Honestly I could watch this podcast for hours. I just love Matt and Abby’s energy and how they create a safe space for everyone to talk and express themselves. Loved this episode❤️
I have a special interest now in pregnancy, birth, and newborn stage. It is so intriguing how everyone's experience is so drastically different. I had a nightmare of a pregnancy, the easiest and dreamiest labour and delivery, and absolutely hattted the newborn stage. Thank you, Abby, for being so vulnerable and sharing your incredible story.
PODCAST IDEA! I'd love to hear about your Christmas traditions, and maybe Christmas tradition ideas from you Insta followers too! This year is our first Christmas with our baby so looking for some new ideas! x
It truly does not matter at all. We all grew up not saying the anatomically correct term and we are just fine. My kids said other terms for them and they are completely normal kids and never had any issues. It really does not matter. They are 31, 29, and 25! Not being rude, just saying it is okay if you have previously not done this with your kids!
@@wendyjones292there was a story of a little girl who went up to her teacher and stated that her uncle licked her cookie, the teacher thought nothing of it and told the little girl to get another cookie next time. During parent/teacher conference, the mother of that little girl was talking about how she had a rash near her “cookie”. That’s when the teacher realized that the little girl’s uncle had SA’d her and that’s what the little girl was trying to say, had the parents taught her the correct terms, then action would have been taken sooner, that’s where I’m coming from.
Thank you Abigail for being so vulnerable and sharing your story, you are doing great mama and CJ is precious 😊!! Love the classic big brother move where Caleb just exposes Matt 😂
I think it would be so interesting if you had a panel podcast of all the women in your life that had a child and talk about all experiences since becoming a mother. For example, have Bella, Abi, Abi, also Matt’s mom etc. to allow for multiple perspectives. This podcast was wonderful!
Bella gives me the ick.. I was totally excited for their blessing baby until they haven’t stopped shoving her face in front of the camera since day 1. I hope in the future little story gets some privacy.
Hello! I'm usually a silent follower, but today I couldn't resist expressing how much joy this episode brought me while I was at work. Truly love all four of you and the bond you share! The Howard men are a testament to the idea that good men attract great women. Both Abby and Abigail seem to be the sweetest and most genuine people! Sending love from South Africa ❤️ P.S. This podcast makes every Wednesday at work so much easier and more fun!
I get how difficult it is to understand when you don't have a large family, but you absolutely can have close relationships with all of your children. I have 5 children currently; my husband and I are blessed to be self-employed so I guess that makes a difference in how much time we get to spend with them. But yeah, it's definitely possible.
It’s soooo important teach children the right anatomy words so they can understand boundaries of their bodies and if they ever need to explain to you anything the hopefully never happens they can Clearly speak to you
As a C-Section Mama, thank you for talking about all of this! Not a lot of women understand how hard it is to go through that and some of us have no choice but to have a c-section. I cried along with y’all. I’m pregnant with my third, and all of the birthing experiences us women go through are hard! 🥹❤️ y’all are amazing strong women
Abby in the hat and Matt's brother had a very traumatic birth. If you need therapy and get PPD do not feel bad. My birth was traumatic but nothing like what you guys went through. I hope you can get over all the trauma. Much love...❤
It breaks my heart that so many women get induced without medical need and then it causes the cascade of interventions that end up changing what the birth could have been.
@@FairlightChristianna1Cor318 I think it’s because most doctors treat pregnancy as a medical problem that needs to be on a schedule/rushed as opposed to a normal part of being a woman! I think everyone who’s pregnant should look at the studies themselves and see what the actual risks are!
Wish more women trained and educated and prepped for birth. Not super surprising with the stats on cascade of interventions. US has a c section rate more than 3 times what the WHO recommends for developed countries 😔 wish US had midwives in hospitals and not DRs trained for surgery. Just another way womens autonomy is being taken away from them
One of the best things that my dad told me, after I had my second, was: you have had x time with your first. Your second is new, you haven’t had as much time yet. Give it time. It is just different. Your love grows, and you do have that condition but as they age your heart gets rings and grows more and more!
HIPAA: unless you are directly taking care of the patient or will take care of the patient you should not share information about why you are there and who you are. Saying “Matt and Abby are in room 55 for birth of their second son” violates hipaa. Saying “I have a patient that is here delivering their second son” doesn’t violate hipaa because you don’t say names or where they are nor do you give any information to indicate who they may be. Also, YOU as a parent giving information about your son under 18 does not violate hipaa.
Their online oversharing of their children does violate their right to privacy, though. I should not know anything about these children. At least I don't know what Auggie looks like at all or what Griffin looks like now, but CJ is shown way too much and way too often. All of these children should be given complete privacy.
Sounds like Caleb has some trauma from Abby’s delivery. My husband has a lot of trauma from mine. We labored for so long and pushed for a while and ended in an emergency c-section because my son was huge and his heart rate kept dropping my husband was so scared he was gonna lose both of us. He said he had nightmares for weeks. 🥺
An epidural is NOT fentanyl, it is bupivacaine. It blocks pain through a completely different mechanism than opioids such as fentanyl. Fentanyl may be given during birth, but it is not an epidural.
As an L&D RN and mom of 4, I’d be down! If for nothing else but to explain some of the common misunderstanding’s and things people ‘learn’ from tiktok.
I can’t believe I have watched ALL 41 episodes, and this one was my favorite by far. It’s amazing to see you guys come together as a family and witness the joy you guys bring out in one another. When Abby cried hearing Abigail share her horrific birth experience, that made me cry. When you all laughed, I laughed. This was a great podcast and I will look forward to seeing you all together in the future. You guys are my favorite content creators for a reason. I’m so glad you guys started a podcast. I feel like I am family right there with you. ❤❤
Y.daugjter is getting induced Saturday for her 5th baby and I worry everytime . Abby u r amazing sharing your birth story. My grandson was born. With gastroscisis in 2021 and that was so scary .
I also had a bad reaction to the epidural and I decided I would not have another one. With my second I did it naturally and that was a much better experience. I am so sorry for all you had to go through, but congratulations on CJ being here and being healthy and happy now!
It’s all about choosing your hard with birth. I got induced around 40weeks with my first- it was very difficult and my husband and I did not enjoy the hospital experience. We did a homebirth with our second, the birth was amazing but going 2 weeks overdue was hard so hard😅
"y'all are just high all the time" spot on explanation for hospital birth. Copious drugs and continuous unneeded interventions that lead to needed interventions. $$$$$$$$$
i love the episodes about pregnancy, birth, and parenting bc that’s the season i’m currently in and i don’t have any friends or family that have had babies in a long time
Being pregnant & having a baby hasn’t changed. It’s just this younger generation seems to make it more dramatic & way to much baby crap. Sheesh., just to change a damn diaper they pull out way to much crap! Young parents honestly stress me out! I’ve had 3 kids.
@@jayannakelley9051 having a baby now actually is a lot different for a lot of parents now vs in previous generations, especially for young parents. a lot of us don’t have the village that previous generations had, and none of my friends are having kids either, so it’s nice to be able to relate to someone currently going through it even if it’s online.
@@julietgendron - Actually I didn’t have a ‘village’ of people around either. Maybe the ‘40’s-‘60’s era had family around. Earlier generations were rural. I had my first child when I was 20 & my husband & I figured it out. (I did turn 21 3 weeks after she was born). I get stressed watching these young parents freak out about every little thing. Even to change a diaper, you don’t need all that crap they think they have to have. We could be at the park with friends having a cookout & I’d just take Andrea to the car & change her diaper on the seat in about 3 mins. Yes, I breastfed all 3 of our kids. So no, nothing much has changed from being pregnant & having a baby except this new generation is a bit spoiled. Sheesh…
@@jayannakelley9051 i think the excessive baby products is just common with new parents in general, they are nervous before baby comes and it makes them feel more prepared. usually by the time people are having 2+ kids they realize it’s unnecessary. but you are right, having a baby is hard no matter when you had one. all i meant from my comment was that sometimes it is nice to hear from parents currently going through it, but i definitely can relate to mothers from all generations! i think it’s important to hear both perspectives 🥰
@@julietgendron - I think you are correct. I have noticed younger people do seem to become. ‘nervous & confused’ easily. With information at our fingertips I guess I don’t understand why. Anyway, if you decide to make the choice of having a child, please don’t get over freaked out about it ok? Women have been going through childbirth & raising children for generations. I’m just glad I didn’t have to use cloth diapers- lol! (I had watched a couple of movies based during the time period of only cloth diapers ) whew! Have a good weekend 🌟🍂
Normal progression of language is where the child acquires receptive language first. They hear everything and their brains soak it in. When the "cup" of words fills up, only then can the child have expressive language. Then they talk.
Thank you for sharing your story!❤️ Nobody tells us how epidural can affect our labor productivity… but there are so many disadvantages including prolonging the labor and literally letting your baby do it all on its own. I did a lot of research and decided not to get an epidural. I had the best experience possible and such a quick labor. And I’m glad I didn’t listen to the nurses saying I should get an epidural. When I have my second baby I won’t have an epidural either.
What studies did you find that showed an epidural prolonged labor? I’d be curious to read because every woman I’ve talked to who has gotten an epidural has had a short labor time from epidural to delivery….I would assume because the epidural helps your body relax and dilate more.
I had a very similar and traumatic experience that ended in an emergency c section. I can't urge women to look into the risks of pitocin and epidurals. I am so sorry you went through this. ❤
Loved this podcast. So sorry that Abby had so many complications & that CJ had to have a stay in NICU but so happy you are both healthy and happy now. God Bless both your families especially Griffin, CJ and Auggie. 🩵🩵🩵
I feel Abby (Matt’s wife) is so out of touch to other birth stories, she had two easy births!!! Quite frankly feels like she’s so dismissive how traumatic giving birth can be. I mean woman have died giving birth! I myself had a very traumatic birth experience, I was stuck in the hospital for 6 days! So to say years from now you won’t think about that, like wtf I still up to this day I’m scared to get pregnant because of how traumatic it was. 16:40 Abby was so insensitive!
Individuals cannot violate hippa lol. That’s a law that prohibits healthcare workers and employers from divulging your personal information to others. You’re allowed to divulge all you want about you and your minor children that you are their legal representative.
They did have Bella and Dallin on again after they adopted their daughter. For some reason, almost immediately after that episode was uploaded, Matt deleted it and it was never seen again except for on their snark Reddit sites.
I wish Dallin and Bella would take some notes from Abby and Matt on how not to shove a camera in your baby's face.. It really turns me off from watching them. I loved their channel and was so excited for Story but as soon as nearly every video featured her face in the center I had to stop watching completely. I feel Matt and Abby are getting similar Ick vibes watching them parent online...
@@sarahloohoo2312 Every online parent can make their own decision on how they want to parent on social media. It's not your business and job to tell them how to parent. Period, end of story.
@@gianna6950 I'm not telling them how to parent. I'm telling YOU that their parenting gives ME the ick. Lol Weird to defend someone you've never shared a word with, but go off Gianna.
I have never heard any other mom say they had trouble with the numbness of the epidural - I had the same experience! It sent me into a severe panic attack and I also could not move my legs AT ALL, It was terrible! One of those things no one warns you about because there is just no way to know how your body will react. Thank you for this conversation!
taylorfairfield5983 When you signed the consent for the epidural, numbness in your lower extremities was listed as a side effect. Did you not read the consent form prior to signing it?🤔
I love you guys and this podcast, but there is no way that after hearing this you can’t understand why a woman, or even a child in some cases, wouldn’t want to put their body through this and therefore want an abortion. (That is not me at all saying that the child isn’t worth the traumatic experience, but some people are in no way ready and not physically able to go through this!)
@@briamateo ok? I mean it can happen obviously without induction, but it’s the rule and not the exception really that inductions are much more likely to end in C-section than a labor that begins on its own. Unfortunately that doesn’t always jive with the MDs schedule 🤨
I had a lot of interventions turned emergency c section. So many similarities with my first birth. Def left my husband and I feeling a bit traumatized and sad about birth itself. Well, 3 years later- and after some therapy sessions- we had a successful healthy VBAC and experientially learned every birth is soo different. My prayer is that one day you’ll experience a birth you can call beautiful. Don’t lose hope that it can be so different next time! You overcame something so hard, and I bet you’ll use that experience to learn from for future births. Thanks for sharing story!
That would you rather was mine i was so excited to see caleb and abby use it and now they brought it up again on your podcast just makes me so happy and kinda like i helped be apart of todays discusion lol
My 1st was a 100% unmedicated birth and my 2nd was a c-section due to placenta previa. Despite having a section scheduled, she came 3wks early by emergengy c-section because I started bleeding. She was then immediately taken to the NICU because of her lungs. As a result I didn't see her until I was able to get out of bed and go down to the NICU about 24 hrs later. There is such a tremendous difference in how the hormones hit you between the two. During labor and delivery you're awash in oxytocin so, I immediately fell intensely in love the moment she was out. My second lacked all that positive intensity since you don't experience those hrs of oxytocin. You still love them, but that same depth of feeling and bond takes a little time. Never having had surgery before, the emergency nature of it, how awful it feels when they're tugging and pulling the baby out and then how painful recovery is, was all pretty traumatizeing as well, which I think compounds the problem of slower bonding. Just from recovery alone, I've always said I'd choose an unmedicated labor and delivery any day over a c-section.
@@nikr9240No, that was not the case with my friends children, who are all adults. She was a stay home Mom, home schooling too. They are close, the grown children, always have been, even with the youngest who is the only girl. 😊
@@nikr9240As a matter of fact, the youngest, got married on her parents anniversary. My friend babysits their baby as her daughter had gone back to work as a nurse in home care. I wonder how people get so overwhelmed in their minds over a family over 2 or 3? My parents had 4 children....no problem! Plenty of love and time and playmates and as grownups.... siblings who love their parents and siblings and are friends with those siblings too!
When I saw the thumbnail I thought you guys had Cole Labrant on! Wow do they have facial similarities 😂 I was confused as to why a "random lady" would be on this episode with Cole lol
I had the exact experience that Abby did except my induction went terrible. I got a fever and contractions were terrible! Rory was stuck also though! So scary! So glad that you’re okay and that CJ is here and healthy!!
Farting is disgusting. If my husband farted in front of me, I would slap him. Lol! I was taught to go to the bathroom and do it in private. Come on now!
I found out I’m pregnant as well when my little guy was JUST about 5 months ! Like a week before he was 5 months ! Come April I’m going to have an almost 3 year old, a 1 year old and a newborn !😅
I did a homebirth and would totally recommend a more natural route if possible for her next birth ❤ even if that looks like a birth center with medical interventions possible but maybe some more natural practitioners that could help avoid possible issues ❤
I went through almost the same exact thing with my c-section: two days of labor, a c-section, and then a hemorrhage a few hours later while my baby waited for me in the NICU. I was exhausted and decided to sleep for awhile before going to the NICU, when they woke me up to get my vitals we realized how badly I was bleeding and I remember being so sad and scared because I thought I was going to die and I missed my chance to really meet her 😭 it's such a scary experience but you're not alone Abby, you're such a strong mama and little CJ is so lucky to have you both! ❤️
My heart goes out to Abby. Listening to her tell her story was like listening to my own baby's birth story. Rough C-section, hemorrhaging (I needed two bags of blood because of a history with anemia), baby taken to NICU for breathing struggles, put on a CPAP and had a feeding tube, me laying in my room basically alone for 15 hrs before I could even see my baby. It was supposed to be the happiest day of my life but it ended up being one of the most depressing and traumatizing days of my life. I'm still not fully over it and it happened 18 months ago. Birthing a child is an insane thing. It's incredible and amazing and immensely difficult.
Please do some single people or people without kids. I can't relate to this topic and I know a lot of the audience isn't married with kids. I'd like to talk about different topics.
You 4 are great!!! Y’all need a show together! “Hilarious Howard’s” Claiming it!😉 But you have to furnish socks for everyone. Can’t do the nasty feet!😂
I am so sad I have to go to bed but I am super stoked to wake up and watch it later! 😁I love you guys so much and highly enjoy the podcast I always listen to you guys while driving! Thank you for showing your creativity in so many ways! ♥️🙌🏼
@The Unplanned Podcast it is best to teach your children the correct anatomical words. When I worked for a school district, part of our training was from a website called "From Darkness to Light" as school district employees are mandatory reporters for child abuse. Using the "incorrect" terms for body parts could make a HUGE difference in an instance of child abuse or child SA cases. It's sad that we are even having to address it, but people are so sick and twisted that something as "simple" as how a child refers to their own body parts could make or break a conviction.
My kids are 8.5 years apart and it definitely sucked to start over. my oldest is a freshman in high school and my youngest started kindergarten. They love each other but literally have nothing in common and are not into anything remotely the same at all. Don't wait forever. I think 3- 4 years is a good age gap.
it will get better later on though. i’m 22 and my brother just turned 15 so we’re about 8 years apart. he’s annoying as crap but i love him to death and we go out together all the time to get food or watch movies. mostly cause i have no friends but i still like spending time with him and he enjoys it too!
Please use proper terms for genitalia and body parts. It's proven to help protect children from sexual abuse, plus if they need help with anything everyone will know what they're talking about even if it feels embarrassing.
Why do they practise inductions so frequently in America? In my country Inductions are exceptions because they are considered super risky and there has to be a very real serious reason. I AM NOT CRITICIZING I AM GENUINELY INTERESTED TO KNOW
I hemorrhaged immediately after the doctor inserted the foley bulb and had to have an emergency c section. The foley bulb caused a placental abruption. The foley bulb is dangerous! There is a pub med article about foley bulb hemorrhage. It can hit vessels within the cervix and cause hemorrhages and even abruptions like in my case.
Caleb’s dirty feet is a jump scare 😂😂😂
Honestly! Is that dirt 😮 They look like a black & white cookie and it’s very disturbing.
🤣🤣🤣
And the holes in Abby’s socks 😂😂
😂😂 why do people stare at their feet? I never notice til it's pointed out.
@@jessicaelecta and now you can’t unsee it 😂😂
Abby has joy and Caleb too, because they love the Lord and are grateful for his grace and love everyday! 😊❤
Yess you can tell they have the Lord in their life❤❤
Yup so true!!!
Amen
Amin ❤
True!!! The joy of the lord is their strength ❤
Honestly I could watch this podcast for hours. I just love Matt and Abby’s energy and how they create a safe space for everyone to talk and express themselves. Loved this episode❤️
Thank you so much ☺️
@@UnplannedPodcastmatt good editing out the chewing parts i caught that !!
The way that Abby looked at Abby before talking about her hemorrhaging was sweet, seems like such a caring friendship 🤍
Awww they love each other
I have a special interest now in pregnancy, birth, and newborn stage. It is so intriguing how everyone's experience is so drastically different. I had a nightmare of a pregnancy, the easiest and dreamiest labour and delivery, and absolutely hattted the newborn stage.
Thank you, Abby, for being so vulnerable and sharing your incredible story.
PODCAST IDEA! I'd love to hear about your Christmas traditions, and maybe Christmas tradition ideas from you Insta followers too! This year is our first Christmas with our baby so looking for some new ideas! x
Everyone just looks over at CJ and smiles it's so cute. Also Matt and Abbie love the matching outfits 😊
As a social worker, PLEASE TEACH YOUR KIDS ANATOMICALLY CORRECT TERMS!!! It could protect them for the future ❤
It truly does not matter at all. We all grew up not saying the anatomically correct term and we are just fine. My kids said other terms for them and they are completely normal kids and never had any issues. It really does not matter. They are 31, 29, and 25! Not being rude, just saying it is okay if you have previously not done this with your kids!
God hope your a decent person
@@wendyjones292there was a story of a little girl who went up to her teacher and stated that her uncle licked her cookie, the teacher thought nothing of it and told the little girl to get another cookie next time. During parent/teacher conference, the mother of that little girl was talking about how she had a rash near her “cookie”. That’s when the teacher realized that the little girl’s uncle had SA’d her and that’s what the little girl was trying to say, had the parents taught her the correct terms, then action would have been taken sooner, that’s where I’m coming from.
Thank you Abigail for being so vulnerable and sharing your story, you are doing great mama and CJ is precious 😊!! Love the classic big brother move where Caleb just exposes Matt 😂
I think it would be so interesting if you had a panel podcast of all the women in your life that had a child and talk about all experiences since becoming a mother. For example, have Bella, Abi, Abi, also Matt’s mom etc. to allow for multiple perspectives. This podcast was wonderful!
thats a great idea!
especially Bella, her experience of motherhood, without actually giving birth
Bella gives me the ick.. I was totally excited for their blessing baby until they haven’t stopped shoving her face in front of the camera since day 1. I hope in the future little story gets some privacy.
@@sarahloohoo2312
Bella just is happy to have a baby! Give her a break.
@@sarahloohoo2312Yeah same honestly. And the way she’s constantly holding her like a ragdoll. Always in front of the camera.
Love that Caleb has dirty feet and Abby has a huge hole in her sock 😂😂😂 They’re so funny and just natural 😍
And the carpet is a mess.😂
Matt and Caleb are so different! I feeel like Matt is high-energy and could talk for hours while Caleb is so chill and zen haha
Hello! I'm usually a silent follower, but today I couldn't resist expressing how much joy this episode brought me while I was at work. Truly love all four of you and the bond you share!
The Howard men are a testament to the idea that good men attract great women. Both Abby and Abigail seem to be the sweetest and most genuine people!
Sending love from South Africa ❤️
P.S. This podcast makes every Wednesday at work so much easier and more fun!
I get how difficult it is to understand when you don't have a large family, but you absolutely can have close relationships with all of your children. I have 5 children currently; my husband and I are blessed to be self-employed so I guess that makes a difference in how much time we get to spend with them. But yeah, it's definitely possible.
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It’s soooo important teach children the right anatomy words so they can understand boundaries of their bodies and if they ever need to explain to you anything the hopefully never happens they can Clearly speak to you
This!!! Also, if anything ever does happen it won’t hold up legally using “pretend” words for their body parts.
Crotch and PP are way different than cookie and pickle.
Thank you all so much for being so honest and vulnerable about the birthing process and parenthood in general! ❤️
As a C-Section Mama, thank you for talking about all of this! Not a lot of women understand how hard it is to go through that and some of us have no choice but to have a c-section. I cried along with y’all. I’m pregnant with my third, and all of the birthing experiences us women go through are hard! 🥹❤️ y’all are amazing strong women
Abby in the hat and Matt's brother had a very traumatic birth. If you need therapy and get PPD do not feel bad. My birth was traumatic but nothing like what you guys went through. I hope you can get over all the trauma. Much love...❤
Such a great couple. Glad you had them twice. I loved hearing their birth story!
It breaks my heart that so many women get induced without medical need and then it causes the cascade of interventions that end up changing what the birth could have been.
Me too. It's so sad. Why all the inductions....😢
@@FairlightChristianna1Cor318 I think it’s because most doctors treat pregnancy as a medical problem that needs to be on a schedule/rushed as opposed to a normal part of being a woman! I think everyone who’s pregnant should look at the studies themselves and see what the actual risks are!
@@emateo520 yeah, exactly.
It's so cute when Caleb looks over at CJ and smiles or makes faces while Abby speaks.
I hemorrhaged too after I gave birth with my daughter and no one ever has talked about it in a way that I felt more
PLEASE NO MORE DOGS OUT🤮🤮🤮 i cant stop looking when i watch guys and i love the pod BUT I HATE FEET🤢🤢
Wish more women trained and educated and prepped for birth. Not super surprising with the stats on cascade of interventions. US has a c section rate more than 3 times what the WHO recommends for developed countries 😔 wish US had midwives in hospitals and not DRs trained for surgery. Just another way womens autonomy is being taken away from them
I like how Matt and Abby are like matching head to toe.
One of the best things that my dad told me, after I had my second, was: you have had x time with your first. Your second is new, you haven’t had as much time yet. Give it time. It is just different. Your love grows, and you do have that condition but as they age your heart gets rings and grows more and more!
HIPAA: unless you are directly taking care of the patient or will take care of the patient you should not share information about why you are there and who you are. Saying “Matt and Abby are in room 55 for birth of their second son” violates hipaa. Saying “I have a patient that is here delivering their second son” doesn’t violate hipaa because you don’t say names or where they are nor do you give any information to indicate who they may be.
Also, YOU as a parent giving information about your son under 18 does not violate hipaa.
Their online oversharing of their children does violate their right to privacy, though. I should not know anything about these children. At least I don't know what Auggie looks like at all or what Griffin looks like now, but CJ is shown way too much and way too often. All of these children should be given complete privacy.
Bingo!
I just love this podcast. It’s just so real and genuine I love it! I love watching both you guys so much! Can’t wait for more!
Sounds like Caleb has some trauma from Abby’s delivery. My husband has a lot of trauma from mine. We labored for so long and pushed for a while and ended in an emergency c-section because my son was huge and his heart rate kept dropping my husband was so scared he was gonna lose both of us. He said he had nightmares for weeks. 🥺
An epidural is NOT fentanyl, it is bupivacaine. It blocks pain through a completely different mechanism than opioids such as fentanyl. Fentanyl may be given during birth, but it is not an epidural.
I'd like to see interviews with a variety... Christian influences and their YT lives, any sports figures, entertainers...
Maybe you should invite some NICU nurses or delivery room nurses to tell their stories.
As an L&D RN and mom of 4, I’d be down! If for nothing else but to explain some of the common misunderstanding’s and things people ‘learn’ from tiktok.
Caleb is hilarious! So fun seeing this dynamic between y’all!
I can’t believe I have watched ALL 41 episodes, and this one was my favorite by far. It’s amazing to see you guys come together as a family and witness the joy you guys bring out in one another. When Abby cried hearing Abigail share her horrific birth experience, that made me cry. When you all laughed, I laughed. This was a great podcast and I will look forward to seeing you all together in the future. You guys are my favorite content creators for a reason. I’m so glad you guys started a podcast. I feel like I am family right there with you. ❤❤
Y.daugjter is getting induced Saturday for her 5th baby and I worry everytime . Abby u r amazing sharing your birth story. My grandson was born. With gastroscisis in 2021 and that was so scary .
Just want to hug Abby when she’s talking about her recovery and being alone. ❤😢
OH MY GOSH matt and abby’s matching outfits so cute! if that wasn’t even planned then they really did name this podcast correctly!
I also had a bad reaction to the epidural and I decided I would not have another one. With my second I did it naturally and that was a much better experience. I am so sorry for all you had to go through, but congratulations on CJ being here and being healthy and happy now!
It’s all about choosing your hard with birth.
I got induced around 40weeks with my first- it was very difficult and my husband and I did not enjoy the hospital experience.
We did a homebirth with our second, the birth was amazing but going 2 weeks overdue was hard so hard😅
Thank you for your vulnerability. I'm a 2 c section mommy. Understand the scary
"y'all are just high all the time" spot on explanation for hospital birth. Copious drugs and continuous unneeded interventions that lead to needed interventions. $$$$$$$$$
Unfortunately the cascade of interventions from induction and the hospital is super common
Carlos and Alexa PenaVega would be amazing guests!!
Please film an episode with Josh and Katie!!!
Matt & Abby matching is soo cute 🥰
i love the episodes about pregnancy, birth, and parenting bc that’s the season i’m currently in and i don’t have any friends or family that have had babies in a long time
Being pregnant & having a baby hasn’t changed. It’s just this younger generation seems to make it more dramatic & way to much baby crap. Sheesh., just to change a damn diaper they pull out way to much crap! Young parents honestly stress me out! I’ve had 3 kids.
@@jayannakelley9051 having a baby now actually is a lot different for a lot of parents now vs in previous generations, especially for young parents. a lot of us don’t have the village that previous generations had, and none of my friends are having kids either, so it’s nice to be able to relate to someone currently going through it even if it’s online.
@@julietgendron - Actually I didn’t have a ‘village’ of people around either. Maybe the ‘40’s-‘60’s era had family around. Earlier generations were rural. I had my first child when I was 20 & my husband & I figured it out. (I did turn 21 3 weeks after she was born).
I get stressed watching these young parents freak out about every little thing. Even to change a diaper, you don’t need all that crap they think they have to have. We could be at the park with friends having a cookout & I’d just take Andrea to the car & change her diaper on the seat in about 3 mins. Yes, I breastfed all 3 of our kids.
So no, nothing much has changed from being pregnant & having a baby except this new generation is a bit spoiled. Sheesh…
@@jayannakelley9051 i think the excessive baby products is just common with new parents in general, they are nervous before baby comes and it makes them feel more prepared. usually by the time people are having 2+ kids they realize it’s unnecessary. but you are right, having a baby is hard no matter when you had one. all i meant from my comment was that sometimes it is nice to hear from parents currently going through it, but i definitely can relate to mothers from all generations! i think it’s important to hear both perspectives 🥰
@@julietgendron - I think you are correct. I have noticed younger people do seem to become. ‘nervous & confused’ easily. With information at our fingertips I guess I don’t understand why.
Anyway, if you decide to make the choice of having a child, please don’t get over freaked out about it ok? Women have been going through childbirth & raising children for generations. I’m just glad I didn’t have to use cloth diapers- lol! (I had watched a couple of movies based during the time period of only cloth diapers ) whew!
Have a good weekend 🌟🍂
Normal progression of language is where the child acquires receptive language first. They hear everything and their brains soak it in. When the "cup" of words fills up, only then can the child have expressive language. Then they talk.
Thank you for sharing your story!❤️
Nobody tells us how epidural can affect our labor productivity… but there are so many disadvantages including prolonging the labor and literally letting your baby do it all on its own.
I did a lot of research and decided not to get an epidural. I had the best experience possible and such a quick labor.
And I’m glad I didn’t listen to the nurses saying I should get an epidural.
When I have my second baby I won’t have an epidural either.
What studies did you find that showed an epidural prolonged labor? I’d be curious to read because every woman I’ve talked to who has gotten an epidural has had a short labor time from epidural to delivery….I would assume because the epidural helps your body relax and dilate more.
I have had three amazing, fast, vaginal births with an epidural each time and would get an epidural again 😊 it seemed to speed things up for me!
I had a very similar and traumatic experience that ended in an emergency c section. I can't urge women to look into the risks of pitocin and epidurals. I am so sorry you went through this. ❤
The way Caleb was watching CJ as he spoke about the connection and smiled man watching a video podcast is the best ❤❤😢
Loved this podcast. So sorry that Abby had so many complications & that CJ had to have a stay in NICU but so happy you are both healthy and happy now. God Bless both your families especially Griffin, CJ and Auggie. 🩵🩵🩵
I feel Abby (Matt’s wife) is so out of touch to other birth stories, she had two easy births!!! Quite frankly feels like she’s so dismissive how traumatic giving birth can be. I mean woman have died giving birth! I myself had a very traumatic birth experience, I was stuck in the hospital for 6 days! So to say years from now you won’t think about that, like wtf I still up to this day I’m scared to get pregnant because of how traumatic it was. 16:40 Abby was so insensitive!
Individuals cannot violate hippa lol. That’s a law that prohibits healthcare workers and employers from divulging your personal information to others. You’re allowed to divulge all you want about you and your minor children that you are their legal representative.
You guys should have Dallin and Bella on again, so they can share their experience since having Story
They did have Bella and Dallin on again after they adopted their daughter. For some reason, almost immediately after that episode was uploaded, Matt deleted it and it was never seen again except for on their snark Reddit sites.
I wish Dallin and Bella would take some notes from Abby and Matt on how not to shove a camera in your baby's face.. It really turns me off from watching them. I loved their channel and was so excited for Story but as soon as nearly every video featured her face in the center I had to stop watching completely. I feel Matt and Abby are getting similar Ick vibes watching them parent online...
@@sarahloohoo2312 Every online parent can make their own decision on how they want to parent on social media. It's not your business and job to tell them how to parent. Period, end of story.
@@sarahloohoo2312 if you really have a problem with it, then stop watching.
@@gianna6950 I'm not telling them how to parent. I'm telling YOU that their parenting gives ME the ick. Lol Weird to defend someone you've never shared a word with, but go off Gianna.
I have never heard any other mom say they had trouble with the numbness of the epidural - I had the same experience! It sent me into a severe panic attack and I also could not move my legs AT ALL, It was terrible! One of those things no one warns you about because there is just no way to know how your body will react. Thank you for this conversation!
taylorfairfield5983 When you signed the consent for the epidural, numbness in your lower extremities was listed as a side effect. Did you not read the consent form prior to signing it?🤔
Fentanyl in an epidural does not affect the brain like it does transdermally or orally!
I love you guys and this podcast, but there is no way that after hearing this you can’t understand why a woman, or even a child in some cases, wouldn’t want to put their body through this and therefore want an abortion. (That is not me at all saying that the child isn’t worth the traumatic experience, but some people are in no way ready and not physically able to go through this!)
I can’t help but say this is case in point of why you refuse a non medically necessary induction. They end like this more often than not.
I wasn’t induced, went into labor naturally and had the same outcome as her
@@briamateo ok? I mean it can happen obviously without induction, but it’s the rule and not the exception really that inductions are much more likely to end in C-section than a labor that begins on its own. Unfortunately that doesn’t always jive with the MDs schedule 🤨
I had a lot of interventions turned emergency c section. So many similarities with my first birth. Def left my husband and I feeling a bit traumatized and sad about birth itself. Well, 3 years later- and after some therapy sessions- we had a successful healthy VBAC and experientially learned every birth is soo different. My prayer is that one day you’ll experience a birth you can call beautiful. Don’t lose hope that it can be so different next time! You overcame something so hard, and I bet you’ll use that experience to learn from for future births. Thanks for sharing story!
The 4 of you is iconic. You seriously don't need any other guests😄
I love them!!! Abby is so genuine and I love her!
The way they all care for each other and validate each other’s experience is so beautiful. Thanks for sharing ❤
Maybe this is kinda negative but it kinda makes me mad they didn't tell the husband what was happening. I am so glad it worked together fir good.
I would love to hear you four and Dallin and Bella do a marriage podcast or two. That would awesome to listen to.
That would you rather was mine i was so excited to see caleb and abby use it and now they brought it up again on your podcast just makes me so happy and kinda like i helped be apart of todays discusion lol
I love Caleb and Abby! They are so down to earth. I hope they are successful with their channel and become financially stress free.
Matt and Caleb wont stop moving their feet its so distracting!!
as the cool aunt for my two nephews, being the favorite aunt/ uncle is such a big flex 😂😂 it makes my heart grow 3 sizes
I love this episode specifically. The binding you guys have and the way the family dynamics is..... it is just so cute❤🧿
My 1st was a 100% unmedicated birth and my 2nd was a c-section due to placenta previa. Despite having a section scheduled, she came 3wks early by emergengy c-section because I started bleeding. She was then immediately taken to the NICU because of her lungs. As a result I didn't see her until I was able to get out of bed and go down to the NICU about 24 hrs later. There is such a tremendous difference in how the hormones hit you between the two. During labor and delivery you're awash in oxytocin so, I immediately fell intensely in love the moment she was out. My second lacked all that positive intensity since you don't experience those hrs of oxytocin. You still love them, but that same depth of feeling and bond takes a little time. Never having had surgery before, the emergency nature of it, how awful it feels when they're tugging and pulling the baby out and then how painful recovery is, was all pretty traumatizeing as well, which I think compounds the problem of slower bonding. Just from recovery alone, I've always said I'd choose an unmedicated labor and delivery any day over a c-section.
Sorry, but the drinking/gulping during the podcast is really bugging me.
Matt, my friend had 6 children and has a close, awesome relationship with each and all are wonderful adults now!
But those kids will never get the quality time they could have had if there was only 2 or 3.
@@nikr9240No, that was not the case with my friends children, who are all adults. She was a stay home Mom, home schooling too. They are close, the grown children, always have been, even with the youngest who is the only girl. 😊
@@nikr9240As a matter of fact, the youngest, got married on her parents anniversary. My friend babysits their baby as her daughter had gone back to work as a nurse in home care. I wonder how people get so overwhelmed in their minds over a family over 2 or 3? My parents had 4 children....no problem! Plenty of love and time and playmates and as grownups.... siblings who love their parents and siblings and are friends with those siblings too!
@@nikr9240True.
When I saw the thumbnail I thought you guys had Cole Labrant on! Wow do they have facial similarities 😂 I was confused as to why a "random lady" would be on this episode with Cole lol
Anna and Bru would be an amazing couple to have on the podcast!
the very first thing I noticed was matt and abby’s twinning outfits 😂😂
I had the exact experience that Abby did except my induction went terrible. I got a fever and contractions were terrible! Rory was stuck also though! So scary! So glad that you’re okay and that CJ is here and healthy!!
I missed this but why did they have to get induced?
Farting is disgusting. If my husband farted in front of me, I would slap him. Lol! I was taught to go to the bathroom and do it in private. Come on now!
I found out I’m pregnant as well when my little guy was JUST about 5 months ! Like a week before he was 5 months ! Come April I’m going to have an almost 3 year old, a 1 year old and a newborn !😅
Jess and Gabe!
Not my mom literally getting pregnant a month after I was born and when my brother was born……
To many camera angle changes !!!! I love your podcast but it the screen changes a lot !!
47:34 LMAOOO Caleb looking straight into the camera “Cut it al. Cut. Cut it all” had me cracking up! 😭😭
I did a homebirth and would totally recommend a more natural route if possible for her next birth ❤ even if that looks like a birth center with medical interventions possible but maybe some more natural practitioners that could help avoid possible issues ❤
Abby is freaking GLOWING and STUNNING! Always has been but extra these past few videos!🤍🤍
I went through almost the same exact thing with my c-section: two days of labor, a c-section, and then a hemorrhage a few hours later while my baby waited for me in the NICU. I was exhausted and decided to sleep for awhile before going to the NICU, when they woke me up to get my vitals we realized how badly I was bleeding and I remember being so sad and scared because I thought I was going to die and I missed my chance to really meet her 😭 it's such a scary experience but you're not alone Abby, you're such a strong mama and little CJ is so lucky to have you both! ❤️
My heart goes out to Abby. Listening to her tell her story was like listening to my own baby's birth story. Rough C-section, hemorrhaging (I needed two bags of blood because of a history with anemia), baby taken to NICU for breathing struggles, put on a CPAP and had a feeding tube, me laying in my room basically alone for 15 hrs before I could even see my baby. It was supposed to be the happiest day of my life but it ended up being one of the most depressing and traumatizing days of my life. I'm still not fully over it and it happened 18 months ago. Birthing a child is an insane thing. It's incredible and amazing and immensely difficult.
Please do some single people or people without kids. I can't relate to this topic and I know a lot of the audience isn't married with kids. I'd like to talk about different topics.
You 4 are great!!! Y’all need a show together! “Hilarious Howard’s” Claiming it!😉
But you have to furnish socks for everyone. Can’t do the nasty feet!😂
no matt im not a foot person BUT tell caleb to WASH HIS hooves and LOTION them sand paper grates
Lmfaoooooo Caleb 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 “libido” but worried about her
Parents watching. She is hilarious I love her ❤
As if she didn’t just have CJ
I am so sad I have to go to bed but I am super stoked to wake up and watch it later! 😁I love you guys so much and highly enjoy the podcast I always listen to you guys while driving! Thank you for showing your creativity in so many ways! ♥️🙌🏼
Yep same here! Goodnight haha 😂
@The Unplanned Podcast it is best to teach your children the correct anatomical words. When I worked for a school district, part of our training was from a website called "From Darkness to Light" as school district employees are mandatory reporters for child abuse. Using the "incorrect" terms for body parts could make a HUGE difference in an instance of child abuse or child SA cases. It's sad that we are even having to address it, but people are so sick and twisted that something as "simple" as how a child refers to their own body parts
could make or break a conviction.
My kids are 8.5 years apart and it definitely sucked to start over. my oldest is a freshman in high school and my youngest started kindergarten. They love each other but literally have nothing in common and are not into anything remotely the same at all. Don't wait forever. I think 3- 4 years is a good age gap.
it will get better later on though. i’m 22 and my brother just turned 15 so we’re about 8 years apart. he’s annoying as crap but i love him to death and we go out together all the time to get food or watch movies. mostly cause i have no friends but i still like spending time with him and he enjoys it too!
Please use proper terms for genitalia and body parts. It's proven to help protect children from sexual abuse, plus if they need help with anything everyone will know what they're talking about even if it feels embarrassing.
Why do they practise inductions so frequently in America? In my country Inductions are exceptions because they are considered super risky and there has to be a very real serious reason. I AM NOT CRITICIZING I AM GENUINELY INTERESTED TO KNOW
I hemorrhaged immediately after the doctor inserted the foley bulb and had to have an emergency c section. The foley bulb caused a placental abruption. The foley bulb is dangerous! There is a pub med article about foley bulb hemorrhage. It can hit vessels within the cervix and cause hemorrhages and even abruptions like in my case.
Definitely not the least watched episode!!! Had to take time out of mu morning to watch when I saw who the guests were. Four of my favs!!!
Caleb… “share with a mother or a pregnant woman… or don’t share cause I might scare them” 😂😂😂
I can’t get over the no socks on guests. So distracting
52:35 I don’t know which is worse. The hole in the sock or the black and brown soles 😂😵💫