humans descend in an unbroken line purely through their mothers, & through the mothers of those mothers, back until all lines converge on one African woman -- All Humans are African [Humans {and hominids..} evolved in African. European African COLONIST may not have survived without Indigenous ! Hominids and Humans evolved in Africa - OF COURSE The Africans that settle outside Africa First are More FAMILIAR about How To Survive Outside Of Africa than the Neo Africans Passing to outside Africa to interact with the Africans [Hominids or Humanoids] that Left Africa Earlier in the {decade of} millennium... WHITE IDENTITY SEPARATE RACE RACIST IDEOLOGY MAY NOT SURVIVE W/O THE HELP OF HATE FOR YoUR AFRICAN ANCESTORS AND ORIGIN - AM I WHITE? humans descend in an unbroken line purely through their mothers, & through the mothers of those mothers, back until all lines converge on one African woman -- there's a [All of the] mainstream and social media product to help [WITH WHITE IDENTITY SEPARATE RACE DISINFORMATION and political violence defamation black misinformation against everybody else]- and only a short timeframe to fix it [you have time to be racist separate from the rest of US -- All humans are African ~ the mitochondrial "eve" {not you though}] th-cam.com/video/CJdT6QcSbQ0/w-d-xo.html -- mainstream and social media platforms interfere with Users/CITIZENS [of the United States..] WHO CRITICIZE platform disinformation, misinformation, and white identity racism/defamation ["black"{absent "kike"}] of Americans -- ENGAGING in fraud, misinformation, and United States census five racial categories (White, Black, Native American/Alaska Native, Asian, and Native Hawaiian/Other Pacific..) DISINFORMATION.
My Father died 34 years ago and my paternal grandmother 52 years ago, her husband my grandfather died 50 years this past July. All three NEVER hugged me or my two sisters and NEVER said I Love You. My Mom’s side completely the opposite, very loving and nurturing. Grandpa had his 97th Birthday and was my best friend, born in 1899. Tyler helped me a lot today, you never know when grief will surface. Summary “We are going to be okay.” I’m working on the anger, and have learned I can’t change the past. 💕 I let things go now and don’t sweat the small stuff anymore. 🌞 You be well.
I am literally in tears now. Tyler & Anderson are so spot on. I still smell my mom. And I long to feel loved the way she loved me. I won't even count the years(between 10-15 years now). I found her dead on the floor at home, and I could never make the house my home. She always had extra Everything in case someone needed it. I would open a curtain in find 6 bottles of Tide. Open a cabinet and find emergency lights. Find cash tucked away somewhere. I couldn't make that house my own because I couldn't stop dreaming that she was coming back, and I didn't ever want her to think I was disrespecting her things. She took so much care & pride in her home. I find peace knowing she's still with me. When I purchased a new home, she smiled and laughed so hard the night before I found it. She told me she was so proud and who was living close by me. She is my best girl, my best friend, and my guardian angel now. Always there supporting, encouraging, and guiding me & my children. I am so thankful & blessed to have known her even when times were at their worst. I've learned so many life lessons, and have so much instilled in me from the way she raised me.
neanderthals were not white - the racist tool had not been invented until the 1680s west Asia's Eurasian African colonies that became the United States. Don't Pass White Identity Racism [Facebook, NBC News, CBS News, ABC News, PBS NewsHour Fugnuts..] "Recent studies have shown that Neanderthal DNA can be traced back to Africa.." Hominids descend in lines that converge on Africa.. Sounds like Neanderthals left Africa much earlier than Humans - still All Humans [and Hominids and hominoids and homidroids if such a thing ] are African. early Europeans were Africans on the Continent of Asia on the part of ASIA named after Zeus' Mistress "Europ". European Africans would be a more "exact description" All living humans descend from a place We the People now call south Sahara Africa - in an unbroken line purely through our mothers, & through the mothers of those mothers, back until all lines converge on one woman the first legislative body in colonial America passed a law limiting citizenship to Europeans [Eurasian Africans - African-Europeans [from the land of zEUs' mistress {Europ} ASIA] -- the 1682 law included the first documented use in the English-speaking colonies of the word “white” [vs English European or Christian {Eurasian Africans} to describe pink-beige west Asian Africans aka Europeans] the MILITARY ORDER of Christ had already coined the defamation Negro or Black European Jewish or Christian {Eurasian Africans} use to describe darkest brown to pink-beige west Asian Africans aka European-Asian-African-Americans passing white "free of the Blemish" of human skin color -- serving both to discriminate against everyone who doesn't pass white separate race and to maintain advantages and benefits for European-Asian-African-Americans passing white "free of the Blemish" of humans with skin color] th-cam.com/video/CJdT6QcSbQ0/w-d-xo.html -- All Humans Are African ~ the Mitochondrial "Eve" -- the most recent common ancestor of all living humans
@Leonard, I know exactly how you felt! I didn’t want to go on after my Mom passed in 2018! I don’t have kids, so this is the deepest grief I’ve ever known, especially the way my sweet mom passed. Believing I’ll see her again in heaven, helps me to grieve forward!!
I am SO Happy to hear two grown men talking about grief and trauma and how to to work through it. ❤ I was able to find and connect with my inner little girl. Still working with her, and we’re getting better.
Yes, you are spot on!! I know that’s why I’ve always loved to hear Anderson or Tyler 🙏. They keep it real, they don’t hold back! These men are some of the best role models for our boys. I admire their dedication, intelligence, courage and strength to open up those doors that men are unfairly expected to Man It Up or Stop Being a Baby!!! Thank you Anderson Cooper and Tyler Perry for sharing your thoughts with us! ☮️🙏
I lost my mother June 3rd. Hearing two strong men speak about the power of grief is amazing. I really needed this conversation. Tyler and Anderson, you are enough. Bless you both.
My mom taught me a valuable lesson about grief. The only way out is through. She was right - you just have to let yourself feel it. I couldn’t mention my mother for 3 or 4 years after she died without crying. Both parents and 2 sisters died within a 6 month period. That was 14 years ago and we’ve lost 2 brothers since then. We have a lot of experience with grieving. Just be kind to yourself when you are grieving. I taught my children that God gave us tears to get the sadness out of our bodies. 💔🙏🏻💜
My deepest condolences for the loss of your family members. That is a huge loss!! Take care of yourself & watch this video over & over if you must 🙏. Blessings and Peace to you☮️
i am tearing up listening to these men share their souls at such depth. THAT is courage, that is another human experiencing the heartbreaks of life and loss, and learning to overcome and understand what they can, and live with the rest. But even more poignant to me is this is two men having loved so deep it still hurts. I wondered this the other day in my silence as i reflected on my parents passing away just a few short years ago. Why does it still hurt the longer they have been gone? Instead of being less painful, it tends to accelerate. I concluded the mind doesnt accept what the heart already knows. It unravels slowly the memories and the realization this is forever. Its a survival technique. Grief is not a destination, its a journey. Its not a weakness. its the price of love.
All the years of therapy and Tyler and Anderson break so much down in 30 minutes. I have blocked so much of my childhood out completely. And, just recently (I'm 52) for whatever reason what happened to me as a little girl started coming out. That pain, I didn't know what to do with it. And, I had to stop myself from any of those thoughts because it was so overwhelming. I was always able to say in a kinda matter of fact way the abuse I went through but after I saw myself as a child being abused that all changed. And, right now I am going through so much family, health, and financially that once again I feel like I am now the one putting my younger self on the back burner because I am dealing with so many other things. Honestly, I am afraid of everything I might learn. I didn't know that until just now. Thank you so much Tyler and Anderson for sharing parts of your journey to healing with us. I pray continued healing prayers over you. Blessings to you.
Me too dear. Child abuse does this to us. 1968 I learned my dad was a pedophile (long before there was a word) I kept my virginity but I had to fight him. 6'4" and I was size 2. I finally got to set him up when I was 32. I wore the wire, because he went after some other teen. Get this I had to prove to the detective that I was not a pedophile first. For the rest of my life I have reported Child abuse. Each night I pray that another child won't be harmed. So yes I still get stuck when I think of it. Blessings to Anderson Cooper and Tyler Perry. His studio in Atlanta has Bibles buried and once you go there you are walking on GOD'S word. ❤
Your testimonies are incredibly powerful and resonate deeply. It’s truly rare to hear grown men open up about their darkest moments and vulnerabilities. Thank you both for sharing your amazing stories; your openness is inspiring and speaks volumes about your strength. May you both be richly blessed for what you’ve shared. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
This hit me so much - I’m still struggling from my dad passing in 2020 and no being allowed to see him or say goodbye due to covid, I was in Ohio my parents and brother in Michigan . Mom and my brother had closure - I got a call from my cousin telling me . I still have hard times. So now I’m thinking I have 5 more years 🥺 I lost a daughter at 18 months and it’s been 28 years and sometimes it hits me like a brick wall. Same with losing my best friend when we were 25- I’m 60 and it still hurts when I least expect . Grief never goes away I think we learn to deal with it differently and we learn to deal it never truly goes away . I think because if the immense love we have for that person. I love both you guys ( Madea is an idol and Anderson your mom was always my favorite designer from a young age ) and this was totally needed and great thank you 🙏 🥰
Thank you, Anderson. Your interviews and questions get to our hearts. You are doing good work. My wonderful husband of 41 years died 10 months ago. I am working through my grief with God's help. Your discussions do help me.
Wow! I knew very little about Tyler Perry before watching this video, but what an incredible man he is! I pray that God will continue to bless him and bring him peace!
There's a youtube channel showing his incredible hobby aircraft collection that he flies. Maybe that's his way of letting go too. He seems very down to earth in the video enjoying his hobby.
My mom passed when I was 13 years old. I am 62 years old now and I talk to my mom often. I surprisingly dream with my mom and feel joy to see her again in my dreams. I am at peace with how my childhood was even though it was challenging, but my mom was more difficult than mine. I share as much as I can with my daughters because I know, I can make a loving difference in their lives later. Bless our hearts
It was exactly nine years when I began to feel the anger of my sister passing from cancer at the age of 28. The anger is still there over 30 years later. Thank you for sharing...both of you!
I did some inner child work in the late '80s based on the work of Louise Hay. It was SUPER healing and deeply profound. I have often revisited the exercise through guided meditation and it is always fulfilling .
Anderson, I just finished watching your talk with Tyler Perry. I am crying and of course thinking about my own grief. Mr. Perry is so very right about grief visiting us unexpectedly. Sometimes it will be one person or another that has died that is the one knocking at my door. For me, I learned grief never truly goes away. I just try and live with it instead of denying it. Thank you both for your words.
Beautiful…thank you, both for sharing your story. At 62, I’ve learned that our loved ones who have died, never truly leave us. We carry them in our hearts…always there whenever we need them, through all the tears and the laughter.
I needed to hear this, because my mother passed 2018 Thanksgiving week and she too loved holidays like crazy. I have not cooked for the family since then, I have not decorated since then, and our birthday was a week a part in January. I have struggled to figure out the new me without my best friend who lived with me the last 17 years of her life. Whew thank you for this Mr. Perry!😭
@dellacayson9179 Of all the comme ts posted, your comment really spoke to me. I respond to you now on 12/24/2024 as I start to prepare Christmas day dinner. My story is similar to yours. I shared the holidays with both my parents up until they got divorced. My dad remarried, and although my relationship with him remained loving and close, out of respect for his wife, I maintained certain boundaries. After my parents' divorce, my mom and I created new traditions and ways to celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas, especially Christmas. My mom didn't cook, so that was left to me, and she always helped me clean up. We did the decorating together , the same way, at the same time (the day after Thanksgiving) every year--even when I lived in a different state. In August of 2016,, my mother went home to be with the Lord. That year, I did t even open a Christmas card or send any. Then came her birthday, Jan. 26, and after then my birthday in April. Of course, after that, the BIG ONE - my first Mother's Day without my mom. I forced myself to go to church and then came home and got into bed and cried myself to sleep. No one ever told me how tough "the firsts" are. The first Thanksgiving , Christmas, Easter, 4th of July, MLK Jr Day without my mother were ugly-cry painful. I wasn't prepare😂d for sharing. Here is my message with love for you. Take things one step, one day at a time. Grief is normal. It is an unpredictable thing that shows up unexpectedly to remind us how much we miss our moms and other loved ones. Here's the thing for those of us who were blessed with strong and loving moms the grief is profound. As the second Thanksgiving without my mom approached in 2018, I decided it would hurt more not to honor the memories my mother and I created together, so started with cooking a couple dishes to take to my neighbors. From that, it went to showing up at my cousins' house with a dish and dessert for her Thanksgiving dinner. When Christmas of 2018 came, I did the same thing. I took small steps. I did decorations, but no tree. I was in the kitchen preparing a small dinner when I felt my mom's presence. I came away with the feeling that going forward, I had to celebrate for my mom. She worked hard, and sacrificed so much for me and my brother. She poured herself into us. I am sure your beautiful mom did the same thing for you. I know you have amazing memories that you are holding on to even though you miss her so much. Take those good times and traditions you shared with your mom and try to do something-- anything that will honor those special moments and build from there in your own way. It is 5:30am on Christmas Eve. I choose to be in the kitchen myself preparing dinner because this is the time I feel closest to my mom even though she is not here. I remember that she would come downstairs around 9am and say, "Girl, you have been up all night. You better go to bed or you'!! be too tired on Christmas Day." Now, when I think of those times, I smile and thank God for my mom and the memories. You are so BLESSED TO HAVE. HAD A THAT YOU LOVE SO MUCH AND MISS DEARLY. My wish and prayer for you is that soon you will embrace doing some of the things that you did when your mom was alive and you experienced the peace and love that I have found 8 years later. Well, it's time to turn off the stove and clean the kitchen before I catch a quick nap. My Christmas prayer for you is that the pain in your heart is replaced with peace. Know that while she is not here, she is still with you and watching over you. I am praying for you. Carry on and be blessed. Merry Christmas
This is so raw, authentic, powerful, and needed. I'm on day 294 of deep grief at the sudden lunexpected loss of husband!!! On my grief journey. So many, many, many good times!!!
Authenticity is in short supply in public spaces, but you both have shown what it looks, sounds and feels like. Thank you for your courage and speaking from your soul. Anderson, I'm the same age as you and relate deeply as I've lost my father and brother. Tears are good. Much love to you both.
OMG! I just happened to be scrolling and saw this interview. I lost my husband and mother within a 6 month period 26 years ago. I thought I had been through the worst time of my life until my daughter passed away from cancer 14 years ago. Loosing her has been some of the most unimaginable grief that I’ve ever experienced. Thank you both for sharing. 🙌🏽❤️
My dad passed away on December 1, 2009. If you haven't lost a parent, I literally can't explain the pain. It's a different kind of loss. My dad has missed so much. I pray he can see what a beautiful bunch of mess I try to be every single day! He was the glue! It would just make more sense with him here. I miss him, but I know he loved Jesus with every ounce of his heart, and he is his best up in heaven! We will get through this! Even 15 yrs later, it's so hard!
@TylerPerry Sir you are the first person to describe exactly how I have felt since my momma leaving me!! I wish I had the resources for the kind of therapy you describe however I CANNOT tell you what it ment to me to hear you talk about how you have felt since losing your Momma! @AndersonCooper and @TylerPerry I’m praying for you both!!
Gentlemen, your honest open hearts will help so many, including myself, heal from grief and trauma. May you be blessed for gifting us with your life stories. Losing our 39 year old son to hypothermia in 2014 almost killed me. I’d be honoured to ‘mother’ either of you if you ever needed a moment of encouragement
So grateful that I accidentally came across this clip. Thank you for the eloquent portrayal of your tragic circumstances. It's part of life, it just haunts and lingers at times. So uplifting to realise the measure of the trauma equates to the level of success. Very powerful and far reaching thank you both
My dear Mother... suddening past at home in October 1993 while i had been visiting her that evening before i headed to work on the midnight shift as an RN. I had layed down for a short while to take a short nap when i suddenly got up and went to the living room where she had been watching TV. Right away, i knew she was not breathing. In total shock... I lifted her off the chair and layed her on the floor and began CPR. In the mean time, I had called 911 and they finally showed up but my mother didnt make it. I have felt so much guilt for not being able to save my mother that night or why did I take a short nap instead of sitting with her. She was a wonderful lady who loved life, children and people. I miss her so much!! Thank you for this precious interview and message.
When we experience grief is when the person we are grieving is visiting us in spirit. We are all spirit inhabiting a human body for a period of time. Then we shed the body. We never stop existing and neither do our loved ones.
I was scrolling and I saw both of them on the screen. I had to listen to this interview. Thank you so much I needed to hear this interview. I am crying listening to this because grief is very hard. My queen, my confidant my mom passed 4 years ago. I feel shattered into pieces but I know God is walking with me daily to deal with the grief. If I didn’t know God my life would be in shambles. My best friend is know longer here. I miss my mom sooooooo much. 🦋🦋🦋🦋
It is hard for any parents to lose their kid. I know that pain when I lost my brother(who died at 25 and he was ghe only son) and we sisters tried to be strong so that my parents can too.
I can agree to all that was said, I never knew I could cry so much when I lost my mom but thank God for all the night the Lord has held me at night and rocked me to sleep. I absolutely hate the process of grieving but I’ve learned to embrace it. Accept the realness of life and remember you will make it!
Pain and loss doesn’t stop at one address and just stay there. And, when it visits you, it is you who has to process it in your own way and in your own time. It doesn’t expire like food. It truly does wait until you have done all you can to rid yourself of it and reminds you that it is still there. Pain is much too powerful sometimes to process. It feels like it is tearing a hole in your very soul. Loss and pain cohabitate and somehow, someway if you receive the Grace, the comfort and the peace you need to overcome it for each season, you recognize the powerful and unmatched Love of God. So, when we listen to others bear their hearts and souls as they both do in this interview, those of us who can relate to it do.❤🙏
Thank you Anderson Cooper and Tyler Perry for such an honest and raw conversation. How refreshing and healing it is to listen to two grown men be vulnerable and watch them shed a few tears. I pray God will continue to strengthen you as you walk through grief.
Thus was healing and soothing . Thank you guys for been vulnerable and your transparency . Thank you for allowing yourselves to be used in this way as it helps others still deep in their grieve . ❤❤❤❤
It has been 11 years since my last kiss to my daddy. And 10 years since I last hugged and laughed with my niece. I STILL CRY. I STILL SMILE. I STILL MISS AND LOVE THEM.
My dad died when I was 7 and he was 47. My mom died when I was 27 at 53. They were so in love and showed us so much love as their 3 girls. Grief lasts longer than one can imagine. It consume you, or it can bring you closer to God. ❤🙏🏽🥰
No matter how much time, no matter how old we are. I miss my mom and dad so much. RIP parents. My consolation is that after a brief four years apart, mom died 2019, dad died 2023; you all are together again.🙏🏾💖💖
It’s been 31 years I lost my mom and I still miss her like crazy and talk to her urn like she was right in front of me so I know the feeling all too well
Tyler is so correct because it's been 12yrs for me since we lost our Queen & until this yr I was able to listen to our Xmas music & it was still HARD I got through one song and I was done...So thx you Tyler
Mr. Perry, you are an inspiration to all of the big dreamers. You survived hell on earth. The love inside you has endured everything you have been through.
Right on time Thank you Mr. Anderson and Mr. Tyler Perry for allowing us to come into your world,and for allowing us to know that it's ok to face our past,because we too can heal.
I Love What He Said. IT’S TRUE My Mother Has Been Dead For 32 Years, It’s Harder Now Than It Was when It First Happened. Time Heals All Wounds Is Not True Well At Least To Me.
Thank you for this beautiful conversation. I lost my grandmother on October 20th and life has been a complete blur ever since..she was my light, my person and my safe space. Hard to let go…blessings to all who are grieving at this time. ❤
about 45 years ago , I used to watch my father talk about unresolved grief to large groups of medical students and doctors. He was a psychiatrist. Listening to listening to you both. Talk about your grief, I see that we have come such a long way! Your self-care and work and for letting us into your space.
True. It's been 25 years since my son died and now 4 years since my Dad died. Grief is always present. It does get you when you least expect it. It hurts it always will. You get through it one second one minute one hour and one day at a time 😢 always In the back of your head your heart and any little thing will bring it forward. I'm changed. I don't know who I am anymore 😢I let the tears flow whenever and how ever they come. 😢
I don’t have the strength to complete whatever it was I was doing now. I’m sure we can all relate in one way or another as we leaned in to each and every word given here. This I am thankful for.
Thank you most High for using these great Men as a Vessel to share this amazing message. I lost my amazing Mommy November 8, 2005, and my Daddy on 12/23/2014. I am an only child and still find myself lost without my my parents. The 3 link chain has been broken, and now it's just me pushing through these chapters in my life. This message has helped me to understand that grieving never leaves, and i will always have a wave of emotions. I've definitely found myself feeling angry and sad during the holidays, the time i lost both of them. This journey is a challenge ,but I remind myself that they would not want me to be sad, scared, and definitely not angry, and now they are now a part of my ancestral lineage and because of this Ah Ha moment is keeps me moving forward❤
Great podcast, my dad died on jan. 2, 1968, i was 6, its still hard. But Ive learned to talk to that 6 year old, and she doesnt come as much. Thank you Anderson, and Tyler great episode ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Tyler and Anderson, 2 of my favorite people in the world talking about grieving. My mom passed away 10 years ago, she was a remarkable woman, I can identify with them. My mom made every sacrifice she needed to make without hesitation when my dad left us when I was 2 years old until she passed at 89. I can feel her and smell her cologne. Once we learn to not resist the sad moments and the grieving everything changes.
It never leave u!! I lost 3 members in my family. Different times. Cbristmas is never the same. I try to make my self happy each day! I cud be laughing and suddenly starts to cry! At any place or time. I call out to God so deeply for peace and comfort.
Yes they are with us. I feel my son and my Dad. And every once awhile they send me a sign their close. ❤my son was 19 my Dad 89. Definitely happy moments you think of. But in the same token ALL MOMENTS are a treasure ❤
My mother also loved Christmas and her birthday was in February. It’s been 32 years and grief still shows up sometimes, especially during the Holidays. I try to see it as love instead of loss. Thank you for sharing Tyler. Also thank you for this series Anderson. It’s much appreciated.
I lost my mom November 22nd, 2013 ... dad January 18th, 2015 ... both of their birthdays are 2 days apart in December ... the dates are etched on my heart. love them as much or more now as I did while they were with me ... the cerebral part of me understands grief is not having a place for your love ... my heart is still not there yet
Thank you for this important conversation. One thing in particular resonates with me regarding Mr. Perry’s experience with his “father.” Although I was not physically abused, I was not physically touched by either of my parents as a child, teen or adult. The embracing, holding and hugging ended after infancy for me. They didn’t physically beat me but their withholding physical touch has taken a toll on me so that two weeks before my mom’s passing I embraced her hand. I told myself I didn’t want her to leave this earth without me touching her. My parents wanted me to be strong but I would not recommend this style of parenting for anyone. I feel for you and those who were physically harmed during childhood. Mr. Cooper, I love the quote on your mom’s fireplace. Thanks again for this healing opportunity. -Gabrielle, J. D. , M.A.
Wow, a great conversation. Do agree grief is like a tidal wave, some days are small waves, other times the waves come crashing down. It's been 5 yrs since my son died. I've never had the anger come. Do write in a journal , definitely cry when need to
Tyler!!!!! Me, the same way....took my breath away!!!!! Anderson, my daddy died when I was 10 as well! you two being vulnerable with us is amazing!!!!!
Thank you for sharing your grief stories. It helps. I lost my sister 2009, then my father 2011, then my mother 2016. My husband was diagnosed with Multiple Myloma day after my mother's burial, he survived a stem cell transplant only to suffer from radiation complications from his initial treatments he had to shrink the cancer cells. My husband passed 2021. So I have not had the nine years as of yet to get out of the grief. I'm raising my grandson which have kept me moving. Thank again for sharing not many do this.
Great video, I was in a church after 2 years of my father pass away,and i just started to cry. I felt my father in this church. Thank you for talking about this grief
Thank you to both of you for your honesty and courage to share your pain and trauma. It helps to know there are individuals who are brave enough to be this brave which gives me a tremendous amount of hope. ❤
Tyler Perry has always been courageous to me because he acknowledges, instead of running from, his past. I think he's helped numerous people by sharing his troubled childhood and other struggles he's had like being homeless. He's living proof that we can still go on. That we're able to survive the worst of our experiences.
Such a good and insightful discussion. I grieved my brother and father for 18 years, then my sister and mother died and I grieved for another 10 yrs. I know grief too well. I’ll never forget the day I felt happy again. 😊
Tyler you told my story. My mom was my everything. It’s been 20 years and I’m not sure I can feel her. I talk about her every single day with anyone who knew her. Anderson thank you for your vulnerability.
Thank you … my Mom passed 1995, complicated grief to this day. We need to let nature’s seasons carry our emotional selves and hear the histories of loved ones past. I was so ANGRY with God! For a long time, but he’s still there. Wish I could hug you both.
Having just watched this I am filled with joy. I have never openly grieved or allowed others to experience my pain. I too greatly believe that one must allow for grief and trauma to be dealt with by allowing yourself to feel it experience it understand it and process it. I know love because of my Mother but I also know pain because of her too. My Mother gave love ❤️ unconditionally. I was able to learn about my Mom’s childhood trauma before she died. My Father passed away this year without me understanding his as he and family members would not share it with me. I learned to accept before my father passed that he would go without me knowing about his childhood which I have felt for so long would help me to understand why he became the man he was. My Mother showed grace and kindness. It is grace hope faith and belief that has allowed me to stay on the bright side of life. To all, the pain and or grief never totally goes away but you can learn to understand the source and live. ❤to all and most of all love yourself enough to not run from what you feel
Thank you Mr. Tyler Perry and Mr. Anderson Cooper for talking with your hearts open. These kinds of conversations can heal folks.
I ABSOLUTELY Concur! 🙏🏿💯
Yes. 💔🌹
humans descend in an unbroken line purely through their mothers, & through the mothers of those mothers, back until all lines converge on one African woman -- All Humans are African [Humans {and hominids..} evolved in African.
European African COLONIST may not have survived without Indigenous ! Hominids and Humans evolved in Africa - OF COURSE The Africans that settle outside Africa First are More FAMILIAR about How To Survive Outside Of Africa than the Neo Africans Passing to outside Africa to interact with the Africans [Hominids or Humanoids] that Left Africa Earlier in the {decade of} millennium...
WHITE IDENTITY SEPARATE RACE RACIST IDEOLOGY MAY NOT SURVIVE W/O THE HELP OF HATE FOR YoUR AFRICAN ANCESTORS AND ORIGIN - AM I WHITE?
humans descend in an unbroken line purely through their mothers, & through the mothers of those mothers, back until all lines converge on one African woman -- there's a [All of the] mainstream and social media product to help [WITH WHITE IDENTITY SEPARATE RACE DISINFORMATION and political violence defamation black misinformation against everybody else]- and only a short timeframe to fix it [you have time to be racist separate from the rest of US -- All humans are African ~ the mitochondrial "eve" {not you though}]
th-cam.com/video/CJdT6QcSbQ0/w-d-xo.html
-- mainstream and social media platforms interfere with Users/CITIZENS [of the United States..] WHO CRITICIZE platform disinformation, misinformation, and white identity racism/defamation ["black"{absent "kike"}] of Americans -- ENGAGING in fraud, misinformation, and United States census five racial categories (White, Black, Native American/Alaska Native, Asian, and Native Hawaiian/Other Pacific..) DISINFORMATION.
Forreal, that was a great conversation.
My mother died Dec 8th, 42 years ago. You never stops missing tour mother 😢
My Father died 34 years ago and my paternal grandmother 52 years ago, her husband my grandfather died 50 years this past July. All three NEVER hugged me or my two sisters and NEVER said I Love You. My Mom’s side completely the opposite, very loving and nurturing.
Grandpa had his 97th Birthday and was my best friend, born in 1899. Tyler helped me a lot today, you never know when grief will surface. Summary “We are going to be okay.” I’m working on the anger, and have learned I can’t change the past. 💕 I let things go now and don’t sweat the small stuff anymore. 🌞 You be well.
That is the beautiful truth. I hold on to and cherish every memory!❤
Tyler and Anderson, such a powerful and beautiful talk. CNN, ppl need more of this. Thank you. 🙌🏻🙏🏻
I am literally in tears now. Tyler & Anderson are so spot on. I still smell my mom. And I long to feel loved the way she loved me. I won't even count the years(between 10-15 years now). I found her dead on the floor at home, and I could never make the house my home. She always had extra Everything in case someone needed it. I would open a curtain in find 6 bottles of Tide. Open a cabinet and find emergency lights. Find cash tucked away somewhere. I couldn't make that house my own because I couldn't stop dreaming that she was coming back, and I didn't ever want her to think I was disrespecting her things. She took so much care & pride in her home. I find peace knowing she's still with me. When I purchased a new home, she smiled and laughed so hard the night before I found it. She told me she was so proud and who was living close by me. She is my best girl, my best friend, and my guardian angel now. Always there supporting, encouraging, and guiding me & my children. I am so thankful & blessed to have known her even when times were at their worst. I've learned so many life lessons, and have so much instilled in me from the way she raised me.
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neanderthals were not white - the racist tool had not been invented until the 1680s west Asia's Eurasian African colonies that became the United States. Don't Pass White Identity Racism [Facebook, NBC News, CBS News, ABC News, PBS NewsHour Fugnuts..] "Recent studies have shown that Neanderthal DNA can be traced back to Africa.." Hominids descend in lines that converge on Africa.. Sounds like Neanderthals left Africa much earlier than Humans - still All Humans [and Hominids and hominoids and homidroids if such a thing ] are African. early Europeans were Africans on the Continent of Asia on the part of ASIA named after Zeus' Mistress "Europ". European Africans would be a more "exact description"
All living humans descend from a place We the People now call south Sahara Africa - in an unbroken line purely through our mothers, & through the mothers of those mothers, back until all lines converge on one woman
the first legislative body in colonial America passed a law limiting citizenship to Europeans [Eurasian Africans - African-Europeans [from the land of zEUs' mistress {Europ} ASIA] -- the 1682 law included the first documented use in the English-speaking colonies of the word “white”
[vs English European or Christian {Eurasian Africans} to describe pink-beige west Asian Africans aka Europeans]
the MILITARY ORDER of Christ had already coined the defamation Negro or Black European Jewish or Christian {Eurasian Africans} use to describe darkest brown to pink-beige west Asian Africans aka European-Asian-African-Americans passing white "free of the Blemish" of human skin color -- serving both to discriminate against everyone who doesn't pass white separate race and to maintain advantages and benefits for European-Asian-African-Americans passing white "free of the Blemish" of humans with skin color]
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-- All Humans Are African ~ the Mitochondrial "Eve"
-- the most recent common ancestor of all living humans
I was grief stricken when my wife died over 3 years ago. But I get solace when I turn towards God in prayer. I say hundreds of prayers every day.
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I can feel your pain
Yes God is so awesome and he surely sends the comforter the Holy Spirit to comfort us...prayer works and this I know for sure.
Thanks 👍🏿 for sharing!🕯️ 🙏🏿
@Leonard, I know exactly how you felt! I didn’t want to go on after my Mom passed in 2018! I don’t have kids, so this is the deepest grief I’ve ever known, especially the way my sweet mom passed. Believing I’ll see her again in heaven, helps me to grieve forward!!
I am SO Happy to hear two grown men talking about grief and trauma and how to to work through it. ❤ I was able to find and connect with my inner little girl. Still working with her, and we’re getting better.
I love the transparency and honesty in both of these men.
Yes, you are spot on!! I know that’s why I’ve always loved to hear Anderson or Tyler 🙏. They keep it real, they don’t hold back! These men are some of the best role models for our boys. I admire their dedication, intelligence, courage and strength to open up those doors that men are unfairly expected to Man It Up or Stop Being a Baby!!! Thank you Anderson Cooper and Tyler Perry for sharing your thoughts with us! ☮️🙏
I lost my mother June 3rd. Hearing two strong men speak about the power of grief is amazing. I really needed this conversation. Tyler and Anderson, you are enough. Bless you both.
Those “griefbursts” are for real! Thank you both for sharing your grief experiences. It is much needed in our grief-avoidant culture.
My mom taught me a valuable lesson about grief. The only way out is through. She was right - you just have to let yourself feel it. I couldn’t mention my mother for 3 or 4 years after she died without crying. Both parents and 2 sisters died within a 6 month period. That was 14 years ago and we’ve lost 2 brothers since then. We have a lot of experience with grieving. Just be kind to yourself when you are grieving. I taught my children that God gave us tears to get the sadness out of our bodies. 💔🙏🏻💜
My deepest condolences for the loss of your family members. That is a huge loss!! Take care of yourself & watch this video over & over if you must 🙏. Blessings and Peace to you☮️
My mother just passed 3 weeks ago.
Thank you so much for sharing your journey of grief. I often don’t know how I’ll make it… So, thank you 🙏🏾
Prayers of comfort and peace for the loss of your mother 🙏🫶❤
So sad wish you peace and comfort ❤
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@Kay, so sorry for your loss. Praying for you. I can relate to losing a Mom. The pain is unexplainable ❤❤
They don't care you know right? They're rich and live in world we cant imagine
It's so weird how 15 years seem like nothing when you are grieving. Time is just weird, it's too fast and too slow all at once. I know your pain. ❤❤
i am tearing up listening to these men share their souls at such depth. THAT is courage, that is another human experiencing the heartbreaks of life and loss, and learning to overcome and understand what they can, and live with the rest. But even more poignant to me is this is two men having loved so deep it still hurts. I wondered this the other day in my silence as i reflected on my parents passing away just a few short years ago. Why does it still hurt the longer they have been gone? Instead of being less painful, it tends to accelerate. I concluded the mind doesnt accept what the heart already knows. It unravels slowly the memories and the realization this is forever. Its a survival technique. Grief is not a destination, its a journey. Its not a weakness. its the price of love.
Omg I cried through this whole interview 😭. I just love love Tyler Perry
My mother past 30 years ago hasn't a day gone by when I have not thought about her I truly miss my mom There's nothing like a mother's love ❤❤❤❤❤
Grief is hard! Thank you, Tyler for saying what you said and thank you Anderson for understanding.. Grief is hard.
All the years of therapy and Tyler and Anderson break so much down in 30 minutes. I have blocked so much of my childhood out completely. And, just recently (I'm 52) for whatever reason what happened to me as a little girl started coming out. That pain, I didn't know what to do with it. And, I had to stop myself from any of those thoughts because it was so overwhelming. I was always able to say in a kinda matter of fact way the abuse I went through but after I saw myself as a child being abused that all changed. And, right now I am going through so much family, health, and financially that once again I feel like I am now the one putting my younger self on the back burner because I am dealing with so many other things. Honestly, I am afraid of everything I might learn. I didn't know that until just now.
Thank you so much Tyler and Anderson for sharing parts of your journey to healing with us. I pray continued healing prayers over you. Blessings to you.
Me too dear. Child abuse does this to us. 1968 I learned my dad was a pedophile (long before there was a word)
I kept my virginity but I had to fight him. 6'4" and I was size 2.
I finally got to set him up when I was 32. I wore the wire, because he went after some other teen.
Get this I had to prove to the detective that I was not a pedophile first.
For the rest of my life I have reported Child abuse. Each night I pray that another child won't be harmed.
So yes I still get stuck when I think of it.
Blessings to Anderson Cooper and Tyler Perry. His studio in Atlanta has Bibles buried and once you go there you are walking on GOD'S word. ❤
Your testimonies are incredibly powerful and resonate deeply. It’s truly rare to hear grown men open up about their darkest moments and vulnerabilities. Thank you both for sharing your amazing stories; your openness is inspiring and speaks volumes about your strength. May you both be richly blessed for what you’ve shared. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
God, the honestly and passion of this man is awe inspiring 🙏
So true 👏🏼
Nahh he's a celebrity with no real emotions
@@anewleaf6847 What would being a celebrity have to do with grief? Nothing!!!!!! Money doesn’t buy love from loss period!
This hit me so much - I’m still struggling from my dad passing in 2020 and no being allowed to see him or say goodbye due to covid, I was in Ohio my parents and brother in Michigan . Mom and my brother had closure - I got a call from my cousin telling me . I still have hard times. So now I’m thinking I have 5 more years 🥺 I lost a daughter at 18 months and it’s been 28 years and sometimes it hits me like a brick wall. Same with losing my best friend when we were 25- I’m 60 and it still hurts when I least expect . Grief never goes away I think we learn to deal with it differently and we learn to deal it never truly goes away . I think because if the immense love we have for that person. I love both you guys ( Madea is an idol and Anderson your mom was always my favorite designer from a young age ) and this was totally needed and great thank you 🙏 🥰
Thank you, Anderson. Your interviews and questions get to our hearts. You are doing good work. My wonderful husband of 41 years died 10 months ago. I am working through my grief with God's help. Your discussions do help me.
Wow! I knew very little about Tyler Perry before watching this video, but what an incredible man he is! I pray that God will continue to bless him and bring him peace!
He's absolutely one of the kindest people in the world. ❤
There's a youtube channel showing his incredible hobby aircraft collection that he flies. Maybe that's his way of letting go too. He seems very down to earth in the video enjoying his hobby.
Watch the documentary Maxine’s Boy
My mom passed when I was 13 years old. I am 62 years old now and I talk to my mom often.
I surprisingly dream with my mom and feel joy to see her again in my dreams.
I am at peace with how my childhood was even though it was challenging, but my mom was more difficult than mine.
I share as much as I can with my daughters because I know, I can make a loving difference in their lives later.
Bless our hearts
Grief is love. You’ll never stop grieving the ones you love. Why would you? There is absolutely nothing wrong with grieving. Embrace it.
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My mom passed in 9/27/2020 and the grief just hits me. Christmas is ROUGH!
It was exactly nine years when I began to feel the anger of my sister passing from cancer at the age of 28. The anger is still there over 30 years later. Thank you for sharing...both of you!
I did some inner child work in the late '80s based on the work of Louise Hay. It was SUPER healing and deeply profound. I have often revisited the exercise through guided meditation and it is always fulfilling .
Anderson, I just finished watching your talk with Tyler Perry. I am crying and of course thinking about my own grief. Mr. Perry is so very right about grief visiting us unexpectedly. Sometimes it will be one person or another that has died that is the one knocking at my door. For me, I learned grief never truly goes away. I just try and live with it instead of denying it. Thank you both for your words.
Beautiful…thank you, both for sharing your story. At 62, I’ve learned that our loved ones who have died, never truly leave us. We carry them in our hearts…always there whenever we need them, through all the tears and the laughter.
I needed to hear this, because my mother passed 2018 Thanksgiving week and she too loved holidays like crazy. I have not cooked for the family since then, I have not decorated since then, and our birthday was a week a part in January. I have struggled to figure out the new me without my best friend who lived with me the last 17 years of her life. Whew thank you for this Mr. Perry!😭
@dellacayson9179 Of all the comme ts posted, your comment really spoke to me. I respond to you now on 12/24/2024 as I start to prepare Christmas day dinner. My story is similar to yours. I shared the holidays with both my parents up until they got divorced. My dad remarried, and although my relationship with him remained loving and close, out of respect for his wife, I maintained certain boundaries. After my parents' divorce, my mom and I created new traditions and ways to celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas, especially Christmas. My mom didn't cook, so that was left to me, and she always helped me clean up. We did the decorating together , the same way, at the same time (the day after Thanksgiving) every year--even when I lived in a different state. In August of 2016,, my mother went home to be with the Lord. That year, I did t even open a Christmas card or send any. Then came her birthday, Jan. 26, and after then my birthday in April. Of course, after that, the BIG ONE - my first Mother's Day without my mom. I forced myself to go to church and then came home and got into bed and cried myself to sleep. No one ever told me how tough "the firsts" are. The first Thanksgiving , Christmas, Easter, 4th of July, MLK Jr Day without my mother were ugly-cry painful. I wasn't prepare😂d for sharing. Here is my message with love for you. Take things one step, one day at a time. Grief is normal. It is an unpredictable thing that shows up unexpectedly to remind us how much we miss our moms and other loved ones. Here's the thing for those of us who were blessed with strong and loving moms the grief is profound. As the second Thanksgiving without my mom approached in 2018, I decided it would hurt more not to honor the memories my mother and I created together, so started with cooking a couple dishes to take to my neighbors. From that, it went to showing up at my cousins' house with a dish and dessert for her Thanksgiving dinner. When Christmas of 2018 came, I did the same thing. I took small steps. I did decorations, but no tree. I was in the kitchen preparing a small dinner when I felt my mom's presence. I came away with the feeling that going forward, I had to celebrate for my mom. She worked hard, and sacrificed so much for me and my brother. She poured herself into us. I am sure your beautiful mom did the same thing for you. I know you have amazing memories that you are holding on to even though you miss her so much. Take those good times and traditions you shared with your mom and try to do something-- anything that will honor those special moments and build from there in your own way. It is 5:30am on Christmas Eve. I choose to be in the kitchen myself preparing dinner because this is the time I feel closest to my mom even though she is not here. I remember that she would come downstairs around 9am and say, "Girl, you have been up all night. You better go to bed or you'!! be too tired on Christmas Day." Now, when I think of those times, I smile and thank God for my mom and the memories. You are so BLESSED TO HAVE. HAD A THAT YOU LOVE SO MUCH AND MISS DEARLY. My wish and prayer for you is that soon you will embrace doing some of the things that you did when your mom was alive and you experienced the peace and love that I have found 8 years later. Well, it's time to turn off the stove and clean the kitchen before I catch a quick nap. My Christmas prayer for you is that the pain in your heart is replaced with peace. Know that while she is not here, she is still with you and watching over you. I am praying for you. Carry on and be blessed. Merry Christmas
This is so raw, authentic, powerful, and needed. I'm on day 294 of deep grief at the sudden lunexpected loss of husband!!! On my grief journey. So many, many, many good times!!!
Authenticity is in short supply in public spaces, but you both have shown what it looks, sounds and feels like. Thank you for your courage and speaking from your soul. Anderson, I'm the same age as you and relate deeply as I've lost my father and brother. Tears are good. Much love to you both.
OMG! I just happened to be scrolling and saw this interview. I lost my husband and mother within a 6 month period 26 years ago. I thought I had been through the worst time of my life until my daughter passed away from cancer 14 years ago. Loosing her has been some of the most unimaginable grief that I’ve ever experienced. Thank you both for sharing. 🙌🏽❤️
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Sending you love and a hug ❤
sending you so much love xxxx
God bless you. I pray Gods peace for you 🙏🏿🕊️
Grief connects us all. Let’s love one another.
My dad passed away on December 1, 2009. If you haven't lost a parent, I literally can't explain the pain. It's a different kind of loss. My dad has missed so much. I pray he can see what a beautiful bunch of mess I try to be every single day! He was the glue! It would just make more sense with him here. I miss him, but I know he loved Jesus with every ounce of his heart, and he is his best up in heaven! We will get through this! Even 15 yrs later, it's so hard!
@TylerPerry Sir you are the first person to describe exactly how I have felt since my momma leaving me!! I wish I had the resources for the kind of therapy you describe however I CANNOT tell you what it ment to me to hear you talk about how you have felt since losing your Momma! @AndersonCooper and @TylerPerry I’m praying for you both!!
I lost my Momma November 8, 2021
Gentlemen, your honest open hearts will help so many, including myself, heal from grief and trauma. May you be blessed for gifting us with your life stories. Losing our 39 year old son to hypothermia in 2014 almost killed me. I’d be honoured to ‘mother’ either of you if you ever needed a moment of encouragement
So grateful that I accidentally came across this clip. Thank you for the eloquent portrayal of your tragic circumstances. It's part of life, it just haunts and lingers at times. So uplifting to realise the measure of the trauma equates to the level of success. Very powerful and far reaching thank you both
My dear Mother... suddening past at home in October 1993 while i had been visiting her that evening before i headed to work on the midnight shift as an RN. I had layed down for a short while to take a short nap when i suddenly got up and went to the living room where she had been watching TV. Right away, i knew she was not breathing. In total shock... I lifted her off the chair and layed her on the floor and began CPR. In the mean time, I had called 911 and they finally showed up but my mother didnt make it. I have felt so much guilt for not being able to save my mother that night or why did I take a short nap instead of sitting with her. She was a wonderful lady who loved life, children and people. I miss her so much!! Thank you for this precious interview and message.
Prayers to everyone in the comments...the struggle is real...I miss my sweet parents ever day💔🙏🏾😭🕊🕊💔
When we experience grief is when the person we are grieving is visiting us in spirit. We are all spirit inhabiting a human body for a period of time. Then we shed the body. We never stop existing and neither do our loved ones.
I was scrolling and I saw both of them on the screen. I had to listen to this interview. Thank you so much I needed to hear this interview. I am crying listening to this because grief is very hard. My queen, my confidant my mom passed 4 years ago. I feel shattered into pieces but I know God is walking with me daily to deal with the grief. If I didn’t know God my life would be in shambles. My best friend is know longer here. I miss my mom sooooooo much. 🦋🦋🦋🦋
Thank you guys!! My beloved husband just passed away a few months ago. Your conversation brought some healing in my heart 🎉🎉Thank you!
My mother has been gone for 28 years, my dad for 22 but the hardest has been the loss of our son , 3 years, 8 months and 16 days ago.
So sorry❤️
Can't imagine the heartbreak.
Adopt a Haitian.
It is hard for any parents to lose their kid. I know that pain when I lost my brother(who died at 25 and he was ghe only son) and we sisters tried to be strong so that my parents can too.
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I love Tyler Perry and how crystal clear in
his thought processes.
I can agree to all that was said, I never knew I could cry so much when I lost my mom but thank God for all the night the Lord has held me at night and rocked me to sleep. I absolutely hate the process of grieving but I’ve learned to embrace it. Accept the realness of life and remember you will make it!
Pain and loss doesn’t stop at one address and just stay there. And, when it visits you, it is you who has to process it in your own way and in your own time. It doesn’t expire like food. It truly does wait until you have done all you can to rid yourself of it and reminds you that it is still there. Pain is much too powerful sometimes to process. It feels like it is tearing a hole in your very soul. Loss and pain cohabitate and somehow, someway if you receive the Grace, the comfort and the peace you need to overcome it for each season, you recognize the powerful and unmatched Love of God. So, when we listen to others bear their hearts and souls as they both do in this interview, those of us who can relate to it do.❤🙏
Thank you Anderson Cooper and Tyler Perry for such an honest and raw conversation. How refreshing and healing it is to listen to two grown men be vulnerable and watch them shed a few tears.
I pray God will continue to strengthen you as you walk through grief.
Thus was healing and soothing . Thank you guys for been vulnerable and your transparency . Thank you for allowing yourselves to be used in this way as it helps others still deep in their grieve . ❤❤❤❤
Tyler and Anderson. thank you so much for this grief prospective!
It has been 11 years since my last kiss to my daddy. And 10 years since I last hugged and laughed with my niece. I STILL CRY. I STILL SMILE. I STILL MISS AND LOVE THEM.
My dad died when I was 7 and he was 47. My mom died when I was 27 at 53. They were so in love and showed us so much love as their 3 girls. Grief lasts longer than one can imagine. It consume you, or it can bring you closer to God. ❤🙏🏽🥰
No matter how much time, no matter how old we are. I miss my mom and dad so much. RIP parents. My consolation is that after a brief four years apart, mom died 2019, dad died 2023; you all are together again.🙏🏾💖💖
This was deep ! I loss my mom a year ago,and I must say the hurt feel’s like it was yesterday.Thank you so much both of you !🙏🏾
“Peace I give you that passes all understanding “
It’s been 31 years I lost my mom and I still miss her like crazy and talk to her urn like she was right in front of me so I know the feeling all too well
It will be about 9 years. My dad passed 10 years ago and this past year is the first time I have finally felt that I will make it through the grief.
Tyler is so correct because it's been 12yrs for me since we lost our Queen & until this yr I was able to listen to our Xmas music & it was still HARD I got through one song and I was done...So thx you Tyler
Mr. Perry, you are an inspiration to all of the big dreamers. You survived hell on earth. The love inside you has endured everything you have been through.
Thank you for sharing your pain with my pain … lost my mom suddenly in 2020 and my dad 2022, I am lost in the waves, the unconditional love is gone !
Right on time
Thank you Mr. Anderson and Mr. Tyler Perry for allowing us to come into your world,and for allowing us to know that it's ok to face our past,because we too can heal.
What a lovely man.
It's been 50 years and feels like yesterday. Never dealt with the loss and doing it now. Its harder then I ever thought it would be.
Love to Anderson and Tyler. Great interview. Thanks for being honest and real.
I needed to hear and watch this!!! Thanks for your vulnerability, and grace.
I Love What He Said. IT’S TRUE My Mother Has Been Dead For 32 Years, It’s Harder Now Than It Was when It First Happened. Time Heals All Wounds Is Not True Well At Least To Me.
Thank you for this beautiful conversation. I lost my grandmother on October 20th and life has been a complete blur ever since..she was my light, my person and my safe space. Hard to let go…blessings to all who are grieving at this time. ❤
about 45 years ago , I used to watch my father talk about unresolved grief to large groups of medical students and doctors. He was a psychiatrist. Listening to listening to you both. Talk about your grief, I see that we have come such a long way! Your self-care and work and for letting us into your space.
This clip has done so much for me. I still talk to the child in me.
True. It's been 25 years since my son died and now 4 years since my Dad died. Grief is always present. It does get you when you least expect it. It hurts it always will. You get through it one second one minute one hour and one day at a time 😢 always In the back of your head your heart and any little thing will bring it forward. I'm changed. I don't know who I am anymore 😢I let the tears flow whenever and how ever they come. 😢
When you lose your mother it's just like yesterday❗
My Mother Died 2012 on Christmas Day
it never goes away
God bless
You're in my Prayers 🙏 ❤
YOLANDA
I don’t have the strength to complete whatever it was I was doing now. I’m sure we can all relate in one way or another as we leaned in to each and every word given here. This I am thankful for.
Thank you most High for using these great Men as a Vessel to share this amazing message. I lost my amazing Mommy November 8, 2005, and my Daddy on 12/23/2014. I am an only child and still find myself lost without my my parents. The 3 link chain has been broken, and now it's just me pushing through these chapters in my life. This message has helped me to understand that grieving never leaves, and i will always have a wave of emotions. I've definitely found myself feeling angry and sad during the holidays, the time i lost both of them. This journey is a challenge ,but I remind myself that they would not want me to be sad, scared, and definitely not angry, and now they are now a part of my ancestral lineage and because of this Ah Ha moment is keeps me moving forward❤
I have watched this clip on Facebook multiple times. I lost my mom in July. It makes me feel better...I get it...Thank you Tyler
There's a higher, stronger level of love that subdued all sorrow and grief. Rest in God's peace that passes all understanding.
It is awesome to see both men love their mom's so much though; that is great
Great podcast, my dad died on jan. 2, 1968, i was 6, its still hard. But Ive learned to talk to that 6 year old, and she doesnt come as much. Thank you Anderson, and Tyler great episode ❤❤❤❤❤❤
TYLER PERRY BE PREACHING AND TEACHING AND DOING EVERYTHING ELSE AT THE SAME TIME UNDER THE POWER OF GOD'S DIRECTION 🙏💯💪✊😎
is this the real snoop dog. God bless you for your comment!
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Tyler and Anderson, 2 of my favorite people in the world talking about grieving. My mom passed away 10 years ago, she was a remarkable woman, I can identify with them. My mom made every sacrifice she needed to make without hesitation when my dad left us when I was 2 years old until she passed at 89. I can feel her and smell her cologne. Once we learn to not resist the sad moments and the grieving everything changes.
It never leave u!! I lost 3 members in my family. Different times. Cbristmas is never the same. I try to make my self happy each day! I cud be laughing and suddenly starts to cry! At any place or time. I call out to God so deeply for peace and comfort.
Yes they are with us. I feel my son and my Dad. And every once awhile they send me a sign their close. ❤my son was 19 my Dad 89. Definitely happy moments you think of. But in the same token ALL MOMENTS are a treasure ❤
My mother also loved Christmas and her birthday was in February. It’s been 32 years and grief still shows up sometimes, especially during the Holidays. I try to see it as love instead of loss. Thank you for sharing Tyler. Also thank you for this series Anderson. It’s much appreciated.
Tyler Perry mother was a loving mom to her kids you can see Tyler the way he live is life God blessing 👐👐👐🖐🖐💙💙💚💚
I lost my mom November 22nd, 2013 ... dad January 18th, 2015 ... both of their birthdays are 2 days apart in December ... the dates are etched on my heart. love them as much or more now as I did while they were with me ... the cerebral part of me understands grief is not having a place for your love ... my heart is still not there yet
Thank you for this important conversation. One thing in particular resonates with me regarding Mr. Perry’s experience with his “father.” Although I was not physically abused, I was not physically touched by either of my parents as a child, teen or adult. The embracing, holding and hugging ended after infancy for me. They didn’t physically beat me but their withholding physical touch has taken a toll on me so that two weeks before my mom’s passing I embraced her hand. I told myself I didn’t want her to leave this earth without me touching her. My parents wanted me to be strong but I would not recommend this style of parenting for anyone. I feel for you and those who were physically harmed during childhood. Mr. Cooper, I love the quote on your mom’s fireplace. Thanks again for this healing opportunity.
-Gabrielle, J. D. , M.A.
Another great interview so heartbreaking
Wow, a great conversation. Do agree grief is like a tidal wave, some days are small waves, other times the waves come crashing down. It's been 5 yrs since my son died. I've never had the anger come. Do write in a journal , definitely cry when need to
Tyler!!!!! Me, the same way....took my breath away!!!!! Anderson, my daddy died when I was 10 as well! you two being vulnerable with us is amazing!!!!!
Thank you Tyler Perry for your story. It has help me understand the grief I been dealing with. My Aunt passed in 2022. She was truly a hero.
Thank you for sharing your grief stories. It helps. I lost my sister 2009, then my father 2011, then my mother 2016. My husband was diagnosed with Multiple Myloma day after my mother's burial, he survived a stem cell transplant only to suffer from radiation complications from his initial treatments he had to shrink the cancer cells. My husband passed 2021.
So I have not had the nine years as of yet to get out of the grief. I'm raising my grandson which have kept me moving. Thank again for sharing not many do this.
Great video, I was in a church after 2 years of my father pass away,and i just started to cry. I felt my father in this church. Thank you for talking about this grief
“And ALL it did was wait for me to finish (grief)” - very well said, Tyler Perry❤ I felt that❣️
Thank you to both of you for your honesty and courage to share your pain and trauma. It helps to know there are individuals who are brave enough to be this brave which gives me a tremendous amount of hope. ❤
I lost my mother and husband within 2 weeks of each other 6 years ago.. still working through it. Powerful segment. Popped up in my feed. Thank you !!
I hope you guys know you are helping so many us
Tyler Perry has always been courageous to me because he acknowledges, instead of running from, his past. I think he's helped numerous people by sharing his troubled childhood and other struggles he's had like being homeless. He's living proof that we can still go on. That we're able to survive the worst of our experiences.
Wonderful to know you have faith in God how you learned from your Mother.
Such a good and insightful discussion. I grieved my brother and father for 18 years, then my sister and mother died and I grieved for another 10 yrs. I know grief too well. I’ll never forget the day I felt happy again. 😊
Tyler you told my story. My mom was my everything. It’s been 20 years and I’m not sure I can feel her. I talk about her every single day with anyone who knew her. Anderson thank you for your vulnerability.
Thank you … my Mom passed 1995, complicated grief to this day. We need to let nature’s seasons carry our emotional selves and hear the histories of loved ones past. I was so ANGRY with God! For a long time, but he’s still there. Wish I could hug you both.
Having just watched this I am filled with joy. I have never openly grieved or allowed others to experience my pain. I too greatly believe that one must allow for grief and trauma to be dealt with by allowing yourself to feel it experience it understand it and process it. I know love because of my Mother but I also know pain because of her too. My Mother gave love ❤️ unconditionally. I was able to learn about my Mom’s childhood trauma before she died. My Father passed away this year without me understanding his as he and family members would not share it with me. I learned to accept before my father passed that he would go without me knowing about his childhood which I have felt for so long would help me to understand why he became the man he was. My Mother showed grace and kindness. It is grace hope faith and belief that has allowed me to stay on the bright side of life. To all, the pain and or grief never totally goes away but you can learn to understand the source and live. ❤to all and most of all love yourself enough to not run from what you feel