I deal with vitamin deficiencies very low iron levels. I have 0 energy and it really messes with my anxiety and depression. Cleaning is the last thing I have energy to do . Sometimes something as simple as taking a shower becomes very difficult. I have to push myself to do little things so things don't get out of hand . Bless you 🙏 ♥️
Me too..your not alone i have.just enough energy to get up go 2 work ( 2 jobs 1 ft 1 pt) and i hv 2 force myself to shower and clean up..its weird bcuz i use exercise as a distraction. But im def feeling dwn. Praying helps 💪❤️🙏
@@sabreecarpenter4285 thank you!! & meee too we can join hands in prayer in our hearts, the bible says that when two or more come together in prayer anything they ask shall be answered...Matthew 18:19-21. I want to be healed cause this aint it!!
You understand mental health and disabilities so well and you are the first person that explains the connection between cleaning and depression, cleaning and disabilities, on tictok. It’s a lot of cleaning videos but nothing like yours, Godspeed.
I have chronic fatigue, pain, migraines, as well as major depression, anxiety, and bpd. Usually I’m pretty good at keeping my spaces clean and I’m very lucky for that, but you’re totally right - sometimes it’s just. So hard. Sometimes just staying alive is all you can do. My heart goes out to everyone who might be struggling. If you’re still here, that’s worth celebrating
I have severe adhd and I feel like you completely described my situation. For all these year I thought I was just lazy but now I feel validated and even motivated. Thank you so much!
Have you been tested for autism ? I’m just curious because I was recently diagnosed at THIRTY TWO with severe adhd and autism type 1 . My whole life makes sense now
@@gabriellesirois3236 hello fellow AuDHDer! I was diagnosed at 32 after a few years of therapy. Starting last year at 36, I realized I no longer wanted to kill myself, and I haven't had a bout of depression that has kept me in bed since! Still working to get my home in order (having 2 going children helps keep it chaotic), but every time I find a functional home for an item, it feels like a massive win!!
This is the exact cycle I feel stuck in. I try to give myself 2-3 cleaning goals a day. Some days I reach my goals and some days I do not. But I keep trying each day. Never give up! The struggle is real and it is heartwarming to hear someone talk about it in such a real fashion. Thank you
You keep making me cry. Your advice is precious. I don't feel useless and lazy anymore. Im struggling a lot like the people you help that you describe. Thank you for helping them. X🇬🇧
omg that's the most refreshing thing I e ever heard I've suffered with bi polar severe anxiety and add since I was 14 and I've been judged by nearly every person from every agency that got involved the amount of shame I was made to feel I'm positive hindered any recovery's I've had and the biggest cause of relapses or making you give up taking your meds. But what you said that stood out was " if you can't relate consider yourself lucky" I'm not saying feel sorry for us just keep thoughts like that to yourself you have no idea of the impact ❤
I love your videos. I struggle with mental and physical health issues myself and can totally relate to the struggle. When your energy is nonexistent and the tasks pile up it’s very overwhelming. A clean house is a godsend, thank you for doing what you do.
Yes asking for help is the hardest thing. Sometimes even if you have the money to pay for services you just don't want people in your house to see your mess because you don't know those people, you don't know if they're going to judge you, if they going to talk behind your back. So you keep your mess in silence. I went through depression and I know what a messy house looks like because I had one and no matter how much I wanted to call cleaning services I just was too embarrassed to let anyone into my house. So you are 100% right when you say "You are happy that they come talk to you and it's a first step" it is definitely is!!!
This made me tear up, as someone who's struggled with depression (even though I'm a teen), my room has been the defention of recked, and seeing people help out those that need it, FOR FREE, always makes me happy, especially if the person they're helping has it worse than I happen to
Thanx voor helping those who need it! I was thankful that my best friend who lives 3 hours away understood my cry for help. Even if I didn't want to bother her she asked a friend to bring her to me and came and helped me clean my house and gave me the feeling to be worthy ❤
It's hard when you struggle with any health..physical or mental. Physical decline has me unable to keep my house to my former standards and it's embarrassing to ask for help. You are so awesome for doing this. It really hits your self esteem and mental health when you have to change your standards. I would add, don't judge someone for their bodily cleanliness either. Until you are physically or mentally challenged,you have no idea how hard it is to just complete needed physical hygiene.
100%! I was neglected and s*xually abused in my childhood home. there were days where I was stinking and other kids made fun of me. I developed extreme anxiety about having a clean body. not all people in this world can change their situation, I as a child couldn't and wished others would have helped instead of shamed.
I can attest to everything you just said!!! I'm physically disabled with mental issues sprinkled in... and what you said is VERY true!! We stay in a state of survival mode, yet it's difficult to do basic tasks. I struggle to walk, much less stand. So to do basics like laundry or dishes feels like I'm running a marathon!! Thank you for all you do for those in need!! I know they truly appreciate all you do for them!! I appreciate all you do for them!! You don't know how much weight is lifted off the shoulders of those of us who can't do these things for ourselves... it truly means the world!! So thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of those you help!!💜💜
I keep watching these videos and when you describe the people you are helping, I can relate. This is how I feel and it's why I don't get much of anything done in a day. My house is messy but it's not as messy as this. I wish there was someone around my area who understands this and does what you do. I could use the help.
This message & the fact that it was a bathroom you were cleaning, wow! God really does work through others 🙏🏼❤️ THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! It’s literally thee message i needed to hear at this very moment ❤️❤️❤️ you are amazing!
I am impressed by your insight and kindness. I know I have written before but I just want to say you DO have a positive effect and what you do and say have a bigger impact on the world than you know. Thank - you.
I really appreciate you doing these. I struggle with adhd and depression and asthma on top of a physical disability, and I feel so judged and down on myself for the way that I can never keep up. I dream of having an aesthetic Victorian styled apartment and love doing diys and crafts, but all I can really do is try to decorate around my terrible clutter. My energy didn’t used to be this low, and now I realize how much even I took that for granted. Even when it was the adhd and disability, when I had more energy I could do more of a task at once. Now I’m having to pace myself, and it makes me so much more aware of how many steps are actually involved in any kind of task or cleaning project, and how if you run out of energy halfway through and have to stop, it can cause even more problems. Now that I can’t binge clean anymore, I see how big of an undertaking it really can be. So to anyone thinking along the lines of ‘why don’t you just pick up as you go’, I’ll ask you to consider that. What if you had to choose between pushing through to finish scrubbing the bath, and eating dinner? Or between putting away all the cleaning supplies and washing your face? What if your energy was so low that putting things away or cleaning an area meant you’d have to skip your basic self care? Then what would YOU do?
I remember when my sister (Sara who passed away in 2018) Cleaned my filthy home after my husband passed away. I fell into addiction and I lost my way. She took me to meetings so I can get help. Thank you for all that you do. I am now 4 years and 10 months clean. I do service when I can. Hugs from New York ❤
I’ve been ashamed of my house for the last 7 years, it was NEVER clean enough and I was so depressed. But the past few weeks I’ve kicked myself into gear and it’s starting to get there. My first step was hiring a skip and being absolutely ruthless, throwing away pretty much everything. Going one room at a time, jotting down things I need to purchase still so things can go in certain places. My mental health has seemed to be improving just by my atmosphere. My house was not insanely filthy but I have 3 kids under 7 and stay at home pretty much everyday so you can guess the level of messy it can get when you don’t pick up stuff everyday and when depression mode kicks in for weeks at a time. I’m so thankful that my mental health as started getting better and my kids are still thriving!
I learned how to clean when I'm working full-time, caring for a child, and depressed. I do something every day. Today, I cleaned my son's room. Yesterday, I cleared clutter in my kitchen. Tomorrow, I plan to clean my room. It takes maybe 20 minutes and it helps us live in a calm environment.
I wish there was someone like you in my area. Recovering from trauma and finding many days are harder than others. Thank you for helping make people’s lives better instead of tearing them down.
Hi-I am 1-of your new viewers. I want to thank you for your kindness, understanding,incredibly giving heart & for sharing what you’ve learned. Especially about the correlation between mental health & cleaning. Your decision to choose to be non-judgemental & sharing the many reasons why is super insightful . TY🙏💕
You really inspired me. I have a friend, her home would be a candidate for your help. I stepped in, brought your energy in (no judgement, everything can be cleaned and anything unsavable has to go). We did it all in 5 days, and her home is a home again. I just wanted to let you know that you're making waves, making a difference!
I think what you do is a beautiful thing! Mental health is something that needs more focus in our society. Thank you for bringing this issue to the forefront and helping people that are struggling. We really need more people like you in this world. You are a beautiful human being.
I remember last year, final school year... I was working 80 hours a week to be able to get my exam .... No need to say i wasnt proud of my flat .... Taking care of a house/a flat can be so freaking hard sometimes it s even hard to imagine.... Thanks for what you are doing ❤️
Seeing your videos has helped motivate me to clean up around shared areas when I do have the energy, and its turned into less of a mess if I do things little by little thinking of making things easier for those who also live in my house. Thank you for being so kind
"Your worth is never dependant on the cleanliness of your home." I needed that today. My house is a disaster area after having spinal fusion surgery in Sept of last year and still struggling to do ANYTHING for more than 10 to 15 minutes. My depression is back full force because of it. I get so tired of hearing how lazy I am because my house is not spotless. Thank you for not judging people and their homes.
I really needed help from someone like yourself recently. I’m physically disabled and clinically depressed, paralyzed by anxiety, unmedicated, recently out of prison, etc. I ended up having to do it myself and although I felt like I did a pretty good job cleaning and throwing away literally every last thing, I still got kicked out of my apartment and it ended up ruining the few remaining relationships I had with people. Neurotypical folks really just don’t understand most of the time. I’ve been called lazy and disgusting by family my entire life but im really not and hate that I struggle with it. It’s very embarrassing and overwhelming. You’re a total blessing for the service you provide and your understanding of people’s underlying psychological conditions ❤
you are god sent, i always feel so ashamed when i feel like i can't do anything and on top of it my family making me feel worse about it, you always make me feel a little better and have more encouragement thank you
Your videos motivate me more to clean my space up. I can't really do that at the moment since I lack the proper storage mechanisms, but I'm working on it. It's definitely not easy to take care of things when I'm so used to seeing it one way, I acknowledge that I need it cleaned, but it's still so hard. Thank you for doing what you do 🫶
I’ve been there as a binge drinking alcoholic. My now hubby never judged me in the beginning when we were just friends and that helped me take the steps I needed to change, I’m a healthy stepmom of three living my best life now thanks to him being nonjudgmental
Thank you for understanding. It's even harder when you have Chronic intractable pain, fatigue, anxiety & depression. It's so hard to get motivated when you're starting off already severely fatigued. Your cleaning is incredible. Sending love & light ✨️ from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤
U R AN AMAZING HUMAN BEING ! I understand completely. I suffer from all kinds of physical and mental health issues. It gets so bad I can't even do simple things like make phone calls, or appointments, or even get an identification, ect. But on my good days I LOVE TO CLEAN ! I love to organize, and make things beautiful. My favorite things in the world to do is just be normal and be able to shower, clean my house, and spend quality time with my family. It actually drives me insane when things are out of place and makes me more depressed, especially when I can't do anything about it because my mind is a fog. It's like when a computer crashes. But I've cleaned others houses before also. I can't get a job doing it because I have so many bad days and never know when I'm going to be able to function. I wish I had someone that could help me when I'm down and vice-versa. Having physical and mental health issues that prevent u from living a normal life is awful. U feel so alone. I think about suicide almost everyday of my life because I feel so useless. Honestly the only reason I haven't is because of my children. I don't want to cause them pain. So God bless u for being the kind beautiful human being that u are. The kind of person we all should be to each other.
Thank you so much for your understanding and compassion. Ppl without mental health issues....just have no idea how getting out of bed in the morning can be so monumental...so debilitating.
Thank you again for this. While I am now at a place in my journey where things don't get so bad, a large part of why they sometimes stay uncleaned is because even figuring where/how to start becomes an insurmountable task. I am fortunate enough to have a partner who understands and helps me however I need as well as a teen who shares in chores. I wish more people were as understanding and compassionate as you are and I really believe that just sharing these videos will accomplish that, little by little.
I just love you and your perspective. I have battled mental health issues my whole life. Cleaning is the last thing on my list when sometimes just getting out of bed takes everything I've got. I've been called lazy my whole life and no matter how many times I tried to get help or explain what was going on with me, it never made a difference. So thank you, for seeing more than laziness in people who desperately need help and understanding. ❤❤❤
I love the way you look at these situations & how you encourage others to use compassion as well. I'm hoping that by watching your videos I'll be able to change this mindset I've gotten into & kick procrastination to the curb! Thank you!
I just came across your page and have quickly gone down that rabbit hole!!. You don't know how much this is stepping on my feet right now. My home isn't no where near the homes you clean but it definitely affects you mentally when you can't find that motivation to even clean your own space sometimes. I'm seeing this first hand, when you get down, its can be extremely hard to pull yourself back up. Especially when you're doing it alone. I'm seeing this first hand. Thank you
I appreciate so much that you destigmatize mental disorders, and that you suggest others be compassionate instead of judgemental!!!! There's so much judgement everywhere. It's nice to see someone who actually gets it. ❤
You speak 1000% the truth. I’m in that spot and it’s just so hard to do anything with anxiety. If one has never experienced that, you definitely cannot relate, but understanding is helpful. Ty for all you do.
I used to hate cleaning and in my 20’s I basically lived like a hoarder lol. But as I got older I realized that cleaning actually helped my mental health a lot. When I’m feeling anxious or life is spiraling, cleaning or organizing is something I can control. It’s something i can accomplish. It doesn’t take a lot of brain power but getting something done makes me feel like I can control something when I feel like things are out of my control. It’s weird. But it works for me. Like if I’m really angry or something I rage clean and it calms me down. If I’m nervous, it takes my mind to a calmer place. Etc. Your environment really does affect your state of mind and sometimes forcing yourself to even do small tasks can help get you out of that funk.
I deal with ocd and anxiety and depression. So it's so hard for me to get it done cause when I do it I get overwhelmed having to have it done a certain way. I wish I had help like this. We love you for the love you share with others. Thank you
You're so kind, as someone with bad mental issues and chronic fatigue your words help a lot. In good news well listening to your videos i got my storage closet cleaned out and organized :)
I literally cried when I heard this. This is everything I'm going through my house is not up to my husband's expectations it stays cluttered with 3 messy kids I try my best but I do procrastinate. I'm tired I'm depressed I'm a full time mom with anxiety. Its hard for me sometimes just to sit down and catch a breath. Very relatable I've thought about asking for help but maby I'm embarrassed or don't want my husband to think less of me..
"Your worth is never dependent on the cleanliness of your home," is such an important statement. Do not judge people's worth on anything that doesn't involve getting to know them. Even families misjudge each other. I was working 18 hour days 7 days a week... my room was a mess but I made a big impact in the lives of my students. So often, I would put a plate of food down and fall asleep. Then the next morning is a huge rush. Just kept saying "gotta clean that later..." Then it just started to feel like too much. Until you just hate being home and you work more and more and the problem grows. It happened to me so how on earth could I ever judge others?
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for understanding and not blaming and shaming. It’s so hard sometimes to always justify why your home isn’t the way you truly want it to be. Every reason just sounds like an excuse.
Thank you 🙏🏾 people love to throw around the “I’m so depressed” but it’s a chronic fight that does way more than just made you sad for a while, sadness is one of many symptoms and really it’s more like numbness that makes you sad
I absolutely LOVE your videos and the service you provide to others. I struggled with post partum depression horribly. The only reason my house did not get to this level is bc I had a friend who recognized and came and cleaned for me to get my house back on track. I will never forget the overwhelming amount of gratitude I had for that kind act!
I love how thoughtful you are about the state of mind for people who can't bring themselves to clean their environment in a way most people would typically expect. I don't struggle with not cleaning and organizing that much, but I know people who do, and of course their lives would probably be better if they cleaned and/or organized more, for a variety of reasons, but at the end of the day, judgment won't help them, and maybe encouragement and a helping hand every now and then is enough to help them know there are people who care about them and they're not going through life alone. And even if people who don't clean/organize enough don't get better, I'd rather they at least can feel cared about from time to time. It's good of you to reach out a helping hand.
I began to notice when I wasn't even a preteen yet, that the kindest people I knew tended to have the messiest and most cluttered houses. For a while I wondered why.. but now I realize a good bit of it is the humility and compassion for others that people who are quietly suffering have. I didn't realize that the reason these people were so kind was they knew of their own shortcomings and sadness, and while unable to alleviate their own struggles, they knew they could at least spread kindness to the people around them.
Thank you for doing these, and for treating people who need this help with kindness and understanding. I deal with multiple disabilities and mental health issues and living through this kind of situation can feel so dehumanizing. Especially when we are shamed for it.
I love this video/message. It's true...sometimes people just need a helping hand. I clean for a living and the #1 reason I started my business was so that I could help provide some stress relief for others. People deserve to have their load lightened in life and everyone deserves a break every once in a while. You have a beautiful soul ❤ Ty for sharing:)
I love your work, ive been dealing with depression for years and although im lucky that my family is able to help me with the house and so i never reached the level of some of the houses you clean, your videos help me to find the will to clean on my own and for that im grateful.
"Sometimes people just need a helping hand". I agree! I've found that sooner or later, in one way or another, most of will need the help of another person no matter how self-sufficient we try to be.
I have chronic depression and still healing from abusive family relationships. First I thought my procrastination was me punishing myself until I read Pete Walkers books Complex ptsd, that stated that part of a healing process and coping mechanisms will first show in procrastination and then isolation. Thankful that there are good and understanding people like you in the world who see the pain than the fasad
I just want to say thank you so much for what you do and for making these videos. I have epilepsy and PTSD and, between the two, there are a lot of times when I can barely function let alone clean. I used to feel so ashamed and overwhelmed after a rough patch and I would feel like I could never get caught back up. Seeing these transformations and hearing you talk so kindly about the people you are helping has given me the confidence and compassion for myself that I needed to tackle the cleaning needed after those rough patches. I dont get things done nearly as quickly as you do but I've learned that if I just do what I can each day, I can usually get caught up fairly quickly.
I have chronic health problems and last year I fell and broke both kneecaps and left humous bone It was a job just going to the bathroom Thank goodness my daughter and husband took over some of my household chores. I was thrilled when I got to where I could fold a wash cloth
I love your message. Thank you for educating the world on some of the more hidden and embarrassing side effects of mental health issues. Love and Peace 💜
I think you are amazing!!!! You are an angel, helping the silent sufferers who have the courage to ask for help!!! Thank-you for making life better for those you help and in so doing, make this world a better place for everyone!!!! ❤
Two of my conditions are cfs and fibromyalgia, making cleaning on a daily basis really difficult, and your videos help me feel better about doing what I can in small chunks. I was raised by over functioning perfectionists so usually feel a lot of shame around my house not looking like a showroom. I'm at this weird middle place where my house isn't fantastic, but its not bad enough for folks to understand that I'm really struggling just to keep up with where its at. You are so appreciated, both for helping us with disabilities feel less broken and worthless, and for helping others understand that things don't get out of hand because of laziness but because of lack of resources.
You are such a beautiful person. This video really resonated with me. I used to clean houses for a living…now I’m a SAHM/substitute teacher at my kids school. I also have serious depression that’s being managed through meds/therapy/12 step program….but even with all these wonderful tools my house looks like a nightmare. I’m very blessed but you’d never know it by the way I act at home out of the public eye. Anyway, what you’re doing is beyond words. God bless you…you are an inspiration and an angel.
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“If you can’t relate then consider yourself lucky” love that
I deal with vitamin deficiencies very low iron levels. I have 0 energy and it really messes with my anxiety and depression. Cleaning is the last thing I have energy to do . Sometimes something as simple as taking a shower becomes very difficult. I have to push myself to do little things so things don't get out of hand . Bless you 🙏 ♥️
Yep, agree. I feel the same way.
Me too..your not alone i have.just enough energy to get up go 2 work ( 2 jobs 1 ft 1 pt) and i hv 2 force myself to shower and clean up..its weird bcuz i use exercise as a distraction. But im def feeling dwn. Praying helps 💪❤️🙏
Take iron pills and stop making excuses
@@mitulu74 I feel you, I could have written exactly what you said. I will put you on my prayer list. I enjoy praying for others.
@@sabreecarpenter4285 thank you!! & meee too we can join hands in prayer in our hearts, the bible says that when two or more come together in prayer anything they ask shall be answered...Matthew 18:19-21. I want to be healed cause this aint it!!
You understand mental health and disabilities so well and you are the first person that explains the connection between cleaning and depression, cleaning and disabilities, on tictok. It’s a lot of cleaning videos but nothing like yours, Godspeed.
I have chronic fatigue, pain, migraines, as well as major depression, anxiety, and bpd. Usually I’m pretty good at keeping my spaces clean and I’m very lucky for that, but you’re totally right - sometimes it’s just. So hard. Sometimes just staying alive is all you can do.
My heart goes out to everyone who might be struggling. If you’re still here, that’s worth celebrating
I have severe adhd and I feel like you completely described my situation. For all these year I thought I was just lazy but now I feel validated and even motivated. Thank you so much!
Have you been tested for autism ? I’m just curious because I was recently diagnosed at THIRTY TWO with severe adhd and autism type 1 . My whole life makes sense now
@@gabriellesirois3236 hello fellow AuDHDer! I was diagnosed at 32 after a few years of therapy. Starting last year at 36, I realized I no longer wanted to kill myself, and I haven't had a bout of depression that has kept me in bed since! Still working to get my home in order (having 2 going children helps keep it chaotic), but every time I find a functional home for an item, it feels like a massive win!!
@@gabriellesirois3236 no but my brother has autism so it’s possible
@@Maria-qh5hr I still do clean my house… it’s just extremely hard to get started.
Clean what you can when you can. Even if all it is washing the spoon you just used. And give into those 2am need to vacuum everything times. 😂
This is the exact cycle I feel stuck in. I try to give myself 2-3 cleaning goals a day. Some days I reach my goals and some days I do not. But I keep trying each day. Never give up! The struggle is real and it is heartwarming to hear someone talk about it in such a real fashion. Thank you
You keep making me cry. Your advice is precious. I don't feel useless and lazy anymore. Im struggling a lot like the people you help that you describe. Thank you for helping them. X🇬🇧
I love your comments and you caring enough to educate your viewers! Thanks for all you do and your encouragement! You are a fantastic human being!
thank you for understanding depression is a real thing and cleaning is the last of our worries.
Oh honey I agree. It’s nice to know we are not alone.
omg that's the most refreshing thing I e ever heard I've suffered with bi polar severe anxiety and add since I was 14 and I've been judged by nearly every person from every agency that got involved the amount of shame I was made to feel I'm positive hindered any recovery's I've had and the biggest cause of relapses or making you give up taking your meds. But what you said that stood out was " if you can't relate consider yourself lucky" I'm not saying feel sorry for us just keep thoughts like that to yourself you have no idea of the impact ❤
I wish there were more people like you, THANK YOU!!!
I love your videos. I struggle with mental and physical health issues myself and can totally relate to the struggle. When your energy is nonexistent and the tasks pile up it’s very overwhelming. A clean house is a godsend, thank you for doing what you do.
Yes asking for help is the hardest thing. Sometimes even if you have the money to pay for services you just don't want people in your house to see your mess because you don't know those people, you don't know if they're going to judge you, if they going to talk behind your back. So you keep your mess in silence. I went through depression and I know what a messy house looks like because I had one and no matter how much I wanted to call cleaning services I just was too embarrassed to let anyone into my house. So you are 100% right when you say "You are happy that they come talk to you and it's a first step" it is definitely is!!!
❤❤❤ Thank you so much for your compassion and for understanding how difficult life can sometimes be for some people.
This made me tear up, as someone who's struggled with depression (even though I'm a teen), my room has been the defention of recked, and seeing people help out those that need it, FOR FREE, always makes me happy, especially if the person they're helping has it worse than I happen to
Thanx voor helping those who need it! I was thankful that my best friend who lives 3 hours away understood my cry for help. Even if I didn't want to bother her she asked a friend to bring her to me and came and helped me clean my house and gave me the feeling to be worthy ❤
What a great friend ❤️
Brogan, you helped me clean my own house when I was overwhelmed. I Thank you.
It's hard when you struggle with any health..physical or mental. Physical decline has me unable to keep my house to my former standards and it's embarrassing to ask for help. You are so awesome for doing this. It really hits your self esteem and mental health when you have to change your standards. I would add, don't judge someone for their bodily cleanliness either. Until you are physically or mentally challenged,you have no idea how hard it is to just complete needed physical hygiene.
Amen!!! I agree with you 100% on this!!
Those who aren't in our positions can't fully understand what we struggle with every single day!!!
100%! I was neglected and s*xually abused in my childhood home. there were days where I was stinking and other kids made fun of me. I developed extreme anxiety about having a clean body. not all people in this world can change their situation, I as a child couldn't and wished others would have helped instead of shamed.
Your perspective always helps me practice my compassion. I tend to always start my thoughts with judgement
I'm crying! I needed to hear all this today. Thank you!
So much compassion, thank you ❤
You're a beautiful person, this resonated so much with me and my life x
"If you can't relate, then be happy!" So so true
I can attest to everything you just said!!! I'm physically disabled with mental issues sprinkled in... and what you said is VERY true!!
We stay in a state of survival mode, yet it's difficult to do basic tasks.
I struggle to walk, much less stand. So to do basics like laundry or dishes feels like I'm running a marathon!!
Thank you for all you do for those in need!! I know they truly appreciate all you do for them!! I appreciate all you do for them!! You don't know how much weight is lifted off the shoulders of those of us who can't do these things for ourselves... it truly means the world!! So thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of those you help!!💜💜
I keep watching these videos and when you describe the people you are helping, I can relate. This is how I feel and it's why I don't get much of anything done in a day. My house is messy but it's not as messy as this. I wish there was someone around my area who understands this and does what you do. I could use the help.
That would be awesome for that to happen for you, a friend maybe who reads you and knows your needs. I'll be sending vibes (prayers) your way. 😊
This message & the fact that it was a bathroom you were cleaning, wow! God really does work through others 🙏🏼❤️ THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! It’s literally thee message i needed to hear at this very moment ❤️❤️❤️ you are amazing!
Amen! We are a body of Christ, meant to build each other up with our strengths!!
Love this!!! And it's true for everyone, just because we didn't clean the sink doesn't mean we are bad people or terrible humans.
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I am impressed by your insight and kindness. I know I have written before but I just want to say you DO have a positive effect and what you do and say have a bigger impact on the world than you know. Thank - you.
I really appreciate you doing these. I struggle with adhd and depression and asthma on top of a physical disability, and I feel so judged and down on myself for the way that I can never keep up.
I dream of having an aesthetic Victorian styled apartment and love doing diys and crafts, but all I can really do is try to decorate around my terrible clutter.
My energy didn’t used to be this low, and now I realize how much even I took that for granted. Even when it was the adhd and disability, when I had more energy I could do more of a task at once. Now I’m having to pace myself, and it makes me so much more aware of how many steps are actually involved in any kind of task or cleaning project, and how if you run out of energy halfway through and have to stop, it can cause even more problems. Now that I can’t binge clean anymore, I see how big of an undertaking it really can be.
So to anyone thinking along the lines of ‘why don’t you just pick up as you go’, I’ll ask you to consider that. What if you had to choose between pushing through to finish scrubbing the bath, and eating dinner?
Or between putting away all the cleaning supplies and washing your face? What if your energy was so low that putting things away or cleaning an area meant you’d have to skip your basic self care? Then what would YOU do?
I remember when my sister (Sara who passed away in 2018)
Cleaned my filthy home after my husband passed away.
I fell into addiction and I lost my way.
She took me to meetings so I can get help.
Thank you for all that you do.
I am now 4 years and 10 months clean.
I do service when I can.
Hugs from New York ❤
I’ve been ashamed of my house for the last 7 years, it was NEVER clean enough and I was so depressed. But the past few weeks I’ve kicked myself into gear and it’s starting to get there. My first step was hiring a skip and being absolutely ruthless, throwing away pretty much everything. Going one room at a time, jotting down things I need to purchase still so things can go in certain places. My mental health has seemed to be improving just by my atmosphere.
My house was not insanely filthy but I have 3 kids under 7 and stay at home pretty much everyday so you can guess the level of messy it can get when you don’t pick up stuff everyday and when depression mode kicks in for weeks at a time. I’m so thankful that my mental health as started getting better and my kids are still thriving!
Thank you for sharing and glad to hear that you are doing better. Stay encouraged, you got this !! 😊
I've just cleaned my bedroom carpet x because of you x thank you x
You got this. ♡
@Bonnie Mairead thanx lovely bones Bonnie x have a wonderful day x
I learned how to clean when I'm working full-time, caring for a child, and depressed. I do something every day. Today, I cleaned my son's room. Yesterday, I cleared clutter in my kitchen. Tomorrow, I plan to clean my room. It takes maybe 20 minutes and it helps us live in a calm environment.
❤❤ I'm so proud of you
I wish there was someone like you in my area. Recovering from trauma and finding many days are harder than others. Thank you for helping make people’s lives better instead of tearing them down.
Thank you for doing this, it gives me so much hope
Hi-I am 1-of your new viewers. I want to thank you for your kindness, understanding,incredibly giving heart & for sharing what you’ve learned. Especially about the correlation between mental health & cleaning. Your decision to choose to be non-judgemental & sharing the many reasons why is super insightful . TY🙏💕
You really inspired me.
I have a friend, her home would be a candidate for your help. I stepped in, brought your energy in (no judgement, everything can be cleaned and anything unsavable has to go).
We did it all in 5 days, and her home is a home again. I just wanted to let you know that you're making waves, making a difference!
I think what you do is a beautiful thing! Mental health is something that needs more focus in our society. Thank you for bringing this issue to the forefront and helping people that are struggling. We really need more people like you in this world. You are a beautiful human being.
I remember last year, final school year... I was working 80 hours a week to be able to get my exam .... No need to say i wasnt proud of my flat .... Taking care of a house/a flat can be so freaking hard sometimes it s even hard to imagine....
Thanks for what you are doing ❤️
Hope your exams went well and you found the time to clean afterwards.
So very true!! ……. You’re a blessing 💕
Seeing your videos has helped motivate me to clean up around shared areas when I do have the energy, and its turned into less of a mess if I do things little by little thinking of making things easier for those who also live in my house. Thank you for being so kind
Amen. Thank you for your understanding and compassion for people.
"Your worth is never dependant on the cleanliness of your home." I needed that today. My house is a disaster area after having spinal fusion surgery in Sept of last year and still struggling to do ANYTHING for more than 10 to 15 minutes. My depression is back full force because of it. I get so tired of hearing how lazy I am because my house is not spotless. Thank you for not judging people and their homes.
Hugs, it will get better, take it one day, or one minute at a time and KNOW that it will be ok 👍 🤗❤️
I really needed help from someone like yourself recently. I’m physically disabled and clinically depressed, paralyzed by anxiety, unmedicated, recently out of prison, etc. I ended up having to do it myself and although I felt like I did a pretty good job cleaning and throwing away literally every last thing, I still got kicked out of my apartment and it ended up ruining the few remaining relationships I had with people. Neurotypical folks really just don’t understand most of the time. I’ve been called lazy and disgusting by family my entire life but im really not and hate that I struggle with it. It’s very embarrassing and overwhelming. You’re a total blessing for the service you provide and your understanding of people’s underlying psychological conditions ❤
What every school bathroom needs
you are god sent, i always feel so ashamed when i feel like i can't do anything and on top of it my family making me feel worse about it, you always make me feel a little better and have more encouragement thank you
You are an Angel for everyone you help.
Your videos motivate me more to clean my space up. I can't really do that at the moment since I lack the proper storage mechanisms, but I'm working on it. It's definitely not easy to take care of things when I'm so used to seeing it one way, I acknowledge that I need it cleaned, but it's still so hard. Thank you for doing what you do 🫶
I’ve been there as a binge drinking alcoholic. My now hubby never judged me in the beginning when we were just friends and that helped me take the steps I needed to change, I’m a healthy stepmom of three living my best life now thanks to him being nonjudgmental
Thank u for helping others out ur such an angel ❤️✨✨
Thank you for understanding. It's even harder when you have Chronic intractable pain, fatigue, anxiety & depression. It's so hard to get motivated when you're starting off already severely fatigued. Your cleaning is incredible. Sending love & light ✨️ from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤
Trying so hard to get out my funk so I can clean but one thing keeps happening on top of another. I'll get better and this helps.
You can do it!
You are the kindest, wisest , most compassionate person I have ever seen…. And I’m 60 years old…. Thank you for all you do….. You’re amazing….
You are an angel!
Thank you for taking such compassionate care of all the misunderstood people's homes. You're their 😇.
God bless you 🙏🏽❤️
U R AN AMAZING HUMAN BEING ! I understand completely. I suffer from all kinds of physical and mental health issues. It gets so bad I can't even do simple things like make phone calls, or appointments, or even get an identification, ect. But on my good days I LOVE TO CLEAN ! I love to organize, and make things beautiful. My favorite things in the world to do is just be normal and be able to shower, clean my house, and spend quality time with my family. It actually drives me insane when things are out of place and makes me more depressed, especially when I can't do anything about it because my mind is a fog. It's like when a computer crashes. But I've cleaned others houses before also. I can't get a job doing it because I have so many bad days and never know when I'm going to be able to function. I wish I had someone that could help me when I'm down and vice-versa. Having physical and mental health issues that prevent u from living a normal life is awful. U feel so alone. I think about suicide almost everyday of my life because I feel so useless. Honestly the only reason I haven't is because of my children. I don't want to cause them pain. So God bless u for being the kind beautiful human being that u are. The kind of person we all should be to each other.
I'm gonna have to buy some scrub daddy's now!
Thank you so much for your understanding and compassion. Ppl without mental health issues....just have no idea how getting out of bed in the morning can be so monumental...so debilitating.
Amazing!
I love these videos! It’s a reminder that there are good ppl in this world. Thank you for all that you do!
You are so right! 🙌
Thank you again for this. While I am now at a place in my journey where things don't get so bad, a large part of why they sometimes stay uncleaned is because even figuring where/how to start becomes an insurmountable task. I am fortunate enough to have a partner who understands and helps me however I need as well as a teen who shares in chores. I wish more people were as understanding and compassionate as you are and I really believe that just sharing these videos will accomplish that, little by little.
I'm sitting here crying because no one understands this. It's not on purpose.
I just love you and your perspective. I have battled mental health issues my whole life. Cleaning is the last thing on my list when sometimes just getting out of bed takes everything I've got. I've been called lazy my whole life and no matter how many times I tried to get help or explain what was going on with me, it never made a difference. So thank you, for seeing more than laziness in people who desperately need help and understanding. ❤❤❤
I love the way you look at these situations & how you encourage others to use compassion as well. I'm hoping that by watching your videos I'll be able to change this mindset I've gotten into & kick procrastination to the curb! Thank you!
I just came across your page and have quickly gone down that rabbit hole!!. You don't know how much this is stepping on my feet right now. My home isn't no where near the homes you clean but it definitely affects you mentally when you can't find that motivation to even clean your own space sometimes. I'm seeing this first hand, when you get down, its can be extremely hard to pull yourself back up. Especially when you're doing it alone. I'm seeing this first hand. Thank you
I appreciate so much that you destigmatize mental disorders, and that you suggest others be compassionate instead of judgemental!!!! There's so much judgement everywhere. It's nice to see someone who actually gets it. ❤
When you come to do these houses, you are showing them God’s grace and compassion on the ones with heavy hearts❤️❤️❤️keep going💕
You speak 1000% the truth. I’m in that spot and it’s just so hard to do anything with anxiety. If one has never experienced that, you definitely cannot relate, but understanding is helpful. Ty for all you do.
I used to hate cleaning and in my 20’s I basically lived like a hoarder lol. But as I got older I realized that cleaning actually helped my mental health a lot. When I’m feeling anxious or life is spiraling, cleaning or organizing is something I can control. It’s something i can accomplish. It doesn’t take a lot of brain power but getting something done makes me feel like I can control something when I feel like things are out of my control. It’s weird. But it works for me. Like if I’m really angry or something I rage clean and it calms me down. If I’m nervous, it takes my mind to a calmer place. Etc. Your environment really does affect your state of mind and sometimes forcing yourself to even do small tasks can help get you out of that funk.
I deal with ocd and anxiety and depression. So it's so hard for me to get it done cause when I do it I get overwhelmed having to have it done a certain way. I wish I had help like this. We love you for the love you share with others. Thank you
You're so kind, as someone with bad mental issues and chronic fatigue your words help a lot.
In good news well listening to your videos i got my storage closet cleaned out and organized :)
I literally cried when I heard this. This is everything I'm going through my house is not up to my husband's expectations it stays cluttered with 3 messy kids I try my best but I do procrastinate. I'm tired I'm depressed I'm a full time mom with anxiety. Its hard for me sometimes just to sit down and catch a breath. Very relatable I've thought about asking for help but maby I'm embarrassed or don't want my husband to think less of me..
"Your worth is never dependent on the cleanliness of your home," is such an important statement. Do not judge people's worth on anything that doesn't involve getting to know them. Even families misjudge each other. I was working 18 hour days 7 days a week... my room was a mess but I made a big impact in the lives of my students. So often, I would put a plate of food down and fall asleep. Then the next morning is a huge rush. Just kept saying "gotta clean that later..." Then it just started to feel like too much. Until you just hate being home and you work more and more and the problem grows. It happened to me so how on earth could I ever judge others?
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for understanding and not blaming and shaming. It’s so hard sometimes to always justify why your home isn’t the way you truly want it to be. Every reason just sounds like an excuse.
Thank you 🙏🏾 people love to throw around the “I’m so depressed” but it’s a chronic fight that does way more than just made you sad for a while, sadness is one of many symptoms and really it’s more like numbness that makes you sad
I absolutely LOVE your videos and the service you provide to others. I struggled with post partum depression horribly. The only reason my house did not get to this level is bc I had a friend who recognized and came and cleaned for me to get my house back on track. I will never forget the overwhelming amount of gratitude I had for that kind act!
I love how thoughtful you are about the state of mind for people who can't bring themselves to clean their environment in a way most people would typically expect. I don't struggle with not cleaning and organizing that much, but I know people who do, and of course their lives would probably be better if they cleaned and/or organized more, for a variety of reasons, but at the end of the day, judgment won't help them, and maybe encouragement and a helping hand every now and then is enough to help them know there are people who care about them and they're not going through life alone. And even if people who don't clean/organize enough don't get better, I'd rather they at least can feel cared about from time to time. It's good of you to reach out a helping hand.
Preach. Thank you for your wise words and the unconditional love you are putting out into the universe.
I began to notice when I wasn't even a preteen yet, that the kindest people I knew tended to have the messiest and most cluttered houses. For a while I wondered why.. but now I realize a good bit of it is the humility and compassion for others that people who are quietly suffering have. I didn't realize that the reason these people were so kind was they knew of their own shortcomings and sadness, and while unable to alleviate their own struggles, they knew they could at least spread kindness to the people around them.
I appreciate your insight, compassion, and education. ❤
Thank you for doing these, and for treating people who need this help with kindness and understanding. I deal with multiple disabilities and mental health issues and living through this kind of situation can feel so dehumanizing. Especially when we are shamed for it.
“if you can’t relate, consider yourself lucky” 💯 exactly, be grateful you aren’t able to understand and have a nice day
I love this video/message. It's true...sometimes people just need a helping hand. I clean for a living and the #1 reason I started my business was so that I could help provide some stress relief for others. People deserve to have their load lightened in life and everyone deserves a break every once in a while.
You have a beautiful soul ❤ Ty for sharing:)
I love your work, ive been dealing with depression for years and although im lucky that my family is able to help me with the house and so i never reached the level of some of the houses you clean, your videos help me to find the will to clean on my own and for that im grateful.
The world needs more people like this woman. ❤❤❤❤❤
"Sometimes people just need a helping hand". I agree! I've found that sooner or later, in one way or another, most of will need the help of another person no matter how self-sufficient we try to be.
I have chronic depression and still healing from abusive family relationships. First I thought my procrastination was me punishing myself until I read Pete Walkers books Complex ptsd, that stated that part of a healing process and coping mechanisms will first show in procrastination and then isolation. Thankful that there are good and understanding people like you in the world who see the pain than the fasad
I just want to say thank you so much for what you do and for making these videos. I have epilepsy and PTSD and, between the two, there are a lot of times when I can barely function let alone clean.
I used to feel so ashamed and overwhelmed after a rough patch and I would feel like I could never get caught back up. Seeing these transformations and hearing you talk so kindly about the people you are helping has given me the confidence and compassion for myself that I needed to tackle the cleaning needed after those rough patches.
I dont get things done nearly as quickly as you do but I've learned that if I just do what I can each day, I can usually get caught up fairly quickly.
I have chronic health problems and last year I fell and broke both kneecaps and left humous bone
It was a job just going to the bathroom
Thank goodness my daughter and husband took over some of my household chores. I was thrilled when I got to where I could fold a wash cloth
I love your message. Thank you for educating the world on some of the more hidden and embarrassing side effects of mental health issues. Love and Peace 💜
Awwwwww I love that you do this for people 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
I wish MORE PEOPLE FELT LIKE YOU !!! YOU ARE GREAT AND THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR YOUR POST. HELPS ME SO MUCH !!!🥰💖🙏🇺🇸🌹🌹🌹♥️♥️
I think you are amazing!!!! You are an angel, helping the silent sufferers who have the courage to ask for help!!! Thank-you for making life better for those you help and in so doing, make this world a better place for everyone!!!! ❤
That's a pretty easy clean. Helping them with a few simple steps to maintain will keep them from getting overwhelmed.
Sweetheart....you're a blessing to those in need. God bless you 🙏
Two of my conditions are cfs and fibromyalgia, making cleaning on a daily basis really difficult, and your videos help me feel better about doing what I can in small chunks. I was raised by over functioning perfectionists so usually feel a lot of shame around my house not looking like a showroom. I'm at this weird middle place where my house isn't fantastic, but its not bad enough for folks to understand that I'm really struggling just to keep up with where its at. You are so appreciated, both for helping us with disabilities feel less broken and worthless, and for helping others understand that things don't get out of hand because of laziness but because of lack of resources.
You are such a beautiful person. This video really resonated with me. I used to clean houses for a living…now I’m a SAHM/substitute teacher at my kids school. I also have serious depression that’s being managed through meds/therapy/12 step program….but even with all these wonderful tools my house looks like a nightmare. I’m very blessed but you’d never know it by the way I act at home out of the public eye. Anyway, what you’re doing is beyond words. God bless you…you are an inspiration and an angel.
Your understanding of mentL illness is wonderful