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Thank you for your channel and all your videos over the years. My mom passed away peacefully last month 3 days before Christmas. She had been suffering from end stage Parkinson's, dementia, and finally a stroke that paralyzed the left side of her body. I was right by her side when she passed.
Saw both parents deteriorate with Dementia. This list is so important for those like me. Trying my best so that my children do not need to go through those same tough years. 👏
The hearing loss study makes so much sense, and it breaks my heart. I believe I have seen this happen, and I wish I had been more proactive in encouraging people to wear their hearing aids. Eyeglasses as well. Our brains need us to read, converse, listen to podcasts, etc. etc. etc.
Thank you Natalie! For diet, Spirit, and exercise I recommend the Medical Medium book series, especially the Brain Saver volumes. In 2019 my wife and I started caring for my then 75 yo mother. A speech therapist estimated her to be at stage 5. Nearly 5 years later she's about the same memory wise but is much better physically and emotionally most of the time. A couple weeks after she moved in with us in 2019, we took her to the emergency room because of severe abdominal pain. It turned out to be a large tumor in her colon. Stage 3 colon cancer. She nearly died from the pneumonia she contracted at the hospital. If we hadn't taken control of her diet just before this, all during her recovery, and ongoing to this day, I don't believe she would have survived. In fact the hospital ran out of options with the pneumonia and sent her home with us not sure she was going to survive. Because of how great the Medical Medium information is, she not only survived but we opted out of the chemo therapy recommended by her oncologist. She had been on thyroid medication since she was a teenager. Now she doesn't need it and doesn't have any other prescriptions. My wife and I have also benefited tremendously. I have personally noted over 16 symptoms and conditions that have either been reversed completely or dramatically improved. The MM information is literally a gift from God. If you're reading this, I promise it's worth your time to learn from these books. I tell everyone I meet about them and keep extra copies on hand to give to those in need.
I appreciate you backing up the information you share with current research. There is so much misinformation about the risk factors for developing Dementia out there.
Thank you for your comment. Yes, there is a lot of misinformation and people are willing to make things sound super easy and simple without backing it up with facts. 😥
I am surprised that you didn’t mention medications. I have seen so many medical statements about antidepressants, sleep drugs and others medications which contribute to getting dementia.
Low carb is found to be very effective. Mayo has called Alzheimer's Type 3 Diabetes..Anything that gets a person off processed food is helpful, but ignoring our cultures ridiculous intake of carbs is a mistake. Love your videos and wish they were around for my mom.❤
The brain needs natural sugar to survive. It literally runs on glucose and cells die within a few seconds if starved of it. The brain and liver have reserves of glucose to get you between meals. Fats inhibit nutrients from getting into cells. Low fat and high fruit & vegetable diets are best. Source: Spirit of Compassion via Medical Medium books especially the Brain Saver volumes.
Dear Dr. Natali, thank you for this video, I had always wondered if my Dad's passing had contributed to my Mom's dementia. She has always been a very healthy individual and still continues to have a very active and healthy lifestyle, yet knowing her emotional loneliness could be a factor in her developing Aphasia is really helpful, and takes a load off my mind regarding my own risk. All the best for this coming year!
Great list of modifiable risk factors, sometimes there are too many separate ideas. I read an article of 14 risk factors and it becomes overwhelming and makes you feel like not bothering. Anyway thank you for this consise and manageable list. Looking forward to 2024 with your help Dr Natali, your info is invaluable xx
9:05 Hiking is a vigorous activity. Sometimes my daily hikes last up to 8 hours with 5000+ elevation gain. However, any type of less strenuous walking exercise is good as long as it gets the circulation moving.
Thank you so much for all your help it means a lot to me as I don't have so many resource where I live .I want to wish you a very happy New Year with lots of WONDERFUL MOMENTS
This is great information. I have been concerned about my husband and I developing dementia (my mother in law suffered with this) but knowing what we can do to decrease the risk gives us a guide to working on (hopefully) avoiding this terrible condition. Thank you!
Thanks for the video. I will be more aware of my Risk factors and try to improve them, especially more active. Thanks for the video. You are the best! Love Ruth
I guess isolating people "to keep them safe" was a terrible idea. Thanks fauci. Yet nobody in charge of these policies admits or takes responsibility. No consequences. Except nobody trusts them anymore.
Very useful info, even if it was 6 months ago! I am about to join the gym! First time ever. As im getting older and need to think more about being more active. Thanks for increasing my motivation!
I was waiting with toe curling dread during the list of five for alcohol to come up and was really surprised when it didn’t… Could you do a segment on alcohol use and dementia? Is it harmful or helpful in moderation?
I'm an only child of an only child and spend most of my time alone...but not lonely (I have great pets). I'm listening an awesome audiobook involving dementia. And alas, we're all gonna croak eventually 😉👍
Can you help find info on what types of exercise and how often? Also, do you know anything about dual task exercises that put you at your physical and cognitive edge?
I read that their looking into the H-pylori bacteria and Alzheimer’s. My husband has Alzheimer’s and he also had the H-pylori bacteria. He had a peptic ulcer for years and used Tagamet to help with the pain. After bloodwork it came back positive for the bacteria. He was prescribed a antibiotic and the ulcer pain never came back. Are you familiar with the possible link between the bacteria and Alzheimer’s? Thank you!
Thank you for information. We all need to know! Did you mean to write Physically Inactive and unhealthy diet? The first three are negatives and the remaining two positive. Thanks again
my relatives lived the most healthy lifestyle , speak other languages, have a social live, intelectual life, and got dementia. there's nothing you can do to stop it
Sometimes it’s the meds they are taking and Not the lifestyle. I found this out after my mother passed away. She was active watched what she ate, But the Meds gave her Dementia Alzheimer’s. I did research on her meds , Bam 3 of them cause Dementia
"The End of Alzheimer's," by Dr. Bredesen is the most complete explanation of risk factors and how to ameliorate these risks. I cannot recommend his work highly enough.
I was developing it a little I was having trouble thinking an talking also neuropathy cold hands an feet then there was the bruise on my arm from my elbow to my armpit and a big water blister on my elbow the size of a golf ball while they were checking me for blood clots in the ER where the nurses sent me after putting a hart monitor on me to ware for a week I couldn’t get my refills of the statins, and the beta blockers after a couple of days my thinking and talking started getting better the neuropathy started going away a couple of week later they took me off of insulin injections my blood pressure went down to 120/80 most of the time some times it’s 90/65 I feel really bad when it’s that low but I can do some strenuous exercises like squats or push-ups and get it back up to 120. On these besides the horrible nightmares which went away after not being on the meds looking up what the drug company said the side affects which I had several are it messes up your blood sugar and causes dementia and when they took the people off of it after a week or so there memory came back and there dementia went away so the FDA said it didn’t seem to hurt anybody so they put them back on it and they developed dementia again now this is in the medical reports on satins and also in the Pfizer documents about there drugs after getting more awake I started seeing Bruce Willis on the internet doing like I was he had to quit acting and something he use to enjoy reading he’s no longer able to read anymore. I spent almost a year not being able to play most of my musical instruments at all after being off of these meds I play them for several hours a day now. Something else besides the low blood sugar, supposedly diabetes and the bruising. I also had bleeding in my eyes been getting injections every month trying to heal that up every sense but the doctor say that’s from Diabetes not from the drug I was on but they’ve been checking me and my eyes for years and never found anything wrong until everything went wrong after being on thing that the sheets from the pharmacy say were from taking to much of these when I told my doctor he said nobody else complained so just keep taking them something else I found out the bata-blockers work by stopping your body from using vitamins B1, B6 & B12 so it lowers your pulse because the B vitamins are used for nerves to help them work and to help repair them these also work with cholesterol or fats in your blood your brain uses it to function if you don’t have enough your brain actually makes cholesterol to use and when you stop the cholesterol your brains also stops working along with your nerves but that’s not a problem for people these days I’m guessing you’ve all thought enough throughout your life you don’t want to be bothered by thinking anymore or being able to talk to yourself or others or god forbid that you can go out and wright pages of stuff like this that will probably never get posted or anyone will read because it has over 125 characters and nobody can concentrate that long anymore. One thing I couldn’t do this a few months ago it took me several days to just list the top 6 things I was having problems with to tell my doctor and I tried to show them to him and he didn’t care and left the room well I’m not taking them anymore and if I dye because of it at least I will know I’m dead or maybe not I’ve heard of ghost hunting places because they didn’t know they died and were angry because of people moving into there houses and ignoring them well I can still write stuff on the computer so it couldn’t be that bad. Well this is just getting stupid so I’ll leave it here for now but you can see I do think of things now and wright probably way to much now. Read up on everything you’re taking a lot of it is better if you take some extra vitamins with the other stuff and there are some really good medical websites available these days some are a little Drifty I think they do that because they are afraid of you finding out what they’ve been up to for years.
Sorry this is long, but i don't know what to do. if nothing else, hopefully this will give you some ideas for future videos to help people in similar situations. I'm in a bizarre place right now, where I'm renting a room from an elderly friend with serious memory issues, who keeps randomly saying out-of-character insulting/racist/nonsensical things that he then doesn't remember at all hours later. i keep telling him i'm really not offended, because they're so far from his normal personality that it genuinely seems more like a medical issue than malice, but he gets incredibly angry, even when i try to bring it up calmly when he's not in a bad mood, in an effort to get him to seek help from his doctor. he does (or did) know there's some kind of issue, because he repeatedly told me, unprompted, that he was afraid these issues were caused by early dementia. only now, he's recently convinced himslf that i'm gaslighting him, and he's "sharp as a tack," since he got back inexplicably early from a vacation at his daughter's place, with a mumbled excuse that she couldn't drop him off at the airport the right day, and he was "sick of it there anyway." i'm moving out as soon as i can. i have no other choice, as he's now repeatedly gotten physically threatening against me and my cats. (something he also doesn't remember.) and has also threatened to throw my things (and cats) out on the street more than once, later calling this "giving me notice." i'm not trying to diagnose him. it could be long covid fog, b12 deficiency, encephalitis, or many other things. but h'e's divorced, and his daughter lives in another country and rarely talks to him, so once i leave, he's going to be alone with his developmentally delayed ex-girlfriend (who is mentally operating at the level of an 8-12 years old, and can't do basic things like cleaning and cooking,) her devious, money-hungry sisters who have been trying to offload her on my friend for years, and a string of scam callers who phone him multiple times a day. and i fear that (since it recently happened to my uncle,) the next thing i'm going to hear about him is that he's been scammed out of all of his money by one of the many local women who pretend to be a girlfriend for lonely older men with declining faculties, in an effort to steal their money and gain power of attorney. (i didn't realize how prevalent this was in my small town until recently, but i now know three different men this is currently happening to.) i know it's not my problem, and i'm not a member of his family, but i foresee disaster in the future, and can't convince him to see his doctor about it, because it's far less scary for him to believe that i'm gasligting him up, than face the possibility of losing his faculties. short of getting his daughter's email from his laptop, if i can even find it, i have no way of reaching his family members to see if they''ve noticed anything. and even if i did feel comfortable doing that, (i don't) i don't want to trigger something much worse if i do talk to his daughter, and she immediately goes and tells him about it, for whatever reason. so i guess i move out, and hope somebody else eventually tells me when the worst eventually happens.
my mother-in-law in law likes to sit in the sun all the time had a skin cancer scare had this cream the other year from the hospital. im the opposite can not tolerate going in sunlight even in my own home get skin lesions. i can not go sit in the garden for long time have to avoid sunlight ending up hearing loss that is what they say all the time winds me up. kept saying all the time i ended up being auto immune for years and years cause can not absorb any vitamin d the next 10-plus years are going to be a struggle i had to change my whole life what i can do what i can eat and drink stress makes it a lot worse. try avoid stress overeating calcium was my problem in the end what they say you should have when you are in your 50s not true it gives me kidney stones or urine more.
To learn more about how to manage the stress of caregiving + get our Dementia Defense program on how to lower your own dementia risk, click: www.dementiacareclass.com/joinnow
Thank you for your channel and all your videos over the years. My mom passed away peacefully last month 3 days before Christmas. She had been suffering from end stage Parkinson's, dementia, and finally a stroke that paralyzed the left side of her body. I was right by her side when she passed.
So sorry for your loss. My dad also has mid/late stage Parkinson’s and dementia. I hope that my dad goes peacefully when it’s his time.
Thank you for being there for your mom. Sending you so much love.
I’m so sorry for your loss
May God give you strength and comfort.
It’s a blessing that you were with her till the end.
So sorry to hear about your loss. Losing Mom at any age is tough. Honor her life by living. 🙏🏻💜
Sorry for your loss. My mom also passed in December with end stage Parkinson’s & Dementia. I was with her when she passed as well. ❤
Saw both parents deteriorate with Dementia. This list is so important for those like me. Trying my best so that my children do not need to go through those same tough years. 👏
Alcohol related dementia should be added to this list
Yes definitely
Leave us along.
The hearing loss study makes so much sense, and it breaks my heart. I believe I have seen this happen, and I wish I had been more proactive in encouraging people to wear their hearing aids. Eyeglasses as well. Our brains need us to read, converse, listen to podcasts, etc. etc. etc.
Thank you Natalie! For diet, Spirit, and exercise I recommend the Medical Medium book series, especially the Brain Saver volumes. In 2019 my wife and I started caring for my then 75 yo mother. A speech therapist estimated her to be at stage 5. Nearly 5 years later she's about the same memory wise but is much better physically and emotionally most of the time. A couple weeks after she moved in with us in 2019, we took her to the emergency room because of severe abdominal pain. It turned out to be a large tumor in her colon. Stage 3 colon cancer. She nearly died from the pneumonia she contracted at the hospital. If we hadn't taken control of her diet just before this, all during her recovery, and ongoing to this day, I don't believe she would have survived. In fact the hospital ran out of options with the pneumonia and sent her home with us not sure she was going to survive. Because of how great the Medical Medium information is, she not only survived but we opted out of the chemo therapy recommended by her oncologist. She had been on thyroid medication since she was a teenager. Now she doesn't need it and doesn't have any other prescriptions. My wife and I have also benefited tremendously. I have personally noted over 16 symptoms and conditions that have either been reversed completely or dramatically improved. The MM information is literally a gift from God. If you're reading this, I promise it's worth your time to learn from these books. I tell everyone I meet about them and keep extra copies on hand to give to those in need.
Regarding diet: some researchers are calling dementia Type 3 diabetes and that a low carb diet is the best path to follow.
I appreciate you backing up the information you share with current research. There is so much misinformation about the risk factors for developing Dementia out there.
Thank you for your comment. Yes, there is a lot of misinformation and people are willing to make things sound super easy and simple without backing it up with facts. 😥
Keto and the carnivore way of eating does wonders not only for dementia but a myriad of other disorders as well. Please check it out.
I am surprised that you didn’t mention medications. I have seen so many medical statements about antidepressants, sleep drugs and others medications which contribute to getting dementia.
Low carb is found to be very effective. Mayo has called Alzheimer's Type 3 Diabetes..Anything that gets a person off processed food is helpful, but ignoring our cultures ridiculous intake of carbs is a mistake. Love your videos and wish they were around for my mom.❤
Sugar is the indicator that has a huge impact on inflammation in the brain
The brain needs natural sugar to survive. It literally runs on glucose and cells die within a few seconds if starved of it. The brain and liver have reserves of glucose to get you between meals. Fats inhibit nutrients from getting into cells. Low fat and high fruit & vegetable diets are best. Source: Spirit of Compassion via Medical Medium books especially the Brain Saver volumes.
Little sugar is ok
Dear Dr. Natali, thank you for this video, I had always wondered if my Dad's passing had contributed to my Mom's dementia. She has always been a very healthy individual and still continues to have a very active and healthy lifestyle, yet knowing her emotional loneliness could be a factor in her developing Aphasia is really helpful, and takes a load off my mind regarding my own risk. All the best for this coming year!
Great list of modifiable risk factors, sometimes there are too many separate ideas. I read an article of 14 risk factors and it becomes overwhelming and makes you feel like not bothering.
Anyway thank you for this consise and manageable list. Looking forward to 2024 with your help Dr Natali, your info is invaluable xx
Great video ❤
Thank you for all that you do for us! ❤
9:05 Hiking is a vigorous activity. Sometimes my daily hikes last up to 8 hours with 5000+ elevation gain. However, any type of less strenuous walking exercise is good as long as it gets the circulation moving.
Thank you so much for all your help it means a lot to me as I don't have so many resource where I live .I want to wish you a very happy New Year with lots of WONDERFUL MOMENTS
This is great information. I have been concerned about my husband and I developing dementia (my mother in law suffered with this) but knowing what we can do to decrease the risk gives us a guide to working on (hopefully) avoiding this terrible condition. Thank you!
Thank you!! So informative, as I am a garegiver to a lady..76 with dementia, but also need info concerning this for myself ..64. 😊❤
Thank you Natalie.Very best wishes for 2024 to you and Nico x
Thank you!
Finding this channel has been a godsend for me.
Interesting video thank you. May I just say that white writing on a pale grey screen is quite difficult to read, especially on a small screen.
Thanks for the video. I will be more aware of my Risk factors and try to improve them, especially more active. Thanks for the video. You are the best! Love Ruth
Thanks for the heads up, always need to remind myself.
Thanks for your videos. It is great to listen to them at the comfort of your own home, especially because you can't leave your loved one alone.❤
Hiking is vigorous Natalie! 😊
What about adequate deep sleep and healthy stress levels
Emotional loneliness breaks my heart. People be some so isolated and lonely during the Rona and never returned to normal for many
I guess isolating people "to keep them safe" was a terrible idea. Thanks fauci. Yet nobody in charge of these policies admits or takes responsibility. No consequences. Except nobody trusts them anymore.
Awesome video with helpful info. Thank you 🤗
Wow! No wonder I have Alzhiemers. Wish I knew this earlier.
Very useful info, even if it was 6 months ago! I am about to join the gym! First time ever. As im getting older and need to think more about being more active. Thanks for increasing my motivation!
I was waiting with toe curling dread during the list of five for alcohol to come up and was really surprised when it didn’t… Could you do a segment on alcohol use and dementia? Is it harmful or helpful in moderation?
❤Thank you for caring for us
Thank you Dr. Natali! You eased my mind tremendously!
Thank you!!
I'm an only child of an only child and spend most of my time alone...but not lonely (I have great pets).
I'm listening an awesome audiobook involving dementia.
And alas, we're all gonna croak eventually 😉👍
Spending time alone isn't a risk factor for dementia. It only is if you feel lonely...so enjoy that alone time! :)
Can you help find info on what types of exercise and how often? Also, do you know anything about dual task exercises that put you at your physical and cognitive edge?
I read that their looking into the H-pylori bacteria and Alzheimer’s. My husband has Alzheimer’s and he also had the H-pylori bacteria. He had a peptic ulcer for years and used Tagamet to help with the pain. After bloodwork it came back positive for the bacteria. He was prescribed a antibiotic and the ulcer pain never came back. Are you familiar with the possible link between the bacteria and Alzheimer’s? Thank you!
❤Thank you for all you do! God Bless
Since more women get dementia than men,does estrogen loss especially for those who go into menopause early,affect your chances of getting it?
I can’t believe you don’t have type two diabetes on the list. That could really help so many people if they controlled it.
Thank you for information. We all need to know! Did you mean to write Physically Inactive and unhealthy diet? The first three are negatives and the remaining two positive. Thanks again
Thank you very much ❤
A huge fan but can you use a microphone or improve the sound. It will really enhance the videos.
Believe me, I am really trying to figure this out. Hang in there with me. It';s just me in my home office recording these.
@@DementiaCareblazerssound is fine, honestly.
Thank you for your work.
🧚♀️❤️🐝
Thank you for this. The ‘hearing loss’ risk factor really surprised me. (Oh! And I just subscribed- so hoping your dog gets that belly rub! 😀)
Thank you so much!
my relatives lived the most healthy lifestyle , speak other languages, have a social live, intelectual life, and got dementia. there's nothing you can do to stop it
Sometimes it’s the meds they are taking and Not the lifestyle. I found this out after my mother passed away. She was active watched what she ate, But the Meds gave her Dementia Alzheimer’s. I did research on her meds , Bam 3 of them cause Dementia
Charloote fox met here once
I love her.
Rip.
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Love Lene Gammrlgard too!
Yes you have a fan in Canada!
Cheers RS
Watch videos by Dr Dale Bredesen and read his book.
"The End of Alzheimer's," by Dr. Bredesen is the most complete explanation of risk factors and how to ameliorate these risks. I cannot recommend his work highly enough.
What about tumors on the pineal gland?
Could we please talk about the newly developed drug for Dimentia, Thanks so much 🙏
I would add adequate sleep to your excellent list because your microglia need to have a chance to do their clean up job!
Can’t really read your board. Just a tip. I like ur content.
Should I tell my LO that a family member has passed?
Where can I get that Mediterranean Diet Pyramid chart???
Sugar and alcohol!!!!
Your opinion on Nuplazid for LBD Hallucinations? My insurance will not pay the expensive price.
I subscribed long ago, but please give Nico maximum belly rubs! 🥰
He says thanks! 💖🐶
relax...i hear he et real great😊
I was developing it a little I was having trouble thinking an talking also neuropathy cold hands an feet then there was the bruise on my arm from my elbow to my armpit and a big water blister on my elbow the size of a golf ball while they were checking me for blood clots in the ER where the nurses sent me after putting a hart monitor on me to ware for a week I couldn’t get my refills of the statins, and the beta blockers after a couple of days my thinking and talking started getting better the neuropathy started going away a couple of week later they took me off of insulin injections my blood pressure went down to 120/80 most of the time some times it’s 90/65 I feel really bad when it’s that low but I can do some strenuous exercises like squats or push-ups and get it back up to 120. On these besides the horrible nightmares which went away after not being on the meds looking up what the drug company said the side affects which I had several are it messes up your blood sugar and causes dementia and when they took the people off of it after a week or so there memory came back and there dementia went away so the FDA said it didn’t seem to hurt anybody so they put them back on it and they developed dementia again now this is in the medical reports on satins and also in the Pfizer documents about there drugs after getting more awake I started seeing Bruce Willis on the internet doing like I was he had to quit acting and something he use to enjoy reading he’s no longer able to read anymore. I spent almost a year not being able to play most of my musical instruments at all after being off of these meds I play them for several hours a day now. Something else besides the low blood sugar, supposedly diabetes and the bruising. I also had bleeding in my eyes been getting injections every month trying to heal that up every sense but the doctor say that’s from Diabetes not from the drug I was on but they’ve been checking me and my eyes for years and never found anything wrong until everything went wrong after being on thing that the sheets from the pharmacy say were from taking to much of these when I told my doctor he said nobody else complained so just keep taking them something else I found out the bata-blockers work by stopping your body from using vitamins B1, B6 & B12 so it lowers your pulse because the B vitamins are used for nerves to help them work and to help repair them these also work with cholesterol or fats in your blood your brain uses it to function if you don’t have enough your brain actually makes cholesterol to use and when you stop the cholesterol your brains also stops working along with your nerves but that’s not a problem for people these days I’m guessing you’ve all thought enough throughout your life you don’t want to be bothered by thinking anymore or being able to talk to yourself or others or god forbid that you can go out and wright pages of stuff like this that will probably never get posted or anyone will read because it has over 125 characters and nobody can concentrate that long anymore. One thing I couldn’t do this a few months ago it took me several days to just list the top 6 things I was having problems with to tell my doctor and I tried to show them to him and he didn’t care and left the room well I’m not taking them anymore and if I dye because of it at least I will know I’m dead or maybe not I’ve heard of ghost hunting places because they didn’t know they died and were angry because of people moving into there houses and ignoring them well I can still write stuff on the computer so it couldn’t be that bad. Well this is just getting stupid so I’ll leave it here for now but you can see I do think of things now and wright probably way to much now. Read up on everything you’re taking a lot of it is better if you take some extra vitamins with the other stuff and there are some really good medical websites available these days some are a little Drifty I think they do that because they are afraid of you finding out what they’ve been up to for years.
I wear earplugs 10 hrs a day at work. Does my mind think I cannot hear well?
I struggle with 4 out of 5, I don’t smoke, and I’m not 55 yet.
Sorry this is long, but i don't know what to do. if nothing else, hopefully this will give you some ideas for future videos to help people in similar situations.
I'm in a bizarre place right now, where I'm renting a room from an elderly friend with serious memory issues, who keeps randomly saying out-of-character insulting/racist/nonsensical things that he then doesn't remember at all hours later. i keep telling him i'm really not offended, because they're so far from his normal personality that it genuinely seems more like a medical issue than malice, but he gets incredibly angry, even when i try to bring it up calmly when he's not in a bad mood, in an effort to get him to seek help from his doctor.
he does (or did) know there's some kind of issue, because he repeatedly told me, unprompted, that he was afraid these issues were caused by early dementia. only now, he's recently convinced himslf that i'm gaslighting him, and he's "sharp as a tack," since he got back inexplicably early from a vacation at his daughter's place, with a mumbled excuse that she couldn't drop him off at the airport the right day, and he was "sick of it there anyway."
i'm moving out as soon as i can. i have no other choice, as he's now repeatedly gotten physically threatening against me and my cats. (something he also doesn't remember.) and has also threatened to throw my things (and cats) out on the street more than once, later calling this "giving me notice."
i'm not trying to diagnose him. it could be long covid fog, b12 deficiency, encephalitis, or many other things. but h'e's divorced, and his daughter lives in another country and rarely talks to him, so once i leave, he's going to be alone with his developmentally delayed ex-girlfriend (who is mentally operating at the level of an 8-12 years old, and can't do basic things like cleaning and cooking,) her devious, money-hungry sisters who have been trying to offload her on my friend for years, and a string of scam callers who phone him multiple times a day.
and i fear that (since it recently happened to my uncle,) the next thing i'm going to hear about him is that he's been scammed out of all of his money by one of the many local women who pretend to be a girlfriend for lonely older men with declining faculties, in an effort to steal their money and gain power of attorney. (i didn't realize how prevalent this was in my small town until recently, but i now know three different men this is currently happening to.)
i know it's not my problem, and i'm not a member of his family, but i foresee disaster in the future, and can't convince him to see his doctor about it, because it's far less scary for him to believe that i'm gasligting him up, than face the possibility of losing his faculties.
short of getting his daughter's email from his laptop, if i can even find it, i have no way of reaching his family members to see if they''ve noticed anything. and even if i did feel comfortable doing that, (i don't) i don't want to trigger something much worse if i do talk to his daughter, and she immediately goes and tells him about it, for whatever reason.
so i guess i move out, and hope somebody else eventually tells me when the worst eventually happens.
my mother-in-law in law likes to sit in the sun all the time had a skin cancer scare had this cream the other year from the hospital. im the opposite can not tolerate going in sunlight even in my own home get skin lesions. i can not go sit in the garden for long time have to avoid sunlight ending up hearing loss that is what they say all the time winds me up. kept saying all the time i ended up being auto immune for years and years cause can not absorb any vitamin d the next 10-plus years are going to be a struggle i had to change my whole life what i can do what i can eat and drink stress makes it a lot worse. try avoid stress overeating calcium was my problem in the end what they say you should have when you are in your 50s not true it gives me kidney stones or urine more.
Alcohol has got to be high on this list.
And what can one do about age…..
Biggest risk of dementia is old age.
But, remember: Correlation does not equal causation!
oh snap, I'm a dead man.