thank god someone else thought it, most of these topics are off limits for strangers anymore honestly no one wants to talk about their family with randos…..
This particularly happened to me last summer when I went camping with 2 girls on an island on a lake, when one of them asked me what I'd like to do before I die, I said some stupid shit, but when I asked her what she'd like to do she said «to make love one last time»...
Mario Habijanec i was at the photograph and i needed just 1 picture it took like 2 minutes, before i paid she asked me what my dream is, well it was pretty awkward indeed
"Im a teacher" "When I was younger, I wanted to become a teacher, theres something fullfilling in inspiring others" "Oh, then why didnt you?" "Cause thats a lie, I cant stand children" Going great so far
That's a great line tbh. If I were that woman I would laugh out loud and appreciate your humor and your attempt to create rapport despite you hating my job
Me: "Hey, want a drink?" Girl: "Uh. No, thanks..." Me: "Wow, you know when I was younger I always wanted to buy drinks for strangers. There's something about gifting others that's very fulfilling!" Girl: "I-" Me: "You look like you're from a big family!"
The most important thing to know is that you don't have to always be the one keeping the conversation going. If you're the only one asking questions theres a big chance the other person simply doesn't want to talk to you, so go find someone who does, you'll have a much better time.
The problem is when you literally never encounter anyone who takes any interest in you and wants initiate or continue a conversation with you beyond the absolute minimum
I get what you're saying, but I also think just because someone isn't conversing much with you doesn't always mean they're not interested. As an introvert I hate it when people I genuinely like assume that I don't like them.
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986I feel that on such a personal level, I always try to make conversation but I get the most bland responses and it never seems like they are interested
That's what I delve straight into lol. Anything controversial makes for good conversation to me. Plus it's a fast way to see if you align with them on a lot of issues.. they will come up sooner or later.. easier to be with someone who you can get along with in these areas.. my partner and I happened to be on the same page with all of it.. But yea most people don't enjoy that and prefer to avoid it for as long as possible and avoid it even then, especially on the first few dates or hangout sessions. Edit over 6 years later: Coming back to this, these are actually EXTREMELY important topics that should be addressed well before getting into a relationship with someone. Then after that, they can be perfectly fine and enjoyable topics (keeping in mind what the other person enjoys talking about, but with relationships it does need to be addressed).
Imagine approaching a random person and say "You see that guy over there? He really reminds me of my older brother, who's always energetic and not afraid to let loose. I feel like older sibling are all like that. Do you have any siblings?" By the end of this line, person will be gone already.
It absolutely blows my mind that some people can just do all of this naturally. It's a painstaking thought process for me every time, and I end up relentlessly focusing on how to have a conversation instead of listening and actually remembering what the person is actually saying.
I'm not that skilled in conversations either, but I think I probably just need to let myself experience it more so I can get used to the nuances. I have heard the skill of conversing compared to the skill of speaking in a language, and I think that is somewhat of an accurate comparison because it's kinda something you have to get used to. A baby learns language through its exposure to it, and I think the skill of conversation works somewhat similarly, so if you haven't had a lot of experience with it in the past, you might have to let yourself spend more time with it to be able to learn the things that work and the things that don't.
If you’re in the occupation mode, I’ve asked “What is the biggest problem in your job?” Be careful because you might get someone who just goes off venting, but you might ask them about solutions they’ve tried. If they haven’t tried any, maybe you’re just talking to a complainer.
I feel that. I have moments where I overthink absolutely everything and hyperanalyse myself to my core in order to create/refine my mental frameworks for reconciling with my immediate reality and the nature of existence... My anxiety can make social interactions difficult at times
*Guy having a heart attack Me “is anyone here a doctor” Girl “ I am” Me “My dad is also a doctor we have a lot in common” Girl “He’s dying- Me “That guy over there reminds me of my older brother he also has a heart” Girl “….” Me “You look like you come from a big family”
relafen66 The best way to get out of it is to shift your thinking. Instead of asking them about facts, ask them about perspective. For example, in the teacher scenario they gave, you, as a (presumably non-) teacher could benefit from their unique perspective on adding/taking away the arts, common core, etc. I met an old man with a no-till farming hat on, and asked him to explain the process. Even if they're ranting about something, it means you're paying attention to something they care about, listening when they have a lot to say, and you'll learn something in the process.
don't hate yourself for it, sometimes it can mean that the person you're talking to isn't very engaged in the conversation and doesn't know how to hold one properly, they should ask questions back so they are breaking up the monotony of one person asking them
I like how this format is slightly reminiscent of a past, present, to future progression. Talk about your family (past), work and hobbies (present), and dreams (future). Remembering it this way seems to work for me.
"You see that guy over there? He really reminds me of my older brother, who's always energetic and not afraid to let loose. I feel like older siblings are always like that. Do you have any older siblings?" Smooth as fuck. Only "girl" this would work with is a teacher that told you to write a thesis statement about older siblings ffs lmao
I used the text as an example. It didn't happen to me. When I wrote this, I had a bad day. Watching these motivational videos made my day worse when I realized, these advises can all go wrong.
I know. I was giving a hypothetical follow up. It's not hard to delv into a topic,even in a negative topic and come out with positive results as long as you respect the person's will to talk about it.
Saying something stupid like "You look like you come from a big family", will make it obvious that you're trying to make small talk, and terrible at it. Like when a bad salesman is trying his rehearsed pitch and you know where it's headed even before he finishes his first sentence.
Daniel Chang Yeah but he means small talk that makes you want to never talk to that person again. You want to have an interesting conversation, not something boring that's the same bullshit that you get asked by random people that you don't give a shit about. And those lines make the conversation sound forced, as much as this video is trying to be helpful.
Yeah but on the other hand, you can ask a seemingly dumb question that then starts a chain reaction of new conversation topics. Sure, maybe that sounds a bit contrived, however everything you say doesn't need to be some amazing, deep, thoughtful shit.
haahahah imagine this: youre on your first date with a girl. its the middle of the night. youre wearing all black. youre in a empty street and you ask her: is there something you wanna do before you die?
Me: "Hey, that guy on the dance floor doesn't remind me of my brother, because I don't have a brother. Do you also not have a brother?" Her: "uhh, no?" Me: "Do you ever wish you didn't not have a brother?"
Onion Cutting Ninja such a gentleman are you serial killer that aspire by the president action and words and also play video games, I have same tension you should keep on your dream
@@KOCChristian man, would've made a great sarcastic comment if it wasnt on a two month old dark sattire comment and I could actually understand a thing u said
Yeah. That how did you get in my house a question always derails my conversations. I like to start out with " hey, does this pair of boxers smell like chloroform?).
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So I started with "you look like you come from a big family." She said "Not all Mexicans do." Then I panicked and remembered your advice and asked "What do you want to do before you die?" Long story short I got a restraining order and think I'm on some sort of list now...
Hey guys, Practical Psychology here and I am super pumped.." I then proceed to mute the video and scroll down to the comments where I end up laughing my fucking ass off
Me: “You look like you come from a big family.” Her: “Why would you say that?” Me: “Because you’re big, and big people tend to be obese which can be genetic.” Her: “Obesity doesn’t run in my family...” Me: “No one runs in your family.”
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So far, this is one of the best channels that I have learned a lot from. I'm also in the field in Psychology (still in school) and very fascinated about the human mind and behaviors. Great job!
*I got a better idea:* When you run out of topics and are just about to run into an awkward silence, just ask how's the weather. Since everyone knows that this is the most tritest and therefore dumbest question ever, you can then start talking about how difficult it sometimes could be to keep a conversation going. This could make you seem funny and even a bit charming. Works once per person.
“What do you want to do when you grow up?” “I definitely want to go to college when I get out of high school.” “Oh? What college?” “Yale, definitely.” “What major?” “Oh, communications.” “Yale doesn’t have a communications major” “...Just look up at the sky-the universe is so vast..”
Me: “Just look up there. The universe is so vast. It’s so big. I feel like our lives have more meaning than working a 9-5 job. Did you ever dream of doing something bigger than what you’re doing right now?” The cashier at McDonald’s: “Sir you need to leave, you’re holding up the line.”
Not a joke just a tip. If you feel like you're in "interview mode", asking, say, "what do you teach?". It's always good to ask "do you like it". It's broad, and moves the conversation away from generic interview questions and allows the other person to open up emotionally, and describe what they feel when they're doing well, or what really causes them stress. Often leads to more interesting discussions.
@@GooglyMoogly68 if you gotta ask that then the convo dead and not gonna go anywhere. The person is either bored or not interested if they just say yes. So just change topics to try to get them engaged in the convo
Your issue is one-word answers. I know it's hard, but try elaborating more on how you feel or why you think a certain thing. Even though it's risky, a good quality conversation and even relationship could come from it!
@@vantablack4079 It's actually not even risky. You literally have nothing to lose. Worst case scenario you'll feel a little discomfort for a moment if things don't go as you'd hoped, but so what? That's nothing.
Me: "Hey, have we met?" Girl: "I don't think so." Me: "That guy on the dance floor reminds me of when my older brother tried to quit his occupation but dialed the wrong phone number. Do you have a phone number?"
Some people find "What do you do for a living?" actually an offensive question. Especially if they are someone like a housewife, are unemployed, or don't like talking about their job, you're basically forcing them to say "nothing" or talk about a topic they hate, which then again makes them feel bad.
That has 2 sides for me. Either I get along very well with the person or I'll look at them the same way again. If there was a third one it would be: get away from me.
Ask them something about themselves if you can't think of anything else. Everyone's favorite topic is to talk about themselves. This will give you other things to ask questions on as they are talking
Me: *about to use the ford method* Her: *using the ford method to open up* Me: you watch the video too!? It has the funniest comm... Her: whats your social security number?
3:10 Never ask a teacher "What school do you teach at?" unless you want to get corrected. Instead, ask "At what school do you teach?" Better yet, "Where do you teach?" You never end a sentence with a preposition.
Me: Hey. Him: Hi. Me: You know, you look like you come from a big family. Him: Not really, no. Me: Cool, what's your social security number and credit card information?
I tried the dream question with a dude I was hanging out at the beach at night with and he said: "Hm, I don't know. Did you see that episode of criminal minds where the serial killer had like a shit ton of birds and like fed the bodies to the birds?"
I find one of my biggest turnoffs is people who almost immediately ask what you do for a living as soon as they meet you or very quickly after a few other questions. I prefer someone who says something about me personally (positive of course) or ask me about hobbies and other interests I have outside of work. These are the basis friendships and relationships are really based on. People who ask what you do for a living in my eyes are usually those who have no life or really any interests outside of work, those trying to impress you with their hi status job/career or gold diggers looking for a potential mate with 💸 to support them in an extravagant lifestyle.
@@peterfield3673 I was curious about what it has to say. Sometimes I can learn just a TINY bit from something even if I disagree with most of the content.
"Be interested" isn't a button. It's like telling a girl to "have consent". I don't think knitting is interesting, but maybe I'll think different if I ask about their interest. I still won't be interested in knitting, but I'll at least not be faking some interest that I don't genuinely have. If you're not interested in football and I start telling you the whole world of football, what do you do? Do you politely ask me questions whose answer isn't really interesting to you? You'll zone out in the middle of them talking and they'll directly experience your disinterest. Then you'll lie about being interested, because you want to be "genuinely interested". To you, it's a matter of "showing interest" which is nothing more than what you were told when your attitude was to rudely moan at everything that disinterested you. Now, instead of moaning, you put on a show where you slowly and painfully let the other person discover that you're actually not interested after you let them get enthusiastic about finding someone of shared interest. Why? Because eventually they're gonna find out that you don't have conversational flow, you don't have desire to continue the topic, but you do it anyway. This is gonna make you give short answers that create an awkward silence, it's gonna make you frustrated, it's gonna give you something akin to depression because you'll basically be in survival mode sitting there waiting for the other person to be done talking about their to-you-uninteresting topic, because you want to "genuinely be interested". I don't have to be antisocial, dude, you can just disagree without trying to project some mental illness
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i could write volumes on how great of a point i have rn.
Wei Zhao conversation is about nurturing another person. We’re all living through this chaotic simulation we call life. Conversation is a break from that. I think the reason you’re so uninterested is because you want something. If you have expectations you’ll keep being disappointed. Embrace the unknown
+David Monroy Honestly, if a single family was responsible for all that, there would probably be a lot of interesting stories to tell. It would be like Extra History's interpretation of Walpole times a thousand.
Me: Hey, you see that guy over there? He reminds me of my dad. Her: There's no one there. Me: Yeah, I know. Her: ... Me: Do *you* ever wish you had a dad?
*steps in elevator with stranger* Me: .... Girl: .... *Thinks about Ford method* Me: so uhh... Looks like your from a big dream.. uh I mean.. Girl: ... *Oh man oh man..* Me: uhh.. I hear you like sports Girl: umm excuse me? How do you know that? Me: huh? Uhh what?.... What subject you teach?
This comment section is hilarious. This video definitely provides some useful tips, though. Like commenting on the surroundings, making the conversation personal, and not going into interview mode.
If the person is talking about something they are passionate about, sometimes they like the "interview mode" because it let's them talk about something they love in depth
Ask them if the younger one got the better genes or if they learnt from the mistakes of the older one. haha that is my only follow up to an awkward "yeah" response.
Speaking about family Me: "Hey that dude throwing up over there reminds me of my brother who drinks and throws up a lot" her: "Umm... ok" me: "Do you throw up often?"
Then priceed by saying: You look like someone who throw up alot. If you really want to keep going just add: Or are thoose teeth a part of your british heritage?
You know you've met the right person when you can be silent and not feel pressured to chatter away mindlessly.
Truth!
thank god someone else thought it, most of these topics are off limits for strangers anymore honestly no one wants to talk about their family with randos…..
It's a different context, the video is about stranger
[Pulp fiction]
....
Facts
I find "what's something you'd like to do before you die" is best asked on night strolls through the woods or near a secluded lake.
swiftrian nope nope nope
This particularly happened to me last summer when I went camping with 2 girls on an island on a lake, when one of them asked me what I'd like to do before I die, I said some stupid shit, but when I asked her what she'd like to do she said «to make love one last time»...
Hahahaha!
Bad Badger kllljjk no hi
Just tried this on a kayaking trip in the everglades and she jumped out of the boat.... So, I guess there is a bad place to ask this.
"What's something you'd like to do before you die?"
Now THAT's a killer conversation starter!
HAHA that is what I was thinking. Go up to girl in a bar, "What would you like to do before you die." *Intense stare*
*holding her arm firmly*
Mario Habijanec i was at the photograph and i needed just 1 picture it took like 2 minutes, before i paid she asked me what my dream is, well it was pretty awkward indeed
Mario Habijanec , I say gangbang and they run away so fast 😂😂😂
Mario Habijanec you literally killed me bra :DDDDD
"Im a teacher"
"When I was younger, I wanted to become a teacher, theres something fullfilling in inspiring others"
"Oh, then why didnt you?"
"Cause thats a lie, I cant stand children"
Going great so far
it actually might work lol
lmao
How many of your siblings did you teach recreationally?
That's a great line tbh. If I were that woman I would laugh out loud and appreciate your humor and your attempt to create rapport despite you hating my job
Hack: don't lie, and say you respect it and how you assume it's very fulfilling... The trick isn't to be a fake spineless nice guy lol
"Hey do you see that guy over there?"
"Yeah"
"I see him too we both have Good eyes"
“Hey do you luke to sleep”
She : “umm yes? I guess”
“Cool! Me too lets sleep with each other tonight”
@@neilnair5388 i could deadass use this thanks
Really lolli PUP
Whose eyes are prettier, yours or mine?
this is something i would actually say
"so what's your occupation?"
"no, you're supposed to start with family"
"... oh, right, okay"
+kirjian xD
ecks dee
kirjian lol man!😂
😂😂😂😂 omg!
😂😂
Me: "Hey, want a drink?"
Girl: "Uh. No, thanks..."
Me: "Wow, you know when I was younger I always wanted to buy drinks for strangers. There's something about gifting others that's very fulfilling!"
Girl: "I-"
Me: "You look like you're from a big family!"
juliettokki I spit out my drink when I read this cause I laughed too hard
Luna Lovely Me 3 wtf Xd
rofl
juliettokki 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 kill me
I'm crying, I can't stop laughing!!!
Me, watching this to figure out how to make friends at work:
"So, what do you do for a living?"
"...Bro, we're both here."
Then talk about bigger like there dreams in the future
How'd that project go your team was working on? Are you still having to suffer through that long inefficient process your team had? Etc
"You look like you come from a big family"
"Uhhh why do you think so?"
"nono, you are supposed to talk about your family now"
lol
honestly! what a weird way to start a conversation
"Uhhh why do you think so?"
"Cuz You so BIIIIIG, y'know!"
... smoooth :3
That would work.
If you are the main character of a teenage summer movie.
Is it because im black
i usually break the ice by slipping and falling straight on it
I shoot it'
with my gun
GUNS
"i have hypothermiaa"
This video has the funniest comment section ever.
Agreed.
+Ur Boi so true 😂
Ur Boi lol have you read the comment section in ansel elgort's music video thief?
True.
I knew that before watching the vid
The most important thing to know is that you don't have to always be the one keeping the conversation going. If you're the only one asking questions theres a big chance the other person simply doesn't want to talk to you, so go find someone who does, you'll have a much better time.
Unless you are in customer service where you are practically forced to talk no matter what.
Most accurate comment I have ever seen
The problem is when you literally never encounter anyone who takes any interest in you and wants initiate or continue a conversation with you beyond the absolute minimum
I get what you're saying, but I also think just because someone isn't conversing much with you doesn't always mean they're not interested. As an introvert I hate it when people I genuinely like assume that I don't like them.
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986I feel that on such a personal level, I always try to make conversation but I get the most bland responses and it never seems like they are interested
Me: Titanic.
Person: What?
Me: Sorry, not a good ice breaker.
lol perfect ice breaker
Not A Potato haha
Not A Potato The struggle is real😂
Not A Potato 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Not A Potato ahahahahaha LMFAOOOO made my day
and avoid the RAPE method:
R: Religion
A: Abortion
P: Politics
E: Economics
Demethus give this man Nobel piece of prize
That's what I delve straight into lol. Anything controversial makes for good conversation to me. Plus it's a fast way to see if you align with them on a lot of issues.. they will come up sooner or later.. easier to be with someone who you can get along with in these areas.. my partner and I happened to be on the same page with all of it.. But yea most people don't enjoy that and prefer to avoid it for as long as possible and avoid it even then, especially on the first few dates or hangout sessions.
Edit over 6 years later:
Coming back to this, these are actually EXTREMELY important topics that should be addressed well before getting into a relationship with someone.
Then after that, they can be perfectly fine and enjoyable topics (keeping in mind what the other person enjoys talking about, but with relationships it does need to be addressed).
at least these topics wouldn't make me fall asleep immediately ;)
Demethus I love talking about religion and politics when a boy talks about these I find him immediatly interesting
Demethus and also the rape itself
That guy over there has a social security number, my brother also has a social security number. What is your social security number?
this comment deserves more likes
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Jackie Jikariti i'm dying :'D
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I laughed way too hard at this XD
Imagine approaching a random person and say "You see that guy over there? He really reminds me of my older brother, who's always energetic and not afraid to let loose. I feel like older sibling are all like that. Do you have any siblings?" By the end of this line, person will be gone already.
Not only that, you made your brother sound more interesting than yourself. Haha
@@pooroldlu W wingman
That line sounded like something an AI would say.
me: hey how are you
girl: you watched that youtube video didnt you
happens all the time
LOL xD
I read this and instantly said "Oh shit"
Hahahaha awesome
Rule lol... Don't ruin this for me😁
"You look like you come from a family."
Bruce Wayne unlike you, Bruce Wayne
"You look like you come from a mother"
"What up girl? Is it just me or are you alive...??"
LMFAO 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I just lost it laughing
When silence finally brakes in, is usually THEM who gets uncomfortable and feels awkward, not me.
Enjoy the silence, my friend
Alex Drastico And then if you enjoy it too much you get murderous thoughts, or is that just me?
Xenonfastfall hahahaha
Xenonfastfall That gave me goosebumps
John Wayne - Small talk is death.
I'm now always going to ask "So do you like toast?" when a conversation has died.
It absolutely blows my mind that some people can just do all of this naturally. It's a painstaking thought process for me every time, and I end up relentlessly focusing on how to have a conversation instead of listening and actually remembering what the person is actually saying.
I'm not that skilled in conversations either, but I think I probably just need to let myself experience it more so I can get used to the nuances. I have heard the skill of conversing compared to the skill of speaking in a language, and I think that is somewhat of an accurate comparison because it's kinda something you have to get used to. A baby learns language through its exposure to it, and I think the skill of conversation works somewhat similarly, so if you haven't had a lot of experience with it in the past, you might have to let yourself spend more time with it to be able to learn the things that work and the things that don't.
If you’re in the occupation mode, I’ve asked “What is the biggest problem in your job?” Be careful because you might get someone who just goes off venting, but you might ask them about solutions they’ve tried. If they haven’t tried any, maybe you’re just talking to a complainer.
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read robert green’s “laws of human nature” it’ll help u focus on the person who’s talking instead of focusing on urself
I feel that. I have moments where I overthink absolutely everything and hyperanalyse myself to my core in order to create/refine my mental frameworks for reconciling with my immediate reality and the nature of existence... My anxiety can make social interactions difficult at times
"Do you see that planet up there. It´s Mercury. My brother´s name s Mercury. So do you have any siblings?"
HHAHAHAHAAHAHA
Hahaha
Yeah! I have one brother and he's a fan of freddie mercury
This was funny
So good 😂😂😂😂😂
Me: So do you like rock climbing?
Her: I'm leaving and I'm taking the kids.
Me: I like rock climbing too
Bling Money 😂😂😂😂
This comment is waaaay too underated 🤣
Karen stop!
HAHA
tHis iS nOT a mEMe, tHeIRe mY kIDs toO
I imagine me with the Family topic like:
Me: Do you have Kids?
Stranger: No.
Me: Want some?
baseleader 😂😂😂😂
baseleader you deserve a Nobel !
baseleader what are the kids pricetags
That's a pick-up line an old Bollywood movie. Guy to girl - "I wish to have a few cute kids of my own. Would you like to be their mom?"
Stranger: Not with you creep!
Thanks TH-cam for recommending me this video, this was the best comment section i have seen
*Guy having a heart attack
Me “is anyone here a doctor”
Girl “ I am”
Me “My dad is also a doctor we have a lot in common”
Girl “He’s dying-
Me “That guy over there reminds me of my older brother he also has a heart”
Girl “….”
Me “You look like you come from a big family”
Last line was gold 🤣
😅😅😅
😂 and with this situation, you now have a story to tell.
Lol
🤣🤣🤣
Interview mode is the worst when you catch yourself doing it, you know you fked up bad.
relafen66 The best way to get out of it is to shift your thinking. Instead of asking them about facts, ask them about perspective. For example, in the teacher scenario they gave, you, as a (presumably non-) teacher could benefit from their unique perspective on adding/taking away the arts, common core, etc. I met an old man with a no-till farming hat on, and asked him to explain the process. Even if they're ranting about something, it means you're paying attention to something they care about, listening when they have a lot to say, and you'll learn something in the process.
don't hate yourself for it, sometimes it can mean that the person you're talking to isn't very engaged in the conversation and doesn't know how to hold one properly, they should ask questions back so they are breaking up the monotony of one person asking them
Neb88. I don't like when people ask me about my occupation it is very annoying and boring to talk about work all the time with new people
Overhearing a date go into interview mode is awkward enough for me to take my coffee outside : |
Neb88 fuck I do it a lot.
Your ability to write in straight lines, while keeping your letters height consistent is beyond impressive.
Hearing Colours I am not sure but I have a very strong feeling it is animated.
Azzy Kelly your ability to make me feel stupid is beyond impressive.
Hearing Colours 😂
Hearing Colours I noticed that too. Incredible isn't it.
Well, some transitions make dialogues overlap so it's obviously animated but surely his letter is pretty good
I like how this format is slightly reminiscent of a past, present, to future progression. Talk about your family (past), work and hobbies (present), and dreams (future).
Remembering it this way seems to work for me.
"You see that guy over there? He really reminds me of my older brother, who's always energetic and not afraid to let loose. I feel like older siblings are always like that. Do you have any older siblings?" Smooth as fuck. Only "girl" this would work with is a teacher that told you to write a thesis statement about older siblings ffs lmao
plus they aint even the same race
What?
Her: oh wow, what is your older brother's name? I'd like to meet him.
True but he gave u an example bro u aint suppose to copy paste his lines lol make ur own
"Uhhh.... Eugene was his name.... I think"
"You think?"
(in head) "Shit you fcked up!! Abort Abort!!"
"No?"
_she walks away_
Me: why do you like rock climbing so much?
Her: idk
Me: k
Brandon Johnson instead ask what got you into rock climbing? how long have you been into rock climbing?
Davide Zamblera Interview mode is when you ask questions consecutively ...
ahahahah
Should've played around a bit and said: "Aw come on! There's a reason for everything!"
Brandon Johnson ikr, then u have Nothing to say anymore and i dont like it lol
On my way to becoming human, so excited!
Detroit: Become Human
"John Smith"
Did you know John Smith is the single most generic name ever?
No seriously, google it.
I don’t trust people with two first names
same 😄
This is one of the best conversation guides I’ve ever seen on YT! Well structured, easy to follow, concrete topics suggested!
Me: so uh, what do you do for a living?
Her: we work together, why are you asking that?
DMS I feel this on a personal level
I have done this before
Hahahaha lol
yep been there😂
"because, I feel like I'm the only one doing shit right here, janet."
- Do you have any siblings?
- I had a sister. She died last month.
What a great way to start a conversation! :)
Bocskai Csaba you couldnt know about that
just wish her/him Best Luck and Best wishes
that shows that u care about them and feel Bad for him
I used the text as an example. It didn't happen to me.
When I wrote this, I had a bad day. Watching these motivational videos made my day worse when I realized, these advises can all go wrong.
-I am sorry. I am sure she meant a lot to you.
That was a hypothetical conversation. But it happens in real life.
I know. I was giving a hypothetical follow up. It's not hard to delv into a topic,even in a negative topic and come out with positive results as long as you respect the person's will to talk about it.
Me: look at that guy over there he reminds me of my brother with autism.
Her: That is my boyfriend...
Me: So what is your dream
Wander Nauta these comments are getting me DECEASED 😂😂😭😭
I have now become *NEUTRALIZED*
Lmao
yo wtf I'm dead 😂
Wish I could just have audio of me laughing at this to show my appreciation
My four favorite topics to discuss with people I’ve just met….divisive politics, bathroom misadventures, religion and spiders. Works like a charm 👍
Saying something stupid like "You look like you come from a big family", will make it obvious that you're trying to make small talk, and terrible at it. Like when a bad salesman is trying his rehearsed pitch and you know where it's headed even before he finishes his first sentence.
MadPotty01 exactly, these tips are for small talks.
Daniel Chang Yeah but he means small talk that makes you want to never talk to that person again. You want to have an interesting conversation, not something boring that's the same bullshit that you get asked by random people that you don't give a shit about. And those lines make the conversation sound forced, as much as this video is trying to be helpful.
who even wants to hear that? I look like I come from a big family? what, do I look like i was raised without enough money or attention? cheers mate
Yeah but on the other hand, you can ask a seemingly dumb question that then starts a chain reaction of new conversation topics. Sure, maybe that sounds a bit contrived, however everything you say doesn't need to be some amazing, deep, thoughtful shit.
This whole video would make your convo sound like a rehearsed and stilted sales pitch tbf...
ME: “Hey what’s wrong”
Her: “My Dog Died the other day”
Me: “Yeah they do that”
haha theodd1sout reference
Me:I would say what really when?
Her: Today about a hour ago
Me: do u mind if I ask how
Her: yes I mind
Comments beat video lol
omg 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
"it be like that sometimes"
See that guy sitting over there? Yeah haha my brother always sits, how often do you sit?
Ahahahahhahaa
whats your favourite position when sitting? mine is when i sit on half of the chair so i can fart comfortably.
OK this is too funny
I think I legitimately will use this. It's funny.
TheMeggow I sit all the time...on the couch and watch TH-cam videos
My FORD method is simple. I start talking about Harrison Ford. Everyone is always interested.
haahahah
imagine this:
youre on your first date with a girl. its the middle of the night. youre wearing all black. youre in a empty street and you ask her: is there something you wanna do before you die?
Moon Emoji
😂
Moon Emoji Yea lol
then you both hear "death comes"
Yolostabber99 *in Reapers voice*
First date?
That's my ice-breaker line.
Me: "Hey, that guy on the dance floor doesn't remind me of my brother, because I don't have a brother. Do you also not have a brother?"
Her: "uhh, no?"
Me: "Do you ever wish you didn't not have a brother?"
me: because I can make that happen *pulls out pocket knife*
Onion Cutting Ninja such a gentleman are you serial killer that aspire by the president action and words and also play video games, I have same tension you should keep on your dream
@@KOCChristian man, would've made a great sarcastic comment if it wasnt on a two month old dark sattire comment and I could actually understand a thing u said
This comment is my favorite 😂
Out of every one this is best hahaha
Me: "Have you ever thought of becoming an artist?"
Her: "WTF. Who are you and how did you get into my house?!"
I love the comment section 🤣
Sounds like my average date night.
God bless
Damn dawg!
Yeah. That how did you get in my house a question always derails my conversations. I like to start out with " hey, does this pair of boxers smell like chloroform?).
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So I started with "you look like you come from a big family." She said "Not all Mexicans do." Then I panicked and remembered your advice and asked "What do you want to do before you die?"
Long story short I got a restraining order and think I'm on some sort of list now...
Angel Blkraptor lol
Lmao 😂
Angel Blkraptor LOL!
Angel Blkraptor HAhahaha Cant stop laughting bro
lmfaooo
Hey guys, Practical Psychology here and I am super pumped.."
I then proceed to mute the video and scroll down to the comments where I end up laughing my fucking ass off
+Alex Landeros oh man I know 😂
Alex Landeros I'm doing a giveaway , who do you think should get the Rolex
717 Mercedes Oh, I want the "Rolex" that you don't even have.
Alex Landeros yes exactly😂😂😂
Alex Landeros i feel you man xD
I just go straight in there with a conversation about the fundamental absurdity of our transient existence. Death unites us all.
sound fun :)
That is so me.
Albeit usually, it's just me, having those conversations with my own conscience
Andy Brice
We were like you
and
You will be like us
Note of dead ones
Dark Bear Didn't they used to have that written at the entrance to graveyards?
Andy Brice
I don't know, I don't live in place where english is spoken
I also don't go to graveyards very often
And always remember to laugh with them, I feel like any conversation is better if you’re both laughing and smiling, even if it’s super deep.
Me: “You look like you come from a big family.”
Her: “Why would you say that?”
Me: “Because you’re big, and big people tend to be obese which can be genetic.”
Her: “Obesity doesn’t run in my family...”
Me: “No one runs in your family.”
Last line killed me deader than a dead man. lmfao 😆😆😆
Lmfao
Hahaha goood one xD
AHAHHA
Broo😂😂😂😂😂
My life is one long awkward silence.
...sooooo........yeeeeeeah......................
you can talk to me if you want :).
Oh and btw, i hope this comment section will be full of animal profiles, me and other guys actually did it before, an animal kingdom~!
that got wierd quick
weird ass m'fers
Same.
Boy: Do you like dogs
Girl: Yes, I like them
Boy: My dad is a dog
*China would like to know your dog's location*
Cryo Gaming mr peabody and sherman
Most underrated comment of all time
So.... Who let the dog aut??
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0
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0
0
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Who....and he ate it
Don't get it
Just had a convo with a girl 4 days straight. Thank you
Its called FORD because it never works when you want it to.
hahahhaha perfect comment
Oh jeez too good
You win
Alright this comment is win
Holy damn
a good way to gain trust is to loosen up their bindings a bit when they first wake up..
Norbit CleaverHook 10/10 would recommend this technique best way to gain trust
Hahaha, yes!! I always forcefeed them a bowl of catfood, it really shows my caring side.
I find that force-feeding them a dozen hard boiled eggs is the best way to get them to open up to you.
Or a machete. That gets them opened up, too.
Mr. Wreckless, some of us have macabre sense of humor, while others giggle at fart jokes- I don't see anything wrong with either.
Norbit CleaverHook jesus
Her: *Breathes*
Me: “So you like oxygen too?”
Lmfaoooo
"We have so much in common".
Nah I like nitrogen mixed with my oxygen
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
So far, this is one of the best channels that I have learned a lot from. I'm also in the field in Psychology (still in school) and very fascinated about the human mind and behaviors. Great job!
*I got a better idea:*
When you run out of topics and are just about to run into an awkward silence, just ask how's the weather. Since everyone knows that this is the most tritest and therefore dumbest question ever, you can then start talking about how difficult it sometimes could be to keep a conversation going. This could make you seem funny and even a bit charming.
Works once per person.
Thanks that is a great idea.
...
Looks like it will rain soon.
Works only one time tho
One time use got it, writing this down
"Works once per person" lmfao
Wind's howling.
“What do you want to do when you grow up?”
“I definitely want to go to college when I get out of high school.”
“Oh? What college?”
“Yale, definitely.”
“What major?”
“Oh, communications.”
“Yale doesn’t have a communications major”
“...Just look up at the sky-the universe is so vast..”
Her: I support gay rights.
Me: (trying to impress her) I'm gay.
This is genius.
CRYINGGG
Ha ha ha, This is crazy
Gustavo Gutierrez never laughed so hard omg this comment goes so many ways
Dude...!
As someone with ASD who has a tough time with social interaction/small talk, this was really helpful!
Me: “Just look up there. The universe is so vast. It’s so big. I feel like our lives have more meaning than working a 9-5 job. Did you ever dream of doing something bigger than what you’re doing right now?”
The cashier at McDonald’s: “Sir you need to leave, you’re holding up the line.”
King Of Pop the ceiling
Why is there only one reply this comment is beautiful
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lmfaoooo
Not a joke just a tip. If you feel like you're in "interview mode", asking, say, "what do you teach?". It's always good to ask "do you like it". It's broad, and moves the conversation away from generic interview questions and allows the other person to open up emotionally, and describe what they feel when they're doing well, or what really causes them stress. Often leads to more interesting discussions.
until the other person simply responds "yes"
Amazing
@@TheIherbert “what do you like most about it”
@@GooglyMoogly68 if you gotta ask that then the convo dead and not gonna go anywhere. The person is either bored or not interested if they just say yes. So just change topics to try to get them engaged in the convo
@@TheIherbert then they probably don’t want to converse and you just end the interaction.
Me: "You look like you're from a big family!"
Her: "My family is dead"
Me: "Cool, like Sasuke's family"
LMAO xD
Jacob Avraham XD!!!
HAHAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAAHA
Jacob Avraham omg lmfao!!!!
You sir, made my fucking day.
00:45 Ford
2:35 Occupation
3:30 👌👌👌
4:35 Recreation
5:05 Dreams
5:55 Meaningful Answers
6:69 fornication
Thank You
Me: “How’s your day been?”
Her: “Good, wbu.”
Me: “Same.”
Silence
Good, wbu?
@@SS-lv6to then it Just Repeats in Circles XD
Im good. how about you?
Oh im good. And you?
Im doing good? What about you?
Your issue is one-word answers. I know it's hard, but try elaborating more on how you feel or why you think a certain thing. Even though it's risky, a good quality conversation and even relationship could come from it!
@@vantablack4079 It's actually not even risky. You literally have nothing to lose. Worst case scenario you'll feel a little discomfort for a moment if things don't go as you'd hoped, but so what? That's nothing.
Me
Me: "Hey, have we met?"
Girl: "I don't think so."
Me: "That guy on the dance floor reminds me of when my older brother tried to quit his occupation but dialed the wrong phone number. Do you have a phone number?"
Benjamin Hershey I see what you did there 😈😈
smooth af
Benjamin Hershey e
that's a pretty good tactic to pickup bitches yeasah
loool
Holy moly! *COMMENTS* are more intresting than the Whole *video*
They're funnier when you've seen the video
first time youtube?
who tf says holy moly 😂
Just like your mother
shut up
Some people find "What do you do for a living?" actually an offensive question. Especially if they are someone like a housewife, are unemployed, or don't like talking about their job, you're basically forcing them to say "nothing" or talk about a topic they hate, which then again makes them feel bad.
Best conversation starter:
"Who did you vote for?"
Fuzzy Noodle no no no no no no no no no no no
well I don't live in america so no...haha
Fuzzy Noodle It'll start a conversation, alright.
I'm not from America, too. But when I met some new America friends, I did asked them that. Lol it worked. Thanks Trump for that.
That has 2 sides for me. Either I get along very well with the person or I'll look at them the same way again. If there was a third one it would be: get away from me.
*girl crying because she found out she was adopted*
"Do you wish you had a family?"
Dam
dark mate, love it
Usually orphans are happy they are adopted..
Lmao
JAjskaja
'My family is dead, is your family dead?'
leneay bro 😂😂😂
leneay 😂😂
Clorox Bleach hey didn't u leave a comment on a vid about that guy responding to feminist questions saying "feminist drink me" 😂😂
are you Sasuke?
Mathew SHURTLEFF_thunderridge yes especially when i was younger i always wanted them gone there's something about a dead family thats very fulfilling
if you dont have friends, you dont need to keep a conversation going 👍
another win for me!!1!!!!!!
Seems like everyone in the comment section learnt how keep a conversation flowing
Intresting, thought so too, I was hoping on getting advice of how to keep a covo going any tips?
Seems like you have to learn how to spell
Yes we did 😂😭
Ps I like your username 👌
Yes,the awkward clan has finally learnt...
It’s so fullfilling how they are learning so well
Me: That guy reminds me of my uncle. Is your uncle cool?
Her:My uncle shot himself.
Me:Cool,what gun did he use?
Cameron Haag awkward silence ?
Was it a Glock, I love these things. Only shot at animal heads tho.
HER : HOTGLUE GUN
Lol say, that’s horrible, what led him to suicide.
Cameron Haag 😂😂😂 im dead
fucking savage XD
Me: Hi, how are you?
Her: I'm good, how are you?
Me: I'm great, how about you?
*Mission Failed*
iver omg hahaha
oh hell nahhh
Mission failed, we get em' next time!
I've done this before while delivering pizza. Shit was awkward as hell
H
Ask them something about themselves if you can't think of anything else. Everyone's favorite topic is to talk about themselves. This will give you other things to ask questions on as they are talking
im going to assume this is where all the overthinking introverts gather.
Me too.
Haha then i'm one of them
hey there, nice to meet you 👋
Do you have a big family
Well hello there 😂
hello wassup
Me: *about to use the ford method*
Her: *using the ford method to open up*
Me: you watch the video too!? It has the funniest comm...
Her: whats your social security number?
HAHAHA OMG
You find a girl THAT funny? Marry her.
All of these comments are hilarious, and I laughed at most of them, but I was wheezing from laughter at this one. Underrated comment
The happy ending...
😂😂😂😂
I got so distracted by this comment section omg I'm crying from laughter
yea. I'm crying. best comments ever
awilunga same
This certainly stands out among the average comment section.
awilunga
Lol sameee
3:10 Never ask a teacher "What school do you teach at?" unless you want to get corrected. Instead, ask "At what school do you teach?" Better yet, "Where do you teach?" You never end a sentence with a preposition.
Me: Hey.
Him: Hi.
Me: You know, you look like you come from a big family.
Him: Not really, no.
Me: Cool, what's your social security number and credit card information?
10/10 would immediately give SSN and CCI
Zola Cero looooooool
LMFAO :))))
This is too much...i cant handle it...😂😂
All of you guys sound like your having so much fun lol
I tried the dream question with a dude I was hanging out at the beach at night with and he said: "Hm, I don't know. Did you see that episode of criminal minds where the serial killer had like a shit ton of birds and like fed the bodies to the birds?"
the fuck kinda person is this
He's a keeper
Run bitch run
did you date him
Did you fucked here?
me: you look like you come from a big family
girl: why do you think that
me: I have to go the bathroom
That's actually a good and fun way to keep the conversation
Me: Because you're on the chunky side, so your family probably have similar diets to you, fatass
😭
iNathh oh my gosh 😂
e.i mccool HAHAHAHAHA LMAO
I find one of my biggest turnoffs is people who almost immediately ask what you do for a living as soon as they meet you or very quickly after a few other questions. I prefer someone who says something about me personally (positive of course) or ask me about hobbies and other interests I have outside of work. These are the basis friendships and relationships are really based on. People who ask what you do for a living in my eyes are usually those who have no life or really any interests outside of work, those trying to impress you with their hi status job/career or gold diggers looking for a potential mate with 💸 to support them in an extravagant lifestyle.
“How to keep a conversation flowing!”
Introverts: Is it possible to learn this power?
Not from this channel. Search your feelings, you know it to be true.
The why are you watching this video Bill?
@@peterfield3673 I was curious about what it has to say. Sometimes I can learn just a TINY bit from something even if I disagree with most of the content.
The dark side is a pathway to many abilities that some consider to sound scripted.
@@peterfield3673 They're referencing Star Wars dialogue
Me: hey you see that guy over there
Her: no I'm blind
THE PLUG
Me: You look like you're blind.
Have you seen any good movies lately?
Me:
Her:
Me:
Her:
Mime convention.
THE PLUG shouldnt have said it in such a awkward way
That was awkward 😆😆😆
Me: You see that guy over there? Her: No I’m blind. Me: I didn’t see that coming, bet you didn’t either!😉
Best way to keep a conversation going? Be genuinely interested.
Wei Zhao im guessing you are really antisocial
"Be interested" isn't a button.
It's like telling a girl to "have consent".
I don't think knitting is interesting, but maybe I'll think different if I ask about their interest. I still won't be interested in knitting, but I'll at least not be faking some interest that I don't genuinely have.
If you're not interested in football and I start telling you the whole world of football, what do you do? Do you politely ask me questions whose answer isn't really interesting to you?
You'll zone out in the middle of them talking and they'll directly experience your disinterest. Then you'll lie about being interested, because you want to be "genuinely interested". To you, it's a matter of "showing interest" which is nothing more than what you were told when your attitude was to rudely moan at everything that disinterested you.
Now, instead of moaning, you put on a show where you slowly and painfully let the other person discover that you're actually not interested after you let them get enthusiastic about finding someone of shared interest. Why? Because eventually they're gonna find out that you don't have conversational flow, you don't have desire to continue the topic, but you do it anyway. This is gonna make you give short answers that create an awkward silence, it's gonna make you frustrated, it's gonna give you something akin to depression because you'll basically be in survival mode sitting there waiting for the other person to be done talking about their to-you-uninteresting topic, because you want to "genuinely be interested".
I don't have to be antisocial, dude, you can just disagree without trying to project some mental illness
i could write volumes on how great of a point i have rn.
@ Look At You Starting Conversions
Wei Zhao conversation is about nurturing another person. We’re all living through this chaotic simulation we call life. Conversation is a break from that. I think the reason you’re so uninterested is because you want something. If you have expectations you’ll keep being disappointed. Embrace the unknown
“Do you have any siblings?”
“No”
“Do you ever wish you had one?”
“Well I’ve always wanted a brother; maybe you can help with that”
*dies inside
😆
oh man this is underrated HAHA
Bangs her mum
"Sure thing!"
(proceeds to date her mom instead)
How I do small talk-
Girl: I really enjoyed the new Spider-Man movie!
Me: You know... I used to be a spider.
You should tell her you know batman commissioner Gordon
Girl: "Me too!"
Commissioner Gordon Me: Until I took eight arrows to the knees.
+nimay13 LMAO
fuck sake man 😂
"Why do you think I come from a big family?"
"Because you're brown."
Washy Rose that was great 😂😂😂😂
I like, Hey you look like you come from a family that is responsible for western imperialism and the destruction of humanity.
thank you for the tears :D
+David Monroy
Honestly, if a single family was responsible for all that, there would probably be a lot of interesting stories to tell. It would be like Extra History's interpretation of Walpole times a thousand.
like the rothchilds?
Me: "Hey how are you?".... Conversation.exe has stopped working.
Why are you recommending this to me, TH-cam? If you’re implying my people skills are trash… you’re gosh-darn right.
Me: Hey, you see that guy over there? He reminds me of my dad.
Her: There's no one there.
Me: Yeah, I know.
Her: ...
Me: Do *you* ever wish you had a dad?
NGL this is good
underrated comment XD
omg this is so funny
👏Well done bruv
😥
Person A: "What's your family like?"
Person B: "I'm an orphan"
*Awkward silence*
Hey look someone who's as bad at conversation as me!
"Hey I've always wanted to be an orphan! What do you enjoy about it?"
"When did you decide to be an orphan?"
Omg I laughed so hard at this
*steps in elevator with stranger*
Me: ....
Girl: ....
*Thinks about Ford method*
Me: so uhh... Looks like your from a big dream.. uh I mean..
Girl: ...
*Oh man oh man..*
Me: uhh.. I hear you like sports
Girl: umm excuse me? How do you know that?
Me: huh? Uhh what?.... What subject you teach?
grammar 😂
best comment 😂😂😂🤣
😂😂😂
I'm dead bruh you had me laughing hard
Haha oh man 😂 this is how social anxiety makes me feel any conversation will go
"There's nothing stronger than family"
- Dom
This comment section is hilarious. This video definitely provides some useful tips, though. Like commenting on the surroundings, making the conversation personal, and not going into interview mode.
Excellent demonstration of Active Listening here!
If the person is talking about something they are passionate about, sometimes they like the "interview mode" because it let's them talk about something they love in depth
Me: “Do you have any siblings?”
Her: “Yeah”
Me: “Yeah, same.”
*awkward silence*
Ask them if the younger one got the better genes or if they learnt from the mistakes of the older one. haha that is my only follow up to an awkward "yeah" response.
@@murraymcgregor7829 this one's good 👌
"Do you wish you didn't have any?"
You can say “my sibling is the worst”
And then she can say “yeah, same.”
Speaking about family
Me: "Hey that dude throwing up over there reminds me of my brother who drinks and throws up a lot"
her: "Umm... ok"
me: "Do you throw up often?"
Rome Dep 😂😂😂
Then priceed by saying: You look like someone who throw up alot.
If you really want to keep going just add: Or are thoose teeth a part of your british heritage?
too fucking funny lol
LMAOO
"Oh no no no. It's chill if you do! I throw up everyday..."
This is one of the most hilarious comment sections I’ve ever seen