I’m not part of the Gold Digger lifestyle but because of Shera I’ve lost 60 pounds and started to put make up on. It is shocking how men will bend over backwards to speak to me. I’m sooo shocked. Before I used to think the world was small, but now I realise it’s because I was invisible. Now everyone sees me when I walk into a room.
@M B : Congratulations on your improved health and happiness! It’s called “sexual invisibility.” It’s subconscious behavior in men and women. We are more likely to give and seek positive attention from people we regard as desirable potential sexual partners. It doesn’t mean we actively want sex with the person, just that we see them as “eligible.” It’s prevalent in our society because we are so informal and very few people practice basic etiquette these days. In past generations, it was good manners for ALL gentleman and ladies to interact respectfully and courteously with each other. A true gentleman would hold a door open for ANY lady he met, no matter their respective ages, appearances, etc. These days, most men don’t demonstrate courtesy UNLESS they find the woman sexually attractive. Hence the “invisibility” (lack of acknowledgement) of older people, handicapped people, people who are not conventionally attractive, etc.
Gold digger advises of Shera is only for broke women to get ahead, just like broke men there are broke women too. I’m a very well paid nurse in Government, I’ve money. I only take Shera’s advise on being an outstanding woman for finding an incredible man as equal or better than me. I don’t mean to be hurt anyone but it’s a fact. Shera’s advises are awesome. I always listen to her videos. It helps me weed out all those selfish, ‘gold digger’ men
THIS. Too many women enter into relationships that ARE NOT what they want or need. They hope that “working on it” will manifest their desires. ALWAYS ask yourself this question when considering a relationship or other important decision: “How do I ACTUALLY BENEFIT and what will it COST me?” Relationships are COSTLY. If your partner is poor (in wallet OR mindset), immature (regardless of age), or has serious character flaws, it’s going to COST you. Some costs are financial, some are emotional. ALL COSTS must be considered. If the cost outweigh the REAL BENEFITS, pass. Don’t include “possible future benefits” in your decision.
Girl you’re speaking the truth. At 22 I met my first SD. Prior to that I couldn’t pay off my $800 credit bill for years (was a student & wasn’t working much) Tell me how that was paid 2 months after meeting him and my credit score reached the 800s. I don’t understand girls who “have morals” and rather struggle working 3 jobs then just have an older man help them. So silly!
Woke up to this at 36 years old. I am so upset at how society really is like Satan. It's conned so many women into this mentality of having morals and always doing the right thing. MY ASS! It puts you in poverty and complete misery! Shera changed my ways and I'm on the right track now. Still fighting against my instincts to "do right" sometimes...but hey...when push comes to shove for DECADES, I am changing. To hell with what I was brought up to think and believe all my life. It's shocking how men don't have to grow up with that like women do! It's time for women to get what we deserve. Dating an older RICH man and getting him to MARRY me is the only goal for me from now on.
Women need to realize that a mans love is CONDITIONAL. They simply don't work the way we do. A man is only as faithful as his options so you need to be smart and protect yourself, if not emotionally, then at least monetarily.
Love is unconditional. Relationships are not. For men AND women. The question to ask oneself is NOT, “How much does he love me?” It’s, “What kind of RELATIONSHIP can we offer each other?”
@@ChrisCranham I realize my view may be a bit one-sided, but there are millions of women all over the world who are with men that are horrible in every way, and not well-off either. The women who visit this channel are a niche group that feel differently. However, there are men of all ages, social classes, etc. (not all, obviously), that cheat and hurt women in ways that the majority of women do not do to them.
You're savings women's lives here seriously! Thank you for protecting women from predators who want freebies and be irresponsible - Use, abuse and dump mentality. Women are waking up thanks to you! Thank you Goddess! I drastically improved since listening to you. Thank you sincerely! 🙏🏻
@@lucianom.26 this is not about gold digging. Most women end up betrayed, hurt, used and abused mentally and physically. It's about self love and self respect and not allowing men to use you and walk over you. It is a survival technique to learn not to trust easily the lies that men are telling you just to get free sex. Guess what? Sex was never free and love is a lie. And if you want sex you'll have to offer something in return. It was always like that and it will always be since humans exist.
Here’s the thing she’s spitting game take what applied to you and go with it, I’ve learned so much from this Queen there’s no turning back once a woman wakes up it’s over for the Dusties ❤️🙏🏽🤷🏾♀️
Μen just want to have sex, they will tell you lies to sleep with you. Ladies, do not fall for that. You can also do the same! You have the right to treat them the way they do! They see the woman as a sex provider, why not seeing them as a provider too? Ladies keep your head, heels and standards high.
You know what Shera. I just remembered a case from my childhood in the Catibbean. A bob-the -builder wife murdered her husband when he began cheating her. She worked and sent him to school he became a Professor at our local university and boy did he disrespect her. She kept finding hotel receipts and evidence of his infidelity etc. Well one day he didn't show up for work. They discovered his body , dismembered and burnt to a crisp up in the mountains. She did not play. She served her time and came out supported by her friends.
I’m not saying murder is ok but thinking about a guy that I invested time into and reflecting on red flags I dismissed honestly use to put me in a rage , and he took me shopping on our first date and gave me money. I can’t imagine giving a man love ,attention, affection, encouragement and access to my divine femininity AND financially supporting just to be cheated on. This leveling up life style is actually life or death. Women are emotional creatures and we deserve to be protected and loved. Stop playing yourselves ladies only give when you get. 💕🥰
Wow! I been around some pick me Women in their 40’s saying that you should always build with a man if you want it to last. They said you must have something to bring to the table as a women. You need to working on your retirement in your 30’s not looking for a man. All the women I know have this mentality. I’m so glad I came across your channel you changed my life for the better.
Those are Pluto in Virgo women, my mother's generation. The feminists who doesmt feel worthy to be provided for. My mother married a provider recently and conditioning him out of it complaining on the side that he doesnt do enough! Mental illness.
@@eternalabundance39Exactly 💯 the same ones saying to build with a man, will fix their mouths to say you can't depend on a man..make it make sense. How are you building and can't depend on what you've built?? Smh
This is the best video you've done in awhile. It is full of mature, feminine wisdom. It used to bother me that I'm still single at 44 but I didn't settle for any man just to check marriage off some list in my head. I also didn't get pregnant unintentionally or intentionally like some of my friends who felt the clock ticking, because I've always thought kids need a father in their life. The relationships I've had were with men who left me better off than before I was with them. It's taken me awhile to see it from this mature lens. I started a business in my 30's and now I'm at a point where I can support myself and not work 40 hours a week. My time is my own. Not saying I don't have money issues ever, but I don't have to get up daily and go work at job making someone else rich and I have time to think up ways to bring in the extra cash I need/want to do whatever it is I need/want to do. It has taken me a long time and a lot of inner work to see my relationships in a positive light. I don't worry about finding a man at this point but I think I'm in a good position to recognize the right ones. Thank you, Shera xo
My old man/date treats me like a princess since we went on an expensive first date. He bought me a few gifts, sent me over 3k since we know each others. And you know what? We barely kissed. We never had sex (yet). He’s not even into regular sex. Of course he has annoying flaws, big ones. But as many if not every man, right! You look the part. You set the tone straight at the beginning so they come correct. No non-5* restaurants with me, no no-Uber money. I even sneak into asking for a gift if I get a great vibe with someone. You never know if you don’t ask! It worked for me for now; it erases the non worthy men from my direction like a repel! Therefore, I’d rather spend my very rare free time dating worthy men than cheap youngsters 😎
You know the relationship is good for you and you’re focusing on the right things when you feel at ease and are doing well with your life. If you’re worried and stressed then he’s not the one. Or you need to change the way you are.
I had a dude ask me to pay his registration. I told him "do I look like an ATM to you?" I couldn't believe he had the nerve to ask someone he barely knew and wasn't even in a serious relationship with. Even if we were, I wouldn't have given him money.
@Sky Dream soooo unattractive and he lied about having a good job. I was out at home Depot with my mom to buy some plants and I saw him working there 😂😂😂😂😂 dusty as dusty can be.
Yea I had a dude who was making 3x times more than me ask me for some money!! What pissed me off, I have a child, living on my own etc.. So what I did when Christmas came around of course we went Xmas shopping for my son, I made sure that shopping cart was packed with shit falling out of damn cart! After Xmas I dumped him!
Thank you for defending women who want to be provided for!!! True. You said “it makes zero sense for a man to not be a provider, protector, or husband... and lacking in standards for which he doesn’t qualify for.” Wish I had this channel and these standards years ago.
girl I am 46 and learned so much from you lol. I was dating Dusties and as I look at your videos I sit back and think wow i was stupid what was thinking..Now I am Leveling up...Not going to be Bob Building a dusty. I never looked at it that way till I found your videos. Thank you for the awesome advice..Love you girl. Now I know exactly what to do with the "Next man that comes into my life who is going to be my last my Real Husband :))
Thank you so much for the helpful inspiration. I left a 6 year relationship last May. It’s been almost a year but I’m definitely moving on. My ex was so evil to me and he ALWAYS use to ask for money. I feel bad for allowing someone to treat me like that. I really needed to hear this. Thanks for the video. You’re like a big sister to me
I wish I would've saw your channel before I ruined my life marrying a broke, neglectful, selfish "man" now I'm stuck and dont know what to do next but I'm completely unhappy.
Childcare, education, part time job, low income apartment, better job, move to greener pastures, better dating options ❤ & yes, get you a SD 😎🤫 meet for early shopping & dinners on Sunday afternoons
Totally true by the way ...you have to marry in order to have a relationship - in the middle East and Pakistan . Most men don't have a clue how to be a husband and usually don't qualify until they hit 40 plus ! Just how it is on these times ! You are totally correct in letting men know that there is no such thing as a 'ho' until they try and push it and create it ! 💜💜💜💜💜💜
I’m so upset I didn’t know about your videos 4 years ago, would’ve saved me a lot of time and heartache but I’m here now and soaking it all in and making all the necessary changes💓 thank you
Love this all your vids are different even if it's the same theme you keep a variety so thank you it's helping me a lot.. I put these on when I tidy up or do my makeup ☺ I wanna "level up"for me and my son's future
Aime-lee Barker Me too! I put her videos on when I’m cleaning and they have helped me so much!!! I was definitely a pick me , even with all the great things I have going for myself!
I initially was a bit skeptical about the video - the title made it sound more perverse. But listening, you make a lot of great points. You have to find your match out of the place of abundance, never match with someone out of necessity. You attract what you are, so the more we work on ourselves, the more we can expect and demand from others.
I found you in 2019 every word you say sticks in my mind...i have learnt so much from you specially about my own value as a girl and value of my time and a lot more😘😘😘❤
If someone was to dare ask me what I bring to the table I would just tell them to ask all the men who are chasing me and they will surely be able to tell you 😉 Why on earth would I feel the need to validate myself to someone who asks me that? I don’t have to tell you anything dear, and you’ll never know anything about me either 😘 The point is, a man chooses the woman he wants. YOU are the table woman and this man has come and liked what he saw so he decides to stay. He knows what’s at my table. Now what’s at his? Remember, this is why MEN do the pursuit.
am ex playboy and HUSTLER cover model magazine model based in vegas ! and I can't even get a regular rich SD! is saturated with just too many females- not even attractive women but just too many looking and available women to pick from here its the mind set of the men about Vegas women- its not good here for single women to secure a sugardaddy/rich husband- am looking to move and sell my place next year !
You just blessed me with eye opening knowledge wow. I thought I had heard it all but you just really got to me. Dropping such legit real life experience. I mean amazing keep this up this your calling in life.
dating a guy 11 years older. he has three teenagers , one in college and two almost out of high school at home but he has more than enough money and isn’t stingy with it?? i just dont like that the kids live with him. Which sounds bad because I’m a single mom 😬😬😬
I find this stuff to be useful information, but I am a single mom who doesn't want marriage. I want to keep my job, and my life the way it is. Well, I am getting another degree in order to level up in terms of my job title. However, I would prefer an older man of means who is openly poly. I 120% do not want to take care of a man in the ways a woman does, or pop out any more babies. I'm doing a pretty good job raising my son alone. I like the freedom I have with having only one child, and no husband. I like the fact that I can run the streets twice a week. I'm not really into the high end brands etc either, but I dress nice. I like to go to medium grade places. The only reason I would like to have a man of means is bc I just feel I want a long term man, but only a part time one. I don't want to have to deal with being in his face every day. I just want a man I can see, and have fun with twice a week that will also be willing to provide for me. I just want someone who would be ok with being my part time man for some years. I'm not open to the idea of having any man in my son's face until he's at least high school age. This is why I like the idea of a poly man, but an openly poly one. That way there's no drama. What's your advice on finding a good, long term, part time man of means?
@@TheCruzan26 I have a time limitation to where I can only get out once or twice a week for 3 to 4 hours time max. This is because I am a full time mom. I always say up front that I am a single mom who does not have a lot of family etc living near. So I always lay out my time constraints up front. The fact that I have a child, and the fact that my child comes first up front. I am not looking for a sugar daddy, or a rich man. I still find a lot of things on the channel to be useful. I am simply seeking a man or more means that me who doesn't mind being in a long term relationship that is also part time due to my time constraints. I can't be all 'spontaneous', go on crazy trips, etc bc my time is spent with my son mostly. I just want part time companionship that is also beneficial in some way, and long term. Bc I am sick n tired of dating. It sucks really. lol So that's it. Marriage is like I mean if the person was just like a perfect match I'd be open to it, but we would definitely take our time getting there. My son is my number one priority. So I don't want to bring people I date around him. This makes my time limited. I would never hide the fact that I have a son though. If he doesn't like it, oh well. Lol I really don't care. I live within my means, and I take care of us on my own bc of it with no problems. I just would like a long term part time relationship that is also financially beneficial. Even if it is in a small way. So I'm not looking for a sugar daddy. I'm far from a gold digger. I don't even like high end brands, weave, expensive makeup etc b.s. I am looking for a part time man who can also be a provider. That's it.
You want a rich man willing to provide you but he also have other chicks so you are not his full time chick. You are describing a sugar daddy. That's what you want.
@@SwanTheQueen Idk I think of a sugar daddy as someone who you have to take trips with etc often. I don't have the time for all that. I just want one that's going to provide small things, and be long term. I want him to be part time so that I don't have to introduce him to my child. We can just connect emotionally, and spend time together in our part time relationship. I refer to it as a situationship. He wouldn't have to provide anything major. Just pay the bills I have outside of my home. Like car note, insurance, etc. We can take one or two trips a year. One during the summer, and one during winter or spring break. He can also just provide a small spending allowance each month. We can simply have one in house date, and one hit the streets together date each week. Other than that, talk every day via phone. This is just some mid middle to upper middle class guy. He doesn't necessarily have to be rich. This would be my ideal relationship for the next 5 years. I don't really think of it as a sugar daddy. I'm not really into lavish things, and expenditures. Just a part time man who is also long term, and a provider. :)
i know that's right, there's no need for any dialogue. they dont need to know ur moving, they'll see that when they get home. i left someone when they went to work and I moved to a whole other state they had no clue until they got home and it was tumbleweeds rolling thru the place lol.
Black women for the most part love weave/colorful weave, wigs, extensions, fake eyelashes, excessive makeup, drawn on eyebrows, and long ghetto multi colored fingernails. How can you call yourself a confident woman when you alter your appearance in the way I just described clown?
Humm you must be a troll. Lets see your picture. You can say what you want. I am not hidding my beauty you are. Stop trolling and go make some money. LOL You Dusty
Also Humm you said confident woman, well I know you watched my videos anout confident women and other not just black women wear wigs. Any way you are not the type of man I would speak to. You are only good for shinning my shoes or washing my vehicle. Be gone you walking desease.
In my home country we have no providers...they intentionally marry a girl that can bring in money and stuff and also will work and pay bills🤣even their parents select girls with that criteria🤣
Depends on how much money he has, where you live and what you want from him. Over $300k, not living in a major city, and you want long-term or marriage, yes it's a go.
you should be asking yourself that. is he consistent when talking to you? respect you? treat you right? provider mentality? If the company is worldwide then obviously it's legit. so why not go for it?
Yes!! Give him a chance . We’re on the same age girl and the guy I’m going on a date with tonight is 40 also . I’m super nervous!!. He believes on being a provider and his financially stable all that good stuff. Wish me luck 😁
Yeah, and get demonized and suffer the consequences thereof, like this poor lady: th-cam.com/video/IKCSwwens88/w-d-xo.html Better just pray to God if you want a good husband.
What about when a guy wants you to meet him half way ((turns out he would be closer to our meeting spot than me by like 10 mins.)) for lunch and gets frustrated when you refuse?
Hey can someone help me please I recently unfollowed and blocked and unblocked this guy I used to like. Now I’m dont with petty crushes I want to up my game how do I do it and where do I find them I’m 20 years old and I’ve only talked to 3 guys and dated 1 guy for a month i don’t even consider it dating he never took me out and I accepted it so I wouldn’t appear shallow . Done with letting dusty men manipulate my emotions I’m done.
So I don't fly out to meet men but some women do it and things work find. So if I get my hotel room for myself should I tell them right off the bat nothing is happening (sexually) or just forget it, and if he tries intimacy say he is crazy and you don't do that right away. I am used to dealing with men where I live.
I'm 19 and currently living in the UK. I want to be able to move to a different country, probably Holland since I have family there. I also have the opportunity to get my Dutch passport. Reason I want to move is because of the corruption issues with our Government and I'm worried about my rights as a woman being taken away like they are in America. My BF is 2 years older than me and, while he has his Irish passport already, it would take him growing a pair and putting a ring on it to be able to live with him there. He also shares none of my concern about the political state of the UK as he finds it "boring" and doesn't want to move out of the UK anytime soon as he doesn't think its necessary and wants to "live in the moment". He seems to be far more interested in playing video games than thinking about our future together despite him saying he wants to get married in the future. Do you guys think I should threaten him with moving to Holland without him if he doesn't get his act together?
HELP pls !! 🎀SHERA🎀a CRNA physician 👨⚕️ started making flirtatious looks at me touched my shoulder &he’s about late 60’s... married but gave me his # without me asking for it, how do i start a convo on the phone to get clarification on his intentions?? Thanks 🎀
Shera i have a question.. If a woman who has been struggling in the hood decided to make better choices in life, gets out, and meet a wealthy man who takes care of her while she has 5 kids by 4 babydaddies. Do you think it is a responsibility for that rich man to take care of all those children? Or would it just be a great 'extra' if he would treat all those kids like his own?
In Vegas no matter how you look, they will expect you to “work hard” for almost nothing. Tho is an e&&$&s and p$@@&s area. There are No suburbs and small cities)) it’s all together just Las Vegas area basically. Henderson, Summerlin where whealth reside, but they won’t approach you there because it’s too close to home. If you truly beautiful I mean you not a drug queen made up with make up and stuff, be prepared to be walked over by their wifes, old women that drive their luxury cars, they can be very rood and they know why you there. In the grocery stores they will hold their husbands in short leash almost literally, at least verbally. All will stare at you but no one approaches. So Vegas is good to travel with your sd or friends, but it is hard to do what you want to do not giving up anything in return, they are spoiled there.
I initially was a bit skeptical about the video - the title made it sound more perverse. But listening, you make a lot of great points. You have to find your match out of the place of abundance, never match with someone out of necessity. You attract what you are, so the more we work on ourselves, the more we can expect and demand from others.
I’m not part of the Gold Digger lifestyle but because of Shera I’ve lost 60 pounds and started to put make up on. It is shocking how men will bend over backwards to speak to me. I’m sooo shocked. Before I used to think the world was small, but now I realise it’s because I was invisible. Now everyone sees me when I walk into a room.
@M B : Congratulations on your improved health and happiness! It’s called “sexual invisibility.” It’s subconscious behavior in men and women. We are more likely to give and seek positive attention from people we regard as desirable potential sexual partners. It doesn’t mean we actively want sex with the person, just that we see them as “eligible.”
It’s prevalent in our society because we are so informal and very few people practice basic etiquette these days. In past generations, it was good manners for ALL gentleman and ladies to interact respectfully and courteously with each other. A true gentleman would hold a door open for ANY lady he met, no matter their respective ages, appearances, etc. These days, most men don’t demonstrate courtesy UNLESS they find the woman sexually attractive. Hence the “invisibility” (lack of acknowledgement) of older people, handicapped people, people who are not conventionally attractive, etc.
Damn those last 2 sentences are deep
Congrats and I’m glad you have improved your life
Good for you
Gold digger advises of Shera is only for broke women to get ahead, just like broke men there are broke women too. I’m a very well paid nurse in Government, I’ve money. I only take Shera’s advise on being an outstanding woman for finding an incredible man as equal or better than me. I don’t mean to be hurt anyone but it’s a fact. Shera’s advises are awesome. I always listen to her videos. It helps me weed out all those selfish, ‘gold digger’ men
Do NOT fall for the game of giving men what they want without getting what you want!
Ty
True
THIS. Too many women enter into relationships that ARE NOT what they want or need. They hope that “working on it” will manifest their desires.
ALWAYS ask yourself this question when considering a relationship or other important decision: “How do I ACTUALLY BENEFIT and what will it COST me?”
Relationships are COSTLY. If your partner is poor (in wallet OR mindset), immature (regardless of age), or has serious character flaws, it’s going to COST you. Some costs are financial, some are emotional. ALL COSTS must be considered.
If the cost outweigh the REAL BENEFITS, pass.
Don’t include “possible future benefits” in your decision.
@@amasion2882 PREACH!!!!
@@amasion2882 YASSSSSSS!!! Excellent advice.
Girl you’re speaking the truth. At 22 I met my first SD. Prior to that I couldn’t pay off my $800 credit bill for years (was a student & wasn’t working much) Tell me how that was paid 2 months after meeting him and my credit score reached the 800s. I don’t understand girls who “have morals” and rather struggle working 3 jobs then just have an older man help them. So silly!
Sugar how did you meet him 😩😩 I want one so bad
Preach!
Woke up to this at 36 years old. I am so upset at how society really is like Satan. It's conned so many women into this mentality of having morals and always doing the right thing. MY ASS! It puts you in poverty and complete misery! Shera changed my ways and I'm on the right track now. Still fighting against my instincts to "do right" sometimes...but hey...when push comes to shove for DECADES, I am changing. To hell with what I was brought up to think and believe all my life. It's shocking how men don't have to grow up with that like women do! It's time for women to get what we deserve. Dating an older RICH man and getting him to MARRY me is the only goal for me from now on.
The Closet Ratchet ASMR read my comment you commented on girly. I posted directions. You asked how I got 16 SD
They fuck dusty guys for free with al their morals tho 😂😂
SheRaSeven1 is living in the year 3000 and came back to 2019 to bless us with game so we can outsmart these dudes😉
Glad Women have the real power and can stop screwing them to end this foolishness.
Hill heaven. Paradise. Must be life subject. Valiam obama. Aaratha Aamir
Shera started the revolution 🎉
rich folks don't use the term " gold digga'"....
they say: " no money , no honey " ......lol
Women need to realize that a mans love is CONDITIONAL. They simply don't work the way we do. A man is only as faithful as his options so you need to be smart and protect yourself, if not emotionally, then at least monetarily.
Amen
Love is unconditional. Relationships are not. For men AND women. The question to ask oneself is NOT, “How much does he love me?” It’s, “What kind of RELATIONSHIP can we offer each other?”
@@ChrisCranham I realize my view may be a bit one-sided, but there are millions of women all over the world who are with men that are horrible in every way, and not well-off either. The women who visit this channel are a niche group that feel differently. However, there are men of all ages, social classes, etc. (not all, obviously), that cheat and hurt women in ways that the majority of women do not do to them.
Chris Cranham -- He will if he had the money to do so 😴
You're savings women's lives here seriously! Thank you for protecting women from predators who want freebies and be irresponsible - Use, abuse and dump mentality. Women are waking up thanks to you! Thank you Goddess! I drastically improved since listening to you. Thank you sincerely! 🙏🏻
Saving lives?!?!?...wtf...gold digging is not a survival tactic
I loveShera. And it amazes me the feminine energy men that get mad at her. Masculine men do not care about spending money on us beautiful women.
@@Metaphysicalmindspace777 Yes, real men protect and provide, it's their purpose!
Agreed!!
@@lucianom.26 this is not about gold digging. Most women end up betrayed, hurt, used and abused mentally and physically. It's about self love and self respect and not allowing men to use you and walk over you. It is a survival technique to learn not to trust easily the lies that men are telling you just to get free sex. Guess what? Sex was never free and love is a lie. And if you want sex you'll have to offer something in return. It was always like that and it will always be since humans exist.
Here’s the thing she’s spitting game take what applied to you and go with it, I’ve learned so much from this Queen there’s no turning back once a woman wakes up it’s over for the Dusties ❤️🙏🏽🤷🏾♀️
Facts. I feel like some of the women on her channel don’t realize this. And she has to continue to reiterate herself.
Μen just want to have sex, they will tell you lies to sleep with you. Ladies, do not fall for that. You can also do the same! You have the right to treat them the way they do! They see the woman as a sex provider, why not seeing them as a provider too? Ladies keep your head, heels and standards high.
You know what Shera. I just remembered a case from my childhood in the Catibbean. A bob-the -builder wife murdered her husband when he began cheating her. She worked and sent him to school he became a Professor at our local university and boy did he disrespect her. She kept finding hotel receipts and evidence of his infidelity etc. Well one day he didn't show up for work. They discovered his body , dismembered and burnt to a crisp up in the mountains. She did not play. She served her time and came out supported by her friends.
@@lavish_1717 Not that I know of. Unless there's more than one .😂
@@luxuryqueen42 Oh yes, I remembered this she was American right.
My Bob-the-Builder murderer/killer was not American. So this psychotic episode is catching apparerently.
I’m not saying murder is ok but thinking about a guy that I invested time into and reflecting on red flags I dismissed honestly use to put me in a rage , and he took me shopping on our first date and gave me money. I can’t imagine giving a man love ,attention, affection, encouragement and access to my divine femininity AND financially supporting just to be cheated on. This leveling up life style is actually life or death. Women are emotional creatures and we deserve to be protected and loved. Stop playing yourselves ladies only give when you get. 💕🥰
Wow! I been around some pick me Women in their 40’s saying that you should always build with a man if you want it to last. They said you must have something to bring to the table as a women. You need to working on your retirement in your 30’s not looking for a man. All the women I know have this mentality. I’m so glad I came across your channel you changed my life for the better.
Yes so many will tell you not to depend on a man.
Those are Pluto in Virgo women, my mother's generation. The feminists who doesmt feel worthy to be provided for. My mother married a provider recently and conditioning him out of it complaining on the side that he doesnt do enough! Mental illness.
@@eternalabundance39Exactly 💯 the same ones saying to build with a man, will fix their mouths to say you can't depend on a man..make it make sense. How are you building and can't depend on what you've built?? Smh
This is the best video you've done in awhile. It is full of mature, feminine wisdom. It used to bother me that I'm still single at 44 but I didn't settle for any man just to check marriage off some list in my head. I also didn't get pregnant unintentionally or intentionally like some of my friends who felt the clock ticking, because I've always thought kids need a father in their life. The relationships I've had were with men who left me better off than before I was with them. It's taken me awhile to see it from this mature lens. I started a business in my 30's and now I'm at a point where I can support myself and not work 40 hours a week. My time is my own. Not saying I don't have money issues ever, but I don't have to get up daily and go work at job making someone else rich and I have time to think up ways to bring in the extra cash I need/want to do whatever it is I need/want to do. It has taken me a long time and a lot of inner work to see my relationships in a positive light. I don't worry about finding a man at this point but I think I'm in a good position to recognize the right ones. Thank you, Shera xo
Christine Springer : Amazing comment. NEVER settle. No man really wants a “settler.”
@@amasion2882 Thank you!
24.7ayes with lab. Will be block. Mean autharty .aaratha. aamir
Good for you. Suggest checking out law of assumption too.
My old man/date treats me like a princess since we went on an expensive first date. He bought me a few gifts, sent me over 3k since we know each others. And you know what? We barely kissed. We never had sex (yet). He’s not even into regular sex. Of course he has annoying flaws, big ones. But as many if not every man, right!
You look the part. You set the tone straight at the beginning so they come correct. No non-5* restaurants with me, no no-Uber money. I even sneak into asking for a gift if I get a great vibe with someone. You never know if you don’t ask! It worked for me for now; it erases the non worthy men from my direction like a repel!
Therefore, I’d rather spend my very rare free time dating worthy men than cheap youngsters 😎
You know the relationship is good for you and you’re focusing on the right things when you feel at ease and are doing well with your life. If you’re worried and stressed then he’s not the one. Or you need to change the way you are.
so true
Sara very true, why struggle
I had a dude ask me to pay his registration. I told him "do I look like an ATM to you?" I couldn't believe he had the nerve to ask someone he barely knew and wasn't even in a serious relationship with. Even if we were, I wouldn't have given him money.
@Sky Dream soooo unattractive and he lied about having a good job. I was out at home Depot with my mom to buy some plants and I saw him working there 😂😂😂😂😂 dusty as dusty can be.
Yea I had a dude who was making 3x times more than me ask me for some money!! What pissed me off, I have a child, living on my own etc.. So what I did when Christmas came around of course we went Xmas shopping for my son, I made sure that shopping cart was packed with shit falling out of damn cart! After Xmas I dumped him!
@@shanicesm6208 Savage! 😂😂 Hopefully that taught him.
@@ChrisCranham DUH...
Where all the hating dusties are at? Cat ate their tongue in this one 😂😂😂😂
"Imposters" show on Netflix is a really good example to help learn how to act or fake it til you make it.
Thank you for defending women who want to be provided for!!! True. You said “it makes zero sense for a man to not be a provider, protector, or husband... and lacking in standards for which he doesn’t qualify for.” Wish I had this channel and these standards years ago.
I Agree with what you are saying.
This Message will help our COMMUNITIES and Financial Status. You are Basically Saying " DON'T BE A BROKE SINGLE MOM"
girl I am 46 and learned so much from you lol. I was dating Dusties and as I look at your videos I sit back and think wow i was stupid what was thinking..Now I am Leveling up...Not going to be Bob Building a dusty. I never looked at it that way till I found your videos. Thank you for the awesome advice..Love you girl. Now I know exactly what to do with the "Next man that comes into my life who is going to be my last my Real Husband :))
Act/ lie, just like most men do every single day
@@ChrisCranham lies
Chris Cranham LoL ouuuu u lying right now
"If you can't do nothing- SKIP!" Okurrrrr
Thank you so much for the helpful inspiration. I left a 6 year relationship last May. It’s been almost a year but I’m definitely moving on. My ex was so evil to me and he ALWAYS use to ask for money. I feel bad for allowing someone to treat me like that. I really needed to hear this. Thanks for the video. You’re like a big sister to me
I wish I would've saw your channel before I ruined my life marrying a broke, neglectful, selfish "man" now I'm stuck and dont know what to do next but I'm completely unhappy.
Childcare, education, part time job, low income apartment, better job, move to greener pastures, better dating options ❤ & yes, get you a SD 😎🤫 meet for early shopping & dinners on Sunday afternoons
You look so gorgeous!!! Thank you Queen, your wisdom is appreciated! xxx
Totally true by the way ...you have to marry in order to have a relationship - in the middle East and Pakistan . Most men don't have a clue how to be a husband and usually don't qualify until they hit 40 plus ! Just how it is on these times !
You are totally correct in letting men know that there is no such thing as a 'ho' until they try and push it and create it ! 💜💜💜💜💜💜
I’m so upset I didn’t know about your videos 4 years ago, would’ve saved me a lot of time and heartache but I’m here now and soaking it all in and making all the necessary changes💓 thank you
Love this all your vids are different even if it's the same theme you keep a variety so thank you it's helping me a lot.. I put these on when I tidy up or do my makeup ☺ I wanna "level up"for me and my son's future
Aime-lee Barker Me too! I put her videos on when I’m cleaning and they have helped me so much!!! I was definitely a pick me , even with all the great things I have going for myself!
@@whitcollins98 that's awesome 😛👍!!! It's taking a bit.. Butg. I deff already see a change😊
I initially was a bit skeptical about the video - the title made it sound more perverse. But listening, you make a lot of great points. You have to find your match out of the place of abundance, never match with someone out of necessity. You attract what you are, so the more we work on ourselves, the more we can expect and demand from others.
Shera you look so mystical and super ethereal today******* ******* *******
"BILL FEVER" 🤣
🤣🤣”bill fever is the worst”😂😂fr😅
Everything you say is so true, I have dismissed like 3 dusties this month
I found you in 2019 every word you say sticks in my mind...i have learnt so much from you specially about my own value as a girl and value of my time and a lot more😘😘😘❤
Love your channel. You are sharing great wisdom. I wish more women would level up. We could be doing so much greater as women.
I feel so blessed to have found this channel
"You gotta fly hoes in!" 😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀
I wish i would replace the Pope with Shera👑she deserves all that privilege she is making the world a better place
Hey pretty lady!!! Your hair is extra lovely today.
Did she say “Bill Fever” 😂🤣⁉️
Elizabeth Monica she be coming up with terminology I’ve never even hear of 😂 this woman is a legend
Malaakiyah Speller Yes ! The Ashera Lingo Dictionary
If someone was to dare ask me what I bring to the table I would just tell them to ask all the men who are chasing me and they will surely be able to tell you 😉
Why on earth would I feel the need to validate myself to someone who asks me that? I don’t have to tell you anything dear, and you’ll never know anything about me either 😘
The point is, a man chooses the woman he wants. YOU are the table woman and this man has come and liked what he saw so he decides to stay. He knows what’s at my table. Now what’s at his? Remember, this is why MEN do the pursuit.
I love your topics. Very real. 💯
You look beautiful each and every day, new real talk video, new beauty ❤️😀🥰🙏🤗I just love u❤️ u giving me free sense. Thank u🥰
This is amazing! So glad I found your channel ! 🔥💞
You just saved my life! Fave youtube channel💕💕💕
am ex playboy and HUSTLER cover model magazine model based in vegas ! and I can't even get a regular rich SD! is saturated with just too many females- not even attractive women but just too many looking and available women to pick from here
its the mind set of the men about Vegas women- its not good here for single women to secure a sugardaddy/rich husband- am looking to move and sell my place next year !
Plenty of wealthy men at church. Just go to one in a nice older neighborhood. W older traditional men.
I love your advice of ask forsome money when they are asking for something you are not willing to give
You just blessed me with eye opening knowledge wow. I thought I had heard it all but you just really got to me. Dropping such legit real life experience. I mean amazing keep this up this your calling in life.
dating a guy 11 years older. he has three teenagers , one in college and two almost out of high school at home but he has more than enough money and isn’t stingy with it?? i just dont like that the kids live with him. Which sounds bad because I’m a single mom
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Xi Ogazi if you continue with him, he shouldn’t be your only one. You deserve to be a priority
Chris Cranham lmao a tent sounds good
Shera you are a blessing...you have saved me❤💯💯💯
Thank you so much I needed to hear this message today.
I find this stuff to be useful information, but I am a single mom who doesn't want marriage. I want to keep my job, and my life the way it is. Well, I am getting another degree in order to level up in terms of my job title. However, I would prefer an older man of means who is openly poly. I 120% do not want to take care of a man in the ways a woman does, or pop out any more babies. I'm doing a pretty good job raising my son alone. I like the freedom I have with having only one child, and no husband. I like the fact that I can run the streets twice a week. I'm not really into the high end brands etc either, but I dress nice. I like to go to medium grade places. The only reason I would like to have a man of means is bc I just feel I want a long term man, but only a part time one. I don't want to have to deal with being in his face every day. I just want a man I can see, and have fun with twice a week that will also be willing to provide for me. I just want someone who would be ok with being my part time man for some years. I'm not open to the idea of having any man in my son's face until he's at least high school age. This is why I like the idea of a poly man, but an openly poly one. That way there's no drama. What's your advice on finding a good, long term, part time man of means?
@@TheCruzan26 I have a time limitation to where I can only get out once or twice a week for 3 to 4 hours time max. This is because I am a full time mom. I always say up front that I am a single mom who does not have a lot of family etc living near. So I always lay out my time constraints up front. The fact that I have a child, and the fact that my child comes first up front. I am not looking for a sugar daddy, or a rich man. I still find a lot of things on the channel to be useful. I am simply seeking a man or more means that me who doesn't mind being in a long term relationship that is also part time due to my time constraints. I can't be all 'spontaneous', go on crazy trips, etc bc my time is spent with my son mostly. I just want part time companionship that is also beneficial in some way, and long term. Bc I am sick n tired of dating. It sucks really. lol So that's it. Marriage is like I mean if the person was just like a perfect match I'd be open to it, but we would definitely take our time getting there. My son is my number one priority. So I don't want to bring people I date around him. This makes my time limited. I would never hide the fact that I have a son though. If he doesn't like it, oh well. Lol I really don't care. I live within my means, and I take care of us on my own bc of it with no problems. I just would like a long term part time relationship that is also financially beneficial. Even if it is in a small way. So I'm not looking for a sugar daddy. I'm far from a gold digger. I don't even like high end brands, weave, expensive makeup etc b.s. I am looking for a part time man who can also be a provider. That's it.
You want a rich man willing to provide you but he also have other chicks so you are not his full time chick. You are describing a sugar daddy. That's what you want.
@@SwanTheQueen Idk I think of a sugar daddy as someone who you have to take trips with etc often. I don't have the time for all that. I just want one that's going to provide small things, and be long term. I want him to be part time so that I don't have to introduce him to my child. We can just connect emotionally, and spend time together in our part time relationship. I refer to it as a situationship. He wouldn't have to provide anything major. Just pay the bills I have outside of my home. Like car note, insurance, etc. We can take one or two trips a year. One during the summer, and one during winter or spring break. He can also just provide a small spending allowance each month. We can simply have one in house date, and one hit the streets together date each week. Other than that, talk every day via phone. This is just some mid middle to upper middle class guy. He doesn't necessarily have to be rich. This would be my ideal relationship for the next 5 years. I don't really think of it as a sugar daddy. I'm not really into lavish things, and expenditures. Just a part time man who is also long term, and a provider. :)
Absolutely love this lady!
#MoneyPowerRespect YESSSSSSS!!! IN THAT ORDER!!!
Shera, you forgot to give your Dusty repellant/DISCLAIMER; the Dusties getting offended and commenting here. *** RELAX. YOU ARE NOT A TARGET ***
Margaritamami 😂😂😂
@@lalikhvedelidze1501 😁🤭
OMG Why do i get a lot of stares while freestyling but no approaching??
Boy time fly is fast with out queen shera. The world will be waiting for you darling
i know that's right, there's no need for any dialogue. they dont need to know ur moving, they'll see that when they get home. i left someone when they went to work and I moved to a whole other state they had no clue until they got home and it was tumbleweeds rolling thru the place lol.
Shera why settle? You can always do better right?
Yes SheRa Preach. Love You
You literally look like a drag queen Lol 😁 Black women like you are hideous
Black women are some of the most insecure women on the planet Lol 😁
Black women for the most part love weave/colorful weave, wigs, extensions, fake eyelashes, excessive makeup, drawn on eyebrows, and long ghetto multi colored fingernails. How can you call yourself a confident woman when you alter your appearance in the way I just described clown?
Humm you must be a troll. Lets see your picture. You can say what you want. I am not hidding my beauty you are. Stop trolling and go make some money. LOL You Dusty
Also Humm you said confident woman, well I know you watched my videos anout confident women and other not just black women wear wigs. Any way you are not the type of man I would speak to. You are only good for shinning my shoes or washing my vehicle. Be gone you walking desease.
In my home country we have no providers...they intentionally marry a girl that can bring in money and stuff and also will work and pay bills🤣even their parents select girls with that criteria🤣
Where ?
@@Nyuffykah Pakistan
@@Isabella-wo9bg Pakistan
Looking gorgeous ❤️
Amazing video💕💕
Spitting fire! Let them know
ThisI needed to hear all this. what a no brainer...
Gorgeous!
MY FAVORITE LINES ARE GO PLAY &STAY IN YOUR LANE WHO HERE IN 2022
2023 😂
Someone please answer! I'm 27 he is 40. He is IT on a important worldwide known company should I give him a chance and start dating him?
Rosmery l we can’t say if he is the one for you but in terms of age the gab you have is very suitable
Yes.
Depends on how much money he has, where you live and what you want from him. Over $300k, not living in a major city, and you want long-term or marriage, yes it's a go.
you should be asking yourself that. is he consistent when talking to you? respect you? treat you right? provider mentality? If the company is worldwide then obviously it's legit. so why not go for it?
Yes!! Give him a chance . We’re on the same age girl and the guy I’m going on a date with tonight is 40 also . I’m super nervous!!. He believes on being a provider and his financially stable all that good stuff. Wish me luck 😁
I will listen to this DAILY
Yeah and it’s better if u know magic so it can help attract what u want
Yeah, and get demonized and suffer the consequences thereof, like this poor lady: th-cam.com/video/IKCSwwens88/w-d-xo.html
Better just pray to God if you want a good husband.
Fire in look and truth here, SheRa!
What about when a guy wants you to meet him half way ((turns out he would be closer to our meeting spot than me by like 10 mins.)) for lunch and gets frustrated when you refuse?
@@butterflyqueen9260 yeppppp! Best believe!
He needs help ! Sounds like a Control freak !
Hey can someone help me please I recently unfollowed and blocked and unblocked this guy I used to like. Now I’m dont with petty crushes I want to up my game how do I do it and where do I find them I’m 20 years old and I’ve only talked to 3 guys and dated 1 guy for a month i don’t even consider it dating he never took me out and I accepted it so I wouldn’t appear shallow . Done with letting dusty men manipulate my emotions I’m done.
I would say to just focus on yourself at this time and enjoy life.
@YAHUSHUA'S BELOVED I'm being real. At the end of the day that's what matters the most.
So I don't fly out to meet men but some women do it and things work find. So if I get my hotel room for myself should I tell them right off the bat nothing is happening (sexually) or just forget it, and if he tries intimacy say he is crazy and you don't do that right away. I am used to dealing with men where I live.
You never go to them first. They should always come to you.
You look good girl ❤️
Unfortunately resonated a lot. Thank you
Dusties are everywhere, even broke mature men who want to keep the woman humble...
I'm 19 and currently living in the UK. I want to be able to move to a different country, probably Holland since I have family there. I also have the opportunity to get my Dutch passport. Reason I want to move is because of the corruption issues with our Government and I'm worried about my rights as a woman being taken away like they are in America. My BF is 2 years older than me and, while he has his Irish passport already, it would take him growing a pair and putting a ring on it to be able to live with him there. He also shares none of my concern about the political state of the UK as he finds it "boring" and doesn't want to move out of the UK anytime soon as he doesn't think its necessary and wants to "live in the moment". He seems to be far more interested in playing video games than thinking about our future together despite him saying he wants to get married in the future. Do you guys think I should threaten him with moving to Holland without him if he doesn't get his act together?
Listen to Shera. Level up ⬆️ ✈️
@Jen G what Sandy Cheeks said. Listen to SheRa. Please listen to her❤
Just move to Holland. If he loves you will chase you down. Date others meanwhile. Dont give him wifey benefits. Once they get sex they get lazy.
My sister is pregnant by a dusty
pray.
Poison her. She will thank you one day. 😈
How’s that going ??
50/50 wont stop
roy easterling 😁🥊
@@asheragoddess8894 🤣🤣🤣
Love Love Love
Somebody living in Paris? Want some tips if u know good places, bars...to meet rich men? Tks
HELP pls !! 🎀SHERA🎀a CRNA physician 👨⚕️ started making flirtatious looks at me touched my shoulder &he’s about late 60’s... married but gave me his # without me asking for it, how do i start a convo on the phone to get clarification on his intentions?? Thanks 🎀
THANK UUUUUUU
Great video
Economically lol
You killing that Elvia look! Go head girl. You be channeling her spirit or nah? lol
I love your channel i'v learned so much thank you #NOMOREDUSTIES
SheRa can you make a video about how to get rid of his ex?
Leave him
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Shera i have a question.. If a woman who has been struggling in the hood decided to make better choices in life, gets out, and meet a wealthy man who takes care of her while she has 5 kids by 4 babydaddies. Do you think it is a responsibility for that rich man to take care of all those children? Or would it just be a great 'extra' if he would treat all those kids like his own?
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Amen
You tickle me some people dont appreciate ur perspective but I think its ur perspective and some of it I can dig because I dont date broke women
So shes the female version of AMS! ok, we'll see.👀😒
Duh
In Vegas no matter how you look, they will expect you to “work hard” for almost nothing. Tho is an e&&$&s and p$@@&s area. There are No suburbs and small cities)) it’s all together just Las Vegas area basically. Henderson, Summerlin where whealth reside, but they won’t approach you there because it’s too close to home. If you truly beautiful I mean you not a drug queen made up with make up and stuff, be prepared to be walked over by their wifes, old women that drive their luxury cars, they can be very rood and they know why you there. In the grocery stores they will hold their husbands in short leash almost literally, at least verbally. All will stare at you but no one approaches. So Vegas is good to travel with your sd or friends, but it is hard to do what you want to do not giving up anything in return, they are spoiled there.
I'm so grateful for this channel ❗
I love you so much, thank you!!✨💚🧚🏾🤩🎈🥰 Happy New Year. Sprinkle. $prinkle ✨🙌🏾
I initially was a bit skeptical about the video - the title made it sound more perverse. But listening, you make a lot of great points. You have to find your match out of the place of abundance, never match with someone out of necessity. You attract what you are, so the more we work on ourselves, the more we can expect and demand from others.