Its absolutely wild to me that people aren't getting married because it's too big of a commitment when they're literally bringing a child into this world.... that's *_the_* most permanent thing you can do with someone
sometimes that is just what works. I have a cousin that is engaged but hasn't gotten married and it just works for them. Katy Perry and Orlando bloom have been engaged for years and have a kid. everyone is different.
I hope Kian can one day leave his negative perception of marriage due to his parents behind and realize he can create a new vision of what marriage can be. I hope he finds the courage to propose to Ayla with intention to marry. Ayla clearly really wants to get married and I’m sure there’s a part of her hurting and him not giving much assurance that it will ever happen. He sees her fit as a girlfriend and mother to his child, but not a wife? He sees getting married a bigger deal than having a baby? Strange thinking.
@@anakhanair_ The purpose of getting engaged is to marry. She clearly doesn’t want to bring up marriage to him because even her just bringing up proposing freaks him out.
I can totally relate to not wanting to call your partner your “boyfriend,” I remember feeling that way before I was engaged, but then calling him my fiancé felt weird to me lol husband is definitely my favorite
Totally because if you have a kid together and things don’t work out with your girl/boyfriend, then you still have to be in each others lives forever coparenting. Versus, after getting married and divorced, you can go on with your separate lives, never seeing each other again since nothing is tying you together.
I've watched Kian since O2L days and have been watching Matt & Abby for a few years. It's so funny to see the difference between both couples in the same room 😂
@@AlinasingingI wasn't thinking of it that way. They all have different upbringings and personalities and they live in different places which contributes a lot to their personalities. I love them all and think Kian& Ayla will be great parents. They're just very different from eachother and that's 100% okay. We're all learning and growing.
@@rachelmarie3401 of course it is ok. I just had a feeling that sometimes Matt abs Abby we’re looking at them as if they were alines 😂 like “how come someone lives such a sinful lifestyle, they are lost “ 😂
I came from a very messy divorce/ex and it’s very important that you are choosing the right one to be with. Rushing into marriage is not something you should take lightly. But with that said, I never wanted to get married again until I met the one who showed me what a easy relationship was like. It completely changed my mind on the subject. The right person will make you want that with them.
No hate to them at all but it is pretty funny how scared they are to commit to marriage yet they were okay with committing to taking care of a human being together for the rest of their lives 😂
you didn’t listen to ayla ever explain it at all huh? or even have a little bit of common sense? marriages break up all the time. you can’t get rid of a kid. that will attach them for life. marriage isn’t everything
no. women can have kids and not be married. ur relationship with your child is life long regardless of a piece paper, marriage is a legal contract and divorce is extremely messy and difficult and a ridiculous process for a lot of people. it is much simpler to have a kid and not get married for a lot of people. marriage is unnecessary unless u specifically want to get married. it is not required here in the 21st century
@@rumademedoit people thinking marriage is a legal contract is the reason why there are so many messy divorces. Yes, a contract is involved, but the depth of reasoning for marriage is so important to understand. Marriage is so much more than a piece of paper and two people living with each other. It may not be a “requirement”, in today’s word.But we have more single parents with children getting the brunt of it, and messy divorces by selfish parents, than any other generation. I’m not saying generations before always had it right, but we are also not paving a way of high quality lives in this generation, as a whole.
@@Sombiawhat??? Babies are a huge thing.. you don’t just go one day “ hey you know what i want a baby” that’s a huge responsibility that will change your life... forever
It's also manipulative because he said in another podcast that a child or baby won't fix a relationship, which is absolutely true but when I heard her saying that she feels like he doesn't love her enough it comes across as an attack or backhanded compliment IDK
I think everyone needs to remember red flags for you and your partner aren’t red flags for everyone else. The definition of love and family is different for each person and just because their version of love and family doesn’t fit yours doesn’t mean it’s bad or they’re not taking things seriously. Each relationship is different, it’s all about mutual respect, compassion, comprehension, and willingness to choose that person everyday.
I don't entirely agree with that...there are certain things that are considered harmful in a relationship that is scientifically proven to break up a relationship or even worse cause significant stress and trauma.
I don’t know, but the fact that they brush off marriage, don’t believe in it/think it’s a big commitment seems off to me. Almost like they are in denial. Is a baby not a huuuuge commitment? I’d say a way bigger commitment than marriage. No hate against them at all, to each their own and I firmly believe that. But I don’t understand their mindset on how they can commit to a baby but not to each other through marriage.
I agree that a baby is a bigger commitment. I just got married 6 months ago after being together for 10 years. We are probably going to wait about 2-3 more years to have a kid. Even though we are in our 30s I’m just not ready yet.
I was trying to put into words how I feel about this & you said it perfectly. Not trying to hate but maybe they both need some pre marital counseling to work through their emotions & the what ifs… it sounds like they’re a little traumatized from their parents breaking up. Maybe they could pre plan their divorce??? So everything goes smoothly if that’s what they’re worried about??? Idk.
Marriage is not for everyone and that’s ok. Yes, having a child is a lot of responsibility and a huge commitment but maybe that’s their form of commitment. Marriage is very traditional and some people do you have a negative view of it due to their upbringings. I don’t think it’s that deep. To each their own :)
@@Minollimon they are literally bound together forever by having a child together….they can do that but not be committed to each other in marriage? They love each other enough to have a baby but not get married? That’s just my questioning, I do believe that people should do whatever they want. This whole situation and how they think, in my opinion, is strange.
I really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you Kian and Ayla for been vulnerable with us. I see two young couples figuring out life, trying to be the best version of them self ❤
loved this episode. its nice to see couples who are so open with their previous struggles. you can truly tell how much they've grown separately but also together. marriage isnt for everybody & less and less people are getting married and thats totally okay!! it doesnt mean that they don't love each other any less! im so excited for this new chapter for them in their lives
@@tomatoslayer333 some of you are unhealthily obsessed with Kian. Like I get him and JC have given you years of entertainment but it doesn't mean he"s mature. He still wants to be 17
People who aren’t married are not “playing house” the absence of a marriage certificate doesn’t disregard the experience. If you create a loving home with people that are your family you are LIVING real life emotions, joys, trials! Real love and family has no conditions
Yeah but marriage has a tons of benefits especially if you choose to have children. Being arbitrarily fearful of commitment is a red flag and shows that parties aren't 100% in and committed imo unless they're like a literal anarchist who doesn't believe in laws but even then you can have a commitment ceremony
@@QTpatootie95some people (like me) are scared because they didn’t grow up in a traditional household where the mom & dad were together so marriage can be scary. Stop being judgmental.
I feel it's so refreshing to see another kind of couple/relationship, than the "christian perfect relationships" on the podcast. Seen many negative comments on the shorts but it's great with some variety! 😊
My best friends parents had 2 kids together, never knew they weren’t married. They just got married after 20+ years together. Thank you for having this conversation and normalizing families that aren’t legally together.
My parents been together for more then 20+ years together also, they had me and my big sister, my dad always said, I love your mom, she’s my heart, she’s my support, I don’t need a paper to prove that, too this day so many people ask my mom why did she stay with my dad for so long and she’s always says, he’s my best friend, my world, my everything, i love them so much and I wish in my future I could have something so special like they do🫶🏻
I’ve always thought it’d be a beautiful experience to be with someone for an extended period of time like that kids and all, then have a big marriage all together! Sounds cool to me, I hope our collective concept of marriage and family broadens♥️ but also I am a suuucker for weddings and anything love, every story is different!
Kian reminds me so much of my bf and listening to him talk about his anxiety and what he needs form his parter when he is going through it really helped me understand my partner. Thank you for touching up on this topic, I have work to do 👍🏻
I definitely relate to kian with the Imposters Syndrome of thinking “am I really old enough to do this?” Haha. I’ve been married 8 years and have two kids, oldest being 6 and at least 2/3 times a week I take a step back and think “I cannot believe I’m old enough to love with a man and raise kids, like IM REALLY THE ADULT HERE?” Haha. I think I’m also similar in the sense that I’m very childish in my sense of humor so I always feel like I’m still 13 lol
It was so refreshing seeing a couple that I related more to. Not all couples follow the traditional route of marriage and then kids for multiple reasons and that’s okay too!
If you ever get the chance I think it would be amazing to have Jess & Gabriel on your podcast! Both families would just get on with each other so well and have so many interesting topics to talk about
oh my gosh! I totally recognized this guy (Kian).. throughout the entire video I kept asking “where have I seen him?” He’s friends with the The Merrell Twins! I watch the merrell twins here on YT. I just remember how when they all (Kian and friends) lost their best friend (mentioned on this video) it greatly affected every one. It was so so sad. It really hit Frani (Kians friend) hard. omg what a small world. loved the podcast guys! It’s awesome how you guys connect with the most random yet a awesome people. 😍 so good!
You know what’s also the number one cause for breakups? …Relationships The number one cause for sadness? Happiness Playing it safe comes in handy but if you know your significant other at the moment that’s all that should matter not others experiences because the possibility of anything is endless. No one marries to divorce but life happens, it’s hard like you said, you never know what the outcome will be we all just hope for the best by putting effort to it to achieve that best outcome!!!
Dude. Abby saying that she hasn’t picked up her either babies birth cert, makes me feel sooo much better as a mom. My son is 7 months & I have all the paperwork filled out & a Monday order ready I just haven’t flipping sent it in.
Honestly, I have a 6 year old and 3 year old, I have never needed their birth certificates... ever. Even enrolling my oldest into public school, I didn't need it. No worries, mommas ❤
When I found out I was pregnant we were trying but I was still in shock. I remember I could feel the blood rush to my ears and everything went silent except my heartbeat. I felt like I was outside of my body. It was the most terrifying and magical moment of my entire life.
I have brothers, and when they were younger they fought so much!! I was a little girl and I was so scared every time they fought. But now they are best friends! It is just something they have to go through when they grow up. So don’t worry too much when your kids reach this age, it’s natural.❤❤
I watch y’all because of the rawness and realness on here. I have adhd and my fiancé doesn’t. But we both suffer from anxiety as well. My guy always need space when he is anxious and I need the complete opposite like the girls in the podcast. Thanks for this!! I thought that he was losing feelings for me too in the moments he would want space. But now I realize we all heal completely differently 💕 Ps. Love the new song ✨
I read a lot of people judging them in the comments of the shorts to this interview and I also got a bad impression but once you listen to the whole thing you can totally relate to them and it all makes more sense!
I love that they’re not married and have their baby boy. Me and my partner are in the same boat. I always told him I wanted kids before marriage- that marriage to me should be a celebration of having chosen each other after many years. We’ve been together for 3 years, and are expecting our baby boy this August. I am totally with Ayla & Kian on this one. Y'all are so weird for all the judgement 😅
Hearing them talk about their break ups is so reassuring for me right now. I’m going through a break up & knows it’s for the best right now but we care so much about eachother & I definitely still want to be with him. Gives me hope he’ll come crawling back like kian did the second time😂😅
My husband broke up with me 2 years after we started dating. We were only broken up for 2-3 months but I said it’s fate. We have been together over 10 years and married for 6 months. Do I feel like that happens often? No but it can.
Sorry if this is random but this exact situation happened to me. Together for two years, he broke up with me and three months later asked to get back together. Problem is he slept with another girl during that time and I feel like if he really loved me he wouldn't have done that... did this happen in your case?
This girl deserves better honestly. She wants to get married so bad I can tell. A baby isn’t going to to save a relationship.. and this couple sounds like they think a baby will save them. Interesting. You wanted to have a baby but were broken up & not living together? A baby is more of a commitment than marriage if you ask me 😂😂😂 I’m so confused …
I LOOOVEED O2L back in the day and when I saw Kian was having a baby it was INSANE to me😂😂he’s older than me and I even had my my daughter way before him at 19 (I’m 24 now) but it’s still just so weird to me that he’s having a baby😂❤ congratulations to both! Ive never hear or seen Ayla but she is absolutely gorgeous and seem so sweet and down to earth
@Kian, maybe try minimizing sugar/sweets & coffee for a couple of weeks to see if it helps w/ anxiety. It has helped me immensely so I've cut them out of my life for the most part. Btw, congratulations to you & Ayla on baby boy.
I wanna see more people who believe in marriage. I'm somehow fed up about people who just see the problems or the negative. I believe that you can be in a real team with someone who wants to be with you in a real team. Solution oriented and loyal no matter what. ❤ I love you Abby and Matthew ❤
some people just don't want the commitment of marriage, and that's okay! not everyone wants the same things in life, but we shouldn't be critical just because of different views😊
@Under_Your_Bed_ it's not that she can't commit to anything. she probably just doesn't want to be legally binded to someone. I personally want to get married in life, but that doesnt mean everyone else has to. plus why do you care so much about someone else's life?
Love these two people. They just had their baby and I wish them nothing but happiness I love the way they speak about their family they will be great parents.
It seems like Ayla and Kian won’t work out.. there’s so much talk about divorce/ splitting up from them! Everyone faces those risks when they’re in a relationship, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Kian needs to grow up forreal 😂
They talk about splitting up so much on the podcast because their sharing their story. I can tell they are in love and it’s for them to decide on their future not for someone else to be criticizing them for it
@@katj9853you do realize they will get feedback? If you post something like that or anything about yourself there will always be opinions and comments... so yes it’s the life you choose .. or the risks on putting yourself out there. There wouldn’t be any comments at all if nobody wanted to read the comments section
Marriage is a beautiful gift. Im 25, got married 3 years ago. God created marriage as a gift to us. Even if you're not religious, our society is built on an infrastructure of marriage. You cant visit your significant other in an emergency, if they leave they owe you nothing even if you helped them build their wealth, you cant make any decisions if they pass, buying a house is more difficult, etc. if you are not married.
As an “older” fan (early 30s) and a married mom of 2, I fully recommend marriage before kids. Kids bring SO much added stress. Having that legal commitment before the baby helps so much! It forces you to fight for your relationship when things get tough 💛
I think that’s kind of their whole problem with it though, because they don’t want the legal requirement to be what makes them want to stay. thank you for sharing your perspective though! :)
@@adeleinnicholsI’ve been looking for those exact words to say when I replied to a ladies comment earlier, thank you!! My pregnancy brain wouldn’t allow me to come up with that sentence myself 😂
@@adeleinnichols I mean “force” in all the best ways possible. Having a partner legally committed to you not only provides necessary stability but gives you that push to fight instead of giving up. As we saw in this episode, it’s super easy to simply call it quits when times get tough. Marriage (though not perfect) typically gives you that extra incentive to work through the issues. I wish the young couple the best! But still believe a legal commitment should come before a kid
Agree. Also a older fan at 32. I have been with my husband for 10.5 years and we got married 6 months ago. We are still waiting a couple years to have kids.
I wish them well, but I don't get the sense that they're solid enough in the relationship to withstand the stress and responsibility of bringing up a child. I sense especially from Ayla that she mistrusts his commitment to her.
With the name thing, my sister and I weren’t talking for awhile and she announced her pregnancy and the name that they picked and I REFUSED to tell her until my nephew was born that my man’s first and middle name are exactly the same as what they picked for my nephew lol and now my nephew is 4 and we love that him and his uncle share a name! It’s so much fun❤️ So please if you don’t like a name or someone has the same exact name as the one a couple want to use, don’t ruin it for them! It’s not your child! Keep your opinions to yourself about the name! It’s sad that people have to keep the name quite so they don’t have to hear the opinions of others instead of being excited to tell the world the name of their child.
My man and I are keeping our sons name quiet until he’s born because we don’t want people stealing his name or something, we acknowledge that we don’t care of peoples opinions of OUR sons name.
It sounds a bit like the anxiety for Kian could be that he's overstimulated. One thing that's helped me is turning off notifications on my phone, limiting social media and screen time and doing tasks can make me feel present. I wonder if there are studies coming out about the link to screen time and anxiety because it really does seem that everyone has anxiety nowadays (and I'm over here as someone who alo was diagnosed in like 4th grade with GAD so this isn't some "I'm better than you thing"
A baby is going to amplify the problems in their relationship. This couple is a walking talking red flag and should be a “what not to do”. This couple will not last and it’s sad because everyone can see it but them. They won’t know until they’ve destroyed each other and negatively impacted their child with their toxic behavior. Yikes all the way. Nothing healthy or admirable here. These two are toxic and not a good example for what a relationship should be before being in a child in the world.
I live in SD! It exists and some good, wholesome people live here! People hold doors here and share baked goods. Our kids can play outside and feel safe. It's the best! We live exactly where Kian is talking about, that's cool!
You still can work on yourself while staying in the relationship. You stay together and you get it together and work it out. Its not fair to hurt them and ask them to wait.
To each their own. And best of luck and best wishes. However, If I wasn't that sure about where things would go with my partner and if I could see the possibility of anything unpleasant happening (such as breakup etc) , I would never plan a baby with them just because "we would both be great parents".Because if you're not getting married because "you're not sure if you'd end up together long term," I don't understand how a baby would make sense in the mix? Just because the two partners can see themselves being great parents? Or maybe, subconsciously the idea is that the baby would be the thread that keeps them together no matter what? Even in case things don't work out, a parent still remains a parent and has to stay in touch with the coparent. So she wouldn't have to lose the partner permanently even if they break up? (or vice versa). But in that case, a marriage would still be more likely to keep them together because of all things attached etc. (Unless, the guy is the one that doesn't want it and has somehow had the girl convinced about not needing it)
people have so many harsh opinions on other people’s lives. I really hope ayla & kian don’t read these comments & it fcks up their relationship. reading things like they’re gonna break up & don’t love each other or deserve better all because of not wanting to get married is so crazy. I believe they’ll be like Zoe Sugg & Alfie Deyes 😌 no pressure, just love, commitment & raising their child in the best way. & if Kian decides to propose he will at his own pace & if not I really hope that Ayla is okay with it & doesn’t feel any less loved by Kian, cause you can really see they truly love each other. I think if there were no opinions & society wasn’t looking at unmarried moms in such a negative light, they’d feel no pressure & honestly just be happy together.
Sadly there's so many red flags I was shocked they broke up multiple times and still decided to get pregnant because he seemed to want it despite having major communication problems,yeah people can change but the energy is always the very best in the beginning and if there's already problems it's probably not the best idea to bring a child into it
This doesn’t make a lot of sense tho. So if people are having communication issues, they should just break up? Because how can you invalidate the fact that they said they’re way better at communicating and understanding each other? They started dating and boom, lockdown and next thing, Corey died. They did not have your typical “beginning of a relationship”, whatever the hell that is, so they faced difficulties.
@@chinnn2709 the beginning of a relationship should be the absolute easiest because you are both infatuated with each other. If you already are having problems from the get go that’s a really bad sign. Plus she’s begging to be engaged in this video and he is literally making jokes about golf carts. Meanwhile she’s SACRIFICING her body to him and the child and he’s doing nothing to “commit” to her. Marriage isn’t about couples, it’s what you owe children. A committed family.
@@lena990 and like I said, their circumstances were different. They said it that everything was going great until they moved in together during lockdown and Corey died. The death alone is heavy enough to have a serious impact on the relationship, if you’ll be realistic and honest with yourself. You have an almost childish take on this and I don’t mean that as an insult, its just so unrealistic that it’s appalling.
Yes 100% Kian doesn’t give clear answers. Seems like he doesn’t want to commit to Ayla completely and she’s just accepting that. It’s honestly sad that she’s begging him for a ring and he doesn’t want to give it. You should never beg a man like that and the fact that there’s a kid involved is just even more messy.
He's also not sure about her wavering emotions about him. One time she's in love and the next moment she kicks him out. No man wants to sink his entire life into unstable waters. Marriage stabilizes people, but they both have to want it or it's not gonna work.
I AGREE 100%!!!! I’m not carrying and birthing your babies while u can’t even get me a dang ring. Plus they don’t seem like they go with Abby and Matt well
I normally don’t comment on other couples, but everything that came out of their mouth is a huge red flag and am I the only one? When a woman sacrifices her body for another human and man the LEAST a man should do is commit to her with a ring.
The inside joke about baby names was so funny, I could tell by how Abby and Matt were laughing that they we’re definitely gonna talk about it after the podcast
THE SILENCE IN THE APARTMENT. IN SEPERSTE ROOMS IS EXACTLY WHAT IS GOING ON IN MY RELATIONSHIP. BUT BACKWARDS. WE USED TO COMMUNICATES ANDNANDFER 5 YRSM WE JUAT DONT TALK NOW
Matt and Abby I’ve enjoyed watching your podcast, I’m new here! I appreciate how vulnerable and real Abby is about pregnancy and motherhood 💗 I’m 13 weeks and I enjoy watching! The only thing that bothers me a bit is you guys constantly interrupt each other or your guest 😢 I get involved but then the convo steers away and I’m like noooo go back 😅 lol but I know your constantly growing in your interviewing skills!
Two things I can relate to here, 1. I have severe anxiety and depression disorder, was diagnosed as a kid. I’m 32 now and wish I could say I was cured but unfortunately i still deal with those everyday struggles. 2. I’ve been with my fiancé for a decade we have two beautiful boys and still are clearly not married and it’s ok. We will have our wedding one day but just haven’t made plans to actually marry. We have time, we don’t plan on being with anyone else. So to all couples out there, you do you. Don’t plan your life according to what others do
i think I like this episode the most because matt and abby are interviewing a couple that is the least like them, which is a breath of fresh air for the podcast. Not to say that the couples that were interviewed beforehand were bad or anything, they had a very similar story to matt and abby :)
Going to bed after a fight feels awkward to me. On one hand, I don’t want it to seem like I’m ignoring the fight/problem the morning after. On the other hand, I can just move on with my day and feel great. I’m not sure what to do the next morning 😂
Finally though!! Personally, it’s boring to watch them & guests just sit in agreement throughout an episode. Conversations where vulnerability and curiosity are at the forefront is wayyyyy more entertaining
I can confirm South Dakota exists - lived my whole life. Lives my whole life there and others might not know people from their but it’s crazy how many people you do know all over when u live there!!
living with ur gf AND her best friend can’t be easy in it’s self, then add on all the personal issues they were going through and the global issues!!! they are meant to be if they got through all this
Did not know I have been with my now husband longer than Matt and Abby have been together and we just got married 6 months ago. We were together over 10 years before getting married. Of course we are older, I’m 32 and he’s 38 (his birthday was Monday). No kids yet since we aren’t ready.
Our country is having an epidemic of broken homes, why have the authority of being parents when you won’t commit to the responsibility of family, the stats on kids raised in homes like this lean towards damage to the kids’ overall structure, attachment and development, I pray they stay together💞
Omg my anxiety is exactly the same! I’ve gotten in so much trouble by my mom I’m high school because I’d accidentally snap at her because when my anxiety was bad she would want to smother me and that’s not what I needed. Even though I talked to her several times about my needs but as everyone knows “moms know best” 🙄
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Its absolutely wild to me that people aren't getting married because it's too big of a commitment when they're literally bringing a child into this world.... that's *_the_* most permanent thing you can do with someone
Right!?!?!?!
Yeah to plan to have a baby but getting married is too scary for them??? Huh??
Very strang, for sure!
sometimes that is just what works. I have a cousin that is engaged but hasn't gotten married and it just works for them. Katy Perry and Orlando bloom have been engaged for years and have a kid. everyone is different.
@@gabbydavis6349 okay?
I hope Kian can one day leave his negative perception of marriage due to his parents behind and realize he can create a new vision of what marriage can be. I hope he finds the courage to propose to Ayla with intention to marry. Ayla clearly really wants to get married and I’m sure there’s a part of her hurting and him not giving much assurance that it will ever happen. He sees her fit as a girlfriend and mother to his child, but not a wife? He sees getting married a bigger deal than having a baby? Strange thinking.
Agreed
😢 these men are weird
I dont think so , she shared just as much hesitation on getting married as he did. But he definately should propose because she mentioned wanting it.
@@anakhanair_ The purpose of getting engaged is to marry. She clearly doesn’t want to bring up marriage to him because even her just bringing up proposing freaks him out.
@@bri.decode 😟
I wonder what kind of conversations Matt and Abby have in private after some of these podcasts.
That’s what I’m thinking 😂😂
Well what do you think? About this podcast?
Why ?
OH they are judging...
I was kinda thinking the same thing 😂
I can totally relate to not wanting to call your partner your “boyfriend,” I remember feeling that way before I was engaged, but then calling him my fiancé felt weird to me lol husband is definitely my favorite
Also isn’t fiancé just for a period of time. Why would you want to be in limbo like that? Their logic is so weird
@@babe8917seriously.
having a baby is 100% a bigger deal than getting married
100000%
No fr 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Totally because if you have a kid together and things don’t work out with your girl/boyfriend, then you still have to be in each others lives forever coparenting. Versus, after getting married and divorced, you can go on with your separate lives, never seeing each other again since nothing is tying you together.
mhm!
Facts
They really are the definition of unplanned! Honestly loved the conversation & how it bounced around, so casual!
I've watched Kian since O2L days and have been watching Matt & Abby for a few years. It's so funny to see the difference between both couples in the same room 😂
Yeah, kids sitting with adults 😂
@@AlinasingingI wasn't thinking of it that way. They all have different upbringings and personalities and they live in different places which contributes a lot to their personalities. I love them all and think Kian& Ayla will be great parents. They're just very different from eachother and that's 100% okay. We're all learning and growing.
@@rachelmarie3401 of course it is ok. I just had a feeling that sometimes Matt abs Abby we’re looking at them as if they were alines 😂 like “how come someone lives such a sinful lifestyle, they are lost “ 😂
Haha yes I agree with that 😂
I came from a very messy divorce/ex and it’s very important that you are choosing the right one to be with. Rushing into marriage is not something you should take lightly.
But with that said, I never wanted to get married again until I met the one who showed me what a easy relationship was like. It completely changed my mind on the subject. The right person will make you want that with them.
Amen 🤍
Congratulations!
Why does this feel like the sweet dorky kids in highschool trying to hang out with the edgy cool kids 😂
especially the tattoo part lmaoo
“tatted up gang” 😂😂
yall i cannot handle this comment its almost mean but super hilarious 🥲😂😂😂😂😂😂
yall i cannot handle this comment its almost mean but super hilarious 🥲😂😂😂😂😂😂
because that’s exactly what it is 😂
No hate to them at all but it is pretty funny how scared they are to commit to marriage yet they were okay with committing to taking care of a human being together for the rest of their lives 😂
Children are easy to commit they come with unconditional love. Besides marriage doesn't equal commitment. There's other ways to do that.
you didn’t listen to ayla ever explain it at all huh? or even have a little bit of common sense? marriages break up all the time. you can’t get rid of a kid. that will attach them for life. marriage isn’t everything
no. women can have kids and not be married. ur relationship with your child is life long regardless of a piece paper, marriage is a legal contract and divorce is extremely messy and difficult and a ridiculous process for a lot of people. it is much simpler to have a kid and not get married for a lot of people. marriage is unnecessary unless u specifically want to get married. it is not required here in the 21st century
@@rumademedoit people thinking marriage is a legal contract is the reason why there are so many messy divorces. Yes, a contract is involved, but the depth of reasoning for marriage is so important to understand. Marriage is so much more than a piece of paper and two people living with each other.
It may not be a “requirement”, in today’s word.But we have more single parents with children getting the brunt of it, and messy divorces by selfish parents, than any other generation. I’m not saying generations before always had it right, but we are also not paving a way of high quality lives in this generation, as a whole.
@@Sombiawhat??? Babies are a huge thing.. you don’t just go one day “ hey you know what i want a baby” that’s a huge responsibility that will change your life... forever
Mind blown at the statement "nothing is going to make me love her more"
Wow, that's so wholesome
Big up Kian
It's also manipulative because he said in another podcast that a child or baby won't fix a relationship, which is absolutely true but when I heard her saying that she feels like he doesn't love her enough it comes across as an attack or backhanded compliment IDK
I think everyone needs to remember red flags for you and your partner aren’t red flags for everyone else. The definition of love and family is different for each person and just because their version of love and family doesn’t fit yours doesn’t mean it’s bad or they’re not taking things seriously. Each relationship is different, it’s all about mutual respect, compassion, comprehension, and willingness to choose that person everyday.
Very well said, I totally agree 💯
I don't entirely agree with that...there are certain things that are considered harmful in a relationship that is scientifically proven to break up a relationship or even worse cause significant stress and trauma.
I don’t know, but the fact that they brush off marriage, don’t believe in it/think it’s a big commitment seems off to me. Almost like they are in denial. Is a baby not a huuuuge commitment? I’d say a way bigger commitment than marriage. No hate against them at all, to each their own and I firmly believe that. But I don’t understand their mindset on how they can commit to a baby but not to each other through marriage.
I agree that a baby is a bigger commitment. I just got married 6 months ago after being together for 10 years. We are probably going to wait about 2-3 more years to have a kid. Even though we are in our 30s I’m just not ready yet.
I was trying to put into words how I feel about this & you said it perfectly. Not trying to hate but maybe they both need some pre marital counseling to work through their emotions & the what ifs… it sounds like they’re a little traumatized from their parents breaking up. Maybe they could pre plan their divorce??? So everything goes smoothly if that’s what they’re worried about??? Idk.
Marriage is not for everyone and that’s ok. Yes, having a child is a lot of responsibility and a huge commitment but maybe that’s their form of commitment. Marriage is very traditional and some people do you have a negative view of it due to their upbringings. I don’t think it’s that deep. To each their own :)
Agree!! A baby is a huge responsibility it’s a lifelong commitment. You’ll like never stop being a parent.
@@Minollimon they are literally bound together forever by having a child together….they can do that but not be committed to each other in marriage? They love each other enough to have a baby but not get married? That’s just my questioning, I do believe that people should do whatever they want. This whole situation and how they think, in my opinion, is strange.
I really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you Kian and Ayla for been vulnerable with us. I see two young couples figuring out life, trying to be the best version of them self ❤
loved this episode. its nice to see couples who are so open with their previous struggles. you can truly tell how much they've grown separately but also together. marriage isnt for everybody & less and less people are getting married and thats totally okay!! it doesnt mean that they don't love each other any less! im so excited for this new chapter for them in their lives
But they do everything a married couple does the irony.
@@lmt6672which proves that you don’t have to get married to have the relationship that you want
@@lmt6672exactly. You don’t have to be married to do married couple things. It’s all just a social construct
don’t hate on these people when they are being vulnerable on camera. not all relationships are perfect and some need hard work for it to workout.
its hard not to hate Kian tbh. has had about 12 relationships in his life and can never settle down.
@@welcomebackpotter722 he’s had 3 girlfriends…
@@HealingByHomemaking go cry about it
@@tomatoslayer333 some of you are unhealthily obsessed with Kian. Like I get him and JC have given you years of entertainment but it doesn't mean he"s
mature. He still wants to be 17
@@HealingByHomemaking that’s hating.
People who aren’t married are not “playing house” the absence of a marriage certificate doesn’t disregard the experience. If you create a loving home with people that are your family you are LIVING real life emotions, joys, trials! Real love and family has no conditions
There are studies showing that this is false. Not being married creates instability in the family unit
It's not a bad idea to have a Cohabitation Agreement though! :) Really good idea in case things go south
Yeah but marriage has a tons of benefits especially if you choose to have children. Being arbitrarily fearful of commitment is a red flag and shows that parties aren't 100% in and committed imo unless they're like a literal anarchist who doesn't believe in laws but even then you can have a commitment ceremony
@@QTpatootie95some people (like me) are scared because they didn’t grow up in a traditional household where the mom & dad were together so marriage can be scary. Stop being judgmental.
@@Animalcrueltyisbad1i think they know it can be scary, it’s just crazy that people think having a whole baby instead is somehow less scary
this has been one of my favorite podcasts. I love kian and ayla, they’re alot of fun and very down to earth
I feel it's so refreshing to see another kind of couple/relationship, than the "christian perfect relationships" on the podcast. Seen many negative comments on the shorts but it's great with some variety! 😊
My best friends parents had 2 kids together, never knew they weren’t married. They just got married after 20+ years together. Thank you for having this conversation and normalizing families that aren’t legally together.
I agree! My parents have been together for over 20 years til this day they still aren’t married and they’re an amazing team
My parents been together for more then 20+ years together also, they had me and my big sister, my dad always said, I love your mom, she’s my heart, she’s my support, I don’t need a paper to prove that, too this day so many people ask my mom why did she stay with my dad for so long and she’s always says, he’s my best friend, my world, my everything, i love them so much and I wish in my future I could have something so special like they do🫶🏻
I’ve always thought it’d be a beautiful experience to be with someone for an extended period of time like that kids and all, then have a big marriage all together! Sounds cool to me, I hope our collective concept of marriage and family broadens♥️ but also I am a suuucker for weddings and anything love, every story is different!
Kian reminds me so much of my bf and listening to him talk about his anxiety and what he needs form his parter when he is going through it really helped me understand my partner. Thank you for touching up on this topic, I have work to do 👍🏻
I definitely relate to kian with the Imposters Syndrome of thinking “am I really old enough to do this?” Haha. I’ve been married 8 years and have two kids, oldest being 6 and at least 2/3 times a week I take a step back and think “I cannot believe I’m old enough to love with a man and raise kids, like IM REALLY THE ADULT HERE?” Haha. I think I’m also similar in the sense that I’m very childish in my sense of humor so I always feel like I’m still 13 lol
It was so refreshing seeing a couple that I related more to. Not all couples follow the traditional route of marriage and then kids for multiple reasons and that’s okay too!
It should always be "happy spouse, happy house". His feelings are just as important as hers
If you ever get the chance I think it would be amazing to have Jess & Gabriel on your podcast! Both families would just get on with each other so well and have so many interesting topics to talk about
I loved this so much, this was amazing✨✨✨ I support both of these couples individually but I’m obsessed with this CONVO & COLLAB!
I am obsessed with both of you guys, your so realistic and real, makes me so happy to see that once in a a while! love you
Matt is still a highschooler trying to always find a way to talk about boobs and butt🤣🤣
omg i feel bad for Abby sometimes...lol
i've realized tho men do mature slower so lets him grace :?@@tammyk2447 but yes sometimes I feel for her also
They do say boy mature 5 years slower than girls. lol
I wish Abby was able to talk more
oh my gosh! I totally recognized this guy (Kian).. throughout the entire video I kept asking “where have I seen him?”
He’s friends with the The Merrell Twins! I watch the merrell twins here on YT.
I just remember how when they all (Kian and friends) lost their best friend (mentioned on this video) it greatly affected every one. It was so so sad. It really hit Frani (Kians friend) hard. omg what a small world. loved the podcast guys! It’s awesome how you guys connect with the most random yet a awesome people. 😍 so good!
omg i love how excited ayla got at the end when she was talking about having their first couple friend 😭😭
You know what’s also the number one cause for breakups? …Relationships
The number one cause for sadness? Happiness
Playing it safe comes in handy but if you know your significant other at the moment that’s all that should matter not others experiences because the possibility of anything is endless. No one marries to divorce but life happens, it’s hard like you said, you never know what the outcome will be we all just hope for the best by putting effort to it to achieve that best outcome!!!
Dude. Abby saying that she hasn’t picked up her either babies birth cert, makes me feel sooo much better as a mom. My son is 7 months & I have all the paperwork filled out & a Monday order ready I just haven’t flipping sent it in.
I thought I was the only one.
Honestly, I have a 6 year old and 3 year old, I have never needed their birth certificates... ever. Even enrolling my oldest into public school, I didn't need it. No worries, mommas ❤
When I found out I was pregnant we were trying but I was still in shock. I remember I could feel the blood rush to my ears and everything went silent except my heartbeat. I felt like I was outside of my body. It was the most terrifying and magical moment of my entire life.
He’s your PARTNER, I think that defines more than a boyfriend and not a husband/wife
True
I have brothers, and when they were younger they fought so much!! I was a little girl and I was so scared every time they fought. But now they are best friends! It is just something they have to go through when they grow up. So don’t worry too much when your kids reach this age, it’s natural.❤❤
I watch y’all because of the rawness and realness on here. I have adhd and my fiancé doesn’t. But we both suffer from anxiety as well. My guy always need space when he is anxious and I need the complete opposite like the girls in the podcast. Thanks for this!! I thought that he was losing feelings for me too in the moments he would want space. But now I realize we all heal completely differently 💕
Ps. Love the new song ✨
42:05 This is advice my husband and I were given during pre-marital counseling - it’s you & your spouse VS. the problem, not you vs. your spouse!
I read a lot of people judging them in the comments of the shorts to this interview and I also got a bad impression but once you listen to the whole thing you can totally relate to them and it all makes more sense!
not really but okay keep living in that false reality.
I love that they’re not married and have their baby boy. Me and my partner are in the same boat. I always told him I wanted kids before marriage- that marriage to me should be a celebration of having chosen each other after many years. We’ve been together for 3 years, and are expecting our baby boy this August. I am totally with Ayla & Kian on this one. Y'all are so weird for all the judgement 😅
Hearing them talk about their break ups is so reassuring for me right now. I’m going through a break up & knows it’s for the best right now but we care so much about eachother & I definitely still want to be with him. Gives me hope he’ll come crawling back like kian did the second time😂😅
My husband broke up with me 2 years after we started dating. We were only broken up for 2-3 months but I said it’s fate. We have been together over 10 years and married for 6 months. Do I feel like that happens often? No but it can.
Sorry if this is random but this exact situation happened to me. Together for two years, he broke up with me and three months later asked to get back together. Problem is he slept with another girl during that time and I feel like if he really loved me he wouldn't have done that... did this happen in your case?
well did he ?
Does Ayla know that 'engaged' means 'engaged to be married?'
Yes, she just wants another title rather than girlfriend/boyfriend.
Seriously though.
Have you considered having Ethan and Olivia Plath on your podcast? I think they’d be great guests.
LOVED THIS EPISODEEEEE
HAVE THEM ON AGAIN NOW THAT SHE DELIVERED!!
I would call my now husband, baby father 😹 we were together 7 years and don't get married until our son was 3.5. I'm glad we waited ❤
Didn't
What made you wait and why are you glad you did? (If you feel like answering) I'm just curious to know 😊
This girl deserves better honestly. She wants to get married so bad I can tell. A baby isn’t going to to save a relationship.. and this couple sounds like they think a baby will save them. Interesting. You wanted to have a baby but were broken up & not living together? A baby is more of a commitment than marriage if you ask me 😂😂😂 I’m so confused …
I doubt the baby was planned
I LOOOVEED O2L back in the day and when I saw Kian was having a baby it was INSANE to me😂😂he’s older than me and I even had my my daughter way before him at 19 (I’m 24 now) but it’s still just so weird to me that he’s having a baby😂❤ congratulations to both! Ive never hear or seen Ayla but she is absolutely gorgeous and seem so sweet and down to earth
I’ve been waiting for this, my two favourite TH-cam couples coming together, love it!!!! ❤❤❤
Can you please get Cody Ko and Kelsey on your podcast!!!!
Oh my goodness yes!!!
I second this!
YES
Yes!!
@Kian, maybe try minimizing sugar/sweets & coffee for a couple of weeks to see if it helps w/ anxiety. It has helped me immensely so I've cut them out of my life for the most part. Btw, congratulations to you & Ayla on baby boy.
this was such an honest and real conversation. Thank for guys for sharing and opening up!!
I wanna see more people who believe in marriage.
I'm somehow fed up about people who just see the problems or the negative.
I believe that you can be in a real team with someone who wants to be with you in a real team.
Solution oriented and loyal no matter what.
❤ I love you Abby and Matthew ❤
some people just don't want the commitment of marriage, and that's okay! not everyone wants the same things in life, but we shouldn't be critical just because of different views😊
You can be with someone who wants to be in a real team with you, without the marriage.
@@kaylintyler4526but it's really not. How can you expect to get through life if you're scared to commit to anything?
@Under_Your_Bed_ it's not that she can't commit to anything. she probably just doesn't want to be legally binded to someone. I personally want to get married in life, but that doesnt mean everyone else has to. plus why do you care so much about someone else's life?
Ew why did you call him Matthew? He, very clearly, goes by Matt lol
Love these two people. They just had their baby and I wish them nothing but happiness I love the way they speak about their family they will be great parents.
It seems like Ayla and Kian won’t work out.. there’s so much talk about divorce/ splitting up from them! Everyone faces those risks when they’re in a relationship, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Kian needs to grow up forreal 😂
They talk about splitting up so much on the podcast because their sharing their story. I can tell they are in love and it’s for them to decide on their future not for someone else to be criticizing them for it
@@katj9853you do realize they will get feedback? If you post something like that or anything about yourself there will always be opinions and comments... so yes it’s the life you choose .. or the risks on putting yourself out there. There wouldn’t be any comments at all if nobody wanted to read the comments section
Marriage is a beautiful gift. Im 25, got married 3 years ago. God created marriage as a gift to us. Even if you're not religious, our society is built on an infrastructure of marriage. You cant visit your significant other in an emergency, if they leave they owe you nothing even if you helped them build their wealth, you cant make any decisions if they pass, buying a house is more difficult, etc. if you are not married.
As an “older” fan (early 30s) and a married mom of 2, I fully recommend marriage before kids. Kids bring SO much added stress. Having that legal commitment before the baby helps so much! It forces you to fight for your relationship when things get tough 💛
I think that’s kind of their whole problem with it though, because they don’t want the legal requirement to be what makes them want to stay.
thank you for sharing your perspective though! :)
@@adeleinnicholsI’ve been looking for those exact words to say when I replied to a ladies comment earlier, thank you!! My pregnancy brain wouldn’t allow me to come up with that sentence myself 😂
@@adeleinnichols I mean “force” in all the best ways possible. Having a partner legally committed to you not only provides necessary stability but gives you that push to fight instead of giving up. As we saw in this episode, it’s super easy to simply call it quits when times get tough. Marriage (though not perfect) typically gives you that extra incentive to work through the issues. I wish the young couple the best! But still believe a legal commitment should come before a kid
Agree. Also a older fan at 32. I have been with my husband for 10.5 years and we got married 6 months ago. We are still waiting a couple years to have kids.
1:30:48
Alyas reaction to them saying they will be their mom and dad friends was so cute and pure 🥹
This is a very good podcast! I love your podcast. Would love to see you guys with gabe and jess conte, sam and jess, sam and brooke too😁
YESSS SAM AND JESS!!!
I wish them well, but I don't get the sense that they're solid enough in the relationship to withstand the stress and responsibility of bringing up a child. I sense especially from Ayla that she mistrusts his commitment to her.
I am excited to see the future doing collabs and family traveling trips with them. Best parents couple.
Abbey being sad about her boys fighting, and my twins fight every single day 😂😂 it’s just siblings!
This is the crossover episode i didn't know i needed!!
With the name thing, my sister and I weren’t talking for awhile and she announced her pregnancy and the name that they picked and I REFUSED to tell her until my nephew was born that my man’s first and middle name are exactly the same as what they picked for my nephew lol and now my nephew is 4 and we love that him and his uncle share a name! It’s so much fun❤️ So please if you don’t like a name or someone has the same exact name as the one a couple want to use, don’t ruin it for them! It’s not your child! Keep your opinions to yourself about the name! It’s sad that people have to keep the name quite so they don’t have to hear the opinions of others instead of being excited to tell the world the name of their child.
My man and I are keeping our sons name quiet until he’s born because we don’t want people stealing his name or something, we acknowledge that we don’t care of peoples opinions of OUR sons name.
It sounds a bit like the anxiety for Kian could be that he's overstimulated. One thing that's helped me is turning off notifications on my phone, limiting social media and screen time and doing tasks can make me feel present. I wonder if there are studies coming out about the link to screen time and anxiety because it really does seem that everyone has anxiety nowadays (and I'm over here as someone who alo was diagnosed in like 4th grade with GAD so this isn't some "I'm better than you thing"
A baby is going to amplify the problems in their relationship. This couple is a walking talking red flag and should be a “what not to do”. This couple will not last and it’s sad because everyone can see it but them. They won’t know until they’ve destroyed each other and negatively impacted their child with their toxic behavior. Yikes all the way. Nothing healthy or admirable here. These two are toxic and not a good example for what a relationship should be before being in a child in the world.
There’s such a thing as commitment ceremonies or domestic partnerships basically marriage but not so invasive there’s different things you can do 😊
i have crippling anxiety it’s the absolute worst . but i agree my therapist is the best .
I live in SD! It exists and some good, wholesome people live here! People hold doors here and share baked goods. Our kids can play outside and feel safe. It's the best!
We live exactly where Kian is talking about, that's cool!
I love that Matt isn’t a gamer! They disappear for years at a time. I forget I’m even married
Better a gamer than other things
You still can work on yourself while staying in the relationship.
You stay together and you get it together and work it out.
Its not fair to hurt them and ask them to wait.
To each their own. And best of luck and best wishes.
However, If I wasn't that sure about where things would go with my partner and if I could see the possibility of anything unpleasant happening (such as breakup etc) , I would never plan a baby with them just because "we would both be great parents".Because if you're not getting married because "you're not sure if you'd end up together long term," I don't understand how a baby would make sense in the mix? Just because the two partners can see themselves being great parents?
Or maybe, subconsciously the idea is that the baby would be the thread that keeps them together no matter what? Even in case things don't work out, a parent still remains a parent and has to stay in touch with the coparent. So she wouldn't have to lose the partner permanently even if they break up? (or vice versa).
But in that case, a marriage would still be more likely to keep them together because of all things attached etc. (Unless, the guy is the one that doesn't want it and has somehow had the girl convinced about not needing it)
people have so many harsh opinions on other people’s lives. I really hope ayla & kian don’t read these comments & it fcks up their relationship. reading things like they’re gonna break up & don’t love each other or deserve better all because of not wanting to get married is so crazy. I believe they’ll be like Zoe Sugg & Alfie Deyes 😌 no pressure, just love, commitment & raising their child in the best way. & if Kian decides to propose he will at his own pace & if not I really hope that Ayla is okay with it & doesn’t feel any less loved by Kian, cause you can really see they truly love each other. I think if there were no opinions & society wasn’t looking at unmarried moms in such a negative light, they’d feel no pressure & honestly just be happy together.
They are such a cute couple! Love that yall interview so many different couples
marriage and having a baby are both a very big commitment... EQUALLY
Sadly there's so many red flags I was shocked they broke up multiple times and still decided to get pregnant because he seemed to want it despite having major communication problems,yeah people can change but the energy is always the very best in the beginning and if there's already problems it's probably not the best idea to bring a child into it
Yes when she said the beginning was the rockiest I was like 🥲🥲 that’s not good
This doesn’t make a lot of sense tho. So if people are having communication issues, they should just break up? Because how can you invalidate the fact that they said they’re way better at communicating and understanding each other? They started dating and boom, lockdown and next thing, Corey died. They did not have your typical “beginning of a relationship”, whatever the hell that is, so they faced difficulties.
@@chinnn2709 the beginning of a relationship should be the absolute easiest because you are both infatuated with each other. If you already are having problems from the get go that’s a really bad sign. Plus she’s begging to be engaged in this video and he is literally making jokes about golf carts. Meanwhile she’s SACRIFICING her body to him and the child and he’s doing nothing to “commit” to her. Marriage isn’t about couples, it’s what you owe children. A committed family.
@@lena990 and like I said, their circumstances were different. They said it that everything was going great until they moved in together during lockdown and Corey died. The death alone is heavy enough to have a serious impact on the relationship, if you’ll be realistic and honest with yourself. You have an almost childish take on this and I don’t mean that as an insult, its just so unrealistic that it’s appalling.
Viewing two people deciding to have a baby as one sacrificing their body to the other is crazy.
Am I the only one that feels this couple is a big red flag haha, especially him...even Abby seemed confused at some of the things they were saying
Yes 100% Kian doesn’t give clear answers. Seems like he doesn’t want to commit to Ayla completely and she’s just accepting that. It’s honestly sad that she’s begging him for a ring and he doesn’t want to give it. You should never beg a man like that and the fact that there’s a kid involved is just even more messy.
He's also not sure about her wavering emotions about him. One time she's in love and the next moment she kicks him out. No man wants to sink his entire life into unstable waters. Marriage stabilizes people, but they both have to want it or it's not gonna work.
I AGREE 100%!!!! I’m not carrying and birthing your babies while u can’t even get me a dang ring. Plus they don’t seem like they go with Abby and Matt well
@@hannahrussell4006why tf would they go with them and go where?
Let's just hope they grow up and figure it out for the kid. I think they have the potential to change but have to work hard on it.
THANK YOU! My daughters 15 months and I still haven’t picked up her birth certificate, that made me feel better
I normally don’t comment on other couples, but everything that came out of their mouth is a huge red flag and am I the only one? When a woman sacrifices her body for another human and man the LEAST a man should do is commit to her with a ring.
I loved this podcast episode !! Love how kian and Ayla understand each other 💓💓
The inside joke about baby names was so funny, I could tell by how Abby and Matt were laughing that they we’re definitely gonna talk about it after the podcast
THE SILENCE IN THE APARTMENT. IN SEPERSTE ROOMS IS EXACTLY WHAT IS GOING ON IN MY RELATIONSHIP. BUT BACKWARDS. WE USED TO COMMUNICATES ANDNANDFER 5 YRSM WE JUAT DONT TALK NOW
Matt and Abby I’ve enjoyed watching your podcast, I’m new here! I appreciate how vulnerable and real Abby is about pregnancy and motherhood 💗 I’m 13 weeks and I enjoy watching! The only thing that bothers me a bit is you guys constantly interrupt each other or your guest 😢 I get involved but then the convo steers away and I’m like noooo go back 😅 lol but I know your constantly growing in your interviewing skills!
Two things I can relate to here, 1. I have severe anxiety and depression disorder, was diagnosed as a kid. I’m 32 now and wish I could say I was cured but unfortunately i still deal with those everyday struggles. 2. I’ve been with my fiancé for a decade we have two beautiful boys and still are clearly not married and it’s ok. We will have our wedding one day but just haven’t made plans to actually marry. We have time, we don’t plan on being with anyone else. So to all couples out there, you do you. Don’t plan your life according to what others do
I have an idea.... Do a "Best of The Unplanned Podcast" with highlights from all so far.
I'm from South Dakota! It's definitely underrated and more beautiful than people realize❤
i think I like this episode the most because matt and abby are interviewing a couple that is the least like them, which is a breath of fresh air for the podcast. Not to say that the couples that were interviewed beforehand were bad or anything, they had a very similar story to matt and abby :)
Going to bed after a fight feels awkward to me. On one hand, I don’t want it to seem like I’m ignoring the fight/problem the morning after. On the other hand, I can just move on with my day and feel great. I’m not sure what to do the next morning 😂
Agree
This is so relatable
Can y’all have Sam & Jess in the podcast?
I love every single podcast y’all do but this one was extra amazing! 2 awesome families 🩶
This couple has completely different ideals than Matt and Abby but they are being sweet with them but they are very different.
Finally though!! Personally, it’s boring to watch them & guests just sit in agreement throughout an episode. Conversations where vulnerability and curiosity are at the forefront is wayyyyy more entertaining
so different type of couples but such fun couples together 😂❤
The way Ayla threw her head back when Kian said a golf cart 💀
Hahaha careful Kian it first starts as “I only want a ring not a marriage” after that it’ll be “we’re already engaged why not just get married” 😂😂
I can confirm South Dakota exists - lived my whole life. Lives my whole life there and others might not know people from their but it’s crazy how many people you do know all over when u live there!!
I saw someone else say it, but you guys should try to get Chelsea and Cole Deboer on for a podcast! They’re from South Dakota too 😂
living with ur gf AND her best friend can’t be easy in it’s self, then add on all the personal issues they were going through and the global issues!!! they are meant to be if they got through all this
Or they were never meant to be. There’s tjat viewpoint too.
Every time Ayla Buds in when Kian talks is so funny when he’s like “now what were you gonna say” 🤣🤣🤣
Did not know I have been with my now husband longer than Matt and Abby have been together and we just got married 6 months ago. We were together over 10 years before getting married. Of course we are older, I’m 32 and he’s 38 (his birthday was Monday). No kids yet since we aren’t ready.
Sounds like being committed to being uncommitted
Haha right
Our country is having an epidemic of broken homes, why have the authority of being parents when you won’t commit to the responsibility of family, the stats on kids raised in homes like this lean towards damage to the kids’ overall structure, attachment and development, I pray they stay together💞
Sioux Falls, South Dakota viewer here 🙌🏽 love you guys!
Brookings!!
Harrisburg
Omg my anxiety is exactly the same! I’ve gotten in so much trouble by my mom I’m high school because I’d accidentally snap at her because when my anxiety was bad she would want to smother me and that’s not what I needed. Even though I talked to her several times about my needs but as everyone knows “moms know best” 🙄