"Why Is My Husband Hiding Things From Me?" | Paul Friedman
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ก.ค. 2024
- When you ask the question why is my husband hiding things from me it is usually because you discovered something on his phone or email and got shocked by what you found and your whole life is shaking now, not just your marriage.
Paul Friedman, founder of The Marriage Foundation themarriagefoundation.org/ gently discusses what is going on and expands the topic to explain what makes marriages truly happy and then explains how to get there.
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My husband is traveling in New York, and I haven't heard from him that often. My mind is telling me that he's found someone better than me in NY. I am replacing that with: I hope that he is truly happy, and that it is a better match than he and I. I don't want to keep any person who DOES NOT want to be kept. Maybe he will call later, but I wish him LOVE either way👍🏽❤🙏🏽.
YES!!!! This is golden. Thank you for sharing it. Happiness and love should be our expectations. We cannot control anything else.
So, you’re saying, that if I suspect cheating for a number of valid reasons-I should leave it alone? Don’t confront? How should I stay content believing he is with someone else occasionally? I’m trying to make it work. But, I am not sure how to be ok with no even having a conversation about. I’ve brought up the conversation before and he either stonewalls or gets defensive and says if I bring it up again then that’s it to us.
Your videos are great. I’m in a really conflicted and desperate place right now. We are engaged and have a 7 month old.
Your experience proved what I say about confrontation, now you need to stick with a defined program, our course for women themarriagefoundation.org/system/#program (a free test period) and you will get real results. I know you understand. Don't give up, Use the knowledge I share to save your marriage.
So, then, if I wanted to cheat that would make it okay too? What, you’re saying might keep things swept at bay. But, really we are suppressing feelings instead of talking about the real issue, no? Like the lady said who’s okay with her husband with another woman in NY…if he is with another woman, why would that make it fair or okay to do so? When you marry or devote yourself you are supposed to keep honesty and loyalty, if that’s not something someone can do or is capable of they need to explain that in the beginning or along the way. So that everyone is on the same page.
*Why are you rationalizing and arguing instead of attacking the problem?* Your problem is unique to you so that is all you should be looking at and my response is to you, alone. You tried confrontation and it not only failed but created more drama, as I say to all who wish to confront their spouse. Now, you imply that I said cheating is okay?? Where did you get that?? You made it up just to make a useless point, that everyone and I am not sure who you mean, is on "the same page",
Then you philosophize in a way that blames your husband for not living up to a standard you yourself cannot live up to.
Open your mind, Ali. Your marriage is falling like a rock falling from the sky. You don't need to be right. Not now. You need to learn what you did wrong (like confronting, pontificating, and blaming) and you need to learn what to do from someone who knows and knows they know.
@@TheMarriageFoundation so in other words, we should change our actions for his actions to change, but he should face no consequences and you should continue to trust him unconditionally. Are you implying that our actions are what caused our partners to cheat?
I have recently discovered your channel and I genuinely appreciate what you said. But is it possible to work on a marriage where I see no chance of redeeming? If you permit me, may I please seek your help in this regard?
The promises inherent in my books and courses are that you will feel love and happiness. Usually, not always, that will utterly change the dynamic in the marriage to the same.
I had just argued with my partner and that brought me to this TH-cam channel. I sincerely wished I had watched it earlier. Now I know better
Thank you so much
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No one told or taught me what to do in a marriage. I did all the wrong things. I'm trying really hard to fix it but Idk how. I'm afraid it's too late. 💔
It is rarely too late.
It's the unconditionally part. Do you really mean no matter what?
LOL It's all about love, isn't it? Why hold back? The whole boundary thing is good for workplace but not for the sacred space of marriage.