How I train my mind to be peaceful - simple practices for a simple life
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- training my mind for peace - two simple practices for a simple life
I have no idea if adopting centering meditation or encouragement journaling could potentially be useful to you, but perhaps finding some simple nurturing pastimes that you can do consistently may be worth incorporating into your daily routine, especially if you are trying to re-shape your mind in order to be more inclined to cultivate a sense of peace. For anyone who experiences anxiety in their body, I encourage you to give centering meditation a try, it might be helpful in the way it was to me. As I sit I focus on relaxing every tiny part of my body, down to my toes (while belly breathing). Even if it’s hard to calm my body, being consistent with it has - over time - given me an incredible tool to finally resolve my panic attacks and create a peaceful relationship with my mind and body. Maybe this won’t work for you, but there are so many enriching practices you can incorporate into your routine that - if done with dedication during the good days as well as the challenging ones - could possibly make a big difference. Please share what is helpful to you! I definitely don’t have all the answers. Take care 💕
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Hey Paola, I live in Burundi, the heart of Africa. Not a developed country but has lot of mountains and green environment like yours. I m inspired by your videos and my wish is to show the world how beautiful my country is however the problem is technology is not developed like in other countries. Don't stop sharing yours because it gives us hope of achieving our dreams. Love from Burundi 🇧🇮
Please do that, waiting to see beautiful Africa throughout your eyes.
Have you considered filming on a camera and then uploading all at once when you have enough internet? Sort of like we saw Paola do when she lived in the little cottage?
I would love to see your country 😊❤
Show the world! I know I would would personally watch.
Just do it. I've never seen Burundi
“I no longer wish to be victim to my stress”….Ah what wise words! Thank you, Paola. ❤
As I heard this line I felt that to my bone. 🙈
Your videos and community feel like a safe space for us sensitive deep feelers. Thank you for reminding me it’s normal to be a sensitive person💜
Yes!🥰
Today I felt so tired and unmotivated. I complained to my dear husband that I was exhausted and annoyed by it because I hadnt gotten anything done... he said "your body is forcing you to rest". And I really was taken aback, in a good way. I spent the rest of my day not fighting against the urge to slow down... and I managed to get some light chores done and even bake cookies from scratch by going at a slow and relaxed pace. It kinda shifted my idea as to what "productive" looks like.
Miss Bianca and I have been working on this video for a bit, I thought she made an apt portrayal of the White Rabbit ❤ Perhaps finding some simple nurturing pastimes that you can do consistently may be worth incorporating into your daily routine, especially if you are trying to re-shape your mind in order to be more inclined to cultivate a sense of peace. For anyone who experiences anxiety in their body, I encourage you to give centering meditation a try, it might be helpful in the way it was to me. As I sit, often listening to soft ambient music, I focus on relaxing every tiny part of my body, down to my toes (while belly breathing). Even if it’s hard to calm my body, being consistent with it has - over time - given me an incredible tool to finally resolve my panic attacks and create a peaceful relationship with my mind and body. Maybe this won’t work for you, but there are so many enriching practices you can incorporate into your routine that - if done with dedication during the good days as well as the challenging ones - could possibly make a big difference. Please share what is helpful to you! It is different for everyone. Take care 💕
Definitely agree - I too have spiritual practice (I’m not religious) connecting myself to peace every morning. ❤
Thank you. Thank you so much. ♥️
@TheCottageFairy A true gift of self: Letting yourself experience your emotions like the tide. Allowing them to ebb and flow, peacefully and naturally, as is their own nature. Giving them a sweet kiss of acknowledgement, before sending them on their way... never giving them any power. Power that has the potential to own you or to ultimately become who or what you are, destroying what is truly you. Your heart. Countless blessings to you, Paola. May you nurture your inner peace, keeping it alive within your heart and in all you do. That peace will then find a home within all you do. 💖
I also have a spiritual meditative practice. I pray the rosary every day without fail. Meditating on holiness and asking that graces be given to those in need, re-focuses my brain. I don’t think about myself or feel anxiety. I am praying for the world - everyone who needs healing, strength, perseverance, and protection from evil. I’ve tried many forms of relaxation and meditation techniques but rediscovering my Catholic roots in the rosary was my answer.
❤thank you
I swear you're a real life princess, Paola. Your videos really feel like a little online sanctuary. Thank you for being here ✿
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Everytime I watch you I feel like I'm watching a version of myself in a different part of the world. I feel peace, belongingness when I watch your videos.
Same!
Same
Dear Paola, as someone who also regularly falls victim to stress and anxiety I understand the wish to be able to deal with those negative emotions. I think often we try to avoid those feeling altogether and push them aside because they are inconvenient but they have their purpose and are important just as much as the good feelings. And trying to avoid them and shutting them down just leads to them building up and eventually completely overwhelming us. So we must let ourselves feel them, understand where they are coming from, and find healthy methods to process them. I am also still learning how. Thank you for sharing your tips. I wish you all the best. 🥰
Beautifully said. Thank you. 💗
Well said.
Sometimes I have anxious thoughts and I recently went on medicine because it came out as health anxiety which was scary but I am learning to trust my body and know I'm ok. I just went through a divorce and now my ex is engaged while still talking to me while his fiance doesn't know..i became scared of the finality of our bond so I panicked but I know deep down I made right decision cause he isn't emotional healthy and he talks mean to me but still bittersweet. All my feelings manifested as this..im aware to feel my feelings more and get to root of it all..each day gets better.
Reading is the biggest hobby I have that brings me joy and calm, either in winter or summer. It always helps me. 😊
"A day where i can find myself reading with a cup of coffee, trying to enjoy the bitter taste whilst looking out at the lush garden through a foggy window on a quiet November morning"
Thats what i want
Thank you very much for your videos.They really uplift me n calm me own.U are such a blessing to me❤
That's really nice 🥰
Lord Buddha taught us , this world so many types of meditations . For anyone who's desperately trying to find peace , trying not to overthink , trying to be calm .... , listen to our Lord Buddha's teachings and the meditations and things like that . I'll guarantee you that you 'll find peace in your mind 😇💙 May Lord Buddha bless you 😇🙏
I don’t know if it’s your gentle voice or your calm demeanor, but I find you deeply inspiring as an artist and a human. Thanks for what you do.
This year has definitely been a little unusual. Just today, I was wondering if I should embrace the snow and head out to do some snowshoeing. March is the month that I typically feel full of energy but this March I am fighting depression. I see some sunshine heading this way (Idaho) with warmer temperatures very soon. Today, I am going to head into the pottery studio, play some bird sounds and make some spring pots. Sending you and all your viewers my love. Happy Spring!
Julie, we all get discourage or depress at times. So i know how you feel as i am feeling the same way today. It will get better i am sure.💕💕
I’m leaving Utah 8 months ago, and move to FL , but I did not get adapted here. And I’m coming back to Utah ❤I miss the landscape and the mountains so much!
@@Lovecatholicfaith Florida was my dream as a kid but I feel certain that I would not be happy living there. I do love the seasons although I wish winter was a little shorter. I would miss the mountains that I have grown to love. I am sure the northwest will be my forever home. Utah is very beautiful also. I will probably take a spring vacation there this year.
Life is such a journey, keep trying and do what works for you❤.
Wow, to have such thick, long, curly, beautiful hair as you Paola!! Gorgeous!
Your bunnies are so adorable. I hope they are adjusting well to their new home.
Those cookies looked so delicious, I'm sure your mom will be pleasantly surprised to receive them.
All the best to you and your family. 🧡
2:26 Books are fascinating. I love libraries
Paola, I knit, knit, knit through the winter (and the other seasons as well). It's very meditative. And I watch the birds at my window as I knit, also meditative. Spring will creep up on us.
My favorite way to find peace from a stressful day or situation is my crocheting! It's my happy place where I can light my favorite scented candles, listen to your videos......Yes, I do that often since I love them so much! I make out a list of projects I'd like to accomplish for holidays while its Wintertime. My children and grandchildren have gotten used to having special homemade gifts for different occasions. This way I get a jump on things since I have many to make. Being stuck indoors during the cold months can be made into a happy time for my projects of love for my family. Happiness and peace can be found if you have your eyes wide open to all the possibilities around you. 💖🧚♀🌻
Paola !!!! You are absolutely beautiful. It’s like you are from the fairy realm . You are not from this world. You are magical. My fairy. Thank u 🙏 for being you. You are a mentor to me. I to am a victim of stress and anxiety
Your lifestyle is so calm and aesthetic that's what every one wants ♥️🥰💖🍓😍
It is mostly long work days and running errands 😂 I love to focus on the beauty of small moments on this channel, it is my artistic escape, not my daily reality. But it does continue to inspire me to slow down and enjoy simple things ❤
@@TheCottageFairy oh! ok👌 😊
I've always been different...and find people stressing
Even as a child...that is when I learned to hide my true feelings
Involved in school and club activities...friends..(I always found having friends was extremely hard)
Maybe because I tried so hard to be a good friend to them
Now here I am in my 70's and still have that stress
Although I've been able to step away from people
I still have 2 really good friends that just accept me ad I am...i feel stressed by this because i know I'm not as good a friend as i should be
I wish i could find an inner peace such as meditation but my mind wanders off in a different direction
I know I'm missing something and I wish I could find it
I'm truly happy that you are finding what works for you...may you stay calm and peaceful for the rest of your life
Hello sweet lady, Love to see and hear you. I am a nurse of 48years and finding the transition to pension quite dauting. I have never really had time for hobbies but like you found peace in Mother Nature. I am looking after a 92yr old lady who was recently widowed. I cook for her and take her meals to her. We sit and chat about her past that is so lovely for us. Iook forward to seeing you again soon xx
I found out sonethung last week with a new diagnosis after I read the prognosis 3-5 years, so enjoying each day is such gentle, wise advice. 🌸🌷🌸 Bianca is so precious!
Sending strength
Saying prayers
Next time you cut your hair can we get a video on how you did that cut? Was it as simple as it looked? I’ve been cutting my own long hair, so I’m intrigued as it looks much easier then what I do with likely better results in the layers!
I second that request!
I’m going through a period of change and upheaval in my life and rewatching your videos from the beginning as a way to find calmness ♥️
So thank you for sharing your beautiful corner of the world.
I do hope you bring us along for your gardening ventures, it would be wonderful to be a part of it ☀️
I’ve been so stressed my senior year of highschool, worrying about what’s to come in my future. But your video today has reminded me to take a step back, breathe, enjoy what’s in the now, and resolve a healthy relationship within myself. Thank you Paola for such a beautiful message! Hope you share more of your furry friends! 🐰 Much love 🫶
I don't think anyone expects you to have your future all figured out. Just enjoy your senior year because it's almost over and it's a big milestone for you.
Lydia try to remember there is no rush, no timeline to figuring it all out. Try to enjoy the small moments in each day like watching Paola’s video or breathing deeply and enjoying nature. Each day is what counts in the end. Wishing you peace.
@Queens65
Thank you so much! :)
@Kristi Shreenan
Thank you! You’re too kind! Have a great day!
I'm going through a very difficult time with managing my own anxieties lately with being a full time college student but also having to work so that I can put myself through school to be an English teacher. So watching your videos is so deeply helpful for me and they bring me some much needed peace in a time where everything feels like chaos. Your content is so beautiful and I thank you for sharing such vulnerable parts of yourself.
I woke up feeling angry and frustrated today, and miraculously found your channel/video and I am grateful to you for returning me to peace and centeredness 🥺❣️✨
20 years I had rescue rabbits. I lost my last one in 2022 from a tumor in his leg. I decided my heart needed a break as many of my rabbits had odd illnesses and getting vet care was becoming so stressful and expensive. It brings me such joy and I am loving seeing your new additions here and I laughed so hard when my eye I caught Bianca taking a nibble on your book page. ;) Little stinkers do love to chew things. Much love to you and all the creatures who share your magical world. Thank you for sharing and shining your light.
my heart want a simple life like that... but i can't because my mind want the city... your videos make my heart so so happy.. feels like home.
You have absolutely gorgeous hair! Wow- stay calm and have a blessed week-
It is good you do these breathing practices. I don't really do that but I do take moments to breathe for a few moments. It is good to write encouraging words to uplift yourself.
Your rabbit makes me feel like I didn't let our rabbits follow us around enough. How adorable. Mine were so active just binkying all the time, that they would have jumped off that table (and possibly hit their heads). What a calm bunny.
Your cookie looks beautiful. Nice job. "Without the homicidal instincts" - definitely a good thing haha.
Making quilts and writing penpals always helps keep my spirits up more during the wintertime. I love doing so.
This is what i think too. How can her bunny so calm.
I was so very happy to see you have two very beautiful bunnies with you it made me so very happy for you ❤!!!
I think, you inspired me to express myself more. Knowing that there is someone who has the same compassion for nature, and art. I am blessed to have found you.
I've been going to Intensive out patient therapy for my depression and anxiety. They focus a lot on meditation and belly breathing. And oh my goodness does it help! My resting heart rate has decreased and the anxiety feels so much easier to manage. Also the structured group therapy has been a safe place to practice vulnerability
Hi Paola, I love to see that confidence yet shy, you're allowing to grow in your beautiful being....
You're listening and letting yourself be who you always were.... you don't suffocate that anymore....
You're an inspiration to many of us, sweet lady!
Many blessings 🙏
That’s lovely advice :)
@@Royalizzieadventures 🙏💝
When I can't be in my garden, which is from the middle of October to mid April, I do beautiful puzzles, read, journal, hike and color in adult coloring books of gardens and flowers. I can't wait to get gardening again either! 🌷
My favorite hobby right now is crocheting while listening to music. Your bunnies are absolutely adorable!
Here in Northern Michigan, in my woods,and yard,there is still alot of snow. It has been a long winter! I hardly get out and walk because I still am waiting for my heart blood clot and Afib to be resolved. I too get anxious and way too stressed....so your video arrived and gave me a peaceful moment. My kitty Finn likes your bunny. I am praying and need to read my Bible daily....this helps ❤
God bless you. May you find health soon.❤️
Always delightful to hear the sounds of everyday life....nature teaches us wisdom. Blessings 🙌
I enjoy knitting. It keeps me relaxed and sane and productive. And I save a ton on gifts! 🙂
I chuckled when you made these lovely cookies, which in my native country of Switzerland are called "Spitzbuebe." Translated into English that means " naughty boys." They are so pretty and you can make them in all shapes and forms for different occasions. I typically bake them for Christmas, but have created them in heart shape for a funeral and of course for Valentine's day. I usually sprinkle the powdered sugar on the tops only, so the raspberry jam stays nice and red. After living in the US for 49 years, I still love to bake the Spitzbuebe my Mom used to bake. Your videos are so beautiful and calming. I just received your book and enjoyed reading about the 4 seasons. Living in the Deep South for many years, I truly missed fall and winter. Now I enjoy walking through the woods again, especially on a cold winter day. Sadly, my Labrador just recently died, and my walks aren't the same anymore. But we have to adjust to changes in our lives. Thank you for sharing your life with this community. I am so happy for you that you will have a wee little one to share all your wisdom with.
One thing I love to do during the winter months is crafts. I do anything from knit, crochet, to painting, to playing with clay. I do movement exercises to keep me busy. Love your videos.
It's so wonderful to realize that every time I feel anxious, I can give my anxiousness and troubling thoughts to Jesus, and He takes them away and gives me peace, true peace which is not dependant on any circumstances.
He is the Prince of Peace! He is the Truth, the Way and the Life! He loves you, Paola! He loves everyone! Seek Him and He will reveal Himself to you.
"Cast all your anxiety on Him because HE CARES FOR YOU."/Bible;1Peter 5:7/
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. /Bible; Philippians 4:6-7/
Crochet, knitting and slow stitching are my go to items during times of winter and summer crafting as time allows. Tiny jelly jars are so cute and I'm sure you recycle them into something nice/useful 🏡 Your slow quiet voice brings peace, calm in my life listening to you☺️ youtube waynesville NC USA 🇺🇸 veteran.
Your videos are a delight to watch, so authentic, so personalised, so you. I am so glad that people like you still exist Paola, you remind me of my childhood, items I see in your house my grandma used to have, I feel emotional every time I watch you. You are so sweet and intelligent, I feel so inspired by you, blessings your way ray of sun xx
So sweet to see the bunnies, especially since spring is rolling in and Easter around the corner. I enjoyed the baking, those cookies looked so pretty and delicious. As always your videos are very calming, relaxing and so appreciated. 👒🐇
Inner change is definitely possible. An exposure to a different perspective or thought pattern or self awareness and the need or desire to embrace the new, is sometimes all it takes. I’m 67 and I’ve changed so much, for the better, in the last 24 years. Some I was aware of and some of the changes I quietly and very unaware just absorbed. Your gentle soul, speaks volumes to change and a more peaceful journey.
Knitting socks 😊
Painting with my 4 years old daughter
Go out with my 13 years old daughter and watch her horse riding. Islander are just so natural ponies. Lovely.
Winter is still lingering here as well around my cottage in the Swedish forest. One of my favorite things I started to do this winter was to blow soap bubbles each night, preferably in the moonlight and enjoy their playfulness and magic while my cats after their first apprehension began to love catching them with their paws.
Hi Paola, I just received my order and I absolutely adore the cards and bookmarks as well as the other little surprises you included. I was just thinking how lovely a calendar and/or a journal book with your beautiful artwork and quotes would be. I would surely purchase those if it is something you are considering for the future in your shop. Thank you for your beautiful and calming videos. ❤
That is an excellent idea! I, too, would be a customer! 😊
Hi 💋
Old Man Winter sure has been lingering! There was literally no snow in my part of MA this year but it is still cold. I guess we wouldn't appreciate Spring as much without the anticipation. Walking my dog every day helps me cope with anxiety, along with connecting with my spirit guides and watching for encouraging signs. Balancing the news with peaceful videos like yours, also helps. And yard sale season is starting which is fun.. Thank you for helping to make the world a better place 💚
5:56 in the UK, these are known as ‘Jammy Dodgers’. Ambrosia of the Gods with a cup of tea with a heaped tablespoon of Whiskey/Brandy in it. 👍👍👍
Paola is left handed. It all makes sense now, why she resonates so much with me.
I thank you for your calming videos...I needed it this morning. I hope all is well with you and yours today.
Thank you Paola for the wonderful videos. Your beautifully filmed scenes and calming voice helps many of us.
I am single-handedly looking after my aged parents (wouldn’t have it any other way) and your videos help ground
me when feeling anxious, stressed and tired. A big thank you! 😊
Hi,
Please take time to care for yourself. Caregiving can be extremely stressful. Asking for help or hiring help can be self care for you. I have personal experience with long term care giving and taking breaks is vital and necessary. All the best in caring for your parents.
Paola you are literally a fairy. It would have been a magical delight if I met you during my childhood and even now 😊
The little buns give me so much joy ❤ Thank you for sharing the glimpses into your life
Establishing a meditation practice is one of my goals for this year. I haven’t managed to do it yet, but I think if I would decide on a time to do it every day it would help. I use knitting and spinning wool as activities to help me get through the cold and dark days. During the winter I also try to focus on enjoying hot tea, reading, and jigsaw puzzles. Having hobbies that you practice in a particular season helps to enjoy the season more. I tend to reserve puzzles and hot tea for winter, and knitting and spinning mainly in Fall and Winter. Dealing with wool in the heat of summer is too hot and in Spring I’m too busy enjoying nature! 😊
Thank you so much for sharing yourself with us. I have anxiety as well and seeing you work on yours really helps me in my journey as well. Thank you for speaking up for us super sensitive people. 💕🌻
I am the same way, I get so impatient with snow and the cold and darkness, I love flowers and summer so much ❤️
Dear Paola, I'm Dhanushka from Kandy, Sri Lanka. When I was a kid in college I was thinking of what I will do as my future job. I don't want to do what others are doing. spending busy lives. my biggest and final dream is to live in a valley or place like where you live right now. I want peace and a calm place and mind to continue my meditation. and thank you Paola to share your life with us you make my dreams alive every day.
The more I practice mindfulness, the more I fall in love with it. I've noticed that it gets a bit easier as I work at it. Thanks for sharing your practices! 🙏🏽❤
Dear Paola, You're a real-life fairy. Your videos give a peaceful vibe. It's so calming, quiet, and extremely beautiful. Take love from the core of my heart ❤️
Dear, Paola, I simply want to say "Thank you!" You inspire me!
Lots of light and love.
Hilde (Belgium)
You are a great example of seeking peace. I actually wrote a book called Peace Management. I am a nurse, and retired professor, and do understand the neural plasticity. You are spot on. It is definitely a process, but one worth pursuing.
If we can figure out how to communicate, I would be happy to send you a paper copy of my book. So much nicer than eBook…..easier to do exercises right in the book.
Today was one of the most difficult days of my life. A family emergency. Thank you Paolo for these words. I will truly take them to heart. To feel our feelings don't let them turn us into a victim of our own emotions. 🙏🏻
Karina, you and your family are in my prayers.
@@brendamiller5785 Thank you so much! Tomorrow will be a very important day for the outcome. God Bless you! 🙏🏻
I look forward with great anticipation to your weekly video. Some weeks, it’s the only thing that truly gives me peace of mind. Thank you for all you do-this is not easy work, yet you make it look so natural and effortless.
My friend and I send each other puzzles but we take them out of their box and we don’t know what the puzzle is as we put it together. It’s so much fun guessing as we go and it’s just thrilling when we figure it out. Definitely helps during the winter time stuck in the house blues.
I have been doing quite a bit of cross stitching this winter and trying to learn how to quilt. I find that doing crafts keeps my mind focused which helps me with anxiety.
You are such an inspiration, Paola ❤. I am watching your videos precisely for the fact that I know - I will find there an oasis of calm, peace and wisdom. I admire your way of talking about stress, anxiety, fears, uncertainties, just because these themes could be treated as taboos in certain environments, just because you get out of the comfort zone with having the courage to express yourself on these topics. I am very grateful that I have discovered you, here on TH-cam ❤️
This video comes at a perfect time. As a genuinely anxious person, I’m working hard at controlling my anxiety to live as stress free and happy as possible. It’s not easy, but I’m doing my best to reassure myself. Ironically, the large things I can handle, the ones that are out of my control. It’s the silly little, incidental, every days things that cause me issue. It’s like a beautiful calm pond and all is good. Then a pebble gets tossed in and it’s those ripples that make me anxious. Nothing life threatening or earth shattering. It’s just how I’m wired and I’m doing my best to rewire my brain and my reaction to fine peace. Thanks for this. Wishing you well! ❤
I don’t mean for this to come across as pedantic, but depending on what exactly you mean I think it is ultimately counterproductive to try and “control” one’s anxiety.
It sounds counterintuitive, but I think we “control” our anxiety by not seeking to control it… instead, we diminish its impact on our life by allowing it to drift by as it pleases, without attempting to attach or detach from it (as both are forms of attachment, and attachment to any particular thing is bound to lead to suffering).
When I think of how to best approach this in dealing with my own anxiety, there is one word which comes to mind, that being “surrender”. Surrender, to me, can be best imagined as holding one’s hand out, palm to the sky, fingers outstretched. Should a butterfly come by and rest itself momentarily on one’s hand, one makes no attempt to frivolously mold the situation- one does not forcibly close their fingers around the butterfly to prevent it from flying away (attachment), nor does one prematurely ball their fist up so that no butterfly has a chance to even land on the palm (detachment).
Rather, in surrendering, we intentionally commit ourselves to what is coined as “non-attachment”, which is a sort of indifference to trying to exert control over the situation. In choosing to relinquish that control (or rather, the illusion of that control, as it would be in most cases) we actually gain control over ourselves, pruning our mind to have a different relationship to both the outside world as well as to itself.
I am sorry that this became quite long-winded, though even if this doesn’t resonate with you I do hope it may potentially resonate with someone else. Anxiety can be quite agonizing to wade through, but I think how we choose to approach it can greatly shape how much we suffer from its inevitable presence in our lives.
Sounds like me! I am a natural anxious and fearful person. Everything can be calm, then something small gets tossed in and I am in a tizzy about it. 😫
It certainly has made me think. Thank you, I love the hand an butterfly example. 😊
@@sarahjones6858 God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind. Cast your cares upon the Lord Jesus, because He cares for you. The psalmist says, I sought the Lord God and He delivered me from ALL my fears.' Take time to pray to God about your fears. He will take that fear away and you'll be free. God doesn't want you to fear. He's with you all the time and is willing to carry your anxieties if you put them on Him. I pray you find all the peace your soul desires. Much love.
In the South our winters are not long enough and so I often wish I lived in a place where I can hibernate just a little bit longer. So when I can't garden as much (we can really garden year round down here in Louisiana) I love to turn to spinning, knitting, weaving, painting...the arts give me great comfort.
Hello there Cottage Fairy. Thank you. In this crazy , broken world , it's just nice to listen to your soothing voice. We need more genuine , peaceful , decent human beings in this day and age. Jesus Christ is the Prince of Peace , and He loves you immensely , more than you or I can understand. I wish you peace and happiness. It's obvious you have good parents. I'm sure your parents are proud of how you have developed into a very nice young lady. PS - I understand the snow , as I live in Vermont. ✝️♥️👍
Thank you for this lovely video, I live your sort of life, on my own, with my dog. I love your beautiful rabbits, cat and dog, and I can relate to your life. I am so happy living a quiet life, away from the hustle and bustle of the outside world. I also keep a journal every night, and write what has happened in the day. It is so interesting reading back on years gone by, to see how the seasons change. I find peace in watching your videos, in this mad world that is around us, we all need peace. We have a really lovely Ukrainian family of 6 now living as my neighbors, and I shall be giving the girls ( 1 year, 9 and 10) Easter things to keep them busy over the two week holiday they get from school here in Devon. I am giving them a knitting kit for children and an Easter activity book, to help with their English, and I have the most beautiful soft white fluffy rabbit to give the baby. Love to you at Easter Time, Jilly & Madge the beautiful black rescue greyhound, from a sunny (for a change from all the rain we have been getting) Devon, England. xxx
So sweet of you to be so giving to that family.
Your videos bring me so much joy, simplicity and peace. This year I lost my dad, moved from one continent to another into a much more fast paced environment and while I am content with where I have been placed these major losses and changes have taken its toll. I told my husband today I felt like my soul is trying to catch up with my reality. I feel like every time I watch one of your videos the two get a little closer together. :)
Thank you Paola!
I woke up one early morning to see a similar rainbow.... I was amazed! it was brilliant; I got up and took a few pictures too. And then it happened again. .... It just made me very happy. :)
Loved this and especially the introduction of a theme for the day ❤ also seeing Miss Bianca so interested in all your doings. What a beautiful place you have and those biscuits ( cookies) looked gogeous. You are enjoying your life and doing that so well its a tremendous inspiration to me each time. Bless you and thankyou again.❤
You posted the right video,I had a horrible day today but thanks to you my heart is peacefull. thank you for making videos so inspirational❣️❣️ 😊
I hope it gets better ❤ thank you for the kind words 🙏 sending a big hug
I live in Wisconsin and we are all eager for Spring too. I recently bought paintings of New Mexico and Southern CA (2 places I’ve also lived) to bring some warmth and summer into the house. I love art.
All the different kinds of sewing and decorative arts help me get through the stress of work. I particularly enjoy assembling and dressing, dolls in medieval and renaissance style clothing.
I do feel very fortunate to be able to work from home and not have a commute any longer. Although with work being so easily within reach, it’s easy to work lots of overtime if I chose to. Having still having some sort of minor needlecraft within reach helps me also stay calm within my workday. Think of it like an old fashion fidget toy.
Thank you for the balm of peace that you bring to us each week.... truly a gift! And I gasped with delight when I saw that you have a Sulamith Wulfing print (00:23) on your wall! Well, of course you do... her work is magical. When I was a younger woman, I used to collect postcards that had her paintings printed on the back of them. I love the world she created... and I love the world that you are creating. 💙💜💖
Dearest Paola ❤ How much I love and look forward to your videos each week. To reconnect with your beautiful, kind spirit, hear how you are going, enjoy your incredible artistry of film making and watching the utter cuteness of your fur-babies. Especially the reminder of checking in on ourselves. Our mental health, are we ok? It's such an important task to do, to be kind to ourselves and take the time to heal hurts, really dig deep and ask ourselves are we truly happy and living our best lives. If not, why not? This is something that I have personally been battling with my entire life and I so very much relate my life to Alice In Wonderland, and when you pulled that booked out I just couldn't believe it. I feel as though I am Alice and this world and a lot of the time my brain Wonderland. I am sure a lot of people could relate. I have loved Alice In Wonderland since I was a child, love it even more today. I am sure Bernard would make a fine white rabbit with a pocket coat and watch lol. Not long now sweetheart, the first of those flower shoots will be popping up before you know it 🥰 Take care xo
I love the bunnies! They are so sweet!
Thank you!
Your content makes me feel so happy! This video was also quite the ASMR experience 💗 The calming hand movements alongside your books and crinkles of rolling out the cookies brought so much relaxation and chills! ✨
Yes, it is so beautiful and calming. 😊
Paola your hair is absolutely gorgeous!! All of those beautiful curls ❤ In this world it is so hard to calm anxiety & keep depression at bay. Being in nature or even working with my indoor plants is calming. Also just sitting & petting my kitties listening to them purr helps me. ❤
Yes, Paola, your hair is gorgeous! 😍
oh sitting down to watch your videos with a cup of my favourite- at the moment - blend of rooibos tea , (made by me) in my current favourite tea cup (this one has three legs on it) is the highlight of my week.
Such a calming nourishing delicious pleasure break in my day. Our winter this year has also been so long! Although we only get a few days of snow here and there where I live in the south of England compared to where you live. This last month has been dreary and I'm so winter weary now.
And then your book landed through my letterbox! Wow 🤩 I love it, so simple, peaceful, nourishing, with a sprinkling of magic between the pages. Beautifully written Paulo 💚💗💜
Paola, your videos always bring this calm and peaceful feeling to me, so thank you so much.
Such a lovely vlog .. I have spent the cold winter decluttering my craft space and long forgotten cupboards. I have also been trying to give up unhealthy addictions and I am beginning to feel very much lighter now the Spring is here. Thank you for your inspiring thoguths and your openess x
You look ethereally beautiful in the thumbnail. Your hair looks so pretty. I love the dress
Recently my favorite pass time has been wire wrapping crystals and stones to make jewelry ❤ it’s been a way for me to connect with creativity and destress
I always gleen so much peace and insight from your videos. You are living such a glorious life and I love that you bring us along.
I love the peacefulness your videos bring to my day. I can't get over how cute those bunnies are! I was watching Peter rabbit recently, I didn't realise how violent it was! Nevertheless I really admire Beatrix Potter! Thank you for the update, tips and calm vibes ❤
Watching your videos relaxes me as I too love the nature but must be inside a lot--mother nature teaching us all patience! As a wheelchair user with Ehlers-Danlos, I'm a firm believer in neuroplasticity. ❤
🥰 Thank You !
I am so impatient waiting for the Spring. I’ve been so cold this winter, so much so we are moving back home to California, where weather suits my soul and grandkids await. I praise God for every morning.
Olá aqui do BRASIL, gosto de assistir teus vídeos admirando tuas habilidades "parabéns!"e sim é muito importante ter uma via simples
I have a spiritual mediation practice, 20mins every morning and throughout the day if required. The most beautiful lady Anandi Sano has a TH-cam channel and website which has reduced my anxiety and problems with physical health so much. A beautiful video with your baking and bunnies thank you ❤
Thank you for sharing what works for you
I meditate using the Headspace app because I find the direction really helpful. I've been working on my 1000-piece puzzle and also, like you, impatiently waiting for the weather the warm up a bit so I can start planting seeds and working on my garden for the season.