God Let Someone Fall in Love with You BUT You Don’t Love Them Back Because . . .
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ธ.ค. 2021
- Why would God let someone fall in love with you who you do not love back? What should you do if someone loves you but you don't feel the same way? Here are 4 possible reasons for why God let someone fall in love with you even though you don't love them back?
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1-you may need someone to love you first before you are free to love them in return
2-to teach you both to have better boundaries with the opposite sex
3-God let people believe what they want .therefore, we need to be careful who we trust
4-you are developing into a very desirable person
God bless :)
This is my problem, i have been in a relationship with this girl that loves me more than i do for over a decade but I don't love her the way she does. It hurts me because I have been lying to myself all these years and i can't let go because she is always coming back to me even when I have given her the signs but she is still adamant about it. I'm not a violent person, even as that, i have also helped her in the best possible ways I can during this journey but i don't see myself getting married to her. I don't know what to do so that we can both go our separate ways without resentment towards each other.
Yep, this is a great follow up and get's our eyes off our own disappointments for a while.
What I've noticed is that pure love brings out the best in us and also leaves a witness for others who may be watching. Maybe you're not right for each other, but if it was godly it may help shape their view of true love later on and even strengthen both of your faiths. How well you handle the disappointment will bolster your testimony too because if you can love and accept that you didn't really get anything substantial back then you've really come to an understanding of what the life and ministry of Jesus Christ was all about.
Thanks, Mark.
Thanks for sharing Matthew!
I momentarily dated a girl who claimed she wanted to marry me 2 months into dating. But the more time I spent with her, the more I realized that I didn't love her. Then, during one conversation, I discovered that we had differing views on a major political topic. Eventually, we had to separate.
Yikes 😬
Wanting to get married that fast is a red flag. She barely knew you. I think people like that are in love with how you are making them feel.
yes, best to take things slow as you did so you don't rush into something that later reveals itself as not good
I fell in love with this godly woman, she doesn’t love me back. I prayed to get rid of these feelings but it doesn’t go away for some reason, and when I hang out with this girl i feel complete bliss and peace and joy
Thank you Mark!! This video is timely for me. I’m praying for discernment and for growth in my walk with the Lord; to also help me understand how God can use these types of experiences for our good. 🙏 May God bless you and May God bless everyone 🙏🙂
My pleasure Jennifer! May God bless you too!
No one should "fall" in love. Though it often happens(infatuation idolization lust) this is carnal and immature. Perhaps this is why it only tends to happen once or twice when we are young and foolish. The "falling" implies it was not a choice neither could it be controlled. The gift of the holy spirit is self control and a sound mind. Authentic love is always chosen.
I talk about the definition of "falling in love" in the first video I did on this topic so I didn't want to repeat it :) th-cam.com/video/O4V3XgHjkok/w-d-xo.html
Always so thankful for your videos! Your biblically backed teachings on relationships has been very helpful to me . I think God is using you in a big way. 🌺 Thank you for all you do!
So glad this was helpful Esther! All gory to God!
To you reading this, you are one prayer away from an amazing turnaround of all your problems, the storms in your life is only temporary but the blessings and power of God is everlasting. Amen
Thats unbiblical and untrue. God never said we would have no problems in life. In fact he says that his followers better be prepared to face persecution. There are tons of examples to pick from but just look at Paul. He is arguably the greatest apostle who was devout beyond words and prayed constantly. Now just look at the life he endured while he wrote his letters, which he had to write mostly from prison. There will always be storms and problems in this life, because the world is broken and we are a fallen race. The storms will only gone once we go home to the Father.
Philippians 4 is always helpful!
Amen 🙏🏼
This video popped up in my feed at the right time. Thank you for your wisdom.
Yeah, I can relate to this hard. It was painful and a time of great growth for me. Thank God I've come out of that, but sadly, I did harbor a bit of resentment for a while, because I was frustrated with myself. Not with her. I've been with the Lord in prayer and I'm dealing with this so eventually this matter in my heart will be resolved
Hello Mark! Thanks for another great teaching. I like someone who didn’t like me back, I had to walk away it too painful. Be blessed!!
Yes, best to keep moving forward rather than hoping things change when there is no evidence change will happen. Keep following the Lord, he has a good plan for you Kathy!
Wow! If this didn’t speak to me! This hit it on the spot Mark!
So glad it was useful to you Lola!
This LITERALLY happened to me. I girl fell inloved with me but I didn't love her in return. Confessed it to her, she managed to get over it, and now we're good friends and she's a good sister in the Lord
Infatuation not love ❤️ I’ve been there and it’s deadly.Don’t make your self fall into that trap
amen!
I feel this way about my sons father. He’s obsessed with me and doesn’t really show true love qualities like being a man and taking care of business. Instead he shows possessiveness, obsessed, and Lust. I hope God takes me out of this if it’s not meant to be.
Thank you for making this :)
Thank you Mark God Bless you for this video. Wishing you and your family a very Blessed and Merry Christmas dear brother.
Merry Christmas to you too! God bless!
Your videos are so good
Intuition and wisdom
Great message!
So glad it was helpful! All glory to God!
I still didn’t love them after 17 months and still don’t after 21 months and not seeing them.
Sweet!🙂 God bless!
God bless you too Delna!
This is the video I needed
God bless!
Perfect timing
God bless!
Wow. Tky 4sharing
I can relate to the core.
Amen thank you
This is what I experience right now. I know he love me but I can't tell I love him back. It's just I feel I'm not totally healed and ready for a relationship.
God bless as you move forward with the Lord
I have dealt with those that are hurt and won’t open up. They can be poisonous and they can drive you away due to their insecurity.
But I hope that you are right. It might be possible that God wants me to love him, because I usually walk away very easily from a bond if I think that it’s a waste of my time.
Yes, walk with God. No formulas :)
I met this girl in a group that we are both apart of, but when I meet her in real person I no longer like her like before but I know she really likes me. Don't know what to do.
You may not need to do anything if you haven't expressed interest. If you expressed romantic interest it's best to let her know you think it's best to move on as you don't feel that way for her
I just told her that I dont feel the same. It ripped my heart out to see the hurt in her eyes 😔. I told her from the beginning how i felt and that i needed time to catch up to where she was. But as much as I tried i just couldn’t seem to see her in the way she saw me. And though I have love for her as a friend I dont as a lover. And i really wish that I did.
Not completely the same topic as the video, but close enough: I recently rediscovered feelings for a girl I went to school with. Based on how she relates to me I am certain that she considers me a friend, but I have no idea if she sees me as anything more. I am asking God to show me whether I should pursue her or back off, as well as how I should pursue her if that is His will.
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This is happening to me
She is a pastor’s daughter and i just talked to her as a friend and i don’t have any feelings for her but the way she talks to me made me think that she loves so i don’t want her to get hurt. so i said i have a girlfriend even though I don’t have any, but the thing is she still proposed me and saying she want me in her life
I would just tell her the truth that you are not interested if she keeps expressing interest
first love the videos it helps me aloy
Glad to hear it!
I'm a senior in high school and there is this freshman who really likes me. Like, she loves me. She's quite literally obsessed with me. But I don't have the same feelings for her. I've let her know this, by telling her she's not my type and that she is a bit too young. However, she continues to persue me. But instead of me pushing her away, I've actually let her talk to me and hug me and sit with me. Most guys would've pushed her away, and based on what she's told me, a few have already done that to her. This is girl is very low income, she's poor, child protective services got involved, and she really doesn't have much. But instead of ignoring her, I have been trying to make her a born again Christian. I tell her about Jesus, that she must repent if she wants to be saved. She must confess her sins and flee from sin. I'm trying to make her at least the one soul that I can bring to Jesus for Him to save. When we both die, I want to be able to see her in Heaven and say to her "you made it." Because even though I don't love her enough to be my girlfriend, I care about her enough that I still want to see her in Heaven with Jesus. She struggles. She cries a lot. She has some issues, and she tells me that she thinks God won't forgive her of the bad things she's done. She told me what she's done, and they're pretty bad. But I've told her why God can forgive her. And that's because Jesus Christ died on the cross and paid the price for us. The Bible says for the wages of sin is death, and Christ paid the wages of sin. God can excuse us and have mercy on us because the debt has been paid in blood. The blood of Jesus Christ. I'm not sure if she actually understands this concept. She might still be too young to grasp what that means, but she tells me that she prays all the time and asks for forgiveness all the time. I can only hope that she truly does. She's very sweet, but she really isn't my type and I feel bad for her, for her environment. I just want her to come to Jesus and He will save her.
This is happening to me, I think this dude likes me, but I’m not sure if I’m good for him. I do like him too. I just need time to figure out if i like like him since we don’t know each other that well. I know we have a few things in common but don’t know his values and everything yet so I’m in the middle. I try not to flirt or do anything suggestive in the mean time.
Can a sensitive person like me ever have a wife of my own. I want to have a wife that loves me for who I am. 😢 ❤
if you are too sensitive perhaps not . . . either way, seek to be healthy and secure in the Lord
Of course you can have a wife who will love you for who you are. In fact, as a Christian man you have a better chance of finding a good wife. As a disciple of Christ, you should seek to transform yourself into who God wants you to be as a man & as a husband (read the Bible & pray for the Holy Spirit to guide you). All of us have to be discerning regarding who to allow into our heart and as a spouse to bring glory to God in that marriage. I believe that if God put the desire to be a husband on your heart God has a wife who is perfect for you.
@@MsStonecool thank you so much. Yes I am going to put a lot of effort in serving God and work hard in all areas in my life that I need to work hard in. I am going to pray to the Lord to give me the strength that I need. For my life and future and most importantly to do his will to the end of my life. Thank you so much, I love that beautiful message. God bless you and I'll meet you in heaven someday. 🙏 😀 ❤
Wow, Sabrina gave u amazing advice! Every word of it! I'd like write about her statement, that "perfect person for u" part. Pay attention to who makes u search urself, who makes u want to be better, just by being who they r. (even if they occasionally drive u crazy 🤣) That involves really getting to know and understand someone, as a friend, to see what's really in their heart. U'll also see how they make ur heart feel, and if she'd be a wife God would want for ya. "When" u do find a wife ( I just won't believe u won't, God does want us to be happy and u seem to follow him ) stick together with true COHESION. Please look up the definition. It's a good word! Best wishes to u n ur future bride. Btw, u shouldn't assume sensitive is negative. Matters how God wants u to be. Sensitive doesn't contradict being a man, it can actually make u a better leader.
@@jennymeyer7186 yeah. I know that every thing is possible with God, I have faith that he'll work out everything for my good. 🙏 😀 👍
Thank you for this brother 🙏✨I needed this such very good insight and always connected to good verses I am going through something similar it seems it’s this type of season many of us are experiencing
I'm so glad this was useful to you!
Am really relating
What does it mean when you think about somebody and they cross your mind here in there from time to time and then weeks later they suddenly message youAnd telling you that they were thinking about you too? Is that a coincidence?
it means you both were thinking about each other :) Not trying to be a wise guy but it just means it happened. It doesn't mean anything beside that. If you both have godly qualities go for it. If you don't, then don't. Keep it biblical :)
Are there any videos that go more into detail about having healthy boundaries in friendships with members the opposite sex? I dated someone who had with a friendship with another lady and it created problems for me in the relationship. In the end I cut things off with the guy when he refused to hear my concerns. In the past I had experienced being cheated on so the situation was triggering for me and I just want to know what is healthy and not healthy boundaries for male/female friendships. Thank you.
Agree to this comment and request!!
Agree to this, I hope AGW can make a video on it
I am guarded and actually I keep people away, specially opposite sex. I do find my singleness more enjoyable. I did like someone very much who was guarded but I am not chasing anything, but my ex who drained my spirit is still obssesed with me. He hints everytime and it drains me. I dont want him as I was so unhappy and far away from God, but he keeps trying petty things,blaming, playing victim, using kids. I dont know why God lets him be this way but I got tired to get angry, I dont want to feel even resentment against him, wish he just move on and calm down with his methods. He was reported to police too, I just want to have peaceful and simple life without him.
I didn't pray but I trust god still I marry the man I dont like ...dont know why ? Do you have any answer to this ...help?
Word 🙏💯
God bless!
A Gus loves me but I only accept him as a friend 😞
how can I know that God is really giving me a sign.? Please help me.🥺
I answer that here: th-cam.com/video/_pn9nHI4E14/w-d-xo.html
You cant train crazy, unless your a Trained professional , just think of the movie - Fatal Attraction, when someone tells you they love you, and you didn't know or had no clue - Run!
Everyone I love never loves me so does that mean God hates me
#2
God bless!
Yep. Friendzones, One-Siders, Awkward Blank Feelings, Nothing Mutual & the stupid decision to date just to date and not lasting a month for those reasons.
it happens . . . keep moving forward with the Lord as you learn more form him!
#1..... Nope that's not it!! He looks like a homeless person. Doesn't even take care of himself. How could he possibly take care of me. Plus he's just plain weird. The other women in the group agree
yes, point 1 is not common but it does happen sometimes. All the points hit different possibilities :)
Am I the only one who disagrees with the notion that men and women can't remain just friends without eventually someone developing romantic feelings? I can admit I've had the experience occur before, but nonetheless I've had a few close female friends that I've spent years hanging out with and shared intimate details of my life and neither one of us have developed feelings. Perhaps I just grew up around alot of women and I'm just now realizing that alot of other men never grew up interacting much with women nor saw any reason to outside of the purpose of pursuing something romantic/sexual. I agree that God created gender friendships to have a depth that can't necessarily be reached platonically with the opposite sex, but I still just don't think developing healthy platonic relationships with the opposite sex is as complicated as people make it out to be.
or perhaps those women did like you but you just didn't like them . . .
I think male to female friendships are possible without it leading to romantic feelings, I just think it's not healthy to be best friends/really close friends. Without boundaries something goes wrong. if nothing else you both keep other potential dating partners away because it looks like something more. Here's a test: Will this friendship change once either of you get married to someone else? If yes, that means the relationship was not at a healthy level for two friend of the opposite sex
Yeah I disagree too, although I think at some point someone might have feelings assuming they aren’t gay or lesbian. But when they are passed that I think opposites gender can be friends. I have been friends with my guy friend for 7 years now. Another guy for 3 years. It’s really not that complicated even if they used to like you. If you both respect each other’s boundaries it should be fine
Not completely the same topic as the video, but close enough: I recently rediscovered feelings for a girl I went to school with. Based on how she relates to me I am certain that she considers me a friend, but I have no idea if she sees me as anything more. I am asking God to show me whether I should pursue her or back off, as well as how I should pursue her if that is His will.
Keep pursuing the friendship and if you see godly qualities and she seems warm to your friendship, perhaps pursue her then