How I knew I was transgender/ coming out as Transgender

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  • @thatdutchguy2882
    @thatdutchguy2882 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    My cousin Wesley had the same issues.
    "He" was always an outgoing very happy child, we are of the same age and i started noticing eventually around the time we were 12 "he" started clothing and acting different.
    Very girly and feminine ways started to develop, this didn't go down well with my uncle "his" dad, but my aunt (my mother's slightly younger sister) was definitely "his" rock of support.
    "He" got teased and bullied badly, and yep, me being "his" cousin and friend with quite the temper back than started fighting bullies for Wesley,...i'm a calm guy now, but definitely not back than xD.
    "He" didn't tell me everything, afraid I'd make more trouble for "him",...but it just got my blood boiling thinking of anybody that wanted to hurt "him", "he" is such a sweet innocent person, always ready to help others no matter what, never heard a bad word about anybody from Wesley.
    I'm calling Wesley "he" here because I'm evoking those memories, but i fully support (not that my opinions have a baring on the matter, just an FYI) her now. (I don't dead name her or misgender her irl)
    She's a mom and a nurse now, yes, she's married to a woman, yep, she's lesbian and a very happy crazy one xD.
    But i wish, looking back, that i had the words and information to support her more,...it would have cleared up sooooo much more stuff for her if there was more information on transgender fact's for her back than,...and for me as her cousin.⬅(yeah, i was pretty clueless, didn't get it at all back than)
    So, videos like this are super valuable, not just for transgendered people, but for the support network they need aswell. (Would still have fought those bullies though, sorry xD)
    Anyway -
    Great video Melissa ✌.

    • @Melissa.Carmen
      @Melissa.Carmen  5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm sure your cousin appreciated you standing up for her, that's so nice to hear. Sometimes actions speak louder than words :)

    • @thatdutchguy2882
      @thatdutchguy2882 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Melissa.Carmen Yeah they did (those actions),...some were definitely hard of hearing and i had to resort to lots of hand gestures lol xD.
      But she does, although it's not necessary,...blood ey, thicker than water.
      That, and i couldn't deal with injustices very well so to speak.
      Knew from a young age what was right, and what was wrong, treating anybody for whatever reason like the way some treated my cousin was quite simply wrong.
      She's very happy now, but it definitely left a mark on her even to this day.
      Anyway -
      Tnx for the reply Melissa ✌.

    • @Friendship1nmillion
      @Friendship1nmillion 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Melissa.Carmen I gave a like to the comment {question} from NDE Awakening, not that I {ever} assume OR "stereotype" : I remember once you said in a past video {that may or may not be still publicly available} that you've dated both guys and girls. ARE you solely attracted to men {as perhaps you dating girls was before transitioning to "test" how you'd feel overall about things} OR are you in the traditional sense of the word Bisexual? DON'T CARE 😀 what the answer is. Just #Curious. I'm a #LGBTQ friendly guy in Sydney Australia. 🤔👍👏🇦🇺

    • @lynch702000
      @lynch702000 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      gender, biology, and orientation are interrelated, but not directly. dr. bill

  • @mssharinabrown9958
    @mssharinabrown9958 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Welcome back hun-love your videos xx

  • @geekytrainerhs9078
    @geekytrainerhs9078 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Don’t worry about your past Melissa you’re really brave and you seem like the best friend a person can have

  • @78mharie
    @78mharie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have followed your videos for a few years . You turned out so sweet !!! I love to listen to you your accent is sweet !!!

  • @samaralilith
    @samaralilith 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    thank you for sharing Melissa! love hearing these stories, its very validating to me

  • @RichardWilliams-wl7fk
    @RichardWilliams-wl7fk หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Happy for you coming out

  • @johnramsden9452
    @johnramsden9452 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing you have come a long way. I remember how difficult it was for you in the early days. So glad you have blossomed into such a beautiful and happy woman.

  • @leahsweetie01
    @leahsweetie01 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm a transgender too. 😸😸😸 just wanna say you look and sound fabulous. Lot of love from Malaysia ❤

  • @SeanConway99
    @SeanConway99 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a bearded 21 one year old whos had issues with alcohol and depression, I am having lots of anxiety and stress with this. I identify with a lot of this. I wish I'd done something earlier on because now I don't know how to tell people that this masculine guy was a facade.

    • @Melissa.Carmen
      @Melissa.Carmen  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’re still very young & it’s never too late to live your truth. I’m sure people would understand your reasons for trying to be masculine. I have transgender friends who put on a masculine front to try & hide their feminine side.

  • @GIRLRAZR
    @GIRLRAZR ปีที่แล้ว +1

    SIS I CAN TELL UR GOOD GIRL AND I SO PROUD OF YOU! OK? =)

  • @KittyGoNightly
    @KittyGoNightly 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So beautiful. Love your eyes.
    ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @haraldwerner9778
    @haraldwerner9778 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love your voice. You are a beautiful young lady!

  • @gemmaevans6827
    @gemmaevans6827 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing Melissa. I absolutely love your vlogs, and the fact that your accent is sexy as is just neither here nor there x

  • @78mharie
    @78mharie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    By the way I am a Scot also ! USA born but love Scots , my "home" is the Isle of Skye !

  • @mortishastyles1345
    @mortishastyles1345 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You have turned out to be a very pretty woman.

  • @junjuncamacho8998
    @junjuncamacho8998 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for your sharing

  • @kathymcbride2425
    @kathymcbride2425 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    a beautiful story x

  • @mozartbenaya162
    @mozartbenaya162 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think i might transition too. Always had a small narrow frame and aubmessive.

  • @stevencoil402
    @stevencoil402 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your so lucky my family once they found out l wanted to be a girl they flipped an basically talked me out of it now l am in my mid 40s. So they weren't very forgiving and very judgemental. They told me it was a bad idea and that Noone would understand they were gonna disown and kick me out of the family an I would lose everything shame they didn't care how l felt still depressed but it is what it is and so l just cross dress went there not around again you are so lucky to get the support that l never did.

  • @veritas23888
    @veritas23888 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're stunning!

  • @andreadanielczyk7388
    @andreadanielczyk7388 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're very lovely women ❤️I wish I have had started my transition in the 80th not 2019 with 51 but it is okay my dream came true and I am very happy with my real life now. I love dresses, shoes tights very much its so beautiful to wear womens clothes for me ❤️I must waiting so long for my real life as a women ❤️❤️❤️

  • @geoffers26m
    @geoffers26m 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi I’m straight and think you are special ❤

  • @mortishastyles1345
    @mortishastyles1345 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Before I was old enough to know why like my memory of my father backhanding me in the face at the dinner table knocking my 4 yesr old body accross the room was for being feminine.When I was 5 my mom used me as her model making my sister a dress.Wearing that dress felt so good all of a suddon my father came in the room behind me.My mother said he is the only one that will stand still.He went beserk ripping it off me and whiping me to know how wrong it was.When i was 9 3 boys cornered me and said why you dressed like a boy ? They beat me until i was 15.After my father died I came out to my mother and sister(i was so afraid of him).They had my home emptied stole everthing in the world i had saying i had serious gender issues and deseved to be homeless.I became homeless and was completly disowned.They changed their phone numbers and made it clear if i ever came around they would have me killed.

  • @joey_556
    @joey_556 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Damn you are stunning

  • @victortoomes5685
    @victortoomes5685 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    You remind me of a mix between Kate Beckinsale and Winona Ryder. ❤

  • @jordanjae
    @jordanjae 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am just wondering what country you live in?

  • @mauricionunes3000
    @mauricionunes3000 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are very beautiful

  • @RichardWilliams-wl7fk
    @RichardWilliams-wl7fk หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You’re a beautiful transgender

  • @becca1927
    @becca1927 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Glasgow was not that bad to be honest 10 years ago the areas I was in etc

  • @TheMatrix1776
    @TheMatrix1776 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I used to chat to u online years ago..

  • @Pekkiss73
    @Pekkiss73 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I like youuu a lot💞

  • @brianangelogarcia9831
    @brianangelogarcia9831 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    wow you are really beautiful. love you ❤❤

  • @EddieReischl
    @EddieReischl 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    No need for editing, could listen to you talk for hours. Thought you might be from the Pictish side of Scotland, your accent has a beautiful bouncing quality to it, like the Irish or Welsh. Perhaps you are "shy", as you say, but you also have calmness and serenity going for you, and people want friends like that, and girlfriends like that, so that will help "close the deal" when you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

  • @Abiunkown
    @Abiunkown 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I started getting gender Dysphoria at 12 I only figured out my was trans 4 years latter I’m now 16 I found out in lockdown is that normal?

    • @Melissa.Carmen
      @Melissa.Carmen  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah that’s totally normal. It can take a while to find yourself 😊

  • @paulwalkowiak1182
    @paulwalkowiak1182 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Paul walkowiak= Pamela walkowiak

  • @williamb7275
    @williamb7275 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    💜🙏

  • @Dave102693
    @Dave102693 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    What happened? I've haven't heard from you for the last 2 years.

  • @paulwalkowiak1182
    @paulwalkowiak1182 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dear are you melissa carman or mckeown. It doesnt really matter as a transgender woman id love to be your friend

  • @scottbanks3426
    @scottbanks3426 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your amazing .. never think less .... When can I take you out 😜😁

  • @ahir_samaj_culture_Gujarat
    @ahir_samaj_culture_Gujarat ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi 🎉❤ friend

  • @byronthomas1668
    @byronthomas1668 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great Video, wasn't there a time when being a male was good?
    I am saying that if you were born male you are always male no matter what. Then from what I get from this video, couldn't you just go on with masculine interests?
    Of course you only know the truth about yourself.
    I am wondering with hormone blockers and female hormones, what about your health?
    As I have seen here online that transgender people actually suffer more health issues.
    While on a hormone regimen.
    And even after surgery too.
    Best of luck to you, and hope all goes well for you.
    Byron Thomas

  • @phantasmo9998
    @phantasmo9998 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why are boys prettier than girls when they do his?

  • @catto1457
    @catto1457 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Trump2020

    • @Rick_Cleland
      @Rick_Cleland 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

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