Rabbi, if some woman did that with you, sir, it's something so bad and wrong, because for H'Shem man and woman are equal. Sometimes I forget to comment your videos, but just because you so wisdom and sometimes I don't know to say how much I love all what you teacher us about Judaísm, H'Shem, Torah, ... If you sir any time thought my silence is arrogance, excuse me, my intencion wasn't hurt you. 😞 Please forgive me, you or any good man that I unintentionally cause disappointed. My life changed after a miracle that H'Shem did and your chanel help me so much, rabbi. Todá raba hakol! Shalom 🙏 PS: You are the number ONE, A HUNDRED, maybe A THOUSAND, but NEVER zero. 💎👑
I think that just makes a lot of sense. Thank you for being a real person. Very understandable. I enjoy your videos very much. They open up my awareness.
I'm christian but agnostique and i listen to Rabbi Friedman. There is a lot of wisdom. Plus he genuinely love and respect people and the Creation ; that is the seal of wisdom upon his teaching.
He disapproves of secular teaching and , he does not approve of religion, he cares not what religion we profess, he truly serves a one God ,I'm in his court, all children of God
Thank You Rabbi for your help to this world, I'm a young man trying to do what God want me to do , and you're like a father to me Rabbi I love you so much. ❤️
Thank you Rabbi. I am a man. Wisdom always on point. All men and woman should know this. Really appreciate your wisdom. I woke up at 03:00am to induldge. You are true emblem of the world, I'm so happy I got to know and find your content♡
I have never heard this advice before. I honestly thought I was the only one who felt like this. I have passed that age of needing this, but I now know why I felt this way. The difference is I have been given approval by people I truly respected. That would last for a few days only then I would slip back into "I am nothing." Sometimes, the old parental voices are louder than anything else. I know I am a good person. I have done amazing things for many others. I earned an M.D., residency, and practiced for many years. I know I have saved lives and helped many people. I don't know why I still feel this way.
I think that’s why self employed men seem to enjoy their lives more. Especially construction contractors. We get new task that we accomplish, one after the other. We see that our time and efforts are for something. Completion
I am self-employed in the construction and engineering industries and the secular religion of trans, gay, feminism, anti-religious dogma is coming for the whole industry, it's already here. If you are a woman now you get the job based on your gender and if you are a man you don't get the job because of your gender unless you identify as a trans woman.
@@nate4036 a company I worked for 5 years ago proposed a "period days" this would be two days off every month for all women and trans women. Lots of men said they would resign if it was brought in so the company didn't bring it in (yet).
@UCC0i_wT_Wm-jAtkSAKwefPQ same... I used to work in a factory in my late teens and early 20's... now I work in law and disputes... the biggest mistake ever.
As a wise old man with nothing left to prove , i feel so badly for the youth today, it may have always been hard for us guys, i had tough years too, listening to this Rabbi should help the youth if they take the time to hear his messege
I am middle-aged man who is, by outer standards a zero, because by outer standards I have not achieved much if nothing. However, I have learned a lot about different things and in a sense I am my own man, I don't need anyone, but still I acknowledge that no man is an island? So whether I have achieved something or not, depends from the POV...
Am a woman and I never felt like nothing even in my weakest moments I was something to someone my father my brother my school mates my husband my boys I had to be someone for somebody it is not easy but that what a female is she is a gift from God to Man
I'm a woman and I've felt like nothing many of times. Maybe I have a degree of whatever causes gender dysphoria. My ego is pretty fragile. I need to accomplish, to feel like I matter and I'm building something. When I'm criticized, I often feel pretty worthless.
I also can feel like that. I was wondering about it, because I more identified with my father than my mother. They didn't have a wonderful relationship either, so there's been this internal back and forth of male and female qualities, learning to recognize what I am rejecting because of negative childhood experience, and reintegrating it back into my adult self.
Dear Salem, unfortunately my sister feels the same way. I feel rejoiced when someone criticizes me. Because I take it as HaShem blessed me with extra eyes and a brain to correct my shortcomings or areas of improvement. But this is only if the criticism is made genuinely to help me become a better person. For example, if someone says to me “you know when you speak you get excited and you raise your voice which sort of make it unpleasant to listen to you” . Wow what a wonderful critique. Now I can speak more consciously measuring the volume of my voice. But if someone says to me ‘hey you sound dumb when you speak’, ok now we have a problem because this statement was made with an intention to put me down . So I take no offense but I cut my ties with that individual. Frankly only a handful of people ever criticize me with an intention to hurt me and I was able defend myself. The key is, in my opinion, to understand what the intention is. A Torah loving individual should never approach you with intentions to belittle you, demean you, to make you feel worthless. Please be strong, Gd created you as a special individual who needed to be on earth. You are loved by me just because Gd loves you 🌷🌹🌸🌼
I recently did this to someone and it bothered me since. His reaction was "I was called worse than that" but you are right, nothing is more insulting, and first of all to me, to all my "intelligence" that was so proud abour
Thank you Rabbi, this certainly makes me think. This also reminds me that woman was taken from man so possibly male and female have something more in common than we at first think and possibly we are better able to help one another, perhaps a little more empathy?
Dear Rabbi, as a woman born in the middle of the 20st century I feel the same way and asking myself the same questions and I am not the only one I am sure. I think that people should have learned by know to not judge each other. Sadly, that is not the case.
There are an awful lot of broken men out there who feel they are ''zero'', who's fathers did not give them respect, and unfortunately as adults, they lash out at women and anyone they perceive to be ''lower'' than them...Its a terrible, painful disease for both the man and the woman, bc no matter how hard a woman tries to raise a man's self-respect and confidence, if it comes from her- ie a 'low''creature- her admiration is worthless to him. Very sad.
Thank you for an inspiring talk. What part of the genesis do you quote? You say that god said "it was all perfect and to be done".. The only similar i find in the gensis says "and indeed it was very good" but mentions nothing about " to be done". Can you help me?
Dear Rabbi, I’m not a man, but I hear much wisdom on what it means to be a man and that’s very helpful. I can’t speak for all women, but I feel this straight line you speak of for women has become a very crooked path, and what does it mean for a woman who is unmarried or has no children? I understand you are talking about men, but I think women do feel failure intensely - perhaps in a different way and for different reasons. I immensely enjoy your talks particularly on intimacy and have gained so much. Thank you Rabbi and much respect to you
B"H some women do have this, 'achieve or you are zero' in their upbringing... but the speaker must not have met them or, alternatively, must, I hate to say it, failed to have identified that they were raised this way... maybe it does not happen in the Orthodox world...
The 'wisdom' is from the Torah, the Rebbe, of blessed and righteous memory, from the Tanya, etc. If you listen to earlier videos from the Rabbi you'll hear the wisdom when hecwas younger as well.
With all due respect, the rabbi is no exception to the "rule" - men understand little about women. His understanding of men though is an accomplishment indeed, will be helpful for us women, thank you!
There are gray areas between the polarities of man and woman. C.G. Jung pointed this out clearly in his analysis of anima and animus. Many people fall on the spectrum somewhere between the ends. I've been faced, over my 66 1/2 years of life, with many "manly challenges." These were not necessarily of physical strength, but of resolve. I didn't seek them, they just were part of life. On the other hand I've been in nurturing positions typically ascribed to the feminine that I've handled with equal, or perhaps better, ability than my manly assignes. I think that some of our greatest stress is had in trying to be an ideal of extremes rather than accepting that there are two sides to us that manifest in varying degrees. Our best self is exhibited when we do our best to serve others, whether through nurture, provision, or protection. If I've been good, kind and of service I've fulfilled my purpose and can hold up my head regardless of gender roles.
True. I think it's gender independent. Just masculine and feminine energy of cosmos running through a human body irrespective of gender of body. These energies manifest in people. If we replace the word man by masculine energy and woman by feminine energy, irrespective of one's sex, then Rabbi's video mostly makes more sense for me otherwise it's just not fully relevant. There could be many feminine men and masculine women who might relate to this video but in the opposite way.
That’s really an over generalization. Women can feel zero depending on how they were raised. This is a nature versus nurture question. Plenty of women feel that they have amounted to nothing in their lives.
Agreed. I absolutely felt like a zero during my child and teen years. Less than zero actually as I was convinced the world was worse because I was in it. I know other females who felt this way too.
Now I know what to say to a Christian when he says I can never be good enough...: "I dont care whether I am good (what I am); I only care about what God needs me to do. (A mission: What mitsva can I do now to make Hashem happy?; not a status: am I good or good enough?)
That nothingnes points you the right way, coz all you made all you have become is but an illusion and that is not for higher purpose most likely. If you feel that 0 feeling you have to ask why?
Thank you Rabbi. I’m a 43yr old man, I witnessed my Father be murdered when I was 6yrs old, which means I was cheated out of truly knowing who and what I am. My mother did a wonderful job raising me, my grandfather in his later years poured into me during his dementia state. I’m my community I would be what they would call a successful Father of my 4, 2 of them are male. Today’s message has truly blessed my tortured soul, I gave me so much more insight on the Man’s Mind. I love how you simplify and use a common sense approach on sharing GOD’s True WORD!!! Please keep posting
As a criminal defense attorney I can tell you from my experience that when women emasculate men, men sometimes break or crack and commit domestic violence.
@@westphoenixlocksmith6246 If you recall the movie "The Exorcist" the old priest tells Damian (the younger priest) that the attack of the devil is a psychological attack. The attack by women is also psychological. This was never the case with my late wife who was an angel but it was the technique employed against me by my mother. It made the commandment to "honor thy father and mother" very difficult. I probably failed that test. But perhaps G-d will consider the mitigating factors.
And what is it when the men commit DV without such a statement?! Men/people tend to be violent due to other issues...often anger management issues. Don't ever point the blame at others because you want to explode on someone else, or think that hurting someone is acceptable, because (fill in the blank). Sorry, but you still have much to learn. People with DV issues will kick/beat the dog, best the children, beat, beat, beat, hurt, hurt, hurt. Learn to be chesed.
@@CW-rm1rl Domestic Violence is a nuanced subject. I think we can all agree that violence is NOT the answer. Nor does anybody "deserve" violence committed upon them. Nor is it the woman's fault if the man commits violence. But it is a factually true statement to say emasculating a man is to strike deeply at a man's self worth and violence sometimes factually results. Call a black man that horrible word beginning with an "n" and you might get popped. As a young man decades ago in Brooklyn, I saw a Nazi making a speech on the street saying horrible things about Jews. A young Jew pummeled him severely rendering him into a bloody mass. By the same token there are numerous cases where a jilted wife or girlfriend cast aside by a new love interest commits domestic violence or even murder. I once tried a case where the man stabbed his wife to death for an affair with another man. But there are many cases of the woman so-doing. These factual realities represent the dark side of human behavior and to comment upon them or recognize them is not to condone them or blame the victim. Having said that I agree with your comment about chesed.
@@CW-rm1rl DEAR CW I DO NOT NEED YOUR HELP IN LEARNING BUT I DO RECOMMEND THA YOU OPEN YOUR EYES AND CONFRONT THE FACT THAT WOMEN ARE NOT BEEN HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS AND THAT'S THE REAL DEAL. BUT THINGS ARE CHANGING
slavery sounds offensive but ultimately that is what a christian they give up their freedom to become a slave to God. they mold rewire their personality to the personality of God in the bible
Brilliant video and insights - However, I would not say the question of personal significance can be dismissed that easily - not because the goal is "to BE significant", but because it is a serious question, so it needs an answer. I know it would go beyond the scope of the video, so... just if anyone was wondering, I do believe there is an answer / a musing in relation to this question, which points to the very core of existence. In simplified terms: "How can I be significant, when there is no "personal I" in the first place"? :-) But that question can only make sense to someone who has gone through a change that cannot be put into words :-) Thank you Rabbi Friedman for a great video.
Woman came from man, man came from dust(nothing), A woman hits bottom she has the man(something), man hits bottom he has dust(nothing). Earth is founded on nothing, beauty is vain(nothing), thats its power. Creation is something from nothing, formation is something from something. The Creator looked and saw something in the nothing and made all Creation, looking for the something in nothing is looking from above to below, seeing the nothing in something is looking from below to above. between the Creator and something is nothing, a firmament of empty space.
...why would you give a fellow human so much power over you?...they weren't there when you were created...they weren't consulted in your blue print...come on.
What do you think?
This man is a mystifier! 2 Tim 4:3
Rabbi, if some woman did that with you, sir, it's something so bad and wrong, because for H'Shem man and woman are equal. Sometimes I forget to comment your videos, but just because you so wisdom and sometimes I don't know to say how much I love all what you teacher us about Judaísm, H'Shem, Torah, ... If you sir any time thought my silence is arrogance, excuse me, my intencion wasn't hurt you. 😞 Please forgive me, you or any good man that I unintentionally
cause disappointed. My life changed after a miracle that H'Shem did and your chanel help me so much, rabbi. Todá raba hakol! Shalom 🙏
PS: You are the number ONE, A HUNDRED, maybe A THOUSAND, but NEVER zero. 💎👑
I think that just makes a lot of sense. Thank you for being a real person. Very understandable. I enjoy your videos very much. They open up my awareness.
Thank you 🙏 Rabbi Friedman. I think this makes a lot of sense.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman Manis...your lecture has made me understand my self.
I am not a Jew. I am a Muslim (a peace maker). This, right here, is wisdom.
Thank you Rabbi. I'm thrilled that you came up on my timeline.
I'm christian but agnostique and i listen to Rabbi Friedman. There is a lot of wisdom. Plus he genuinely love and respect people and the Creation ; that is the seal of wisdom upon his teaching.
We are all children of God, Hashem , Allah . Family members of Avraham & Sarah ❤
@@Tamar-sz8ox Ameen
He disapproves of secular teaching and , he does not approve of religion, he cares not what religion we profess, he truly serves a one God ,I'm in his court, all children of God
@@Tamar-sz8ox Your words usher in the one world religion and end of days. The road to Hell is paved with good intensions.
Thank You Rabbi for your help to this world, I'm a young man trying to do what God want me to do , and you're like a father to me Rabbi I love you so much. ❤️
This video gave me chills. The wisdom is so on point and very insightful! Thank you Rabbi. It really makes me appreciate the fragility of the ego.
A Tanzanian here living in Germany. Fan of yours!
Glad to know an East African is on this page and lives in Germany. Am half uganda and have Rwandese and live in Germany too.
@@deborahdianalaker4073 I'm Adamite living on Earth! Shalom brothers.
@@franciscoandreatta5803 Shalom Aleichem to you dear ,grate to meet you and may Yahweh give you shalom .
I'm Tanzanian too,Living in Tanzania.
Fan of the rabbi😊
@@deborahdianalaker4073 you have instagram?
Thank you Rabbi. I am a man. Wisdom always on point. All men and woman should know this. Really appreciate your wisdom. I woke up at 03:00am to induldge. You are true emblem of the world, I'm so happy I got to know and find your content♡
Rabbi, I just adore your lectures. I am a practicing Christian but your teachings are really enriching me. Thank you. Mimi
Hello Rabbi Friedman, thank you for sharing Torah learning and Jewish values to all who want to listen.
I just achieved an important thing by listening to you. Thank you rabbi
Hi rabbi I'm from Cape town South Africa and this is what we need to now out here in Cape horn Good bless 🙏
I have never heard this advice before. I honestly thought I was the only one who felt like this. I have passed that age of needing this, but I now know why I felt this way. The difference is I have been given approval by people I truly respected. That would last for a few days only then I would slip back into "I am nothing." Sometimes, the old parental voices are louder than anything else. I know I am a good person. I have done amazing things for many others. I earned an M.D., residency, and practiced for many years. I know I have saved lives and helped many people. I don't know why I still feel this way.
You didn't 'save lives'. G-d gave you the ability for Him to save lives. You were His instrument.
@@nomorecensoringme I sure did many times. I was an Anesthesiologist in my profession life. I sure have.
Raymond, see my posting 3-29-23. My suggestion may widen your horizons on what a man is
@@RaymondPoston no, you didn't. G-d gave you the ability to 'save' on His behalf. It wasn't you.
We all do
This man is a true intellectual,,,w a well refined and polished character and demeanor. I would be honored to learn much from this good man!!!
I think that’s why self employed men seem to enjoy their lives more. Especially construction contractors. We get new task that we accomplish, one after the other. We see that our time and efforts are for something. Completion
I am self-employed in the construction and engineering industries and the secular religion of trans, gay, feminism, anti-religious dogma is coming for the whole industry, it's already here. If you are a woman now you get the job based on your gender and if you are a man you don't get the job because of your gender unless you identify as a trans woman.
@@QSing999 that’s awful but it’s true
@@nate4036 a company I worked for 5 years ago proposed a "period days" this would be two days off every month for all women and trans women. Lots of men said they would resign if it was brought in so the company didn't bring it in (yet).
@@QSing999 that shouldn’t even be a scenario
@UCC0i_wT_Wm-jAtkSAKwefPQ same... I used to work in a factory in my late teens and early 20's... now I work in law and disputes... the biggest mistake ever.
Shalom Aleichem Yisraelo
From Biafra (formaly in Nigeria)
cried a little bit, here.
The jewels dropped in this lecture woth the entire universe, to be frank. Thank you Rabbi. One of the finest teacher I adore.
My heart couldn't disagree with anything you said. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Thank you, thank you. Everyday, you make me a better person, wife, and mother. God blessings.
As a wise old man with nothing left to prove , i feel so badly for the youth today, it may have always been hard for us guys, i had tough years too, listening to this Rabbi should help the youth if they take the time to hear his messege
Thank You very much dear Rabbi Friedman!
I am middle-aged man who is, by outer standards a zero, because by outer standards I have not achieved much if nothing. However, I have learned a lot about different things and in a sense I am my own man, I don't need anyone, but still I acknowledge that no man is an island? So whether I have achieved something or not, depends from the POV...
Great teaching, Rabbi. Thank you so much. From Ireland 🇮🇪☘🙏
Am a woman and I never felt like nothing even in my weakest moments I was something to someone my father my brother my school mates my husband my boys I had to be someone for somebody it is not easy but that what a female is she is a gift from God to Man
Thank you very much Rabbi!!!
Great perspective Rabbi, thank you for sharing this valuable teaching. I will be mindful from now on
Very well put Rabbi.Tku for helping me at this time in my life.
Thank you for this eloquent, informative narration! I will remember it, and act on it’s wisdom accordingly!
I'm a woman and I've felt like nothing many of times. Maybe I have a degree of whatever causes gender dysphoria. My ego is pretty fragile. I need to accomplish, to feel like I matter and I'm building something. When I'm criticized, I often feel pretty worthless.
I also can feel like that. I was wondering about it, because I more identified with my father than my mother. They didn't have a wonderful relationship either, so there's been this internal back and forth of male and female qualities, learning to recognize what I am rejecting because of negative childhood experience, and reintegrating it back into my adult self.
Dear Salem, unfortunately my sister feels the same way. I feel rejoiced when someone criticizes me. Because I take it as HaShem blessed me with extra eyes and a brain to correct my shortcomings or areas of improvement. But this is only if the criticism is made genuinely to help me become a better person. For example, if someone says to me “you know when you speak you get excited and you raise your voice which sort of make it unpleasant to listen to you” . Wow what a wonderful critique. Now I can speak more consciously measuring the volume of my voice. But if someone says to me ‘hey you sound dumb when you speak’, ok now we have a problem because this statement was made with an intention to put me down . So I take no offense but I cut my ties with that individual. Frankly only a handful of people ever criticize me with an intention to hurt me and I was able defend myself. The key is, in my opinion, to understand what the intention is. A Torah loving individual should never approach you with intentions to belittle you, demean you, to make you feel worthless. Please be strong, Gd created you as a special individual who needed to be on earth. You are loved by me just because Gd loves you 🌷🌹🌸🌼
@@miriamleahherman All that I wrote to Salem above goes for you too.
Sending love ❤️
grow and the world and everyone feels much lighter, happier. grow from strength to strength, our Rebbe's words.
Thank you Rabbi. You are awesome. Shalom
What an amazing shiur Rabbi Friedman!!!! Todah!
This is extremely insightful, thank you
Yes. It really makes sense. 🙏❤️ You pointed out the difference between men and women in a simple term, yet it shows very deep understanding.
I feel like I'm watching Gandalf the gray give an expository on life itself. Absolutely phenomenal
❤
Love You Rabbi, I look forward to speaking with you one day.
As Always this was a great talk thank you for your wisdom Rabbi
So timeously for me. Thank you
Thank you. This was interesting to hear.
I recently did this to someone and it bothered me since. His reaction was "I was called worse than that" but you are right, nothing is more insulting, and first of all to me, to all my "intelligence" that was so proud abour
thank you
Thank you Rabbi Friedman for the wisdom you've shared with us.
Rabbi Friedman is surely something UNIQUE.
Everyone is 'unique'. We're fortunate enough to see RMF's on videos.
What a eye opener.
I love your advice and the wisdom it provides for our spirits! Thank you, Rabbi
Thanks again!
Thank you rabbi
Very powerful
You are very wise man !!
Very good message here!
Thank you for these insights.
yes to become something .🙏
Wise words
Thank you so much Rabbi 🙏
I was born with nothing, and I still have most of it left.
The good news is, when you die it'll be right there with you.
Lol!!!
Excellent explanation to differences between men n women was very blessed listening to this! Poignant exposé
Thank you Rabbi Friedman.
Thank you for explaining men. I now understand a significant amount more. Men and their ways make a whole more sense .
So glad I found your channel, your an amazing teacher
Simply magnificient.
this truly was excellent. thank you.
God bless you!!!!!
Love listening to you. You are so helpful.
Good point
Thanks Rabbi you've always been a Blessing. A question please. Why did Noah cursed his grandson Canaan for what Ham did?
Thank you Rabbi, this certainly makes me think. This also reminds me that woman was taken from man so possibly male and female have something more in common than we at first think and possibly we are better able to help one another, perhaps a little more empathy?
Actually if you listen to another video, woman came first. And man and woman were one being. Much to learn.
@@nomorecensoringmeAnd this is mirrored biologically when all embryos start off as being female and then some change into male.
Dear Rabbi, as a woman born in the middle of the 20st century I feel the same way and asking myself the same questions and I am not the only one I am sure. I think that people should have learned by know to not judge each other. Sadly, that is not the case.
I would like to know what happens to a boy who has never identified with his father.
Rabbi, Thanks to your guidance, I was able to find a true path to Hashem through Judaism and Torah. It has saved my life.
Wisedom !
This is wisdom
There are an awful lot of broken men out there who feel they are ''zero'', who's fathers did not give them respect, and unfortunately as adults, they lash out at women and anyone they perceive to be ''lower'' than them...Its a terrible, painful disease for both the man and the woman, bc no matter how hard a woman tries to raise a man's self-respect and confidence, if it comes from her- ie a 'low''creature- her admiration is worthless to him. Very sad.
A 'low creature'? Not in G-d's eye.
Maybe in a man's estimation who has been subjugated by family.
Thank you for an inspiring talk.
What part of the genesis do you quote? You say that god said "it was all perfect and to be done"..
The only similar i find in the gensis says "and indeed it was very good" but mentions nothing about " to be done". Can you help me?
You are referring to the Catholic bible "and indeed it was very good" I think Rabbi refers to the Torah.
@@sme7385 yes. But the old testament is based on the Torah. In the genesis it should more or less be the same words.
@@MrJAhannes your phrase 'based on' is the point. Words are translated inaccurately from the Torah.
Dear Rabbi, I’m not a man, but I hear much wisdom on what it means to be a man and that’s very helpful. I can’t speak for all women, but I feel this straight line you speak of for women has become a very crooked path, and what does it mean for a woman who is unmarried or has no children? I understand you are talking about men, but I think women do feel failure intensely - perhaps in a different way and for different reasons. I immensely enjoy your talks particularly on intimacy and have gained so much. Thank you Rabbi and much respect to you
What if you do compliment him every day more than once and it is still not enough for him.
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B"H some women do have this, 'achieve or you are zero' in their upbringing... but the speaker must not have met them or, alternatively, must, I hate to say it, failed to have identified that they were raised this way... maybe it does not happen in the Orthodox world...
This is wisdom from old people, Thanks Rabbi....
The 'wisdom' is from the Torah, the Rebbe, of blessed and righteous memory, from the Tanya, etc. If you listen to earlier videos from the Rabbi you'll hear the wisdom when hecwas younger as well.
With all due respect, the rabbi is no exception to the "rule" - men understand little about women. His understanding of men though is an accomplishment indeed, will be helpful for us women, thank you!
You have to look at it from a Godly perspective
But he didn't said he is exceptional, did he? Why people always find fault in everything?
@@queenmahtichaning9235 maybe if you had answered in a positive way instead of in a negative way it wouldn't have come off as being negative
There are gray areas between the polarities of man and woman. C.G. Jung pointed this out clearly in his analysis of anima and animus. Many people fall on the spectrum somewhere between the ends. I've been faced, over my 66 1/2 years of life, with many "manly challenges." These were not necessarily of physical strength, but of resolve. I didn't seek them, they just were part of life. On the other hand I've been in nurturing positions typically ascribed to the feminine that I've handled with equal, or perhaps better, ability than my manly assignes. I think that some of our greatest stress is had in trying to be an ideal of extremes rather than accepting that there are two sides to us that manifest in varying degrees. Our best self is exhibited when we do our best to serve others, whether through nurture, provision, or protection. If I've been good, kind and of service I've fulfilled my purpose and can hold up my head regardless of gender roles.
True. I think it's gender independent. Just masculine and feminine energy of cosmos running through a human body irrespective of gender of body. These energies manifest in people. If we replace the word man by masculine energy and woman by feminine energy, irrespective of one's sex, then Rabbi's video mostly makes more sense for me otherwise it's just not fully relevant. There could be many feminine men and masculine women who might relate to this video but in the opposite way.
01_10 Eternal an external tree of life man and woman
Thank you Rabbi:)
That’s really an over generalization. Women can feel zero depending on how they were raised. This is a nature versus nurture question. Plenty of women feel that they have amounted to nothing in their lives.
Exactly. Both men and women have this issue now.
Agreed. I absolutely felt like a zero during my child and teen years. Less than zero actually as I was convinced the world was worse because I was in it. I know other females who felt this way too.
But I still love nmy father and mother
Now I know what to say to a Christian when he says I can never be good enough...:
"I dont care whether I am good (what I am); I only care about what God needs me to do. (A mission: What mitsva can I do now to make Hashem happy?; not a status: am I good or good enough?)
That nothingnes points you the right way, coz all you made all you have become is but an illusion and that is not for higher purpose most likely. If you feel that 0 feeling you have to ask why?
Thank you Rabbi. I’m a 43yr old man, I witnessed my Father be murdered when I was 6yrs old, which means I was cheated out of truly knowing who and what I am. My mother did a wonderful job raising me, my grandfather in his later years poured into me during his dementia state. I’m my community I would be what they would call a successful Father of my 4, 2 of them are male. Today’s message has truly blessed my tortured soul, I gave me so much more insight on the Man’s Mind. I love how you simplify and use a common sense approach on sharing GOD’s True WORD!!! Please keep posting
Great but it has nothing to do man vs woman.
I’m thinking of a cartoon.”Rabbi Rabbit”.😊
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So...How do I get out of poverty? (I'm living with my parents and they want me to stop eating the food from their labour).
@James Bond a job from another house owner...isnt that the same? I want to work my father's possessions, but idk we have a weird relationship
And he works for the gov.
@James Bond and then what? You ask unknown ppl for their generosity? It doesnt sound better.
Now how do we make women understand that men NEED to feel significant?
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As a criminal defense attorney I can tell you from my experience that when women emasculate men, men sometimes break or crack and commit domestic violence.
i know i did
@@westphoenixlocksmith6246 If you recall the movie "The Exorcist" the old priest tells Damian (the younger priest) that the attack of the devil is a psychological attack.
The attack by women is also psychological. This was never the case with my late wife who was an angel but it was the technique employed against me by my mother.
It made the commandment to "honor thy father and mother" very difficult. I probably failed that test. But perhaps G-d will consider the mitigating factors.
And what is it when the men commit DV without such a statement?! Men/people tend to be violent due to other issues...often anger management issues. Don't ever point the blame at others because you want to explode on someone else, or think that hurting someone is acceptable, because (fill in the blank). Sorry, but you still have much to learn.
People with DV issues will kick/beat the dog, best the children, beat, beat, beat, hurt, hurt, hurt.
Learn to be chesed.
@@CW-rm1rl Domestic Violence is a nuanced subject. I think we can all agree that violence is NOT the answer. Nor does anybody "deserve" violence committed upon them. Nor is it the woman's fault if the man commits violence.
But it is a factually true statement to say emasculating a man is to strike deeply at a man's self worth and violence sometimes factually results.
Call a black man that horrible word beginning with an "n" and you might get popped.
As a young man decades ago in Brooklyn, I saw a Nazi making a speech on the street saying horrible things about Jews. A young Jew pummeled him severely rendering him into a bloody mass.
By the same token there are numerous cases where a jilted wife or girlfriend cast aside by a new love interest commits domestic violence or even murder.
I once tried a case where the man stabbed his wife to death for an affair with another man. But there are many cases of the woman so-doing.
These factual realities represent the dark side of human behavior and to comment upon them or recognize them is not to condone them or blame the victim.
Having said that I agree with your comment about chesed.
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DEAR CW I DO NOT NEED YOUR HELP IN LEARNING BUT I DO RECOMMEND THA YOU OPEN YOUR EYES AND CONFRONT THE FACT THAT WOMEN ARE NOT BEEN HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS AND THAT'S THE REAL DEAL. BUT THINGS ARE CHANGING
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slavery sounds offensive but ultimately that is what a christian they give up their freedom to become a slave to God. they mold rewire their personality to the personality of God in the bible
Sounds like the the whole Andrew Tate cult is full of 0 ghost's men. I'm a Muslima and follow your channel because it's full of wisdom.
Brilliant video and insights - However, I would not say the question of personal significance can be dismissed that easily - not because the goal is "to BE significant", but because it is a serious question, so it needs an answer. I know it would go beyond the scope of the video, so... just if anyone was wondering, I do believe there is an answer / a musing in relation to this question, which points to the very core of existence. In simplified terms: "How can I be significant, when there is no "personal I" in the first place"? :-) But that question can only make sense to someone who has gone through a change that cannot be put into words :-) Thank you Rabbi Friedman for a great video.
Woman came from man, man came from dust(nothing), A woman hits bottom she has the man(something), man hits bottom he has dust(nothing). Earth is founded on nothing, beauty is vain(nothing), thats its power. Creation is something from nothing, formation is something from something. The Creator looked and saw something in the nothing and made all Creation, looking for the something in nothing is looking from above to below, seeing the nothing in something is looking from below to above. between the Creator and something is nothing, a firmament of empty space.
...why would you give a fellow human so much power over you?...they weren't there when you were created...they weren't consulted in your blue print...come on.
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Aren’t you able to say velar nasal, sir?
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