INTP here! I have heard a lot about the INTP-INFJ pairing and have been trying to learn more about INFJ's. It has been super interesting to me that so many INFJ's have the same vibe. I don't think I have any INFJ's in my life right now, at least that I know of, but the sincerity and depth that they tend to bring is so valuable to me. As an INTP I want to be the most authentic version of myself without worry about judgement and this type generally does well at that. Sounds like this pairing is also great for any number of long conversations about whatever topic is on tap that day.
You were 100% on this one!! You literally covered everything I could say about this topic! I’ll share that my sister is INTJ and it’s been amazing growing with her because as you mentioned our introverted intuition often confuses the normal people but she would get my disjointed thoughts and I’d get hers! This is why growing up was so bearable for me. However in intimate relationships I was never ever able to find an INTJ that I really clicked with. They can be terribly paranoid and misread all your actions and be very selfish, but of course these are more the non healthy traits. As soon as you mentioned ENFJ it’s like you were reading my mind! My longest relationship was with an ENFJ. The major difficulties we had revolved around this authenticity you mentioned. I always felt she wasn’t being true and I often questioned a lot. She was very shady too but not in a malicious way if that makes sense. I have a lot of ENFJ friends and they all seem to have a bit of this, but they are really amazing happy people that can go deep! I ended up marrying an INFP for all the reasons you stated here. I feel so comfortable around INFP even tho our brains actually work very differently but come to similar conclusions in life. It can actually be challenging relationship that if any INFJ can conquer it will make you a much better person because an INFP will challenge you in parts of yourself that you are not usually diving into. They are also the most misleading type in how smart they really are outside of all the emotions they swim in. INTP have also been amazing for me. And ENFP are super fun!! And u described them perfectly haha! But I also never felt too much of a deep connection cause they flip around with energy so much it’s hard to keep them engaged in one topic for too long haha. I could go on and on…. Again thanks for you insights it’s always inspiring 💫
Hahaha glad we are so similar! Spot on with all your observations! It's funny how infj also seem to attract similar experiences from on person the the next. I've pretty much had the same experiences as you 😂 great comment
I am glad to hear your takes on these types Amy. Here you bring up great strengths and compatibility based on your experiences. Which is great! You also describe the ENFP enthusiasm and passion for creativity and expression of that really well. But never forget that the depth is there and so much more also. ENFP here. Been growing up with INFJs, INTJs, ENTPs. Some of my absolute favorite mentors in life have been INTJs and some of the deepest connections I have had is with INFJs. Both creatively, psychologically, philosophically, spiritually. To have those moments to just be and breathe or walk out in nature and share how we see the world is truly sometimes from the opposite spectrum of the kaleidoscope as you mentioned, the flowing highs and lows of it all. To inspire and motivate one another in creative endeavors, wanting to see someone else grow in the direction they want to grow have always been deeply meaningful to me and I feel that the INFJs I have in my life also want that for others. To be able to see the others shadow without judgement but instead lend a deeper understanding to one another is something I have been most comfortable with INFJs. Since the connection sort of works as a reflective shimmering water surface which both know you can dive deeper into if both are interested and curious to do so. By simply being both the ENFP and INFJ grows together naturally. And if both are at the same wavelength and frequency, the vibrations resonate strongly. If not, then the other lifts the other one up naturally by bringing in understanding and support. I am fortunate to have been through both darker aspects of the types but also the brightest. Now as an INFJ, if you ever feel like you have not had a deeper connection with an ENFP, ask yourself if you are comfortable to open up to that level yourself. Knowing yourself, trusting yourself. To be comfortable in your own body, mind and soul to be able to open up to those deeper depths, without the fear of being judged, misunderstood etc. It might just be that the ENFP sees that level of tension within the INFJ and feels that and is holding back to wait and see if the INFJ grows more comfortable naturally with them. Of course there is so much more to it. But worth deep diving into and look beyond. Looking forward to more videos and creations about everything or nothing. Keep on creating and exploring. It is worth growing in those directions you want to grow. Feel free and stretch those branches out Amy.
@solgast Yes, in this video I am mostly strictly referring to the difference between Ni and Ne. From an INFJ standpoint, ENFP can come across as more scattered and eclectic in their interests and never truly unfolding the Ni depths of a subject matter at hand. I believe their Fi gives them great depths in many ways though. Some have taken issue with me saying this haha but it's been true of my ENFP friends that they never quite reach or understand the depths of our intuition in a satisfying way. When the personality type is mature though, it's more likely they have expanded this territory or at least know how to listen to it. I currently have 2 ENFP in my inner circle and they're still growing and learning how to truly understand this. What do you believe is the more accurately defined weak spot for the personality in terms of a relationship with INFJ?
@@amy-lyne Yeah, I see. I believe that when any type give themselves the time to introspect and listen to their inner silence and bringing their own depths to surface, insights and wisdom comes from that. But that requires patience and sitting with oneself through discomforting feelings also. Facing and integrating parts of oneself is ultimately what unites us and brings that wholeness into a beautiful expanding state of bloom. I feel that with ENFPs and INFJs that synchronize well, those depths can be reached naturally and in my experience there is immense growth from that. Oh yes. There needs to be time and space for that growth and maturity to blossom. If any of the types come from a stressful inner or outer environment or base actions and decisions out of fear, paranoia or even feeling threatened, negative loops will grow instead of understanding for one another. Thanks, really interesting question! I also have 2 ENFPs in my life. The short answer is realizations & wisdom from inner growth. Growing from their own experiences of life and integrating that. Let them grow, in their own ways. Mistakes and happy little accidents will happen hopefully for the better of that growth. This comes from my perspective of natural growth based on the harmony of the nurture and ones inner nature. In some cases the nature can be above nurture and vice versa. Meaning that there might be an unbalance of some sort. So yes, time and growth is the key to further solidify deep understandings and wisdom. In my life, there was multiple times where I had to unlearn a lot to make space for new amazing experiences to take place instead. When it comes to INFJs, I have 4 INFJs in my life. I have seen them struggle with living rather than being. Society structures etc. Because they are stuck in loops of surviving instead of living. So some have been closer to that fight or flight. And ultimately that leads them down paths of forgoliving or self-destructive behaviors. When you mentioned INFJs can see ENFPs as scattered it reminded me of some INFJs feeling lost and that is a scattering or fragmentation in itself right? In my experience, the perfectionist tendencies of the INFJs have also drained their batteries so much that it leaves no energy left for socializing or living afterwards. Stuck in what feels as obligations towards others? I have seen premature judgements from INFJs that comes from a far too narrow lane also. Almost to the point of being close minded. Which ultimately can spiral the INFJ into projecting that perfectionism outward, demanding and pushing their needs on others. My questions are, what do you believe is the key to opening up opportunities for INFJs growth in life and what are some of the main motivating factors that can give them that growth? I would be glad to hear your answer to this and also from the perspective of more INFJs. Also feel free to open up these questions to anyone of your INFJ circles or use these questions for upcoming videos. It would be deeply interesting to hear in future shadow work videos or even podcasts.
@solgast haha so I looked up what the typical INFJ/ENFP struggled might be and they mentioned the issue with extroversion/introversion pairing and also the occasional scattered-ness of ENFP, and the over-caution of INFJ. They may also have an issue with confronting each other since they are so agreeable! I can confirm that my ENFP brother was very messy as well 😂 that was our main strife in my household and he would make me nervous with how out-of-the-box he was with other people. Of all my siblings, I think we had the most conflict, but it was difficult to have confronting talks since we were also so agreeable, so I could see that being an issue. For INFJ growth, I had to work on bringing my depths out in the open and sharing them with the world, so there's some responsibility on our end to be able to do that. When I'm Ni-Ti "cold", I just see people as a collection of archetypes and patterns that fit into my story in a way that I don't genuinely care about them. I have to Ni-Fe "warm" snap out of it, and ENFP's are great for helping us with that.
My sister is INTJ. Outspoken is an understatement. Sugar coating is not given a chance for there to be a thought as to how others may feel about what was said is that she clearly spoke her mind... whether others the stomach for it or not. brutally honest with an unmoved expression. She can become highly sarcastic when annoyed to the point that immediate company is potentially fair game. She has a difficult time with her own and others' emotions. She means well.
@brianhales1416 haha yes, the bluntness can be a cringe to the sensitive infj. I forgot to mention that as a potential downside 😅 "they mean well" is exactly right
The authenticity part is huge. It's part of the reason I try to think of ways to speedrun past the small talk phase. Much of its content relies on pleasantries and socially safe scripts which feels like the person is being inauthentic / lying. I know lying is commonly thought of in one dimension but I think my definition is a touch more elaborate than most consider and consists of 4 parts: 1. Spoken lie of commission - When one tells a known falsehood (most common definition) 2. Acted out lie of commission - When one acts in a way inauthentic to who they are (Externally pressured or self-manipulating personas) 3. Spoken lie of omission - When one refuses to speak a contextually necessary known truth (A form of narrative manipulation) 4. Acted out lie of omission - When one hides their true nature or intention by suppressing their actions (Shame or fear based repression / could also be hiding exploitative intentions) The common theme I see with lies are that they are a form of control. Control their own image, control information, control the narrative, control situations, control people. I feel that, especially in a relationship, control and trust are inversely proportional. The more a person feels they need to control or manipulate someone, it's usually because their trust in that person is very low. If you can't trust the other, then a power dynamic is created and you are no longer partners (on the same level) with the other person. At that point you are either an abuser or an enabler.
@reyne-soundtherapy469 great analysis of the most common "lie" tactics. How interesting that INFJ can detect what's below the surface even if it's just the simple thing of leaving something out (ommission). I've always felt the safest with honest personalities
I’m an ENFP that just came across this channel. Pretty amazing and I’m only two videos in. Your perspective and explanation is on point. Truly awesome.
As an INTJ (Male) who has become close with many ENFPs (Female), we don't have creative talk like you mentioned, we have more deep talk that you said doesn't happen often. I'm wondering if it's just me or maybe it's a difference that is common between the INFJ or INTJ and the ENFP relationship? I'm attracted to the ENFP personality type the most and we seem to just find and attract to each other. They help us come out of our shell where we are much more open to new ideas and feel open to show our Se Fi side, while like you said, we give them "groundedness and stability in a structured order". I've found that they really struggle to narrow down their options and choices, so they often come to me for guidance which is one of the most heart warming things that you can do to an INTJ. INTJs love to help someone who wants to improve in something, solve a problem, or narrow down decisions. They help us get out and have more experiences, try new things, meet new people, while we help them stay more focused towards a long term goal or ambition that they want but struggle to stick with long enough to make a reality.
@Weakkneez yes, I guess it depends on what you mean by "deep". In this video, I am mostly referring to Ni (depth) vs Ne (expansive), but I believe they also have great Fi depths. For my brothers, it was probably just a little boy thing to be making explosive fireworks in the backyard 😂. I agree and get what you're saying, though 🦋. I would also imagine a romantic partner for ENFP would be different as well. I've only had them as friends and family.
Were you reading my mind?! I react exactly the same as you do to these types. I'm actually married to an ESTJ and they really are polar opposites in every imaginable way. I've lost count of the times that, when I present a REALLY interesting piece of information, I've been asked, "And what am I supposed to do with that?" Extroverted sensing in someone is a real conversation killer!! Interestingly, our two daughters are an INTJ and an ENFP. The former understands me and we can be really weird around each other in a good way. I do like her sister too, she's externally a lot of fun but exhausting. When I began looking at my friends, I found either INFJs or ENFJs. I absolutely love being in the company of ENFJs. They are instantly recognisable since we have lots in common but seem to suppress the very best of what they are in order to please other people, which I find odd. INFJs do that too sometimes, but in a way that doesn't undermine their own credibility. I do trust them though, and find I can talk to them about anything. INFJs as friends are good too, but while they'll happily share information, they're stuck inside their own heads too much (as am I!), which is why we need E types to bring us out into the world.
@barryx23 i love everything you said 🦋 that INTJ/ENFP duo is so fun to be around. My brothers had a rough start though and didn't like each other at first hahaha they warm up to each other eventually. Great comment 💛
what an interesting family. Your parents must be very thoughtful people. Often ENFP are somewhere down the line in a bigger family. But you guys have a lot of the rare, INFJ and INTJ and ENFJ, wow !
@muma6559 I feel incredibly fortunate to have had thoughtful parents who academically and spiritually disciplined us. It is incredibly rare for a family of 6. My parents' greatest gift to me has been my 3 siblings as well. Haha my mom was a middle child (as am I), and my dad was the youngest. They showed no favoritism, which was nice.
@@amy-lyne Well ! That explains a lot. I would check whether your dad really is an ISTJ as they are often the eldest boy. But your mum makes total sense.... when you are in the middle you know everything about fairness and justice and it seems she endeavored to do just that ! How fortunate you all are. I had a domineering ENTJ mum, the other end of the scale. Sensors can have intuitive babies and vice versa, how interesting! I was somewhere in the middle of nine kids and every one of us has a different personality.
😂 interesting observation. I always felt firstborns are more extroverted (and bossy like my sister 🤭🤫 she's ENFJ). My family has 4 sets of 4 kids across my cousins, and the eldest is usually a leader style extrovert.
@@amy-lyne that's very interesting. ENFJs do tend to be a bit bossy by nature, i think they mean well if they are healthy. INFJ not so much, we like to be open minded and observe. It sounds like your family dynamics were a lot more healthy. I find that interesting. Especially the part where two introverted people (ISFJ and ISTJ) have an eldest child who is extraverted (ENFJ) and intuitive. So different to themselves. I wonder if they were out of their comfort zones at the time. You can ask your mum. Have fun !
I wouldn’t stress about the video skills too much. That’ll all come in due time. Your audio is quality and that matters greatly. Keep experimenting. We’re with you regardless. 🙏😁 Edit: love the art in this video as well. Goes perfectly with the subject matter.
I can confirm.. i have an INFP boyfriend and our struggle is that i need to plan things like a year in advance haha. Hes very laid back and doesnt plan. Im organized, he isnt. Im tidy, he isnt. Im future thinking, hes present. Hes super introverted, and im more of an ambivert. I get things done, hes a procrastinator. Butttt he is my best friend, we laugh so much, we connect well, we have a lot in common, similar hobbies, same humor. We just have opposite functions which sucks and its a challenge but we are working on commincating everyday.
Hey, Amy! I found your channel yesterday. How did your get so lucky as to be born in a family with so many intuitives 😮 I was stuck with sensors who constantly attacked my Ni and exploted my Fe. I have been wondering for a long time what a parson I would've been today, had been raised atound intuitives. Would you feel like making a video specifically about
@schmitzkaylee thank you 🦋 I actually have a strong affinity for ISFP haha it's been awhile since I've had one in my life. Their essence is delicate and kind but wild like a wildflower 🌼
I think my parents are INTJ and ENFP, my partner is INFP, my sister is INFP, and my Brother is INTP. My best friend is also an INFJ and her partner is an INTP. Who I also get along with very well. I think I love NF, NT the most. I get along with most people very well.
Have you found how nature's seasons can affect personality types? Living in Calgary, where the majority of the year is winter, I find myself pushed into introversion. Infj. However, as soon as summer hits, I am a full blown ENFJ. I feel these personality types aren't fixed. What do you think?
@R.CHIZ.Creative yes, I think many are on the border of certain functions. I tend to fluctuate between INTJ/INFJ due to my workplace. There's definitely an environmental factor as well and the spectrum is more apparent when you're around certain types of people
You touched on a lot and I’m liking that cinematic setting on your video. Thats top shelf 🙃 I haven’t the foggiest idea what personality types pair well 😅 but, I know what you mean about essence. I have a strong… idk… intuitive/feeling/sensory … something 😅 I almost don’t like putting words to it… it’s like describing a sunset instead of looking at it, with more than eyes. I also knew a guy for a time that… kinda burned me out on describing things so maybe I’m still recovering from that 🙃 now I just want to point and go “yeah yknow… that thing… over there with the things? Jollly good” 🙃 We started a podcast for a little bit and one thing he said prior was “I want to skip the feeling and go straight to the knowing”. With conviction. If he had a gavel, he might’ve struck it on the table 😅
Yes, I find when it comes to relationship pairings, essence is what matters most! But it's nice to be with someone who won't shut down all your thoughts and feelings 🦋 any mature type should be a good listening ear but some are better than others
@@amy-lyne i couldn’t agree more. This guy was, and I quote, “high on the spectrum for narcissism” so… 😬 Being a spiritually oriented type, and due to how we met I was like “ok… is this like… a test or something? Is there a way to live free with a narcissist?” It may have been but nope. Thats just not how the pathology works (idk about calling it a pathology … but that’s how it’s described by the clinically accredited pontificators 🙃) Also, I understand now, a lot more intimately as opposed to empathically, where a lot of complaints about … pushy men regarding women come from because… this guy was… I’ll put it this way, on one hand it was kind of flattering because… I’ve never been uhm… It’s a whole other vibe when a woman likes you and when a… possessive guy does 😬 scarier too… scary from either gender but this was… 😬It wasn’t at first but after awhile… yikes. I’m not bi or anything like that so I was just like “ah… no thanks.. but thanks! 😅” … But this… didn’t seem to make any difference. Anyway, I tried to … idk somehow find some degree of homeostasis because we attended the same functions and I met him through my father figure so… I tried. But… 😬 no dice Had to grey rock and soft no contact … and some
So I've spent several years studying MBTI and trying to place the people in my life somewhere within those boxes, as well as myself. For smart people or really feely AND smart people, it has been difficult for me to do that, especially since I work with a diverse group of really smart engineers. I've almost given up personally with regards to typcasting people in my life because of this, and instead, I think I've started acting on instinct more, which I think is more healthy in the long run. For me, I think it's a matter of living in the moment and being true and present vs. being in a mindset where Im trying to figure everyone out and what their intentions are and thus being stuck. That's just my experience :) "Lateralus" by Tool has been helpful here in understanding more of these aspects of myself.
Yes, I think at a point you no longer need the tools to really understand yourself, but MBTI is a great gateway for self-awareness. It's still helpful when you first meet someone and are trying to get to know them because it can show a lot but it can also close your mind to their true nature. I get what you mean 🦋
My aunt is an ESTJ and she takes every chance to criticize or subliminally attack me, or what i do, what i don't do. That happens when she is stressed. She needs a full calendar, always busy. And she once said "Sleep is not important, i can sleep when i'm dead." Typical for that personality type. Thank god I only see her a few times a year. INFJ + ESTJ = 🚫
An ENFJ sister with INTJ and ENFP brothers 🙀🙀🙀 you won the lottery for best siblings and infj could ask for with that combo 💜 i have an ESTP sister and ISFP brother we cant be more different 😅😅 relationship wise I would want another FJ maybe oneday
@@amy-lyne btw my mother is a retired telecommunication engineer & my father was an electrical engineer,,, i am not an engineer but i am an infj too so I instantly was drawn to your channel coz of these few similarities 🫣,, keep uploading 💞 warm wishes from Amman 🇯🇴
I'm INFJ and I have a twin sister who is an INFP and a younger sister who is an ENFP. Our mom is also an ENFP and dad is ISTJ. We are a diplomat dominant house haha! All we need is an ENFJ and the gang is all there. What about everyone saying ENTP and INFJ? So, I'm an INFJ 1w2 and I met a guy who is also INFJ 1w2 and we really get along. But is it too similar or is that a good thing, since we're so rare? Would it hinder growth or help it? I prefer intuitive types, and I tend to like a guy who is a feeling type, because my dad is not, and when I met this guy I was blown away by his level of warmth and caring nature. I was like, wow, these guys do exist.
@mirandaalaine Sounds like a fun household. How funny, I tend to like "feeling" types too since my dad is an istj but there was so much to love about his pragmatism. When it comes to picking a person, I find it hard to turn someone down on the basis of personality alone (although sometimes that's the case haha). You usually know who you're drawn too. A lot of growth can be accomplished with infjs too 🦋
@@amy-lyne I always bonded with my dad growing up because he’s also 1w2 and the whole J thing in general I guess. We have a special relationship because I’m like him in many ways. I’ve never dated before and I’m 27, but I always knew I’d be behind in that department because I’m so serious about who gets to be that close to me, at the same time I love people and open up fast with the right ones. I always trust the vibes on people. Your body knows often before you. Do you feel anxiety with them or just an “off-ness” or do you feel ease and peace? With the INFJ I felt comfort. I felt a strong sense of familiarly and he said that too. He said he wasn’t nervous because I wasn’t (and I really wasn’t).
@mirandaalaine I'll probably do a whole video on INFJ dating. I think it's something we (often rightfully) overthink. Thank you for sharing 🦋 it's good to know the experiences of my viewers, and I resonate with what you wrote.
@@amy-lyne I feel so glad I found your channel! What’s your enneagram? Everything you say resonates. I even had food/body issues and found that video helpful as well. So thank you! 🦋 🦋
@@amy-lyne for me, I noticed that I heavily study human behavior and psychology. I apply that to society and how we function as one. Which leads into overthinking. I try not to define myself as an INFJ though because if I do I feel boxed in I have found that over the years as I recognize my differences from others, I am able to grow more and appreciate myself more
That's intresting I was just thinking about that a few days ago! Have you read 5 love languages? Been wondering if there is other dimensions of compatabilty like hobbies.🤔 and other things.
@@amy-lyne okay cool I'll check it out! I get the impression it would make for an interesting conversation! Maybe later if You Want to I'd love brainstorm that topic....I've read alot of psychology books too
@haseebjaved2516 it might be my own relationship with my brother and friends. He can be deep. It's just not the type of relationship we have specifically 🤷♀️. Might also depend on what you consider to be "deep". For some, it means "idea talk". For others, it means trauma talk hahaha 🦋. In this video, I am mostly referring to the difference between Ni (depth) and Ne (expansive). I believe ENFP Fi gives them great depths too though.
@POVofanENFP Hey, cool videos! For my next several topics, I might be expanding outside of MBTI subjects for a bit and seeing where they take me, so maybe not the right timing. Thanks for watching 🦋😌
The ESTJ, from my experience can talk about the facts around their experiences or stories but when it comes to their feelings or intentions the information here is very sparse. What would normally spark a wide array of potential emotions from others gets reduced down to, "That was weird..." or "I did(n't) like that..." The ESTJ personality type is the furthest thing from their own inner world at every letter and so they tend to have difficulty communicating or even understanding their core selves.
INTJ, here. "They don't care what people think about them...". What do you think Te Extraverted Thinking is? It's literally what other people are thinking...
@BasedGodEmperorTrump appreciate the comment 🦋. Actually, according to the cognitive functions, extroverted thinking (Te) is about organizing the external world with systems and logic to achieve efficiency. Generally speaking, Te users will care more about the logic of a situation over other people's emotions, so archetypically speaking, INTJ's are the masterminds of the room who articulate the truth at the expense of other people's emotions. My brother is healthy, though, and is tactful in how he does this. I've noticed that a developed Fi makes them very caring people as well, so "caring what other people think of them" would more likely be a product of that function.
@Art-d4m Yes, it's a mystery how these things work out. My dad, as an introvert, loved having people over though so we were well socialized. My parents both mutually believed academics were a priority for my family, so I believe there was a large "nurture" component to my upbringing and why we gravitate to abstract thinking. Their generation did much of the hard work already for breaking unhealthy patterns. I'm a lucky one.
@@amy-lyne You have a very interesting family to do a research on :) I never researched this before but always though that we genetically get those qualities like sensor/intuitive type and introvert/extravert but with your case I am not sure anymore. Do you know mbti types of your grandparents? Also I am super interested to know if you had a chance to research natal charts (western and vedic astrology) of your brother and sisters to see any indication of introversion/extraversion, intuition and other relatable qualities? Just trying to understand if this is genetics or date, time and place of birth does make a difference.
@Art-d4m I believe my grandparents were INFJ/ESFJ and ENFJ/ESFJ. It's difficult to pinpoint personality to any single cause. My brothers, for instance, are open-minded but rather ambivalent to spirituality, whereas I had a strong affinity and interest.
@@amy-lyne most of my life I never thought about spirituality because my mind has been occupied with school then work and making money to give my parents (my Mom especially) the best life but then my Mom got sick and died on my hands from cancer. That triggered a lot of transformation inside of me and my focus shifted from the material superficial world to spiritual. I found many answers about this and my life in general in vedic astrology. The life for me feels like that movie Matrix, where I understand what is going on, I see how everything works, I know how people function, I see the patterns where everything is going - I know that I am already unplugged from this physical world but must wait for the phone to ring to get out.
@Newgrist Yes, in my earlier videos, I talk about how my whole family of 6 is in engineering. My parents like STEM careers haha but I always liked the liberal arts. I have a very developed Te as a result. As for me, when people come on my channel and comment, I can usually pick out the "INFJ" based on the depth of their engagement (Ni), the focus of it (Fe), and the level of thoughtfulness (Ti). Comments of this nature.. we'll, I consider them ESTJ's 😉🦋. There's nothing wrong being an ESTJ.
I like listening to INFJs, because they know what they're talking about.
INTP here! I have heard a lot about the INTP-INFJ pairing and have been trying to learn more about INFJ's. It has been super interesting to me that so many INFJ's have the same vibe. I don't think I have any INFJ's in my life right now, at least that I know of, but the sincerity and depth that they tend to bring is so valuable to me. As an INTP I want to be the most authentic version of myself without worry about judgement and this type generally does well at that. Sounds like this pairing is also great for any number of long conversations about whatever topic is on tap that day.
I know you're an INFJ because I understand the way you explain things.
"a very comfortable quietness" together
You were 100% on this one!! You literally covered everything I could say about this topic! I’ll share that my sister is INTJ and it’s been amazing growing with her because as you mentioned our introverted intuition often confuses the normal people but she would get my disjointed thoughts and I’d get hers! This is why growing up was so bearable for me. However in intimate relationships I was never ever able to find an INTJ that I really clicked with. They can be terribly paranoid and misread all your actions and be very selfish, but of course these are more the non healthy traits.
As soon as you mentioned ENFJ it’s like you were reading my mind! My longest relationship was with an ENFJ. The major difficulties we had revolved around this authenticity you mentioned. I always felt she wasn’t being true and I often questioned a lot. She was very shady too but not in a malicious way if that makes sense. I have a lot of ENFJ friends and they all seem to have a bit of this, but they are really amazing happy people that can go deep!
I ended up marrying an INFP for all the reasons you stated here. I feel so comfortable around INFP even tho our brains actually work very differently but come to similar conclusions in life. It can actually be challenging relationship that if any INFJ can conquer it will make you a much better person because an INFP will challenge you in parts of yourself that you are not usually diving into. They are also the most misleading type in how smart they really are outside of all the emotions they swim in. INTP have also been amazing for me. And ENFP are super fun!! And u described them perfectly haha! But I also never felt too much of a deep connection cause they flip around with energy so much it’s hard to keep them engaged in one topic for too long haha. I could go on and on…. Again thanks for you insights it’s always inspiring 💫
Hahaha glad we are so similar! Spot on with all your observations! It's funny how infj also seem to attract similar experiences from on person the the next. I've pretty much had the same experiences as you 😂 great comment
I am glad to hear your takes on these types Amy. Here you bring up great strengths and compatibility based on your experiences. Which is great! You also describe the ENFP enthusiasm and passion for creativity and expression of that really well. But never forget that the depth is there and so much more also. ENFP here. Been growing up with INFJs, INTJs, ENTPs. Some of my absolute favorite mentors in life have been INTJs and some of the deepest connections I have had is with INFJs. Both creatively, psychologically, philosophically, spiritually. To have those moments to just be and breathe or walk out in nature and share how we see the world is truly sometimes from the opposite spectrum of the kaleidoscope as you mentioned, the flowing highs and lows of it all. To inspire and motivate one another in creative endeavors, wanting to see someone else grow in the direction they want to grow have always been deeply meaningful to me and I feel that the INFJs I have in my life also want that for others. To be able to see the others shadow without judgement but instead lend a deeper understanding to one another is something I have been most comfortable with INFJs. Since the connection sort of works as a reflective shimmering water surface which both know you can dive deeper into if both are interested and curious to do so. By simply being both the ENFP and INFJ grows together naturally. And if both are at the same wavelength and frequency, the vibrations resonate strongly. If not, then the other lifts the other one up naturally by bringing in understanding and support. I am fortunate to have been through both darker aspects of the types but also the brightest.
Now as an INFJ, if you ever feel like you have not had a deeper connection with an ENFP, ask yourself if you are comfortable to open up to that level yourself. Knowing yourself, trusting yourself. To be comfortable in your own body, mind and soul to be able to open up to those deeper depths, without the fear of being judged, misunderstood etc. It might just be that the ENFP sees that level of tension within the INFJ and feels that and is holding back to wait and see if the INFJ grows more comfortable naturally with them. Of course there is so much more to it. But worth deep diving into and look beyond.
Looking forward to more videos and creations about everything or nothing. Keep on creating and exploring. It is worth growing in those directions you want to grow.
Feel free and stretch those branches out Amy.
@solgast Yes, in this video I am mostly strictly referring to the difference between Ni and Ne. From an INFJ standpoint, ENFP can come across as more scattered and eclectic in their interests and never truly unfolding the Ni depths of a subject matter at hand. I believe their Fi gives them great depths in many ways though. Some have taken issue with me saying this haha but it's been true of my ENFP friends that they never quite reach or understand the depths of our intuition in a satisfying way. When the personality type is mature though, it's more likely they have expanded this territory or at least know how to listen to it. I currently have 2 ENFP in my inner circle and they're still growing and learning how to truly understand this. What do you believe is the more accurately defined weak spot for the personality in terms of a relationship with INFJ?
@@amy-lyne Yeah, I see. I believe that when any type give themselves the time to introspect and listen to their inner silence and bringing their own depths to surface, insights and wisdom comes from that. But that requires patience and sitting with oneself through discomforting feelings also. Facing and integrating parts of oneself is ultimately what unites us and brings that wholeness into a beautiful expanding state of bloom. I feel that with ENFPs and INFJs that synchronize well, those depths can be reached naturally and in my experience there is immense growth from that. Oh yes. There needs to be time and space for that growth and maturity to blossom. If any of the types come from a stressful inner or outer environment or base actions and decisions out of fear, paranoia or even feeling threatened, negative loops will grow instead of understanding for one another.
Thanks, really interesting question! I also have 2 ENFPs in my life. The short answer is realizations & wisdom from inner growth. Growing from their own experiences of life and integrating that. Let them grow, in their own ways. Mistakes and happy little accidents will happen hopefully for the better of that growth. This comes from my perspective of natural growth based on the harmony of the nurture and ones inner nature. In some cases the nature can be above nurture and vice versa. Meaning that there might be an unbalance of some sort. So yes, time and growth is the key to further solidify deep understandings and wisdom. In my life, there was multiple times where I had to unlearn a lot to make space for new amazing experiences to take place instead.
When it comes to INFJs, I have 4 INFJs in my life. I have seen them struggle with living rather than being. Society structures etc. Because they are stuck in loops of surviving instead of living. So some have been closer to that fight or flight. And ultimately that leads them down paths of forgoliving or self-destructive behaviors. When you mentioned INFJs can see ENFPs as scattered it reminded me of some INFJs feeling lost and that is a scattering or fragmentation in itself right? In my experience, the perfectionist tendencies of the INFJs have also drained their batteries so much that it leaves no energy left for socializing or living afterwards. Stuck in what feels as obligations towards others? I have seen premature judgements from INFJs that comes from a far too narrow lane also. Almost to the point of being close minded. Which ultimately can spiral the INFJ into projecting that perfectionism outward, demanding and pushing their needs on others.
My questions are, what do you believe is the key to opening up opportunities for INFJs growth in life and what are some of the main motivating factors that can give them that growth?
I would be glad to hear your answer to this and also from the perspective of more INFJs. Also feel free to open up these questions to anyone of your INFJ circles or use these questions for upcoming videos. It would be deeply interesting to hear in future shadow work videos or even podcasts.
@solgast haha so I looked up what the typical INFJ/ENFP struggled might be and they mentioned the issue with extroversion/introversion pairing and also the occasional scattered-ness of ENFP, and the over-caution of INFJ. They may also have an issue with confronting each other since they are so agreeable! I can confirm that my ENFP brother was very messy as well 😂 that was our main strife in my household and he would make me nervous with how out-of-the-box he was with other people. Of all my siblings, I think we had the most conflict, but it was difficult to have confronting talks since we were also so agreeable, so I could see that being an issue.
For INFJ growth, I had to work on bringing my depths out in the open and sharing them with the world, so there's some responsibility on our end to be able to do that. When I'm Ni-Ti "cold", I just see people as a collection of archetypes and patterns that fit into my story in a way that I don't genuinely care about them. I have to Ni-Fe "warm" snap out of it, and ENFP's are great for helping us with that.
My sister is INTJ. Outspoken is an understatement. Sugar coating is not given a chance for there to be a thought as to how others may feel about what was said is that she clearly spoke her mind... whether others the stomach for it or not. brutally honest with an unmoved expression. She can become highly sarcastic when annoyed to the point that immediate company is potentially fair game. She has a difficult time with her own and others' emotions. She means well.
@brianhales1416 haha yes, the bluntness can be a cringe to the sensitive infj. I forgot to mention that as a potential downside 😅 "they mean well" is exactly right
I'm an infj and unhealthy intjs are horrifying to me.
The authenticity part is huge. It's part of the reason I try to think of ways to speedrun past the small talk phase. Much of its content relies on pleasantries and socially safe scripts which feels like the person is being inauthentic / lying. I know lying is commonly thought of in one dimension but I think my definition is a touch more elaborate than most consider and consists of 4 parts:
1. Spoken lie of commission - When one tells a known falsehood (most common definition)
2. Acted out lie of commission - When one acts in a way inauthentic to who they are (Externally pressured or self-manipulating personas)
3. Spoken lie of omission - When one refuses to speak a contextually necessary known truth (A form of narrative manipulation)
4. Acted out lie of omission - When one hides their true nature or intention by suppressing their actions (Shame or fear based repression / could also be hiding exploitative intentions)
The common theme I see with lies are that they are a form of control. Control their own image, control information, control the narrative, control situations, control people. I feel that, especially in a relationship, control and trust are inversely proportional. The more a person feels they need to control or manipulate someone, it's usually because their trust in that person is very low. If you can't trust the other, then a power dynamic is created and you are no longer partners (on the same level) with the other person. At that point you are either an abuser or an enabler.
@reyne-soundtherapy469 great analysis of the most common "lie" tactics. How interesting that INFJ can detect what's below the surface even if it's just the simple thing of leaving something out (ommission). I've always felt the safest with honest personalities
Amazing to hear all your siblings are intuitives.
Interesting dynamic with two introverted sensing parents.
@baaf777 yes, I feel very lucky to have this batch of siblings 💖 my parents are great too. It's a common misconception that sensors can't be deep
I’m an ENFP that just came across this channel. Pretty amazing and I’m only two videos in. Your perspective and explanation is on point. Truly awesome.
@@theorysinger happy to have you here 🦋
As an INTJ (Male) who has become close with many ENFPs (Female), we don't have creative talk like you mentioned, we have more deep talk that you said doesn't happen often. I'm wondering if it's just me or maybe it's a difference that is common between the INFJ or INTJ and the ENFP relationship? I'm attracted to the ENFP personality type the most and we seem to just find and attract to each other.
They help us come out of our shell where we are much more open to new ideas and feel open to show our Se Fi side, while like you said, we give them "groundedness and stability in a structured order". I've found that they really struggle to narrow down their options and choices, so they often come to me for guidance which is one of the most heart warming things that you can do to an INTJ. INTJs love to help someone who wants to improve in something, solve a problem, or narrow down decisions. They help us get out and have more experiences, try new things, meet new people, while we help them stay more focused towards a long term goal or ambition that they want but struggle to stick with long enough to make a reality.
@Weakkneez yes, I guess it depends on what you mean by "deep". In this video, I am mostly referring to Ni (depth) vs Ne (expansive), but I believe they also have great Fi depths. For my brothers, it was probably just a little boy thing to be making explosive fireworks in the backyard 😂. I agree and get what you're saying, though 🦋. I would also imagine a romantic partner for ENFP would be different as well. I've only had them as friends and family.
I think my best match would be an alien 👽 with telepathic and prophetic abilities 😅
💯😂
Same 😅
Were you reading my mind?!
I react exactly the same as you do to these types. I'm actually married to an ESTJ and they really are polar opposites in every imaginable way. I've lost count of the times that, when I present a REALLY interesting piece of information, I've been asked, "And what am I supposed to do with that?" Extroverted sensing in someone is a real conversation killer!!
Interestingly, our two daughters are an INTJ and an ENFP. The former understands me and we can be really weird around each other in a good way. I do like her sister too, she's externally a lot of fun but exhausting.
When I began looking at my friends, I found either INFJs or ENFJs.
I absolutely love being in the company of ENFJs. They are instantly recognisable since we have lots in common but seem to suppress the very best of what they are in order to please other people, which I find odd. INFJs do that too sometimes, but in a way that doesn't undermine their own credibility. I do trust them though, and find I can talk to them about anything. INFJs as friends are good too, but while they'll happily share information, they're stuck inside their own heads too much (as am I!), which is why we need E types to bring us out into the world.
@barryx23 i love everything you said 🦋 that INTJ/ENFP duo is so fun to be around. My brothers had a rough start though and didn't like each other at first hahaha they warm up to each other eventually. Great comment 💛
what an interesting family. Your parents must be very thoughtful people. Often ENFP are somewhere down the line in a bigger family. But you guys have a lot of the rare, INFJ and INTJ and ENFJ, wow !
I bet your parents are both first-borns
@muma6559 I feel incredibly fortunate to have had thoughtful parents who academically and spiritually disciplined us. It is incredibly rare for a family of 6. My parents' greatest gift to me has been my 3 siblings as well. Haha my mom was a middle child (as am I), and my dad was the youngest. They showed no favoritism, which was nice.
@@amy-lyne Well ! That explains a lot. I would check whether your dad really is an ISTJ as they are often the eldest boy. But your mum makes total sense.... when you are in the middle you know everything about fairness and justice and it seems she endeavored to do just that ! How fortunate you all are. I had a domineering ENTJ mum, the other end of the scale. Sensors can have intuitive babies and vice versa, how interesting! I was somewhere in the middle of nine kids and every one of us has a different personality.
😂 interesting observation. I always felt firstborns are more extroverted (and bossy like my sister 🤭🤫 she's ENFJ). My family has 4 sets of 4 kids across my cousins, and the eldest is usually a leader style extrovert.
@@amy-lyne that's very interesting. ENFJs do tend to be a bit bossy by nature, i think they mean well if they are healthy. INFJ not so much, we like to be open minded and observe. It sounds like your family dynamics were a lot more healthy. I find that interesting. Especially the part where two introverted people (ISFJ and ISTJ) have an eldest child who is extraverted (ENFJ) and intuitive. So different to themselves. I wonder if they were out of their comfort zones at the time. You can ask your mum. Have fun !
I loove the addition of the essences!!
Found the channel yesterday, what a goldmine. All the videos are soo relatible its scary. Really appreciate it though, keep it up!!
@danielpronk5647 happy you found the channel 🦋 thanks for the comment
I wouldn’t stress about the video skills too much. That’ll all come in due time.
Your audio is quality and that matters greatly.
Keep experimenting. We’re with you regardless. 🙏😁
Edit: love the art in this video as well. Goes perfectly with the subject matter.
@07cali4nia I really appreciate the support 🦋 it's been a fun journey so far. I love connecting with all my commenters
I can confirm.. i have an INFP boyfriend and our struggle is that i need to plan things like a year in advance haha. Hes very laid back and doesnt plan. Im organized, he isnt. Im tidy, he isnt. Im future thinking, hes present. Hes super introverted, and im more of an ambivert. I get things done, hes a procrastinator. Butttt he is my best friend, we laugh so much, we connect well, we have a lot in common, similar hobbies, same humor. We just have opposite functions which sucks and its a challenge but we are working on commincating everyday.
@Sar_bear77 sounds exactly similar to my experience with INFP 💛 They generally have very good hearts, but the stresses show up after a time
@@amy-lyne :(
@@BeautifulZeroUK hahaha if you're an infp, infj still loves you 🦋✌️
Hey, Amy! I found your channel yesterday. How did your get so lucky as to be born in a family with so many intuitives 😮 I was stuck with sensors who constantly attacked my Ni and exploted my Fe. I have been wondering for a long time what a parson I would've been today, had been raised atound intuitives. Would you feel like making a video specifically about
@@amy-lyne
Thank you
Video quality looks good, you're glowing(:
Also, I highly recommend SP's.
@schmitzkaylee thank you 🦋 I actually have a strong affinity for ISFP haha it's been awhile since I've had one in my life. Their essence is delicate and kind but wild like a wildflower 🌼
@Amy-Lyne love the videos!!! Keep on exploring! 🙌🏻❤🔥
love your videos
this format really suits me
Socionics Duality is INFJ-ESTP. Conflictor is INFJ-ESTJ.
I think my parents are INTJ and ENFP, my partner is INFP, my sister is INFP, and my Brother is INTP. My best friend is also an INFJ and her partner is an INTP. Who I also get along with very well. I think I love NF, NT the most. I get along with most people very well.
really liked this video
Have you found how nature's seasons can affect personality types?
Living in Calgary, where the majority of the year is winter, I find myself pushed into introversion. Infj.
However, as soon as summer hits, I am a full blown ENFJ.
I feel these personality types aren't fixed.
What do you think?
@R.CHIZ.Creative yes, I think many are on the border of certain functions. I tend to fluctuate between INTJ/INFJ due to my workplace. There's definitely an environmental factor as well and the spectrum is more apparent when you're around certain types of people
@@amy-lyne100% the ebbs & flows!🥹
You touched on a lot and I’m liking that cinematic setting on your video. Thats top shelf 🙃
I haven’t the foggiest idea what personality types pair well 😅 but, I know what you mean about essence. I have a strong… idk… intuitive/feeling/sensory … something 😅 I almost don’t like putting words to it… it’s like describing a sunset instead of looking at it, with more than eyes.
I also knew a guy for a time that… kinda burned me out on describing things so maybe I’m still recovering from that 🙃 now I just want to point and go “yeah yknow… that thing… over there with the things? Jollly good” 🙃
We started a podcast for a little bit and one thing he said prior was “I want to skip the feeling and go straight to the knowing”. With conviction. If he had a gavel, he might’ve struck it on the table 😅
Yes, I find when it comes to relationship pairings, essence is what matters most! But it's nice to be with someone who won't shut down all your thoughts and feelings 🦋 any mature type should be a good listening ear but some are better than others
@@amy-lyne i couldn’t agree more. This guy was, and I quote, “high on the spectrum for narcissism” so… 😬
Being a spiritually oriented type, and due to how we met I was like “ok… is this like… a test or something? Is there a way to live free with a narcissist?” It may have been but nope. Thats just not how the pathology works (idk about calling it a pathology … but that’s how it’s described by the clinically accredited pontificators 🙃)
Also, I understand now, a lot more intimately as opposed to empathically, where a lot of complaints about … pushy men regarding women come from because… this guy was…
I’ll put it this way, on one hand it was kind of flattering because… I’ve never been uhm…
It’s a whole other vibe when a woman likes you and when a… possessive guy does 😬 scarier too… scary from either gender but this was… 😬It wasn’t at first but after awhile… yikes. I’m not bi or anything like that so I was just like “ah… no thanks.. but thanks! 😅” …
But this… didn’t seem to make any difference.
Anyway, I tried to … idk somehow find some degree of homeostasis because we attended the same functions and I met him through my father figure so… I tried. But… 😬 no dice
Had to grey rock and soft no contact … and some
Video quality is really good
@@channelDD25 thank you! 🦋
Ive had that microphone since 2010 #INTJ
awesome
xD did watch a tons of infj vids by now. Most funny thing is , we all do make the same confincing face xD :D
So I've spent several years studying MBTI and trying to place the people in my life somewhere within those boxes, as well as myself. For smart people or really feely AND smart people, it has been difficult for me to do that, especially since I work with a diverse group of really smart engineers. I've almost given up personally with regards to typcasting people in my life because of this, and instead, I think I've started acting on instinct more, which I think is more healthy in the long run. For me, I think it's a matter of living in the moment and being true and present vs. being in a mindset where Im trying to figure everyone out and what their intentions are and thus being stuck. That's just my experience :) "Lateralus" by Tool has been helpful here in understanding more of these aspects of myself.
Yes, I think at a point you no longer need the tools to really understand yourself, but MBTI is a great gateway for self-awareness. It's still helpful when you first meet someone and are trying to get to know them because it can show a lot but it can also close your mind to their true nature. I get what you mean 🦋
My aunt is an ESTJ and she takes every chance to criticize or subliminally attack me, or what i do, what i don't do. That happens when she is stressed. She needs a full calendar, always busy. And she once said "Sleep is not important, i can sleep when i'm dead." Typical for that personality type. Thank god I only see her a few times a year. INFJ + ESTJ = 🚫
An ENFJ sister with INTJ and ENFP brothers 🙀🙀🙀 you won the lottery for best siblings and infj could ask for with that combo 💜 i have an ESTP sister and ISFP brother we cant be more different 😅😅 relationship wise I would want another FJ maybe oneday
@Missdovanova I know I'm incredibly lucky 😂 I took it for granted for so much of my childhood too, but my siblings are my best friends
@@amy-lyne btw my mother is a retired telecommunication engineer & my father was an electrical engineer,,, i am not an engineer but i am an infj too so I instantly was drawn to your channel coz of these few similarities 🫣,, keep uploading 💞 warm wishes from Amman 🇯🇴
@@Missdovanova how cool! I'm happy we found resonance 🦋
I'm INFJ and I have a twin sister who is an INFP and a younger sister who is an ENFP. Our mom is also an ENFP and dad is ISTJ. We are a diplomat dominant house haha! All we need is an ENFJ and the gang is all there. What about everyone saying ENTP and INFJ?
So, I'm an INFJ 1w2 and I met a guy who is also INFJ 1w2 and we really get along. But is it too similar or is that a good thing, since we're so rare? Would it hinder growth or help it? I prefer intuitive types, and I tend to like a guy who is a feeling type, because my dad is not, and when I met this guy I was blown away by his level of warmth and caring nature. I was like, wow, these guys do exist.
@mirandaalaine Sounds like a fun household. How funny, I tend to like "feeling" types too since my dad is an istj but there was so much to love about his pragmatism. When it comes to picking a person, I find it hard to turn someone down on the basis of personality alone (although sometimes that's the case haha). You usually know who you're drawn too. A lot of growth can be accomplished with infjs too 🦋
@@amy-lyne I always bonded with my dad growing up because he’s also 1w2 and the whole J thing in general I guess. We have a special relationship because I’m like him in many ways. I’ve never dated before and I’m 27, but I always knew I’d be behind in that department because I’m so serious about who gets to be that close to me, at the same time I love people and open up fast with the right ones. I always trust the vibes on people. Your body knows often before you. Do you feel anxiety with them or just an “off-ness” or do you feel ease and peace? With the INFJ I felt comfort. I felt a strong sense of familiarly and he said that too. He said he wasn’t nervous because I wasn’t (and I really wasn’t).
@mirandaalaine I'll probably do a whole video on INFJ dating. I think it's something we (often rightfully) overthink. Thank you for sharing 🦋 it's good to know the experiences of my viewers, and I resonate with what you wrote.
@@amy-lyne I feel so glad I found your channel! What’s your enneagram? Everything you say resonates. I even had food/body issues and found that video helpful as well. So thank you! 🦋 🦋
@@mirandaalaine happy to hear! 💛 my enneagram is 3w4 haha it's a little different from most infj but gives me the drive to do this channel.
INFJ’s ahhhh I found my fam. Love the way we view life but man are we different lol
@DontBeATree haha it's true. I find many who are in between types as well. Any particular differences that stand out to you?
@@amy-lyne for me, I noticed that I heavily study human behavior and psychology. I apply that to society and how we function as one. Which leads into overthinking. I try not to define myself as an INFJ though because if I do I feel boxed in
I have found that over the years as I recognize my differences from others, I am able to grow more and appreciate myself more
No INFP??? :) For me it’s usually a very natural connection - bit like relationships with other INFJs, with some ENFP vibes at the same time
It's at 6:30, Oops! I mislabeled that one. Will fix it 😂 I love infps
best!!!
That's intresting I was just thinking about that a few days ago! Have you read 5 love languages? Been wondering if there is other dimensions of compatabilty like hobbies.🤔 and other things.
@DennisD-yv4ys yes, I posted a video a couple weeks ago on the 5 love languages specifically. It's in my "What INFJ need to feel loved" video
@@amy-lyne okay cool I'll check it out! I get the impression it would make for an interesting conversation! Maybe later if You Want to I'd love brainstorm that topic....I've read alot of psychology books too
INFJ not receiving deepness with an ENFP?? what! that is the opposite of what i have heard so far... : --- 0
@haseebjaved2516 it might be my own relationship with my brother and friends. He can be deep. It's just not the type of relationship we have specifically 🤷♀️. Might also depend on what you consider to be "deep". For some, it means "idea talk". For others, it means trauma talk hahaha 🦋. In this video, I am mostly referring to the difference between Ni (depth) and Ne (expansive). I believe ENFP Fi gives them great depths too though.
We should do a collab video together!!
@POVofanENFP Hey, cool videos! For my next several topics, I might be expanding outside of MBTI subjects for a bit and seeing where they take me, so maybe not the right timing. Thanks for watching 🦋😌
I would watch your videos if only for your eyes
I think you are a very beautiful woman …. Maybe it’s just an infj admiring another infj …. 😊
The ESTJ, from my experience can talk about the facts around their experiences or stories but when it comes to their feelings or intentions the information here is very sparse. What would normally spark a wide array of potential emotions from others gets reduced down to, "That was weird..." or "I did(n't) like that..." The ESTJ personality type is the furthest thing from their own inner world at every letter and so they tend to have difficulty communicating or even understanding their core selves.
@reyne-soundtherapy469 😂 exactly right. Such a short conciseness to profound things. It's difficult to be lit up in those types of conversations
INTJ, here. "They don't care what people think about them...". What do you think Te Extraverted Thinking is? It's literally what other people are thinking...
@BasedGodEmperorTrump appreciate the comment 🦋. Actually, according to the cognitive functions, extroverted thinking (Te) is about organizing the external world with systems and logic to achieve efficiency. Generally speaking, Te users will care more about the logic of a situation over other people's emotions, so archetypically speaking, INTJ's are the masterminds of the room who articulate the truth at the expense of other people's emotions. My brother is healthy, though, and is tactful in how he does this. I've noticed that a developed Fi makes them very caring people as well, so "caring what other people think of them" would more likely be a product of that function.
You're very beautiful.
Hello. May I ask what is your zodiac sign? Just curious. :)
Yes, I'm a Sagittarius ♐️ 🔥
@@amy-lyne Cool! May I ask whether it's November or December Sagittarius?
@@doma3554 December 🦋❄️
Interesting, how 2 sensory type people can get 4 intuitive type kids? Also 2 introverts would have extraverted kids.
@Art-d4m Yes, it's a mystery how these things work out. My dad, as an introvert, loved having people over though so we were well socialized. My parents both mutually believed academics were a priority for my family, so I believe there was a large "nurture" component to my upbringing and why we gravitate to abstract thinking. Their generation did much of the hard work already for breaking unhealthy patterns. I'm a lucky one.
@@amy-lyne You have a very interesting family to do a research on :) I never researched this before but always though that we genetically get those qualities like sensor/intuitive type and introvert/extravert but with your case I am not sure anymore. Do you know mbti types of your grandparents?
Also I am super interested to know if you had a chance to research natal charts (western and vedic astrology) of your brother and sisters to see any indication of introversion/extraversion, intuition and other relatable qualities? Just trying to understand if this is genetics or date, time and place of birth does make a difference.
@Art-d4m I believe my grandparents were INFJ/ESFJ and ENFJ/ESFJ. It's difficult to pinpoint personality to any single cause. My brothers, for instance, are open-minded but rather ambivalent to spirituality, whereas I had a strong affinity and interest.
@@amy-lyne most of my life I never thought about spirituality because my mind has been occupied with school then work and making money to give my parents (my Mom especially) the best life but then my Mom got sick and died on my hands from cancer. That triggered a lot of transformation inside of me and my focus shifted from the material superficial world to spiritual. I found many answers about this and my life in general in vedic astrology.
The life for me feels like that movie Matrix, where I understand what is going on, I see how everything works, I know how people function, I see the patterns where everything is going - I know that I am already unplugged from this physical world but must wait for the phone to ring to get out.
You sound to me like an INTJ.
@Newgrist Yes, in my earlier videos, I talk about how my whole family of 6 is in engineering. My parents like STEM careers haha but I always liked the liberal arts. I have a very developed Te as a result. As for me, when people come on my channel and comment, I can usually pick out the "INFJ" based on the depth of their engagement (Ni), the focus of it (Fe), and the level of thoughtfulness (Ti). Comments of this nature.. we'll, I consider them ESTJ's 😉🦋. There's nothing wrong being an ESTJ.
You look like Megan Fox.