I hate reading!! | My relationship with reading at the moment...
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ก.ย. 2024
- *I don't actually hate reading, this is just a rambly video talking through my feelings about my relationship with it at the moment.
When I feel stressed etc my ability to read goes. Are you like this too? You aren’t alone.❤️Sending love to anyone that needs it as always. Charlie x
Let’s normalise not always wanting to read and also normalise sometimes finding reading hard. These are valid parts of our community too.
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I’m sorry that you are going through this. I think audiobooks will get you through. Or just take a break, the books will call you back.
With hindsight it’s quite unrealistic to go from two books a month the last two months to thinking I could jump back in and read all the Booker books. I just get frustrated with myself. I know you are right it will come with time. Thank you Brian ❤️
Your relationship with Alice revolved around reading, so it's normal that you are trying to avoid that at the moment. I only knew her as a viewer and have had a hard time enjoying reading much of anything for many weeks. I'm now reading the most ridiculous fantasy and paranormal romance (romance and any kind of relationship story are normally the very last thing I would ever consider reading - lol) as a means of escape. Treat yourself with love and give yourself time to adapt. You may find that you enjoy types of books you've never before read. Sending hugs❤❤!
Thank you Belinda ❤️I definitely think it’s an opportunity to try books outside my reading comfort zone. I appreciate the hugs too xxx
Have been through times like this with grief and illness and Charlie just be kind to yourself. Your body will let you know when you are ready to be reading more again. Take care xx
Thank you so so much. I am ok really I just need to stop getting cross with myself for how I feel about it. ❤️
Oh `Charlie
Thank you Charlotte ❤️
I found it very difficult to read after my Mum died. There were so many books we shared, I missed telephoning her to chat about some great book I was reading and I just cried when I read. You will get your mojo back. Big books are good, as you can put them down, and when you pick them up again you still know the characters. Sending hugs.
Sending love your way too. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
Ah Charlie, I feel so sad for you. It’s absolutely natural to be struggling to do something so closely linked to your recent loss, your grief is still so fresh. Whatever you choose to do is the right decision for you. When I have experienced bereavement I’ve tended to go for books that explore loss, like Mitch Albom’s Five People You Meet In Heaven, or something funny to change the mood (John Boyne’s The Echo Chamber springs to mind). One day at a time ❤❤
Thank you Clare ❤️
I think it’s understandable reading is tied up with your grief.
I think audiobooks are a great idea. When I’m struggling I tend to stick to short books. If you have an audible account their Plus catalogue is great for short books. Also Claire Keegan and Agatha Christie are great for that.
Give it time and be kind to yourself.
I do have a trial for Audible at the moment so the plus catalogue is great idea. Thank you ❤️
We all have ups and downs with our reading and there has been a time when I have been in the mood to get rid of all my books too! It does come and go sometimes. Have you thought about maybe rereading some books you love? I also think there is nothing wrong with taking a break from reading all together for a bit -- as your love of reading is definitely connected to your memory and thoughts of Alice as well. I feel like it is part of grieving as well.
I started to find my reading groove again whilst away so hopefully as long as try and balance everything it should all be ok❤️ Thank you for being so lovely.
Good morning. I was recently diagnosed with MS. In July I started over a dozen books. I didn't finish anything. My love of reading has returned. My advice is just to relax and let it happen. Take care.
Thank you Anne❤️Sending love xxx
Hi Charlie. I'm sorry that you are experiencing this difficulty. Your video does resonate with me. When I first retired, after teaching English for 39 years, I found that I had ALL the time in the world to read and I was COMPLETELY UNABLE to concentrate on reading. There were so many terrible things going on in the district where I had spent most of my career, and I was hearing horrible things every day from my friends. I could not shut off the internal monologue/dialogue inside my head about all of this really stressful stuff. I couldn't read. It actually was audio books, as I followed along with the actual text of books, that did finally get me out of my own head and back into reading. So yes, what you are doing does resonate with me. And I also discovered booktube, and I started reading things outside of my normal, regular genres. That helped enormously too. I hope things pick up for you soon. 🥰
Thank you for sharing that Pat. I really appreciate it ❤️ I know it will get better with time ❤️
@@CharlieBrookReads It absolutely will get better with time. You've have had some very sad things happen, and you have a lot of stressors right now. Be kind to yourself. And give yourself a break. ❤
@@BookChatWithPat8668 You are so lovely Pat. ❤️
@@CharlieBrookReads well, thank you! And so are you! ❤️
Hello Charlie, I have been where you are now. Stress, emotional turmoil, etc. have all interfered with my ability to concentrate and enjoy reading.
My lovely Charlie, don't be hard on yourself. I think some of your trouble finding joy in reading is a natural process of your grieving process. It is going to take some time. 💕💕
When I have trouble reading, I read Picture Books. The art and stories help my mood. Shorter books helped. Be gently with yourself. It is perfectly fine if you read 2 books a month or even 1. Don't force anything or feel badly. It's ok. 🦋🙋🏻♀️💕💕 Sending so much love , Charlie. XXOO
Thank you Kelly 😘❤️
This sucks!! I'm so sorry you're going through this!
Thank you. I will be ok 😘❤️
I regularly say I hate reading and am never going to read again 😂😂 I usually focus on some non-fiction and just read it really slowly until i fancy something else again. hope you're doing ok, maybe those short books will help. xx Sian xx
Haha it’s definitely a mood. Looking forward to Shorty September 😘❤️
I've definitely gone through periods like this, sometimes as short as a few days, others much more sustained.
For me, I believe it's when real life has taken up too much space in a negative way in my brain; grief, anger, anxiety and stress.
My brain won't allow me to sustain concentration no matter how good the book may be. I always think watching things is different, because even if my brain defaults to the real life thing, the tv/video is plodding along anyway, so it draws me back in, whereas if I've actively looked away from the words, they won't be so forceful in enticing me back.
Yeah I think that’s exactly it with watching something. Thank you very much ❤️
Im the same when im stressed my brain just says no to reading. I find that just taking time helps ...but audiobooks are also a great thing to help getting back into them. I send hugs! Assassin's apprentice is also excellent i hope it helps
Thank you Robyn 😘❤️
Best to go with the flow and not worry about the amount , just how much your'e enjoying it, find a good narrator and listen. I often read romance when I'm slumpy, or stressed. I used to read a lot of it when the kids were small and I wasn't sleeping, I think we can put too much stress on ourselves, I'm not reading the right books or not enough reading but in times of stress, I try and remember it's fine.
That’s good advice thank you Clare ❤️
Grief can take all the joy and color out of life. The shock of losing someone as young as Alice makes it even more difficult. You can get back to reading on your own timetable.
I know you are right. Thank you Anita ❤️
@@CharlieBrookReads I lost my sister when I was 24 years old. It about broke me when it happened. Grief can take longer than you think it should, but you will get to the other side.
I still cant understand how she could die so soon
@@anitahayne8621 Sorry to hear about your sister. Really appreciate your kind words❤️
Take the time you need and read on your own schedule.😊
Thank you ❤️
Oh Charlie, I hope your love of reading comes back soon .
Thank you Angela ❤️
Things that can work for me when my reading is slumpy is rereading an old favourite or reading short stories. And anything plotty/ page turning works for me. But like others have said try not to worry about not feeling like reading, it will come back and the books will still be there 😊📚
Thank you Jen ❤️
I have definitely been here. I find it is when life is busy and my brain is overstimulated with information and I am focusing on that. I don’t have the capacity to enjoy the reading, so I stop reading. Audiobooks are a good choice for me. Alice would be encouraging you to do a different crafty thing to help you relax and not worry about the reading. We are here for you 🥰
A crafty thing is a good shout❤️
When I'm overwhelmed I switch to graphic novels and I take my time reading them. And I do a lot of apple podcast guided meditations
I want to do a graphic novel haul I think. The pod casts sound like a fab idea.
May June and July were terrible reading months for me.
August has been going very well, I completly surrendered my tbr to booktubers and have gotten great recs! Lessons in Chemistry by Bonnie Garmus 5☆, Jamaica Inn by Daphne du Maurier 4.5☆, She Would be King by Wayétu Moore 4.5☆, the Beauty by Aliya Whitley 4.5☆, Parable of the Sower by Octavia E Butler 4☆.
My most anticipated one is The Last Tale of The Flower Bride by Roshani Chokshi (Hoping for 5☆)
My best fantasy book of the year was The Witch's Heart by Genevieve Gornichec highly recommend its even a standalone!
If you want recs to push you out of your comfort zone, point me in a direction and I'll find some.
I make up my own reading events, september is going to be Dinofoxtember bc I have a surplus of Dinosaur and fox books lol.
The Fossil Hunter by Tea Cooper takes place in Australia
You are literally the CUTEST/loveliest person Zach. I am pleased your August is going well. Sounds like some fantastic books. Dinofoxtember is such a cool idea. I love how creative you are.
I’m so sorry about you and reading. I’ve read about 4 books this month as well, but that’s quite normal. Sending all the love your way.
Thank you Shelly❤️
That’s awful, Charlie! I’m so sorry. I can’t give you advice from personal experience because that hasn’t happened to me, not a day in my life. But I’m sure reading will come back to you, since you’re such a big reader! ❤
I love that you get so much comfort from reading Leo. That’s just so lovely ❤️
I'm sorry Charlie. I have definitely experienced this. Something that helps me is children's book. I always find them a comfort and a good distraction. I'll usually go to the library and get a stack of picture books to bring home. I love how the illustrations and the simple stories have this ability to ground me in stressful times. Sometimes graphic novels work too, as long as the subject matter isn't too heavy. It's ok if nothing speaks to you. You'll find your way back to books.
I am always at the library so picking up a stack of picture books is a fab idea❤️Thank you Arianne ❤️
Grief comes for all of us in different ways and if reading doesn’t work for you right now, that’s okay! Don’t force it, step away and do other things and reading will come back when you’re ready ❤️
Thank you Victoria ❤️
Be kind to yourself Charlie. When stress affects my reading I find nonfiction easier to read for some reason. Sending you lots of love.
Thank you. I love non fiction so I definitely want to read some more ❤️
You are not alone! I’ve been leaning into ‘not reading’ rather than beating myself up about it. I’m putting books down temporarily and/or dnf’ing at a ridiculous rate. I stopped adding things to Goodreads and storygraph (I was trying to keep up with both like an idiot). I’ve now started adding only things I finish otherwise my currently reading shelf would be ridiculous. It’s been getting easier for me these past few weeks but mainly because I leant into being ok with not reading and I’m also working on the principle that I need to be captivated otherwise I won’t want to pick up my current read so if I start something and it’s not pulling me in straight away , then it’s a dnf (in some cases dnfy as I recognise it’s my mood and not necessarily the book) but I just want to be totally captivated. Katie’s book captivated me, Sparrow has currently captivated me. A couple of children’s books have and some picture books. But I’ve got tons of books I’ve started and dnf’d or half way done. You’ll get there. My biggest bit of advice would be avoid the booker but that’s not practical for you 😉 😂
Everything you’ve said is so so right. I know you know me really well too. You always give the best advice ❤️
Maybe you could reread a favorite or two, books you know you love.
Thank you Jim. Re-reading some favourites is a good suggestion ❤️
Lianne Morriaty, Marrianne Keyes and Anne Cleeves always help me.
I haven’t read any Lianne Moriarty in years maybe I should try ❤️Thank you for the suggestions xxx
I would say, don't pressure yourself to read at all if you don't feel like it. Things will change in time.
Thank you Janet ❤️
never clicked on a video so fast, desperately need this kind of support group right now! I can start books no problem but can’t seem to finish them, same with series - might need to dig out some short stories and give those a go instead ♥️
Thank you lovely. Definitely got to be kind to ourselves ❤️Sending hugs your way xxx
You are actually reading loads! Hate is a strong word - I think you are just not getting much satisfaction from the books you are reading and not finding any inspiration on your shelves. I'm the same. So I've been looking at cookery books and gardening books,and I mean looking,not necessarily reading! And I've gone to my old favourites and re read Anne Tyler and Joanna Trollope,easy,comfortable old friends. How about poetry? Not a lot of words but packs a punch and can really help get things in proportion if you are feeling stressed. My old tutor at college used to quote ' a poem is a stay against disorder' and I've found that good advice. I sat down next to my poetry shelf most days when Alice was ill and just calmed myself with a poem or two. Also try children's books - you probably have some old favourites in the house! But above all be kind to yourself and take it easy. 😻
You are completely right. Hate is probably the wrong word but it’s like that gritty gut feeling towards something. I will definitely try children’s books /poetry books ❤️
My poor Charlie. You know I’m the opposite and I read more but I’m finding it harder to love books that I’m reading at the moment. Sending hugs 💜💜💜💜 xxxx
Love you Emy ❤️
Don’t force it matey, when your brain is ready it will come back 🧡 (and I will keep trying to give you FOMO in the meantime 😜😈)
😘❤️
I’m sorry to hear you are struggling right now. I found myself in a reading slump last month after breaking my leg and needing surgery while on vacation with my children. I finally had all the time in the world to read, but I couldn’t concentrate on anything. After starting and DNFing a few books and consuming far too much booktube in between, I decided to try reading some lighter, easier audiobooks. It was what worked for me! My favourite and the one I’d recommend most is Sandwich- Catherine Newman. It’s a short, easy heartwarming page turner about a woman who is part of the “sandwich generation” on vacation with her young adult children and her aging parents, and all the life changes she’s going through in this new phase of life, including menopause and what it is doing to her body and mind. Is it the best book I’ve ever read? No, but it was very enjoyable and was what I needed to bring me out of my slump.
Hopefully you are back to doing what you love soon!
Thank you Katriana. How are you doing now? Breaking your leg sounds awful!! I have taken note of your recommendation. Sending you loads of love too ❤️😘❤️
@@CharlieBrookReadsI should be back on both feet in the next few weeks, thank you for asking! Just a little bump in the road in the grand scheme of things!
@@katrianamacmillan3342 Just take it easy ❤️
You are grieving lovely. I would suggest you do “re reads through audio maybe but just give yourself grace
Re reads through audio is a really good idea. I did re listen to Small Joys in July and I still loved that so you are probably right ☺️❤️
Sorry would it be do able to read some of Alice’s favourites? Or too painful when my great aunt died who got me into reading died I read all her favourites and cried my way through. I also read all the children’s books she bought she left a note saying I was to have first pick off her book shelves and she left me witty words about ones when thought I should take. And that she expected me to pick a couple or ornaments to become my book ends 😂
Obviously she was a fair age and knew she was going to die du to illneee but it brought comfort to read her books 😁
Sorry for your loss ❤️So sweet that your great Aunt wanted you to be the first to go through her shelves. Quite an honour.
I am going to participate in Agatha for Alice and read one Agatha Christie a month so for the moment I think that’s the best I can aim for with that although next year I might try and go back through her favourites.