Who else enjoys seeing Zinhle’s business side? 🙋🏽♀️I loooove watching snippets of her meetings with her employees and resolving business challenges. Her personal side I genuinely feel we could do without.
Interesting conversation, it is culture in most places for the child to have fathers name only if she is married to him. Else child bares mother’s family name . Hence the elders are right👌🏿👌🏿
Dankie Siyabonga Mama coz these traditions have been lost nowadays, we are all learning about the consequences of having children out of wedlock because of all these repercussions that follow and complications thereof. This episode was really beneficial
Damages are paid if the father is not the same for each child. So it is irrelevant that she has children before. Each guy must pay for his child. End of story.
Yoh, Zintle thank you for sharing your journey with us. Honestly was not aware of all these procedures for a child to bear the fathers name. If his not paying lobola. It's an eye opener, and at least l still have time to make this right while l am alive. Ukuze ingane zami zingalandelwa yishwa💯 Your show is a educational skill set for an African girl child, who is fully inclined with African Spirituality 🙏🙏🙏
In the Shona (Zimbabwe) culture, one pays "damages" for first child only. The family cannot get damages from the 2nd child onwards. One can and is expected to pay "maredzwa" (repaying the maternal family for upkeep) for any child no matter how old the child is.
@Simangaliso Sithole having full independence/having parents that understand the times were in/having a small connected family...where they dont push/press for things to be done in THAT way but seek other ways to keep tradition yet not delay life on things that have never really been seen to have an effect on ones life.
She better if she get married this kids with different surname; and if she doesn't want to get married she mustn't waste time for the guy.Let the guy get the someone to marry
I'm not seeing it though??? I'm seeing Zinhle making sure that Kairo has a father ,a mother and a loving home. I'm seeing Zinhle not doing the bitter baby mama drama coz we tired of it!! I'm seeing Zinhle and Kiernan co- parent healthily
I love this content for young South African girls ♥️ Too many pregnancies with temporary boyfriends not enough knowledge &🧠understanding of what it takes to be a parent.
I honestly feel that children must not use their father’s surnames if not married to the mom. Things must be traditionally done according to the moms culture . It makes life less complicated
By the way this is not a practice for people who don't believe in African spirituality n ancestors. So if you're a colonized Christian you don't need to worry about jack.
@PearlMgwenya he has to buy isbongo to show commitment… cause if both parents aren’t together and the mom is the only custodian of the child, she will constantly have limitations to the things she can do ngomtwana, ubabakhe engaziwa where he is. E.g travelling, you would need permission from the father, if the child has the dads family, you can’t make medical decisions as a mother if the child has the dads surname into ezinjalo. Now, you aren’t guaranteed ukuthi he will be voluntarily be in the child’s life engahlawula but atlst ukuhlawula it shows some sort of commitment in the child’s life + ukuhlawula involves 2 families . You won’t have to look for him up and down if there’s need for his signatures.I don’t know if you get it.
@ Audrey Gugue uy chaze kak’hle sthandwa I love this show for South African girls it really sheds light on the fact that our culture was intended to protect us and not to constrain us as it’s often unfortunately perceived
Tradition is a scam...kuyakhokhwa yonke into ai suka, mengakhokhokhwa it emotional blackmails "amabhadi this amabhadi that" ai suka...abafethu abanamali, abanye, ingakho abanye abafethu bebaleka.
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Who else enjoys seeing Zinhle’s business side? 🙋🏽♀️I loooove watching snippets of her meetings with her employees and resolving business challenges. Her personal side I genuinely feel we could do without.
Interesting conversation, it is culture in most places for the child to have fathers name only if she is married to him. Else child bares mother’s family name . Hence the elders are right👌🏿👌🏿
I have taken one thing from this whole show: Her mom did a great job raising them. I love how respectful and loving they all are towards each other.
Happy for Zinhle....She has a loving and supportive family.
uMa did not just say she doesn't know because noone has have ever had to pay damages for her once or twice. The shade 😂😂😂
ZINHLE has a Beautiful family.hope she marries bongz
This a powerful love of siblings ❤
Dankie Siyabonga Mama coz these traditions have been lost nowadays, we are all learning about the consequences of having children out of wedlock because of all these repercussions that follow and complications thereof. This episode was really beneficial
Damages are paid if the father is not the same for each child. So it is irrelevant that she has children before. Each guy must pay for his child. End of story.
haibo, inhlawulo eyokugeza amantombazane nokuthi umthathe ubuntombi ngokomthetho, eysbili ingane iyathengwa
Yoh, Zintle thank you for sharing your journey with us. Honestly was not aware of all these procedures for a child to bear the fathers name. If his not paying lobola.
It's an eye opener, and at least l still have time to make this right while l am alive. Ukuze ingane zami zingalandelwa yishwa💯
Your show is a educational skill set for an African girl child, who is fully inclined with African Spirituality 🙏🙏🙏
my brother would have been like '' yeyi weh mah ngikutshene sephindile phela lo"
🤣
🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I love how they follow isintu..vele ingane iyathengwa to have the father surname
Me think there's a strong connection between Dj & mother. ❤
So loving their relationship with mom❤
Beautiful mom
I wish inhad this kind of brother i mean wow🥰😍🤩
In the Shona (Zimbabwe) culture, one pays "damages" for first child only. The family cannot get damages from the 2nd child onwards. One can and is expected to pay "maredzwa" (repaying the maternal family for upkeep) for any child no matter how old the child is.
Thank you for sharing 🥰
Even with different fathers?
Also Xhosa we pay damage the first pregnancy we call it.(ukuwiswa ibele )he has damaged yu.but second pregnant u already damaged
Same with most Basotho traditions.
@@nicolam4513 Yes, each child might have her/his own family name or totem.
Zee's mum is such a vibe 😊 💓
We know darn well Zinhle didn’t make a mistake with the names at hospital
Exactlyyy lollll
The way her brother is looking to the side, like he doesn't know why he is there. 😂😂😂
Zinhle ain’t tryna get married 😂🤣
Ncooooh Zinhle's mom🥺💕🥰
The Cameras helped dilute the situation for sure. But ke times do change and exceptions are made.
@Simangaliso Sithole having full independence/having parents that understand the times were in/having a small connected family...where they dont push/press for things to be done in THAT way but seek other ways to keep tradition yet not delay life on things that have never really been seen to have an effect on ones life.
Zakhele is such a clown, love him
Bongani seemed determined to do the right thing. I have faith that he paid damages and respected bakaJiyane
mom so adorable
I love how her mom knows isintu
Her brother is funny 😄
Congratulations Zinhle 🤩
Zintles brother is nice
EISH. ja neh. I'm glad u spoke about the lobola for the child... my baby daddy needs to see this...
I feel like her mom would have shouted if there were no cameras
Mummy laughs like Zee
As a man you just keep paying for everything.
There is no such thing of paying damages for someone who already has a child .. period she knew what she was doing
Its cslled inhlawulo it loses meaning because you call it damages ukumithusa ingane yomuntu icala period.
She better if she get married this kids with different surname; and if she doesn't want to get married she mustn't waste time for the guy.Let the guy get the someone to marry
Hayi bo.
ngokwazi kwami intombi ayihlawulwa kabili
DJ zihnhe got this soft sport for AKA 🥴
Too much
I'm not seeing it though??? I'm seeing Zinhle making sure that Kairo has a father ,a mother and a loving home. I'm seeing Zinhle not doing the bitter baby mama drama coz we tired of it!! I'm seeing Zinhle and Kiernan co- parent healthily
@@melaninkosijoseph6904 agreed
True
Too much
Lots of love BET family -'from Kojak country Lifestyle youtube channel in Jamaica.
Thanks admin, where is full episode?
Lol'Dj Zee being born in a car...my 10 yrs old was also born in a moving Toyota Yaris....a 6 months pre nogal..
Uzinhle ngoba uyabonakala ukuthi umuthi bakwethu🤨.
Lo Mama uyibeke kahle, masikwazi ukuzikhulisela iingane zethu. Siyekeni sizale, ukuthi sishada nini lokho makungami endlele yokuthi sibe nabantwana
Since this show started it’s just about the pregnancy yoh
Yes the title is literally “THE UNEXPECTED” isn’t like the pregnancy.
The pregnancy is the reason for the show. The pregnancy is the show
I love this content for young South African girls ♥️ Too many pregnancies with temporary boyfriends not enough knowledge &🧠understanding of what it takes to be a parent.
"The Unexpected" is the name of the show.
Zenzele uyaphapha 😏
Lol ei uZenzele
I honestly feel that children must not use their father’s surnames if not married to the mom. Things must be traditionally done according to the moms culture . It makes life less complicated
Still on the pregnancy topic 😭
Lol seems that’s all the show is about
Is that a apple icicle?...
Bathong ! Damages again. She already a mother
it's not really about damages, but about the baby
Baby number 2 but with a different man.. So he has to hlaula. It would've been unnecessary for Bongs to hlaula if both babies were fathered by AKA.
I feel like zinhle stills loves AKA . Shame bongz😭😭😭😭
She always will
It’s her baby daddy it’s a different love ♥️ Compassion guys
I’m just glad she’s not bitter. Sis went through the most with that man 🙂✨
Paying for damages kanjan when she's already damaged🌚.
As wrong as it sounds.
By the way this is not a practice for people who don't believe in African spirituality n ancestors. So if you're a colonized Christian you don't need to worry about jack.
But why should the father thenga isbongo for a baby he made🤔, why doesn't the mother buy the surname. Tradition confuses at times honestly
Ownership and to see if you'll be responsible for your child.
@PearlMgwenya he has to buy isbongo to show commitment… cause if both parents aren’t together and the mom is the only custodian of the child, she will constantly have limitations to the things she can do ngomtwana, ubabakhe engaziwa where he is. E.g travelling, you would need permission from the father, if the child has the dads family, you can’t make medical decisions as a mother if the child has the dads surname into ezinjalo. Now, you aren’t guaranteed ukuthi he will be voluntarily be in the child’s life engahlawula but atlst ukuhlawula it shows some sort of commitment in the child’s life + ukuhlawula involves 2 families . You won’t have to look for him up and down if there’s need for his signatures.I don’t know if you get it.
@ Audrey Gugue uy chaze kak’hle sthandwa I love this show for South African girls it really sheds light on the fact that our culture was intended to protect us and not to constrain us as it’s often unfortunately perceived
A child born out of umgcagco automatically takes the mothers surname. Hence if the father wants to change that he must buy. Its not forced.
Tradition is a scam...kuyakhokhwa yonke into ai suka, mengakhokhokhwa it emotional blackmails "amabhadi this amabhadi that" ai suka...abafethu abanamali, abanye, ingakho abanye abafethu bebaleka.
there is no damages for the second child as the woman has already has a child is like she is already damaged
Is it a must to take the money to the martenal grand parents or not?
I have an ask... who has to use the "baby's damages money"