I wish we could have a follow up to see how much even lower the sister will sink in life. She could have shown appreciation to the OP and maybe made amends for how she treated her in the past.
How is it shocking OP knew sister didn't want her there and mom is at fault I don't care if she's exhausted she's the reason it's happening let her deal with the trash.
@@develyntwocentshenderson5739I think I never truly understood the saying "The road to H311 is paved with good intentions" before. Now it becomes clear that the one with good intentions ends up in h311 because, against their better judgment, they try to help someone who is so nasty that being around them is a living h311.
I wouldn't have apologize! She needs to apologize to you. The parents should demand she apologizes. They let her get away with her bad attitude. The parents need to kick her out if she can't be nice to people.
The only reason the sister hated the Nanny idea is cuz she found out it was OPs idea, that's all. Didn't care their mother was exhausted, just so long as she didn't get help from OP🙄ugh
She needs to hear this! If your parents don't have the balls to stand up to her and tell her to take the help, doesn't change her attitude, and appreciate any help she could get the get out!
There is no way in heck that if I had come back home to help take care of someone that I would stay in a hotel. No effing way. Kim doesn’t like OP’s accomplishments because Kim never had any accomplishments. That’s Kim’s fault, no one else’s. Kim can just suck it up.
I’m really glad OP had a strong enough backbone to return home to her husband when Kim made things too rough for her. That’s exactly what she should have done and what you don’t often see in these stories. If mom needs more help, let the nanny do it.
@@lordalyster666 Well some of the time she didn't for sure. Like when she went to a hotel. But I'm glad that in the end, she finally left them behind and went home.
What a monster of a slither, go NC with the see you next Tuesday and LC with donors, if they object just say "that slither never treated me as family, I'm just returning that favour, that thing is no family of mine, do YOU want to join that category?"
I would have said it was the only solution. I wouldn't put myself out. She never did anything for me. Take the nanny or send her to an assisted living facility until she's better. No. Mom created this bratty monster. I wouldn't do it!
I think the quote from the big bang theory applies here Penny: Sheldon what did we say about being a better friend? Also Penny: Leonard, what did we say about being a gullible weenie?
The whole issue is OPs fault so she doesn't get to cry for sympathy she knew her sister was trash with treat her like trash yet still went back to take all that abuse that's on her she's an idiot.
I would tell mom take the nanny or suffer. I'm not taking her abuse. You might HAVE to, but I don't. She's never been grateful for any kindness. I'm not a doormat for her anymore. She cares nothing for her mother.
NTA OP, (before updates) but why is Kim, the patient, ruling the roost in your parents' house? If she has all this energy to be bad tempered and demanding, perhaps your mother is doing too much for her and needs to step back and stop waiting on Kim as much. This would give your mother more of a rest as well as giving Kim something else to do with her surplus energy while she recovers. OP, you gave your sister something to think about, which was not unwarranted, but she is of the attitude that she is never in the wrong and it is always someone else's fault. It is unlikely she will change. I suggest you go back to your lovely husband and renew the offer to pay for carers to look after your sister to give your mother a break.
I am diagnosed with depression and I have never been intentionally mean to anyone. How long are people supposed to take verbal abuse before they lash back? How much abuse before you give it back? Stand up for yourself.
Well they do let her run their life. Your mother should have stood up to her and demanded that she take the nanny as it's too much for her. At least part time. She can't even be grateful her mom was taking care of her or that she was too tired. So until she can see that and appreciate what people do for her, the parents need to tell her to straighten her act up or get out. Work and pay rent. Adjust your attitude real fast. Just because she didn't have the same ambition the other daughter had doesn't mean you get to blame her for how your life turned out. You got away with a lot of bull crap. So don't even say she was treated better than you. Maybe mom deserves to be tired taking care of bratty, spoiled daughter that the dad tried to rane in.
Sounds like everyone needs a reality check. OP you are not your sister's keeper. Parents: this is your creation and it's time to start practicing tough love. An 'assisted living facility' or some kind of 'carers respite' is needed and it's now not up to the sister as this is about the health and well being of everyone involved. Depressed, delusional brats should never call the shots while everyone else is paying.
You try to help your mom. Your sister treats you badly? Then leave pronto. Let the sister stew in her own bs. Some people are not worthy of receiving help. Not very Christian, I know, but, don't bother trying to shovel sh*t against the tide (one of my dad's fav sayings, darn I miss my dad).
Why did you agree to help your mother, you know your sister is a bully and you actually went to assist her she hates you she is jealous she is spiteful and your childhood was terrible because of her and your mother never punished her so you know not to help her and your father was the only decent person so walk away from your sister and mother she created the monster she complains about through never making your s is ster take responsibility so you where right to give your sister the hard truth she needs to start being a adult
OP needed to say what she did to Kim. Kim is a self centered selfish witch. The mother brought her up to be this way. She enabled Kim's behavior all these years. OP instead should have offered Mom a housekeeper to help Mother around the house to take that work load off her so Mother could then just concentrate on taking care of Kim. 🤔 But since Kim could get around on crutches just how much care did she really need?! If Mother was catering to her every whim then it was on Mother to put a stop to that. Mother and Kim needed to work on balancing the dynamic in their relationship because they created it. Dad needed to remind Mother of that and to remind her she was reaping what she sowed by enabling Kim all these years. OP just stay home with Jasper and avoid your sister and her BS. It's OK to spend time with your folks but just get a hotel when you visit and invite just the two of them to meet up with you for an outing or meals. Good luck. Edited spelling errors that Auto correct missed 😥
I agree the sister need therapy and help. However it wont help unless the sister wants to be helped, and she is too stubborn to realize that she needs it.
9:19 uhh it is, as long as you both meet randomly in the kitchen. The shirtless thing is nothing, guys don't have to wear one. Unless this is a Mormon or Amish family
That would make you as much a bully as Kim. You sure you want to go there? Just saying...if you walk like a "duck" and talk like a "duck", then you are a "duck."
shocking to see how your sister treated you after you came to help your family especially after such a serious accident it's truly heartbreaking.
I wish we could have a follow up to see how much even lower the sister will sink in life. She could have shown appreciation to the OP and maybe made amends for how she treated her in the past.
How is it shocking OP knew sister didn't want her there and mom is at fault I don't care if she's exhausted she's the reason it's happening let her deal with the trash.
of course OP would not listen to her SO, because she knows better. why should she be surprised. OP is a fool unfortunately
@@develyntwocentshenderson5739I think I never truly understood the saying "The road to H311 is paved with good intentions" before. Now it becomes clear that the one with good intentions ends up in h311 because, against their better judgment, they try to help someone who is so nasty that being around them is a living h311.
The sister is jealous. I'm no psychologist and even I can see the signs.
The parents need to FORCE her to take the nanny. Ungrateful brat!!
I wouldn't have apologize! She needs to apologize to you. The parents should demand she apologizes. They let her get away with her bad attitude. The parents need to kick her out if she can't be nice to people.
So much anger in the world. I understand that the sister left when Kim was horrible. Kim needs to fix herself.
The only reason the sister hated the Nanny idea is cuz she found out it was OPs idea, that's all. Didn't care their mother was exhausted, just so long as she didn't get help from OP🙄ugh
She needs to hear this! If your parents don't have the balls to stand up to her and tell her to take the help, doesn't change her attitude, and appreciate any help she could get the get out!
Look at The lil doormat 😂❤
Why was she such a pushover
I agree with her husband and not help her sister at all
Karma is a b***h
There is no way in heck that if I had come back home to help take care of someone that I would stay in a hotel. No effing way. Kim doesn’t like OP’s accomplishments because Kim never had any accomplishments. That’s Kim’s fault, no one else’s. Kim can just suck it up.
I’m really glad OP had a strong enough backbone to return home to her husband when Kim made things too rough for her. That’s exactly what she should have done and what you don’t often see in these stories. If mom needs more help, let the nanny do it.
Backbone? Did we read the same story? It needed to be said in her face multiple times for her to finally go I wouldn’t call that backbone
@@lordalyster666 Well some of the time she didn't for sure. Like when she went to a hotel. But I'm glad that in the end, she finally left them behind and went home.
This kind of stories makes me mad, OP is such a doormat, the parents are enablers
Listen to yo damn Husband! Sheesh
OP should have immediately went back home and left Dingbat Sis to rot.
And NOT paid for a nurse to help take care of her either.
What a monster of a slither, go NC with the see you next Tuesday and LC with donors, if they object just say "that slither never treated me as family, I'm just returning that favour, that thing is no family of mine, do YOU want to join that category?"
she never should have gone in the first place. the only one with common sense was OP's fiance. he told OP not a good idea but OP just had to go ..
Moment she showed her ass, I'd been back home and let them deal with the shit show.
I would have said it was the only solution. I wouldn't put myself out. She never did anything for me. Take the nanny or send her to an assisted living facility until she's better. No. Mom created this bratty monster. I wouldn't do it!
I think the quote from the big bang theory applies here
Penny: Sheldon what did we say about being a better friend?
Also Penny: Leonard, what did we say about being a gullible weenie?
The whole issue is OPs fault so she doesn't get to cry for sympathy she knew her sister was trash with treat her like trash yet still went back to take all that abuse that's on her she's an idiot.
I would tell mom take the nanny or suffer. I'm not taking her abuse. You might HAVE to, but I don't. She's never been grateful for any kindness. I'm not a doormat for her anymore. She cares nothing for her mother.
Be done! Please! Stop taking her abuse and sacrificing stuff for her.
Kim: Can you believe what she said to me?
Rest of family: Kim you know there's a reason we spell you name with a C and a few other letters right?
NTA OP, (before updates) but why is Kim, the patient, ruling the roost in your parents' house? If she has all this energy to be bad tempered and demanding, perhaps your mother is doing too much for her and needs to step back and stop waiting on Kim as much. This would give your mother more of a rest as well as giving Kim something else to do with her surplus energy while she recovers. OP, you gave your sister something to think about, which was not unwarranted, but she is of the attitude that she is never in the wrong and it is always someone else's fault. It is unlikely she will change. I suggest you go back to your lovely husband and renew the offer to pay for carers to look after your sister to give your mother a break.
I am diagnosed with depression and I have never been intentionally mean to anyone. How long are people supposed to take verbal abuse before they lash back? How much abuse before you give it back? Stand up for yourself.
Bet the "accident" wasn't a real accident.
I wouldn't come home.
Well they do let her run their life. Your mother should have stood up to her and demanded that she take the nanny as it's too much for her. At least part time. She can't even be grateful her mom was taking care of her or that she was too tired. So until she can see that and appreciate what people do for her, the parents need to tell her to straighten her act up or get out. Work and pay rent. Adjust your attitude real fast. Just because she didn't have the same ambition the other daughter had doesn't mean you get to blame her for how your life turned out. You got away with a lot of bull crap. So don't even say she was treated better than you. Maybe mom deserves to be tired taking care of bratty, spoiled daughter that the dad tried to rane in.
Someone is now playing the long game and is waiting to get the house off her parents!
You're still there? That's silly.
Your the bad guy of your own story by going back to a family you knew very well that hates you. Your just a sad doormate. And your ok with that,
Sounds like everyone needs a reality check. OP you are not your sister's keeper. Parents: this is your creation and it's time to start practicing tough love. An 'assisted living facility' or some kind of 'carers respite' is needed and it's now not up to the sister as this is about the health and well being of everyone involved. Depressed, delusional brats should never call the shots while everyone else is paying.
You try to help your mom. Your sister treats you badly? Then leave pronto.
Let the sister stew in her own bs.
Some people are not worthy of receiving help.
Not very Christian, I know, but, don't bother trying to shovel sh*t against the tide (one of my dad's fav sayings, darn I miss my dad).
Why did you agree to help your mother, you know your sister is a bully and you actually went to assist her she hates you she is jealous she is spiteful and your childhood was terrible because of her and your mother never punished her so you know not to help her and your father was the only decent person so walk away from your sister and mother she created the monster she complains about through never making your s is ster take responsibility so you where right to give your sister the hard truth she needs to start being a adult
OP needed to say what she did to Kim. Kim is a self centered selfish witch. The mother brought her up to be this way. She enabled Kim's behavior all these years. OP instead should have offered Mom a housekeeper to help Mother around the house to take that work load off her so Mother could then just concentrate on taking care of Kim. 🤔 But since Kim could get around on crutches just how much care did she really need?! If Mother was catering to her every whim then it was on Mother to put a stop to that. Mother and Kim needed to work on balancing the dynamic in their relationship because they created it. Dad needed to remind Mother of that and to remind her she was reaping what she sowed by enabling Kim all these years. OP just stay home with Jasper and avoid your sister and her BS. It's OK to spend time with your folks but just get a hotel when you visit and invite just the two of them to meet up with you for an outing or meals. Good luck.
Edited spelling errors that Auto correct missed 😥
I agree the sister need therapy and help. However it wont help unless the sister wants to be helped, and she is too stubborn to realize that she needs it.
9:19 uhh it is, as long as you both meet randomly in the kitchen. The shirtless thing is nothing, guys don't have to wear one. Unless this is a Mormon or Amish family
When she made the hair comment, I'd have asked her if she'd gained weight and to the easy class comment, id have said, "how would you know?"
I would say, I didn't ask for your opinion.
I need an address to OP. I want to send her a doormat with her name
That would make you as much a bully as Kim. You sure you want to go there?
Just saying...if you walk like a "duck" and talk like a "duck", then you are a "duck."
That was kinda anticlimactic.
Sorry but NTA,Your sister obviously Can't Understand Normal Thinking lol😂