*Our God indeed is a covenant keeping God. Has he said a thing and not perform it? I watch how things unfold in my life, from penury to $356,000 every three months and I can only praise him and trust him more. Hallelujah 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻*
After I raised up to 525k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸and also paid for my son's surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
I've always wanted to be involved for a long time but the volatility in the price has been very confusing to me. Although I have watched a lot of TH-cam videos about it but I still find it hard to understand.
Hey! I feel compelled to respond to this episode. As a dog owner/parent myself, I would like to say that you can never know what it’s really like to love, nurture and care for a pet unless you have one yourself. It is absolutely not a one-sided relationship. Dogs may not talk to you in words but they 100% know how to communicate with their owners, to love you with their whole being. Yes, they are dependent on you but just like your human children. I can go on and on about the impact that dogs make on people’s lives but I must stop 😊 I wish Zarna and her beautiful family had the opportunity to know what loving a pet is like.
Loving an animal and owning a pet are different you know. In India we have community dogs or village dogs. They visit all homes and everyone loves and feeds them. Our neighborhood dog used to walk me home from bus stop if it was late at night. I would spend hours sunbathing with her in winter. Cried a bucket when a thief poisoned her.
Me too same feeling about the dog. My family and I truly believe I am a better person today because of my 12 year old dog. I had him when he was 3 months and my kids and dog grew up together. The selfless unconditional love he gives my family is priceless. I think we are blessed to have him. Not the other way. We as human need to adopt at least one pet. He is the best thing that happened to us.
Even I am compelled to respond to this video. This video shows how a person who never owned a pet thinks. Please bring in a person who has had pets into this conversation. You will realize that pets need equal amount of work like human children. Also, pets communicate. They tell us if they like what they are eating, if they want to go on walks, if they are angry with you. The only thing dogs can't do is talk.
Not a hater. I do enjoy your podcasts. This is the first time, I’ve felt at odds with some things that have been said. Zarna, you have a legit concern when it comes to being forced to endure someone’s pet and have a right to demand that they keep them away or meet you outside. That is what happens at our home. We are dog lovers and are very clear that our home is our dogs’ home too. It’s their space and they are used to mingling with friends and family. We are not putting them away when someone visits. Having said that, we let people know that and meet them outside if they don’t want to come home or use gates to block the dogs, from reaching the people, if the outside visit cannot happen, and we have to meet at home, for whatever reason. We love our dogs but our friends/family don’t have to. But we’d like them to respect our love for them and not mock it or have unrealistic expectations of us. We take care to protect the dog’s space and the person’s space too. No random jumping on our dogs for cuddles and the dogs won’t jump on anyone, either. Zoya, another legit concern when it comes to having to endure the boyfriend’s dog or having it lick off the plates. I can see why it might bother you. Yes, dogs are high maintenance, especially when they are young or old. They are on auto pilot in between. They are creatures of habit, and as long as their routine is followed, they’re very easy to handle. Yes, you have to spend for the medical visits, but that’s not all the time. And, don’t we do it for humans too? Isn’t a baby and a senior the most high maintenance, wrt time invested in your caring for them and the medical bills? Yes, they need to be walked twice a day, and taken care of, but any relationship requires taking care of. It all depends on what you want to do. If you think the investment is worth it, it won’t seem like a big deal. So many people opt for pets because they don’t want to invest in raising kids. Their personal choice. The wonderful love that dogs give us cannot be described in words. I can’t imagine my home without one or more dogs. They are way nicer than us humans. Animals have a purity that humans do not have. They can’t manipulate the way we do. And if you treat them right, they will treat you right. Which is not always the case with humans. You may argue cases of a dog attacking a human, but it’s almost always the human’s fault that it happened. The dog may be untrained, isolated, untreated, uncared for…n number of reasons. People attack too. Mental health is a serious problem these days. I would trust a strange dog over a strange person any day. This comparison isn’t right. We have a child and have raised 3 dogs. I’ve had kids be complete brats around me, with things like tearing pages of books or smearing cookies on my carpet; even going into my bedroom and breaking a bottle. The parents said nothing and I didn’t want to say anything because they were visiting us. Many such incidents. I’ve yet to encounter a badly behaved dog. That could also be because I understand their body language and respect their space and let them come to me instead of going to them. You must always let dogs come to you. Especially the unknown ones. And, you must not run. They will chase you then. I know. Easier said than done. Kids and dogs can, both, be badly behaved. It’s always the parent/owner’s fault. Zoya, again, you’re right about rescue being better than breeding dogs. There are plenty of dogs to adopt. The reason why many people, probably, don’t do that is because rescues, unless puppies, have had trauma and people don’t want to deal with it. Just like with an adopted child Vs a biological one. Even a puppy can have trauma. One of our rescues was from a shelter that burned down. We got her when she was about 6 weeks old. But she’s scared of loud noises, bright lights, everything. She hides from people. You can’t even cough around her. She’s 8 now. Never outgrew it. Another rescue is a street dog and he’s extremely skittish. A pandemic arrival and so he never got used to people. It took him a couple of months to get used to us, but we gave him that time. Since we are doing the kids vs dogs debate, and you brought up rescues, I’d like to know your thoughts on adoption. There are many kids in the world. Why do people still have multiple biological children? Not a personal attack at all. You guys are great. Just asking if you’ve thought about that. I know it’s a hot topic. Zarna, it’s not a one-sided relationship of an owner-slave. If you love your dog, it will not be scared of you and will take liberties. They will refuse the food you give them. Won’t walk down a path, if they don’t want to. Will stubbornly stand until you go the way they want to. Will sulk if boarded. Many, many instances of them indicating their preferences. You haven’t had a dog, so you don’t know. Shalabh may be able to relate. He is the only one who has had a dog and loved it too. This episode was pretty one-sided and felt biased since, except Shalabh, none of you have had or loved a dog. The rest of your episodes were about your personal experiences and were more relatable. Shalabh, I’d have liked to hear more about how you bonded with your dog. How it interacted with people who visited. What you allowed/didn’t allow, etc. Did you train the dog? You spent very little time, yes, but you did say that you loved it.
As a single mom of an autistic child our dog is our protection. We absolutely love her and she also provides company and comfort for my son. I do keep her away from company if need be. I understand that many people don't particularly want an animal around them . I respect others views as they are entitled to them.
We are more of caretakers/ guardian of pets and though animals are limited in their ability to express themselves they nevertheless communicate their preferences and emotions. My cat will through her body language and behaviors show what food she is into, if she wants to go outside for walks or sunbathe. It's definitely not one sided and it is human's egocentrism, superiority complex, insecurity and weakness that causes them to impose this slave master dynamic with their pet.
I hope the dingo comment was a joke. Dingos are a distinct species in Australia. Street dogs in India are called Pariah or Desi Kutta. They're just a mix of all Indian breeds. They are not nearly as dangerous as you described and they're not a "problem" if they're spayed/neutered and vaccinated and have regular access to food and water. A lot of people go out of their way to feed and care for these street dogs.
But they are not neutered and vaccinated. So many cases of rabies ,that resulted from”dog lovers”petting stray dogs in India not realizing a cut on their hand got contaminated with infected dog saliva. Look up cases in JAMA
Thanks. I felt so bad about how badly she talked about the street dogs. I help an organization that takes care of dogs in the streets of Kolkata, who became orphan during the COVID and are now "street" dogs per the likes of Zarna. They are so sweet and so grateful. Dogs have a way of knowing who is bad. If they go after someone, we should have a good guess about their nature/character.
I hear your point about dogs ("slaves" as you state), being stuck in tiny NYC apartments and you think that's not fair to the dog and hence you don't have a dog but on the flip side apartment vs kill shelter somewhere. I'm pretty sure the dog would rather live waiting for its owner to come home from work, happy to be loved, sleep on a warm bed, have a full belly, go on walks in central park rather than die in a kill shelter. And also what is a Dogs "Natural Habitat"? The streets?
I’m appalled that you would think my relationship with my dog was basically master, servant. That’s shocking. My dog and I were equals and he was my closest deepest kindest family.
Agreed, in that case the relationsip of a baby with his/her parents is that of a slave and master too. Also, dogs compliace and gratitude should not be mistaken as "slavery". There is no slavery in the animal world. Such cruel and insensitive people these are!!!
Although I love love all the podcasts that have been on this channel. 16 mins into the video and I feel a bit disappointed and sad. I feel pets are not compared to masters and slaves. I am a mother to an Infant but before that I was a dog mom. My pet is everything to me and as important as my kid. It has never been a master and slave relationship. The way she has helped me through my toughest times and been with me. I cannot put a price to that while also mentioning that when my kid was born I leaned so much more that just can’t be compared to the former. Also on the point of men helping out, my husband had been great dad to our pup and he is a great dad to our kid as well. He helps so much in the house, kitchen and taking care of the kids. I think there are some serious biased opinions in the video and once you start living with a pet, only then you would know how your life changes for good. Also pets are way less expensive than kids. And Shalabh stole this show!
Very disappointing episode!!! No one thinks about the “cost” of owning a pet - really? How much has it cost to raise your children? Do your children love you unconditionally or do you love your children unconditionally? Rhetorical question.
You shouldn't have touched that subject !!! You know NOTHING about what you get from having a dog!! They are family, NOT A PROPERTY!! Zoya is right adopt don't shop!!! That being said they shouldn't respect your fears!!
I am an Indian living in the US. I grew up hating dogs until my son got one home. I have two shihtzu puppies now and they are like my babies. The relation is NOT one sided at all. They can communicate and tell you what they need and when. They rule us and the house. They have emotions and feelings just like we do. When we leave, we leave them with a trusted house sitter
I enjoy watching these family podcasts. I must say this is my least favorite episode:(. About grades: A grade to Brij for his comment about accepting American culture to his mom. And an F grade to Zarna; nothing personal, Zarna! I’m a pet lover who has a dog and had a cat (I miss her). We consider them part of our family…they are not slaves for sure. Also, I’m Indian!
A to Zarna for addressing the topic which we all non pet people deal with! The grade has to be shared with Zoya for analyzing both sides with lot of wisdom and understanding. I didn’t think I would enjoy it as much as I did- the topic My very best to the Gargs.
Tbh coming from India, I feel Zarna Aunty. I mean my family never owned any pet, in fact as a kid I loved playing with them. But I was once attacked by a dog on the streets while I was just riding my bicycle. Other times dogs would just run after me and I mean even pet animals. This intrigued a sense of fear in my mind.I feel this has something to do with me understanding how they think I am behaving around them. I have a hard time understanding their emotions and behaviour ,cause maybe I can’t relate to how they feel when I’m around or vice-versa.For example, a human kid or a baby will usually cry when they not feel safe around someone. Whereas in case of dogs, especially street dogs, they would run away after chasing you down. And that’s where I feel lack and feel triggered. FYI I was a shy kid,and I never really did anything that would harm them or any pet.
parent and child is not an equal relationship either, especially if your mom is Zarna Garg. A pet makes a family complete, teaches kids responsibility, and bonus stay with you when the kids leave. A dog, unless its trained to be aggressive is pure love, while cats are a little aloof they too just show love.
cats are not aloof, they are just not "dogs". I have three cats and their silent love and funny activities makes our days. I am the crazy cat lady these days, though I do have two boys too.
This is one episode where I am 100% onboard with Zarna! I am allergic to cat dander and as someone who is v anal about avoiding unsanitary conditions (like dog hair in car seats) I always have to politely ask ppl if they have pets. I feel like I am walking on egg shells each time I have had to check which is totally unnecessary. I have the right to protect my health. A++ to Zarna for calling out the unfair std or practice.
Having a dog is a real treasure. I grew up with at least 3 dogs in our house. Though it is master slave relation to start with, they definitely become part of family. I also think people should respect the fear of other people on pets and be accommodative. I also believe children should be blessed to grow up with dogs. It makes them responsible and caring person.
Mom's aren't always the care takers of dogs, there are Dog Dad's who are devoted to their dogs. Thank you Brij for bringing that up. Zarna's clear angst towards pets is very indicative of a lot of Indian peoples opinion and it always comes from ignorance, a lack of first hand experience and/or a traumatic childhood experience with a stray dog in India.
Does not come from ignorance. Just because, disagreed with your view, obviously you are not very empathic with human beings. How you can be a pet lover?
why are you so triggered. This episode mainly pointed out the lack of ability of pet owners to draw boundaries with others about their pet, even with human kids one tends to have more and more boundaries and expected to behave but seems like all the lines go blur when it comes to peta for the pet owners. And to raise a point about it is not vindictive but your entitlement is.
she is from mumbai she grew up around lot of street dogs who turn Rabid with rain and diseases... I myslef have seen a street dog bite a very young child... these dogs are not vaccinated... my father faced dog bites 3 times... with no fault of his own he is a fearless person that I know
i am a 23 y/o and i live in India, i love people who have pets, i like animals but it’s just i’m genuinely afraid of them, i have a fear to pet them or be around them. I’m okay if other people enjoy it or whatsoever but people judge you so quick if you cant pet them or be around them even if it’s a genuine fear. Almost like it’s necessary. I completely agree with y’all. Loved it, thankyou!
I am with Zarna! I actually don’t like to visit people who own pets because I think they start treating their pets like their children, and it’s a hygiene issue for me.
You do realize that unhygienic humans are a greater danger to your health than animals right? There are more transmissible diseases human to human than animal to human.
100% with Zarna. I am not scared of dogs or cats. I truly agree that pet owners take offense if people who are not into pets cause of fear / hygiene issues / just that they are not into pets do NOT love on their pets like they do. Hygiene was ONE big reason I did NOT used to eat food at office pot lucks (pre-covid times as now office pot lucks don’t happen anyways). Not trying to generalize but all the pet owners I have seen let their pets eat from their plates, lick them, drool over them and their hair is flying all over the house and on all surfaces. Being a germophobe, I just can NOT trust the hygiene of the foods they have prepared. NOPE!!! I know that pet owners take offense if you tell them that they are not invited to stay at our house overnight with their pets especially when those pet owners want their pets to sleep on the beds with them in MY house. I really do NOT get that. Why do they want to visit my house and enforce their choice of lifestyle on me who is NOT comfortable with their choice especially NOT being OK with their pets sleeping on bed. I am anyways SUCKING it up to even let their pets stay in MY house even though I am a germophobe but NOT ok with their pets sleeping on our beds. I feel pet owners can be quite ENTITLED. I am sure NOT all are but unfortunately all that I have known are. I am unapologetic about me NOT being OK to share my living space with a four legged animal. Stay with me for what I am sharing below.. I will come to the obsession of pets especially in America and the hypocrisy around it. I became a vegan at age of 14 when I saw animals being sacrificed. I just could NOT put a piece of meat in my mouth after that. Also, I am a germophobe and I was never raised around pets, which are usually dogs or cats. There are these pet owners I know who started calling me “How come you are a vegan and you do NOT love animals”. I listened to that 3-4 times. And then I said to all these meat loving hunters that “I love ANIMALS and that is why I became a vegan. I do NOT pick and choose which animal I will love and which I will eat. At least I am not a hypocrite and I do NOT call you out on that. I respect your choice of lifestyle. So it would be nice if they could respect mine.” Thanks Zarna for bringing up this topic.
You are completely wrong. A pet is like a child. You feed it when you know its hungry, you take it out to do its toilet business when you know they want to do it just like how a baby cries and you just know what it wants. You give them bath, you give them medicines when they are sick, you remove their ticks just like you would remove your kids lice if they ever have them. You take them out on pet friendly vacations. You teach them discipline just like you would your kids. They come and sleep on your lap when they want to be with their mom just like a child, they argue back if they don't want to listen to you just like a child. They are not master servant relationship and they are definitely not one sided either unless you treat them like that. And sorry but unless you have experienced having raised a pet, you cannot throw your one sided judgements. But I totally agree that people should not force others to like their pets.
Thanj you Zarna mamy people think like you, but our voices are not heard. Hate the extremists pet lovers imposed them on people. My friend says, if, you do not like dog hair, well. This is her house. Referring to her dog. So, do not complaint if, they are not visiting you.
A lot of people here mention their love for pets. It’s not about love or hate; it’s about hygiene that I have a problem with. Zoya just mentioned letting her boyfriend’s pet lick the used plate before putting it in the dishwasher-that’s crazy and nauseating.
Unfortunately something I’ve noticed travelling through India over 15 years is the lack of respect of animals except the cow 🐄 which they consider holy! But the cows are quite aggressive in India unlike the stray dogs etc. I’ve been head butted by more cows than attacked by stray cats dogs goats etc in India 🇮🇳 and if you want to really insult an Indian person then call them doggy they just don’t get the western idea that pets are a fur children to lots of westerners 🙏 and to many westerners consider animals better behaved than most people’s children 💕 BTW you can just put a bowl of food out for your mother in law it’s happening in age care facilities every day as we keep humans alive far beyond what nature planned as we are all living so much longer these days .
You do not have a pet or may not be a pet Lover. That is something okay and that is your opinion. But such harsh opinions without experience, so overly negative and judgemental. Gosh.
Actually I did not find anything judgmental in this show. In fact they were discussing about the issues of judgmental pet owners not understanding the genuine fears of others.
This is terribe and offensive session. Pets are like kids AND INSENSITIVE NON-PET OWNING PEOPLE POSSIBLY DONT KNOW THAT. There are kids who are naughty. But you cant ask people to chain their kids. Same way, you cant always chain a pet. But I agree that a pet owner should be cognizant of the phobias of the guests. Also, please dont generalize the trends in India. Me and my husband were brought up in India in 70s and 80s, and I grew up with cats and he had a dog. I think it could be a trend in vegetarian NW of India, but as a Bengali, our culture adores cats and dogs too. I also feel offended that you are making such negative comments regarding helpless creatures like the street dogs in India. I still pay an agency in India who feeds street dogs, some of whom became orphans during COVID. You seem to be unempathetic bunch. And, unbelievable that you said that human and pet relationship is a servant master relationship????👿👿👿👿👿 Have a cat, and you will know who is the master and who is their servant. My Beemi cat came to me when he was 3 weeks old as a rescued kitten and he is my grand baby. My eldest son has one dog and two cats and my youngest a rescued bull dog. THEY ARE LIKE OUR FAMILY. And believe you me, cats are no servants to anybody. They are absolutely like kids. Just like my two sons, my cats Bheempu and Mini think that they are the lord and master of the house and my husband and I are here on earth to serve them, which we do consienceously.
I love animals but I agree with Zarna on this .I can’t impose or force to love my pet as long as that person is not being cruel or pass mean comments when my pet is not disturbing that person .
Service elevators are not meant to be used by the regular occupants of the apartment. They are for movers and delivery. It's for safety purposes that not just anyone can use it. Just saying.
I think the main point is that we shouldn't judge each other or be hard on each other. Some people like to have pets and for some of the others it's not their cup of tea
I don’t have a dog but I would never comment assuming that feeding or caring for a dog is easier than taking care for a kid. Like they say “you never know unless you walk a mile in someone’s shoes”. I would rather value the opinion of someone owns a pet while raising their own kid and have experiences to share since they have seen both!!! That said I do agree fear of pets is valid for some people but that doesn’t mean you could assume caring for pets is easier either.
Dear Zarna, As a pet lover.. I give A grade to your husband, who is the one who had a pet and talked rationally about pet care..as the prime point over the care towards the visitors to homes with pets In India, I grew with a very lively dog, I had a fighter fish I had a pair of budgies.. who also extended to a family of 13..i had a rabbit.. each of my pets taught me many aspects of life.. Esp the life cycle of budgies...yes it's lot of care needed.. and a nice feeling too.. Every visitor.. has been made comfortable with my pets.. Garg family.. in general seems to be a BIG NO to pets as you are apprehensive of them.. Isn't it?
Oh, Zarna. I am happy you posted this, because it's helpful for me to understand a non-pet person's perspective. I will make sure to not even talk about pets to non-pet people in future! However, since you brought it up, I believe you are incorrect that pet owners are masters and that pets are slaves. That has not been my experience at all. Each animal will communicate to their owner (guardian) a very wide array of emotions, preferences, needs, and yes, opinions from the moment one takes the trouble to observe. Yes, pets rely on their guardians completely, and that lack of autonomy makes me sad for pets, but a good owner/guardian will do their very best to meet their pet's physical, emotional, and social needs. It is a relationship based on mutual love and respect. The owner/guardian has the serious responsibility to sympathetically care for, protect, and provide for the pet. And 99.99% of the time, the pet responds with a very generous love. They learn our languages, routines, and rules. They show us tenderness, intelligence, and humor. Many will protect us with their lives. They are not slaves. I am not a master. By the way, most cats are going to make a bee-line for you, because they know you don't like them. Many cats just like to bust your chops, and some may think they can change your mind. Be prepared for a charm offensive. 😉
@@ZarnaGarg I should have been more clear. Because you shared your opinion, I will in future not expose non-pet people to my pets. I will put the pets securely away, and I will not discuss them with a non-pet person. I aleady had the habit of putting pets away when non-pet people come over, but because of your input I now realize discussing pets is not welcome. Have I understood you correctly?
@@ZarnaGarg thank you Zarna for sharing this topic. what I've been thinking but scared to share! also consider that society is displacing emotions onto animals. in reality we need the same compassion and love onto each other especially in the state of affairs today.
I love your podcasts but this one felt almost uncomfortable . I feel you all should stick to talking about what you know which we love . A relationship with an animal is very different from any attachment that we may form with human beings . They do communicate . But anyway , i am love watching you guys but i wish you too can have the privilege of a pet's love someday and may be then you will have a very different discussion.
Thanks for this episode! I am scared of animals especially dogs and get SO much grief for it. My extended family, despite living in huge suburban houses, generally refuse to leave the pet outside or in a room when I go over. Yet, they take offense to me not going over. I am tired of pet-friendly coffee shops and restaurants because it’s more than likely that a pet owner will let the pet run around instead of making sure they do not encroach in others’ space. I am constantly on edge when I’m outside and I literally have to navigate and engineer life outside my home to avoid awkward encounters with pets. I genuinely wish more people would be more understanding of this fear.
Same. I don't know why some pet owners think it is OK to have pets unleased in public places. Don't get me wrong, I love animals but as Zoya said boundaries need to be respected.
THANKS for bringing out the point that owning pets is unethical unless rescued and also that it is not an equal relationship and it’s a master-slave (this coming from a pet loving animal loving person). NOBODY says that out loud
A lot of people here mention their love for pets. It’s not about love or hate; it’s about hygiene that I have a problem with. Zoya just mentioned letting her boyfriend’s pet lick the used plate before putting it in the dishwasher-that’s crazy and nauseating.
Watched four interesting conversations of the Garg family 2 nights in a row! And various shorts & comedic clips! Thoroughly enjoyed those was quickly becoming a fan! But stopped after watching 16 minutes of this episode now as the ignorance and foolishness of blinded assumptions here, especially from Zarna, was really stressing me out! Such narrow-minded archaic mentality! Didn't expect that from her! You can't really know what it's like to have a pet and the close bond you form with them, without actually having a pet (ornamental pets like fish don't count, you don't necessarily form a close bond to such a personal level with them)! Disappointed with such blinded pre-conceived notions and being so judgmental towards them! Not wanting to have a dog or a cat is fine, for trust me, it's a full-time commitment and a responsibility, just like taking care of children is!
Let’s not generalize behavior of Indians with pets. I grew up in India/Punjab and we always had a dog. Most of homes in Punjab have dogs as pets, so let’s not generalize. Zarna’s phobia is relevant, but it is not Indian people specific. I love dogs 🐕 💕💕🙏🙏
Hey Zarna Aunty! Thank you for this episode 💯 As a daughter who bought a dog home against my mom's wish, this episode helps me understand her POV much better, and also as a pet owner who have guests scared of dogs coming home, we can do a lot better in terms of keeping boundaries and respecting their POVs and opinions.
I used to be like Zarna with pets. I was terrified. When I hit rock bottom with mental health, I seemed to naturally become more comfortable around them slowly and now as long as I trust the owner, I will give the animal a chance and to this day I have not regretted it. I even rescued one after witnessing it get run over and also got so close to a dog who actually felt like he was my best friend. I think certain dogs have a positive effect on mental health and now I want my own dog but I know I don’t have the time and energy for one so I just enjoy the ones around me. My mum was also the same as zarna hence why we grew up like that. Now my mum after turning 60 has also become more comfortable around animals. I think it’s taught behaviour which if we want we can relearn that behaviour to allow urself to become comfortable around them. Doesn’t mean u have to let them jump on u or lick u but to be comfortable in a room with them. I still have boundaries, I don’t want them licking themselves then licking my face. I loved this episode. I don’t ever comment but felt I will on this in One due to the total 360 I have experienced. Thank you to ur family for sharing their views and opinions with us. Keep growing and being great. Take care.
With all due to respect, it is heartbreaking to hear you talk negatively about people who have pets, and to hear you say that it is a power dynamic solely. I’ve worked as a psychotherapist for 30 years, and many, many people have their first experiences of selfless love through their relationship with an animal. For many pet owners, it is very much a two-way street, where the human feels honored to be loved by an animal, and the human does everything in their power to understand what will make the animal happiest. Animals are so much more like humans than you could possibly perhaps imagine. I understand that your experience growing up was different from this. I hope that no one watching this podcast feels shamed or belittled or invalidated for loving their animal, and I hope that no one watching this podcast feels that their relationship with their pet is diminished by what Zarna said.
My husband absolutely cringes when any furry animal (especially dog or cat) comes near him! I had to bring excuses such as he’s “allergic” to animals! 😮😅
I am just few minutes into watching the podcast and I have something to say to Zarna. I was as fearful of dogs as you are until 40 years of age. Now two of them sleep with me and are dearer to me more than my children( of which one loves them one hates them.) And honestly it is surprising how they communicate, understand, express love and how understanding they are. In a nutshell just as it needs to become a mother to experience motherhood it needs to become a dog parent to experience and understand that they are better than humans in many ways as companions or as a family member.
I feel exactly the same with babies. I hate when people think that everybody should love babies. Like if you go to a house and there is a baby, everybody expects you to want to hold the baby or kiss the baby. Or even with kids, that they can jump all over the place, and that you cannot tell them anything because they're kids.
This is the first episode I will most probably not watch. I am an immigrant myself and aware of the cultural differences even regarding pets. I am ok with respecting people who do not like dogs and may visit my house but I don’t need to hear more negative things about dog ownership. I realize that Americans have become closer to pets and spending more after the pandemic, even when buying their homes to accommodate for pets. I am ok with that and don’t need to hear more.
I personally prefer that people do not come to my home, I would rather meet them somewhere or at their home which ever is more comfortable for them. My home is my pets home and I am not willing to lock them up or restrict theit movement in their own home. I also don't get why Americans crate (jail) their dogs, then complain about animals being kept in Zoos, they are literally doing the same thing in their homes.
Dear Zarna, I see how hard you work and how strong you are, but I also notice that you seem to struggle with many insecurities and fears, like roller coasters, bikes, sports, and animals. It seems like these fears might stem from a fear of the unknown and uncertainty. I want you to know that it's okay to feel this way, and it doesn't make you any less strong. Sometimes, relaxing a little and seeking professional help can make a significant difference. I truly believe it could help you in many ways. I watch you every time and can relate to where you're coming from. Trust me, I am very much your well-wisher. Please don't let your insecurities hinder your overall growth or that of your kids. I know how much your kids mean to you, and as a mom, you can make positive changes for them, even if you find it hard to do it for yourself.
In one of my teaching years I came across a girl in high school who was marginalized! One day she told me: “I wish I were a dog in these rich families”! It broke my heart that we care more for animals than human beings! 😮😢
I was scared of animals till we got our pet . Now he is my buddy . You need to have a pet to feel the love between the pet and the human . There souls are pure and teach you so much ! They are better companions than actual human beings sometimes. 🙏
You're just scared of animals, accept that, Zarna. Street dogs in India are NOT Dingoes, they are beautiful amazing creatures. I totally understand yr fear as growing up we were all scared of dogs and cats, but as we grow, we evolve and learn that they aren't scary monsters but just a living creature that has feelings and deserves it space in the world
I 100% agree with you Zarna. our society is displacing emotions onto animals, because in reality we need to give one another the same compassion and love which we are not doing in the state of affairs today. sad. I would love to discuss this with you more, as I am passionate about this
No one wants to evaluate pets and children on the same level but I’m all for it! I avoid my friend’s and family’s homes if they have children. I find children annoying little bacteria carrying germ spreaders. Most of the child parents I know don’t teach their children manners but have very well behaved pets. I’ve never been biologically drawn to children, I see them as big naked slugs. But you show me a baby horse, puppy, goatie, etc, and I’m a big ooooing and aaahhing mess of a human mom. I have no patience for humans but you give me a donkey with a mind of its own, I don’t care how long or hard the effort is, I’m part of the equation until a solution is found. Some people are animal people and some people are people people. I happen to prefer the company of my barn full of animals and if they cover me in fur, that’s MUCH better than being covered in baby puke.
We had a dog that hated my brother in laws sister. She wanted a chunk out of her all the time. She was a sweet person to this day but my dog didn’t think so. I wish she wanted a chunk out of my brother in law. He is an AH.
Seconding shreychakra3446, in India I also think locality dogs which have grown up in a certain locality, do the work of policemen when barking at strangers or barking at any sound made in the night. The localites are alerted. In return I've seen children and adults pelt stones at local dogs and run bikes on them. Also an animal has its own character like any other creature the moment they are born.
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Hey! I feel compelled to respond to this episode. As a dog owner/parent myself, I would like to say that you can never know what it’s really like to love, nurture and care for a pet unless you have one yourself. It is absolutely not a one-sided relationship. Dogs may not talk to you in words but they 100% know how to communicate with their owners, to love you with their whole being. Yes, they are dependent on you but just like your human children. I can go on and on about the impact that dogs make on people’s lives but I must stop 😊 I wish Zarna and her beautiful family had the opportunity to know what loving a pet is like.
Loving an animal and owning a pet are different you know. In India we have community dogs or village dogs. They visit all homes and everyone loves and feeds them. Our neighborhood dog used to walk me home from bus stop if it was late at night. I would spend hours sunbathing with her in winter. Cried a bucket when a thief poisoned her.
Me too same feeling about the dog. My family and I truly believe I am a better person today because of my 12 year old dog. I had him when he was 3 months and my kids and dog grew up together. The selfless unconditional love he gives my family is priceless. I think we are blessed to have him. Not the other way. We as human need to adopt at least one pet. He is the best thing that happened to us.
@@sindhuprabhu8749 you need to. Not everybody. Thats insane that you think every human needs to share space and own an animal.
cant agree more, so very well said....almost want to s=unsubscribe now, for narro wmindednes i feel...a human/pet parent here too..
Even I am compelled to respond to this video. This video shows how a person who never owned a pet thinks. Please bring in a person who has had pets into this conversation. You will realize that pets need equal amount of work like human children. Also, pets communicate. They tell us if they like what they are eating, if they want to go on walks, if they are angry with you. The only thing dogs can't do is talk.
Not a hater. I do enjoy your podcasts. This is the first time, I’ve felt at odds with some things that have been said.
Zarna, you have a legit concern when it comes to being forced to endure someone’s pet and have a right to demand that they keep them away or meet you outside. That is what happens at our home. We are dog lovers and are very clear that our home is our dogs’ home too. It’s their space and they are used to mingling with friends and family. We are not putting them away when someone visits. Having said that, we let people know that and meet them outside if they don’t want to come home or use gates to block the dogs, from reaching the people, if the outside visit cannot happen, and we have to meet at home, for whatever reason. We love our dogs but our friends/family don’t have to. But we’d like them to respect our love for them and not mock it or have unrealistic expectations of us. We take care to protect the dog’s space and the person’s space too. No random jumping on our dogs for cuddles and the dogs won’t jump on anyone, either.
Zoya, another legit concern when it comes to having to endure the boyfriend’s dog or having it lick off the plates. I can see why it might bother you.
Yes, dogs are high maintenance, especially when they are young or old. They are on auto pilot in between. They are creatures of habit, and as long as their routine is followed, they’re very easy to handle. Yes, you have to spend for the medical visits, but that’s not all the time. And, don’t we do it for humans too? Isn’t a baby and a senior the most high maintenance, wrt time invested in your caring for them and the medical bills?
Yes, they need to be walked twice a day, and taken care of, but any relationship requires taking care of. It all depends on what you want to do. If you think the investment is worth it, it won’t seem like a big deal. So many people opt for pets because they don’t want to invest in raising kids. Their personal choice.
The wonderful love that dogs give us cannot be described in words. I can’t imagine my home without one or more dogs. They are way nicer than us humans. Animals have a purity that humans do not have. They can’t manipulate the way we do. And if you treat them right, they will treat you right. Which is not always the case with humans. You may argue cases of a dog attacking a human, but it’s almost always the human’s fault that it happened. The dog may be untrained, isolated, untreated, uncared for…n number of reasons. People attack too. Mental health is a serious problem these days. I would trust a strange dog over a strange person any day.
This comparison isn’t right. We have a child and have raised 3 dogs. I’ve had kids be complete brats around me, with things like tearing pages of books or smearing cookies on my carpet; even going into my bedroom and breaking a bottle. The parents said nothing and I didn’t want to say anything because they were visiting us. Many such incidents. I’ve yet to encounter a badly behaved dog. That could also be because I understand their body language and respect their space and let them come to me instead of going to them. You must always let dogs come to you. Especially the unknown ones. And, you must not run. They will chase you then. I know. Easier said than done. Kids and dogs can, both, be badly behaved. It’s always the parent/owner’s fault.
Zoya, again, you’re right about rescue being better than breeding dogs. There are plenty of dogs to adopt. The reason why many people, probably, don’t do that is because rescues, unless puppies, have had trauma and people don’t want to deal with it. Just like with an adopted child Vs a biological one. Even a puppy can have trauma. One of our rescues was from a shelter that burned down. We got her when she was about 6 weeks old. But she’s scared of loud noises, bright lights, everything. She hides from people. You can’t even cough around her. She’s 8 now. Never outgrew it. Another rescue is a street dog and he’s extremely skittish. A pandemic arrival and so he never got used to people. It took him a couple of months to get used to us, but we gave him that time.
Since we are doing the kids vs dogs debate, and you brought up rescues, I’d like to know your thoughts on adoption. There are many kids in the world. Why do people still have multiple biological children? Not a personal attack at all. You guys are great. Just asking if you’ve thought about that. I know it’s a hot topic.
Zarna, it’s not a one-sided relationship of an owner-slave. If you love your dog, it will not be scared of you and will take liberties. They will refuse the food you give them. Won’t walk down a path, if they don’t want to. Will stubbornly stand until you go the way they want to. Will sulk if boarded. Many, many instances of them indicating their preferences. You haven’t had a dog, so you don’t know. Shalabh may be able to relate. He is the only one who has had a dog and loved it too.
This episode was pretty one-sided and felt biased since, except Shalabh, none of you have had or loved a dog. The rest of your episodes were about your personal experiences and were more relatable.
Shalabh, I’d have liked to hear more about how you bonded with your dog. How it interacted with people who visited. What you allowed/didn’t allow, etc. Did you train the dog? You spent very little time, yes, but you did say that you loved it.
Well spoken! I agree with everything you said.
Very well said 🥰
@@Sorawld Thank you! Glad you feel the same.
@@venydre Thank you! Glad you feel the same.
Not a pet lover, but loved your comments!
As a single mom of an autistic child our dog is our protection. We absolutely love her and she also provides company and comfort for my son. I do keep her away from company if need be. I understand that many people don't particularly want an animal around them . I respect others views as they are entitled to them.
that's a very healthy thing to do.
@@sadiaali9856 , but I think these people are really unempathetic and uninformed.
We are more of caretakers/ guardian of pets and though animals are limited in their ability to express themselves they nevertheless communicate their preferences and emotions. My cat will through her body language and behaviors show what food she is into, if she wants to go outside for walks or sunbathe. It's definitely not one sided and it is human's egocentrism, superiority complex, insecurity and weakness that causes them to impose this slave master dynamic with their pet.
I hope the dingo comment was a joke. Dingos are a distinct species in Australia. Street dogs in India are called Pariah or Desi Kutta. They're just a mix of all Indian breeds. They are not nearly as dangerous as you described and they're not a "problem" if they're spayed/neutered and vaccinated and have regular access to food and water. A lot of people go out of their way to feed and care for these street dogs.
But they are not neutered and vaccinated. So many cases of rabies ,that resulted from”dog lovers”petting stray dogs in India not realizing a cut on their hand got contaminated with infected dog saliva. Look up cases in JAMA
Thanks. I felt so bad about how badly she talked about the street dogs. I help an organization that takes care of dogs in the streets of Kolkata, who became orphan during the COVID and are now "street" dogs per the likes of Zarna. They are so sweet and so grateful. Dogs have a way of knowing who is bad. If they go after someone, we should have a good guess about their nature/character.
I hear your point about dogs ("slaves" as you state), being stuck in tiny NYC apartments and you think that's not fair to the dog and hence you don't have a dog but on the flip side apartment vs kill shelter somewhere. I'm pretty sure the dog would rather live waiting for its owner to come home from work, happy to be loved, sleep on a warm bed, have a full belly, go on walks in central park rather than die in a kill shelter.
And also what is a Dogs "Natural Habitat"? The streets?
My mom was exactly like Zarna. Until we got a dog and she is completely on the otherside.
Exactly.. same with my mom. She hated dogs but then when we got one she completely changed and raised the dog as if it's her youngest child.
I’m appalled that you would think my relationship with my dog was basically master, servant. That’s shocking. My dog and I were equals and he was my closest deepest kindest family.
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Agreed, in that case the relationsip of a baby with his/her parents is that of a slave and master too. Also, dogs compliace and gratitude should not be mistaken as "slavery". There is no slavery in the animal world. Such cruel and insensitive people these are!!!
I have never referred to myself as an owner of a dog. Saying owner to me shocking and appalling. I’m my dog’s family.
Exactly, they are family!
I love this family and podcast
But, Don't make hard on comments on India because you guys left when you've 20 so it's been a long time... So...
Although I love love all the podcasts that have been on this channel. 16 mins into the video and I feel a bit disappointed and sad. I feel pets are not compared to masters and slaves. I am a mother to an Infant but before that I was a dog mom. My pet is everything to me and as important as my kid. It has never been a master and slave relationship. The way she has helped me through my toughest times and been with me. I cannot put a price to that while also mentioning that when my kid was born I leaned so much more that just can’t be compared to the former. Also on the point of men helping out, my husband had been great dad to our pup and he is a great dad to our kid as well. He helps so much in the house, kitchen and taking care of the kids. I think there are some serious biased opinions in the video and once you start living with a pet, only then you would know how your life changes for good. Also pets are way less expensive than kids.
And Shalabh stole this show!
Very disappointing episode!!! No one thinks about the “cost” of owning a pet - really? How much has it cost to raise your children? Do your children love you unconditionally or do you love your children unconditionally? Rhetorical question.
I don’t think comparing pets and babies is fair. For starters, people never “put down” sick babies.
You shouldn't have touched that subject !!! You know NOTHING about what you get from having a dog!! They are family, NOT A PROPERTY!! Zoya is right adopt don't shop!!! That being said they shouldn't respect your fears!!
I am an Indian living in the US. I grew up hating dogs until my son got one home. I have two shihtzu puppies now and they are like my babies. The relation is NOT one sided at all. They can communicate and tell you what they need and when. They rule us and the house. They have emotions and feelings just like we do. When we leave, we leave them with a trusted house sitter
My dog is my family. She is my baby. I found your views extremely strong. Didn't like your podcast for the first time.
I enjoy watching these family podcasts. I must say this is my least favorite episode:(. About grades: A grade to Brij for his comment about accepting American culture to his mom. And an F grade to Zarna; nothing personal, Zarna! I’m a pet lover who has a dog and had a cat (I miss her). We consider them part of our family…they are not slaves for sure. Also, I’m Indian!
A to Zarna for addressing the topic which we all non pet people deal with! The grade has to be shared with Zoya for analyzing both sides with lot of wisdom and understanding.
I didn’t think I would enjoy it as much as I did- the topic
My very best to the Gargs.
How do you deal with other pets? Their pet is in their homes and not in your space.. I just don’t understand lol
Tbh coming from India, I feel Zarna Aunty. I mean my family never owned any pet, in fact as a kid I loved playing with them. But I was once attacked by a dog on the streets while I was just riding my bicycle. Other times dogs would just run after me and I mean even pet animals. This intrigued a sense of fear in my mind.I feel this has something to do with me understanding how they think I am behaving around them. I have a hard time understanding their emotions and behaviour ,cause maybe I can’t relate to how they feel when I’m around or vice-versa.For example, a human kid or a baby will usually cry when they not feel safe around someone. Whereas in case of dogs, especially street dogs, they would run away after chasing you down. And that’s where I feel lack and feel triggered.
FYI I was a shy kid,and I never really did anything that would harm them or any pet.
parent and child is not an equal relationship either, especially if your mom is Zarna Garg. A pet makes a family complete, teaches kids responsibility, and bonus stay with you when the kids leave. A dog, unless its trained to be aggressive is pure love, while cats are a little aloof they too just show love.
cats are not aloof, they are just not "dogs". I have three cats and their silent love and funny activities makes our days. I am the crazy cat lady these days, though I do have two boys too.
Humans practice transactional love versus pets practice unconditional love …
Exactly!
This is one episode where I am 100% onboard with Zarna! I am allergic to cat dander and as someone who is v anal about avoiding unsanitary conditions (like dog hair in car seats) I always have to politely ask ppl if they have pets. I feel like I am walking on egg shells each time I have had to check which is totally unnecessary. I have the right to protect my health. A++ to Zarna for calling out the unfair std or practice.
Totally agree with Zoya - adopting is the ONLY way to go. Breeders and their customers need to do some deep soul searching within themselves.
Sending old parents to nursing homes and taking better care of dogs,than our own parents ….something very wrong with our society
Having a dog is a real treasure. I grew up with at least 3 dogs in our house. Though it is master slave relation to start with, they definitely become part of family.
I also think people should respect the fear of other people on pets and be accommodative.
I also believe children should be blessed to grow up with dogs. It makes them responsible and caring person.
I have three cats, and you should come to see who is the master and who is the servant.
I appreciate that you took the initiative to publicly speak about a very contentious and controversial topic
Pet have feelings. They are better than the cunning humans.
Mom's aren't always the care takers of dogs, there are Dog Dad's who are devoted to their dogs. Thank you Brij for bringing that up. Zarna's clear angst towards pets is very indicative of a lot of Indian peoples opinion and it always comes from ignorance, a lack of first hand experience and/or a traumatic childhood experience with a stray dog in India.
Does not come from ignorance. Just because, disagreed with your view, obviously you are not very empathic with human beings. How you can be a pet lover?
why are you so triggered. This episode mainly pointed out the lack of ability of pet owners to draw boundaries with others about their pet, even with human kids one tends to have more and more boundaries and expected to behave but seems like all the lines go blur when it comes to peta for the pet owners. And to raise a point about it is not vindictive but your entitlement is.
she is from mumbai she grew up around lot of street dogs who turn Rabid with rain and diseases... I myslef have seen a street dog bite a very young child... these dogs are not vaccinated... my father faced dog bites 3 times... with no fault of his own he is a fearless person that I know
i am a 23 y/o and i live in India, i love people who have pets, i like animals but it’s just i’m genuinely afraid of them, i have a fear to pet them or be around them. I’m okay if other people enjoy it or whatsoever but people judge you so quick if you cant pet them or be around them even if it’s a genuine fear. Almost like it’s necessary.
I completely agree with y’all.
Loved it, thankyou!
I am with Zarna! I actually don’t like to visit people who own pets because I think they start treating their pets like their children, and it’s a hygiene issue for me.
You do realize that unhygienic humans are a greater danger to your health than animals right? There are more transmissible diseases human to human than animal to human.
100% with Zarna. I am not scared of dogs or cats. I truly agree that pet owners take offense if people who are not into pets cause of fear / hygiene issues / just that they are not into pets do NOT love on their pets like they do.
Hygiene was ONE big reason I did NOT used to eat food at office pot lucks (pre-covid times as now office pot lucks don’t happen anyways). Not trying to generalize but all the pet owners I have seen let their pets eat from their plates, lick them, drool over them and their hair is flying all over the house and on all surfaces. Being a germophobe, I just can NOT trust the hygiene of the foods they have prepared. NOPE!!!
I know that pet owners take offense if you tell them that they are not invited to stay at our house overnight with their pets especially when those pet owners want their pets to sleep on the beds with them in MY house. I really do NOT get that. Why do they want to visit my house and enforce their choice of lifestyle on me who is NOT comfortable with their choice especially NOT being OK with their pets sleeping on bed. I am anyways SUCKING it up to even let their pets stay in MY house even though I am a germophobe but NOT ok with their pets sleeping on our beds. I feel pet owners can be quite ENTITLED. I am sure NOT all are but unfortunately all that I have known are.
I am unapologetic about me NOT being OK to share my living space with a four legged animal.
Stay with me for what I am sharing below.. I will come to the obsession of pets especially in America and the hypocrisy around it.
I became a vegan at age of 14 when I saw animals being sacrificed. I just could NOT put a piece of meat in my mouth after that. Also, I am a germophobe and I was never raised around pets, which are usually dogs or cats. There are these pet owners I know who started calling me “How come you are a vegan and you do NOT love animals”. I listened to that 3-4 times. And then I said to all these meat loving hunters that “I love ANIMALS and that is why I became a vegan. I do NOT pick and choose which animal I will love and which I will eat. At least I am not a hypocrite and I do NOT call you out on that. I respect your choice of lifestyle. So it would be nice if they could respect mine.”
Thanks Zarna for bringing up this topic.
How would you feel if anybody comes and kicks your child (somebody tried that with my cat) or asks you to lock them up?
You are completely wrong. A pet is like a child. You feed it when you know its hungry, you take it out to do its toilet business when you know they want to do it just like how a baby cries and you just know what it wants. You give them bath, you give them medicines when they are sick, you remove their ticks just like you would remove your kids lice if they ever have them. You take them out on pet friendly vacations. You teach them discipline just like you would your kids. They come and sleep on your lap when they want to be with their mom just like a child, they argue back if they don't want to listen to you just like a child. They are not master servant relationship and they are definitely not one sided either unless you treat them like that. And sorry but unless you have experienced having raised a pet, you cannot throw your one sided judgements. But I totally agree that people should not force others to like their pets.
First time I disagree with Zarna - however, it’s an opinion she shares as I have done here
Thanj you Zarna mamy people think like you, but our voices are not heard. Hate the extremists pet lovers imposed them on people. My friend says, if, you do not like dog hair, well. This is her house. Referring to her dog. So, do not complaint if, they are not visiting you.
I am with Zarna. Thank you for being honest about this conversation.
A lot of people here mention their love for pets. It’s not about love or hate; it’s about hygiene that I have a problem with. Zoya just mentioned letting her boyfriend’s pet lick the used plate before putting it in the dishwasher-that’s crazy and nauseating.
I can't agree more. Zarna you just put it out there. Thank you so much for this episode.
15:26 The "man" in "a man's best friend" refers to the all-inclusive mankind.
Zarna is right & she will get A grade!
Unfortunately something I’ve noticed travelling through India over 15 years is the lack of respect of animals except the cow 🐄 which they consider holy! But the cows are quite aggressive in India unlike the stray dogs etc. I’ve been head butted by more cows than attacked by stray cats dogs goats etc in India 🇮🇳 and if you want to really insult an Indian person then call them doggy they just don’t get the western idea that pets are a fur children to lots of westerners 🙏 and to many westerners consider animals better behaved than most people’s children 💕 BTW you can just put a bowl of food out for your mother in law it’s happening in age care facilities every day as we keep humans alive far beyond what nature planned as we are all living so much longer these days .
You do not have a pet or may not be a pet Lover. That is something okay and that is your opinion.
But such harsh opinions without experience, so overly negative and judgemental. Gosh.
Actually I did not find anything judgmental in this show. In fact they were discussing about the issues of judgmental pet owners not understanding the genuine fears of others.
This is terribe and offensive session. Pets are like kids AND INSENSITIVE NON-PET OWNING PEOPLE POSSIBLY DONT KNOW THAT. There are kids who are naughty. But you cant ask people to chain their kids. Same way, you cant always chain a pet. But I agree that a pet owner should be cognizant of the phobias of the guests. Also, please dont generalize the trends in India. Me and my husband were brought up in India in 70s and 80s, and I grew up with cats and he had a dog. I think it could be a trend in vegetarian NW of India, but as a Bengali, our culture adores cats and dogs too. I also feel offended that you are making such negative comments regarding helpless creatures like the street dogs in India. I still pay an agency in India who feeds street dogs, some of whom became orphans during COVID. You seem to be unempathetic bunch. And, unbelievable that you said that human and pet relationship is a servant master relationship????👿👿👿👿👿 Have a cat, and you will know who is the master and who is their servant. My Beemi cat came to me when he was 3 weeks old as a rescued kitten and he is my grand baby. My eldest son has one dog and two cats and my youngest a rescued bull dog. THEY ARE LIKE OUR FAMILY. And believe you me, cats are no servants to anybody. They are absolutely like kids. Just like my two sons, my cats Bheempu and Mini think that they are the lord and master of the house and my husband and I are here on earth to serve them, which we do consienceously.
A grade goes to Zarna!!!
I love animals but I agree with Zarna on this .I can’t impose or force to love my pet as long as that person is not being cruel or pass mean comments when my pet is not disturbing that person .
I love animals too, maybe too much - which is why I don’t agree that they should be bred and owned.
Service elevators are not meant to be used by the regular occupants of the apartment. They are for movers and delivery. It's for safety purposes that not just anyone can use it. Just saying.
I think the main point is that we shouldn't judge each other or be hard on each other. Some people like to have pets and for some of the others it's not their cup of tea
Yes, but when one is uninformed but gives sermons on pet owners and pets (master servent), it is offensive
Difference between kids n animals is that kids won't give you rabies.
I don‘t like living with animals. I am like Zama.
I don’t have a dog but I would never comment assuming that feeding or caring for a dog is easier than taking care for a kid. Like they say “you never know unless you walk a mile in someone’s shoes”. I would rather value the opinion of someone owns a pet while raising their own kid and have experiences to share since they have seen both!!! That said I do agree fear of pets is valid for some people but that doesn’t mean you could assume caring for pets is easier either.
Dear Zarna, As a pet
lover.. I give A grade to your husband, who is the one who had a pet and talked rationally about pet care..as the prime point over the care towards the visitors to homes with pets In India, I grew with a very lively dog, I had a fighter fish I had a pair of budgies.. who also extended to a family of 13..i had a rabbit.. each of my pets taught me many aspects of life.. Esp the life cycle of budgies...yes it's lot of care needed.. and a nice feeling too.. Every visitor.. has been made comfortable with my pets.. Garg family.. in general seems to be a BIG NO to pets as you are apprehensive of them.. Isn't it?
Oh, Zarna. I am happy you posted this, because it's helpful for me to understand a non-pet person's perspective. I will make sure to not even talk about pets to non-pet people in future!
However, since you brought it up, I believe you are incorrect that pet owners are masters and that pets are slaves. That has not been my experience at all.
Each animal will communicate to their owner (guardian) a very wide array of emotions, preferences, needs, and yes, opinions from the moment one takes the trouble to observe. Yes, pets rely on their guardians completely, and that lack of autonomy makes me sad for pets, but a good owner/guardian will do their very best to meet their pet's physical, emotional, and social needs. It is a relationship based on mutual love and respect. The owner/guardian has the serious responsibility to sympathetically care for, protect, and provide for the pet.
And 99.99% of the time, the pet responds with a very generous love. They learn our languages, routines, and rules. They show us tenderness, intelligence, and humor. Many will protect us with their lives.
They are not slaves. I am not a master.
By the way, most cats are going to make a bee-line for you, because they know you don't like them. Many cats just like to bust your chops, and some may think they can change your mind. Be prepared for a charm offensive. 😉
honestly thats not what I mean - some people may love your pets, but if they don't or express a hesitation, maybe time to reconsider?
@@ZarnaGarg I should have been more clear. Because you shared your opinion, I will in future not expose non-pet people to my pets. I will put the pets securely away, and I will not discuss them with a non-pet person. I aleady had the habit of putting pets away when non-pet people come over, but because of your input I now realize discussing pets is not welcome. Have I understood you correctly?
@@ZarnaGarg thank you Zarna for sharing this topic. what I've been thinking but scared to share! also consider that society is displacing emotions onto animals. in reality we need the same compassion and love onto each other especially in the state of affairs today.
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I love your podcasts but this one felt almost uncomfortable . I feel you all should stick to talking about what you know which we love . A relationship with an animal is very different from any attachment that we may form with human beings . They do communicate . But anyway , i am love watching you guys but i wish you too can have the privilege of a pet's love someday and may be then you will have a very different discussion.
Why don’t families adopt kids similar to rescuing pets?
This one was a little too negative on the pets topic in the podcast and comments
Thanks for this episode! I am scared of animals especially dogs and get SO much grief for it. My extended family, despite living in huge suburban houses, generally refuse to leave the pet outside or in a room when I go over. Yet, they take offense to me not going over. I am tired of pet-friendly coffee shops and restaurants because it’s more than likely that a pet owner will let the pet run around instead of making sure they do not encroach in others’ space. I am constantly on edge when I’m outside and I literally have to navigate and engineer life outside my home to avoid awkward encounters with pets. I genuinely wish more people would be more understanding of this fear.
Same. I don't know why some pet owners think it is OK to have pets unleased in public places. Don't get me wrong, I love animals but as Zoya said boundaries need to be respected.
THANKS for bringing out the point that owning pets is unethical unless rescued and also that it is not an equal relationship and it’s a master-slave (this coming from a pet loving animal loving person). NOBODY says that out loud
A lot of people here mention their love for pets. It’s not about love or hate; it’s about hygiene that I have a problem with. Zoya just mentioned letting her boyfriend’s pet lick the used plate before putting it in the dishwasher-that’s crazy and nauseating.
I am a huge Garg family fan. But this podcast disappointed me in various different ways. Literally, the only podcast I did not watch end 2 end.
Watched four interesting conversations of the Garg family 2 nights in a row! And various shorts & comedic clips! Thoroughly enjoyed those was quickly becoming a fan! But stopped after watching 16 minutes of this episode now as the ignorance and foolishness of blinded assumptions here, especially from Zarna, was really stressing me out! Such narrow-minded archaic mentality! Didn't expect that from her! You can't really know what it's like to have a pet and the close bond you form with them, without actually having a pet (ornamental pets like fish don't count, you don't necessarily form a close bond to such a personal level with them)! Disappointed with such blinded pre-conceived notions and being so judgmental towards them! Not wanting to have a dog or a cat is fine, for trust me, it's a full-time commitment and a responsibility, just like taking care of children is!
Let’s not generalize behavior of Indians with pets. I grew up in India/Punjab and we always had a dog. Most of homes in Punjab have dogs as pets, so let’s not generalize. Zarna’s phobia is relevant, but it is not Indian people specific. I love dogs 🐕 💕💕🙏🙏
I hope you can all experience the joy you can give to a pet and a pet can give to you.
Hey Zarna Aunty!
Thank you for this episode 💯
As a daughter who bought a dog home against my mom's wish, this episode helps me understand her POV much better, and also as a pet owner who have guests scared of dogs coming home, we can do a lot better in terms of keeping boundaries and respecting their POVs and opinions.
I used to be like Zarna with pets. I was terrified. When I hit rock bottom with mental health, I seemed to naturally become more comfortable around them slowly and now as long as I trust the owner, I will give the animal a chance and to this day I have not regretted it. I even rescued one after witnessing it get run over and also got so close to a dog who actually felt like he was my best friend. I think certain dogs have a positive effect on mental health and now I want my own dog but I know I don’t have the time and energy for one so I just enjoy the ones around me.
My mum was also the same as zarna hence why we grew up like that. Now my mum after turning 60 has also become more comfortable around animals. I think it’s taught behaviour which if we want we can relearn that behaviour to allow urself to become comfortable around them. Doesn’t mean u have to let them jump on u or lick u but to be comfortable in a room with them. I still have boundaries, I don’t want them licking themselves then licking my face.
I loved this episode. I don’t ever comment but felt I will on this in
One due to the total 360 I have experienced. Thank you to ur family for sharing their views and opinions with us. Keep growing and being great. Take care.
With all due to respect, it is heartbreaking to hear you talk negatively about people who have pets, and to hear you say that it is a power dynamic solely. I’ve worked as a psychotherapist for 30 years, and many, many people have their first experiences of selfless love through their relationship with an animal. For many pet owners, it is very much a two-way street, where the human feels honored to be loved by an animal, and the human does everything in their power to understand what will make the animal happiest. Animals are so much more like humans than you could possibly perhaps imagine. I understand that your experience growing up was different from this. I hope that no one watching this podcast feels shamed or belittled or invalidated for loving their animal, and I hope that no one watching this podcast feels that their relationship with their pet is diminished by what Zarna said.
Let people be..there are people who can’t have pets around…respect that…if you are pet lover enjoy your pet.Nobodyneeds to be sanctimonious about it.
My husband absolutely cringes when any furry animal (especially dog or cat) comes near him! I had to bring excuses such as he’s “allergic” to animals! 😮😅
I agree with Shalabh about a dog being kept in an apartment which is against the nature and freedom of the dog.
I am just few minutes into watching the podcast and I have something to say to Zarna. I was as fearful of dogs as you are until 40 years of age. Now two of them sleep with me and are dearer to me more than my children( of which one loves them one hates them.) And honestly it is surprising how they communicate, understand, express love and how understanding they are. In a nutshell just as it needs to become a mother to experience motherhood it needs to become a dog parent to experience and understand that they are better than humans in many ways as companions or as a family member.
AAA+ Shalabh AAA+ love your family. From London, Ontario Canada
I feel exactly the same with babies. I hate when people think that everybody should love babies. Like if you go to a house and there is a baby, everybody expects you to want to hold the baby or kiss the baby. Or even with kids, that they can jump all over the place, and that you cannot tell them anything because they're kids.
Great observation by daughter! Moms end up taking care! Also kids first exposure to grief when a pet dies!!
This is the first episode I will most probably not watch. I am an immigrant myself and aware of the cultural differences even regarding pets. I am ok with respecting people who do not like dogs and may visit my house but I don’t need to hear more negative things about dog ownership. I realize that Americans have become closer to pets and spending more after the pandemic, even when buying their homes to accommodate for pets. I am ok with that and don’t need to hear more.
Somehow I couldn't continue to watch this episode.
Lack of compassion with the other forms of lives we share the planet.
It hurts.
I personally prefer that people do not come to my home, I would rather meet them somewhere or at their home which ever is more comfortable for them. My home is my pets home and I am not willing to lock them up or restrict theit movement in their own home. I also don't get why Americans crate (jail) their dogs, then complain about animals being kept in Zoos, they are literally doing the same thing in their homes.
Your first podcast that I could not sit through!! Sad.
Dear Zarna,
I see how hard you work and how strong you are, but I also notice that you seem to struggle with many insecurities and fears, like roller coasters, bikes, sports, and animals. It seems like these fears might stem from a fear of the unknown and uncertainty.
I want you to know that it's okay to feel this way, and it doesn't make you any less strong. Sometimes, relaxing a little and seeking professional help can make a significant difference. I truly believe it could help you in many ways. I watch you every time and can relate to where you're coming from. Trust me, I am very much your well-wisher. Please don't let your insecurities hinder your overall growth or that of your kids. I know how much your kids mean to you, and as a mom, you can make positive changes for them, even if you find it hard to do it for yourself.
Said all of the above till I got a dog myself. They are the most incredible animals.
In one of my teaching years I came across a girl in high school who was marginalized! One day she told me: “I wish I were a dog in these rich families”! It broke my heart that we care more for animals than human beings! 😮😢
I was devastated when my pet died, it was like loosing a close member of my family. But I am scared of the barky ones.
I feel for Zarna who raised 3 kids…. it’s hard enough… but if you had 2…. not having a pet is kinda sad….We rescued our cat… he is awesome !!!
One of my friends who has a dog celebrates the dog's birthday by inviting other dog owners to celebrate with their dogs
I think you need to have a pet and experience it before you can understand fully the joy of having a pet.
Pets are a part of family. But handling your pets as if they are your kids or calling your pets your kids is weird for sure.
They are better than kids. You’re right.
@@mayurid3 Yet people put down pets when they’re sick. They’d never do that to their kids.
Street dogs in India are and could be best breed one can have! Stop being dillusional.
I think I no longer like Zarna
Very nice episode
I was scared of animals till we got our pet .
Now he is my buddy .
You need to have a pet to feel the love between the pet and the human .
There souls are pure and teach you so much !
They are better companions than actual human beings sometimes. 🙏
Ditto. Same story here.
Bringing home our puppy was the best decision we made for our family. The joy he brings to our lives is indescribable.
Zarna .. mam... U read my mind ... I absolutely agree with u.
A dog, man's best friend! We consider our dog a part of our family. There are pet boundaries! We love him to bits.😊
Fishes are a LOT of work! Cleaning fish tank n all is too much work. Agree.
Very biased episode. Everyone on the same boat.
Because it is a hot take against popular opinion in this country, I think it is OK. Comments are open.
You're just scared of animals, accept that, Zarna. Street dogs in India are NOT Dingoes, they are beautiful amazing creatures. I totally understand yr fear as growing up we were all scared of dogs and cats, but as we grow, we evolve and learn that they aren't scary monsters but just a living creature that has feelings and deserves it space in the world
Animals deserve their space in the world. They also don’t deserve to be bred and owned without consent.
Just a suggestion can It have english subtitles that would be good
good to see the boys dressed properly. The crocs must go.
Brij/Veer/Shalab … rent a pet and give it a try when the ladies are not around.
I 100% agree with you Zarna. our society is displacing emotions onto animals, because in reality we need to give one another the same compassion and love which we are not doing in the state of affairs today. sad. I would love to discuss this with you more, as I am passionate about this
No one wants to evaluate pets and children on the same level but I’m all for it! I avoid my friend’s and family’s homes if they have children. I find children annoying little bacteria carrying germ spreaders. Most of the child parents I know don’t teach their children manners but have very well behaved pets. I’ve never been biologically drawn to children, I see them as big naked slugs. But you show me a baby horse, puppy, goatie, etc, and I’m a big ooooing and aaahhing mess of a human mom. I have no patience for humans but you give me a donkey with a mind of its own, I don’t care how long or hard the effort is, I’m part of the equation until a solution is found. Some people are animal people and some people are people people. I happen to prefer the company of my barn full of animals and if they cover me in fur, that’s MUCH better than being covered in baby puke.
Live and let live! As long as you respect the views of baby lovers and pet haters, your views deserve to be respected too.
people behave in irrational ways.
We had a dog that hated my brother in laws sister. She wanted a chunk out of her all the time. She was a sweet person to this day but my dog didn’t think so. I wish she wanted a chunk out of my brother in law. He is an AH.
Seconding shreychakra3446, in India I also think locality dogs which have grown up in a certain locality, do the work of policemen when barking at strangers or barking at any sound made in the night. The localites are alerted.
In return I've seen children and adults pelt stones at local dogs and run bikes on them.
Also an animal has its own character like any other creature the moment they are born.
Exactly . I stay out of ppls stuff