Ableism: A Mental Health Rant
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I got this from a coworker just a couple weeks ago: "If you're depressed, it's because you want to be. You can decide not to be that way. Just have to think positive." I immediately realized that this person had never had a real mental health problem, and he probably didn't know anyone with one, or at least no one who felt comfortable sharing that with him. He said something about everyone being depressed sometimes, or everyone having anxiety sometimes. No. That is not the same thing. This adds to the stigma. If you can make the choice to be better and you don't, that means you're a bad person, right? I hate that attitude. If someone has no real experience with this, they have NO business judging someone else for it.
I suffer from stress induced psychosis and my psychosis has ruined friendships because of paranoid delusions.......tbh with you I tell people to think positive and not let it break them down because that's the only way I deal with everything, also being greatful but idk how that would help you. I hope you don't judge people and say "I bet they've never suffered from a mental health condition" whenever someone tells you to chin up because that's really rude. Being positive has kept me alive and sane and that's probably why you're struggling.
Sounds like Condescending Compassion. He's a predator who thinks he's a wise sage.
I think it better just give money to ppl with mental illness . I have coworker that get panic attacks so she in break room me an another coworker have to pick up the slack an if there a bad customer she cries so yep me or another coworker has to deal with all the time . I’m sure to be happy at home an we can have someone that can do there job . No need talk down to ppl even if they could be faking
@@goroakechi3593 He was telling me that mental illness is a CHOICE. How my being upset by that makes me rude is a mystery. You are telling me the same thing by saying, "That's probably why you're struggling." No. I did not say I'm never positive, but being positive didn't keep my brother from dying or me from having to have surgery, and that was just in the past two months. It also didn't protect me from losing most of my family before I turned 40. I am now the last surviving member of my immediate family, and I can count on one hand the number of extended family I have left. Being positive won't bring back the dead.THIS is why I'm struggling. I'm tired of losing people I care about. At 60, 70, 80, I would expect to lose people, but it started with my father dying when I was 12. The fact that I have persevered and that I will soon be 51 is proof of how much positivity I have. Otherwise, I would've given up long ago. You just dismissed all the pain I have felt and told me I was rude for judging someone for telling me that none of it matters. No.
@@goroakechi3593 piss off mate. No one needs your condescending tripe here. "that's probably why you're struggling" what a gross thing to say to someone who is sharing their feelings on here.
TW: sexual assault.
I was assaulted and my school set me up with a therapist. This therapist said “the room was dark so are you sure it was him?”, “think about how he must be feeling being accused of this”, and “just ignore him when he’s around”. It was so bad and I just wanted to cry. At this point I was suicidal, in shock and trying to deal with trauma that I had suppressed for months. Like, these are the people we are meant to trust.
this is awful. how are you doing now? are you getting support?
That is... that is so horrible. That’s an egregious way to handle sexual assault, and way too common.
That's utterly disgusting. I'm so sorry you experienced all that. People we're meant to trust - yes they are. Why the fuck aren't they vetted to make sure they're not this callous and self righteous and misogynistic? Sending best love from the UK.
Check that therapists computer lol
I relate to this so deeply. I’ve been told I’m a hypochondriac, a liar, attention seeking, involuntary pregnancy tested, diagnosed as bipolar. In reality I was dying from my birth control, went into liver failure and heart attack risk, all because long before I had been honest about having anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts. I never received help, no one ever helped my mental illness, only the physical was taken seriously. I educated and helped myself. Advocating for ourselves is vital.
Hi, are you still there? What kind of birth control were you on? Your story sounds similar to mine, I would love to talk.
@@malivertt297 my sil almost died using nuvaring. Idk if its the same as you had.
The whole system is insanely unfair and biased, 99% of places in the US don’t help.
For anyone in NYC/Long Island,. I’d recommend getting help from DASH (Family Service League) in Hauppauge, Long Island. They hook you up with a full physical and mental health eval immediately, will give you a patient advocate to help you do anything you need to do, like find a hime if you’re homeless, provide transportation, and bring you to a rehab if you need it SAME DAY. You can also sit there just to calm down if you ever need and have no where to go. They feed you if you’re homeless and let you sleep or watch movies on the couch, or talk to you if you’d like.(Reposting on some comments bc it’s important)
People die every day from bullshit like this. Especially women.
The male ER docs told me "it's just pms and dehydration, drink more water" when I had autoimmune hepatitis and was pissing maple syrup. I said I was bloated and feeling too tired to function and had been missing work, they assumed I was just being a weak little girl who can't handle her menses.
I gave them a hell of a time when I went to another hospital and was admitted for observation, blood and urine tests, and actual medical care. Lol
I had a similar situation and was also made to take an involuntary pregnancy test I was only 14 and so scared! They wouldn’t let my mum stay with me it was awful
“Just anxiety” can be so life altering. Everything you said here was so important. I’m so sorry that you’ve been made to struggle for legitimacy in this way. Mental health awareness is such an important topic, and you are so good with your words. Thank you for posting this, and for speaking up for those who cannot speak for themselves ❤️
I've literally had a therapist look at my face while I was uncontrollably sobbing and suicidal and tell me all my problems were not only MY fault but also I was "too childish" for trying to be colorful and happier in my own way. those 10 minutes almost drove me over the edge, at that point I had just begun getting a bit better, and suddenly I saw myself starving and harming all over again because of such a simple comment.
my family also never really had any way to deal with me, so I've heard way too many comments that hurt me deeply, but mostly I remember getting out of the house after months of a horrible dissociation episode and hearing my grandma saying "doesn't she ever look at herself in the mirror? she looks like fucking shit" and that broke me so hard.
Now that I'm in therapy again it's been a mild success, they still don't really want to touch the old wounds, so they only focus on the more... "recent" events, but it surly has been not as traumatic.
I’m so sorry you ever had to go through this. You deserved/ deserve better. I really hope you are okay, I don’t usually reply to people’s comments but this one really hit. You were brave enough to confide in someone and they terribly let you down. I hope this therapist is much better. Please don’t ever give up, I believe in you. Sending love from Australia
My therapist told me she would not call me autistic, because she didn't like putting people in boxes and I just had to focus on my good traits and life would be fine :)))))
Well, I guess her heart was in the right place at least, but dear god that is naive.
That’s so irresponsible.
how do these people have licenses
wtf
Wow. Yikes. Love a therapist explicitly categorizing autism as a bad trait....
I love your rants. They resonate with me. I struggle with verbalizing thoughts like this. I try to communicate and they still brush it off then I end up exploding
Sucks when you dont have a community thats willing to acknowledge you and help you.
My entire family is mentally ill and they all act like im the one with the issue. My mother is on mood stabilizers and even shes indifferent at this point. I think she just doesn't know what to say anymore and is sick of hearing about my plight.
Its really tough when your entire world thinks you can just work through your issues by yourself.
Ive made the analogy that its like being dropped off at the foot of a mountain butt ass naked with no food or gear whilst everyone else has full pack and everything they need to survive relatively easily.
Bout sums up my experience and how i feel about it.
unless you make it glass clear to people that you have very very bad anxiety that it sometimes cripples you then people will say "everyone has anxiety dela with it". If you have very bad anxiety then don't let people brush you off like that, communicate better and you will gain more result. My tactic is to be like an open book. Mention what the anxiety causes in your life, like the butterfly effetcs it has on your life that ultimately makes you struggle to cope with life. The example Dorian used in the video where she couldn't explain things well enough to the doctors then you are lucky if they believe you. 90% they will think you are exagerating or faking it.
@@zebnemma I write down what I try to advocate for or bring up before the appointment. My panic disorder is diagnosed/documented along with my PTSD. I try to utilize "I" statements while squeezing a stress ball in my hand and such before I end up exploding. It takes a lot to make me explode......
@@Grey_Ape59 yep I totally relate. I think it's a generational difference too
@@HOHGuncle1312 yeah for sure, the generation gap definitely plays a massive part.
I stack shelves in Tesco even though I have a degree as I can’t manage anything else due to mental ill health. It sucks. :(
Your got this!!!
@seraphim Same here. Never did any good getting seen by pyschs except for finally getting on the right meds. The "therapy" consisted of them talking in circles and blaming me for my problems- " youre not trying hard enough" or "you're severely disordered and disturbed". After years of research and chatting with friends with similar issues, come to find out I'm 100% neurodivergent, imcredibly traumatised and none of that type of therapy was ever going to help me, only take my money and make me worse. You can't therapise an Autistic person into being "normal" 🙃
I'd listen to a fashionable goth rant all day
When I was first diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder my mom (who has a degree in psychology) took me to get an exorcism because she was just like "not my daughter" and it took years for her to finally believe I'm actually sick and not possessed
Oh wow. I had a psychotic episode once, and my mom took me to our front porch, put her hand on my head and started saying shit like "in the name of God, leave her" and shit like that, and at first I was like "lol wow, this is dumb" but then I ended up having a screaming fit that startled the neighbors and screamed so much my throat bled..... then I was chill for a day or two, but the next time I had my screaming fit was when she and my sisters were like "okay, and time to go to the hospital" and I got diagnosed with Bipolar 1.
I guess my mom was a bit quicker on the draw because my dad was bipolar, and she had to deal with the effects of him being unmedicated, so she had some experience with mental health stuff??
But damn, someone with a degree in psychology not grasping when someone is dealing with a mental illness.... school failed her.
holy shit that is terrible
My mom told me to go into the church and ask Jesus to be my doctor. I'd like to say that it worked but home life was so unstable at the time that any peace I got from prayer and positive thinking faded quickly.
I used to pray for physical illness so I'd get help or support in some form. I'm doing a lot better thanks to resources, though limited. We need more honest conversations, less comparisons, and a lot more community.
Me too. Isn't that a sad state of affairs to be in a position where we'd long for an illness the can see.
I think, a little after the first time I tried to kill myself, my brother had to go to the hospital because of his leg. And my mom took pictures 'cause my brother asked her to. And she was so kind and worried and sweet with him. She yelled at me when I was in the hospital, and continued to shame me and claim I was trying to blackmail her. So I had a little time in my life where I wished for some horrible illness so that my mom would take my suffering seriously. And because nothing is expected of sick people. And when you die of an illness people say how ou had so much potential and they look over your negatives, whereas dying of suicide was shameful. (I make it seem like I was so depressed lol. I just have anxiety and adhd, so when my marks started dropping my anxiety went brrrr.)
The whole system is insanely unfair and biased, 99% of places in the US don’t helo.
For anyone in NYC/Long Island,. I’d recommend getting help from DASH (Family Service League) in Hauppauge, Long Island. They hook you up with a full physical and mental health eval immediately, will give you a patient advocate to help you do anything you need to do, like find a hime if you’re homeless, provide transportation, and bring you to a rehab if you need it SAME DAY. You can also sit there just to calm down if you ever need and have no where to go. They feed you if you’re homeless and let you sleep or watch movies on the couch, or talk to you if you’d like.(Reposting on some comments bc it’s important)
it’s so frustrating that there are no visual symptoms to mental illness
I have anxiety, depression, ADD and ASD and yet for my entire life I’ve been told that’s not an excuse and if I use it as an excuse for being unable to do things I’m being manipulative or I’m lying, which really sucks when you’re having constant nervous breakdowns and are being forced to go to high school/work where you end up having panic attacks in the bathroom every day, not taking care of yourself and wishing you were dead but according to everyone in your life there is no reason for you to be struggling as much as you are. Anyway thank god for my current therapist who is an actual angel
I'm glad you found her the right therapist changes everything
The whole system is insanely unfair and biased, 99% of places in the US don’t help..
For anyone in NYC/Long Island,. I’d recommend getting help from DASH (Family Service League) in Hauppauge, Long Island. They hook you up with a full physical and mental health eval immediately, will give you a patient advocate to help you do anything you need to do, like find a hime if you’re homeless, provide transportation, and bring you to a rehab if you need it SAME DAY. You can also sit there just to calm down if you ever need and have no where to go. They feed you if you’re homeless and let you sleep or watch movies on the couch, or talk to you if you’d like.(Reposting on some comments bc it’s important)
it's totally not just a British thing. I'm from the us and I can't even think let alone count all the times I've been told to "suck it up" "just stop being sad" "get over it" " how are you tired you don't do anything" "youre just lazy" AND THE LIST GOES ON AND ON....it doesn't help that i feel worthless because my husband works so hard abd People assume I'm just lazy so i don't work. 🙄🙄
That's what drives me the most crazy: people deciding I'm lazy ugh
@@creepykels yeah,it IS really frustrating because unless someone has dealt with depression and even more specifically the same symptoms of depression (because I've even had people who have depression judge me!!) They will never understand how we can't just "force" ourselves to gwt up and get productive. It's like a war in my mind all thw time because I KNOW I shouldn't be doing nothing. I know I shouldn't have 0 motivation in life at 29 years old....I KNOW,i hate myself enough for the way I am already I don't need you telling me hi worthless I am on top of being my own biggest critic. Fuck dude....they just don't understand and I hope they never have to. You ever need someone to chat to i answer all my comments or I'm on Twitter ❤️ I know it's hard sometimes
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I'm on the spectrum and really struggle to focus, I work and it's so energy taxing, yet people left right and centre take advantage of my lack of social life / hobbies, constantly call on me for favours, yet I'll get called lazy for being tired or getting fat.
LilLadyA u should work with me. We have one girl with panic attacks so she mostly in break room . An if we have bad customers u won’t have to deal with them at all .
OMG the "just anxiety" thing. First of all, anxiety in and of itself is a valid illness. Moreover, so many times anxiety and/or depression is a SYMPTOM of an actual physical illness and not the cause. This really needs to start being addressed instead of brushed off in the heath care community.
I’m autistic, and have PTSD. I’m also homeless, and have been for 3 years. I don’t qualify for any benefits in the USA, because my mental conditions aren’t considered valid, and I can’t work a job so I could qualify for “supplemental income”. If it weren’t for my friends I’d be dead. Because of them I have a phone, and a van to sleep in. I didn’t used to have these things, and I still wouldn’t if it weren’t for the kindness of my friends. If it were up to the government I’d just be left to die. I almost did at one point before my high school bestie saw what was happening and did something. I only get $40 on my EBT card because I can’t prove an address or low income when I don’t have an address or an income at all.
Our system is so fucked. I'm sorry you are stuck in one of its' many catch22 loophole situations.
I know how you feel.
If you have a paypal i can send you a couple bucks man, im on social security so i cant give much but i could probably send you 50$ here and there if you need some help.
Our system is beyond fucked. I'm with Kade. If you have a PayPal or Venmo, I don't have a lot, but I'd love to be able to send you something every once in a while when I am able.
I've been there..it's scary. I'm glad you have loving friends
Not even a minute in and I relate on so many levels.
The Cage of Insanity. Same here! Also very early in the video but I like to add one thing: Invisible physical illnesses are ALSO not taken seriously at all!. I was in a very bad mental state in my late teens/early 20’s and becoming physically ill made it worse. But since you can’t see Rheumatism from the outside (except for a slight swelling on my chest wich you have to know is there to notice) and people and even doctors have the false assumption that rheumatism only happens to Old people they sometimes straight up tell that “its most likely in your head”
I'm in the USA and I am surprised I did get on my disability for mental illness. I am constantly proving it with doctor notes, therapist notes, and everything. (The amount I receive is... dismal.) But I was told "have something physical too? It'll help."
Which I do, but it's not "bad enough"
It took years of me telling them, proving to them, that I am unreliable due to my mental health. Constantly filling forms reminding me how much of a burden I am to prove I deserve to have help to stay alive when I don't believe it.
Being told by state selected therapists I'm not trying hard enough. That I'm wasting their time because I had to reschedule the meeting because I was in a psych ward. But no I was "not bad enough." It's when I finally able to get a decent therapist when this started looking up and I got on it.
Yeah im just waiting for them to take it from me again, telling them about my encounters with the reptilians and how im being targeted by the U.S government for experimentation seemed to do the trick but its only a matter of time before they try and drive me to suicide again.
I went to try for health. My doctor and lawyer said to go with mental due to physical. Took over 2 years. No way I can work. 3 hours of doing things with breaks is a good day for me. Frustatrating since I have so much to do on this house. Just a little at a time to slowly finish this house.
The Faerie And the Pirate I havd it in the US for rheumatoid arthritis, the depression and anxiety diagnoses seemed to count for nothing. The US is ridiculous
@@1015SaturdayNight Probably depends who you get to review your case. 1st hearing, got approved for mental but the physical guy was an asshole and had to appeal. I often look drunk having vertigo from popped neck disks and fibromyalgia not to mention mini seizures. Only drive local and have sat in my car til safe to get home. Hate driving now. Vision is just passable to drive too with glasses. Some youtube sites or tv have so much flashing, I feel like one could come on so unsubscribe or not look. I won't use escalators. Very disorienting and takes a few minutes for that first step. I actually have a cat that can sense a seizure. A keeper for sure. Too much hassle to prove he can do this and get him licensed.
Faerie and Pirate, as well as others in the thread, I am sorry you went through this. I have as well, took me almost 5 years before I got to a judge and was approved a few months before I became ineligible. Apparently, there is a 5 year limit on when you cannot work to when you make a claim, wait too long and you cannot file. There is a legal clause where if you or anyone has condition(s) that are not on the 'approved' list an attorney can file for the appeal which allows multiple conditions, even those rated by the courts as 'minor' to be disabling enough combined. I had to put minor because different conditions are rated differently, think of it as a points scale. Oh, and always get an attorney and research your attorney firm. Some make their money by delaying the courts' case and doctors until they get the full amount from the case (25% of BACK amount due up to $6,000 plus paperwork fees) which can be years alone.
just a note: stacking shelves in tesco/any other store is a good and an important job.
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@@magoon993 Someone has to do it. Don't take people that do the grunt work for granted.
Its great for those who WANT to work at those places. It isnt fair when youre so disabled that youre forced into a work place that doesnt suit you at all, purely because its all you can handle.
@@mariya_tortilla there was a time in my life I took great pride in stacking shelves. not because it was my dream job, but because it kept me going from day to day. i don't see why it should be looked as a bad job? it's a fair job, just like any other job. what wouldn't be fair, would be if a disabled person was forced to do a job they COULD'NT handle.
It is not a good job. If you are having a good job you don't get treated like you get treated in that kind of job.
Me and my g/f have been through the PIP system... she too was diagnosed late with ASD. We had to appeal and go to tribunal to overturn the "Not sick enough" decision. They stopped all her benefits for 10 months untill we got to tribunal and had the initial decision overturned and was awarded highest rate of care for the full 3 years. We lived on minimum wage for that time and the credit card debt went through the roof which I am still paying off. It's all set up by design to try and finish people off who cant defend themselves... like my partner. We've been to hell and back with this shitty system but we're doing ok now. Those brown letters are still extremely anxiety enduceing... this vid speaks volumes. 🖤🖤
Yeah you really have to get a lawyer, the only way you can usually get it is by going to a attorney that deals with disability cases. The moment you get a lawyer on your case the government just says fuck it.
Wow, they turn off the assistance during the appeal over there? That sucks and is extremely harmful. As difficult as it is for the USA system if you appeal you can still receive the assistance. Essentially for 2 years if needed, appeal, re-appeal, judge, and finally an appeal to the judge. You will have to pay back the full amount if all the appeals are denied though.
I’d like to recommend a book that delves into the mind of someone mentally ill. It’s called “In The Sky” by Octave Mirabeau written in the 1800’s. His writing is very avent garde which makes the work even more beautifully sad. It’s probably the best book I’ve read about mental illness.
you speak for all of us struggling with mental health. Russell Brand needs to have you on to share your authentic experiences
"God Knows Where I Am" on Netflix was a very eye opening documentary about mental illness and how the system fails mentally ill people. What is really sad is that half way through the doc they mention where she worked before disappearing and I realized that she was the waitress that my mum and stepdad used to see weekly when they played pool.
That one is so sad. But it happens too often, where mental health isn't treated as a valid struggle and impact on one's life.
The pentacle story made me shout across the room. I’ve been told the same with my aesthetic as well. That “doctor” should know better. And I love your mental topics rants.
Feeling like a leech or burden when your mental health is terrible really pushes you to a dark place. I struggle with depression and anxiety and i have a hard time going to work too. :(
Oof I could go on a similar rant, that's for sure.
I've had to be on disability since I was a baby, basically, thanks to physical and mental issues as well, and it's been tougher every year.
The form questions are ridiculous - especially in the mental health department.
Not only that, it's so damn cruel, how far they make you delve into that pit of despair that you try to desperately to avoid, in order to cope, and even then... they take it away.
So many people in the last few years in particular have died thanks to being told they don't qualify, it makes me sick... suicide, starvation, cold, side effects (physically and mentally) to not being able to afford medication any more.
A "favourite" memory in particular...
I have very severe depression - constantly suicidal and prone to self harm, etc.
The assessor guy read this on the forms and asked to see the harm scars.... then said he couldn't see them. (They're very * clear)
Then he lied about several things and I lost disability, but because I was alone and couldn't prove it... they just denied everything when family stepped in to help.
Lovely.
Yeah cuts dont show well unless you go really deep, burns show way better after they heal.
I doubt she would have started shit with me if she couldn't see the scars but thats absolutely insane they did that to you.
That is one thing I really hate, you have to constantly file paperwork and the packet is 20+ pages long. I am sorry the doctor was like that with you, I never even thought they would look for scars, I heal very well and that would hurt to show off what is left. I hope things turn around for you.
@@Grey_Ape59 I getcha. Its more that I've always had very pale, transparent skin so they don't hide very well even after years. Really wish they did! But either way, still an awful thing for them to do, and say. Why would someone make up excessive self harm? What a dick. :/
@@RoseKindred yes it's all very much paperwork, even for assessors and there's no room for "yes but/no but" as Dorian says here. Even the kinder assessors etc have their hands pretty much tied.
But yes to be asked to show them and then be told he couldn't see them/I was lying was fucking soul destroying. I imagine it wouldn't have happened if I hadn't been alone though. Always suggest having someone with you for this stuff.
I nearly threw my laptop reading that part about him asking to see your self harm scars for proof. What the actual FUCK is wrong with some people?!! OMG I'm so sorry that you had to experience that.
I remember when I attempted suicide my family covered it up as much as possible so it wouldn't be in my record. They tried to get me into therapy, but that never worked out, I never got diagnosed or anything. Sometimes I do wonder what it's like to actually get a diagnose and all that goes with it. Would my life be better? I don't know, but it's been so long, I'm doing okay - spare the occasional depressive episode - so I'll probably never get diagnosed.
Recently I read a few pages in my old diarys and I can really relate to what you said. Back then, when I was 12/13 years old every other page was "I want to die/I'll kill myself" and it's strange looking back at that time, because I'd never thought that I'd even make it for that long. I thought that this was going to be my life forever, that I wouldn't make it to 21, but here I am.
I relate on the fact that I am fucking impressed I mad it to 21. Sometimes I sit and think damn I got real lucky to have some amazing friends to have my back
I'm 22 and my attempt was at 16 I never thought I would make it past being a teenager. I'm proud of both of y'all that your still here 💜💜💜💜💜
My first attempt was at 13/14 and now I'm 18 and looking for my first apartment. It's surreal looking back and realizing how far I've made it.
@@firefrogge9345 Good luck with your apartment! It's honestly scary looking at how life goes on. I mean it's been 8-something years now and the worst part at this point was realising how easy it could have been to prevent that situation in the first place. It's mad how little everyone around me did, even though I was just a kid.
As someone who was early diagnosed, it’s pretty bad. Autism and ADHD, it was me knowing my issue and everyone decided to ignore my needs and to ignore my disabilities and reword them so nobody else is “uncomfortable”. Also special Ed in the US is an actual nightmare I don’t wish upon anybody
oh god the just anxiety thing
I had chronic fatigue for like 7-ish years before I was diagnosed with celiac disease because everyone kept saying it was "just anxiety" "just depression" "some people just need more sleep than others"
I was once in a drama class where the teacher told us if we had any illnesses, injuries or disabilities we should talk to her after class. So I went up to her after and told her that I get panic attacks. She looked at me like I had a third eye and said “So why are you telling me?”
wtf??? U good?
I realized that I needed to look into alternate options for work when I literally had to stop myself from driving into a river on my way into work one morning
I had a psychiatrist in a MENTAL HOSPITAL tell me I was faking it and sent me home only for me to attempt like 3 days later.
I've got a conversion disorder, and it removed my ability to walk. I've had it for two years. I had to move out of my life and back in with my mother who has to work very hard just to make her own ends meet. America doesn't care about us. It's nice to hear that while you appeal in Europe, at least there, some people can get a few months of help. My mom's actually from over there. Thank you for this rant: I felt totally understood. And like you, they found out I need double hip replacements. The problem was hidden by my conversion disorder. Now they give me all the health support I need, but it still "doesn't count" as being legible for benefits. It's infuriating.
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My condolences for Gretchen, may she rest in peace.
I'm so glad you found a career that was suited to your strengths (TH-camr) - I wish my sister, who you remind me a lot of, was also diagnosed with Aspbergers as a child. It sounds like our family dynamics are the same. No one believes her and she herself can't really explain why she had a double degree but never entered the workforce. She lives on benefits to this day but still has vague dreams of getting her shit together and fully adulting. As you say, asbergers doesn't preclude you from being a success, but it does mean there is less out there for you, options are smaller.
The story about the man who starved and froze to death in his apartment is so sad. I hate these systems that fail the most vulnerable people in our society each day.
Yep, it was all about "not having the words". For me back in the 80s, with no internet and no awareness, desperately sick with multiple conditions and yet struggling to maintain and do normal between breakdowns, the only option was confusing and useless talk therapy with a dogmatic old Freudian, followed by years of misdiagnosis and healthnissues from inappropriate medications. Fun times! Thank god things have changed for the better in mental health. At least we now have the words.
I had a breakdown in 2007 and i was on benefits. After only 6 months i was called chronically unemployable by the "job centre".True story. The system doesnt give a shit about anyone. Just as long as i wasnt getting money for free, or costing the goverment money, thats all that mattered. And as far as they knew, i didnt have anything wrong with me at the time because i hadnt told them. Why would someone choose to be unemployed out of choice? We all have worth. I proved them wrong and went back into the bullshit system for ten years up until today just to prove a point by proving them wrong, but im still sick, and nothing has changed. Ive forced myself back into work when i wasnt ready, and its not been easy, ive done it at the expense of my mental health just to get away from forms and confrontation. Its so stress inducing asking for help, it should be easy. Its ridiculous. :-(
I have anxiety and ocd. And mild depression. all I ever wanted was nice things and a bright future and I always wanted to be middle class.
But my parents over protective me and school and college system was just pure bollocks.
I love love love your videos, keep on improving the world.
I was not diagnosed ADHD until age 30, and didn't really understand what that meant until several years later, and only got on medication in my mid forties.
I relate SO HARD to what you've said here.
I don't have any of my agonized writing from when I was a teenager, it was too aching and angsty for me to keep. I do have a bunch of bad poetry left over. Here's one in case anyone connects to it.
Shooting Stars
The Earth is prehistoric, and a place of fire and granite,
And cruel dinosaurs are everywhere across the planet ,
But some of us don’t like it in this primordial place:
We throw off mortal countenance and head for outer space.
And out here in the solar system’s where we like to play,
And shooting stars are dancing all across the Milky Way.
Comets race around the sun, but nobody keeps score
The joy of our transcendence gives us all we want and more.
But in its little orbit, Earth comes flying every year,
And sometimes pulls a shooting star down through the atmosphere,
Enfolding it in gravity, and ending freedom’s flight,
One fewer shooting star for dinosaurs to see at night.
And so it comes to pass sometimes that shooting stars explode,
When torn out of the arms of heaven where their passion glowed,
And those that live through falling down in fury and in flame,
Turn cold and hard and lifeless and will never be the same.
And onward through the aeons all the stars continue on,
Most of us never knowing where the other stars have gone...
But if you keep on dragging us from our beloved void,
You’ll find a star that burns with too much fire to be destroyed.
So all you dinosaurs who’d bring the stars back down to Earth,
Because you think we’re better in the place that gave us birth:
Think on this warning, when next in your cozy cave you’re curled:
While shooting stars burn out sometimes, sometimes we change the world.
When I ended up in hospital for anorexia, a nurse told me that I'm not sick enough, that I'll be out soon, I was about 10 kgs underweight at that point and when I got finally out, those words stayed with me and I lost another 5 kilos, ahh...what a lovely lady was that nurse, supporting my ed by not knowing how much impact her words had on me
Nurses are such horrible people 90% of the time, the other 10% are angels tho
Someone I knew who had Aspergers was reevaluated when the uk changed disability allowance (cant remember how it was changed, I just remember the chaos it caused) and the person evaluating her flat out lied about her abilities essentially saying she has been "cured", it took taking it to trial to get it sorted putting even more stress on her that shouldn't have been necessary. My mum almost had her allowance cut off during that time because her sever OCD and paranoia made it impossible for her to get to her appointment in a city that was a train journey away from her on time. Thank god her councillor actually helped that time and got her a second appointment (took her bloody time when my mum was living off of cereal due to disordered eating, possibly a full blown ed, though)
Help for people with mental health issues is so difficult to get, I'm honestly surprised that the law to force everyone with a mental illness to wear identifying bracelets wasn't brought about with how much this country hates mentally ill people. And a lot of it seems to come from the xenophobia here as well, if I had a £1 every time someone said people come to the uk to take advantage of our benefits I wouldn't have any student debt. Of course a lot of the people saying that have never actually dealt with the benefit system, they seem to think it's as easy as going up to a counter and asking to live "comfortably" off benefits for the rest of your life, so the government makes it harder and harder to get benefits. Assessors likely lie to meet a quota and then the tabloids print the figures of "people (usually focusing on immigrants) caught cheating the system" and the cycle continues. Sometimes I feel like it's heading down the same route as Germany did when hitler used Jews as scapegoats, America already keeps illegal immigrants in awful conditions, the U.K. uses legal and illegal immigrants as scapegoats for the economy going to shit, a sentiment that a lot of neo nazis use to make their ideas more digestible and Poland's creating "LGBT free zones". You would think after ww2 we would be more privy to this sort of thing but it's treated like how people treat the idea of ending up in a cult, as if only the "stupid" could fall for it and the whole "I would never fall for it" idea.
Sorry for off topic part, perhaps it's a bit too conspiracy theory-ish (I kinda have difficulty not seeing things as massive intertwined evil shit sometimes and I can't tell if it's paranoid ramblings or not because I've been gaslight about so many things by so many people that I doubt most of what I think is real). It just sickens me to see some of the countries that fought against nazi rule scumming to the same tactics that hitler used, it wasn't even that long ago.
"Physical illness? Legit. Mental Illness? Oh, grow up." I was literally told this just yesterday. I'd like to add invisible physical illness though bc I get the most horrible comments about my neurologic disability.
I remember seeing a therapist who accused me of self harming atleast twice for the same burn on my arm that was caused by carelessness whilst cooking, it didn't matter that I told her each time, I started wearing longer tops even though I wasn't concerned before, she told me I was taking rubbish when we had a conversation about counciling and I stated that it might not work for those who don't want to be there, she accused me of being the reason why my dog was skittish, even though my dog was a terrified rescue I had only just taken in, she knew this.
I've had therapist do that sort of thing: jump to conclusions or make weird assumptions. Some of those people are genuinely just trolls who enjoy messing with you. It's hard to tell if they're trolls or just genuinely stupid. Either way, you gotta get away from people like that.
@@disorganizedclutter5513 Yes! Arrogant, ignorant or sadistic is the case at times with some in professions were they're supposed to help.
I've had friends go from seeing me as a "stereotypical" anxious woman to crazy in the span of seconds when I talk about my agoraphobia stopping me from doing basic things like shopping, my suicidal thoughts (thankfully they don't seem to be as bad this year), and thinking I have no real friends (which is unsurprising when they act like that). I had one person go from being supportive to "that sounds like your problem" and "don't get into a relationship until you've gone through therapy", sure I wasn't planning on getting into a relationship because I know my issues would be so much worse, but being told I shouldn't love anyone until I've been "fixed" fucking hurts, how long am I suppose to wait? What if it never becomes manageable? I don't even know what exactly is wrong with me. I've lost so many friends and partners over something I can't even begin to work on because I don't know what it is. it took my best friend telling me I'm one of the most mentally ill people they know for me to even feel like I wouldn't just be taking away someone else's chance at getting help by getting a councillor (as in possibly being placed in front of someone who might need/deserve it more than me)
As someone with mental illnesses and who had to reapply for disability several times before being accepted, this video is a friggin mood. Too tired to rant myself though.
I’m here,I have come to listen
Sending lots of love and understanding to you and everybody who feels this way. More rants please! 💜
This video is so spot on , i live in America and our healthcare system especially in regards to mental health is horrible
It is so hard to get disability here even for people with physical disabilities
It’s true. But it is significantly better in some states than others.
Today I actually was going through my old drawings. I used to draw a lot when I was depressed during my early teens. I was taken aback by how many of the drawings had themes of death and suicide, and faces crying, etc. It made me want to cry thinking about how much I suffered in silence back then. I still do to some extent, but I do have a bit more of a voice now. Thank you so much for this video, it was nice to hear someone else who has the same issues and struggles as I have
shallow comment: Love the Lisbeth flavoured style! :)
That just anxiety thing really gets me ... I was crippled one day, sobbing in excruciating pain ... when I was brought to the hospital in the ambulance, and proceeded to share my story of how this popped up "despite no injury or fall" to the doctor ... nobody took me seriously... they said what since I have a history of mental illnesses, it was probably just "somatic symptoms" because my mother was dying oh, and I am her primary caregiver... and proceeded to treat me like trash the rest of the time I was there. They seemed to blame the pain on me, as if I brought it on myself because I was a drug addict 6 years prior. Nobody took me seriously at all until they yanked a syringe of pus the size of a corn cob out of my hip joint. It turns out that my hip joint had gone septic and it was creating irreversible damage to the Joint... they spent four days putzing around and telling me that it was all in my head and if it wasn't I probably did it to myself for being a worthless Junkie. (I would like to point out that I had been sober for almost since 6 years at this time)
Thank you, I'm glad I have someone I enjoy watching, talking about this. My little sister committed suicide last month, and I'm struggling with the depression that I've been trying to fight for years now, to not come back full swing. Thank you for reminding people that these feelings are valid.
I suffer from PTSD/anxiety /depression and all of it was caused by being born into a doomsday cult which, in addition to preaching the world’s end, eschewed any professional help for the anxiety and depression they caused. Took me YEARS to trust physicians, therapists etc., and to figure out I have these things. I am highly functioning but there are days where I am mentally and physically WIPED OUT by seemingly “simple” things in life. I share your anger for how people with real mental issues are mistreated. THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!
So many relatable things in this video, omg. Even the part about "evil spirits" - I had a psychotherapist once reading my aura or some shit! Also have a very depressing journal, fortunately with no blood in it. Sad to see that even in a developed country like UK you have a lot of the same issues. At least you diagnose adults with autism at all! And that "it's all just anxiety" part is so true! Whatever comes out of my mouth, they have the answer - anxiety (and I'm a man btw). Once they see anxiety in your papers they just stop even bothering to listen, really. I've passed 30 and still haven't straightened things out mentally. Still haven't found that therapist/doctor who'd have some answers. I still fail to adult. The struggle goes on. I could have been so much more than I am right now.
Just want you to know that i 100% feel the way you do about how your life COULD have been, had people in your life (doctors, teachers, parent...etc) noticed a disabling mental illness. You are the only person i know of on youtube that has nailed this concept. Its something im actively working on right now. I just started talking to my mom, at 27, about going on disability for at least a little while until im not a danger to myself anymore. 💖💖🖤
every word you have said is so true, well ranted.
I'm listening to your videos nonstop while working.
You are so strong and clever, I'm so glad I found your channel
I'm 27 and have fought this my entire life, trying to get any help I can from dozens of doctors who just don't care about mental health the same as physical. I'm also chronically physically ill, due to my mental health (IBD, ulcers etc) and autistic. This video especially hit home to me, thank you so much for spreading awareness😔💚
Thank you for also mentioning doctors in this one. I remember when I was first trying to get diagnosed with what I later found out was bi-polar disorder and severe depression. I explained to the doctor how I was feeling, even broke down in front of him and he turned around and actually snickered and said "Well what do you want me to do about it?" I was only 15 (in my 30's now) but that reaction had such a huge knock-on effect that I wasn't correctly diagnosed until I was 23 and in some seriously bad mental shape, because I didn't want to speak to anyone about it. Sometimes even the professionals get it wrong. Had I known then what I know now, I would have absolutely put in a complaint about him. I just hope he's either learned how to be a better person now or no longer works in the healthcare profession.
Had a similar experience also. I have a severe anxiety disorder and have had since childhood, I was about 13 when my mum took me the doctors to try get help for it and my dr literally said the same thing to me and my mum "well what do you want me to do about it?" Idk how some of them even end up in that type of profession tbh and it really put me off getting help for years.
SS said I couldn't qualify for disability if I'm able to leave my house, even though my abusive home is why I have Depression and PTSD so I'm used to being neglected and blamed financially and mentally
Omg, thank you so much for making this video! I’ve always felt so alone on this issue & although it’s not actually a good thing other people are going through it too, I do feel comfort in that I’m not alone in it. I’ve had therapists whom I’d been seeing for a year refuse to assist me in getting the disability funds and support that I needed, was eligible for and had the right to access. Their reasons for this were that I’m ’not schizophrenic’ or 'physically impaired'. So despite my nine DSM diagnoses from said therapists, I still wasn’t ’sick enough’ to receive extra support. Luckily, my doctor was more than happy to help me, which was such a relief and a massive burden off my shoulders.
As for the consequences of anxiety being on your record, I TOTALLY relate and it is endlessly frustrating and only makes the anxiety I /do/ have worse! Although my GP really is great, I swear, I could be throwing up blood or something and there’s a 95% chance my doctor would say, “Oh, it’s just anxiety, do some deep breathing/mindfulness and you’ll feel better.” I’ve even had instances where there was something physically wrong with me despite three doctors telling me my symptoms were ‘just anxiety’. Turned out I actually had a heart problem which was revealed months later in an ECG when the symptoms had gotten worse. (dw about the heart thing if you’re reading this though, that was years ago & I’m totally fine now, thank god haha)
Sometimes it feels like doctors have this idea in their head that if a patient has anxiety, it's an automatic free pass to not check over things properly like you would with a patient who had the same symptoms, minus anxiety being on their record. I guess I'm trying to say that no one seems to take you seriously when you have anxiety in your history.
Anyway, I’m so sorry you had to go through so much ableist bullshit throughout your life and I really hope things keep getting better and easier for you, because no one deserves this kind of treatment for wanting help with something they can’t control having. I'm also really looking forward to your therapist rant! :D
Apologies this post got so long - just wanted to join in, haha xD
I have only watched few minutes of this video, and it is making me feel so emotional already.
me too I cried. * hugs
I had an ex-boyfriend tell me to "snap out of it" when it came to my depression. Thank you so much for bringing attention to the way mental illness is treated in society.
So, I suppose this is success. I'm in my late 40's and I am 2 years at a job testing printer ink cartridges. I manage because on bad days, I can just put my head down, run the printers, and not speak to anyone, just silently freak out, as long as I keep working. This is the first job I have held for more than a year in a very long time. In my 20s, and even into my 30s, I used to be out every night at a show, a party whatever. But then my anxiety got bad. Now I don't really live, just subsist. Now I feel like I have a certain amount of sheer willpower per day. So long as I go to work, come home, do nothing else during the week, maybe visit my folks on the weekend, I can hold a job, pay my rent, burden noone. I should feel very grateful, I know. ...But god I miss living.
I'm in my early 30s and already feel most of this.
I can empathize so much on the family front.
I remember getting into a conversation with my brother and I though, I hoped really, that I could trust him. For a long time, I didn't trust my family and I kept telling myself that i was being unfair. So I talked to him, and I opened up and told him about how one year prior I had been at a place so bad, I could have killed myself.
His reaction was just the worst. He told me I didn't have anything to complain about, that I was entitled and, by far the worst, he told me that if I had killed myself, then I had never deserved to be alive in the first place.
I ran away, but because we were in the same house, he followed me just to tuck on, that I was at fault for my awful mental state, because I wanted to he like that.
That was by far the worst thing anyone has ever told me, and to have come from my own brother, it hurt so much.
I haven't wanted to kill myself for a long time I always knew I didn'tand how awful it is, but that didn'tmean that the thought didn't come to me when I was at my worst. I didn't do it, but only because I dragged myself off that ledge, quite literally, kicking and screaming. And to have someone whose biggest hurdle in life was his fucking relationships, invalidate all the hard work I put in myself, it absolutely destroyed me. For a moment I thought that perhaps he was right.
I am better now, but I know that I will never be able to forgive him for that and I probably won't ever be able to trust him either.
Thank you so much Dorian, for telling me that my mental state is valid and that I deserve help. Thank you so very much.
Thank you for putting this out there...👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It's so horrible how some therapists and doctors treat their patients.. I'm in therapy for over 2 years now and my therapist is like a second mother to me. My doctor was very understanding when I went to her and I imidiately got a place at the therapist I'm at now.
I hope that everyone of you is getting the help that you need. 💞
I'm so obsessed with this look, it's everything 😍
When I was 14 years old, being a goth kid as well at the time, I was wearing a spiked collar with some interesting charms- I think I had a pentacle and a bat or something like that... I went in for help to get a diagnosis for aspergers, but my doctors... started asking me about BDSM stuff in great length.... I was 14 years old! I knew then... that these people-these dotors- had more issues than I did.
I'm so glad that someone is talking about the dark sides of mental illness like this. So thank you so much.. I have several "invisible" disabilities and physical ones that the system won't recognize fully. I've been fighting for all of my adult life (I'm 34) and my teen years + childhood in order to get the help I need but haven't gotten it yet. I also have DID (dissociative identity disorder) which is definitely not recognized enough in my country to be taken serious enough by the public system. I keep fighting but it's so damn difficult
I didn't know that what I was always feeling was anxiety until after highschool. I plan on getting meds for my adhd. See if it'll help me. I used to be so socially anxious and awkward when I was at my lowest point. I'm glad that we have chances to get out of those stages of life.
I haven't commented in forever and I adore your videos I doubt you'll see this and I know comments and dms are extremely jarring but I think you're here to save people's lives, and 30:47 I sure know the past couple years I've watched you it truly has helped me vocalize my feelings better as well as not feel alone, thank you for continuing this journey you have touched my soul and many others :)
So true! Have lived a lifetime of these assumptions and unhelpful suggestions! Have always felt when I've mentioned my depression it's viewed as an 'excuse!'. Thank you for making this enlightening content 🙏 💕
I think your look in this video is my favorite one so far. I really appreciate how different and creative you are with your appearance
Thanks for exposing the system for what it really is, I had a very similar experience.
I spent years begging the nhs for help to no avail. They only started to take me even remotely seriously is when I was hospitalised for a month after a very close call suicide attempt, then suddenly I wasn’t just making a fuss anymore. The nhs is so stretched under our government they can’t listen to you until you are fully literally on your death bed
I really love all your waffles, but this one was such an important one! Thank you for rising awareness for mental health issues ❤!
It's been awhile but your videos make me feel understood. I love you man.
U ARE MY NEW STEPMOTHER. thank you for being the only person who understands me .
I have mental health issues and I'm autistic and fibromyalgia but until my fibro diagnosis every time my body did something weird I was told it was "just anxiety" now no matter what it is it's my fibro. I could have my god dam leg drop off and it would be fibro!! The fibro means I have some more functional support BUT I'm terrified that something is going to go drastically wrong and go untreated as everything is dismissed as fibro. That in its self triggers my anxiety that then triggers my fibro and I'm trapped in a body that is fucked with a mind that feels like its turned on me and I've never felt so alone broken and helpless
What a sad kid I was.Still a sad guy at 70.I understand what your are talking about.It was even worse back when.Hang in there.
When I was 13, my mom and I spent the most part of a year trying to figure out why I was having horrid vertigo and after so many medical tests, it was due to the psychosomatic manifestation of domestic abuse 0.o. Im convinced nothing would have changed in my life if I didn't have rampant vertigo and migraines.
Yes sharing those writings and drawings sounds like a great idea! I’ve been miserable for almost ten years now and i’ve written/drawn so much in my diaries over the years because my parents wouldn’t listen or even care, until i got forced into therapy because of my anorexia getting really scary at some point around 4 or 5 years ago. I would really like to see you share those things with us, i was really impressed with the drawing you posted on instagram some time ago along with some photos and i was like “shiiiit someone else feels this way i’m not alone in this” . Anyway these videos you think are depressing because they address really deep topics are my favorites because they create a meaningful interaction between you and us on the other side of the screen. Love you always dude xx
i tried to write a paper on this exact issue, gave tons of valid sources, and my teacher had the gall to tell me it "wasn't that big of a deal" and "it's not an issue"
also im glad Im not the only one that was told I was demon posessed lol
Nope. Not the only person. I had someone try to perform an exorcism on me when I was 8.
Thank you so much for posting this. ❤
I recently was forced to put in my two weeks because I was so emotional at work. This place had customers that would cuss and be aggressive and management would just say, "Take it and THEN we'll say something."
I'm a very high anxiety person and it's even hard for my boyfriend to understand. This video means SO much to me.
Even after I had a mental health issue, in my case crippling, paralyzing anxiety that I and my therapist are working on for more than a year, I still don't feel qualified to comment on other peoples mental issues beyond empathizing and sometimes trying to tell what worked for me or exchanging what our therapists say and stuff.
You rock sister,thanks for caring for you fellows so much!
I can identify with so much of what you experienced. Eventually I was diagnosed and got the treatment I needed, but the stress of trying to get help almost finished me. I'm stabilised now and have a great life with a family of my own that are my world.
By the way, love listening to your vid's on my commute, informative, ranty, delightful and so much fun.
All I wanna do right now is give you a big warm hug ;^; I’m so incredibly sorry for the lack of support, ignorant people and pain that you have had to deal with for an achingly long time. As a person with mental illnesses I am very scared for my future and worry daily. Thank you for this amazing video ❤️
thank you Dorian, ive expirienced so many things like you had. makes me feel so much less alone, one person who understands even...
I'm 18 and I'm very scared but you make me feel a little better knowing you understand. I have been chronically ill since I was 11, doctors tell me they think its anxiety. It's to the point it physically hurts to walk and stand sometimes, but no one seems to take it seriously that can help. My Mother is mean to me for being ill and the only person that really wants to help me is disabled aswell. She is my sister and they wont give her disability. Maybe I shouldn't put this on the internet but I want people to know I was there before I died. I literally feel like I'm going to die sometimes and people treat me like I'm just hysterical.
Are you still there?
All of this..just makes so much sense. My sister has crippling anxiety and if my family didn't support her and my brother didn't let her live in the house rent free, she'd be homeless.
Meanwhile, with me, I have mild depression, anxiety, and I possibly have an undiagnosed ED. If I wasn't taking my medication that treats both anxiety and depression, I would probably not have made it this far in college (I'm a senior starting my last semester,) and I also probably would still be suffering with my ED tendencies and most likely have been diagnosed by now.
And like...my best friend, who I've known since middle school, has the NERVE to say things to me like...my meds will make me addicted. I'll rely on them TOO much. I can solve it without them, it'll make me a zombie or a different person. I don't even bother talking about that stuff with her, I confide in my other friend who actually helped me start to retake my meds because I was afraid to take them for so long.
I'm happier now, I feel like I can actually handle tasks I didn't feel like I could before, and it's because I"m being treated and my doctor understood that and saw that I had genuine fear.
But I know, in cases with my sister, the system has failed her. In America, they do not view her as "sick enough" for government money. It's insane.
For the record I'm very glad you're still here. So much of what you say in your 'waffles' really resonates!!!!
Dorian, I've been watching you for years and I love your take on things. I have had to deal with mental illness for most of my life, and it really is hard to get the compassion one needs from friends and family - and often the medical community too. Now that I'm older and have a physical disability that requires me to walk with a cane, I see such a difference in how I'm treated. It's a real thing, what you're discussing. I also want to say, your makeup and style is such an inspiration, you're so unique. Keep up the good work, you have a lot of supporters out here in the world.
Oh my god! Thank you for ranting about this. I completely agree with everything you said but didn't know how to put it in my own words. You're REALLY amazing at articulating your feelings in video form. It is exactly the same in the US ( at least where I live which is in a small town) I have been struggling with mental illness since I was 13 and I am 24 now. I only have had a handful of people in my life that understand and the high majority of them are online. I am a home bound agoraphobic due to CPTSD. I haven't left my house in over a year. I am terrified of going on disability but I probably should. I am currently "mooching" off my parents and it is beyond humiliating. Money is a huge stresser They also really don't understand but they do help me. They are the typical "white picket fence" type parents and I am the scape goat. I don't think people realize how ashamed and guilty mentally ill people feel for asking for help.
About the pentagram, lol. One of the doctors I met wrote down I dress in black. As if that is somehow relevant.
I always feel like you're giving voice to my thoughts and feelings. thank you Dorian
These are part of the reason why I'm hesitant to try and get help and more so because of my experiences with doctors dealing with physical health. If there's "nothing wrong" why would I bother to go and seek help? Going to the doctor isn't exactly free so why would I waste my already limited money for nothing? The form questions are shitty and I always get clearing on them but there are so many other deep-rooted issues that need fixing
Everything you've said in thid video is 100% hitting the nail on the head. Luckily my mental health issues were sorted fairly quickly because of the circumstances around them. However, i was only recently diagnosed with Hypermobility disorder (some people call its EDS), Ive been on medication for about a year now. I started going to the doctors about it when i was 16. Im now 24. All the doctors used to say was that the aches and pains could be because of my anxiety/depression, and that i needed to loose weight. When they finally pulled their finger out they found that i had a deformed knee, hypermobile joints which caused alot of pain and the begining of arthritis in my knees. Doctors need to listen to what people are telling them. The doctor isnt living in the patients body, and cannot truly understand what someone is dealing with. Shit like this can't keep happening. Also, dont get me started with DWP assessments, they are discraceful. Thank you for making a video like this, people need to be more aware of what disabled people have to deal with.
I don’t know if I’ve ever resonated with a rant on mental illness as much as I have with this. Even though I haven’t experienced much life, I’m 19, I still feel like I have experienced the same things. I have bipolar depression, anxiety, a self-harm addiction, have had suicide attempts, and yeah I’ve been essentially in some sort of limbo of anorexia since I was 8. I had to miss a lot of school, 90% of my 11th grade year actually, so I could be forced into recovery(lol didn’t work) and I went through HELL to get a 404 so I could be legally allowed to miss that much school. Even though I have these problems, I feel as if I can never truly complain. Because my problems aren’t “real”. Having grown up in a religious family, and spent most of my childhood going to church; the answer is always God! Embracing Christianity is the answer, the only answer! No, just no. These problems are valid. And I cannot for the life of me deal with any bitch-ass, uppity saint telling me that my problems are not fucking real, and that they are because I’m not close to god. The amount of awareness on mental illness and disabilities is improving...but I’m not sure if it’s being recognized yet.
We are literally weeks away from 2020, and mental illness is STILL not really anything anyone gives a shit about.
Thank you for posting this. I’ve been dealing with all kinds of ableism while trying to guide my daughter through her journey with severe mental illness, eating disorder, etc.
I live in Minnesota… in the United States. Thankfully, no one has ever treated me with prejudice because I wear a pentacle around my neck.
Thank you so so so much for sharing your experiences. Even though I've grown up and found my strength and happiness and I'm OK, there's still my "younger self" inside of me, still looking for comfort and validation, and your videos are incredibly healing for her. I hope to encourage others the way you encourage me.