What happens when you don't like sex? - Sriti Jha | Spoken Fest Mumbai'20
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 มี.ค. 2020
- You can feel all the butterflies and your heart skip a beat for someone and yet not want to do "it". Does that make your love any less? Does that make you incomplete? "Confessions Of An Asexual Romantic" by Sriti Jha is about choosing to love in a way that makes you happy just as much as the other person. And what better way to do it than breaking into a song? Watch to know more!
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Omg such kind of people exist .....I thought that I am the only one . It's so relieving 😊
I m one of them
I am one of them but it's not that I was always the same....I became like that bcz someone forced me into it ..... hopefully I'll start enjoying it like others someday..and I don't know that someday will come or not
Is it wrong to be one?
PS: I am one of them for sure
@@Phoenix.219 ofcourse..you will learn to enjoy it..its all in the mind you just have to make your mindset like that..watch more hollywood movies with romantic and sensous content...read more erotic novels..take your time listen to your needs..start loving your body and eventually you will enjoy sex
@@garimasinghrajput9107 its nothing wrong..you just havent taken interest in sex..you have created picture of sex in your mind like its a sin and its bad to have it..no its not..its a medium to reproduce to give birth..read about it in google..actually its not your fault in india sex is considered taboo and no one talks about it or explain it..our families say it wrong to talk about it and eventually you create a wrong image or impression about it..its all in the mind change your mindset..talk about it with someone mature..who understands you..and all will be fine
True love doesn't require physical intimacy. Its the love between two souls.
Lavda ka love hai🤣🤣
@@kprathamesh3564 Stay blessed
@@aaryank9894 Blessings and gratitude. I respect your thinking. You are a great soul.
i get Little Desire But i still don't do
Becoz i don't Like sex
it's about Liking
& i don't want to increase it
if we Talk By Feel sexually then it Happen
means we can live without it
I don't hate sex but loving someone with heart without any physical contact & even without seeing, I think it's the purest form of love . This type of love only seen for God & I think if you ever could get such love please go for it
I have this kind of love 💗
---pure...?
I want you man
Then wats the use of sex if it's not used 😂 y has God given us that
This is the problem, don't define for everyone what "true love" is, you are the way you are for some fucked up reason. It's fine. But don't change the definitions
I respect her more now. It's not easy to talk about such things particularly when you are a celebrity.
Sriti is only the story teller here, she is not always the subject of the stories she narrates.
I never liked sex I thought there is something wrong with me.. was scared to share this with anyone
But now I know that there are many like me.. 😊
Shruti Mishra Hello dear .... I have different kind of sexuality .... i dont want to be physical with girl But i m immotionaly attached to female ..... If u want then we can be frnd ????
Bt i really like sex rather I would say I love sex bt yes it also right that some where we try to find love in such activities. 😍
Me too shruthi
That's OK girl I make it clear from the start that see I hate it 😂😂
@@snehaltawde3602 i also don't like to be physical but i m attracted towards girls immotionally
The best part is, she was smiling through the whole thing!! Such beauty, such grace!!
Yes...her smile is very attractive
Yeah
She is actress,remember.
Damn, she's a bomb. That's magical to see her on stage like that.
asexual is new term for madha hijra (Female Kinner) (Female Impotensy) n yes they exist.....in medical terms its called veginesmus too
@@jackhudson551 Vaginismus is a physical condition where sex becomes painful for a woman. It doesn't define sexuality. Nothing to do with feelings/sexual orientation/sex drive.
@@Jst4fun817 fine but if their is pain shile having sex then how wud dat girl cope up? if some one on earth cant have sex then she or he has no right to relationship or marriage....they can only be frnds, bros or sisters dats it....they shud not spoil other one's life keeping dis secret only to them selves,,,,they should be open about this,,,,,our main motive on this earth is to give sexual pleasure to someone then we go to heavens,,,,,if we cant then we shud be nuns or preists ,,,,...like old days such ppl used to be.....otherwise such ppl have to go to hell again......
This was important. I highly appreciate you for representing the Asexual Community in such a poetic way. 🏳️🌈💜🖤
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Im so glad that communties are becoming more diverse, im unlabelled asexual and i know so many more that identify in the lgbtqia+ community
Right !
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Damn, finally someone is literally explaining it right !!! We exist!!!
Yes we exist.... I came to know tere are many like me.... I used to think that may be i am physically or mentally not fit.. So I don't like it.... I am spiritual... So may be bcz of that... I don't find much intent or joy fulness in this act.
@@damininimburkar6283 there's nothing wrong,
You just lack something..
That's lack of sexual attraction for others.
my sexual desire become zero
& i don't have a Problem with That
i Don't want to increase it
@@shreehari2681 😂😂 Itna zyada masturbate karne kisne kaha tha?? 🤣🤣
Gnda Jok sirf ek Gndey Dimaag se nikl skta
us wzeh se Nahi
agar us wzeh se Hota to Problem Hoti
increase karneka Mn krta
Tensn Hoti
"Every time it happened I knew I wasn't really being me" Loved it!!!
It touched!
You are right. Almost everyone is possessed by some spirits. Almost everything in this planet is controlled by spirits. When you fall in love they say a pair of God's are in action. When you see loathsome crimes many times you ask how can man stoop so low. It is not man stooping low. It us he allowing such spirits to act through him. I was a sanyasi. Il believed that the unconscious takes possession if you. So strive to be conscious and cultivate the habit of consciousness. But then I clearly saw that it was all the play of unknown spirits outside if you. This I am telling from my experience.
@@tpeter5866 My girlfriend confess she is asexual after 2years, why did she cheat me, why cant she tell earlier, now i dont know what to do please reply
@@CJ-xd5oh wait a second what? You think she cheated you, that means you made her ur girlfriend to have sex or to do marriage, love means just love pyar ka mtlb sex nhi hota h, tumhe dikh ra h that she doesn't like sex not but not he fact that she *loved* you.
Next time find a better audience! This one ain't even listening.
Trueeeeeee
Ikr !!!!
Yeah
May be bcz of English
True!
No matter what her name is
No matter what her name was in any other tv serials
I'll always know her as Pragya
😅😅😅
Same 😂😃😆
Same here
trueeeeeeeeee
Yess😊
bilkul sahi,,,,,,,,,,
Sometimes I feel youtube is Stalking me... It knows my feeling
I also i this vedio found me.😂😂
It's real
I want someone in my life to know my feelings but there is no one and I think there is only TH-cam who understand our feelins
@@abdullateef4742 felt you
Lol 😂 same
@@abdullateef4742 I'm here.. reach out to me.. talk
Thanks for this. Whenever I think about after marriage I used to get so scared because of sex. I felt that I'm the only girl who don't want it. I used to think I've a problem because I don't mind hugging, holding hands, taking care, loving. I also dream of a prince charming but whenever this came I didn't want to get married. Thanks for telling me it's a normal thing.
Me too
Same here Today i got to know i am totally Normal, i thought about it 1000's of Time and assume i must be having some problems for sure, what i am Gonna do after marriage , Society and Mens are all about ***
Same
Me too
And imagine the situation where asexual falls in love with a normal person who like sex just like others.. I'm 21 yrs old and I never dated anyone till date. I never felt attraction towards anyone. Yes i had very few crushes in school days when I was kid but I was never attracted physically towards them. Since the day I born, I never find any men or woman sexually attractive. And point to be noted, I am romantic and belive in intense romance. I watch love stories full of intense emotions but I don't like those moment when in movies they show sexual content even between leads. I have watched so much of adult content like xmovies, Hollywood movies and sensuous content but I never felt that spark watching which other people feel watching them.. I like few love making scenes from Hollywood movies which make me feel like ok one day I too feel and enjoy the same but till date never find anyone sexualy attractive....I have been thinking might be I'm too career oriented so my brain isn't processing and feeling sexual content that way it should but a month ago, I get to know there is a community called ASEXUAL which is the part of LGBTQIA who felt the same like I do. I'm still confused whether I'm asexual or not. But yes I'm romantic beyond the extent anyone could ever imagine. When other girls talk about hot boys I always act like dumb coz I never find anyone sexually attractive. And I'm totally in fearful situation whenever I think what will happen if I'll get marry one day with same type of behavior . Let's see what life has plan for me.
I hope all the asexual, demi-sexual and others who are confused about their sexuality finds love. I hope each one of us will find that one person who will love, respect and support us
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@@kiranrao7602 ??
Jin stole my heart too 🤣
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Jin stole my heart too.
No matter what her name is
No matter what her name was in any other tv serials I'll always know her as Pragya 😂❤️
I also.i becouse he is in serial
Fugiii
Sriti is her new name
"We have to use word sex and not love to come out"
This line has more depth than you think
Loved this! Thank you!
Yup
Ha..ha..crazy
I didn't get it...what does that mean...🙄
@@MuskanKumari-wx4hd same :\
Can you please explain it?
She's awesome such a daring women no care how this mediocre media will judge her. How would people look at her. God bless u girl!
Who notices that smile after she came out as asexual??? Coming out is such a great feeling
I just love it how accurate she has described what an asexual feels.... you’re sooo good😭😭😭😭😭💕💕💕💕
Meaning of asexual ?
@@aposayaposay1607 an asexual person is a person who doesn't feel sexual attraction towards any gender.
@@thorsonofodin2492 actually they get attracted ,but not in that way
It's my personal experience...
Arpita Patel i pity him
kitty fights back 313 Thor specifically said “sexual” attraction, which is the definition. There are other types of attraction. The general meaning behind asexuality is that the reason you get together with someone isn’t because you want to have sex with them specifically. You may or may not enjoy sex, that’s not what asexuality focuses on. It’s more about the sexual relationship between partners or lack thereof. It’s a spectrum, so any individual cases, are not generalisable. You get people that don’t always stick to the full definition but are still not suitable for partnerships with people whom want to have mutual sexual satisfaction.
You’ll find plenty of examples of married couples that are very attracted to each other but don’t really want to have much sex with each other, even if they have high libido. That’s an easy case of asexuality that goes unidentified because people don’t always talk about their private matters. Those are cases where the attraction is romantic or filial or platonic or otherwise. They stay together not for the other person’s body. And funny enough, that’s what religion calls a spiritual union. In that sense, asexuals are actually very religious. Heck, for centuries, conservative religion(and even now in Catholicism) forbade any non-reproductive sex. If a woman was unable to provide children from a sex act, then that sex act was deemed sin, and the family was allowed to give that woman away to become a nun so that no one has to bother trying to get her pregnant. It’s why anyone in the queer community gets disliked on religious grounds, because their interest in others isn’t strictly based on creating children via intercourse. It takes a long time for casual sex, sex education and birth control to become mainstream because of this too.
Never thought a daily soap actress could be so intelligent, creative and so much less drama!
Absolutely
Don't stereotype bro.
Really appreciate your courage
And it's very good for us that lots of one are accept it and show it's normal
What is this??
R u Preparing for upsc???
Seriously mam today I know that I am not a single girl who is not interested in sex even feel awkward and it affects my life badly but today i am feeling good on myself that there are so many girls like u ..who don't want to loose and break ever.👌
Thanku so much and i appreciate you and ur poem it's awesome❤❤❤
hi are you single?
Tou hum logo ka kya hoga ?
Yup! My gf is little bit asexual. But it's ok. We love each other n this is more important for me.
Wow she is damn lucky 🤗 cz whom i loved he only want sex that's why he leave he..😔
@@Jenny-yw2wy , you should stay away from sexual predators anyway regardless of your sexual orientation
@@Traumatised311 right
Maybe you mean demisexual or just sex-negative?
@@pallavimvutharkar9460 ,no demi sexuality is different to sex negativity
Who knows her as Pragya??
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Kumkum bhagya actress so adorable
सौभाग्यवती भाव: 💖
Kumkum bhagya
That pragya😬
Actually I love the way she sounds 😊😊😊😊😊
I also feel the same... initially I thought there's something wrong wid me...but now I came to know..that there are many people like me...❤️
Me too dude ! I thought I'm only one But now I'm so happy to heard it that there r many people like me😀
@@pallavigawale2903 Yeaahhh 😉
I hope the asexuals find people like them, please guys don't settle for people with mainstream mentality....this is coming from a person who considers sex an important aspect....
i can assure you, asexuals do not want actively sexual partners too, but many a times in exploring their sexuality they are told "you have not found the right one" "you will get used to it" etc. the same way you feel the need for sex in a healthy relationship, asexuals graysexuals and to some extent demisexuals dont find it necessary
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Yea asexual girls should only be with asexual men but there are very less asexual men compared to girls so such relationship usually ends up in a disaster...
But how it could be possible? Becouse male persons r not coming out as female r. I think they are much more consern for their emage. At some how they are also leaving in a hypotractic socity and they r used to be.
@@shaliniyadav7256 ya bcoz of FOMO of the so called word 'Mard'
Firstly, I would like to give a big cheer to her for having the guts to speak up about such a thing infront of a crowd and that too in such a beautiful and meaningful poem.
And secondly and most importantly, it's okay if you don't want to have sex. Your other half must be ready to accept you for who and what you are. The person who accepts you for who you are is the "real one".
Lol. What bullshit. Sex is an important part of life. You're an abnormal person if you don't like sex and divorce can happen on the basis of cruelty. SC has given that decision. One should not suffer in their sexual life because their other half isn't interested in sex.
Would you be fine if they started having sex with other people? Afterall you aren't doing anything for them. They are straight, accept them as they are and have sex with them.
@@piyalichhajed6009 They aren't the same nahi, they aren't normal. Having sex is a normal thing. It's the most exciting and intimate thing. Physically challenged are called that for that a reason. Similarly these people have this abnormalities due to hormonal disability and most of them instead of rebelling against their parents marry someone their parents chose. Ultimately the other person suffers.
@@gohan12991 that's mutual understanding & the partner should know if who they are with are asexual.
@@shristishukla1211 are u mad why the hell u are calling yourself abnormal..being asexual is totally normal there are lot of people out there...infact in western countries there are communities of asexual people.it is not an open topic in india tho but it doesn't mean it's abnormal.you don't need to accept the world "abnormal" just bcz someone is saying that you are.just be honest about it..to your partner...because if he wasn't asexual..that will make his life horrible...
I find so many comments here shaming people for having sexual feelings. If you are asexual that is fine. But you have no right to judge people who have sexual feelings and call them predators/creeps
I'm glad that I'm not the only one..
To know people like me exist is so satisfying 😊
A simple Hug is pure heaven !
Today You tube recommended me this video ,, she explained it in better way I had ever thought 🙃
I have seen her doing poetry for the third time and she is real good at this. .. so sweet, genuine and love her
Are you asexual aswell?
@@shravan7239 nope...infact I came to now about that word too today.... But poetry doesn't mean it's for only some one who is going thru that .
@@shravan7239 she is right, poetry is just a way to enlope your feelings into small phrases. And btw its very rude to ask someone there sexuality in open as its very personal and many people have orthodox mindset about this topic so be carefull dear.
@@shreetanwi 🤦🏻♂️true, okay
@@pruthvihegde5432 thanks for some sensefull comment..
"Do not tell me who I am." I wish I could like this multiple times...
Atleast I found someone.. jo mri trh sochta h.. jisko sex se jada cheeje important h.. and all of the above cuddling is far better then sex.. walking on the long road alone with hand in hand is much better then sex..
She is so pretty and an extremely good actor.
It's very conflicting, to be attracted to someone but not want them in a certain way that the whole world expects you to. I've ended two relationships only to figure this out...
@@I_belong_to_Krishna I don't see why it would be something exclusive to women.
The first fictional asexual character that sort of helped me in whatever little way it did was Todd Chavez from Bojack Horseman so yea. LOL
You are valid. 💜
i really don't know who you two are and really don't know what you both are talking but i really love the way you discover this about each other. This feels like reading a book where two fictional characters meet. i dont know why i wrote this.
P.S - i am not trying to set up any thing i wrote what i feel.
@@srijansingh2430 I felt exactly the same man.. but yeah sweet it would be 😋😊😂
Me too !!!! The same.
I never thought somebody would even talk about this. I thought there's no one out in the world like that. Thank you so much for it❤
Same here
Sex is like reading a book..it always stays in memory..that is the beauty of it..
Same yr. This was what I am unable to explain
@@sana88829
I can do something for you..
you know what many male and female would be libido in these quarantine time.
Dayum!!! I always thought there's some problem with me. Thank you so much for this video, it really made me feel that am not the only one.
Finally I found this video. I am also one of the people in comments rn and it's not like I hate s*x but I get scared whenever I think of it and it's the reason I don't want to get married bcz I don't like TOO MUCH physical contact. I'm not only one thank god. WE DO EXIST!!!
Every sentence meant something beyond words. "Celibacy" and asexuality is different, rightly quoted"
I admire you to have guts and speak about the topic that is pretty complex.
These things change no? people also have these as mere phases, so why box yourself in some fixed images??
I've never done it.
But I know more than anything,
I feel people here are just attention seekers.
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She seems very intelligent. It is hard for me to fathom how she end up in TV doing some mediocre drama.
Yeah you are right even I also didn't like d her before coz of the serial she was was working in but yeah she very intelligent person
I think Money
Paise ka chakkar babu bhaiya
💰 💰 💰
Duniya jhukti haai
I will correct you. She is a significant part of Indian Hindi TV content...Not everyone can do what she does.
Happy to know there are people like me. I thought this kind of love and emotions didn't existed anymore. Glad I came across this video. :)
The issue is " SEX " is missing understood for intercourse. It is not about the act it is much more than that. It is the engaging of 2 minds, body and soul. It is ab expression of who you are and how you communicate with your partner. It is an orchestra where all your senses, your being has to participate to create the music just not one organ.
Unfortunately not all get that right.
More than her words...i liked her way of expressing her words.
Very few stand up comedians or entertainers of this era are as expressive, yet real at the same time, as her. 👌🏽
"And we're the only ones who have to use the word 'sex' and not 'love' to come out"
That hit me hard...
Can you please explain it!?
@@shaziyasheikh9730 Sexual orientations are sometimes explained with the word "love". For example, a gay man might say "I love men" to come out.
But when it comes to asexuality, that's impossible. Asexual people can still "love", so they wouldn't come out saying "I don't love anyone". The only way to come out is to use the word "sex" (or "sexual attraction"), like "I'm not interested in sex" or "I don't experience sexual attraction".
@@zazazebee okay... thank you 🌺
I guess this is so me...prioritise others things above sex
Same 🙌
@@anushkachauhan5834 good to know 😍
Same here🤗
@@ayushiyadav3248 🤗
@@MohitYadav-nr4wf no no no you got it wrong
She is so cute.. Simply adorable..
Beauty with brains.. And beautiful soul
Well,i am the one who always scared thinking about sex it's seems so awful to me but thank god in the era of "aaj mai karke aaya" the people who "just Netflix and cuddle exists...💚
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I'm 18 and it was very hard to tell her or Ask her out For her deep Feelings... But jaisa ki mene socha tha start mrko hi krna prega... So i started making her feel comfortable to talk to me about it and She liked Her comfort zone with meh and Understood The SEX Word Isn't a sin!
Yup she she was kinda asexual... She never had Any feelings about it or curiousity but I'm happy that i made her feel that it's not a crime if you have desires or curiousity having sex! Doesn't matter in both ways..
Actually people have made this too awful... But it is clearly just a feeling Or Reproduction method... Why we see it as It's a crime to feel it or watch it... Or desire for it!
@@mestarboi7834 💞
Don't confuse - Asexuality & S.A.D (Sexual Aversion Disorder) ... Look out for more.
I dont know why it's so difficult for people to understand that love is not sex & sex is not love
but they are connect af
Sply husband think that sex is love .. he is making love by sex .. and love shows on bed
Yes u are right.
Sumaiya Murad: true
@@shaistasiddique5038 love should be shown how he talks , trust, and believe his wife when no one believes her.
I couldn't understand why I could always only imagine to a certain point but its because of people who come up I accept myself easily.....she looks very intelligent and smart , much love and respect to her for speaking out so beautifully
Today love is all about being physically....people r in so much hurry they even don't want to feel the magic of love ,the bonding,the way other likes...I don't know what old loves looks or like old movies showing the way but For me love is really a feeling which must b served in a plate of patience,care, understanding,bonding n all sudden that touch would create magic...sex is unplanned thing but must b happen with consent of happiness and magic...❤️
So true....amazing
Beautifully said ❤️
Absolutely right 👍
Beautiful ❤️
But love can be all this plus physical too, isn't it?
Awe she's so cute and adorable 💖☺️ Great speech btw 🔥
Love ya India 🙏
Ya yah... Quinn👸...💜Sriti Jha💜👍
I hope the people commenting "yes we exist" find their partner who is similar to them
Yess 😂😂
Aisa Partner Ptni ko miley to wo to Bura Ni maanti
aaraam se Rehti Hai
Ptni Pti ki Khushi k Liy krti to Ldko Ko Lgta - usko Psnd Hai
zabki Wahi zaagrit krta
or kuch Ptniyo ko krtey Huey Feel Hota
to Eska Mtlab yeNi ki usko Psnd Hai
wo karna chahti
agar ye zaanNa chahtey to uski Starting ka intzaar karna
or start Hone Lgey to tum respons Mt dena
agar Naaraaz Ni Hui to smzo Wo Bs Behak Ri thi
Pr kuchLog Aik Baar experienc Lena chahtey Hain
Its very difficult to find d exact match
Okay, thank you.
See sex as a comedy
Then u don't feel sexual desire
Oh my god she is happy and smiling and i am falling for her again.
She is really eloquent after Tisca Chopra's Kommune talks I like the way Sristi speaks
I didn't know this was real thing.. I never liked sex.. I really don't. Gross to the level I want to disappear.. Hugging is okay.. More than that.. Naaah
Some People Like smoking drinking
& some Sex
Hello dear .... I have different kind of sexuality .... i dont want to be physical with girl But i m immotionaly attached to female ..... If u want then we can be frnd ????
Just curious What's the merits of choosing a man
What do you look in them subconsciously
It shouldn't be similar to what sexual women seek no?
Pls share your thoughts
behan plz kisi se shadi mat karvana,,,,meri huyi hai ek aisi ke sath shadi n life has become hell.....asexual is new term for (Female Kinner) (Female Impotensy) .....in medical terms its called veginesmus too
jarurat hai insan ko insan banane ki hindi mandal
search on you tube
She awllways cried in that serial...
Good to see her smile
Your voice was so magical and I have goosebumps listen to your story...i relate this
The way she expressed and explain is just wow... amazing...this is it.
I thought I was the only one who feels that.... totally relatable
There is difference between sex and love. Being in love is always such a romantic thing in world.
Sex can be about love too or it can just stem from lust. Its depends on purity and consiousness.
Sex is above love and more pleasurable
They told me I haven't found
The right one yet
Well honestly as of yet
I had found a right few
I am going to share those stories
Then you will find
Some things old and some things new
Lets go back to the start
The very first time i fell in love
Things were said and rules were laid
Holding hand and flirting was alright
Anything beyond that would not be okay
So the problem was that
I went beyond and kissed
The very first time i was kissed
And i was kissed back
It was a discovery
It was the closest magic that I'd ever felt
So the best kisser i was going to be.
I learned new meanings of forever
I learned to work for again and better.
But then i couldn't catch-up in the rhythm or in the rhyme.
As a cosmic alarm went off
And everybody was ready for their first time
I must have missed the alarm
Because i am a late sleeper
Because i wasnt ready or eager.
But when they spoke of it i joined in with equal vigour.
I kept falling in love
sometimes better other times worst.
But "it" was never on my mind
And that seemed to be my curse.
I kept avoiding it ,eventually i did it
But it didn't seem meant to be.
Every time it happened i know it wasn't really being me.
So i told my friends and a problem with me was diagnosed
A lot was said, a lot was done
Books were read, new boys were met
But problem remains solved by none.
Finally I was relieved when they wrote chants of
no means no means no means no.
But when i said no and i meant no,
They said "you have got to a try little more".
"Come on, try a bit."
"How could you not ?"
"Why would you not ?"
"No, you do ."
"You don't know how."
"I will teach you "
" I will show you "
"Oh my god ! You never felt wow ?"
But i had felt wow.
I had felt wow in hugs and kisses.
I had felt wow every time fingers had run through my tresses.
But beyond a point when it went
I was left all alone.
So i learned to lie in words and in moans.
I learned to lie because i didn't want to hurt.
I didn't want to loose and i was in love.
Who was i to choose ?
Who was i to choose me who had none alike?
Who was i to choose me who had lost love's every strike?
And this was the time when everybody was talking about sex, learning and teaching consent.
And i had no one except my discontent.
And this is not bashing my lovers
They were great .
This is not bashing my lovers or my firends.
They were taking the care of me,
Keeping the bargain at their end.
This is not bashing sex either.
This is not to prove me greater.
I do not celebrate celibacy.
I am not a sex hater.
And sex haters, you think just the favourite child is the asexual kind?
Go out with the boys or with the girls.
Your parents never really mind.
True, but for that to happen
You have to come out.
And we're the only ones
Who have to use word sex and not love to come out.
You see the irony there , I am sure without a doubt.
But what must be done must be done.
I found a way to make this little easy.
And as i go ahead,I know I might sound cheesy.
They say you dont stutter when you are singing a song.
And as I go ahead
I hope you will sing along.
~ I am asexual
I am not the only one
I am evry thing i need
You better recognise me now
I am asexual~
There is another song that has phrase,
"Cardboard cutout sex appeal"
And I always misheard
It was carpal tunnel sex appeal.
Because for me it was about holding hands,
Holding hands to the point of chronic muscle ache.
I didn't know , picking my way to love was such a terrible mistake.
I have to paraphrase song to tell you I fell all of it,
The butterflies and the bees in my very stomach's pit.
And if I ask you, why do you need or want sex ?
You can't put it in words. I know.
And that is a ineffable reason,
Thats how i know ,that i dont want sex for sure.
And i am not incomplete or in any way less.
I am complete but confused.
Isn't that such a beautiful mess?
And i am broken, imperfect.
And that needs mending of a different kind.
Dont tell me who i am.
Do not try to change my mind.
Last but not the least,
In LGBTQIA
An asexual and an Ally
Each and every single way.
~ I am asexual
I am not the only one
I am evry thing i need
You better recognise me now
I am asexual~
_Sriti_Jha
Aray 🎈❤️
@@ayeshaqintar350 hii r u there
Finally, I'm not the only one 👀 I didn't say I don't like sex ...but I feel more pleasure when I hug, kiss or hold hands than sex🥺🥰
I had no idea she was such a good poet, wow !
Yeah cos she's a Pisces
.asexual is new term for (Female Kinner) (Female Impotensy) .....in medical terms its called veginesmus too
@@jackhudson551 Dude it's a disease okkk chhhota
@@upasnasuman38 yes its a disease but incurable,,,,,
@@jackhudson551get off with your 2 Rupee knowledge
Did anyone notice that are sentences are rhyming at end wow her vocab is great
Its a poetry dude
@@saumyasingh2995 I never thought there were this much of dub people 🤣🤣🤣
Yes,i did
@@rujusinjali4757 learn to spell dumb otherwise your arrogance lacks the intended superiority xx
@@freemindsloveforever 💀
I am a guy and I am also one of those people. It's getting Harder day by day as Men can't be asexual and i haven't shared this with anyone and haven't met any guy asexual as well to share my burden. Sad thing is we are very less in number even less than homosexuals hope one day someone will understand how we feel.
Men can be asexual!
@@xyzaaa7716 Yes they can be, its true.
It's estimated that around 1% of the population is asexual, but in reality the number might be closer to four times that. It's not as uncommon as you'd think. The more people know about it, the more will openly identify as asexual.
Men are less like to be. While Most women are Asexuals. Men can be Asexuals
Respect for sriti increased infinite times ❤️
Ufff....thank God, someone said it aloud....holding hands and kisses are also important....
Toh? Kya Karen behen? Sex chhod den? Bacche Kahan se aayenge? Abhi mar den kya manushya jaati ko?
Bchho ki Badi chinta Hai
Bchho k Liy sex krtey Roz ?
or kuchLog to shaadi se Pehle
@@thebigbangtheory2458 Asexuality aur infertility ek nahi hota h gavaar manushya. Bachche paida ho sakte h, tu chinta na kar.
YEs....they usually happen before sex. Called foreplay.
I do love hugs and kisses but sex. I don't know why that's something I never really wanted. Untill now I did not even know being asexual was a thing..
Kon h ye log.. Kahaan se aatein h
@GOLU Gupta but sex is as much importance as sleeping.. And what it's best when you give happiness to girl by providing sex😊
Karke dekho pati ke sath. Fir accha lagne lagega. If you don't like it that's fine but naturally you would want to make him happy.
sex hurts and is disgusting.
Yes right
More than your context I became a fan of your poem writing and speaking skills.. very brilliantly and confidently presented .. it clearly seems are u r speaking ur feelings straight from your heart.. not just words..
I’m gay and I’m asexual. I find it really hard to find a partner. But good to know such people exist.
Damn she’s brilliant how did she memorize this my god 😱
It's called spoken word poetry... All these people are amazingly talented.
Because she has written it.
Simple.
Cause she memorized by heart
indian education system 😁
Yessss Sex is not everything in this world and all are not comfortable too there are many other ways to enjoy and spent our lives ..world is changing ..
Why do u feel so dipa ? Would u care to elaborate
@@hindustanigamer9686 It's her choice 😅
@@thebigbangtheory2458 well it could be her choice , I would just want to know why she feels so
@@hindustanigamer9686 Sarcasm tha Yaar. Yeh log fir se Naya gender le Aaye.
Uff.
@@thebigbangtheory2458 ohhh f I get it now neh dhupia lol
I don't know how to tell my parents that I am asexual, who are forcing me to get married
are u married? looking for asexual man?
I love what she is wearing and such a beautiful msg written soo welll
U r not incomplete u just don't need anyone to complete you...
Can you help me understand more
@@shravan7239 even i need help
@@akarshrana5828 even you think you are asexual?
Well said
@Karan She better off without some sex maniac. One who loves her truelly will care for her and make her love it at her own pace.
Cute in every way possible!
Yes, we're messy.
Yes, we're broken.
Yes, sex won't ever possibly give us the pleasure that we get in those intense eye contacts, the hand holding, the soft innocent kisses and most of all.. the words.
Yes, we exist.
True
@@delusionalbeing13 soooo true
Why aren't you guys on other platforms 😭
Exactly 😍😍🥰🥰
Yes we exist ❤️
I have always wanted asexual relationship, but i thought it was stupid but there are more people who think like me...
I feel sooo happy.....
me too girl
I have loved Sriti Jha from Swabhagyawati bhava days but seeing this I have much more respect for her .
She sounds like a good author, poet, ohh my gosh such a genius girl I used to see her in Kundli Bhagya.. highly impressed of her beautiful personality along with the beautiful face..
This is such a relief. I thought there was some problem with me. Thankfully I am relieved of this guilt now! Big hug!
I also have the same problem i thought just like u but after watching this i also get the same releif and so good to see this that there is someone like me who dont like sex becoz we are not much comfortable but one of my frnd teach me it is not an issue if u dont like sex its really ok u are perfect
I too thought the same thing
same
Same
Me too thanx
I feel, I'm also a genophobic. & I'm not ashamed of it. On contrary I'm happy to know ppl like me do exist too & it's soo relieving.
Yes .. I feel it's me .. who feel love in eyes , in holding hands, in kissing a person on his forehead . But I can't go beyond
Honestly I thought such kind of people doesn't exist 😶 this video proves me wrong 😊
It means I'm not the only one
Thank you ❤
I am waiting for someone
😔
Evn my gf doesn't like sex..shez only into taking oral sex.
Plzzz Search Acharya Prashant video u tube
Me too.
Omg omg omg what an eye opener this girl was hatts offf , I was wondering what’s wrong with me when every guy talks abt sex I feel annoy now I can also sing “ I am Asexual “ Thx for this bravery 🔥
Coming back and will come back to the song again and again
Thank God! It gives me loads of relieve.... I thought I'm the only one and I'm broken.. I'm feeling so content now.. It reduced my insecurities 😊
Hii can we chat i m also feel same
She just cried my heart out there..there are so much divine things in love to bother out
This is not bashing my lovers or even my friends, they were taking care of me keeping the bagging at their end!!
This not bashing sex either
This is not to prove me greater
I don't celebrate celibacy
I m not a sex hater!!
💫 exactly the thing which all neer to understand!!!
Imagine someone who enjoys sex falls in love with a asexual person. Such a sad scenario.
Shit dude, that’s depressing
I have experienced..but we broke up :)
Take me as an example😀....but never nothing went wrong between us.....I understood her needs and wantings.....She too recognized much well.....but the thing much hurts is the distance between us😔
Sex doesn't meant to bang each other. If this is sex then its disgusting.. it is based on animal matings that's the reason most of girl's doesn't like it , even after marriage women's feel gross. But unfortunately continue to impress their so called husband.
@@amarnathnayak4374 And here if u see me my bf broke up with me just becuz i denied for having sex ..and i stood with him in every single situation..i got against my parents..i lost my freedom and he left me becuz i denied for se- ...Bad luck ..i have to study bye
Who is observing the expressions of the audience behind her
Everytime I thought what I was I never could word it out. Love without sex is such a hard mess but honestly we exist. Hopeless romantic not affiliated to body attachments. Necessity or not love is needed. I hope people I am with , person I adore just understands it without me having to explain phrases. No matter what people are perfect , different yet perfect. Thanks smriti. You have no idea how much praiseworthy you are. It was such food, unspoken and the best.
Literally seeing asexual representation make heart skip a bit 🖤
Its Sriti
Exactly ✨
So this whole 5 minutes basically is about how one can fall in love for other person but they don't want to involve sex in it just love one other without the need of having sex. Is that what this whole thing about .
Sharwari Gangawate god my husband is that I guess 😭asexual n m opposite we faced a lot of issues in my marriege coz of it n finally I am turning to an asexual with so much difficulties but some men don’t accept to this fact that they are asexual ego issues he is tryin his best to prove me he is not asexual but u knw I knw it in my heart i shut up plZ pray for me ! M scared if he watches my msg here some day
Who recognised that she is in TV Show KUMKUM BHAGYA on Zee Tv.....Hit like😎
🤤
Also she was In dil se di dua sobhagyavati bhava with karanveer bohra
😱😮
I thought I was the only one like this
I'm so happy that I found this 🥰
Hii can we chat i m also feel same
Hats off to her for speaking about asexuality back when most people would just shun you out. People who don't understand the concept still do.
Kudos to her to come up and speak for others also to feel confident of how and whatsoever they feel
People might find us weird but who cares ? We are happy in the way we are ... :)
Aap matlab opposite sex ki taraf attract nhi ho paate???. I mean r u going to getting married some day Or not???
@@ramansinghrajput3397 i will gt married to my bf ... I do get attracted to opposite sex but mujhe sex k process me koi interest nahi hai. Mere bf ko ye pata hai n he is ok wod it . My relationship wid him is more practical n mature n we are like best friends. Sex is overrated. N waisey b apne indriyo pey nirantaran kar pana har kisi ki baat nae hai .
@@sugandhadogra1781 that's good... I m happy for u dear.. Respect ❤
@@sugandhadogra1781 one question in future, if u want baby then what will be ur state of mind.. What will u do... R u going for family planning or not???? I mean u want baby or not
@@sugandhadogra1781 Actually y mere bhi saath h..but hmara long distance h to iski need n hoti but bad m Kya hoga don't know
The worst part is when you live in a culture where a woman is just a ''bachy paida krny ki machine'' , where the biggest service a woman can do t her husband and her family is producing babies for him.
coming from a Pakistani A-sexual, i am 19 and i am afraid of what's ahead, only asexuals wóuld relate to how terrifying it is.
Hi I'm 19 too and asexual
I know you live in a difficult culture but be honest of your true identity (asexual) before getting married. Doing so you will avoid problems to both you and your partner
To be honest meake yourself that much successfull that no one can force you for anything and the best will be not to get married
Log pyaar m ghr chod kr bhag jate h to shadi k bad girls ko ghr chod kr jana padta h aur tab se jindgi barbar honi bhi start ho jati h islea agr jaroorat pade to ghr chod dena but successful hokr so that family k reputation pr effect na pade aur wase to parent shadi na krne ko shyd kabhi na kabhi man bhi jaye specially mumma
Btw its all my opinion dont take it to heart if i had said something that offends you
And also give me suggestions too (it will be upto me whether i'll accept it or not )
@@shinsegae1137 same
Best speech i hav ever heard couldn't even look away from the video ❤️