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I don't care, whenever I see another black woman, I always hail or at least smile if I'm in a hurry. It feels good seeing someone that looks like me. It's a rare sight here. lol
@@jangrace3652 I think too much stock is placed in seeing another black person. Just because they're black doesn't mean they are nice or even want to talk to you or acknowledge you. I lived in Japan while I was in the military an experienced this from other black military personnel as well as other Americans living in Japan. It Just depends on the other person's personality.
it's a shame the way black folk ignore each other. you even see this idiotic behaviour in the states where you encounter another black person on a predominately white job school or neighborhood. most seem to go out of their way to avoid you just to show that they are impartial meanwhile when other races see ea h other they form alliances.
@@callewfitz I totally get that, but it still wont stop me from trying to say hello. I do it regardless. I dont get super offended, I know some people are shy or just dont care for the greetings.
Elgin Subwaysurfer Bolling People ignore each other in general. Color has nothing to do with it. You learn that from working and living around diverse groups. People are people possessing the good, bad and ugly behaviors.
Yeap!... She's a treat to mine eyes ;-))) Gorgeous, Intelligent and Articulate woman... With a Positive Attitude towards a challenging endeavour... Such as living in Japan. We need more, hot and adventurous women like this!
What she says about people being defensive about Japan is so true. And it gets old. People act like they forgot that Japan is a country and not just one street with Anime on one side and maid cafes on the other side. It's an entire country with many cities and even more towns and other areas scattered throughout and there's good and bad in it like everywhere else.
Yes it sad; that why I personally make an effort to extend myself to speak first or start a conversation. I hope to break that taboo of black women not being nice to each other.
Being interested in the views of other people from different cultures is a good thing it's something that most people don't do and instead spend there time judging through stereotypes,so well done my friend 👍
Like the style of conversations. You guys allow the person to speak and because they are able to give longer answers instead of soundbites, the viewpoints have more clarity and definition to them. Truly appreciate what is shared here. Powerful and interesting. And thank you Shemme for sharing your story. Really awesome series.
Ericka Williams and a lot of blacks that live in Japan wanna be "special". That "magical negro" and being the ONLY black on the block mindset is ridiculous and sad.
I appreciate this video. This feeling is not only when you are in Japan or Asia. when I lived in somewhere Europe (really somewhere), in many circumstances, I felt I didn't belong to anyone culturally, racially, mentally. What happens to us when we travel or live abroad for a while is we think the world is like our home country in some way. But in reality it is not. She might say the same thing if she were in somewhere Europe too. Same as Europe, you think Europe (depends on where you live but) is like what you see on the media? No...like she said do your research. Japan is not like what the media shows either. Many images even come from Tokyo. One of the reasons why people do not like the country is they do not speak the local language well or refuse to learn but instead blaming locals who do not speak English mostly. I was sad for her saying a lot of misconceptions about Japan which I found interesting and appreciate her honesty. I've currently lived in U.S but not all places in U.S is like what she mentioned either...really if you define "western culture" there are so many kinds of it...Hope she will find Japan more positive someday. It has ups and downs but there are many things that you might like about the country. Wish her all the best :)
She should make friends with the Japanese and stop having negative stereotypes of black people. She doesn't seem to want to assimilate into the Japanese culture.
She's being honest about her experiences, you can see on her face to, she looks a bit sad, still adjusting, but she's handling it. Shes lovely, and I hope the best for her and her family. ❤💪
Hopefully she can let go of the misconceptions and expectations and just soak in the Japanese culture. It is very different from where she grew up. At lease she has an established community she can lean on.
Japan is safe, but that doesn't mean people should come here and do bad things cause you can still find yourself in trouble! But otherwise yes, It's great to know that I can walk home alone at 1am and not have the need to look over my shoulder every 5 minutes. It's the small things like that that I really appreciate about living here.
I hope she’s doing well now. I’m getting the impression that she’s gone through a ton of culture shock. I can say that, being someone who was born in the East and grew up in the West, they really are two different worlds.
Japan is best enjoyed with an open mind. Visit for a while, learn and observe, go back home, analyze, re-calibrate and come back with a great mindset.Thats what Im gonna do. Such a unique place.
Dancehall actually has a strong scene in Japan...300+ sound systems! I remember hearing Mighty Crown for the first time like 10 years ago and couldn't believe my ears, lol!
They love black culture in japan, there’s a whole sub culture dedicated to it, however they label it as “hip hop fashion”. If you have locks for you sample hip hop they call it hip hop style lol
EuropaNostra black culture is also jazz and dance and science, math, for example the woman who figured out how to get Americans to the moon was a black woman. Black culture is also the birthplace of civilization and humanity and stuff, ya know? More than hip hop. Although we did create that as well 😅
She's telling the truth regarding the whole unity aspect. Here I am thinking it was just me. I still don't get why Americans, especially African-Americans seem offended when I speak to them. This happens far too often. It's the craziest thing ever. I mean no one has to speak to me, but you'd think being a foreignor would level the playing field though.
Because - for better or for worse - they’re trying to assimilate into the culture (mind, body, and soul), and by you acknowledging what you two have in common, you’re ruining the fantasy for them.
Hey Sis you are beautiful and thank you for being so honest about how we as Black women don't come together. This is something that happens both in and outside the US, unfortunately. But you would think if we are so far and few between, we would respond to one another better. I have experienced the same thing. We as Sisters have to stop doing that. They will either give you a dirty look or turn their heads as to not make eye contact with you. We can't complain about others treating us poorly if we don't treat one another well.
Honestly, I thought I didn't get smiles in return because I'm white. Turns out some people just aren't friendly or nice and color has nothing to do with it. Keep spreading the love, it's the better way.💜
Why are you thanking her for saying something negative about black people/women? Maybe it's her energy why nobody likes her. Why do people like you hold on so strongly to negative things said about black people? I am sure there are black people there that have been nice to her but she had to highlight the ones who were mean to her.. She needs to make friends with the Japanese people or whoever wants to be her friend, appreciate the culture and get on with her life. People do not have to be your friend just because you belong to the same race.
@@racheljones4561 everyone’s truth is their own. There are probably many factors. We don’t know but her experience is her truth and she definitely has a right to speak it. I am glad your experiences have all been positive when traveling abroad. There are truths about our interactions with one another that we tend to want to paint as nonexistent but they are there. She’s keeping her truth REAL and maybe we can share some possible insights as opposed to further bashing one another black, white, or purple, for sharing.
@@racheljones4561 For the record, I’m not sure if we’ve met before in order for you to suggest that “people like me” ALWAYS. hold on to ANYTHING! Thanks for sharing
She sounds like someone who was dragged to Japan and didn't expect she had to do her homework and have to ADAPT to other country. "Oh, Japan, it's like NY, I'm american, so it's fine". Nope. Different from other testimonials, being in Japan was NOT her initiative, so, she is not totally open to the experience. Also think about the husband who probably have to hear about this every day.
@@sortsome I mean she's also a black woman. She stands out like a sore thumb. Why only think about her husband? It's not easy to move across the country away from family and friends AND to have difficulty making friends. I mean of course hindsight is 2020 but she would have a MUCH better time if she were a white woman.
I wonder why there are some black women that have a problem with unifying. Is it a competition thing? That's a shame. Anyway, she's very beautiful and I appreciate her honesty.
@@milkandspice1074 yes that should never be a deciding factor. But in this case it's a different subject. It's about unity and community; learning, teaching and helping each other in a foreign land. Not to be best friends, but just kind of someone you can rely on if you need something or have questions and they can point you in the right direction if they themselves can't help you. Some experiences are unique to just certain groups like men, women, and yes many times Black people's experience in foreign lands where there aren't that many of them is very different - not saying bad or good. It doesn't take a lot of effort, energy and time to acknowledge someone similar to you. A smile and a "hey" can do to not come off as a snob or stuck up.
@@herbsnspices I'm just relaying my experiences that it is just something I ever thought about. I lived in Korea and I was given help from every type of person. My community were just foreigners, from everywhere. But, I am a bit of a lone wolf and have never been fond of groups. But, I can definitely see how they help others. :)
Same here too. I smile and say hi to every sister and brother I see. Twice though, my Afro peeps paid for my stuff in line though. Maybe they thought I was being friendly cause I needed money.
@@KhariShootYourShot92 In your own video in this series, you said you were an English teacher -from Detroit- living in Tsushima. Is the phrase "they be having.." proper English? What's wrong with "they have..."?
Anytime I see black women who are mean to other black women for NO reason at all, it usually comes from a place of inner insecurity &/or jealousy. Its like they secretly admire you, but resent the fact that they admire you and project that outwardly as if there is something you did wrong just by your mere existence. I don't consider myself particularly pretty but I have very pretty ladies in my family who are grounded and not pretentious and don't even see how pretty they are and I always laugh when they're like, "This sistah was mean to me and I had to back her up or those sistahs were hatin on me and i did nothing to them" --it's jealousy. MOST black women I think lift each other up and celebrate each toher, but some black women have this innate sense that they have to compete and be the "all-that" chick in the room. Sometimes I wonder if its generational, because we were raised to respect each other with dignity and present ourselves with poise because we had to represent what white people refused to acknowledge about us, the awe were intelligent and deserving of respect. So if whites refuse to respect us, we HAVE to respect each other. My elders were from the time of the civil rights moment and black dignity and unit was a MAJOR thing taught to us growing up, that a young black girl or woman should be beyond reproach. This lady reminds me A Lot of my Grandma, my mom and my sister, just pleasant and beautiful seemingly inside and out, but don't get it twisted, NOT A PUSH OVER
@@deealia2568 missed the point little lady if all you took from EVERYTHING I wrote was me supposedly "singling out black mean girls". But you know, thanks for Trolling
this is so sad, I am a milso I just moved back to America after living abroad in Italy and I felt the black community there was so tight knit and loving. Way better than random black people you run into in America. Like they weren't even all Americans. Africans, Jamaicans etc... I thought living overseas with the military made people closer.
Nice!! Shout out for showing some love to the mil side of the house for those that live here. Our experience might be a little different, but it matters too and can complete that full circle on what life is like in Japan 👍🏾
probably one of the most balanced interviews i've seen on BEJ ever...not trying to come off as enlightened, not trying to overhype or be a japan "influencer"...just....calm, down to earth sharing of experiences......thanks Shemme..!!
RIGHT!!!!! I always thought that was weird. Like, most people who get defensive aren't from japan, or for that matter, speak the language, they just watch anime and think they know Japanese culture. It's so weird.
I get where she's coming from. I live in Australia and work in hospitality. Black women will give you this look like "shut up. I'm incognegro....don't blow my cover". .
I’m not black but I think there are two basic types of ex-pats. Those who flock to the expat communities/bars etc and those particular individuals who seek to immerse themselves in the new society and experience. So, for certain individuals when they see people who look like they do or remind them of home they shy away because they don’t want to get caught up in the whole lifestyle of referencing everything to back home. Most likely the same people,if they were back home, would be cool with everybody as usual.
republiccooper Carnal, lustful, perverts. Ungodly blind people who only see flesh instead of the gifts of the spirit from God. Only care about looks, instead of serving the Lord.
...You want her to wear a bag over her head? I mean if people notice her face is appealing what's wrong with it? Most pf the comments respectful so it shouldn't even bother you.
Your three philosophies are on point and pure gold. Thank you and your parents for sharing such wisdom. Thank you for being so honest here; this was a great interview!
I pray for her happiness.. she seems like she’s kind of having a hard time there... she’s beautiful I hope she finds another woman there she can relate to... out of all the interviews that I’ve watched on this channel this one kind of made me sad.. but at least she knows this to shall pass..
Wow! She very open about her observations and thoughts. I didnt know if i was offended by her candidness in relation to her own people in Japan or very proud of her for being brave in doing so.
I put in for Japan over and over again. They kept sending me to Korea over and over again so I caught a military hop and went there for 2 weeks and I can’t wait to get out so I can go there and work as a civilian. Enjoy Japan, make the most of it. I love your attitude towards life, keep it up 👍🏾
i actually know what shes talking about with other black people not being happy to see you. Its like that in europe. I dont think theyre being rude but watching the other videos homogenous or a bit racially problematic towards black people and im sure she doesnt go through alot of the same social pressures as the other black people because shes pretty. I'm sure they want to say hey but they probably dont have it in them. Its exactly like that in europe and ive received just as much negative attention from black people as the white people. I think it has to do with the social pressures, not necessarily theyre state of mind.
Black Americans or Africans or Caribbean?...Maybe. encountering Blacks of different nationalities than your own is part of the disconnect or difficulty....real question.
I grew up in Japan and later came to US. I have met quite a few people who spent more than a few years in Japan, most of them are servicemen and the family member of them. So, far I have not met one person who can speak Japanese. Only a few words. I can bet she's one of those.
Thankyou for sharing.. Im moving to Osaka Japan next week from NZ, I'm not black but I am of polynesian descent and I find your page so relatable for me. 😊
@@dantheman5140 my only problems are: 1. Learning Japanese. Not many websites or apps without paying an arm and leg. 2. Where to go once I get there. 3. A job. Osaka seems to be the place to go but I wanna look around first. Already told my friend and family that if I go, I'm not coming back.
黒人女の人はもう美しいです。There is a Black Woman I Love, from 1994. her Name is Felicia. But, she is Married to Another Guy. she has a Daughter. But, I'm Happy For Them. I Wish I Could Have A Daughter Someday, Named Aprille-Beth, I Want To Name Her After My Mother, Elizabeth, Because She Was Born In April. Black is Beautiful, Black is Best!
YOU DON’T EVEN NO IF THEY ARE BLACK,for all we know their probably not even a man,why does it matter, she is beautiful light,dark,brown,pale it don’t matter a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman.just because your insecure about your looks doesn’t mean other people can’t like other people’s looks
I don’t agree with the diet part. When I’m with my family and friends in Japan we always eat a balanced diet with a lot of fruits and vegetables. Compared to other places I’ve visited in the world (Latin America, Europe, other Asian countries) we eat super healthy and eat a lot of veggies. I guess if you’re a vegan you might think everyone’s diet in the entire word isn’t as healthy as yours just because we include a lot of animal products in our dishes. Idk tho.
She's learning that seasons exist and that you can not get anything at any time, and that driving is not always convenient. So she's learning life, seems good to me
Why is she surprised? An attractive woman in a somewhat isolated situation automatically creates sexual rivalry between women. (limited resources and opportunities) The same sometimes can go for men. Her feelings about her observation is valid, however misplaced. BTW, She is right thin does not equate to health or fitness.
As a japanese, i appreciate her critic about my country. ppl hesitate to criticize other country ppl and society, so ppl praise or please us, but sometimes unfortunately it is made use of by far-right nationalists and also as she said, no country is perfect, it means every country has things to improve. Criticizing from ppl who came from other culture is worth to listen to. Thanks Sham!
I wanted my first duty station to be Okinawa, but I ended up being sent to Germany. Spent 6 years there, loved it. I still want to visit Okinawa though.
Great interview and I respect her experience. I just feel if you're a westerner you have to respect Japanese culture for what it is and not try to americanize it. I'm actually attracted to the pride that the Japanese people have about their culture and it shows.
This in my opinion is with a doubt the best video that I have on this site absolutely...her deliverance and honesty and knowledge was one hundred percent spot....very interesting and informative I can not say and totally agree with her opioid especially the fact of learning as much as possible about a country that you are moving to or visiting before once just spot on...very pleasant and upbeat and also honest with excellent values. ...do not worry you will succeed in being a model just natural beauty and down to earth that she is...very beautiful person both inward and outward...most enjoyable to view and educational. ...God bless you and your spouse and that he continues watch over both of you
I've never had any problems in Japan. But then again I speak Japanese. The main problem people have in Japan is that they can't be bothered learning how to speak fluent Japanese. If they learned how to communicate in the Japanese language, fluently, then many of their 'problems' would disappear.
OMG, she needs a hug. I wish I was there to hug her. I'm vegetarian btw (not vegan), and when I was visiting Japan a few years ago I had a bit of trouble finding food to eat there, but thankfully my good friends help me find some vegan restaurants there.
6:45 secs - Never experienced this as a black guy as black men generally give the positive acknowledge that she expected, so I'm surprised that black women don't follow the same light. Are there any other black women here experienced the same thing as her?
@@mckyboo27 Wow. That's really unfortunate and i don't understand that complete opposite mentality. Doesn't compute to me. Does anyone have any theories as to why in Japan that black men often always show positive and courteous acknowledgement to each other why black women don't even bother? Black women that can admit to themselves of doing the same thing (not being at least courteous) offer their views ask to why they don't like to do so? It's not to oust you out, but it's just to have some understanding with the mindset and nothing more.
@@EAprima it's hard to tell because you see black women from so many different walks of life, it could be for many reasons. I lived in a touristy part of Tokyo so a lot of the black women I saw were tourists and so maybe that was one reason why. They didn't feel the need to be open to me because they haven't been here long enough to feel isolated or miss seeing people that look like them. Also it could be that they don't want to make a big deal out of it when they're with their non-black friends. While it is like this on the streets I do want to say that we have a facebook community for black women in japan and it is very suppportive. I've met a few people through the group and they were all welcoming. I've even attended a party full of black women from all over the world and we all got along well.
@@EAprima Black American women have been taught or socialized to hate and mistrust one another...by rap/hip hop and other means..this so called culture is more negative, dangerous and toxic for Black women....Black men are the belles of the Black community and get more positive reinforcement from males and females alike...Black women are hated and take it out on each other....Dont act like youre blind.
Actually, this happens with Black men as well and it’s really disappointing when you’re somewhere where you know there’s not a lot of us. I experienced this most recently in Tokyo a couple of weeks ago. I was happy to see another brother walking the streets of Shibuya. I had already experienced hellos and smiles from Japanese folks and then this brother as soon as we made eye contact, he looked thru me and looked away. Completely deflated my balloon lol Ahh well.. I’m a black man and I love black people so I never hesitate to say what’s up.
There's a Gold's Gym right outside the Nijō Castle stop in Kyoto. Both times I've been to Japan it's the only gym I've spotted that was openly advertising
There might be two reasons for the "dirty look" from other black people. (a phenomenon that is common among most foreign groups) 1) They don't want to be associated with the US miitary. The US forces somewhat frowend upon, due to the troubles (crime, noise, cultural ignorance) their presence causes. 2) They actively avoid creating a "black/german/french/etc. community" or taking part in it as to be more involved with the local culture and better learn the language.
bikkiikun unfortunately my brothers and sisters in the military too often give us all a bad reputation. I try to get involved whatever country I go to change that, then one idiot screws it up one drunk weekend and we’re put on curfew 🤦♂️
ricecristi I watch them all, but I’m requesting a specific video concentrating on highlighting the similarities and difference in similar situations, similar locations in Japan so one can have a better perspective
Amazing how some people can't seem to first notice others for their personality, intelligence, poise, accomplishments, etc. beyond facial beauty! Shallow!!
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Thank you for your consistency and dedication...
why don't you add the person name on the screen when they talk? I love this girl
@@flashburt6765 she's married to a navy guy,so no chance
@@galy50 I didnt talk about marriage brave, just fucking. Cant marry a sister, she is black for for gods sake.
Please, can I require you also to do this for the African American who decides to leave America and leave for Africa.
I don't care, whenever I see another black woman, I always hail or at least smile if I'm in a hurry. It feels good seeing someone that looks like me. It's a rare sight here. lol
I feel the same way, I always smile at the very least and wave, but I know exactly what she’s talking about.
@@jangrace3652 I think too much stock is placed in seeing another black person. Just because they're black doesn't mean they are nice or even want to talk to you or acknowledge you. I lived in Japan while I was in the military an experienced this from other black military personnel as well as other Americans living in Japan. It Just depends on the other person's personality.
it's a shame the way black folk ignore each other. you even see this idiotic behaviour in the states where you encounter another black person on a predominately white job school or neighborhood. most seem to go out of their way to avoid you just to show that they are impartial
meanwhile when other races see ea h other they form alliances.
@@callewfitz I totally get that, but it still wont stop me from trying to say hello. I do it regardless. I dont get super offended, I know some people are shy or just dont care for the greetings.
Elgin Subwaysurfer Bolling People ignore each other in general. Color has nothing to do with it. You learn that from working and living around diverse groups. People are people possessing the good, bad and ugly behaviors.
She is gorgeous..I love these vids
Yeap!... She's a treat to mine eyes ;-)))
Gorgeous, Intelligent and Articulate woman... With a Positive Attitude towards a challenging endeavour... Such as living in Japan.
We need more, hot and adventurous women like this!
Hella fine
yeap, she married to a white man...
@@jlb74a don't see how that is relevant...
Black women (i.e., African-American women) are often very attractive in the U.S. and the men. ☮ USA!
What she says about people being defensive about Japan is so true. And it gets old. People act like they forgot that Japan is a country and not just one street with Anime on one side and maid cafes on the other side. It's an entire country with many cities and even more towns and other areas scattered throughout and there's good and bad in it like everywhere else.
Mainstream blonde and blue ijs
Ok Daren
She’s gorgeouss wow
Black women (African-American women) are often very attractive in the U.S. and the men too. USA!
Damn, get off her nuts.
AS J ?
@@filethisinformation3277 we are ahaha
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I felt her disappointment with the lack of unification amongst Black women 😒. Why do we do this to each other? It's a shame really.
Yes it sad; that why I personally make an effort to extend myself to speak first or start a conversation. I hope to break that taboo of black women not being nice to each other.
IKR, we need to come together as a race. Be more friendly to each other. It would make us so much stronger together.
It's everywhere, I think coming from colonized places can do that to you.
Sounds like self-hatred. Fucked up given now is the time we need to come together more than ever.
People shouldn't be forced to be close just because they look alike...
Just a white guy from London but i'm loving these stories. Very touching and inspiring stuff.
She’s very beautiful. Enjoyed hearing her story
Black women (i.e., African-American women) are often very attractive in the U.S. and the men. ☮ USA!
Not black or even especially interested in Japan, but for some reason im suuuuuuuuuuuper into this channnel .Great job.
I think the stories just touch people on a "human level."
Ookay, now go away..lol
Being interested in the views of other people from different cultures is a good thing it's something that most people don't do and instead spend there time judging through stereotypes,so well done my friend 👍
Lol me too channel is really good!
Like the style of conversations. You guys allow the person to speak and because they are able to give longer answers instead of soundbites, the viewpoints have more clarity and definition to them. Truly appreciate what is shared here. Powerful and interesting. And thank you Shemme for sharing your story. Really awesome series.
Goddamn, she's gorgeous...
Black women (i.e., African-American women) are often very attractive in the U.S. and the men. ☮ USA!
And very married, unfortunately for you😂
Because she has a white phenotype. Pure black women dont look that beautiful.
@@guguphakathi1662 Reeeeeee
@@baldwintheleper8290 notice how you comment has no like which equals no one agrees with your dumb STATEMENTS
"Every situation is an opportunity." I love her wisdom and her sense of gratitude.
She is absolutely beautiful. Lucky guy!
Very well said my dear .
I’m actually really jealous of the husband lol
@@Will-nb8qk me too...🤣😂😅let's go find him and congratulate his WIN👑LOL
@@omphemetsechake2839 : Hopefully she’s there 😉
Some folks aren't happy, and that mean mug is so sad. That pay now or pay later is so true.
Wow your everywhere! you almost don't need to travel lol Hoodestsates LC CharmCity Cousin Nita Love you guys!
Whoa didn't expect to see you here Ericka!
Ericka Williams and a lot of blacks that live in Japan wanna be "special". That "magical negro" and being the ONLY black on the block mindset is ridiculous and sad.
Essence M. I'll take your word for it on that one. She also has a white husband. So that might lead to some of those looks as well.
I appreciate this video. This feeling is not only when you are in Japan or Asia. when I lived in somewhere Europe (really somewhere), in many circumstances, I felt I didn't belong to anyone culturally, racially, mentally. What happens to us when we travel or live abroad for a while is we think the world is like our home country in some way. But in reality it is not. She might say the same thing if she were in somewhere Europe too. Same as Europe, you think Europe (depends on where you live but) is like what you see on the media? No...like she said do your research. Japan is not like what the media shows either. Many images even come from Tokyo. One of the reasons why people do not like the country is they do not speak the local language well or refuse to learn but instead blaming locals who do not speak English mostly. I was sad for her saying a lot of misconceptions about Japan which I found interesting and appreciate her honesty. I've currently lived in U.S but not all places in U.S is like what she mentioned either...really if you define "western culture" there are so many kinds of it...Hope she will find Japan more positive someday. It has ups and downs but there are many things that you might like about the country. Wish her all the best :)
Thank you for your insight Yuji!
She’s so beautiful, but man, there was such a melancholy to her interview.
Right 😔
She should make friends with the Japanese and stop having negative stereotypes of black people. She doesn't seem to want to assimilate into the Japanese culture.
She's being honest about her experiences, you can see on her face to, she looks a bit sad, still adjusting, but she's handling it. Shes lovely, and I hope the best for her and her family. ❤💪
Hopefully she can let go of the misconceptions and expectations and just soak in the Japanese culture. It is very different from where she grew up. At lease she has an established community she can lean on.
Japan is safe, but that doesn't mean people should come here and do bad things cause you can still find yourself in trouble! But otherwise yes, It's great to know that I can walk home alone at 1am and not have the need to look over my shoulder every 5 minutes. It's the small things like that that I really appreciate about living here.
Mary Ralladi listen man safe for the Japanese ppl but no for outsider cause they could pass law effect outsider, if u know what I mean
I hope she’s doing well now. I’m getting the impression that she’s gone through a ton of culture shock. I can say that, being someone who was born in the East and grew up in the West, they really are two different worlds.
Great wisdom passed on to her from her parents. Pay now or pay later. Nobody owes you anything. Her parents did a great job.
What a beautiful and intelligent woman. Her husband is a fortunate man.
As always another great episode.
Japan is best enjoyed with an open mind. Visit for a while, learn and observe, go back home, analyze, re-calibrate and come back with a great mindset.Thats what Im gonna do. Such a unique place.
She's really damn attractive lol
She reminds me of apolonia from the last dragon
@@mackw919 vanity totally
She's a model so you'd expect that.
Ridiculously so!
@Ellis Freed what's up!
I appreciate her perspective about the Japanese diet, food price and availability, and misconceptions.
I'd like to see a video about black culture in Japan, like how the Japanese take to dancehall or back american life style
Dancehall actually has a strong scene in Japan...300+ sound systems! I remember hearing Mighty Crown for the first time like 10 years ago and couldn't believe my ears, lol!
@@DMCLN Yes I know but I want to see this channel do a video on that topic, Yeah Mighty Crown is awesome!
They love black culture in japan, there’s a whole sub culture dedicated to it, however they label it as “hip hop fashion”. If you have locks for you sample hip hop they call it hip hop style lol
EuropaNostra black culture is also jazz and dance and science, math, for example the woman who figured out how to get Americans to the moon was a black woman. Black culture is also the birthplace of civilization and humanity and stuff, ya know? More than hip hop. Although we did create that as well 😅
EuropaNostra you forgot the inventor of Rock n Roll was also black by the name of little Richard....look that up
"Every country is not perfect"
That's right.
Was stationed in Yokosuka off-base and loved living in Japan! So much so that I'm coming back this year to Tokyo!
Very cool !! I grew up in Yokosuka long ago.
TheAndySan Archives honch it up 😂
ANDYSAN I THOUGHT I TOLD YOU THAT YOU KNOW WHY I DO NOT LIEK U!!
@@TkyoSam I watched some of your videos and you really do have the mind of a 16 year old
South Florida represent'n. Another great upload Ranzo, thanks for the perspective
South Florida too bad🔥...loving it from South Africa😊
Damn, even in a foreign land with small numbers, we cant have solidarity among ourselves, south Florida here btw
Too busy trying to curry favor...
Same
@@dru1894 im in s f
That's a shame because I thought black people abroad would come together.
I think it's a Female thing.
She's telling the truth regarding the whole unity aspect. Here I am thinking it was just me. I still don't get why Americans, especially African-Americans seem offended when I speak to them. This happens far too often. It's the craziest thing ever. I mean no one has to speak to me, but you'd think being a foreignor would level the playing field though.
Because - for better or for worse - they’re trying to assimilate into the culture (mind, body, and soul), and by you acknowledging what you two have in common, you’re ruining the fantasy for them.
Hey Sis you are beautiful and thank you for being so honest about how we as Black women don't come together. This is something that happens both in and outside the US, unfortunately. But you would think if we are so far and few between, we would respond to one another better.
I have experienced the same thing. We as Sisters have to stop doing that. They will either give you a dirty look or turn their heads as to not make eye contact with you.
We can't complain about others treating us poorly if we don't treat one another well.
Honestly, I thought I didn't get smiles in return because I'm white. Turns out some people just aren't friendly or nice and color has nothing to do with it. Keep spreading the love, it's the better way.💜
@@Here_Today_ people not happy on the inside u can tell in the 👀
Why are you thanking her for saying something negative about black people/women? Maybe it's her energy why nobody likes her. Why do people like you hold on so strongly to negative things said about black people? I am sure there are black people there that have been nice to her but she had to highlight the ones who were mean to her.. She needs to make friends with the Japanese people or whoever wants to be her friend, appreciate the culture and get on with her life. People do not have to be your friend just because you belong to the same race.
@@racheljones4561 everyone’s truth is their own. There are probably many factors. We don’t know but her experience is her truth and she definitely has a right to speak it. I am glad your experiences have all been positive when traveling abroad. There are truths about our interactions with one another that we tend to want to paint as nonexistent but they are there. She’s keeping her truth REAL and maybe we can share some possible insights as opposed to further bashing one another black, white, or purple, for sharing.
@@racheljones4561 For the record, I’m not sure if we’ve met before in order for you to suggest that “people like me” ALWAYS. hold on to ANYTHING! Thanks for sharing
"well, my husband-"
**closes video**
loool
Good man
Lol😂
*tears streaming down face*
LMAO!
seems like she can't wait to leave lol
Lol
She is clearly unhappy.😂
yep-but she's being polite about it
She sounds like someone who was dragged to Japan and didn't expect she had to do her homework and have to ADAPT to other country. "Oh, Japan, it's like NY, I'm american, so it's fine". Nope. Different from other testimonials, being in Japan was NOT her initiative, so, she is not totally open to the experience. Also think about the husband who probably have to hear about this every day.
@@sortsome I mean she's also a black woman. She stands out like a sore thumb. Why only think about her husband? It's not easy to move across the country away from family and friends AND to have difficulty making friends. I mean of course hindsight is 2020 but she would have a MUCH better time if she were a white woman.
I wonder why there are some black women that have a problem with unifying. Is it a competition thing? That's a shame. Anyway, she's very beautiful and I appreciate her honesty.
Alicia Craig-Ornsby completely agree
I definitely think so... the culture is heavy on looks, appearance and being better than the other girl/woman.
Growing up military and my circle of friends from everywhere, I never thought about befriending someone based on their race or ethnic background.
@@milkandspice1074 yes that should never be a deciding factor. But in this case it's a different subject. It's about unity and community; learning, teaching and helping each other in a foreign land. Not to be best friends, but just kind of someone you can rely on if you need something or have questions and they can point you in the right direction if they themselves can't help you. Some experiences are unique to just certain groups like men, women, and yes many times Black people's experience in foreign lands where there aren't that many of them is very different - not saying bad or good. It doesn't take a lot of effort, energy and time to acknowledge someone similar to you. A smile and a "hey" can do to not come off as a snob or stuck up.
@@herbsnspices I'm just relaying my experiences that it is just something I ever thought about. I lived in Korea and I was given help from every type of person. My community were just foreigners, from everywhere. But, I am a bit of a lone wolf and have never been fond of groups. But, I can definitely see how they help others. :)
Bruh I visited twice and also would smile but get no return love, the Japanese ppl smiled more haha what’s the reason
Same here too. I smile and say hi to every sister and brother I see. Twice though, my Afro peeps paid for my stuff in line though. Maybe they thought I was being friendly cause I needed money.
Now i live here, when other brown people see me, they be having this energy like "Yo dont even try it, dont even talk to me"..
@@KhariShootYourShot92 In your own video in this series, you said you were an English teacher -from Detroit- living in Tsushima. Is the phrase "they be having.." proper English? What's wrong with "they have..."?
@@uwanttono4012 lol, man you are putting a lot of effort into this. I commend your resilience!
@@KhariShootYourShot92 damn that’s tough I always love to meet my people when I am abroad
Anytime I see black women who are mean to other black women for NO reason at all, it usually comes from a place of inner insecurity &/or jealousy. Its like they secretly admire you, but resent the fact that they admire you and project that outwardly as if there is something you did wrong just by your mere existence. I don't consider myself particularly pretty but I have very pretty ladies in my family who are grounded and not pretentious and don't even see how pretty they are and I always laugh when they're like, "This sistah was mean to me and I had to back her up or those sistahs were hatin on me and i did nothing to them" --it's jealousy. MOST black women I think lift each other up and celebrate each toher, but some black women have this innate sense that they have to compete and be the "all-that" chick in the room. Sometimes I wonder if its generational, because we were raised to respect each other with dignity and present ourselves with poise because we had to represent what white people refused to acknowledge about us, the awe were intelligent and deserving of respect. So if whites refuse to respect us, we HAVE to respect each other. My elders were from the time of the civil rights moment and black dignity and unit was a MAJOR thing taught to us growing up, that a young black girl or woman should be beyond reproach. This lady reminds me A Lot of my Grandma, my mom and my sister, just pleasant and beautiful seemingly inside and out, but don't get it twisted, NOT A PUSH OVER
Girl, there are mean girls, insecure girls etc in every race. Stop singling black women out.
@@deealia2568 missed the point little lady if all you took from EVERYTHING I wrote was me supposedly "singling out black mean girls". But you know, thanks for Trolling
as a black woman i hate to say it but it is very true even tho jealousy has NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH RACE!🤗
Thank you for these videos and a special thanks to these guests for participating.
She's gorgeous!
That’s an understatement
EVERYONE YOU INTERVIEW HAS SUCH AWESOME ENERGY!
Seriously though, keep up the great work
this is so sad, I am a milso I just moved back to America after living abroad in Italy and I felt the black community there was so tight knit and loving. Way better than random black people you run into in America. Like they weren't even all Americans. Africans, Jamaicans etc... I thought living overseas with the military made people closer.
Senpaischick If does came one closer. Especially if your the only Black people.
Bingo. Military spouse. Enjoy. My dad was born in japan.. love military bases so diverse and helps you travel
Nice!! Shout out for showing some love to the mil side of the house for those that live here. Our experience might be a little different, but it matters too and can complete that full circle on what life is like in Japan 👍🏾
probably one of the most balanced interviews i've seen on BEJ ever...not trying to come off as enlightened, not trying to overhype or be a japan "influencer"...just....calm, down to earth sharing of experiences......thanks Shemme..!!
She’s right about Westerners being defensive about Japan. See it in comments on this channel. It can get ridiculous sometimes.
RIGHT!!!!! I always thought that was weird. Like, most people who get defensive aren't from japan, or for that matter, speak the language, they just watch anime and think they know Japanese culture. It's so weird.
You are beautiful and you made Auntie proud with your intelligent, charismatic and wholesome beauty.
I get where she's coming from. I live in Australia and work in hospitality. Black women will give you this look like "shut up. I'm incognegro....don't blow my cover".
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What an eloquent and intelligent woman! It was a pleasure listening to her story :)
I’m not black but I think there are two basic types of ex-pats. Those who flock to the expat communities/bars etc and those particular individuals who seek to immerse themselves in the new society and experience. So, for certain individuals when they see people who look like they do or remind them of home they shy away because they don’t want to get caught up in the whole lifestyle of referencing everything to back home. Most likely the same people,if they were back home, would be cool with everybody as usual.
We need more women like this!
Yep, I want me one.
Really interesting interview ! Great Job! 😍
7:21 | Great philosophies right there. Best part of the entire video. Skip to this duration if you want to get straight to the golden nugget.
I love your videos.
But I hate the comments that start with "oh she's gorgeous." Why are you viewers so obsessed with people's looks?
republiccooper Carnal, lustful, perverts. Ungodly blind people who only see flesh instead of the gifts of the spirit from God. Only care about looks, instead of serving the Lord.
republiccooper exactly, is that all you watched the video for?
you must be ugly
...You want her to wear a bag over her head? I mean if people notice her face is appealing what's wrong with it? Most pf the comments respectful so it shouldn't even bother you.
People only value women based on their looks which is why women should start valuing men based on their money.
Your three philosophies are on point and pure gold. Thank you and your parents for sharing such wisdom. Thank you for being so honest here; this was a great interview!
I pray for her happiness.. she seems like she’s kind of having a hard time there... she’s beautiful I hope she finds another woman there she can relate to... out of all the interviews that I’ve watched on this channel this one kind of made me sad.. but at least she knows this to shall pass..
I think she is lonely and isolated.
Wow! She very open about her observations and thoughts. I didnt know if i was offended by her candidness in relation to her own people in Japan or very proud of her for being brave in doing so.
What a lovely young lady! No wonder she's a model and she has solid life advice. Good interview.
she is sweet.
careful with her words but you kinda have to when you are in a different country.
Who is that in your pfp?
I put in for Japan over and over again. They kept sending me to Korea over and over again so I caught a military hop and went there for 2 weeks and I can’t wait to get out so I can go there and work as a civilian. Enjoy Japan, make the most of it. I love your attitude towards life, keep it up 👍🏾
i actually know what shes talking about with other black people not being happy to see you. Its like that in europe. I dont think theyre being rude but watching the other videos homogenous or a bit racially problematic towards black people and im sure she doesnt go through alot of the same social pressures as the other black people because shes pretty. I'm sure they want to say hey but they probably dont have it in them. Its exactly like that in europe and ive received just as much negative attention from black people as the white people. I think it has to do with the social pressures, not necessarily theyre state of mind.
Black Americans or Africans or Caribbean?...Maybe. encountering Blacks of different nationalities than your own is part of the disconnect or difficulty....real question.
I grew up in Japan and later came to US.
I have met quite a few people who spent more than a few years in Japan, most of them are servicemen and the family member of them.
So, far I have not met one person who can speak Japanese.
Only a few words.
I can bet she's one of those.
she is so right about misconceptions, we always assume or go with opinions of other people :)
Wow she's gorgeous!!
@Bruce Leroy he is a "simp" ...bc he complimented a pretty woman? What are you a part of? ...some d.l. men hate group...😑
Thankyou for sharing.. Im moving to Osaka Japan next week from NZ, I'm not black but I am of polynesian descent and I find your page so relatable for me. 😊
Really hoping to make it to Japan in the next 5 years 🤞
Same brotha. May lord god help us in reaching our desired destination 🤙🏽
You must go !!! I swear these videos don’t even give you a molecule of how great it really is .... it’s awesome for real
@@dantheman5140 my only problems are:
1. Learning Japanese. Not many websites or apps without paying an arm and leg.
2. Where to go once I get there.
3. A job.
Osaka seems to be the place to go but I wanna look around first. Already told my friend and family that if I go, I'm not coming back.
Howard Davis same. I’m visiting in October. Hopefully I can live and work there
This young lady is beautiful on the inside and the outside. She has a lot of wisdom already. It doesn't cost a dime to be nice to anyone.
Notification squad up!
Beautiful Intelligent young woman. She articulates her observations well. I like her advice. Very positive.
She is fine. That is all.
黒人女の人はもう美しいです。There is a Black Woman I Love, from 1994. her Name is Felicia. But, she is Married to Another Guy. she has a Daughter. But, I'm Happy For Them. I Wish I Could Have A Daughter Someday, Named Aprille-Beth, I Want To Name Her After My Mother, Elizabeth, Because She Was Born In April. Black is Beautiful, Black is Best!
Kenjiro Nakamura : You're cute! And I'm a black women!
this sounds like a poem lol
Did I just read a love poem on youtube comments?!😂😂👞
A love poem💌?
Oh cool another Felicia! 😎
She is a straight up indigenous Black American in Japan. That's what's up!
Man i am captivated just looking at her face. Watching her talk is a treat. She is Superman's Kryptonite.
Always the darkest men lusting
YOU DON’T EVEN NO IF THEY ARE BLACK,for all we know their probably not even a man,why does it matter, she is beautiful light,dark,brown,pale it don’t matter a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman.just because your insecure about your looks doesn’t mean other people can’t like other people’s looks
yo she's hot af. thx for this interview. it's actually really cool to hear from her perspective!
I don’t agree with the diet part. When I’m with my family and friends in Japan we always eat a balanced diet with a lot of fruits and vegetables. Compared to other places I’ve visited in the world (Latin America, Europe, other Asian countries) we eat super healthy and eat a lot of veggies. I guess if you’re a vegan you might think everyone’s diet in the entire word isn’t as healthy as yours just because we include a lot of animal products in our dishes. Idk tho.
It is so sad that even in another country we can't be unified and loving to our own.
She's learning that seasons exist and that you can not get anything at any time, and that driving is not always convenient. So she's learning life, seems good to me
Why is she surprised? An attractive woman in a somewhat isolated situation automatically creates sexual rivalry between women. (limited resources and opportunities) The same sometimes can go for men. Her feelings about her observation is valid, however misplaced.
BTW, She is right thin does not equate to health or fitness.
As a japanese, i appreciate her critic about my country. ppl hesitate to criticize other country ppl and society, so ppl praise or please us, but sometimes unfortunately it is made use of by far-right nationalists and also as she said, no country is perfect, it means every country has things to improve. Criticizing from ppl who came from other culture is worth to listen to. Thanks Sham!
I love hearing about Black experiences around the world. I don't have any particular interest in Japan.
F but particularly.. you should go ... it’s awesome!
I wanted my first duty station to be Okinawa, but I ended up being sent to Germany. Spent 6 years there, loved it. I still want to visit Okinawa though.
Just make all your videos with that girl talking....she is GORGEOUS.
Agreed😅🤣😂lol
Hi Ranzo! I am enjoying this video. Let me tell you something, Shemme is such a wise and beautiful young lady. 😊🤗😊
Great interview and I respect her experience. I just feel if you're a westerner you have to respect Japanese culture for what it is and not try to americanize it. I'm actually attracted to the pride that the Japanese people have about their culture and it shows.
This in my opinion is with a doubt the best video that I have on this site absolutely...her deliverance and honesty and knowledge was one hundred percent spot....very interesting and informative I can not say and totally agree with her opioid especially the fact of learning as much as possible about a country that you are moving to or visiting before once just spot on...very pleasant and upbeat and also honest with excellent values. ...do not worry you will succeed in being a model just natural beauty and down to earth that she is...very beautiful person both inward and outward...most enjoyable to view and educational. ...God bless you and your spouse and that he continues watch over both of you
Woot woot south Florida ! Palm beach here!
Her hair is so nice. It fits her well
Her mom and dad did a great job she's beautiful
Omg her beauty is breath taking
Awe how sweet. A different perspective 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I've never had any problems in Japan. But then again I speak Japanese.
The main problem people have in Japan is that they can't be bothered learning how to speak fluent Japanese. If they learned how to communicate in the Japanese language, fluently, then many of their 'problems' would disappear.
Learning a language like Japanese it takes years of study. Fluency takes longer
OMG, she needs a hug. I wish I was there to hug her. I'm vegetarian btw (not vegan), and when I was visiting Japan a few years ago I had a bit of trouble finding food to eat there, but thankfully my good friends help me find some vegan restaurants there.
Christopher Burse use happy cow to find endless vegan options, I went last summer and had no problems at all
She is gorgeous!! Wow 😳
6:45 secs - Never experienced this as a black guy as black men generally give the positive acknowledge that she expected, so I'm surprised that black women don't follow the same light.
Are there any other black women here experienced the same thing as her?
Yeah I experienced the same thing in Tokyo most of the time.
@@mckyboo27 Wow. That's really unfortunate and i don't understand that complete opposite mentality. Doesn't compute to me.
Does anyone have any theories as to why in Japan that black men often always show positive and courteous acknowledgement to each other why black women don't even bother? Black women that can admit to themselves of doing the same thing (not being at least courteous) offer their views ask to why they don't like to do so? It's not to oust you out, but it's just to have some understanding with the mindset and nothing more.
@@EAprima it's hard to tell because you see black women from so many different walks of life, it could be for many reasons. I lived in a touristy part of Tokyo so a lot of the black women I saw were tourists and so maybe that was one reason why. They didn't feel the need to be open to me because they haven't been here long enough to feel isolated or miss seeing people that look like them.
Also it could be that they don't want to make a big deal out of it when they're with their non-black friends.
While it is like this on the streets I do want to say that we have a facebook community for black women in japan and it is very suppportive. I've met a few people through the group and they were all welcoming. I've even attended a party full of black women from all over the world and we all got along well.
@@EAprima Black American women have been taught or socialized to hate and mistrust one another...by rap/hip hop and other means..this so called culture is more negative, dangerous and toxic for Black women....Black men are the belles of the Black community and get more positive reinforcement from males and females alike...Black women are hated and take it out on each other....Dont act like youre blind.
Actually, this happens with Black men as well and it’s really disappointing when you’re somewhere where you know there’s not a lot of us. I experienced this most recently in Tokyo a couple of weeks ago. I was happy to see another brother walking the streets of Shibuya. I had already experienced hellos and smiles from Japanese folks and then this brother as soon as we made eye contact, he looked thru me and looked away. Completely deflated my balloon lol Ahh well.. I’m a black man and I love black people so I never hesitate to say what’s up.
There's a Gold's Gym right outside the Nijō Castle stop in Kyoto. Both times I've been to Japan it's the only gym I've spotted that was openly advertising
There might be two reasons for the "dirty look" from other black people. (a phenomenon that is common among most foreign groups)
1) They don't want to be associated with the US miitary. The US forces somewhat frowend upon, due to the troubles (crime, noise, cultural ignorance) their presence causes.
2) They actively avoid creating a "black/german/french/etc. community" or taking part in it as to be more involved with the local culture and better learn the language.
bikkiikun unfortunately my brothers and sisters in the military too often give us all a bad reputation. I try to get involved whatever country I go to change that, then one idiot screws it up one drunk weekend and we’re put on curfew 🤦♂️
bikkiikun WOW! This is a very interesting perspective & unfortunately I completely understand where you’re coming from.
I'm curious to know if there's a difference between the experience of black men vs black woman in Japan
A. J. Watch the other videos
ricecristi I watch them all, but I’m requesting a specific video concentrating on highlighting the similarities and difference in similar situations, similar locations in Japan so one can have a better perspective
it seems to be easier for the men to date and assimilate
She is all kinds of beautiful.
Chunkalunkin dark skin man lusting over a light skinned woman - what else is new? 😂
@@deealia2568 she's black and beautiful, he cant compliment her?
Amazing how some people can't seem to first notice others for their personality, intelligence, poise, accomplishments, etc. beyond facial beauty! Shallow!!
she look good , big ups on the queen doing her ting.
She is beautiful...Wow!!! I love her eyes....great video.
this girl has the face of a person ive seen and known for years but i have no idea who they are at the same time
good looking people have familiar looking faces, simultaneously, humans are attracted to people that look familiar to them, no matter how they look
@@Bayo106 Nah....
@@noir935 😂😂🤣
If she’s from Florida might have seen her on in a porn maybe, don’t discount it! Lol 😂
Funny. I was thinking the same thing. She looks so familiar.