Someone compliments my profile photos. Great compliments. I told him i had a crush on him. He said he loved hearing that. He doesn't know my age , but I'm pretty sure I'm about 15 years older than he is. He has my back. Never met each other. I think it's harmless flirting. I think we're both flattered.
@SusanWinter No. I'm married. He's a Facebook friend and seems like a nice guy. He's the sensitive type. He's been extremely complimentary. Of course I'm flattered. I'm 80 years young.
This guy ticks all the 5 boxes… We already both know that we really like each other but he just said he’s “not ready for a relationship” because in relationships he “feels constrained or restricted”. He knows I’m all in for a relationship, but WTF?! 🤷🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻
Susan, looking lovely & glowy indeed! ♥️ your approach to having the convo with your person up front about being full-disclosure if things go south but the inherent risk is that it puts you in the position of weakness as though you’re waiting for a shoe to drop or putting doubts into the universe to manifest, also I feel that it gives the other person more power over the relationship which can end up causing an imbalance and imploding it…I wish this were not so but so many people seem healthy initially and then if you even get into the 3rd date and beyond, we often realize they are fraught with insecurities and attachment issues which is a blessing in disguise if the convo brings these things to the surface. It’s really sad that in this day and age most aren’t emotionally mature enough to be honest about their feelings whether positive, neutral or negative 🤷♀️
I appreciate your comment, and I can see how that might be the case by the third date. That's where they start to spin out of control. When I have had a direct approach, it has been with a person that has already made it through the gate of dating me for a while. Now I realize that we are going to enter partnership. And I tell them how I work and how I function. I also tell them the parameters of what will happen "if." And I feel that that serves as a boundary. We each do it in our own way. Whatever way works for you is best.
Susan. I am watching this for the moment. But I have a female friend who has a boyfriend but she goes out of her way to show interest to me. Offer me assistance in various ways. Asking into my day and helps me, seek me out. She moved to another city, we used to live in the same. Her boyfriend is in the military. But she asked me if I would interested to move to the same city as her. She wants to hang out with me. I don't know if she using me as emotional support. But I keep getting mixed signals from here. One second as a friend and the next it feels there's more. I am so confused
I don't agree with the other commenter that you need to run - there isn't enough information here suggesting she is doing anything wrong. Friends are emotional support, that's not "using" after all, so long as your relationship is mutual and boundaries are set where you need them and she respects those boundaries. However, be sure not to cross the line, literally no point wondering about this as she has a boyfriend. Even if she is attracted to you it means nothing
I want to be honest with you: this does not feel right. It doesn't feel like a "sisterly" situation as you have described it here. Who in the world would ask you to move to their city for them? Really? I may like my friend's partner. But would I move to another city to be closer to them? It feels like you're being set up for the "in case" guy as in as in in case, I get bored, in case I need help moving furniture, in case I need emotional support, you would be a surrogate husband. Be very, very, very, very careful. It is a.BIG ASK.
When they offer to help you, they help you with the gardening but after a couple months of talking about the topic. they are an established friend of many years but have inconsistent communication of months apart. We don't talk everyday, we don't talk weekly. Maybe once a month. They came and did the job without me asking and prompting. Are they just kind?
If the communication has dropped significantly, they might be more comfortable having you as a friend in their life. Have you ever mentioned wanting something more to this person?
thanks Susan x love the advice. After a month, it is clear i am only a friend as i am not on the radar in communication since this message. Clear sign as friends that you have stated
Thanks for an Epic Video Susan❤ found myself listening watching you twice
Bryan, thank you so much for this contribution!!!!
"Susan, you came to me in the winter of my life." That has GOT to be one of the cutest comments I've ever heard on your channel 😂
It really is so delightful!
Someone compliments my profile photos. Great compliments. I told him i had a crush on him. He said he loved hearing that. He doesn't know my age , but I'm pretty sure I'm about 15 years older than he is. He has my back. Never met each other. I think it's harmless flirting. I think we're both flattered.
So what do you want to do with this to investigate further?
@SusanWinter No. I'm married. He's a Facebook friend and seems like a nice guy. He's the sensitive type. He's been extremely complimentary. Of course I'm flattered. I'm 80 years young.
They cuff themselves to you in yoga class😄😂that comment made my day😀it’s always fun on your channel thank you🙏🥰
Thank you BTS forever
This guy ticks all the 5 boxes… We already both know that we really like each other but he just said he’s “not ready for a relationship” because in relationships he “feels constrained or restricted”. He knows I’m all in for a relationship, but WTF?! 🤷🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻
Hello from Australia first time here loving your content and energy ✨
Im 53 and in a new relationship this has been really helpful thankyou 💙
Oh my goodness thank you for writing. I love hearing this. Keep coming back because they're really good people on this channel.
Susan, looking lovely & glowy indeed! ♥️ your approach to having the convo with your person up front about being full-disclosure if things go south but the inherent risk is that it puts you in the position of weakness as though you’re waiting for a shoe to drop or putting doubts into the universe to manifest, also I feel that it gives the other person more power over the relationship which can end up causing an imbalance and imploding it…I wish this were not so but so many people seem healthy initially and then if you even get into the 3rd date and beyond, we often realize they are fraught with insecurities and attachment issues which is a blessing in disguise if the convo brings these things to the surface. It’s really sad that in this day and age most aren’t emotionally mature enough to be honest about their feelings whether positive, neutral or negative 🤷♀️
I appreciate your comment, and I can see how that might be the case by the third date. That's where they start to spin out of control. When I have had a direct approach, it has been with a person that has already made it through the gate of dating me for a while. Now I realize that we are going to enter partnership. And I tell them how I work and how I function. I also tell them the parameters of what will happen "if." And I feel that that serves as a boundary. We each do it in our own way. Whatever way works for you is best.
Omg I’ve been listening to you for months and just now finding out that you’re an IU school of music alum like me! Go Hoosiers!
thank you so much for this wonderful video!
Thank you Susan! You are such a big help and your energy is so beautiful! Thank you! ❤️😘🙏
Your skin and hair look fabulous today 😊
Aww thank you so much!
Thank you for everything you do
❤❤❤ thank you for watching!
Susan. I am watching this for the moment. But I have a female friend who has a boyfriend but she goes out of her way to show interest to me. Offer me assistance in various ways. Asking into my day and helps me, seek me out. She moved to another city, we used to live in the same. Her boyfriend is in the military. But she asked me if I would interested to move to the same city as her.
She wants to hang out with me.
I don't know if she using me as emotional support. But I keep getting mixed signals from here. One second as a friend and the next it feels there's more. I am so confused
Run!
I don't agree with the other commenter that you need to run - there isn't enough information here suggesting she is doing anything wrong. Friends are emotional support, that's not "using" after all, so long as your relationship is mutual and boundaries are set where you need them and she respects those boundaries. However, be sure not to cross the line, literally no point wondering about this as she has a boyfriend. Even if she is attracted to you it means nothing
@@mesCheerios thanks, it is mutual. And I will not interfere with their relationship. I will keep it low and shift my energy.
I want to be honest with you: this does not feel right. It doesn't feel like a "sisterly" situation as you have described it here. Who in the world would ask you to move to their city for them? Really? I may like my friend's partner. But would I move to another city to be closer to them? It feels like you're being set up for the "in case" guy as in as in in case, I get bored, in case I need help moving furniture, in case I need emotional support, you would be a surrogate husband. Be very, very, very, very careful. It is a.BIG ASK.
I agree! @@SimbaAliaye
I’m sadder than Ive ever been
❤❤❤❤❤❤ thanks Susan
You’re welcome! Thanks for the love!
Love the color of your dress, its beautiful, Blue my fav Color,
Dealing with anixioty wan to work with and continue work with you
l like al your videos and your concersation
When they offer to help you, they help you with the gardening but after a couple months of talking about the topic. they are an established friend of many years but have inconsistent communication of months apart. We don't talk everyday, we don't talk weekly. Maybe once a month. They came and did the job without me asking and prompting. Are they just kind?
If the communication has dropped significantly, they might be more comfortable having you as a friend in their life. Have you ever mentioned wanting something more to this person?
thanks Susan x love the advice. After a month, it is clear i am only a friend as i am not on the radar in communication since this message. Clear sign as friends that you have stated
Beware future fakers: I’ll help you with that… Then bags out.
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