Hlub Kuv Li Hlub Koj Tus Ntxhais. 12/1/2022
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Forget about being the bigger person. Some people doesn't deserve your love. Treat them how they treat you.
For sure. I have been learning to do that lately. That's the only way your blood pressure doesn't go off the roof.
My MIL is like this too, when it comes to watching kids, but I’ve always watched my own kids. Since my in laws use to work when I had kids, now that my kids are over 18 and my MIL lives with me, I make it clear to my sils that I don’t want their kids over 24/7. I understand when they work and need help but not when they are out drinking and fishing every weekend. If they need a sitter on the weekends, my MIL can go there. My house is my sane place. It’s common sense to watch your own kids in your own home!
Also liability issues. If their kids get hurt at your place you’re liable for their hospital bills.
Sorry but they can take MIL to their own home to babysit their kids.
Tu siab kawg Thaum peb nyob nrog 1 tug niam Pog zoo li no.
True! This is my rule in my home too. My home is not a daycare for anyone. Anyone needs a babysitter take the sitter to your home, my home is not your daycare.
Yes! It's crazy how many kids go over to another daughter in law house 24/7 because the in laws live in that home. I would go insane.
Where you went wrong is the expectation of your mil to love you more or the same like her own daughter. Respect is all you should ask for.
Honestly as a nyab, i dont expect my mil to love me like her own daughters but i do expect her to love her grandkids all equally bc my kids are her son's kids also. If you treat my kids unfairly, dont expect me to love you completely, if at all.
Me too
But as niam pog do not expect tus nyab love you too.
You read my mind.
Well said!
Agree
If your mother in law expect you to love her like your own mother then she should love you like her own daughter too. I understand how you feel, my mother in law lives with me too and she stresses me out. I think only the people who have their in laws live with them will understand our stress and frustrations
Most niam pog are like that, including my own niam pog so you are not alone. But then again, honestly as a nyab who comes from the outside, don't expect your inlaws to love you like their own kids. Lawv lam hais tias lawv hlub yus xwm kom zoo saib xwm os. Only very few will accept their nyab and vauv & love them as their own. Just keep everything mutual and let it be.
I totally agree! I used to love my in-laws and did more for them but my MIL made it clear who her favorite son and nyab are. Ever since then, I just keep my distance. I only go around when it’s important, otherwise, I stay in my own world. It’s so peaceful!
Agreed Kimberly, I’m remarried, but please respect me how I respect u and please show respect to my kids how you want to be treated.
Absolutely! After years of slaving away to please them I finally gave up and made it known that my life is about me and I won’t do extra work to please or give them face.
Agree. But the biggest issue in thus hmong community is that mil and fil don't love their nyab like their daughters, but expect the nyab to be slaves and love them more than her own parents. This is the problem that older hmong generations take advantage of and nyabs now at days won't tolerate it no more
@@GiiRLiie2011 yep. some people don't deserve your love. it's best to stop giving to them if they don't even appreciate it.
No offense to the traditional Hmong way of having in-laws live with you and be your in home babysitter, but this is exactly why we need to stop this tradition. Too many issues and drama come up. Parents should learn to care for their own children and problem solve together who will care for their children. If MIL is going to help babysit, she should have her own house and open it up to all of her children.
No one will understand until they walk in your shoes. My MIL was the same like your MIL.😭
Evil MIL you can’t win so just be glad she moved out. Just do good and lived your life n marriage to the fullest.
this is my MIL, she always side with her daughters. OMG your mil is exactly like mine. she will gossip about me to everyone if me and my husband has issues but when her daughters have issues, she covers it up until when it gets so bad. This is why we moved away from them to live with my side. My husband told them if anything comes up their daughters can handle it since they never want to help us.
Sister damn I support and confirm everything you said. I'm on your team this is real!
No need to feel bad or complain because your mother loves you just as much as your mother-in-law loves her daughter.
Sister, your story is very identical to mine. My mother is the same, but I choose to protect my wife and my children. Your story is terrible because your husband chooses to protect his mother, and not you. For me, I know my mother better than anyone else. So I never questioned when my wife brought the headaches my mother caused for my wife and my children. My wife is the outsider and doesn't know and understand my mother's evil. It's not appreciated for my wife to argue with my mother, that's my job. My wife needs my protection against my evil mother. Mother like yours, doesn't cause problems just for you she does the same thing to other of her daughter in laws. It's a way of getting sympathy for her and war for her daughter in law. I love my mother but I will not let her evilness destroy my wife and family. I feel bad for you because it seems that you protected yourself without the help of your husband. You see, if the son speaks against his mother then people tend believe him. But if he stays silent and the daughter in law does the complaint that people will say the daughter in law is bad and control the son. Therefore, my mother is my job, and I encouraged my wife not to do much. I am the son who argue and fight with my mother.
Exact story of mine.
Man needs to be a man like you! I am glad you stand up for your spouse and be a true man!
@@pajxyooj352 yes a man needs to protect his wife and children. I too never had my mother doing babysitting for all of my 7 children. Every she visited us, she also made my children felt uncomfortable.
@@shouathaolee because as a son, I know how bad my mother can be even for me. So I don't want her attitude ruin my wife and children.
applaud to you. you are one of the very few husband who see it like that. :)
I don't know but I hope parents have children for themselves and not their mother-in-law. Your children are your responsibility and if anyone including your MIL is willing to lend a hand to help, just be grateful. Money and decisions made by someone else is their choice. If you don't want your nieces and nephews to spend time with their grandparents in your home, have them pick up your in-laws and have them babysit at their house. If someone does something for you, remember that's debt you owe them. Just take care of your obligations and live your life in peace.
This right here. 100% agree.
Hmong people need to learn to pay for their own babysitter. Plus the in-laws have the right to borrow their money to whomever they want. Why complain? This is about financial stability including childcare needs.
I couldn't agree more. SMH. Hmong people need to understand that they cannot push their kids on to family to watch. That's your responsibility. Maybe you should start paying people to watch YOUR kids.
@@mmx2025 yep! I was fortunate enough to have live-in, in-laws who loves their grandkids to death but that doesn't mean I plan my life relying on them solely. I planned my life as if they were not there. My children are my responsibility. If my in-laws were kind enough to watch my kids for a short time and my kids were still alive when I got home, I'm grateful. Because they didn't have to and they could dedicate their time elsewhere. These people haven't pay for daycare or borrow money from the bank to find out the cost and interest they pay on borrowed $$$$.
It took me a long time to understand that in law will never love you like they love their children. Looking back, I think it was unfair to expecting that from them. Keep your boundaries and treated them like they are your in laws.
So true. This is how my niam pog is too. She told me straight up she would not help us babysit. But all of her daughters party every weekend and she is willing to babysit without complaining. She is willing to go all the way to her daughter just to pick them up. Some Niam pog will never treat you like their own daughter.
Tu siab rau niam pog but niam pog always claim that she is tu siab rau peb. Story of my life.
Thought I was the only unlucky one who ended up w a mil like that.
Hais yog lawm thiab ov
The point of the story isn't all about her wanting the MIL to watch her kids more but to be fair towards all the siblings. The FAIRNESS of love from a mother is what she wants these MIL to understands. For sure, these MIL have been a nyab before and they understood the hardship but they all treated us new generation nyab like they had never been in the nyab shoes.
I understand it feels unfair BUT your kids are your kids. You are obligated to take care of them. If your MIL is willing to care for them when u go work, just be grateful. I can't wait to get off work and care for my kids, and spend time with them. I take them everywhere I go. But besides work, the majority of the time , you should take care of them. And give up going out until your kids grow. And if you really want to go, find a different babysitter.
Agree! why make the mil work for them when they could just pay her to babysit.
I bet this mil is listening to this story right now and has the audacity to say, oh this isn’t me because I love my daughter in laws like they are my own.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 right?? I can totally see my mil listening to this and saying that. 🤣
My niam pog would be one 🤣
Wow!!!My life with my mother's inlaw is the same as this story. My inlaw only takes care her daughters kids. Plus all her money, she gave it all to her daughters to keep in their savings account. When she die the elders family asking us son and daughter inlaw to buried her. Big arguments beginning and end. The elders family forced the daughters to bring their moms money to the table if they don't, they would not aloud the sons to buried her. Leave it to the daughters to buried. Sooo yep!! The daughters came forward and brought the money. My inlaws's funeral costs was $43 grand. Didn't include casket and the cost of funeral home. Total cost everything was $70 grand. I understand that we might not be the daughters they like, but they need to understand that if they choose to only do everything for their daughters , they need to move out and live with their daughters and not with the sons. She can choose to do what ever with her daughter for that matters. For me I would treats my sons and daughters the same equally because given birth to these kids the pain is the same . I would love them equally because we never know in the end who will love and care for us. We want love from our kids, we must show love first before we can receive love. At least that's what I believe. Be kind and be humbled person is the best to live happily in the family. May the lord wrks through their hearts and bring their family come to understanding.🙂
Sad, sounds like you need to give your story May to tell too...we wanna heard it
Why are people so entitled now a days. Your kids, your responsibility. Be grateful she's watching them while you're working. If your mil didn't use your gift, she probably didn't like it and you didn't bother to get to know her enough to understand what her interest are. She's not picking favorites, you're playing the victim. You receive the love you give. Also, when you have expectations, you're just setting yourself up for disappointment.
100%
Her mil can’t eat that dam finger size gold chain, she just want to eat a dam hamburger, right?
Omg, don't some of us go through this bullsh!t in life.
There has to be two side to this story. I would love to hear the Niam Pog side.
I didn’t listen to the whole story because I got irritated at this nyab. Mi nyab learn to depend on yourself. Nobody is obligated to help you or do anything for you. Don’t depend on others that way you can’t be disappointed in your life. Every choice you make is up to you. No matter how much your mil loves or doesn’t love you it doesn’t matter. As long as she loves her son. That’s her son and she will always have love for her daughter she birthed. Just live your life. And love your husband.
For realz!!
1st 10 minutes then I conclude the story…
Karma will get your mil for being unfair. She should love your husband and his sister the same way.
Niam pog tsi muaj chaw tuag !
Koj hais yog kawg os
I have to add another comment after listening to the whole story. Every Hmong family go thru this kind of issue including our own family. The problem stem from children who can't watch their own kids and mothers who take sides. Elderly Hmong mothers are not fair as they do know how to treat all children fairly and equally. I hope that we women growing up in America learn to be more kind, love and respect our children equally.
I don't expect my mother in law to love me like her daughter because I can't love her like my own mother.
That’s a mentally these women can’t grab
Niam poj loves all her daughters but expected all the nyab to bury them with every penny 😂
I know EXACTLY how you feel. I once had a mother in law like that. Nothing i did was ever right & nothing is ever good enough for her. But the littlest thing her daughters did, they are praised for. I was the worst person ever just because I am a white hmong.
Thank goodness..... that was all in the past & life took me else where.
I pray you two can find peace within each other.
Hmoob os hmoob aw
😢 😭 😿 Super true, love comes from both end. If you don't show me love I don't know how to show it back too.
Hais tau zoo heev
Just on the babysitting issue i feel like this lady is ungrateful. Your mil has every right to do whatever she wants with her time and effort. You’re just mad she doesn’t want to watch your kids while you go out and play. So what if she’s willing to do this for others. She’s not obligated to do anything period. Just be grateful your mil is willing to watch them when necessary ( work, school, family events).
Most mother in laws are like this. They will always complain about their nyab no matter what
That’s why the in-laws have to live on their own
I’m surprised some of the comments agree with this person. I’m only 10 mins in and I have to say. Your mother in law is not responsible to watch your kids at all. Regardless if she’s not busy and just laying around. Regardless if she’s willing to watch someone else’s kids and not yours. You say she’s a perfect mil besides this babysitting issue but it sounds more of a personal issue to me.Your kids are your own responsibility. You should be grateful she’s watching them for the couple hours between you and your husbands work schedule. A lot of couples out there don’t have that advantage of an elder living with them to help and they have to pay for daycare or run around picking up their kids from family. Don’t be upset she’s honest with you and tells you no when it comes to watching your kids in the weekend. That just means she loves you and your husband because she can be honest with you two. I’m sure she doesn’t even want to babysit her daughters kids but she can’t say no because it’s her daughter. She feels obligated to and can’t say no even though she wants to. She knows she can be honest with you and your husband and you guys would understand and won’t go shaming her but here you are shaming your mil lmao.
Kuv lub neej ce zoo li zaj neej neeg no os tu siab tshaj li os
Because of real life stories like this, Remember that we all will be Niam pog or Niam tais one day. When that day comes, I’m not watching no one’s kids. Period.
Part 2 is coming soon. That’s Hmong darma mama’s
Thank god my husband made it clear to my mil that whoever needs her to babysit have to come pick her up to their home. But yes my mil is the same too. No matter how good you are as a nyab she will always mention her daughters. BS! And OG likes to mention death when you bring out their wrongs and acted like the victim lol
Yus niam yus txiv thiab li hlub yus. Don’t be sad I am a sister and a daughter in laws. My mother always help me watch my kids and love my kids my sil always complain and come at me saying I got all my mother love but I disagree because my mother live with my sil and brother she help them with the rent and when she tell them she is coming over to my place to help me and relief her brain my sil always think of she is coming over to watch my kids! I’m sorry this sister feel this way but we need to hear the mother in law side of the story too.
Almost sounds like my mother in law.
That's every mother n law. I bought her a watch for xmas. She gave it to her daughter. My husband said just buy her food. So now I just buy her food. If she eats that's up to her. If you buy a person a gift but they don't appreciate just stop buying them gifts. These old folks they just want money.
I don't understand why people expect their parents to watch their kids. There are daycares for a reason. My parents or my in-laws never watch my kids for me.
Exactly! The parents are done with their job of raising their kids. If you're not going to watch your own kids, don't open your legs! It's your kids you made, not your in-laws!
I agreed! Your kids is your own responsibilities not your in-laws or your parents! They’re already done raising their own children!
You guys missed the point. MIL daughter always brings her kids over to her to watch but MIL refuses to watch her DIL children.
Exactly!
@@MissLuvleeshadow But the MIL watches son and nyab's kids when they're at work. She is refusing to watch their kids when they are just going out to play. There's nothing wrong with that. MIL is already helping when needed. From the story, it sounds like MIL is only watching her daughter's kids when they go out. She is their grandma too so there's nothing wrong watching her daughter's kids. I think this nyab is expecting too much from her MIL. She needs to just find a different babysitter or dishwasher to replace the MIL because obviously she cannot depend on MIL. This will reduce the stress/drama.
Mloog ce tus2 siab li os kuv tus niam pog tim plog teb los yeej zoo li no thiab os tseem heev tshaj koj tus niam pog lawm os
Your mil helps during shift change for both of you, and that's plenty already. No complaints. I just don't agree with the mil gossip about you not Love her, no matter what that's unacceptable.
Kj zaj dab deeg no haig tau tu siab kawg o yug tej niam pog yeej zoo tsis tsawv li ko thiab o
Idk about the rest of the nyabs but I know.for myself, I don't expect the same kind of love back. I know that I am only a nyab to my husband's family. And that's all I will receive. Don't expect too much from the in-laws!! You will only be disappointed
This is my intake of this story: we all are human beings and want to be love by our parents, inlaws. No one would say, I'm good with giving my all to my inlaws and they don't need to love me back. No one. Whoever can sincerely say that, bravo to you and you're a Saint. I do feel inlaws should treat everyone the same. If not all the same, at least close to it. If the nyab or mil did something wrong, talk about it together.
I'm going through this right now. Idc if she loves me. If she doesn't love me she doesn't love my husband's kids. Don't grieved over her evilness. Love yourself and take care of your kids or go to your parents.
Come on May, answer the question. You knew the answer.
Hai rau kV lub neej kawg og niam laug aw
Your children are your own responsibility. You shouldn’t expect others to watch your children for you. Parents and in-laws can do what they want with their own time. You shouldn’t get upset about the unfairness of it. If you don’t like your sister-in-law’s kids coming to your house, ask your mother-in-law to watch her kids at her own house, not at your house.
It’s not the fact that she’s expecting her MIL to watch her kids, she’s treating her grandkids differently and that’s hurtful.
@@jalynnkat The mother in law already watches the kids every day when they go to work. She needs a break. She shouldn’t have to watch the kids after they work or on the weekends too. If she wants to watch her other grandkids during her own time, that’s up to her. You can’t expect the mother in law to watch your kids 24/7. I think the daughter in law is expecting too much. Honestly, we only hear one side of the story. We don’t know the mother in law’s side. The truth is probably somewhere in between both sides. But you have to realize you’re the parents. You brought your kids into the world. You need to be responsible for your own kids. It’s fortunate enough the mother in law is already watching the kids while the parents are at work. Be appreciative of what you have. Most people have to put their kids in daycare. And with the airplane ticket situation, they can always split the cost between the siblings, so it’s not so costly for just one person.
True, but parents should be fair to all of their children. Never play favoritism when you expect equal love from your kids. You get what you give.
Yog lawm lauv thaum yus los ua niam pog thiaj paub neviv ncaus aw
I swear these ogs be using lame excuses all the time and always say that they are more tu siab then their children. I despise inlaws like this niam pog. I'm glad I have caring and loving inlaws and they never expect me to love them in return bc they understand that they didn't birth me so kuv hlub tau nkawvs li cas ces nkawvs yuav li ntawm xwb. But, whatever I do for my mom, I do the same for my mil.
Same shoes here sister. Niam pog zov lawv cov me nyuam mas tsis paub mob thiab sab li but zov kuv 3 tug xwb mas yuav mob stroke li.
Nyob zoo os niam laus
Nyab thiab ntxhai ce niam pog yeej hlub ntxhai tshaj nyab os
Yug niam yog tus muab txoj sia e luag thiaj hlub yus tshaj niam pog ce saib yus yog tus los sab nrauv li tus qhua xwb lawv thiaj tsi xav hlub tsi pab yus zov me nyuam 😢
My husband and I never really rely on other people to help us watch our kids because we both know that no matter how much our family members may love us taking care of small children isn't fun and can be bothersome. As for the plane tickets stuff... just have whomever that she's going with buy the tickets at the time that they purchase their tickets and just reimburse them. As for gifts, imo I did my part and so whether or not mil uses these items ohwell. We can't control what other people say or do but you have control over your own thoughts and actions so imo eliminating how much other people's opinions of you matter would lead to a happier life.
I get that your MIL is being unfair but don’t expect your parents or in-laws to babysit & raise your kids for you, this also applied to your SIL! My husband & I worked opposite shifts to accommodate our kids schedule so we don’t burden our parents/in-laws with our kids. We take our kids with us everywhere we go including vacations, we skipped the drinking/parties until the kids were old enough to stay home alone or go with us. The only exceptions is when we had to go out of town for funerals then our parents helped watch our kids.
I may sound like an evil mother but I do tell my kids the same, I work and have bills to pay so don’t resort to me as your daycare option when you have kids of your own, you work with your own schedule & take care of your own kids. I’ll help here n there when needed & only if absolutely necessary but I’m not your daycare center. You pop them babies out, they’re your responsibilities not your parents! Your parents done with their responsibilities raising kids when y’all siblings became adults! They’re not obligated to raise or babysit anyone else’s kids. If they volunteers or want to help babysit, just be grateful!
I agreed with you 💯. Same with us 👍
Totally agree! My in-laws only babysat my 2 kids when I worked or went to school. But now they watch my BIL’s kids 24/7 because his wife can’t handle her own kids. Talking about being unfair!
Exactly! We put our kids in daycare.
You expected too much from your mother in law. 🤦♀️
Yog lawm og niam laub aw kv lub neej zoo raw nraim li zaj dag neeg nog thiab og thiab tsi ta log nwg yog pog tshiab xwg
Don’t expect your in laws to love you like their daughters. Then again, they shouldn’t expect you to love them as you love your parents either.
Dont expect your mil to love you like her daughter...she babysit your kids everyday while you guys go work. You are lucky enough already...have big heart as long your hubby love you. I think you expect little too much from her.
Tu siab tshaj li os yom yug lo ua tu nyab niam pog tsi nyiam
Tus Viv ncaus aw ua Cas kuv lub neej yuav zoo xws li koj lub kiag li os mas tu siab tshaj li os
Zaj no hai yog tshaj plaws li os
Yog lawm os cov niam pog lo txhob tu2 siab thiab os vim peb cov nyab lo peb yeej muaj2 peb kev tu2 siab thiab
Niam tsuab teev aw txoj dab neeg ko ma zoo li kv thiab o yeej muaj li ko kawg o
Your expectation of ur mil is too high. I would never expect my mil to love me the same as her daughters. We as nyab are outsiders. Like wise, our love for our mothers are not the same as for our mils. We can only love them & give as much as we can.
Sister aw koj tus niam pog yuav ua cas hlub koj li nws hlub nws tus ntxhais na. Koj twb tsis yog nws yug ne. Tab sis yog tias nws tsis hlub yus ces nws txhob expected kom yus hlub nws thiab xwb mas. Yus tej menyuam ces yus hlub thiab take care yus xwb thiaj li tsis tshuav leej twg nqi os. No one want to have this kindna relationship with their in law but that's the life.
My philosophy is to never have expectations in others so you will never be disappointed. We are all human and no one Perfect sister. It seemed she did try her best the way she knew how to be there for you and her son. By watching them over the years you testify that you are thankful for. I say just take that and be happy with it. There are other women out there that struggle without this help from a in law or even the father. Her love for her daughters no one can help or take from her. I’m not saying that she is right or you are right. It’s just the reality of being human. Take what you got from her and be thankful that it was not her that you got the money to start your business or you will never hear the end of it. Try to understand her love for her daughters . When you start to feel resentment try to stop yourself and think in the right path and remember your own love for your kids. So you can be at peace when you heart is breaking. That way others don’t expect much from you and you don’t expect from them. Tolerance can take you a long ways. Maybe then she will see that no matter what happens you are neutral and change.
We need to stop thinking our parents should watch our kids so that we can go work or whatever even if it's only for 1 hour. If MIL only wants to watch her daughters kids and not yours, because too many kids is too much work, then let her do that without complaining about how its unfair. One old person watch 10+ kids is dangerous. Children are alot of work to deal with even if it's just 1 hour. Your SIL is rude to bring her kids to your house without your permission first. You can then tell your MIL to watch your SIL kids at her house.
Every life is different. I've always watched my own children with no help. It was hard. But I did it.
Cas poj niam ib yam tsis txawj sib hwm. Sib hlub. Tu siab kawg-
Yog kawg os peb twb zoo li ko thb tu tu siab los kav liam yuav tsis npam r yus yus yog nyab z lm na
Two sides to every story. I've only listened halfway but felt the need to comment. It sounds like there are some differences between the nyab and MIL. But to be honest.. it sounds like you only want your mil to help and love you and her son. All her children deserve her love. Whatever the situation, it sounds like whenever something doesn't go your way, the mil is the bad person. I wonder how many times you've overstepped your boundaries. Best of luck, and I hope you all work things out.
Everyone just babysit your own kids and stop borrowing money from the mother, she is not a bank. There's to much drama going on you guys are grown adults deal with ur own problems. LEAVE THE PARENTS ALONE !!!!! EVERYONE IS BEING SELFISH FOR THEMSELVES.
Tsis hlub koj, koj thiaj tsis tshuav nws nqi ma...yus ua tau yus niam yus txiv lawm na.
Kuv ma xav li od.
Keep doing your best if you do the right thing.
Niam laus mais vaj aw k caum kj ntev los kj txawj haig neej neeg heev os quaj los quaj ts taus luag los luag ts taus li tiag kj haig ib zaj r k thb os
This is why say Idk why these elders are afraid to mus nyob pem nursing homes. Yus tau zoo tshaj li na! Instead of you having to cook for, feed, and change your grandchildren (and sometimes even great-grandchildren) diaper... people are cooking for you, feeding you, and changing your diaper! Tau zoo npaum li no lawm nas es pheej ntshai thiab tsis xav mus nus nyob tsev laus.🤦🏻♀️😄 Kawg tau pab tub thiab nyab zov yus tej xeeb ntxwv xwb.
Just be thankful shes helping u and u dnt have to pay 4k every month to day care to babysit 4 kids
Tus viv ncaus aw cas koj txoj neej neeg no nim zoo li kuv txoj thiab os yus yog tus nyab lawv tsi nyiam ces ua npaum twg los luag yeej tsi qhuas li tiag
My in-laws didn’t watch their daughter’s kids much. I watched her kids more than my in-laws. My in-laws only watched my kids in the winter but never in the summer because they have their farming business. My in-laws did the same to our youngest BIL. But now they watch my middle BIL’s kids 24/7. The ironic thing is, his wife hates my in-laws but he’s their favorite son so they do it anyways. Some parents don’t love their children equally but they expect equal love from all their kids. 🤦♀️
Ain't that the truth. It's really sad how this in-laws are not fair.
Tus nyab raws li mloog mas tiag2 yog tim koj ntau dua lawm, 1 koj yuav kom hlub koj li koj niam pog hlub nws cov ntxhais, ua tib neeg sib ntxawv kev yuav hlub yuav tsi zoo ib yam tej zaum koj niam pog yuav hlub koj tshaj nws hlub nws cov ntxhais los nws hlub nws cov ntxhais tshaj hlub koj los muaj xob muab sib piv, 2 yog koj niam twb zov koj cov menyuam 8 xuaj moos ces cia niam pog ho pab zov cov ntxhais li thiab mas thiaj yog, qhov 3 koj niam pog tsi nyiam hais lus tab sis koj yog tus hais ntau tshaj li tab sis koj niam twb tsi cem koj li ne!! nws tsuas teb li koj pheej hais rau nws xwb naj!!.
Wow!! We women’s who’s have both boys & girl will soon or already walking in the same road as this MIL has hahaha!, it’s all about the jealousy between siblings no matter how good a person is but always something to complain by other. Glad I only have boys, trying to be good MIL to my nyab but again no one is perfect guys! We are grown up adults we learn how to adjust to fit the environment we live in so everyone can be comfortable in a large family! I am too! Being nyab to my MIL but totally understand that’s her choices to loves one over me or not and still able to provide & continue to love her as much as I could because if I counting everything I do to her that’s going to be a pain!! Love the person as no return!! The thing we do is not the same as what others perceived in life. Just keep on do your best no matter’s of the cost!! After all she’s your mother’s too!! May God blessed you with courage, strength to do a great thing!!❤️
Some like my in law too
Zoo li kuv thiab os😢😢
As a lady we are daughters and daughter in law. We have our parents and our in law. In life struggle if you achieve it on your own it's a better feeling. I don't want to be handed money, time or anything from my parents or in law. I rather to do it on my own; knowing I put my whole effort into it. Our parents and in law work and raised us and our spouse. As long as they put a roof over our head and feed us we should be happy. Don't expect anything more from either side. Love should be unconditional to both side. Ua zoo thau zoo- have a pure heart is more rewarding then a jealous heart.
Cov niam pog coj phem2 li no tus nyab tsi hlub niam pog los tu siab tsis tau rau tus nyab li os
It’s because your kids live with your MIL already. She watches them all day. But for her daughters kids, they don’t live with her so she feels obligated to help them more
All in laws will always play favorites, end of story. Don’t expect anything from them, let alone money or love.
If her daughters love her so much why aren't they buying her the trips?
Exactly my point! Why depend or ask the dil 😮
We understand , the unfairness. But stop expecting others to take care of your children. You, and your husband have to work out your schedules to a accomandate your kids. Or send them to an daycare center. Our parent's raised us, they are tired and should be able to enjoy their lives after raising us.
Ib txhia niam pog ces yeej tsi ncaj kiag li mas. Tos li tej menyuam tu2 siab thiab
Kuv mloog koj cov lus mas koj yeej lhub koj niam tshaj koj niam pog tos nws tsis qhib koj pob khoom los ntshe koj twb yuav kaum pob rau kj niam lawm mam yuav lb pob rau nws ces nws thiaj chim lawm hnub kj ua niam pog kj mam paub os mog
This nyab siab medhau lawm..