These men are telling us they don't know how divorce works without telling us.
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...but you don't know how Divorce works.....so why are you yapping ? Oh...wait...that's what Feminists do...run their mouths about matters they know nothing about but then get mad when they get checked on it.
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Tell us more about how it's Men who are the problem here...not women who openly admit to liars without any sense of honor that break their vows whenever they find it convenient to do so.
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"I am literally trying to gaslight men into believing that marriage isn't literally a a state sanctioned contract with the power of law behind it because I can't admit that women don't actually know this"
My biggest experience with this was a friend in her late 20’s. Dated. Lived together. Vacationed together. Got married. Came home from honeymoon and he flipped out. Wanted her completely covered. Window curtains closed. Locked in the house. There was so much she shared. He flipped. Like a crazy monster. After years of being together! Fine before marriage!!! She had to escape the first month. And I mean escape. I was mid 20’s. Never ever forgot. I am married. I never take my security for granted financially or otherwise. I made plenty of mistakes but red flags warnings were always heeded. No second chances. No BS. NO rushing into relationships. No cheaters. Even with lots of no loser rules? They still squeeze in. Be vigilant. Walk away or run.
@@annmarieknappYeah, we can not just slip into marriage expecting everything to stay the same. Shit can absolutely go down. Best to have a plan B thru Z for this
People change. Especially men. Especially men that love bomb you and mask their narcissism. He wasn’t physically violent but I would have died from the stress and misery of being with the man I married. Finalized my divorce in November 🍾🥂🎉
If they thought the birth rate had plummeted, I don’t think they thought about how far the marriage rate will follow. The wedding industry will need a bailout
Good. It's BS anyway. It's a big party, it isn't the marriage. Women have been fed a lie about their wedding day their whole lives. It's time to throw parties when you get your advanced degrees, a new job, or are recently divorced.
Unfortunately, I think folks in the Heritage Foundation might introduce legislation that gives married couples more perks that single or cohabitating couples wouldn't have. And of course, brainwashing every child and teen they can reach. They're already starting the diverting of young women from getting a higher education. We gotta train up our daughters, little sisters, nieces, AFAB cousins to be like Iron and think critically about this trad wife bs and any other bs hyper religious organizations come up with. Which means having deep discussions and imparting reality onto these young folks.
The absolute irony of being shamed for having a bunch of children (we or unwed) and then also complaining about this plummeting birth rate is going to choke me.
I think the problem is some people live in a tiny bubble of reality. They don’t or won’t see what is going on outside themselves. As a survivor of DV, I think it is so important to talk about these things. Way back when I went through it, I remember the stigma that went along with being a divorced single mother. Women need to band together. That is how we stay strong. This is what the patriarchy doesn’t want.
My mom and all my siblings keep asking when my kids are going to make me a grand mother. My kids are wonderful, caring, smart adults. And both are the only college graduates in mine and their fathers' family. I'm perfectly fine with never becoming a grandparent.
Wow, you are the first. But this is nice to hear. Many ppl dream of being a grandmother before even being a mother. I know it sounds weird, but it's true.
@@changes649She might be a first because she’s actually considering what her children want. If they don’t want to be parents, Doesn’t that supersede her desire to have grandchildren?
@@changes649yeah, being a grandparent is a lot like being an aunt or uncle. You can enjoy having children in your life without having to do the heavy lifting. Thats why so many people want it. But at the same time, that's not our choice to make nor are we entitled to anyone else's children. Ill never have kids, but if someone needs a gran gran when I'm older, I'd happily fill the role.
The irony of the no-fault divorce reversal being a thing, is that it came about as a way to conceal the shame of domestic violence as a reason for the filing for divorce. A man in power wanted to conceal what he had done to his wife that drove her to divorce him.
Most counselors/therapists are not trained in narcissism, especially because the literature claims it's rare. As burbnbougie says: How do you vet a lier? So many men completely change after marriage (or child's birth) when they think you are trapped.
You can't. Most men don't like women, they need them only for reproduction. Men prefer each other's company and value their relationships with other men more. If they are older, they're trapping a caregiver.
Somehow women therapist always take the man side and hurt the wife even more. Look at that one who recently ran away with the pastor. The pastor who left his ch I ld bride after 6 kids and after she grew into a woman. 😡
My abusive father changed after three kids. THREE. It was like a switch flipped. People can also turn evil, and more people need to realize this. You could marry a wonderful man, and he can TURN abusive as time goes on.
Unlike a lot of adult males on TH-cam, I've learned so much from you and other Black women content creators, as well as other women!! Women on TH-cam helped me identify toxic workplace red flags, taught me to crochet, helped me gain more confidence, helped me tap out of being a SJW, and so much more!! @Shayna I appreciate you and your content!!
Social justice warrior, like being woke, obviously not a bad thing, but its usually a waste of time & energy to try & argue empathy into someone who won’t be convinced or even listen/read differing opinions. Good for you ipeefreely I feel the same, so grateful for all these women sharing their knowledge & stories.
@@GrungeGalactica Advocating for ourselves isn't automatically bad but often Black women, as a collective,are expected to save EVERYONE, to our own detriment. And many times Black women have historically advocated for everyone else without reciprocity. It's more si about not being the default Super Woman. That type of imbalance causes a lot pf mental and physical health problems.
@ thank you! I realized after posting that reply that I could just Google it. But thank you so much for taking the time to explain it and the contextual connotation as well.
Kind of sounds like "one group of people" is benefiting more from marriage than the other... I mean... if they have it so bad, why are they so desperate to stay married?
The first commenter said that women should do their research before marrying, then made a poor attempt to invalidate someone doing their research before marriage for never being married? Make it make sense?
Marriage counseling costs money and it can vary depending on the area. There is the marital counseling in church. However, they're very pro-marriage, plus they're guidance is not practical.
I've been married 26 years. Marriage counseling imo is a giant grift. Their primary incentive is to keep couples together even when they shouldn't be. Most of their advice revolves around giving the woman more to do, while excusing weaponized incompetence in men. I've heard of more narc women therapists having affairs with the husband more often than I've heard of actual consistent change or improvement happening from the marriage therapy. Usually if the marriage is saved it's because the woman was going to leave or did leave and that jolted the man into reality. Or the woman gave up and adjusted to the man's behavior. Just due to stats most male therapists have cheated on their wives. Go ahead and try to find one who would answer that question at all, let alone honestly. There are times when it works sure but to act like you are biased and therapists aren't is wild.
Tbh I feel like they are giving away the title of therapist to anyone who wants it. I personally know some morally bankrupt people who are licensed therapists. I'm talking serious Narcissists...I've lost alot of respect for the profession.
@anishap2023 modern psychology was invented by misogynistic coke addiction yt men, they are all narcs, using absolutely terrible ethics. And now most "therapists" are getting degrees based on those original ideas from degree mills.
Falsely married for 26 years but miserable for 25 years u pick me lol. How much bs did you have to put up with to stay nowhere prison business contract married?
The first person's comment displayed their lack of knowledge and care for women who end up in dangerous situations due to being in a marriage. Marriage counseling is not always the solution and the sooner people stop throwing that statement out as an easy solution, the sooner the true conversation of people change over time (especially men who displayed themselves as "good guys" throughout the entire relationship) can begin.
Aanother small point about "if you're too immature, don't get married" Right, but think of all the legal benefits of a marriage. Filing joint taxes, medical decisions, etc. Marriage shouldn't be reserved for only the best and brightest, though people should be informed. If you want to be able to trust your spouse with medical decisions for you, you can't really do that with a boyfriend or fiance. Like you said Shayna, it's a legal institution. One that people should have the freedom both to enter and to leave
I'm in Nigeria. My dad told me I need to grow up. By grow up he means get married. I'm 23, 24 by April but he said I'm approaching 30. I was upset but I'm smiling as I'm typing because I'm not getting married ever, if I do change my mind I will not be doing so within the next 10 years. I'm also not planning on getting pregnant ever. If I'm not able to afford surrogacy, I'll adopt or I'll just be child free🤷🏾♀️. As a woman, especially one who's African, it doesn't benefit me. I'm no longer interested in trying for things that will not be 70%+ joy.
@@tamiausten873 you are closer to 20 than 30. you are pretty young and have time to establish yourself in life. thats always priority anything else can wait even if changed your mind. do what you need for yourself first. good for you for not listening to your father.
That’s what men usually do, they attack a woman’s looks if they can’t actually argue with her points. They think it really hurts us to go for our looks, as if they don’t throw a fit when we bring up men being short, bald or having a beer belly lmao.
Covenant marriage is already an option in Arizona, passed in 1998 I think. I believe there are 2 other states that did the same around that time. I thought it was ridiculous then & still do. I went through premarital counseling prior to marriage & 12 years later am in divorce proceedings. I took it seriously to work on our relationship constantly. My soon to be ex (narcissist) did not. Thankfully it was not a covenant marriage
Because men give vows they don't ever intend to honor. It's not complicated. 🙄
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@@fdm2155 Yeah....that must be the reason why Men are fighting for No-Fault Divorce and are the ones that file for Divorce 80% of time over nonsense....OH WAIT.....
I will always comment bc it helps push creators videos become more mainstream. Okay thank you for your videos and research bc you always give us the information we need to make the best choice for us. ❤❤❤❤
@@Hopenever4less1 🥹🥹🥹 thank you! I always appreciate the uplifting and/or informative comments and the usually outnumber the bad behavior in my comment section, which I ADORE 🥰
"People rush into marriage..." is actually a legitimate claim. Solution: Federal age limit, no marriage until 25+ years old. Brain is developed, more self aware, etc means more capatability, and forethought, before making that commitment. Half the problem solved right there. I bet that wouldn't be ok with the people who make this argument though.
Yeah but there's an argument against it. It's predatory to prey on a developing brain it doesn't mean they don't know what there doing because i was told when I was in high school that boys mature faster sexually then girls that's why there in such a hurry to get married guys because it kind of ruins there reputation when they can't find a young wife some of them are heartbroken and they think they missed there chance and everyone should be trapped and done dating after 30 they don't give women enough time to discover themselves and your told something is wrong with you if you can't keep a man around you and your not giving him free domestic labor in exchange for rent they want a bunch of rewards without even putting in the work to be a provider that's why I'm against it because only young girls are obsessed with bad boys and high value males not grown women. It doesn't work because if his standards are to high or too low she will just lower it slightly to a guy that's more realistic and responsible about paying his bills on time. That's the main thing older women are worried about is compensation we don't like our time wasted on nonsense because when men are indecisive like that it becomes difficult for women to trust men.
So take away a person's right to choose! Tell me about America being home of the free? We barely have rights now. We pdfs to bring to justice. More important things to solve. Right?
@christinerichardson1756 no one is stopping anyone from being in a committed relationship if they want it. The only thing that would do is prevent a legal contract from being signed before any individual's brain has fully developed, gives them plenty of time to really think through the decision of marriage, and to figure out how well they actually know their partner to see if they're truly compatible. If people are so concerned about the rush to marriage being a big cause of divorce then they should be willing to put some preventative measures in place. No one complains en masse about the implications of people breaking up. Doesn't even matter that breaking up a long term relationship can be just as devastating as a divorce. People only care about breaking up a marriage. The divorce itself isn't the issue, it's the loss of a marriage. Morality police want to prevent the loss of a marriage because marriage is "sacred" and people's happiness/safety isn't as important as that. One way to solve that problem is to prevent marriages that are likely to end. Is it smart? Yes. Is it a bit much and restrictive? Also yes. If these same people are going to trap women in unhealthy, unhappy, and/or unsafe marriages because "marriage is sacred" then too fkn bad. I can suggest 💩 right taking solutions too.
@@christinerichardson1756 there is a politician who is trying to change the age of marriage to 12. Where do you draw the line? 14? 16? 18? Where you draw the line says a lot about you.
I have argued with people about this, but I still don't understand the argument against divorce. It is completely nonsensical even from a cultural conservative perspective in which the government stays out of the home. How are you going to prove the marriage is over if you can't pay for a lawyer and get proof? Every other contract is breakable, but one where the other person can leave you destitute and or physically harmed is not? But they like "right to work" laws in which employers need no reason to break your contract that workers rely on to feed themselves.
So tired of that lie being repeated ad nauseum. At just 50 %, you're talking about 59 million white women. Except: 74% of the votes the Orange Messiah got were from white men. 17% from Black and Latino men. That leaves only 11% left who were women - White, Latino and yes, Black. . Not even close to 25 %, so where could 59 million white women fit into that math?
Divorce is illegal in the Philippines. So people just shack up and don’t marry. Which is opposite of what the government wanted. Or the ones who marry and it didn’t work out; they just separate and live their lives without a legal divorce. Making divorce harder will not improve marriages. 🙄
People forget that there was a time that people died young. Getting married at 16yrs. to a 20yr. old who dies at 40 is a lot different than getting married at 32yrs. old and to a man 40yrs old with a 80yr. old life expectancy.
True to some extent, but the reason the average age of death was in the 30s was because about half of children didn't make it to adulthood. Most died as infants. The average between 1 and 60 is 30.5, so this doesn't mean every one died at around 40 years old. If you made it past childhood, you could probably expect to make it to a decently old age, assuming you avoided any serious injuries or disease. I mean, there's islands out here that people were regularly living to 90 and above, long before any form of modern medicine reached their shores. It's more of a misconception that most people in the middle ages only expected to live to be 30 or 40.
It's about power and control. Anyone should be able to freely get a divorce, regardless of circumstance, especially if they're being abused. This kind of laws affect men too!! It is going to disproportionally affect women. Even if you've never been married you can still have an opinion about marriage. I think women can definitely do better when it comes to recognizing red flags in men and not going along with bad behavior.
The Global Network that I now work for, provides a living wage for their entire network. And, I couldn't understand why simply promoting financial freedom has caused the network to be under constant threat, and surveillance, from various global governments, and entities. (They're shadow-banned on all platforms, and even trying to mention the network's name has gotten it removed in my last two attempts to comment here). But, I'm quickly realizing that closing the economic gap solves so many societal issues, and liberates so many people (i.e. those trapped in/forced into marriage), that a living wage/financial freedom for all, is clearly the single biggest threat to the current "powers-that-be". I understand now, and completely support, their choice to continue operating their global network "under-ground". Mind blown & smh. Great video!
It's also children who will get hurt when they are trapped in an unhappy marriage. And to the comment, my mom did take the marriage seriously, my father did not. So the best decision she made was the divorce. If God doesn't like it, he can stay married to my father.
The mask falls off eventually. I think it is also really telling that me that get divorced are all "She took all my shit" as if it wasn't a partnership, as if when you signed the paperwork you merged your assets and are entitled to a 50% split. He is mad that she paid for half of the furniture, even though he couldn't afford the sofa on his own.
Usually touted by men who don't have any. If what they say is true even sometimes there wouldn't be s many homeless divorced women and mothers homeless, living in cars or alleys.
Women suffer a great deal during and after divorce, I saw this first hand with my mother when she divorced her late ex husband. Took over five years for the divorce to be finalized because he didn’t wanna sign the damn papers.
I am engaged, and I would never get married if I couldn't ever get a divorce! While I don't plan to get divorced, I want to always have the option. I will get married only in the UK or New Zealand, I will put in the marriage contract that either my fiancé and I can get a quick divorce at any time we want (so if any country I live in tries to do away with no-fault divorce, I can get it before they pass the Law), my marriage contract will also have a Living Apart Together clause, and it will say exactly how the marriage assets will be divided.
First off, the people who give marriage counseling before marriage are usually not qualified. Case and point, most people go to religious leaders and not marriage counselors for counseling prior to marriage. Most people go to marriage counselors when they are on the brink of divorce. Religious leaders support marriage so they are not addressing marriage accountability, they address what is expected in a marriage. How many people go to religious leaders for marriage counseling and do not end up getting married? Very few, if any. They receive hope and a false sense of support to get married. Religious leaders are not assisting women in leaving DV relationships. Some can even say they support it. Many justify it in religious texts. So, let's take counseling off the table. Next point, people change. Adults have this false belief that when they become adults, nothing changes after that. They will be the same forevermore. Who told them that lie? We can change at anytime, it doesn't always happen, but it can happen. Especially if one person in the relationship was lying so that they can get what they want. For some ppl, marriage is the goal, not the journey. So once they get married, they believe that is it. They don't have to put any effort cause they won or they have arrived, and unfortunately, society supports that BS. That is when Mr. Hyde shows his real face. Now he won't die alone, and he has some to to the heavy lifting, so he believes. Marriage never benefited women. Women were thrown a few trinkets so that they could believe in the dream. The men receive 70% benefit while the women receive 30%, and that is being generous and based on culture. No one is saying don't get married. What we are saying is, know what you are getting into. There are people who are truly happily married. But the truth is, that's the majority.
I have and never will be married, but I was a child seeing how bad it can be. Also do conservatives ask how well the marriages of their clerics (or president) have went?
I can't write for money... I cannot control my writing form. School was so hard. I wrote 2 large peoms or sonnets for one of my classes. The only reason I passed was because both of them had everything in them. They were supposed to be one essay. I spent a week being unable to write anything unless it was in poem form.. at least I gave sorces. 🤦♀️
Wouldn’t you want your partner to freely want & choose to stay, rather than have no choice but to stay. Like “til death do us part” is so dumb it should be easy to split thus both partners put in the consistent effort for each other to want to stay. if you’re pretending to be a good life partner until the knot is tied & the mask comes off, that’s not the person you married & they’ve scammed you out of your freedom & autonomy. If someone was lovely why would you even suspect they were lying to you the whole time? Idk it’s one of those things where if you don’t get it, you probably never will.
I feel like our legal system in general doesn't have legally enforced contracts with no possibility of dissolution. Even prison sentences allow parole without finishing the sentence.
There's no amount of "get counseling and don't be young" that's gonna prevent you and your partner from growing apart, or from you partner's behavior completely switching up once you're locked into a marriage. And that's for men OR women because surprise surprise, men leave marriages too. Also, it's so frustratingly tone-deaf to say "don't get married young" when women are literally pressured from all sides from the moment they turn 18 to hurry up and get picked before they're too old and then no ones gonna want them, and they won't be able to have kids. Society literally tells women that after 25 you better start settling because you have no value after 30. End of the day, of someone wants out of a marriage, let them out. You shouldn't want someone that's trapped with you like a prisoner, but then again, maybe that is what the males want. The irony is, if these laws are passed the only thing that's gonna happen is that women just won't get married at all. The same way women have opted out of dating, sex, and children with all of the reproductive rights that are being taken. These legislators think they can force our hand.
My neighbor and friend went from being a married single mother to now having the whole weekend all to herself. She can now take her friends out to lunch, go TO lunches with her friends, clean the entire house to her liking (she's very much a clean freak, though she makes sure to not take that out on her girls), and watch whatever tf she wants. Instead of having to take care of two daughters--who the father also said he wanted btw. Their kids were very much planned--and a lazy, abusive husband who just wanted to play video games while she broke her back cooking and cleaning AND WORKING, she can now enjoy motherhood and herself. She still hates how she has to send her girls to him every weekend, since, again, he abused her and a lot of fathers will abuse their daughters once they're in their teens (my mother describes it as "Abusive men love doting on their little girls. They HATE women, though, and they see their daughters as women as soon as they hit puberty."), but the court decided he wouldn't hurt his daughters despite hitting their mother. Because that makes sense /s. My neighbor has decided to enjoy her peace while keeping a very close eye, and open communication, with her girls whenever their home. It's all she can do until she can get full custody.
An excellent resource for faith driven people is the book Marriage in the Bible: What does it actually say, by Dr Jennifer Bird PhD. She also has a TH-cam channel covering what does the Bible say about all women’s issues and anything really. I’ll leave a link below for anyone interested.
Ngl, as someone who literally has heard the horrors of psychological and physical abuse my own mom went through prior to her divorce, yeah no. I mean, the thing is, I’m also lesbian, so it’s not like I have that attraction to men at all. This being said, this video feels like an extra reminder to be careful for who I let into my life, both with friends and potential partners. Edit: Like Shayna said, stay safe guys.
Instead of marriage contracts women should consider business contracts for relationships. I’m wondering if that would be a solution to the movement to make divorce harder to obtain. Instead of saying we’re married say we’re in a business agreement with one another just make sure there is an out should one be needed.
First off THAN YOU. 2nd, i had 2 bad experiences in the marriage i was in, 2nd one worse than the first and let me tell you, it went from grabbing to pulling to restraining to PAUN in like 3.5 seconds. I was SHICKED!!! I mean really couldn't believe this was happening, with him, to me. So, he was the giod guy, his family, my family...no ine believed me, especially since i have always been outspoken and independent, hell,no one could even believe i was married!! Moral of the story, pplleeaasseee leave and dont look back. I knew i wasnt over exaggerating or tripping when he told the courts i deserted him and the kids because i foolishly thought he would never hurt his children. He took the kids and for 3 weeks wouldnt let me talk to them or see them. So, you tell me, was i right or was i right??
Don't hate Christians. And don't hate marriage, it can be a beautiful thing! Just make sure you're both "equally-Yoked to God/Jesus Christ [Yahshua Ha' Mashiach], and GOD Will Bless the marriage union. It takes understanding. Also, been hearing political liberals trying to speak evil of Christians, but God Will Defend. And i don't hear liberals ever speaking against Islam, like that. You see, Christians are the first to pray for liberals, after Judgement have come against the political liberals for all the mocking and scoffing, and hatred and rebellion against God and His Word, and His Commandments. God is not mocked. And no one can fight against The Almighty God. And instead of quoting Meg, try quoting The Word of GOD, and obeying God, and do not fear.
Yeah when did she say all men? Can you not use comprehension skills and understand she’s talking in general and not about every single man, or just talking about the men who do lie?
It's funny how men use the "not all" to be manipulative. It's "not ALL men lie" now But when a dads teenage daughter starts dating "ALL" Those teenage boys are only after one thing, when Dad is giving his daughter the talk about boys.
So you never been married but you're giving unsolicited marriage advice based off of what ifs? Hypotheticals? Worst cases scenerios? Shouldn't women who's been married speak on this than you? This is not God's work! This is subversion. You said men lie without saying women lie too! News flash, humans lie smh You have to heal your heart because youre going to carry this bitter into old age and it's not going to effect anyone else but you!
I’m sure she’s seen and met many women over her life who were married and saw how miserable they were. You don’t need to be married to observe these types of dynamics. People who are child caretakers and don’t have kids themselves, should they not continue their careers?
Being single doesn’t necessarily have to equate to being alone,bitter,and miserable. Lol!! Single people and unmarried couples can STILL BE happy and have fulfilling lives without a marriage license and without having kids. She was speaking from observation and experiences she’s heard and read from other women. She’s a journalist.🤦♀️🤣🤡
Sooooo I've never been stabbed before BUT I've seen stab victims....... would I be wrong to tell you try not to get stabbed?🤔 Would you be like "fuk you" "how would you know" 🤣😭😂
the average age for married couples in America, is 30, child marriages in America, are NOT as common as people make it seem, people always try to use the LAW as a justification for why something is moral or immoral, SLAVERY used to be LEGAL, discriminating against black people, used to be LEGAL, and if youre implying that parents are not making the best decision for their child, even in cases of marriage, then i would like to see that child, make their own decisions, and pretty much end up in a better situation, since the choices of the mother and the father, are not respected, or deemed as unethical, if people are okay with breaking tradition, then who will the children listen and get instructions from, YOU IN THE VIDEO, other women who "decenter" men, and still end up in fucked up relationships because they get their advice from women who know NOTHING about men, Ha...
@@Emptytopfloor do you not understand that the PARENTS are the determining factor of whether or not their child is to be married by a certain age, those customs and practices obviously differ from here in america, and to make it seem like those parents are committing some sort of act against humanity, is incredibly prejudiced, because being outside of their culture, do you know why they allow such a thing, or is it all just based on patriarchy and men somehow oppressing women, do tell...
Why would anyone want to be married to someone who does not want to be married to said person
To exert control
Access to women's free and unpaid labor.
They dont care what the woman wants only what they want and need.
They're okay with slā very
That's what I keep trying to tell him!
These men are telling us they don't know how divorce works without telling us.
...but you don't know how Divorce works.....so why are you yapping ? Oh...wait...that's what Feminists do...run their mouths about matters they know nothing about but then get mad when they get checked on it.
Tell us more about how it's Men who are the problem here...not women who openly admit to liars without any sense of honor that break their vows whenever they find it convenient to do so.
"I am literally trying to gaslight men into believing that marriage isn't literally a a state sanctioned contract with the power of law behind it because I can't admit that women don't actually know this"
After my parents' abusive relationship, I never wanted to get married. We had to flee.
Same.
We left and never looked back. Still single as a dollar bill at 41.
My biggest experience with this was a friend in her late 20’s. Dated. Lived together. Vacationed together. Got married. Came home from honeymoon and he flipped out. Wanted her completely covered. Window curtains closed. Locked in the house. There was so much she shared. He flipped. Like a crazy monster. After years of being together! Fine before marriage!!! She had to escape the first month. And I mean escape.
I was mid 20’s. Never ever forgot. I am married. I never take my security for granted financially or otherwise.
I made plenty of mistakes but red flags warnings were always heeded. No second chances. No BS. NO rushing into relationships. No cheaters. Even with lots of no loser rules? They still squeeze in. Be vigilant. Walk away or run.
Something similar happened to my sister 😢
I wish I had NEVER married. Was biggest mistake of my life. Don't do it unless you really want it and even then it's no guarantee.
@@annmarieknappYeah, we can not just slip into marriage expecting everything to stay the same. Shit can absolutely go down. Best to have a plan B thru Z for this
Amen.
He made a vow "To love and to cherish" yet couldn't commit, pathetic
People change. Especially men. Especially men that love bomb you and mask their narcissism. He wasn’t physically violent but I would have died from the stress and misery of being with the man I married. Finalized my divorce in November 🍾🥂🎉
Welcome back to freedom
Yay!!! Congratulations!! I'm so happy for you! 🥳🥳🎉🎉
Thank goodness
@@QueenL3606 FREE AT LAST
It's a contract, and LOL at women basically admitting their word cannot be trusted because they are without honor.
If they thought the birth rate had plummeted, I don’t think they thought about how far the marriage rate will follow. The wedding industry will need a bailout
They can always start a different industry
Good. It's BS anyway. It's a big party, it isn't the marriage. Women have been fed a lie about their wedding day their whole lives. It's time to throw parties when you get your advanced degrees, a new job, or are recently divorced.
Unfortunately, I think folks in the Heritage Foundation might introduce legislation that gives married couples more perks that single or cohabitating couples wouldn't have. And of course, brainwashing every child and teen they can reach.
They're already starting the diverting of young women from getting a higher education.
We gotta train up our daughters, little sisters, nieces, AFAB cousins to be like Iron and think critically about this trad wife bs and any other bs hyper religious organizations come up with. Which means having deep discussions and imparting reality onto these young folks.
The absolute irony of being shamed for having a bunch of children (we or unwed) and then also complaining about this plummeting birth rate is going to choke me.
I think the problem is some people live in a tiny bubble of reality. They don’t or won’t see what is going on outside themselves. As a survivor of DV, I think it is so important to talk about these things. Way back when I went through it, I remember the stigma that went along with being a divorced single mother. Women need to band together. That is how we stay strong. This is what the patriarchy doesn’t want.
My mom and all my siblings keep asking when my kids are going to make me a grand mother. My kids are wonderful, caring, smart adults. And both are the only college graduates in mine and their fathers' family. I'm perfectly fine with never becoming a grandparent.
Wow, you are the first. But this is nice to hear. Many ppl dream of being a grandmother before even being a mother. I know it sounds weird, but it's true.
@@changes649She might be a first because she’s actually considering what her children want. If they don’t want to be parents, Doesn’t that supersede her desire to have grandchildren?
@@changes649yeah, being a grandparent is a lot like being an aunt or uncle. You can enjoy having children in your life without having to do the heavy lifting. Thats why so many people want it. But at the same time, that's not our choice to make nor are we entitled to anyone else's children. Ill never have kids, but if someone needs a gran gran when I'm older, I'd happily fill the role.
I'm fine without being a grandparent too. I prefer no kids brought into this foolishness.
@@brittanyr1456 Their needs absolutely supersedes my desires. Thank you, I didn't quite know how to word that.
Divorce should always be no-fault and two, beforehand it benefited men. Women who aren’t sure about marriage, don’t get married or get divorced now.
Wisdom
Nah.....it's a contract you entered in to.....unless you are willing to walk away with nothing then that's not going to fly.
The irony of the no-fault divorce reversal being a thing, is that it came about as a way to conceal the shame of domestic violence as a reason for the filing for divorce. A man in power wanted to conceal what he had done to his wife that drove her to divorce him.
Absolutely. You may not be able to get divorced soon. This isn't a joke.
@@annmarieknapp Then don't enter into what is essentially a contract if you have no intention of honoring it. It's that simple.
Most counselors/therapists are not trained in narcissism, especially because the literature claims it's rare. As burbnbougie says: How do you vet a lier? So many men completely change after marriage (or child's birth) when they think you are trapped.
You can't.
Most men don't like women, they need them only for reproduction. Men prefer each other's company and value their relationships with other men more.
If they are older, they're trapping a caregiver.
Somehow women therapist always take the man side and hurt the wife even more. Look at that one who recently ran away with the pastor. The pastor who left his ch I ld bride after 6 kids and after she grew into a woman. 😡
My abusive father changed after three kids. THREE. It was like a switch flipped. People can also turn evil, and more people need to realize this. You could marry a wonderful man, and he can TURN abusive as time goes on.
@gem9535 nah. His testosterone levels dropped.
Unlike a lot of adult males on TH-cam, I've learned so much from you and other Black women content creators, as well as other women!! Women on TH-cam helped me identify toxic workplace red flags, taught me to crochet, helped me gain more confidence, helped me tap out of being a SJW, and so much more!! @Shayna I appreciate you and your content!!
That’s awesome! What is a SJW?
@BlackNella Social justice warrior.
Social justice warrior, like being woke, obviously not a bad thing, but its usually a waste of time & energy to try & argue empathy into someone who won’t be convinced or even listen/read differing opinions. Good for you ipeefreely I feel the same, so grateful for all these women sharing their knowledge & stories.
@@GrungeGalactica Advocating for ourselves isn't automatically bad but often Black women, as a collective,are expected to save EVERYONE, to our own detriment. And many times Black women have historically advocated for everyone else without reciprocity. It's more si about not being the default Super Woman. That type of imbalance causes a lot pf mental and physical health problems.
@ thank you! I realized after posting that reply that I could just Google it. But thank you so much for taking the time to explain it and the contextual connotation as well.
Kind of sounds like "one group of people" is benefiting more from marriage than the other... I mean... if they have it so bad, why are they so desperate to stay married?
The first commenter said that women should do their research before marrying, then made a poor attempt to invalidate someone doing their research before marriage for never being married? Make it make sense?
Marriage counseling costs money and it can vary depending on the area. There is the marital counseling in church. However, they're very pro-marriage, plus they're guidance is not practical.
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I've been married 26 years. Marriage counseling imo is a giant grift. Their primary incentive is to keep couples together even when they shouldn't be. Most of their advice revolves around giving the woman more to do, while excusing weaponized incompetence in men.
I've heard of more narc women therapists having affairs with the husband more often than I've heard of actual consistent change or improvement happening from the marriage therapy. Usually if the marriage is saved it's because the woman was going to leave or did leave and that jolted the man into reality. Or the woman gave up and adjusted to the man's behavior.
Just due to stats most male therapists have cheated on their wives. Go ahead and try to find one who would answer that question at all, let alone honestly.
There are times when it works sure but to act like you are biased and therapists aren't is wild.
Tbh I feel like they are giving away the title of therapist to anyone who wants it. I personally know some morally bankrupt people who are licensed therapists. I'm talking serious Narcissists...I've lost alot of respect for the profession.
@anishap2023 modern psychology was invented by misogynistic coke addiction yt men, they are all narcs, using absolutely terrible ethics. And now most "therapists" are getting degrees based on those original ideas from degree mills.
Like any profession, Being credentialed and being good aren’t the same thing
Falsely married for 26 years but miserable for 25 years u pick me lol. How much bs did you have to put up with to stay nowhere prison business contract married?
Good Lord. That's awful!!!
The first person's comment displayed their lack of knowledge and care for women who end up in dangerous situations due to being in a marriage. Marriage counseling is not always the solution and the sooner people stop throwing that statement out as an easy solution, the sooner the true conversation of people change over time (especially men who displayed themselves as "good guys" throughout the entire relationship) can begin.
Nobody wants to get into a car accident, but many people wear seat belts. Safety valve. Same idea.
Aanother small point about "if you're too immature, don't get married" Right, but think of all the legal benefits of a marriage. Filing joint taxes, medical decisions, etc. Marriage shouldn't be reserved for only the best and brightest, though people should be informed. If you want to be able to trust your spouse with medical decisions for you, you can't really do that with a boyfriend or fiance.
Like you said Shayna, it's a legal institution. One that people should have the freedom both to enter and to leave
It drives me nuts when people have seemingly simple solutions for complicated complex issues like these. Love the vid btw!
Thats the biggest problem isn't it?
You can be adult about marriage and not get married too soon and it still can go wrong 🤔
I'm in Nigeria. My dad told me I need to grow up. By grow up he means get married. I'm 23, 24 by April but he said I'm approaching 30. I was upset but I'm smiling as I'm typing because I'm not getting married ever, if I do change my mind I will not be doing so within the next 10 years. I'm also not planning on getting pregnant ever. If I'm not able to afford surrogacy, I'll adopt or I'll just be child free🤷🏾♀️. As a woman, especially one who's African, it doesn't benefit me. I'm no longer interested in trying for things that will not be 70%+ joy.
@@tamiausten873 you are closer to 20 than 30. you are pretty young and have time to establish yourself in life. thats always priority anything else can wait even if changed your mind. do what you need for yourself first. good for you for not listening to your father.
They were real mad even attacking your looks . Gross individuals
That’s what men usually do, they attack a woman’s looks if they can’t actually argue with her points. They think it really hurts us to go for our looks, as if they don’t throw a fit when we bring up men being short, bald or having a beer belly lmao.
Covenant marriage is already an option in Arizona, passed in 1998 I think. I believe there are 2 other states that did the same around that time.
I thought it was ridiculous then & still do. I went through premarital counseling prior to marriage & 12 years later am in divorce proceedings. I took it seriously to work on our relationship constantly. My soon to be ex (narcissist) did not.
Thankfully it was not a covenant marriage
The "don't tread on me" folks never have that energy for women.
Why would they when Women give vows that they don't honor ?
You're all up in the comments defending men that abuse women. Are you okay, man?
They trampled a woman wearing a libertarian flag to death on Jan 6 and I think that's the perfect metaphor for exactly what you are saying.
Because men give vows they don't ever intend to honor. It's not complicated. 🙄
@@fdm2155 Yeah....that must be the reason why Men are fighting for No-Fault Divorce and are the ones that file for Divorce 80% of time over nonsense....OH WAIT.....
I will always comment bc it helps push creators videos become more mainstream. Okay thank you for your videos and research bc you always give us the information we need to make the best choice for us. ❤❤❤❤
@@Hopenever4less1 🥹🥹🥹 thank you! I always appreciate the uplifting and/or informative comments and the usually outnumber the bad behavior in my comment section, which I ADORE 🥰
"People rush into marriage..." is actually a legitimate claim.
Solution:
Federal age limit, no marriage until 25+ years old. Brain is developed, more self aware, etc means more capatability, and forethought, before making that commitment. Half the problem solved right there.
I bet that wouldn't be ok with the people who make this argument though.
Yeah but there's an argument against it. It's predatory to prey on a developing brain it doesn't mean they don't know what there doing because i was told when I was in high school that boys mature faster sexually then girls that's why there in such a hurry to get married guys because it kind of ruins there reputation when they can't find a young wife some of them are heartbroken and they think they missed there chance and everyone should be trapped and done dating after 30 they don't give women enough time to discover themselves and your told something is wrong with you if you can't keep a man around you and your not giving him free domestic labor in exchange for rent they want a bunch of rewards without even putting in the work to be a provider that's why I'm against it because only young girls are obsessed with bad boys and high value males not grown women.
It doesn't work because if his standards are to high or too low she will just lower it slightly to a guy that's more realistic and responsible about paying his bills on time. That's the main thing older women are worried about is compensation we don't like our time wasted on nonsense because when men are indecisive like that it becomes difficult for women to trust men.
So take away a person's right to choose! Tell me about America being home of the free? We barely have rights now. We pdfs to bring to justice. More important things to solve. Right?
@christinerichardson1756 no one is stopping anyone from being in a committed relationship if they want it. The only thing that would do is prevent a legal contract from being signed before any individual's brain has fully developed, gives them plenty of time to really think through the decision of marriage, and to figure out how well they actually know their partner to see if they're truly compatible.
If people are so concerned about the rush to marriage being a big cause of divorce then they should be willing to put some preventative measures in place.
No one complains en masse about the implications of people breaking up. Doesn't even matter that breaking up a long term relationship can be just as devastating as a divorce. People only care about breaking up a marriage.
The divorce itself isn't the issue, it's the loss of a marriage. Morality police want to prevent the loss of a marriage because marriage is "sacred" and people's happiness/safety isn't as important as that. One way to solve that problem is to prevent marriages that are likely to end.
Is it smart? Yes. Is it a bit much and restrictive? Also yes. If these same people are going to trap women in unhealthy, unhappy, and/or unsafe marriages because "marriage is sacred" then too fkn bad. I can suggest 💩 right taking solutions too.
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@@christinerichardson1756 there is a politician who is trying to change the age of marriage to 12. Where do you draw the line? 14? 16? 18? Where you draw the line says a lot about you.
I have argued with people about this, but I still don't understand the argument against divorce. It is completely nonsensical even from a cultural conservative perspective in which the government stays out of the home. How are you going to prove the marriage is over if you can't pay for a lawyer and get proof? Every other contract is breakable, but one where the other person can leave you destitute and or physically harmed is not? But they like "right to work" laws in which employers need no reason to break your contract that workers rely on to feed themselves.
It's because marriage is business. Very serious business.
It's so disheartening to know that the majority of ww voted the U.S. into the Handmaid's Tale.
So tired of that lie being repeated ad nauseum.
At just 50 %, you're talking about 59 million white women.
Except:
74% of the votes the Orange Messiah got were from white men.
17% from Black and Latino men.
That leaves only 11% left who were women - White, Latino and yes, Black. . Not even close to 25 %, so where could 59 million white women fit into that math?
These WW are about to suffer the consequences too! 71% of DEI managers/execs were WW!
Good grief ladies! When will you learn WM will not protect you.
Divorce is illegal in the Philippines. So people just shack up and don’t marry. Which is opposite of what the government wanted. Or the ones who marry and it didn’t work out; they just separate and live their lives without a legal divorce. Making divorce harder will not improve marriages. 🙄
People forget that there was a time that people died young. Getting married at 16yrs. to a 20yr. old who dies at 40 is a lot different than getting married at 32yrs. old and to a man 40yrs old with a 80yr. old life expectancy.
True to some extent, but the reason the average age of death was in the 30s was because about half of children didn't make it to adulthood. Most died as infants. The average between 1 and 60 is 30.5, so this doesn't mean every one died at around 40 years old. If you made it past childhood, you could probably expect to make it to a decently old age, assuming you avoided any serious injuries or disease. I mean, there's islands out here that people were regularly living to 90 and above, long before any form of modern medicine reached their shores.
It's more of a misconception that most people in the middle ages only expected to live to be 30 or 40.
It's about power and control. Anyone should be able to freely get a divorce, regardless of circumstance, especially if they're being abused. This kind of laws affect men too!! It is going to disproportionally affect women. Even if you've never been married you can still have an opinion about marriage. I think women can definitely do better when it comes to recognizing red flags in men and not going along with bad behavior.
How about women could avoid men and increase their chances of life?
@@Emptytopfloor 🤣🤣🤣I mean, the logic sound!!🤣🤣🤣"You get the love you think you deserve." ❤❤❤😊😊😊Aim high!
@@Emptytopfloor the first step is to recognize YOU are love itself, and that men are incapable of love.
The Global Network that I now work for, provides a living wage for their entire network. And, I couldn't understand why simply promoting financial freedom has caused the network to be under constant threat, and surveillance, from various global governments, and entities. (They're shadow-banned on all platforms, and even trying to mention the network's name has gotten it removed in my last two attempts to comment here). But, I'm quickly realizing that closing the economic gap solves so many societal issues, and liberates so many people (i.e. those trapped in/forced into marriage), that a living wage/financial freedom for all, is clearly the single biggest threat to the current "powers-that-be". I understand now, and completely support, their choice to continue operating their global network "under-ground". Mind blown & smh. Great video!
Keep fighting the good fight. I love your content and support you!
It's also children who will get hurt when they are trapped in an unhappy marriage.
And to the comment, my mom did take the marriage seriously, my father did not. So the best decision she made was the divorce.
If God doesn't like it, he can stay married to my father.
Thank you for all your work !
The mask falls off eventually.
I think it is also really telling that me that get divorced are all "She took all my shit" as if it wasn't a partnership, as if when you signed the paperwork you merged your assets and are entitled to a 50% split. He is mad that she paid for half of the furniture, even though he couldn't afford the sofa on his own.
Not with the Taraji reference 😂 ❤❤❤
A common comment I have read is something like, "she'll get a lot of money after the divorce."
Usually touted by men who don't have any. If what they say is true even sometimes there wouldn't be s many homeless divorced women and mothers homeless, living in cars or alleys.
Women suffer a great deal during and after divorce, I saw this first hand with my mother when she divorced her late ex husband. Took over five years for the divorce to be finalized because he didn’t wanna sign the damn papers.
I am engaged, and I would never get married if I couldn't ever get a divorce! While I don't plan to get divorced, I want to always have the option. I will get married only in the UK or New Zealand, I will put in the marriage contract that either my fiancé and I can get a quick divorce at any time we want (so if any country I live in tries to do away with no-fault divorce, I can get it before they pass the Law), my marriage contract will also have a Living Apart Together clause, and it will say exactly how the marriage assets will be divided.
First off, the people who give marriage counseling before marriage are usually not qualified. Case and point, most people go to religious leaders and not marriage counselors for counseling prior to marriage. Most people go to marriage counselors when they are on the brink of divorce. Religious leaders support marriage so they are not addressing marriage accountability, they address what is expected in a marriage. How many people go to religious leaders for marriage counseling and do not end up getting married? Very few, if any. They receive hope and a false sense of support to get married. Religious leaders are not assisting women in leaving DV relationships. Some can even say they support it. Many justify it in religious texts. So, let's take counseling off the table. Next point, people change. Adults have this false belief that when they become adults, nothing changes after that. They will be the same forevermore. Who told them that lie? We can change at anytime, it doesn't always happen, but it can happen. Especially if one person in the relationship was lying so that they can get what they want. For some ppl, marriage is the goal, not the journey. So once they get married, they believe that is it. They don't have to put any effort cause they won or they have arrived, and unfortunately, society supports that BS. That is when Mr. Hyde shows his real face. Now he won't die alone, and he has some to to the heavy lifting, so he believes. Marriage never benefited women. Women were thrown a few trinkets so that they could believe in the dream. The men receive 70% benefit while the women receive 30%, and that is being generous and based on culture. No one is saying don't get married. What we are saying is, know what you are getting into. There are people who are truly happily married. But the truth is, that's the majority.
Thank you for this information and you be safe as well.
These men have never heard of prenuptial agreements.
...and Women are without honor, and cannot be trusted as they offer vows they break whenever they feel like it. So what now ?
Why can't we have a minimum age of 18yrs. for the country like the draft.
He should have changed the divorce law where if a spouse wants to leave they can leave the marriage with or without evidence.
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@@Rose-kj7rz they make you count the words now, this is madness.
I have and never will be married, but I was a child seeing how bad it can be. Also do conservatives ask how well the marriages of their clerics (or president) have went?
I can't write for money... I cannot control my writing form. School was so hard. I wrote 2 large peoms or sonnets for one of my classes. The only reason I passed was because both of them had everything in them. They were supposed to be one essay. I spent a week being unable to write anything unless it was in poem form.. at least I gave sorces. 🤦♀️
Wouldn’t you want your partner to freely want & choose to stay, rather than have no choice but to stay. Like “til death do us part” is so dumb it should be easy to split thus both partners put in the consistent effort for each other to want to stay. if you’re pretending to be a good life partner until the knot is tied & the mask comes off, that’s not the person you married & they’ve scammed you out of your freedom & autonomy. If someone was lovely why would you even suspect they were lying to you the whole time? Idk it’s one of those things where if you don’t get it, you probably never will.
Men want this for themselves for sure lmao, just not for women. Rules for thee but not for me.
Keep spreading the word!
Amen. These guys refuse to be adults. No wonder women are opting for singlehood , for freedom.
Why don’t men think about what can happen to them financially if they don’t get divorced?
Thank you 💯
I feel like our legal system in general doesn't have legally enforced contracts with no possibility of dissolution. Even prison sentences allow parole without finishing the sentence.
keep doing your good work this messages are important friend
There's no amount of "get counseling and don't be young" that's gonna prevent you and your partner from growing apart, or from you partner's behavior completely switching up once you're locked into a marriage. And that's for men OR women because surprise surprise, men leave marriages too. Also, it's so frustratingly tone-deaf to say "don't get married young" when women are literally pressured from all sides from the moment they turn 18 to hurry up and get picked before they're too old and then no ones gonna want them, and they won't be able to have kids. Society literally tells women that after 25 you better start settling because you have no value after 30. End of the day, of someone wants out of a marriage, let them out. You shouldn't want someone that's trapped with you like a prisoner, but then again, maybe that is what the males want. The irony is, if these laws are passed the only thing that's gonna happen is that women just won't get married at all. The same way women have opted out of dating, sex, and children with all of the reproductive rights that are being taken. These legislators think they can force our hand.
My neighbor and friend went from being a married single mother to now having the whole weekend all to herself. She can now take her friends out to lunch, go TO lunches with her friends, clean the entire house to her liking (she's very much a clean freak, though she makes sure to not take that out on her girls), and watch whatever tf she wants.
Instead of having to take care of two daughters--who the father also said he wanted btw. Their kids were very much planned--and a lazy, abusive husband who just wanted to play video games while she broke her back cooking and cleaning AND WORKING, she can now enjoy motherhood and herself.
She still hates how she has to send her girls to him every weekend, since, again, he abused her and a lot of fathers will abuse their daughters once they're in their teens (my mother describes it as "Abusive men love doting on their little girls. They HATE women, though, and they see their daughters as women as soon as they hit puberty."), but the court decided he wouldn't hurt his daughters despite hitting their mother. Because that makes sense /s.
My neighbor has decided to enjoy her peace while keeping a very close eye, and open communication, with her girls whenever their home. It's all she can do until she can get full custody.
An excellent resource for faith driven people is the book Marriage in the Bible: What does it actually say, by Dr Jennifer Bird PhD. She also has a TH-cam channel covering what does the Bible say about all women’s issues and anything really. I’ll leave a link below for anyone interested.
Jennifer Bird PhD th-cam.com/video/3pCPWiMDHnM/w-d-xo.htmlsi=T3wzV1wY5YJDcyTw
I came for the intelligent commentary and stayed for the fabulous personality! You’re so fun, even talking about such a heavy subject
Ngl, as someone who literally has heard the horrors of psychological and physical abuse my own mom went through prior to her divorce, yeah no. I mean, the thing is, I’m also lesbian, so it’s not like I have that attraction to men at all. This being said, this video feels like an extra reminder to be careful for who I let into my life, both with friends and potential partners.
Edit: Like Shayna said, stay safe guys.
Good for the women at long last
Google “States getting rid of no fault divorce”
Men Mask.
Thank you for your content.
Instead of marriage contracts women should consider business contracts for relationships. I’m wondering if that would be a solution to the movement to make divorce harder to obtain. Instead of saying we’re married say we’re in a business agreement with one another just make sure there is an out should one be needed.
Love.
First off THAN YOU. 2nd, i had 2 bad experiences in the marriage i was in, 2nd one worse than the first and let me tell you, it went from grabbing to pulling to restraining to PAUN in like 3.5 seconds. I was SHICKED!!! I mean really couldn't believe this was happening, with him, to me. So, he was the giod guy, his family, my family...no ine believed me, especially since i have always been outspoken and independent, hell,no one could even believe i was married!! Moral of the story, pplleeaasseee leave and dont look back. I knew i wasnt over exaggerating or tripping when he told the courts i deserted him and the kids because i foolishly thought he would never hurt his children. He took the kids and for 3 weeks wouldnt let me talk to them or see them. So, you tell me, was i right or was i right??
Human evolution is what's showing the cracks!
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Im a devil 😈 but im not your pastor devil
Don't hate Christians. And don't hate marriage, it can be a beautiful thing! Just make sure you're both "equally-Yoked to God/Jesus Christ [Yahshua Ha' Mashiach], and GOD Will Bless the marriage union. It takes understanding.
Also, been hearing political liberals trying to speak evil of Christians, but God Will Defend. And i don't hear liberals ever speaking against Islam, like that. You see, Christians are the first to pray for liberals, after Judgement have come against the political liberals for all the mocking and scoffing, and hatred and rebellion against God and His Word, and His Commandments. God is not mocked. And no one can fight against The Almighty God.
And instead of quoting Meg, try quoting The Word of GOD, and obeying God, and do not fear.
Some men lie. Not all.
All men have to lie for their survival.
Lie, like wet grimy rugs.
Yeah when did she say all men? Can you not use comprehension skills and understand she’s talking in general and not about every single man, or just talking about the men who do lie?
It's funny how men use the "not all" to be manipulative.
It's "not ALL men lie" now
But when a dads teenage daughter starts dating "ALL" Those teenage boys are only after one thing, when Dad is giving his daughter the talk about boys.
So you never been married but you're giving unsolicited marriage advice based off of what ifs? Hypotheticals? Worst cases scenerios? Shouldn't women who's been married speak on this than you? This is not God's work! This is subversion. You said men lie without saying women lie too! News flash, humans lie smh You have to heal your heart because youre going to carry this bitter into old age and it's not going to effect anyone else but you!
Oh shoot, I think the sky is falling.
Womp womp
I’m sure she’s seen and met many women over her life who were married and saw how miserable they were. You don’t need to be married to observe these types of dynamics. People who are child caretakers and don’t have kids themselves, should they not continue their careers?
Being single doesn’t necessarily have to equate to being alone,bitter,and miserable. Lol!! Single people and unmarried couples can STILL BE happy and have fulfilling lives without a marriage license and without having kids. She was speaking from observation and experiences she’s heard and read from other women. She’s a journalist.🤦♀️🤣🤡
Sooooo I've never been stabbed before BUT I've seen stab victims....... would I be wrong to tell you try not to get stabbed?🤔
Would you be like "fuk you" "how would you know" 🤣😭😂
the average age for married couples in America, is 30, child marriages in America, are NOT as common as people make it seem, people always try to use the LAW as a justification for why something is moral or immoral, SLAVERY used to be LEGAL, discriminating against black people, used to be LEGAL, and if youre implying that parents are not making the best decision for their child, even in cases of marriage, then i would like to see that child, make their own decisions, and pretty much end up in a better situation, since the choices of the mother and the father, are not respected, or deemed as unethical, if people are okay with breaking tradition, then who will the children listen and get instructions from, YOU IN THE VIDEO, other women who "decenter" men, and still end up in fucked up relationships because they get their advice from women who know NOTHING about men, Ha...
How many child marriage will make it a problem to you?
@@Emptytopfloor do you not understand that the PARENTS are the determining factor of whether or not their child is to be married by a certain age, those customs and practices obviously differ from here in america, and to make it seem like those parents are committing some sort of act against humanity, is incredibly prejudiced, because being outside of their culture, do you know why they allow such a thing, or is it all just based on patriarchy and men somehow oppressing women, do tell...
@@ReverendOmen child marriages in US happen due to laws, laws created by men for men to uphold patriarchy.
What does the commonality have to do with how harmful it is for young girls? If it was so great, former child brides wouldn't keep fighting to end it.
This dude is defending child marriage!
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