So I was literally about to go out with my ex on a night out as friends but we had a row and we cancelled it - She has seen a change in me and says she is not used to it - but I have decided to do a 31 day NC, sort out a new career and my health and then re contact her again with the same outlook she noticed. 50/50 chance but nothing to lose. All she wants she says is for us to get on and co parent - so end of the day I have nothing to lose as we will end up there again anyway - anything else could be a bonus
We’ve been together for 2 years, he broke up with me a month and 10 days ago. Without a big reason like cheating or sth. The relationship was happy. I’ve been in no contact since then ( 1 month and 10 days) He views all my insta stories, my stories are positive, with friends and going out, doing hobbies. I don’t know if there’s hope because he didn’t reach out. I’m abroad now, because I started present lectures, but our relationship wasn’t ldr btw. Should I continue NC or initiate contact and how…🤷🏻♀️ I feel a little better now but I still love him and want us to be together.
I've really been following Chris Seiter since he's the only breakup relationship coach that touches on attachment styles, which I find usually plays the largest role in breakups when two different styles collide. Is it possible to get videos done offering advice on how to get back each style? For example, the content of this video wouldn't really work for a dismissive avoidant who shuts down completely.
You haven’t looked at many of the relationship coaches, because most of them do talk about attachment styles that statement simply not true that they don’t. This is just the only one you watch.. many of them do like what?
So when you say learn patience, how long do you mean. My ex and i split up 10 years and shes been in this relationship with this guy for 7 years, and he lives with his parents, and she lives with him at his parents... Like wtf. I have my own place, goals, full time job but thats not enough for her. His goal is to be in a band as a bassist. Is independence even attractive anymore these days?
Since we broke up 1 month and haft i didn’t hear from my ex. And today is day 22 of the no contact rule. He seems to be move on. Should I continue NC rule?
I’m at the same situation but one month and 10 days. I think we should continue NC because sometimes it takes more time. And if I contact him I don’t know what to say.🤷🏻♀️
@@a.porzingis5119 I’m focusing on myself and I have made a lot of changes, as I said I feel better and I’m proud of myself for the mindset I developed in that one month, but it would be good if we get back together. I’m not obsessing over it , I’m just asking if I should continue no contact or how to make him contact me.
I’m been in no contact for 20 days. On day 5 my ex posted an old video to her insta highlights she took in a shirt of mine , hmm weird. And I don’t watch her stories or anything
@@selenophile-308 nah I don’t , I was looking at her posts and highlights early on, but for the last 10 days I haven’t watched a story , and it was from a girls account that I know that had been following her for years , so even though I watched it , she has no earthly idea it was me
I learn so much with you - some of the things are just reassurance of what I usually do but still, such great content! You explain so well!
So I was literally about to go out with my ex on a night out as friends but we had a row and we cancelled it - She has seen a change in me and says she is not used to it - but I have decided to do a 31 day NC, sort out a new career and my health and then re contact her again with the same outlook she noticed. 50/50 chance but nothing to lose. All she wants she says is for us to get on and co parent - so end of the day I have nothing to lose as we will end up there again anyway - anything else could be a bonus
I know it’s been a lot of time since this comment but what ended up happening? Hope all is well!
Thank you for all that!!
Simply ignore them...
We’ve been together for 2 years, he broke up with me a month and 10 days ago. Without a big reason like cheating or sth. The relationship was happy. I’ve been in no contact since then ( 1 month and 10 days) He views all my insta stories, my stories are positive, with friends and going out, doing hobbies. I don’t know if there’s hope because he didn’t reach out. I’m abroad now, because I started present lectures, but our relationship wasn’t ldr btw. Should I continue NC or initiate contact and how…🤷🏻♀️ I feel a little better now but I still love him and want us to be together.
Continue always NC
I feel like I'm in the same boat, I'm afraid to reach out cause I do not want to push her away..... we were supposed to get married 😪
I’m not reaching out they left they fix .
I've really been following Chris Seiter since he's the only breakup relationship coach that touches on attachment styles, which I find usually plays the largest role in breakups when two different styles collide. Is it possible to get videos done offering advice on how to get back each style? For example, the content of this video wouldn't really work for a dismissive avoidant who shuts down completely.
Yeah it would don’t worry. Avoidants do actually mourn the relationship, just later but they do and it usually hits them even harder
You haven’t looked at many of the relationship coaches, because most of them do talk about attachment styles that statement simply not true that they don’t. This is just the only one you watch.. many of them do like what?
So when you say learn patience, how long do you mean. My ex and i split up 10 years and shes been in this relationship with this guy for 7 years, and he lives with his parents, and she lives with him at his parents... Like wtf. I have my own place, goals, full time job but thats not enough for her. His goal is to be in a band as a bassist. Is independence even attractive anymore these days?
Since we broke up 1 month and haft i didn’t hear from my ex. And today is day 22 of the no contact rule. He seems to be move on. Should I continue NC rule?
I’m at the same situation but one month and 10 days. I think we should continue NC because sometimes it takes more time. And if I contact him I don’t know what to say.🤷🏻♀️
@@fatimeshahin5936 dont let him blow your mind,focus on yourself
@@a.porzingis5119 I’m focusing on myself and I have made a lot of changes, as I said I feel better and I’m proud of myself for the mindset I developed in that one month, but it would be good if we get back together. I’m not obsessing over it , I’m just asking if I should continue no contact or how to make him contact me.
Yes, continue. Especially if they broke up with you.
During NC in 8days she's text me firt and i response but she's don't reply me again. is there is problem or what should ido?
Update ?
Hi chris pls advice me, is it still effective my NCR eventhough sometimes i contacted her 2-3x?
I’m been in no contact for 20 days. On day 5 my ex posted an old video to her insta highlights she took in a shirt of mine , hmm weird. And I don’t watch her stories or anything
Dont bite it!
You better not be watching the stories if you're in no contact lol. Cos that counts as breaking it.
@@selenophile-308 nah I don’t , I was looking at her posts and highlights early on, but for the last 10 days I haven’t watched a story , and it was from a girls account that I know that had been following her for years , so even though I watched it , she has no earthly idea it was me
After being in no contact for around 7 months.. is it rude to ignore an ex after establishing contact? Will they lose interest and move on?
From what I've learned, if they do contact you, you mirror them in their actions or give them less. Don't give more than they are giving you.
What about if your ex blocked you everywhere⬅➡⬆⬇↗↘↙↖ since nine months now
@@selenophile-308 thank you so much
±2347030812148⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.,
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@@festusmary5423 I fine it difficult to believe that
@@dalingtonashiegbu3068 I mean it am a living testimony as am talking to you my husband is here with me happily
Gi what if he is nit on sosial media.?
What do I do then
Since my ex dumped me he barely uses social media. He used to be on it all the time when he was with me....why is that?
@@julietwilliams7028 you are a scammer. Im reporting u
Updated ?
@@theborrowedbodies9691 he came running back begging
@@karinajames4367 if that made u happy I’m glad for you ,how long did he take to come back
@@theborrowedbodies9691 34 days