My feminine journey has been one of self-discipline and balance. My mother was a very neutral woman. Not particularly feminine or masculine. She didn't choose to put a lot of effort into herself in any way, and so when I became a woman I felt I didn't know how to put effort into myself as a feminine being. I fell into watching trad-wives on TH-cam because they seemed to really be the only women talking about positive femininity at the time. And while that did teach me to care for myself in ways like doing my hair and using delicate mannerisms... I became lost in the idea of being a "lady". A lady never slouches, a lady is never lazy, a lady puts others above herself at all times. Etc etc etc. It was so much pressure all at once that I became burnt out and started to reject the idea of being feminine because I felt it was such a strict idea of being someone who had to be happy, had to be polished, had to be perfect. The pressure with my own laziness and lack of practice made it overwhelming. It wasn't until I went on my own spiritual journey that I found your channel and discovered the idea that femininity is multifaceted and looks different on everyone. I have been on a journey of self-discovery and I've found that I can be both disciplined with my self care and relaxed with my energy. I can be both graceful and lovely while also having a darkness that is sometimes feared by others (which I secretly find power in). I'm grateful to see the *true* essence of femininity as I can fully accept myself as a mystical being with no restraint or fear. I'm grateful to you for showing this to me, and I want you to know that your message has already changed at least one life in the best way. *Thank you.*
Hera, now that you are further along in your journey, are you attracted at all to some of those ladylike behaviors you learned about at the beginning? Do you still find value in those kinds of advice?
When i was a little girl is was very feminine and also popular for it. Adults loved me and I loved to entertain them. I even was graceful without thinking about it but that changed with going to school. I was bullied mercilessly and it always started with my friends turning on me. Everything about me my intelligence, creativity, looks, style and nature got criticized to you think you are special. I am an immigrant child, whose parents couldn’t protect them because teachers would take them seriously. and that is when I started to shut down everything the dancing, singing,femininity and art. I didn’t what to show myself anymore. I always wanted to be an artist and wanted to inspire people, which still is my goal, but the world broke me down so much that had to rebuild myself too many times. I inspire me a lot because of your radical individuality. I don’t have that. I think I am thinking back wanting the appreciation from other people back. I have treated and healed so many traumatic events and coping mechanisms, but this my last step and I am afraid. I don’t look how I want to and don’t do what I really want to because of fear. Fear of being abandoned. I am right before my physical transformation and am very anxious as if I will be accepted this time. I didn’t have friends for a decade and I have build friendships with a few people. I don’t want to lose that again. I don’t want to lose what I have build for myself again.
I tapped into my feminine side since I was 8. There was this girl in my class who was very posh and feminine. Every since then I started emulating this behaviour until I became like this permanently. There was so much allure in how she behaved that I knew that's how I wanted to carry myself too. It has become a natural part of who I am and how I carried myself all my life
We all have that **one girl** that we look up to and never tell her how much of an inspiration or how much of a teacher she was. Cheers to those unsung heroines.
I definitely have struggled with this, too. Growing up in the early 2000s, I thought the most beautiful, feminine women were like the Playboy girls next door, Anna Nicole, and those sorta people. My mom, however, dresses like a Duggar. She is all about natural makeup, small jewelry, dowdy, shapeless, and modest clothes. I was expected to want to look like that forever, and when I chose to make my own style, I was put down for it. Having any skin out, ever, was something my mom hates on me. She’s always so casual, that if I put actual effort into my appearance, she thinks it’s stupid or whorish. I was also raised with some funky cultural beliefs that reinforced modesty on my dads side, and again, reinforced that message of cute clothes = whorish. I don’t agree, but it’s hard to look cute now because I always worry I’m “doing too much” or being an attention whore like my mom would say. I also have traditionally masculine features like a square jaw, hunter eyes, brow ridge, and thin lips, in addition to really small, nonexistent breasts. I don’t feel like I look womanly. I don’t feel feminine either, which sucks. My biggest inspos are like Fran Fine in the Nanny because she’s so glamorous on her own terms and doesn’t LET anyone judge her for it.
Inner strength is crucial. You can’t ever expect anyone to accept you. If it makes you happy to dress “whorish” then do it and let that satisfy you alone. Dolly Parton talks about how the women she thought were the most beautiful in her town were called “trollops” and she worshiped their beautiful and molded herself after them in their honor. Do what makes you feel good. Others’ opinions/advice is mainly helpful to the majority, not the individualist. So whatever they tell you is not applicable to you. Your happiness is more valuable than the ease of conformity.
Growing up I was always a bit girly, but I never had the body, luxuries or personality I thought I needed to be feminine. It took me a while to understand that it comes from within. Then when I tried to embrace it and sought out vidoes, I was turned off by the way so many women are turning it into a stepford wife caricature. This is the only femininity channel I need. You have made it approachable.
I too relate sooo much to when you were younger. I was that loud, annoying class clown kid. I would make everyone laugh and be goofy but felt my self image deteriorate because...this isn't who I wanted to be. I was deeply insecure, stagnant and never believed I would be considered anything near feminine. This was a time when I wore very unflattering clothes and had a very boyish demeanor, even though a I had a very youthful personality. I didn't just want to be feminine so that a boys would like me and treat me better. I wanted to FEEL what those feminine women felt. To be feminine and what if meant to be embodied. This was like in 2016 and I searched up " how to be feminine." Results weren't much help, so I thought I was relegated to being like this for the rest of my life. It was a genuinely terrifying thought 💀. Obviously it's 2022 now and I've changed SO much, wow! I still have a lot of growth left, however It's almost surreal to see the progress one's achieved and I'm the most happy with that.
My femininity journey is still a struggle tbh. Can’t decide if I should just accept the fact that I’m a “masculine women”, or find a feminine archetype that feels the most authentic to me
I think finding a role model that suits you isn’t a bad idea. As much as we want to think we can solve that internal struggle ourselves, it’s always nice to have someone to look up to and inspire us to be brave. Mine were Grace Jones and Marlene Dietrich as well as the Amazon archetype!
i can definitely relate because i was a tomboy, but i always wanted to be like other girls with their beautiful frilly pink dresses and butterfly clips in their hair but i was in denial, because of a lot things like lack of direction, internalized misogyny etc. All i can say is thank you, your videos truly offer a chance for your viewers to take a look within themselves as well as gaining an understanding of who they want to become and how to get there
My god… I have been am still this exact person…my mom ‘ sister & ALLLLL the other females are the graceful lovely beasts… yet I am the hermit , disgraced in lonely…. These podcasts are so divinely found in this time of my life. It’s like the past comes around with y life and these couple year old videos. This is is really awesome TY. Because one of my things I am so bothered by is not ever doing the practice of not doing…
I absolutely love your channel. Its so refreshing and it's not telling you to dress in pink and look like everybody else to be feminine. I love it here, and I wish you so much success but then again, I don't want people to flock to your channel with their nonsense. :)
What’s odd for me is that I never truly ever had a moment where I caged myself in a societal mystical box of what is “femininity”. I’ve always thankfully found it rather easy to play with both sides of myself. Whether “masculine” or “feminine” but that’s just my own unique feminine nature as I learned throughout these years. I guess I just take it as a game where I get to play as who I am. Whatever I am, & I never felt less than as a woman, so far at least. Thank gosh for that, but I would also like to add that I’d request this as advice for others in our journey to womanhood. Play with your feminism. Have fun with it in the way that feels right to you. Don’t allow the mass majority to box you into that polished and fabricated version of what “Femininity” is or looks like. That’s where the magic resides. Where you will not only grown into your womanhood but have fun with it as well. Lol idk but I hope this helps!
I’m 24 now and I feel that I am just now understanding what being a woman means to me. Like you said though, I think that’s natural and a lot of time we rush ourselves and then get a little frustrated. I have found that the more I tap into those lesser spoken feminine qualities like strength and rage the more I feel like the woman I am. I am working on the balance at the moment, between rigid and letting go and for me that is the joy that my femininity brings me.
I relate to you a lot in so many instances. In my early years i had very few girls as friends and kind of adopted my male friends's behaviors. Being like a girl looked like a chore so i kept doing whatever i liked and was easier. In recent years my mental and physical health have not been great and i had become more distant from being a woman. I also try to force it sometimes but im tired of it. I am slowly realizing the importance of being a woman. I am finding ways to implement it in my routine. I know it will take a lot of time cause i need a lot of work done emotionally as im still struggling but ill keep taking baby steps. Your videos help a lot. Thank you.
In my opinion femininity comes with confidence and working towards your goals . When I was in HS a been more feminine than I am right now , but I was acting more masculine, dressed more masculine and didn't want male validation. I was so full of yourself that I was the "It" girl without even trying. But now when I have low esteem,seek male validation and try to achive it by looks , i noticed how less feminine I am . So rn I am mentally trying to get back to my femininity while at the same time trying to improve my looks .
For me it was the other way round. I had a very feminine body since I was 10 (when I also got my period) and that brought to me embarrassment. I looked more feminine than I felt. I was questioning my identity and trying to look more masculine until the past 3 years. As I grow older and I enter my 30s I am finally trying to come in terms with my own femininity. From the approach of trans women and the theatricality they usually use I finally understood that femininity is a role and a choice. And that freed me from any stereotypes. I finally love my body and I am trying to reinvent myself and understand my nature.
Hello Celice, my name is Venus and I've commented on your videos many times before. Today I am re-watching this video simply because I find comfort in listening to someone talk about matters that I have been going through myself. Thank you so much for your channel and your content, I hope you keep creating forever lol Same as other girls in the comments I remember a time when I was very feminine and I was quite popular for it but it came a time when I crossed paths with people that didn't like it very much and I just forced myself to be not me, basically, so I wouldn't get hurt anymore. I've been on this feminine journey for quite some time as well love you lots, Celine p.s. I think you are gorgeous
relate so much, I was very feminine as a child because my mum dressed me lol. As an adult I became lazy and this stiffed my femininity. Especially when people make fun of women taking long to get ready but I don't care anymore.
This is the best channel that I've stumbled upon ever. I feel so heard in your videos and you talk about things that run through my mind all the time. I always grew up as a bit of a tomboy in the sense that I never cared about feminine stuff. I hated washing or brushing my hair, wearing nice clothes etc yet I loved some girly things as well and liked very feminine girls. I always felt like a girl but I never wanted to put in the work that comes to femininety. I'm very clumsy, hard handed, lazy as well. This continuid through highschool as well. I started to hate my appearence so much that I actually wanted to stand out as much as possible. I always wore black, baggy clothes, ripped jeans, I had short hair, I refused to wear make up and I actually fought against everything that interested other girls, I hated my overly feminine body. Now as I grew older I learned to be proud of being a woman and I learned there are indeed so many ways of femininety and being a woman. I'm so glad I got to this stage. Now I adore women and I know there's nothing wrong with doing everything other girls do. I love dressing feminine and putting on makeup and looking the best feminine version of myself. I'm glad you talked about this and I never knew this was a thing other girls experienced at well. It comes when it comes and i keep on working on myself everyday. I love femininety. I'm not a native English speaker so I feel like I couldn't express myself fully but I hope you get the point and if you don't, I just felt everything you said.
Get out of my head!! I'm turning 34 in September and in the last 2 weeks I've realised how unbalanced I am because I've always been more intune with my masculine; for as long as I've had consciousness I've lived and behaved from this side of me, and really ignored and devalued the feminine. I'm starting to think what becoming more intune with this side looks like for me, and how I can start taking those steps. Right now I think listening to softer, more feminine music, as well as spending more time with women I look up to and feel good about myself around feel like good starting points. Thank you for your bravery in sharing this part of yourself with us. I hope you're feeling more feminine and empowered 2 years on. Sending much love from the UK 💗
I was a very wild little girl but I would say a very feminine one. I lived in remote mountains and I loved to run around the forest in princess dresses and crowns and wade in the lake nude. My favorite pass time was building fairy houses. I had a wild imagination. As I got older I became extremely feminine, very in touch with my sexuality, extremely interested in the art of femininity, especially in old Hollywood (I was so enthralled by Dita Avon Tease). While I loved it the world around me despised it. I was always asked why I was so dressed up, told to “tone it down”. Between the criticisms at such an influential age (about 14-17) and going into a highly competitive college program I completely lost touch with the feminine side of myself. Even for years after graduating I felt like I was floating outside of myself. Finally I went through a terrible break up and while picking up the pieces I remembered how much fun I had as a child and how free I was. I’ve been on a journey to get back in touch with that ever since then
When you said you were almost resentful of the time/effort it took to get ready when you were younger.. wow, that really resonated with me. I've never heard another woman say that before. It wasn't until you said it that I even realized what I'd been feeling was resentment. But it's so true, and that is still currently the way I've been operating for some time now. I find putting makeup on and doing all of the "womanly" things like shaving, taking care of my curly hair, and even applying lotion to my body to be so very tedious, time-consuming and, quite frankly, overwhelming. Although I've been exploring the ideas of masculine/feminine energy and can see I've been more masculine in most areas of my life, I never even considered the idea that maybe I've only been viewing these things in that manner because of that primary masculine energy as well.. and that to take my time and be present with these self-loving gestures can actually be considered an act of femininity. So I'm going to try slowing down, resisting less, and shifting my perspective on these things I previously considered chores and see how it goes. Thank you :)
Thorns don't stick in you as much when you just release your grasp I've noticed hahah. How you react to something really is your choice. Just take like one whole day off, don't plan anything else, don't have expectations, and only do those basic acts of maintenance without a timeframe. See how you feel!
Hi, Just found your channel yesterday, and ofc, I've been bingeing. I deeply appreciate your effort & honesty in this video. Since a young girl, I've pushed away all things feminine. And over the years I've grown to understand why and how it's been completely fucking me over. For the last few years I've been super intentional with my entire life just so I can gain back my magic and live a happier life ( & it's definitely working!) This has been the toughest yet most transformational journey I've been on and I wouldn't give it up for anything. Thank you and keep it up!
hi! another very insightful video. it would be great if you could create a video regarding how you learnt about the history of feminity, resources you used, where you began educating yourself about such topics. thanks:)
Thank you for sharing your feminine journey through such an insightful and honest perspective. I resonated with many parts and love the way that you always convey your thoughts into words, with eloquence, evocative imagery, structure and poise. It's always a pleasure to hear your take on those matters ✨🥀❤️
I had terrible examples of femininity my mother was extremely butch and would constantly nag at me for being soy boyish when she herself would get confused for a man all the time, she'd also cut my hair so she didn't have to "deal with it". The little girls I grew up with had a very saccharine and plastic view of femininity due to the pageant culture my town holds to this very day. Because of these bad examples I just gravitated to my masculine side by constantly playing sports and skateboarding (I cringe at those years but I am so incredibly grateful for those years because it has kept me in fantastic shape). I've always been slim thick which gave me a lot of unwanted attention and it made me want to hide even more. Well with my mother passing away and two toxic relationships later I realized I was not being true to myself and once I started watching John Galeano's runway shows from the golden years of the Y2K era I was HOOKED! The extensive research I did on each collection would always bring me to the actresses he would get inspiration for his collection and I can honestly say I could not find a better teacher for my taste when it came to my femininity in his body of work.
A thougth occured to me while listening to you when you discussed your age and referred to feeling more feminine - body wise- only recently, in the past 2 to 3 years. I think femininity is of course, boudless in age, but at the same time I am tempted to disagree because I personally felt more like a child than a 'woman' or 'lady' up until the age of 16 even, regardless of obviously having gone through puberty and what not. I think much of this feminine journey you are describing and sharing, at least to me, is only logical to discuss once you 'wake up' and recognize you are a woman. And I doubt this happens at the age of 18, once you are legal. Neither does it necessarily happen after 14 or 16 or whenever the age of consent is. I think it is crucial to accept that when we do not feel feminine at a young age it may be because we are simply children, not because we are 'masculine'. Even if we have developed breasts or are visibly at a 'breedable' age, i just cant find a better word for it at the moment, it does not mean we understand that with this come mani sacrifices and much discipline to stay in line. I love you channel, and what you talk about, I actually discovered you recently. I just wanted to add that it may not be a question of being feminine or not by birth (not that you claim that), it may just be a question of growing into a woman with a certain level of maturity who realises that nothing in life comes without effort, not even your own essence. That, too, must be curated.
I can appreciate all of the beautiful makeup looks that you do in some of your videos, but I must say you are quite stunning in this one without all of the fabulous makeup. Coming from a woman who is getting comfortable in her own skin without the extra make up ❤
The problem with me is that I enjoy my feminine body and presenting it, and in no way would I like to be in a male body, but internally, I am much more masculine. I can't help it. I know that forcing it feels like I'm pretending. I am a dudette and I like the label. As you said, it fluctuates. But there is strong [as in prevail] male core in me. I am an artistic, beautiful, sleek and sculptural tank. This is how I can describe myself the closest.
might it be that artists are naturally more spiritually androgynous (i think even paglia mentions it at some point in SP) so it takes a more thoughtful process to individuate?
My feminine journey has been one of self-discipline and balance. My mother was a very neutral woman. Not particularly feminine or masculine. She didn't choose to put a lot of effort into herself in any way, and so when I became a woman I felt I didn't know how to put effort into myself as a feminine being. I fell into watching trad-wives on TH-cam because they seemed to really be the only women talking about positive femininity at the time. And while that did teach me to care for myself in ways like doing my hair and using delicate mannerisms... I became lost in the idea of being a "lady". A lady never slouches, a lady is never lazy, a lady puts others above herself at all times. Etc etc etc. It was so much pressure all at once that I became burnt out and started to reject the idea of being feminine because I felt it was such a strict idea of being someone who had to be happy, had to be polished, had to be perfect. The pressure with my own laziness and lack of practice made it overwhelming. It wasn't until I went on my own spiritual journey that I found your channel and discovered the idea that femininity is multifaceted and looks different on everyone. I have been on a journey of self-discovery and I've found that I can be both disciplined with my self care and relaxed with my energy. I can be both graceful and lovely while also having a darkness that is sometimes feared by others (which I secretly find power in). I'm grateful to see the *true* essence of femininity as I can fully accept myself as a mystical being with no restraint or fear. I'm grateful to you for showing this to me, and I want you to know that your message has already changed at least one life in the best way. *Thank you.*
That fills me with such joy. I’m so happy you’re approaching clarity in your journey babe! I’m glad I could guide you for a portion of it. ❤️
Hera, now that you are further along in your journey, are you attracted at all to some of those ladylike behaviors you learned about at the beginning? Do you still find value in those kinds of advice?
When i was a little girl is was very feminine and also popular for it. Adults loved me and I loved to entertain them. I even was graceful without thinking about it but that changed with going to school. I was bullied mercilessly and it always started with my friends turning on me. Everything about me my intelligence, creativity, looks, style and nature got criticized to you think you are special. I am an immigrant child, whose parents couldn’t protect them because teachers would take them seriously. and that is when I started to shut down everything the dancing, singing,femininity and art. I didn’t what to show myself anymore. I always wanted to be an artist and wanted to inspire people, which still is my goal, but the world broke me down so much that had to rebuild myself too many times. I inspire me a lot because of your radical individuality. I don’t have that. I think I am thinking back wanting the appreciation from other people back. I have treated and healed so many traumatic events and coping mechanisms, but this my last step and I am afraid. I don’t look how I want to and don’t do what I really want to because of fear. Fear of being abandoned. I am right before my physical transformation and am very anxious as if I will be accepted this time. I didn’t have friends for a decade and I have build friendships with a few people. I don’t want to lose that again. I don’t want to lose what I have build for myself again.
I tapped into my feminine side since I was 8. There was this girl in my class who was very posh and feminine. Every since then I started emulating this behaviour until I became like this permanently. There was so much allure in how she behaved that I knew that's how I wanted to carry myself too. It has become a natural part of who I am and how I carried myself all my life
We all have that **one girl** that we look up to and never tell her how much of an inspiration or how much of a teacher she was. Cheers to those unsung heroines.
I definitely have struggled with this, too. Growing up in the early 2000s, I thought the most beautiful, feminine women were like the Playboy girls next door, Anna Nicole, and those sorta people. My mom, however, dresses like a Duggar. She is all about natural makeup, small jewelry, dowdy, shapeless, and modest clothes. I was expected to want to look like that forever, and when I chose to make my own style, I was put down for it. Having any skin out, ever, was something my mom hates on me. She’s always so casual, that if I put actual effort into my appearance, she thinks it’s stupid or whorish. I was also raised with some funky cultural beliefs that reinforced modesty on my dads side, and again, reinforced that message of cute clothes = whorish. I don’t agree, but it’s hard to look cute now because I always worry I’m “doing too much” or being an attention whore like my mom would say. I also have traditionally masculine features like a square jaw, hunter eyes, brow ridge, and thin lips, in addition to really small, nonexistent breasts. I don’t feel like I look womanly. I don’t feel feminine either, which sucks. My biggest inspos are like Fran Fine in the Nanny because she’s so glamorous on her own terms and doesn’t LET anyone judge her for it.
Inner strength is crucial. You can’t ever expect anyone to accept you. If it makes you happy to dress “whorish” then do it and let that satisfy you alone. Dolly Parton talks about how the women she thought were the most beautiful in her town were called “trollops” and she worshiped their beautiful and molded herself after them in their honor.
Do what makes you feel good. Others’ opinions/advice is mainly helpful to the majority, not the individualist. So whatever they tell you is not applicable to you. Your happiness is more valuable than the ease of conformity.
Growing up I was always a bit girly, but I never had the body, luxuries or personality I thought I needed to be feminine. It took me a while to understand that it comes from within. Then when I tried to embrace it and sought out vidoes, I was turned off by the way so many women are turning it into a stepford wife caricature. This is the only femininity channel I need. You have made it approachable.
Thank you, I’m so happy I’ve opened that door once more ❤️
I too relate sooo much to when you were younger. I was that loud, annoying class clown kid. I would make everyone laugh and be goofy but felt my self image deteriorate because...this isn't who I wanted to be. I was deeply insecure, stagnant and never believed I would be considered anything near feminine. This was a time when I wore very unflattering clothes and had a very boyish demeanor, even though a I had a very youthful personality.
I didn't just want to be feminine so that a boys would like me and treat me better. I wanted to FEEL what those feminine women felt. To be feminine and what if meant to be embodied. This was like in 2016 and I searched up " how to be feminine." Results weren't much help, so I thought I was relegated to being like this for the rest of my life. It was a genuinely terrifying thought 💀. Obviously it's 2022 now and I've changed SO much, wow! I still have a lot of growth left, however It's almost surreal to see the progress one's achieved and I'm the most happy with that.
My femininity journey is still a struggle tbh. Can’t decide if I should just accept the fact that I’m a “masculine women”, or find a feminine archetype that feels the most authentic to me
I think finding a role model that suits you isn’t a bad idea. As much as we want to think we can solve that internal struggle ourselves, it’s always nice to have someone to look up to and inspire us to be brave. Mine were Grace Jones and Marlene Dietrich as well as the Amazon archetype!
I love ALL your videos.
i can definitely relate because i was a tomboy, but i always wanted to be like other girls with their beautiful frilly pink dresses and butterfly clips in their hair but i was in denial, because of a lot things like lack of direction, internalized misogyny etc. All i can say is thank you, your videos truly offer a chance for your viewers to take a look within themselves as well as gaining an understanding of who they want to become and how to get there
Whew I’m glad they do their job! ❤️
My god… I have been am still this exact person…my mom ‘ sister & ALLLLL the other females are the graceful lovely beasts… yet I am the hermit , disgraced in lonely…. These podcasts are so divinely found in this time of my life. It’s like the past comes around with y life and these couple year old videos. This is is really awesome TY. Because one of my things I am so bothered by is not ever doing the practice of not doing…
I absolutely love your channel. Its so refreshing and it's not telling you to dress in pink and look like everybody else to be feminine. I love it here, and I wish you so much success but then again, I don't want people to flock to your channel with their nonsense. :)
I’ll never tell you to dress in pink babe ❤️
What’s odd for me is that I never truly ever had a moment where I caged myself in a societal mystical box of what is “femininity”. I’ve always thankfully found it rather easy to play with both sides of myself. Whether “masculine” or “feminine” but that’s just my own unique feminine nature as I learned throughout these years. I guess I just take it as a game where I get to play as who I am. Whatever I am, & I never felt less than as a woman, so far at least. Thank gosh for that, but I would also like to add that I’d request this as advice for others in our journey to womanhood. Play with your feminism. Have fun with it in the way that feels right to you. Don’t allow the mass majority to box you into that polished and fabricated version of what “Femininity” is or looks like. That’s where the magic resides. Where you will not only grown into your womanhood but have fun with it as well. Lol idk but I hope this helps!
Set yourself as an example gal! Love it
I’m 24 now and I feel that I am just now understanding what being a woman means to me. Like you said though, I think that’s natural and a lot of time we rush ourselves and then get a little frustrated. I have found that the more I tap into those lesser spoken feminine qualities like strength and rage the more I feel like the woman I am. I am working on the balance at the moment, between rigid and letting go and for me that is the joy that my femininity brings me.
I relate to you a lot in so many instances. In my early years i had very few girls as friends and kind of adopted my male friends's behaviors.
Being like a girl looked like a chore so i kept doing whatever i liked and was easier.
In recent years my mental and physical health have not been great and i had become more distant from being a woman. I also try to force it sometimes but im tired of it.
I am slowly realizing the importance of being a woman. I am finding ways to implement it in my routine. I know it will take a lot of time cause i need a lot of work done emotionally as im still struggling but ill keep taking baby steps.
Your videos help a lot. Thank you.
In my opinion femininity comes with confidence and working towards your goals . When I was in HS a been more feminine than I am right now , but I was acting more masculine, dressed more masculine and didn't want male validation. I was so full of yourself that I was the "It" girl without even trying. But now when I have low esteem,seek male validation and try to achive it by looks , i noticed how less feminine I am . So rn I am mentally trying to get back to my femininity while at the same time trying to improve my looks .
For me it was the other way round. I had a very feminine body since I was 10 (when I also got my period) and that brought to me embarrassment. I looked more feminine than I felt. I was questioning my identity and trying to look more masculine until the past 3 years. As I grow older and I enter my 30s I am finally trying to come in terms with my own femininity. From the approach of trans women and the theatricality they usually use I finally understood that femininity is a role and a choice. And that freed me from any stereotypes. I finally love my body and I am trying to reinvent myself and understand my nature.
Hello Celice, my name is Venus and I've commented on your videos many times before. Today I am re-watching this video simply because I find comfort in listening to someone talk about matters that I have been going through myself. Thank you so much for your channel and your content, I hope you keep creating forever lol
Same as other girls in the comments I remember a time when I was very feminine and I was quite popular for it but it came a time when I crossed paths with people that didn't like it very much and I just forced myself to be not me, basically, so I wouldn't get hurt anymore. I've been on this feminine journey for quite some time as well
love you lots, Celine
p.s. I think you are gorgeous
relate so much, I was very feminine as a child because my mum dressed me lol. As an adult I became lazy and this stiffed my femininity. Especially when people make fun of women taking long to get ready but I don't care anymore.
This is the best channel that I've stumbled upon ever. I feel so heard in your videos and you talk about things that run through my mind all the time.
I always grew up as a bit of a tomboy in the sense that I never cared about feminine stuff. I hated washing or brushing my hair, wearing nice clothes etc yet I loved some girly things as well and liked very feminine girls. I always felt like a girl but I never wanted to put in the work that comes to femininety. I'm very clumsy, hard handed, lazy as well. This continuid through highschool as well. I started to hate my appearence so much that I actually wanted to stand out as much as possible. I always wore black, baggy clothes, ripped jeans, I had short hair, I refused to wear make up and I actually fought against everything that interested other girls, I hated my overly feminine body. Now as I grew older I learned to be proud of being a woman and I learned there are indeed so many ways of femininety and being a woman. I'm so glad I got to this stage. Now I adore women and I know there's nothing wrong with doing everything other girls do. I love dressing feminine and putting on makeup and looking the best feminine version of myself. I'm glad you talked about this and I never knew this was a thing other girls experienced at well. It comes when it comes and i keep on working on myself everyday. I love femininety.
I'm not a native English speaker so I feel like I couldn't express myself fully but I hope you get the point and if you don't, I just felt everything you said.
Get out of my head!! I'm turning 34 in September and in the last 2 weeks I've realised how unbalanced I am because I've always been more intune with my masculine; for as long as I've had consciousness I've lived and behaved from this side of me, and really ignored and devalued the feminine. I'm starting to think what becoming more intune with this side looks like for me, and how I can start taking those steps. Right now I think listening to softer, more feminine music, as well as spending more time with women I look up to and feel good about myself around feel like good starting points. Thank you for your bravery in sharing this part of yourself with us. I hope you're feeling more feminine and empowered 2 years on. Sending much love from the UK 💗
I was a very wild little girl but I would say a very feminine one. I lived in remote mountains and I loved to run around the forest in princess dresses and crowns and wade in the lake nude. My favorite pass time was building fairy houses. I had a wild imagination. As I got older I became extremely feminine, very in touch with my sexuality, extremely interested in the art of femininity, especially in old Hollywood (I was so enthralled by Dita Avon Tease). While I loved it the world around me despised it. I was always asked why I was so dressed up, told to “tone it down”. Between the criticisms at such an influential age (about 14-17) and going into a highly competitive college program I completely lost touch with the feminine side of myself. Even for years after graduating I felt like I was floating outside of myself. Finally I went through a terrible break up and while picking up the pieces I remembered how much fun I had as a child and how free I was. I’ve been on a journey to get back in touch with that ever since then
When you said you were almost resentful of the time/effort it took to get ready when you were younger.. wow, that really resonated with me. I've never heard another woman say that before. It wasn't until you said it that I even realized what I'd been feeling was resentment. But it's so true, and that is still currently the way I've been operating for some time now. I find putting makeup on and doing all of the "womanly" things like shaving, taking care of my curly hair, and even applying lotion to my body to be so very tedious, time-consuming and, quite frankly, overwhelming. Although I've been exploring the ideas of masculine/feminine energy and can see I've been more masculine in most areas of my life, I never even considered the idea that maybe I've only been viewing these things in that manner because of that primary masculine energy as well.. and that to take my time and be present with these self-loving gestures can actually be considered an act of femininity. So I'm going to try slowing down, resisting less, and shifting my perspective on these things I previously considered chores and see how it goes. Thank you :)
Thorns don't stick in you as much when you just release your grasp I've noticed hahah. How you react to something really is your choice.
Just take like one whole day off, don't plan anything else, don't have expectations, and only do those basic acts of maintenance without a timeframe. See how you feel!
Hi, Just found your channel yesterday, and ofc, I've been bingeing. I deeply appreciate your effort & honesty in this video. Since a young girl, I've pushed away all things feminine. And over the years I've grown to understand why and how it's been completely fucking me over. For the last few years I've been super intentional with my entire life just so I can gain back my magic and live a happier life ( & it's definitely working!) This has been the toughest yet most transformational journey I've been on and I wouldn't give it up for anything. Thank you and keep it up!
hi! another very insightful video. it would be great if you could create a video regarding how you learnt about the history of feminity, resources you used, where you began educating yourself about such topics. thanks:)
Thank you! Many of my resources are actually listed in my video preceding this one, where I talk about books that changed my life.
I love how raw and vulnerable you are in this video.
Thank you for sharing your feminine journey through such an insightful and honest perspective. I resonated with many parts and love the way that you always convey your thoughts into words, with eloquence, evocative imagery, structure and poise. It's always a pleasure to hear your take on those matters ✨🥀❤️
Thank you babe ❤️❤️
Omg you are so pretty😮😍can’t stop watching your videos they are so interesting to watch and I love your aesthetic ❤
Thank you so much babe!
I had terrible examples of femininity my mother was extremely butch and would constantly nag at me for being soy boyish when she herself would get confused for a man all the time, she'd also cut my hair so she didn't have to "deal with it". The little girls I grew up with had a very saccharine and plastic view of femininity due to the pageant culture my town holds to this very day. Because of these bad examples I just gravitated to my masculine side by constantly playing sports and skateboarding (I cringe at those years but I am so incredibly grateful for those years because it has kept me in fantastic shape). I've always been slim thick which gave me a lot of unwanted attention and it made me want to hide even more. Well with my mother passing away and two toxic relationships later I realized I was not being true to myself and once I started watching John Galeano's runway shows from the golden years of the Y2K era I was HOOKED! The extensive research I did on each collection would always bring me to the actresses he would get inspiration for his collection and I can honestly say I could not find a better teacher for my taste when it came to my femininity in his body of work.
A thougth occured to me while listening to you when you discussed your age and referred to feeling more feminine - body wise- only recently, in the past 2 to 3 years. I think femininity is of course, boudless in age, but at the same time I am tempted to disagree because I personally felt more like a child than a 'woman' or 'lady' up until the age of 16 even, regardless of obviously having gone through puberty and what not. I think much of this feminine journey you are describing and sharing, at least to me, is only logical to discuss once you 'wake up' and recognize you are a woman. And I doubt this happens at the age of 18, once you are legal. Neither does it necessarily happen after 14 or 16 or whenever the age of consent is. I think it is crucial to accept that when we do not feel feminine at a young age it may be because we are simply children, not because we are 'masculine'. Even if we have developed breasts or are visibly at a 'breedable' age, i just cant find a better word for it at the moment, it does not mean we understand that with this come mani sacrifices and much discipline to stay in line. I love you channel, and what you talk about, I actually discovered you recently. I just wanted to add that it may not be a question of being feminine or not by birth (not that you claim that), it may just be a question of growing into a woman with a certain level of maturity who realises that nothing in life comes without effort, not even your own essence. That, too, must be curated.
I can appreciate all of the beautiful makeup looks that you do in some of your videos, but I must say you are quite stunning in this one without all of the fabulous makeup. Coming from a woman who is getting comfortable in her own skin without the extra make up ❤
The problem with me is that I enjoy my feminine body and presenting it, and in no way would I like to be in a male body, but internally, I am much more masculine. I can't help it. I know that forcing it feels like I'm pretending. I am a dudette and I like the label. As you said, it fluctuates. But there is strong [as in prevail] male core in me. I am an artistic, beautiful, sleek and sculptural tank. This is how I can describe myself the closest.
I have been struggling with finding great books about grace, indifference and femininity . please let us know
So happy to found your channel❤
I am fascinated. I dont really have feminine role models in my life. I'm self taught 😅
Ooo thiiis is why I love you 😌☺️
oh my god wow … you are so beautiful
might it be that artists are naturally more spiritually androgynous (i think even paglia mentions it at some point in SP) so it takes a more thoughtful process to individuate?
Yeah you think deeply about every minute detail and it takes longer to initiate a change.
I need to find wherever that is in SP
@@HeavenSentHoney im going by heart i think it's in the second half of the book. (EDIT: might be the chapter about Emily Bronte)
What literature would you recommend to read about femininity?
❤️same
is being gay still make you feminist as a woman?
I'm not sure I understand what you mean.