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Fun fact: Even if you're asexual, you're not dying as a virgin. Life already has fucked us up.
Repeatedly, 2020 alone was grounds for divorce.
I CAN'T LMAO
What are you talking about, it repeatedly does-
OH MY GOD THIS-
As an asexual guy, I don’t owe anyone my companionship, plus, I rather be homeless than ever be married or lose my virginity.
Little story time- my friends were explaining sex to my other friend with me (an asexual) next to them, I randomly leave the group because their conversation made me feel nauseous, my friend (let's call her Z) came up to me and asked what was wrong and I explained, and without missing a beat Z goes "I think my spirit animal is elmo, let me explain why..." and this was her attempt at distracting me from the other conversation. Best thing the topic could have changed to in my opinion lmao
Your friend is a true one, you're really lucky to have someone like that close to you!!
when people talk about sex or I see movies with sex in them I tend to get embarrassed or leave the room for a bit. I think I'm ace aro ace I dunno? I just get embarrassed/disgusted? at anything sex-related I would consider myself closeted because I'm not open about possibly being ace or aro ace tried talking to my dad about it and the conversation was eeehh okay I guess?
What was Z’s explanation???????
@@remix2432 no bitches?
@@remix2432 Whatever people call themselves is their choice. We don't all call ourselves Asexual/Aromantic or Ace/Aro for others. It is a word that gives us a better understanding of who we are. And that there is a word for what we are feeling (which is different from the norm) gives us the feeling that it's a real thing and valid and not a made up problem in our mind that we can't fix.
I don't call myself ace for others to understand. Most don't and I have to explain what I feel anyway. But I call myself ace to feel part of a group of people and community where as I normally wouldn't have anyone who feels and understands me in that way.
"sex doesn't make us whole, so how could you ever be broken?"
I'm crying omg 😭
OMG ASEXUAL GANG!!Also yesterday i made a coming out to my bestie and her friend and they accepted me for who I am!!
Congrats!!!
@@ellabella001 tysm 😊😊🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Congrats!
YAY!
Congrats!!!
My friend figured it out be for I did 😅
I discovered I was ace a few months ago, and although I'm now confident in myself and my sexuality, I still can't wrap my head around the concept of sexual attraction.
Like do people ACTUALLY see strangers and want to have sex with them ? How can sexual attraction be more than just experiencing certain physical feelings when you see someone attractive ? (feelings I can only barely imagine myself, as I never experience any kind of physical attraction)
And you're telling me more than 95% of people feel this way ? I'm so confused... part of me still wants to believe y'all are just exaggerating...
Dhsbshsks same
I've had the same I don't understand people wanting to have sex like that idk about all these categories but I definitely have an odd relationship with sexual topics
Bro I feel the same way. I ask my allosexual friends to explain it to me and I'm 10000% repulsed and don't understand them!
Honestly I don't understand the concept of wanting to do a stranger either.
I'm ace and most of my knowledge/understanding about sex and love comes from movies and books. And I just always assumed that you have some sort of rapport or connection with someone because you find them intersting/intriguing etc and then the next step is sexual feelings because that person has become important to you.
Basically, I thought demi-sexuality was the norm.
@@simransimran9339 I will never understand how someone will look at someone and be like hmmmmm. I'm over here thinking cool a person I hope they are nice. Allosexuals are so damn confusing!
I am demi and an artist and the last drawing I made was about depression and how it wraps around you as a false friend, so I drew a figure that was held by another, shadowy figure and showed it to my sister in law (also an artist). She said: "Oh this is a triumph. The raw sexual energy. Look at this big phallus." I can't even figure out where she saw it. Makes me wonder whether I need to put clothes on my human-like shapes, to keep the sexual peoples imagination at bay.
Hmmm, people will see what they want to see.
Don't cater to the viewer in that way.
@@caylapelt Hey, thank you for your kind reply! I wasn't being too serious, I wouldn't really change anything about my art because it is the way I feel it and it's honest.
I was just baffled that someone was able to see some sexual intention in my work that is entirely invisible to me. To me, there is no nakedness or sexual undertones at all, so it felt absurd in a funny way.
I made something from the heart and my heart forgot about the sex-thing.
It does make me happy though, that it sparks joy in her, even if it's happening in a way I didn't intend.
And it's good to know that this is what some people will see and I am glad that I have words like 'demisexual' to communicate my differing point of view in life.
In short: When words fail you, make art. And when art miscommunicates your intentions because you forgot that some people might get horny for pictures, use words. ;)
That's the thing with art, it's out of your control how people see it. Some people may over analyze it, under analyze it, twist it, make fun of it, praise it, see something spectacular in it you never would have considered...
So I agree with the above commenter. How does it make you feel? Are you satisfied with that feeling? It can hurt to not have that exact feeling shared with others, but one of the most beautiful things your art could achieve is making someone feel anything at all.
From my perspective, everyone like that has an addiction and cant deal with the fact that we never did, it was never that strong or we beat the addiction and moved past it.
Demi-sexual people can feel attraction to multiple people at the same time or sequentially. The thing they can't do is have sexual attraction to people they don't have an emotional bond with. Some demi-Sexual people are even polyamorous.
not sure if this is about the pie tiktok, but if it is i think a better version wouldve been the person staring at the pie and then 5 hours later they decide to eat it lol
I think that somehow makes sense. If you feel attraction after building an emotional bond then sex is just part of the relationship and not what the relationship is built on. And you can have a strong emotional bond with more than one person and if everyone is on the same page then poly relationship would just be logical.
I know some allos may not get it, but I (ace not demi) think I get why what you said may happen
@@wtnv the way that I always think of to explain demisexual is that porn doesn't work for you. I'm sure there are other reasons someone wouldn't like porn but the most I can do is think "wow, that would be fun to do with my partners" or stop and fantasize about me and someone I'm close to doing whatever happened on screen.
It's not perfect but idk how else to describe it.
I think I accidentally outed myself as asexual to my friends before even knowing that I was. I had just heard about people feeling sexually attracted to others, just by looking at them and it shifted my whole world view, so naturally I wanted to talk about this outlandish discovery. Which was greeted with silence... I think they were too shy to tell me that they too are like that and actually not so weird. Understandable given we were 17-ish.
Also I wanted to thank whoever uploaded this video, because it helped me to finally be sure of my asexuality. I had been wondering for quite some time and questioned myself at every corner, so this really helped put my mind at ease and just be done with overthinking
3:21 that scene literally made me tear up and squeal the first time I watched it, I still just wanna hug that lady cuz I so needed to hear it.
do you know the name of it?
@@Myla.A it’s called sex Ed I think.
@@mckayleem3098 Thx
The one tik tok about learning to unlearn that your self worth is defined by your body/s*x really got to me.
I am an aroace and I have been through very rough experiences with relationships and the whole s*x topic. To be honest I thought I had dealt with it and was okay now, but when a friend and I got really close (platonically on my side for sure) I still felt the need to do something physical. It took me a while to finally get to the core of the issue and the actual reason for my behavior, which really set me off. In my previous experiences with relationships I had learned that I was only interesting to them if it got physical. So here I am now, trying to unlearn this destructive behavior, thinking I was probably the only person dealing with this. Turns out I'm not.
If you experience something similar please let me tell you: Your worth is not defined by your body or the physical things you can give a person. If someone only wants you for your body and doesn't respect your boundaries they don't really care about you. You are more than a body and if others can't see that, that is their loss not yours.
Be careful and stay safe ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤
"I thought it was a play about love. But apparently, its all about sex. and now the whole cast seems to be thinking about it every second of every day. I don't want to have sex. But, sometimes I think I should just do it so everyone will just shut up and stop making me feel like a freak"
wow, thank you for showing me this content. holy hell, tears are flowing
Just throwing my hat in the ring to describe my own experience as a Demisexual individual.
All through high school I was confused as FUCK because I would end up physically attracted to my close friends at the time, ALL DUDES. So for awhile I was flitting between straight, gay and bi, with no possible explanation. My ex bf and current bestie in the world explained the spectrum and I was SO relieved that I wasn't just like... Completely broken.
You are all valid and beautiful people, no matter who you're (not) attracted to!
Not all asexuals reject sex. Not feeling sexual attraction does not always mean not wanting sexual activity. For some asexuals, sex may be acceptable and they may enjoy it, for some it is just the pleasure of a partner (but why should it be wrong?), For some only certain sexual activities are acceptable, and for some, cuddling is not allowed. although others may require it. Asexuality is the spectrum and the combination of asexuality and sex repulsivity is misleading.
But a relationship isn't just about sex, and maybe some of the less sex in their lives would benefit from getting their blood back to their brains. Otherwise, I can't explain the general beliefs (even among asexuals).
From AVEN:
Asexual: Someone who does not experience _sexual attraction_ or an intrinsic desire to have sexual relationships
_Sexual attraction:_ Desire to have sexual contact with someone else or to share our sexuality with them. (Note: sexual attraction does not need to be based on appearance, and can also develop gradually over time.)
If someone has sex for other reasons - to please their partner, to have their own biological child/children, because society pressured them into thinking they needed to have it, to make money, then they don't really get anything out of it, but aren't repulsed enough by it to not engage in it and could live their whole lives without having it and be happy because it's not an internal drive for them, then they are asexual.
If someone is getting some personal enjoyment from sex, and internally seek it out for their own benefit, they are not ace. With whomever the people are that one regularly engages in sex reflects their sexuality. If some folks just like to be givers or receivers in sexual activities, that is very allo behavior.
The litmus test is: "In the ideal world, where everything is just as you want it to be, is sex a part of your life?" and if you answer "yes" then you're not ace. If you answer "no" then you are. We don't live in an ideal world, so for many aces who aren't sex-repulsed, it's not possible to never have sex and so they do.... but it's not an internal drive or something they seek out for their own pleasure.
@@zuzannaczech I'm not saying that one has to hate it but put up with it, but if you actively prefer sex with people to solo play to deal with those feelings, and if you would be miserable if you could never have sex again, that would not be asexual. You can think it feels fine and whatever, but you also don't need it in your life at all and wouldn't pine for it if you didn't have it if you're asexual. If you have an inherent drive to have sex with other people, you're not ace.
@@TheKarret If you are allosexual in situation where you don't find anyone sexually attractive (teoretical island without people or like same-sex prison, when you are heterosexual) your sex drive dissapears? Or when you are in club and you are horny but you don't find anyone attractive, can't you just hook up with stranger you are not attacted to? (I couldn't but like because of personality and many other things, but I know there are some people, not necesserly you, that can do that). And maybe sex with someone trusted makes person more satisfied than solo play? Or is more interesting? Also - does experimenting with same sex partner when you are hetero and finding it good-feeling counts as being queer? Or does it just mean you were horny enought and curious enought and trusting enought to feel better than if you did the same thing alone? I can't tell as a hetero person, because I am not one, but my straight friend told me, that once she kissed a girl, when playing drunk game. And she liked it. But like next day she looked at her, not attracted at all. That was like very quick questioning resulting in "still straight", but it doesn't mean she didn't enjoy the kiss. And also, like stated in video - asexuality is a spectrum, so it really depends on person. And also it is hard to isolate reasons for sex. Like sometimes I enjoy more pleasure of my partner and sounds they do than their touch. I love making them feel good. But also I like being touched really often. And also I like how easy it is sometimes to make them turned on, like it's fun for me to be like the one thinking almost clear and seeing them being so not-focused. And I like being close. And like I said I like their touch, but how can I isolate just one thing of that? I don't think so. Like all theese things make it feel good, substracting one would change the whole experience. (That is my preference. Like others can like adrenaline or sth from meeting with stangers, I am more satisfied when I know person, when I trust them and don't feel insecure around them). And again sex attraction is not the same as sex drive. And ace people choosing sex wiith person than solo play can really be just that they are more satisfied when someone else touches them, that doesn't need to be any deeper than that. Also they may not feel comfortable masturbathing (bc for example society or sth), or they can just get bored when alone. List can go on and on. So I wouldn't just say "if you lilke sex you are not ace", because it's far more complicated.
@@zuzannaczech No, an allo would feel miserable that they don't have anyone to have sex with, I would imagine - allos who can't get dates often pine over it because they don't have access to people willing to date them. Chances are, the allo in that situation would imagine themselves having sex as the best substitute, but being stuck without human contact/those whom they're attracted to [as straight dudes in prison will enter homosexual relationships because they need sex that badly, and when out, return to strictly straight behavior], an allo would make do with whatever is available... _but that's not their IDEAL situation._ If an allo is at a club and wants to have sex, but doesn't find anyone at the club attractive, whomever they decide to just do it with is where their attraction lies - a straight dude who has the option of sleeping with a woman will never "just do it" with another guy because he's not attracted to guys. If you find more satisfaction from sex with another person over solo play and deliberately seek that out as opposed to solo play, that is sexual desire. It would count as being not 100% straight - there's a Kinsey Scale that ranks between straight- and gay-ness and there are accountances for being heteroflexible or homoflexible. Again - if you NEED to sleep with someone else to be fully sexually satisfied, you're not ace.
My sis is het [possibly demi, but idk], and she wishes she could like women romantically or sexually, but she just can't do it. Also - your friend that you mentioned highlights MY point perfectly - she thought it was fine, but she has no inherent drive to seek that behavior out again; if she never kissed another girl for the rest of her life, she'd be perfectly satisfied with life. She doesn't REGULARLY kiss etc girls and then turn around and claim she's straight and has no attraction to women. If you have an inherent drive to engage in sexual behavior with others, you are not ace.
Asexuality is a spectrum, but people are being too loose with the definition and having allos in here making aces feel unwelcome and pushing ace people out of ace spaces. Has it ever dawned on you that ALLOSEXUALITY is a spectrum? And some of these folks seem to be better fitted into the allosexuality spectrum than the asexuality spectrum, since asexuality is about a lack of an inherent drive for sexual contact? Have you ever considered one might be aromantic but allosexual? There are other more sensible options than stretching the definition of asexuality so thin that it no longer actually means anything and damn near anyone can identify as ace if they want to. There are LIMITS on what asexuality can be, and sometimes, some folks just don't fit; they have a different experience - it can be a valid experience, but it's NOT an asexual experience to inherently desire sexual contact with people. That's the point people were trying to get across when talking about sexual attraction and sexual desire - and again, like my first messaged clearly demonstrated - AVEN's own terms don't align with the notion that asexual people prefer sexual contact with other people as part of their own inherent desires.
Do you inherently desire sex with them, or would you be just as satisfied and happy in your relationship if you never had sex for the rest of your life? THAT is what determines if you are asexual or not. If you answer "yes" to the first part, and "no" to the 2nd part, you're not ace. If you answer "no" to the first part and "yes" to the 2nd part, you're ace. It literally is that simple. You can be ace and consent to having sex for your partner's benefit and find things about the activity that you can enjoy, but if you never had sex again, that wouldn't bother you; of your own volition, you would never CHOOSE to have sex as your own idea. THAT is the variation within the ace identity. You can hate sex, or you can see it as a tolerable compromise. But the second you start wanting it for your own personal pleasure and benefit? You're not ace. And that's okay. The main exceptions are demis and graces, but really, demis and graces are more like the bisexuals of allos and aces; they have a unique experience that's not quite allo, but also not quite ace.
I never said "if you like sex you're not ace" I SAID " if you actively prefer sex with people to solo play to deal with those feelings, and if you would be miserable if you could never have sex again, that would not be asexual." There is a KEY difference there, and if you can't understand that difference, I question whether you understand asexuals at all. Maybe you shouldn't be speaking with any degree of authority; maybe you need to go back and learn more. And not from Tumblr or TikTok or Twitter - from AVEN.
FYI - The difference is: the _preference_ for sex over solo play. If you have a preference to have sex, you're not ace. You can tolerate it, find things to enjoy about it... but if you have a preference to have sex rather than solo play; if you'd be miserable without sex with other people in your life... then you are not ace. And it's offensive and ace erasure to try to change that fact.
If you would be 100% content without having sex in your life and you only do it to please your partner and can find things to enjoy about it, then I'm not talking about you, so getting defensive when I state the limits of asexuality, it makes me wonder if you would actually be miserable without sex, which would plant you firmly in the "not ace" category. Hell, even "missing" it would be more on the allosexual spectrum than the asexual one. Do you understand that for allos, sex isn't just about the physicality of it? It's also about all those things you described enjoying when you're having sex with your partner. Allos consider it a near religious experience of ultimate closeness and a bonding with their partner above anything else... that is an allo perspective. NOT an asexual experience at all - even for the ones who are willing to compromise and have sex. For asexuals, sex - for those willing to have it - is like [to be stereotypical] a guy going to watch a rom com with his girlfriend, or a girlfriend watching sports with her boyfriend - something they would never do on their own and don't really care about when they watch those things, but they do it for their partner and for the sake of the relationship. THAT is the ace perception of sex, even the sex-favorable ones. - the sex-unfavorable are disgusted by even the thought and aren't even willing to compromise.
Asexuality is NOT infinite. There ARE limits on what it accurately describes. At best, you sound demi or grayasexual [again, the bisexuals of allos to aces], but not a totally ace person. I'm sorry people told you wrong and got you thinking inaccurate stuff about asexuals. I'm sorry the boundaries of asexuality are not more clearly defined to help people understand it better. But claiming your experience is an ace experience really is ace erasure. If the public gets your interpretation of asexuality in their head, and I tell a rando I'm ace, instead of assuming I'm not interested, they'll believe they still have a shot with me "because aces can love sex as much as allos," and that REALLY frustrates me, because the only reason I relate to the ace label is because my sexual preference is "nah, I'm good." I read so many stories on AVEN of people who felt broken for not being able to enjoy sex, even when they tried it, they felt nothing from it and didn't want to do it. If that perspective on sex bothers you or feels like it doesn't fit you, then you're not experiencing an ace experience. If you do anything more than tolerate it because it's not too horrible for you, but you aren't really interested in it, I'm sorry, that doesn't sound like an ace experience at all, then. That sounds like a low-libido allo or something. Why should asexuality have SUcH a WiDe SpEcTRuM but allosexuality has only one way to be experienced? Why not consider a slightly unusual allo experience, why does it have to be a practically-breaking-the-definition-of-asexuality experience? Think on that a bit perhaps.
@@TheKarret Pothisexual and apothisexual.
Being asexual and aromantic, some of these TikToks made me laugh so hard.
I don’t get the concept of sexual attraction. When I look at someone I’m like oh that person is so cute and I want to hug and cuddle and go on dates with them, I don’t get how people look at them and are like yeah I wanna have sex with them. To each their own tho
Thank you Satan, those are my exactly thoughts. When I read "sexual attraction" I don't understand what that means.
yeah, how do you just look at someone and WANT to have sex with them?? that doesn't make sense, like HOW!?!?
@@BloomTheBaddie Ikr? I can get physical attraction like I can think people are attractive and I wanna date them but sex? No, I don’t get it
Thank you!!! Thank you so much for the Ace rep! You don't know how hard it is to find representation anywhere at this point. Thank you thank you thank you you!🖤🤍💜
Also, why in the pie one did they not say "I prefer cake" Like they had a PERFECT opportunity, and they completely ignored it.
The pie version of apothisexual is so hilariously accurate.
lol today i made a joke about sexual attraction being weird and literally all of my allo friends just low key jumped on me “you can’t say that, what if we said ace is being weird, you can’t have it both ways” like okay then……
I'd own the idea that being ace is weird and then we could both look at each other's POV and being like "isn't that weird?"
Sexual attraction is weird though. We’re all weird, that’s basic humanity
@Tara Allen Agreed, that's fuckin bizarre.
Aces are often seen as weird. They think they have a monopoly on not understanding asexuals? Lol.
yay its my pride day!! 🖤🤍💜
My colleague was explaining hookup culture to me, like I knew what it was but seeing it from their perspective was pretty illuminating. However as they realised I didn't have much interest in participating they started saying the general bs 'you should just find a random person and try it'. When I tell you how queasy I got... Indescribable.
I knew I was ace before I even knew it had a name but its only recently I've realised how truly repulsed I actually am. Like, I have the most filthiest mind out there but to put myself in the equation... Just no.
Just shows that you can always learn something new about yourself.
5:13
This person addressing the issue really just reminded me. One time I was crying because I felt like no one loved me (romanticly) and that I was the final pick. The bottom of the barrel. Being asexual contributed to that because I felt like people wouldn’t love me because I didn’t want to have sex. After watching him address it, it makes me think. The chances of people cheating and breaking up with me are so much higher.
Lads, between the video compilation & the comments, this has helped so much! Thank you!!
8:44 no hate but i would probably explain it more like this:
Im more familiar with this pie then that other pie so im gonna have this pie
9:30 had me in tears. I'm currently working on overcoming that ( doesn't help that I was abused in that way as a teen) so this hit me.
I was starting to think I was crazy or defective for feeling this way.
Happy pride month!
Happy pride to you too!
Allos can be very strange, lmao.
Like: “no one will find you attractive” (sexually)
Ace person: “uhm, that’s exactly what I want???”
When they try to insult ace people, like they would insult allos, but fail a lot😂
Like, dude, I don’t want to have sex; why are you trying to insult me by telling I’ll never have sex???
4:40 you have no idea how good it feels to hear this... i always thought the only solution was to have an open relationship if i wanted to have any relationship at all, even tho it makes me feel uncomfortable to know that my partner is intimate with someone else
i'm questioning my whole life again
1:46 Making sex jokes while being a sex repulsed ace is so real to me lol
being a straight (female) asexual. Sometimes i wish i was aromantic. Its so hard to find someone who just wants love. What a bad time to be alive😑
Speacially In India where marriage is everything it's impossible to find one.i think we need group or something where we can help each other.
Not wanting to have sex, still being aesthetically and/or romantically attracted to men (when so many are just 😬)...how do I uninstall?
I've been wondering if I'm on the spectrum. I do experience physical and aesthetic attraction towards women. If there's the right mood or atmosphere (or something), which rarely happens in everyday life, I can experience a fleeting feeling I've assumed is arousal. Those things combined, I thought I experienced sexual attraction. Then, I saw somewhere that sexual attraction is when you look at someone and want to have sex with them, and I was like, "Wait, what, there are people who can look at someone and decide, oh, I wanna have sex with them? I've never done that, even in a relationship!"
Same. I never experienced this sexual attraction.
I’m a lesbian and I love being lesbian, so I’m happy with all the gay rep we get but I barely ever see ace tiktoks to feed my asexual soul, so thank you
I'm an asexual lesbian!
I feel like it's hard to find them
Maybe it's just comphet make it hard for woman to realize there feelings are romantic
The first one is so relatable, when I first realised that I was like, you do that?
Look either y’all asexuals have got to stop being so relatable or I may have to reevaluate my identity
My super allo friend is actually the most supportive about my asexuality 😂 He's great!
6:19 "What is this feeling?" game is a really good test to find out if you're on the ace spectrum xD
0:32 alsojust letting you know: aroace/aro people may want to be in a queer platonic relationship (QPR for short) which is basically a relationship with no romantic attraction. QPRs arent only for aros/aroaces
7:27 hey, wait a second.
I’ve seen clips covering this realisation but when you put it like that, maybe I’m having a realisation
Sometimes my friend says I'm gonna die as "extra virgin olive oil" and my asexual ass happy, sometimes he does say ace-phobic stuff so he might not mean it as a good thing....
As a cupiosexual im happy to see we are included in this❤ its hard to do something u want or others see as normal whwn u dont understand or see it the same way, like.. I love sex but i dont see bodies or things as sexually aesthetic whatsoever, so its more the feeling and action that happens instead of the body like others usually see it
You are awesome
9:55: Maybe... two large fruits...? 😏
That second to last one pissed me off.
Asexual game show was ✨gold✨
Where my aces at?
I am ace!
@@ellabella001 bro ace club!!!!
@@ellabella001 OMG,ACE GANG
@@leos.stars. yes yes!!
@@cherryblossommochii8009 yeaaah
As an asexual bi person, I guess I'm allowed to make this joke...
Does this mean virgins are cupiosexuals?
All the allosexual virgins, kinda yes
1:18 I'm absolutely the 3rd type
the game show is nearly verbatim how i realized i was ace
Hey, everyone I'm currently 16 and I was friends with a guy who'll be 18 soon and he told me he liked me then after a few months of contemplating i told him i like him too everything was going well then i reminded him that I'm asexual (i told him bfore ajd he said maybe he'll accept it) then he switched up and said hes gonna work on me like a project and it'll only benefit him not me or anyone else...he wanted to change me and told me that being ace is a choice...idk what to do..i stopped texting him and he stopped texting me for more than a week now
Even tho I hate using labels, I’m possibly an aro ace just because I rather friendship over relationship. I’ve tried two relationships as a tween/teen with both a girl and guy but I never fell in love with them and regretted being with them in the first place.
7:59 “well my friends did it, and they wound up getting closer”
“Why would you find it uncomfortable? it’s a natural part of life.”
Things My ex boyfriend said to me, trying to convince me to do said ✨things✨, probably about 2-3 months before I broke up with him. He can take full credit for the fact that I am somewhere on the Ace spectrum (Either Demi or just completely Ace)
Yayyyy finally a little representation:)
I know for a fact I'm the weird middle ace of my friend group, so me and the Keyblade queen over there have that in common😂
1:19 I am 100% the first one. I have "AYO" moments at most things. And I do mean most things. I'll be in Algebra learning fucking quadratics and find something dirty 💀
I once explained to a group of friends my asexuality using Cardi B's Wap I said "I have the mop just not the bucket" (not my best description 😅)
6:08 This particular TikTok made so many things click in my ace brain
Im glad this topic is lore open
Im one of those thats bi bc I DO find ppl attracted, tho, I get repulsed and uncomfortable when it actually comes down to sex acts.
I just wanna be lovedddd
Thx very informative i didnt know about demisexual and others . That makes sense in a way
I used to think I was ace but Turns out I'm trans no hate to aces though I still love y'all
Yessss tiktoks I can finally relate to!!!
Over the last few months, I've realised quite a bit about my sexuality. I'm not sure yet what kind of -sexual I am since I don't feel sexual attraction ever (but physical attraction and attraction to character). Maybe I've been looking in the wrong spot for a while, so I've recently included women in my dating preferences and I've only had positive experiences from that. So I could possibly still be in that demi-sexual-ish area but on the lesbian side. May take a while to figure that out but I mean it's a start that I've come to realize that I'm most likely some kind of -sexual that doesn't feel sexual attraction. I'm still new to all of those categories, so maybe I already fit in one that I don't know about :D
"Sex doesn't make us whole"
Everyone, please fully absorb this. Whether you have sex or not will not define who you are nor change what kind of person you are. It won't fill any holes, it won't create any if it's not there. That's why you don't need to feel any pressure to have your first time, never. Cause you're already whole, you're already a complete, respectable human being with value.
This doesn't mean you can't feel desire for sex when you're going through a drought, but it's like loving chocolate and not eating any during a diet. Whether you eat it or not, you're still whole, you can still be happy or sad, you're still who you are.
So, let me talk to you about my favorite came out of the closet story until now. Me: "Wanna come to make activism with me next week". My friend: "Sure!". Me: *waiting for her to ask what kind of activism*. My friend: *doesn´t ask*. Me: *the day, in the subway five minutes away from the school we are going* "So, you didn´t ask what are we going to do." My friend: "What are we going to do?" Me: "Represent the asexul comunity in a sexuality fair." My friend: "Cool!" *spends the next four hours being suportive and pretending she already knew I´m asexual even when she definitly didn´t*. *At the end of the day.* "Do you think (other friend in comon) is also asexual?" Me: "Yep, and probably in the arromantic spectrum too". My friend: "Should I ask her?" Me: "I already did and she say she wasn´t ready to talk about it." My friend: "Oh... She probably is."
Happy pride month everyone! I’m proud to be trans masc non-binary and aro-ace!
1:30 idk how I managed it, but somehow I'm all three
1:21 oh I'm the really strange combo of the two
Why are aces so good at s*-jokes? Because to us it literally is just a joke. So we make a joke about that and we make a joke about the double meaning most others put in them.
I'm pretty sure I am ace but people keep telling me that when I'm older I'll change my mind. Can't hey just leave me alone? Like can I just be myself?
I am an ace who was threatened by a family member that they were going to hire someone to have intercourse with me to "learn s*x is good". Since you feel you are an ace, you are an ace. There is no shame or wrongness in not wanting to have s*x. The key is to find someone who is willing to respect your boundaries and preferences. I'm the type of Ace who finds the idea of physical intercourse disgusting, that doesn't mean I don't love my wife. Some people will never understand asexuality but there are those of us out here who do understand, so you're not alone. Don't let anyone bully you into a situation you are uncomfortable with. Stay safe and have some garlic bread 😁.
1:17 you'd never guess just by knowing that im ace that i have THE DIRTIEST MIND of everyone i've met
Yo! I'm ace, and I LOVE your work!!
~ Izzy/Godfrey {haven't picked between them yet LMAO} (they/them)
Edit: I picked, it's Godfrey
9:42 - DOES ANYONE KNOW WHERE I COULD GET THAT SHIRT PLS
6:08 wait- people actually look at people and think that 😭
So I’m Demisexual. I thought I was broken, I’m so glad I found a word to it.
1:32 Can relate. I'm both.
Fr 😭 to all of these
omgeese early and good video
heyyyy THATS ME!
The lack of awareness is destructive not in a good way
2:21 somebody tell me what this show is called
It's called 'Sex Education'
@@acefeminist7259 ty
That's like ALL of the scenes with her being ace, though.... and maybe with her at all......
You'd honestly have better luck with ... I think the show is called Sirens, they've got a character, Voodoo, who's ace.
i’m most definitely NOT asexual, but i have plenty of ace friends and some ace characters
i will consider this video as research into the mind of someone who isn’t horny all the time
To clarify, do cupiosexual people still desire sex but not have anyone that feeling is towards? I hope I’m correct.
Cupiosexual: Referring to people who don't experience sexual attraction but still desire to be in a sexual relationship or engage in sexual behavior.
If only I could find a guy with the attitude (and hot looks) of the dude in the black top
Is there a name for people who feel no sexual or aesthetic attraction but feel other attractions?
Wait, do people actually look at someone and think, "Oh, I wanna have sex with them"?!!? Like actually?! maybe I am ace...
before so how am i supposed to look at people and want to have sex with them??? it’s always feels so wrong and gross when i actually try 😎😎
wait. People imagine other people naked?... 😮
Hahahaha apparently…idk *shrugs*
I NEED to know where the scenes from 3:05 are from. Anyone who could help?
1:09
Im a weird mix of the two
I understand some of it but some of it is so confusing to me, and its to the point that to most people that have met me, consider me the 'innocent friend'..
the thing is I act like I understand none of it because it makes me uncomfortable to talk about (dont mind other people talking about it around me but it makes me uncomfortable to contribute to that kind of conversation)
Also I am Aromantic, Asexual, and Agender X
I have made one decision in my life and that decision was ✨no
(Agender X is when a person is Agender but still feel a few strings attached to being a female, male, or nonbinary.)
(The correct term for me would be Agender Girl but I feel more like Agender X since I feel that I am Agender but I also feel a few strings attached to being a female and being male. While the male is barely there its still kind of there. Though if I had to describe it I would describe it as having 100 strings, and 88 of them are Agender, 7 of them female, and 5 of them male. I use all pronouns but much prefer they/them
I feel like ace/aro people are the least represented people in the media. That, and enbies
what song is at 7:50?
1:08 I'm the 3rd
anyone know what the clips at around 2:22 are from?
Does anyone know that show from 2:21 ? I'm in love with it but can't find it.
I'm always questioning the same fucking question:
Am I asexual, greysexual, or demisexual? And I can never truly find an answer
Anyone who can help would be great :>
Honey you don’t have to look for this labels.just say you don’t rlly like having sex and that’s enough these labels are so tiring and confusing
What’s that series/film with the character named Florence?
@vi thank you
Trying to figure out if I’m asexual
my gang :.)
Yay ace!!
Let's go fam
Wait so wanting a s relationship and not feeling that kind of attraction to people actually has a name..?
That game show, tho'
went from
Girly little girl who likes boys
'' I'M NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS I DON'T WHERE MAKEUP I'M A TOMBOY!!!" but also strangely obsessed with being feminine and popular like I thought wearing a gold jacket and pink lipstick would do that
I'm a bi masculine girl and I'm going to obsess over how I'm different for a year and objectify women
I'm a lesbian, I love women only, I can't wait to do it with a women ( would laugh at me being ace due to me being um disgusting then ) , ew buff man bad but I'm still a pick me and want to be a man despite hating them
No I'm just bi
No I'm straight
What is this spectacle of being trans?? I am now big buff manly man!! who likes men and women
Wait no I'm genderfluid.......
Wait no I'm just a feminine and masculine trans guy and there's nothing wrong with being fem lol and now I'm having my pan phase
Nah I'm bi like men and women are it for me
Thinks I'm poly for some reason
Nope just a bi guy
Wait... men?? Would I ever date a women again? nah. I'm a gay guy.
Has a crush on a guy but for some reason is not looking for a relationship like i had a whole year of cringing at romance like feels aromantic ( im not now) but is certaintly ace .
Wait would I ever actually do it? I'm not looking forwards to it. I'd have to be super close to someone. Even then I feel neutral torwards it. I'm a ace mlm guy who's fine with being feminine. How did I go from lesbian hypersexual pick me to ace mlm guy feminist LMAO