"Once she went out of town I put bleach on my cereal, I wasn't trying to kill myself I thought is was milk. I hired a prostitute to show me how the oven worked."lmfao
My mom does the exact same thing, can’t make a joke at her expense because if you do, it means you never appreciate anything that she’s ever done. Lol.
@Time4Truth Yeah, and they're turning the frogs gay, chem trails are proof the world is flat, and windmills give you cancer. You can go back to the cave now.
@Time4Truth So... Do you get mad at every pizza commercial? Like, when I see an add for 7.99 pizzas on a bus stop bench, is that pedophilia too? Also, can you explain how this relates to diddling children? I'm quite curious to see your rational.
@Time4Truth I bet you cant even look at a Pizza without thinking of pedos. I bet you can't even breathe unless that breath is cursing the Clintons. I bet you spend every second of the day plotting a Clinton Assassination, I bet you spend every second of the night posting on Alt-Right chatboards on just how much you HATE the Clintons. Am I right?
honestly family-related skits are my favorite, especially when someone sends you one or vice versa 😂 The target parking lot and Adele thanksgiving are the first to come to mind lol.
I've been thinking about it for five minutes, haha. It is the single most accurate comedy sketch I've ever seen. The cringe-inducing "sexy" talk, the guilt trip, the former ladies man and badass who now couldn't tie his own shoes without her help...I can't even really say it's "funny," but, my god, is it real. Like I said above, only thing it's missing is a 15yo boy in a Floyd shirt going "Don't you see what she's doing?? You're all really gonna fall for this again?", his siblings telling him to stop, the dad getting mad at him for upsetting her further...oh my god. I feel traumatized by this sketch haha.
@@BlackCover95 You don't get it, that's the whole point. If it WAS your mom, it WOULD work. People hate it when their moms act like this because it always work on you.
Britney Smith what’s wrong with someone loving thier spouse or needing thier better half in thier life and also sometimes it’s not cool to be sexual for the wrong reasons we all have flaws that need work but that does not mean that it’s not normal it is normal I mean what are you expecting robots 🤖
Their is no manipulation this is how everyday people are it’s what makes us fall in love with each other the understatement of each other’s feelings but somethings like being sexual in public isn’t ok especially if your doing ah commercial on PIZZA 🍕 I mean it’s not ah condom commercial or something like that
Donnie Moretti Sadly this is simply a knock off of an episode of the Golden girls where Dorothy and her mother Sophia do a pizza commercial. Saturday night live has really sunk to the bottom
James Allaire judging by how universal of an experience this is (literally check any of the comments) I don’t think you can say this is a knockoff, if I joke about sneezing and someone else has already done a similar thing, does it mean I copied? No it means it’s a universal experience and thus a similar joke can be made from it.
@@krauser18x There are 2 billion mothers in the world (85.4 million in the U.S.). There are 4.3 babies are born each second but not every mom necessarily acts like this so mabey that is how many moms act like kate in this sketch idk?
Business Guy no? I just put that in there for tone so it didn’t sound too heavy. This video is supposed to be comedy, so I found it kind of ironic that people were relating to it in a real way. I didn’t mean to sound insensitive though, so I’m sorry if that’s how it came across
My mum was exactly like this when I was younger, but she worked really hard on her mental health and communication skills and actually changed over time. I was amazed! She had a really difficult upbringing and a ton of baggage from her own parents... our whole family is so much closer now, and we've had some awesome healing conversations. She's such an impressive, humble person and I respect her so much.
@@Jack-cd2zu Well it's a long story, oh boy.. but maybe this will help someone else who’s struggling so here goes… So my mum had a super traumatic upbringing with controlling, critical, unloving parents who all-but cut her out of their lives at 18, naturally leaving her with a lot of mental health issues. I didn't learn about this until I was an adult, but it certainly explains a lot! At heart she's a wonderful person and was very caring to me growing up, but she would get triggered at the slightest thing. She was prone to severe anxiety attacks that overwhelmed anyone else's feelings, and would constantly assume that other people didn't like or respect her - even her family - picking up on any tiny hint of 'tone' in how we spoke or acted and becoming hurt and defensive. It was like dealing with two different people depending on whether or not she was in 'triggered mode', and because she was always passive-aggressive and martyr-like rather than just plain aggressive, that made me feel guilty and want to protect her, even if I was upset and frustrated myself. Because her reasoning in these times was so bizarre and her reactions could be so extreme, I sometimes wondered if she was purposefully acting like that to manipulate us (although I know now that wasn’t true). I came to resent her in some ways, but she was so good to me the rest of the time that we remained close. Why things changed: 1. My mum is a genuinely good person who doesn't want to hurt others. It was hard for her to see outside her disordered thinking at first, but when she understood the problem she really wanted to change. 2. My parents have a really, really great relationship with a lot of love and understanding. My dad was always very patient with my mum because he knew how much she'd struggled (she had much more severe issues when they were first together). But once my brother and I arrived, I think he saw that some stuff he'd learned to 'put up with' was affecting us, and especially as kids we didn’t have the resources to cope with it. How things changed: Firstly my dad knew my mum deeply and trusted she didn't intend to hurt anyone. He understood the root of her behaviour was insecurity, so he would consistently reassure her she was loved and respected. My parents committed to always 'talk things out' no matter how long it took, until everyone felt satisfied with the conclusion. Sometimes when my mum was acting irrationally my dad would talk to my brother and I separately and explain she was struggling but it wasn't our fault. I give him huge credit for managing to balance a difficult issue like that while making it clear how much he respected her. Having said that he had issues of his own, and she afforded him the same patience and respect in return. As I got older we started having ‘family meetings’ once a week where anyone was allowed to air out something that was bothering them and we all had to talk it through. The kids were treated as an equal part of this conversation and we were allowed to respectfully bring up issues with our parents. Sometimes that was uncomfortable, but it was ultimately what saved us. Slowly we started to talk through my mum’s ’issues’ in that kind of non-threatening environment. She would get upset at first because we were “ganging up on her” but we kept it really calm and reminded her we were bringing this up because we loved her and wanted a better relationship. Over time she came to accept she had a problem, and once she was outside of a situation she could look back and admit she over-reacted. We came up with lots of methods to help divert triggering situations - we had an agreement to stop a conversation if things were getting too intense and take a 5 minute breather. We got better at catching things before they blew up. We took time to break conversations down logically and give everyone a fair chance to speak. We practiced listening skills. And we always came back to the statement “we love each other and we’re not trying to hurt each other” when things were going wrong. It definitely wasn't always smooth sailing... I'm condensing 20-30 years of progress into a couple of paragraphs here. But the key factors were: love, compassion, honesty and communication.
Pretty nice to hear you talk about your mom like that. I always imagine my mum was born fully grown but as you grow up you realise there just you but older lol.
my mom when she's trying to say "sorry" for something "im sorry im not the mother you wish you had. I do the best I can and I hope you can forgive me for not being perfect"
@Jim McCracken its a completely random comma, and its completely irrelevant to worry about writing in internet comments for attention :) not to mention you didnt even write a whole sentence to question tos. your not putting in enough effort to seek for attention. lul you need to be taught awareness and logic, missing something like an o or a period is really not that big a deal, get help not grammar. also we are typing not writing, with @s not dears ;)
@john krats Some people are British, John ;) Also Australian, any former British colony, or just someone who learned ESL with British English rather than American - so a lot of people!
@Yuu Tubbs no it's not passive aggression. Mother's work a lot and never get a thanks. The kids are rude, unpolite and don't care about the stuff the parents been through to make them happy . They feel underappreciated.
@@analopes312 maybe that's why... Or maybe they depend on what people say about them for their worth and their whole world comes crashing down the minute someone says something about their flaws, which they do have like everyone else. It's not healthy to rely on people's opinions to be emotionally stable and feel worthy, not healthy for the person and not healthy for everyone around.
This is actual footage of every family dinner I ever had as a kid. They just cut out the part where mom criticizes the kids for ten minutes before emotionally cutting them off.
@@MaddieNiec you can exaggerate then you can over exaggerate. Over exaggerating means you exaggerate so much it's not believable. Example. If I caught a fish that's 6inch long but I tell everyone it was10 inch long. That's exaggerating. If I told everyone it was 30 ft long that's over exaggerating. No one believes that.
@@inspectorsteve2287 either way it's exaggerating though, you don't need the over. It's just redundant and unnecessary. We know they're exaggerating both times.
My mom is Korean and this behavior transcends cultures. But it’s weird that the skit made me kind of understand where my mom is coming from. She just wanted to be included and appreciated. Communicating that could be better though.
I think what he meant was that she thought her “horny dance” was funny but instead of her family laughing and letting the director say that she shouldn’t do that her family did. I still think her behavior was bizarre and reminded me in ways of my mom tho. Like just get over it.
I love how the dad is so dependent and lost without the mom. 🤗That’s how my dad is with my mom. He is very capable but they’ve been married over 45 years and if my mom goes out of town for like a day (which doesn’t happen often) my dad says “I sure miss your mama”
“How can I eat’m if I’m supposed to keep my mouth shut” 😂 I relate. One time at a restaurant my dad told me to watch my mouth. *I said “I can’t watch my mouth if it’s on my face.”* Only reason I got away with it is because my siblings busted out laughing but dad was *PISSED*
Omg! I’m a mom of 4.... this is frikken me! Wow😔 I got some changing to do! Update: sent this skit to all 4 grown children and they all replied, “that’s you” Who needs therapy when SNL skit can make you see the truth about yourself! Thanks SNL!
Major kudos for realising this about yourself and wanting to change! We all have our issues, but I can tell you from experience your kids will appreciate you so much for acknowledging it and working on yourself . My mum acted just like this but she worked on it over time. We've had some great conversations about it and became much closer as I got to know more about her own upbringing and insecurities that led her to those habits... anyway, hope it goes well for you! Good luck!!
Major major Kudos for you acknowledging this. I’m 29 now and my brother is 31 and even to this day it has effected us so negatively. Especially our personal relationships
This soooooooo my dad. My parents been married 35 years i just realized last year when my dad was fixing the washing machine He has mom come in and run a test load because he doesnt know how to use the washer😳😳 dug deeper and realized he HAS NEVER done a load of laundry as long as i can remember. I have his Christian mingle profile ready cause my mom is adamant he need a new wife within 6months of her passing or he not gonna make...smdh lol codependent parents...
Yes playing the exact same mom and pop, and instead of moms like Lois Wilkerson - we can have a mom like this which I hate to say it would be more relatable to many people.
why do parents get upset and become childish when kids say something to them that they find offensive? like isn't there an adult way to react?? this is classic, i'm sure everyone can relate!
It's emotionally manipulative behavior. Their parents were all fucked up and old fashioned which fucked THEM up, and then you see this maladaptive shit.
It's because you sacrifice everything for your kids, give your hearts to them, and then they repay your wonderful kindness with cruelty. And it's thoughtless cruelty at that.
@@wolfshanze5980 I took it as him just listing off his failures as a husband to an amazing woman. So he basically said "she needed help, and I left to drink with the boys" Idk that's my superficial guess
Ah, the family dysfunction. The codependency, insecurity, guilt, and boarderline-personality all layer together so well, like a pizza! And like a pizza, it's some how both comforting AND a little sickening. You know it's not healthy, but it's so easy to give into. Genius!
How DARE you attack one of the most beautiful and fundamental parts of our society? Without the social entanglement and layered nuance of pizza, there would be nothing left of worth to hold on to!
One of my buddies had his family go away on a visiting-relatives vacation and per his request, leave him home alone for the first time. He was, I think, 15. Only after they left did he realize he had no idea how to cook most foods, or use the washer or dryer. He was living off of french fries and chicken nuggets and needed clean laundry badly. Then, midway during his time home alone, he got sick with a fever, accidentally shattered the old school mercury thermometer in the sink, and cleaned it up with the kitchen sponge!! When he called me I was like "You didn't wash the dishes with it?? Oh thank God...just...just stop doing things. Sit down. I'll be right there."
My mother to a “T.” I’m in my 60’s and until I read the comments here, I thought this behavior was just my own mother. She passed in 2016. This was absolutely hilarious. That behavior drove me absolutely nuts!
I had to stop this video for multiple times because I was laughing, this reminded me of my mom when we were growing up..She wasn't the cool one and at some point she was made fun of and she took it really personal!! And yes, my dad couldn't do much without her! I can't do very much without her either, I'm grateful for her honestly!
I have had many girl friends act like the mom... and it could have been the slightest thing said in their direction from 60 to zero simple as saying calm down! they I can’t relate to the Dad because I’ve been able to cook and clean sense I was a kid and after coming out the army and most of my buddies x military and improvise if needed...before I was once married and for 15 yrs after now divorced for over 25+ sane and happy,I’ve always been self-sustaining as a male..just have girl friends off and on..but that is crazy to see on SNL...
Funny, that's my mom's go to line, but she says it when there's actually something wrong and doesn't want us to worry or fuss over her. I've joked that we're going to put the phrase on her tombstone in quotes.
@@djmotise Yes, sadly it is.True and funny for some people. Maybe not all mom's, I'm not like that at all, but mine is sometimes. More so when we were younger, and all us kids were at home.
"How am I gonna eat if I'm supposed to keep my mouth shut?"
Pretty sure I've heard my mom say this exact thing.
Curtis Wesbrook me too😂😂
Same 🙄🤦🏽♂️
Same lol
Here here
Me too ahahhaha
If one of Moms responses was “you’ll miss me when I’m gone” I would have thought someone broke into my house and filmed us eating pizza.
Wtf my mom used to say that too, wtf
I do actually miss her now she's gone though
MY MOM SAYS THIS ALL THE TIME HOLY FUCK
@@thepoetandie7619 damn...we all know we are gonna miss them one day, but they keep telling us that FFS!
“After I die you’ll have nothing. NOTHING!”
“It doesn’t matter what I want” oh that filled me with primal rage
Oh jesus, same!! I have trouble watching this sketch because it hurts
I guess having a mom like this is a universal experience, surprising.
I heard that and lost it
What, are you a mom?
1:46 for my own memory _(when I inevitably come back to this skit and start scrolling through the comments again)_
"Honey, how's your period? And son, fight me."
I see you've met my father.
craw2072 666
@@Kimtron142 1,000 just now
"Looks like Dad's lost without Mom."
"Once she went out of town I put bleach on my cereal, I wasn't trying to kill myself I thought is was milk. I hired a prostitute to show me how the oven worked."lmfao
Actually its 1.4K
This passive aggressive behavior is so perfect. I'll just be in the car
“It doesn’t matter what I want”
Cold and starving
@@lukemckenzie0121 My own mother at her finest.
It's not passive aggressive, it's shaming and manipulating, different method.
It doesn’t matter what I want.
Just give me the crust from the trash. *every mom
This would never happen at a Terrazano’s
Idk, they're all hard there.
My dad is a really messed guy. He would never do this! Not at a terrazano’s!
I’m a Terrazano’s girl.
IM DED 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Or Domenico’s!!
My mom does the exact same thing, can’t make a joke at her expense because if you do, it means you never appreciate anything that she’s ever done. Lol.
Mines too
my mom does the same thing!!!!!!!!!!! this is insane I feel so connected wait I'm so sad
Time4Truth ok boomer
Its funny how that got it on the nose about how mom's act...Time4Truth shut the hell up forever
@Time4Truth
Yeah, and they're turning the frogs gay, chem trails are proof the world is flat, and windmills give you cancer. You can go back to the cave now.
Passive aggressive mom is accurate mom. I called my mom out of guilt.
@Time4Truth
So... Do you get mad at every pizza commercial? Like, when I see an add for 7.99 pizzas on a bus stop bench, is that pedophilia too? Also, can you explain how this relates to diddling children? I'm quite curious to see your rational.
@Time4Truth I bet you cant even look at a Pizza without thinking of pedos. I bet you can't even breathe unless that breath is cursing the Clintons. I bet you spend every second of the day plotting a Clinton Assassination, I bet you spend every second of the night posting on Alt-Right chatboards on just how much you HATE the Clintons. Am I right?
Huh, seems that Time4truth idiot deleted his comment
William Cortelyou this without context is incredibly concerning
So so accurate.
My family watched this together, it ended in shouting because my mom didn't get why we were laughing.
This is such an underrated comment!😂 Love this!!!👊
That is tremendous!!!
I couldn't show my parents this because I knew they would get offended but my brother laughed because he knew it was spot on
Omg I sent it to my son, lmao.
honestly family-related skits are my favorite, especially when someone sends you one or vice versa 😂
The target parking lot and Adele thanksgiving are the first to come to mind lol.
I've never felt more connected with a group of strangers on the internet...how do we all have the same mother?
I've been thinking about it for five minutes, haha. It is the single most accurate comedy sketch I've ever seen.
The cringe-inducing "sexy" talk, the guilt trip, the former ladies man and badass who now couldn't tie his own shoes without her help...I can't even really say it's "funny," but, my god, is it real. Like I said above, only thing it's missing is a 15yo boy in a Floyd shirt going "Don't you see what she's doing?? You're all really gonna fall for this again?", his siblings telling him to stop, the dad getting mad at him for upsetting her further...oh my god. I feel traumatized by this sketch haha.
I know right !!!
How can I feel connected? It doesn’t matter how I feel...
@@advancedraymondology2914
Were you the Pink Floyd boy?
@@danielflanard8274 perhaps, no comment. Haha.
I want to send my mom this sketch but she’ll probably get offended and act like this
Sybyss hahahah!!! So true!!!
I’m surprised they are not calling themselves non gender or gender neutral! It’s weird seeing a family with a MOM and DAD being normal anymore! 🤷♂️
@@seroogyw6238 okay...
Warren Rose Thanks for agreeing!! Thank you also for supporting our great POTUS!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🙏🙏✊✊ #TRUMP2020
Warren Rose it’s dangerous to feed the trolls
The "offended mom" act was spot on. Makes you feel guilty you're alive every damn time...
More like angry at the attempted manipulation. If my mother acted that way, I’d quickly lose sympathy for her.
@@BlackCover95 You don't get it, that's the whole point. If it WAS your mom, it WOULD work. People hate it when their moms act like this because it always work on you.
This hit hard. As soon as she just didn’t talk I got chills.
You got chills probably because youre a hopeless moron 💪😎
Benjamin Schwartz huh
Me too 😂
Yep. Same thing with the ‘I am your MOTHER!’ scene in hereditary. Too close to home
Trevor Wills me too this was some dark ass humor
The emotional manipulation is too real. Even realer is the codependent parents.
💯😁
Britney Smith what’s wrong with someone loving thier spouse or needing thier better half in thier life and also sometimes it’s not cool to be sexual for the wrong reasons we all have flaws that need work but that does not mean that it’s not normal it is normal I mean what are you expecting robots 🤖
Their is no manipulation this is how everyday people are it’s what makes us fall in love with each other the understatement of each other’s feelings but somethings like being sexual in public isn’t ok especially if your doing ah commercial on PIZZA 🍕 I mean it’s not ah condom commercial or something like that
Sooo sooo true! Spot on with Codependent parents!!
Lmaoo my parents divorced, and now my dad acts like the awkward uncle who doesn’t know anything about having/raising kids
The dad not knowing how to talk to his kids is scary accurate 😂
Haha, I liked his "Honey, how's your period" line. So awkward and so funny!
💯💯💯
This is not comedy. It’s a documentary
attlee2010 dead ass
@@frogtweezers5289 Your comment made me laugh out loud, because it made me start to question phuc ewe's comment too, LMAO!!
Edit: Youuu get a like!!
phục êwê bro if real stop being a boomer if not real nice. Sarcasm bruh
I’m the thousandth like
Directed by Ang Lee.
If only she had said, "I guess I cant do anything right for anyone." Then it would be my mom.
Brittany Light mine too x
If I had a nickle for every time my mom said this, I might not be drowning in student loan debt now.
My sister
Hahaha same
@@ByCatJ Yur baad 4 brainen'. i gaht monet
I was waiting for the part where she says "The only one who appreciates me is the dog."
Bruh... my mom no joke has said that to me word for word
So your mom doesn’t say: “I’m just going to move to Michigan?” I thought all moms said that 🤣🤣☠️🤦♀️
@@TheBigScreenPictures Then she would start talking to the dog about how he was the only one who appreciated her
In this case only the death row inmates appreciate her
Only at dinnertime. Lol
everyone is talking about how their mom is just like this but they fail to appreciate how accurate the dad was
Most people with moms like this don't usually have a dad in thier life so it makes sense. I'm living proof 😂
My Dad just sighs and starts arguing with her when she gets like this
Lmao this always happens
Wym, i didn't see him get up and leave before the skit even started...
I don’t have a dad 😂
"It doesn't matter what I want" Did Kate McKinnon meet my mom to prep for this?
Nope, she met mine!
Dammit she met all of our moms!!!!
I literally got “I didn’t think my opinion mattered” with a winky face as a text from my mom just the other day and immediately thought of this sketch
Oooof. Too real
That winky face was hiding her broken heart.
I showed this to my mom and now she's mad at me.
I guess the truth hurts 🤔
Same here.
Donnie Moretti Sadly this is simply a knock off of an episode of the Golden girls where Dorothy and her mother Sophia do a pizza commercial. Saturday night live has really sunk to the bottom
@@jamesA6649 Bro chill. It's just a skit.
James Allaire judging by how universal of an experience this is (literally check any of the comments) I don’t think you can say this is a knockoff, if I joke about sneezing and someone else has already done a similar thing, does it mean I copied? No it means it’s a universal experience and thus a similar joke can be made from it.
I knew Kate McKinnon was good at impersonations....but who would have thought she can perfectly impersonate 50 BILLION mothers, worldwide?!
Facts🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 this is my mom!!! She will do this if we joke about anything
Are there those many people in the world?
@@krauser18x There are 2 billion mothers in the world (85.4 million in the U.S.). There are 4.3 babies are born each second but not every mom necessarily acts like this so mabey that is how many moms act like kate in this sketch idk?
@@Red_Devil_Stew why have u b0thered 2 research that
@@empathy2638 Look man, Just between me and you, I have no life
"H-honey...how's your period? And son.....fight me." I shouldn't have taken a drink right before that line. 😂 So good.
The number of people in the comments who can relate to having this kind of parent is pretty sad actually lol
Narcissism is an epidemic, it really is
Business Guy no? I just put that in there for tone so it didn’t sound too heavy. This video is supposed to be comedy, so I found it kind of ironic that people were relating to it in a real way. I didn’t mean to sound insensitive though, so I’m sorry if that’s how it came across
I agree. And I totally relate to this...
@Beta sounds so familiar
Right, there're a lot of damaged folk out there.
“She let me believe in Santa Claus until I was 28 years old”
💕Sneaky sneaky ELF reference, I see you💕
Right after he called him Bud, too, lol
Joy Lee ahhhh. Thank you. I missed that. You’re sharp.
I don’t think it’s an Elf reference. Buddy is 30 and the reference would be hamfisted.
@@theadhi3216 exactly lmao
Hey! :) My name is Sneaky Snakey!
Kate McKinnon is a sketch genius. I would watch a series of sketches with her and Kristin Wiig as obsessively as Key and Peele
My mum was exactly like this when I was younger, but she worked really hard on her mental health and communication skills and actually changed over time. I was amazed! She had a really difficult upbringing and a ton of baggage from her own parents... our whole family is so much closer now, and we've had some awesome healing conversations. She's such an impressive, humble person and I respect her so much.
Interesting to see a different story. How did she manage to do it? Why did she decide to change in the first place?
@@Jack-cd2zu Well it's a long story, oh boy.. but maybe this will help someone else who’s struggling so here goes…
So my mum had a super traumatic upbringing with controlling, critical, unloving parents who all-but cut her out of their lives at 18, naturally leaving her with a lot of mental health issues. I didn't learn about this until I was an adult, but it certainly explains a lot! At heart she's a wonderful person and was very caring to me growing up, but she would get triggered at the slightest thing. She was prone to severe anxiety attacks that overwhelmed anyone else's feelings, and would constantly assume that other people didn't like or respect her - even her family - picking up on any tiny hint of 'tone' in how we spoke or acted and becoming hurt and defensive. It was like dealing with two different people depending on whether or not she was in 'triggered mode', and because she was always passive-aggressive and martyr-like rather than just plain aggressive, that made me feel guilty and want to protect her, even if I was upset and frustrated myself. Because her reasoning in these times was so bizarre and her reactions could be so extreme, I sometimes wondered if she was purposefully acting like that to manipulate us (although I know now that wasn’t true). I came to resent her in some ways, but she was so good to me the rest of the time that we remained close.
Why things changed:
1. My mum is a genuinely good person who doesn't want to hurt others. It was hard for her to see outside her disordered thinking at first, but when she understood the problem she really wanted to change.
2. My parents have a really, really great relationship with a lot of love and understanding. My dad was always very patient with my mum because he knew how much she'd struggled (she had much more severe issues when they were first together). But once my brother and I arrived, I think he saw that some stuff he'd learned to 'put up with' was affecting us, and especially as kids we didn’t have the resources to cope with it.
How things changed:
Firstly my dad knew my mum deeply and trusted she didn't intend to hurt anyone. He understood the root of her behaviour was insecurity, so he would consistently reassure her she was loved and respected. My parents committed to always 'talk things out' no matter how long it took, until everyone felt satisfied with the conclusion. Sometimes when my mum was acting irrationally my dad would talk to my brother and I separately and explain she was struggling but it wasn't our fault. I give him huge credit for managing to balance a difficult issue like that while making it clear how much he respected her. Having said that he had issues of his own, and she afforded him the same patience and respect in return.
As I got older we started having ‘family meetings’ once a week where anyone was allowed to air out something that was bothering them and we all had to talk it through. The kids were treated as an equal part of this conversation and we were allowed to respectfully bring up issues with our parents. Sometimes that was uncomfortable, but it was ultimately what saved us. Slowly we started to talk through my mum’s ’issues’ in that kind of non-threatening environment. She would get upset at first because we were “ganging up on her” but we kept it really calm and reminded her we were bringing this up because we loved her and wanted a better relationship. Over time she came to accept she had a problem, and once she was outside of a situation she could look back and admit she over-reacted.
We came up with lots of methods to help divert triggering situations - we had an agreement to stop a conversation if things were getting too intense and take a 5 minute breather. We got better at catching things before they blew up. We took time to break conversations down logically and give everyone a fair chance to speak. We practiced listening skills. And we always came back to the statement “we love each other and we’re not trying to hurt each other” when things were going wrong.
It definitely wasn't always smooth sailing... I'm condensing 20-30 years of progress into a couple of paragraphs here. But the key factors were: love, compassion, honesty and communication.
This whole thing gave me hope I didn’t know I had for my mom, thank you
Pretty nice to hear you talk about your mom like that. I always imagine my mum was born fully grown but as you grow up you realise there just you but older lol.
At least your mom was willing to change.
This is honestly how my mother acts. The queen of guilt tripping. Still funny though.
Basically queen NARKS...
I never new it was so common til I saw all the comments for this skit, moms tend to be queens of guilt tripping I guess. Wow
All you have to do is prove it doesn't work. Ignore it.
my mom when she's trying to say "sorry" for something "im sorry im not the mother you wish you had. I do the best I can and I hope you can forgive me for not being perfect"
So like everybody has heard this speech apparently parental guilt has no boundaries. Lol
Bruh same
That’s word for word what I have heard
You guys have some nice ass mom's lol. My mom has never apologized to me in my life
DEATHwolf632 Yeah but it’s more of a guilt trip thing for complaining about something
This is so accurate, it made me legitimately uncomfortable.
Same.
OMG, seriously. I have to call my sister.
Both of my parents really lol
I feel like ive been here
@@elizabethodonnell9791 right?! Everyone is having a good time and then OUT OF NOWHERE shit is scary and uncomfortable.
Will Ferrell saying "fight me" bring me to tears every time 😂😂😂😂
“I’m gunna be in the car cold and starving “
Rkelly Dead in Prison th-cam.com/video/sXJySPSqsMY/w-d-xo.html
My mom does the reverse of this. She says "let me out of the car" when we're in the middle of a busy highway.
@@sgshumblecrumb6046Yikes!
I guess they couldn't get Cecily Strong because she is at Terrazano's.
She's a terrazanos girl
THIS!
It's because Bertucci's doesn't serve Dominico's. The perverts!
It’s the day after her wedding, give her a break!
Clutch reference
God my mother is exactly like this, she goes into like a depression if you don’t appreciate each and every thing she’s ever done
This passive aggressive guilt trip is to on the nose
Jim McCracken
two tos on that nose*
@Jim McCracken yep, awareness? also you got a random comma in there ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
@Jim McCracken its a completely random comma, and its completely irrelevant to worry about writing in internet comments for attention :)
not to mention you didnt even write a whole sentence to question tos. your not putting in enough effort to seek for attention. lul you need to be taught awareness and logic, missing something like an o or a period is really not that big a deal, get help not grammar.
also we are typing not writing, with @s not dears ;)
@Jim McCracken well then you proved me to be correct troll, i thank thee illogicist.
bye* LMAO
Dee niggas in trouble
"i'm a skanky skunk" "i teach typing on death row" are the two lines killing me the most
Huh. What kills me most is the lethal injection.
Mr. H Its not very serene
I love how the second they showed the sad mom the entire audience knew where this skit was going
This is sad that my mum actually acts like this
😂 Same... except that it is always about her and she would never have acknowledged us
Same
geekishgirl feel that so much
Gee I wonder why.
@john krats Some people are British, John ;)
Also Australian, any former British colony, or just someone who learned ESL with British English rather than American - so a lot of people!
Mom's guilt trips are REAL & Kate nailed it perfectly! "I'm gonna go I'll be waiting in the car, cold & starving."
The pronunciation of “raccoon” seems so specific. Never heard it that way before.
Oh I see you’ve met my mom
Lol 😂
So it’s not just my mom then.
Is this a white thing
Endgamer Unknown no...I’m black and I just went through this!!
Mine too...the second she doesn't get her way, someone disagrees with her, or isn't the center of attention
"and son, fight me" is one of the most iconic lines SNL has had for a while
As a foreigner, Georgian in particular, who's pretty familiar with American culture, "It's legit like good" is one of the best lines I've heard
I'm glad I'm not the only one who appreciated that. It's exactly what a kid like that (not an insult) would say
Mikey Day is so good at playing a supportive authority figure who’s trying to stay positive
💯
Mom if you could go ahead and pop that beanie back on
You can’t show your mom this sketch or she’ll react the same way.
Haha love it, I’m going to show her right now
She’ll get horned up for pizza?
"Just give me the crust from the trash" is 100% a line my mom has used.
“Well it doesn’t matter what I want”
I felt that 😭
Me too. Toxic relationship. The narcissist broke up with me.
Oh definitely, you make a joke about her and she gets like this but making fun of anyone else is hilarious
Same. Certainly a mood.
@Yuu Tubbs no it's not passive aggression. Mother's work a lot and never get a thanks. The kids are rude, unpolite and don't care about the stuff the parents been through to make them happy . They feel underappreciated.
@@analopes312 maybe that's why... Or maybe they depend on what people say about them for their worth and their whole world comes crashing down the minute someone says something about their flaws, which they do have like everyone else. It's not healthy to rely on people's opinions to be emotionally stable and feel worthy, not healthy for the person and not healthy for everyone around.
This is actual footage of every family dinner I ever had as a kid. They just cut out the part where mom criticizes the kids for ten minutes before emotionally cutting them off.
This one got me deep.
Yuuuuup and unfortunately the dad's usually an enabler
I lost it at "Just give me the crust, from the trash, whatever the raccoons don't want. I stink like a skunk. I'm a skanky skunk." lol 😂😂😂😂😂lol
This is terrifying how accurate this is
At the end I was thinking maybe the writer of this skit may need to see a therapist.
Okay boomer
One of the writers had a narcissistic mom and codependent dad😥
I’ve never seen a man like this ..I’ve seen nephews raised by women that work act like they can’t function without being around mommy..
That's how my mom acts when she's mad. She over exaggerates.
*exaggerates
Over exaggerates is redundant. She just exaggerates.
@@MaddieNiec Exactly.
@@MaddieNiec you can exaggerate then you can over exaggerate. Over exaggerating means you exaggerate so much it's not believable. Example. If I caught a fish that's 6inch long but I tell everyone it was10 inch long. That's exaggerating. If I told everyone it was 30 ft long that's over exaggerating. No one believes that.
@@inspectorsteve2287 either way it's exaggerating though, you don't need the over. It's just redundant and unnecessary. We know they're exaggerating both times.
And then if you DARE ask “why are you upset” she gaslights the shit out of you and convinces you you’re attacking her for no reason
My mom is Korean and this behavior transcends cultures. But it’s weird that the skit made me kind of understand where my mom is coming from. She just wanted to be included and appreciated. Communicating that could be better though.
She.... was included?? She was un-including herself but freaking out and leaving
yeah, my mom is Chinese and I agree
Mothers everywhere offended when family can't read her mind😃 FUN!
I think what he meant was that she thought her “horny dance” was funny but instead of her family laughing and letting the director say that she shouldn’t do that her family did. I still think her behavior was bizarre and reminded me in ways of my mom tho. Like just get over it.
@@idkjustchangingmyname7343
She’s just upset because mainstream society no longer sees her as sexy like it used to.
This is really what moms are like and then they call us childish
Edit: guys yall are taking this way too seriously
Y'all are shitty kids who don't deserve their horned up moms
jr Stz mother and brother? we ain’t in Alabama
“you’ve been making fun of me all day” “Because everything you say is stupid” wow weird that she’s upset 🤨
Florence Lont lol that is my mom and now me. I’ll stop
how the fuck can you actually miss this spot's message about how true it is what the mother felt
I love how the dad is so dependent and lost without the mom. 🤗That’s how my dad is with my mom. He is very capable but they’ve been married over 45 years and if my mom goes out of town for like a day (which doesn’t happen often) my dad says “I sure miss your mama”
Seriously, the “Oh no, dad...” got me every time. lol
🤣🤣🤣
Me too 😂😂😂
🤣🤣
Absolutely!
My mom was like this. Adults that can’t regulate their own emotions and take it out on their own family: ✅
M
bruh right? my dad is like this, i’ll say that it’s kind of warm in the house and he’ll get all quiet and be like “oh so everyone hates me now”
And now she dead
did your mom ever stop? cuz mine sure didnt
Im crying by the end of this sketch. Its actually quite a work of art.
The extras keep acting even when the director says "cut".
toonses22 they just eatin pizza bro
There were just genuinely enjoying their meal
They go from extras in the Bertucci's ad to extras on SNL.
they’re staying in character
technically all of them kept acting when he said cut lol
I love how 90% of the comments are how this is just like their mom and that’s worrisome. Also this is how my mom acts
Emo mom
Yep just why I'm a bachelor. You're damned if you do & damned if you don't. Lonely vs unhappy
“Well it doesn’t matter what I want…” My mother to a tee.
This reminds me of Fred Armisen’s, “I’m your mother”.
Mazinger and Minerva *I’M YOUR MOOOOOTHERRRRRR*
I AM YOUR MOTTHHHEERRR
@@scooterboyvlogs1499 Obama is your mother. Scary
**throws food in Zac Efrons face**
So happy to see I was not the only one who remembered this 😂
Passive agressive mom impression - perfect
Marry Goround SCOTT PILGRIM IS THE GREATEST MOVIE EVER MADE!
@@BROJANGSTER wasn't expecting that, but THANKS
“How can I eat’m if I’m supposed to keep my mouth shut” 😂 I relate.
One time at a restaurant my dad told me to watch my mouth. *I said “I can’t watch my mouth if it’s on my face.”*
Only reason I got away with it is because my siblings busted out laughing but dad was *PISSED*
Omg! I’m a mom of 4.... this is frikken me! Wow😔 I got some changing to do!
Update: sent this skit to all 4 grown children and they all replied, “that’s you”
Who needs therapy when SNL skit can make you see the truth about yourself! Thanks SNL!
Major kudos for realising this about yourself and wanting to change! We all have our issues, but I can tell you from experience your kids will appreciate you so much for acknowledging it and working on yourself . My mum acted just like this but she worked on it over time. We've had some great conversations about it and became much closer as I got to know more about her own upbringing and insecurities that led her to those habits... anyway, hope it goes well for you! Good luck!!
Major major Kudos for you acknowledging this. I’m 29 now and my brother is 31 and even to this day it has effected us so negatively. Especially our personal relationships
Mr. H 😂😂😂😂 I’m so quarantined tf right now thanks amigo I needed that laugh
All four of them called you out omg
I do it too but I would never show this to my children. They're teenaged boys.
"I hired a prostitute to figure out how to use the oven" - Will Ferrel 2019
BEST LINE OF THE NIGHT!
And notice the little "ok" right after that😂
This soooooooo my dad. My parents been married 35 years i just realized last year when my dad was fixing the washing machine He has mom come in and run a test load because he doesnt know how to use the washer😳😳 dug deeper and realized he HAS NEVER done a load of laundry as long as i can remember.
I have his Christian mingle profile ready cause my mom is adamant he need a new wife within 6months of her passing or he not gonna make...smdh lol codependent parents...
@@ivybelle5044 😆😆😆😆
Best quote of 2019
I like how this turned from a pizza ad to anti depressant ad.
This is STRAIGHT out of the "How To Manipulate Your Kids" handbook. I've got a copy! 🙋🏽♀️🤣🤣
I'm going to go wait in the car, the dog is already there.
@Sewer Dragon I don't have a dog, so can I love your dog please.
3:30 actually broke my heart a little
Why do we not have a Ferrell & McKinnon movie yet? It’s what the world needs.
Jillian M yes.
Preach
I'm Sayin!
Exactly
Yes playing the exact same mom and pop, and instead of moms like Lois Wilkerson - we can have a mom like this which I hate to say it would be more relatable to many people.
Kate's acting is just IMPOSSIBLY BRILLIANT! That first segment where she's pouting because she's been shut down - magnificent!
She is a comedy genius but her career was hurt by the Ghostbusters fiasco. She needs to get back on track and do some lower budget comedies
I can’t believe Kate can do such a spot on impression of my mother.
why do parents get upset and become childish when kids say something to them that they find offensive? like isn't there an adult way to react?? this is classic, i'm sure everyone can relate!
It's emotionally manipulative behavior. Their parents were all fucked up and old fashioned which fucked THEM up, and then you see this maladaptive shit.
Maybe cuz no matter what mom says it’s stupid and she’s had her soul beaten down for years?? 🤷🏼♀️ just a guess
@@chelseasyrek9792 wait, are you taking about the skit or real life?
It's because you sacrifice everything for your kids, give your hearts to them, and then they repay your wonderful kindness with cruelty. And it's thoughtless cruelty at that.
@@vanmoody you're 100% right. The passive aggressive, ruin a dinner type shit still isn't okay.
"She told me to get a shovel. I went to a bar!" Major props to whomever wrote that line
For some reason I don't understand that line...
@@wolfshanze5980 me neither. I suppose it's something about the word play that he misunderstood what she wanted from him:-)
@@wolfshanze5980 I took it as him just listing off his failures as a husband to an amazing woman. So he basically said "she needed help, and I left to drink with the boys"
Idk that's my superficial guess
“It doesn’t matter what I want” I have heard that so many times 😂
Ah, the family dysfunction. The codependency, insecurity, guilt, and boarderline-personality all layer together so well, like a pizza! And like a pizza, it's some how both comforting AND a little sickening. You know it's not healthy, but it's so easy to give into. Genius!
How DARE you attack one of the most beautiful and fundamental parts of our society? Without the social entanglement and layered nuance of pizza, there would be nothing left of worth to hold on to!
I’m a mom & ive acted like this. Thank you for showing me this abusive behavior that I must stop!
Excellent you recognize, and try to stop it....that’s really cool. 👍🏻👍🏻
Good for you! I wish my mom could be this introspective and accept themselves! Keep going!
Yea really awesome when you can recognize and try to change, it did nothing for my own self esteem having a mom like that.
Not really abusive, just very manipulative. Not the same.
"Youve made me a mom and thats all I ever wanted to be"
Am I the only one who cried lmao
I feel like I've never seen an SNL audience buy into the emotion of a line the way they bought into that one
"Looks like dad's kinda lost without moooom"
This really makes me miss my mom.
I love that some section of this particular audience goes "awww" at touching moments, it happened in other sketches & it's really cute and funny
“Aw Dad, noooo…” 😆🤣
“i hired a prostitute to show me how the oven worked”
I thought about doing that to help me practice kissing better 🤷🏻♂️ but herpes, y’know?
Yeah right
Funniest line IMO
this is great
One of my buddies had his family go away on a visiting-relatives vacation and per his request, leave him home alone for the first time. He was, I think, 15.
Only after they left did he realize he had no idea how to cook most foods, or use the washer or dryer.
He was living off of french fries and chicken nuggets and needed clean laundry badly.
Then, midway during his time home alone, he got sick with a fever, accidentally shattered the old school mercury thermometer in the sink, and cleaned it up with the kitchen sponge!!
When he called me I was like "You didn't wash the dishes with it?? Oh thank God...just...just stop doing things. Sit down. I'll be right there."
My mother to a “T.” I’m in my 60’s and until I read the comments here, I thought this behavior was just my own mother. She passed in 2016. This was absolutely hilarious. That behavior drove me absolutely nuts!
roadrailn it was a very difficult marriage. My parents finally divorced when I was in college. It was a relief for him.
I had to stop this video for multiple times because I was laughing, this reminded me of my mom when we were growing up..She wasn't the cool one and at some point she was made fun of and she took it really personal!! And yes, my dad couldn't do much without her! I can't do very much without her either, I'm grateful for her honestly!
"It doesn't matter what I want" yeah that line checks out.
I never realized how many people moms act like this until I read this comment section. My mom has a ton of passive aggressive pouty company.
I have had many girl friends act like the mom... and it could have been the slightest thing said in their direction from 60 to zero simple as saying calm down! they I can’t relate to the Dad because I’ve been able to cook and clean sense I was a kid and after coming out the army and most of my buddies x military and improvise if needed...before I was once married and for 15 yrs after now divorced for over 25+ sane and happy,I’ve always been self-sustaining as a male..just have girl friends off and on..but that is crazy to see on SNL...
Not just moms, women in general
Dude in the beginning
The kid is like "it's legit like good" so spot on for American teen
It's legit like so accurate. Kyle is iconic.
When you intentionally set off your emotionally immature mother so she gives you the silent treatment just so you can get a few days peace.
Mine takes a few weeks lmao
Mine is only a few hours but this is painfully real
you ugly ash
You seem charming.
“I put bleach on my cereal” - Will Ferrell 2019
"Wasnt trying to kill myself. I thought it was milk" 😂
yootubesucks123 dude. Stop attacking everyone that quotes something, they just enjoyed it and let them enjoy it
"Can't you see I'm blind?" - Will Ferrell 2013
@yootubesucks123 you must be new 😂
Kate is just the best at brutal passive aggressiveness - and at basically everything comedy-related.
“She told me to get a shovel....I went to a bar”. LMAO
If she said “I’m fine” this would be my Mom
Funny, that's my mom's go to line, but she says it when there's actually something wrong and doesn't want us to worry or fuss over her. I've joked that we're going to put the phrase on her tombstone in quotes.
I think.... I think she did.
She never has to say it. She says it with her eyes
"it s just that everything you say is weird or bad"" - so accurate
One of SNL's best sketches writen. Really funny, and true on some levels.
No, it's not.
@@djmotise Yes, sadly it is.True and funny for some people. Maybe not all mom's, I'm not like that at all, but mine is sometimes. More so when we were younger, and all us kids were at home.
"Try to be natural"
Me: Kate...natural...you are asking for it
2:10 god instant flashback to my dad saying he was a worm, love this humanity is beautiful
Who else thought this was gonna be the reoccurring sketch where it’s really Walmart pizza and Bertuccis doesn’t actually exist?
I'm so happy it wasn't. There are some reoccurring sketches that work. That is not one of them.
They would have had Cecily in that sketch.
I don't believe that they can effectively pull that off without Adam Driver.
I thought it was gonna be the Olive Garden skit with the director (Beck) giving them weird instructions.
I miss Bertucci’s so much
All these comments like “this is really how moms are” but Will Ferrell in this is REALLY how dads are
It’s sad really.
No actually not. Real men can operate with out a women. Actually better without one.
Hingle McCringleberry okayyyyy
Emma lol I knew the feminazis would get triggered and flip it around on the man/father! 🤦♀️🤣😂 why are y’all so PREDICTABLE??
Gena Holden aww did I trigger u with my simple lighthearted comment?☹️🤪