@@fnomore333Weird how humans always feel when the wool is being pulled. I’m a Canadian farmer who knits so I feel it. She is a grifter who is not very smart. ❤
@Barbedwiredgifts Absolutely!! Also, WOW a wool farmer in Canada!? That literally sounds like a dream to me.. LoL.. How much cozier can you get!?!? I'm in Texas & it's actually pretty cold here right now, but I live almost on the water, so we aren't getting the several inches of snow everyone else will be getting... But it's chilly right now!! I'm loving every single moment of it!! I hope you, your loved ones, your animals & your farm all stay happy & blessed💓
Very brilliant points that I never thought of with Peetz.. Also one other thing/cycle that ppl may not realize with Chantal.. When she goes on the dating apps & stuff, she specifically tells men SHE DOESN'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP!! & Things like she's only looking for "fun" & she don't want to be tied down type of things.. Things we ALL KNOW are BS bc as soon as she finds a man to actually give her attention, she then IMMEDIATELY tries to move in with them.. like she did with every guy she's been with except Nerds bc he wouldn't let her... But she tried & even paid his rent & told the Internet she "lived over there part time." THEN she tried to get him out of Dookie's place by getting him an apartment but she thought it was for HER TOO.. when it came down to pay for it & she realized he wanted a bachelor pad WITHOUT HER LIVING THERE, is when Chantal flipped out & met Salad Boy.. So yeah, she ropes them in thinking they're only getting a one night stand & then she never leaves the house. Every. single. time.
I think you just described me! I used to be the parent at the airport that put my kids on the plane to go see their dad or grandparents, and I could watch them fly away without falling to the floor in a sobbing puddle. I walked out of the airport feeling free and light and thanking the universe for some time to myself- while also begging the universe to get my children where they were going safely. I didn't feel guilt for them being gone, and I didn't feel guilt for not feeling guilt. While they were gone, I would talk to them on the phone and miss them, but it wasn't that desperate kind of kid missing that some people seem to go through, where they just can't function until the children are back in the house. Then, on return of said children, I would cry like a baby because I was so happy to see them... But while they were gone I was fine. I called it not being codependent on my children and expecting them to fill every void in my being. I loved them with open arms, they could leave me and it didn't destroy me. I did wonder sometimes if I was the exception and if there was something wrong with me as a mother- Thank you for letting me know. I'm just fine. (As are my kids! 😊. They are all grown and parents themselves and we have wonderful relationships.)
Seeing what happens in adulthood to the children of parents who are codependent on their kids of validation makes me deeply grateful that my Mom was like you while I grew up. It's good for your children to not feel the burden of your emotional needs on them.
I’m this parent too and my mother and sister used to make snide remarks about it. It made me wonder if there was something deeply wrong with me. Glad to see I’m not on an island on my own. 😊
We all have our various reasons for being invested in Foodie’s story. I can see clearly why you joined the community. You truly understand her dynamic. I’m sure she’ll hate this analysis because you truly see the inner workings of her mind.
Foobs has said that “she slowly brought her stuff into BB’s apartment. Ultimately moved in and never left”. That’s her “trick”. She tried it with cokey but, it didn’t work. Thank goodness BB came to his senses and kicked her out. No love there either 😁
my thoughts are that Peez is a simple footnote in foodie sphere . Foodie is looking for the impossible man or ever person , so she stomps on everybody till that comes to be. Foodie's demands are far greater than foodie can make happen so we get bull shit foodie
Thank you so much for talking about feeling things differently in regards to being a new mom. My mom never had that sense of connection when my sister and I were little. When I look back on her, she has several signs of ADHD/Neurodiversity. I know I have ADHD and it manifests in similar ways to her quirks. There is such an absurd amount of pressure on Mom's, nobody should feel alone at it.
I have such mad respect for you. I can very much relate to so much of what you are saying. My mother never showed me love and was and still is, very negative. She will be 87 this year, and with the dementia starting to set in, she is at times very mean and nasty. She always has criticized me and told me never to expect anything good in life. To date, she has driven away many that care about her which is sad.. The only thing I have ever truly loved, was my dog Miale. She was my soul and showed me what love was even though she was a dog. I lost her 3 years ago and I still cry as I am typing this . Whenever people compliment me, I have a hard time accepting and believing them. I like you, am very passionate and I really feel things. I am very in tune with nature and even the spirit world. I really appreciate you posting this video. You have helped me to understand myself more and I am grateful to you for that
Much appreciated your description of how you react to injustice: it can be overwhelming, particularly in these times where evil is not only accepted but celebrated.
You are authentic , knowing others is wisdom , knowing yourself is enlightenment . Too many people do not know themselves , good or bad , they take on others identities , judge others and never look in the mirror . i have always said to my children , the person whom you have to answer to is the person in the mirror and one day you will have to look at your decisions and behaviour and you want to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of who you are and actions you have taken .
@@PhatCowChronicles Every decision i make is based on that idea . Can i look in the mirror and be able to live with myself , it's amazing how much courage that can give you .
I think those observations are very astute. I don’t think Chantal will ever end up in a romantic relationship with Peetz again but he will always be a back up situation for her. I don’t subscribe to other’s assumptions that Chantal will try and get back with Nader - I think she has a ‘favourite person’ fixation and that was extinguished when she found Salah. I think she will find someone else next (a future favourite) rather than revisit it with Nader.
@@lydiaj7492 Nader is the one that got away. Despite the vast amount of money she gave him, he still did not want her. This injures her ego and her narcissism. The only reason Foodie would go back to Nader is to be the one to dump him to get even. Only then would she be able to walk away and give her the opportunity to talk shyte about him for the rest of her life. If she was still in Canada I am positive she would have done that by now.
@@allmine853 I totally 100% agree with you! Another reason on why she was so hooked on him, was, what happened between the sheets. She equates s- eggs with love, he made her feel a certain way that others have not managed to fulfil. The only reason she stays with Salah is because he is her safe haven at the moment just like Peetz and Bibi was. Given the opportunity to step sideways, be sure she would
How do you know you don't love like other people do? I have two grandchildren on the spectrum and we are fond of saying that we are all "normal." I have learned to fit into their worlds and not try to force them to fit into mine. Love is never an issue---we all love each other and show that love in how we treat each other, treat our four-legged family members, and treat others. Love is a verb and not a feeling. Did that action show love, or something else?. Thanks for opening your heart to us.
When other people talk about how they feel about seeing their newborn or talk about their kids, the things they describe are nothing like how I feel. I DO love, but it's a more practical less romantic love. In a way, I think it's more dependable. I can stop loving someone in a second and not give a second thought about it neither if you hurt me, so I'm less subject to heart ache.
I love how you have learned to fit into their world and not force them into yours ❤ I would’ve benefited so much from that as a child, but no one stopped to think about asd or adhd I mask well and when I was younger it wasn’t just spoken about openly, but it makes me happy some families just get it and do that ❤
@@PhatCowChronicles You are probably more "normal" than you think. You are just open to talking about it. Not many mothers would be so generous...our Western Society tries to be a "one-size-fits-all." It should be one-size-for-each. I love the colors of black and white, but what about the infinite hues in between? 🥰
I always look forward to hearing your thoughts about all this you always make so much sense of all of it. I also like editing you popping in thank you for making these videos and sharing everything you do 💕
Wow PC thank you for sharing ,I didn't know this at all and it is a new understanding into it this and It also explains why you are so smart ! Hey I am Bipolar and we have a different way of thinking ,I find this topic interesting and gives us insight into the dynamics of certain side characters.Also I agree in the end it will be Peetz 100%.
I am definitely not on any spectrum. I never allow anyone to be my entire world as pretty independent. I am a warrior for my family, but have a base faith that understands we are only here for a short time and much better awaits. If you can get out of yourself and feeling ruling life, this life is pretty awesome. This is why I had a great husband until his passing. We will meet again.
Me too and I even love kids cartoons. Have you ever seen Erky and perky. Two cockroaches that live on hotdog stand. Forget about it it’s pretty good too. The hollow is good too. 😂
Where you're talking about narcissists and doormats - yes, growing up with an abusive narcissistic father, I was forced into role of doormat to keep myself as safe as possible. He made an error in taking credit for my accomplishments, too, though; because he loved that, he pushed me to learn more, be smarter, sing better etc, and that just made me more intelligent. Doormat life is not great life, and I'm glad to see you on this side of it.
I have diagnosed BPD and when I started researching it I found out about the emotional side of things how we feel everything more than the neurotypical person does , so when it comes to anger I feel it to the extreme …. When it comes to love and happiness I also feel that to the extreme , this got me thinking about how sad it is that others aren’t feeling that how I do (the happy parts not the rage and anger) . Just something iv thought about . Anyways how do we really know others don’t feel love like we do? Or feel it at all .
I have same diagnosis but learned to manage it well now but like you I do notice that I’m different in alot of ways to others. I also have ptsd and ocd so cannot be in a relationship atm because things irritate me to the point I get really agitated and can’t self soothe well. Tiny things upset me to the extreme. I think the stigma with this too is difficult as ur often judged as being attention seeking etc even when u aren’t like that. I think foodie very much has untreated bpd and why we see her changing her mind so often and unable to keep check of her emotions. Do u notice it more because we have self awareness do u think. I’m very much stable unless I have a huge upset here and have learnt to manage mine really well but it also now means I can clearly notice it in people who are online. I had therapy that has helped immensely with dealing with emotions and triggers also. I’ve stayed single to protect myself as well.
I have no high highs but I don't have low lows either. It's muted. I'm neither happy nor unhappy. My emotions are very influenced by other people emotions, so (as I'm single) it's very uneventful currently.
@@dupingdelight yeah I also think with age I’m a lot better than I was I think coping with things is easier and I’m less impulsive . I am in a long term relationship and it was really hard to begin but again with time things are going well. I hate the extreme temper I can have it’s been a while now since iv had any episodes and yes the stigma is upsetting and we definitely are seen as attention seeking which is unfair . Yep I spot it a mile off in certain people but foodie I feel something else could be at play though her fear of abandonment is definitely borderline. I was in therapy it was a group therapy I didn’t finish it I felt I was taking on others worries and a lot of people were worse off than me I Duno I just feel for people . Totally makes sense to not be in a relationship as that can bring on a lot of BPD triggers . It’s a shame though everyone deserves love and to be loved x
That feeling you speak of is a rush of various hormones. Virtues are found in behavior, not emotions. I say this as a non spectrum person. Aa for loyalty i feel that it is like respect. It can be earned and it can be lost.
Peetz will always be there, and ask for the others I feel that you're right on point. If you notice she does all this baby talk in health issues when are so called husband is there, I think that's just part of the how do I say it the ACT of making him seem the caring protector you don't like someone protecting a small sick child. And like I said before I wonder how many of those gummy vitamins she brought back😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
I was shook that it didn’t happen this visa run. Did she get back to Kuwait before the e-visa thing? I know she probably got a new passport allegedly but still. And Peetz oh lord he is the final frontier. Love your thought process and you sharing with us. I found out later in life the AuDHD thing, and I think I know what you mean to a degree and I never thought about it but you put it into words for me - I think I have a trauma thing too with mine and my ability to feel loved. And love languages are different for everyone but especially for neurodivergent people. Love you PC ❤ I am with you on the justice thing omfg. My sense of Justice is INSANE and sometimes it just makes me wanna scream. But so does my special interest in people/human psychology/how people operate because I operate differently than a lot of people and it’s okay! But somehow I landed in GORLWORLD and some other cow universes and also true crime 😅
Aside from the Foodie stuff, you’ve given me insight into my own mother and our relationship (semi-estranged). She has always believed she is on the spectrum (at least ever since that topic has been widely discussed in the world) but never diagnosed and probably never will be since she’s now 81. You’ve given me much to think about.
Editing me ❤ I told him once he is MARRIED it's part of his promise to hug her and comfort her if she cries. They found two genetic anomalies that have dire consequences and stump a panel of neonatologists. She is hysterical. My son is calm and just talking about how every person even with disabilities life us important and he can't wait to meet her.
Your commentary and observations are spot on! Since we do not know everything that is going on with salah, regarding his family obligations and expectations, what do you think will be salah's breaking point with foodie? If salah married again, do you think foodie would accept being the "kept" women when he has a legitimate, sanctioned marriage with another woman? When the delusion of this romantic adventure is broken? Will she be able to share? I don't think so, foodie has a hard time sharing. Could go on and on with this one!
As usual, excellent insight❤. (Also, as far as her going back to Kuwait and not remaining in Canada as you thought she would…I’d still bet you would be correct in 9 out of 10 predictions.) **and 😂 she most likely will never really try to rage and fight with you because of the ‘energy’ you radiate…imo.
Pete's is non-social with no home training and I think his mother had him very late in life and she just didn't do anything with him and foodie the same way except her mother wasn't an older mother
Morning love. My son is on the spectrum and loves his wife very much. His wife is pregnant with my first granddaughter and there are some very concerning genetic tests. I have to remind him to hug his wife when she cries. He tells me he doesn't want to , but I remind him she needs it. He just is not a lovey person but he fiercely feels protective and love FOR her. 💓 he is 30 now and has had to practice eye contact. She adores him. My son is like you. He is very kind and loving in his way. He is very aware of it and very positive . Peetz is totally the final boss.
I don't think I expressed myself very well in the video as it's very complicated. I can love but not the way that makes you lose yourself or leaves you breathless (is that even a thing?)
not necessarily, Autistic people can make contributions and offer things that other people can't Neurodivergence is not a disease nor necessarily a disability The fault lies in a systems and a society that very narrow definitions and limited access around how people "should" process, contribute and move through the world
I’ve been saying this. For awhile.im glad you have a platform to share what the actual facts are. Even if they don’t hook back up romantically, he’ll always be there for her. I like Peetz, because he’s not foodie but when they’re together they are funny and make the content better. If she’s not ditching him for someone else.i hate that he lies for her. It’s not blatant, but she puts him in the position.and he’s loyal, so he’s gonna do it.
I'm going to say ALR is more Xmas 🎄 shaped because....🤢. I suggested some weight at the bottom of the stuffie, sand/beans or similar, to weigh it down for the triangle effect. Can't wait to see the results!!!!
Yikes, she must absolutely hate the fact that you can read her like a book. Anyways I do see a little of myself in what you have described. On my wedding day, a family friend was taking photos for us. She was trying to get some shots of us looking lovingly into each others eyes, and I just kept laughing, I couldn’t do it. I realised then that I was a little bit different 😎
I'm diagnosed autistic and i can't say i agree with you on this honey I'm the total opposite to you. What you're describing sounds more like a Cluster B.
Well I agree with the kindness respect and decency but I mean the not feeling love the same. We're all so different on the spectrum. I do think peetz is but he has other issues going on. He's thick as mince for one.
And I totally agree about liar's, my now ex , married 32 years and he was the world's biggest liar, narcissist adulterer, my world has changed soooo much since last july we divorced 💚
I'm in love and have been dating my boyfriend for sixteen years, he is also "on the spectrum" and it has been a topic of discussion with my therapist whether or not his "love" is enough for me. He doesn't love me the way I love him and I have accepted that he "loves" me just as much as he possibly can and I am okay with that. Of Course, logically I have always understood this but the way you explained it in the beginning .... it was AWESOME, I thought I understood but now I REALLY understand. Thank you so much for that it really gave me a perspective I had not had before even with the benefit of probably being told the exact same thing by my therapist over the years , for some reason the way you laid it out really cleared it up for, "Thank you" very much. :)
I love the honesty when describing not 'feeling' love. As an autistic guy, i know i love my husband and my family. But it feels more like tv static than an emotion. Feeling loved is another one that never really happened with anyone.
I love but there's no fireworks, no taking my breath away, no 'can't live without you'. But there's also no jealousy, no possessiveness and no stalking.
I also have a lot of justice sensitivity, and I'm autistic as well. Totally get what you mean about feeling different things than neurotypical folks generally do, I don't feel any sort of task satisfaction whatsoever, even when getting very important things done.
I find a group of narcs working together to be the most interesting of narcissistic behavior. I saw it first hand at a church we attended. It was in a rodeo type minestry at the church. Watching these men work together to take advantage of the church and its members was horrible. But with all narcs, they can't keep it up for long and eventually they all got into a big fight and went away to try and take advantage of new churches separately. They did take their flying monkeys, but 1 did leave a minion behind to report back. Narcs are very interesting animals.
I don't. But I can't speak on behalf of anyone else. Both my ex bf and Peetz are pretty negative and pessimistic. My ex bf was pretty good at seething.
I guess it depends on what part of the spectrum you're on. My son and his father rarely feel love or happiness but when they do it's very full on but they are both easy to anger and will explode with rage it fully consumes them till they're fully over It's kinda like a switch just going off.
This is why foodie would pit Peetz and cokey against each other because wanted to seen as wanted/sexy. She's done it with salah and peetz -with salah and cokey too.
I don't feel love as it comes to relationships that most people do either. I haven't had a child yet so can't explain how I feel about that. Not on the spectrum, at least not diagnosed, but I have traits.
This provides me with a question, do you think she would feel equally inclined to run back to him if he had moved forward with his transition this year? I know he was considering it and in the early stages but decided against it. I am wondering if she would still get enough "masculine" feels from him if he was female-presenting. I'm guessing she would because she doesn't seem to respect anything on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and so would consider him the same as always, male, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.
Love the channel, Peetz imo only, was treated the same way fb was as a child given thier way and as a grown man still expects to be overlooked I have no regard for peetz he uses the "depression or disorder " as a crutch to act out with no accountability he's self absorbed and no one will put up with a man child even fb gets tired of being mom to peetz. The other 2 mentioned bb and Dom are what they show they are take them as they are or leave them alone, Salah wants money without working for it a cash cow and he found it.
Everyone one feels emotions differently it’s understandable we’re not all the same and it doesn’t mean they love any less. But putting the whole “spectrum” aside Peetz is brainwashed by “you know who” and for me he’s just plain creepy. The other night I tuned into his live to see if he mentioned Foodie visiting him and he was making my stomach turn. Why? He was picking things off his face and putting what he picked off the outside part of his nose, face and ears them putting it into his mouth. Creepy! I’m sorry, that’s how I feel about Peetz. Don’t forget also Peetz was the only man to get Foodie pregnant (as far as we know) so those two have a bond.
What is love, thats the question. At least according to Jesus: forgive 7x77 times. Don't count the bad (of a person) stay there if needed and do not refuse to listen nore to spend your time; if someone askes you to walk with him, don't refuse. Go and visit people ill or in jail. Treat the other in a way you would like to be treated. Help the poor. Teach your children. Be consequent with them. Don't devorce if not absolutely neccesary. Be kind to strangers; you might be as well a strainger in some time or condition. Be thankful. Some people it is not given to be intimate. Some are best of theire selfes when single. No one word about jumping emotions. So calm everybody down, if they feel like they don't love. Maybe they are loving, just without these butterfly feelings. And so on and so on and so on..
Phat Cow, I'm sure you know this, but in case you didn't... it's not just those on the Autism Spectrum who can't feel love (let's leave the narcs and psychopaths out of this for a sec😆). I too couldn't FEEL love for many years... COULDN'T being the operative word here... not uncommon either for those of us with a certain 'not very nice' 🤣 (I'm allowed to laugh at myself) personality disorder that begins with B! AND/OR those with CPTSD borne out of significant childhood abuse and neglect. I also experience another spectrum disorder, though I'm not point scoring because I'd like to drop the number of diagnoses TBH - amnesic dissociation. AND THEN I LEARNED HOW TO... LOVE FOR REAL - in my mid 30s. Countless psychiatrists, psychologists, you name it-ists told me for years, decades, it wouldn't be impossible for someone with my history and I believed them. Interestingly, I didn't first learn from any of those (nor countless scam 'healers'), not from a psychologist back then, but from Cass, my life partner. It took him a couple of years to figure out what was going on - because, in his words, I did VERY loving and caring things always, he just COULDN'T FEEL LOVE coming from me. He was right. I didn't understand the difference, but he helped me work that out. BINGO, he was spot on. YES, it has taken several years in specialised trauma therapy to tune in to what FEELING love feels like AND adapting my VERY maladaptive behaviourS around that. Turns out Cass was spot on about the distinction AND the cause (FOO), just didn't know how to help me fix it. It is an ongoing road, with a lot of ups and downs and I have to practise tuning in to all nicer emotions regularly that can be very very small, to still be able to feel love. Guess what? The techniques my psych uses with me are successfully used with many people on the A/spectrum, those at the less intense end. My 16yo nephew, a bit up the spectrum, has moved from not being able to register feelings within himself and definitely not being able to feel them from others, to now experiencing the full range of emotions at varying intensities.🎉🎉🎉 Bottom line of what I'm saying is, we definitely need to move away from the pure pathology of a diagnosis, whatever that is. It creates a lot of unnecessary hopelessness and disempowerment and several vested interests FOSTER this because they make billions from keeping people like us stuck. Anyone reading this who wants to find out more, please look this stuff up. The two types of therapies I have and practice from when alone are, used together, not separately, Schema MODE Therapy AND DBT. And now that I've healed the effects of some traumas, some somatic work. It's the same used for my nephew on the other side of Australia) though he had some OT interventions also in the early years. You should see him now. This won't be for everyone. It requires a lot of commitment and hard work to break down the unconscious maladaptions. And no, I'm not a privileged person with access to the resources needed to make this happen. I had to fight hard, all the way to the AUS parliament to receive this care. And this has opened the door for many other disadvantaged people to do the same. I didn't do this for arsepats. I don't get off on those. I did/am doing it to prove recovery is possible for so many left in the too hard basket, out of options. I hope you are able to take this with the spirit which it is intended. PS I too have a visceral dislike and intolerance for any liars and lying, especially for manipulative purposes and have a significant bent towards justice also. Two very important things to most survivors of abuse, not just from childhood, but not all. Did you know that Justice is the 6th (though not yet widely acknowledged) Universal EMOTIONAL Need in humans? Universal meaning across all demographics and intrinsic to our emotional and social wellbeing. 💕🐨😎
Okay. I have read this but I need to digest this. I have no reply currently but I want you to know I've acknowledged this and I need to investigate. Thank you so much.
@@PhatCowChronicles you are welcome Phat Cow. You don't need to respond further if you don't feel the need. I wrote it simply because I see so many people in GW struggling (and there are many who have done/are doing amazing recovery of course). I completely understand now, why some people can't do this kind of recovery. Some just can't. It took me two years into therapy to realise for some, many too damaged in childhood, it can be too much or they just don't have the capacity. And obviously, being on the Autism spectrum is incredibly challenging. All I am saying is hope for better, not necessary full recovery, is possible. I was devastated when I discovered part of my issues was not being able to feel love. I'd grown up like it, so it was kind of my normal, but I knew something wasn't right so constantly sought out help to find out what was going on. I still have many challenges in daily life, as you do, but I have and continue to build the skills, s.l.o.w.l.y. that are changing this. I've had the same psychologist for 5 years. So much credit goes to him. He's so skilled but beyond that, 100% committed to my recovery. We have a very clear boundaried working relationship, which is necessary and helps me stay contained and on track when the going gets really rough. It's not all cotton buds and roses. Let's just say he will pull the bandage off a wound at times when it's really necessary and safe to do so.
@PhatCowChronicles me again... have you come across the channel Call Me Sam. A wonderful person, very intelligent and philosophical, who went through a horrific childhood, went on to cause themselves extraordinary harm, as people like us can. Their videos are amazing, some of his/her (I'm honestly not sure how they identify now, but the channel isn't about that) insights, what they have had to drag themselves through to live better. I think you could enjoy them because of your rich intellect etc. Victorious, slowly. Sometimes I tell them I feel they are talking into my soul in their videos... do I have one of those?🤣🐨😎💕
Help a haydur out with the timeline of events here;) l thought that Chantal had to apply in person for this visa because she'd had a few e visas. Yet she got an e-visa rather quickly. What happened there? I do have to question how effective Kuwaiti immigration to not question why someone wants repeat 90 day visas though. Most reasonable officers would want to know exactly how your are funding your stats. Do you think she offered a cute, lopsided grin sway cameo as payment 😂😂
yes if it ends she will go back to Peetz I believe and he will take her back with open arms , the villa was in peetze name because chantal had no credit , peetze also quit his job because chantal asked him to so if she was suporting him which she was it was because she wanted to have him there with her all the time helping her with life so peetz does not have to feel anything about that , her supporting him , bibi truly loved her according to shannon but chantal changed into what we know after she started doing her youtube channel and he did not like what she tuurned into , she was cheating on bibi from the very start she said this herself and i dont think she left bibi i think he left her she cried far to hard when she anounced they split fir it to have been her decision given the fact they had been living seprate lives sonetime and she also she said it was a mutual decision only later did she chage it to say she left him, nadar would have stayed a little longer i think if he had nit exposed everything on kine but tryly you coukd tell he did not like her in nany ways you voukd tell when they were togesther only she did not see it she beleived his BS he was playing her abd she refused to see it because she was so facinated by the D 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 i just almost threw up in my mouth a little, but i do think he would have left anyway when dede came along because as sick as therre rekationship is and he ob iously can not love normaly they do have a vonfirabikity a chemistry or sirt when they sre togesther that was never there with chantal you can tell that he does have some real feeling for her however sick he is, i feel sorry fir dede sge thinks its normal the violence she even said that to vhantal thats its just the way it is with men , seems she has been abused by every man she has been with , i hope she can get out one day
Big Turk was actually ONLY 19! When she was rewriting history, he became 22 in her usual efforts to look better than she really is.
Yup, just like Chantal changed BBJ's age from 17 to 23 years old when she wanted to put her down...
Chantal loves to change history & ages.. etc..
@@fnomore333Weird how humans always feel when the wool is being pulled. I’m a Canadian farmer who knits so I feel it. She is a grifter who is not very smart. ❤
@Barbedwiredgifts
Absolutely!!
Also, WOW a wool farmer in Canada!? That literally sounds like a dream to me.. LoL.. How much cozier can you get!?!?
I'm in Texas & it's actually pretty cold here right now, but I live almost on the water, so we aren't getting the several inches of snow everyone else will be getting... But it's chilly right now!! I'm loving every single moment of it!!
I hope you, your loved ones, your animals & your farm all stay happy & blessed💓
Peetz will always be there for Chantal. No matter what. When her charade ends, he will be there and she knows it.
She should be grateful
@@Bevity And, she was his high school bully. Called him “pizza face”. Hence, “Peetz”. He’s just clueless, unfortunately.
@ I didn't know that. She is terrible. He really is clueless.
@@Bevity yes, she’s beyond evil.
I also have zero tolerance for liars
ZERO!!!!
Very brilliant points that I never thought of with Peetz..
Also one other thing/cycle that ppl may not realize with Chantal..
When she goes on the dating apps & stuff, she specifically tells men SHE DOESN'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP!! & Things like she's only looking for "fun" & she don't want to be tied down type of things..
Things we ALL KNOW are BS bc as soon as she finds a man to actually give her attention, she then IMMEDIATELY tries to move in with them.. like she did with every guy she's been with except Nerds bc he wouldn't let her...
But she tried & even paid his rent & told the Internet she "lived over there part time."
THEN she tried to get him out of Dookie's place by getting him an apartment but she thought it was for HER TOO.. when it came down to pay for it & she realized he wanted a bachelor pad WITHOUT HER LIVING THERE, is when Chantal flipped out & met Salad Boy..
So yeah, she ropes them in thinking they're only getting a one night stand & then she never leaves the house. Every. single. time.
@@fnomore333 Nerds left her because she COULD’NT rent him a place. She’s in debt and has no credit. So, he stayed / chose DD. All around pathetic.
I think you just described me! I used to be the parent at the airport that put my kids on the plane to go see their dad or grandparents, and I could watch them fly away without falling to the floor in a sobbing puddle. I walked out of the airport feeling free and light and thanking the universe for some time to myself- while also begging the universe to get my children where they were going safely. I didn't feel guilt for them being gone, and I didn't feel guilt for not feeling guilt.
While they were gone, I would talk to them on the phone and miss them, but it wasn't that desperate kind of kid missing that some people seem to go through, where they just can't function until the children are back in the house.
Then, on return of said children, I would cry like a baby because I was so happy to see them... But while they were gone I was fine.
I called it not being codependent on my children and expecting them to fill every void in my being. I loved them with open arms, they could leave me and it didn't destroy me. I did wonder sometimes if I was the exception and if there was something wrong with me as a mother- Thank you for letting me know. I'm just fine. (As are my kids! 😊. They are all grown and parents themselves and we have wonderful relationships.)
Seeing what happens in adulthood to the children of parents who are codependent on their kids of validation makes me deeply grateful that my Mom was like you while I grew up. It's good for your children to not feel the burden of your emotional needs on them.
I’m this parent too and my mother and sister used to make snide remarks about it. It made me wonder if there was something deeply wrong with me.
Glad to see I’m not on an island on my own. 😊
This sounds really healthy!
@@JennyNobody amen
@@missychan63 codependency isn't a healthy kind of love. Thankyou for sharing some of your story.
As a mom of children on the spectrum…as an ADHD person myself…I totally get you
Your insights on these dynamics are 100% on target. I'm a licensed counselor for 20 years, and I concur! You've missed your calling, my dear ❤
@@HappyGirlinStP 💕
We all have our various reasons for being invested in Foodie’s story. I can see clearly why you joined the community. You truly understand her dynamic. I’m sure she’ll hate this analysis because you truly see the inner workings of her mind.
I love the editorial sculptural collage of foodies in your background. You should keep them all, it’s a fascinating installation.
Foobs has said that “she slowly brought her stuff into BB’s apartment. Ultimately moved in and never left”. That’s her “trick”. She tried it with cokey but, it didn’t work. Thank goodness BB came to his senses and kicked her out. No love there either 😁
my thoughts are that Peez is a simple footnote in foodie sphere . Foodie is looking for the impossible man or ever person , so she stomps on everybody till that comes to be. Foodie's demands are far greater than foodie can make happen so we get bull shit foodie
She doesn't posses any intelligence.. end of....
Big Turk was 19, wasn't he?
Yes, he was at the beginning, but he was 23 within the month she paid him for his time 😂!
Yes he was
Everyone experiences love differently, you're just more aware of the difference in your experience.
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences 🙏🙏🙏. You may not feel love as a lot people do, but you’re incredibly empathetic and compassionate❤️
Thank you so much for talking about feeling things differently in regards to being a new mom. My mom never had that sense of connection when my sister and I were little. When I look back on her, she has several signs of ADHD/Neurodiversity. I know I have ADHD and it manifests in similar ways to her quirks. There is such an absurd amount of pressure on Mom's, nobody should feel alone at it.
I have such mad respect for you. I can very much relate to so much of what you are saying. My mother never showed me love and was and still is, very negative. She will be 87 this year, and with the dementia starting to set in, she is at times very mean and nasty. She always has criticized me and told me never to expect anything good in life. To date, she has driven away many that care about her which is sad.. The only thing I have ever truly loved, was my dog Miale. She was my soul and showed me what love was even though she was a dog. I lost her 3 years ago and I still cry as I am typing this .
Whenever people compliment me, I have a hard time accepting and believing them. I like you, am very passionate and I really feel things. I am very in tune with nature and even the spirit world. I really appreciate you posting this video. You have helped me to understand myself more and I am grateful to you for that
I feel with you 😞❤🩹
Everyone loves and thinks in a different way. No shame that we are all individually wired.
Much appreciated your description of how you react to injustice: it can be overwhelming, particularly in these times where evil is not only accepted but celebrated.
Examples?
Love listening to your insights - I feel deep love for animals, humans meh - although I do feel compassion. We are who we are and that's okay. 🇬🇧❤️🐈
You are authentic , knowing others is wisdom , knowing yourself is enlightenment . Too many people do not know themselves , good or bad , they take on others identities , judge others and never look in the mirror . i have always said to my children , the person whom you have to answer to is the person in the mirror and one day you will have to look at your decisions and behaviour and you want to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of who you are and actions you have taken .
You've got to be able to live with yourself
@@PhatCowChronicles Every decision i make is based on that idea . Can i look in the mirror and be able to live with myself , it's amazing how much courage that can give you .
I think those observations are very astute. I don’t think Chantal will ever end up in a romantic relationship with Peetz again but he will always be a back up situation for her. I don’t subscribe to other’s assumptions that Chantal will try and get back with Nader - I think she has a ‘favourite person’ fixation and that was extinguished when she found Salah. I think she will find someone else next (a future favourite) rather than revisit it with Nader.
Yeah, I roll my eyes when people say she still wants Nader
Not an actual romantic relationship with Peets but he'd play the part to help perpetuate the illusion that she is in one.
@@lydiaj7492 Nader is the one that got away. Despite the vast amount of money she gave him, he still did not want her. This injures her ego and her narcissism. The only reason Foodie would go back to Nader is to be the one to dump him to get even. Only then would she be able to walk away and give her the opportunity to talk shyte about him for the rest of her life. If she was still in Canada I am positive she would have done that by now.
@@allmine853 I totally 100% agree with you! Another reason on why she was so hooked on him, was, what happened between the sheets. She equates s- eggs with love, he made her feel a certain way that others have not managed to fulfil. The only reason she stays with Salah is because he is her safe haven at the moment just like Peetz and Bibi was. Given the opportunity to step sideways, be sure she would
Thank you so much for sharing with us.
Thanks!
That's incredibly kind of you, thank you.
How do you know you don't love like other people do? I have two grandchildren on the spectrum and we are fond of saying that we are all "normal." I have learned to fit into their worlds and not try to force them to fit into mine. Love is never an issue---we all love each other and show that love in how we treat each other, treat our four-legged family members, and treat others. Love is a verb and not a feeling. Did that action show love, or something else?. Thanks for opening your heart to us.
When other people talk about how they feel about seeing their newborn or talk about their kids, the things they describe are nothing like how I feel. I DO love, but it's a more practical less romantic love. In a way, I think it's more dependable. I can stop loving someone in a second and not give a second thought about it neither if you hurt me, so I'm less subject to heart ache.
I love how you have learned to fit into their world and not force them into yours ❤ I would’ve benefited so much from that as a child, but no one stopped to think about asd or adhd I mask well and when I was younger it wasn’t just spoken about openly, but it makes me happy some families just get it and do that ❤
@@PhatCowChronicles You are probably more "normal" than you think. You are just open to talking about it. Not many mothers would be so generous...our Western Society tries to be a "one-size-fits-all." It should be one-size-for-each. I love the colors of black and white, but what about the infinite hues in between? 🥰
@@PhatCowChronicles Hey, I am the queen of boundaries. Boundaries are healthy for everybody.
I always look forward to hearing your thoughts about all this you always make so much sense of all of it. I also like editing you popping in thank you for making these videos and sharing everything you do 💕
💯%correct in everything you talked about.
Romantic love? I don’t feel it either. I love my family and pets tho
Wow PC thank you for sharing ,I didn't know this at all and it is a new understanding into it this and It also explains why you are so smart ! Hey I am Bipolar and we have a different way of thinking ,I find this topic interesting and gives us insight into the dynamics of certain side characters.Also I agree in the end it will be Peetz 100%.
I am definitely not on any spectrum. I never allow anyone to be my entire world as pretty independent. I am a warrior for my family, but have a base faith that understands we are only here for a short time and much better awaits. If you can get out of yourself and feeling ruling life, this life is pretty awesome. This is why I had a great husband until his passing. We will meet again.
Great commentary! Eye opening!
Peetz emotional availability, reminds me of Todd on Bojack horseman. (Yes I love grown up cartoons, I'm a 70's baby)
Me too and I even love kids cartoons. Have you ever seen Erky and perky. Two cockroaches that live on hotdog stand. Forget about it it’s pretty good too. The hollow is good too. 😂
@Bewwho yes and yes I've watched those, I'm in the middle of re-watching f is for family.
@ oh I forgot about F is for family. I gotta catch up. Thank you. I know what I’m watching tonight. 😆
@Bewwho exploding kittens is pretty good too on Netflix
_Moral Orel_ fan here. Talk about all those dynamics!
Where you're talking about narcissists and doormats - yes, growing up with an abusive narcissistic father, I was forced into role of doormat to keep myself as safe as possible. He made an error in taking credit for my accomplishments, too, though; because he loved that, he pushed me to learn more, be smarter, sing better etc, and that just made me more intelligent. Doormat life is not great life, and I'm glad to see you on this side of it.
Chantal is a scammers karma 😆😆
PC, I relate to what you're saying about love, do much. I also think my ex couldn't feel love in the same way that most people do.
I have diagnosed BPD and when I started researching it I found out about the emotional side of things how we feel everything more than the neurotypical person does , so when it comes to anger I feel it to the extreme …. When it comes to love and happiness I also feel that to the extreme , this got me thinking about how sad it is that others aren’t feeling that how I do (the happy parts not the rage and anger) . Just something iv thought about . Anyways how do we really know others don’t feel love like we do? Or feel it at all .
I have same diagnosis but learned to manage it well now but like you I do notice that I’m different in alot of ways to others. I also have ptsd and ocd so cannot be in a relationship atm because things irritate me to the point I get really agitated and can’t self soothe well. Tiny things upset me to the extreme. I think the stigma with this too is difficult as ur often judged as being attention seeking etc even when u aren’t like that. I think foodie very much has untreated bpd and why we see her changing her mind so often and unable to keep check of her emotions. Do u notice it more because we have self awareness do u think. I’m very much stable unless I have a huge upset here and have learnt to manage mine really well but it also now means I can clearly notice it in people who are online. I had therapy that has helped immensely with dealing with emotions and triggers also. I’ve stayed single to protect myself as well.
I have no high highs but I don't have low lows either. It's muted. I'm neither happy nor unhappy. My emotions are very influenced by other people emotions, so (as I'm single) it's very uneventful currently.
@ I know what u mean on that numb feeling I actually don’t like it I’d prefer even sad to the nothing feeling
@@dupingdelight yeah I also think with age I’m a lot better than I was I think coping with things is easier and I’m less impulsive . I am in a long term relationship and it was really hard to begin but again with time things are going well. I hate the extreme temper I can have it’s been a while now since iv had any episodes and yes the stigma is upsetting and we definitely are seen as attention seeking which is unfair . Yep I spot it a mile off in certain people but foodie I feel something else could be at play though her fear of abandonment is definitely borderline. I was in therapy it was a group therapy I didn’t finish it I felt I was taking on others worries and a lot of people were worse off than me I Duno I just feel for people . Totally makes sense to not be in a relationship as that can bring on a lot of BPD triggers . It’s a shame though everyone deserves love and to be loved x
@@PhatCowChronicles I feel the same , like I pick up on others emotions and it in turn affects me deeply
I hear you and understand what you are saying :) I appreciate your narration of things you care deeply about 💕
My ex was also constantly negative.
That feeling you speak of is a rush of various hormones. Virtues are found in behavior, not emotions. I say this as a non spectrum person. Aa for loyalty i feel that it is like respect. It can be earned and it can be lost.
I don't have the bell on but i just catch you as soon as you upload every time! 😂
I agree totally on your description of Salah
Peetz will always be there, and ask for the others I feel that you're right on point. If you notice she does all this baby talk in health issues when are so called husband is there, I think that's just part of the how do I say it the ACT of making him seem the caring protector you don't like someone protecting a small sick child. And like I said before I wonder how many of those gummy vitamins she brought back😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
You’re spot on for sure!
I was shook that it didn’t happen this visa run. Did she get back to Kuwait before the e-visa thing? I know she probably got a new passport allegedly but still. And Peetz oh lord he is the final frontier.
Love your thought process and you sharing with us. I found out later in life the AuDHD thing, and I think I know what you mean to a degree and I never thought about it but you put it into words for me - I think I have a trauma thing too with mine and my ability to feel loved. And love languages are different for everyone but especially for neurodivergent people. Love you PC ❤ I am with you on the justice thing omfg. My sense of Justice is INSANE and sometimes it just makes me wanna scream. But so does my special interest in people/human psychology/how people operate because I operate differently than a lot of people and it’s okay! But somehow I landed in GORLWORLD and some other cow universes and also true crime 😅
Aside from the Foodie stuff, you’ve given me insight into my own mother and our relationship (semi-estranged). She has always believed she is on the spectrum (at least ever since that topic has been widely discussed in the world) but never diagnosed and probably never will be since she’s now 81. You’ve given me much to think about.
Excellent!
Sweetie Love is diffrent to all people, it has diffrent meanings.
Let's not forget that foodie is way deep on the Spectrum as well
Was the reference about peet eating roast beef for Christmas, about Chantel cheating on salad?
I said this almost word for word 😮 full circle indeed
Editing me ❤ I told him once he is MARRIED it's part of his promise to hug her and comfort her if she cries. They found two genetic anomalies that have dire consequences and stump a panel of neonatologists. She is hysterical. My son is calm and just talking about how every person even with disabilities life us important and he can't wait to meet her.
This was a very informative video , i enjoyed this very much. Thank you for sharing
Your commentary and observations are spot on! Since we do not know everything that is going on with salah, regarding his family obligations and expectations, what do you think will be salah's breaking point with foodie? If salah married again, do you think foodie would accept being the "kept" women when he has a legitimate, sanctioned marriage with another woman? When the delusion of this romantic adventure is broken? Will she be able to share? I don't think so, foodie has a hard time sharing. Could go on and on with this one!
As usual, excellent insight❤. (Also, as far as her going back to Kuwait and not remaining in Canada as you thought she would…I’d still bet you would be correct in 9 out of 10 predictions.) **and 😂 she most likely will never really try to rage and fight with you because of the ‘energy’ you radiate…imo.
Afternoon all! 👋 Very interesting vid PC, thank you for sharing your experiences ❤
Phat Cow, content creator "NoMadnesslife" latest live was about BiBi. She has great receipts.
Pete's is non-social with no home training and I think his mother had him very late in life and she just didn't do anything with him and foodie the same way except her mother wasn't an older mother
Foodie wants what no other human on Earth can give her: unconditional love. Only she can give it to herself by taking care of her body and mind.
Morning love. My son is on the spectrum and loves his wife very much. His wife is pregnant with my first granddaughter and there are some very concerning genetic tests. I have to remind him to hug his wife when she cries. He tells me he doesn't want to , but I remind him she needs it. He just is not a lovey person but he fiercely feels protective and love FOR her. 💓 he is 30 now and has had to practice eye contact. She adores him. My son is like you. He is very kind and loving in his way. He is very aware of it and very positive . Peetz is totally the final boss.
It's a more stoic love. More dependable. Less wine and roses and more 'there when you need me regardless' love.
I got ya, I understand.
I am just like you in that regard. I am more cerebral. I dont fall in love with irrational feelings unless it is my cats with zero risk.
I don't think I expressed myself very well in the video as it's very complicated. I can love but not the way that makes you lose yourself or leaves you breathless (is that even a thing?)
Remember you need to make the Am-bush dainty
It really is sad to see what happens to autistic children if they dont get the help they need in childhood.
not necessarily, Autistic people can make contributions and offer things that other people can't
Neurodivergence is not a disease nor necessarily a disability
The fault lies in a systems and a society that very narrow definitions and limited access around how people "should" process, contribute and move through the world
I’ve been saying this. For awhile.im glad you have a platform to share what the actual facts are. Even if they don’t hook back up romantically, he’ll always be there for her. I like Peetz, because he’s not foodie but when they’re together they are funny and make the content better. If she’s not ditching him for someone else.i hate that he lies for her. It’s not blatant, but she puts him in the position.and he’s loyal, so he’s gonna do it.
Thank you for your intimate expression of vulnerability, something that is not often shared. Injustice? Yes, my friend. Liars? Yes, yes, yes.
I'm going to say ALR is more Xmas 🎄 shaped because....🤢.
I suggested some weight at the bottom of the stuffie, sand/beans or similar, to weigh it down for the triangle effect. Can't wait to see the results!!!!
Yikes, she must absolutely hate the fact that you can read her like a book. Anyways I do see a little of myself in what you have described. On my wedding day, a family friend was taking photos for us. She was trying to get some shots of us looking lovingly into each others eyes, and I just kept laughing, I couldn’t do it. I realised then that I was a little bit different 😎
I only just learned a few months ago that I'm on the spectrum and have ADHD as well and I'm 54.
Your amazing!!🎉🎉🎉
I'm diagnosed autistic and i can't say i agree with you on this honey I'm the total opposite to you. What you're describing sounds more like a Cluster B.
Well I agree with the kindness respect and decency but I mean the not feeling love the same. We're all so different on the spectrum. I do think peetz is but he has other issues going on. He's thick as mince for one.
Right @@SausageSideways
Girl you said fiercely correctly
That's where your ex and mine differ, mine was super jealous.
Well if standing by and supporting what you love and needs you he failed with his cat.
It's not weird, I get exactly where you are coming from , we are all loving beings and all feel in different ways,
And I totally agree about liar's, my now ex , married 32 years and he was the world's biggest liar, narcissist adulterer, my world has changed soooo much since last july we divorced 💚
I'm in love and have been dating my boyfriend for sixteen years, he is also "on the spectrum" and it has been a topic of discussion with my therapist whether or not his "love" is enough for me. He doesn't love me the way I love him and I have accepted that he "loves" me just as much as he possibly can and I am okay with that.
Of Course, logically I have always understood this but the way you explained it in the beginning .... it was AWESOME, I thought I understood but now I REALLY understand. Thank you so much for that it really gave me a perspective I had not had before even with the benefit of probably being told the exact same thing by my therapist over the years , for some reason the way you laid it out really cleared it up for, "Thank you" very much. :)
It's less emotional but that, also, includes all the toxic, negative emotions. It's a fair trade off I think
@@PhatCowChronicles absolutely agree ! love your work hon.
Love your show ❤
I love the honesty when describing not 'feeling' love. As an autistic guy, i know i love my husband and my family. But it feels more like tv static than an emotion. Feeling loved is another one that never really happened with anyone.
I love but there's no fireworks, no taking my breath away, no 'can't live without you'. But there's also no jealousy, no possessiveness and no stalking.
I also have a lot of justice sensitivity, and I'm autistic as well. Totally get what you mean about feeling different things than neurotypical folks generally do, I don't feel any sort of task satisfaction whatsoever, even when getting very important things done.
I find a group of narcs working together to be the most interesting of narcissistic behavior. I saw it first hand at a church we attended. It was in a rodeo type minestry at the church. Watching these men work together to take advantage of the church and its members was horrible. But with all narcs, they can't keep it up for long and eventually they all got into a big fight and went away to try and take advantage of new churches separately. They did take their flying monkeys, but 1 did leave a minion behind to report back. Narcs are very interesting animals.
Thanks. I had a big laugh at the title! ❤
But omg, your experience. Horrific.
Question: I get the part about not feeling love, but do these people feel hate? (I ask because they seem to).
I don't. But I can't speak on behalf of anyone else. Both my ex bf and Peetz are pretty negative and pessimistic. My ex bf was pretty good at seething.
I guess it depends on what part of the spectrum you're on. My son and his father rarely feel love or happiness but when they do it's very full on but they are both easy to anger and will explode with rage it fully consumes them till they're fully over It's kinda like a switch just going off.
PC, I think this too.
This is why foodie would pit Peetz and cokey against each other because wanted to seen as wanted/sexy. She's done it with salah and peetz -with salah and cokey too.
Loved the video x
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Off to read your community post i missed 😇🤭
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I don't feel love as it comes to relationships that most people do either. I haven't had a child yet so can't explain how I feel about that. Not on the spectrum, at least not diagnosed, but I have traits.
This provides me with a question, do you think she would feel equally inclined to run back to him if he had moved forward with his transition this year? I know he was considering it and in the early stages but decided against it. I am wondering if she would still get enough "masculine" feels from him if he was female-presenting. I'm guessing she would because she doesn't seem to respect anything on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and so would consider him the same as always, male, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.
Love the channel, Peetz imo only, was treated the same way fb was as a child given thier way and as a grown man still expects to be overlooked I have no regard for peetz he uses the "depression or disorder " as a crutch to act out with no accountability he's self absorbed and no one will put up with a man child even fb gets tired of being mom to peetz. The other 2 mentioned bb and Dom are what they show they are take them as they are or leave them alone, Salah wants money without working for it a cash cow and he found it.
Everyone one feels emotions differently it’s understandable we’re not all the same and it doesn’t mean they love any less. But putting the whole “spectrum” aside Peetz is brainwashed by “you know who” and for me he’s just plain creepy. The other night I tuned into his live to see if he mentioned Foodie visiting him and he was making my stomach turn. Why? He was picking things off his face and putting what he picked off the outside part of his nose, face and ears them putting it into his mouth. Creepy! I’m sorry, that’s how I feel about Peetz. Don’t forget also Peetz was the only man to get Foodie pregnant (as far as we know) so those two have a bond.
*manaical lol
What is love, thats the question. At least according to Jesus: forgive 7x77 times. Don't count the bad (of a person) stay there if needed and do not refuse to listen nore to spend your time; if someone askes you to walk with him, don't refuse. Go and visit people ill or in jail. Treat the other in a way you would like to be treated. Help the poor. Teach your children. Be consequent with them. Don't devorce if not absolutely neccesary. Be kind to strangers; you might be as well a strainger in some time or condition. Be thankful.
Some people it is not given to be intimate. Some are best of theire selfes when single. No one word about jumping emotions. So calm everybody down, if they feel like they don't love. Maybe they are loving, just without these butterfly feelings. And so on and so on and so on..
My son is autistic
Both my kids are also on the spectrum also.
I don't think this Turk was real!
Kiwiarms found him and he admitted he saw Foodie but only in exchange for money.
Phat Cow, I'm sure you know this, but in case you didn't... it's not just those on the Autism Spectrum who can't feel love (let's leave the narcs and psychopaths out of this for a sec😆).
I too couldn't FEEL love for many years... COULDN'T being the operative word here... not uncommon either for those of us with a certain 'not very nice' 🤣 (I'm allowed to laugh at myself) personality disorder that begins with B! AND/OR those with CPTSD borne out of significant childhood abuse and neglect. I also experience another spectrum disorder, though I'm not point scoring because I'd like to drop the number of diagnoses TBH - amnesic dissociation.
AND THEN I LEARNED HOW TO... LOVE FOR REAL - in my mid 30s.
Countless psychiatrists, psychologists, you name it-ists told me for years, decades, it wouldn't be impossible for someone with my history and I believed them.
Interestingly, I didn't first learn from any of those (nor countless scam 'healers'), not from a psychologist back then, but from Cass, my life partner. It took him a couple of years to figure out what was going on - because, in his words, I did VERY loving and caring things always, he just COULDN'T FEEL LOVE coming from me. He was right. I didn't understand the difference, but he helped me work that out. BINGO, he was spot on.
YES, it has taken several years in specialised trauma therapy to tune in to what FEELING love feels like AND adapting my VERY maladaptive behaviourS around that. Turns out Cass was spot on about the distinction AND the cause (FOO), just didn't know how to help me fix it. It is an ongoing road, with a lot of ups and downs and I have to practise tuning in to all nicer emotions regularly that can be very very small, to still be able to feel love.
Guess what? The techniques my psych uses with me are successfully used with many people on the A/spectrum, those at the less intense end. My 16yo nephew, a bit up the spectrum, has moved from not being able to register feelings within himself and definitely not being able to feel them from others, to now experiencing the full range of emotions at varying intensities.🎉🎉🎉
Bottom line of what I'm saying is, we definitely need to move away from the pure pathology of a diagnosis, whatever that is. It creates a lot of unnecessary hopelessness and disempowerment and several vested interests FOSTER this because they make billions from keeping people like us stuck.
Anyone reading this who wants to find out more, please look this stuff up. The two types of therapies I have and practice from when alone are, used together, not separately, Schema MODE Therapy AND DBT. And now that I've healed the effects of some traumas, some somatic work. It's the same used for my nephew on the other side of Australia) though he had some OT interventions also in the early years. You should see him now.
This won't be for everyone. It requires a lot of commitment and hard work to break down the unconscious maladaptions. And no, I'm not a privileged person with access to the resources needed to make this happen. I had to fight hard, all the way to the AUS parliament to receive this care. And this has opened the door for many other disadvantaged people to do the same. I didn't do this for arsepats. I don't get off on those. I did/am doing it to prove recovery is possible for so many left in the too hard basket, out of options.
I hope you are able to take this with the spirit which it is intended.
PS I too have a visceral dislike and intolerance for any liars and lying, especially for manipulative purposes and have a significant bent towards justice also. Two very important things to most survivors of abuse, not just from childhood, but not all. Did you know that Justice is the 6th (though not yet widely acknowledged) Universal EMOTIONAL Need in humans? Universal meaning across all demographics and intrinsic to our emotional and social wellbeing. 💕🐨😎
Okay. I have read this but I need to digest this. I have no reply currently but I want you to know I've acknowledged this and I need to investigate. Thank you so much.
Bloody hell, that was a lot 🤣 and I forgot to eat dinner. And it was important to say on your channel. I hope you don't mind.
@@PhatCowChronicles you are welcome Phat Cow. You don't need to respond further if you don't feel the need. I wrote it simply because I see so many people in GW struggling (and there are many who have done/are doing amazing recovery of course).
I completely understand now, why some people can't do this kind of recovery. Some just can't. It took me two years into therapy to realise for some, many too damaged in childhood, it can be too much or they just don't have the capacity.
And obviously, being on the Autism spectrum is incredibly challenging.
All I am saying is hope for better, not necessary full recovery, is possible.
I was devastated when I discovered part of my issues was not being able to feel love. I'd grown up like it, so it was kind of my normal, but I knew something wasn't right so constantly sought out help to find out what was going on.
I still have many challenges in daily life, as you do, but I have and continue to build the skills, s.l.o.w.l.y. that are changing this.
I've had the same psychologist for 5 years. So much credit goes to him. He's so skilled but beyond that, 100% committed to my recovery. We have a very clear boundaried working relationship, which is necessary and helps me stay contained and on track when the going gets really rough. It's not all cotton buds and roses. Let's just say he will pull the bandage off a wound at times when it's really necessary and safe to do so.
@PhatCowChronicles me again... have you come across the channel Call Me Sam. A wonderful person, very intelligent and philosophical, who went through a horrific childhood, went on to cause themselves extraordinary harm, as people like us can. Their videos are amazing, some of his/her (I'm honestly not sure how they identify now, but the channel isn't about that) insights, what they have had to drag themselves through to live better.
I think you could enjoy them because of your rich intellect etc.
Victorious, slowly.
Sometimes I tell them I feel they are talking into my soul in their videos... do I have one of those?🤣🐨😎💕
Literally using your videos for ASMR purposes 😆
i thought it was bibi that was 7 yrs not sure i can't keep up with all the lies she tells
Both Peets and BiBi lasted 7 years
@@PhatCowChronicles thanks
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Help a haydur out with the timeline of events here;) l thought that Chantal had to apply in person for this visa because she'd had a few e visas. Yet she got an e-visa rather quickly. What happened there?
I do have to question how effective Kuwaiti immigration to not question why someone wants repeat 90 day visas though. Most reasonable officers would want to know exactly how your are funding your stats. Do you think she offered a cute, lopsided grin sway cameo as payment 😂😂
Are your children okay do they have what you have either of them
yes if it ends she will go back to Peetz I believe and he will take her back with open arms , the villa was in peetze name because chantal had no credit , peetze also quit his job because chantal asked him to so if she was suporting him which she was it was because she wanted to have him there with her all the time helping her with life so peetz does not have to feel anything about that , her supporting him , bibi truly loved her according to shannon but chantal changed into what we know after she started doing her youtube channel and he did not like what she tuurned into , she was cheating on bibi from the very start she said this herself and i dont think she left bibi i think he left her she cried far to hard when she anounced they split fir it to have been her decision given the fact they had been living seprate lives sonetime and she also she said it was a mutual decision only later did she chage it to say she left him, nadar would have stayed a little longer i think if he had nit exposed everything on kine but tryly you coukd tell he did not like her in nany ways you voukd tell when they were togesther only she did not see it she beleived his BS he was playing her abd she refused to see it because she was so facinated by the D 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 i just almost threw up in my mouth a little, but i do think he would have left anyway when dede came along because as sick as therre rekationship is and he ob iously can not love normaly they do have a vonfirabikity a chemistry or sirt when they sre togesther that was never there with chantal you can tell that he does have some real feeling for her however sick he is, i feel sorry fir dede sge thinks its normal the violence she even said that to vhantal thats its just the way it is with men , seems she has been abused by every man she has been with , i hope she can get out one day