Why Indian Men Get Zero Matches On Dating Apps | Explained With Data
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We dive deep into the world of modern dating norms and uncover the economics of dating and reveal how online dating markets don’t reflect reality. Learn about the algorithms behind dating apps, their predatory business models, and how they impact your self-esteem and relationships. You’ll also learn -
• The science of pair bonding and why humans seek long-term partnerships.
• Real experiments exposing biases in dating algorithms.
• The commodification of human relationships and the paradox of choice.
• The importance of investing in real, offline connections for meaningful relationships.
• The societal pressures and challenges of finding a partner in today’s world.
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blah blah blah ....no one cares ....anyways i am gonna die as single ...and that thing is inevitable
@@user-dr5lz7jq2l Wait for me I'm Coming! Haha
Amazing video, I think it is the first time watched a whole video from this channel, very good animation, narration and research! Nice. ❤
I hope you guys @aeytv will make a good video next time on an important topic.
@@Copycat-edit I hopr you rest in pe..
Dating starts with curiosity and attraction, BUT relationships start with adjustment and compromise
Absolutely 💯
Relationship starts with love if u love someone u will adjust, have understandings, compromise for them.
relationship starts with admiration. take an exit it feels like an adjustment and compromise. Thats a wrong teaching by the society. Think deep!
Indian men get the highest votes on AYI Britain, Indain women the lowest, 17.5%
@@ellenrogers2555That was a decade ago, before the 'Bob and vagene' meme became popular. Not sure if its the same today..
Because every women on dating apps think they are aiswarya rai and they deserve someone like hritik roshan.
Edit: Avoid going into replies, it's white knight sheethole
atleast look at the data bro, in USA it's 80:20 (Male to female), in India this could be even less, your Generalizations are somewhat dumb
Bro thinks Tinder is Dhoom
@@Shayistic fk the ratio do your research properly 1 percent of the men date 80 percent of the women, theyrs a hierarchy
@@Shayistic I have experience in dating apps. Avg Women get 10 times the likes men get, that makes women think they are hot short and men are dying to attract them which inflates their ego and start swiping left for even above avg men. Most of these Women below avg or just avg looking women looking for validation on internet, which they could never get in real life. And men fulfill their wish cause they are wanna fuck.
Bro is from reddit. And the reason why women on such apps think they are Aishwarya is because men give them that much validation and attention. So instead of being desperate and right swiping every girl you see, try having some standards lmao.
Edit: Bro is indeed a basement dweller redditor cause he can't accept the other side of the coin and coping by calling others white knights
It's not just Indian men; if you're not conventionally handsome, you don't get matches, period. Doesn't matter what country you belong to.
true...looks matter more online...but it's crazy how mediocre girls on these sites get a big head and think they're a supermodel or something because so many simps msg them. I eventually realized the deck is stacked, esp. against Indian men...but you're right also against non-hot men.
False it’s only if you are Asian. If you’re ugly and go to Asian countries you will get thousands of matches. If your average Asian man in Asia, you are invisible to Asian women in dating apps. It only gets worse when Asian men go to western countries, you were never born
Okay, but why do you think that is?
@@sebastianmosqueda5959 Basic biology.🤷🏻♂️ Our primal instinct is to choose the most physically gifted individual as our mate - be it height, broad shoulder, strength and mental fortitude among men, or long, healthy hair, even skin tone, large feminine organs and caring attitude among women.
@@Farhan_049The only part most of us are dissatisfied with are the lies. It's OK to be "shallow". Just don't lie to literal generations of men about it, especially at the age when it influences their future life decisions the most.
"People now are increasingly treating intimacy and emotional connection as products that can be consumed, rather than bonds to be nurtured."
DAMN Aevy!
They probably used AI
Women don't consider Indian men attractive
what nobody talks about is how even healthy relationships are discouraged in indian families even when you are an adult and old enough to make your life decisions. so the prime teenage years when you should be learning how to bond and have healthy connections, you are asked to not get too many friends or dont go out so much, which ends up having a negative impact on a teenager and that person will struggle to find a connection or be scared to commit even if they want to because they constantly feel they're going behind their parents back and doing something wrong and feel guilty about it.
they see it as a form of distraction, kinda true if you end up with the wrong person
Being in a relationship is fine but f*kcing around behind parents back and being in a casual relationship is baaad
Wait until you hit 30. Then the same parents will agree if you ask to marry a rock! 🤣
@@mathurp6889 but even the rock wouldn't agree after I'm 30
@@chillingboi9172that's a skill issue of parent's parenting.
They rather keep you away from something rather then teach you the ways to indulge in healthy way.
They choose a shortcut and their kids pay the price later on. They might have not known themselves but they also didn't invest time in learning it.
Dating Apps are useless 💀
I made a girl bestie, she sets me up with girls, I set her up with boys, everyone happy.
I didn't want to comment but just stop people. For people saying that boundaries fade away, you'll catch feelings and stuff, I feel very sorry for your sisters and cousins, I guess you people are just waiting for the right opportunity to hit on them.
STOP ARGUING AND GET A LIFE
Radhe Radhe ❤
👌
Great idea
bro escaped the matrix lol
Set me up with her 😂😂
How the f**k u guys didn't catch up feelings ?
"You are not ugly, you are just not rich"
but can be in specified time.
💯! Yes! Especially as the woman gets much older . She starts to realise that a big, thick ,fat...wallet is amore of a turn on than...I'll just leave it to your imagination.
@@tonyadams8812nah stop trying to speak for us we can work a man needs to have more than money to get a woman now
@@tonyadams8812Man made artificial money can never be a turn on.
It can impress, but can't become a turn on.
It's actually they look handsome rich guys in reality... they think are entitled to get perfect innall sense..😂
Dating apps will
reduce confidence in males &
boost confidence in females
except women have be murdered on the apps and so many are getting off them.
@@lillypilly6440 we are not talking about murders madam
@@rzc661 It has happened sir as well as rape and making women feel very uncomfortable. Not worth the risk
@@rzc661 most dudes on the apps want to have sex only and women are over it which is why you guys aren't having any luck
100 men who are liking the women will like other women also.
It's not any special.
When I was in Canada, people used to rate Indians as least attractive. I always wondered why Good Looking Indian Man = Average looking white man. People used to compliment me by Insulting an entire ethnicity, they'd say stuff like "You're not ugly despite being Indian" I'd say " But I'm still more good looking than you, what hurts you more? The fact that you're not a good looking white guy or the fact that an Indian guy is more handsome than you?" the level of racism is high. Non-Indian women only go for good looking Indian guys but Indian women throw themselves at white guys. Especially the darker Indian women. The fairer Indian women don't throw themselves at white guys. Thats what I noticed in my 7 years in Canada.
indian women also responsible for racism against thier own gender. when they criticise thier own men forgetting that they also belong to the same race. one gender cannot be considered as bad when both belong to the same race.
Same in Europe as well!
Yeah because dark Indian women have always been told they are ugly cause of their colour more than their facial structure so when they find that some ugly or average white dude is interested in her she gets the validation she always wanted.
Kinda sad how this "white = supreme & pretty" is deep rooted in their mind.
Dating is exclusionary by nature. We as Indian men do not decide to date black women before moving to Canada right? We always think about white women. Similarly they may not have seen someone as good looking as you who is an Indian with brown skin. It breaks the stereotype of being brown but still being attractive, so its confusing for them. It is not racism, because you are not being discriminated, but racial preference. You will see asians with asians and white people with whites. It is more of a culture thing. Humans love to stick to familiar cultures and people. Inter racial couples are not as common in the West just as inter caste marriages are not as common in India. It is slowly changing though. And also maybe you should hang out with better people who are more open minded towards inter culture dating. Canadians are very nice people! Hope you find someone nice soon! All the best!
I was so madly in love with my EX... Breakup after 4 years on 2015 and till now I am single... Focusing my career, taking care of my mom... Earning decently in hometown, have few dear friends, Debt free and yet I am single and happy
Nee dhaan thala massu
Wow 😲
Same. Only difference is breakup after 8 years last year. Women are not worth it anymore. Most of them are toxic, come with high body count and baggage. Stay single, take care of old parents, make money and travel the world. I swear on my life, women are not worth it. Please try to see the truth
be fr, youre sad and thats why you felt the need to type it out for similar losers to upvote
@@deadbutworking Real asf
All these points are great but u need to understand that a 25 year old in India belonging to poor background will consider spending energy and money on family and himself as 1st priority. So dating and socializing will be considered luxury
What you're talking about is generational curse. Most parents weren't smart enough with their family planning and didn't work hard enough to give their kids any luxury. Break the cycle, and prioritise yourself or you'll get stuck just like them.
@@talkingtochaprieasier Said then done
@@talkingtochapriparents did work hard ... Don't judge them circumstances are also a thing
@amitrane3910 Agreed! The video is repeatedly harping on a point that applies to a small demographic of people who have the luxury and freedom of socializing and dating at that age and are, equally importantly, WANTING to date and socialize. I don't like the fact that this video implies that EVERYONE at that age SHOULD be looking for long-term relationships. What if someone simply does not WANT that for themselves, at least not at that juncture in their lives? That's okay too!
I do get right swipes!
But usually from women who asks for “can you paytm me 500/- I didnt bring my wallet, and I need to buy medicine. I will pay you back” or from fake accounts! 😂
Wtf😂😂
Perk of being a desperate guy 😂
Its not just in India, but all around the world.
Yes, it's more difficult for a man to find partner, but in other parts of world specially western countries it's easier to find a match
@@Pranav8077that's not true brother. Birth rates are falling drastically in the West. They complain a lot about how shitty their dating culture is. And in India most people find a partner eventually thanks to arranged marriage.
@@avinashprasadfilms thanks to arrange marriage ? Really? 😂😂😂
@@avinashprasadfilms it's not about marriage, dating is usually easier in other countries than india due to the culture, in Western countries dating is very casual where even the parents don't mind it, meanwhile in India such type of dating is considered taboo where even a totally mature woman of age more than 20 is prohibited from dating by their parents in most households
No this is only in India.
Because boys are so underrated.
I have been living in the Netherlands for the last 2 years, and I have some friends. They feel very insecure about themselves after using such dating apps. It's not only happening in India but everywhere
Like how's the people height there like they say average is above 6" so how do you feel and what's your height
Who feels insecure? The Dutch or Indians in the Netherlands?
@@balu.92 basically every male on planet earth after using dating apps
How does this even apply to India though. It applies more to the West than in India.
@@balu.92Indians.
Fun fact:Women thinks they're miss world but men know their limits and they're humble.
*Remeber one thing*
"She's a zero but snapchat and internet simps made her feel like a 10"
check AYI Britain, Indian men are the highest
As a brown girl, not that I disagree with you… there are def those girls. But there’s also some awesome girls as well.
Men know their limits and they are humble that's why they look for Miss World type girl . No wonder they get rejected or betrayed . Go for average women you may not be disappointed . Whether it's darker or fairer Indian men majority of their first preference is a fairer Indian women . You are the simps who have made your life difficult .
In other way man are more simps, tha rki. Who just wants girls
Fact lol..only incels think like this. Yo yo gotta understand realistically that this kind of simping and attention comes from "men" only. You the superficial ones in first place creating the demand supy sir. Look around Bollywood for more info - old/ average even bad looking actors getting casted with beautiful actresses ( there are no average looking actresses in industry) cause it offers ultimate fantasy to guys who spend the most money on movies.
Good tip here: stop, dating apps suck.
Just go get yourself in a salsa dancing class or something similar fun and don't be a creep. Just be nice and soon you'll meet someone who likes you
We are rebuilding society from scratch ....😂
@@dhyanprakash7761 instead we should be building linux from scratch
Society Totally destroyed after 2020's
fr bro, its our responsibility to save this generation
@@Benisonbaghel u cant even if u want to. I m gen-z myself. I do acknowledge our lack of capability to listen to what other ppl say.
@@Iswearcrixket least thing we can do is Guide our kids in future...
Just a week ago, I got catfished by a female match. She literally asked to meet after 5 mins of talking, and my desperate ass, sensing all the red flags, ignored it. I literally didn't carry any safety precaution. Although she turned out to be a real woman with whom I spent an hour or so, she made me pay 5000rs for 2 drinks and one snack. During payment, she said she didn't have that much cash and she didn't use online payments, so she will get it done by her friend later. I had sensed this very early, but desperation and the fear of making any scene at a place where dating is frowned upon made me helpless. In the end, I had to pay 5000rs. She blocked me immediately after that :))
PS: I am just a college student with a monthly pocket money of 3000rs :))
Seedha bolo tum barbaad hona chahte the aur woh tumko barbaad kar rahi thi😂😂
@@HeavenlyFlames09 You don’t get women using money.
Take the girl to a tea shop, if she doesn’t want to go. She isn’t the one, she is not looking for relationship, she probably is looking for guys who spend a lot on women for their affection.
Itna sab bata diya hai, toh dating app aur bandi, Dono ka naam bhi bataa dey!
@@rajeshjsl they are not looking for love. they are using these apps for thier FREE MEAL. most of them are bombarded with love since early they are not despsparate for love n affection. whereas men are desparate for love and touch. they will go to any extent for that need. in our class 98% of girls had or having a relationship. whereas 99% boys are single, never talked to a girl. most of these girls go for same men.
🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
If guys stop putting females on pedestal and stop thinking about sex this will all stop now it’s high time to that
Sex is very important in a relationship. Just because your parents didn't love each other doesn't mean it's normal. Grow tf up.
@@alaster1403 I’m saying the need for sex by men to random females not to the ones in relationships
what a crass statement! Men are biologically hardwired to want and crave sex that's what keeps our species alive and thriving!
@@alaster1403 I don't think you got the point
@@genos1458 the argument was pretty weak as it was
It's simple...90% of women dating 10% of men in online dating....
thats why they get used and passed around lol
It's hypergamy 2.0 😂
@@jasonw3055 Indian men date out more
yep. average guy gets no matches lol. it's all looks, that's the only thing matter in these apps
@@deeptangshusarkar8868that's why you're used to being a leftover 😂
The blatant indian racism is getting out of hand.
And we are DOING NOTHING about it.
Black raised their voice, why cant we?
We as a whole dont have the physical strength to follow up...thats why
We must do it too.. beginning from appreciating dusky actors and Indian products
Because Indians abroad don’t want to rock the boat. They like being the “model minority”, which also means that their women are extra supply while their men are celibate.
Because we are busy fighting amongst ourselves how can we fight collectively towards something
Because the system doesn't see Indians the same way. The borderline baby blk people over here. Indians are held to a higher standard.
It's like telling a homeless person go buy a house, it's not that simple🙃
Below 25 Girls = Looking for a Greek God like Hrithik Roshan.
Post 25 years = Looking for a Richie Rich, either your Dad should have the money OR you should have 30-40 lpa package, and at this age I don't care about your looks.
How else is she going to take care of the children ? Ever thought bout that? Unless she's working herself even then men don't contribute equally in childcare. That's the reason for them looking for this type
@@dis_appointed8626Well its only natural for women to find a much settled guy, but women these days have become so delusional about what they want and how much a man should earn which seriously makes it hard for men to make up for
No
12 lpa n increasing is okay
Also his parents should have same money as me
100 percent
@@Harsha-D311nowadays girl earning 15k monthly dont want to settle with a guy atleast a lac monthly. Do you think 12 lpa girl will settle for the same pay. Lol no
it's better to die alone than to be with those with whom you'll feel alone eventually
I've seen how my parents suffered in their marital life and it's was worse to even think how they might be feeling it
@@ofc_its_sidd I am basically in the same boat as you
Usually said as consolation tbh
That’s an excuse to not try, okay not everyone will get it right but some will, if nobody tries because of fear of failure then how anyone ever experience a good relationship
@@Sasuke-d8lmaybe its not a fear of failure but a different lifestyle🎉
There's something else that I believe is also happening. People completely stopped setting up their single friends with each other due to jealousy. Even if they know someone who could be a potential match, they would rather make sure both of them are single. People who still set up people are the ones who are married or in a long term relationship which is already a very small group.
setting up is mostly bad among many indians , even girls are open about it , but a guy would barely help , he dont want to be a pimp.
YES, so much this. This culture of setting their friends with others was common in older generations, i rarely see it happening today in my friend's circles and others. It is purely out of jealousy most of the time. Whenever i was given the contact to connect with a girl, it usually came from older parents.
Yes i have seen this my so called best friend(as they called me) never told me that there were in relationship and sidelined me. After breakup they just came back. One of my friend always faked promises and gave false hope that she has a junior who is single and i will set you. Everything i came to know he was just having fun or just being nice.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xnjealousy among friends is happening a lot and they dont to other to be successful than them. F rat race
@@kamartaj3010 that is definitely one of the reasons why they don't set you up as well. They wanna make sure if their relationship bombs, you're alone and available as a friend so there's someone to talk to.
Tbh this whole 'soulmate' bullshit has become a religion of its own thanks to bollywood.
Read Rollo Tomassi's The Rational Male. The very first chapter talks about the Oneitis mindset, or the soulmate myth in boys and men.
Same for matrimonial websites too. Women only look for guys who earn more than 20 LPA or 6ft tall.
Damn i deleted matrimonial app too. They are waste of time
31 years old, almost 32. Never been in a relationship. Never had sex. Never even kissed a girl. Got close to something of the sort maybe a handful of times
I even got 50+ matches on dating apps in a matter of weeks, but nothing solid ever came out of it. My friends were shocked but after watching this video I realised I was gaming the algorithm without even realising it. I was swiping right on maybe 5% to 10% profiles, but that's genuinely because most profiles didn't even have pictures or were simply not attractive.
People have said, and I know, that I'm above average in looks. But I've had incredibly low self esteem, confidence issues and crippling social anxiety.
I know I'm fucked. I have accepted I'm never going to find anyone and need to learn to be alone for the rest of my life. I'm probably not going to make it past 50.
Same here and I'm 25, I have looks but being an introvert is what holding me back, even my friends are shocked that how can I be single since birth
28, male here. I am in the same boat as you. Been having random chest pains for a short while whenever I see some relationship topic or some form of exposure to relationship. I have accepted that I will die alone in my 40s. It is getting easier to adjust to this lonely lifestyle but the nights of the chest pain are really tough.
Must be so hard being straight :( I'm happy that rainbow is thriving😂
That’s deep
Yes.. Totally relate. People like us do exist 🥺I'm just 23 right now but reading all this makes me think this might be me just 10 years later. I do feel that I have above average looks, but no girl has ever approached me in my entire life! Me being an introvert, I could never imagine myself in a relationship in the future too. I guess I would have to fall into some trap set by family called arranged marriage lol
Spent way too much time on dating apps for years. Left it for good to eventually find a partner in the office.
Also, when you try too hard you'll keep bashing yourself for not getting it. Least expectations, best results at the most unexpected time. That's what worked for me.
Also, great editing. Loved every shot.
loved it.
same for me wasn't expecting anything nor looking for anyone and I found my woman happily living together
This is a gamble. Worst case outcome could be HR complaints, jail time and loss of your job.
Congrats buddy
There's a saying, Don't shit where you eat. I guess you beat it and had a romantic relationship with a coworker
This is why dating apps in india don't work.
In most college programs, the gender ratio is 80:20. 20 being female. Therefore, there is more demand for each girl than each boy. If the girl wants to date, they already have so many options. They have 100s of request pending on their insta. Their request section is a dating app in itself, hence most indian women don't use dating apps cause there is no need for them to do so.
Same in usa, there gender ratio in clgs is close to 50:50. Hence, both girls and boys have options. Hence, more females use dating apps over there. Hence, more matches.
Dating apps will be useless in india until the gender ratio. Improves in india
These mixers charge 99 rupees for women and 1500 from men. They even have women setup themselves, not actual women who come here.
14:38 I'm single since birth. I'm not only healthy, but I can handle 10x more stress than a normal person and still get a sound sleep at night. I love my peace and solitude. I play football, play guitar, do workout, read books, and so much more as my hobbies. In fact, the only time my mental health is disturbed is when I start talking to a woman. Relationships are good if you are with a compatible person, otherwise, they are not worth the time. And not every person is supposed to be in a relationship all the time.
Wow 👏 👏
fuck yeah tell this dumbasses
If your mental health is disturbed just by talking with women then something must be really wrong with you.
Completely agree 💯
Honestly, its one of this sensitive topics , the animation u guys did so awesome. It never so water downed or never over exaggrreated to look creepy. Just right visuals to convey right thoughts in mature ways.
Basic white girl here. In-person or online, I always seem to gravitate toward Indian men/get matched with Indian men. No complaints here - Indian men have a good attitude imo. I love all men, tho :) But since we’re taking about Indian men, I just wanted to contribute by saying Indian men are gorgeous inside and out ❤ (My personal experience!! 🙏)
On behalf of the Indian men; thank you for your kind words.
I know they are so into white girls that they act too sweet in order to impress them... ever seen how they act on seeing any foreigner woman in India?
arrange marriage sounds like a plan
Never lol would rather delete myself rather than arrange marriage
Nah bro u will be married to someones ex
What's the problem in that
In arriange marriage most times u get a girl which is used by other. Like amabani married to radhika. Radhika was in relationship already with couple of guys. 😂. Bt ananat ambani not. @@ArpanRayTV
Bad plan
Like Karl Rock says, "Nahi chahiye ji."
lol what🤣
@@BLOoMINDmai hindustani hai.... Hindustani ki mkb 🤡💀
Americans do not like Indian women
Indian women smell
Exactly😂
It's not just Indian men. It's all men unless they look like Bratt Pitt. I was talking to a girl (not conventionally attractive) and she didn't want to meet because she was talking to a 'male model' who was from Wales, lived in Australia but was in the UK with an American accent lol. I told her it's a scam and she said, 'ill prove you wrong'. Yeah I blocked her.
It's all men unless they look like Bratt Pitt.
Very true! The *vast majority of females want a white male who looks like Pitt,Cavill or DiCaprio. That's why as a black male who has lived in London, UK for decades (and keeps fit , eats very healthy food, doesn't smoke, drink alcohol)...I no longer try and ''compete''. Not worth it when all I see now (especially in the more affluent parts of London) are lots....and I mean LOTS of non white females( especially from South east asia) with white husbands or boyfriends.
When people stop watching porn, popularity of social media and dating apps will vanish. When i say people, i mean both men and women
Non binary can watch however any amount
@@SoJangHo37 They dont exist
No, when women stop dating impossible. Then the porn and the apps will disappear.
All for offline connections but i have had shitty experiences so far. Unfortunately, my bloodline ends with me :)
Dhruv bhai Germany chale jao oha milega
@@RikMahanta yeh badhiya tha guru
Same bro :')
Based on genetic research, only 40% of men in history ( starting from caveman days) procreated, the rest did not. Part of it could be sexual selection of women and environmental variables. Back then, even if a guy wanted to explore "greener pastures", it was very risky since they didn't have the means to safely travel. But with modern technology, we have those opportunities. Utilize it and improve the odds of continuing your bloodline : )
@@Ghostrider-ul7xnwhy?
Dating in India as a Man is difficult. Like if u are a woman then 70% of work is done if u r good looking and attractive. For Men they literally have to be over the mark in mostly everything like looks, muscles, height, confidence humour and maturity. Which makes dating a cut throat competition for Men in India.
And I feel this is our fault. It's we men who give women way more attention, validation that they don't even deserve which makes them feel over the sky.
As a Man it's better to be picky and not be desperate for women. Have some standards and approach only when the other person is worth it. Not every woman deserves our precious time and efforts. Working on oneself, being selective and interacting is the best way to overcome this issue in offline mode.
Also the most ironic yet worst part is that social media was designed to interact and establish connections with people but it's totally opposite today. Most of the ppl especially men are lonely compared to women.
Sending Love to all Brave Men out there❤️
Dating everywhere as a man is difficult and if you think dating in India is hard then dating in the west is impossible 😂😂😂
It’s nothing wrong with us. It’s just the society has put the higher pedestal based on looks and appeal of woman and they are hormonal creatures on top of that. They play the flute as per the hormones kicks in. So, don’t work just to get this , get that. Work on yourself continuously. Remember men are always alone and will ever be and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that no matter how society deludes us.
@@Zaheed-ip8mpnah it's harder in India as dating is culturally frowned upon so unless you have massive charisma only option for most guys is dating apps and they are just hell
@@Zaheed-ip8mp India is very conservative country and these things are looked down. Especially for women. Usually labelled as slts for just being in a relationship.
I don't like to brag, but I have all the qualities you mentioned women are looking for in a man, so much so I have been approached by about 5 to 6 women in my 34 years of existence. All of them while I was already in a long term relationship that ended last year. Trust me when I say this, most women are not worth your time or the trouble. Stay away and learn to love your life and travel the world
1. Delete all Dating Apps
2. Focus on Carrier/Life
3. Less Trauma/ Good Mental Health
4. Read Indian Laws for Mens after Marriage/Relationship.
whats the use if u dont have ppl to share your feeling and create memories, carrier is important but its not everything
Career career and career
@@dmxsavitar7614 You dont need people to create/Share Memories, Itna Dependable nahi banna ki Dusro ki Jarurat lage Khush rehne ke liye.
Ik Carrier is not everything isiliye " Carrier/Life" Likha he
@@projjal828 have a life and enjoy
@@dmxsavitar7614you can have friends
A good line I would like to add is, any amount of rejections are all worth a single partner.
I just watched Blade Runner 2049 for the first time as a 18 year old and I'm scared to see that the emptiness of the main character K is kinda the same for me. Idk if that's something that all males face. I'm preparing for jee 2025 btw
How we feel like K, Tyler durden, while we have parents, siblings at home and friends at school....God only knows
Nah man i have been single since 2019 i swear on my mother lol i am 22 now and have never gone to dating or had any sorts of physical relationship lmao..(yeah cause i Don't go out of my home😂 i am juts 5.4 lmao💀😆I have over enflated ego which has lead me into not talking to any gurls since my college days to now bachelors days lol and yeah the most importantly i am freaking poor qnd have zero eca skills like guitar playing or good at any other sports and activities lol
People have become kinda more isolated after the covid. Everyone feels like they are lonely. I know it's hard to talk to people in real life and make some real and meaningful connections but that shouldn't stop you from trying because at the end its all worth it. Hope you find some good people and best wishes to you for your JEE exams kiddo.
@@GTFO_0 dude r u like stalking me ? m f you explained my whole life with my accurate height 🤨you even know i am 22 how the hell
E bhai tu youtube bandh karde IIT / NIT Join karle. Iss problem ka solution success se hai
At 13:45 she says it right, building relationships is a skill, but not everyone is good at it and it needs patience
This is what I try to make my single friends understand. A lot of them think they "deserve" a good relationship because they're well educated and successful in their careers. What they don't realise is that they spent the last 6-7-8 years of their lives (including college) to get where they're at. How can they expect to achieve the same success in the dating market by spending just 2-3-4 months in it?!
Not just Indian men, most men on dating apps. Have a nice day
Thumbnail looks so damn good 🔥
Ya
Tera alg hi chl rha hai
@@incredulous- kya
@@madhu84818Indian women smell
Fake thumbnail
It's Becoz we're ugly and broke af 🌚
@@shreyash1mujeet
Lol. Money is definitely a big factor. Going out is expensive.
@@donydha21910 no bro of you are not attractive, then there are some equally unattractibe and broke girls to match up with you. Nature is balanced.
If you feel looks are the reason for not matching up, then you are looking in the wrong place
Speak for yourself mate
@@shreyash1 tf is wrong with you kid
Girls' unrealistic expectation is one of the key factor behind this. If a girl is 6 out of 10. She will be looking for a guy who is 8. Also if a girl is earning she will be looking for a guy who earns much higher than her with higher socio-economic status than her.
They also think that their earning potential will compensate for their own physical appearance and over age. But most of the guys will choose a girl who is relatively more attractive and young rather than a girl who earns money.
Exactly par galtiya hum ladko ki hai insta pe ladki ek pic upload kar di 1000 likes and followers woh bhi hum hi karte hai. We should have leverage on girls by make them feel left out than only this imbalance will be balanced.
@@veeral01 Yup.. that's why I don't do the things you mentioned.
Even a 2/10 girl wants exclusively 9/10 guys.
Hell with women too. Lets wish the worst befells upon them. Lets try to boycott women in other aspects of life.
same with guys... being 2 out of 10 and looking for Russian
@@shweta-kg8ky wo to aise hi fantasy hoti h sabki lakdiyon ko bhi kaale African lambe ache lagte u know what i mean
Same is true in hinge app. I tried it once and they bait men to pay through bot accounts when you join and then it goes dark, no activities. Very predatory. Stop using these apps. They are not good for men
I am 19 and currently in 2nd year of my college. I have neither got into a relationship nor dated anyone. I approached a girl in 1st year but got rejected. We never talk, she rejected me on my looks ig. I don't want an arrange marriage. If I don't find a girl, it's better to stay single forever.
same bro but I haven't interacted with any in the first place
It's easy to say approached people but the fear of rejection is the reason we are still single
bina bike ke ya guitar 19 mein ghanta ladki tumhe bhav degi!! wait karo thoda sucessful ban jao(societal definition) phir dekho tamasha!!aur haan prayatna karo kuch mahila mitra banane ka stree ke manovigyan ko samjho!!
@@RikMahantaTrue
@@RikMahanta yeah man 🙂🙃
It's just the difference in behaviour and habits of men and women.
Men will swipe on a lot of women profiles but a lot of women will only swipe on the same absolute best profile. Hence only the top 1% guy will get all the girls on the app while the rest 99% are stuck on zero😂
That's how the nature is .
@@prabhWalia11this is dating app heritage
@@prabhWalia11Indian women rank the least in America
@@phylicia595Ok and ?
The solution is that men need to stop being desperate, and that ain't happening anytime soon.
This comment section is depressing (and quite disturbing)
I didn't realize there were so many young to middle aged Indian men who have never been in a relationship.
Depressing because so many of these men have given up.
Disturbing because almost all of these men blame women and society for their failure to find a relationship - instead of working towards self-improvement.
Edit:
I've never been in a relationship either, guys.
Fact that you haven't been in relationships. Make me even more worried about my future. Anyways have an ice cream
@@yasho9959 Why did the fact that I've not been in a relationship make YOU worried about your future? They're completely disconnected.
Lol, the fact that you, a staunch advocate of self improvement, haven't been in a relationship should be a wakeup call that this has less to do with lack of self improvement, this is a systemic issue. Unless society addresses the systemic forces befind this, self improvement will hardly make any difference.
@@Ghostrider-ul7xn Who is society and what are these systemic forces? What can we do about it? If the answer is 'nothing' then we should focus on what is in our control.
@@rama-rao-y8u Hmm. What I read in much of the comment section was on the lines of "there aren't enough good women" and "women expect more from their partners than they should", and "I'm sick of being friendzoned by these women".
I have met a lot of interesting women, many who have a lot in common with my interests. Maybe because I'm lucky. Or maybe because I've met a lot of women (without the intention of a relationship).
you do not ask a fish
about
how to fish
- a wise man
I don’t usually comment, but you have spoken absolute truth !! Very good research and nicely put.
Indian men marry out more than Indian women in every country on the planet
i have had 8 crushes over my 28 years of life, i have expressed my feelings to them in person and got rejected by all of them, then I tried dating apps thinking it cant be worse than this, well its 10 times worse XD trust me I am not ugly, I dress well, I speak well, I have a job, I don't do drugs or alcohol but i just cant get someone to like me.
I even stopped trying , well you cant force anyone to like you. Currently I'm 25 . But i thinking to stay single my all life. It will be better that way
@@Gangadhar_55 I hope you don't 😇 I hope you find yourself a nice girl and end up in a loving relationship. I hope I can hear all about it here in the comments
@@mobasasuke3610 thanks for kind words but honestly all this evergy isnt worth. I will enjoy more things in life with less money. I can travel . See life
I sometimes think if even people like you are facing such issues then it's game over for others like me
@@user-nk7qd9hy8x keep believing my friend, one day everything will be better. Also keep working on yourself, excercise daily, eat healthy, get that new haircut, find a new style of dressing you know small things add up.
I'm glad to have stumbled onto this video. 4 years back I worked on a system design project that challenged the dating apps business model from a socio-economic perspective. If you have high affordability, you can avail Premium benefits, higher chance of matching, etc. But if the service is meant to help me find a partner, why does my affordability play a role in it?
As an alternative I suggested getting restaurants, cafes, theatres as advertisers to provide avenues for a "date", provide offers and help them generate revenue too.
But well, I dream.
The problem is the dating apps have monopolized dating by becoming the only space where its become socially acceptable to approach women with explicit romantic intentions in mind. Anywhere else you go to try to meet women in real life and women will be on their anti-social shit and be all like, “ew no don’t talk to me I did not come to the gym/bookstore/coffeeshop/grocery store/work/bar/anywhere else to get hit on.” Women have to take some responsibility and start giving men safe openings where they can try to make an approach without fear of being called a creep. Because if they don’t then the only men who will ever approach will be the actual creeps who don’t care about your personal space or comfort.
nah we don't like being approached every now and then, take some responsibility and learn how to approach women without creeping her out. If women allow anyone to approach her, she will become an easy target for too many creeps
honestly you struck a chord with the last part of the video. lots of us perhaps including myself aren't even trying and have given up the hope to find a partner. this vlog of yours seems so persuasive, exhorts me into thinking. I am eager to take a step. I will take a step. life is worth living to the fullest extent! Thanks for this lovely video, Achina!
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I’m not Indian but I literally have no idea on how to even try without using the shit tier dating apps
The power of arrange marriage in the palm of my hands...........at last
arrange marriage will be gone in 20 years, it will only last for millenials
Buhahahahahaaahaha. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Arrange marriage is 💩
Full of compromise
Wait for it. Drum roll..........
Men are f-ed in Marriage too,
Go see Indian laws regarding Marriage and how it is biased.
😂😂😂😂😥😭🥱
Go try 😂 it's the same situation there
The dating apps should hide photos until *after* a match has occurred. Hookup culture is destroying the species...
Super script but I salute to the Storyboarding designer and sound designer of this video. What a beautiful video! Hats off.
I'm I the only one who never installed these apps & least bothered😐?? I'm i missing out anything..
I don't think most Indians even use dating apps. Dating apps are mainly popular in the west, especially in the US.
You are not alone
India has more than 1 billion people. Why would you think you are the only one lmao?
You're on a roll! Heavy hitting topic after heavy hitting. Nice.
Well majority women on dating app are there to get there validation if they are feeling low or had a breakup
Both men and woman do this!
The animations and design style in this video are so damn good!! Great production quality!!!
why are u pushing introverts?
Not everybody is an extrovert.
Edit: the comments I'm getting tells me how unaware people are about introverts. First of all, introversion is not loneliness but solitude. We enjoy our own company and things we do. We have our own world inside ourselves. You do not understand it. U will never understand it as an extrovert who feels recharged by meeting people. I feel recharged by spending time alone. On my own doing things i love such as sing or play guitar or do coding or whatever. First understand the difference between lonely and solitude before u say that we should step out because your butt cannot rest in peace. They talk like personality types Don't exist But they do believe in zodiac signs. I can literally spend time in luxury prison with just internet and food. U do not understand this. I enjoyed the time i spent at home in covid. It wasn't a Situation of "unrest" for me. While other people were so restless that they were ready to get spanked by police on street for being outside of their homes. They couldn't just stay at home. But i had 0 problem with staying at home for 2-3 yrs. Stop asking us to give up on our comfort. Because you like being a bouncy butt. U enjoy that, and that's why u do it. It's not because u are hardworking or something.
Writing this as a former introvert
This introvert /extrovert divide is not accurate
@@i_love_sparrow2502 then u do not understand introvert. we are not lonely. we like solitude.
fir maro single
Introvertness is an illusion, come out of it forcibly, then only you will be free and reach the maximum potential of a human
@@an_mous here is my advice for you. I think you are faking introversion. Introverts always have something to do. I can stay in my home for months without wanting to meet anyone in person. I play guitar , i sing, i do a lot of other stuff. Life of introverts are not boring and you maybe useless but most of the introverts have their own world. Where they live happily. There's nothing lonely about it. It's solitude. Lonely is when you hate the feeling of being alone while solitude is when you enjoy being alone. You are not an introvert. U are just a lonely person who doesn't know what to do with their lives.
The only reason I try dating apps is because its extremely difficult to socialize with women. The most female interaction I have in person would be while ordering food in hotel. No place I go has women who are ready for relationship, not in gym, office, cafe, middle of the road, sidewalk, grocery store, petrol station, biker meets, movies, .... (gym is the worst, every woman there is accompanied by at least 1 guy and they look like they'd pick up a fight even if I remotely try to approach their woman). Even in dating apps, it is extremely difficult to build a healthy conversation (first of all, I never matched with an attractive woman). I think the only way for men to survive is to visit Thailand on weekends.
This is exactly the problem in india.
Dating culture is frowned upon in our society that's why
India does not have the culture where you can just aproach a stranger and strike conversation and ask to get tea together. Internet gives us certain freedom but our social cultre from the outside is still conservative. Even if you had aproached me in a park just to talk and I, a woman was lonely and looking for a partner, I would still be hesitant to go chat with you or go anywhere with you.
Thus the whole point of making connection outside is not possible unless you are in school, college or in a workplace where people like you.
Who told you that you are supposed to be ashamed of getting your wife via arranged marriage? If you are not an orphan, ask your parents to find your wife.
@@rayrwyr that kind of skips all the good part. And I don't have faith on my parents choice either as they would be looking for cast and status. I personally feel disgusted to bring up cast and status in choosing partner. I'd rather stay single than get into that dirty culture.
Dating apps are horrible.
I feel really sorry for people who have to deal with it.
any girl here reading the comments..........
Me
@@SuShashank Do you agree that women are 100x shallow on looks than men?
It is happening to people in general, so one can imagine the situation of disabled people, being blind myself I'm facing the same problem that has been explained in the video.
But I believe hoping to meet the right person and keeping a positive attitude in general and not being rigid is the key.
Stay positive. God bless you and your family.
6 foot 1, fit, but not financially sound yet. Although beauty is subjective, I get uncomfortably high attention from women IRL to the point that it even makes me nervous at times [i'm extremely shy 🥲]. But when it comes to dating apps or even social media, its complete opposite for me. Imo attracting a mate online is more about whether you're good at clicking pictures which most men including me usually suck at.
What will tell those men who says after five years of dating- gharwale nahin manenge. Women holds the consent card and men hold the commitment card so..... We need to raise responsible men and alert women.
Bro/sis most men never had any relationships to begin with, few men who were attractive in some way, we're in relationships
Any men who finds his partner attractive will never give the excuse of ghar pe nehi manega.
If your guy dumped you saying this then you had chosen wrong. You tried to fly too high dating someone who's not at your level. So, naturally he found a better substitute and moved on.
Love is about equality. Only then it will flow it's natural course. If you try to raise the bar too high and try to entangle someone much better than you, someday or the other they will invariably find their actual worth and move on.
Just because they are with you they are not obligated to commit. Maybe you are not worth being a wife or a long time partner. So, why should he commit.
@@conscireshooter Truth.
Even if as a male you find a woman you want to commit to who is a good person all-round - the parents won't give the green light if your choice doesn't "match up" to the class/social strata they decide. Then the choice becomes parents/family vs her.
@@conscireshooteror maybe they changed?
Or maybe they weren't serious to begin with
You could've just told me I'm ugly and I would've believed it
It’s actually simple, we Indians especially males think in a vacuum. In terms of international dating scene it’s all about adapting to what’s the fashion standard of the current generation, which i feel like we lack when it comes to international dating scene.
Damn! All the editors deserve a raise ❤
Editors who copy Johnny Harris?
This is a direct copy of two videos repackaged for an Indian audience + some yapping about Indian culture. I get it though. Life of an influencer
what a pain in the ass, I am not gonna do allat, gonna live to 90 without a partner or smth
great bro 🗿
Lets make a old age home and fill it with PS5 n Xboxes.. atleast no loneliness with homies
@@BasicMewMewNICE.meme
@@BasicMewMew real
it's actually a great idea@@BasicMewMew
Fair Indian men gets lots of matches. It’s just skin color at the end of the day.
exactly
Height😂
in the UK, dark skin Indian men get matches
Indian women smell a lot
This. Skin color, height and Race. 3 main predictors of not just relationship success, but pretty much success in every aspect of life.
Indian men in general don't reach their genes potential that can make their looks better and have good body whereas indian women in general take care of their face and body that makes them top 5 countries for one of the most beautiful women in the world
facts
maybe because the patriarchial society has pressurized them too much with responsibilities
Because grooming/self-care and focusing on your looks is not encouraged towards men. If you are a girl, your family will be more or less supportive of you being more fashion-inclined than if you are a boy. Going to the gym or handpicking outfits or choosing your own style is seen as "distracting" from your studies and "wasteful" by parents and society.
Tl;dr - This country is righteously fked
Indian women are ranked the least attractive on AYI Britain and many British dating shows
Watch all which race would you not date videos
Every man says no to Indian women
I tried once it was horrible experience for me. It was like a beauty competition more like people were there for their ego satisfaction rather than making bond.
I am a newbie gov officer so I hide that job profile I got few matches and all behaved rudely when I started showing it I got many swipes.
Everything seemed very fake. I left.
I read the title "Why Indian Mom get Zero Matches on Dating Apps" ☠
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lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
Indian men get a lot of matches on AYI Britain
Moms ko matches mil jyegi, but mostly ladko ko nai milegi😂
I've seen a profile summary saying have some balls and introduce yourself as just pics are not enough... While the girl herself had flowers and animals pictures on her profile. Indian girls think that throwing faltu ka attitude is the absolute way of life... Woh toh zaroori hi hai bhale khud ko waise toh koi puchta bhi na ho
On dating apps many girls are actually bots.
I'm glad some people are awake
I date women the old way (I don't date)
ik it's a copied joke but it's a good one ;)
Don't we all
Good one 😂
So you paid for it
I somehow broke through that social akwardness.
In any gathering, known or unknown people, regardless of gender, i am often the conversation starter.
Important thing I learnt in keeping the talk going on doesn't depend on your intelligence or how well you talk, it's just letting out what's on your mind.
If people like what you are, good for you, or else, move to next
That actually seems like solid advice , thanks
It's not Indian men, its Men around the whole world.
You clicked by reading the title and the thumbnail, you've realised that the whole content was totally different but IT WAS WORTH IT!
The closer and more friendly I get the more insults and humiliation I receive in life. It's debatable wether we need close friends and relations. Maybe human beings are supposed to live alone.
So true. Humans have a tendency to create problem for themselves
See it's like wearing a pretty dress... even gorrilla will look good. But if you get close, 😂😂😂😂 they knows
It's all good bro, relax and live your life
@@SoorajSuseelan10001 Exactly
People used to look up to India in the ancient times. Foreigners used to study in Nalanda university. I remember ancient Chinese called India “civilized” and “center of knowledge”. Scientists and mathematicians of the islamic golden age admired our work. Greeks and Romans also used to look up to us. Good old times. Anglo-Saxons and other Westerners are the reason that South Asians face discrimination worldwide. They ruined our image by portraying us as animal f*ckers, street sh*tters, unhygienic (India needs to work on hygiene, I admit, but man often it is over exaggerated), savages, r*pists, etc. West butchered our reputation. We think South Asians face discrimination because of skin color, but that is not the case. When you are brown, people think you are from South Asia, and South Asia has a bad image. Many Italians, Middle Easterns, and Hispanics have a bronze tone, but they face far less discrimination. Even light skin Indians face discrimination, just tell them you are Indian and attitude changes.
Meanwhile me scrolling through 50 matches but can't differentiate between real and fake ones. lmao!
Suffering from success i see
@@velansaravanan4869 Hopepless romantic In a hook-up culture bhai!
I'm Also facing Tough Situation in Betterhalf, I'm See Upto 35+ matches. But I'm not Get benefit
Speed Swiping
The same thing happened with me. I joined a dating app this morning only, and i have got like 250+ matches, and still, i feel like i don't like or know any of them
Dating apps favor the women most. That's why I quit everything because I have had enough rejections. Modern girls are hard to impress even though you look good physically.
Being in a relationship is better than being single, and I'm tired of pretending it's not
we know very little about adult neuroplasticity, mentioning it with that specific interpretation can be misleading/problematic.
i'm 33 y.o, single and a neuroscientist
Good content. Content which can genuinely make a difference in the viewer's lives. I feel I signed up for this. Keep it up Aevy tv. And btw, great editing.
This video is not just for men, all women should watch it and understand this too.
I hate it when foreigners say Indian man is the least attractive…. Indian man are attractive too but just need glow up new dressing sense and some skin care….
@tikamuchhu wrong
Its not foreigners saying that, these are Indian dating apps, also Indian men rank high on AYI Britain
Indian women are actually the least attractive, look at Richard Nixon, however Indian men statistically marry out more than Indian women in every country on the planet, even 80% of Chindians have Indian fathers and Chinese mothers
Watch any which race would you not date video in the West
They all say no to Indian women 😊
@tikamuchhuwatch any which race would you not date video in the West
They never say yes to Indian women
This channel produces some awesome content, definitely one of the best on TH-cam.
Ma'am, what about loyalty?
As per my experience, love is painful. In today's era, people add the 3rd person (bestfriend) and other complexities which results in heartbreak.
I have given up...
Nhi hota hai, koi pyar nhi krta.., everyone is selfish...
Ye kalyug hai meri jaan. Aha aisa hi hota hai. Ladke ko dowry chahiye ladki ko alimony. Saab loog paise ke piche bhag rahe he
don't expect expensive stuff from cheap people???remember the more they smile the fake they are!! you want loyalty pet a dog!! keep your bullshit tolerance as low as possible
Feels like confirmation bias here. Not denying that it happens but cheating is not a new thing. We just see more of it because there's more people and then there's the internet.
Great video. It's quite sad how so many people are falling prey to this sham of online dating- if you can even call it that. A majority of people are just on it passively- which is much worse. It's eating up your potential to actually be a loving, caring person someone would want to be with. I would personally recommend staying off of it and stand out by not being a part of that toxic space. You will actually start looking at things that matter.
This is not true. As an Indian man, I have never had any issues getting any woman I wanted and neither did my friends who are Indian men.
Not only dating sites. Matrimony sites also do the same. I have been in multiple matrimony sites for last 2 years. It's difficult to get a match and I have Select Shaadi as well for last 4 months. Not yet married.. I work in IT and has a good profile too. Just highlighting that something is wrong about the society. Loosing the hope at this point after talking to hundreds of girls. I think online dating and matrimony doesn't work anymore.
get the f out of that site use older ways ghatak system if you want arranged marriage otherwise it te acho date kore nao office er kauke!!
Bro i set up matrimony profile for my pgmate , he is 5'3 and 16lpa ,28yrs old
He got 50 matches in a month(mostly avg looking girls), what are you talking about
Lower your expectations. Merry someone from tire 2 cities.
It has never worked. I would recommend you to delete those apps, it's filled with shameless males who are catfishing as women and scamming many innocent males. Talk to women in your company, join book clubs, chess clubs, etc.