Grandparents are good for filling a role that at times parents can't, because they have raised children before, and therefore have a certain perspective that in the parent is lacking.
This was one of the most important scenes in the film. Being a parent definitely has its moments to where we say things that we would give out lives to take back, no matter how small.
This scene shows parents have emotions too. I’m not saying his response was right but it’s understandable. He’s trying to get his life back on track after losing his wife and job. His daughter is being a brat and saying hurtful things to him. He’s a human and is just as capable of having mental breakdowns as anyone else is.
@@sicklydog1709 I don't think that's what they were saying, basically kids aren't the only ones going the the stress and the rough time, but adults and parents go through it all as well, but when you have kids you kind of have to push those feelings back for the sake of keeping yourself and the child safe in every way- but kids can make it hard sometimes- they both probably scarred each other, it's just something they'd have to work through in future if they want a better understanding of each other-
very well acted by ben & the little girl. they were all just cornering him unreasonably to not go to the city.having a pr job n wanting to do what he really loved doing was not wrong n yes definitely better than picking garbage.
I get they were Cornering him and that she was starting out disrespectful But a parents words Can cut like a knife and to say what he said is damaging and totally uncalled for.
What the scene demonstrates, the volatile remarks from both father and daughter, reveals that they were both still reeling from their loss. And when people are hurting emotionally, oftentimes they respond with anger, and it can cause them to say, or even do things, that ordinarily they wouldn't.
Raquel Castro is an amazing actress. So young and so talented. She nailed that emotion after being yelled at, it would not surprise me if those tears were real. When I first watched this, I almost forgot that she was acting. That look on her face i just wanted to give that poor girl a hug. Kevin Smiths most underrated movie.
This scene is very powerful. My father would react and talk to me the same way George Carlin did. Sometimes as parents we may let something slip in words and let things out. I wouldn't say what Ben said, but still I see both of thier pent up emotions. But as a parent, we have to be nurturing and very careful of what we say, prioritize, and feel. Carlin was brilliant and deserved an oscar for his role.
At first I was like: "That kid needs to calm down, I know she's a 7 yrs old, but if she'd shut it for a few minutes and tried to patiently listen., yeah, maybe it's a bad idea to just drop it on her that out of the sudden she's gonna move into the big town but if she'd only listen..." And when Ollie (Affleck) said that line in 1:36, I was like: "Oouuchhh. Are you serious? Do you realize you are telling that to a little girl? What kind of parent tells his child that? That you, her dad, hate her and that she ruined your life? How do you think she's gonna feel after that? A father calling his own child "a little shit". Really tactful." In her position I'd break down in tears, poor girl.
I live in Germany and just saw this scene in English for the first time: Damn, his line is even more harsh than in the german dub. Sure, it was heavy, but I don't recall him calling her a "little shit". The whole delivery comes across a lot more hateful, not just momentarily angry like it did in the dub..
@@melnaobrooks4933 It´s totally understandable. He was trying to be nice with her so he could explain why he wanted to move back to NY but all his daughter did was to yell and tell him I wish you died and not mami. As kids we´re never aware of the sacrifices our parents made to give us the best life they could. That´s why I´ll never have kids. Not willing to sacrifice my life for the other´s well-being. Period.
Mateo Airaudo I agree with you about the burdens of parenthood. I’m also abstaining from kids for that reason, but if you were to have kids, then the contract has been signed, no take backs. You have the responsibilities of parenthood, and if you mistreat them or subject them to verbal abuse because you’re having buyer’s remorse, then it’s not their fault. They didn’t ask to be born, or have an emotional petty douchebag as their parent. And yeah, kids act out, kids have breakdowns, they say horrible things. So what? They’re not the adults. The adults need to act like adults. No excuse for abuse, as my friend’s mother once said.
@@JimmySteller Although your take is very valid, I still find Ollie´s reaction understandable given the context in which the whole argument took place. And he may not be the perfect dad, but who is it? He did the best he could after losing both his wife and the job he loved in just a few weeks, and still he sacrificed everything for his kid and just when he finally considers the idea of doing something for himself and getting back his old job, his daughter treats him like crap. I mean, both were at fault. His response was not his brightest moment but not every kid has that kind of a breakdown. She pushed it too hard and the guy just lost control.
It's because movies give to mutch protagonism to children. In a real life scenario, You don't consult your kid about moving, you explain to them, and thats it. Are You going to run down important life decisitons with a 6 year old chile?
I hate how everyone jumps on the dad for lashing back at her. I don't care how old the little girl is, he didn't do anything wrong except want to move to New York. The guy's life has been hell since his wife died, and his own daughter tells him she hates him and wishes he had died instead of his wife. Sorry, but kids should be accountable for being that hateful and verbally abusive. Yes, he's the adult, but I don't like how it's set up that she can be as horrid as she wants to him and the viewer should just accept it. I actually felt bad for the dad throughout the whole movie, and I felt the most bad at that moment. His dad (her grandfather) is emotionally manipulative. His daughter is hateful and also manipulative. He lost his wife, his job, his livelihood, and the moral of the story is that to be emasculated and dependent on his aging father and not allowed to make something of himself for fear that his daughter would hate him....this movie really sucked. He couldn't even have a grownup moment with Liv Tyler because his daughter comes in, busts it open, and shames him. Geez.
Agree. Parents are human beings too. As a grown man, I have another opinion about this scene in particular than I had when I saw this film as a kid. He was trying to be nice with her, and wanted to explain why he wanted to move back to NY, but all she did was yeling and being totally disrespecful. As kids we´re never aware of the sacrifices our parents make to give us a good life. And, considering this was his chance to get back the job he always loved, his rant is totally understandable. Gertie was adorable but totally spoiled too to a father that loved her and always put her above anything else.
I think you’re forgetting she’s a little kid, and a little kid can’t always control their emotions. He wanted to move to New York because that’s what he wanted, he didn’t take into account what she wanted. He was willing to take away the only childhood she’s ever known and loved just so he would go back to living in the past. That’s why she was so upset and lashed out at him. She was afraid of losing the things she loved most in her life. I’m not saying her behavior is right, but it’s asking a lot of a child give those things up for the sake of a job the parent wants. Sure he had a great job, but sometimes as a parent, you have to make sacrifices for your child. Especially when you are the only parent they have.
He didn't need that job, though, he had the means to support his daughter where he was. Wanting is different from needing. Plus I don't care what justification you use, no father should tell his child that he hates them or call them a little shit or say they stole his life. He can think those things all he wants, but saying that to a kid does serious damage.
media was trying to destroy Bennifer, they had already gutted Gigli & were lying in wait for Jersey Girl, which is a father>daughter valentine. Affleck & Lopez were in love when they filmed this. film in no way deserved the hate.
Betty Aberlin Gigli is one of the worst box office bombs of all time. Such a mediocre gangster comedy and it’s a gangster version of Rain Man as Justin Bartha’s character has special needs like Raymond whereas Ben and JLO’s characters are like Charlie and Susanna
That little girl was out of order from the beginning even when he was speaking calmly to her. She was rude and he should have reprimanded her, but definitely not by screaming and calling her a "little shit".
whoa thats harsh. children lash out when upset and they dont mean it and yes can seem a bit bratty, but being shocked at being told they were moving, leaving everything she knew without being spoken to first is wrong, because kids dont understand, you have to talk to them. as for him, lashing out too but he is the parent and should be able to control himself. losing control and raising a voice , yes, but actually throwing that crap in that little girls face is completely wrong. but it happens a lot to people
She acts smart enough to know the way she was coming at him, it was only a matter of time until he snapped. That is the downside to smarter little kids: hard life lessons get learned quickly. Say it with me kids: Limitations!
Parents are human beings too. As a grown man, I have another opinion about this scene in particular than I had when I saw this film as a kid. He was trying to be nice with her, and wanted to explain why he wanted to move back to NY, but all she did was yeling and being totally disrespecful. As kids we´re never aware of the sacrifices our parents make to give us a good life. And, considering this was his chance to get back the job he always loved, his rant is totally understandable. Gertie was adorable but totally spoiled too with a father that loved her more than everything.
these type of arguments are like shooting from both sides the only difference is of power ......a child can hurt but it will heal bc their words are mostly illogical babble and u are aware of that it may annoy u but u will eventually get over it bc in the end its a child who knows nothing about reality and u know that......but a parent or adult words are like arrows for a child its absolute truth and every word u say hold meaning for them the more closer relationship u have with the child the longer the wound will stay ....most cases they never forget what u said how u made them feel with that feeling of hurt they grow up it stays with them ..... its scary its so hard to be a parent even harder to be a good one
This movie gets a bad rap because it came out during the hype of the Bennifer mess. It's actually a really sweet, well written flick. Is it revolutionary? No. But, it's a good popcorn movie , and a nice tribute to fatherhood from a Kevin Smith.
Could not agree more. The thing is this was Affleck´s dark age in which he was making awful movies, and critics and audiences took it out on this movie. It´s really sweet and funny. Always liked it. Underrated.
I'm not an Affleck fan, but this is probably one of the few films I like with him innit. I watched for Liv Tyler and George Carlin, but this character he plays is different than all his other movies. Plus that little girl held her own with these huge stars. Hugely underrated movie
NO excuse to talk that way to your child. NONE. I used to push my mom even worse, and she had more on her plate than this dude. Not ONCE did she say anything REMOTELY like that. He needs to be CHECKED, and his daughter may forgive, but will NEVER forget.
@@emilycooper442ok now you are being over dramatic about your parents. You aren’t even supposed to push your parents unless if they get physically abusive towards you but other than that if I were to push my dad like she did, I would’ve gotten my butt beaten pronto by my dad.
I always wandered if it could have got worse. It's a relief that he didn't slap his daughter for wishing he had died instead. Not saying that he should have said those words though.
That's bad, but it's not that bad. You clearly haven't lived much if you think this is unthinkable. People say things they don't mean when they're stressed.
@@jhflau73 I feel terrible for the both of them. Both of them are grieving and hurt, but instead of needing each other they're turning on each other. But I feel even worse for the people downstairs, like damn...
The point is, we all say things in the heat of the moment that we don't mean. Anger IS a very powerful emotion. We as adults should know to control it better because of our age and experience in life. Children, on the hand, don't know how to control their anger because they have not had that much experience in life yet. So, I agree that what gertie said to Ollie was wrong. but Ollie should've remained calm and reasoned with gertie. maybe ollie could work something out with his job interview such as finish early and then come to gertie's show. something ollie could've worked out. please remember that even though gertie might have said some really mean things to ollie, that ollie is only parent that gertie has ever known and that deep down she actually really loves him and cares about him because even though ollie ignored gertie for the fist few months of her life, he did take care of her and raise her for several years. So, she is attatched to ollie. both of them have said things in the heat of the moment. and what gertie has said, should not be taken in to consideration, because she is a kid.
From ages 5 through 22, I've had moments like that with my father... He would verbally hurt me... He'd tell me I was stupid, dramatic, and that he wished that he would have given me up for adoption back when I was a baby... And that (to this day) has mentally scarred me for life... and he doesn't even know that nor should I even tell him because I just know he wouldn't give a damn... bottom line generally: An actual father should be an actual man who would do anything to protect his own child(ren) from any type of harm... Physical, mental, verbal, and emotional harm... To all the fathers out there, please protect your children from being hurt... Don't be the reason why they're hurt...
@@d_mxv but it doesn't give him the right to throw all of his grief and anger out at his daughter... It shouldn't excuse him from his actions against his own daughter... Like I understand that he doesn't want any of the pain he went through... But lashing out at a little girl... especially his own kid?? Major no no
@@RoseChatQueen I mean what can a man do after losing their wife and the daughter turning against them i really feel bad for both but the Daughter should show respect to her Father and mother Imagine just saying a dead person should come back to life and that you should die The daughter doesn't know what she's saying. Sooo i can understand the anger of the father but then again its his daughter it would just be too much pain to handle
I feel like Gertie just wanted her dad to be there for her at her play... sure, she was being disrespectful, but Ollie telling her that he hates her (he even swears at her) and she took his life away, especially at her age? Ouch. It doesn't help that I've felt like Gertie after Ollie yelled at her multiple times before. I know people say things in the heat of the moment, but parents don't realize just how hurtful their words are
I can’t imagine if my dad and me fought like that. But also parents aren’t just toys that raise you and then you can break when you want. Parents take care of you for a reason, and you should love them.
Her: calls her dad stupid, says she hates him, gives him the worst attitude ever Also her: still has the guts to yell at him after he has a mental breakdown Bruv...she's lucky she ain't got Asian or African parents...this guy really needs a break...
They’re both at fault but she’s a kid so he immediately looks wrong. She was hurt that he forgot about her show, she didn’t want to leave her home, he’s an adult going through it
@@saylonassznn1437 So what? That stupid little brad wishes her dad dead? If you were the dad you wouldn't sit there and cry we both know the dad is right
@@alexsizemore8870 so she's not entitled to her feelings after her dad, not only forgets about her show as if she doesn't matter to him, but confirms it by saying he regrets her existence? You are despicable.
I know the girl cant control it but she has to understand how hard it would be for the dad... Like I know she is young but I wish she knew that he has feelings just like her and is trying so hard..
@@nathanielpettersen2560 we are not their friends. we are their parents, mentors, guidors. what we say is absolute, we arent convincing them, we are telling them.
@@boom_boom-lad1757 your not a parent, I would discipline my kid for saying that but I could never say something like that to them. Even in the gear of the moment
@@milindusha All i can say is You have to understand people. If your own kid wishes death upon you instead of your mother then i would completely freak out and say things that i wouldn't even mean You have to understand the father.
I'm hispanic, so when I saw the movie in spanish, he said "I wish I would've died too, your mommy knew better" Not calling her a little shit O-O Jesus man, I get why she got so upset lol
@@mateoairaudo5535 he was still in the wrong. even before Gertie was born, he was never home and never made time for the wife. he wanted to go back to that life where he would never be home for his daughter
I read an article once, don't remember the name it was in a waiting room, that said something like, on some level all parents resent there children for taking so much from them. Time, money, choices etc. And I immediately thought of this scene. I asked my mom and she said, "Yeah, every parent feels like that sometimes". That was the day I stopped being a bratty teen and stopped demanding things from my mom.
Well your mother should've kept her legs closed if that's how she feels. How dare she put that on you, as if you're somehow to blame for being born? If that were me, I would've packed my bags so she could have all het precious freedom, since I'm obviously such a burden. Only detestable human beings could feel that way about their own child. Sorry you had such a wretched mother.
Did anyone else notice that gramps was already on his way? He knew she was going to need a shoulder to cry on. I think their relationship is adorable.
I noticed it.
Grandparents are good for filling a role that at times parents can't, because they have raised children before, and therefore have a certain perspective that in the parent is lacking.
This was one of the most important scenes in the film. Being a parent definitely has its moments to where we say things that we would give out lives to take back, no matter how small.
movie name?
Jersey Girl.
Such a good movie I love this movie
Someone needs to count how many times Ben says “young lady” 😂😂
Or a drinking game. No wait, that would kill people. I ain't no killer.
5 times 😭
Or how many times the girl said stupid😭😭
What about that girls snarky attitude?
Right
This scene shows parents have emotions too. I’m not saying his response was right but it’s understandable. He’s trying to get his life back on track after losing his wife and job. His daughter is being a brat and saying hurtful things to him. He’s a human and is just as capable of having mental breakdowns as anyone else is.
You said it perfectly! I get that words like this can scar a child for life, but adults are the same. They just hide it better.
She had it coming
@@art_renae so its ok that he mentallt scarred her and ruined all future relationship they had bc he couldnt get himself help
children cant really control them selves
@@sicklydog1709 I don't think that's what they were saying, basically kids aren't the only ones going the the stress and the rough time, but adults and parents go through it all as well, but when you have kids you kind of have to push those feelings back for the sake of keeping yourself and the child safe in every way- but kids can make it hard sometimes- they both probably scarred each other, it's just something they'd have to work through in future if they want a better understanding of each other-
This was my favorite scene of the whole movie. I always get teary eyed :'(
Sameee
same here I always do
same. I'm learning Enghlish so Can you write the subtitulada's clip, plz? thanks
For comic relief she should have punched him in the crotch
@@1223steffen if she did that she probably would have been unscrewed.
Like probably fall apart from the whooping afterward.
very well acted by ben & the little girl.
they were all just cornering him unreasonably to not go to the city.having a pr job n wanting to do what he really loved doing was not wrong n yes definitely better than picking garbage.
I get they were Cornering him and that she was starting out disrespectful But a parents words Can cut like a knife and to say what he said is damaging and totally uncalled for.
@@brittney8106 oh yea everyone’s defending him but a kid hearing that, they will never forget it . It will damage them forever
@@brittney8106 how bro it’s a movie
@@isaacmchugh917 I mean yeah just look at Mark Grayson when his father said to him "What's 17 more years, I can always start again make another kid"
Yes. Great acting. It must’ve been hard to do that since only being a little girl and having an adult yell at you is scary
What the scene demonstrates, the volatile remarks from both father and daughter, reveals that they were both still reeling from their loss. And when people are hurting emotionally, oftentimes they respond with anger, and it can cause them to say, or even do things, that ordinarily they wouldn't.
Raquel Castro is an amazing actress. So young and so talented. She nailed that emotion after being yelled at, it would not surprise me if those tears were real. When I first watched this, I almost forgot that she was acting. That look on her face i just wanted to give that poor girl a hug. Kevin Smiths most underrated movie.
This scene is very powerful. My father would react and talk to me the same way George Carlin did. Sometimes as parents we may let something slip in words and let things out. I wouldn't say what Ben said, but still I see both of thier pent up emotions. But as a parent, we have to be nurturing and very careful of what we say, prioritize, and feel. Carlin was brilliant and deserved an oscar for his role.
George Carlin would be a great Grandad.
R.I.P George.
George should have gotten a best supporting actor nomination for this movie he was excellent
He was a great granddad to his granddaughter
Lol rip
stop disrespecting slice chi slice gang rules
A better movie about a workaholic dad than Click is. This scene got me
CAL REG STUDIOS A better movie than Click. Despite there’s only father and daughter, not a big family
Looked, Jersey Girl and Click are both great movies
This is a good movie problem with it came after gigli
Click was way sadder when I was a kid
@@noyoso4972 Reign Over Me is a more saddening flick with Adam Sandler
There are very few times you get a child actor this amazing. She talks like a real child, and has a real personality. Also RIP George Carlin.
that little girl is so talented! it's amazing!!!
how this be here for 10 years with no comments. i do agree her acting skills are great
At first I was like: "That kid needs to calm down, I know she's a 7 yrs old, but if she'd shut it for a few minutes and tried to patiently listen., yeah, maybe it's a bad idea to just drop it on her that out of the sudden she's gonna move into the big town but if she'd only listen..."
And when Ollie (Affleck) said that line in 1:36, I was like: "Oouuchhh. Are you serious? Do you realize you are telling that to a little girl? What kind of parent tells his child that? That you, her dad, hate her and that she ruined your life? How do you think she's gonna feel after that? A father calling his own child "a little shit". Really tactful."
In her position I'd break down in tears, poor girl.
I live in Germany and just saw this scene in English for the first time: Damn, his line is even more harsh than in the german dub. Sure, it was heavy, but I don't recall him calling her a "little shit". The whole delivery comes across a lot more hateful, not just momentarily angry like it did in the dub..
You shouldn't call your kids names and tell them they ruined your life. That's just mean and selfish and shameful.
Kair3nzo my mom told me she wished I would’ve died when I was 11 years old.
@@damisicarter9185 I'm sorry to hear that.
In the words of George Carlin: "What the hell is wrong with you?"
Her name was gurtrude and she had the confidence to even speak 💀💀
To be fair, he named her Gertrude so I would honestly hate him too
I wouldn't be speakin with a name like "gertrude" 💀
@shekhar nagarkoti it sounds like the name of an energy drink😂
She was named after her dead mom but alright...
You already know she just mad cuz people at school be flaming her for her name💀
Literally no-one is on Ben Affleck's side for trying to get his life back on track? That's troubling.
I´m on his side, but he was too "politically incorrect" for some.
@@melnaobrooks4933 It´s totally understandable. He was trying to be nice with her so he could explain why he wanted to move back to NY but all his daughter did was to yell and tell him I wish you died and not mami. As kids we´re never aware of the sacrifices our parents made to give us the best life they could. That´s why I´ll never have kids. Not willing to sacrifice my life for the other´s well-being. Period.
Mateo Airaudo I agree with you about the burdens of parenthood. I’m also abstaining from kids for that reason, but if you were to have kids, then the contract has been signed, no take backs. You have the responsibilities of parenthood, and if you mistreat them or subject them to verbal abuse because you’re having buyer’s remorse, then it’s not their fault. They didn’t ask to be born, or have an emotional petty douchebag as their parent. And yeah, kids act out, kids have breakdowns, they say horrible things. So what? They’re not the adults. The adults need to act like adults. No excuse for abuse, as my friend’s mother once said.
@@JimmySteller Although your take is very valid, I still find Ollie´s reaction understandable given the context in which the whole argument took place. And he may not be the perfect dad, but who is it? He did the best he could after losing both his wife and the job he loved in just a few weeks, and still he sacrificed everything for his kid and just when he finally considers the idea of doing something for himself and getting back his old job, his daughter treats him like crap. I mean, both were at fault. His response was not his brightest moment but not every kid has that kind of a breakdown. She pushed it too hard and the guy just lost control.
It's because movies give to mutch protagonism to children. In a real life scenario, You don't consult your kid about moving, you explain to them, and thats it. Are You going to run down important life decisitons with a 6 year old chile?
Those men are not your uncles!!!..... oh but we’re good enough to build sets for a show I got it... lmfao lmfao
Sorry I didn’t mean that
I forgot how hard this scene hits the feels
I'm here because of George Carlin.
***** I looked up "George Carlin Cameos" looking for some list of his side roles or cameos and this was the first thing to show up.
I also looked up George Carlin films
My favorite is from dogma where he introduces buddy christ
He was funny. A brilliant great actor. I miss him.
Same here. In 2020!
Ben Affleck is amazing,he can totally put his emotions out transmitting to the audience the reality of the scene! 😊
And he was nominated for worst actor for this movie
And heres the guy who played as the batman 💀💀💀
@@Emma-jy5cv😂💀
Im not crying,its just a teardrop family reuninion..
I really dont get the hate for this movie
Same :( it had alot of heart
This movie is good, unfortunately it has the wrong cast (Affleck, Lopez and Tyler should not be here)
I hate how everyone jumps on the dad for lashing back at her. I don't care how old the little girl is, he didn't do anything wrong except want to move to New York. The guy's life has been hell since his wife died, and his own daughter tells him she hates him and wishes he had died instead of his wife. Sorry, but kids should be accountable for being that hateful and verbally abusive. Yes, he's the adult, but I don't like how it's set up that she can be as horrid as she wants to him and the viewer should just accept it. I actually felt bad for the dad throughout the whole movie, and I felt the most bad at that moment. His dad (her grandfather) is emotionally manipulative. His daughter is hateful and also manipulative. He lost his wife, his job, his livelihood, and the moral of the story is that to be emasculated and dependent on his aging father and not allowed to make something of himself for fear that his daughter would hate him....this movie really sucked. He couldn't even have a grownup moment with Liv Tyler because his daughter comes in, busts it open, and shames him. Geez.
intenselan THIS!
intenselan I felt bad for both of them. It's not easy being a single parent ( I know- I was raised by one and/or the other my whole childhood).
Agree. Parents are human beings too. As a grown man, I have another opinion about this scene in particular than I had when I saw this film as a kid. He was trying to be nice with her, and wanted to explain why he wanted to move back to NY, but all she did was yeling and being totally disrespecful. As kids we´re never aware of the sacrifices our parents make to give us a good life. And, considering this was his chance to get back the job he always loved, his rant is totally understandable. Gertie was adorable but totally spoiled too to a father that loved her and always put her above anything else.
I think you’re forgetting she’s a little kid, and a little kid can’t always control their emotions. He wanted to move to New York because that’s what he wanted, he didn’t take into account what she wanted. He was willing to take away the only childhood she’s ever known and loved just so he would go back to living in the past. That’s why she was so upset and lashed out at him. She was afraid of losing the things she loved most in her life. I’m not saying her behavior is right, but it’s asking a lot of a child give those things up for the sake of a job the parent wants. Sure he had a great job, but sometimes as a parent, you have to make sacrifices for your child. Especially when you are the only parent they have.
Agreed
His job makes sure you have a place to live, little girl.
He didn't need that job, though, he had the means to support his daughter where he was. Wanting is different from needing. Plus I don't care what justification you use, no father should tell his child that he hates them or call them a little shit or say they stole his life. He can think those things all he wants, but saying that to a kid does serious damage.
JimmySteller yeah but kids need to be respectful as well
JimmySteller finding or looking for a new job can affect the family
Pat Gogan yeah kids need to be respectful sure but understand the kid too, also what kind of parent says that to their child
Yeah but it's not a thing that matter in a child's mind, and it's right this way cause children and adults are different with different priorities
Why would you say that to your child, regardless of what tantrum.
media was trying to destroy Bennifer, they had already gutted Gigli & were lying in wait for Jersey Girl, which is a father>daughter valentine. Affleck & Lopez were in love when they filmed this. film in no way deserved the hate.
Betty Aberlin Gigli is one of the worst box office bombs of all time. Such a mediocre gangster comedy and it’s a gangster version of Rain Man as Justin Bartha’s character has special needs like Raymond whereas Ben and JLO’s characters are like Charlie and Susanna
That little girl was out of order from the beginning even when he was speaking calmly to her. She was rude and he should have reprimanded her, but definitely not by screaming and calling her a "little shit".
we know, that is the point of the scene.
@@David_Downs 5 years later and you respond
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@@ShubzWalker 3 weeks later and you respond
whoa thats harsh. children lash out when upset and they dont mean it and yes can seem a bit bratty, but being shocked at being told they were moving, leaving everything she knew without being spoken to first is wrong, because kids dont understand, you have to talk to them. as for him, lashing out too but he is the parent and should be able to control himself. losing control and raising a voice , yes, but actually throwing that crap in that little girls face is completely wrong. but it happens a lot to people
She acts smart enough to know the way she was coming at him, it was only a matter of time until he snapped. That is the downside to smarter little kids: hard life lessons get learned quickly. Say it with me kids: Limitations!
Parents are human beings too. As a grown man, I have another opinion about this scene in particular than I had when I saw this film as a kid. He was trying to be nice with her, and wanted to explain why he wanted to move back to NY, but all she did was yeling and being totally disrespecful. As kids we´re never aware of the sacrifices our parents make to give us a good life. And, considering this was his chance to get back the job he always loved, his rant is totally understandable. Gertie was adorable but totally spoiled too with a father that loved her more than everything.
@@mateoairaudo5535 Well, children shouldn't be grateful about sacrifices, children need to be children.
@@anto1415 They should be grateful
I searched “Gertrude” and this shows up
Damn missed that part where he says "Daddy doesn't want to drive the batmobile!"
Literally, In tears. Wonderful scene.
This little girl is an amazing actor
The little girl literally said I wish mom was alive and you were dead and she said I hate you 3 times why are people on the girls side
Umm cause she's a child and grieving? She's literally living in this planet for 6 years and you expect her to act like an adult instead of her father?
@@deniz1234 old enough to have a little bit of basic understanding of what someone is going through and why
@@Kurayami04 Yeah, I guess you're right. People her age are so matured that they're done with their PhDs in psychology...
@@deniz1234 did you not read what I said? She should at least have the knowledge to know when someone is sad, angry or happy
@@deniz1234 I also said "a little bit of basic understanding"
" What the hell's the matter with chew. Huh?" 😜
Exactly. If he was my brother i say way to go hollywood jackass
Ollie: we’ll George Carlin is my dad so I was born without the brain>mouth content filter
these type of arguments are like shooting from both sides the only difference is of power ......a child can hurt but it will heal bc their words are mostly illogical babble and u are aware of that it may annoy u but u will eventually get over it bc in the end its a child who knows nothing about reality and u know that......but a parent or adult words are like arrows for a child its absolute truth and every word u say hold meaning for them the more closer relationship u have with the child the longer the wound will stay ....most cases they never forget what u said how u made them feel with that feeling of hurt they grow up it stays with them ..... its scary its so hard to be a parent even harder to be a good one
George Carlin is pure timeless gold, Liv Tyler is pure perfection and that little girl made this movie
Affleck did a damn good outburst
Bro really let his intrusive thoughts win 💀
Thanks for the likes whoever liked my comment
well that escalated quickly
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As a kid who has been in a similar situation you may forgive your dad when he says things like this but you never forget
This movie gets a bad rap because it came out during the hype of the Bennifer mess. It's actually a really sweet, well written flick. Is it revolutionary? No. But, it's a good popcorn movie , and a nice tribute to fatherhood from a Kevin Smith.
I totally agree bro. this is a great film in fact it's of of Kevin Smith's best.
Yeah, I thought this was a nice romance movie. People need to ignore all the surrounding, useless real-life stuff and just focus on the work itself...
Could not agree more. The thing is this was Affleck´s dark age in which he was making awful movies, and critics and audiences took it out on this movie. It´s really sweet and funny. Always liked it. Underrated.
I really enjoyed it too.
I'm not an Affleck fan, but this is probably one of the few films I like with him innit. I watched for Liv Tyler and George Carlin, but this character he plays is different than all his other movies. Plus that little girl held her own with these huge stars. Hugely underrated movie
Regardless who people side with wether its his daughter or him, we all can agree this was difficult & heartbreaking to watch...
1:36
Dang, man. That was too far.
What did he say
THE WAY SHE PUSHED HIM SHE REALLY HAD IT COMING
NO excuse to talk that way to your child. NONE.
I used to push my mom even worse, and she had more on her plate than this dude.
Not ONCE did she say anything REMOTELY like that.
He needs to be CHECKED, and his daughter may forgive, but will NEVER forget.
@@emilycooper442ok now you are being over dramatic about your parents. You aren’t even supposed to push your parents unless if they get physically abusive towards you but other than that if I were to push my dad like she did, I would’ve gotten my butt beaten pronto by my dad.
How could you speak to a child like that? "Little shit" Like really? Even as a grown adult, I'd be hurt by those words.
I always wandered if it could have got worse. It's a relief that he didn't slap his daughter for wishing he had died instead. Not saying that he should have said those words though.
Ever heard of the heat of the moment?
That's bad, but it's not that bad. You clearly haven't lived much if you think this is unthinkable. People say things they don't mean when they're stressed.
@@jhflau73 I feel terrible for the both of them. Both of them are grieving and hurt, but instead of needing each other they're turning on each other.
But I feel even worse for the people downstairs, like damn...
Imagine telling ur dad who tries his best to not make a living for a show, and telling him that u wished he dies, she kinda had it coming
the way the grandpa said: *what the hell the matter w chu? HAHHH?*
The point is, we all say things in the heat of the moment that we don't mean. Anger IS a very powerful emotion. We as adults should know to control it better because of our age and experience in life. Children, on the hand, don't know how to control their anger because they have not had that much experience in life yet. So, I agree that what gertie said to Ollie was wrong. but Ollie should've remained calm and reasoned with gertie. maybe ollie could work something out with his job interview such as finish early and then come to gertie's show. something ollie could've worked out. please remember that even though gertie might have said some really mean things to ollie, that ollie is only parent that gertie has ever known and that deep down she actually really loves him and cares about him because even though ollie ignored gertie for the fist few months of her life, he did take care of her and raise her for several years. So, she is attatched to ollie. both of them have said things in the heat of the moment. and what gertie has said, should not be taken in to consideration, because she is a kid.
I am crying in my room... never heard... of this words.. in my life.. the heartbreaking scene... (song)
From ages 5 through 22, I've had moments like that with my father... He would verbally hurt me... He'd tell me I was stupid, dramatic, and that he wished that he would have given me up for adoption back when I was a baby... And that (to this day) has mentally scarred me for life... and he doesn't even know that nor should I even tell him because I just know he wouldn't give a damn... bottom line generally: An actual father should be an actual man who would do anything to protect his own child(ren) from any type of harm... Physical, mental, verbal, and emotional harm... To all the fathers out there, please protect your children from being hurt... Don't be the reason why they're hurt...
Truly well said but i could understand the father in this movie after what the daughter said
@@d_mxv but it doesn't give him the right to throw all of his grief and anger out at his daughter... It shouldn't excuse him from his actions against his own daughter... Like I understand that he doesn't want any of the pain he went through... But lashing out at a little girl... especially his own kid?? Major no no
@@RoseChatQueen I mean what can a man do after losing their wife and the daughter turning against them i really feel bad for both but the Daughter should show respect to her Father and mother Imagine just saying a dead person should come back to life and that you should die The daughter doesn't know what she's saying. Sooo i can understand the anger of the father but then again its his daughter it would just be too much pain to handle
@@d_mxv to be fair, both sides were just in the heat of the moment
@@RoseChatQueen Yes and i wouldn't judge anyone at that exact moment
The amount of times he says "young lady" is unspeakeable
When you are 4 yrs old and you have the nerve to talk back to your parents
yea lol
George Carlin is the man.
he does choose his daughter over his job in the end.... thought you;re right, that probably doesn;t happen a lot in real life
Dang I didn’t know you were chill like that! Good job!
Omg the acting is so good how
1:00 the uncle took me out 😂😂😂
thats how i feel, george is a legend
I feel like Gertie just wanted her dad to be there for her at her play... sure, she was being disrespectful, but Ollie telling her that he hates her (he even swears at her) and she took his life away, especially at her age? Ouch. It doesn't help that I've felt like Gertie after Ollie yelled at her multiple times before. I know people say things in the heat of the moment, but parents don't realize just how hurtful their words are
This almost made me cry
Finally I found the original!
I can’t imagine if my dad and me fought like that. But also parents aren’t just toys that raise you and then you can break when you want. Parents take care of you for a reason, and you should love them.
Kids has emotions too
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Her: calls her dad stupid, says she hates him, gives him the worst attitude ever
Also her: still has the guts to yell at him after he has a mental breakdown
Bruv...she's lucky she ain't got Asian or African parents...this guy really needs a break...
They’re both at fault but she’s a kid so he immediately looks wrong. She was hurt that he forgot about her show, she didn’t want to leave her home, he’s an adult going through it
@@saylonassznn1437 just bc she’s a kid doesn’t mean she’s not in the wrong
@@saylonassznn1437 So what? That stupid little brad wishes her dad dead? If you were the dad you wouldn't sit there and cry we both know the dad is right
@@alexsizemore8870 so she's not entitled to her feelings after her dad, not only forgets about her show as if she doesn't matter to him, but confirms it by saying he regrets her existence?
You are despicable.
The funniest part is that she is named Gertrude 💀💀💀
Legend has it he wasn't acting 😂
I know the girl cant control it but she has to understand how hard it would be for the dad... Like I know she is young but I wish she knew that he has feelings just like her and is trying so hard..
YES YES I FINALLY FOUND THE AUDIO
The Gacha life meme
I don't blame the dad for lashing out. I'd be pretty pissed off if I were Ben Affleck too.
I agree. I'm never gonna have kids! 😤
Ur not ready to have kids then.
@@nathanielpettersen2560 if that how you want your kid to be. I pity you
@@nathanielpettersen2560 we are not their friends.
we are their parents, mentors, guidors.
what we say is absolute, we arent convincing them, we are telling them.
@@chernobylopfa667 braindead logic
1:55 - GET OFF ME!
Father of the year!
That’s sad 😞 I can’t believe the dad will do such thing
This made me cry how sad that her father said that to her.
So harsh
L child 💀
Very sad. When you have reached this about of anger and sadness in your life you loose it and never forget the night that it happened :(
this made me cry…
[After Oliver and Gertie's fight]
Bruce Banner (Eric Bana): Don't make her angry. You wouldn't like her when she's angry.
0:58 THOSE MEN ARE NOT YOUR UNCLES!
I enjoyed Mike Starr and Stephen Root as the co workers
@@MasterCreator1998 Mike Starr is not dead
that kid has TOO much to say wow
Watching this in 2024
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I'm a child and I realized parents have feelings too u know
Good casting. The kid looks like a mini J-lo
Yeah she kind of does
I’m not crying my eyes are just sweating
1:47 that face tho
1:54 dat butt crack doh
@@deathdead3197 OMG LMAO
Some reason I can't stop watching it even though I'm crying so much and makes my heart broken every time I watch this
Actor, comedian, writer, social critic. And he was good at doing all of those things!
This scene gets me evey time
Raquel Castro and Ben Affleck are brilliant actors and
1:38 this scene always hurts
i like it
Man this scene always make me cry man like calm down scene
Never say that to your kid.
But u should also never wish death upon ur own father / mother
@@boom_boom-lad1757 your not a parent, I would discipline my kid for saying that but I could never say something like that to them. Even in the gear of the moment
@@milindusha All i can say is You have to understand people. If your own kid wishes death upon you instead of your mother then i would completely freak out and say things that i wouldn't even mean You have to understand the father.
Both of them were in the wrong. The father should’ve just went about disciplining his daughter another way though.
@@AmanKhan-by6gu Idk..maybe because she’s like 6 years old..? 😀
I came here just to hear George Carlin say what the hell Is a matter witchu
Dude is still grieving....and after she said that, i dont blame him for exploding. He immediately regretted it. Hes only human
I would cry too if my dad said he hated me and I took his life away, even if was was acting stupid like that.
I'm hispanic, so when I saw the movie in spanish, he said "I wish I would've died too, your mommy knew better" Not calling her a little shit O-O
Jesus man, I get why she got so upset lol
I love this move
he said " i hate you right back you and your mother took my life away and i just want it back."
That's when he realize what he said too late and he realize he went too far
Everyone says Affleck was too harsh. When I was a kid, thought the same thing. As a grown man, gotta say Affleck is technically right.
@@mateoairaudo5535 he was still in the wrong. even before Gertie was born, he was never home and never made time for the wife. he wanted to go back to that life where he would never be home for his daughter
What that kid is saying is what I wish I had the bravery of saying to my parents
I read an article once, don't remember the name it was in a waiting room, that said something like, on some level all parents resent there children for taking so much from them. Time, money, choices etc. And I immediately thought of this scene. I asked my mom and she said, "Yeah, every parent feels like that sometimes". That was the day I stopped being a bratty teen and stopped demanding things from my mom.
Well your mother should've kept her legs closed if that's how she feels. How dare she put that on you, as if you're somehow to blame for being born?
If that were me, I would've packed my bags so she could have all het precious freedom, since I'm obviously such a burden.
Only detestable human beings could feel that way about their own child.
Sorry you had such a wretched mother.
I love the dad he's a menace
Yes, because unlike parents, children are, well... children.
Gertude thought she cooked
her voice when she said ''you cant go on monday ''🤣🤣🤣
The way she Shouted to the girl was painful.