Damon, Congrats, and appreciate your bravery. I also want to acknowledge your contribution thru the many videos you created and shared for me, and I am sure many others. Now to the main point, from my personal perspective. You are on the right track - value. Generally NLP is defective in that it tries to serve people wishes, which usually are counter-productive to their happiness. Happiness comes from doing something good for others. So the point is not the better depth or qualities of the videos, it is how they will make others empowered to do good, on a universal scale, and in a more limited framework that is not contradictory to the universal (replacing "me" by "we" and seeking to give benefits to a limited group at the expense of the universe, may work only for a short time and you will run again into the same contradiction of doing good for some vs. the benefit of all). Base on my Buddhist education, there are two universal benefits: method and wisdom. Method, in a bit reduced form, means love. Universal unconditional love. Wisdom, again in a reduced form, means to get into a closed relationship with your "big self", which in Buddhism is emptiness of having any self nature, and in advaita is consciousness. I think advaita will work for a long time, and ultimately "no self nature" is the ultimate wisdom. Love and well-wishing, all the best Arie
@@atzvieli I agree with what you wrote about serving peoples' short-term wishes which can work against a person's overall fulfillment. However, that doesn't make NLP defective. NLP is just a tool. You can use it for good, bad, or it can backfire on you if you don't have a broader perspective of what you want. I don't agree that happiness can only come from doing for others. Many things I do on my own make me happy like taking walks by myself. And doing things for others makes me happy too but doing it to make others happy is shortsighted. If you try to find happiness in making others happy you limit your own happiness. If your happiness is dependent on things you can't control, like other people, you will always be unhappy. Give because you enjoy giving and when it makes others happy, it's a bonus. Thank you for your comment.
@@DamonCart One has control on doing (in a general term, also includes talking and just being with) for others, even if you don't make them happy. just trying is enough. yes, trying to do for yourself can also make you happy, but since there are many more others than you, trying to help many of them will make you more happy. all the best.
You have made a difference in my life and i am sure many other lives. About 5 months ago I made a decision to stop teaching Yoga after 17 years. It was very difficult but it was the right decision. I am so very grateful for all you do, all your videos and all you will continue giving to your audience. Thank you for your kindness as always.
Nearly die! I thought you were announcing bad news...now that I am getting to know you!! I am glad you continue with less and more juicy videos. I like your natural way of explain NLP ( which is not easy) , so for me continue giving some examples of NLP techniques and help us to improve our lives!!!
wow Damon, i just found your channel 2 days ago and been binge watching all the videos but this particular video just blew my mind. the timing of it is so excellent that it makes me think there’s some kind of magic alchemy behind it. Personally i just quit a “fancy” Sales job which i’ve had for 5 years - i was extremely successful and financially rewarded but it wasn’t exciting anymore and it felt like a “job”. i’m starting my own business - I feel free and inspired, and so happy to see that there are other people out there following their heart. i thought i’m the only one “crazy” like that ☺️. thank you for sharing your story - looking forward to seeing what you are up to next 💕 Best wishes, Irena
Hi Damon, your NLP videos have improved the quality of life for so many people and in ways you may not even imagine possible. Please continue with them. There’s a Japanese word, ikigai, roughly translated as a reason for being. It's where your values intersect with what you enjoy doing and what you are good at. Ken Robinson covered this concept in his books Element, and Finding Your Element.
Thank you for the kind words. I have not intention of quitting. Quite the opposite. I'm leveling up. It's really uncomfortable but that's just part of the process.
I've just discovered you on youtube and the one thing I look for when watching a youtube channel blogger is do your words speak to me, are you speaking to me like books I read? If the blogger the book dont speak to me- in the bin it goes lol. I can answer yes to both of my questions to myself yes 100%you resonate with me you speak my language! I needed this video this morning. Thank you much appreciated. I look forward to your next Quality video.
Damon I love your videos and you have helped me tremendously. I completely respect your decision re; making videos and you have to make yourself happy. Plus, leave ‘em wanting more as they say! Thank you so much x
@@DamonCart your output has encouraged me to make some serious lifestyle changes with the help of an NLP hypnotherapist to stop smoking initially. Then join a gym, drop 1.5 stones and continue a fitness regime. Thank you 🙏
You know I'm a lifelong fan Damon and love that you've been such a big part of my personal development journey. Hoping to start making videos on my youtube channel exactly the same way. Real and authentic. Keep going and thank you!
Hey, Damon. I love what you do and I look forward to anything you have in the works. I know that you have touched on the subject of narcissism in the past. Alot of things I have found about NPD is geared towards the victims. I am coming to the harsh realization that I have NPD. I know that it is not common for narcissists to seek any help, but that's not my case. I have a marriage that is on the brink and 5 children to consider. My question is what, if anything, can I do from a NLP standpoint that can help me get a handle on this? I need to finally control my own life instead of controlling those around me. Thank you.
First of all don't diagnose yourself. You're probably not a psychologist and even if you are it still wouldn't be appropriate to diagnose yourself. You may be recognizing narcissistic tendencies that you have. We all have them. I've met perhaps only one person in my life who I could honestly say seemed to exhibit no narcissistic tendencies, a rare individual indeed. Your self-awareness is your first step and you've already taken it. You're going in the right direction. Narcissists constantly project their issues onto other people rather than self-reflect. If you want my help I would use the Self-Concept model to integrate counterexamples into the databases of your qualities. This grounds us, humbles us, and opens us up to feedback and at the same time makes your qualities even stronger, which makes your sense of self stronger. Narcissists have pure databases for their qualities, which is what makes them weak. To understand what I mean better about integrating counterexamples, watch this demonstration where Ismael helps Kyle transform and integrate his counterexamples from a negative belief that he has about himself. th-cam.com/video/HfcMReelfKA/w-d-xo.html The other option is to find a therapist who has experience in this area and work with him or her until you sort this out.
Hi Damon , I want to thank you so much for everything you taught me , I always look forward seeing your new Videos,you don’t know how much your Chanel have helped me . I am sure that anything you will do will be helpful and fulfilling as you always did . It would be very much appreciated if we ask you about challenges that we as coaches face with our Clients and how can we use Nlp in an effective way . I know you have been doing that for the last few years that I been following you but maybe you can give us tools to certain issues we can’t deal with or get stuck . Thank you for your time and effort to make your video very special 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hi Damon! I love your videos bc I love how you understand the complexity of feelings-thoughts-behaviors, you have helped me so much. I appreciate u a lot. I would like to ask you when to quit on a person or a group of people. Do u quit on them bc they don't fulfill your values? Or... are people really that important, or maybe is it my insecurities about myself that make me value relationships with them higher than my own worth and values? Have u ever felt this way or thought about this? Haha lots of questions :) thank u for your work!!
Thank you for the kind words. I would never expect other people to fulfill my values for me. I do, however, look for people and groups who align with my values enough to not pull me away from my values and who will be supportive of me aligning to my values rather than trying to align to their values. Sometimes you realize you're in the wrong place and with the wrong person, not because there is necessarily something wrong with them, but because you're just not a good fit. It won't serve you nor them to force yourself to be with them.
Hi Damon ; sometimes I find difficulties changing my Clint’s old believes about him ,herself . When I do value elicitation I realize that there values are causing them problems and suffering and I don’t know what to do because these values you can’t change . Like they tell me I have to do the right thing all the time other wise I can’t sleep or tell me I felt like I have to take someone’s side that I felt that he was unfairly treated and so on . The other thing is people with Anxiety, I know that there believe system is not helping them so I find it not easy to change there perception
What you've listed here as examples of values are not values. For example, taking someone's side is a strategy to fulfill values, but that doesn't tell you what the values are. You would need to ask the person what does taking that person's side do for you? You will need to follow their answer with the same question to what ever the new answer is that they give you. Watch my videos on values elicitation to understand this process better. Knowing your values will never cause you problems. It will only solve problems because you'll have more clarity. I don't have a simple answer about anxiety because each person is different, but I have done videos on this. Search anxiety on my channel and you'll find videos that will help you. You can also come train with my coaches and me if you want to become a better coach.
I love your videos so I'm glad to hear you're not leaving entirely! I completely understand quality over quantity after you get established. As for ideas... not sure. I think one idea I'd be curious to see a video about would be obstacles with NLP techniques. So let's say there is a particular process that works well for the majority of people but not x% of them. What might be some reasons why and/or how to troubleshoot... I think you've done this with the Swish Pattern and several others in the past for example. Thanks for sharing yourself with us on TH-cam!
If you’ve done something that went against your core values, is there a way back from being a broken person? I guess what I’m asking if you’re in a state of nihilism are there any NLP strategies to help find a way back? Thank you.
We violate our values frequently. This doesn't make us broken people. It just means we're human. Giving up on your values is what creates a broken person. But no matter what, it's reversible. If you want it, NLP can help you. If you don't want anything, NLP can't help you. Start with a values elicitation about something you want. That's the best place to start.
I would love to see some bjj vlogs if it cool. Lol there are so many fake gurus. The sad thing is that a lot of them have huge followers. But real gurus and real experts like yourself and Steve Andreas, have a few followers. But I believe / see how your followers change their life's (including me) but their followers (the fake gurus) have little to no change. Or they change for thr worse.
Are you wondering if it's time to quit something?
Damon, Congrats, and appreciate your bravery.
I also want to acknowledge your contribution thru the many videos you created and shared for me, and I am sure many others.
Now to the main point, from my personal perspective.
You are on the right track - value. Generally NLP is defective in that it tries to serve people wishes, which usually are counter-productive to their happiness.
Happiness comes from doing something good for others.
So the point is not the better depth or qualities of the videos, it is how they will make others empowered to do good, on a universal scale, and in a more limited framework that is not contradictory to the universal (replacing "me" by "we" and seeking to give benefits to a limited group at the expense of the universe, may work only for a short time and you will run again into the same contradiction of doing good for some vs. the benefit of all).
Base on my Buddhist education, there are two universal benefits: method and wisdom. Method, in a bit reduced form, means love. Universal unconditional love. Wisdom, again in a reduced form, means to get into a closed relationship with your "big self", which in Buddhism is emptiness of having any self nature, and in advaita is consciousness. I think advaita will work for a long time, and ultimately "no self nature" is the ultimate wisdom.
Love and well-wishing, all the best
Arie
@@atzvieli I agree with what you wrote about serving peoples' short-term wishes which can work against a person's overall fulfillment. However, that doesn't make NLP defective. NLP is just a tool. You can use it for good, bad, or it can backfire on you if you don't have a broader perspective of what you want.
I don't agree that happiness can only come from doing for others. Many things I do on my own make me happy like taking walks by myself.
And doing things for others makes me happy too but doing it to make others happy is shortsighted. If you try to find happiness in making others happy you limit your own happiness. If your happiness is dependent on things you can't control, like other people, you will always be unhappy. Give because you enjoy giving and when it makes others happy, it's a bonus.
Thank you for your comment.
@@DamonCart One has control on doing (in a general term, also includes talking and just being with) for others, even if you don't make them happy. just trying is enough. yes, trying to do for yourself can also make you happy, but since there are many more others than you, trying to help many of them will make you more happy. all the best.
I look forward to any changes you make for you to stay in tune with your own values. Nothing stays the same forever. Keep up the good work!
I appreciate that!
You have made a difference in my life and i am sure many other lives. About 5 months ago I made a decision to stop teaching Yoga after 17 years. It was very difficult but it was the right decision. I am so very grateful for all you do, all your videos and all you will continue giving to your audience. Thank you for your kindness as always.
Thank you for the kind words.
Glad you're following your values. That path will always reward you.
I think you're making the right decision, and to be honest, I really needed to hear this message today. Thank you.
Thank you.
Nearly die! I thought you were announcing bad news...now that I am getting to know you!! I am glad you continue with less and more juicy videos. I like your natural way of explain NLP ( which is not easy) , so for me continue giving some examples of NLP techniques and help us to improve our lives!!!
Will do.
I highly appreciate the current content and format. Thank you for your brilliant work
Much appreciated!
wow Damon, i just found your channel 2 days ago and been binge watching all the videos but this particular video just blew my mind. the timing of it is so excellent that it makes me think there’s some kind of magic alchemy behind it. Personally i just quit a “fancy” Sales job which i’ve had for 5 years - i was extremely successful and financially rewarded but it wasn’t exciting anymore and it felt like a “job”. i’m starting my own business - I feel free and inspired, and so happy to see that there are other people out there following their heart. i thought i’m the only one “crazy” like that ☺️. thank you for sharing your story - looking forward to seeing what you are up to next 💕
Best wishes,
Irena
Thank you.
Congratulations! "Fortune favors the bold."
Hi Damon, your NLP videos have improved the quality of life for so many people and in ways you may not even imagine possible. Please continue with them. There’s a Japanese word, ikigai, roughly translated as a reason for being. It's where your values intersect with what you enjoy doing and what you are good at. Ken Robinson covered this concept in his books Element, and Finding Your Element.
Thank you for the kind words.
I have not intention of quitting. Quite the opposite. I'm leveling up. It's really uncomfortable but that's just part of the process.
I've just discovered you on youtube and the one thing I look for when watching a youtube channel blogger is do your words speak to me, are you speaking to me like books I read? If the blogger the book dont speak to me- in the bin it goes lol. I can answer yes to both of my questions to myself yes 100%you resonate with me you speak my language! I needed this video this morning. Thank you much appreciated. I look forward to your next Quality video.
You're very welcome. Thank you for commenting.
Damon I love your videos and you have helped me tremendously. I completely respect your decision re; making videos and you have to make yourself happy. Plus, leave ‘em wanting more as they say! Thank you so much x
I appreciate that
@@DamonCart your output has encouraged me to make some serious lifestyle changes with the help of an NLP hypnotherapist to stop smoking initially. Then join a gym, drop 1.5 stones and continue a fitness regime. Thank you 🙏
Outstanding video! You have a great smile...smile a little more often, when appropriate.
Thank you.
I'll do my best ; )
You know I'm a lifelong fan Damon and love that you've been such a big part of my personal development journey. Hoping to start making videos on my youtube channel exactly the same way. Real and authentic. Keep going and thank you!
Thank you.
Stop hoping and get started!
Hey Damon,
I met you at NLPU IN 2014.
Great channel man. Excellent content!
Thank you.
That was the year I did my Trainer Training at NLPU I think.
I recently found your channel and I enjoy the content I have seen tremendously. I look forward to more. Thank you for you!
You're welcome!
Hey, Damon. I love what you do and I look forward to anything you have in the works.
I know that you have touched on the subject of narcissism in the past. Alot of things I have found about NPD is geared towards the victims. I am coming to the harsh realization that I have NPD. I know that it is not common for narcissists to seek any help, but that's not my case. I have a marriage that is on the brink and 5 children to consider. My question is what, if anything, can I do from a NLP standpoint that can help me get a handle on this? I need to finally control my own life instead of controlling those around me. Thank you.
First of all don't diagnose yourself. You're probably not a psychologist and even if you are it still wouldn't be appropriate to diagnose yourself.
You may be recognizing narcissistic tendencies that you have. We all have them. I've met perhaps only one person in my life who I could honestly say seemed to exhibit no narcissistic tendencies, a rare individual indeed. Your self-awareness is your first step and you've already taken it. You're going in the right direction. Narcissists constantly project their issues onto other people rather than self-reflect. If you want my help I would use the Self-Concept model to integrate counterexamples into the databases of your qualities. This grounds us, humbles us, and opens us up to feedback and at the same time makes your qualities even stronger, which makes your sense of self stronger. Narcissists have pure databases for their qualities, which is what makes them weak. To understand what I mean better about integrating counterexamples, watch this demonstration where Ismael helps Kyle transform and integrate his counterexamples from a negative belief that he has about himself.
th-cam.com/video/HfcMReelfKA/w-d-xo.html
The other option is to find a therapist who has experience in this area and work with him or her until you sort this out.
Hi Damon , I want to thank you so much for everything you taught me , I always look forward seeing your new Videos,you don’t know how much your Chanel have helped me . I am sure that anything you will do will be helpful and fulfilling as you always did . It would be very much appreciated if we ask you about challenges that we as coaches face with our Clients and how can we use Nlp in an effective way . I know you have been doing that for the last few years that I been following you but maybe you can give us tools to certain issues we can’t deal with or get stuck . Thank you for your time and effort to make your video very special 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I appreciate the kind words.
What challenges do you face as a coach?
Hi Damon! I love your videos bc I love how you understand the complexity of feelings-thoughts-behaviors, you have helped me so much. I appreciate u a lot.
I would like to ask you when to quit on a person or a group of people. Do u quit on them bc they don't fulfill your values? Or... are people really that important, or maybe is it my insecurities about myself that make me value relationships with them higher than my own worth and values? Have u ever felt this way or thought about this? Haha lots of questions :) thank u for your work!!
Thank you for the kind words.
I would never expect other people to fulfill my values for me. I do, however, look for people and groups who align with my values enough to not pull me away from my values and who will be supportive of me aligning to my values rather than trying to align to their values. Sometimes you realize you're in the wrong place and with the wrong person, not because there is necessarily something wrong with them, but because you're just not a good fit. It won't serve you nor them to force yourself to be with them.
Hi Damon ; sometimes I find difficulties changing my Clint’s old believes about him ,herself . When I do value elicitation I realize that there values are causing them problems and suffering and I don’t know what to do because these values you can’t change . Like they tell me I have to do the right thing all the time other wise I can’t sleep or tell me I felt like I have to take someone’s side that I felt that he was unfairly treated and so on . The other thing is people with Anxiety, I know that there believe system is not helping them so I find it not easy to change there perception
What you've listed here as examples of values are not values. For example, taking someone's side is a strategy to fulfill values, but that doesn't tell you what the values are. You would need to ask the person what does taking that person's side do for you? You will need to follow their answer with the same question to what ever the new answer is that they give you. Watch my videos on values elicitation to understand this process better. Knowing your values will never cause you problems. It will only solve problems because you'll have more clarity.
I don't have a simple answer about anxiety because each person is different, but I have done videos on this. Search anxiety on my channel and you'll find videos that will help you.
You can also come train with my coaches and me if you want to become a better coach.
I love your videos so I'm glad to hear you're not leaving entirely! I completely understand quality over quantity after you get established. As for ideas... not sure. I think one idea I'd be curious to see a video about would be obstacles with NLP techniques. So let's say there is a particular process that works well for the majority of people but not x% of them. What might be some reasons why and/or how to troubleshoot... I think you've done this with the Swish Pattern and several others in the past for example. Thanks for sharing yourself with us on TH-cam!
Thank you for the kind words.
I'll consider your suggestion.
If you’ve done something that went against your core values, is there a way back from being a broken person? I guess what I’m asking if you’re in a state of nihilism are there any NLP strategies to help find a way back? Thank you.
We violate our values frequently. This doesn't make us broken people. It just means we're human. Giving up on your values is what creates a broken person. But no matter what, it's reversible. If you want it, NLP can help you. If you don't want anything, NLP can't help you.
Start with a values elicitation about something you want. That's the best place to start.
I would love to see some bjj vlogs if it cool. Lol there are so many fake gurus. The sad thing is that a lot of them have huge followers. But real gurus and real experts like yourself and Steve Andreas, have a few followers. But I believe / see how your followers change their life's (including me) but their followers (the fake gurus) have little to no change. Or they change for thr worse.