girl and so on. I'm much calmer now, my anger towards parents has completely gone and I feel myself a much stronger and better man!
I'm 20 now, and this decision to quit parents' house 11 months ago was so far the best decision of my life! And your videos were one of the drivers, that helped me make this decision. So thank you a lot!
And for those of you who are wondering should they quit the parents' nest or not - definitely do so! It will pay out so much, you can't even imagine!
Thanks again Elisha!
this is exactly what I want to do. 19 years old, i have a great relationship with my parents but I gotta leave to focus on myself. Thinking of moving to colombia but you gotta be vaccinated so hopefully that’ll change soon. Good luck brother!
@@seb.htc906 go for it man! You’re life is about to get so much more exciting and fulfilling!!
Here I am, 2 years later. I’ve accomplished everything I wanted in my previous city: promoted at high paying job; saved up a lot of money, lost a lot in crypto, saved up even more; a relationship for 1 year with a beautiful girl that loved me so much; great friends circle; even better apartment at the center of that capital city - lived alone there for 7 month and took care of everything; quit social media and partying; started exercising daily and put on 10kg of muscles; learned so much about women and became confident af; travel to 10+ countries in Europe; built great connections with people.
Now I decided to sacrifice it all, and move to the US completely. And I’m right at square 1: living with my sister’s family this time. Surrounded by kids; no freedom; resentment creeps in. I feel angry time to time and misunderstood.
I was working on a business idea this past month. And that could work out sure. But I can’t be sacrificing any more freedom. It sucks like nothing else.
Thanks Elisha. I watched your video once again. And I think freedom is worth paying any price for it. It’s time I get back to living alone and having life on my own terms. Fuck convenience of home. Give me challenges, because they make me better, and most importantly, they make me smile.
See you in the comment section in 2 years.
I moved from my parents house at the age of 22. The final 3-4 years at my parents was extremely frustrating and I have to say I still feel a lot of anger and bitterness towards my mother.
My mother basically forced me to stay living at their house. She constantly warned me about incoming financial difficulties and all the chores I had to do at my own apartment. Every time I told her I was looking for an apartment she cussed at me and told me that it wasn't the right time for that.
My father was indifferent and didn't care wether I moved out or not.
I already had my own job. A stressfull one too. I worked long hours (sometimes even 16h days) so I needed my own routines. I couldn't follow the schedule of the rest of the family. A simple thing like meal time caused friction with my mother. I didn't want to force myself to eat when I wasn't hungry. So we developed huge fights over these simple issues because I was extremely tired from work and because she was overprotective.
I began looking for apartments without my mom's knowledge and when I found one, I just signed the rental contract and moved out. My mom was furious for a time but I think even she knows that that was the only good choice.
Moving out lifted a huge boulder off my shoulders and I now feel like an independent human being. While I was living at my parents house I felt ashamed for living there when all my colleaques had moved on like adults should.
I recommend everyone to take this step before I do. If you are over 18 and daily have to fight with your mother, just move. I'm still angry and bitter and that's why I havent visited my mother any more that I have to.
23 now, I've been travelling and mostly living alone for the past 5 years. I'm back in my hometown and currently living with my grandparents while finishing my studies. Honestly, I am really appreciative and grateful of the whole process. I feel like I've gotten to know myself in the past years, but It's nice being back and spending time with them, as I know they don't have as much time left as I do. I understand moving out is important, but as someone whose recently moved back in, I find your opinion, while valid, situational. I also can't relate to the anger you've mentioned multiple times in this video, perhaps it is your emotional response of being in a toxic/negative environment. As for me, travelling was life changing, leaving with nothing but a backpack. I've been on many adventures and I've seen how different this subject is culturally (especially in Asia). You are no less of a man if you still live with your family. Personal experience and mindset are essential to your development as a human being and so I believe that your advice should be to broaden your horizons, confront your problems, and learn how to overcome them and use what you've learned to mature as a person.
Hey man it's inspiring to hear you traveled by yourself for so long :) Could you tell us a bit about where you went and for how long? I would also like to do something similar
@@mazapanputrefacto3299 Sure. I've went to Thailand around 5 times, the Philippines 2 times, Myanmar 2 times, and I've road tripped most of Canada (Quebec to British Columbia) 3 times, one time by hitchhiking with a backpack and a hammock. My trips ranged from 1 months to 6 months. Coming back to my hometown to work, see family and friends and enjoying the beauty of my region of the world. I was younger and working minimum wage, and practically saving all of my earnings to finance my next trips. Now I finished my studies and earning a lot more, but I still intend on travelling around 6 months per year if possible (covid19 is kind of a bummer right now) I'm planning on leaving to Thailand as soon as the borders open as my girlfriend lives there currently, and I've made a lot of friends over there, I really like the culture and I'm learning the language right now.
As advice for a fellow traveller it really depends on your intentions/current situation. I have a Canadian passport and can travel to many countries with no visa/little effort, while its a lot harder for my girlfriend to come to visit here. So first I would look up which countries are easy to go to with your current passport. Then I guess I would personally save up and determine a date I would like to go, but you could also look for a work visa if you're looking to stay longer in another country while still earning money. You'll make a ton of friends along the way, especially if you have a passion (I rock climb). I would avoid hotels/resorts if possible, I've slept in my hammock and my car, I've slept at friends houses, at decent hostels, couchsurf. But yeah, I'm not quite sure what else to recommend, it really depends on your intentions, where you want to go and what you want to do. I'm definetly forgetting a bunch of things so just ask any questions and I'll try my best to answer them. Have a good night, or a good day.
All the Love, all the Power. Nick
@@nickjason4480 Wow! My heart kinda raced when I read all the places you've traveled to haha. I've always been irrationally scared of traveling, leaving home... But lately I've been getting super excited about visiting new places :) (in particular south america and south east asia
Could I ask you some questions about your traveling?
1. I'm quite shy and speaking to strangers is a challenge for me haha, do you find that traveling would help with that? I would love to meet new people while I travel but I'm scared that fear will just hold me back.
2. How did you plan your trips? Let's say you had a month to travel to Thailand, would you reserve hostels, train tickets, plan a route... Or would you improvise?
Thanks a lot for answering! I hope to travel sometime next year (if corona allows it) :)
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@@mazapanputrefacto3299 Ouch, I've totally missed your reply for a whole year... I hope you got to get some travelling done since then! Little update on my situation: I've been living with my wife in Thailand for the last 7 months!
1. I'm definitely not a people's person either, but travelling leaves you no other option but to interact with others and get out of your comfort bubble. Plus no one will ever see you again (except the really cool people that you meet!) So it's an opportunity of self discovery and a chance to reinvent yourself in a way.
2. As for my trips, I generally had no solid plans. I would wake up one morning and decide I've had enough of my monotonous routine and I would start a deadline. For example I would tell everyone around me that I was going to travel next month. It left me enough time to mentally prepare myself, but let me no option to back down. It always felt unreal as the last few days past by, "Am I really doing this?" However scary or anxious it made me feel at times, I've never regretted any of my travels, and I've always learned valuable life lessons along the way.
The bottom line is that everyone is different and you simply have to find what works for yourself. It's a self discovering journey and you will learn a lot about yourself as you go on these different adventures. I definitely recommend going to travel and discover the world to whoever musters the courage to take the first steps to changing their lives. It can be done even in these wretched plagued times, albeit a lot more planning is required. As for money, I know it can be a huge problem for some, but if there's a will, there is always a way.
Best of health,
Nick
Completely agree, but sadly living with parents is a lot cheaper than throwing money down the drain with rent.
@Mitchell Jenkins I suppose, but his point is still there.
FireFirePow weak mentality. Man up and leave the nest. That’s what hunter-gatherers do.
@@skeenwynno5437 Whatever, alpha boy.
@@skeenwynno5437 hunters gatherers dont pay taxes and rents.
@@Menjuitpusiarworsdanlesbians right. they pay taxes and mortage.
I already pay for myself living at home (car, food, clothes etc) but I think it’s time to take that next step .💪🏾😤
It's different when you close the door behind you at your own place.
Robert. True. I actually moved out of my parents place since making this comment haha.
@Pull Up How was your experience living on your own? What changed and was it very stressfull in regards to work, career, finances etc ?
You move out yet homie!?
Did you take that step and how did it go?
I'm turning 27 in 2 weeks time and I still live at home. I have a full time job, have a side hustle and never ask for money from either of my parents. My parents are separated so my dad does not live with us. I have 2 siblings as well. I look after myself - wash my own clothes, sometimes cook my own food, although my mum loves cooking as she's a dedicated housewife. Our relationship in the household is very healthy. Everyone has such a happy and positive attitude and we hardly argue. When my dad was living with us, there would be a lot of negative energy which is why we had to make him leave. I contribute to the household financially and everything works for us as a family. If you have a healthy home and everyone has set healthy boundaries, then it's not necessary for you to move out but if my house was chaotic and negative, then I would have left a long time ago. However, I have to make this point, if you live at home and you have a healthy relationship with your family, you still have to do stuff for yourself and be self sufficient. I'm very blessed to have a healthy, loving family. I know that is not the case for a lot of people. Only move if you are suffering and not growing in your current home, otherwise it's unnecessary in my humble opinion. Keep doing your thing Elisha, love this channel!
The whole moving thing is ENTIRELY situational. Taking care of your family no matter how you do it is the manliest thing you could do. The video made it seem like there was no worth being at home past 18.
Been watching your videos for the past month and it's given me the courage to start feeling better. I moved out on my own when I was 20 and now going on 22. Although life is still a pain the ass, I'm learning to let go of the anger and resentment I had all along. These past few months have been spent by adjusting to this lifestyle and becoming "responsible". It's hard guys. But with enough patience & dedication within yourself, you'll soon start to see yourself progressing into the person YOU WANT TO BECOME. Your words and advice have helped out so far whenever I doubt myself and I start to feel like shit. thanks man, I really appreciate it.
I have a different perspective on this topic my friend, i am so grateful & blessed to have such wonderful parents.
I’m willing to spend as much time as possible with them knowing that im growing up fast and they are growing old.
Only one life has been offered to me to know then after that we all are just gone to nothingness.
Also would like to add i do pay for most of my expenses and get my own food to make,
I do watch all your videos and you they have added alot of value to my life.
Thanks brother cheers
I'm a parent of a young man that just moved out. This video brought me so much comfort. Thank you:)
Theres never a perfect time to move out, you got to make the leap. I moved out when I was 20. Only reason is I went on vacation over the summer, and ended up getting a job and living in that city. I didn't have any of my material things and still made it. You will see how do-able it is once your on your own. Good luck brothers.
coming back to the video that helped me move out. Best thing I ever did for my mental and manhood.
I'm a 16 Filipino Teenager, and honestly "leaving home" is the only thing I can really imagine now. I really hate the fact that I am dependent on someone
Moving out tonight🤘🏽
JR HENNY SMITH Where too J?
Where ever the world takes me 🐺
JR HENNY SMITH stay safe
How is it going bro?
Woooo!!
Very right about this! I’ve witnessed this myself, and I like the talk about the hero’s journey, because it is about moving out of the comfort zone and what is known. Adaptability and maturity.
This is one of your most insightful videos and I really connected to the points made. However, I don't view "living at home" as the critical issue, if you spend most of your day outside and use the family home simply as a place to sleep then you'll develop just fine.
There’s definitely more nuance to the issue of living at home. I think there are subconscious “triggers” living at home with your parents that affect the individual. Like for myself I’ve noticed when my parents aren’t home, I’m able to get done everything i had planned for that day. If one of my parents is home I noticed my plan deteriorates. I’m not blaming them, because of my action/inaction but after noticing it I understand what I have to do. On the contrary i know a dude who bought a house and is working from home while living with his parents. So it comes down to how you function in that environment.
@@punjab1ify I strongly agree with your "subconscious triggers" point of being a little more suppressed by the energy of parents. But when you have kids you have to be attentive to them and put yourself second. So the liberating empowering feeling of clarity you get when living away isn't necessarily fulfilling over a long time period.
punjab1ify holy shit I thought I was the only one that felt this
just the phrase 'using it as a place to sleep' shows how messed up living at home has made you bud. Sorry
@@fabulousdolphin4221 You're going to have to expand on that for me to understand the point you're making.
So glad I found this channel. Feel like you're speaking directly to me
I love you did this. I lost a relationship to a man who had an adult 25 year old son who stayed and never left home. When I suggested helping him move I was told off. He was so weakened by the enabling. It was so toxic and not going to be a part of my life. My adult children are functioning. It was ridiculous the excuses and sad
This is everything I'm going through. Complete self-responsability (living by your own) gives meaning to knowing, doing and producing.
This video is perfect. I feel like a prisoner and I would love to move out but I don't really have the money...
YikesBoi Are you working?
I've had people try to guilt trip me for moving out of my mom's house because I'm supposed to be taking care of her. Seems like no matter what you do, you're wrong.
Same bro
17 and just moved out like 9 months ago and I don’t think I’ve ever seen so much self growth and awareness from myself and your vids are nothing but truth and well said
The cheapest apartment where I live is 2k a month...
leave the state or leave the country :D
Ouch. That's steep. I pay 1100 for my 1br but there are studios in the ghetto for 5-600 a month here in S, Florida. Then again there are 4BR houses for rent in the swamps in central FL for 600. All depends where you live. But 2k a month I'd want to move unless work was really good there. Like 80k+ good. Only way I'd see paying 2k for an entry level apartment.
You want your income to be at least 3x your rent or mortgage. Ideally 4x. So that would be 6-8k a month for apartments like that
same bro I live in the bay area of california. I just have roommates while I'm going to university though
Patrick move to the hood. Not joking either
Great watch! Moving out this year no excuses I experience this anger/resentment to my parents currently.
Moving out early in some European countries is literally IMPOSSIBLE.
Why?
Much easier said than done. You spend a lot of time putting people down for bad habits and lifestyle choices rather than truly breaking down how to move out, becoming financially stable, etc. I’d reckon that type of advice is a lot more valuable rather than rambling on about how bad people who live at home are doing. I agree, moving out is the best way to learn responsibility and become an independent man but this could have been communicated much more effectively.
Easy to say “just figure it out”. Let’s consider people who were born in cities with rent costing 1.5k-2k alone. Most people are in college until they’re 22- already having debt on your plate and introducing more costs into your life might not be the brightest idea. Props to you for moving out but there are various circumstances that simply make it unreasonably difficult- almost impossible without a high paying income
Dude what do you expect him to do, map your life out? Hes going out of his way to give people food for thought. Everything else is on you
All you're saying is to not face the reality of life
Dude go sell candies or something for extra cash, do something, figure it out for yourself
That's up to the individual, Take advice from someone but it's up to YOU to adapt it in your own life
PAUL ALLEN this video is not for financial education. He’s just encouraging men to be aware of the consequences of being comfortable with living with your parents for more than necessary. Well as a man you can figure it out on your own how youre gonna go about leaving home, but what we’re saying is that be aware, and dont be comfortable.
Moved out of our home last year August at 23, it put me on deathground - best thing ever. I've learnt more in 6 months than I have for six years, So the hero's journey continues. You'll never be ready if you keep postponing 'inorder to accumulate enough money to move out'.
Best decision I made was moving out. Started cooking and working out and feel so comfortable within my own SPACE. Don’t know how to explain it but living alone is so necessary. Dont bother with a roommate cuz you need to build your own fortress. Love my family but it’s so important to be out by at most 23-25
Going apartment hunting tomorrow and getting nervous. This is the motivation I need. Thank you
Female here. I have a neighbor that lives across the street. He is 36 years old and still lives at home wlth his mother. She cooks all of his meals and most likely does his laundry. This guy does not look like a mama's boy at all, yet he obviously is. He is handsome and masculine looking and yet, not only does he still live at home, but he and his mother do EVERYTHING together. Almost like a married couple. It is quite baffling to see. I don't understand how any man that age would still want to live at home with his mother, as if it is normal. It's not. As you say, it's crippling. Men who stay at home too long become mama's boys and then it makes it impossible for them to get into a healthy relationship with a woman, because when us women see this dynamic, we run for the hills.
Most likely a son husband. Probably tje only child she has or family so he feels obligated out of guilt to not leave
@@oscarperez5539 His mother had him very late in life and now she is a widow. Yes, he probably stays out of obligation to "take care" of his mother. You see, it's a sad situation, because a man can have everything going for him. If he still lives at home with his parents, he might have a great job. He might even be taking over the mortgage payments. He might be paying for all the food. He could have every great quality that a man can have. Yet, it's hard for them to establish a serious relationship with a woman that leads all the way to marriage. The reason why is because the women these guys meet already know that if they marry this guy, they are also marrying his mother. She is always going to be involved in the marriage. She will always be around. A wife does not want this. She wants to have independence and privacy in her marriage and in her home. She does not want to live in her mother in law's "domain" and she does not want her mother in law coming to live in her domain and take it over with full authority of the "mother". That is why these guys remain single, regardless of how many great qualities they may have. Their mothers are literally blocking their blessings and standing in the way of of them having a healthy autonomous life and romance of their own.
Bro… so many words of wisdom in one video!! Truly inspiring! I am working on my Master right now living at home and am 22. After I finish my masters next august I will be moving out at 23 moving to Lousiville with a major job opportunity already lined up. Super pumped and excited. Your awesome, thank you so much for these words of wisdom brother!!!
I left home for school, to pursue a degree which none of the colleges in my city offers. Of course my parents still pay for my school, rent and food but living on my own has taught me that life isnt as i was taught when i was under my parents guidance.
Our parents dont expose us to the truth of what life really is, and what it really means to become a real man of value, but its almost like we’re taught and brought up to become and act in a way that makes us acceptable to the world.
Im happy I made the decision to leave.
I've to stop my BS, I'm 29. I have to move out. Just writing this gave me a little panic attack. Wish me luck!
Good luck dude
You’ve hit so many points.
I truly relate to what you said.
Truely i want to be happy, and find myself as a individual. To finally know what to do with my life. Know who I am without certain people. I have a good feeling about this.
Thank you 🙏🏼
Hope you read this comment bro. Thank you. Definitely needed to hear this.
bro you are my favorite of all youtubers, your words are just pure.
Im 20 and my parents are extremely religious and it puts a ton of stress on me having to fake having “faith” to please them. I live in an extremely expensive area but i am very motivated to leave this situation as soon as I financially can.
Omg we have the same situation. I'm 19 and I really need to move out too
@@itsvianly How are you guys doing now? manage to move out yet?
This video helped me out a lot! Thank you, I'm 27 and desperately need to leave. I love my parents but ultimately it's what's best for me. Thank you!
I'm 19 I've been workin on getting moved out myself. Worked out all my expenses two weeks ago and I'm gonna be 7 dollars short every month lol. But I'm makeing it happen.
bro im 19 aswell, i understand that its gonna be a struggle. are you a college student? if yes check if your uni/college/school offers student apartments anywhere, they're bare cheap. Personally, I decided to get a job and save up for 2 months and then get a sick place to myself after being stuck in a really toxic household and a small room.
@@boolin8405Same deal here bro. I ain't a college student so I've been saving up for my own place, got two jobs and a new side hustle goin on too. Hopefully that will help with the last few dollars hahaha
Just save up $84 now and you will be fine for a year.
Thot Slayer staying in the same place is how you get stuck and get unmotivated. gotta take risk and go hard
@Thot Slayer those aren't risks those were bad decisions lol he shouldn't have borrowed money from the gov. i'm also sober so it's a different experience for me cause i have no distractions. but if u stay in one place you stay in one place for the rest of your life. gotta take the next step
I’m 17 and I can’t wait to move out my parents won’t let me go anywhere they literally keep me at home all day I just want to be with my friends I’ve been saving money to move out when I’m 18 and I’m going to move with a friend in another state we are going to split the bills (he lives in Texas)
Wow! I'm 34 I live with my parents which is normal here. But what's not normal is I'm housebound, socially Isolated, never been in a relationship, no friends. I am dependent on my parents for my bills and extravangence. In all of my I've only been away from them for 9 months. I have had hard time holding onto jobs because bascially I have problem with my relationships with women. I have gone from extremely shy to creepy. I avoid life and hide at home just so that my creepiness stays with me. I'm miserable and literally losing it but I'm unable to change even though I know it's killing me.
I have these wild thoughts, I wanted to leave the house to wander off into the oblivion because I was so living in my head. I thought nobody would get my problem and it was painful to explain. I wanted to become a monk, a Sadhu in the Himalayas because I wanted to get in touch with myself when I was unable to communicate with others. These days I'm just just taking care of my body and I've seen many therapists but they don't help me much as much as My running, Swimming & martial arts classes does.
Often times I get depressed watching my peers well settled and younger people succeed in life like it's a walk in park thing. While I struggle to even have a conversation. My mind takes me to this vision of me wandering mad in the Himalayas. Perhaps someday sitting under a tree. That's all I can see.
But getting out, to a new town and getting job where I will be asked questions by colleauges and peers freaks me out!
@Thot Slayer thanks you! Sure I have Thot of Adventures! 😉 Will try it
You gotta change your life and if you still have problems u HAVE to get on medication for at least temporary. I'm now working again a travel job with room cut off losers finding good people feel happy n calm a lot and while skills helped getting medicine for pain n mental issues is the main thing that let me reach my goals. I didn't realize how depressed n shitty felt for nothin until I got help it also sounds like u have severe trauma like me n I'm a mental health advocate n tbh sounds like u have ADHD and either autism or a hypo manic episode that severe stress n laziness can cause ive had hypomanis before n other problems that made me non functional ik what it's like to be crazy
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now.
I'm 20 but I don't even have a job and don't know how to start my life, shit I don't even know how to fucking drive man.
Love your videos man. Every time I watch one I feel like anything is possible.
You are a very wise man
Thanks for posting such powerful video
I’m so thankful to have found this it has brought my heart so much peace 🙏🏼
I am 18, and I already feel like moving out, I know that it's currently hard for me as an 18 year old with no plan, but I know how important it is to separate yourself from your parents at some point in your life to develop as a man. Struggling is the best way to change and become better.
Thanks for this inspirational video dude! It helps a lot knowing I'm not the only one going through (or who went through) this phase. Everything you said about putting this off is spot on, I can't wait to move out and learn to be self-sufficient!
My only advice is if you have the support system, then use it to your advantage. Use your resources to better yourself and prepare for your next step.
One of the worst things you can do is rush yourself into a position where you’re struggling more than “becoming a man.” There’s a difference between growing up into maturity while being smart about it VS just doing stuff to prove something to another person.
Glad you mentioned weed and video games. Most women find that behavior repulsive in grown men. We want a man who goes out in the world and makes things happen. Not some porn-sick, weed smoking gaming addict who won't clean his own place or do his own laundry.
It's just nice to have found this channel, just to know that I'm not alone in the choices I'm facing, and thoughts I'm having. Make's me feel less crazy.
lmfao watched this and immediately scheduled apointment to check out solo apartment with no kitchen and shared bath XDDD thanks lisha
Nicky P hell yeah Nick
@@ElishaLong We all live a different life man we are already in the real world if you dont have kids theres no problem living with your parents as long as you help out. As for the anger ppl are always gong to be angry in life man even. If we leave or not some ppl can make a income from home cause most places are expensive to stay at anyways. Since when does getting out of the house mean your a man c'mon dude if your already making the money your already set in life for survival man.
I left home at 19 traveled all around SE Asia. Now I'm 20 living in Vietnam teaching English. I've learned so much in a year it's unbelievable, the biggest thing is realizing you can do literally anything if you put in some effort
Moved out at 18 and never looked back! Sometimes I'm a little jealous of the family bonding my friends who live at home get, but ultimately was able to grow and be more of my own man.
@@KAIZENURAMESHI lmao why taiwan wtf?
I am 32, and still stuck in that dark place. I am full of resentment for my parents
I hear u bro I'm the same. Im 32 next month
Elisha! That was a really good video.
Moved out few months ago and don't ever want to go back dude. I can decide everything myself. Awesome
I'm 24 and really want my own place. I'm going to Barbados for med school in 2 months and am kind of nervous but believe that this change is needed.
I’m planning on moving after college is done. I’m living in an apartment that is paid by my parents. I just want to live completely independently. I want to get out of the small town I’m from to the big city. I know I can do it.
Wow this is bang on man. Thanks for sharing the wisdom 🙏💪
My dad died when I was 18, I still live with my mom, I’m turning 22 soon. I feel like I don’t care to move out tbh. I value her and the time with her way too much after losing my dad to just move out and be on my own and not be around her frequently.
I respectfully disagree with some of the stuff you’re saying. You can develop properly and face life even if you live with your parents, it’s just a choice. They’re not the ones making you play video games or smoke pot as you mentioned.
Bubbas Ernie Depends on your circumstance
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Sorry to hear that but this is not most people’s situation and I feel you know this already
As far as the smoking weed and video games I agree with you. That choice is solely yours
The reason you became a man was because your father died. Sometimes a fathers death doesn’t need to be physically, it can represent symbolically also. You can disagree but don’t forget it’s from his experience. He’s sharing it and if anyone can relate to him it’ll help them get their act together. So you kinda can’t disagree, doesn’t make sense. But hope is all going well stay strong !
I'm 19, about to move out in a month, staying at my dads for now and even now, doing those independent tasks of grocery shopping, laundry, clean, work.
been doing a few of those things before this but to be on my own, I'm excited for this next part of my life.
Are you doing okay on money to move out? Just don't want you to put yourself in a bad spot
How's it going man?
@@oscarperez5539 Hello, I'm still living in my basement apartment, took me a few months to actually get the proper things for my , bed frame, garbage can. I say that because I just got those two things recently. Money is good, always been good with money. I saved a ton but that also means I sacrificed a lot of my time to work and well being. You can't ever have something and lose something at the same time. I took time this week off, I never do that. but I'm learning a lot since I moved and started learning work/life balance. It showed in my apartment (messy) but I'm learning balance is the key to everything and you lose something sometimes and that's how it works. This living alone as a young teen/aduit did make me feel like I was living like the character from good hill hunting for awhile. I'm in good shape mentally and physically now though. Ask me any questions.
Your so right bro ! I’m 27 still live at home I’m in school for Hvac trade. And I work full time as a janitor I hate my job the people there. I want to move out and be a man . And feel like a man that can do what he wants to do.
it's not easy moving out, I am 29 and still living with my parents. After high school I got a job and started to help out my parents because they were having financial problems, while I was helping them out I was also saving up money for an education... I didnt know what it was going to be but I know I wanted one. I just got my degree on computer science last month and I am applying for I.T. Jobs left and right.
The plan for me right now is to get a job, pay off my the little student loans I have to pay (about 10k) save some money (enough for a down payment) and move out.
I will also need money to buy furniture and such for the place but I don't think I will need more than 5-6k for a single guy.
I also know how to drive and have a license but I do not own a vehicle, I like public transit and it's available everywhere where I live... I will however purchase a tesla in the next 2~3 years after they become more affordable.
if you are in a similar situation as me I don't judge you guys, I do pay my own bills and so on... I know many people that have gone homeless after a couple of months of moving out, and some people barely dodging it. If you have a stable job or a job and an education go ahead and move out...
if you don't think you are ready moving out will just add more anxiety to you.
PS... I am also want to point out I am from a Hispanic family and cultural wise they are MUCH different than here in north america. I remember back home around 2001 I had uncles and aunts still living with my grandparents. Some of them lived with them in their 30s 40s until they think its time. I know it's weird but it is what it is...
I’m 22 still at home growing. Moving out costs waaaay too much, needs proper preparation.
Sean Hogan excuses.
Do you live in a big city or something where rent is a lot
You’re 22, haven’t you had time to prepare?
@unconscious 7x nah you don’t know my life
@Squints I live in Manchester, pretty big city
I moved two weeks ago and it’s partially because of this video. I feel really good and I notice that I do love my parents more than I did when I stayed with them. I get happy when my mom or dad calls me. Plus I don’t feel as lazy I’m eating super clean and working out 💪 lol Good luck to all of you!
i moved out at age 25 to sd california. great experiences and tons of life channging benefits...i moved back home and got comfortable again...never go back. trust me. its easy living with parents.. (I am27 Now) I pay nothing living under their roof.. they pay for my food i eat(fruits and veggies etc. the goods) and i am grateful for them doing that but there is absolute no growth(currently practicing semen retention: on day 130-crazy i know!) but i have awaken to go back out again either to calif or florida.. i love my personal space and new opptortunity, new experiences and challenges..SEEK TO MOVE OUT, SEEK NEWNESS, ALWAYS HOLD ONTO YOUR CURIOUSITY...Trust me.
I understand messages like this but I've seen it all the time with others who are in college. They end up getting very bad grades and dont reach their full potential cause they are always working and are tired from it(to pay for their housing). I think this way of life is for those who want to make a living in trade jobs as you can easily make money fast and as the years go by you will be making bank. But for college goers I think it's best to not risk anything that will affect the grades and mental state as worrying about classes is already dreadful. In the end people become juggernauts in their own way. Best of luck to anyone doing this.
@@philiplee1119 why is that
bro you speak facts.. u put my thouthgs in to words..
I'm 23 and moved to a new state. Everything in this video is straight *FACTS*
I have moved from parents home when I was 19. Moved from Lithuania to UK, completely on my own. Later brother moved in with me, felt like I was back home. Now just moved away after 8 years, time to grow again.
You don't grow as a person staying home with your parents, especially if your parents are old school, overbearing, abusive and controlling, sooner or later you are going to want to have your own place. I moved back home after college after living on my own and i do feel like i became depressed, anger, and started developing bad habits again. I've been trying to look for work, but it has been hard, once all of the craziness ends, i hopefully can get a job, and move out of my parents house again and resume my journey and growth.
I’m 25. I’ve lived with my grandmother for 6 years now. I’ve finally gotten my priorities straight and am on track to have $10,000 savings emergency fund by August. That’s when I’m moving out :D
I need to move back with my parents to pay off my debt faster. It’s not ideal but only temporary. I need to be financially smart here.
I relate to everything you mentioned Elisha. The drugs, porn, anxiety and anger. All of those things I suffer from. Definitely moving out soon
Having a stepmom helped me to get out and live alone at 20 i couldn't take it no more and i remember a lot of my dad's friends was all telling me to stay because it was too risky thank God i didn't listen to them,it wasn't easy because i did it by my own not even a dollar from someone things was really difficult on the financial plus stress but with time i was getting use to and i really feel that i made it in the big way im so comfortable with my self now living alone for almost 7 years
Amazing video I’m saving it to my watch later so I can watch it whenever to remind myself
Im 17 and I stayed at a hotel for a while with my mom while our home was being changed.
Shit was wicked I felt so free,I went outside and got myself lost EVERYDAY,whereas I usually just stay inside.
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I get your message! although think about it: 3/4500 (650 dollars) = 1500 (225 dollars), 1/2500 = 2500 (375 dollars, for one room apartment) , my mom pays the rent and I pay for the food (unspoken rule) , but it accidently happen that way , as the bills drain ALL of my moms income while I got disposable income , bills ALWAYS should be shared especially considering the prices aren't going down, quite on the contrary!
fyi I found your channel through Captain Sinbad, which I also found recently. Kudos to one of the most thought-provoking channels seen in a while (Captain Sinbad channel is also really good , yours is just more thought-provoking imo)
19, living in halls at university and I hate it. Wish I could live on my own somewhere.
sigma396 Just the beginning
MOOONK , your from the UK ???? Which uni u at bro ?
@@zaynumar0 Nottingham
19 ans moving out in september, can't wait to fully take care of myself.
Love the vids mate! ❤️
Hows it going man? Im moving out tommorow haha
Love you, man. Thank you so much for the advice you give. This is such an encouragement for me.
I am.moving out at age 19 ready to get my own place Now I love this video cause my Parents don't want me their at they house so thank you
This video Is what i needed i wish you all peace and prosperity and good health🙏
Your advice are so accurate and to the point, Thank you!
Im a week from moving out. Its going to be so dope. You also become your own person more when you travel, thats only temporary though when you get back you eventually get pushed back into the box.
Same here moving at the end if this month. I wish you luck on your journey.
Left the nest at 21, and couldn't agree more. You become more responsible, and all rounded. You're better able to take care of your self and home. Also, gets you to realize how much you shouldn't waste your money on women who don't bring any substance into your life cuz now you can do the domestic stuff; cook and clean, and go out and work hard. Leave the nest fellas, take the leap and learn how to fly.
i still live with my parents. I'm taking care of myself doing dishes.. I have full time job working 10years. save almost 30k. sometimes I said that I wanna leave home. But they don't want me to leave! btw..great talk.
Thank you so much,
As a woman this even helped.
I’ve been feeling wrong for resenting my Mom in these ways but I’m relieved to know that it will go away once I do.
it's also up to parents to train kids for the real world and to mentor them to be there best self which is our school system completely does not do. Train kids to become responsible providers and train them in things like social skills, relationships, finances so that they can stand up on there own two feet and tackle the world by themselves for themselves. As life goes on there are going to be a number of challenges people face and they need to be best prepared to tackle every situation that is put in front of them.
I can’t believe I am just now seeing your video. Everything your saying is hitting a sore spot. Shit I am literally siting in the greyhound bus station and type in the search box, leaving home for good. Wow
Thanks Joe. Everything going okay?
Elisha Long idk, all Ik is that I’m heading back to Rochester, Ny, where i am from and Ik it will be hard times, with living on the streets and all, basically like starting all over again with nothing. No car no job at 26 years old I find myself alone agin.