Wasn’t expecting all the negative comments on this video. Hopefully I can answer some of your questions/concerns in my next video where I will explain my new treatment plan. If you missed it in the video, yes I changed my treatment plan based on what this doctor said. If you are interested in my cancer story, check out this playlist: th-cam.com/play/PLaNB8ALw_I-KgcCvvwWlRr-K2dKPuOarW.html
Samantha, a wonderful happy new year to you, Gray and your daughter (can't believe she's one!). I can't thank you enough for chronicling your journey. Your videos have helped me so much! You're so strong & smart. 🌹
Hi Samantha, I’m sorry people responded in such a negative way. It is a huge deal to remove ovaries and especially for yourself who has previously had such a terrible experience with hormone treatment. Thank you for sharing your update. It’s your journey be advised but do what’s right for you and your family.
It’s a good thing you have such a strong spirit. It must be hard to deal with criticism online. I wish people could realize you don’t have to be doing this, and by sharing your story, you are potentially helping hundreds or thousands of women. It’s fine to have your own opinion, but never to be judgmental the way I’ve seen some comments written.
When my daughter was fighting stage 4 breast cancer, we decided to travel to a major cancer center. Every cancer is different, but we ended up discovering that our local hospital would have prescribed the exact same protocol as the big shots. We thought we would get better tests, advice and treatments, but we didn't. You are very calm and thoughtful about your decisions which will help you make the best choices for you and your family. Happy New Year. 🙏
I honestly can’t believe some of these comments. This is SAMANTHA’s cancer “journey”. She is graciously sharing HER journey, HER thoughts/opinions, HER experiences etc in the hopes that it may help others. That it could show other views on the options and treatments and side effects etc that SHE is experiencing. She always says this her her opinion and her choices. She always says that other people in her situation can choose whatever they want. It is ludicrous to me that a person would say “you already have one kid, it can’t be that bad, they have pills and therapy for that”. You aren’t her. Every single person going through cancer of any kind has vastly different side effects. Some more than others. I personally was very healthy before my diagnosis and now every single thing I do or try, I experience every negative side effect plus some! There are things I’d never do again. Sometimes I think that if I weren’t married with a 13 year old, I might choose to stop treatment altogether. Yall have no right really to make these comments just because she is choosing to help those of us that appreciate her sharing and putting her experiences on TH-cam. Her choices are none of our business. I’m sure she has gone through the pros and cons for her and her family over and over before making many choices. We’ve all seen doctors that aren’t a fit for us. Just because this one is at one of the top cancer centers means nothing. She wasn’t a fit for her. Period.
You hit the nail on the head! I said in my comment that it was none of our business too!! I've been following Samantha for a few years, and what she needs is encouragement and support!!
In my life, the doctors who admit they DON'T know everything are the better ones. In general, the smarter someone is, the more they realize that no one knows everything, we can all learn and there is always something new. Doing breast cancer treatment in Taiwan and you never get more than 5 minutes to talk to a doctor so I do all my own research and figure out my options from there. You ask 5 doctors, you can get 5 different answers. I look at research as part of my job (patent attorney) so not afraid to read the papers and the original studies that led to FDA approval (for example, of Femera hormone blockers) so I will make up my own mind based on my situation.
Well said! It is very frustrating to read the comments that don’t consider the fact that this is SAMANTHA going through this process and her body and her choice. Of course she and her loved ones want what is the best solution for her and use all of the knowledge and information they have available to make those choices. No one has the right to second guess her decisions.
I know what you are talking about Samantha. I had a bad experience with my surgeon, who had me in tears. I did discount her opinions, and listened to my own conclusions. So far I am 3 years NED, so I feel confident I made the right choice. You have to do what is right for you. Stay strong!
My sister also had breast cancer at a really young age and went thru very aggressive treatment that threw her into menopause. She hasn’t had a period since. They encouraged her to do this because of her age, meaning that she could withstand it better. And it worked…she is 20 years cancer free this year. She too has one daughter who is in college now. She wanted at least one more but decided that this treatment path was best and to give up that dream because it could save her life and it did. She’s never looked back and has totally thrived. Everything is your choice of course and I know that there are continuing options as time goes on thankfully. Just wanted to let you know that there is another side to this and beautiful life after menopause at any age. I wish you the best!!! Hugs!!!
Hi Samantha glad to see you posted a new video. You are a strong, brave, young woman who is also a mother of a small child, wife and daughter. You have the right to decide what treatment is best for you. You know what your body didn’t handle before. No one has the right to judge your decision this time. So many of us really care about you and are praying for your cancer to be gone. God bless you and your wonderful family!
That doctor sounds extremely insensitive I’m sorry you had to go through that❤ We are exactly the same age but I’m from Scotland, I’ve been following you for years on here and on Instagram and I truly believe you will be okay. You have a great attitude and I love how authentic you are when explaining everything and talking about your feelings. You are so intuitive and know yourself very well which definitely counts for something! Sending love❤
Hi Samantha. Thanks for sharing your experience. I'll be the first to admit that I've privately questioned your treatment choices in the past, including the choice to stop hormone therapy, get pregnant, have a baby and breastfeed with cancer that feeds on estrogen. I thought to myself "what was she thinking?" However, then I went back and watched some of your earlier videos, and I realized that you were diagnosed with breast cancer in your early 20s. Hit with cancer when you were just beginning adulthood, and when it was completely normal to be thinking about marriage and babies! The huge majority of women facing breast cancer are over 50 and are not thinking about saving their ovaries and having babies. They've already lived their young adult lives, had babies if they wanted to, and have a lot more life experience. They are in a very different place. I am so sorry that you had a horrible experience on hormone therapy, and I am so sorry that you got cancer in the very beginning of your adult life. But, you know what? You were able to get pregnant, carry your daughter, give birth to her, and breast feed her, which were all things that you wanted to do. You were able to fulfill many of your bucket list items and if you had listened to the doctors and stayed on hormone therapy or taken out your ovaries, that wouldn't be the case. I hope your treatments work and that you are able to live a long life with your daughter and husband.
I've only been in Cancer treatment one year, and will be starting a brand-new tablet that should prevent Mets to my brain ( I'm triple HER2 positive IDC, Stage 2a). Point is, in one year, a new drug has emerged. New treatments & drugs are emerging rapidly now. Samantha was right to say "no" to ovary removal.
Thank you. Everyone is different and at different places in their lives so it makes sense that people choose so many different things when it comes to treatment :)
I’m just starting my cancer journey. I was diagnosed with ILC 2 weeks ago. I am beyond appreciative of your candid videos. You’re incredibly brave. what a model your daughter has in having you to look up to. Thank you and praying for your health.
I was diagnosed with ILC June of 2023. Est+ and Prog+, HER2-. I had a double mastectomy due to DCIS in rt breast and some lobular hyperplasia in both breasts, therefore; the invasive lobular was found due to my choosing to also have the left breast removed due to increased risk of breast cancer again. Thank you Samantha for sharing your experiences with what you are going through. You have helped me so much. God bless and praying for you.
Samantha I’ve been following your cancer journey and I truly wish you all the best. I was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer in 2022 at 50. I cannot imagine being diagnosed at such a young age as you were. Not sure what your diet is like but don’t discount the importance of nutrition, along with any treatment you choose. What we put in our bodies is incredibly important. Please keep the videos coming- I wish you the best 💜
My dad had to go to Miami to try to get treatment for one of his conditions (not cancer related at all) because Miami is apparently the best place to go in Florida for some stuff… he was completely discredited, had the worst experience ever, and left feeling pretty hopeless. It’s so sad that certain people go into a field meant to serve others and then treat their patients in a terrible way. Probably one of the main reasons why so many people refuse to get medical care.
Yeah that makes sense. Whenever I get told my symptoms aren’t a big deal, it makes me never want to go back because it makes me feel dumb for going in in the first place
I just finished my 2nd round of getting breast cancer, Stage 3B and I also have endometrial cancer stage 4 many many years - one thing I know is that you want as many options as possible to stack the deck in your favor and clinical trials at your fingertips can be very very lifechanging - each time I go through treatments even though some of them are same, some are different, I take them differently, including hormones and chemo and immunotherapy - it’s hard to describe to others what it could be like, when even with myself it is different from time to time. You’re navigating these decisions with grace, and knowledge and with your own tribe to do what is right for you, for now. Whatever you decided in the past, now and in the future is what you needed to decide with the information and situation you were in at the time. Perfect. Much love. JJ
Thanks for updating us Samantha , sounds like your visit to this other cancer centre made you take a good look at where you are right now and are able to at least have taken some positives from a bad situation. It’s good to have a team who are supporting you and who you feel comfortable with. Hope this new hormone blocker has minimal side effects xx
You do an absolutely fantastic job with these unedited videos!!! Such a natural speaker, calming voice and so clear about your decisions. I love it. Sorry about the jerk doctor. I’ve definitely experienced that too. It’s brutal. Happy you at least got something out of it. I know you’ll do great.
Each individual consult and diagnosis is different. What one person may not agree with with any certain doctor, anothe patient may feel that they had a good experience. Again, it's on your own personal feelings. I'm at one of the top 3 hospitals. I'm in Rochester, MN at the Mayo Hospital. I can't say enough wonderful things about it! I've been here for almost 3 weeks and have many more weeks to go. I'm recently diagnosed with B-Cell Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. You are in my prayers Samantha! I'm happy that you have choices to make with your trestment plan. I have had my own bad experience with a physician in the past, so I can relate to you. You are in my prayers! 🙏 ❤🙏
Hi Samantha, I'm new to your videos and have watched quite a few now. I am 62 years old and also carry the CHEK2 mutation. I had breast cancer in my 40's at the same time as hairy cell leukemia. My family was complete with 3 kids, so it was an easy decision to remove my ovaries. I am so impressed with your eloquence and courage as you fight this disease at such a young age. I also went to a major cancer center for a visit (Dana Farber/Mass General Hosp) and had a wonderful experience there, but I was mostly treated locally by a terrific oncologist and don't regret that decision. It's important to have an oncologist that you love! I'm sending my best wishes to you, your husband, daughter, and all your family.
I absolutely admire your truth & your sharing as you are in the same thought process as I was in & my oncologist very bluntly said she would leave me an ovary so that I didn’t suffer so badly too & I appreciate her for that because let me just say it’s been tough at times so I can’t imagine if she had taken out both. Wishing you the best girl ❤
Trust yourself. Your life, your body. You were smart to listen and hang in there tolerating the consult. A+. You show integrity and balance, thoughtfulness. Trust yourself. You can change your mind at anytime, if something makes sense, has worked, or may work. I’ve seen and experienced the spectrum of situations, doctors, treatments, and outcomes as a surgical oncology nurse. Listen…but you are in the drivers seat ❤
Samantha, I am so sorry you had to experience that interaction with a, clearly, obstinate oncologist. On the bright side, this can make us grateful for the caring doctors that care for us. My heart reaches out to you, knowing the anxiety and uncertainty of waiting for scans and establishing a treatment plan. You are not alone. We are with you all the way.
Thank you for your willingness to share your journey. I apologize on behalf of so many that lack empathy and compassion. Hoping our humanity as a whole can raise moral authority, especially on social media. Thinking of you and your family as this is not an easy path. ❤
I was diagnosed stage 4 with bone Mets at 38. I totally understand everything you’re saying. It’s really hard to listen and not cry or stress at the same time. You know it doesn’t help but it’s hard to fight. Good luck with it all! ❤
Dear girl, many of us are in your corner, rooting for you. You have a lovely husband, a beautiful baby. Nobody can take that away from you. I think of you every day. Your decisions for self-care are yours alone, and nobody has the right to criticize them or you. I send you healing vibes, and I wish you well. God Bless.
Don't discount this doctors recommendations because she was a hard ass. She was giving you her opinion on how to save your life. Her bedside manner may❤ have sucked but she may have a point in some things.
She did NOT discount her recommendation and the whole video was about how difficult it was. She did accept everything from doctor’s recommendation but nevertheless she changed her WHOLE treatment plan because of her. Seriously, did you watch it?
@@username58482 But she wouldn’t have got there without that doctor’s visit. I couldn’t imagine having to work with people who are so sick on a daily basis. Specialists need to have some emotional disconnect to do their job. You are right, it is her fight but if her current doctors are unable to tell her that she is wasting her options because they are sensitive to her feelings then that is an issue. I don’t know how I would fight stage 4 cancer. I do know that I personally would consider hospice if my treatment became worse than the disease. So if she doesn’t want to continue a therapy I respect that as the best decision for her. But she needs all of the right information to make those decisions.
I am 56 & dont have cancer but a deteriorated spine. When I was 30 I went to a new Dr a friend said to try. When new Dr walked in the room she asked me to stand up & when I did she said bend over so I did & she asked if there was cancer or diabetes in my family I said yes but a second later she said "well what & what side" but with a cocky growling tone. Im so sensitive & of course cried & never went back. I know its like "big deal your back" but just bc a Dr does this daily & sees many people, they should be aware & keep in mind the patient doesnt & they dont know or understand & should be spoken to with good bedside manners & compassion ❤️ Samantha, you are so strong in all your videos & when I look back to that day I had with the new Dr I feel foolish. ❤
I’m glad you have a team that treats you with the compassion that every patient deserves and is willing to listen to your concerns. Wishing you the absolute best and that you have little to no side effects as you try hormone therapy again. 🙏🏼
@@SamanthaLI’m kind of just reading through all of these because it is mind boggling that people are getting all fed up over this video, but this attitude problem comment from that dude actually made me laugh out loud and I couldn’t not comment.😂 If cancer is attracted to attitude then I’d have every type.😂 You literally have the least amount of attitude in the whole world.
@@kassielandvay4137I’m glad you’re having fun because I have a really fun time with the ridiculous ones too! I spend way more time than I should talking to these people because it makes me crack up
One thing I've learned in my 66 years is there is no clear one answer to anything in life. And this goes for cancer patients moreso. You do whatever you feel is the right thing for you. Old saying, and it's exactly what you did at this doctor's; Chew the meat and spit out the bones. Take what works for you and never be intimidated by anyone... Love and light to you✨✨✨✨✨
I can totally relate to your experience with making these decisions. I have very advanced stage 4 ovarian cancer. By the time I was diagnosed, it had spread extensively throughout my abdominal cavity, my chest cavity and into my blood stream. The doctors wanted to do a complete hysterectomy, omentum removal and remove any tumors within my abdomen. But, at the time I did not want an ostomy bag, which would have entailed removing my rectum and be permanent, so they weren’t able to remove a tumor that would have caused that. And even though they were able to remove other abdominal tumors, because they couldn’t remove the one tumor, they didn’t remove any others? Which I find puzzling to this day! And it now turns out, the tumor they wanted to remove, which would have also meant my rectum would have been removed, is now a calcified, dying tumor! I decided to not have the ostomy bag because I wasn’t ready to deal with that. And even if they got every tumor in my abdomen, they could not remove tumors from my chest cavity or in my blood. The reoccurrence rate of ovarian cancer coming back after these surgeries is like 90%! So yes, I still have cancer and yes I am up and down with it. But I’m trying a new treatment which has shrunk my cancer some and thus I feel better, but…my cancer is incurable and I will always have to be in some sort of treatment to keep it manageable until it’s not. I still don’t regret not having my rectum, etc. removed, even though my surgeon made me feel so bad about that decision and caused me to go into a depression for awhile. But now, I’m ok with deciding not to do that. I don’t mind that I had a hysterectomy and my omentum removed and if not for the ostomy bag, I wouldn’t have minded if they removed all visual signs of cancer. But that wouldn’t have removed all my cancer and my type of cancer is fast growing and aggressive. So I guess what I’m saying, is sometimes after thoughtfully concidering what the experts have to say; I think it’s important to go with our gut decisions. Good luck with everything.
Hi Samantha! I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish you well during your cancer journey. I'm a triple negative breast cancer survivor, 4 years. Happy New Year!
Hi Samantha! I’ve been following your story and rooting for you hard. I have a very similar experience except that I’m much older than you. I’ll be 62 this month. I had stage 2 er positive her2 negative BC in 2015. I had a mastectomy and went on AI medication since I was post-menopausal. I could not tolerate the drugs. I tried all three and felt ok stopping after 2 years. Throughout 2022 I had back pain that I thought was from lifting my son who was born with a genetic condition and requires total care. I finally had an X-ray done and learned my cancer had metastasized and fractured my t12 vertebrae. A little over a year ago I had a ten hour neurosurgery to de-bulk the tumor or rebuild my spine. Radiation followed and I started Ibrance and Letrozole in February 2023. I have been NED since, but I am struggling with depression and anxiety. I see a psychiatrist and am on an antidepressant and also see a therapist. It was so overwhelming that I underwent magnetic brain stimulation for the depression (for me it was a worsening of what I’ve dealt with for many years). I am planning to try a different AI first, but a friend with the same diagnosis switched to Tamoxifen due to very similar side effects and it has helped tremendously. It sounds like you have a wonderful team who will work with you to find a medication and dosage that reduces your side effects as much as possible. I will let you know if I find other ways of dealing with the depression and nausea. Another avenue that’s been suggested to me is acupuncture. I will pursue that after I have recovered from cataract surgery that I just learned I need. Keep the faith! You are helping people with your honesty and intelligence. I know how hard the estrogen suppressors can be on some of us, and we do what feels right each step of the way. Sending you strength and love. May you tolerate them much better this time. 🩷🩷
Many doctors are all about facts and do not have a bedside manner. She was giving you her opinion on her thoughts about your situation. I had breast cancer last June and am 68. I wen to one oncologist who said I really didn’t need hormone therapy and another told me I needed to do hormone therapy. I decided to take the risk and not take it because of the side effects. I have heard the side effects are hard. I know what the risks are and have to be ok with the consequences if things go bad for me. It is all about choices in the end. It is your body, your life and your choice. You do you! This is a very hard journey. Stay strong and live your life the best you can. Also write a letter to the Dr and tell her how you feel. You don’t have to mail it just write it. You may help others if you send it ❤
Hi Samantha, what a lovely video I am so happy you got over your fear of hormone therapy. I am also taking it and so are millions of women. If you do feel depressed in the future whilst on it do not stop it. Instead visit a psychologist who can help you manage the symptoms. It takes 3 months for your body to adapt to the hormone therapy. You can even switch brands if you feel depressed that may help till you find one that suits you. Im so happy you are being proactive. Please stay focused on beating this cancers ass!!! I know side effects can be bad but we are all here with you sending you lots of love from London UK.
I am very proud of you Samantha. Your happiness as a result of your daughter is way stronger than your sadness because of the MBC. This is the definition of love. I’m so happy for you for your daughter . I’m glad that you went to this doctor though.She gave you an invaluable advice regarding Hormone therapy vs. chemo. Take what you like and leave the rest. May you live to be 80.
Retired nurse here. I have worked with some truly remarkable doctors who had no bedside manner and some doctors who were caring and kind but didn't know their stuff. Don't judge doctors on whether you like them or not but judge them on the information given and their track record.
I had a insensitive anesthesiologist and it made me fearful to allow her. I came out okay. When I woke after my colonoscopy I felt like I needed to go. She yelled at me and said I had nothing in me to poop. When she could of just been nice and said it's air/gad. They have no right to be snarl at people because they are "having a long day". I went to the head nurse. And I will always go above their head. You're human but you're in the wrong profession if you have no bedside manner what so ever
@@candyorange266if you feel you cannot talk to your dr and share concerns with them or talk about what you’ve learned then they aren’t the dr for you. Samantha has to be able to speak to her dr and feel comfortable. I googled a dr assigned to me in my cancer journey and she got horrible reviews Why would someone go to a dr that dismisses what they say and doesn’t want to hear about what you’ve read? Makes no sense.
Sending you so much love Samantha. I’m on lupron and letrazole which I started at 41 and it really is hard going! So it is understandable for a woman in her 20’s to feel everything you feel about it! In my experience (I’m in the uk) the medics lack empathy, they simply do not understand because they don’t have to have the trt themselves. They can only see the science behind the trt and not what the patient has to experience. It sounds like the doctors who’ve looked after you so far prioritise the best treatment for you by listening to you and respecting your rights to choose. Every decision you have made so far has been the right one at the time … whatever you do now, is what is right for you at this time. Big big hugs xxxx
Samantha Happy New Year. You show great wisdom and discernment in the way you are approaching your treatment. Medicine is a convoluted system that does not seem to listen well and drs with agendas can be found everywhere. You came away with what you needed and are making the right choices for you. That will never be a bad choice. Keeping you in my Prayers. Fr Craig
Hi Samantha..... You are looking good and sounding so positive, I am so encouraged by how positive you are and how generous you are in sharing your experience and progress. It only takes one doctor to derail your positivity, so put this unprofessional approach behind you . As you say, you are so happy with your current treatment so lean into them and Gray and keep on doing what's best for you. You are right to plough your own individual furrow and if you don't want to remove your ovaries- don't- you are your own best advocate. I hate to think of you without baby girl and you might even be planning for another when you are rid of the beast. This Doctor sounds full of herself and I didn't hear you once say that she had asked you what YOU thought and it's your body. We always will support you whatever you decide you are your best advocate. (My diagnosis came back clear currently - thankyou so much for your support) I send my love as always to you Gray and the baby Janice 👵 🇬🇧 xxx
Samantha, you are a very intelligent and strong woman who I'm very inspired by. I'm very disgusted by some of the cruel comments here questioning her choices. She knows what's right for her. I'm currently in treatment for a recurrence of my cancer and I will tell you that it can happen no matter what you do. I did everything right in regard to nutrition, no drinking or smoking, no family history, etc. and it still came back. It angers me to see criticism of Samantha--or anyone--over what she should or should not have done. Cancer is a cruel disease and can occur and come back no matter what you did right.
There is a great video by a woman who does informational videos on cancer blaming and shaming, yeah, have heard that (mine NOT detected in mammograms because BETWEEN my breasts...) so tired of people who know it all...
Thanks for being so open and sharing. I think you are honoring yourself by the decisions you are making . I support that you have made these decisions because ONLY YOU know how the medication /treatments affects you. It’s your life and your body. It should be that the medical profession considerately listens and provides appropriate guidance for patients to be thoroughly informed. I am genuinely sorry that you felt the physician did not listen to you. I think you are wise to keep reminding yourself to try and listen to her and be open to her suggestions. In the end , your decision should be supported . You are doing all you can do. Keep sharing ! Thanks and blessings to you !
Samantha its hard enough fighting for your life without having to defend your decisions.You are doing great !!!! I have had my share of insensitive Drs. who gave me incorrect info.You are fighting alot Sending love and good vibes to you Its your life..contnue to make your own decisions !!!!
People, always remember: YOU ultimately bear the burden of your treatment. It's your life and body, take an active role in your health. Don't let "authorities" bully you into bad choices.
I agree. Samantha, you do great in your unedited videos. Personally I prefer unedited videos since often they seem more natural. Sometimes people over edit their videos and they appear choppy or they just might not be good at editing. But you are a good speaker and I find no fault in your unedited videos. If it helps get your videos out to us and be less of a challenge to you then I say that’s awesome.
I really hope your baby has you for ever cancer takes so much and I don’t want cancer to take his wonderful mummy your are amazing just no we are all in your corner and haters have no meaning to your life so don’t even read it sweety concentrate on all things love and light ! Hoping and praying for you to be Ned asap ❤❤❤❤❤
Your choices have been, and are, the best. You make the most informed decisions you can. That is all one can ask for. Sending love and positivity your way.
At the age of 23 which was almost 50 years ago I had to have a complete hysterectomy and both ovaries removed. I had already had my 2 wonderful children which was a blessing and had already decided I didn't want anymore children. I was given a long lasting hormone injection when I left the hospital after surgery and then 6 weeks later started hormone replacement pills. Other than a few hot flashes once in awhile I had no other side effects. At the age of about 58 my doctor slowly lower my dose and after about 2 years went off the hormones completely. I know my experience is nothing like what you are going through but hormone replacement can be a good experience for some people. I'm happy you have a team that treats you so well and that you have confidence in. I will continue to hope for good things for you.💗💗
Sending you lots of love. Remember oncologists have no idea what it feels like to be a patient. You have to do what you feel is best and what you feel will give you the best quality of life. It doesn't matter what another patient would want or decide. This is a personal decision and not an easy one, especially for someone your age. Many prayers for you as you navigate this journey. ❤️
I have breast cancer. We definitely have to advocate our own healthcare needs. We choose what we are willing to do or not do but it’s a choice that only ourselves can make. 💖 I respect your decision. 💞
Samantha you are so wise beyond your years. Sorry you had to experience a doctor like that I think we all have but at least you got a few bits of good information from the visit. I have stage 4 metastatic invasive ductal carcinoma breast cancer bone Mets. Just a little spot on my rib. I’m older than you but my first line treatment is hormone therapy and cdk4 6 inhibitor 🤢. Thank you so much for sharing I have learned a lot because of your stories
Having 3 members of my family with cancer ., my parents and my brother having gone through this painful mentally experience attending appointments etc ., I come to a conclusion Doctors are always extremely honest and real with the patient face to face even though sounds brutal to us and to members of the family ., but at the end of the day is up to the patient ., but I personally think is always best to follow the team Doctors advice they can see and they know better than the patient . Doctors are there to help always. Sending you a big hug . Happy new Year to you and your family .
I agree with you. Doctors are people and some of them don’t have great social skills. But a lot of those doctors are really amazing and knowledgeable. I think there was just miscommunication because what the doctor said about who gave the mutation was likely correct. It wasn’t a judgment on the person. In all likelihood someone with the mutation would have had the cancer.
Ugh. I haven’t had that type of doctor before. I hope I never do. Sounds horrible. I’m so glad that you are able to shrug it off and continue to be confident in your current team. All the best with future treatments. xxx
Samantha: It all boils down to what YOU feel is best for you. Wishing you the BEST going forward. I hope you become healed. Do your best to stay strong, full of faith, hopeful and positive.🙏🙏
I understand not liking a Dr. In your situation you need to be able to communicate what you think and feel and you ran into one with zero bedside manner and just wanted to hear herself. Stick with what is right for you and who is right for you and ignore all the others. You are a super brave fighter and have come a long way. Thanks for the update!
Extra appreciation for your VA team! Despite the delivery and total experience with the second opinion doc, it’s great that you can take the useful part of the advice and give hormone therapy another try. Wishing you all the best in the new year and many blessings with your now ONE year old!
Hi samantha I wanted to say that you are an absolute soldier and i hope you beat this wretched disease.My was was also recently diagnosed with breast cancer and your videos have helped me through the process.
So glad you posted this video. No need to edit. It helps cancer patients like me. I got similar doctor treatment at a premier hospital. I thought it was because of my age of being 57. Nope, almost everything you said I have experienced. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not the issue. Some doctors just aren’t good with patients.
Hi Samantha, every time you've had to make a tough decision youve always given good valid reasons for how you came to your decision. You make great points and you have changed my mind regarding certain treatments, i am not a cancer patient but watching your vlogs has been so informative and interesting, not just because of the facts you raise regarding cancer treatment but also your points of view. I was quite impressed when you spoke about not wanting a double mastectomy because your cancer was already stage 4 and it probably wouldn't spread to your other breast anyway. It sounds to me that the Dr sees really scared patients all day every day who go along with what she says because shes the specialist, the problem is she has gotten used to treating and speaking to people like that and she has maybe got blinkered to other treatment plans. im pleased that you didnt just agree to her suggestions straight away and you actually listened to her even though you didn't like her, thats great strength of character. I really hope the hormone therapy is much kinder to you this time round. Thank you for the update, can't wait for next time! Im sending you love from the UK 🇬🇧 xx❤❤
So sorry you didn't get a more sensitive doctor, but sometimes cockiness comes through when you know your stuff really thoroughly and confidently. She sounds like the specialist who could give the best chances to save your life!
Yes, indeed. We all can't be talented in all ways. She is quite likely a brilliant and skilled physician...just maybe not so good at mollycoddling the feelings of a delicate young lady. No, your cute looks will not gain you sympathy points with female physicians lol
Yes and also the doctor was probably frustrated because she really wants to help this young woman and she feels that the current plan was not going to possibly work as well. Just because if a doctor comes across as not very sensitive, it doesn't mean that they're not intelligent and know what they're doing.
I disagree. Samantha knew statistics that the Oncologist didn't. That's not the time to play one-upmanship with a patient. They are called "opinions" for a reason. Samantha came based with facts, not opinions. 😁
Honey, I’m sorry this doctor spoke to you like this. I’m a 24 year BC survivor and I also had a bad experience with a doctor. I would go every year for my annual check up and every year I would ask her about the lump in my left breast. Now my maternal grandmother had breast cancer, my mother had breast cancer so don’t you think I should have had a biopsy to be on the safe side? So the third year of this, I said, Dr Virginia Stokes, what about this lump in my breast “? She was across the room writing, she turned around and flippantly said, “ if that was cancer, you’d be dead by now”!! I returned for my files two weeks later and stated, “ Well it is and I’m NOT”! Thank God he had mercy on me. I’ll be thinking about you Samantha. ❤
Thinking of you Samantha❤ I admire your wisdom so much! And the fact that you are confident in doing what's right for you. You have my support 100%! Hoping all goes well with your treatment. Much love sent your way!
Sorry you went through this. I had two doctors basically yelling at me with opposite instructions I was so upset I stopped seeing doctors for 10 years (I know stupid reaction). I went to a doctor only when I noticed a skin problem which turned out to be skin cancer. This doctor recommended I get a primary and get back on track. When I did they discovered I had breast cancer. Fortunately I had a really good surgeon. I am on the fence about my oncologist, I just don’t get the “I care about you vibe”. The chemo was hard on me and I was hospitalized with Sepsis. At the end of chemo I was diagnosed with blood clots in both lungs. He said maybe the chemo caused them maybe not we will never know. Hopefully my cancer doesn’t return and I will not have to see him more than once a year. I wish the best for you, listen to your heart. Having your daughter was the best thing in the world for you and her. Take care and know you are loved by so many.
You’re the sweetest and she obviously missed a bunch or classes in med school 😢😮… Still listening….so Enjoy your baby girl as you do so well she’s so lucky to have you and her dad I think you’ll make the best decisions for yourself and your life and I wish you the best 2024❤🎉🎉🎉
Thanks for another update! In this kind of journey I suppose it's often easier saying things that have happened/are happening than trying to say things in advance as things often change (as you are well aware)! But thanks for keeping us informed - always nice to know where you're at and how you're getting on with everything. Loving your manner and outlook as always. Sorry you didn't have the best experience but glad you got some useful info. Praying that the hormone therapy is a lot better for you this time around and does what it needs to! 🙏 Liking the unedited videos too. 👍
Hi Samantha, I need to go back to catch up on a few videos. My son died so as you can guess my life has been rough. I am so worried about you. You have never looked so upset - at least to me. I have been with you for a long time. I can see how very upset you are about your visit. I am so sorry you are hurting. You have been through a lot and now with being a Mom it is even harder. I know how special you are Sam. Hang in there. We are all rooting for you. Love you, Diane
Samantha, I’m sure with all of the comments on your videos you don’t remember me but I have watched your videos from the beginning since I was newly diagnosed and your videos helped me so much. I have ALWAYS supported your decisions maintaining that our life is ours to live. I remember when you decided to stop the hormone treatments and I was struggling SO BADLY at the time that I 100% understood your reasoning. I was teetering on stopping myself at the time. I apologize in advance for this long post but here goes. I am post menopausal and I know that probably makes a difference BUT, just like you’ve made choices up until this point, I encourage you to do the same with hormone therapy. When I was in the throes of horrible side effects I tried everything. The first was to switch medications. I focused on mitigating the side effects with natural remedies and movement. I am now on my 3rd aromatase inhibitor and 2 1/2 years in I am feeling the best I have since I began. I honestly don’t know if it was the things I did or if time was my friend but I encourage you to research ways to cope with the side effects and to keep feeling as well as possible. The things I do are too numerous to list here but if you EVER WANT TO CHAT I AM HERE FOR YOU and one of your biggest fans. Please don’t feel defeated and empower yourself to move forward feeling the most like yourself as possible. That is what has gotten you this far and what will continue to help you live your life on your terms for MANY years to come. Sending you lots of love and prayers. ❤🙏🏻
It would be great for others to hear your journey in case something works for them. I am on Anastrozole coming up on 1 year very minor issues and I made a comment of my solutions. Would love to hear yours.
@@conniejohnsoncj8724I second this! I would love to hear any tips that might help deal with side effects as Tamoxifen is kicking my 🍑 pretty bad currently. I’ve done a lot of research and will be booking a cons with a menopause clinic, but I would love to hear any advise from fellow warriors ❤️ xx
I'm 65 yrs old. I have seen ...great doctors sometimes, are cocky, know it alls and have a bad bed side manner, be treated by who you feel comfortable. I'm glad you had support with you. I'm sorry she was a insensitive, but u did get a few new ideas....to go forward.
Happy New Year, Samantha! 🎉 I am truly sorry about your experience at a world renowned cancer center. I also live in Virginia and I can say Virginia has excellent medical care (for the most part). I am originally from Illinois and I do not believe we would have had the excellent medical care we get here (non-cancer related) unless of course we were rich and even then there is no guarantee. I pray this new year brings you health and happiness - the Lord knows you certainly deserve it. 🦋🐞🤍✨✨✨✨
As I was looking around TH-cam pages, I was surprised when I came across yours. Sorry you can't be in the other trial. You are in our minds and prayers here in the church. May the Lord continue to give you strength, peace, and joy. We love you!💕
These "best cancer centers" never seem to have the individual persons interest in mind, it's always cancer as a whole. It's ridiculous. I'd never trust these large centers because there's too many patients to be as thorough with each patient as an individual. You me the right choice sticking with your local team ❤❤
@V3ganBr33 I am happy to say that myself, a friend, and other people that I have met here have had very personalized, polite, and certainly treatment as “you’re a whole person and not just a cancer” approach here at MD Anderson. Up to one in four of the cases they see from elsewhere are misdiagnosed. I turned out to be one of those cases! Had I stayed where I was, I would have been given a treatment regimen that would have been not only unhelpful but harmful to me. My cancer turned out to be so rare that less than 1% of breast cancers are of this type. My friend had been given less than 3 months to live, and died 5 years later, not even from cancer. I have had two very negative doctor experiences, neither related to my cancer, and one was in my hometown area smaller hospital where everyone knew everyone else and the other at a reputable university hospital where the doctor was so rude, condescending, and arrogant that I did something I have never done before or since: walked out. I just think it’s important not to paint anything with too broad a breaststroke. There will always be all types of doctors to be found at small, medium, and even huge world-famous medical centers. I’m always happy if someone finds a good match as is the case with Samantha.
Sounds to me that that Doctor was full of her own importance.case of my way or the highway. Listen to your inner self and go with that,love from across the pond
Or, realistically, she questioned some of the things Samantha has choices she has made regarding her own treatment. This doctor’s job is to do her very best to save lives. I cannot even imagine how hard her job is when she deals with cancer patients every day. She has to be a little hard on the outside to save her own sanity. I agree, the doctor def needs to work on her bedside manner but I think we forget that doctors are human too. It may be quite hard for her to see some of the choices Samantha has made regarding her own treatment, when she loses patients on a daily basis that have done all the treatments one of the best cancer center’s in the world has to offer. I have no opinion about Samantha’s choices as it is her choice because it is her body. As long she is ok with her choices that is all that matters. But that doctor’s job is not to sit there and tell Samantha she has done all the right things, pat her on the arm and wish her luck.
@@ahoward3819 I have a friend who is an oncologist she with out a doubt is one of the nicest people ever. Although she suggest things she never tells her patients what they should do only gives advice to what she thinks the best treatment plan for them, and she always says she would never comment on previous treatments in the negative, she has always said she treats her patients as she would want to be treated if roles were reversed . She is loved by patients and staff
Wow, such rude comments. Some people really are out to hurt others. Talk about kicking someone when they are down. Samantha is trying to make the best choices for her and her chances of survival. Why are people here if not to support and pray for her. I’m so sorry Samantha that you have to read the ignorance of others with so much on your mind already. You are sharing your choices and decisions openly. This takes incredible courage and strength. Your health is exactly that. People don’t have to be rude and insensitive and talk down to you. I’m so sorry for that type of people. Just want to thank you for the content with all you’re going through. You got this. Happy New year and blessings, May this year bring all great news and outcomes 💜💖
Happy New Year Samantha! So good to see you. Happy to have any videos, edited or not. I'm so sorry you experienced an expert that didn't see you as a person first. Hindsight is always 20/20 & her bedside manner sucked. That's horrible. ❤️ You look so good! Hang in there, I can see how hard this is for you. ❤
I just came across your video, first, sending you lots of white light and prayers on your journey. My mom battled stomach cancer for 4 1/2 years and also sought a second opinion from a highly rated cancer hospital. I can sympathize with the way you felt, my mother was poked and prodded to the point of being in pain, and talked to like another person in line, it was extremely disheartening and disappointing. It seems that highly trained doctors/physicians/surgeons just don't have the bedside manner needed by their patients. I'm sorry you experienced this, however, am happy that you are satisfied with your current plan and treatment. Stay strong and keep fighting!
I was at MD Anderson, and I refused major surgery. I’m here 20 years later. God is in control. Had an 8 year old when they told me I would die if I did not take their advice. I refused. Had minor surgery, changed my lifestyle and diet. My daughter is going to be 28 this year.
I think your feelings are 100% valid and I have experience doctors with that attitude before also. I’m sorry that you had that experience. Don’t forget that all these doctors work for you. So if you’re unhappy with your care don’t let them make you feel like you aren’t in charge. Maybe give a different doctor at a different center a chance? ❤
Your experience sounds so similar to an experience I had when I was first diagnosed. It was awful. I guarantee that she’s awful to everyone who works with her too. Your relationship with your oncologist is so important and you see them so often - I would not want to spend that time with someone so insensitive. I’m glad you were at least able to take a few things away from the appointment.
Hi Samantha! lovely to see you hope you and daughter and husband had a lovely Christmas and new year. You do what feels right for you sending love and hugs love marilyn xx❤️🙏🏻💐🇬🇧
I’ve had 2 different cancers & you are correct. Some Dr are so arrogant & have zero empathy. 1st cancer doc was awful, 2nd cancer & doc was totally different. Now you can be at peace with your decision.
I think your consideration of hormone therapy is good since, like you say, you can always stop it. You have control in that way. I hope this time it goes better. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and information. Best wishes from Virginia 👋🏻
Wasn’t expecting all the negative comments on this video. Hopefully I can answer some of your questions/concerns in my next video where I will explain my new treatment plan. If you missed it in the video, yes I changed my treatment plan based on what this doctor said.
If you are interested in my cancer story, check out this playlist:
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Samantha are you doing scalp massage for your hair growth
Hello Samantha, blessing in the name of Yeshu the Anointed
Samantha, a wonderful happy new year to you, Gray and your daughter (can't believe she's one!). I can't thank you enough for chronicling your journey. Your videos have helped me so much! You're so strong & smart. 🌹
Hi Samantha, I’m sorry people responded in such a negative way. It is a huge deal to remove ovaries and especially for yourself who has previously had such a terrible experience with hormone treatment. Thank you for sharing your update. It’s your journey be advised but do what’s right for you and your family.
It’s a good thing you have such a strong spirit. It must be hard to deal with criticism online. I wish people could realize you don’t have to be doing this, and by sharing your story, you are potentially helping hundreds or thousands of women. It’s fine to have your own opinion, but never to be judgmental the way I’ve seen some comments written.
When my daughter was fighting stage 4 breast cancer, we decided to travel to a major cancer center. Every cancer is different, but we ended up discovering that our local hospital would have prescribed the exact same protocol as the big shots. We thought we would get better tests, advice and treatments, but we didn't. You are very calm and thoughtful about your decisions which will help you make the best choices for you and your family. Happy New Year. 🙏
I honestly can’t believe some of these comments. This is SAMANTHA’s cancer “journey”. She is graciously sharing HER journey, HER thoughts/opinions, HER experiences etc in the hopes that it may help others. That it could show other views on the options and treatments and side effects etc that SHE is experiencing. She always says this her her opinion and her choices. She always says that other people in her situation can choose whatever they want. It is ludicrous to me that a person would say “you already have one kid, it can’t be that bad, they have pills and therapy for that”. You aren’t her. Every single person going through cancer of any kind has vastly different side effects. Some more than others. I personally was very healthy before my diagnosis and now every single thing I do or try, I experience every negative side effect plus some! There are things I’d never do again. Sometimes I think that if I weren’t married with a 13 year old, I might choose to stop treatment altogether. Yall have no right really to make these comments just because she is choosing to help those of us that appreciate her sharing and putting her experiences on TH-cam. Her choices are none of our business. I’m sure she has gone through the pros and cons for her and her family over and over before making many choices. We’ve all seen doctors that aren’t a fit for us. Just because this one is at one of the top cancer centers means nothing. She wasn’t a fit for her. Period.
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is she removing the negative comments? I haven't seen a single one.
You hit the nail on the head! I said in my comment that it was none of our business too!! I've been following Samantha for a few years, and what she needs is encouragement and support!!
In my life, the doctors who admit they DON'T know everything are the better ones. In general, the smarter someone is, the more they realize that no one knows everything, we can all learn and there is always something new. Doing breast cancer treatment in Taiwan and you never get more than 5 minutes to talk to a doctor so I do all my own research and figure out my options from there. You ask 5 doctors, you can get 5 different answers. I look at research as part of my job (patent attorney) so not afraid to read the papers and the original studies that led to FDA approval (for example, of Femera hormone blockers) so I will make up my own mind based on my situation.
Well said! It is very frustrating to read the comments that don’t consider the fact that this is SAMANTHA going through this process and her body and her choice. Of course she and her loved ones want what is the best solution for her and use all of the knowledge and information they have available to make those choices. No one has the right to second guess her decisions.
I know what you are talking about Samantha. I had a bad experience with my surgeon, who had me in tears. I did discount her opinions, and listened to my own conclusions. So far I am 3 years NED, so I feel confident I made the right choice. You have to do what is right for you. Stay strong!
So glad you're doing well and confident with your choices!
My sister also had breast cancer at a really young age and went thru very aggressive treatment that threw her into menopause. She hasn’t had a period since. They encouraged her to do this because of her age, meaning that she could withstand it better. And it worked…she is 20 years cancer free this year. She too has one daughter who is in college now. She wanted at least one more but decided that this treatment path was best and to give up that dream because it could save her life and it did. She’s never looked back and has totally thrived. Everything is your choice of course and I know that there are continuing options as time goes on thankfully. Just wanted to let you know that there is another side to this and beautiful life after menopause at any age. I wish you the best!!! Hugs!!!
Thank you for sharing. Love positive stories!
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Hi Samantha glad to see you posted a new video. You are a strong, brave, young woman who is also a mother of a small child, wife and daughter. You have the right to decide what treatment is best for you. You know what your body didn’t handle before. No one has the right to judge your decision this time. So many of us really care about you and are praying for your cancer to be gone. God bless you and your wonderful family!
That doctor sounds extremely insensitive I’m sorry you had to go through that❤ We are exactly the same age but I’m from Scotland, I’ve been following you for years on here and on Instagram and I truly believe you will be okay. You have a great attitude and I love how authentic you are when explaining everything and talking about your feelings. You are so intuitive and know yourself very well which definitely counts for something! Sending love❤
Thank you!
Hi Samantha. Thanks for sharing your experience. I'll be the first to admit that I've privately questioned your treatment choices in the past, including the choice to stop hormone therapy, get pregnant, have a baby and breastfeed with cancer that feeds on estrogen. I thought to myself "what was she thinking?" However, then I went back and watched some of your earlier videos, and I realized that you were diagnosed with breast cancer in your early 20s. Hit with cancer when you were just beginning adulthood, and when it was completely normal to be thinking about marriage and babies! The huge majority of women facing breast cancer are over 50 and are not thinking about saving their ovaries and having babies. They've already lived their young adult lives, had babies if they wanted to, and have a lot more life experience. They are in a very different place. I am so sorry that you had a horrible experience on hormone therapy, and I am so sorry that you got cancer in the very beginning of your adult life. But, you know what? You were able to get pregnant, carry your daughter, give birth to her, and breast feed her, which were all things that you wanted to do. You were able to fulfill many of your bucket list items and if you had listened to the doctors and stayed on hormone therapy or taken out your ovaries, that wouldn't be the case. I hope your treatments work and that you are able to live a long life with your daughter and husband.
I've only been in Cancer treatment one year, and will be starting a brand-new tablet that should prevent Mets to my brain ( I'm triple HER2 positive IDC, Stage 2a). Point is, in one year, a new drug has emerged. New treatments & drugs are emerging rapidly now. Samantha was right to say "no" to ovary removal.
Thank you. Everyone is different and at different places in their lives so it makes sense that people choose so many different things when it comes to treatment :)
I’m just starting my cancer journey. I was diagnosed with ILC 2 weeks ago. I am beyond appreciative of your candid videos. You’re incredibly brave. what a model your daughter has in having you to look up to. Thank you and praying for your health.
Wish you the best as you start your journey!
I was diagnosed with ILC June of 2023. Est+ and Prog+, HER2-. I had a double mastectomy due to DCIS in rt breast and some lobular hyperplasia in both breasts, therefore; the invasive lobular was found due to my choosing to also have the left breast removed due to increased risk of breast cancer again. Thank you Samantha for sharing your experiences with what you are going through. You have helped me so much. God bless and praying for you.
If she has her around to look up to.
Samantha I’ve been following your cancer journey and I truly wish you all the best. I was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer in 2022 at 50. I cannot imagine being diagnosed at such a young age as you were. Not sure what your diet is like but don’t discount the importance of nutrition, along with any treatment you choose. What we put in our bodies is incredibly important. Please keep the videos coming- I wish you the best 💜
My dad had to go to Miami to try to get treatment for one of his conditions (not cancer related at all) because Miami is apparently the best place to go in Florida for some stuff… he was completely discredited, had the worst experience ever, and left feeling pretty hopeless. It’s so sad that certain people go into a field meant to serve others and then treat their patients in a terrible way. Probably one of the main reasons why so many people refuse to get medical care.
Yeah that makes sense. Whenever I get told my symptoms aren’t a big deal, it makes me never want to go back because it makes me feel dumb for going in in the first place
@@SamanthaLYou're anything but "dumb," and that frightens many Doctors. 😊
I just finished my 2nd round of getting breast cancer, Stage 3B and I also have endometrial cancer stage 4 many many years - one thing I know is that you want as many options as possible to stack the deck in your favor and clinical trials at your fingertips can be very very lifechanging - each time I go through treatments even though some of them are same, some are different, I take them differently, including hormones and chemo and immunotherapy - it’s hard to describe to others what it could be like, when even with myself it is different from time to time. You’re navigating these decisions with grace, and knowledge and with your own tribe to do what is right for you, for now. Whatever you decided in the past, now and in the future is what you needed to decide with the information and situation you were in at the time. Perfect. Much love. JJ
God bless you. Happy new year!
Thanks for updating us Samantha , sounds like your visit to this other cancer centre made you take a good look at where you are right now and are able to at least have taken some positives from a bad situation. It’s good to have a team who are supporting you and who you feel comfortable with. Hope this new hormone blocker has minimal side effects xx
You do an absolutely fantastic job with these unedited videos!!! Such a natural speaker, calming voice and so clear about your decisions. I love it.
Sorry about the jerk doctor. I’ve definitely experienced that too. It’s brutal. Happy you at least got something out of it. I know you’ll do great.
Each individual consult and diagnosis is different. What one person may not agree with with any certain doctor, anothe patient may feel that they had a good experience. Again, it's on your own personal feelings. I'm at one of the top 3 hospitals. I'm in Rochester, MN at the Mayo Hospital. I can't say enough wonderful things about it! I've been here for almost 3 weeks and have many more weeks to go. I'm recently diagnosed with B-Cell Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. You are in my prayers Samantha! I'm happy that you have choices to make with your trestment plan. I have had my own bad experience with a physician in the past, so I can relate to you. You are in my prayers! 🙏 ❤🙏
Its your body my friend. Your choice if you want to keep your ovaries. Don't let anyone pressure you to do what you dont want ❤
Hi Samantha, I'm new to your videos and have watched quite a few now. I am 62 years old and also carry the CHEK2 mutation. I had breast cancer in my 40's at the same time as hairy cell leukemia. My family was complete with 3 kids, so it was an easy decision to remove my ovaries. I am so impressed with your eloquence and courage as you fight this disease at such a young age. I also went to a major cancer center for a visit (Dana Farber/Mass General Hosp) and had a wonderful experience there, but I was mostly treated locally by a terrific oncologist and don't regret that decision. It's important to have an oncologist that you love! I'm sending my best wishes to you, your husband, daughter, and all your family.
A very happy new year to Samantha, and to all of us fighting the Cancer battle. Best wishes for this new year! 🎉
I absolutely admire your truth & your sharing as you are in the same thought process as I was in & my oncologist very bluntly said she would leave me an ovary so that I didn’t suffer so badly too & I appreciate her for that because let me just say it’s been tough at times so I can’t imagine if she had taken out both. Wishing you the best girl ❤
Trust yourself. Your life, your body. You were smart to listen and hang in there tolerating the consult. A+. You show integrity and balance, thoughtfulness. Trust yourself. You can change your mind at anytime, if something makes sense, has worked, or may work. I’ve seen and experienced the spectrum of situations, doctors, treatments, and outcomes as a surgical oncology nurse. Listen…but you are in the drivers seat ❤
Samantha, I am so sorry you had to experience that interaction with a, clearly, obstinate oncologist. On the bright side, this can make us grateful for the caring doctors that care for us. My heart reaches out to you, knowing the anxiety and uncertainty of waiting for scans and establishing a treatment plan. You are not alone. We are with you all the way.
Thank you for your willingness to share your journey. I apologize on behalf of so many that lack empathy and compassion. Hoping our humanity as a whole can raise moral authority, especially on social media. Thinking of you and your family as this is not an easy path. ❤
I was diagnosed stage 4 with bone Mets at 38. I totally understand everything you’re saying. It’s really hard to listen and not cry or stress at the same time. You know it doesn’t help but it’s hard to fight. Good luck with it all! ❤
Dear girl, many of us are in your corner, rooting for you. You have a lovely husband, a beautiful baby. Nobody can take that away from you. I think of you every day. Your decisions for self-care are yours alone, and nobody has the right to criticize them or you. I send you healing vibes, and I wish you well. God Bless.
Don't discount this doctors recommendations because she was a hard ass. She was giving you her opinion on how to save your life. Her bedside manner may❤ have sucked but she may have a point in some things.
Samantha acknowledged that.
@@Armistead_MacSkyeshe’s in serious denial.
She did NOT discount her recommendation and the whole video was about how difficult it was. She did accept everything from doctor’s recommendation but nevertheless she changed her WHOLE treatment plan because of her. Seriously, did you watch it?
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But she wouldn’t have got there without that doctor’s visit. I couldn’t imagine having to work with people who are so sick on a daily basis. Specialists need to have some emotional disconnect to do their job.
You are right, it is her fight but if her current doctors are unable to tell her that she is wasting her options because they are sensitive to her feelings then that is an issue.
I don’t know how I would fight stage 4 cancer. I do know that I personally would consider hospice if my treatment became worse than the disease. So if she doesn’t want to continue a therapy I respect that as the best decision for her. But she needs all of the right information to make those decisions.
I am 56 & dont have cancer but a deteriorated spine. When I was 30 I went to a new Dr a friend said to try. When new Dr walked in the room she asked me to stand up & when I did she said bend over so I did & she asked if there was cancer or diabetes in my family I said yes but a second later she said "well what & what side" but with a cocky growling tone. Im so sensitive & of course cried & never went back. I know its like "big deal your back" but just bc a Dr does this daily & sees many people, they should be aware & keep in mind the patient doesnt & they dont know or understand & should be spoken to with good bedside manners & compassion ❤️ Samantha, you are so strong in all your videos & when I look back to that day I had with the new Dr I feel foolish. ❤
I’m glad you have a team that treats you with the compassion that every patient deserves and is willing to listen to your concerns. Wishing you the absolute best and that you have little to no side effects as you try hormone therapy again. 🙏🏼
She has a attitude problem that why her cancer came back. She's her own doctor.
@@bobs1356 Like a wriggling insect in a punch bowl at a fancy gathering, you are.
@@bobs1356 yeah my cancer loves my personality so much! That's why it's back
@@SamanthaLI’m kind of just reading through all of these because it is mind boggling that people are getting all fed up over this video, but this attitude problem comment from that dude actually made me laugh out loud and I couldn’t not comment.😂 If cancer is attracted to attitude then I’d have every type.😂 You literally have the least amount of attitude in the whole world.
@@kassielandvay4137I’m glad you’re having fun because I have a really fun time with the ridiculous ones too! I spend way more time than I should talking to these people because it makes me crack up
One thing I've learned in my 66 years is there is no clear one answer to anything in life. And this goes for cancer patients moreso. You do whatever you feel is the right thing for you. Old saying, and it's exactly what you did at this doctor's;
Chew the meat and spit out the bones.
Take what works for you and never be intimidated by anyone... Love and light to you✨✨✨✨✨
Thank you
I m so sorry that you had a negative experience. It’s so important that everyone finds the right person for them
I can totally relate to your experience with making these decisions. I have very advanced stage 4 ovarian cancer. By the time I was diagnosed, it had spread extensively throughout my abdominal cavity, my chest cavity and into my blood stream. The doctors wanted to do a complete hysterectomy, omentum removal and remove any tumors within my abdomen. But, at the time I did not want an ostomy bag, which would have entailed removing my rectum and be permanent, so they weren’t able to remove a tumor that would have caused that. And even though they were able to remove other abdominal tumors, because they couldn’t remove the one tumor, they didn’t remove any others? Which I find puzzling to this day! And it now turns out, the tumor they wanted to remove, which would have also meant my rectum would have been removed, is now a calcified, dying tumor! I decided to not have the ostomy bag because I wasn’t ready to deal with that. And even if they got every tumor in my abdomen, they could not remove tumors from my chest cavity or in my blood. The reoccurrence rate of ovarian cancer coming back after these surgeries is like 90%! So yes, I still have cancer and yes I am up and down with it. But I’m trying a new treatment which has shrunk my cancer some and thus I feel better, but…my cancer is incurable and I will always have to be in some sort of treatment to keep it manageable until it’s not. I still don’t regret not having my rectum, etc. removed, even though my surgeon made me feel so bad about that decision and caused me to go into a depression for awhile. But now, I’m ok with deciding not to do that. I don’t mind that I had a hysterectomy and my omentum removed and if not for the ostomy bag, I wouldn’t have minded if they removed all visual signs of cancer. But that wouldn’t have removed all my cancer and my type of cancer is fast growing and aggressive. So I guess what I’m saying, is sometimes after thoughtfully concidering what the experts have to say; I think it’s important to go with our gut decisions. Good luck with everything.
Hi Samantha! I'm so sorry you are going through this. I wish you well during your cancer journey. I'm a triple negative breast cancer survivor, 4 years. Happy New Year!
Happy New Year!
Hi Samantha! I’ve been following your story and rooting for you hard. I have a very similar experience except that I’m much older than you. I’ll be 62 this month.
I had stage 2 er positive her2 negative BC in 2015. I had a mastectomy and went on AI medication since I was post-menopausal. I could not tolerate the drugs. I tried all three and felt ok stopping after 2 years. Throughout 2022 I had back pain that I thought was from lifting my son who was born with a genetic condition and requires total care. I finally had an X-ray done and learned my cancer had metastasized and fractured my t12 vertebrae.
A little over a year ago I had a ten hour neurosurgery to de-bulk the tumor or rebuild my spine. Radiation followed and I started Ibrance and Letrozole in February 2023. I have been NED since, but I am struggling with depression and anxiety. I see a psychiatrist and am on an antidepressant and also see a therapist. It was so overwhelming that I underwent magnetic brain stimulation for the depression (for me it was a worsening of what I’ve dealt with for many years).
I am planning to try a different AI first, but a friend with the same diagnosis switched to Tamoxifen due to very similar side effects and it has helped tremendously. It sounds like you have a wonderful team who will work with you to find a medication and dosage that reduces your side effects as much as possible.
I will let you know if I find other ways of dealing with the depression and nausea. Another avenue that’s been suggested to me is acupuncture. I will pursue that after I have recovered from cataract surgery that I just learned I need.
Keep the faith! You are helping people with your honesty and intelligence. I know how hard the estrogen suppressors can be on some of us, and we do what feels right each step of the way. Sending you strength and love. May you tolerate them much better this time. 🩷🩷
Many doctors are all about facts and do not have a bedside manner. She was giving you her opinion on her thoughts about your situation. I had breast cancer last June and am 68. I wen to one oncologist who said I really didn’t need hormone therapy and another told me I needed to do hormone therapy. I decided to take the risk and not take it because of the side effects. I have heard the side effects are hard. I know what the risks are and have to be ok with the consequences if things go bad for me. It is all about choices in the end. It is your body, your life and your choice. You do you! This is a very hard journey. Stay strong and live your life the best you can. Also write a letter to the Dr and tell her how you feel. You don’t have to mail it just write it. You may help others if you send it ❤
Hi Samantha, what a lovely video I am so happy you got over your fear of hormone therapy. I am also taking it and so are millions of women. If you do feel depressed in the future whilst on it do not stop it. Instead visit a psychologist who can help you manage the symptoms. It takes 3 months for your body to adapt to the hormone therapy. You can even switch brands if you feel depressed that may help till you find one that suits you. Im so happy you are being proactive. Please stay focused on beating this cancers ass!!! I know side effects can be bad but we are all here with you sending you lots of love from London UK.
I am very proud of you Samantha. Your happiness as a result of your daughter is way stronger than your sadness because of the MBC. This is the definition of love. I’m so happy for you for your daughter . I’m glad that you went to this doctor though.She gave you an invaluable advice regarding Hormone therapy vs. chemo. Take what you like and leave the rest. May you live to be 80.
Everything happens for a reason :)
Retired nurse here. I have worked with some truly remarkable doctors who had no bedside manner and some doctors who were caring and kind but didn't know their stuff. Don't judge doctors on whether you like them or not but judge them on the information given and their track record.
I’m a nurse also. This is so true.
I had a insensitive anesthesiologist and it made me fearful to allow her. I came out okay. When I woke after my colonoscopy I felt like I needed to go. She yelled at me and said I had nothing in me to poop. When she could of just been nice and said it's air/gad. They have no right to be snarl at people because they are "having a long day". I went to the head nurse. And I will always go above their head. You're human but you're in the wrong profession if you have no bedside manner what so ever
@@candyorange266if you feel you cannot talk to your dr and share concerns with them or talk about what you’ve learned then they aren’t the dr for you. Samantha has to be able to speak to her dr and feel comfortable. I googled a dr assigned to me in my cancer journey and she got horrible reviews
Why would someone go to a dr that dismisses what they say and doesn’t want to hear about what you’ve read? Makes no sense.
Sending you so much love Samantha. I’m on lupron and letrazole which I started at 41 and it really is hard going! So it is understandable for a woman in her 20’s to feel everything you feel about it! In my experience (I’m in the uk) the medics lack empathy, they simply do not understand because they don’t have to have the trt themselves. They can only see the science behind the trt and not what the patient has to experience. It sounds like the doctors who’ve looked after you so far prioritise the best treatment for you by listening to you and respecting your rights to choose. Every decision you have made so far has been the right one at the time … whatever you do now, is what is right for you at this time. Big big hugs xxxx
I’m so sorry for your horrible experience with the doctor. Praying for you ❤
Samantha Happy New Year. You show great wisdom and discernment in the way you are approaching your treatment. Medicine is a convoluted system that does not seem to listen well and drs with agendas can be found everywhere. You came away with what you needed and are making the right choices for you. That will never be a bad choice.
Keeping you in my Prayers. Fr Craig
Jenny wanted to the best city of hope. It depends on your cancer there's no miracle hospital hospital out there.
@@bobs1356that was sad watching Jenny fight. She made a ton of money tho
Hi Samantha.....
You are looking good and sounding so positive, I am so encouraged by how positive you are and how generous you are in sharing your experience and progress.
It only takes one doctor to derail your positivity, so put this unprofessional approach behind you .
As you say, you are so happy with your current treatment so lean into them and Gray and keep on doing what's best for you.
You are right to plough your own individual furrow and if you don't want to remove your ovaries- don't- you are your own best advocate.
I hate to think of you without baby girl and you might even be planning for another when you are rid of the beast.
This Doctor sounds full of herself and I didn't hear you once say that she had asked you what YOU thought and it's your body.
We always will support you whatever you decide you are your best advocate.
(My diagnosis came back clear currently - thankyou so much for your support)
I send my love as always to you Gray and the baby
Janice 👵 🇬🇧 xxx
Samantha, you are a very intelligent and strong woman who I'm very inspired by. I'm very disgusted by some of the cruel comments here questioning her choices. She knows what's right for her. I'm currently in treatment for a recurrence of my cancer and I will tell you that it can happen no matter what you do. I did everything right in regard to nutrition, no drinking or smoking, no family history, etc. and it still came back. It angers me to see criticism of Samantha--or anyone--over what she should or should not have done. Cancer is a cruel disease and can occur and come back no matter what you did right.
There is a great video by a woman who does informational videos on cancer blaming and shaming, yeah, have heard that (mine NOT detected in mammograms because BETWEEN my breasts...) so tired of people who know it all...
Thanks for being so open and sharing. I think you are honoring yourself by the decisions you are making . I support that you have made these decisions because ONLY YOU know how the medication /treatments affects you. It’s your life and your body. It should be that the medical profession considerately listens and provides appropriate guidance for patients to be thoroughly informed. I am genuinely sorry that you felt the physician did not listen to you. I think you are wise to keep reminding yourself to try and listen to her and be open to her suggestions. In the end , your decision should be supported . You are doing all you can do. Keep sharing ! Thanks and blessings to you !
Samantha its hard enough fighting for your life without having to defend your decisions.You are doing great !!!! I have had my share of insensitive Drs. who gave me incorrect info.You are fighting alot Sending love and good vibes to you Its your life..contnue to make your own decisions !!!!
I hope and pray for your
Recover soon. Hope is a powerful tool.
I’m sorry that you had this experience. Stay strong and enjoy that little girl 💕
People, always remember: YOU ultimately bear the burden of your treatment. It's your life and body, take an active role in your health. Don't let "authorities" bully you into bad choices.
Or good choices. There’s worse things than death.
Good to see you Samantha. ❤
Been following you for years. I like more frequent unedited videos.
Best wishes for a better year.
I agree. Samantha, you do great in your unedited videos. Personally I prefer unedited videos since often they seem more natural. Sometimes people over edit their videos and they appear choppy or they just might not be good at editing. But you are a good speaker and I find no fault in your unedited videos. If it helps get your videos out to us and be less of a challenge to you then I say that’s awesome.
I really hope your baby has you for ever cancer takes so much and I don’t want cancer to take his wonderful mummy your are amazing just no we are all in your corner and haters have no meaning to your life so don’t even read it sweety concentrate on all things love and light ! Hoping and praying for you to be Ned asap ❤❤❤❤❤
Praying for you! God is there with you! Heal her Lord!!
Your choices have been, and are, the best. You make the most informed decisions you can. That is all one can ask for. Sending love and positivity your way.
At the age of 23 which was almost 50 years ago I had to have a complete hysterectomy and both ovaries removed. I had already had my 2 wonderful children which was a blessing and had already decided I didn't want anymore children. I was given a long lasting hormone injection when I left the hospital after surgery and then 6 weeks later started hormone replacement pills. Other than a few hot flashes once in awhile I had no other side effects. At the age of about 58 my doctor slowly lower my dose and after about 2 years went off the hormones completely. I know my experience is nothing like what you are going through but hormone replacement can be a good experience for some people. I'm happy you have a team that treats you so well and that you have confidence in. I will continue to hope for good things for you.💗💗
So glad it worked well for you
Thanks for sharing your journey with us. I so appreciate the thoughtfulness you put into your treatment. You are helping so many with your videos.
Thank you for watching and for the kind words!
Sending you lots of love. Remember oncologists have no idea what it feels like to be a patient. You have to do what you feel is best and what you feel will give you the best quality of life. It doesn't matter what another patient would want or decide. This is a personal decision and not an easy one, especially for someone your age. Many prayers for you as you navigate this journey. ❤️
I have breast cancer. We definitely have to advocate our own healthcare needs. We choose what we are willing to do or not do but it’s a choice that only ourselves can make. 💖 I respect your decision. 💞
Samantha you are so wise beyond your years. Sorry you had to experience a doctor like that I think we all have but at least you got a few bits of good information from the visit. I have stage 4 metastatic invasive ductal carcinoma breast cancer bone Mets. Just a little spot on my rib. I’m older than you but my first line treatment is hormone therapy and cdk4 6 inhibitor 🤢. Thank you so much for sharing I have learned a lot because of your stories
Hoping your treatment works well!
She probably didn't like her either.
Samantha thinks she's her own doctor she's stubborn doesn't want to listen.
I literally listened to her lol
@@bobs1356take a hike - her body, her choices.
You are in this situation and you know much better than any of us what happened. It is your life and your choice. ❤
💕 So sorry you had a bad experience. But good to get personal reassurance for your past/current medical team.
Having 3 members of my family with cancer ., my parents and my brother having gone through this painful mentally experience attending appointments etc ., I come to a conclusion Doctors are always extremely honest and real with the patient face to face even though sounds brutal to us and to members of the family ., but at the end of the day is up to the patient ., but I personally think is always best to follow the team Doctors advice they can see and they know better than the patient . Doctors are there to help always.
Sending you a big hug .
Happy new Year to you and your family .
I agree with you. Doctors are people and some of them don’t have great social skills. But a lot of those doctors are really amazing and knowledgeable. I think there was just miscommunication because what the doctor said about who gave the mutation was likely correct. It wasn’t a judgment on the person. In all likelihood someone with the mutation would have had the cancer.
Wishing you the very best in whatever decisions you make. Thank you for the update. Be strong when you can be. When you cant thats ok too.❤
Ugh. I haven’t had that type of doctor before. I hope I never do. Sounds horrible. I’m so glad that you are able to shrug it off and continue to be confident in your current team. All the best with future treatments. xxx
Samantha: It all boils down to what YOU feel is best for you. Wishing you the BEST going forward. I hope you become healed. Do your best to stay strong, full of faith, hopeful and positive.🙏🙏
I have some horrible interactions with some Drs. Take it with a grain of salt. You are where you need to be. Sending prayers and hugs
I understand not liking a Dr. In your situation you need to be able to communicate what you think and feel and you ran into one with zero bedside manner and just wanted to hear herself. Stick with what is right for you and who is right for you and ignore all the others. You are a super brave fighter and have come a long way. Thanks for the update!
Thank you :)
Extra appreciation for your VA team! Despite the delivery and total experience with the second opinion doc, it’s great that you can take the useful part of the advice and give hormone therapy another try. Wishing you all the best in the new year and many blessings with your now ONE year old!
I'm a nurse since 1989. I'm still shocked by stuff they will say. I'm sorry it happened to you. Wishing you the best
Hi samantha
I wanted to say that you are an absolute soldier and i hope you beat this wretched disease.My was was also recently diagnosed with breast cancer and your videos have helped me through the process.
So glad you posted this video. No need to edit. It helps cancer patients like me. I got similar doctor treatment at a premier hospital. I thought it was because of my age of being 57. Nope, almost everything you said I have experienced. It makes me feel better knowing that I am not the issue. Some doctors just aren’t good with patients.
I’m glad you liked it and sorry that happened to you
Hi Samantha, every time you've had to make a tough decision youve always given good valid reasons for how you came to your decision. You make great points and you have changed my mind regarding certain treatments, i am not a cancer patient but watching your vlogs has been so informative and interesting, not just because of the facts you raise regarding cancer treatment but also your points of view. I was quite impressed when you spoke about not wanting a double mastectomy because your cancer was already stage 4 and it probably wouldn't spread to your other breast anyway.
It sounds to me that the Dr sees really scared patients all day every day who go along with what she says because shes the specialist, the problem is she has gotten used to treating and speaking to people like that and she has maybe got blinkered to other treatment plans.
im pleased that you didnt just agree to her suggestions straight away and you actually listened to her even though you didn't like her, thats great strength of character. I really hope the hormone therapy is much kinder to you this time round. Thank you for the update, can't wait for next time! Im sending you love from the UK 🇬🇧 xx❤❤
Good to hear that you are doing ok. Happy One-Year birthday to your daughter.
So sorry you didn't get a more sensitive doctor, but sometimes cockiness comes through when you know your stuff really thoroughly and confidently. She sounds like the specialist who could give the best chances to save your life!
Yes, indeed. We all can't be talented in all ways. She is quite likely a brilliant and skilled physician...just maybe not so good at mollycoddling the feelings of a delicate young lady. No, your cute looks will not gain you sympathy points with female physicians lol
Yes and also the doctor was probably frustrated because she really wants to help this young woman and she feels that the current plan was not going to possibly work as well. Just because if a doctor comes across as not very sensitive, it doesn't mean that they're not intelligent and know what they're doing.
I disagree. Samantha knew statistics that the Oncologist didn't. That's not the time to play one-upmanship with a patient. They are called "opinions" for a reason. Samantha came based with facts, not opinions. 😁
@@06eyM3 Samantha is not a woman who plays the "cute card." She probably has a Mensa-level IQ. That intimidates people.
Praying and believing for total healing.
Honey, I’m sorry this doctor spoke to you like this. I’m a 24 year BC survivor and I also had a bad experience with a doctor. I would go every year for my annual check up and every year I would ask her about the lump in my left breast. Now my maternal grandmother had breast cancer, my mother had breast cancer so don’t you think I should have had a biopsy to be on the safe side? So the third year of this, I said, Dr Virginia Stokes, what about this lump in my breast “? She was across the room writing, she turned around and flippantly said, “ if that was cancer, you’d be dead by now”!! I returned for my files two weeks later and stated, “ Well it is and I’m NOT”! Thank God he had mercy on me. I’ll be thinking about you Samantha. ❤
Thinking of you Samantha❤ I admire your wisdom so much! And the fact that you are confident in doing what's right for you. You have my support 100%! Hoping all goes well with your treatment. Much love sent your way!
Sorry you went through this. I had two doctors basically yelling at me with opposite instructions I was so upset I stopped seeing doctors for 10 years (I know stupid reaction). I went to a doctor only when I noticed a skin problem which turned out to be skin cancer. This doctor recommended I get a primary and get back on track. When I did they discovered I had breast cancer. Fortunately I had a really good surgeon. I am on the fence about my oncologist, I just don’t get the “I care about you vibe”. The chemo was hard on me and I was hospitalized with Sepsis. At the end of chemo I was diagnosed with blood clots in both lungs. He said maybe the chemo caused them maybe not we will never know. Hopefully my cancer doesn’t return and I will not have to see him more than once a year. I wish the best for you, listen to your heart. Having your daughter was the best thing in the world for you and her. Take care and know you are loved by so many.
Thank you for sharing. Hoping for the best for you too!
My familial legacy of cancer is so high and I would definitely want a physician who listens!!
You’re the sweetest and she obviously missed a bunch or classes in med school 😢😮…
Still listening….so
Enjoy your baby girl as you do so well she’s so lucky to have you and her dad I think you’ll make the best decisions for yourself and your life and I wish you the best 2024❤🎉🎉🎉
Thanks for another update! In this kind of journey I suppose it's often easier saying things that have happened/are happening than trying to say things in advance as things often change (as you are well aware)! But thanks for keeping us informed - always nice to know where you're at and how you're getting on with everything. Loving your manner and outlook as always. Sorry you didn't have the best experience but glad you got some useful info. Praying that the hormone therapy is a lot better for you this time around and does what it needs to! 🙏 Liking the unedited videos too. 👍
Prayers for you 🙏 ❤ stay strong and positive im going through cancer as well 😢but we will get through this ❤ 🙏 much love and prayers from Kentucky ❤
Hi Samantha, I need to go back to catch up on a few videos. My son died so as you can guess my life has been rough.
I am so worried about you. You have never looked so upset - at least to me. I have been with you for a long time. I can see how very upset you are about your visit. I am so sorry you are hurting. You have been through a lot and now with being a Mom it is even harder. I know how special you are Sam. Hang in there. We are all rooting for you. Love you, Diane
Prayers beautiful, you’re amazing! You got this 🤍🙏🏽
Samantha, I’m sure with all of the comments on your videos you don’t remember me but I have watched your videos from the beginning since I was newly diagnosed and your videos helped me so much. I have ALWAYS supported your decisions maintaining that our life is ours to live. I remember when you decided to stop the hormone treatments and I was struggling SO BADLY at the time that I 100% understood your reasoning. I was teetering on stopping myself at the time. I apologize in advance for this long post but here goes. I am post menopausal and I know that probably makes a difference BUT, just like you’ve made choices up until this point, I encourage you to do the same with hormone therapy. When I was in the throes of horrible side effects I tried everything. The first was to switch medications. I focused on mitigating the side effects with natural remedies and movement. I am now on my 3rd aromatase inhibitor and 2 1/2 years in I am feeling the best I have since I began. I honestly don’t know if it was the things I did or if time was my friend but I encourage you to research ways to cope with the side effects and to keep feeling as well as possible. The things I do are too numerous to list here but if you EVER WANT TO CHAT I AM HERE FOR YOU and one of your biggest fans. Please don’t feel defeated and empower yourself to move forward feeling the most like yourself as possible. That is what has gotten you this far and what will continue to help you live your life on your terms for MANY years to come. Sending you lots of love and prayers. ❤🙏🏻
It would be great for others to hear your journey in case something works for them. I am on Anastrozole coming up on 1 year very minor issues and I made a comment of my solutions. Would love to hear yours.
@@conniejohnsoncj8724I second this! I would love to hear any tips that might help deal with side effects as Tamoxifen is kicking my 🍑 pretty bad currently. I’ve done a lot of research and will be booking a cons with a menopause clinic, but I would love to hear any advise from fellow warriors ❤️ xx
I'm 65 yrs old. I have seen ...great doctors sometimes, are cocky, know it alls and have a bad bed side manner, be treated by who you feel comfortable. I'm glad you had support with you. I'm sorry she was a insensitive, but u did get a few new ideas....to go forward.
Happy New Year, Samantha! 🎉 I am truly sorry about your experience at a world renowned cancer center. I also live in Virginia and I can say Virginia has excellent medical care (for the most part). I am originally from Illinois and I do not believe we would have had the excellent medical care we get here (non-cancer related) unless of course we were rich and even then there is no guarantee. I pray this new year brings you health and happiness - the Lord knows you certainly deserve it. 🦋🐞🤍✨✨✨✨
As I was looking around TH-cam pages, I was surprised when I came across yours. Sorry you can't be in the other trial. You are in our minds and prayers here in the church. May the Lord continue to give you strength, peace, and joy. We love you!💕
We miss you 💕
These "best cancer centers" never seem to have the individual persons interest in mind, it's always cancer as a whole. It's ridiculous. I'd never trust these large centers because there's too many patients to be as thorough with each patient as an individual. You me the right choice sticking with your local team ❤❤
Right! They are going for "numbers" to bolster their reputation.
@V3ganBr33 I am happy to say that myself, a friend, and other people that I have met here have had very personalized, polite, and certainly treatment as “you’re a whole person and not just a cancer” approach here at MD Anderson. Up to one in four of the cases they see from elsewhere are misdiagnosed. I turned out to be one of those cases! Had I stayed where I was, I would have been given a treatment regimen that would have been not only unhelpful but harmful to me. My cancer turned out to be so rare that less than 1% of breast cancers are of this type. My friend had been given less than 3 months to live, and died 5 years later, not even from cancer. I have had two very negative doctor experiences, neither related to my cancer, and one was in my hometown area smaller hospital where everyone knew everyone else and the other at a reputable university hospital where the doctor was so rude, condescending, and arrogant that I did something I have never done before or since: walked out. I just think it’s important not to paint anything with too broad a breaststroke. There will always be all types of doctors to be found at small, medium, and even huge world-famous medical centers. I’m always happy if someone finds a good match as is the case with Samantha.
Thank you for sharing your Journey. Seeing your strength gives me strength.
Sounds to me that that Doctor was full of her own importance.case of my way or the highway. Listen to your inner self and go with that,love from across the pond
Or, realistically, she questioned some of the things Samantha has choices she has made regarding her own treatment. This doctor’s job is to do her very best to save lives. I cannot even imagine how hard her job is when she deals with cancer patients every day. She has to be a little hard on the outside to save her own sanity. I agree, the doctor def needs to work on her bedside manner but I think we forget that doctors are human too. It may be quite hard for her to see some of the choices Samantha has made regarding her own treatment, when she loses patients on a daily basis that have done all the treatments one of the best cancer center’s in the world has to offer. I have no opinion about Samantha’s choices as it is her choice because it is her body. As long she is ok with her choices that is all that matters. But that doctor’s job is not to sit there and tell Samantha she has done all the right things, pat her on the arm and wish her luck.
@@ahoward3819 I have a friend who is an oncologist she with out a doubt is one of the nicest people ever. Although she suggest things she never tells her patients what they should do only gives advice to what she thinks the best treatment plan for them, and she always says she would never comment on previous treatments in the negative, she has always said she treats her patients as she would want to be treated if roles were reversed . She is loved by patients and staff
I'm glad you think so amazingly clearly! You have always impressed me! Wish I'd been your labor nurse!
Wow, such rude comments. Some people really are out to hurt others. Talk about kicking someone when they are down. Samantha is trying to make the best choices for her and her chances of survival. Why are people here if not to support and pray for her. I’m so sorry Samantha that you have to read the ignorance of others with so much on your mind already. You are sharing your choices and decisions openly. This takes incredible courage and strength. Your health is exactly that. People don’t have to be rude and insensitive and talk down to you. I’m so sorry for that type of people. Just want to thank you for the content with all you’re going through. You got this. Happy New year and blessings, May this year bring all great news and outcomes 💜💖
Happy New Year Samantha! So good to see you. Happy to have any videos, edited or not.
I'm so sorry you experienced an expert that didn't see you as a person first. Hindsight is always 20/20 & her bedside manner sucked. That's horrible. ❤️
You look so good! Hang in there, I can see how hard this is for you. ❤
I just came across your video, first, sending you lots of white light and prayers on your journey. My mom battled stomach cancer for 4 1/2 years and also sought a second opinion from a highly rated cancer hospital. I can sympathize with the way you felt, my mother was poked and prodded to the point of being in pain, and talked to like another person in line, it was extremely disheartening and disappointing. It seems that highly trained doctors/physicians/surgeons just don't have the bedside manner needed by their patients. I'm sorry you experienced this, however, am happy that you are satisfied with your current plan and treatment. Stay strong and keep fighting!
I’m sorry to hear about your mom. Thanks for your kind comment
Your videos are great even when unedited. Please keep us updated. Only you know what's best for you.
I was at MD Anderson, and I refused major surgery. I’m here 20 years later. God is in control. Had an 8 year old when they told me I would die if I did not take their advice. I refused. Had minor surgery, changed my lifestyle and diet. My daughter is going to be 28 this year.
I think your feelings are 100% valid and I have experience doctors with that attitude before also. I’m sorry that you had that experience. Don’t forget that all these doctors work for you. So if you’re unhappy with your care don’t let them make you feel like you aren’t in charge. Maybe give a different doctor at a different center a chance? ❤
I’m so sorry. I’ve experienced doctors like that in my treatments. Sending big hugs and love to you ❤️
Your experience sounds so similar to an experience I had when I was first diagnosed. It was awful. I guarantee that she’s awful to everyone who works with her too. Your relationship with your oncologist is so important and you see them so often - I would not want to spend that time with someone so insensitive. I’m glad you were at least able to take a few things away from the appointment.
Hi Samantha! lovely to see you hope you and daughter and husband had a lovely Christmas and new year. You do what feels right for you sending love and hugs love marilyn xx❤️🙏🏻💐🇬🇧
I’ve had 2 different cancers & you are correct. Some Dr are so arrogant & have zero empathy. 1st cancer doc was awful, 2nd cancer & doc was totally different. Now you can be at peace with your decision.
I think your consideration of hormone therapy is good since, like you say, you can always stop it. You have control in that way. I hope this time it goes better. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and information. Best wishes from Virginia 👋🏻
Happy New Year! Wish you all the best in the new year!