Dear Mother-in-law, what did I do to you for you to hate me so much & wouldn't let me bury my hubby?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ธ.ค. 2023
- "I married him when I was very young. I loved him. He was my first and my only love. 😘😘
I was his wife of 11 years yet when he died, my mother-in-law refused me to bury him. She wouldn't even recognise our daughter whom she is named after. 😭😭
I don't even know the exact spot where my husband was buried because she wouldn't let me attend the funeral.😢😢
What did I ever do to you Mother-in-law for you to cause me such pain?" asks Mary
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Am not ashamed mother inlaws ni wachawi wanaroga vijana wao wasioe wacha kujipendekeza kwao
Nooo ma atumia,herithia ciana ciene biu no umenye onawe wina ciaku. The pain in this girl's voice is immense and it has been caused by another woman who wouldought to have loved her and treated her as her own.
Nothing will go unpaid
Pole sana na ujipe nguvu, na uwache kulia, bora uko mzima una mikono, na miguu, rudi gulf ufanye job, mimi 16 years ago bwanangu alikufa nikiwa na mtoi wa 8 month, siku ya mazishi after tu kuzika vile watu hupumzika, mother in law aliniabia mbele za watu mambo yake na yangu kwisha, aliye nileta kwake ameenda mimi kama mu kirinyaga roho ngumu, imagin ata sikulia nilirundi nyumbani na mamangu hio siku na mtoto wa 8 month, mamangu alinishikilia akanilelea mtoto, nikapata job dubai nikananunua plot mombasa nikajenga sahii na rentisha nyumba, mtoto wangu ashamaliza form 4, sasa huyo nyanya rukia sahii ndiyo anaanza kutafuta mtoto ati ampatie shamba, alikuwa anafikilia eti nitapata shinda, mungu naye hakuniacha, amenibariki, sijawai fikilia ata kuolewa tena, niliogopa mother in laws
Wow see God congratulations
@@serahnjambi8261 thanks
Thanks na pole 🙏
I hope hujapeleka huyo mtoto Kwa nyanya Rukia
Amazing👍
I'm sorry to hear what you and your daughter went through. May the almighty God fight for you. He's the father to the fatherless and husband to the widow.
How about we contribute, she open a business instead of going to middle east and being away from her child?
Ameen thankyou
Sorry. There are some things you need to do:
1. Forgive yourself for healing
2. Let it go and leave that family
3.Focus on your child and give her the best in life.
4. Start loving yourself and don't think that those inlaws are entitled to your life.
I repeat love yourself and focus ahead
Good advice
Sure
❤
Wise words
May God give you courage to forget and forgive and move on for the sake of your child
She does not need to go abroad,her daughter needs her more than money.
She can work here so some time waiting for the daughter to grow .
At least she be in High school.
Ukiolewa mahali si lazima wakupende juu we si damu yao wachana nao kabisa
Shida ni mwanaume akuwe hajielewi. Not nowing how to separate wife Ed mothers spaces
kweli ukiolewa sio lazima upendwe mimi nimeoa but kweli none of my family members anajua kwa bibi yangu ni wapi so please sister just forget about your mother in law you are not her blood
Kwanza hutawai pendwa!
@@monicahmbugua2451 🤔🤔🤔
Pole Sana kuna mungu,,
Mother-in-law ile uchungu ulipitishia huyu msichana ata wako wenye umezaa watapitia the same... talking this from experience ya my neiba wasichana wake 5 of them wako jikoni wote na watoto....na vijana wake ni walevi pole sana mary and may God give you peace that surpasses human understanding and may your husband rest in peace ❤wihe hinya juu ya mtoto wako pls
The difference between mother in-law and daughter in-law is TIME 🥴🥴 one came early than the other otherwise they are all visitors in that compound 😏🙆😳😳😳😳
That is true
Haaaaa 😃 aki you wote out...
Nooope, heshima sio utumwa, amekuzalia bwana n kumlea, it's just a matter of respect and love and acceptance ndio mother laws hukosa
From the word go hiyo marriage was not blessed from both parents
I started shedding tears towards the end of the show... it's clear that the mother in law to a very great extent poisoned this relationship.
May the grace of God heal you Mary and may God grant you good health and strength to bring up your daughter. I also suggest (like someone commented here) that if it's possible, you can work from here if n Kenya. Your daughter needs your presence now, more that ever.
Amen thankyou
My opinion too, her girl needs her presence, if it's possible to work from Kenya may help the girl to heal from the lose of her father, remember the girl is also grieving
There is no need to question mother in law about hatred if she never spent night in your house. Your husband might be the cause if he ever mentioned a negative issue about you to her. And because he will never be back you discuss just forgive her and I believe God will heal you
You don’t have to do anything for people to hate you ,it’s natural for people including you to like someone without cause or hate without cause .
Aki mkiona tuko single huku nje...nijuu tunataka inner-peace ....peaceful mind and happiness is very important..honestly this mamaa hajaheal aki..in laws so.etimes can be poison..navile mm napenda wife ya bro yamine aki...Ngai niakuhe thayu maaa
Malipo ni hapa duniani
The way God works in mysterious ways
U can't leap where you have not sown
Hata huyu msichana alikuwa na madharau kidogo kidogo kwa mother in law sasa alikuwa anataka ahushishwe aje kwa hiyo familia hata vienye aliacha mtoto kwa gate tena amchukue shule huyo mama kijana hawezi furahia
Monica some of us face such issues.congratulations Monica for being a voice to the voiceless.
Muiritu uyu uhiga na you only to blame tondu nduri mwiri
Na uhoye ngai aguteithie gukindiria
All the best dear
It's well...lea mtoto wako na wachana na hiyo familia kabisa..let God be your protector..
Woiye,the way this madam is talking, She seems stressed and depressed 😞 😥
Please don’t hate them just keep them in your prayers and one day you will see the reward from our God
whomever said that wendo Munene ndukinyaga must have seen it all 🙆🏼♀️🙆🏼♀️🙆🏼♀️. Love and light young girl
So sorry to the guest. I hope she finds her self esteem. Seeing a counselor would help. She's young and in intolerable pain, my heart goes to her. Hopefully age - or wisdom will teach her to develop self respect in her next relationship and with people in general. When a man disrespects you consistently and your child, one needs to know when to walk away. Mother in law-You can't demand for it. People will like you, or dislike you in life- don't stall your life over it. It's not worth it. If they don't like you, remember that their son is their true family and concern. Hold your own and walk away- but they don't have to love you or truly owe you anything. I know this sounds harsh, but such is life my friends...
I agree with you! One needs to know when to leave and love yourself. How did she drag herself for so long in that mess especially with her daughter 😔. She re- traumazed the daughter for no reason,she would have avoided so much
That's very true 😢 let's us accept it and swallow the bitter pill
Darling,hugs u went through fire but our Heavenly Master is faithful "kwi Ngai woyanga rííngi "forgive them that u may heal
Oooiiee family yake wangemsaidia kulipa huyo mtoto exam fee diyo asiridie class ,may God grace be sufficient to u mary healing is a process plus kujikubali in every mistake u did ad forgive urself
My condolences Mary on loosing your husband.
I wish you well in life and in your baby too.
Aaaaiiii wachana hio familia Leo Mototo wako asome like wangu aneda form3 just me alone mwana ùmwe ndangikùrema
In my opinion, it is not a surprise the 'husband" strayed. They were both very young, he just got tempted and succumbed. I believe he loved her, and loved his child deep down, this lady needs to make sure her daughter understands this, no matter how she was treated by paternal family. Forget your MIL she has paid a heavy price of burying her son, she will live with that pain for the rest of her days.
I also think this might not be the best time to leave your child again, she needs your steady love and assurance, you will be doing her a great disservice if you abandon her again. I know you think she needs money, but she needs your love and presence more. There is work in Kenya. All the best.
I keep on asking myself why would one hate herself so much to an extent of not noticing when it's over and. May God help us to be wise enough. To love ourselves first. Is it love or stupidity. They were too young and unstable for marriage. I pray that you heal your life.
May peace be with you,mm niliambiwa na mom in law nitarogwa niokotange makaratasi ushago kwetu, nilitoka huko bila kuangalia nyuma alafu kijanake akakufa, saa hii huyo mama anaishingi kwetu anataka kuona watoto na hajawai waona na sidhani kuna day atakuja kuwaona,,, jipe nguvu mary and God will see you through. Na ukirudi saudia save for your kid mamaa
So sorry to this lady. Shame on this mother in law. Her story will change and smile again.
Thanks ❤
You are Soo young and beautiful just start over again ...I'm waiting for your biiig weding❤
Ameeen
Be strong for your daughter. You will find love again.
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Monica you insist on us being respectful in the comments section but today i choose tough love. Can we all agree our guest was defiant?
She defies right from the moment she's being to desist dating the guy. She goes on to defy even her own caregivers' advice after birth.
Theres something about her and having it her way. Unakatazwa kutumia hubby pesa yooote na wewe unatororokia unamtumia zote.
She needs lessons on obedience.
That said, at this point i hope she gets an opening here in Kenya so that she raises her daughter as a present parent.
Losing the dad is tragic enough for the child.
I wish she's going to rethink that decision and listen this once.
Love and light.
Was afraid to say this, am hoping in therapy she will acknowledge her own fault,accept she was probably never married ,and was even out of the elopement....and ve ready to take care herself and the child strongly
So true, was afraid to mention, I think it wasn't also for her mother inlaw responsibility to take care of her child, couldn't believe her leaving her kid to someone she' wasn't evening talking to
The greatest tragedy was not others failing to love her but her failing to love herself. She wanted to be invited in her 'own' husband's burial.
My sister , Iganira Ngai niahonie ngoro yaku . Mohere, tigira Ngai maundu. Monica she needs therapy, hope someone can help her and her daughter.
Lesson here love yourself first because no one else can love you more than you love yourself. Please someone offer her a job here in Kenya . Her daughter needs her . If she leaves, make sure you have NHIF card for you and your daughter, it’s very important.
let go and Let God do his will in your life.All will be well...Machozi yako itafutwa.
Let God fight your battles ,Mimi am married n I lost my firstborn boy n unfortunately he died n mother inlaw said ni wamunyota since my father in-law was a drunkard,bt God still akanibless Tena nikampelekea ashike mtoto nlitoka uko Kaa hajamguza bt i thank God bcz my family is firm despite her madharau ,I fight my battles in my knees n right know i can say karma is real so everything happens with a reason ❤❤
The only mistake Mary did was loving the husband too much...am sorry God will make a way for you...let's see how we can help her.
❤ Amen
Haki angebakisha ...mahali kidogo yake....ukweli
Take heart God is with you and loves Yu. More than
Mama uta move on .. mother inlaw alikuweka uchungu na yeye akavuna uchungu ile unafanyia mwingine ata wewe utafanywa adi zaidi ..uta heal keep it strong MoMA for your kid you are strong 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
such a beautiful soul...i wish she could change her mind n start a business in kenya..majuu sometimes ni crazy...
Thanks mungu akinipea capital ntafaya 🙏
Change that girl's name and call her after your mom.... again dust yourself and assume you are just a sigle mom who might fall in love and get married again.... forget about that home since your late husband is no longer alive.. you are so so beautiful my dear and may God heal your heart wound....mungu tu akuonekanie
❤ Amen 🙏 thanks
U resemble my friend from mai mahiu kabisa maybe u guys are sisters anaitwa Monica 😢😢, sorry for what you went through, gal it's well
No simujui🙏
Be strong 💪 gal God got us all pia tuko in Saudi Arabia struggling for our kids
😢made me cry.., the pain in her face tells it all.., I wonder what this MIL is feeling.., she’s such evil!! Mary you n your daughter will go far.., Ngai niarona ruo rwaku. Needs a lot of healing therapy with her daughter
Arume a kiambu there is one guy talking so bad of kiambu men in tiktok kumbe ni ukweli mother in law hao ndio huchangia downfall ya vijana wao hata hii pombe wanakunywa kwanza wengi hata huroga watoto wao was born in kawangware n lived in waithaka dago hv seen this ndio maana wa girls are going for other tribes
Honestly kiambu men are mamas boys, Kila wakati my mother said this and that pthoo
Wajinga watupu
@@marywanjiku9342 wanaume kiambu ndio wanaolewa
Ucio mutumia niwe wakurogaga ndugaciare ungi
Be strong mama,God will heal you,Kuna mungu , some inlaws can really be bad,malipo Yao ni hapahapa, forgive them.
Amen
If you will come abroad dear girl come back in saudi lebanon hakuna pesa ama if you can do something in kenya jst stay home mtoi mmoja hawezi kushinda...the other thing ikiwa sio mama yako kukuzaa anakuchukia mother inlaw asikupee stress dear..
This is one of the most mature ladies I have come across
Thanks 😊
Pole sana. Book for a counsellor and forgive the whole family and start all afresh
U were right ur conscience was ok,ni wendo
Ugi ndwambagia,ur on the right hands,u will emerge victorious gal
Christ thy kingdom come
Amen
Nie deragwo ati wira wakwa no gutarura mirengeti nadiraciara nahidi eyo dina kana kamwe..no ngai ti kihii dauma kuu ngitanahirwo na kana kangi ga kairitu...
❤hugs to mary thanks monica today the show i hv ever watched ur words kagoni 👌👌sure ww hv evilness in our society bt as a person we hv to stand up and move on
Be strong young lady, dust your self , it’s just a beginning. you will rise again and follow the desires of your heart. Most important trust in God.
Amen 🙏
Some women have amazing heart
A heal kwanza before aende Saudi. All the best
I grew up in Kinale and I can attest to this…. Most girls over there need advice on life and women empowerment coz early marriage is prioritized over education. Glad God took me out of this place before I finished highschool coz moving to Meru opened my eyes really hard on matters life.
May Mary find peace and prosperity
Amen
Very very good point.
If you think your in laws will love you then you are in a big trouble with your child 😏. That's why I love pple with vichwa ngumu coz they don't entertain nonsense they concentrate with their life and that's the Best decision.Mimi mwenye anaweza nifanya nilie ni Mungu tu coz He is the one my life depends on sio mother in law ama mwanamme.
God loves you Mary n He have good plans for you may God give you peace hugs 🫂🫂🫂
❤Amen
Monica, I want to express my gratitude for being a voice for those who often go unheard and feel forgotten. Your advocacy on behalf of Mary is truly commendable.
Mary, may God provide you with guidance and strength as you navigate through the challenges you have faced. It's disheartening to observe that you entered into a family that seems to lack the fear of God, particularly considering your mother-in-law's behavior, which appears to lack empathy and compassion.
The fact that children are a gift from God underscores the importance of empathy and understanding, especially during difficult times. It's regrettable that, instead of offering support when you entered the family at such a young age, your mother-in-law contributed to complicating matters. I extend my sincere condolences for the loss of your husband and apologize for the distress your daughter endured due to your ex-mother-in-law.
Your kindness and expectation of love from others reflect a pure and genuine heart. It's clear you are seeking resolution with your mother-in-law out of a desire for understanding. However, it may be worthwhile to consider redirecting your energy towards caring for your daughter, ensuring her education, and advocating for her well-being. Perhaps pursuing further education, such as attending college, could open new opportunities for both you and your daughter.
I encourage you to focus on your personal growth and that of your daughter. Sometimes, despite our efforts, certain relationships may not be repairable, and it's essential to prioritize your own well-being. I pray that God opens doors for you and brings healing to your heart.
Wishing you all the best, Mary.
❤ Ameen 🙏
be strong mama and be yourself now juu sasa babake ameenda na hatarudi tena focus na mtoi wachana na hiyo familia
Sorry kairetu focus on your life and your kids it's called life...mimi nlifukuzwa na mother inlaws in connection with his son with death threats just becoz I failed to bare a baby girl. God is good I came out safe with my boys
Hugs for your loss,,, good gal okorwo ni wiharirie gucoka wira
Ooooh my sister am sorry for that love yourself and leave the family alone
Mary you can as well look for a house manager in Kenya or any other job so you stay close to your child coz you are the only parent.
So sad 😢May God have mercy on her and her daughter
Khai mm pesa za saudi siezi trust hata mzazi wangu acha niwapeange kidogo kama zawadi woi I feel for that lady
It is well dear Mary .God is with you and will repay you for all this
Amen
The sooner she realizes that it's not her fault for her mother in law hatred the better so she can start the journey of healing and I think her late husband didn't love her the way she did coz he cheating her with more than one woman, let say it as it is.. *he was a manipulator* babe girl focus on yourself and your child now forget about your toxic mother in law, wishing you all the best.
🙏thankyou
@@marywangui7521 you are welcome.. healing is a journey dear, keep yourself busy busy and surround yourself with people who have positive vibes don't allow yourself anywhere near toxic environment anymore.blessings babe gal😘
Hi shii,
Aky tunapatanaga kwa interview,back to 2016
@@YgghccdhvcfFhgccfggf-oh8cv hey... how have you been doing?
who's this please 🤭 can't even pronounce your name 😄
It's well baby gal ❤❤hata sisi tuko huku nje doing fine
Mama alifikiri anadhulumu Mary kumbe akapoteza yote
Thank you Monica for standing up I know people will say we need to hear the other side BUT the bottom line is what the in laws did is evil and wrong
In-laws from Hell, Wachawi !!!
Kwanxa upone roho ukipata pesa kidogo fanya job kenya ,heal fast.
Plis mary as much as you want to go back to saudia remember your child has undergone psychological trauma she needs you more than ever before.consider staying with your baby for now.
God please heal this lady...
She has went through betrayal and rejection.. Mungu akuponye Mary
❤Ameen and Ameen
Huyu achane na hiyo familia watu wanapitia mengi tunanjenga hata maplot natunashau move on na life akijipee stress huyo mtoto ataangaliwa na nani vitu zingine kama hazi work hazi work usiforce
GOD OF MERCY GIVE HER PEACE SHES IN PAIN 🎉🎉THANK U METHA FOR THIS LESSON
Ameen
This one is emotional😭May the Lord grant you the strength to rise again🙏
👏Applaud to our host @MonicaKagoni🥳 for always keeping it professional...
This gal is from my village hugs gal and sorry for everything you have gone through
Thankyou dear
One thing I've learnt in this life,never please people especially this Mother in law...They will never love you,they dislike you but only like it when they are using you to even extend their hatred towards your kids whom they are named after...Just live your life,yes it pains but leave everything to God..Second put your kids as fhe first thing in your life then husbands come second and dont forgot this sons of Pharaoh kukuruka no dakika moja..See he used your 12months salary with other women...and his mother and family comes last...May God heal yout hury for all you went through..May you find peace
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Pole sana. You are too young to have gone through all this. Put your trust in God instead of human beings. Move on . God is able to give you a new beginning.
So painful ,,,Pole sana mama be strong
I wish she stay with her kid until she. Heals .
Sasa kuaja mtu aende Saudi at this moment is not solution
First and foremost I am sorry for our guest's predicament .my sympathy for your loss. Secondly I conquer with our host @ Monica l have personally purchased pieces of land through AMG Reliators which so far have been seamless legit and smooth zero hiccups. I have also booked a mombasa vacation through bountiful safaris which has been very efficient and communication is top notch 👌 l Grace Ngure approve 👏 and endorse metha ya kagoni as a brand name 👏 for both AMG Reliators and Bountiful safaris.
Wow 😊 thanks for that feedback n encouraging us to also to invest with them
She's hurting may God see her through
I was Married in Nyeri wacha tu ata saa hii naweza pata a millionaire from Nyeri hapo ni Murife 🏃♂️ run
Atah mm nimzaliwa uko lkn siwezi
@@zippiwanjiru7605 🤔🤔🤔🤔😂😂😂😂😂
murife run😂😂
Kuna wengine your fellow neighbors Kirinyaga wacha tu ni mbaya kama shaitan
😀😁😁😀 Jesooo
Omg😪, God bless this woman and her daughter🙏🏿
Amen
So sorry mary story yako na yangu haina tofauti kubwa my dear tuachie Mungu atupiganie😢
Amen
Mother in law wanted a daughter in law she can manipulate like she did with her own son. Now she has one without a husband, since her son is dead and one who depends entirely with on her.
Pole sana mum and hugs to you dear may God open doors for you 😢I feel your pain gal...
Amen
Yaani alitumia pesa ya Saudi kuoa bibi wengine! Weh
Kujinyce🎉
Mother in law i hope you can now see the harvest of your games.......😮
Monicah, It Is So Difficult To Advice A Person In Love, Nway We Fall n Rise Again. About Mum-In-Law,, May Mine Rest In Peace. If She Would Resurrect, I Would Be The Happiest Person, God Gave Me What I Prayed For. Not Perfect But Asante Sana Mum Racheal.Dearly Missed
Unasema nini wewe hiyo kizungu ni gani
@@annmugo5507 ni nini hujaelewa tafadhali?
You can't come back to Saudi if you came with deportation but you can go to other countries like Lebanon.
Take heart and be strong in the Lord,your daughter needs you.❤❤
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Mary 31 is very young!! 😢Pls rise up and dust your clothes and move on for the sake of your daughter. You have got to move on as hurting as it is.
Thanks
Wooi men can really missuse you ...I'm sorry...makosa ni kurudia tu
From a personal experience,i came to doubt love.infact love is a scum coz it is only seasonal.May God open a new chapter for you Mary the way he opened to me.
Amen
She is very beautiful it is well mary
❤ thanks