Do You Really Need to Move Out of Your Parent's House? 🏡 The Cost of independence
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If you're living in a toxic environment, you've gotta move out and develop yourself as an adult. It doesn't matter what it costs.
Yes
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At the same time people in this comment section need to understand that if you have LOVING parents that do care for you and that you don’t have a toxic environment, there’s obviously really no point in moving out of your parents (unless you have some crazy ass dream) and people please move out for YOURSELF, not because of what other people are doing, never move out of the house because everyone else is doing. Just make the choice and stick to it.
that is true, but people often call their parents toxic when they just call them out on their bs, very little parents are that bad, most want the best for their children.
@Lukesick i have a friend who worked on his body and smashed the best chicks while living in parents house and had no car, he even had a girlfriend. you dont need to validate yourself to anyone. if you are honest about it and have good reasons for it and are not insecure, she will take it. some may not but honestly? those that do not are usually those who themselves had fled their nest prematuraly, ended up broke and living trash lifestyles and want someone to "save them" those women should be avoided anyway. girl that has a healthy relationship with her parents will not see this as something tragic and she will be a much better choice of a partner anyway.
Imo people should spend as much quality time as possible with their parents. They are unique, don't waste them.
Yeah hate it when people tell themselves that they'll have plenty off time to spend time with their parents once they're older, but when that time comes their parents are usually old and can't keep up or in the worst cases deseased. Spend time with your family people they aren't here forever.
Good perspective bro
yeah do that with toxic parents
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@@xAmple_xd Obviously not. Also your "family" in the wider sense doesn't necessarily have to be your relatives.
Moving out at 17 years old (now 19) was the best decision I ever made. Sure I struggled at first, but now I've got a really good part-time job while at Uni. the confidence and character I've developed far outweighs the cons too. Particularly since I moved out when I had quite low self-esteem and was going through a rough breakup and time during the first lockdown.
That’s great man 💪🏽
exactly bro, the earlier the better
Why did you move out
@@Will-sv2hl parents money lol
@@impo9645 Constantly arguing about freedoms and money with my mum. They got super heated and it was a bad environment for my little bro. Only now can I appreciate the severity of that considering how I grew up too (lacking role model, poor confidence, guidance).
im 25 and I moved out of my house and my home state because of bad energy surrounding me and it helps immensely to gain some mental clarity and work on being independent
That’s good ✊🏽
Same, i moved out at 19 and never regreted it because my home was toxic, we were yelling at each other all the time over pointless shit because our house was too small for all of us.
@@TheEggman888 Hamza literally got Complex PTSD from living at home because he got beat and shouted at daily. Instead of cutting them off or moving away, try and actually fix the relationship by finding reason to actually like your parents. Avoidance is never the answer men
@@CakeManeThor mmm I feel you…im not avoiding them just dont wanna be around them
@@CakeManeThor were it so easy. one can change for sure, but making one's parents change is too difficult, especially when they have very little self-awareness and are consumed by problems of their own.
I’m going through this EXACT process as we speak! I moved to London 3 months ago and as great as it is.. I find myself spending 90% of my time creating music alone in my home studio. Currently paying £910 PCM for rent & bills… I am debating moving back to my hometown (Doncaster) and renting a cheaper flat. I personally don’t think I could move back in with my mum or dad. Sadly, they’re both extremely difficult to live with :/
910 Great British Pounds a month!? Urgh...😟
I take it you are in a studio flat outside of zone 1 and 2 as well. I can understand why you would want to move from Doncaster into a big, exciting metropolis like London though.
@@rjflores438 I am living in a 2 bed flat in Dalston, London (£910 PCM EACH). Great area, the scenario couldn't be more perfect actually! Buuuut it is very expensive and I find myself sitting in my home studio creating music for 95% of my time.
Funny this comes up because Im looking for a place in hackney and the surrounding areas like Dalston rn. Its damn near impossible. People are so desperate to move back to the city. Every room goes within 1 day of being advertised.
@@AlfieSheard what's the problem exactly? Your situation is a prime one to get you focused and primed for.....MAKING MORE MONEY. its that discomfort and struggle that will do it. You're also in a prime location for great summer nights out and meeting new people. Keep going
Stay with your parents UNLESS they're toxic and abusive. Then, for the sake of your mental health you should leave and get a room or a flat with friends
nah honesty free housing js more valuable than anything
@@javier-lq4ed no, if its costs your mental health it isn‘t. That fucks everything about your life
@@aimzexile4931 he just cant relate or Imagine beyond his own experiences. Most people only appreciate health when they first lose it.
@@aimzexile4931 Yahh, my main motive of working hard is to move away from my parents
Some of y’all in this comment section are some big ass hypocrites when it comes to talking about your parents. Talking crap about your momma and dad about how bad they are, yet they give you everything and they love you and just want the best for you. Y’all making your parents a whole lot worse than they ought to be. This might not be true, but some here, I’ll place my biggest bets that they’re lying.
Moved out at 23… bought a house for 85k. It’s a duplex and now it’s worth 220k and renting the other unit offsets my mortgages by 1k per month. Best move I ever made.
How did u make the money bro
@@looksmatteronly only needed 11k down for that. I used an FHA program plus took a higher interest rate and got a few grand off closing costs too. Part of it was my luck. It was a buyers market back then. Mine was a foreclosure
@@Eayoub99 "part of it was luck" is a huge underestimation
How old are you bro?
@@Eayoub99 bro if you have any advice on how I could replicate this, please respond. I could really use the help in figuring this out
Hamza NOBODYs gonna argue with the fact that online income is superior to waged income. But you NEED to count your blessings and understand that while you did successfully seize an opportunity in front of you, not everyone has the luxury of even taking that risk. Some of us have our own bills to pay, and our parents' too. Making online income sounds like a dream because for most people it will always just be. So while I appreciate the sentiment, a little empathy would suffice. Just because you did it doesn't mean everyone can.
@@qestn Yeah man agreed. And we're kind of stuck in a echo chamber where lots of YT influencers believe it's the ONLY way to live. They then only view other similar YTers and it just perpetuates the cycle. Again, I still believe it's superior to 9-5, but it's not everything
Did you watch the whole video? He agrees with both sides.
Well said. Have to address all situations /challenges/opportunities
@@TheModernSamurai It's because people naturally aim to validate their own choices. There's many tradesmen that would also say, "I could never be an influencer and work from home that sounds like shit!" because they have chosen to work blue collar jobs and want to feel as if they made the right choice whether they're right or not. Regardless, there's pluses and minuses to both. There's definitely something to be said for working with your hands or working in an office with cool people you enjoy being around. It's also easier in the sense that a lot of 9-5's are over for the day once you clock out. Being an entrepreneur, the hours never end. There's always something to do. Even when Hamza is reading etc, that is gathering material for his videos. He's always working.
Another finance TH-camr who has 1m subs and makes 50k+ easy on Adsense alone every month was saying he's considered dropping everything and getting a job just because of the benefits I mentioned previously....nothing to do with money.
@@qestn Yeah and its easy for them to appear as a celebrity figure to be emulated and admired to a lot of younger guys. Many guys will look up to the idea that they can make 30k a month from home and go try to do the same, but either have no success because they don't have the charisma, drive etc. to do it, or they discover it's not what it's cracked up to be and there's more fulfilling ways to make a buck out there. Not everyone can be an online entrepreneur, nor should they. Someones gotta paint the houses, drive a bus, construct buildings, repair cars, etc etc.
The thing is, you have most likely experienced all that switch of mindset because you have moved from your parents. Majority of people, including me, have real problems with this kind of life. I think it's better to learn this stuff early on than to bump into it in your late 20s
Prepare for all things NOW by experiencing as many things as possible
I moved out from my family when I went to highschool to live with my sister who had gone also, my mom came after me so she could "help" me with school because she tought I couldn't handle it myself, fast forward to me going to first year of university, back in my hometown, and failing all the classes because I didn't learn how to learn throught my life.
I am starting to learn everything other people figured out years ago from literally rock bottom at 20 years old because I was helped and handed things all my life
That's why now I religiously watch Hamza and do self improvement.
Doing great so far. :)
yeah, hamza has experience living without his parents and now he is able to live as an adult with his parents BECAUSE of that. You can't really skip that stpe imo
14 year old me: hmmm interesting
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Same 😐
same haha
I m 16 bro, not far...I have a great ship with my parents.
Same lol
What I’ve learned so far on my self improvement journey is that there are some very sick parents out there who actively sabotage your progress to keep you on their lower level.
What should i do
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@@best9264 ?
If you have a healthy relationship with your family, then yeah by all means stay with people that love and support you unconditionally. But for those less fortunate, you should move out as soon as you possibly can for the sake of your personal development and mental health.
Staying with a toxic family is just not worth it at all. It will leave you depressed and broken, and any money you make will end up feeding whatever coping mechanism you develop as a result of the ongoing abuse.
Wow man u did really well for yourself im 18 and will soon maybe go to university i dont know if i should go or not but i know i wont be able to move in cuz my parents wont let me and wont pay for that but it might not even worth it because im in the city that the uni is i just wont have my place but good job man i hope i can do well too.
@@denissalish8253 eh I did the best with what I had, but I'm 28 and I'm currently stuck in the rat race as described in this video. My advice was speaking from personal experience. I commuted to school and didn't move out of my parents house until a year after graduating college at 25. I rode the high of newfound independence when I first moved out, but eventually my issues caught up with me and I just came out of therapy a few months ago. Feeling good on the inside is absolutely the most important thing you can do for yourself.
“What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hell yeah
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I been thinking about this a lot. My philosophy has been: I dont deserve to make new family until i master my first one.
My philosophy is nihilism
A lot of people got a toxic home situation (including me). This year I will move out from my parents house so I can focus better on my goals and my own personal development. It’ll cost me a lot of money, but it took me 2 years to make this decision and this year I’ll go for it. Sending love to everyone in a toxic home situation, stay strong y’all
Good luck bro ;D
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@@jwick556honestly i need an update
Honesty staying with your parents just seems like the smarter move if you're some kind of entrepreneur or someone that can work from home. I'll definitely stay with my parents in the future while I work on my TH-cam/Content Creation business
Same here 🙌🏽
Doing this too
I literally started my TH-cam content creator journey at home and my parents made me delete it for religious reasons I like Hamza but his advice isn’t always applicable
@@danielnwogu5135 damn that sucks. What content did u make?
@@gc-yt6627 that’s great man 💪🏽 let’s elevate together 📈🚀
I swear, the synchronisities that I have been experiencing in life right now is craazy. I am really contemplating of moving out because I don't like the energy around me and my neighborhood. I was discussing with my mom that I wanna move just a few hours ago and I stumbled upon this vid. I feel like for me to be able to heal and really shine, I've got to move out of the city.
How old are you bro?
If you feel that your current environment is bad for you, then move out, but think about it thoroughly, you could also regret it.
@@NicolaiChrisn I'm old. I am 22
@@sirver7226 22 isn’t old brother. If you feel like you’ve gotta move out for your mental health then go for it, you can’t get a better ROI than good mental health! But just make sure that it is the environment that’s making you want to move out and not pressure of other peoples opinions that’s making you feel that way. Like at 22 living at home it’s very easy to think “I’m a loser, I’m too old to be living at home and I need to move out” but that feeling, at least for me would come from a place of caring about other peoples opinions, thinking that other people view you that way
@@sasookarry Thanks for the concern and advice brother. Yeah, I want to move out not because of other people's pressure but because I genuinely feel stagnant in my environment.
In my case , i want to move for independence (i cant wake up and sleep at what hours i want , i cant eat what i want , i cant organize stuff like i want , i cant organize my time how i want) , i just want a place where blame and responsibility falls on me and i can organize my stuff without having someone affected
Same my king
Same
It's never your fault though remember that stop blaming yourself this is what all my psychologists tell me
Same
I live with toxic parents, haven't saved enough due addictions, now I'm planning to travel and learn a video/marketing /content skills I can sell and then look for a home
A lot of my friends moved to college / universities after they finished high school. I've had to stay home because my parents would not pay for my survival in different town while going to the uni. So I had to earn some savings. I've found a low end job that didn't pay well but was really easy and because I've been living with parents I got to keep all of my money, I just did things around the house, cooking, grocery shopping in return to justify me living here for free. In mean time I focused on my projects, kept lifting in my home gym, read a lot of books, educated myself on various topics etc. Basically I used all of my free time to improve myself before even living on my own. I didn't even play games or watch shows much because I was so excited lifting and working on my hobbies, I only really slacked off on weekend evenings after everything was checked off my list.
I'm going to the university later this year, I'll be 22, most of my peers went there 1-2 years before me. They all have been either living in student dorms on shared rooms with roommates. I'll be able to rent my own space, I have a lot of savings now so being jobless for more than 6 months doesn't scare me. Actually it's possible I will quickly find a job because I had a internship for some time and worked hard to learn what the job was about, finding another one like it will be even easier than before.
I think the whole experience was really humbling to me, I got to earn my own money, I also learned cleaning, fixing and cooking skills while essentially being my parents housemaid and I'm sure I'll do fine by myself when living alone. Sometimes I feel like a late bloomer because my peers get their degrees faster / get to party younger but actually I feel more ready in life than ever, by having those 2 years to myself and self-improvement I've managed to create a better future for myself. I look better, feel better, am more capable and smarter and feel more confident in getting my degree. Something that would put me behind my peers actually turned out well for me.
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Really needed this. I always felt insecure and bad about living with my parents since it makes me less of a man but i gotta be honest, it’s really taught me a lot. My dad teaching me things about life, and work. My moms helping me learn how to maintain a house, cook so, when I do move out I’ll be ready. Reading your experience gives me hope man.
Be smart, be patient, do what's right for you LONGTERM...stay strong men...MOVE TOWARDS SELF RELIANCE
Almost 29 yo.
Working online.
- Still living with my family (lower cost of life + sufficient big house to be able to have my own spaces).
- Saving and investing all my income.
- Just a symbolic monthly rent
Whats ur job
Wtf u never moved out b4
Investing. Love to see that. Not enough ppl realize how important it is for financial freedom.
Oddio sei il primo italiano che vedo che segue Hamza, ho anche fatto un giro sul tuo canale per vedere il tuo (gigantesco) progresso negli ultimi 8 anni. Avrei mille domande da farti (visto che voglio anche io aprire un canale youtube alla veneranda età di 26 anni) ma per ora mi limiterò a chiederti se nel frattempo che portavi avanti il tuo business hai fatto altri lavori.
Complimenti per il percorso comunque
The answer always remains the same. You NEED to move out in order to get out of the comfort zone and grow up from a boy into a man. You learn to take on responsibility for your self along many other things. It's like an exponential boost to self-improvement. Get OUTTA THAT COMFORT ZONE you only got one life.
Alot of people also thrive despite staying home and there are many bums and deadbeats out there who do NOT live with their parents. There's no one size fits all
@@Cpix38 most of those bums have mental illnesses or drug addicts, so don’t compare them to normal people moving out from their parents house.
Nah man
I wouldn't call it a comfort zone for everyone. For me it's more like crab bucket. Gotta get out sure, but I'm not stuck due to comfort.
With my experience, I moved out at 24 after graduating from college and landing my first 9 to 5 job.
For my particular situation, living with my parents takes a huge toll on my mental health and I wish I made the decision earlier. Before the 9 to 5 I was working on the weekends and attending college. When the semester started, it literally felt like I was working 7 days a week.
The 9 to 5 job is something that I’m grateful to have compared to my previous work experience. But, that’s coming from someone who hasn’t had the weekends since they were 14.
Now, since I’ve moved out, I’ve naturally gravitated to trying to create more income sources.
All in all, I get what Hamza is saying. Despite the mental torture living with my parents, there were a lot of pros.
- No rent
- No Bills
- Bigger pile of savings
- More time to think about your life and plans
- spending time with my parents (regardless of the mental toll)
yup. I feel you! The mental toll you described is a feeling of mild pressure.
Just got a decent remote job. I'm moving ASAP! renting will get 30% of my income. My parents are loving and wish the best for me, but im old (27 male) and I feel held back at home.
In Asia , in most cultures you're actually looked down on if you leave your parents house after you start making money. You're supposed to give back by looking after them during their old age.
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What if you started your first post college job at 21/22 and your parents had you in their mid to late 20's? That means they are only early to mid 40's. Change that to thirties, even, and they are in their 50's. This isn't an old age range. In my opinion, parenthood should be about raising your kids to competently fend for themselves and have their own lives. Not saying looking after parents shouldn't come into the equation, but not until they are properly old, like 70's/80's etc.
@@fuzzylogiceire Life expectancy of both male and female is around 70-75 in Asia , I wouldn't wait for my parents to get any older before I start giving back , they gave me life and way more than I can ever give back. The best time to start is ''now" because I'll feel completely empty inside if I realise I couldn't give back enough to the parents . But hey that's just me.
So true. Several families in Asia are multi generational households.
@@1-spartan a giga spartan adonis answer right there
200k + company shares
That's what my brother does, he's in his mid 20 and has 5 week vacation a year, he really is living the dream and regrets spending years working 24/7 on managing a startups. Working a 9 to 5 isnt really that bad if you have a good salary
What does he do?
@@RustyShakleford1 ML engineer
@@sixsus4880need to study for 5 years for that before earning a single euro I believe
I’ve been feeling tempted to move out recently. This video was a good reminder to focus on delayed gratification.
Life experience in the prime of your life > worrying about finances or spending "quality" time with parents....
Your parents have had their moment, now it's yours. You know whe you've over stayed your parents welcome when you get irritable at things they do. Even animals know when it's time to leave
agreed. I started to get irritated at my parents sucking teeth, coughing, yelling at each other for no reason...
at 20 I actually didnt care about it, now i do. Time to go!
Finances? well, i stayed long enough.
I wouldn't necessarily call early 20s the prime of ones life. By delaying gratification and building a strong financial base in your 20s, by the time you hit your prime in your 30s, you're the man you need to be.
@@iambadatpickingusernames6669 prime years for experience. Delayed gratification is hard to attain when you live in comfort (mommas house)
@@IntrovertMaxxing I just don't think that's necessarily true. Growth isn't linear to age. You can spend your whole 20s growing your financial state, go get experience in your 30s, and settle down at 40. That's practically the norm these days.
I'm personally in the situation where I basically have to live at home at 25, because my poor parents need help and it's part of my purpose to help them while they're still around. I don't think it's life experience destroying. I pay them market value rent. It's a little bit challenging for my social life, but I don't think it's overall that bad. I get quality time with parents who aren't going to be around forever and a good emotional support system when I need it. I probably will be stuck here until 30, but that doesn't mean I can't use the next 5 years to learn a lot and improve myself so I'm ready for my independence in my 30s. Different people are on different growth timelines, and we need to acknowledge that just because one person is super independent and self made at 22 doesn't mean another can't delay independence until 30 (and not just because they are a freeloader, there are lots of reasons one can choose to live at home).
@@iambadatpickingusernames6669 you're just simply defending why you live with your family, you are biased.
As someone who has done both, you grow exponentially when you move out of your parents dominion.
It is a float or sink situation but we can't complain about declining masculinity and expect female submissive behaviours.... when we live at mother's house. Its an extremely unnatural situation for male growth
Your family can have an immensely suffocating influence on your self development if you choose to live with them after university. I know a guy who's got a job in London as a construction engineering graduate, he pays 5k for a season ticket, and gets his meals cooked and bills paid at home by his parents. He's a nice guy, but he's a child at heart. I'm very glad I got my own place with my gf the moment I left uni
self development can be done at your parents place as well if you stop eating what they're cooking or get some cooking lessons from the parents´Cooking is one of the most important skills
@@wifine1951 You underestimate how different it is to cook sometimes because you're trying to excercise the basic sort of independance any teenager can and actually having to take 100% responsibility for yourself.
Yea, that's a problem... I'm 19 years old working as a programmer and making pretty decent money. Thing is, I know how living at home can impact me negatively, as a result I do as much as I can do. If something goes wrong, I make an effort to fix it myself without asking for my parents help. My expendable income is the exact same amount I'd have if I lived on my own. I cook my own food whenever I can. I plan to move out at the age of 20-21 once I graduate though.
@@wifine1951 I know, thats why I'm really good at it.
agreed.
I graduated over 3 years ago, most of my uni mates went and got places and jobs in London, 3 years later they work 9-5 and are too broke to enjoy the weekends, I instead of moving out went back home, worked, saved and invested my money, now I own a buy-to-let flat, a nice car, money I earn can go straight into investments rather than being put down the drain on stupidly high rent. They are now trapped at square one because their wages are almost completely eaten up by their rent and don't have spare money to invest and progress from where they are.
yes, but you probably earned more than them.
I actually disagree because when you move out and get your own place doesnt matter how small it is you put a little more responsibility and pressure on yourself which will push you even further
Don't find excuses. Moving out from your parent's home is an important step towards becoming truly independent and taking your own life in your hands, physically and mentally. It throws you in the world and in charge of everything, that's a challenge with great rewards.
Yeah move out when you think its the right move. Granted everyone’s pace situation and needs are different
Fun fact, this whole view of "Moving out of your parent's home and being independent" is not old or normal. It's actually very alien and weird in terms of historical norms.
I moved out when I was 15, had to. It sucked and I'm bitter about it, won't lie, but those are the cards I had to play. I also know people in their late 30's and one in his mid 40's that have never moved out or boomeranged back. If you have the option, be smart and find the happy medium.
The grass is always greener on the other side
I sadly had to move out of my parent's home because they were moving too far away from my studies. However, moving out has given me a big push towards becoming more independent and has given me the drive to become more entrepreneurial. If you manage to limit your spending or invest it in stuff that is useful (proper styling, technology, and work efficiency) you will likely find yourself entering adulthood ahead of your peers.
28
- Working two jobs (one online) atm alongside some passive income
- I live with my parents because I don't go out much and I save a ridiculous amount of money every month which I use to help with the above
- It feels weird sometimes when you see coworkers who are in their early 20s or something who have their own flat
but on the other hand, when they tell me they can only save like 100-200 quid a month, it definitely makes me feel like its the right choice but at the same time, if you let your parents do everything for you, it can 'coddle' you and make you weaker in a sense, discomfort is growth but on the other hand, the comfort and peace of mind (not having to worry if an emergency is going to wipe out your savings or being able to make a informed purchase) from not having to worry too much about money while saving for your own flat/house is incredible.
It definitely has its own advantages and disadvantages but the reality is if you have money, you can use it in a way to live 'cheaper' and happier (buy a car outright without any debts or buy a good pair of shoes instead of 3 shitty pairs over a year)
In other words, if you're gonna live with your parents for a while, use that time wisely. You want to move out, not too hastely and not too late, but at the right time.
I am going to make a video on my personal experience with this too. I moved out of my parents house a week after high school out of the pressure in my own mind, with the goal of becoming some kind of successful entertainment personality on the internet. Over time you start to realize that the time at home is a blessing and you should honestly stay there as long as possible - it’s okay to get on your grind at home. You don’t need to go blow 10 grand like I did in order to prove something. Bless up fam
While I think it is true, that most people move out of their parent's house way too fast, I don't agree with the whole point of "online entrepreneurship is the only way of income that makes you happy".
Surely Hamza busted his ass off to get to the point in life he is now and he deserves all of it, but he forgets that he still was very lucky. The world still needs people working 9-5 jobs and there are some jobs you can't make an online business out of. I work in an environment laboratory, examining samples if they are contaminated with bacteria or chemicals. I love doing this job and I can't see how you could even do an online business off of this.
If you are happy with what you are doing, keep doing it. Don't feel bad about it because the dude on the internet, who pronounces Adonis in a funny way sees it differently.
Also no front on Hamza. I love his content and he normally has great points. I just don't agree with him talking bad about normal jobs.
Nicely written my friend. Thank you!
Exactly. Hamza's financial advice is just so biased. He was one of the 1 in 100 stories of online income success, so he just attributes it all to skill rather than luck, and assumes any man can do it. More wise self-improvement teachers out there would see that their avenue to success wasn't particularly high probability, and encourage more young men to take higher probability paths to success (going to uni and studying a tech, engineering, math, finance, or health field).
From experience I'd recommend commuting to uni from home like I am currently doing, but also saving my uni maintenance loan. This will give you extra money on top of a part time job you could be working but the main goal is to be training yourself to save money and not go broke which is a life lesson a uni degree will not give you. In my last year of uni now and doing this has given me money management skills just from training myself to not waste or overspend money that is sitting in my bank. However I would recommend people to highly think about their decisions and if their degree is going to be worth the debt and if it is needed. After spending 3 years in uni I've now realised the industry I was going into I no longer want to pursue and have decide to take on a completely different career goal, just something you should keep in mind before rushing into uni.
This was cool but instead of focusing on online careers, why not discuss the downsides and upsides of staying with your parents. If you're not planning on marrying a girl the average male has nothing to gain from finding independence when financially it doesn't make sense in our current economic climate. Lets not forget the current agenda to break down the family unit to create economic prosper for certain investors.
I'm not young anymore. Pushing 40 living with family. Never moved out. Different strokes for folks. Good jobs and rent are scarce.
It is difficult as hell. Most jobs do not pay shit.
bro just move out you gotta have fun
I say this with pretty much any situation: It all depends. Everyone’s situation is so different that there is no golden rule in can state. Evaluate the benefits and costs of both scenarios and choose the one the helps you the best, that will cultivate the independence you seek as your mind learns to solve problems
So what if your parents dont let you move out
Western Parents: Hi honey, you just turned 18 so I want you out by next month. Good luck!
Parents from the Middle East, Asia, Africa, Latin America, and most of Eastern Europe: You wanna do what? Move out? And leave me to die here like an old person? Not happening.
Your life is more important than your parents
I've worked hard to become a physiotherapist, I've almost finished my training, just a few months to go. I studied and worked in massage therapy prior which affirmed for me I want to do this but I wanted to go higher. I still probably won't be that online entrepreneur, but I hope that I can be a good businessman as well as a good clinician. What enabled me to follow my dream was staying at home with my parents. I'm 28 years old now. I sadly unexpectedly lost my father last month and I'm so grateful I saw him nearly every day. I will stay at home for the short to medium term to support my mum and brother. I will move out when the time is right and I have fully developed as a man and ready to devote myself to building a family. However, there is absolutely nothing wrong with staying with your parents and enjoying your time together. I have worked really hard and I know I will make my mum and dad proud.
As a young man fresh out of college rent is just way too expensive to pay to have any leftover money to invest or even just spend on yourself. Try to stay w your parents as long as you can. They might need you more than you need them tbh
My parent's house is beyond toxic. They've forced me to pay bills (which is fine, I'm not complaining, I'm happy to contribute), but it's been escalating to the point where they're practically asking me to pay for everything except the mortgage. Food, water, electricity, utilities electricity. They even asked me to pay for a family vacation that I was not invited on (yeah, I know). So I'm definitely moving out. It's becoming cheaper to live by myself, and the peace of mind will be worth every penny
You save a lot of money but you miss out on a lot of personal development
Yup
Just turned 30. Youngins… listen to Hamza here. Stick out living at home as much as you can. Stack that paper, it can set you up for a very bright future
I had a local job and went to Uni part time in the evening so I stayed with my parents and kept saving towards a house. In the long run this paid off because it enabled me to relocate for a good job and get a house, but it does feel like I delayed some of my growth as an independent person and missed out.
This dudes advice in this video confirmed it for me. Hamza speaks the truth in regards to this video.
“March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life's path”
I'm 27, barely landed a solid job a month ago after graduating college pretty late. I love my family, but I do want my own place, and for anyone reading this, I made an excel spreadsheet where I can see where all my money goes to. The goal is to move out by January. I can stay and save up a lot more money but, at the end of the day, I'd rather just have my own spot and I'm eager to fly away from the nest. It's a case by case thing for everyone.
Did you move out?
I'm so grateful that I still live with my parent .
People think staying at home is shit when you're 18 or over. Scale ur income online, then move wherever the fk u want
Bro YT algorithm guy deserves sloppy- whenever I'm at my lowest it reads my mind and gives me the best motivational video
I really liked 1stmans take on this. It's important to move out at some point, even if only for a year to experience what it is like.
If you have the luxury to move back home after, do it. May not be glamorous for a bit, but you will be financially ahead a lot of people just for a little bit of time with your parents
Staying at home is the smartest decision I've made. I can fully focus on growing my TH-cam channel and don't have to worry about bs money anxieties yet.
Good man, I respect that even in your success you're maintaining this humble practice of waiting until the moment is right to live somewhere else. I am adopting a similar mentality when I am back in the UK.
Most HONEST moving out video I have ever seen! Thanks to you i wont make those mistakes! ILY Big Bro
Depends on your family dynamic! I’m
26 and have a strong family unit so we all
Work together !
I mean as long your parents supports you and help your grind to have a perfect life, i prefer staying with my parents. 😀
This moving out from home is quiet West thing but here in Asia or specifically in south east asia parents have no restriction on child they can live with them to whole life 😌
I think that everyone should get the experience of living outside of the parents home for at least 1 year. It makes a lot of financial sense to live with your parents however, but it is not without its drawbacks, especially if you have really toxic parents.
I definitely didn't appreciate my parents and I left right away. It wasn't until 5 years later and I moved in with my GF that she challenged my views/judgments of my parents. Now I definitely feel what your saying in this video thanks as always. ADONISSSSSSSS🔥
Got off a deployment, and before I even got I home I signed for an apartment online before I got home. Worst fucking mistake. But I know now what I want to do, and I got the layouts of the different ways I can get to it. Everything is a fucking waiting game, and normally I'm patient but thus time I wasn't and it's kicking my ass. But I'm thankful for the experience. Embrace the suck, GOTTA GET A GRIP. Thanks for the vids Adonis guy
Really grateful for you Hamza. This is vid is such a good reminder to make online income, as a young man I will pursue the goal and ideas you have set me up. Thank you bro
As someone who’s lived in Korea and China, and has friends in India, Japan, and other Asian countries, I’ll say this: hamza is speaking the truth, and it’s very common here. In Korea especially, most people move out of their parents’ houses in their 30s. Why? Because we’re incompetent? Nope. Because we CAN, but choose to not waste a shit ton of money in an overpriced housing market. Plus, some more time with aging parents.
This whole “move out at 18, or you shit” rhetoric is prevalent only in overly western, confused places like the States and UK. They literally chastise people who stay with their parents for one second more.
manifesting a swift recovery for my man Sam 🙏
It's good for some people while it's disastrous to a lot of people . Boys at 18 are simply not ready . Sometimes a slow transition helps
I can 100 percent agree with the points raised in this video, well done Hamza 👍. Remember the golden rule, the more capital you have in the bank the more options one has in life. Limit your liabilities and maximise how much you keep so you can invest for future growth. Keep up the good work.
Actually really appreciate you beeping out swear words. I don't know why, I just had a change of heart today
This was a great video. Felt like I was watching an unfiltered episode but like, filtered lightly?
Being a musician I can make so much more money online and I’m watching as my friends thought they surpassed me by moving away while I stayed and grew my business now i working to make money while traveling
I study medicine im in 2nd year, i work 48hs a week in an emergency service, im 19 yo, go to the gym 3 times a week . im tired, but all of u guys, when i read the coments, when i watch hamza's videos, makes me keep moving forward, makes a better man. if i can do this u guys can do anything u want, dont give up, stay strong. we are all brothers. i have to say that i started working to help my mom, so i dont have to ask her for money, if u can stay with ypur parents do it, they will be greatful if u help them, not leaving them alone even if u never had a good relation with them, thats the case with my mom
First time I made money from content online kinda blew my mind. I got to name my price and still think I low balled myself, I made a weeks pay in 5 minutes of editing. There are definitely levels to this thing we call life it's all about perspective because I worked a job before, the hours were terrible and to think there were people with kids having to live off that pay, now I know why some people are so quick to get violent a lot of society is miserable.
Right now I move out to my parents house thanks for the video💪
Lmao love how hamzas just wearing a bicycle helmet for the Jeffery impression these Adonis Jeffery Stories are the best
my dad is cheating on the entire family. mom is addicted to lottery scratchers. my sister is in her 30s living with us making a living wage (20+/hr) and rich in her 401k. this house used to be 80k. it is now worth 300k, we fix it up then it would be worth 700k. we could get out of the hood if we wanted. no one in this house was in any way shape or form ambitious and just cares about saving money for what? we've been saving for years and I see no proof of that. I didn't even mention my tiny room and my inability to have friends over without taking up space in the kitchen its so small. my sister sleeps in the living room. so yeah. don't move out of your parents house if you have the space to yk. live. a good rule of thumb is you have a big enough room to have your bf/gf over without any fuss or teasing from any family members. make the money you wanna make. enjoy the rat race, don't settle for less than you believe you're worth.
Hamza, I started watching you a year ago when i was Jeffrey, I made good habits, no fap, cold showers, workout and im still going. When you upload videos i watch them all. You are Like my big Brother i never had, thanks for everything Brother!
This dosent apply to everyone. We are all living in a different situation. If you parents house is a shit hole filled with abuse, you want to get out of there real quick. Also, your parents wants to live there life too and might be tired of having a little boy at home everyday even if you pay "rent" (cause in there heart you always be their little boy). Of course they love you and they might never kick you out, but you have to make the decision to move and you should do it in your 20s. They wont always want a flatmate. If your smart about it, you can still build an online income even while paying rent. Having to pay bills gives you experience with money. Makes you comfortable with it and confident being around it. Also being 100% responsible of your living makes you more of a man and you will, by the process, build independence and confidence. Moving out while on your self improvement journey is probably the best time to move out. Be sure to be ready but don't overdo delayed gratification and wait until you are 30 and suck all the time you parents have left to them. They spent half their life carrying you and at some point its your turn to give back and unchain yourself from them so they profit of the time they have left. Doesn't mean you can't see them in the weekends. And trust me, the time you will spend with them afterward will be way more memorable.
Anyway,
Do the hard work, especially when you don't feel like it.
Hey Hamza. You are my favorite TH-camr. This is my first comment in your channel. Not every parents are same. Some of them are very Negative. I moved out for Self improvement Reasons. But I will return to my parents once I settle everything in my life.
I'm only 15 rn but I'm enjoying myself at my moms enjoy it while you can.
Facts 💪🏽
Interesting man, I’m in Investment Banking / Private Equity and really enjoy the calibre of intellectual people I call colleagues and clients and the interesting nature of the work (I like economics I’m a freak I know). I come from some of the poorest areas of the UK so I never thought doing this type of work was possible for me but I managed to make it somehow. I think another major reason I like it if I really think about it is the fact that most couldn’t cut it, most couldn’t understand it, or get the best outcome on deals for all parties involved, makes you feel accomplished and takes away the beta male mentality in such a competitive and high paced environment. But I also see the merits of online income, at the very least you’re diversifying your income, which everyone should be doing anyway. At the end of the day I guess everyone is different, happiness is the goal. Great video bro 👊🏼
Hamza, you're not thinking of the independence (pschological/ physical) that you get from your parents when you move out!! You need to talk about this
Depends on how cool your family it is. Mine is fucking GREAT so I'm doing exactly what you're saying bro. I'm a good portion into the debut novel I've always to write, saving 95% my income from remote work and spent 3 months out of the year in the mountains of FCKG Kenya training for my first marathon last year in Rio.
This year it's three marathons, all on different continents, and the book is getting DONE.
Yeah baby. Life is sweet.
NEVER fcking moving out if I don't absolutely have to. Fuck what all these onlyfans girls think. Rent with my parents is 250 a month and airbnb around the world has been even cheaper.
I think I'm straight.
my family gives me stress headaches everyday. I'd like to stay but I can't stand them.
Bruhh im from asia and i still live with my parents who still live with their parents...
GREAT INFO!
-San Francisco fan girl
This video couldn't have come at a better time for me. Thanks Hamza.
Moving out was the best decision. The friends who still live with their parents live their lives as they did when they were 16 (no work ethic, gambling, having someone cook for them. Currently 23y.o.). Leaving means taking responsibility for your own life. The Ultimate Adonis Step. Be honest... 89% don't save money with their parents because there is no need. Only when you move out do you learn to save, to cook healthy, to stand on your own two feet. I don't think that Adonis still lives with his parents at 23, but goes out and consciously faces hurdles (poor for a while) in order to grow.
I think there is a good reason to move out for a couple of years like 1/2 just to see the difference and when u come back u can appreciate your parents
Money can come and go, but happiness, maturity, and looks is hard to come and go.
hamza can you do more videos like this i find this really interesting to hear
This video helped me so much. Im currently renting an apartment with a bad roommate whilst in uni. Besides that, living in the city just sucks in general. After talking to my dad I decided that I'd probably be more happy when I moved back home, but I was afraid that it would be considered a step backwards. Than you for the perspective.
It doesn't help with uk's housing shortage, it makes housing really expensive!
Excited to see what your new setup will be once you move into your own place!!!
Good thing u mention Portugal, I live here, I literally rent a room for 140 euros per mounth.
Hamza is damn near 20 years younger than me, but much wiser, and even more successful
I don’t think his disdain of regular jobs goes toward the workers but rather toward the system. Obviously if you like your 9-5 and you are passionate about it, then you are already winning. But the truth is that the 40 hour week (which in reality is more like a 50 hour week) is simply incompatible with a healthy lifestyle. Especially if you don’t like or care about what you do, in which case it is straight up soul-draining.
If you have embarked on this self-improvement journey you should be able to clearly see how there is just not enough time in the day to live like Adonis while working the 9-5. About 10 hours are spent getting ready, commuting, and working. 9 hours in bed if you want enough sleep. About 2 hours at the gym. About 2 hours eating and doing daily chores around the house (or more if you don’t meal-prep). 1 hour reading, journaling, meditating. And there you go, that’s your 24 hours and that’s assuming no down time and 100% efficiency and no socializing during the week which is not healthy for humans. And if you’ve got hobbies, like in my case I’m a musician and play with a band, or if you’ve got kids, or even just a girlfriend, then it should be crystal clear that you won’t be able to balance it all. Sure you’ve got the weekends, but a healthy lifestyle requires daily habits and most people are burned out by the time Saturday comes.
We owe it to ourselves and to our future families to try our best to break free from this cycle. Let’s not get butt hurt, let’s wake up, and let’s get it boys 💪
Here in India its very common that people don't move out and live with their parents their rest of life taking care of them etc
I'm 25 and I made the wrong choice and moved out at 21 with a shit job. Thought I was doing something but I wasn't. Listen to Hamza young kings. I rebounded though on some clutch shit but still wish I had this mindset sooner.